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Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous. I'm good. How are you well?

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Speaker 2: You just said hello gorgeous.

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Speaker 1: I thought thought directed at you. You.

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Speaker 3: Jenna willis my listeners? Who are my friends?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 3: I feel like every time I see you in the

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Speaker 3: morning at this hour, you're telling me to do something

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Speaker 3: that I truly don't want to do. But I leave

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Speaker 3: feeling like my ass is perkier than normal.

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Speaker 4: It is fact.

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Speaker 1: By the way, what is that.

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Speaker 3: Like when you know how you get to the gym

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Speaker 3: and you're like, okay, today's leg and butt day. Is

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Speaker 3: it just like the muscles that are getting swollen so

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Speaker 3: it looks perkier than blow.

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Speaker 2: Oh, you're opening like the muscles up? Is that what

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Speaker 2: it is?

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Speaker 4: We're not opening them up, You're bringing blood flow to them, right,

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Speaker 4: and blood flow.

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Speaker 3: Experience that makes There's so many times where I'll see

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Speaker 3: people doing something before, like a workout shoot, and I'm like, girl,

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Speaker 3: you should have been doing that the whole time, Like

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Speaker 3: why are you just doing it now? Like she looks good, right,

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Speaker 3: but you do think like you're not gonna get a

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Speaker 3: six pack.

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Speaker 2: Right now in twenty minutes.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but now it's making sense.

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Speaker 2: But when she starts doing her crunches, it appears.

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Speaker 4: Those like fab five minute workouts don't work well.

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Speaker 3: Actually, there's a lot of questions that will address in

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Speaker 3: the bonus.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so crazy because.

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Speaker 3: No matter how many times I have you on. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: every time I post that I'm having you on and

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Speaker 3: doing a Q and A, my little inbox thing is flooded.

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Speaker 1: Yes with yes.

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Speaker 4: That makes me so happy because then it just means

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Speaker 4: people care about their health and wellness and we want

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Speaker 4: to make change.

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Speaker 1: They do.

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Speaker 3: But at the same time, most people are like me

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Speaker 3: and they're like, I want this, but I want to

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Speaker 3: change nothing right, So so how do we do that?

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Speaker 1: No, but there is a way to slow roll yourself.

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Speaker 3: And I'm excited to talk to you about this, which

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Speaker 3: we're really going to deep dive into obviously on this episode,

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Speaker 3: but the bonus will be really focused on that. So,

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Speaker 3: Jenna willis you have been my friend, as people know

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Speaker 3: for over ten years now.

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Speaker 4: I can't.

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Speaker 1: Is that wild? I can't.

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Speaker 4: We don't have to talk about that one of the

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Speaker 4: first I mean, when we were twelve. It's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Well, we're both grown.

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Speaker 5: Af I remember you flew to Utah, yeah, and I

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Speaker 2: We went out and got like. We went to like

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Speaker 4: We went to the mall, the mall, Jena.

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Speaker 2: That was the first time I was I'm not lying either.

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Speaker 2: That was nervous. I was like, I'm just about to

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Speaker 3: Me and my friends, Jenna, Mom and myself drove to

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Speaker 1: Baby. It was a wild Jenna had to drive us home.

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Speaker 4: I like, ladies, it's okay back there, quiet down, please,

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Speaker 4: And then they're crying and then they're laughing. My dad

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Speaker 1: Oh that was so dark.

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Speaker 3: It was We went to like McK finnigan's or whatever.

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Speaker 4: Best time.

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Speaker 1: No, it was great.

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Speaker 4: That's the best time. And I love Utah.

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Speaker 4: I had such a great time with you guys.

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Speaker 3: No, Utah is a beautiful place. So my routine with

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Speaker 3: Jenna because we're homies. Yeah, but what I love about

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Speaker 3: It's it's a game of uh, as my mom would say, tennis,

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Speaker 4: Forth because we know some that don't we know somewhere.

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Speaker 3: It's like, okay, so this dinner is going to be

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Speaker 3: You know everything about them, they know nothing about you.

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Speaker 5: You know their cat's name, you know their dead great

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Speaker 2: You're like, okay, what about me? And my mother and I.

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Speaker 3: in my It's like, well, now that we're paying the boat, yeah,

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Speaker 3: everything's fine. You next time.

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Speaker 1: Really, you don't give a shit, but.

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Speaker 3: I'm so happy to know what your great great grandfather.

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Speaker 5: And why you are here because of him.

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Speaker 3: Anyway, I'm still laughing or crying both the combination.

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Speaker 2: Of the two. It hurts because it's true, and you

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Speaker 1: Change exactly exactly.

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Speaker 3: That is all about acceptance, accurate way it accepting.

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Speaker 4: It is acceptance.

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Speaker 3: Going through life, is going through the five stages of good.

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Speaker 2: Don't you think, what is it? Acceptance? No, it's like grief, acceptance, anger.

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Speaker 4: And here we are, and here excepting where we're at.

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Speaker 3: Jenna has worked me out and been my homie for

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Speaker 3: a very long time. You've worked me out through both

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Speaker 3: of my pregnancies. You've worked me out after the pregnancies.

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Speaker 3: And how are routine and day starts?

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Speaker 5: You?

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Speaker 1: Guys? I love it? I love it too, So I

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Speaker 3: I'm how what was I two three months postpartum something

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Speaker 1: Well.

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Speaker 3: You don't put pressure on people, which is also what

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Speaker 4: I'm there to facilitate it and help you make change

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Speaker 4: and push you as far as you can go. But

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Speaker 4: it's not my job right to force you to exercise, like,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, exactly. You know our morning routine, I Jenna comes.

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Speaker 1: It's so happy.

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Speaker 3: It is a lot happens in our lives in forty

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Speaker 3: And you're one of the safe spaces for me where

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Speaker 5: You get different answers talent then you kind of want

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Speaker 3: Well, mom's answers immediately fuck them. They don't deserve to

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Speaker 1: That's not mine.

