Speaker 1: Hey, they're folks. It is Saturday, September twentieth, watching boats
Speaker 1: on the Hudson River, a date night, some spring cleaning,
Speaker 1: and a horror movie. How did you recover this week?
Speaker 1: Because that's how we did it. Welcome everybody to this
Speaker 1: recovery run episode of Amy and tj Our recovery runs
Speaker 1: roads remind people we are big runners. We have marathoners
Speaker 1: even but every once in a while, you don't need
Speaker 1: to run twenty six miles or even ten. Sometimes you
Speaker 1: just got to get a two milerant.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you take it, you take it slow, you take
Speaker 2: it easy. You're still active, you're still moving, you're still doing,
Speaker 2: but you're giving your body a chance to recover while
Speaker 2: you stay active. And so it's a it's a thing runners.
Speaker 2: We do it weekly, and so we figured let's make
Speaker 2: a run on Saturday. Our Saturday morning run is a
Speaker 2: little recovery run from all the headlines and all the news.
Speaker 2: I feel like we say this every Saturday morning, what
Speaker 2: a hell of a week in the news world, and
Speaker 2: it just continues and ramps up. We are just in
Speaker 2: a vicious cycle of debilitating headlines.
Speaker 1: That's a good way to put it. There's been some ugliness,
Speaker 1: some nasty. That's not just in terms of debate, but
Speaker 1: the story out of Pennsylvania this week with officers being killed,
Speaker 1: certainly the story with David the singer, the dead body
Speaker 1: found in his trunk, it just it has been. And
Speaker 1: then don't even start with the Kirk and the politics
Speaker 1: and the back and forth and Kimmel. Yeah, how ugly
Speaker 1: and sad and shocking. A lot of the news has been.
Speaker 1: So let's recover, please, from all that. Our plan? Do
Speaker 1: we have a plan? We don't usually have a plan
Speaker 1: to recover, but we do. Sometimes we make an effort
Speaker 1: to say, hey, you know what, let's put this stuff down,
Speaker 1: let's just go outside. I think it was a day
Speaker 1: this week. You looked up and I think it was
Speaker 1: dark out. You said, yeah, I'll take a walk with you.
Speaker 1: I haven't been outside today.
Speaker 2: Correct. We actually have been organizing so much this week that, yes,
Speaker 2: we work from home most days, and then when you
Speaker 2: get into this reorganized phase, you end up not leaving
Speaker 2: the apartment ever. So, yes, it wasn't until I believe
Speaker 2: that day. It wasn't until eight thirty at night I
Speaker 2: realized it was the first time I walked out of
Speaker 2: the apartment, and it's funny.
Speaker 1: The only reason you had walked out previously is because
Speaker 1: you accidentally dropped something off off our balcony.
Speaker 2: Uh, it didn't hit anybody, It's true, I want to say,
Speaker 2: but really bad about it. Was super happy that no
Speaker 2: one was there. It happens. That's why you should always
Speaker 2: look up and maybe avoid balconies when you're walking in math.
Speaker 1: So that was a that was actually Robes. I think
Speaker 1: it's me I needed sometime. I think you know, when
Speaker 1: I go walking sometimes I start sending you fast, furious
Speaker 1: text messages because when I'm moving around when I'm walking,
Speaker 1: I but uice to start flowing. Man, I can start,
Speaker 1: I start vibing my mind, it's fresh, and I start
Speaker 1: sending all kinds of ideas. So, yes, that is a
Speaker 1: big part and we'll be a big part of our
Speaker 1: recovery runs. Walking is a part of our recovery.
Speaker 2: Is and I have really enjoyed it because obviously we're runners.
Speaker 2: But you have gotten me into walking a lot recently,
Speaker 2: and I actually don't think I've ever taken many long
Speaker 2: walks in my life except for with you, and so
Speaker 2: that's kind of cool. It's our thing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't ever. Yeah, we don't take them for
Speaker 1: exercise ever. It's just a matter of just getting out,
Speaker 1: getting some fresh air, seeing what we can see. We
Speaker 1: have some big we're big time people watchers. We just
Speaker 1: find people so fascinating.
