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Speaker 1: I'll take this one, dear blog. So, my sister had

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Speaker 1: a baby yesterday. Mave is here and we're very excited.

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Speaker 1: I think she's done. So she has Polly, who's three,

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Speaker 1: who is now Mayve. I'm going to day to see

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Speaker 1: this little baby. And I've shared this sentiment before. I'm

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Speaker 1: not sure if anyone else can relate to this, But

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Speaker 1: my sister now is successfully married, two kids, got a house.

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Speaker 1: You know, they're living this life together. And I am

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Speaker 1: seven and a half years older than she is, and

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Speaker 1: I have none of that. I have a house, I

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Speaker 1: have a place to live, but I have none of

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Speaker 1: these things. I don't have love, I don't have marriage,

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Speaker 1: I don't have any children. And like, as happy as

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Speaker 1: I am and excited as I am for the things

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Speaker 1: that are happening to her, I feel like they should

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Speaker 1: have already happened for me.

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Speaker 2: And I kind of feel like a loser. No, no,

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Speaker 2: stop it, I'm.

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Speaker 1: Serious, Like does anyone else can anyone else relate to

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Speaker 1: the fact that, Like, but in your case, Paulina, your

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Speaker 1: sister got married after you. You're having a baby before her,

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Speaker 1: Like you're doing things in the right order.

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Speaker 3: But I never compared myself to my sister or my

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Speaker 3: friends or anybody, like, I just want to move on

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Speaker 3: my own timeline, you know what I mean, Like this

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Speaker 3: is what I wanted in my thirties and that's what

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Speaker 3: I'm doing and that's okay, And I feel like your

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Speaker 3: time is gonna come in a different way and that's and.

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Speaker 1: Like, don't get me wrong, I'm not not. This is

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Speaker 1: a separate thought from being very happy of course about

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Speaker 1: it for our family, for them, and I celebrate that

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Speaker 1: for them, but it's hard for me, not like driving

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Speaker 1: away from my sister's wedding with my parents in the

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Speaker 1: uber and I'm just like, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Go home.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know what I mean, Like I don't

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Speaker 1: know these things should have already. I should already done

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Speaker 1: all these things. Now. Granted I shouldn't have because I

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Speaker 1: haven't met the people or the person who I should

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Speaker 1: be doing these things with.

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Speaker 2: And that's in a perfect world.

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Speaker 1: But I'm also like, I mean, imagine if your sister,

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Speaker 1: who's thirteen years younger than Ukalin wit and did.

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Speaker 2: All this stuff. You bet not child bride, she better not.

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Speaker 1: But I mean imagine if she falls in love in college,

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Speaker 1: gets married as a kid, all this happened to the

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Speaker 1: next several years and may it hasn't happened for you yet.

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Speaker 1: Would there is there any part of you that would

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Speaker 1: look at it and go, huh, I would have liked

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Speaker 1: some of those things for me. Not that you're not

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Speaker 1: happy for her, but you begin to reflect then on

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Speaker 1: yourself and be like, man, you know, what must they

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Speaker 1: think like in their house with their family and all

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Speaker 1: all the grown up things they're doing, and they must

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Speaker 1: be like this idiot, Well.

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Speaker 4: You're not a loser. You're not like sitting at home

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Speaker 4: doing nothing. You focus well, I mean you focus on

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Speaker 4: at a young age and look at you now, and

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Speaker 4: you've done so many things.

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Speaker 2: In your life.

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Speaker 4: It's not like you're living at home at your parents'

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Speaker 4: house while your sister's living this grand old life.

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Speaker 1: You've done stuff, You've accomplished, So you're right, different things, right,

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Speaker 1: But so I they I don't. Again, it's not that

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Speaker 1: I don't mean it to come off as negative as

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Speaker 1: it probably sounds, but it is a moment of self

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Speaker 1: reflection when these big life moments happen for other people,

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Speaker 1: because it's kind of like, hmm, you know, from the outside,

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Speaker 1: I'm just the dude who is only like somehow I

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Speaker 1: got to keep myself alive.

