WEBVTT - Conversations with Cherie Healey 0:00:02.160 --> 0:00:06.680 This is Conversations with Olivia Jade and I heart radio podcast. 0:00:09.720 --> 0:00:14.280 What's Up, everybody? Welcome back to another episode of Conversations. 0:00:14.640 --> 0:00:18.200 I'm very excited for today's episode because she's been on 0:00:18.200 --> 0:00:22.960 the podcast before. Her name is Sharie Healy. I'm sure 0:00:23.440 --> 0:00:26.119 if you listen to that episode that she was on, 0:00:26.239 --> 0:00:28.680 you will know exactly who I'm talking about, because she 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:32.800 is an incredible woman and she calls herself a possibilitarian, 0:00:32.840 --> 0:00:36.199 where she just believes basically anything is possible. But she 0:00:36.400 --> 0:00:40.840 also backs up a lot of her beliefs with science 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:44.800 and factual things and also things that I've worked for 0:00:44.840 --> 0:00:47.800 her and her clients, and she just gives us a 0:00:47.840 --> 0:00:50.440 lot of knowledge and I think hope. So with that 0:00:50.520 --> 0:00:57.320 all being said, please welcome Sharie. Hello, Sharie, how are you? 0:00:58.480 --> 0:01:01.400 I'm so good. It's great to be back with you. 0:01:01.560 --> 0:01:04.000 I'm so happy you're back on the podcast. You're by 0:01:04.000 --> 0:01:06.960 far one of my favorite guests to have because I 0:01:07.000 --> 0:01:09.720 feel like we have such great conversation and then I 0:01:09.760 --> 0:01:12.119 also get to walk away from the podcast and feel 0:01:12.160 --> 0:01:17.560 a little bit better mentally. So I'm so excited. Um. 0:01:17.600 --> 0:01:20.160 But for those you've been on the podcast before, if 0:01:20.200 --> 0:01:23.440 you guys haven't listened to that episode, I highly encourage it. 0:01:23.600 --> 0:01:27.200 But if you haven't, you probably also don't know who 0:01:27.200 --> 0:01:29.240 I'm talking to today. So will you give them a 0:01:29.319 --> 0:01:32.720 little bit of background as to who you are. Yeah, 0:01:32.880 --> 0:01:36.160 my name is Shri Healy and I call myself a possibilitarian, 0:01:36.480 --> 0:01:40.360 which is another word for being a Board certified life 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:45.640 and leadership coach. And my goal really simply in life 0:01:45.640 --> 0:01:47.319 why I'm here on the planet is to make sure 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:50.160 that everybody has the time of their lives being here. 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:55.400 And how would you say you do that? I do 0:01:55.480 --> 0:01:58.600 it through all kinds of ways. I really focus in 0:01:58.840 --> 0:02:01.400 on helping people who want to make a difference in 0:02:01.400 --> 0:02:03.800 the world. Those seem to be my peeps, want to 0:02:03.880 --> 0:02:08.120 leave an impact in some way, do that and enjoy 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:11.080 the ride. So I think joy is at the center 0:02:11.120 --> 0:02:13.680 of everything that I do. That when we can really 0:02:13.720 --> 0:02:18.160 answer these questions in life that bring us joy, Who 0:02:18.200 --> 0:02:20.160 am I, what am I here to do, and who 0:02:20.160 --> 0:02:24.440 am I doing it with, then we can really live 0:02:24.560 --> 0:02:27.880 the sweet life and go for our dreams. And I 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:31.119 do that really through individuals you know who are like you, 0:02:31.320 --> 0:02:34.160 who want to cause some positive impact in the world, 0:02:34.240 --> 0:02:38.920 and organizations because I'm really interested in really finding a 0:02:38.919 --> 0:02:41.240 better way to do what we're here to do in life. 