1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,159 Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Beleave Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:04,160 Speaker 1: and the Black Effects. 3 00:00:15,400 --> 00:00:16,520 Speaker 2: Oh shitting, just like that. 4 00:00:16,640 --> 00:00:17,439 Speaker 3: Be back on the ad. 5 00:00:17,520 --> 00:00:20,560 Speaker 1: Welcome back, y'all. I know I was gone for a minute. 6 00:00:20,560 --> 00:00:23,480 Speaker 1: Now back with the muff jump off, all right. So 7 00:00:23,560 --> 00:00:26,439 Speaker 1: we got Taylor in the studio. She's gonna read the 8 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:28,760 Speaker 1: stories now. I know I had a reading when I 9 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:30,880 Speaker 1: was pregnant, but I just like her reading. 10 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 3: I don't care, not that I don't feel like it. 11 00:00:34,040 --> 00:00:36,239 Speaker 1: I just like the fact that somebody else can read 12 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:38,239 Speaker 1: it so I can focus on what's being read and 13 00:00:38,320 --> 00:00:41,279 Speaker 1: then fix the mess afterwards. So we're gonna have her 14 00:00:41,320 --> 00:00:44,680 Speaker 1: read now, you read better, now, right, because. 15 00:00:44,440 --> 00:00:48,640 Speaker 3: Remember Lord, all right, tell them what that sound is? 16 00:00:49,280 --> 00:00:51,560 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh yeah, the sound. These are my breast pumps. 17 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:53,959 Speaker 1: I know. For the moms who do breastfeed, and they 18 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:56,040 Speaker 1: do pump, y'all already figured it out. But the ones 19 00:00:56,080 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 1: who don't, and all my gentlemen out there, because I 20 00:00:58,800 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 1: know y'all ain't mumping, well you know what, let me stop, 21 00:01:01,400 --> 00:01:03,040 Speaker 1: because they ain't no telling what the fuck they do now. 22 00:01:03,200 --> 00:01:07,680 Speaker 1: But in January, will President Trump be like, ah, it's 23 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:11,760 Speaker 1: not y'all, I'm these are breast pumps, y'all, breast pumps. 24 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:14,640 Speaker 1: I'm popping because my baby is a breast fair baby. 25 00:01:14,840 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 1: So y'all gonna hear us fult have remained of the 26 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 1: episode now, the first story that we got because nobody 27 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:22,600 Speaker 1: is sending in voice memoirs. Y'all still scared for the people? 28 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:25,960 Speaker 1: Will y'all be writing us about to hear y'all voice? 29 00:01:26,520 --> 00:01:29,039 Speaker 1: Now we gotta read, So go ahead, taylor what we 30 00:01:29,080 --> 00:01:30,119 Speaker 1: got and slow down? 31 00:01:30,600 --> 00:01:33,480 Speaker 3: Okay, yo, what's good y'all? 32 00:01:33,520 --> 00:01:35,640 Speaker 4: My name is Johnny. I am twenty one years old 33 00:01:35,680 --> 00:01:38,560 Speaker 4: that lives in Colorado. Honestly, I'm gonna get it straight 34 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 4: to the point. I don't get no bitches. 35 00:01:41,400 --> 00:01:48,480 Speaker 3: Well, I just like damn Johnny. Okay, all right. 36 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:51,640 Speaker 4: Well I get like one or two, but that's it. 37 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:53,720 Speaker 4: And honestly, they be kind of mid and not the 38 00:01:53,760 --> 00:01:56,880 Speaker 4: women I like. Honestly, can say, can't say I have 39 00:01:56,960 --> 00:02:00,520 Speaker 4: a type, but I just like cute ones. My problem 40 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:02,160 Speaker 4: is that I never have a chance to go out 41 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 4: and meet new people because I ain't got no friends 42 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:08,440 Speaker 4: and after high school they forgot about niggas, So basically 43 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:11,919 Speaker 4: I got no hoes and no friends. And to top 44 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:15,040 Speaker 4: it off, I have social anxiety with some other issues, 45 00:02:15,080 --> 00:02:17,239 Speaker 4: so it's hard to make friends, and the majority of 46 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:19,080 Speaker 4: people in my city don't fuck with me because they 47 00:02:19,080 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 4: fuck with my ex and. 48 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:23,960 Speaker 3: Shit ended up bad between us. He need to just 49 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:26,440 Speaker 3: move out in the country. The fuck is going on. 50 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 4: I'm not a bad looking guy. I'm just not out there. 