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Speaker 1: Hi, Catherine.

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Speaker 2: Hello, Hello Chelsea Handler. My name is Chelsea Handler.

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Speaker 1: H A and D L E R. Hey.

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Speaker 3: Sure is how are you doing?

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Speaker 2: I'm ready, I'm ready. I'm ready for our show. I

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Speaker 2: have the Critics' Choice Awards tomorrow night. Everyone can watch

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Speaker 2: those on E What else do oh? I have exciting

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Speaker 2: new lemonade coming out, you guys. I partnered with a

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Speaker 2: lemonade brand called Well, a vodka brand, well a boozy

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Speaker 2: brand called Owls Brew.

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Speaker 1: They're female founders. So I found these two women.

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Speaker 2: You know, like, I've been trying to come up with

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Speaker 2: an alcoholic drink for many, many years, but the alcohol industry,

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Speaker 2: like many industries, is so male dominated that anytime I

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Speaker 2: would get far along in an idea, there would be

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Speaker 2: some massive hiccup and it just didn't work. And there

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Speaker 2: if you've read my book, well you haven't read my

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Speaker 2: book yet because my book is not out comes out

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Speaker 2: February twenty fifth, so pre order it. I'll have what

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Speaker 2: she's having. It comes out on my fiftieth birthday. Please

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Speaker 2: celebrate with me. Your gift to me is you pre

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Speaker 2: ordering my book. We want to encourage all of our

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Speaker 2: book club readers to have Boozy book clubs. So we

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Speaker 2: partnered with Owls Brew and we came up with three

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Speaker 2: vodka lemonades. There's Classic, which is yellow, then there's Pink,

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Speaker 2: and then there is Mint lemonade. So we have three

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Speaker 2: really smooth, non carbonated flavors. There are only one hundred

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Speaker 2: dollars a can, I'm sorry, one hundred calories a can,

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Speaker 2: and they're delicious.

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Speaker 1: I vouched for them.

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Speaker 2: I went in for the tastings and we found something

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Speaker 2: and it took almost no time. It is so much

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Speaker 2: nicer working with women. It literally took one tasting day.

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Speaker 2: I mean I had spent hours and days with these

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Speaker 2: other previous companies.

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Speaker 1: Many years ago. I had given up on this idea.

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Speaker 2: But when you do read my book, you will see

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Speaker 2: why there is a vodka lemonade tie in because I had.

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Speaker 2: I was an entrepreneur at a very young age, and

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Speaker 2: I open up a lemonade stand, and then when I

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Speaker 2: realized how much money I'd be making, I decided that

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Speaker 2: I needed a larger margin of profit and opened up

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Speaker 2: a hard lemonade stand.

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Speaker 1: Perfect. So now we are.

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Speaker 2: It is called Chelsea Handler's Vodka Lemonade from Owlsbrew.

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Speaker 1: They are hitting the shelves this month.

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Speaker 2: You can also order it online at the Owlsbrew dot com,

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Speaker 2: or you can go.

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Speaker 1: To your local stores.

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Speaker 2: They're at in lots of stores all across the country.

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Speaker 2: So yes, Owlsbrew, Chelsea Handler's vod Colemonade.

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Speaker 1: Please for your book clubs.

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Speaker 2: I mean obviously for your personal life and having a

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Speaker 2: great time too, but for your book clubs when you're

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Speaker 2: getting together to read my book. I really want you

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Speaker 2: guys to enjoy Owlsbrew with the book that's fasting, and

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Speaker 2: we're gonna have it all my book signings. We're gonna

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Speaker 2: have Owlsbrew.

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Speaker 1: Awesome.

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Speaker 4: You're never this excited about things.

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Speaker 5: I know.

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Speaker 2: I am excited because it's so delicious. My publicist, who

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Speaker 2: barely drinks it all, she's like, I love this. She

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Speaker 2: sends me a picture every night. She's like, I have

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Speaker 2: one every night before I go to bed. I'm like, okay, well,

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Speaker 2: you're a different kind of drinker than I am.

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Speaker 1: Fantastic.

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Speaker 2: Also, I'll be on Oh yeah, this is Critics Choice Award.

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Speaker 2: The Critics Choice Awards are tomorrow night. I don't know

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Speaker 2: what time for anything in the afternoon, seven eastern maybe, yes,

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Speaker 2: something like that, seven pm Eastern on the E Network.

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Speaker 1: Well, we have a fun guest this week.

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Speaker 2: You have a very fun guest today speaking of vodka

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Speaker 2: and Elton star Heloton star Cody Rigsby. He is our Well,

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Speaker 2: he's a Peloton guru, dancer, author and host of the

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Speaker 2: Tactful Pettiness podcast. Please welcome a person I've worked out

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Speaker 2: with several times.

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Speaker 1: Cody Rigsby.

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Speaker 6: Hi, Cody Rigsby, Chelsea b very honest, like, do you

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I do?

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Speaker 3: You do?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I do Peloton all the time.

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Speaker 3: Oh you do.

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Speaker 1: I appreciate the question, though You're not wrong to ask that,

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Speaker 1: and I would.

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Speaker 6: Have been offended. I adore you. I used to watch

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Speaker 6: your show in college with my boyfriend, and I've read

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Speaker 6: your book and I just and I love that you're

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Speaker 6: an advocate for not having kids, although I have turned

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Speaker 6: the corner on that. I think I might want them,

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Speaker 1: Are you pregnant?

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Speaker 3: I will be in a few days.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, that's very premonitionary, premonitionary.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that really flew right out of my mouth. I

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Speaker 2: That is premonitionary means like my friend has premonitionary dreams.

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Speaker 1: She dreams about some things and then they happen.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: No, I just know that I'm going to fuck someone

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Speaker 3: this weekend.

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Speaker 1: So, but you can't get pregnant in the tush sheet, Cody.

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Speaker 1: I talk about this.

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Speaker 3: You know, the modern medicine. You never know.

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Speaker 2: I eventually, I feel like we're around the corner from

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Speaker 2: men being able to carry a baby. I know, we've

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Speaker 2: had a couple of male people carry babies that had

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Speaker 2: transitioned and kept transition from female to men, and then

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Speaker 1: Because they still had their what do you need to

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Speaker 3: Something like that.

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Speaker 2: But I feel like men are going to have become

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Speaker 2: like straight straight men. Obviously gay men are fine, you know,

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Speaker 2: to bring more to the table because people are getting

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Speaker 2: pregnant with or without them. You know, there are animals

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Speaker 2: that parthenogenesis. We've talked about this, where you can get pregnant.

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Speaker 2: It happened to an anaconda. She got pregnant without a male.

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Speaker 2: It happened to a condor, a bird. Yeah what, uh huh,

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Speaker 2: It's happened to like a lot of not a lot,

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Speaker 4: Jurassic perk here we come.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, haven't I talked to you about this? Okay?

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Speaker 2: So my friend Emily told me about this a long

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Speaker 2: time ago because I was doing it in my stand

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Speaker 2: Like, we aren't a thousand years evolutionarily behind animals, So

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Speaker 1: Acting like this. I love that, do you know what

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Speaker 2: So anyway, back to your pregnancy congratulations in a few days,

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Speaker 2: I guess, how does it feel, Cody to become a

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Speaker 2: well known person as an exercise instructor? First and foremost, like,

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Speaker 2: you couldn't have planned that, right?

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Speaker 3: No, not, I did not plan that at all.

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Speaker 6: You know, I've been working at Peloton for ten years now,

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Speaker 6: absolutely changed my life and I'm so glad that I

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Speaker 6: get to like help people be their best self while

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I mean it's a real I mean, you

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Speaker 2: really do have a different spin on the class no pun.

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Speaker 1: Intended, pun intended.

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Speaker 2: You do, like have great energy, great vibes. You make

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Speaker 2: the classes fun. I know people talk about you and

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Speaker 2: how much they love taking your class.

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Speaker 1: So good for you. That's fucking awesomesbabe.

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Speaker 6: Yeah. Sometimes I'm like, you know, when I get into

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Speaker 6: maybe my politician era, maybe when I run for Senate,

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Speaker 6: Like it will definitely be on my campaign.

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Speaker 2: Speech in Texas. You should run in Texas first, I

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Speaker 6: Should, you know, that should be my goal. I'll just

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Speaker 6: be I think they called that a carpetbag. Is that

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Speaker 6: what they called her back in the.

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Speaker 1: Day, carpet bagger? But if that's if you go from

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Speaker 2: Let's look up carpet bagger. You guys, we need to

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Speaker 2: get to the bottom of this.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, it is a person from the Northern States

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Speaker 1: Than what we saw.

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Speaker 1: So it's not that bad. It's bad on one level. Okay,

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Speaker 6: So when I go on my my my senate speech,

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Speaker 6: I'm definitely going to be like what only in America

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Speaker 6: could Like could a cycling instructor make it into the

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Speaker 6: pop cultures guys to be successful at.

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Speaker 2: Them and then become a senator in Texas? I mean,

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Speaker 2: I feel the trajectory for you, passionately.

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Speaker 1: All of a sudden.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, someone's got to take out to a

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Speaker 1: God God willing, When the hell is that gonna happen?

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Speaker 3: I don't unfortunately, not anytime soon.

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Speaker 2: Question for you, Cody, you grew up where you grew

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Speaker 6: Yeah, so I was born in Los Angeles. I moved

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Speaker 6: Now, me and my mom and like our three cats

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Speaker 1: And how was that transition?