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:44.520 We spend ninety hours at our jobs, and right now 0:02:44.680 --> 0:02:48.160 people are not doing well coming back to work. So 0:02:48.200 --> 0:02:51.520 I'm working with organizations to help them really do what 0:02:51.560 --> 0:02:54.800 they're here to do at the highest levels better. What 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:57.680 would you tell somebody? Because I relate to like the 0:02:57.720 --> 0:03:00.519 feeling of being lost a little bit sometimes, and I'm 0:03:00.560 --> 0:03:03.440 curious if someone were to come to you and say, well, 0:03:03.480 --> 0:03:05.120 I don't know who I am, and I don't know 0:03:05.160 --> 0:03:07.040 what brings me joy, and I don't know how to 0:03:07.080 --> 0:03:10.600 be helpful. What's something you would tell them? Oh, it's 0:03:10.680 --> 0:03:14.000 my favorite topic because I think I spent my whole 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:17.400 life since I was a tiny kid, Like my farthest 0:03:17.400 --> 0:03:19.720 back memory was laying in bed at like three years old, 0:03:20.080 --> 0:03:23.679 trying to answer those questions. Right. My parents like sent 0:03:23.760 --> 0:03:26.600 me to the priests at the church to try to 0:03:26.600 --> 0:03:29.840 figure this stuff out. And I've spent my whole life 0:03:30.080 --> 0:03:33.960 trying to answer that. So I've I've talked to all 0:03:33.960 --> 0:03:37.000 the great stages and scholars and philosophers and read all 0:03:37.040 --> 0:03:39.720 the books, and so I like to shortcut the process 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:43.200 for people, and I think we've overcomplicated it. We overthink 0:03:43.240 --> 0:03:45.800 it to the mp degree, and it has a lot 0:03:45.840 --> 0:03:48.560 of us feel lost and stuck right now, especially right now. 0:03:49.440 --> 0:03:52.040 So there's a really cool process that I love to 0:03:52.080 --> 0:03:56.120 take people through, which is asking some really provocative questions 0:03:56.760 --> 0:03:59.440 that get at your truth. And we could do some 0:03:59.520 --> 0:04:03.240 of that, you and me. You know. Yeah, it's easier 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:07.280 than we think. And I think there's like doorways to 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:09.440 this that are right, you know, at the end of 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:12.440 our nose that we're too close to ourselves to see. 0:04:12.960 --> 0:04:15.880 And so to have the reflection from someone else, like 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:19.000 a coach or somebody who loves you, you know, can 0:04:19.040 --> 0:04:22.279 really remind us of those essential things of what we're 0:04:22.320 --> 0:04:26.359 here to do and be so that we're not lost. 0:04:27.040 --> 0:04:30.640 And I'll demystify the whole thing before we start by saying, 0:04:30.800 --> 0:04:33.039 I think in all of my searching and all of 0:04:33.040 --> 0:04:35.400 the thousands of people that I've worked with in my career, 0:04:36.480 --> 0:04:39.880 I think that we have a shared universal purpose, every 0:04:39.920 --> 0:04:42.880 single person who takes a body. And I've tested this 0:04:43.920 --> 0:04:47.200 with young people, with this new generation that gives me 0:04:47.279 --> 0:04:49.000 so much hope for the world of which you are 0:04:49.040 --> 0:04:52.760 a part, and I've tested it with all kinds of 0:04:52.880 --> 0:04:55.640 leaders and people in positions of power, and no one 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:58.440 can argue it that at the bottom of the day, 0:04:58.760 --> 0:05:00.719 we are all here for the same two reasons, to 0:05:00.800 --> 0:05:03.839 experience love and joy. You want to be happy, We 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:06.480 want to be loved. I've read a lot of like 0:05:06.560 --> 0:05:09.560 self help books, i would say, in the last few months, 0:05:09.640 --> 0:05:13.159 especially since the last time we've talked, and a lot 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:16.080 of them have like a common theme, which is I 0:05:16.120 --> 0:05:19.400 would say, like you are your human experience, like you 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:21.480 are built, and you are made of love and light, 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:24.040 and you are like I mean, some of them are 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:26.679 really spiritual and saying stuff of like you are God 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:29.080 