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Speaker 3: stand by you being one of the healthiest friendships.

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Speaker 1: I have and have ever had.

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Speaker 3: It means a lot and I thoroughly enjoy the process

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Speaker 3: entire day mentally. Yeah, so thank you for that.

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Speaker 3: last time. You are thirty eight, thirty eight, you look great.

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Speaker 4: Thank you.

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Speaker 4: Of course she does, she works out, she's care of herself.

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Speaker 4: I'm I'm thirty eight.

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Speaker 3: I think I'll be thirty five this year.

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Speaker 1: But I think that.

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Speaker 1: And people can say, well, they.

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Speaker 3: They look amazing and no matter what their faces look

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Speaker 5: About not having work, I feel like she's naturally beautiful and.

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Speaker 4: I haven't done work.

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Speaker 1: But actually you get to eliminate one of the stressors,

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Speaker 4: Have you guys heard of dinks? This term called dinks?

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Speaker 3: However, I love this, Yeah, I love this, like going

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Speaker 1: Know what my purpose would be.

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Speaker 4: and you're like Johna, You're like me. We want purpose

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 4: But I am you know. I I've many a night's

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Speaker 5: Of helps me because I've gone through what you're going

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Speaker 4: Spirally on everyone's doing funny side thought, I can't sit

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Speaker 2: I know.

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Speaker 4: It's such a bag.

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Speaker 2: Over here or something.

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Speaker 4: I just had to call it out because Eastern is

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Speaker 1: You could do it.

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Speaker 4: No, you can't do that. I've stretched you.

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Speaker 3: A lot of the workouts that involve like being limper,

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Speaker 2: It the one time. I thought, and you think I'm

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Speaker 4: Just the workout. We're not talking threading.

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Speaker 1: Here's how I feel off of what you just said.

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Speaker 4: My dating life.

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Speaker 1: We're going to get there.

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Speaker 4: Always always I don't meditation.

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Speaker 4: And I'm like now we start replaying our day and

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Speaker 4: it's it's crazy. I have to play meditation to go

451
00:21:36,800 --> 00:21:37,840
Speaker 4: to sleep a lot of times.

452
00:21:37,960 --> 00:21:41,520
Speaker 3: Well, Lisa and I have had these conversations a lot recently,

453
00:21:41,720 --> 00:21:46,960
Speaker 3: where you know, obviously there are times where you need

454
00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:51,040
Speaker 3: to seek help from a doctor and get on medication,

455
00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:54,159
Speaker 3: of course, So I'm not saying take control of your

456
00:21:54,200 --> 00:21:55,000
Speaker 3: mind and that's the end.

457
00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:55,480
Speaker 4: All be all.

458
00:21:55,520 --> 00:22:01,040
Speaker 3: There are situations where you need someone with a medical background.

459
00:22:02,119 --> 00:22:05,320
Speaker 3: For me, though, when I start going to those places,

460
00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:08,560
Speaker 3: if my mind is powerful enough to take me to

461
00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:12,120
Speaker 3: that place, it is certainly powerful enough to say we're

462
00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,480
Speaker 3: ending it here, and now I'm going to take you

463
00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:15,800
Speaker 3: to a really great place.

464
00:22:16,280 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 1: You can take me low, you can certainly take me high.

465
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:21,360
Speaker 1: So I do.

466
00:22:21,440 --> 00:22:24,359
Speaker 3: And I was talking to a friend yesterday where we

467
00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:30,320
Speaker 3: were talking about my eye, and you know, I was saying,

468
00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:33,399
Speaker 3: this is how I've kind of laid it out to

469
00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:35,639
Speaker 3: have it make sense, because there was something coming up

470
00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:39,159
Speaker 3: that I was very much looking forward to. And you know,

471
00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:41,720
Speaker 3: she said, sometimes not everything does happen for a reason.

472
00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:44,879
Speaker 3: Sometimes just shit happens. And immediately I was like, no,

473
00:22:45,119 --> 00:22:48,240
Speaker 3: I don't like that at all. I have to I

474
00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:50,600
Speaker 3: don't like that at all. There had to be a

475
00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:54,320
Speaker 3: reason behind everything, because that is the way that I

476
00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:57,560
Speaker 3: keep peace of mind and keep my head above water.

477
00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:01,280
Speaker 3: I could be so up in the night, we could

478
00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:05,800
Speaker 3: be dead and gone in the ground. There's nothing after this. Yeah,

479
00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:08,840
Speaker 3: if I go that route, I know.

480
00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:10,800
Speaker 4: We're in a dark place. Yeah.

481
00:23:10,840 --> 00:23:12,359
Speaker 3: What I do know is when I think about the

482
00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:15,040
Speaker 3: universe and it's structuring my life for me, and my

483
00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:17,280
Speaker 3: life and path was written in the stars before I

484
00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:21,120
Speaker 3: even arrived here. I know that that thought makes me peaceful.

485
00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:22,840
Speaker 3: I know that that thought gives me chills, and I

486
00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:27,480
Speaker 3: know that there is something beyond just this shell of

487
00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:28,080
Speaker 3: who I am.

488
00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:28,560
Speaker 1: Yeah.

489
00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:33,280
Speaker 3: For you, I picture you with children, and I picture

490
00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:34,240
Speaker 3: you having a partner.

491
00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:35,160
Speaker 1: Yeah.

492
00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:41,280
Speaker 3: But I understand going into that dark, dark place of

493
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:41,800
Speaker 3: the what if.

494
00:23:42,240 --> 00:23:42,440
Speaker 4: Yeah.

495
00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:45,920
Speaker 3: So I think just having your eggs frozen, knowing that

496
00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:48,080
Speaker 3: you have you know, you don't expect for your life

497
00:23:48,280 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 3: or your house to burn down, but just in case

498
00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:52,880
Speaker 3: you have, you know that houses have burned down.