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Speaker 6: There was no sidewalks where I could roller blade, and

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Speaker 6: then you know, the tons of homophobia and racism that's

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Speaker 6: in the South didn't settle well with my soul. So

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Speaker 6: it was for an interesting upbringing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I bet that wasn't a nice transition. It's not

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Speaker 6: Well, in all honesty, though, because I was in Los Angeles,

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Speaker 6: I grew up in North Carolina. I think it would

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Speaker 6: homophobia and the racism. I think if I'd landed in

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I feel like.

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Speaker 2: The homophobia and racism is just different in different areas.

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Speaker 2: Like I feel like it is very pervasive, but it's

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Speaker 2: Cody, back to you, I hear that you have you

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Speaker 2: There's nothing worse than feeling the preoccupation of anxiety about

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Speaker 6: And yeah, you are secure because you know yourself, you

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Speaker 2: Me, absolutely, And there's really not a lot of like

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Speaker 3: I aspire, I aspired to be you in that situation.

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Speaker 1: So you have a new podcast coming out?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: No, Me and my friend Andrew Chappelle have launched Tackle Pettiness.

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Speaker 6: We actually just shot We just recorded an episode today.

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Speaker 6: listen to Tackle Pettiness, get it.

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Speaker 3: Where your podcasts are gotten?

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Speaker 3: On on Apple and Spotify?

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Speaker 2: Okay, great, So what do you guys give advice on

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, we kind of go through like you know, cultural moments,

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Speaker 6: We also did travel last week, which was a lot

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Speaker 6: that's nice.

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Speaker 1: That's nice. And your partner on the podcast, what's his name?

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Speaker 6: Andrew Chappelle, who was an actor, Broadway actor, TV actor. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I know, one of the funniest people. You know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's nice. Can go round around with can go

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Speaker 1: Huh? How did you guys hook up?

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Speaker 3: You know, just being gay in New York City.

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Speaker 6: know why I thought you were so horrible, because you're awesome.

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Speaker 1: I yeah, I agree with that.

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Speaker 3: Ye.

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Speaker 2: I always have stronger relationships where it's a kind of

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Speaker 1: I find that extremely annoying, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: Or they'll say they'll have conversations that they know I'm

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Speaker 6: But whenever you're hanging out with and I'll tell you

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Speaker 1: But I also don't pick up on that, you know

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Speaker 3: Okay, So a lot of my famer notoriety came through

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Speaker 6: I'm pretty much someone who like is pretty strong and

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Speaker 6: just like seeing a negative comment like would take me down. Also,

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Speaker 6: I think with any reality TV show, there's there's things

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Speaker 6: Like I I come in my partner Showbroke, who's done

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Speaker 6: that show for like thirty seasons. Why Yeah, the emotional

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Speaker 2: In no way seriously, because then you're also she's having

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Speaker 2: and watching them go through their emotional turmoil, right, so

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Speaker 2: they become like counselors exactly with Peloton. Isn't there like

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Speaker 3: Do you mean like members at home?

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Speaker 1: Or are you like my boss like members at home?

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Speaker 1: Is that? Is that a feature?

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Speaker 3: It's not a feature. There's a leaderboard so you can

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Speaker 1: Right, but we never got that kind of stuff.

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Speaker 2: Ah.

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Speaker 6: You know, like there is a very rambunctious Facebook group

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Speaker 3: But I deleted my Facebook like probably three years ago.

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Speaker 1: So good fucking unless you're a conspiracy theorist.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, like I think I deleted it close to like

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Speaker 3: I was like, I can't do with this anymore. It's

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Speaker 3: I got them out. I'm out.

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Speaker 2: I know, I hear you and do you ever do

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Speaker 2: you ever co mingle with the or sorry not co mingle,

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Speaker 2: do you ever mingle with any of the other Peloton instructors.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I actually had like a brunch on

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Speaker 1: Well that's fun.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, no, I mean it's a very unique job and

448
00:18:19,200 --> 00:18:21,280
Speaker 6: only we know what it feels like to be on

449
00:18:21,320 --> 00:18:23,840
Speaker 6: the platform and to be teaching fitness in this capacity.

450
00:18:24,400 --> 00:18:26,760
Speaker 6: And yeah, I have a lot of fun with them

451
00:18:26,800 --> 00:18:28,600
Speaker 6: and a lot of respect for them.

452
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Speaker 2: And it's also not something it's so funny because it's

453
00:18:31,960 --> 00:18:34,320
Speaker 2: it's such a great career that you would have never

454
00:18:34,359 --> 00:18:36,680
Speaker 2: been able to imagine as a child, because this job

455
00:18:36,680 --> 00:18:37,960
Speaker 2: didn't exist as a child.

456
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Speaker 6: Exactly, yeah, exactly. I never thought that this is how

457
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Speaker 6: my life was going to play out. I've always had

458
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Speaker 6: like this idea of being I guess famous or being

459
00:18:48,760 --> 00:18:49,600
Speaker 6: a personality.

460
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Speaker 3: I think I tried to channel that through musical theater

461
00:18:52,080 --> 00:18:52,720
Speaker 3: and then dance.

462
00:18:52,760 --> 00:18:55,399
Speaker 6: And then it's so crazy that life put me in

463
00:18:55,400 --> 00:18:57,159
Speaker 6: the right place at the right time for Peloton and

464
00:18:57,520 --> 00:18:59,560
Speaker 6: it was like literally the perfect job for me.

465
00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:00,520
Speaker 3: Perfect.

466
00:19:00,840 --> 00:19:02,960
Speaker 1: Oh I love that. What a nice success story.

467
00:19:03,440 --> 00:19:04,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I look back on it.

468
00:19:04,960 --> 00:19:06,879
Speaker 6: I'm just like super grateful, especially because I grew up

469
00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:10,399
Speaker 6: so fucking poor and to have the world is my

470
00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:12,000
Speaker 6: oyster is fantastic.

471
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Speaker 1: Did you run a marathon recently or do an iron man?

472
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Speaker 3: That's a fuckingly not. I will not catch me doing that.

473
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Speaker 1: Okay, because my friend and from Whistler ran and I

474
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Speaker 1: couldn't remember if it was you or one of the

475
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Speaker 1: other guys. And she was like, I saw so and

476
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Speaker 1: so from Peloton and I was like, that must be so.

477
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Speaker 1: She's like, I ran right up to him. I couldn't

478
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Speaker 1: believe it was him in person.

479
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Speaker 2: I'm like, that sounds so annoying, and just like, stop,

480
00:19:34,080 --> 00:19:36,200
Speaker 2: don't approach me. I'm glad it wasn't you, although it

481
00:19:36,200 --> 00:19:37,400
Speaker 2: would have been funny if it were.

482
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Speaker 6: The way that you feel about children is the way

483
00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:41,960
Speaker 6: I feel about marathons. I don't need to do it.

484
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Speaker 6: It's going to do nothing for me.

485
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Speaker 1: I'm glad it's happening to keep it over there.

486
00:19:45,560 --> 00:19:47,879
Speaker 6: So happy it's happening over there, and like I this

487
00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:49,800
Speaker 6: was the first year of fifteen years of living in

488
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Speaker 6: New York City that I went to the marathon and

489
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Speaker 6: cheered people on and it was so cute. I love that.

490
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Speaker 6: That was my perfect introduction to it. But you will

491
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Speaker 6: not catch me running twenty three point six miles.

492
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Speaker 2: I think I think it's twenty six point two miles. Right,

493
00:20:03,080 --> 00:20:06,600
Speaker 2: I have no desire. I'm with you. I am not

494
00:20:06,680 --> 00:20:10,919
Speaker 2: trying to prove anything to anyone but really myself, like

495
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Speaker 2: I would I would never I would have run a

496
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Speaker 2: half marathon. I mean, if it was for a charity,

497
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Speaker 2: I would just pay for someone else to.

498
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Speaker 3: Do it, you know what I mean, here's the donation.

499
00:20:20,359 --> 00:20:22,960
Speaker 2: I can't be bothered with that kind of chicanery. It's

500
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Speaker 2: too much.

501
00:20:24,320 --> 00:20:26,080
Speaker 1: Also, you want to keep your knees, you know.

502
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Speaker 6: Yeah, And like I've tackled enough emotional trauma from my

503
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Speaker 6: past to feel like I've accomplished something, you know.

504
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Speaker 1: I hear you, I hear you.

505
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Speaker 2: Okay, we're going to take a break and we're going

506
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Speaker 2: to be right back with Cody Rigsby. And we're back

507
00:20:43,080 --> 00:20:47,080
Speaker 2: with Cody Rigsby. We're gonna give advice. Cody, you're good

508
00:20:47,080 --> 00:20:48,919
Speaker 2: at this, right, I feel like you could be good

509
00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:49,760
Speaker 2: and motivational.

510
00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:52,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I love to give hard truths.

511
00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:54,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, the hard way all about here.

512
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Speaker 6: Unfortunately a lot of people don't have good friends that

513
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Speaker 6: are telling them honesty.

514
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Speaker 1: I know that's what we're here for.

515
00:21:00,480 --> 00:21:02,480
Speaker 2: The people don't Yeah, I mean I know from my

516
00:21:02,520 --> 00:21:04,439
Speaker 2: own set of friends that most people don't tell you

517
00:21:04,440 --> 00:21:04,879
Speaker 2: the truth.

518
00:21:05,640 --> 00:21:07,399
Speaker 6: Oh No, my friends will sit me the fuck down

519
00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:09,239
Speaker 6: and be like, bitch, what are you doing? And I

520
00:21:09,280 --> 00:21:10,800
Speaker 6: love that and I will do the same.

521
00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:14,800
Speaker 2: I always. I'm an interloper. I always will intervene always.

522
00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:16,199
Speaker 3: Yeah.

523
00:21:16,240 --> 00:21:19,240
Speaker 4: Well, our first question comes from Sherry. This is a

524
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Speaker 4: little confusing, but.

