WEBVTT - I Can't Get A Girl 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.159 Welcome to Can't Beleave Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:04.160 and the Black Effects. 0:00:15.400 --> 0:00:16.520 Oh shitting, just like that. 0:00:16.640 --> 0:00:17.439 Be back on the ad. 0:00:17.520 --> 0:00:20.560 Welcome back, y'all. I know I was gone for a minute. 0:00:20.560 --> 0:00:23.480 Now back with the muff jump off, all right. So 0:00:23.560 --> 0:00:26.439 we got Taylor in the studio. She's gonna read the 0:00:26.560 --> 0:00:28.760 stories now. I know I had a reading when I 0:00:28.800 --> 0:00:30.880 was pregnant, but I just like her reading. 0:00:30.960 --> 0:00:34.000 I don't care, not that I don't feel like it. 0:00:34.040 --> 0:00:36.239 I just like the fact that somebody else can read 0:00:36.240 --> 0:00:38.239 it so I can focus on what's being read and 0:00:38.320 --> 0:00:41.279 then fix the mess afterwards. So we're gonna have her 0:00:41.320 --> 0:00:44.680 read now, you read better, now, right, because. 0:00:44.440 --> 0:00:48.640 Remember Lord, all right, tell them what that sound is? 0:00:49.280 --> 0:00:51.560 Oh yeah, oh yeah, the sound. These are my breast pumps. 0:00:51.680 --> 0:00:53.959 I know. For the moms who do breastfeed, and they 0:00:54.040 --> 0:00:56.040 do pump, y'all already figured it out. But the ones 0:00:56.080 --> 0:00:58.800 who don't, and all my gentlemen out there, because I 0:00:58.800 --> 0:01:01.360 know y'all ain't mumping, well you know what, let me stop, 0:01:01.400 --> 0:01:03.040 because they ain't no telling what the fuck they do now. 0:01:03.200 --> 0:01:07.680 But in January, will President Trump be like, ah, it's 0:01:07.680 --> 0:01:11.760 not y'all, I'm these are breast pumps, y'all, breast pumps. 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:14.640 I'm popping because my baby is a breast fair baby. 0:01:14.840 --> 0:01:17.240 So y'all gonna hear us fult have remained of the 0:01:17.240 --> 0:01:19.920 episode now, the first story that we got because nobody 0:01:19.959 --> 0:01:22.600 is sending in voice memoirs. Y'all still scared for the people? 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:25.960 Will y'all be writing us about to hear y'all voice? 0:01:26.520 --> 0:01:29.039 Now we gotta read, So go ahead, taylor what we 0:01:29.080 --> 0:01:30.119 got and slow down? 0:01:30.600 --> 0:01:33.480 Okay, yo, what's good y'all? 0:01:33.520 --> 0:01:35.640 My name is Johnny. I am twenty one years old 0:01:35.680 --> 0:01:38.560 that lives in Colorado. Honestly, I'm gonna get it straight 0:01:38.600 --> 0:01:41.000 to the point. I don't get no bitches. 0:01:41.400 --> 0:01:48.480 Well, I just like damn Johnny. Okay, all right. 0:01:49.240 --> 0:01:51.640 Well I get like one or two, but that's it. 0:01:51.720 --> 0:01:53.720 And honestly, they be kind of mid and not the 0:01:53.760 --> 0:01:56.880 women I like. Honestly, can say, can't say I have 0:01:56.960 --> 0:02:00.520 a type, but I just like cute ones. My problem 0:02:00.560 --> 0:02:02.160 is that I never have a chance to go out 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:04.760 and meet new people because I ain't got no friends 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:08.440 and after high school they forgot about niggas, So basically 0:02:08.520 --> 0:02:11.919 I got no hoes and no friends. And to top 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:15.040 it off, I have social anxiety with some other issues, 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:17.239 so it's hard to make friends, and the majority of 0:02:17.280 --> 0:02:19.080 people in my city don't fuck with me because they 0:02:19.080 --> 0:02:20.720 fuck with my ex and. 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:23.960 Shit ended up bad between us. He need to just 0:02:24.000 --> 0:02:26.440 move out in the country. The fuck is going on. 0:02:26.760 --> 0:02:29.320 I'm not a bad looking guy. I'm just not out there. 