499
00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:54,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know totally.

500
00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:57,400
Speaker 3: We've seen it on the news. It could very well

501
00:23:57,400 --> 00:23:58,200
Speaker 3: be your house one day.

502
00:23:58,240 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 1: So what do you do? You get insurance?

503
00:24:00,000 --> 00:24:01,720
Speaker 3: Unless you live in LA, it's very fucking different.

504
00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:05,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, but it is.

505
00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 3: You got your insurance policy.

506
00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:08,200
Speaker 1: Now.

507
00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:11,359
Speaker 3: You're very heavy in the dating scene.

508
00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 1: You're on apps, right, Yes, do you have a favorite app?

509
00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 4: Well, that's a good question. I wouldn't say I have

510
00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:20,840
Speaker 4: a favorite one.

511
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:23,600
Speaker 2: Is there any apps that you've had more success in?

512
00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:26,560
Speaker 4: Defined success more.

513
00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:32,119
Speaker 5: Like I mean multiple days or even success in the

514
00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:35,520
Speaker 5: men are more interesting or more down your app?

515
00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:39,160
Speaker 4: I would say all of them. I have met someone

516
00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:43,080
Speaker 4: that I've dated for a little bit, you know, that's

517
00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:46,680
Speaker 4: my best way to answer it. I would say certain

518
00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:51,240
Speaker 4: apps cater for instance, you know, cater more to the

519
00:24:51,359 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 4: entertainment industry.

520
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:55,200
Speaker 2: Versus isn't that rayah?

521
00:24:55,320 --> 00:24:59,439
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, yeah, so that definitely is more in the

522
00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:01,320
Speaker 4: entertainment mint field.

523
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:03,520
Speaker 2: Which you feel you need.

524
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:06,280
Speaker 4: You know, that's that's such a great question. It's something

525
00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:09,639
Speaker 4: that I've actually been debating lately. You know, everyone's always

526
00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:12,320
Speaker 4: like write a list, right if you're if you're looking

527
00:25:12,320 --> 00:25:17,320
Speaker 4: to date, which you know I'm trying to get her, Yes,

528
00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:22,080
Speaker 4: keep getting about I am where we are doing the thing.

529
00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:24,560
Speaker 2: She deserves to have some happiness.

530
00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:29,680
Speaker 3: And I figured out there's always there is always something

531
00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:31,800
Speaker 3: just wear the patch.

532
00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:35,040
Speaker 2: There are a lot of guys.

533
00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:39,119
Speaker 3: It could be pirate, there's a lot of weird fetish.

534
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:39,240
Speaker 4: It.

535
00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 3: I never more enjoying than when I was pregnant. Actually,

536
00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 3: I was like, where are you guys when I'm not pregnant.

537
00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:47,560
Speaker 3: I would have been pregnant for.

538
00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:48,280
Speaker 1: A really long time.

539
00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:50,200
Speaker 2: There's dudes who like pregnant women.

540
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:54,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, but that's also kind of want your sister

541
00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:58,440
Speaker 4: to date someone who's like has a pregnancy fetish, No, any.

542
00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:00,440
Speaker 2: Sort of I put the child in you.

543
00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:03,000
Speaker 5: That's I can have that fetish if I am looking

544
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:05,560
Speaker 5: at it like a random girl and like even seeing

545
00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 5: her like husband and I'm like, she's so fun.

546
00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 1: There are weird people, all know.

547
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:13,359
Speaker 4: Although I will say yours was different because it wasn't

548
00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:17,159
Speaker 4: like it was from the next like oh.

549
00:26:17,080 --> 00:26:18,320
Speaker 1: This gout your That is true.

550
00:26:18,359 --> 00:26:22,119
Speaker 2: They were no man in there. I'm sending my shot.

551
00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:24,119
Speaker 1: Could I tell you?

552
00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:29,720
Speaker 3: Podcast with Brittany and we were talking about her dating

553
00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:32,480
Speaker 3: life and sexy time life, and I was like, I

554
00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:36,280
Speaker 3: haven't been touched an intimate with a man in over

555
00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:38,800
Speaker 3: two years, I know, and I go, I know this,

556
00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:41,160
Speaker 3: and then you know I got pregnant. Yeah, And if

557
00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:42,960
Speaker 3: you were just some random person, you'd be like, how

558
00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 3: does that You're saying you haven't anybody, but you got pregnant,

559
00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:51,639
Speaker 3: so you're a liar. Back to the app. Okay, what

560
00:26:51,680 --> 00:26:53,800
Speaker 3: about hinge? Hinge?

561
00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:57,919
Speaker 4: Okay, so Hinge is interesting. There's I was never on

562
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:01,520
Speaker 4: Hinge until about a year ago and I was at

563
00:27:01,560 --> 00:27:04,040
Speaker 4: my girlfriend's house. We were drinking wine, hanging out, and

564
00:27:04,080 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 4: she was scrolling on Hinge and I was like, oh,

565
00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 4: I was like, these are like real dudes, not just

566
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 4: like LA. Right when you think of LA, what do

567
00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:13,200
Speaker 4: you think of like LA dudes?

568
00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:17,240
Speaker 1: What do you think of I think of the boys?

569
00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:23,680
Speaker 3: Good, are very well groomed, uh huh, probably jobless, uh huh.

570
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:26,919
Speaker 3: They're on Runnian walking Runnion every single day.

571
00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:30,880
Speaker 4: We have a really really funny.

572
00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:32,480
Speaker 3: And they want to go out and they're very healthy,

573
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:34,600
Speaker 3: very healthy, Jenna.

574
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 1: But do I want to do a bump in the

575
00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:38,840
Speaker 1: bathroom alway?