or whatever that higher power is, Like that's like a 0:05:29.160 --> 0:05:33.000 part of you. Do you do you believe in this 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:35.839 type of thing? And is that something you like incorporate 0:05:35.839 --> 0:05:38.720 into your practice because also I've seen in these books 0:05:38.760 --> 0:05:42.680 a lot of authors talk about how my generation specifically 0:05:42.720 --> 0:05:46.359 and kind of these newer generations we don't practice religion 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:49.520 as much, and and that kind of not that that's 0:05:49.520 --> 0:05:52.560 a bad thing, but it does like when you're practicing 0:05:52.560 --> 0:05:55.080 religion and you have like something to look towards, that 0:05:55.160 --> 0:05:58.040 comfortability being like, Okay, there is a higher power taking 0:05:58.040 --> 0:06:00.400 care of me. So much of us don't that. And 0:06:00.480 --> 0:06:03.880 I'm not super religious either, so I often think I'm like, 0:06:04.160 --> 0:06:06.000 do I need to go do something like that and 0:06:06.080 --> 0:06:08.720 like insert myself in a church and be like, Okay, 0:06:08.800 --> 0:06:11.039 somebody of a higher power has got me, because I 0:06:11.080 --> 0:06:14.039 do feel like sometimes you just hit a point where 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:17.920 you're like, okay, what the like, how does this get better? Oh? Woman? 0:06:18.120 --> 0:06:20.719 We could talk about this for days and days and 0:06:20.800 --> 0:06:22.760 days and days for the rest of our days. And 0:06:23.200 --> 0:06:26.039 this has been one of my most interesting questions in life, 0:06:26.080 --> 0:06:29.919 that very question. You know, who am I? And is 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:32.880 there a higher power? What is this whole world all about? 0:06:33.480 --> 0:06:37.760 And this is my understanding. So anyone who's listening can 0:06:37.800 --> 0:06:40.080 just try this on. I think I've always been taught 0:06:40.160 --> 0:06:43.480 don't take anything on blind faith. You know, test it 0:06:43.480 --> 0:06:45.600 with your own body, See if it gives you the chills, 0:06:45.600 --> 0:06:47.600 see if it feels right and it resonates with your 0:06:47.600 --> 0:06:51.120 own knowing. So I've studied all of it. I was 0:06:51.200 --> 0:06:56.040 raised Catholic, um I did not agree with a lot 0:06:56.080 --> 0:06:58.760 of things I was taught in that religion, and that 0:06:58.880 --> 0:07:01.159 had me sort of moved beyond it. I think it 0:07:01.200 --> 0:07:03.920 gave me an incredible spiritual foundation. And I think there's 0:07:03.960 --> 0:07:08.440 so many people that find exactly what they need in religion. 0:07:09.040 --> 0:07:11.520 So religion is there for that purpose, you know, to 0:07:11.600 --> 0:07:17.000 create community and ritual around connecting to something that I found. 0:07:17.040 --> 0:07:20.600 All religions land on His love. So anything that's here 0:07:20.640 --> 0:07:23.440 to explore love, I'm about, you know. I think that 0:07:23.440 --> 0:07:26.880 that's that's where all, like all the theology studies I've done, 0:07:26.920 --> 0:07:29.680 say that all these traditions are really in search of 0:07:29.720 --> 0:07:33.280 the same thing. Whether or not they remind you that 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:36.600 you are love is the question for me, as are 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:40.640 they all wildly empowering. I didn't like that some of 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:45.360 them told me that I needed an intermediary two, some 0:07:45.520 --> 0:07:51.280 higher understanding or some divine source or some power out there, 0:07:51.440 --> 0:07:53.800 that I needed to go through someone else to get 0:07:53.800 --> 0:07:56.800 that because something around me was inherently wrong or less than. 0:07:57.360 --> 0:07:59.560 I don't believe that, And I think you can be 0:07:59.640 --> 0:08:03.280 spirit told religious or not. You could be completely atheistic. 