0:02:29.440 --> 0:02:31.480 Even on social media. I hardly post, so it's not 0:02:31.520 --> 0:02:34.079 like I have a big presence. I try to take 0:02:34.120 --> 0:02:37.760 picts and all that, but my dumb ass always look dumb. 0:02:39.840 --> 0:02:40.760 I wouldn't have. 0:02:41.440 --> 0:02:46.280 Oh my lord, only place I guess I see other 0:02:46.280 --> 0:02:48.519 people as the gym, but I feel like apportioning girls 0:02:48.600 --> 0:02:49.640 at the gym can be risky. 0:02:49.720 --> 0:02:52.160 Either you too pushy or you flat out get rejected, 0:02:52.480 --> 0:02:55.680 and that's mad embarrassing. So brings me out to my 0:02:55.720 --> 0:02:59.040 other problem. I got a few girls attention at the gym, 0:02:59.200 --> 0:03:01.800 but one I'm pretty sure he's a lesbian because the 0:03:01.880 --> 0:03:05.000 person she goes with got me confused. She'd be looking 0:03:05.040 --> 0:03:09.000 like a man some days and she'd be looking like 0:03:09.000 --> 0:03:11.600 a girl's other days. I don't know what her friend is. 0:03:11.639 --> 0:03:14.720 The one that'd be staring at me, and it's other hope, 0:03:16.360 --> 0:03:19.280 This other hope be staring at me mad long, But 0:03:19.440 --> 0:03:22.079 she has a man, that's what he's saying. They both 0:03:22.120 --> 0:03:24.120 be working out together, but she was looking over here, 0:03:25.040 --> 0:03:27.480 and it's those looks that you know a little some 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:30.240 sum is gonna go and go on in there whatever, 0:03:31.560 --> 0:03:35.480 and that'd be mad bodies at the gym. And honestly 0:03:35.520 --> 0:03:38.160 don't know if I should do it or even or 0:03:38.280 --> 0:03:41.400 not even though I want to, because she got a dumper. 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:43.800 What the fuck is the dumper? 0:03:44.080 --> 0:03:47.480 I guess asked. I just need your advice on how 0:03:47.520 --> 0:03:48.880 to do better. 0:03:48.640 --> 0:03:52.800 At everything in life. Okay, that's what you need my 0:03:52.880 --> 0:03:55.320 advice on. First of all, how you gonna be looking 0:03:55.320 --> 0:03:57.280 at somebody else, bitch. You can't even get your own bitch. 0:03:57.280 --> 0:03:59.360 She's gonna get somebody else, bitch. You better stop it. 0:04:00.520 --> 0:04:03.080 You live in Colorado. Your name is Johnny Are. You're 0:04:03.080 --> 0:04:06.920 fairly young, and you said you're not out there. You 0:04:07.200 --> 0:04:08.880 don't have social media or anything like that. Oh you 0:04:08.920 --> 0:04:10.360 do what, you just don't post. You don't have a 0:04:10.400 --> 0:04:13.360 presence or anything like that. I noticed that that you 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:15.840 down yourself a lot as well. You said you're dumb, 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:22.880 and I, for lack of a better word, but I 0:04:22.920 --> 0:04:26.160 feel like, hmm, it's a lot of things, a lot 0:04:26.200 --> 0:04:27.039 of the little different things. 0:04:27.040 --> 0:04:27.480 I feel. 0:04:28.080 --> 0:04:30.000 I feel like you've given up. 0:04:30.080 --> 0:04:34.440 It just seemed like you're you're like you accepted your 0:04:34.440 --> 0:04:40.200 fate and you don't have confidence in yourself. You lost confidence? 0:04:40.320 --> 0:04:42.680 But how exactly how old did he say? He was 0:04:42.920 --> 0:04:45.720 twenty one? Yeah, you're young as shit and social anxiety 0:04:45.839 --> 0:04:49.119 and you have social anxiety? Okay, you don't have uh 0:04:49.400 --> 0:04:53.080 friends or or girls. You don't get girls and you 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:56.800 don't have friends, all right, you don't have one person like. 0:04:56.760 --> 0:04:58.640 Because all them took his exercise. 