Speaker 2: Especially you learn, yes, you learn a lot about yourself
Speaker 2: actually watching other people. So we have fun. We have
Speaker 2: fun watching folks, and we actually have had some fun
Speaker 2: watching boats. I mean we've I've made myself laugh and
Speaker 2: cracked up at how much if you really actually just
Speaker 2: start to notice what's around you, how you can really
Speaker 2: get your head out of all of those crazy spaces
Speaker 2: in places we're in when we're reading headlines and we're
Speaker 2: reading the news and we're worried about the future, and
Speaker 2: we're worried about what comes next. If you just remember
Speaker 2: when we were on vacation, we just started watching seagulls.
Speaker 2: It lasted for hours. It was one of my favorite
Speaker 2: moments of the summer, was just watching nature. And so
Speaker 2: right here in New York, we don't have a lot
Speaker 2: of nature. I'll be honest. We have pigeons and rats
Speaker 2: and roaches. But if you can find your way, make
Speaker 2: your way over to one of our rivers, either the
Speaker 2: Hudson River or the East River. There is a lot
Speaker 2: of beautiful boat activity and I maybe I'm just getting older,
Speaker 2: but it's just I find myself transfixed, transformed, mesmerized by
Speaker 2: just watching boats go back and forth on the river,
Speaker 2: just the simple things in life.
Speaker 1: You know. It's the thing we always try to train,
Speaker 1: or well, we always, I guess every therapist, every great
Speaker 1: thinker of the past thousands and thousands of years trying
Speaker 1: to get you to stay in the moment, to be present.
Speaker 1: And that's the key to happiness, to stay right here.
Speaker 1: If you stay right here, you can't worry about this
Speaker 1: or that or the third. You just right here. I
Speaker 1: am looking out the window at a boat going by,
Speaker 1: and as you're doing that, you just get lost and
Speaker 1: you follow it. Your mind is on exactly what you're
Speaker 1: looking at and seeing and doing. I think that has
Speaker 1: been a part of our piece this week.
Speaker 2: It has. And if we open up the windows, because
Speaker 2: we do have beautiful weather this time of year here
Speaker 2: in New York City, even the sound of a boat, yeh,
Speaker 2: can just make my muscles relax. I don't want to
Speaker 2: own a boat. There are a lot of work, but I
Speaker 2: love watching them just glide across the water from a
Speaker 2: sailboat to a barge to the Staten Island Ferry. I
Speaker 2: have thoroughly enjoyed that this week and have really made
Speaker 2: a point to focus on it. And I know you
Speaker 2: say we don't set out, hey, how are we recovering today?
Speaker 2: Because then that just feels like work, like you're working
Speaker 2: to find a plan to recover. But I do, and
Speaker 2: we have been intentional. I am recognizing the moments when
Speaker 2: we need to, when I need to and how weak
Speaker 2: when you are getting like you can feel the stress
Speaker 2: and tension in your body from all the negativity in
Speaker 2: this world. I think that's the one I Sometimes I
Speaker 2: get a headache, my body will tell me, hey girl,
Speaker 2: you need to relax. But it is how.
Speaker 1: Your body talks to you. You hey girl, I don't know.
Speaker 2: No's a it's a nagging headache. Usually that's when I
Speaker 2: know I need to put the computer away and I
Speaker 2: need to just see what's around me and live in
Speaker 2: the moment. And so yeah, that has been something that
Speaker 2: I think we both have been more intentional about.
Speaker 1: We had its weird as we've been talking about this,
Speaker 1: both of us. We both angled our bodies toward the
Speaker 1: window and we're staring out the window at all these
Speaker 1: boats going by now. But it's but yeah, that has
Speaker 1: been a very cool part when you can stay focused
Speaker 1: and you don't even realize. But yeah, that's why. Because
Speaker 1: I'm looking at that playing go by right now, I'm
Speaker 1: not thinking about work, I'm not thinking about the Kimmel's story.
Speaker 1: I'm not thinking about tragedy. I'm just taking a moment
Speaker 1: and taking it in.
Speaker 2: So yeah, that's and I think part of this, and
Speaker 2: I don't know that I ever recognized this before. Part
Speaker 2: of the reason why we love movies, and in particular
Speaker 2: thrillers or horrors is because they are you are in
Speaker 2: the moment. You are now in a fairy tale, made
Speaker 2: up world where you don't have to think of all
Speaker 2: the real, actual horror stories going on in this country
Speaker 2: and around the world, and so it's a fun distraction.