576
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:42,880
Speaker 3: Is that what they're doing makes zero fucking Sense's skinny?

577
00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:44,760
Speaker 4: Trying to say skinny guys?

578
00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:47,680
Speaker 3: Come on, that's no.

579
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:51,040
Speaker 4: But I yeah, So when she was scrolling hinge. I

580
00:27:51,080 --> 00:27:53,440
Speaker 4: was like, oh, these guys have jobs, Like, I was like,

581
00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:57,320
Speaker 4: they have real jobs. They were like and lawyers, well, doctors, right, but.

582
00:27:57,359 --> 00:27:59,199
Speaker 2: LA is not that high right now.

583
00:27:59,359 --> 00:28:03,200
Speaker 4: Right is surrounded by the entertainment industry, right, And I'm

584
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:05,199
Speaker 4: a gonna lie. I went into a restaurant the other

585
00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:06,600
Speaker 4: day in the middle of the day and I walked

586
00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:08,919
Speaker 4: in and it was packed, and I looked around. I'm like,

587
00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:12,240
Speaker 4: does anybody here work? And I'm like, literally, looetting ready

588
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:13,600
Speaker 4: and I'm like, but I'm here.

589
00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:18,040
Speaker 3: But I think that all the time all do run

590
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 3: into one's in a blue moon. I'm like, these fucking

591
00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:24,440
Speaker 3: lasers have no job. And then I'm like, but I'm here.

592
00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:27,240
Speaker 4: That's the exact time that I had. I was like, wait,

593
00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:28,680
Speaker 4: I just ordered lunch.

594
00:28:30,119 --> 00:28:31,359
Speaker 1: I'm here, yeah.

595
00:28:31,400 --> 00:28:32,679
Speaker 4: And I was also here on Monday.

596
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:35,880
Speaker 3: No. I literally said to Easton, Yeah, because we've been

597
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:39,080
Speaker 3: going through a mental health awakening, and I'm like, we're

598
00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:42,160
Speaker 3: all just a bunch of mirrors walking around. Yeah, we're

599
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:45,520
Speaker 3: all throwing shit at each other, but your shit smells

600
00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:48,360
Speaker 3: just like my shit, and vice versa, and no one's

601
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:54,040
Speaker 3: doing better than the other person, and it's just a crazy,

602
00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:55,560
Speaker 3: crazy fucking world.

603
00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 5: The world is wild, and the more I look into

604
00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:02,360
Speaker 5: the world, and like even driving and just looking around,

605
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:04,160
Speaker 5: I'm like, what is going on?

606
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, what what's it for? And what we're gonna say?

607
00:29:06,960 --> 00:29:09,080
Speaker 4: Well, just to go back into the dating world, you know,

608
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:13,960
Speaker 4: it's it's such a crazy time in the sense of

609
00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 4: there's so many opportunities, right, and it's almost dangerous because

610
00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:26,560
Speaker 4: we're so quick to cut someone out, which, by the way,

611
00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 4: like right, I think a really important question is and

612
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:30,760
Speaker 4: I actually have this question for both of you guys too.

613
00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:33,920
Speaker 4: Does dating get harder as we get older or do

614
00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:35,959
Speaker 4: we just become more aware of who we are and

615
00:29:35,960 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 4: what we want.

616
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:39,200
Speaker 1: I adore this.

617
00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:40,040
Speaker 3: Question so much.

618
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:42,520
Speaker 2: It made because I'm still nervous.

619
00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh god, Personally, yeah, I think it's a

620
00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:49,760
Speaker 3: combination of both things.

621
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:51,960
Speaker 1: And I really hate that answer because I'm black at

622
00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:55,479
Speaker 1: black or white. I don't like the gray Switzerland answer.

623
00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:59,560
Speaker 3: But I feel like it's really hard to date because

624
00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:03,240
Speaker 3: there's so much access. You could literally meet you know,

625
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:07,960
Speaker 3: Svetlana in Russia, who's a fucking banger. You live in

626
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 3: Los Angeles, and all of a sudden you know someone

627
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 3: who you would never fucking know otherwise, Yes, because social media.

628
00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:16,920
Speaker 4: Well I was gonna say even just Instagram's like a

629
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:21,040
Speaker 4: dating app now slide in someone's DMS.

630
00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:25,000
Speaker 3: But on the flip side, as you get older and

631
00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:28,000
Speaker 3: you evolve, Yeah, I'm going to speak for my own

632
00:30:28,040 --> 00:30:31,720
Speaker 3: personal experience. I no longer drink, so I don't have

633
00:30:31,880 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 3: any sort of liquid courage to make me feel you know,

634
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:42,400
Speaker 3: I'm I'm not uninhibited. I don't have anything to kind

635
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:44,840
Speaker 3: of give me a little bit of like it's all good.

636
00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:49,880
Speaker 3: I'm hyper focused. I have an out of body experience.

637
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:52,680
Speaker 3: Every time I go out. It's like I'm watching myself

638
00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 3: have conversations with people and that it's not a good feeling,

639
00:30:58,320 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 3: and maybe I'll have to go out and to make

640
00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:06,520
Speaker 3: that go away. But then I also think about what

641
00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:10,760
Speaker 3: I've built. Yeah, and I've let people in in a

642
00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:15,960
Speaker 3: very intimate way emotionally, physically who have turned out to

643
00:31:16,080 --> 00:31:21,360
Speaker 3: be scary. So that makes me nervous. Yeah, And then

644
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:24,160
Speaker 3: you add the layer of I have children, what kind

645
00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:28,000
Speaker 3: of person are you? You stack all of those things

646
00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:32,040
Speaker 3: on top of each other, and it becomes debilitating to

647
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:33,800
Speaker 3: go out and try to meet somebody.

648
00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:37,520
Speaker 4: I think you're setting that standard for yourself.