0:04:58.800 --> 0:05:01.320 I wonder who if I the ex is this somebody 0:05:01.360 --> 0:05:04.560 that is known in all of Colorado? Because how the 0:05:04.640 --> 0:05:07.479 fuck everybody in your town don't want to fuck with 0:05:07.520 --> 0:05:09.400 you because of your ex what happened? Like? 0:05:09.600 --> 0:05:10.360 And if you don't have a. 0:05:10.320 --> 0:05:13.280 Presence and nobody know you, why if you think they 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:15.960 gonna know you? Not the fuck with you? I don't 0:05:16.040 --> 0:05:19.960 understand that. Yeah, what if I do you have? 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:20.320 Taylor? 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:21.480 I don't know where to start. 0:05:21.279 --> 0:05:21.880 With this, nigga. 0:05:21.920 --> 0:05:24.120 I don't think starts with him looking in the mirror 0:05:24.200 --> 0:05:26.080 and saying three things he likes about. 0:05:25.839 --> 0:05:28.080 Himself, Like can't I was gonna say, come on, now, 0:05:28.279 --> 0:05:30.279 don't tell him looking at the mirror and say three things. 0:05:30.760 --> 0:05:33.360 Look because if you say he's down south, he has 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:36.080 to like he's so young, he's twenty one for one 0:05:36.440 --> 0:05:40.240 for social anxiety, I mean I think that that speaks 0:05:40.240 --> 0:05:42.159 to like, I need therapy type shit. 0:05:42.240 --> 0:05:44.719 I mean, you know, because social anxiety for some people 0:05:44.760 --> 0:05:48.719 can get so bad where it really prevents them from 0:05:48.760 --> 0:05:53.240 having accomplishments in life because they can't manage themselves around people. 0:05:54.600 --> 0:06:00.000 I don't know how you've come to have this social anxiety. 0:06:00.000 --> 0:06:03.680 I don't know like where it has stemmed from or whatever, 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:06.640 but that would be the first thing that you need 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:09.080 to do. Why how where do you think this social 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:12.000 anxiety comes from? Like, and how can you overcome that 0:06:12.120 --> 0:06:14.880 to even just have casual conversations and make friends? I mean, 0:06:14.920 --> 0:06:17.719 you said you don't have friends. Did you ever have friends? 0:06:19.000 --> 0:06:21.039 And you're twenty one years of living, which is not 0:06:21.200 --> 0:06:23.440 long at all, by the way, have you ever had 0:06:23.480 --> 0:06:26.120 any friends? Have you ever? And then he said he 0:06:26.120 --> 0:06:28.279 don't get bitches, but he had like one or two. 0:06:28.520 --> 0:06:30.600 Yeah at the gym. I think he's talking about. 0:06:30.480 --> 0:06:31.120 At the gym. 0:06:31.160 --> 0:06:35.000 So you might got a nice body, yeah, but you 0:06:35.120 --> 0:06:39.440 might be facially challenged and I know that's probably like 0:06:39.480 --> 0:06:42.000 a thing for you, But if you find another facially 0:06:42.200 --> 0:06:46.760 challenged person with a nice body, that could go. I 0:06:46.760 --> 0:06:49.600 don't know about kids, but I do know that that 0:06:49.640 --> 0:06:51.960 could go. I mean, because there's somebody for everybody. He 0:06:51.960 --> 0:06:56.680 shouldn't be scared of rejection. Yeah right, yeah, Now, I'd rather, 0:06:57.279 --> 0:06:59.560 you know what, he should not be scared of rejection. 0:06:59.600 --> 0:07:01.279 I'm going to just go off on a limb right here. 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:04.799 I mean to go off on a tangent. He shouldn't 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:08.880 be scared of rejection. But I'm much rather a man 0:07:09.000 --> 0:07:12.680 being scared of rejection than being so angry at rejection, 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:15.400 you know, because that's how a lot of men like 0:07:15.480 --> 0:07:17.760 result of violence when they get rejection and when they 0:07:17.800 --> 0:07:20.200 get rejected. Now, and shouldn't I hear so many stories 0:07:20.200 --> 0:07:23.440 about how, oh yeah, he stabbed the girl, shot the 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:25.360 girl up, or killed the girl, robbed the girl or 0:07:25.360 --> 0:07:28.560 whatever because she didn't give him his number. But so 0:07:28.640 --> 0:07:30.760 I would much rather somebody to be like, I can't 0:07:31.000 --> 0:07:35.840 I'm scared of rejection than to hear that rejection makes 0:07:35.880 --> 0:07:39.080 them angry. But no, you shouldn't be afraid of it, 0:07:39.160 --> 0:07:42.680 because everybody gets told no, whether that's in like relationships. 