Speaker 2: I've always called it safe fear, where you're experiencing fear,
Speaker 2: but you're perfectly safe and wildly entertained. So I think
Speaker 2: we try at least once a week, but at least
Speaker 2: three times a month ago see a movie. And we
Speaker 2: have so many fun movies that have come out now
Speaker 2: because everyone's finally gotten on board with what we've been
Speaker 2: saying all along that horror movies are awesome, and Stephen
Speaker 2: King hadn't and this one hasn't been hasn't gotten a
Speaker 2: lot of attention. I haven't seen a lot of press
Speaker 2: or headlines about it. But this was actually his first
Speaker 2: novel which I did not know, The Long Walk, and
Speaker 2: you and I went to go see that at the
Speaker 2: start of the week and had an absolute blast. It
Speaker 2: was that was which night was at Sunday night we
Speaker 2: went Sunday theater was the start of the week and
Speaker 2: it was absolutely packed.
Speaker 1: And I recommend those movie to everybody. It is thought,
Speaker 1: don't remember ire there has been one tears and watching
Speaker 1: a horror movie. Now, this was Stephen King. So you
Speaker 1: know he often has stories that do have heart, these
Speaker 1: coming of age stories often about brotherhood. There are such
Speaker 1: powerful friendships and dialogue and imagery that it is you
Speaker 1: find people who are in a life of death struggle,
Speaker 1: knowing that if they survive, then that means everybody else dies,
Speaker 1: or if somebody else wins, it means I die. And
Speaker 1: even in the throes of the most critical life and
Speaker 1: death competition, they found friendship and love and respect for
Speaker 1: each other. I love this movie, and I love you know,
Speaker 1: obviously love horror movies. Man, I like the heart so
Speaker 1: much of this movie may or.
Speaker 2: With heart it could be our favorite genre.
Speaker 1: I don't want to go to that quar because Hard
Speaker 1: Eyes you had me in a rom common. I didn't
Speaker 1: realize it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that was a rom com horror mashup, which also
Speaker 2: was super fun. Look, I love anything, you know, we
Speaker 2: love horror comedies. We we just we love a classic
Speaker 2: horror movie. But this has been really fun watching some
Speaker 2: sub genres. Take a Foot and Stephen King. This is
Speaker 2: an oldie, but a goodie. I mean, this is a
Speaker 2: story that's been available for any of us to read
Speaker 2: for years and years and years, but I was not
Speaker 2: aware of it. So this was really cool to be
Speaker 2: able to see it. And it's less of a horror
Speaker 2: movie more of a thriller. You don't know how it's
Speaker 2: gonna end. And there is some gore we should point out,
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, because Stephen King is always what what's the
Speaker 2: Stephen King movie without a little gore?
Speaker 1: Misery? Was his? Was there a lot of gore his?
Speaker 2: Okay, maybe not visual gore, but emotional gore. When she
Speaker 2: took that that meat. Was it a meat? Yes, and
Speaker 2: literally hobbled him with Okay, yeah, that was a meat
Speaker 2: tender riser right on his ankles. Pretty gory.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, yes, that was that was pretty tough. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about like a monster or killing in the
Speaker 1: forest type. There wasn't.
Speaker 2: No, it was more of a thriller though. That's and
Speaker 2: that would be kind of a similar thing where it's
Speaker 2: building and the tensions building and you know what's about
Speaker 2: to happen and you know something's coming. That's classic Stephen King.
Speaker 2: But anyway, that was a very fun intentional recovery.
Speaker 1: Do you remember this is gonna mess you up? Do
Speaker 1: you know the movie Licorice Pizza? You remember that movie?
Speaker 2: So I heard a lot about it, but I never
Speaker 2: saw it.
Speaker 1: Okay, the kid that stars in The Long Walk is
Speaker 1: a kid who was in Licorice Pizza.
Speaker 2: I did not know that.