649
00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:39,320
Speaker 5: I was just gonna say, but I feel like I

650
00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:41,440
Speaker 5: do this, like I feel like everybody does that.

651
00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 4: Well, that can go both ways though, Like I'm thirty

652
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:46,960
Speaker 4: eight and I don't have kids, right, so I have

653
00:31:47,040 --> 00:31:49,120
Speaker 4: the same thought as like we're at a point in

654
00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:51,200
Speaker 4: our lives where a lot of women our age do

655
00:31:51,320 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 4: have kids.

656
00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:55,000
Speaker 3: Well, then I guess the question is more directed at

657
00:31:55,040 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 3: you then, because you're what's wrong without you?

658
00:31:58,360 --> 00:31:58,520
Speaker 2: No?

659
00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:01,000
Speaker 3: No, no, I'm saying, how do you feel that the dating world?

660
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:03,720
Speaker 3: You know? Like, what is You're out here and you've

661
00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:05,040
Speaker 3: you've built something.

662
00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 1: Great, you know, like, what do you feel is the issue?

663
00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:12,000
Speaker 1: Is it harder or do you just have higher standards?

664
00:32:12,080 --> 00:32:15,240
Speaker 4: I hate to say, you know, I'm in that gray

665
00:32:15,240 --> 00:32:17,520
Speaker 4: area as well, but I it is. It has to

666
00:32:17,600 --> 00:32:18,240
Speaker 4: be both.

667
00:32:18,560 --> 00:32:21,640
Speaker 5: I think it's higher standards, but it's wanting what you

668
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:26,160
Speaker 5: want and also the people that you're talking to have

669
00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 5: that as well, and they know what they want.

670
00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:31,960
Speaker 4: No, sorry, go on, go on, I want to totally

671
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:32,400
Speaker 4: keep going.

672
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:33,760
Speaker 1: I want to hear you're so excited.

673
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:34,760
Speaker 2: No, tell me, tell me.

674
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 4: I you think about when we're twenty two, you see

675
00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:40,719
Speaker 4: someone they're hot, you go out, you get drunk, one

676
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 4: night and you hook up. Whatever you do. You wake

677
00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:47,440
Speaker 4: up the next morning, you're like, should we go grab breakfast? Right?

678
00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:52,239
Speaker 4: I I want you to leave well now right?

679
00:32:52,280 --> 00:32:52,640
Speaker 1: Always?

680
00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:55,560
Speaker 5: I like going to their house so I can leave

681
00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:56,640
Speaker 5: at four thirty in the morning.

682
00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:58,120
Speaker 4: Okay, I.

683
00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:03,440
Speaker 2: Control when when I keep that? Yeah, because there's nothing

684
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:04,520
Speaker 2: worse than a lingerer.

685
00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:07,680
Speaker 4: Oh fuck, do we want to talk about your trauma

686
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:08,360
Speaker 4: first or yours?

687
00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:11,720
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna I think we're No.

688
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 4: I think that's both both valid.

689
00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:18,200
Speaker 2: But I mean to you, when you're doing that, I

690
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:19,360
Speaker 2: didn't know what I wanted.

691
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:22,840
Speaker 4: You're not. It's thinking about the dynamics. You're not thinking

692
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:26,080
Speaker 4: about kids having kids in that moment, right, You're not

693
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:28,640
Speaker 4: thinking about is this person going to have the same

694
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:31,160
Speaker 4: morning routine that I do?

695
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:34,080
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying, level.

696
00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 2: Right the ship.

697
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:36,920
Speaker 4: You never thought about that before, and now I do.

698
00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 4: It's one of the main things I think about.

699
00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:40,880
Speaker 1: Something If you get in.

700
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 3: Bed with me at seven o'clock, right and cover your

701
00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:46,320
Speaker 3: face and castor oil while eating good of cheese and

702
00:33:46,360 --> 00:33:48,720
Speaker 3: good things while watching.

703
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:50,080
Speaker 2: But this is where you're gonna.

704
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:52,520
Speaker 1: Have to give him, right, So can I tell you

705
00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 1: the out of it?

706
00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:55,760
Speaker 4: Can I tell you how hard it is to date though,

707
00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 4: being someone who likes to go to bed early on

708
00:33:57,920 --> 00:34:00,280
Speaker 4: the weekdays, Like, I'm not the person that going to

709
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 4: go out in the middle of the week and get

710
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:02,720
Speaker 4: wasted on a date.

711
00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:06,360
Speaker 1: You have to be up to train people.

712
00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 3: You got your fitness brand, you personal train, which you're

713
00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:12,879
Speaker 3: very funny about now, like it has to be.

714
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:13,400
Speaker 1: A good gig.

715
00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:17,400
Speaker 3: It has for you to when you go out with somebody,

716
00:34:18,160 --> 00:34:20,799
Speaker 3: I want to know, is that a deal breaker if

717
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:21,920
Speaker 3: they're not a physical person.

718
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 4: It's funny because people would be like, oh, she has

719
00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:27,440
Speaker 4: to date someone who has a six pack who's in

720
00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:31,640
Speaker 4: the gym all the time. Ironically enough, I prefer someone

721
00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:33,600
Speaker 4: who isn't as into fitness as I am.

722
00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:36,359
Speaker 3: Okay, why because you.

723
00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:38,399
Speaker 4: Know what I've noticed? Then they're tracking me.

724
00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:42,160
Speaker 3: They're what they're they're tracking me, and I'm like, what

725
00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:45,200
Speaker 3: she calls herself a personal trainer and she just hate

726
00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:46,440
Speaker 3: that yeah.

727
00:34:46,280 --> 00:34:48,800
Speaker 4: Or or or they're like, well, why aren't we in

728
00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:50,880
Speaker 4: the gym for two hours today? And I'm like, look,

729
00:34:51,040 --> 00:34:55,400
Speaker 4: I'm I'm a trainer. I love what I do. But

730
00:34:55,440 --> 00:34:57,080
Speaker 4: I have never been one of those trainer, one of

731
00:34:57,120 --> 00:34:59,320
Speaker 4: those people who want to spend all day in the gym.

