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Speaker 1: Okay, Opie, Am I the a hole for not accepting

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Speaker 1: my sister's relationship with my ex despite her having cancer

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Speaker 1: as a teenager. There's so much going on. There's a

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Speaker 1: lot to unpack here. One sentence contained so much.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: So my twenty five female father married my stepsisters twenty

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Speaker 1: four female mother when I was four years old and

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Speaker 1: when she was three. We lived together most of our

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Speaker 1: lives as a family, and she and I were extremely closed.

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Speaker 1: She developed cancer when she was about fourteen and was

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Speaker 1: sick for two years. She since made a full recovery,

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Speaker 1: but during that time, my parents became understandably overprotect They

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Speaker 1: also asked a lot of me. I quit all my

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Speaker 1: extracurriculars so I could get a job, the money went

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Speaker 1: towards her medical bills, and so I could drive her

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Speaker 1: to her appointment. I didn't go to dances or any

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Speaker 1: of the fun activities. Anything I did needed to include her.

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Speaker 1: I did almost all of us willingly, so you know,

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Speaker 1: Opie wasn't complaining about this, but the exception being having

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Speaker 1: to quit my high school volleyballs. I did throw quite

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Speaker 1: a bit of a change from about that, but that

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Speaker 1: was swiftly punished and I think having one emotional breakdown

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Speaker 1: was pretty chill given the circumstances.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, fair, Like, that's a really tough situation. You're trying

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Speaker 3: to support your family, but literally your life is on

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Speaker 3: hold because your sister's going through a tough time. Like

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Speaker 3: it's the right thing to do, but still hard, incredibly hard.

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Speaker 3: And she's a teenager.

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Speaker 1: Like, you know, you only get to play in your

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Speaker 1: high school volleyball team once, you know.

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Speaker 3: So, I I know it sounds it sounds no, but honestly,

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Speaker 3: you're right, right, you know what I mean. It sounds trite,

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Speaker 3: but like those experiences in high school are formative, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: for sure, the social circles you have, and you learned

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Speaker 3: so much about yourself in the period too.

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Speaker 2: It's tough, I feel for op.

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Speaker 1: Anyhow, I go to college and I meet my ex

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Speaker 1: we'll call him Ben, when I'm a junior. We fall

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Speaker 1: in love, blah blah blah. He and I move in

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Speaker 1: together when we graduate, so we have been living together

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Speaker 1: for three years. Yeah, it's it was a whole thing, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we were serious until July when I walked into my

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Speaker 1: bedroom and saw him doing the nasty with my sister.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the same sister she cared for while she had cancer.

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Speaker 1: Ungrateful bitch, She was cheating on her with her boyfriend

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Speaker 1: of many years.

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Speaker 3: Dude, I can't imagine, like you sacrificed those volleyball games.

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Speaker 3: You only could do those volleyball games once, and here

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Speaker 3: your ungrateful beach sister goes and dicks down your boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: I know it's really bad, Sop says.

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Speaker 2: I broke it off. Tears were shed, he moved out,

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Speaker 2: et cetera, et cetera.

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Speaker 1: My sister apologized at first, but then backed off.

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Speaker 2: What yes, are you kidding me? At first? At first?

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Speaker 2: At first, how do you even talk? Oh? I hate this.

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Speaker 2: I hate everywhere. I'm tilted and severely tilted. You're gonna

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Speaker 2: get even angrier to keep going.

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Speaker 1: I thought she was gonna give me space, but last

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Speaker 1: She told me that she and Ben were in love

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Speaker 1: and were just telling me as a courtesy before they

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Speaker 3: I actually hit myself with the big Oh God, that's

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Speaker 3: how mad I like. I hurt myself because this is

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Speaker 3: how appalling, this is curiating. I am so pissed right now,

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Speaker 3: I'm so pissed. I am unreasonably I'm actually I'm actually pissed,

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Speaker 3: like I'm not.

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Speaker 2: I'm not joking, this is I'm actually true. This is emotion. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm fucking pissed. Bro, What the fuck?

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Speaker 1: It's insane And it does get worse, it does get

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Speaker 1: Is it bad that I'm getting enjoyment out of your.

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Speaker 3: Yes, dude, you're just watching me freaking squirm. This is

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Speaker 3: the worst. This is the this is the worst. Keep going, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I still want to hear it. I just hate it.

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Speaker 1: So distraught, I left her in the restaurant by herself

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Speaker 1: and did not pay for my portion of the bill.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna, she later venmoed me, requesting for the money

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Speaker 1: for my.

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Speaker 2: Meal. The acity.

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Speaker 3: You take the volleyball games away, you take the boyfriend.

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Speaker 2: And now you don't even pay for dinner? Who are you?

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Speaker 1: Who do you.

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Speaker 2: Think you are?

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Speaker 3: Guys?

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Speaker 2: This is not good. So pissed.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna have to freaking heart attack to get cancer

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Speaker 3: from just having to hear this ship, she.