0:07:42.960 --> 0:07:46.040 A job that you went up for rejection can't exist 0:07:46.120 --> 0:07:50.480 in any avenue. So I think maybe you get therapy 0:07:50.520 --> 0:07:53.160 for your social anxiety, figure out different ways to cope 0:07:53.200 --> 0:07:53.520 with that. 0:07:54.200 --> 0:07:54.560 Damn. 0:07:54.760 --> 0:07:56.160 I don't love girls. 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:58.760 Like confidence, though, So that's why I said, this starts 0:07:58.760 --> 0:08:01.880 with looking in the mirror, building that confidence of yourself. 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:04.040 I was gonna say, but what if he what if 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:06.720 he's not confident? And what does that look like, especially 0:08:06.760 --> 0:08:08.120 if you don't feel like you have something to be 0:08:08.160 --> 0:08:10.600 confident about other than the gym? 0:08:10.640 --> 0:08:14.640 I mean, yeah, yeah, I'm not sure. I don't know. 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:17.320 You're gonna have to call us X back because baby, 0:08:17.520 --> 0:08:20.360 that seemed like that might have been the only person 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:23.080 that was there. Hold up, hold up, I know the 0:08:23.120 --> 0:08:25.560 ship getting good, But listen to just a couple seconds 0:08:25.600 --> 0:08:26.240 of a commercial. 0:08:26.240 --> 0:08:27.400 If you love me, you'll listen. 0:08:29.280 --> 0:08:33.600 Move on, y'all. She got this beautiful little frenchie in hair. 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:34.160 I love him. 0:08:34.160 --> 0:08:38.520 He got a gold chain. He was so cute. How 0:08:38.520 --> 0:08:39.480 old is tad three? 0:08:40.240 --> 0:08:42.480 Oh? And my friend she his name is Bange, y'all, 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:44.800 he's four years old. We're gonna have a playdate with them. 0:08:44.920 --> 0:08:46.559 That's amazing, all right? 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:46.800 Cool? 0:08:46.840 --> 0:08:48.600 Now have a baby, so we so me and your 0:08:48.679 --> 0:08:54.400 kid can have playdates. Okay, maybe, okay? Oh yeah, Salah 0:08:54.440 --> 0:08:55.720 got boyfriend, y'all? 0:08:56.000 --> 0:08:58.199 Like, oh my god, member, she ain't had no man 0:08:58.320 --> 0:09:02.960 for all that time and she get one and no, no, 0:09:03.040 --> 0:09:06.160 because remember I was fixing your mask and I thought, 0:09:06.200 --> 0:09:08.520 I thought I would never be able to see today 0:09:08.880 --> 0:09:10.280 that she would get a man, y'all. 0:09:10.320 --> 0:09:15.319 But she got one. Yes, so that is amazing. 0:09:15.360 --> 0:09:17.280 I wish I could drop a clues bomb for Taylor 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:20.600 in the man, but you know that's that's amazing Taylor. 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:21.679 She took my advice. 0:09:21.800 --> 0:09:24.800 I fixed her mask plenty of times, and she knows 0:09:24.800 --> 0:09:28.880 her worth now and now she's in a great relationship 0:09:29.280 --> 0:09:30.960 with a handsome man. 0:09:32.559 --> 0:09:32.920 All right. 0:09:33.200 --> 0:09:34.400 So what else? 0:09:34.880 --> 0:09:40.320 Speaking of relationships, so here's another one, hey, Jess, So 0:09:40.640 --> 0:09:41.760 let me just cut to the chase. 