732
00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 4: All I do right, Like, I'm not the person who

733
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:04,520
Speaker 4: wants to go to the gym and then go for

734
00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:07,799
Speaker 4: a four hour hike afterwords. The worst I don't write.

735
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:12,239
Speaker 4: And a lot of people and dudes who are into that.

736
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 4: It's very intense and it's like almost like this weird

737
00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:21,759
Speaker 4: competitive of like what, I don't know.

738
00:35:22,520 --> 00:35:23,239
Speaker 2: I can see that.

739
00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:26,320
Speaker 4: I think they have to appreciate fitness, Like I couldn't

740
00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:27,759
Speaker 4: be with someone who didn't exercise at all.

741
00:35:27,760 --> 00:35:29,799
Speaker 3: I don't think, right, No, but you wouldn't want to

742
00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:34,520
Speaker 3: be with a gym head. No, just takes care of Yes,

743
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:38,960
Speaker 3: you also have no type, like I've noticed when you

744
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 3: show me like you're attracted to.

745
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:46,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, except except that.

746
00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:49,799
Speaker 4: Wait, sometimes I'm like, am I allowed to look into

747
00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:53,520
Speaker 4: the camera and say accepting dating dating applications right now?

748
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:54,480
Speaker 1: Yes, of course you are.

749
00:35:54,520 --> 00:35:59,279
Speaker 3: It's gonna be all women, but that's okay.

750
00:35:58,200 --> 00:36:03,760
Speaker 4: No type. I'm just gonna.

751
00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:05,239
Speaker 1: Do you train me?

752
00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:08,720
Speaker 3: You train Kristen, Well, she's like four hundred years pregnant.

753
00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:10,319
Speaker 4: Though I know I am, I gonna have.

754
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:13,720
Speaker 2: That kid out, She's gonna do a squat.

755
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:16,480
Speaker 3: I actually am very impressed that she's worked out this long.

756
00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:18,200
Speaker 3: I know you were supposed to train her this morning

757
00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:19,360
Speaker 3: and she was like, I'm.

758
00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:24,160
Speaker 1: Good, imps, I can't.

759
00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:26,279
Speaker 3: Imagine body hurts.

760
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:26,840
Speaker 1: That's weird.

761
00:36:27,640 --> 00:36:29,799
Speaker 3: What do you mean when you go out with your

762
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:33,320
Speaker 3: friends who you train like me, for example.

763
00:36:33,840 --> 00:36:36,040
Speaker 1: When you see what we consume.

764
00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:37,440
Speaker 3: Like that day that we had worked out and then

765
00:36:37,480 --> 00:36:40,719
Speaker 3: I downed like an egg McMuffin from mynlds after, were

766
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:43,440
Speaker 3: you like, oh my god, or do not even think

767
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:43,719
Speaker 3: about it?

768
00:36:43,719 --> 00:36:45,399
Speaker 4: Oh, that's such a good like, that's such a good point.

769
00:36:45,480 --> 00:36:49,399
Speaker 4: So for me, I never expect people to do what

770
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:53,200
Speaker 4: I do. Okay, I don't because you know how I am.

771
00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:57,120
Speaker 4: I believe in a sustainable lifestyle and and and truthfully, like,

772
00:36:57,760 --> 00:36:59,600
Speaker 4: you can eat the egg McMuffin, now, do I prefer

773
00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:04,720
Speaker 4: that it was healthier food not for McDonald's. Yes, I do, right, yeah,

774
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:07,560
Speaker 4: But I'm not here to like deprive you of everything. Now.

775
00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:11,560
Speaker 4: If you were sitting here complaining about your weight, right, yeah,

776
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:14,400
Speaker 4: I don't feel good in my skin, I feel obese,

777
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:17,439
Speaker 4: whatever it is, and you were doing that, then I'd

778
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:20,160
Speaker 4: be like, let's have a conversation, because the truth is

779
00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:22,719
Speaker 4: you're making those choices, right, but you don't do that

780
00:37:22,960 --> 00:37:24,480
Speaker 4: and we talked about this so much. You're like, I

781
00:37:24,480 --> 00:37:26,040
Speaker 4: want to get a fair ass and I want to

782
00:37:26,080 --> 00:37:28,279
Speaker 4: feel good, right, And that's and that's what we do,

783
00:37:28,360 --> 00:37:28,680
Speaker 4: isn't it.

784
00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:29,200
Speaker 2: Yeah.

785
00:37:29,239 --> 00:37:31,960
Speaker 3: My favorite body was when I had just lost my

786
00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:36,200
Speaker 3: dad and I stopped drinking for like I remember at

787
00:37:36,200 --> 00:37:37,880
Speaker 3: the time, but I was smoking weed a lot, so

788
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:41,440
Speaker 3: I was always eating and I were this Mumma was

789
00:37:41,560 --> 00:37:45,400
Speaker 3: thick and I was like, I feel that body. And

790
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 3: then postpartum with Ocean, postpartum with Sosa was a fucking

791
00:37:50,160 --> 00:37:54,040
Speaker 3: buzzkill I And people are gonna hate me for saying this,

792
00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:56,480
Speaker 3: but we all really we don't have right.

793
00:37:56,520 --> 00:37:58,000
Speaker 4: We shed the weight so quick.

794
00:37:58,040 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 3: But it fell off of me to where I got

795
00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:02,520
Speaker 3: skeleton again, and I'm like, what the fuck is this?

796
00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:03,160
Speaker 4: Yeah?

797
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:08,600
Speaker 3: With Ocean, I had hips, I had I was feeling myself.