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:08.000 And the truth of it is, you don't need Olivia 0:08:08.120 --> 0:08:10.520 to go to a church to get what you want. 0:08:10.560 --> 0:08:13.160 You could, you could explore it. But what I think 0:08:13.240 --> 0:08:15.200 is most ascensile is for each one of us to 0:08:15.280 --> 0:08:18.200 know that we were put on this planet for a 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:24.000 reason that your body, your being was perfect when it arrived. 0:08:24.640 --> 0:08:29.280 It's deeply encoded with gifts and wisdom and unique things. 0:08:29.320 --> 0:08:31.560 Like in indigenous traditions they teach that you have an 0:08:31.560 --> 0:08:35.880 original medicine that only you can give and that if 0:08:35.920 --> 0:08:38.760 not shared, is lost to the world forever. And when 0:08:38.760 --> 0:08:41.480 I heard that, I was like, what a goddamn tragedy 0:08:41.559 --> 0:08:43.520 that would be if we all died with our music 0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:46.760 still in us, Like there's something that only Olivia Jade 0:08:46.760 --> 0:08:52.960 can do here and what I know, Well, I want 0:08:52.960 --> 0:08:55.240 to show you a visual but we could maybe we 0:08:55.280 --> 0:08:57.520 could talk about it and everybody can kind of visualize it, 0:08:57.559 --> 0:08:59.959 because this is how I make it really simple. I please, 0:09:00.000 --> 0:09:02.720 I need it, yeah, and it'll take the pressure off. 0:09:03.400 --> 0:09:07.480 So the what is okay if I recognize that something 0:09:07.520 --> 0:09:09.640 about me is here for a reason, that I am 0:09:10.120 --> 0:09:14.080 uniquely empowered to do something on this planet, and if 0:09:14.120 --> 0:09:16.679 that is just simply walk around the planet lit up 0:09:16.720 --> 0:09:20.480 and having the time of your life, like rocking, going 0:09:20.640 --> 0:09:22.439 and doing all the things that only you want to do, 0:09:22.640 --> 0:09:26.280 and your give off is joy, You're doing a great 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:28.920 service on the planet, you know what I mean? Like, 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:30.679 that's how I want to just go if at the 0:09:30.800 --> 0:09:34.559 very bottom, imagine a triangle. The bottom of the triangles 0:09:34.600 --> 0:09:38.400 are universal shared purpose. We are all no matter what 0:09:38.559 --> 0:09:42.320 color our skin, how we identify where we are from 0:09:42.360 --> 0:09:45.760 here to experience love and joy. And I would save freedom, 0:09:45.800 --> 0:09:48.960 the freedom to experience love and joy. And so we 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:52.760 can find that we are more comment more more similar 0:09:52.760 --> 0:09:55.439 and have more things in common than we are different 0:09:55.760 --> 0:09:58.439 at that level. But then we go up the triangle 0:09:59.240 --> 0:10:01.360 and the next leve well, I think is this original 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:04.719 medicine or essence I would call it, Like in a 0:10:04.760 --> 0:10:06.480 lot of my work, I'm trying to find what is 0:10:06.520 --> 0:10:10.000 your essence that only you can be used for. It's 0:10:10.000 --> 0:10:12.840 the greatest career strategy, Like right now, I mean, we 0:10:12.880 --> 0:10:14.600 could really go in and sort of figure out what 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:17.320 your essence is, but I think you're living it doing 0:10:17.360 --> 0:10:21.440 this podcast. In a lot of ways, you're in your truth, 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:25.160 in your humanity, on your journey where you are giving 0:10:25.400 --> 0:10:29.120 that to the world. And so that's the unique gift. 