51 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:31,480 Speaker 4: Even on social media. I hardly post, so it's not 52 00:02:31,520 --> 00:02:34,079 Speaker 4: like I have a big presence. I try to take 53 00:02:34,120 --> 00:02:37,760 Speaker 4: picts and all that, but my dumb ass always look dumb. 54 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 3: I wouldn't have. 55 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:46,280 Speaker 1: Oh my lord, only place I guess I see other 56 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:48,519 Speaker 1: people as the gym, but I feel like apportioning girls 57 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:49,640 Speaker 1: at the gym can be risky. 58 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:52,160 Speaker 4: Either you too pushy or you flat out get rejected, 59 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:55,680 Speaker 4: and that's mad embarrassing. So brings me out to my 60 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:59,040 Speaker 4: other problem. I got a few girls attention at the gym, 61 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:01,800 Speaker 4: but one I'm pretty sure he's a lesbian because the 62 00:03:01,880 --> 00:03:05,000 Speaker 4: person she goes with got me confused. She'd be looking 63 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:09,000 Speaker 4: like a man some days and she'd be looking like 64 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:11,600 Speaker 4: a girl's other days. I don't know what her friend is. 65 00:03:11,639 --> 00:03:14,720 Speaker 4: The one that'd be staring at me, and it's other hope, 66 00:03:16,360 --> 00:03:19,280 Speaker 4: This other hope be staring at me mad long, But 67 00:03:19,440 --> 00:03:22,079 Speaker 4: she has a man, that's what he's saying. They both 68 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:24,120 Speaker 4: be working out together, but she was looking over here, 69 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 4: and it's those looks that you know a little some 70 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:30,240 Speaker 4: sum is gonna go and go on in there whatever, 71 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 4: and that'd be mad bodies at the gym. And honestly 72 00:03:35,520 --> 00:03:38,160 Speaker 4: don't know if I should do it or even or 73 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:41,400 Speaker 4: not even though I want to, because she got a dumper. 74 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:43,800 Speaker 2: What the fuck is the dumper? 75 00:03:44,080 --> 00:03:47,480 Speaker 3: I guess asked. I just need your advice on how 76 00:03:47,520 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 3: to do better. 77 00:03:48,640 --> 00:03:52,800 Speaker 1: At everything in life. Okay, that's what you need my 78 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:55,320 Speaker 1: advice on. First of all, how you gonna be looking 79 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 1: at somebody else, bitch. You can't even get your own bitch. 80 00:03:57,280 --> 00:03:59,360 Speaker 1: She's gonna get somebody else, bitch. You better stop it. 81 00:04:00,520 --> 00:04:03,080 Speaker 1: You live in Colorado. Your name is Johnny Are. You're 82 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:06,920 Speaker 1: fairly young, and you said you're not out there. You 83 00:04:07,200 --> 00:04:08,880 Speaker 1: don't have social media or anything like that. Oh you 84 00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:10,360 Speaker 1: do what, you just don't post. You don't have a 85 00:04:10,400 --> 00:04:13,360 Speaker 1: presence or anything like that. I noticed that that you 86 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:15,840 Speaker 1: down yourself a lot as well. You said you're dumb, 87 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:22,880 Speaker 1: and I, for lack of a better word, but I 88 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:26,160 Speaker 1: feel like, hmm, it's a lot of things, a lot 89 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:27,039 Speaker 1: of the little different things. 90 00:04:27,040 --> 00:04:27,480 Speaker 3: I feel. 91 00:04:28,080 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 2: I feel like you've given up. 92 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:34,440 Speaker 1: It just seemed like you're you're like you accepted your 93 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 1: fate and you don't have confidence in yourself. You lost confidence? 94 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:42,680 Speaker 1: But how exactly how old did he say? He was 95 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:45,720 Speaker 1: twenty one? Yeah, you're young as shit and social anxiety 96 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:49,119 Speaker 1: and you have social anxiety? Okay, you don't have uh 97 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:53,080 Speaker 1: friends or or girls. You don't get girls and you 98 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:56,800 Speaker 1: don't have friends, all right, you don't have one person like. 99 00:04:56,760 --> 00:04:58,640 Speaker 3: Because all them took his exercise. 100 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:01,320 Speaker 1: I wonder who if I the ex is this somebody 101 00:05:01,360 --> 00:05:04,560 Speaker 1: that is known in all of Colorado? Because how the 102 00:05:04,640 --> 00:05:07,479 Speaker 1: fuck everybody in your town don't want to fuck with 103 00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:09,400 Speaker 1: you because of your ex what happened? Like? 104 00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:10,360 Speaker 3: And if you don't have a. 105 00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:13,280 Speaker 1: Presence and nobody know you, why if you think they 106 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:15,960 Speaker 1: gonna know you? Not the fuck with you? I don't 107 00:05:16,040 --> 00:05:19,960 Speaker 1: understand that. Yeah, what if I do you have? 108 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:20,320 Speaker 2: Taylor? 