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:42.760 I'm a lover girl. 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:46.400 I love love and dating, but the dating scene. 0:09:46.160 --> 0:09:50.560 In the society has been trash bizara all that. But 0:09:51.240 --> 0:09:53.920 I was able to find someone that is super affectionate, 0:09:54.080 --> 0:09:57.880 especially emotionally. Now, there's other things we definitely need to 0:09:57.920 --> 0:10:01.120 work out before we become official, one thing being I 0:10:01.160 --> 0:10:04.559 would like for us to be more sexually active. Oh 0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:07.640 Another is being able to spend more time together. He 0:10:07.720 --> 0:10:10.880 travels a lot for work, and no jest, he's not 0:10:10.920 --> 0:10:12.000 dealing with anyone else. 0:10:12.320 --> 0:10:15.839 Okay, I'm always seen y'all getting cheated on. Y'all, I 0:10:15.880 --> 0:10:17.400 don't do all right, You're right, go ahead. 0:10:18.040 --> 0:10:20.000 But the biggest issue is that he doesn't want to 0:10:20.040 --> 0:10:23.319 have kids. And I definitely want to have I definitely 0:10:23.360 --> 0:10:25.640 want to be a mom in the future. It just 0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:27.880 really sucks because I feel I have almost everything I 0:10:27.920 --> 0:10:30.959 want in one person except his desire for kids. I 0:10:31.000 --> 0:10:32.920 don't know what to do because I know you can't 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:34.840 force or make someone how you want them to be. 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:37.840 But you think I could convince him. I just don't 0:10:37.880 --> 0:10:40.640 want to lose him. By the way, he doesn't want kids. 0:10:40.679 --> 0:10:42.280 He likes his freedom, he cleans. 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:46.800 Hmmm, So is that the only reason that he don't 0:10:46.800 --> 0:10:48.840 want kids? And if that is the only reason that 0:10:48.880 --> 0:10:52.760 he don't want kids, then he's probably not. And then 0:10:52.760 --> 0:10:54.800 I don't even want to say he's not like grown 0:10:54.880 --> 0:10:57.760 up yet, because at one point I felt like that, 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:01.280 you know, and I was very very young, because I 0:11:01.320 --> 0:11:05.199 had my son at twenty years old, and I felt like, yo, 0:11:05.320 --> 0:11:08.760 I didn't want I didn't want to have kids because 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:10.319 I like my freedom, you know. And I hear a 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:12.079 lot of men that say that, Yo, I don't want 0:11:12.120 --> 0:11:13.800 my kids, and I see a lot of women too, 0:11:13.800 --> 0:11:16.480 and I think instead of selfishly having them, that is 0:11:16.559 --> 0:11:19.960 actually responsible and at least you're just being upfront and honest, like, 0:11:21.640 --> 0:11:24.439 I don't want kids because I don't want the responsibility 0:11:24.480 --> 0:11:27.079 of having to take care of someone else when I 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:29.480 like my freedom, my life as it is right now, 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:33.640 instead of just selfishly getting pregnant, pregnant and having a 0:11:33.679 --> 0:11:37.120 baby and then now you're neglecting the baby because you 0:11:37.160 --> 0:11:39.000 want your freedom. You still think you're supposed to be 0:11:39.000 --> 0:11:41.120 able to have that freedom that you had before you 0:11:41.160 --> 0:11:41.880 had the baby. 0:11:42.040 --> 0:11:42.800 If that's the. 0:11:42.679 --> 0:11:46.160 Only reason, then I would say he's either that is 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:48.440 really his standpoint for the rest of his life, or 0:11:48.480 --> 0:11:52.000 he just has he has some growing up to do, 0:11:52.120 --> 0:11:54.160 you know, because maybe he's still young. You felt like 0:11:54.200 --> 0:11:54.760 he in his prime. 