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:33.800 And I'll just cut to minus. Celebration like a party 0:10:33.840 --> 0:10:35.960 on legs and I always have them. I want to 0:10:36.000 --> 0:10:38.560 hang a string of lights on everything. And for a 0:10:38.600 --> 0:10:41.079 long time I was put down for it, I'm blond, 0:10:41.440 --> 0:10:45.960 I'd be called naive, you know, silly, like calm down, lady, 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:48.840 because I'm really excited to be alive. Doesn't mean that 0:10:48.880 --> 0:10:52.240 every day I have is good. But ultimately that's my 0:10:52.320 --> 0:10:55.240 purpose is to help people enjoy their lives. That's why 0:10:55.280 --> 0:10:58.280 I say enjoy the ride, right. No one ever got 0:10:58.360 --> 0:11:00.319 in the water to serve to have a bad time, 0:11:00.360 --> 0:11:02.319 And that's like my metaphor for life is we're here 0:11:02.320 --> 0:11:04.520 to have a good time. Yes, it's gonna be hard, 0:11:05.200 --> 0:11:08.160 being an Earth school is really harder than ever I 0:11:08.200 --> 0:11:11.960 think right now, But ultimately we're all here to experience 0:11:12.480 --> 0:11:15.320 the joy of being alive. And so that's the second level, 0:11:15.360 --> 0:11:17.520 and then we get up to so we've got universal 0:11:17.520 --> 0:11:21.640 shared purpose, original medicine or essence, and then you've got 0:11:21.679 --> 0:11:26.520 your higher purpose. So what your unique higher purpose would 0:11:26.520 --> 0:11:30.600 be is very wide. You could do ten million different 0:11:30.720 --> 0:11:34.400 jobs on the planet and still be fulfilling your highest purpose. 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:37.400 So my purpose is to help people make the world 0:11:37.400 --> 0:11:40.760 a better place and enjoy the right. I could do 0:11:40.800 --> 0:11:44.400 that by being a UPS driver. My UPS driver is 0:11:44.440 --> 0:11:46.440 literally making the world a better place. Every time he 0:11:46.480 --> 0:11:49.280 comes down the street, he's barreling with like music at 0:11:49.720 --> 0:11:53.360 volume eleven, having the time of life, you know, and 0:11:53.400 --> 0:11:57.720 he's he's contagious, he's causing great vibes in the world. 0:11:58.120 --> 0:12:00.120 So I could do it in a million different way. 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:04.440 Is but I've chosen to be this possibilitarian force for 0:12:04.520 --> 0:12:07.520 good helping other people who want to do good as 0:12:07.520 --> 0:12:10.880 a coach right now and may change someday, you know, 0:12:11.800 --> 0:12:14.320 but I'm now cool with who I am and what 0:12:14.360 --> 0:12:16.760 I'm here to do right And then I choose community 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:20.160 who I'm doing it with great other people who want 0:12:20.160 --> 0:12:24.199 to cause impact, you know, incredible human beings who want 0:12:24.200 --> 0:12:27.280 to read all the self help books like me, you know, 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:29.960 and people who are fun who want to enjoy the 0:12:30.040 --> 0:12:33.320 ride and have a great And then I can walk 0:12:33.360 --> 0:12:36.920 around like I'm clear about my personal brand and what 0:12:36.960 --> 0:12:39.040 I'm here to do right. So I don't feel lost 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:42.640 right now on some days though I do because I'm like, 0:12:43.280 --> 0:12:45.839 who am I supposed to work with? Next? Is this 0:12:46.000 --> 0:12:47.640 still as much as I could do? I should have 0:12:47.679 --> 0:12:51.840 a podcast like Olivia. I'm still holding back myself, you know, 0:12:52.120 --> 0:12:55.800 things like that's relatable to me because when you said 0:12:55.840 --> 0:12:58.000 you're when I when you said like back like your 0:12:58.040 --> 0:13:01.080 thing the podcast, like back, I'm The first thought I 0:13:01.120 --> 0:13:04.160 had was Okay, I see what she's saying. But what 0:13:04.240 --> 0:13:07.200 if I feel like, yeah, this happened to happen. I 0:13:07.240 --> 0:13:09.880 have a podcast. I like doing it. That's cool, But like, 0:13:10.160 --> 0:13:12.400 what if I don't see it as like, oh, this 0:13:12.480 --> 0:13:14.760 is like this is helping somebody else or that, Like 0:13:14.840 --> 0:13:16.960 I've never thought about it that way. I've never thought 0:13:16.960 --> 0:13:19.839 about it like this is my purpose, this is my journey, 0:13:20.080 --> 0:13:21.760 you know what I mean. So I'm just like the 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:24.640 ups man. He probably doesn't think about when he's blasting 0:13:24.720 --> 0:13:27.880 music that he's like creating good vibrations in the world. 