109 00:05:20,360 --> 00:05:21,480 Speaker 3: I don't know where to start. 110 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:21,880 Speaker 2: With this, nigga. 111 00:05:21,920 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 4: I don't think starts with him looking in the mirror 112 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 4: and saying three things he likes about. 113 00:05:25,839 --> 00:05:28,080 Speaker 1: Himself, Like can't I was gonna say, come on, now, 114 00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:30,279 Speaker 1: don't tell him looking at the mirror and say three things. 115 00:05:30,760 --> 00:05:33,360 Speaker 5: Look because if you say he's down south, he has 116 00:05:33,400 --> 00:05:36,080 Speaker 5: to like he's so young, he's twenty one for one 117 00:05:36,440 --> 00:05:40,240 Speaker 5: for social anxiety, I mean I think that that speaks 118 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:42,159 Speaker 5: to like, I need therapy type shit. 119 00:05:42,240 --> 00:05:44,719 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, because social anxiety for some people 120 00:05:44,760 --> 00:05:48,719 Speaker 1: can get so bad where it really prevents them from 121 00:05:48,760 --> 00:05:53,240 Speaker 1: having accomplishments in life because they can't manage themselves around people. 122 00:05:54,600 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 1: I don't know how you've come to have this social anxiety. 123 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:03,680 Speaker 1: I don't know like where it has stemmed from or whatever, 124 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:06,640 Speaker 1: but that would be the first thing that you need 125 00:06:06,680 --> 00:06:09,080 Speaker 1: to do. Why how where do you think this social 126 00:06:09,120 --> 00:06:12,000 Speaker 1: anxiety comes from? Like, and how can you overcome that 127 00:06:12,120 --> 00:06:14,880 Speaker 1: to even just have casual conversations and make friends? I mean, 128 00:06:14,920 --> 00:06:17,719 Speaker 1: you said you don't have friends. Did you ever have friends? 129 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:21,039 Speaker 1: And you're twenty one years of living, which is not 130 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:23,440 Speaker 1: long at all, by the way, have you ever had 131 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:26,120 Speaker 1: any friends? Have you ever? And then he said he 132 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:28,279 Speaker 1: don't get bitches, but he had like one or two. 133 00:06:28,520 --> 00:06:30,600 Speaker 3: Yeah at the gym. I think he's talking about. 134 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:31,120 Speaker 2: At the gym. 135 00:06:31,160 --> 00:06:35,000 Speaker 1: So you might got a nice body, yeah, but you 136 00:06:35,120 --> 00:06:39,440 Speaker 1: might be facially challenged and I know that's probably like 137 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 1: a thing for you, But if you find another facially 138 00:06:42,200 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 1: challenged person with a nice body, that could go. I 139 00:06:46,760 --> 00:06:49,600 Speaker 1: don't know about kids, but I do know that that 140 00:06:49,640 --> 00:06:51,960 Speaker 1: could go. I mean, because there's somebody for everybody. He 141 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:56,680 Speaker 1: shouldn't be scared of rejection. Yeah right, yeah, Now, I'd rather, 142 00:06:57,279 --> 00:06:59,560 Speaker 1: you know what, he should not be scared of rejection. 143 00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:01,279 Speaker 1: I'm going to just go off on a limb right here. 144 00:07:01,279 --> 00:07:04,799 Speaker 1: I mean to go off on a tangent. He shouldn't 145 00:07:04,839 --> 00:07:08,880 Speaker 1: be scared of rejection. But I'm much rather a man 146 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:12,680 Speaker 1: being scared of rejection than being so angry at rejection, 147 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:15,400 Speaker 1: you know, because that's how a lot of men like 148 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:17,760 Speaker 1: result of violence when they get rejection and when they 149 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 1: get rejected. Now, and shouldn't I hear so many stories 150 00:07:20,200 --> 00:07:23,440 Speaker 1: about how, oh yeah, he stabbed the girl, shot the 151 00:07:23,480 --> 00:07:25,360 Speaker 1: girl up, or killed the girl, robbed the girl or 152 00:07:25,360 --> 00:07:28,560 Speaker 1: whatever because she didn't give him his number. But so 153 00:07:28,640 --> 00:07:30,760 Speaker 1: I would much rather somebody to be like, I can't 154 00:07:31,000 --> 00:07:35,840 Speaker 1: I'm scared of rejection than to hear that rejection makes 155 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 1: them angry. But no, you shouldn't be afraid of it, 156 00:07:39,160 --> 00:07:42,680 Speaker 1: because everybody gets told no, whether that's in like relationships. 