525
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Speaker 1: Stick with this. Is it Cherry Shepherd's Cherry Shepherd?

526
00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:24,840
Speaker 2: Okay, because she just posted a clip of me talking

527
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Speaker 2: about me not washing my legs with Kevin Hart on

528
00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:29,159
Speaker 2: your show and then invited me for a collab.

529
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Speaker 1: I'm like, no, I don't think so, bitch.

530
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Speaker 3: You don't wash your legs.

531
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Speaker 1: I don't wash my legs in the shower for you.

532
00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:37,119
Speaker 1: I mean, what's going Why are my legs dirty? They're not.

533
00:21:37,280 --> 00:21:38,360
Speaker 1: They're covered up all day.

534
00:21:38,600 --> 00:21:40,920
Speaker 2: And when I wash my hair, the shampoo and the

535
00:21:40,920 --> 00:21:44,040
Speaker 2: conditioner falls down my whole body and washes up. I

536
00:21:44,040 --> 00:21:46,200
Speaker 2: get in my shower, I wash my Pikachu, I washed

537
00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:48,639
Speaker 2: my asshole, I wash under my arms, and then I

538
00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:51,360
Speaker 2: washed my butt like the cup the cheeks, so because

539
00:21:51,359 --> 00:21:53,160
Speaker 2: I don't want to get any you know, ezema.

540
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Speaker 6: I see what I see what you're saying there, And

541
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Speaker 6: I can't say that, like one hundred percent I'm washing

542
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Speaker 6: of the times I'm washing my legs.

543
00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:02,840
Speaker 3: But I'd say, like fifty if.

544
00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:05,399
Speaker 2: My legs are dirty, if there's dirt on them, I

545
00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:08,000
Speaker 2: will wash them. But they're not. There's not ever dirt.

546
00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:11,280
Speaker 2: My legs are never exposed. They're covered all day long.

547
00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:12,760
Speaker 2: Like what am I washing them for?

548
00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:13,280
Speaker 1: Cody?

549
00:22:13,320 --> 00:22:15,639
Speaker 4: Are you running around New York City with shorts on?

550
00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:17,840
Speaker 4: That is the real question. Then you have to wash

551
00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:18,440
Speaker 4: your legs.

552
00:22:18,520 --> 00:22:21,160
Speaker 6: So yes, I haven't been wearing a lot of pants,

553
00:22:21,200 --> 00:22:23,320
Speaker 6: so yeah, I wear shorts as much as I possible.

554
00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:26,040
Speaker 2: Then you should be washing your legs, yeah yeah, even

555
00:22:26,080 --> 00:22:27,360
Speaker 2: though you're not, you should be.

556
00:22:28,040 --> 00:22:30,800
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. But I do somewhat agree that

557
00:22:30,840 --> 00:22:33,320
Speaker 6: the soap will trickle down and get onto the legs.

558
00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:34,160
Speaker 6: It's not a full screen.

559
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Speaker 3: I go.

560
00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:37,200
Speaker 2: If there's a crevice that I need to get into,

561
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Speaker 2: then I will go there with the soap in the water,

562
00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:42,679
Speaker 2: But the legs are out, My legs are out. I

563
00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:45,680
Speaker 2: don't have to get in behind my kneecap, like there's

564
00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:46,240
Speaker 2: nothing fat.

565
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Speaker 6: But if you don't, if you don't wash your feet,

566
00:22:48,160 --> 00:22:50,920
Speaker 6: nobody can put their foot in your feet in their mouth.

567
00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:51,600
Speaker 1: That's fight.

568
00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:53,240
Speaker 2: And then by the way, the water, the soap and

569
00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:55,240
Speaker 2: all everything lands on my feet too, right before it

570
00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:55,960
Speaker 2: goes down the drain.

571
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Speaker 1: So those are I think that feel like are clean.

572
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Speaker 3: They're good, They're really clean.

573
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

574
00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:02,840
Speaker 6: Tell sign if someone likes you and while you're fucking

575
00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:04,680
Speaker 6: they if they put your feet in their mouth, then

576
00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:05,880
Speaker 6: you're they're very into.

577
00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:08,960
Speaker 1: You, definitely, or they have a foot fetish. But I

578
00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:10,960
Speaker 1: don't really need anyone to be sucking my foot, you

579
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Speaker 1: know what I mean. There's so many others.

580
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Speaker 6: Like you know, from time to time, I'm like, hey, okay,

581
00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:16,639
Speaker 6: this works, I'm here for it.

582
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Speaker 3: Go on.

583
00:23:17,359 --> 00:23:18,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah.

584
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Speaker 2: I kind of have that attitude too, like if you

585
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Speaker 2: want to do it, but if you do it, like

586
00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:21,760
Speaker 2: if it.

587
00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:23,520
Speaker 1: Is a fetishy thing, I'm not into it.

588
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:26,880
Speaker 2: Like if it happens every time, then no, it has

589
00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:28,000
Speaker 2: to be like sporadic.

590
00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:31,120
Speaker 3: One time, we haven't even gotten a question.

591
00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:32,280
Speaker 1: That's okay.

592
00:23:32,480 --> 00:23:32,880
Speaker 3: Continue.

593
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Speaker 6: There was one time I was at this party in

594
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Speaker 6: Fire Island and this guy asked me he definitely had

595
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Speaker 6: a foot finish.

596
00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:40,520
Speaker 3: He was like, can I just massage your feet? And

597
00:23:40,560 --> 00:23:42,040
Speaker 3: I was like, you know what, go for it. And

598
00:23:42,119 --> 00:23:44,600
Speaker 3: it obviously an incredible massage, of course.

599
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Speaker 1: And why would anyone say no to a foot massage.

600
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Speaker 2: I mean, I will take a foot massage from someone

601
00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:49,680
Speaker 2: from Isis.

602
00:23:49,720 --> 00:23:50,320
Speaker 1: You know what I mean.

603
00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:52,840
Speaker 2: I don't care who's giving me a foot massage. I

604
00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:58,800
Speaker 2: love getting my feet rubbed exactly. Okay, question, We're ready, So.

605
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Speaker 4: Back to Sherry. She says, Dear Chelsea, I have an

606
00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:04,560
Speaker 4: ethical dilemma that I'm hoping you can give me advice

607
00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:07,480
Speaker 4: on what I should do. Within my group of friends,

608
00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:10,720
Speaker 4: there are two couples with a messy situation. Let's call

609
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Speaker 4: them Couple A and Couple B. I'm close friends with

610
00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:17,080
Speaker 4: all of them, especially the wife from each couple. Both

611
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Speaker 4: couples have young kids. The husband from Couple A recently

612
00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:23,840
Speaker 4: confided in US that his wife has been having an

613
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Speaker 4: on again, off again affair with husband B for over

614
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Speaker 4: ten years.

615
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Speaker 5: Oh.

616
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Speaker 4: Husband A confronted husband B about their affair and he

617
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Speaker 4: admitted it too great. Husband A is devastated and heartbroken.

618
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Speaker 4: He hasn't made any decisions yet about what he's going

619
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Speaker 4: to do. He feels that coming out with this and

620
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Speaker 4: telling Wife B will ultimately destroy two families. As far

621
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Speaker 4: as I know, my husband and I are the only

622
00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:49,359
Speaker 4: other people who know about the affair, and I feel

623
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Speaker 4: terrible that I know this information, But I haven't told

624
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Speaker 4: my friend wife B about what her husband has been

625
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Speaker 4: up to.

626
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Speaker 1: What do I do?

627
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Speaker 4: Do I tell Wife BE or leave it up to

628
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Speaker 4: Husband A to decide? This is such a difficult position

629
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 4: to be in, and I wish I didn't know this information.

630
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:06,640
Speaker 4: If I keep it to myself, how can I continue

631
00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:09,440
Speaker 4: my friendship with Wife B? To make matters worse? This

632
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:11,479
Speaker 4: isn't the first time I've heard that husband B has

633
00:25:11,520 --> 00:25:13,960
Speaker 4: been unfaithful, but in the past I kept it to

634
00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:16,399
Speaker 4: myself because I didn't know for sure, and I figured

635
00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:18,920
Speaker 4: that saying something to wife BE would more than likely

636
00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:22,160
Speaker 4: ruin our friendship because she would ultimately believe her husband

637
00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:24,240
Speaker 4: because he talks for a living and can be very

638
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:28,800
Speaker 4: convincing and influential. What do I do, Cherry?

639
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Speaker 2: My disposition on this constantly changes, depending on the set

640
00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:36,000
Speaker 2: of circumstances and depending on the feedback we've gotten from

641
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Speaker 2: callers who've called in with similar problems, Cody, why don't

642
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:41,000
Speaker 2: you go first and give your advice on this situation?

643
00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:43,720
Speaker 3: Wow, first of all, the question felt like a fucking

644
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Speaker 3: sat question.

645
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Speaker 1: Just be happy she fucking divvied them up to couple

646
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Speaker 1: A and B.

647
00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:51,280
Speaker 2: The other day, I'm dealing with thirty six cousins, a

648
00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:52,760
Speaker 2: nephew and an ann and a priest.

649
00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 1: I was like, what, I can't follow the story?

650
00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 6: Uh, yeah, they should honestly just be in a polycule

651
00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:03,360
Speaker 6: because they're halfway there to all having sex with each other.

652
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:07,119
Speaker 6: They honestly need to reframe their idea of like, I

653
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:10,840
Speaker 6: don't think monogamy is for everybody, and so maybe they

654
00:26:10,880 --> 00:26:15,199
Speaker 6: want to explore some form of ethical non monogamy. But

655
00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:16,640
Speaker 6: that's really on them.