Speaker 1: Now, do you remember what I said about him in
Speaker 1: the movie. Well, you didn't know this was going to
Speaker 1: come up. But do you remember what I said about
Speaker 1: the lead actor of the White the White Kid? No,
Speaker 1: I said, I love him. He's this kind of everyman. Yes,
Speaker 1: he's not sexy. Hollywood star. But man, he is really
Speaker 1: making me feel him and relate to him. He was
Speaker 1: just wonderful. Every man. That kid was in that movie
Speaker 1: Licorice Pizza. His name is Koop Hoffman. He is the
Speaker 1: son of Philip Seymour Hoffman. I had no idea. Oh
Speaker 1: I'm looking at it right now. Now you see the face,
Speaker 1: you see the build.
Speaker 2: Even and you understand the talent.
Speaker 1: Man, he is so damn good in this movie that just.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, we just found that out in real time.
Speaker 2: That is a game changer, just in terms of we
Speaker 2: recognized how unbelievably well acted this movie was. But I
Speaker 2: had no idea. He is the son of the legendary
Speaker 2: late Philip Seymour Hoffman. That makes perfect sense now now
Speaker 2: if you now, hopefully that will make those of you
Speaker 2: listening even more excited about potentially watching this movie, because
Speaker 2: we just couldn't recommend it more.
Speaker 1: And we do. It's not we're not they're not promoting
Speaker 1: or they're not endorsing for any reason, but we are
Speaker 1: pushing and promoting this movie as much as you can.
Speaker 1: I know there are some horror, horrorfule, horrific moments of
Speaker 1: deaths that are tough to see. But man, I just sweart.
Speaker 1: There's so many examples once again that relate to today's
Speaker 1: day and time, the moment we're in where you look
Speaker 1: at an adversary where literally life is on the line,
Speaker 1: but you have love for this other person. Oh great, great,
Speaker 1: great movie.
Speaker 2: And I actually think despite the bloodshed, that it's actually
Speaker 2: a movie that is worth seeing in the times we're
Speaker 2: in in terms of brotherhood and acceptance and being sacrificial
Speaker 2: and being willing to put love above selfish interests. It
Speaker 2: has all of those things. And speaking of love, I
Speaker 2: loved our date night. We actually went out to a
Speaker 2: beautiful restaurant and had a wonderful meal.
Speaker 1: Do you have two date nights?
Speaker 2: Well, we have had two day nights. I thought there
Speaker 2: was just one date night.
Speaker 1: I thought we had more than one.
Speaker 2: Really, it's been a busy week.
Speaker 1: Or am I thinking we did?
Speaker 2: We had one the week before.
Speaker 1: We went to two restaurants in the same night.
Speaker 2: Correct, it was one date night and we got terrible service,
Speaker 2: and so we had a drink and we said, yeah,
Speaker 2: I think we're just gonna leave it with that. Can
Speaker 2: we have the bill? And then I had the idea,
Speaker 2: remember that awesome restaurant, and so we decided that, you know,
Speaker 2: this is a good way to look at it, instead
Speaker 2: of getting upset and angry at being literally unable to
Speaker 2: be served and then everything on their menu not being
Speaker 2: available once we tried to order. It was hilarious. It
Speaker 2: was a comedy of just really, could you make this
Speaker 2: situation even worse? But then we figured out when it
Speaker 2: led us to the restaurant we should have been out
Speaker 2: all along. We decided it was the best thing that
Speaker 2: could have happened, that they didn't have multiple things on
Speaker 2: the menu that we wanted because it was a day
Speaker 2: that the tuna didn't come in in time. I don't know,
Speaker 2: but we ended up at the place we needed to be,
Speaker 2: and it all worked out. And I do like to
Speaker 2: look at that. Sometimes you make fun of me, but
Speaker 2: sometimes it makes sense that this whole other concept of
Speaker 2: obstacles or detours in the right direction. But sometimes when
Speaker 2: things don't work out and you want things to and
Speaker 2: you wish you could, it's because you're supposed to be
Speaker 2: somewhere else, And so it led us where we were
Speaker 2: supposed to be.
Speaker 1: Sure, how many I have had a countless example all
Speaker 1: of us. Do anybody listening can start. Yeah, I remember that.