157 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:46,040 Speaker 1: A job that you went up for rejection can't exist 158 00:07:46,120 --> 00:07:50,480 Speaker 1: in any avenue. So I think maybe you get therapy 159 00:07:50,520 --> 00:07:53,160 Speaker 1: for your social anxiety, figure out different ways to cope 160 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:53,520 Speaker 1: with that. 161 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:54,560 Speaker 2: Damn. 162 00:07:54,760 --> 00:07:56,160 Speaker 3: I don't love girls. 163 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:58,760 Speaker 4: Like confidence, though, So that's why I said, this starts 164 00:07:58,760 --> 00:08:01,880 Speaker 4: with looking in the mirror, building that confidence of yourself. 165 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:04,040 Speaker 1: I was gonna say, but what if he what if 166 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:06,720 Speaker 1: he's not confident? And what does that look like, especially 167 00:08:06,760 --> 00:08:08,120 Speaker 1: if you don't feel like you have something to be 168 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:10,600 Speaker 1: confident about other than the gym? 169 00:08:10,640 --> 00:08:14,640 Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, yeah, I'm not sure. I don't know. 170 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:17,320 Speaker 1: You're gonna have to call us X back because baby, 171 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:20,360 Speaker 1: that seemed like that might have been the only person 172 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:23,080 Speaker 1: that was there. Hold up, hold up, I know the 173 00:08:23,120 --> 00:08:25,560 Speaker 1: ship getting good, But listen to just a couple seconds 174 00:08:25,600 --> 00:08:26,240 Speaker 1: of a commercial. 175 00:08:26,240 --> 00:08:27,400 Speaker 2: If you love me, you'll listen. 176 00:08:29,280 --> 00:08:33,600 Speaker 3: Move on, y'all. She got this beautiful little frenchie in hair. 177 00:08:33,679 --> 00:08:34,160 Speaker 2: I love him. 178 00:08:34,160 --> 00:08:38,520 Speaker 3: He got a gold chain. He was so cute. How 179 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:39,480 Speaker 3: old is tad three? 180 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:42,480 Speaker 1: Oh? And my friend she his name is Bange, y'all, 181 00:08:42,520 --> 00:08:44,800 Speaker 1: he's four years old. We're gonna have a playdate with them. 182 00:08:44,920 --> 00:08:46,559 Speaker 1: That's amazing, all right? 183 00:08:46,600 --> 00:08:46,800 Speaker 2: Cool? 184 00:08:46,840 --> 00:08:48,600 Speaker 3: Now have a baby, so we so me and your 185 00:08:48,679 --> 00:08:54,400 Speaker 3: kid can have playdates. Okay, maybe, okay? Oh yeah, Salah 186 00:08:54,440 --> 00:08:55,720 Speaker 3: got boyfriend, y'all? 187 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:58,199 Speaker 1: Like, oh my god, member, she ain't had no man 188 00:08:58,320 --> 00:09:02,960 Speaker 1: for all that time and she get one and no, no, 189 00:09:03,040 --> 00:09:06,160 Speaker 1: because remember I was fixing your mask and I thought, 190 00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:08,520 Speaker 1: I thought I would never be able to see today 191 00:09:08,880 --> 00:09:10,280 Speaker 1: that she would get a man, y'all. 192 00:09:10,320 --> 00:09:15,319 Speaker 2: But she got one. Yes, so that is amazing. 193 00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:17,280 Speaker 1: I wish I could drop a clues bomb for Taylor 194 00:09:17,360 --> 00:09:20,600 Speaker 1: in the man, but you know that's that's amazing Taylor. 195 00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:21,679 Speaker 2: She took my advice. 196 00:09:21,800 --> 00:09:24,800 Speaker 1: I fixed her mask plenty of times, and she knows 197 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:28,880 Speaker 1: her worth now and now she's in a great relationship 198 00:09:29,280 --> 00:09:30,960 Speaker 1: with a handsome man. 199 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:32,920 Speaker 3: All right. 200 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 2: So what else? 201 00:09:34,880 --> 00:09:40,320 Speaker 4: Speaking of relationships, so here's another one, hey, Jess, So 202 00:09:40,640 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 4: let me just cut to the chase. 203 00:09:41,960 --> 00:09:42,760 Speaker 2: I'm a lover girl. 204 00:09:43,080 --> 00:09:46,400 Speaker 3: I love love and dating, but the dating scene. 205 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:50,560 Speaker 4: In the society has been trash bizara all that. But 206 00:09:51,240 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 4: I was able to find someone that is super affectionate, 207 00:09:54,080 --> 00:09:57,880 Speaker 4: especially emotionally. Now, there's other things we definitely need to 208 00:09:57,920 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 4: work out before we become official, one thing being I 209 00:10:01,160 --> 00:10:04,559 Speaker 4: would like for us to be more sexually active. Oh 210 00:10:04,640 --> 00:10:07,640 Speaker 4: Another is being able to spend more time together. He 211 00:10:07,720 --> 00:10:10,880 Speaker 4: travels a lot for work, and no jest, he's not 212 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:12,000 Speaker 4: dealing with anyone else. 213 00:10:12,320 --> 00:10:15,839 Speaker 1: Okay, I'm always seen y'all getting cheated on. Y'all, I 214 00:10:15,880 --> 00:10:17,400 Speaker 1: don't do all right, You're right, go ahead. 