798
00:38:08,600 --> 00:38:10,080
Speaker 3: I was like, this is the body I've been dreaming of.

799
00:38:10,600 --> 00:38:13,480
Speaker 3: I'm having twelve kids because I just want to live

800
00:38:13,480 --> 00:38:14,440
Speaker 3: in this body forever.

801
00:38:15,160 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 4: But I had thirteen children for the body.

802
00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 3: But everyone battles like I have so many questions for

803
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:25,520
Speaker 3: you that will answer in the bonus of how people

804
00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:29,279
Speaker 3: can bounce back after having a baby. And we talk

805
00:38:29,320 --> 00:38:34,040
Speaker 3: about this all all the time that you almost have

806
00:38:34,120 --> 00:38:37,520
Speaker 3: to focus on the way your mental feels because you

807
00:38:37,600 --> 00:38:40,879
Speaker 3: are always going to want something that you do not have. Yeah,

808
00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:43,880
Speaker 3: and I don't know why God made us that way.

809
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:46,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it is what it is.

810
00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 3: How do you because I I've seen you with your

811
00:38:51,560 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 3: clients and it's not just about the eating, and it's

812
00:38:56,680 --> 00:38:59,959
Speaker 3: not just about the working out, like you have full

813
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:04,040
Speaker 3: conversations about getting the mental right as well, because you're

814
00:39:04,080 --> 00:39:05,080
Speaker 3: trained to be a life coach.

815
00:39:05,239 --> 00:39:06,840
Speaker 4: Yeah. By Jay Shetty.

816
00:39:07,719 --> 00:39:08,120
Speaker 2: Damn.

817
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:08,600
Speaker 1: Yeah.

818
00:39:08,719 --> 00:39:09,560
Speaker 4: Have you ever heard of him?

819
00:39:10,800 --> 00:39:11,959
Speaker 3: Has got to beautiful eyes?

820
00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:14,279
Speaker 4: He does, so does his wife. You're like, how did

821
00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:14,720
Speaker 4: this happen?

822
00:39:14,760 --> 00:39:16,719
Speaker 3: No, He's an extremely beautiful man, he is.

823
00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:17,600
Speaker 1: You know.

824
00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:21,839
Speaker 4: I think it really comes back to how I became

825
00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:25,000
Speaker 4: a trainer. Yeah, and you know that we've spoken about

826
00:39:25,000 --> 00:39:28,480
Speaker 4: this before. I became a trainer because of my anxiety

827
00:39:28,520 --> 00:39:33,800
Speaker 4: and situational depression. I've always struggled with anxiety. My parents

828
00:39:33,920 --> 00:39:36,240
Speaker 4: literally had to put a punching bag in our basement

829
00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:37,120
Speaker 4: when I was a kid.

830
00:39:37,560 --> 00:39:38,839
Speaker 3: You are so Jersey right now.

831
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 2: I love it.

832
00:39:39,920 --> 00:39:43,279
Speaker 4: Good for your parents, you know, And it's always been

833
00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:48,279
Speaker 4: something that I've struggled with and dealt with and when

834
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:51,480
Speaker 4: my fiance and I broke up, when I stepped away

835
00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:54,520
Speaker 4: from the Valley right, and and also I mean the

836
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:58,279
Speaker 4: valley when stepp away from vander Pump Rules, and when

837
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:01,280
Speaker 4: like the show that I was working on stop filming,

838
00:40:01,680 --> 00:40:04,319
Speaker 4: I went into such a situational depression to the point

839
00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:07,600
Speaker 4: where my parents were literally like, do we have to

840
00:40:07,600 --> 00:40:08,200
Speaker 4: bring you home?

841
00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:08,719
Speaker 1: Right?

842
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:13,360
Speaker 4: And what changed my life was exercising again, like almost

843
00:40:13,360 --> 00:40:16,520
Speaker 4: makes me emotional because it literally changed my life. And

844
00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:18,719
Speaker 4: the fact that I can help people do that is

845
00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:21,399
Speaker 4: the biggest gift in the world because I know how

846
00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:23,440
Speaker 4: hard it was for me and what I went through.

847
00:40:24,440 --> 00:40:26,759
Speaker 4: And you say it too, like it completely changes your

848
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:28,640
Speaker 4: mood and a lot of time it is the last

849
00:40:28,640 --> 00:40:30,439
Speaker 4: thing I want to do. By the way, me too.

850
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:33,399
Speaker 4: I'm human, and I know you feel the same way.

851
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:37,759
Speaker 4: But when you finish, it's that moment right after that

852
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:42,560
Speaker 4: you just feel like a completely different person. And that

853
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:45,279
Speaker 4: is why for me, the mental aspect of health and

854
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:46,760
Speaker 4: wellness is so prominent.

855
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:50,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I also think it got you out of

856
00:40:50,400 --> 00:40:53,680
Speaker 3: a really dark space. But yeah, cut to where you

857
00:40:53,719 --> 00:40:55,680
Speaker 3: are now and all the people that you've helped. I

858
00:40:55,760 --> 00:41:00,880
Speaker 3: also think that in your personal life. It's made you

859
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:03,720
Speaker 3: go out into the world with intent.

860
00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:04,480
Speaker 5: Hm.

861
00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:08,480
Speaker 4: You know, yeah, I appreciate you saying that when you.

862
00:41:08,360 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 3: Can stack yourself and know that you're you're putting your

863
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 3: all into you, then you can go out into the

864
00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:21,120
Speaker 3: world and you can make those hard decisions like I'm

865
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:23,239
Speaker 3: going to freeze my eggs because i don't know what

866
00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:26,000
Speaker 3: the future holds. I'm going to put myself out there

867
00:41:26,040 --> 00:41:29,040
Speaker 3: on dating apps and I'm gonna I actually very much

868
00:41:29,040 --> 00:41:29,480
Speaker 3: admire you.