656
00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:18,359
Speaker 3: To decide what they're doing with the mess.

657
00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:21,399
Speaker 6: If I were the friend, I would kind of stay

658
00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:24,720
Speaker 6: out of it because you already know the tisis like

659
00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:29,639
Speaker 6: husband Bee is cheating on wife Be and she's not

660
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 6: gonna believe you if you say it, so it's going

661
00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:35,119
Speaker 6: to ruin your friendship. Anyways, I would stay the fuck

662
00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 6: out of it until it all comes out, because everything

663
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:40,880
Speaker 6: dark comes to the light one way or the other.

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Speaker 2: I would agree, I'm going to say that sometimes I

665
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Speaker 2: say tell on them, you know, like I want people to.

666
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Speaker 2: But for this situation, I would say, it sounds like

667
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:52,199
Speaker 2: it's about to come out anyway, like everywhere, all the

668
00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:55,800
Speaker 2: chips are falling and like not into place, out of place,

669
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Speaker 2: like everyone's going to kind of get the situation and

670
00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:04,800
Speaker 2: it's not your responsibility. It sounds messy. And if it's

671
00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 2: been going on for ten years, that's a whole other

672
00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 2: level of unethical non monogamy. I like what you said

673
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:16,199
Speaker 2: ethical non monogamy, because that's important. You can have that

674
00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 2: if you're ethical about it and honest.

675
00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:20,520
Speaker 1: But that's not what's going on here.

676
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:22,479
Speaker 2: Especially if that guy's talk or like you don't want

677
00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:25,040
Speaker 2: to ruin your relationship with your friend, you know. I

678
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:28,639
Speaker 2: think it's it's best to just let let the chips

679
00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 2: fall where they may, and then you can get in

680
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 2: there after and be like, listen, I was in a

681
00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:35,359
Speaker 2: really uncomfortable situation and I didn't know if you knew,

682
00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 2: and you know, all of that stuff. I didn't want

683
00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 2: to get involved in it because it was very confusing.

684
00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:43,720
Speaker 2: But yeah, I say stay out of it.

685
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:46,800
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, I think I think a post mortem when

686
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:49,280
Speaker 6: when everything hits the fan. She can then come to

687
00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:51,240
Speaker 6: the friend and be like, hey, girl, like I did

688
00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:53,359
Speaker 6: know this, but this is why it was complicated.

689
00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:55,120
Speaker 3: I love you, I'm here for you. Let me help

690
00:27:55,160 --> 00:27:55,560
Speaker 3: you through this.

691
00:27:57,080 --> 00:27:58,480
Speaker 4: Are you a monogamist, Cody?

692
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:00,199
Speaker 3: I am not.

693
00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:03,919
Speaker 6: I was gonna say, as someone who has cheated on boyfriends,

694
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:07,240
Speaker 6: I feel like the way to go is non monogamy.

695
00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 6: But I am a firm believer that monogamy does need

696
00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:13,240
Speaker 6: to be at least for me, needs to be the

697
00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 6: foundation at first in the relationship. But as the years

698
00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:17,720
Speaker 6: go on, Like I just I don't think I could

699
00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 6: only sleep with one person for the rest of my life.

700
00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:21,560
Speaker 6: I know, I know that I can't, but I'm not.

701
00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:23,399
Speaker 6: I don't want to be polyamorous. I couldn't have a

702
00:28:23,440 --> 00:28:24,640
Speaker 6: relationship with those bob people.

703
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:25,879
Speaker 1: Just fucking yeah.

704
00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:28,480
Speaker 2: I don't know who put this monogamy into our heads

705
00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:32,720
Speaker 2: to begin with. It's too it's just it's just very antiquated.

706
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:35,080
Speaker 2: It's starting to feel even though I'm a monogamous like

707
00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 2: when I'm with someone, i'm with them, I can totally

708
00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:40,160
Speaker 2: see why it doesn't make any sense for long periods

709
00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:43,320
Speaker 2: of time, you know, maybe five year, ten year intervals,

710
00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 2: even ten years sounds like too.

711
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:48,680
Speaker 1: Long, but some people really do love monogamy.

712
00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 6: So and for the people that love it, go for

713
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:55,640
Speaker 6: a baby. I just know in my soul it's not

714
00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:55,920
Speaker 6: for me.

715
00:28:56,440 --> 00:28:58,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, It's like I know in my soul that I

716
00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:01,400
Speaker 2: wasn't meant to be someone's wife or mother exactly.

717
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:03,360
Speaker 1: Like, no regrets.

718
00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:06,480
Speaker 2: In fact, every time I think about it, the fact

719
00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:08,080
Speaker 2: that I don't have a child, or the fact that

720
00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:11,520
Speaker 2: I don't have a partner, I'm just so grateful, Like

721
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, this is so much nicer.

722
00:29:14,040 --> 00:29:17,800
Speaker 6: So also, like being married or like in a long

723
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,840
Speaker 6: term committed relationship is not your not your vibe either.

724
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:22,360
Speaker 1: I don't want to be married.

725
00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:24,920
Speaker 6: No, no legal status. But you can be with someone

726
00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 6: maybe for the rest of your life.

727
00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:29,720
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe, but let's be reasonable, doubt.

728
00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 6: You know, I love people who know what they want

729
00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:35,040
Speaker 6: and they're that's the perfect way to be.

730
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:39,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I like, yeah, I like to be stimulated, So

731
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:42,640
Speaker 2: to be stimulated usually requires a newness.

732
00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:44,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, at some point.

733
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:48,719
Speaker 4: Well, our next question we'll start with Kelly. Her subject

734
00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:52,040
Speaker 4: line is how to lose weight without quote unquote compliments.

735
00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 4: Dear Chelsea. Bottom line up front, I'm about to go

736
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:58,120
Speaker 4: on weightless medication. But I don't want people close to

737
00:29:58,160 --> 00:30:00,360
Speaker 4: me to comment on my body changes. How do I

738
00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:02,600
Speaker 4: let people know this without sounding cunty?

739
00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 1: For context?

740
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:05,960
Speaker 4: For the past two years, my doctors and I have

741
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 4: been trying to figure out why my body won't respond

742
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:11,800
Speaker 4: to eating responsibly and consistently attending a spine gym for

743
00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:14,560
Speaker 4: about twelve of those months. This summer, she and my

744
00:30:14,640 --> 00:30:18,120
Speaker 4: undocrinologist diagnosed me with PCOS and one of the symptoms

745
00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:20,680
Speaker 4: is weight gain. We decided to try met Foreman and

746
00:30:20,680 --> 00:30:24,440
Speaker 4: tweak my eating habits and exercise routine and regroup in December.

747
00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:27,200
Speaker 4: While it's coming, decision time and nothing has changed, so

748
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 4: it's time to pivot to an injectable. From ages thirteen

749
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:33,400
Speaker 4: to twenty seven ish, I struggled with bolimia, trendy diets,

750
00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:35,760
Speaker 4: obsessive workouts that made me a slave to the gym

751
00:30:35,800 --> 00:30:38,840
Speaker 4: for hours a day while tracking every gram of macros

752
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:42,520
Speaker 4: across every piece of food, among other disordered eating behaviors.

753
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:45,120
Speaker 4: After years of therapy, I'm now at my heaviest weight

754
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:49,760
Speaker 4: but healthiest mental state. I'm a firm believer in body neutrality, However,

755
00:30:49,880 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 4: I feel my body just isn't meant to carry this

756
00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:53,680
Speaker 4: much weight in this form, and I'm uncomfortable and know

757
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 4: my body chemistry is just not operating correctly throughout my

758
00:30:57,120 --> 00:30:59,720
Speaker 4: weight fluctuations. The one thing that has been consistent is

759
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:02,400
Speaker 4: that my family praises me when I'm in a smaller body.

760
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:04,920
Speaker 4: I understand this is a cultural thing and they have

761
00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:07,440
Speaker 4: the best intentions. I also know I have done the

762
00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:10,440
Speaker 4: work to deal with how I perceive myself, but I

763
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:12,600
Speaker 4: worry that those around me will keep up with their

764
00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 4: old ways. Is there a way to get ahead of

765
00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:16,800
Speaker 4: this or handle the quote unquote compliments when I know

766
00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:19,080
Speaker 4: they mean well but also feel they could be damaging

767
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 4: to me. Thank you for all the positive energy. Kelly.

768
00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 1: Hi, Kelly, Hey, Hey, Kelly.

769
00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 7: Hello.

770
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 1: I don't know the answer to this.

771
00:31:28,720 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 2: I don't know how you get people to not comment

772
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 2: on your weight, because it's so like if you have

773
00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:35,920
Speaker 2: a history with your family, that's one thing you can

774
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:38,360
Speaker 2: have a conversation with them and explain to them what's

775
00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:40,520
Speaker 2: happening and how you don't think it's healthy for your

776
00:31:40,840 --> 00:31:44,440
Speaker 2: you know, your your mental health to hear their feedback

777
00:31:44,480 --> 00:31:46,120
Speaker 2: about your physicality all the time.

778
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 1: This is Cody Rigsby, by the way, Yeah, Okay, great, it.

779
00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:53,880
Speaker 2: Feels like, okay, are you gonna have that? Is it

780
00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:56,560
Speaker 2: going to have a deleterious impact on you if regular

781
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 2: people are commenting on your way, because it's a very

782
00:31:58,360 --> 00:31:59,920
Speaker 2: hard thing for people not to do.

783
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 7: No, I know that it's my family and they're not

784
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:07,760
Speaker 7: great at taking those types of conversations. Case in point,

785
00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 7: like freshman year of college, I lost like forty pounds

786
00:32:11,960 --> 00:32:14,600
Speaker 7: and my aunt, who's been like a pseudo grandmother to

787
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:17,200
Speaker 7: me my entire life, like called me over and was

788
00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 7: just like, helly, you look wonderful.