215 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 4: But the biggest issue is that he doesn't want to 216 00:10:20,040 --> 00:10:23,319 Speaker 4: have kids. And I definitely want to have I definitely 217 00:10:23,360 --> 00:10:25,640 Speaker 4: want to be a mom in the future. It just 218 00:10:25,679 --> 00:10:27,880 Speaker 4: really sucks because I feel I have almost everything I 219 00:10:27,920 --> 00:10:30,959 Speaker 4: want in one person except his desire for kids. I 220 00:10:31,000 --> 00:10:32,920 Speaker 4: don't know what to do because I know you can't 221 00:10:32,960 --> 00:10:34,840 Speaker 4: force or make someone how you want them to be. 222 00:10:35,240 --> 00:10:37,840 Speaker 4: But you think I could convince him. I just don't 223 00:10:37,880 --> 00:10:40,640 Speaker 4: want to lose him. By the way, he doesn't want kids. 224 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:42,280 Speaker 4: He likes his freedom, he cleans. 225 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:46,800 Speaker 1: Hmmm, So is that the only reason that he don't 226 00:10:46,800 --> 00:10:48,840 Speaker 1: want kids? And if that is the only reason that 227 00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:52,760 Speaker 1: he don't want kids, then he's probably not. And then 228 00:10:52,760 --> 00:10:54,800 Speaker 1: I don't even want to say he's not like grown 229 00:10:54,880 --> 00:10:57,760 Speaker 1: up yet, because at one point I felt like that, 230 00:10:58,040 --> 00:11:01,280 Speaker 1: you know, and I was very very young, because I 231 00:11:01,320 --> 00:11:05,199 Speaker 1: had my son at twenty years old, and I felt like, yo, 232 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:08,760 Speaker 1: I didn't want I didn't want to have kids because 233 00:11:08,800 --> 00:11:10,319 Speaker 1: I like my freedom, you know. And I hear a 234 00:11:10,360 --> 00:11:12,079 Speaker 1: lot of men that say that, Yo, I don't want 235 00:11:12,120 --> 00:11:13,800 Speaker 1: my kids, and I see a lot of women too, 236 00:11:13,800 --> 00:11:16,480 Speaker 1: and I think instead of selfishly having them, that is 237 00:11:16,559 --> 00:11:19,960 Speaker 1: actually responsible and at least you're just being upfront and honest, like, 238 00:11:21,640 --> 00:11:24,439 Speaker 1: I don't want kids because I don't want the responsibility 239 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:27,079 Speaker 1: of having to take care of someone else when I 240 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:29,480 Speaker 1: like my freedom, my life as it is right now, 241 00:11:30,520 --> 00:11:33,640 Speaker 1: instead of just selfishly getting pregnant, pregnant and having a 242 00:11:33,679 --> 00:11:37,120 Speaker 1: baby and then now you're neglecting the baby because you 243 00:11:37,160 --> 00:11:39,000 Speaker 1: want your freedom. You still think you're supposed to be 244 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:41,120 Speaker 1: able to have that freedom that you had before you 245 00:11:41,160 --> 00:11:41,880 Speaker 1: had the baby. 246 00:11:42,040 --> 00:11:42,800 Speaker 2: If that's the. 247 00:11:42,679 --> 00:11:46,160 Speaker 1: Only reason, then I would say he's either that is 248 00:11:46,240 --> 00:11:48,440 Speaker 1: really his standpoint for the rest of his life, or 249 00:11:48,480 --> 00:11:52,000 Speaker 1: he just has he has some growing up to do, 250 00:11:52,120 --> 00:11:54,160 Speaker 1: you know, because maybe he's still young. You felt like 251 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:54,760 Speaker 1: he in his prime. 252 00:11:54,800 --> 00:11:57,160 Speaker 3: Did she say how old they were? 253 00:11:57,840 --> 00:11:58,400 Speaker 2: Oh shit? 254 00:12:00,800 --> 00:12:05,640 Speaker 3: Well shit, when that man made up his mind in 255 00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:08,600 Speaker 3: the thirties, he is not going to happen. 256 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: See, guys, I'm still gonna go with this. Guys mature 257 00:12:13,559 --> 00:12:17,600 Speaker 1: much later than women. So I mean he's early thirties, 258 00:12:17,640 --> 00:12:22,320 Speaker 1: he could have a different mindset by thirty five. 259 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:24,560 Speaker 2: Early forties, late thirties, he could. 260 00:12:24,600 --> 00:12:26,320 Speaker 1: But what if he don't, What if he really just 261 00:12:26,320 --> 00:12:29,080 Speaker 1: don't want children. But usually I feel like it'd be 262 00:12:29,120 --> 00:12:32,640 Speaker 1: something more than just freedom. When a guy is an 263 00:12:32,679 --> 00:12:33,760 Speaker 1: older age. 264 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:36,880 Speaker 3: I saw, Oh, damn, I forgot his name. 265 00:12:36,880 --> 00:12:40,079 Speaker 4: He used to be a boxer, and he was saying 266 00:12:40,080 --> 00:12:42,880 Speaker 4: how he's like in his forties, and it was expressing 267 00:12:42,920 --> 00:12:45,160 Speaker 4: how he doesn't want to have kids because of what 268 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:47,240 Speaker 4: you were saying for the freedom of. 269 00:12:47,200 --> 00:12:49,839 Speaker 3: Being able to do what he wants to do and everything. 270 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:50,720 Speaker 2: And he was forty. 271 00:12:50,760 --> 00:12:51,320 Speaker 3: He's forty. 