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:32.560 So I'm just it just I get I get what 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:35.160 you're saying, and I want to get to the point 0:13:35.160 --> 0:13:37.560 where I'm like, have your brain where that's what I 0:13:37.559 --> 0:13:39.920 truly believe. But I just feel like for so many people, 0:13:39.960 --> 0:13:43.320 including myself, it's it's hard to get to that. I 0:13:43.320 --> 0:13:45.679 think it's a decision you have to make, right. It's 0:13:45.679 --> 0:13:48.600 an awareness. Like all of my work kind of it 0:13:48.640 --> 0:13:52.679 falls into three areas. We're working on self awareness, well being, 0:13:53.080 --> 0:13:55.240 and connection. I think these are the three things that 0:13:55.240 --> 0:13:58.240 would have us really be like having the great life. Right. 0:13:58.600 --> 0:14:00.880 So if your self awareness gets to a place where 0:14:00.920 --> 0:14:04.280 you go, you know what, for right now on my journey, 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:08.920 I am doing something that is on purpose. You know 0:14:09.200 --> 0:14:11.839 then that's just a choice and a mindset you have. 0:14:12.559 --> 0:14:15.360 Is it the thing you're gonna do forever? Probably not. 0:14:15.920 --> 0:14:18.120 We could have a million different careers at this point 0:14:18.240 --> 0:14:22.320 in human history, and we should, and so let's do 0:14:22.360 --> 0:14:24.720 this today. Let's let's ask a question that I'd love 0:14:24.760 --> 0:14:27.800 for everybody to answer. I don't think I asked this 0:14:27.880 --> 0:14:30.680 of you the last time we were together. If I 0:14:30.800 --> 0:14:33.920 put you on the top of a mountain and I 0:14:34.000 --> 0:14:36.880 gave you this big megaphone like your microphone right now, 0:14:36.960 --> 0:14:38.840 or you could reach the whole world and tell them 0:14:38.880 --> 0:14:44.600 one thing, what would you tell them first thing that 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:47.360 comes to your mind. First thing that came to mind 0:14:47.440 --> 0:14:49.880 was the words it's going to be okay. But I 0:14:49.960 --> 0:14:53.800 don't know if I necessarily believe that of my like 0:14:54.200 --> 0:14:57.520 I think that expression like easier said than done run 0:14:57.760 --> 0:15:00.560 so true and everything I like preach and talk about 0:15:00.600 --> 0:15:04.520 and like want to believe because I feel like at 0:15:04.520 --> 0:15:06.920 one point I would have said, like everything will be okay, 0:15:06.960 --> 0:15:08.960 everything will work out, And that's like the message I'd 0:15:08.960 --> 0:15:12.600 like to tell people because I do believe that for others. 0:15:13.560 --> 0:15:17.120 Why am I so hard on myself? Then? Okay, get this. 0:15:17.520 --> 0:15:20.840 My mountaintop message is bring it. The world needs you. 0:15:21.320 --> 0:15:24.040 That's my tagline. If anybody goes to Shari Hille dot com, 0:15:24.120 --> 0:15:25.800 they will see that that is what I'm here for. 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:29.160 Do you think I'm fully bringing it every day? And no, 0:15:30.120 --> 0:15:33.840 I am not on the TikTok not. I haven't wadden 0:15:33.880 --> 0:15:37.600 my book yet. It's not something that I've nailed. But 0:15:37.680 --> 0:15:41.240 it's what I'm here for, which ultimately is my is 0:15:41.280 --> 0:15:43.840 related to my you know, it's my essence, my higher purpose. 0:15:44.240 --> 0:15:48.120 I'm giving what I'm also here to learn and I 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:50.920 think you are too. So that question really gets at 0:15:51.000 --> 0:15:53.640 it starts to get at the essence for each of us, 0:15:54.040 --> 0:15:56.880 what your original medicine might be. So think about it. 0:15:56.920 --> 0:16:00.160 What's the flavor of everything's going to be okay, it's 0:16:00.200 --> 0:16:04.360 all going to be okay? Is it reassurance? Is it encouragement? Like? 