Speaker 1: I remembered, yes, But in the moment is where we
Speaker 1: lose control. In the moment, we could have gone, Matt
Speaker 1: got give me the manager, what's going on? We gotten
Speaker 1: pissed when you said to me, you know what, why
Speaker 1: do we go to that place where we love that
Speaker 1: that chicken and the great margaritas.
Speaker 2: I'm like, baby, that's what's brilliant.
Speaker 1: Let's finish this wine and get the hell out of here.
Speaker 2: And that's exactly what we did. And we had a
Speaker 2: wonderful night. So that was awesome. We've been doing really,
Speaker 2: really well at getting at least one night where it's
Speaker 2: you and me going to dinner and just making the
Speaker 2: time for it to be just us and not focused
Speaker 2: on work. We were not We didn't talk about work
Speaker 2: once that night.
Speaker 1: Really. Wow, we've been doing well with that With we kids,
Speaker 1: it's been a little difficult. It's Analysa's going back to
Speaker 1: college now, Ava's officially moved out to being as back
Speaker 1: in school, but we're on the clock every day because
Speaker 1: when Savine comes, when she gets out of two thirty five,
Speaker 1: she comes in hot. Yes, she got stories and tells
Speaker 1: she's got stuff. She wants to do. She's very engaged
Speaker 1: and active. The only thing that's been saving us some
Speaker 1: When she'll say yeah, me and my friends are gonna
Speaker 1: got out, we like, hoo, okay, you'll keep up busy
Speaker 1: as long as possible.
Speaker 2: No, that's been and then we end up just doing
Speaker 2: more work though, So it is it is. We do
Speaker 2: kind of have to make that choice to say, Okay, tonight,
Speaker 2: we're gonna just have it be us and we're not
Speaker 2: gonna talk about work, and that has been wonderful because
Speaker 2: in between work we've also. You said spring cleaning at
Speaker 2: the top of this, but I guess it's really autumnal cleaning.
Speaker 2: But doesn't it feel good to just declutter and to cleanse.
Speaker 2: I think that's something that it's interesting how when you
Speaker 2: do it to with the space you live in, what
Speaker 2: it does to your mind and what it does to
Speaker 2: your psyche and your attitude and just your overall energy
Speaker 2: when you're just lighter.
Speaker 1: It could be shocking how much stuff we keep that
Speaker 1: we don't need. It's shocking when you go through I'm like,
Speaker 1: why do we have this mini bag? Youre telling me
Speaker 1: I had this much trash in my home.
Speaker 2: I had fifteen bags that Goodwill came and picked up
Speaker 2: fifteen bags and I'm still finding more. I wish I
Speaker 2: had waited.
Speaker 1: See, and those are the good clothes, right, you have stuff.
Speaker 1: There's stuff we have that I don't need this, I
Speaker 1: don't wear this, nobody can use this. It's got fourteen holes,
Speaker 1: what like, just stuff laying around. So yes, that feels
Speaker 1: absolutely great to be getting rid of stuff. And it
Speaker 1: feels great. Now you're going to be donating to a
Speaker 1: place where people can take advantage of some of the
Speaker 1: clothes that you.
Speaker 2: Have just for success is a great place.
Speaker 1: I am going to be working as well with the
Speaker 1: organization here where young black men. I feel so much better.
Speaker 1: I have so many suits and nice clothes that they
Speaker 1: could go to somebody who could use it. So that also,
Speaker 1: what do they always say robes, that that's the way,
Speaker 1: that's the way to serve would be happy to best
Speaker 1: happy is you have to find a way to serve others.
Speaker 1: This isn't some major undertaking, but still we were happy
Speaker 1: to be able to clean out. But wow, it's going
Speaker 1: to somebody's benefit.
Speaker 2: Look, we had a lot of clothing that we don't
Speaker 2: really need anymore. When you are on the air five
Speaker 2: days a week. You have to have a lot of
Speaker 2: clothes and a lot of shoes. It's unbelievable how that
Speaker 2: stuff all adds up.
Speaker 1: We have a shoe problem, and we have it.
Speaker 2: We still have a shoe problem, you know what. We
Speaker 2: mostly have a running shoe problem. How many running shoes
Speaker 2: we should take a picture? No, it's too embarrassing of
Speaker 2: how many running shoes you and I have between the
Speaker 2: two of us in this closet, and neither one of
Speaker 2: us want to part with any of them because they
Speaker 2: all are attached to memories of races that we loved running.