272 00:12:51,640 --> 00:12:54,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, well that's what I'm saying, Like that could really 273 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:58,120 Speaker 1: be what her man like, that's that could be his thing, Like, no, 274 00:12:58,240 --> 00:13:01,320 Speaker 1: I don't want I prefer not to have children because 275 00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 1: I always want my freedom. But what kind of freedom 276 00:13:04,840 --> 00:13:06,640 Speaker 1: are you having if you're still in the relationship, Like 277 00:13:06,640 --> 00:13:08,880 Speaker 1: what if they're going to get married, Like, what what 278 00:13:09,120 --> 00:13:10,480 Speaker 1: is the freedom exactly? 279 00:13:10,559 --> 00:13:14,439 Speaker 3: Because he's not it doesn't seem like she says he. 280 00:13:14,480 --> 00:13:20,480 Speaker 4: Just works, Yeah, traveling this time for her, that's right, right, And. 281 00:13:20,480 --> 00:13:21,800 Speaker 3: Then I don't know. 282 00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:24,679 Speaker 1: Well, it'd be way more time than he has to 283 00:13:24,679 --> 00:13:28,720 Speaker 1: make if they have a baby for the first five, six, 284 00:13:28,800 --> 00:13:32,120 Speaker 1: seven years. Yeah, like you, you definitely have to be 285 00:13:32,200 --> 00:13:36,600 Speaker 1: there and present as a dad. But maybe that's also 286 00:13:36,760 --> 00:13:39,640 Speaker 1: why he know his traveling will be limited because if 287 00:13:39,640 --> 00:13:41,480 Speaker 1: he works, I mean, you know, if that's what he 288 00:13:41,520 --> 00:13:43,640 Speaker 1: does for traveling. 289 00:13:43,320 --> 00:13:48,400 Speaker 3: Like that's his name? What the boxer John Cena? Oh John, Yeah, 290 00:13:48,400 --> 00:13:50,520 Speaker 3: he said a wrestler, grain of damn boxer. 291 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:55,160 Speaker 4: Okay, but yeah, he was saying he don't want to 292 00:13:55,360 --> 00:13:59,080 Speaker 4: have kids later but yeah, mm hmmmm. 293 00:14:00,280 --> 00:14:02,080 Speaker 3: Well but he gets married, so I guess he just 294 00:14:02,120 --> 00:14:03,520 Speaker 3: wants to have a life partner. 295 00:14:03,679 --> 00:14:06,559 Speaker 1: Yeah, and then it's not everybody's goals to have kids, 296 00:14:06,559 --> 00:14:08,920 Speaker 1: just like it's not everybody's goals to get married. But 297 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:12,320 Speaker 1: if that's a deal breaker for her, I think that 298 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:15,240 Speaker 1: she'll have to get out of that relationship if that's 299 00:14:15,400 --> 00:14:17,760 Speaker 1: something that's gonna put a damper on her life. I mean, 300 00:14:17,840 --> 00:14:21,240 Speaker 1: her desires to be a mom in the future, possibly 301 00:14:21,280 --> 00:14:24,440 Speaker 1: the near future. So and then charity in her early thirties. 302 00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:27,160 Speaker 1: And you know, as a woman, you don't want to 303 00:14:27,160 --> 00:14:29,560 Speaker 1: wait too too late to have kids. I mean, you 304 00:14:29,600 --> 00:14:31,320 Speaker 1: also don't want to just hurry up and try to 305 00:14:31,320 --> 00:14:34,520 Speaker 1: have kids, just so you know, you can beat your clock. 306 00:14:34,640 --> 00:14:35,640 Speaker 3: But I don't know. 307 00:14:35,680 --> 00:14:39,000 Speaker 1: I think that she wouldn't want to be in that 308 00:14:39,600 --> 00:14:43,240 Speaker 1: relationship because I hate telling people to break up with people. 309 00:14:43,280 --> 00:14:48,120 Speaker 1: But I mean that's on two different pages. No, that's 310 00:14:48,160 --> 00:14:52,920 Speaker 1: not good to do. Yeah, yep, yep, and then he's 311 00:14:53,480 --> 00:14:57,160 Speaker 1: gonna leave you and then yeah, back to square one anyway, 312 00:14:57,200 --> 00:15:00,320 Speaker 1: So I think that y'all should seriously really talk about that. 313 00:15:00,440 --> 00:15:02,440 Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna mention therapy. I mean, he already 314 00:15:02,480 --> 00:15:04,920 Speaker 1: has his mindset and he don't want a kid. That's 315 00:15:04,960 --> 00:15:07,080 Speaker 1: going to depress you, and you're gonna feel you've got 316 00:15:07,160 --> 00:15:10,200 Speaker 1: to start blaming yourself. You're gonna start and then you 317 00:15:10,240 --> 00:15:14,120 Speaker 1: don't want to sacrifice your desires and and what you 318 00:15:14,160 --> 00:15:18,800 Speaker 1: want just to be with someone, you know, because she 319 00:15:18,840 --> 00:15:20,760 Speaker 1: could say, all right, we'll fuck it, I don't even 320 00:15:20,800 --> 00:15:23,120 Speaker 1: want to have kids, and then because she don't want 321 00:15:23,120 --> 00:15:25,400 Speaker 1: to lose him because she said everything else is perfect, 322 00:15:25,600 --> 00:15:27,400 Speaker 1: he just doesn't. 323 00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:29,960 Speaker 2: I believe she should. 324 00:15:30,080 --> 00:15:33,920 Speaker 1: I believe that because she stressed that like that's what 325 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:38,080 Speaker 1: she wants, she wants children, and I think it's it's hard. 326 00:15:38,240 --> 00:15:41,080 Speaker 2: It's definitely that that gotta be hard as fuck. 327 00:15:41,480 --> 00:15:43,840 Speaker 1: If you love me, You'll listen to this commercial and 328 00:15:43,840 --> 00:15:44,800 Speaker 1: then we'll be right back. 329 00:15:46,200 --> 00:15:50,160 Speaker 4: I always thought that, Like for me, I never was like, oh, 330 00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:54,240 Speaker 4: I really want kids, really, like, let me find my 331 00:15:54,280 --> 00:15:58,080 Speaker 4: man and family first, Yeah, and then the child from 332 00:15:58,080 --> 00:15:58,480 Speaker 