0:11:54.800 --> 0:11:57.160 Did she say how old they were? 0:11:57.840 --> 0:11:58.400 Oh shit? 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:05.640 Well shit, when that man made up his mind in 0:12:05.679 --> 0:12:08.600 the thirties, he is not going to happen. 0:12:08.760 --> 0:12:12.880 See, guys, I'm still gonna go with this. Guys mature 0:12:13.559 --> 0:12:17.600 much later than women. So I mean he's early thirties, 0:12:17.640 --> 0:12:22.320 he could have a different mindset by thirty five. 0:12:22.480 --> 0:12:24.560 Early forties, late thirties, he could. 0:12:24.600 --> 0:12:26.320 But what if he don't, What if he really just 0:12:26.320 --> 0:12:29.080 don't want children. But usually I feel like it'd be 0:12:29.120 --> 0:12:32.640 something more than just freedom. When a guy is an 0:12:32.679 --> 0:12:33.760 older age. 0:12:33.760 --> 0:12:36.880 I saw, Oh, damn, I forgot his name. 0:12:36.880 --> 0:12:40.079 He used to be a boxer, and he was saying 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:42.880 how he's like in his forties, and it was expressing 0:12:42.920 --> 0:12:45.160 how he doesn't want to have kids because of what 0:12:45.200 --> 0:12:47.240 you were saying for the freedom of. 0:12:47.200 --> 0:12:49.839 Being able to do what he wants to do and everything. 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:50.720 And he was forty. 0:12:50.760 --> 0:12:51.320 He's forty. 0:12:51.640 --> 0:12:54.400 Yeah, well that's what I'm saying, Like that could really 0:12:54.480 --> 0:12:58.120 be what her man like, that's that could be his thing, Like, no, 0:12:58.240 --> 0:13:01.320 I don't want I prefer not to have children because 0:13:01.480 --> 0:13:04.800 I always want my freedom. But what kind of freedom 0:13:04.840 --> 0:13:06.640 are you having if you're still in the relationship, Like 0:13:06.640 --> 0:13:08.880 what if they're going to get married, Like, what what 0:13:09.120 --> 0:13:10.480 is the freedom exactly? 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:14.439 Because he's not it doesn't seem like she says he. 0:13:14.480 --> 0:13:20.480 Just works, Yeah, traveling this time for her, that's right, right, And. 0:13:20.480 --> 0:13:21.800 Then I don't know. 0:13:21.760 --> 0:13:24.679 Well, it'd be way more time than he has to 0:13:24.679 --> 0:13:28.720 make if they have a baby for the first five, six, 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:32.120 seven years. Yeah, like you, you definitely have to be 0:13:32.200 --> 0:13:36.600 there and present as a dad. But maybe that's also 0:13:36.760 --> 0:13:39.640 why he know his traveling will be limited because if 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:41.480 he works, I mean, you know, if that's what he 0:13:41.520 --> 0:13:43.640 does for traveling. 0:13:43.320 --> 0:13:48.400 Like that's his name? What the boxer John Cena? Oh John, Yeah, 0:13:48.400 --> 0:13:50.520 he said a wrestler, grain of damn boxer. 0:13:50.880 --> 0:13:55.160 Okay, but yeah, he was saying he don't want to 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:59.080 have kids later but yeah, mm hmmmm. 0:14:00.280 --> 0:14:02.080 Well but he gets married, so I guess he just 0:14:02.120 --> 0:14:03.520 wants to have a life partner. 0:14:03.679 --> 0:14:06.559 Yeah, and then it's not everybody's goals to have kids, 0:14:06.559 --> 0:14:08.920 just like it's not everybody's goals to get married. But 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:12.320 if that's a deal breaker for her, I think that 0:14:12.440 --> 0:14:15.240 she'll have to get out of that relationship if that's 0:14:15.400 --> 0:14:17.760 something that's gonna put a damper on her life. I mean, 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:21.240 her desires to be a mom in the future, possibly 0:14:21.280 --> 0:14:24.440 the near future. So and then charity in her early thirties. 