Speaker 2: We have a problem.
Speaker 1: Look, I'm never getting rid of my marathon shoes, any
Speaker 1: shoes I crossed the finish line of marathon and will
Speaker 1: be with me falla. But other than that, the others
Speaker 1: I got more shoes than marathons. Let's seat that tons more.
Speaker 2: That is an understatement. Do you know if you estimated,
Speaker 2: Like obviously we didn't count because I think we didn't
Speaker 2: count because it'd be too embarrassing. But how many running
Speaker 2: shoes do you think you have?
Speaker 1: The Uh? Probably ten to twelve would be my guest.
Speaker 2: I think you have more than that, Really, I do.
Speaker 2: I think I have ten to twelve.
Speaker 1: You're yes for me? Is what? It's not twenty I.
Speaker 2: Think you have. I was gonna go fifteen to eighteen.
Speaker 1: Okay, well, folks, you know what We'll do this then
Speaker 1: quick break. When we come back, we'll tell you exactly
Speaker 1: how many Alpha Fly shoes we got in the closet.
Speaker 2: Welcome back everyone to this Saturday morning run. It's our
Speaker 2: recovery run. And speaking of runs, yes, if you are
Speaker 2: with us from the first break, you will know. We
Speaker 2: just ran over to our closet and counted our Nike
Speaker 2: Alpha Flies. My number is at eight, but I did
Speaker 2: have ten, so I gave away two pairs and now
Speaker 2: I have eight, which is about six more than I need,
Speaker 2: but eight that I love. How about you, babe?
Speaker 1: I was surprised I only have three pair.
Speaker 2: You're hilarious.
Speaker 1: I guess I threw a lot more stuff out.
Speaker 2: You are not.
Speaker 1: No, I keep thinking lean.
Speaker 2: It turns out my prediction was extremely accurate.
Speaker 1: I have fifteen pairs. I have fifteen, but I've been
Speaker 1: running for a while. What are you talking about?
Speaker 2: You just gave away once you had sixteen. My guess
Speaker 2: was fifteen to eighteen. You were at sixteen. It's unbelievable.
Speaker 2: And these are big shoes. They're wide, and so do
Speaker 2: they take up so much room in the closet. It's
Speaker 2: absurd to think I have more running shoes that I
Speaker 2: have Heels right now is such a departure from where
Speaker 2: I used to be, because I have given away over
Speaker 2: the last two years, like pretty much all of my
Speaker 2: heels because I just don't wear five inch stilettos anymore
Speaker 2: when I'm not in a studioso bad. I know. I
Speaker 2: do have a few for a red carpet. I don't
Speaker 2: even wear them on date night, date night. I'm usually
Speaker 2: still on the sneakers.
Speaker 1: I know, baby, despite my objection, that's where we are.
Speaker 1: But I like you, no, no, no, because you take walking
Speaker 1: down the street. It takes forever. I just get to
Speaker 1: the end of the block and wait on you to
Speaker 1: catch up. It's just every time people, I do not
Speaker 1: do that.
Speaker 2: And I know, but then I say, you try walking
Speaker 2: in these heels, and.
Speaker 1: I do sometimes and it doesn't I don't know how
Speaker 1: y'all do.
Speaker 2: Very very funny. But the cool thing is we're still
Speaker 2: we have a little bit more purging to do, but
Speaker 2: not much. And the cool thing is, and this is
Speaker 2: what I'm I've said this a lot, and I'm really
Speaker 2: going to try to live with this. I was trying
Speaker 2: to explain the Marie Condo way of tidying up. I
Speaker 2: love her, I love her book, and she holds up
Speaker 2: articles and says, does this bring me joy? And if
Speaker 2: it brings you joy, you keep it. But if you're
Speaker 2: really honest with yourself, some of the things you're holding
Speaker 2: on to, it's because they're attached to memories that you
Speaker 2: feel guilty about letting go of, whether someone gave it
Speaker 2: to you as a gift or represented a different time
Speaker 2: in your life when maybe you weren't feeling as much joy.