869
00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:31,959
Speaker 1: I know, we joke all the time, like Jo's.

870
00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:34,680
Speaker 3: Got on our four hundreds date for the week, but

871
00:41:34,760 --> 00:41:37,200
Speaker 3: I like socializing though that's the only bonus for it.

872
00:41:37,480 --> 00:41:39,520
Speaker 1: But I adore that about you.

873
00:41:39,600 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 3: And I truly believe that the fitness world that you

874
00:41:44,239 --> 00:41:47,960
Speaker 3: have just put your all into because I believe that

875
00:41:48,400 --> 00:41:52,120
Speaker 3: your mental is the highest of highs that comes from

876
00:41:52,120 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 3: when you work out. But it's really allowed you to

877
00:41:56,120 --> 00:41:58,480
Speaker 3: go out into the world and be intentional about what

878
00:41:58,520 --> 00:42:02,560
Speaker 3: you're doing. Yeah, you know, whether it's whether it's your dating,

879
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:06,400
Speaker 3: whether you know you're facing a hard time, you're teed

880
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:08,880
Speaker 3: up because you've stacked yourself so perfectly.

881
00:42:09,120 --> 00:42:09,319
Speaker 2: Right.

882
00:42:10,680 --> 00:42:15,200
Speaker 4: I I'm like speechless because that means a lot and

883
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:18,680
Speaker 4: it is true, but just that you see I mean, look,

884
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:20,279
Speaker 4: you're one of my best friends. Of course you see it,

885
00:42:20,280 --> 00:42:23,560
Speaker 4: but sometimes you know, others see it better than we do.

886
00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 4: So just to hear it that way is really nice

887
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:28,120
Speaker 4: and really refreshing, and I appreciate it. And that is

888
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:30,920
Speaker 4: the truth. I mean, even you know it's true.

889
00:42:31,280 --> 00:42:34,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you have how long ago did you start

890
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:35,640
Speaker 3: that online fitness?

891
00:42:36,400 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 4: Oh my god? Like the actual like month to month

892
00:42:38,160 --> 00:42:39,920
Speaker 4: online like real plans and work where like.

893
00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:42,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, the ones that you post and like you get

894
00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:45,759
Speaker 3: onto the group, oh god, zooms into your workouts.

895
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Speaker 4: I love it so much twenty twenty twenty two, Like

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Speaker 4: during COVID twenty twenty one. Yeah, it's become very refined.

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Speaker 4: Like when I, like when I first launched it, it

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Speaker 4: was like, right, COVID hit and you know this I

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Speaker 4: was working on like a ninety day bridal boot camp.

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Speaker 3: Yeah I remember.

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Speaker 4: Do you remember this?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I do remember.

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Speaker 1: And I created this.

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Speaker 4: Ninety day bridal boot camp for brides, which by the way,

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Speaker 4: I do have. I just don't advertise it anymore. But

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Speaker 4: that's what started all of it. And at the time,

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Speaker 4: it was because the day to day training was so

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Speaker 4: busy and auditioning that I couldn't manage all of it.

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Speaker 4: So I was like, I'm going to create this online

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Speaker 4: program covid hit. There's no acting going on right and

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Speaker 4: no one's getting married. All venues are shut down. So

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Speaker 4: I was like, I have this skeleton of a program, right,

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Speaker 4: ninety day workout plan cater to at home. You helped

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Speaker 4: me promote this, Yeah, And I literally I taught myself

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Speaker 4: how to build out a pay funnel, how to build

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Speaker 4: a landing page. And I was like, I'm going to

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Speaker 4: use the skeleton of this program and teach like a

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Speaker 4: sanity while stuck at home workout plan a two month special.

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Speaker 4: And I literally utilized Facebook.

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 4: I used Facebook. I created a private community and I

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Speaker 4: launched it and like right off the bad it was

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Speaker 4: look very fortunate. I got like two hundred members.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 4: And I'm like, oh my gosh. I was like, this

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Speaker 4: is something I and you know what the beauty And

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Speaker 4: I was like, I can reach more people than just

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Speaker 4: my day to day clients. I can help more people

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Speaker 4: and make people feel better as a whole versus just

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Speaker 4: you and me day to day, right, And that is

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Speaker 4: that is a fucking gift.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it is how do people sign up or learn

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Speaker 3: about learn more about this?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, well, so like basically through time. Now now I

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Speaker 4: have an app. Now it's all refined. Oh nice, Yeah so,

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Speaker 4: and now it's literally like I do personalized month to

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Speaker 4: month meal plans and workout plans.

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Speaker 3: I can people pick and choose, like if they're like, uh,

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Speaker 3: the package where you you do the workout and meal

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Speaker 3: plan little too steep for me right now.

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Speaker 1: I just want to stick to one or the other.

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Speaker 4: One hundred percent. And of course I always say, you know,

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Speaker 4: depending on what your goals are, nutrition and you know,

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Speaker 4: exercise come hand in hand. But one thousand percent. If

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Speaker 4: someone's like I can only do this part or I

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Speaker 4: already have this routine going and you can find the

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Speaker 4: link on my Instagram Miss Jenna Willis link in bio.

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Speaker 1: Ms Jenna Willis.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think I first myself actually single forever. This

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Speaker 4: might have missed When I eated my Instagram Mandle, I

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Speaker 4: was like, I think I actually you.

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Speaker 3: Maybe should have done m I at.

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Speaker 1: I love it. You guys asked.

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Speaker 3: A lot of questions, so we're going to deep dive

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Speaker 3: into the bonus and answer those with Jenna.

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Speaker 1: Thank you guys so much.

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Speaker 3: For listening to another episode. Thank you, missus Jenna Willis

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Speaker 3: miss and we will catch you on Monday for the

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Speaker 3: bonus and again Wednesday for a regular old episode.

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Speaker 1: Hi guys,