789
00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:20,720
Speaker 1: I'm so proud of you.

790
00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:23,240
Speaker 7: And this, that and the other thing, and like that's

791
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,800
Speaker 7: where most of my compliments come from my family.

792
00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:27,680
Speaker 3: May I take a stab at this?

793
00:32:27,880 --> 00:32:28,040
Speaker 1: Yes?

794
00:32:28,080 --> 00:32:28,280
Speaker 3: Yeah?

795
00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:28,640
Speaker 4: Please?

796
00:32:29,520 --> 00:32:33,240
Speaker 6: Well, first of all, I commend you on like you

797
00:32:33,320 --> 00:32:36,160
Speaker 6: being in the right place for your own journey, because

798
00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:39,480
Speaker 6: you seem really grounded in, like this is for my health,

799
00:32:39,520 --> 00:32:41,360
Speaker 6: this is for my mental health, This is for me

800
00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:44,200
Speaker 6: to feel confident, this is for me to feel like

801
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:46,840
Speaker 6: my best And I think that is the best mentality

802
00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:49,600
Speaker 6: to have, especially around weight loss or working out. Like

803
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 6: our bodies are only going to look a certain way

804
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:54,560
Speaker 6: for a certain time. They're gonna fluctuate. They're gonna change

805
00:32:54,600 --> 00:32:57,120
Speaker 6: and we don't have control over that. So I think

806
00:32:57,160 --> 00:32:59,840
Speaker 6: that's a great mental space. That being said, also, we

807
00:32:59,840 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 6: can't control other people's actions. We're not gonna be able

808
00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 6: to control the compliments that they give us. But I

809
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 6: think that you can start to reframe those physical comments

810
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 6: into a space of if someone's like, hey, you look great, Kelly,

811
00:33:16,000 --> 00:33:18,120
Speaker 6: since you've lost eight you're like, thank you. I think

812
00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:20,680
Speaker 6: just saying thank you to any compliment is fine. You

813
00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:23,120
Speaker 6: could also take lead on the conversation of being like,

814
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:27,320
Speaker 6: thank you, but honestly, it's I feel amazing and I've

815
00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:32,080
Speaker 6: never felt better and I'm really happy, and that's the

816
00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:33,960
Speaker 6: thing that you want.

817
00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:34,680
Speaker 3: To get across to them.

818
00:33:34,720 --> 00:33:36,560
Speaker 6: It's just the way you feel and just taking charge

819
00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:38,240
Speaker 6: of the charge of the narrative and knowing you can't

820
00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:40,400
Speaker 6: control anybody whatever the heck they're gonna say.

821
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:42,720
Speaker 4: I do think there's a little bit of room for

822
00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:46,160
Speaker 4: some teaching here. I think if there are certain family

823
00:33:46,160 --> 00:33:49,480
Speaker 4: members you're worried about kind of like really hitting the

824
00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:52,880
Speaker 4: like oh you look so skinny, stuff hard, I think

825
00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:55,320
Speaker 4: it's okay to like just address that with them, like

826
00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:58,360
Speaker 4: I'm making some changes with my doctors for my health

827
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:00,640
Speaker 4: and like I just would so appreciate it, like not

828
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:03,680
Speaker 4: commenting on my body, or if someone does bring it up,

829
00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:05,680
Speaker 4: saying like thank you so much. I know you mean well,

830
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:07,560
Speaker 4: but you know I'm the same person in a larger

831
00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:10,239
Speaker 4: or a smaller body, So thanks for letting me know.

832
00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:13,120
Speaker 4: But I'm feeling really happy. And you know, like Cody said,

833
00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:15,360
Speaker 4: going into like I'm feeling happy about this x y

834
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:17,560
Speaker 4: Z in my life. It doesn't necessarily have to be

835
00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:21,160
Speaker 4: like a body thing. It can be something that's just

836
00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:23,560
Speaker 4: like something you're doing that's making you feel better in

837
00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:24,440
Speaker 4: your life.

838
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:26,640
Speaker 2: But I also think it wouldn't be like okay if

839
00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:28,919
Speaker 2: your family doesn't respond well to things. If you wrote

840
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:31,239
Speaker 2: a thoughtful email to your family and said, listen, I'm

841
00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:34,080
Speaker 2: on this like weight loss journey. The times where I

842
00:34:34,120 --> 00:34:37,800
Speaker 2: have lost weight and have heard comments from you guys,

843
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:40,640
Speaker 2: which I know you are, you know, giving me or

844
00:34:40,719 --> 00:34:43,400
Speaker 2: compliments about how I look good when I lose weight

845
00:34:43,520 --> 00:34:45,960
Speaker 2: or when I've dropped forty pounds. You can give specific

846
00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:49,399
Speaker 2: examples about your freshman year in college, the comments I

847
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:52,160
Speaker 2: know you mean well, but those kind of comments and

848
00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:55,840
Speaker 2: getting rewarded for having a smaller body. Have it helped,

849
00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:58,840
Speaker 2: so moving forward, it would really mean the world to

850
00:34:58,880 --> 00:35:01,520
Speaker 2: me if we could just keep the comments to yourself

851
00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:04,520
Speaker 2: about me and any sort of weight loss or weight

852
00:35:04,600 --> 00:35:06,880
Speaker 2: gain I have. I need to do this for my

853
00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:09,560
Speaker 2: own mental health and this is something that's really important

854
00:35:09,560 --> 00:35:11,200
Speaker 2: to me, and as people who love me, I can

855
00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:13,400
Speaker 2: only imagine that you want to support that.

856
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:16,080
Speaker 7: That sounds doable. My family's not the type of people

857
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:18,239
Speaker 7: that you can have that kind of conversation in person with.

858
00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:21,320
Speaker 1: So yeah, write it in an email.

859
00:35:21,400 --> 00:35:24,080
Speaker 2: Let them all talk about it together and be like, oh,

860
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:26,120
Speaker 2: did you get the email we did? A like, let

861
00:35:26,120 --> 00:35:29,839
Speaker 2: them reflect and actually digest what you're saying. It's not unreasonable,

862
00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:32,959
Speaker 2: and once they know that it has that impact on you,

863
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:35,360
Speaker 2: they are going to think twice about making those comments.

864
00:35:35,680 --> 00:35:37,919
Speaker 2: And you can say, we're in a different time, it's

865
00:35:37,960 --> 00:35:41,320
Speaker 2: not really appropriate to be making these comments. I'm feeling

866
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 2: so good about myself. I just want to keep feeling

867
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:46,719
Speaker 2: good about myself and those kind of comments are not

868
00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 2: helpful for me.

869
00:35:48,400 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 1: Okay, No, I like the sounds of that.

870
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 7: I just I guess I'm just nervous for you know,

871
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:58,360
Speaker 7: sounding like pretentious and part of me touches.

872
00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 2: But you're not being pretentious. You're being detective of yourself.

873
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:05,760
Speaker 2: That's what you're being self empowering. There's nothing pretentious. Forget

874
00:36:05,760 --> 00:36:08,120
Speaker 2: about your family and where they're from. This is about

875
00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:10,680
Speaker 2: you and where you're from and where you're going. Like,

876
00:36:10,719 --> 00:36:13,760
Speaker 2: there's nothing pretentious about that. That's actually being really upfront

877
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 2: and honest, and there's nothing wrong with it.

878
00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:17,400
Speaker 1: Yeah.

879
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:20,359
Speaker 3: It's creating a boundary, communicating that boundary and telling people

880
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:22,120
Speaker 3: to you know, not cross it.

881
00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:25,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I think like when people do, because you

882
00:36:25,160 --> 00:36:27,960
Speaker 4: will have people who who cross that boundary, even if

883
00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:30,640
Speaker 4: you've communicated with them, you know, having that patience and

884
00:36:30,680 --> 00:36:33,480
Speaker 4: being like thinks like, this isn't really because I'm doing

885
00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 4: all these different things. This is because I'm treating the

886
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 4: pcos that you know caused some of this weight cane

887
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:39,400
Speaker 4: and that sort of thing. You know, I'm working with

888
00:36:39,400 --> 00:36:42,040
Speaker 4: my doctors and getting good treatment.

889
00:36:42,600 --> 00:36:43,120
Speaker 1: Yeah.

890
00:36:43,520 --> 00:36:46,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, and also and also do some of the work

891
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:49,799
Speaker 2: that Cody mentioned about taking those comments and kind of

892
00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:53,279
Speaker 2: having them turn into a different comment in your head.

893
00:36:53,719 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 2: You really can't control what other people are going to

894
00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:58,040
Speaker 2: say or how they're going to react, so you have

895
00:36:58,120 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 2: to kind of figure out the way that you're going

896
00:36:59,600 --> 00:37:01,760
Speaker 2: to be able to digest them in a different way

897
00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:05,919
Speaker 2: instead of having it make you feel like uncomfortable. There's

898
00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:07,920
Speaker 2: a way you can kind of empower yourself with those

899
00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:10,120
Speaker 2: comments and be like, I'm going to take that and

900
00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:12,160
Speaker 2: this is this is what I know that they meant

901
00:37:12,160 --> 00:37:15,040
Speaker 2: to say or that they wanted me to feel, So

902
00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:17,160
Speaker 2: I am going to choose to feel that way, even

903
00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:19,120
Speaker 2: though it's an annoying thing to keep hearing.