0:14:24.840 --> 0:14:27.160 And you know, as a woman, you don't want to 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:29.560 wait too too late to have kids. I mean, you 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:31.320 also don't want to just hurry up and try to 0:14:31.320 --> 0:14:34.520 have kids, just so you know, you can beat your clock. 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:35.640 But I don't know. 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:39.000 I think that she wouldn't want to be in that 0:14:39.600 --> 0:14:43.240 relationship because I hate telling people to break up with people. 0:14:43.280 --> 0:14:48.120 But I mean that's on two different pages. No, that's 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:52.920 not good to do. Yeah, yep, yep, and then he's 0:14:53.480 --> 0:14:57.160 gonna leave you and then yeah, back to square one anyway, 0:14:57.200 --> 0:15:00.320 So I think that y'all should seriously really talk about that. 0:15:00.440 --> 0:15:02.440 I'm not even gonna mention therapy. I mean, he already 0:15:02.480 --> 0:15:04.920 has his mindset and he don't want a kid. That's 0:15:04.960 --> 0:15:07.080 going to depress you, and you're gonna feel you've got 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:10.200 to start blaming yourself. You're gonna start and then you 0:15:10.240 --> 0:15:14.120 don't want to sacrifice your desires and and what you 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:18.800 want just to be with someone, you know, because she 0:15:18.840 --> 0:15:20.760 could say, all right, we'll fuck it, I don't even 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:23.120 want to have kids, and then because she don't want 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:25.400 to lose him because she said everything else is perfect, 0:15:25.600 --> 0:15:27.400 he just doesn't. 0:15:29.000 --> 0:15:29.960 I believe she should. 0:15:30.080 --> 0:15:33.920 I believe that because she stressed that like that's what 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:38.080 she wants, she wants children, and I think it's it's hard. 0:15:38.240 --> 0:15:41.080 It's definitely that that gotta be hard as fuck. 0:15:41.480 --> 0:15:43.840 If you love me, You'll listen to this commercial and 0:15:43.840 --> 0:15:44.800 then we'll be right back. 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:50.160 I always thought that, Like for me, I never was like, oh, 0:15:50.240 --> 0:15:54.240 I really want kids, really, like, let me find my 0:15:54.280 --> 0:15:58.080 man and family first, Yeah, and then the child from 0:15:58.080 --> 0:15:58.480 how I. 0:15:58.400 --> 0:16:00.920 Was raised, So kids are not the first thing to 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:04.080 come to your mind, right because you come from a 0:16:04.120 --> 0:16:06.720 family like your mom and your dad being together, and 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:08.960 you grew up in the household where there was traditional 0:16:09.080 --> 0:16:11.880 like family and tradition, and that's how I grew up 0:16:11.880 --> 0:16:14.720 as well, and so I did. Before I said I 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:16.600 want to have kids, I always was like, I want 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:18.320 to find a man like my dad, Like I want 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:20.640 to be what my mom was. I want to be 0:16:20.680 --> 0:16:23.560 that wife and who my mom still is even though 0:16:23.560 --> 0:16:26.120 she's in her second marriage now and she is happy, 0:16:26.840 --> 0:16:29.360 happily married. I want to be the wife that I've 0:16:29.400 --> 0:16:32.800 seen my mom be to my dad and to her 0:16:32.960 --> 0:16:35.680 husband now, like for sure, her and my dad they 0:16:36.400 --> 0:16:40.200 got a divorced years back, and I still want the 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:46.120 