Speaker 2: When you're really honest about the feeling, and you get
Speaker 2: a feeling when you look at an object, whether it's
Speaker 2: clothing or artwork or a figurine whatever, you can make
Speaker 2: your decisions so easily by and then you'll know when
Speaker 2: you put it in the giveaway pile or the throwaway pile,
Speaker 2: you feel instant relief. And it's true you've been laughing,
Speaker 2: but I said you should just hold it up and say,
Speaker 2: does this bring me joy? So you've had some fun
Speaker 2: with that on me.
Speaker 1: If you walk in the room and I have a
Speaker 1: pair of shorts held up to the light, going, wow,
Speaker 1: do these bring me joy? You? Hey, idiot, will you
Speaker 1: stop that? Just throw the shorts out. It seemed like
Speaker 1: a weird exercise, but it works.
Speaker 2: It works, and so by doing so, it frees up
Speaker 2: some space. And we have made some purchases together while
Speaker 2: we've been on some trips, and so it's been fun
Speaker 2: because we're just now getting around to putting those things
Speaker 2: out because there's room for them now. And you have
Speaker 2: walked in and actually commented this morning saying, man, I
Speaker 2: love that. That just makes me so hapok at that.
Speaker 1: Yes, because we picked up a few items in Sweden
Speaker 1: on a recent trip. I think the main ones we
Speaker 1: have these new cantons. God, we are so grown. I'm
Speaker 1: excited about candle holders. God, what has happened to me?
Speaker 2: And lava lamp parts?
Speaker 1: This okay, I will post if anybody challenged me on
Speaker 1: this one. This is the coolest item in the house.
Speaker 1: It is just a little heart that lights up and
Speaker 1: it has it looks like a snow globe with lights
Speaker 1: that constantly just has the glitter moving inside the heart.
Speaker 1: So being pointed out, it looks like the logo from
Speaker 1: Love Island the Heart. But it's gold and it's lit up,
Speaker 1: and it's sitting in a perfect spot next to this
Speaker 1: decanter we have next to a couch and when the
Speaker 1: lights are it is it I'm looking at. It brings
Speaker 1: me so much.
Speaker 2: John, And you know what that is really important, I
Speaker 2: think to overall sense of just peace and joy and
Speaker 2: contentment when you're in your home, your surroundings. I've always
Speaker 2: been a believer in that people are into the zen thing,
Speaker 2: whatever it is. But I do believe what you have
Speaker 2: around you affects how you feel, just generally speaking. So
Speaker 2: when you have things around you that spark joy, which
Speaker 2: is the whole Marie Condo thing, you will feel more
Speaker 2: joyful period. And so we've been working on curating what's
Speaker 2: around us. And I even said, because we've been, you know,
Speaker 2: blending our things together, and I've said, you have total
Speaker 2: veto power. If you don't like something that I have
Speaker 2: that I brought from another place, then it's gone, it's out.
Speaker 2: And I think that has been a really fun exercise
Speaker 2: in making our house a home.
Speaker 1: What about vetoed, I can't remember.
Speaker 2: I don't know that you said, you said, I could
Speaker 2: take it or leave it, and so I was like,
Speaker 2: for now, we'll just keep it on the side.
Speaker 1: It was something I think I've done.
Speaker 2: A couple but I don't know if you've absolutely vetoed
Speaker 2: anything yet. But I'm totally cool with that, and I
Speaker 2: think veto power is a good way to go about it.
Speaker 2: I don't know how other couples go about deciding what
Speaker 2: goes on the wall and what, and some people don't
Speaker 2: care at all, but I do think it's actually one
Speaker 2: of the most important things you do is what you
Speaker 2: put around you, what you surround yourself with, and it's
Speaker 2: something that I don't think people consider sometimes enough, because
Speaker 2: when you walk into a room, you have a feeling.
Speaker 1: Do you not You usually based on who's in the room.
Speaker 2: But what's in the room, and that matters. So we've
Speaker 2: been focusing on that this week and we'll continue to
Speaker 2: do so this week. But thank you so much for
Speaker 2: listening to us as always on this Saturday morning recovery run.
Speaker 2: We hope you have a wonderful weekend. I'm Amy Roboch
Speaker 2: alongside TJ. Holmes. Will talk to you soon.