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:09.320 What what's the word that you're ultimately giving. I think 0:16:10.400 --> 0:16:12.640 that's a tough question. I think for me, that's the 0:16:12.720 --> 0:16:16.240 first thing that came to mind because it's something I 0:16:16.280 --> 0:16:20.480 constantly try to remind myself especially. I think it's interesting 0:16:20.520 --> 0:16:24.800 for me because over the last few years, obviously my 0:16:26.080 --> 0:16:28.920 mindset and a lot has changed because of stuff that 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:32.880 has happened. But I feel like right now, like three 0:16:32.960 --> 0:16:35.040 years later, like not when I was going through all 0:16:35.040 --> 0:16:37.160 the and like figuring it out in the moment, it's 0:16:37.200 --> 0:16:39.800 like after and maybe that's just like normal and your 0:16:39.800 --> 0:16:42.120 body just needs time to process and then like you 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:44.360 have to work through that type of stuff later in life. 0:16:45.080 --> 0:16:48.040 But I just feel like right now I'm harder on 0:16:48.160 --> 0:16:51.040 myself than I've ever been, and I'm more just at 0:16:51.040 --> 0:16:55.200 a point where I'm like, well, like I'm telling myself 0:16:55.240 --> 0:16:56.600 like it's gonna be okay and things are going to 0:16:56.680 --> 0:16:59.520 work out, because I truly want to believe that, But 0:16:59.560 --> 0:17:01.800 then there's such a big part of me that's also like, 0:17:02.600 --> 0:17:04.760 well is that true? Like our thing is going to 0:17:04.840 --> 0:17:06.719 be okay? And are you doing the right thing? And 0:17:06.720 --> 0:17:10.560 and like I don't know. It's so conflicting, Yeah it is, 0:17:10.680 --> 0:17:13.600 but it's exactly what everybody needs to hear, don't you 0:17:13.680 --> 0:17:15.720 think right now at this moment in the world, there 0:17:15.760 --> 0:17:19.439 is more uncertainty than ever to be someone on the 0:17:19.480 --> 0:17:23.000 planet who could just be a voice for you know 0:17:23.080 --> 0:17:26.440 what we're going to get through this to be okay. 0:17:26.480 --> 0:17:28.920 That's what every single one of us needs to hear 0:17:29.000 --> 0:17:31.840 right now now, whether or not you believe it, this 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:34.640 is where we can go back to, like the spirituality 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:39.360 you're you're giving a message of faith and trust, safety 0:17:39.480 --> 0:17:44.760 and hope. You know that ultimately is going to be shaky. 0:17:44.840 --> 0:17:48.359 Some days We're all going to get shaky. Things happen 0:17:48.440 --> 0:17:50.680 to us. It's like my metaphor for life of surfing. 0:17:51.000 --> 0:17:53.560 Sometimes you go out there, the waves are great, sometimes 0:17:53.600 --> 0:17:55.639 they don't come at all. Sometimes they take you down. 0:17:57.480 --> 0:18:00.440 It's not it's not that I think the nature of 0:18:00.480 --> 0:18:04.679 the universe is uncertainty. But we need certainty too. We 0:18:04.760 --> 0:18:09.800 need both and and you're a message of something to 0:18:09.840 --> 0:18:13.640 hold onto. You know that ultimately, if we can believe 0:18:14.200 --> 0:18:17.280 that everything is going to be okay on any given day, 0:18:17.400 --> 0:18:20.639 it allows us to just think of the domino effect 0:18:20.640 --> 0:18:22.760 of it. If I say, in this moment, I'm going 0:18:22.800 --> 0:18:26.000 to believe that the world is conspiring for me, that 0:18:26.080 --> 0:18:29.119 there is a good force out there that is for me, 0:18:30.119 --> 0:18:32.360 and everything has been okay. Like, look at what you've 0:18:32.359 --> 0:18:35.159 been through. You've survived some things, right, are you okay, 0:18:35.640 --> 0:18:43.320 you have evidence that everything does rocking. Being a human, 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:46.439 you know that some this teaching that I love is 0:18:46.520 --> 0:18:51.400 at a deep level of our being. We are always okay, 0:18:52.320 --> 0:18:55.520 deeply okay, you know. So if you just play with 0:18:55.560 --> 0:18:57.639 that for a moment, you say today, I'm just going 0:18:57.680 --> 0:19:00.680 to run with it, all kinds of good things come 0:19:00.720 --> 0:19:03.879 from it. Your nervous system stays