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Speaker 1: Hi, and welcome back to the Carol Markowitz Show on iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 1: I'm back home after nearly three weeks on the road.

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Speaker 1: I landed like two am Thursday morning, back from ten

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Speaker 1: days at Hillsdale and a week in Israel before that.

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Speaker 2: I was home for one day in between, and my

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Speaker 2: family also came to visit me at Hillsdale for a weekend.

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Speaker 1: I had really missed everyone a lot. Obviously. My kids

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Speaker 1: are fourteen, eleven, and eight, so in a lot of

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Speaker 1: ways they're self sufficient, but they still need me in

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Speaker 1: so many other ways, and I love being needed. Obviously,

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Speaker 1: my husband has been exceedingly understanding about what I've needed

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Speaker 1: to do in the last year plus really since my

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Speaker 1: book came out last March, and.

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Speaker 3: It was very nice to be back with him.

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Speaker 1: He's just my favorite.

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Speaker 2: But this isn't a month about how much I love

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Speaker 2: my family, though I do, or how much I missed them,

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Speaker 2: which I did. On Friday, I ran errands around my

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Speaker 2: community and I just drove around with a huge smile

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Speaker 2: on my face. I was so so happy to be

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Speaker 2: home in Florida. Mean, look, I loved New York when

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Speaker 2: I lived there.

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Speaker 3: I did.

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Speaker 2: It was home in every way I grew up in Brooklyn,

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Speaker 1: And even now when I was in Michigan, I'd say

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Speaker 1: to my husband, you know when I get back home

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Speaker 1: to New York, and he'd say, we don't live there anymore.

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Speaker 1: Or I saw that New York had flooding at the

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Speaker 1: and I said to my husband.

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Speaker 2: Will your flights get out okay? And he was like, Uh, yeah,

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Speaker 2: they'll get out fine. From Florida. New York is a

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Speaker 2: hard habit to break, really, but being in Florida isn't

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Speaker 2: all around just relaxer. Yes, the sunshine, the weather, the

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Speaker 2: happy people, all of it really helps, but it's really

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Speaker 2: still even two years in that I'm so grateful that

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Speaker 2: we get to have a normal life here. I feel

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Speaker 2: like a genius every single day in so many different ways.

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Speaker 2: Like we left because of COVID, but there's so much

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Speaker 2: that's going on now that I'm just so happy to

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Speaker 2: about moving on this show because the last four years

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Speaker 2: have been this great migration in this country, as so

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Speaker 2: many people move from blue states to red ones. Our

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Speaker 2: move to Florida remains one of the absolute best things

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Speaker 2: I've ever done. I'm still so grateful to be here,

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Speaker 2: so blessed that it was an option, and I don't

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Speaker 2: take for granted, not even for one second, how lucky

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Speaker 2: we are to be in the free state of Florida.

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Speaker 1: I loved New York.

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Speaker 2: But did it ever give me a sense of peace

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Speaker 2: and calm and security from the outside world.

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Speaker 1: No. It gave me a lot, but not that. And

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Speaker 1: I know there are people listening who would say, yes,

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Speaker 1: New York makes me feel safe in a crazy world.

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Speaker 3: And that's fine, that's good.

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Speaker 1: But if you live somewhere that does not give you

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Speaker 1: security that you know you should feel at home, think

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Speaker 1: about leaving. It's hard, but I can't tell you how

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Speaker 1: good it feels to be free. Coming up next and

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Speaker 1: interview with Katrina Trinko. Join us after the break. Welcome

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Speaker 1: back to the Carol Markowitz Show on iHeartRadio. My guest

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Speaker 1: today is Kate Trinko, editor in chief of The Daily Signal.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Kate, Hey, Carol, thanks for having me on.

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Speaker 1: It's so nice to see you. So I reached out

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Speaker 1: to you for this podcast. I think you're a fantastic writer.

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Speaker 1: I've been reading you for years, but I reached out

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Speaker 1: specifically because you had this piece in February called Dating

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Speaker 1: Crisis Fuels Marriage Crisis. And on this show we talk

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Speaker 1: a lot about marriage, we talk a lot about dating,

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Speaker 1: and you wrote some really interesting things in that piece

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Speaker 1: that I think resonated with a lot of people. I'm

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Speaker 1: going to read just one thing you wrote. As an

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Speaker 1: unmarried woman in my thirties, I also realized there's no

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Speaker 1: quick fix to the situation, which is people not getting married,

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Speaker 1: and that married Americans are often unaware of how bleak

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Speaker 1: the current dating landscape can be. Ultimately, if we're going

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Speaker 1: to have more healthy marriages, we need to change our

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Speaker 3: Tell us about it.

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Speaker 1: What do we need to change?

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Speaker 3: I want to get on it.

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Speaker 4: Well, where do I start? No, I think some of

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Speaker 4: it first. Well, let me be clear, sometimes singles are

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Speaker 4: a little too picky. I myself have been too picky, and.

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Speaker 1: I don't think there's anything wrong with being too picky.

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Speaker 1: I don't know this is key about what, but this

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Speaker 3: I'm picky is good.

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Speaker 1: I don't know the being too picky is never one

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Speaker 1: you know. I I think that being picky and being

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Speaker 3: Settling is good. So be picky, do it?