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Speaker 1: Told my parents, who then called me to their house

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Speaker 1: telling me how disappointed they were in me.

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Speaker 2: You get.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I'm fine, I'm fine. I'm fine, I'm fine, I'm fine,

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Speaker 3: I'm fine. Where's the parentsing? There are obvious favorites at play.

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Speaker 1: So my parents told me how disappointed they were in

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Speaker 1: me for not supporting my sister's relationship with Ben off

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Speaker 1: the fact that because she had cancer as a teenager,

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Speaker 1: she never learned proper social etiquette and has a hard

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're it's not it's cancer.

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Speaker 3: It's not freaking uh oh wait, I was gonna say

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Speaker 2: Not don't make you stupid. We don't know it's brain cancer, right,

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Speaker 2: we have We have no idea what the cancers.

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Speaker 3: Well, maybe you know if it's brain cancer specifically affected

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Speaker 3: the part of your brain that made you a good person,

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Speaker 3: and just ate that part away. So you're just the

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Speaker 3: shell of a human and you're basically a devil child,

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Speaker 3: and you just like tap into your primal animal instincts

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Speaker 3: and you're not even you're barely human. You're just you're

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Speaker 3: just a freaking, wild, feral animal, freakin' fracking everything that

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Speaker 3: you see, no matter who it hurts. That's just okay.

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Speaker 3: I guess that it's okay. Then it's okay. My cheeks

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Speaker 3: hurt from last pins. Sorry for for laughing at your immense,

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Speaker 3: immense bin. Honestly, one of the worst.

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Speaker 2: This is the worst things. So this is the worst

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Speaker 2: that we've read so far. This is the worst. It's hilarious,

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Speaker 2: the worst.

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Speaker 1: So so my parents they brought up the fact that

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Speaker 2: But I don't buy them, yeah, now do I, bro

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Speaker 2: Now do Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Exactly like I don't either, so in part because I've

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Speaker 1: seen her socialize just fine, And since we spent a

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Speaker 1: that would also mean that I have pretty bad social

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And also she's social enough to steal her boyfriend.

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Speaker 3: Oh there's some good social skills right there.

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Speaker 1: Man, usually one other person other than OPI who understands

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Speaker 1: how fed up the situation is. But literally, there's just

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it doesn't make any sense. Obvious favorite, obvious favoritism here.

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Speaker 3: And just like also because just because one bad thing

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Speaker 3: a complete a hoole exactly the rest of your life.

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Speaker 3: Like you got kids are one time, then oh everyone

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Speaker 3: get over it.

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Speaker 2: You rang that bell.

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Speaker 3: Ring the bell means get the frick over it, bro,

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Speaker 3: kids are free. Well that also care free, not not

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Speaker 1: So then my parents told me that if I don't

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Speaker 1: go no contact. I reminded them that I'm also their

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Speaker 1: but they are adamant that this is just because of

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Speaker 1: me being jealous of her, And this I think is

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Speaker 1: really interesting and if this is true, like honestly commendable Tophy,

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Speaker 1: for the record, I'm not jealous of her, so like

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Speaker 1: she doesn't actually she isn't actually jealous that her boyfriend

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Speaker 1: these serious things. She's not jealous of that, So Opie says,

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Speaker 1: for the record, I'm not jealous of her. I'm not

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Speaker 1: upset that she picked Ben over me. I'm sad about

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Speaker 1: the end of the relationship and do feel betrayed. But

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Speaker 1: Lord knows, I do not want to be with a cheater.

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Speaker 2: True, true. And also I mean, she's just being such

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Speaker 2: a good person right now. Yeah, so good. There's my

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Speaker 2: heart breaks for how nice she is. That's true. That's

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Speaker 2: so true.

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Speaker 1: Like she's being such a good person here and having

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Speaker 1: like the worst possible scenario happened to her and just

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Speaker 1: enduring it. What I'm upset about is the fact that

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Speaker 1: my sister chose Ben over me, that she slept with

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Speaker 1: Ben knowing he and I were in a long term,

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Speaker 1: much it hurts me. Now, no one in my immediate

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Speaker 1: family is talking to me, and I'm getting messages from

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Speaker 1: an a hole and a selfish.

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Speaker 3: That's so rough, dude. She does not deserve that at all. Right,

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Speaker 3: I'd like, she does not deserve that at all. And

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Speaker 3: I think hopefully I can speak on behalf of both

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Speaker 2: But not the a hole, Oh, oh good lord, No.

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Speaker 3: Not the a hole at all, the antithesis of an

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Speaker 3: a hole, which I think is like a nipple.

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Speaker 2: I don't know that was genuinely hilarious.

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Speaker 3: Don't let yourself fall into that situation. Op has done

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Speaker 3: everything right, but wow, what a crap crap situation.

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Speaker 2: Best of luck to Opie. Yeah, but you know we'll

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Speaker 2: make everything better.

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Speaker 3: Subscribe, subscribe, subscribe right now, baby.

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Speaker 2: Smash that button and we'll see you next time. See

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Speaker 2: you next time.