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Speaker 2: And that's it.

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Speaker 1: And at this point in my life I should probably,

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Speaker 1: I should probably have a little more to speak for

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Speaker 1: a little more to show for it than I do.

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Speaker 2: Ellen, Hi, good morning, Hi brag. How are you? Can

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Speaker 2: you hear me?

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Speaker 5: Okay?

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Speaker 2: I can.

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Speaker 1: I'm just feeling a little self conscious today, if anything,

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Speaker 1: but not about don't don't roast me, not you, but

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Speaker 1: don't roast me because I'm not not happy. I'm also

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Speaker 1: it's just a moment to look in the mirror and go,

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Speaker 1: oh boy, you know I'm a little behind.

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Speaker 2: Look.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: When I was thirty five, I broke up with a

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Speaker 2: long term relationship. I was so fond my brother too.

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Speaker 3: He's four years younger than me, has two boys, marrying

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Speaker 3: his college sweetheart.

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Speaker 4: Everything was amazing for him, and I was so like,

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Speaker 4: it's never gonna happen for me.

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Speaker 3: Blah blah blah.

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Speaker 2: And you know what, I took a year off, I

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Speaker 2: went to Korea.

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Speaker 4: I came back boom month later, met the man in

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Speaker 4: my dream.

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Speaker 5: I'm forty five now and I have a little girl,

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Speaker 5: and you know what, if it's meant to be, it's

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Speaker 5: meant to be. But I have single friends and they

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Speaker 5: are just as happy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's it.

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Speaker 1: And I think they probably look at my life and go, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know, that's that doesn't look so bad either.

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Speaker 2: So it's not that puppies. I mean, come on, I.

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Speaker 3: Can't do that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I can't.

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Speaker 1: Shut off with some puppies and save them right now,

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Speaker 1: right you could. But you know, if that if that's like,

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Speaker 1: if that's what I go down, is the jet setting

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Speaker 1: puppy guy, that's fine. I guess I could live with it.

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Speaker 1: That's that's it. That's a uh, that's a reputation I

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Speaker 1: can live with. But yeah, all right, and well thank

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Speaker 1: you any congratulations by the way.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh you're fine, You're fine. I have a great day.

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Speaker 2: We love you, love you too. Appreciate it. No, I can't.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's a real but it's a but that's very

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Speaker 5: honest of you to admit that into it, because it's

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Speaker 5: a very real thing.

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 5: In my family, my little brother married to kids, beautiful family,

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Speaker 5: owns his own business, you know, and then as a

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Speaker 5: girl in the family is a lot of pressure. Why

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Speaker 5: you're not married, why you don't Oh good, But like

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Speaker 5: I'm keykey baby, Like I've been I'm busy, I'm doing stuff.

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Speaker 2: It's so are you? So don't feel that, No, it's you.

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Speaker 2: You're reveal, is right.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I definitely have invested in other things, right,

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Speaker 1: But it's it's easy to sort of look at this

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Speaker 1: and go and by the way, what the funny thing is,

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Speaker 1: I'm not even sure if that's the life that I want, right.

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Speaker 1: But at the same time, it's like, I feel like

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Speaker 1: I should have provided these things for my family because

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Speaker 1: like my mom deserves to have a grandkid from me.

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Speaker 1: I probably should have a wife or or someone because again,

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Speaker 1: my mom won't stay up at night wondering if someone's gonna,

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Speaker 1: you know, look out for me. And what It's just

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Speaker 1: things I haven't done that I think I probably should

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Speaker 1: have accomplished. And then I see my younger sister doing

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Speaker 1: all these things successfully, and I'm so happy for her

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Speaker 1: because we want them for her too.

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Speaker 2: But then it's like, man.

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Speaker 5: But you have accomplished things that your mother is so

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Speaker 5: proud of, bro.

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Speaker 4: And also your sister could have six kids, right, you

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Speaker 4: could have one child at sixty. That child is gonna

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Speaker 4: be a child's gonna put everything away everyone.

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Speaker 2: That's a point right, that's an excellent point. More Friendshaw

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Speaker 2: next