904
00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:21,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, I agree, there's probably like a different way to

905
00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:24,840
Speaker 4: sort of metabolize those comments that you're getting, you know,

906
00:37:24,880 --> 00:37:27,920
Speaker 4: so to speak. But I also think it's really important

907
00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 4: to underscore here that you know, we're in twenty twenty five, Like,

908
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:35,960
Speaker 4: it's never okay to comment on someone else's body, you know,

909
00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:38,760
Speaker 4: whether their skin is discolored, or they have an injury,

910
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 4: or they've lost or gained weight, or they're wearing a

911
00:37:40,719 --> 00:37:44,640
Speaker 4: medical device, Like it's okay to just not say anything.

912
00:37:45,360 --> 00:37:47,800
Speaker 4: And in fact, it's preferable to not say anything unless

913
00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 4: they bring it up and it's something that they choose

914
00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 4: to talk about. You know, unsolicited comments about someone's weight

915
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:58,040
Speaker 4: and especially weight loss can be really painful for people.

916
00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 4: I mean people lose and gain weight for all kinds

917
00:38:00,560 --> 00:38:02,759
Speaker 4: of reasons. I mean, they may be going through a

918
00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:06,160
Speaker 4: period of grief, maybe they've changed medication that's caused weight

919
00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:09,520
Speaker 4: gain or weight loss. Maybe they're having a mental health crisis,

920
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:12,279
Speaker 4: or they're dealing with an illness, maybe they have an

921
00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:15,960
Speaker 4: eating disorder, and those compliments really can get in their

922
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:19,520
Speaker 4: head and do really lasting damage. So I think it's

923
00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:22,560
Speaker 4: really something that we have to pay attention to that,

924
00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:25,279
Speaker 4: like our words do matter, and sometimes even when we're

925
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:28,080
Speaker 4: trying to be kind, it can unintentionally be really damaging.

926
00:38:28,320 --> 00:38:30,960
Speaker 4: So I think it's great to be able to set

927
00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:33,080
Speaker 4: these boundaries with your family. But if you have like

928
00:38:33,120 --> 00:38:36,279
Speaker 4: a neighbor who comments, or you know someone else in

929
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:39,000
Speaker 4: your life who comments, one thing you can say is

930
00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:42,239
Speaker 4: just like, yeah, I know, bodies change in all kinds

931
00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:45,200
Speaker 4: of ways for all different reasons, right, and just like

932
00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:48,000
Speaker 4: leave it at that, and like if it's a little awkward,

933
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:50,400
Speaker 4: it's okay if it's a little bit awkward. But with

934
00:38:50,440 --> 00:38:52,720
Speaker 4: a comment like that, you're not really giving any credence

935
00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:54,879
Speaker 4: to like it's a positive thing or a negative thing,

936
00:38:55,040 --> 00:38:56,920
Speaker 4: but you're also not denying that it happened.

937
00:38:57,239 --> 00:38:59,320
Speaker 1: So it's a good way to set a boundary.

938
00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:02,399
Speaker 2: But I'll be afraid of putting up boundaries like that's

939
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:04,880
Speaker 2: what we're lacking. Yeah, especially as women.

940
00:39:05,160 --> 00:39:08,560
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, certainly with my family, we're grossly closed.

941
00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 2: So yeah, okay, well, good put together an email, compose it,

942
00:39:13,080 --> 00:39:15,840
Speaker 2: take your time to write it, and I guarantee you you'll.

943
00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 1: Be surprised by the results, yeah, or the response. I mean,

944
00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:23,080
Speaker 1: all right, thank you, thanks so much, Kelly. Thank you, bye,

945
00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:24,880
Speaker 1: Kelly Bye, have a good one.

946
00:39:25,280 --> 00:39:27,200
Speaker 4: I think that's such a good question too, because we

947
00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:30,400
Speaker 4: don't necessarily know what people's backstories are, whether they have

948
00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:33,799
Speaker 4: a condition that's causing weaking. Maybe they were depressed and

949
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:34,760
Speaker 4: lost fifty pounds.

950
00:39:34,800 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 6: You know.

951
00:39:35,320 --> 00:39:37,040
Speaker 4: It's a good teaching moment to have with her family.

952
00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:38,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, I had.

953
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:41,080
Speaker 2: I was in Mayorka this summer and this server, this

954
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:42,919
Speaker 2: restaurant that I go to a lot, there's a server

955
00:39:43,200 --> 00:39:44,880
Speaker 2: and from the beginning I went in June, and then

956
00:39:44,920 --> 00:39:46,839
Speaker 2: I went back in September. And when I went back

957
00:39:46,880 --> 00:39:49,320
Speaker 2: in September, she had lost, like I mean, like fifty pounds.

958
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:50,960
Speaker 2: And she was never heavy to begin with. She was

959
00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:53,960
Speaker 2: very muscular and like very healthy. And I didn't say

960
00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 2: anything because I knew better than to say anything, and

961
00:39:57,200 --> 00:39:59,640
Speaker 2: she said something and she was like, oh my god,

962
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:02,200
Speaker 2: look at I'm wasting away. And I go, oh my gosh,

963
00:40:02,239 --> 00:40:05,279
Speaker 2: I know you look amazing like and she goes, no,

964
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 2: I've lost weight because of stress.

965
00:40:07,040 --> 00:40:10,160
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, oh shit, right, fucked up.

966
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:12,520
Speaker 1: You know you were just learning terrible.

967
00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:16,640
Speaker 2: I did you know she wasn't happy about the weight loss,

968
00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:18,840
Speaker 2: but I knew enough not to bring it up. But

969
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:20,400
Speaker 2: when she brought it up, or should have been like,

970
00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 2: oh yeah yeah.

971
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:23,640
Speaker 1: Plus we were speaking Spanish, so thought always go side.

972
00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:25,759
Speaker 6: You never know how someone's gonna interpret it. It's like

973
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:27,600
Speaker 6: when people say I look so skinny, I'm like, bitch,

974
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:28,839
Speaker 6: but what I don't want to look scary.

975
00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:31,080
Speaker 3: I want to look like like a muscular man. So

976
00:40:31,120 --> 00:40:33,040
Speaker 3: it's like you gets fucked up in your head.

977
00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:35,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, we've been talking a lot about that lately, about

978
00:40:35,880 --> 00:40:38,920
Speaker 4: like not talking about like skinny, but talking about strong strong.

979
00:40:38,960 --> 00:40:41,759
Speaker 1: We liked, yes, yes, fit and strong. Yes.

980
00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:42,920
Speaker 5: Well.

981
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:45,880
Speaker 4: Our next question comes from Britney and she is seeking

982
00:40:45,920 --> 00:40:47,400
Speaker 4: some fitness motivation advice.

983
00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:50,800
Speaker 1: Oh perfect, yeah, she says, you're Chelsea, is it? Britney spears,

984
00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:53,200
Speaker 1: I hope, so, yeah.

985
00:40:52,719 --> 00:40:55,719
Speaker 4: I'm writing in for some motivation on how to get

986
00:40:55,719 --> 00:40:59,440
Speaker 4: into a better exercise routine and routines in general. I

987
00:40:59,480 --> 00:41:01,959
Speaker 4: recently got married, and before the wedding I was able

988
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:04,720
Speaker 4: to motivate myself to eat clean and exercise by wanting

989
00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:07,080
Speaker 4: to look amazing in my wedding gown, which I killed it.

990
00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:10,040
Speaker 4: Now I'm several months post wedding and I can't get

991
00:41:10,080 --> 00:41:13,120
Speaker 4: motivated to do anything unless there's a staunch deadline. My

992
00:41:13,200 --> 00:41:16,040
Speaker 4: wedding guest thank you cards, I still haven't finished writing,

993
00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 4: and overall I just prefer to laze around then start

994
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:20,880
Speaker 4: any of my home improvement projects.

995
00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:22,320
Speaker 1: My partner's also.

996
00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:24,480
Speaker 4: Trying to get into a gym routine, but oftentimes are

997
00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:27,720
Speaker 4: preferred time to work out just not align. Pre wedding,

998
00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:29,719
Speaker 4: I was involved with a spin class that I loved, which,

999
00:41:29,719 --> 00:41:32,719
Speaker 4: by the way, like both of these ones that mentioned spin,

1000
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:35,920
Speaker 4: it was like kind of just a fluke, nice little

1001
00:41:36,200 --> 00:41:39,399
Speaker 4: thing there, so some serendipity, but the instructor moved away

1002
00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:42,200
Speaker 4: and the gym has not hired a replacement. Lastly, I

1003
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 4: cannot seem, for the life of me to wake up

1004
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:46,600
Speaker 4: early for my own enjoyment, such as to meditate or

1005
00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:49,080
Speaker 4: write in a Gratitude Journal. I wake up with barely

1006
00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:51,439
Speaker 4: enough time to prepare for my workday and always seem

1007
00:41:51,440 --> 00:41:53,799
Speaker 4: to rush out the door five minutes late. It just

1008
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:56,600
Speaker 4: seems like an overall lack of diligence and structure. Do

1009
00:41:56,640 --> 00:41:58,440
Speaker 4: you have any tools or vice that might help me

1010
00:41:58,440 --> 00:42:03,880
Speaker 4: in my journey? Sincerely, very tired person, Brittany, Brittany, Hi, Brittany,

1011
00:42:04,360 --> 00:42:05,319
Speaker 4: Hi Brittany.

1012
00:42:05,400 --> 00:42:06,759
Speaker 3: I love the way you spell it, by the way,

1013
00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:09,080
Speaker 3: Oh thank you. I'll let my mom know.

1014
00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:14,839
Speaker 1: Brittany, why are you so tired? I don't know that's

1015
00:42:14,880 --> 00:42:15,360
Speaker 1: the thing.