4: how I. 333 00:15:58,400 --> 00:16:00,920 Speaker 1: Was raised, So kids are not the first thing to 334 00:16:00,920 --> 00:16:04,080 Speaker 1: come to your mind, right because you come from a 335 00:16:04,120 --> 00:16:06,720 Speaker 1: family like your mom and your dad being together, and 336 00:16:06,760 --> 00:16:08,960 Speaker 1: you grew up in the household where there was traditional 337 00:16:09,080 --> 00:16:11,880 Speaker 1: like family and tradition, and that's how I grew up 338 00:16:11,880 --> 00:16:14,720 Speaker 1: as well, and so I did. Before I said I 339 00:16:14,720 --> 00:16:16,600 Speaker 1: want to have kids, I always was like, I want 340 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:18,320 Speaker 1: to find a man like my dad, Like I want 341 00:16:18,400 --> 00:16:20,640 Speaker 1: to be what my mom was. I want to be 342 00:16:20,680 --> 00:16:23,560 Speaker 1: that wife and who my mom still is even though 343 00:16:23,560 --> 00:16:26,120 Speaker 1: she's in her second marriage now and she is happy, 344 00:16:26,840 --> 00:16:29,360 Speaker 1: happily married. I want to be the wife that I've 345 00:16:29,400 --> 00:16:32,800 Speaker 1: seen my mom be to my dad and to her 346 00:16:32,960 --> 00:16:35,680 Speaker 1: husband now, like for sure, her and my dad they 347 00:16:36,400 --> 00:16:40,200 Speaker 1: got a divorced years back, and I still want the 348 00:16:40,240 --> 00:16:46,120 Speaker 1: father of my children to be like my dad was. Yeah, 349 00:16:46,560 --> 00:16:49,760 Speaker 1: I would say that for sure, because my father is 350 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:51,360 Speaker 1: a damn good father for sure. 351 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:55,000 Speaker 2: So well, Rome we passed through were not even to 352 00:16:55,040 --> 00:16:55,680 Speaker 2: talk about Rome. 353 00:16:55,800 --> 00:17:00,960 Speaker 1: Okay, shout out to my first og baby dad. But 354 00:17:01,000 --> 00:17:04,639 Speaker 1: the one I'm with now, Yes, he is a man 355 00:17:04,720 --> 00:17:07,760 Speaker 1: after God's own heart, like he I thank God for 356 00:17:07,840 --> 00:17:08,720 Speaker 1: him every day. 357 00:17:08,760 --> 00:17:10,720 Speaker 3: He's so patient with me. He got me in my 358 00:17:10,840 --> 00:17:11,600 Speaker 3: soft girl era. 359 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:15,359 Speaker 1: He's like really my partner, and he makes my life 360 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:19,680 Speaker 1: so much easier, like mentally and emotionally. I love you critics, 361 00:17:19,720 --> 00:17:21,120 Speaker 1: so I just gave you a little moment right there. 362 00:17:21,800 --> 00:17:25,360 Speaker 1: But yeah, that's that's it right there. I just feel 363 00:17:25,400 --> 00:17:28,480 Speaker 1: like she should leave the guy. That's honestly my opinion. 364 00:17:28,680 --> 00:17:32,640 Speaker 1: Don't compromise that much to where you are stopping your life. 365 00:17:32,640 --> 00:17:35,639 Speaker 1: You're putting a hold on cause women do that. We'll 366 00:17:35,640 --> 00:17:37,640 Speaker 1: do that just to please a man, like we will 367 00:17:37,720 --> 00:17:41,200 Speaker 1: change everything about ourselves. Look Tailor Quaid, because Tailor got niggas, 368 00:17:41,200 --> 00:17:43,480 Speaker 1: you'nger fuck now as she at first, she will be 369 00:17:43,520 --> 00:17:45,960 Speaker 1: able to speak to all this like he's a fuck boy, 370 00:17:46,200 --> 00:17:49,040 Speaker 1: Like here, fucking clown. I would never That's why I 371 00:17:49,040 --> 00:17:51,200 Speaker 1: don't be ahead of time for these niggas. She's sitting 372 00:17:51,200 --> 00:17:54,639 Speaker 1: over there, Twitter, no thumbs, legs crossed over there, blushing 373 00:17:54,760 --> 00:17:57,000 Speaker 1: like I can't wait to get my nigga. 374 00:17:57,000 --> 00:18:01,760 Speaker 3: A baby like girl. See how they fucking switch. 375 00:18:02,359 --> 00:18:04,800 Speaker 1: See how they switch, Just like with my Nique was 376 00:18:04,880 --> 00:18:06,800 Speaker 1: bigger fan ship, and she kept on talking about you, 377 00:18:06,880 --> 00:18:09,479 Speaker 1: skinny bitch escaping. She's lost all that fucking weight, and 378 00:18:09,560 --> 00:18:12,480 Speaker 1: now I know the freaking fig girls like, well, damn bitch. 379 00:18:12,800 --> 00:18:17,080 Speaker 3: The fuck how you gonna switch over there and ship? 380 00:18:17,560 --> 00:18:19,680 Speaker 3: All right? I just worried that, Like I said that, 381 00:18:19,880 --> 00:18:22,960 Speaker 3: she because she's like, he's all everyone in the man. 382 00:18:23,680 --> 00:18:27,639 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, well technically he's not. 383 00:18:28,560 --> 00:18:30,400 Speaker 1: Then, you know what I'm saying, because what you want 384 00:18:30,480 --> 00:18:33,760 Speaker 1: is your family, so definitely, and listen, there's somebody for everybody. 385 00:18:33,840 --> 00:18:39,040 Speaker 1: And just because, like you, you feel good in your 386 00:18:39,040 --> 00:18:41,080 Speaker 1: relationship right now, does not mean that is the person 387 00:18:41,160 --> 00:18:41,320 Speaker 1: for you. 388 00:18:41,320 --> 00:18:42,000 Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. 389 00:18:42,000 --> 00:18:45,920 Speaker 1: That's why we have to keep dating to see that checklist. 