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Speaker 1: Now here's a highlight from Coast to Coast AM on

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Speaker 1: iHeartRadio and welcome back to Coast to Coast George Nori

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Speaker 1: with you. We're back with Lady Dolphin. Her books have

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Speaker 1: a great dream books one and two websites, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook,

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Speaker 1: Why do we have nightmares in the first place, Lady,

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Speaker 1: what's the impetus for that? Well, all the dreams, whether

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Speaker 1: their nightmares or not, are triggered at the first level

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Speaker 1: by something that you either thought about yesterday or something

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Speaker 1: that happened to you yesterday. And once you uncover what

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Speaker 1: is the situation that you're discussing with yourself in the

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Speaker 1: dream each and every time, And I'm about to give

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Speaker 1: you some examples to prove the point. Once you understand

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Speaker 1: what the situation is, you find every time a perfect mirror.

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Speaker 1: And this is why I became so obsessed about getting

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Speaker 1: this information out to the general public, because it's shocking

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Speaker 1: the information that we wake up with every single morning.

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Speaker 1: And I developed which I believe you know because we've

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Speaker 1: been together. Actually this is the sixth time that you

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Speaker 1: and I have had a conversation, right I just love

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Speaker 1: getting on the air with you. But I developed six

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Speaker 1: points of entry that anybody can learn and use to

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Speaker 1: uncover why you had that dream last night. They are

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Speaker 1: the feelings, the action, the symbols, the play on words

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Speaker 1: or puns because we use them constantly in our sleep

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Speaker 1: like we do in our waking life, the repetition, and

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Speaker 1: the plot. And so I've got some examples that I

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Speaker 1: can give you so that everybody understands exactly what I'm doing.

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Speaker 1: Go ahead, okay, So this is dream is an example

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Speaker 1: of the feelings, the action, and the symbols. It's a

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Speaker 1: single parent of a five year old son who is

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Speaker 1: on the spectrum, and she dreams that they're at a

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Speaker 1: carnival on a merry go round with people that she

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Speaker 1: doesn't recognize, and the scene changes they're in an arcade

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Speaker 1: and he has to go to the washroom, so she

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Speaker 1: takes him to the ladies room and turns around and

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Speaker 1: realizes her son is gone kidnapped. She feels like she

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Speaker 1: knows he's been kidnapped because she noticed a tattooed man

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Speaker 1: hanging around outside the washroom. So she finishes by saying

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Speaker 1: that at first she's trying to find money to pay

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Speaker 1: a ransom, but then she's trying to call the police.

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Speaker 1: So I'm looking when you hear a dream, you can

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Speaker 1: take any one of the six points of entry that

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Speaker 1: you feel attracted to, and all of them work. It

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Speaker 1: doesn't matter which one you choose. They all get you somewhere.

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Speaker 1: Are they all equally significant too? They are, But it

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Speaker 1: depends what grabs your attention, And for me, it was

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Speaker 1: the feeling. So I asked her, how did you feel?

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Speaker 1: And she said, I went from being a bit uncomfortable

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Speaker 1: to being in a panic. And my next question is

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Speaker 1: always going to be what situation in your waking life

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Speaker 1: this week is making you feel in a similar way

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Speaker 1: that you started out by feeling a bit uncomfortable, and

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Speaker 1: now you're finding yourself in a panic. And it's because

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Speaker 1: she was offered a job in another state, and she

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Speaker 1: says that if I was going to move and have

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Speaker 1: good time to do it. But at her home, her

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Speaker 1: parents lived just a few blocks away, and he's on

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Speaker 1: the spectrum and her parents are always available to help.

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Speaker 1: So while she's talking, I'm already tapped into the symbol

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Speaker 1: up her mind about which way to turn, whether she

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Speaker 1: she's using that image of tattoos and gang members because

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Speaker 1: So this nightmare, this is the main thing I gotta say.

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Speaker 1: This nightmare created a plot in which she had no

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Speaker 1: to share your feelings, talk about what's bothering you in

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Speaker 1: I love it? And is there a solution? In your opinion, Laney,

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Speaker 1: In every dream everyone it's there, yet you just have

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Speaker 1: where you come in. Of course, can people do it

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Speaker 1: for themselves sometimes too? Absolutely? Let me give you a

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Speaker 1: they have an argument and the dream he starts whipping

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Speaker 1: her with a manual saw. Okay, this is an example

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Speaker 1: of play on words and puns. She said she felt afraid,

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Speaker 1: but mostly she was so confused and she didn't understand

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Speaker 1: what the heck why is he whipping her with a

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Speaker 1: it's a perfect mirror each and every time. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I would have never known that that was the dreamer

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Speaker 1: who gave it, who gave it to me? What is

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Speaker 1: it about the brain or the subconscious mind or the

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Speaker 1: conscious mind that creates that kind of story? That way?

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Speaker 1: I love it, And it's got a sense of humor

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Speaker 1: that to use the saw, even in fat way when

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Speaker 1: really a very well done way of grabbing your attention.

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Speaker 1: And her unconscious did succeed because like the relationship is over,

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Speaker 1: but I'll do it again so you can do a

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Speaker 1: quick interpretation. For me. It has to do with me.

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Speaker 1: It is my recurring nightmare that has since stopped. And

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you what I did to make it stop.

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Speaker 1: But I went to the University of Detroit. My dad

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Speaker 1: didn't graduate. And this happened for a couple of years.

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Speaker 1: I would have this recurring dream. It drove me nuts.

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Speaker 1: One day, to solve this problem, I got my college

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Speaker 1: probably about something completely different. But in each every time,

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Speaker 1: you feel like you're almost there but not quite coming up,

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Speaker 1: that diploma every morning. Oh that's great. Now you just

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Speaker 1: gave us a stunning example of Carl Jung's active imagination. Really,

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Speaker 1: that's exactly what you did. You changed your mind and

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Speaker 1: you gave yourself a reminder that you are worth one

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Speaker 1: and it went and it went away, Lae, and I

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Speaker 1: haven't had this dream in thirty forty years, no, no kidding. Well,

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