1016
00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:18,319
Speaker 5: And I have energy throughout the day, but when it

1017
00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:22,759
Speaker 5: comes to the motivation in the morning to get started

1018
00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 5: or the motivation after I've been working seven and a

1019
00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:32,200
Speaker 5: half hours, I don't have it in me to like

1020
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:34,520
Speaker 5: I make excuses for myself as to why I don't

1021
00:42:34,520 --> 00:42:37,239
Speaker 5: want to wake up whenever my first alarm goes off

1022
00:42:37,520 --> 00:42:41,320
Speaker 5: or I end up you know, after work, I just

1023
00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:42,880
Speaker 5: don't want to stop. I don't want to stop at

1024
00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:44,480
Speaker 5: the gym. I want to get home. I want to

1025
00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:47,319
Speaker 5: cook dinner. I want to chill in my pj's and

1026
00:42:47,360 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 5: watch TV. And I really want some I want to

1027
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:57,440
Speaker 5: see these changes in theory, but the action is just

1028
00:42:57,880 --> 00:43:00,400
Speaker 5: I've had a hard time with that motivation.

1029
00:43:00,239 --> 00:43:00,840
Speaker 3: To get there.

1030
00:43:01,440 --> 00:43:03,520
Speaker 6: Do you feel like you're getting enough sleep or you

1031
00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:07,000
Speaker 6: feel like you're not sleeping enough? Also, I feel.

1032
00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:09,600
Speaker 5: Like in general, once I get going, I'm awake, So

1033
00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:12,879
Speaker 5: I don't feel like I'm overall like tired during the day.

1034
00:43:12,960 --> 00:43:16,960
Speaker 5: It's just when it gets to about ten thirty, I'm done.

1035
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:18,839
Speaker 6: Do you work at an office or do you work

1036
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:20,799
Speaker 6: from home? Like, do you have the ability to like

1037
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:22,960
Speaker 6: go work out in the middle of the day maybe

1038
00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:24,799
Speaker 6: since you have more energy throughout the day.

1039
00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:28,600
Speaker 5: So my work day is generally so I get to

1040
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:31,360
Speaker 5: work at seven thirty. I do go into the office

1041
00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:33,759
Speaker 5: most days of the week. I do have some flexibility

1042
00:43:33,760 --> 00:43:38,359
Speaker 5: to work from home, but I generally at work do

1043
00:43:38,480 --> 00:43:42,520
Speaker 5: not have any I try to limit distractions as much

1044
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:43,200
Speaker 5: as possible.

1045
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:47,040
Speaker 3: So I think it's like for me, it's it's about

1046
00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:49,880
Speaker 3: building habits that you're going to do, regardless of when

1047
00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:53,359
Speaker 3: it's comfortable or convenient, and just putting those into your

1048
00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:57,400
Speaker 3: day or week so that they're so consistent that you

1049
00:43:57,400 --> 00:43:58,600
Speaker 3: show up when you don't want to.

1050
00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:01,880
Speaker 6: If you have more energy throughout the day and you

1051
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:05,160
Speaker 6: have the possibility of working even if it's just two

1052
00:44:05,360 --> 00:44:09,760
Speaker 6: days a week from home and you are already getting

1053
00:44:09,800 --> 00:44:13,800
Speaker 6: dressed in like ath leisure. You can pump from your

1054
00:44:14,320 --> 00:44:17,480
Speaker 6: meeting and then work out from home like in some

1055
00:44:17,600 --> 00:44:21,400
Speaker 6: Body with body Weight, and you're not you're not taking

1056
00:44:21,680 --> 00:44:25,200
Speaker 6: too much time away from you from your work. At

1057
00:44:25,280 --> 00:44:28,080
Speaker 6: least you're getting in a few workouts a week. I

1058
00:44:28,080 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 6: feel like if you're already setting your goal on this

1059
00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:32,919
Speaker 6: mountain of like I got to work out every day,

1060
00:44:33,040 --> 00:44:35,560
Speaker 6: you're already going to set yourself up for failure. So

1061
00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:38,799
Speaker 6: I think finding some opportunities where you could work out

1062
00:44:38,840 --> 00:44:40,960
Speaker 6: twenty to thirty minutes, even if it's two to three

1063
00:44:40,960 --> 00:44:42,920
Speaker 6: times a week. Maybe it's maybe it's the two days

1064
00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:45,120
Speaker 6: you work from home and one like maybe it's Saturday

1065
00:44:45,200 --> 00:44:47,520
Speaker 6: or Sunday. And maybe you and your husband it could

1066
00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:50,479
Speaker 6: work out on the weekend together since you're both off,

1067
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:52,400
Speaker 6: and that might be something fun that you can do

1068
00:44:52,920 --> 00:44:55,479
Speaker 6: and don't let the workout have to be a chore

1069
00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:57,520
Speaker 6: a task. Maybe you guys can go for a hike

1070
00:44:57,680 --> 00:45:00,359
Speaker 6: or a walk. Maybe you can just do something it's fun.

1071
00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:01,600
Speaker 6: And I don't know if you like to dance, like do

1072
00:45:01,719 --> 00:45:04,920
Speaker 6: dance cardio. Do something that brings you a little bit

1073
00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:08,160
Speaker 6: of joy even as you make it a task.

1074
00:45:09,120 --> 00:45:11,440
Speaker 2: And I would also say, just get in the habit

1075
00:45:11,600 --> 00:45:14,919
Speaker 2: of like the exercise and lends itself to your life

1076
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:17,879
Speaker 2: in multiple ways. It's not just about the exercise. It's

1077
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:21,719
Speaker 2: about your mental clarity. It's about getting rid of any cortisol.

1078
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:23,839
Speaker 2: You don't want to overdo it, but you do want

1079
00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:26,120
Speaker 2: to exert yourself to a degree every day. Like I

1080
00:45:26,160 --> 00:45:28,040
Speaker 2: would say to get up every morning and just walk

1081
00:45:28,080 --> 00:45:30,920
Speaker 2: for twenty minutes, Go power walking outside your neighborhood for

1082
00:45:30,960 --> 00:45:33,359
Speaker 2: twenty minutes, no matter what, you know what I mean,

1083
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 2: so that your body is moving, your body is getting energized,

1084
00:45:36,680 --> 00:45:40,439
Speaker 2: and you're like creating more energy for yourself throughout the day.

1085
00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:43,920
Speaker 2: Like exercise is so related. If I don't exercise, I

1086
00:45:43,960 --> 00:45:46,120
Speaker 2: have no energy. That's why you have no energy.

1087
00:45:46,360 --> 00:45:46,560
Speaker 6: You know.

1088
00:45:46,600 --> 00:45:48,600
Speaker 2: If I go for three or four days without working out,

1089
00:45:48,640 --> 00:45:51,440
Speaker 2: I feel it. Even when I'm hungover or I've just

1090
00:45:51,480 --> 00:45:54,200
Speaker 2: been on a flight and I've been performing, I always

1091
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:56,440
Speaker 2: get up and make myself sweat a little because it

1092
00:45:56,560 --> 00:45:59,080
Speaker 2: just makes me feel so much better and have so

1093
00:45:59,160 --> 00:46:02,120
Speaker 2: much more mental claes. So I would try to incorporate,

1094
00:46:02,160 --> 00:46:04,400
Speaker 2: like as far as working out and doing a workout

1095
00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:06,399
Speaker 2: with weights and stuff, or you know, you can get

1096
00:46:06,400 --> 00:46:08,799
Speaker 2: the Peloton app, you know, and do that at your house.

1097
00:46:09,480 --> 00:46:09,880
Speaker 5: I don't have.

1098
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:11,840
Speaker 3: I was gonna shamelessly plug that. I know.

1099
00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:12,840
Speaker 1: Well, that's why I had to.

1100
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Speaker 3: Do cycling instructor your cycling instructions.

1101
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Speaker 2: I'm a cycling instructor on Peloton now too. That was

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Speaker 2: our big announcement for today. I'm to announce that now

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Speaker 2: I'm not I'm not, I'm not.

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Speaker 3: I'm just fuing.

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Speaker 2: But if you do get the you can get the

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Speaker 2: Peloton app and do these like they have five minute

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Speaker 2: apps classes, they have ten minutes, you could do forty minutes, pilates,

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Speaker 2: you can do like you just make a commitment and

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Speaker 2: do it with your husband. If you think that's a

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Speaker 2: good partnership. Do you think that is or would you

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Speaker 2: rather exercise alone?

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Speaker 3: I think that it's potential.

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Speaker 5: Like there have been times intermittently that we've both woken

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Speaker 5: up early and gone for a walk around our neighborhood together,

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Speaker 5: and we do enjoy walking, but it's for some reason

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Speaker 5: the mornings, my alarm clock will go off several times

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Speaker 5: and I'll just keep doing it until I absolutely have

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Speaker 5: to get up and going. And typically I think if

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Speaker 5: I were to walk every morning, i'd have to get

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Speaker 5: up at five and go. And I feel like that's

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Speaker 5: a normal time for people to get up and go.

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Speaker 5: But for some reason, in the mornings, my mind is

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Speaker 5: just like this isn't. I have a hard time I

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Speaker 5: guess in the morning's deciding that that's a that's a priority.

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Speaker 2: Right, But it's it is a priority because you're calling

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Speaker 2: into a podcast to talk about it, so you're gonna

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Speaker 2: make it a priority.

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Speaker 1: What do you use?

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Speaker 2: What's that? Is that a green like exercise ball that's

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Speaker 2: behind you? It is so fucking use it. I mean,

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Speaker 2: first of all, what kind of caffeine do you take

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Speaker 2: to get up in the morning?

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Speaker 1: Do you drink caffeine?

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Speaker 5: I drink a cup of coffee about twenty minutes after

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Speaker 5: I get up. I make sure I drink some water first,

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Speaker 5: or at least a few SIPs of water before I

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Speaker 5: go in on the coffee.