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Speaker 4: You know? Well, let me give an example of what

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Speaker 4: I mean by my pickyness. I'm five nine. One time

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Speaker 4: was local. We agreed on a lot of, you know,

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Speaker 4: Could there be chemistry and one day? That's That's what

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Speaker 4: I mean. I generally agree with you, though certainly no

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Speaker 4: one should go to the altar say I'm going to

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Speaker 4: be with you forever and be like, but I hate

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Speaker 4: this this and this about you?

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 3: Are settled for you? Like, that's not not where you

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Speaker 4: Yeah, absolutely not. In terms of fixing the culture, I think,

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Speaker 4: pressure on married folks like you, But you know, if

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Speaker 4: married people and I know you've talked about this on

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Speaker 4: to just stimulate meetings. I think that's one thing that

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Speaker 4: Husbands have male friends. You know, let's get them in

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Speaker 4: be good on dating apps. That might sound a little weird,

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Speaker 4: have to tell someone you've been out with twice when

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Speaker 4: So that would be a good start.

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Speaker 1: Well, are there differences between the dating apps? Are theyre

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Speaker 4: That is it depends on what you're looking for. I

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Speaker 1: Like the commercials for like e harmony really get me.

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Speaker 1: I've Also, you know, there's the I think it's called

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Speaker 1: never married dating, you know, website, website or app or

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Speaker 1: I also a lot of it is luck. It's it's

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Speaker 1: And I think the luck component is overlooked and if

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Speaker 4: Does that make you popular on DCPA? No, But someone

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Speaker 1: Beat is not necessarily dating. What else do you write about?

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Speaker 4: Oh gosh, I write about all kinds of things. One

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Speaker 4: of the things that I love about the daily signals

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Speaker 4: we can write about different cultural issues. So you know,

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Speaker 4: the past few months, I read a book on polyamory,

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Speaker 3: Good, my favorite thing right now.

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Speaker 1: I'm telling everybody about it, Bad Therapy, Abigail Sreyer, amazing

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Speaker 4: What did you think of it?

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Speaker 1: I thought it was fantastic, And you know, there's so

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Speaker 1: in this world, right We're in this like politically conservative world.

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Speaker 1: fight back on all these things. But even Abigail says

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Speaker 1: Of the idea of standing up for your kids and

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Speaker 1: It's interesting because I used to think that Israel's high

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Speaker 1: Yes, and they have if they do have them, they

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Speaker 4: And I don't know the answer there, but it seems

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Speaker 1: I think the being bored or letting your kids be bored,

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Speaker 1: like showing them what boredom looks like, is a really

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Speaker 1: important thing that we don't talk about enough. Kids should

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Speaker 3: Minute of the day.

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Speaker 1: You have to sometimes just let your mind wander and

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Speaker 4: So I think you should turn that into a book.

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Speaker 1: No, They're like, no, thanks, I'm out of the book

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Speaker 4: I just I could see like all these morning talk

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Speaker 1: The book that I wanted to write, or that I

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Speaker 1: like lazy parenting is the best parenting, the.

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Speaker 3: Letting your kids kind of.

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Speaker 1: You know, do whatever and not whatever and not what's greens,

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Speaker 1: especially because I like I was thinking about this before

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Speaker 4: No, I think that would be a really cool concept

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Speaker 4: because yeah, I sometimes see you know, moms these days,

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Speaker 4: and you know, it's just sometimes it feels like it's, yeah,

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Speaker 4: just an awful lot of work.

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Speaker 3: It is.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I may make it more than it needs to be.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and well, anyway, I don't want to speak at

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Speaker 4: because they're like, oh, it's the only way to parents, right,

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Speaker 4: and yeah.

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Speaker 1: Tim Carney was on the show talking about that in

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Speaker 1: his new books.

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Speaker 3: So you know, it's I think it's.

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Speaker 1: Okay to say, like, take it easy, don't parent quite

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Speaker 1: so hard.

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Speaker 3: So end here with.

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Speaker 1: Your best tip for my listeners on how they can

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Speaker 1: improve their lives.

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Speaker 4: So it is a tip that I don't fully follow

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Speaker 4: myself so full.

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Speaker 1: That's kind of tipt off your phone.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I've I've this lens. I'm doing a fast from Reddit,

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Speaker 4: where I love reading other people's trauma and the moral

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Speaker 4: analysis and I miss it. But I also am like, Oh,

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Speaker 4: it's giving me time to be bored, to be engaged

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Speaker 4: with real people. And I think, I think a lot

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Speaker 4: of our phone and internet consumption is junk food. It's

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Speaker 4: simulation of relationships. And I think not anti technology. You know,

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Speaker 4: I met you through the internet. I write for a

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Speaker 4: site that's all digital, But I do think the amount

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Speaker 4: of time we spend, Like sometimes I just look up

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Speaker 4: for my phone and look at a cloud and I'm like,

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Speaker 4: oh wow, look at that. Right.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree, touch grass very important. Get off your phone.

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Speaker 1: I don't always succeed either, but it's something that I

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Speaker 1: absolutely aim for.

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much for coming on. She is Kate Trinko.

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Speaker 1: Look for her at Daily Signal and her novel is

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Speaker 1: coming out.

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Speaker 3: Two years from now, let's say two years right now.

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Speaker 1: Thanks Kate, Thanks Caeryl, Thanks so much for joining us

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Speaker 1: on the Carol Marcowitz Show. Subscribe wherever you get your podcasts.