father of my children to be like my dad was. Yeah, 0:16:46.560 --> 0:16:49.760 I would say that for sure, because my father is 0:16:49.800 --> 0:16:51.360 a damn good father for sure. 0:16:51.440 --> 0:16:55.000 So well, Rome we passed through were not even to 0:16:55.040 --> 0:16:55.680 talk about Rome. 0:16:55.800 --> 0:17:00.960 Okay, shout out to my first og baby dad. But 0:17:01.000 --> 0:17:04.639 the one I'm with now, Yes, he is a man 0:17:04.720 --> 0:17:07.760 after God's own heart, like he I thank God for 0:17:07.840 --> 0:17:08.720 him every day. 0:17:08.760 --> 0:17:10.720 He's so patient with me. He got me in my 0:17:10.840 --> 0:17:11.600 soft girl era. 0:17:11.720 --> 0:17:15.359 He's like really my partner, and he makes my life 0:17:15.480 --> 0:17:19.680 so much easier, like mentally and emotionally. I love you critics, 0:17:19.720 --> 0:17:21.120 so I just gave you a little moment right there. 0:17:21.800 --> 0:17:25.360 But yeah, that's that's it right there. I just feel 0:17:25.400 --> 0:17:28.480 like she should leave the guy. That's honestly my opinion. 0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:32.640 Don't compromise that much to where you are stopping your life. 0:17:32.640 --> 0:17:35.639 You're putting a hold on cause women do that. We'll 0:17:35.640 --> 0:17:37.640 do that just to please a man, like we will 0:17:37.720 --> 0:17:41.200 change everything about ourselves. Look Tailor Quaid, because Tailor got niggas, 0:17:41.200 --> 0:17:43.480 you'nger fuck now as she at first, she will be 0:17:43.520 --> 0:17:45.960 able to speak to all this like he's a fuck boy, 0:17:46.200 --> 0:17:49.040 Like here, fucking clown. I would never That's why I 0:17:49.040 --> 0:17:51.200 don't be ahead of time for these niggas. She's sitting 0:17:51.200 --> 0:17:54.639 over there, Twitter, no thumbs, legs crossed over there, blushing 0:17:54.760 --> 0:17:57.000 like I can't wait to get my nigga. 0:17:57.000 --> 0:18:01.760 A baby like girl. See how they fucking switch. 0:18:02.359 --> 0:18:04.800 See how they switch, Just like with my Nique was 0:18:04.880 --> 0:18:06.800 bigger fan ship, and she kept on talking about you, 0:18:06.880 --> 0:18:09.479 skinny bitch escaping. She's lost all that fucking weight, and 0:18:09.560 --> 0:18:12.480 now I know the freaking fig girls like, well, damn bitch. 0:18:12.800 --> 0:18:17.080 The fuck how you gonna switch over there and ship? 0:18:17.560 --> 0:18:19.680 All right? I just worried that, Like I said that, 0:18:19.880 --> 0:18:22.960 she because she's like, he's all everyone in the man. 0:18:23.680 --> 0:18:27.639 Yeah yeah, well technically he's not. 0:18:28.560 --> 0:18:30.400 Then, you know what I'm saying, because what you want 0:18:30.480 --> 0:18:33.760 is your family, so definitely, and listen, there's somebody for everybody. 0:18:33.840 --> 0:18:39.040 And just because, like you, you feel good in your 0:18:39.040 --> 0:18:41.080 relationship right now, does not mean that is the person 0:18:41.160 --> 0:18:41.320 for you. 0:18:41.320 --> 0:18:42.000 You know what I'm saying. 0:18:42.000 --> 0:18:45.920 That's why we have to keep dating to see that checklist. 0:18:45.960 --> 0:18:50.520 Nobody's gonna be perfect, but that's a big disadvantage. You 0:18:50.560 --> 0:18:51.520 want kids and he don't. 0:18:51.600 --> 0:18:56.600 So well she said they work a lot. Well that's 0:18:56.640 --> 0:18:57.240 why they don't have. 0:18:59.119 --> 0:19:02.120 Oh yeah, she did say that's a problem too. Yeah 0:19:02.280 --> 0:19:04.399 what if he, like n ain't try and knock her 0:19:04.520 --> 0:19:09.240 up because he noticed she want kids? Hmmm, yeah, that 0:19:09.359 --> 0:19:11.280 could be a thing too, But then that's then that's 0:19:11.320 --> 0:19:13.520 a conversation. Y'all gotta sit down and really talk about that. 0:19:13.600 --> 0:19:14.040 Baby girl. 0:19:14.119 --> 0:19:16.680 Y'all gotta be like because because I wonder if she 0:19:16.760 --> 0:19:19.720