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Speaker 2: But I do well, that's healthy, that's a healthy habit.

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Speaker 2: But why do you really have to wake up at

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Speaker 2: five to exercise? What time do you have to be

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Speaker 2: at work?

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Speaker 5: So I try to get to work by seven thirty.

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Speaker 5: It usually ends up walking in around seven forty five

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Speaker 5: with traffic and every thing, but I try to get

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Speaker 5: I try to leave my house by six forty five.

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Speaker 2: And then okay, well that is pretty early. That's probably

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Speaker 2: why you're fucking tired. I mean, most people go to

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Speaker 2: work around nine for an office job, and you get

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Speaker 2: done at five pm or six pm.

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Speaker 5: I typically try to leave work by four thirty, try

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Speaker 5: and skip some of the traffic, and then I'll get

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Speaker 5: home usually around five thirty five forty.

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Speaker 1: I know, for me, I have to work out in

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Speaker 1: the mornings to really get it done.

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Speaker 2: So it really you have to kind of experiment with

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Speaker 2: your personality because it sounds schedule wise like it might

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Speaker 2: be more prudent for you to get home from work

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Speaker 2: and then go for a power walk around five. It's

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Speaker 2: the perfect time. It's before dinner, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: You get home, go for a walk, reflect on the

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Speaker 1: day's activities, and then figure out a workout that you

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Speaker 1: could do like two or three days a week. But

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Speaker 1: I think it's important a health wise to keep your

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Speaker 1: body moving every single day, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: And then it becomes kind of addictive.

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Speaker 2: In a great way, Like there's you know, you don't

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Speaker 2: want to be exercising for three hours day and no

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Speaker 2: one's suggesting that, but you need to pick a time

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Speaker 2: and commit to whatever time you think it's going to

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Speaker 2: be more feasible to actually follow through. And maybe that

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Speaker 2: is when you get home from work, if it's not

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Speaker 2: during your lunch break, or if it's not at five

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Speaker 2: in the morning, it's dark at five in the morning,

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Speaker 2: So like, I can understand why that would be hard

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Speaker 2: to get up and start exercising. So let's figure out

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Speaker 2: what time makes the most sense for you. What time

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Speaker 2: do you think that is.

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Speaker 5: Historically, I've definitely leaned towards you know, getting off work,

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Speaker 5: stopping by the gym, doing whatever it is I do,

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Speaker 5: whether it be a group workout class or an elliptical staremaster,

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Speaker 5: whatever it may be. Like I used to be really

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Speaker 5: good about doing that, and then I think, just over

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Speaker 5: the last few years, I've kind of lost my way

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Speaker 5: in a gym, like I don't necessarily know what I

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Speaker 5: should be, like what I should be focusing on. I

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Speaker 5: kind of walk in and I'm like, Okay, what do

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Speaker 5: I want to do today? And then I spend twenty

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Speaker 5: minutes looking on Pinterest for workout to do at the

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Speaker 5: gym for this muscle group, and then I end up,

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Speaker 5: you know, doing that for a while and I feel

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Speaker 5: really good about it, but I guess I haven't been

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Speaker 5: successful in making that an weekly like scheduled thing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well you're gonna do that. Now.

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Speaker 2: You're gonna write it down that you're gonna exercise. You're

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Speaker 2: gonna do a workout three times a week, and you're

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Speaker 2: gonna do a nice walk, whether it's at the gym,

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Speaker 2: whether it's the elliptical, three times a week, you're gonna

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Speaker 2: do twenty minutes on an elliptical, on a treadmill or

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Speaker 2: a bike, whatever kind of cardio. And then three times

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Speaker 2: a week, either they could be on the same day

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Speaker 2: or whatever, you're gonna do a class. You could do

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Speaker 2: a pilates class, you could do weight training class. You

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Speaker 2: write it down. I am going to commit to this,

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Speaker 2: and every single morning you're writing it down and keeping

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Speaker 2: a diary of what you're doing so that you're accountable.

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Speaker 2: And if your husband decides to come along for the

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Speaker 2: ride or can join you in any of those activities, great,

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Speaker 2: But I think you should go from work, commit to

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Speaker 2: three days a week that you're gonna leave work and.

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Speaker 1: Go straight to the gym. You don't even have to

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Speaker 1: spend a whole hour. How we're there. You can go there,

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Speaker 1: jump on the elliptical for twenty minutes minute and leave.

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Speaker 1: Just get into the habit of forming a habit.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, a lot of gyms have either an app or

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Speaker 4: a program where they'll like give you a list of

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Speaker 4: like here's what you do Monday, Wednesday and Friday, and

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Speaker 4: it's like twenty minutes of maybe strength exercises on different

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Speaker 4: machines or using free weights, and like it's all done

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Speaker 4: for you, Like you don't have to think about anything.

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Speaker 4: So ask at your gym and see if they have that.

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Speaker 3: I also thank you.

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Speaker 4: A workout buddy might be helpful here too, because your

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Speaker 4: husband might not be the workout buddy you need. You

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Speaker 4: might need somebody, Like if I don't show up so

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00:51:33,760 --> 00:51:35,200
Speaker 4: and so I was gonna be like sitting there pissed

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Speaker 4: at me, So like I gotta get my ass over.

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Speaker 6: There a workout buddy though, And like, especially with your husband,

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Speaker 6: like it can be a double edged sword, like it

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Speaker 6: might motivate you, but it also will be if he's

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Speaker 6: not in the mood and he's like, oh, let's skip today.

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Speaker 6: You're going to be susceptible to falling into that habit,

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Speaker 6: so I try to be on your own journey.

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Speaker 5: Absolutely, he and I have definitely gone back and forth

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Speaker 5: like hey, let's do this, and he'll be like, I

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Speaker 5: don't feel like it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's gotta be yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.

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Speaker 2: And also the exercise will permeate into your life in

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00:52:06,520 --> 00:52:08,600
Speaker 2: other ways. You're gonna finish your thank you cards, You're

1239
00:52:08,600 --> 00:52:10,560
Speaker 2: gonna get all that shit together because you're gonna have

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Speaker 2: I've done that.

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Speaker 5: Actually, I day great and just got them mailed out

1242
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Speaker 5: this week, so I'm really proud of that. But it's

1243
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Speaker 5: also like kind of kicking myself in the ass because

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Speaker 5: it took me seven months.

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Speaker 1: But that's okay.

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Speaker 4: You have a year, so you are several months ahead.

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Speaker 2: You're great, It done okay. And also I want you

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Speaker 2: to write the sentence down to yourself. Write it down.

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Speaker 2: I am a powerful, strong woman and I am going

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Speaker 2: to become more powerful and more strong.

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Speaker 1: Yes, okay, and that's what you're gonna do.

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Speaker 2: And write down your schedule for the week, what you're

1253
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Speaker 2: gonna do, and you're gonna be able to take days

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Speaker 2: off and you're gonna be able to get motivated. But

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Speaker 2: write down the days Monday, Wednesday, Friday. I'm going to

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Speaker 2: the gym straight from work, even if it's for a

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Speaker 2: half an hour. You're going to just get into the

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Speaker 2: habit of forming a habit.

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Speaker 1: It's as simple as that.

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Speaker 2: And once you do that for three weeks, you're going

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Speaker 2: to want to keep doing it, and you're going to

1262
00:53:02,200 --> 00:53:03,759
Speaker 2: want to get stronger, and you're going to see the

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00:53:03,800 --> 00:53:05,960
Speaker 2: result and you're going to feel healthier and you're going

1264
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Speaker 2: to feel more motivated, and it's all going to work out.

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Speaker 1: So this is your pep talk. Okay, thank you so much, Chelsea.

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Speaker 1: You're welcome.

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Speaker 4: All right, Thanks Brittany, bye bye, Thank you all so much. Thanks.

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Speaker 1: I like these questions. I'm so lazy, I can't get

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Speaker 1: out of bed. What do I do? Get out of bed?

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Speaker 3: Get out of that?

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Speaker 2: Do you know how grateful we are able to be

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Speaker 2: able bodied and have the ability to move our bodies?

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Speaker 3: Like?

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Speaker 2: We have to remember that not everybody can do that.

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Speaker 2: You know, you have full utilization of your body. You

1276
00:53:37,520 --> 00:53:39,600
Speaker 2: better be fucking using it and it.

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Speaker 3: Only gets more limited the older you get.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and laziness gets more laziness.

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Speaker 2: You know, if you're lazy and you don't yeah, I mean,

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Speaker 2: I don't like to call anyone lazy, but some people

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Speaker 2: just are, you know.

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Speaker 1: And then what well, and on that note, we're going

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Speaker 1: to take a little break and oh, come back to Okay,

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Speaker 1: we'll be right back.

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Speaker 2: Okay, we're back with Cody Rigsby TV Magic.

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Speaker 1: So you can catch Cody's podcast, Tactful Pettiness.

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Speaker 2: It's tact full pettiness anywhere you got your podcast and

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Speaker 2: you can hear him talk about a bevy of different things.

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Speaker 1: Cody was a delight to meet you.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure I'll gout in you somewhere or somewhere somehow sometime.

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Speaker 3: I hope.

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Speaker 4: So all right, and where can people find you on

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Speaker 4: socials and stuff?

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Speaker 6: Cody at Cody Riggsby on Instagram at Cody Underscore. Rigs

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Speaker 6: me on TikTok because some bitch took my name before

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Speaker 6: I could get it. That's fine, not a bitch.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Thanks Cody, Thank you, Cody, have a great day.

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Speaker 4: If you'd like advice from Chelsea, shoot us an email

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Speaker 4: at Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com and be

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