390 00:18:45,960 --> 00:18:50,520 Speaker 1: Nobody's gonna be perfect, but that's a big disadvantage. You 391 00:18:50,560 --> 00:18:51,520 Speaker 1: want kids and he don't. 392 00:18:51,600 --> 00:18:56,600 Speaker 3: So well she said they work a lot. Well that's 393 00:18:56,640 --> 00:18:57,240 Speaker 3: why they don't have. 394 00:18:59,119 --> 00:19:02,120 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, she did say that's a problem too. Yeah 395 00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:04,399 Speaker 1: what if he, like n ain't try and knock her 396 00:19:04,520 --> 00:19:09,240 Speaker 1: up because he noticed she want kids? Hmmm, yeah, that 397 00:19:09,359 --> 00:19:11,280 Speaker 1: could be a thing too, But then that's then that's 398 00:19:11,320 --> 00:19:13,520 Speaker 1: a conversation. Y'all gotta sit down and really talk about that. 399 00:19:13,600 --> 00:19:14,040 Speaker 2: Baby girl. 400 00:19:14,119 --> 00:19:16,680 Speaker 1: Y'all gotta be like because because I wonder if she 401 00:19:16,760 --> 00:19:19,720 Speaker 1: already feels that way, Like, damn, is he not trying 402 00:19:19,760 --> 00:19:22,720 Speaker 1: to be intimate with me because he does not want 403 00:19:22,800 --> 00:19:23,080 Speaker 1: me to? 404 00:19:23,720 --> 00:19:25,600 Speaker 2: Or do he feel like you will trap him? I 405 00:19:25,640 --> 00:19:28,560 Speaker 2: don't know a y'all using condoms when y'all do have sex? 406 00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:30,359 Speaker 1: Or are you on birth control? Did he ask you 407 00:19:30,440 --> 00:19:32,680 Speaker 1: to get on birth control? So just update me, keep 408 00:19:32,720 --> 00:19:33,720 Speaker 1: me posted with this story. 409 00:19:33,800 --> 00:19:34,920 Speaker 2: I'm so sad for her though. 410 00:19:35,040 --> 00:19:37,800 Speaker 1: I really feel like fuck, you know, because she got 411 00:19:37,880 --> 00:19:40,840 Speaker 1: the got everything she wanted in him except that. 412 00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:43,520 Speaker 3: But that's a big thing. Remember when Genie. 413 00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:45,399 Speaker 1: Mai did that though, Like when she was with the 414 00:19:45,440 --> 00:19:48,640 Speaker 1: guy before Jeannie, she yeah, she didn't want to have kids, 415 00:19:48,680 --> 00:19:52,000 Speaker 1: and the guy before she was dealing with before Gezie, 416 00:19:52,520 --> 00:19:55,679 Speaker 1: she was married to him, right and he wanted children 417 00:19:55,800 --> 00:19:57,359 Speaker 1: and she didn't. She didn't want to mess up her 418 00:19:57,359 --> 00:19:58,320 Speaker 1: body or something like that. 419 00:19:58,560 --> 00:19:59,840 Speaker 3: I'm not sure. Don't quote me this. 420 00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:02,600 Speaker 2: I'm not just with the mess right now. But yeah, 421 00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:04,280 Speaker 2: I'm just fixing my mess right now. 422 00:20:04,359 --> 00:20:06,720 Speaker 1: She definitely it was something there where I think he 423 00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:09,200 Speaker 1: wanted kids and she didn't, and then she turned around 424 00:20:09,640 --> 00:20:15,480 Speaker 1: and God with Jeezy had that baby and got divorced again. 425 00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:18,600 Speaker 1: Now they're having to go through all these legal troubles 426 00:20:18,680 --> 00:20:23,119 Speaker 1: and things like that. So I know that guy was like, Damn, 427 00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:27,639 Speaker 1: I dodged a big bullet. I dodged a little Asian bullet. 428 00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:32,200 Speaker 3: Hey, yeah, all right, that is not slander. So stop. 429 00:20:32,240 --> 00:20:33,520 Speaker 3: I'm a comedian, you'll stop. 430 00:20:35,280 --> 00:20:37,320 Speaker 1: So we come to the end of another Catholic reckless 431 00:20:37,359 --> 00:20:40,399 Speaker 1: episode with your girl just hilarious and your girl's tailor. 432 00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:41,399 Speaker 3: She did good, did they? 433 00:20:41,440 --> 00:20:41,600 Speaker 1: Y'all? 434 00:20:41,640 --> 00:20:43,440 Speaker 3: Clap it up for Tailor because she can read by it. 435 00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:46,920 Speaker 1: I couldn't get that boyfriend, like everything, just everything, just 436 00:20:47,000 --> 00:20:49,320 Speaker 1: having so good for you and shit when you like 437 00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:52,320 Speaker 1: in new love and shit, No, listen, we're won't be 438 00:20:52,359 --> 00:20:53,840 Speaker 1: able to know if she's going through something, if she'd 439 00:20:53,880 --> 00:20:57,520 Speaker 1: be stumbling and reading all slow. Next week, y'all were like, 440 00:20:57,640 --> 00:20:59,840 Speaker 1: it's the problem going on, something going on with Tailor. 441 00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:03,400 Speaker 1: I gotta go back to fix her mess. But make 442 00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:06,119 Speaker 1: sure you catch me each and every day on the 443 00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:09,639 Speaker 1: Breakfast Club. I will be fixing mess on Thursdays on 444 00:21:09,720 --> 00:21:12,399 Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club and wherever you find your podcast, make 445 00:21:12,400 --> 00:21:13,119 Speaker 1: sure you tune in. 446 00:21:13,240 --> 00:21:14,200 Speaker 2: I see y'all next week. 447 00:21:14,520 --> 00:22:28,800 Speaker 1: Peace Can't Fully Reckless is a production of iHeartRadio and 448 00:22:28,880 --> 00:22:32,359 Speaker 1: The Black Effect. 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