calm, you're probably a 0:19:03.920 --> 0:19:07.159 little bit more self compassionate. You maybe open to your 0:19:07.200 --> 0:19:10.600 proofrontal cortex. You can do some higher thinking. Your heart 0:19:10.680 --> 0:19:13.359 might be a little bit more open, and all of 0:19:13.400 --> 0:19:16.800 that puts you into a higher frequency. You know, we 0:19:16.840 --> 0:19:19.800 could talk quantum physics now and go super scientific. You 0:19:19.840 --> 0:19:24.320 are electricity. So if you allow for yourself to just 0:19:24.440 --> 0:19:27.960 rest in that, then you become a magnet. There's proof 0:19:28.119 --> 0:19:31.080 in quantum physics you become an electromagnetic field that is 0:19:31.160 --> 0:19:33.879 more powerful than if you're in fear. I've said it 0:19:33.920 --> 0:19:36.440 to be more fear is the cheapest seat in the house, right, 0:19:37.240 --> 0:19:40.760 So if you choose something like believe for faith or trust, 0:19:41.800 --> 0:19:45.240 your frequency gets higher and you're open and you become 0:19:45.240 --> 0:19:48.600 a magnet for good things. And I'm sure you can 0:19:48.800 --> 0:19:52.000 remember times in your life when you magnetize good things 0:19:52.000 --> 0:19:54.959 when synchronicities and beautiful things come at you and you're like, 0:19:55.119 --> 0:19:58.880 I did nothing for that, you know, because you were 0:19:58.920 --> 0:20:03.480 open and you're trusting. That's so interesting. It's a choice, 0:20:04.240 --> 0:20:22.240 you know, how would you tell somebody that's seeing you 0:20:22.400 --> 0:20:25.560 or like asking for information on like well, how do 0:20:25.600 --> 0:20:29.760 I how Like let's say, because I think it sounds like, okay, 0:20:29.800 --> 0:20:31.920 I can be open, I'll trust the world, but how 0:20:31.960 --> 0:20:34.280 how how do you do that? Like? Are there physical 0:20:34.359 --> 0:20:37.320 steps you can take? Is it manifesting and journaling and 0:20:37.359 --> 0:20:38.920 saying this is what I want my life? Is it 0:20:39.080 --> 0:20:42.040 genuinely just sitting there every day and believing that, like 0:20:42.480 --> 0:20:44.960 there is something good coming and that you do deserve 0:20:45.480 --> 0:20:49.000 x y and z um. I Also, I hear a 0:20:49.000 --> 0:20:51.080 lot of people like you were saying earlier, just talking 0:20:51.080 --> 0:20:54.560 about awareness and being conscious, Like, I think that's a 0:20:54.640 --> 0:20:57.720 huge thing. A lot of self help books have preached 0:20:57.760 --> 0:20:59.720 and taught me a little bit. I'm just curious as 0:20:59.720 --> 0:21:01.879 to what the what would you say the root of 0:21:01.920 --> 0:21:04.919 it is? Okay, I'm just obsessed with taking all the 0:21:05.080 --> 0:21:07.640 esoteric concepts that I've studied my whole life and making 0:21:07.680 --> 0:21:11.399 them really practical. There's two sort of hacks for this 0:21:12.119 --> 0:21:15.479 exactly how you do it. One is called doing and 0:21:15.560 --> 0:21:19.080 one is called being. Because we it's like you breathe, 0:21:19.240 --> 0:21:22.800 you exhale, you inhale. You can't just do one. And 0:21:22.840 --> 0:21:25.840 I think our culture is obsessed with doing. You know, 0:21:25.960 --> 0:21:27.960 what do I do? What's my checklist? How do I 0:21:28.000 --> 0:21:31.040 do this? Where what you're asking for is a little 0:21:31.040 --> 0:21:34.760 bit more, How do I be this? And both open 0:21:34.840 --> 0:21:39.439 the doorways. So think of a little cycle like you 0:21:39.440 --> 0:21:41.639 can think of four quadrants. And so this is the 0:21:41.720 --> 0:21:44.800 visual that I'll hand out to everybody. Is one way 0:21:45.160 --> 0:21:48.359 to do it. To go into that field is to believe. 0:21:49.520 --> 0:21:51.199 Now a lot of people don't believe right now, so 0:21:51.240 --> 0:21:54.439 that's fine. But if you did believe enough in something, 0:21:54.640 --> 0:21:59.000 say I believe that I'm living my purpose, you know, 0:21:59.080 --> 0:22:01.119 and that I want to know my purpose, then it 0:22:01.160 --> 0:22:04.600 would have you tap in to Olivia to to the 0:22:04.640 --> 0:22:08.840 depth of your potential and and maybe your courage, your bravery. 0:22:09.000 --> 0:22:14.359