Speaker 1: The second date up date Brook. Imagine if you had
Speaker 1: to jump back into the dating pool, like for example,
Speaker 1: all right, let's say you were caught being unfaithful to
Speaker 1: your husband with your garbage guy Boon, that.
Speaker 2: Would go down.
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to be realistic here. You saw him
Speaker 1: out in front of your house heaving large bags of
Speaker 1: waste into that truck, and you just thought, God, I
Speaker 1: wish I was that trash?
Speaker 2: Can I do like a dirty man? Say that?
Speaker 1: And the fact that she knows his name, so that
Speaker 1: all leads to things happening and suddenly you have to
Speaker 1: re enter the dating scene. How do you think you
Speaker 1: would do?
Speaker 2: I think I would be really disappointed.
Speaker 1: You think you would be the disappointed? That's interesting?
Speaker 2: Okay, I think I'm a catch?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah. The text words always flubbing with guys saying
Speaker 1: how Hotbrook is?
Speaker 2: So that's Boone's friend.
Speaker 1: But the only reason I ask is because one of
Speaker 1: our listeners, Mike, just had to re enter the dating
Speaker 1: pool after going through a separation and it led him
Speaker 1: to us today. So Mike, welcome to the show.
Speaker 3: Hey, Hi, how are you?
Speaker 1: You don't happen to work in the waste management industry?
Speaker 3: Do you no, but I'm a I'm a huge fan.
Speaker 1: Something in common. This is lunched.
Speaker 2: It of the show, not of waste management. You know
Speaker 2: that waste. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Anyway, let's talk about the date that you went on
Speaker 1: the other night. Who is it with?
Speaker 3: So? I guess I should start by saying that, you know,
Speaker 3: recently divorced a little over a year ago. I'm a
Speaker 3: little out of practice, right, and I don't know with
Speaker 3: all the apps and everything, it's it's sort of different.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's changed, sure nowadays everything is this? Is this
Speaker 4: your first actual date since your divorce or have you
Speaker 4: gone on others?
Speaker 3: The first one and you know it was online?
Speaker 2: Oh, this is the very first one.
Speaker 1: Whoa lot of pressure, old man? Who's the person that
Speaker 1: you met online?
Speaker 3: Her name is Tanya and uh, I don't want to
Speaker 3: get two into specifics, but she is a little younger
Speaker 3: than I am.
Speaker 2: Let's say, Okay, that always sounds like it's a lot younger. Yeah,
Speaker 2: the way you said that, we're.
Speaker 3: Talking legal here, right, she's legal. But let's just say
Speaker 3: she's definitely younger than I out.
Speaker 2: Okay, she's in her twenties.
Speaker 1: You're making assumption here, though. You sound like you're in
Speaker 1: your mid thirties. And that's a weird age because you
Speaker 1: can date girls that are like twenty three or you
Speaker 1: can date girls that are like forty three. You're kind
Speaker 1: of in the middle at this point.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm put I'm pushing forty. But I was excited.
Speaker 3: And here's why. Because of her profile. It showed her
Speaker 3: as a devoted dog mom. So she sounds like caring,
Speaker 3: per saying, and you know, having kids myself, if I'm
Speaker 3: going to try to hopefully end up with someone that's
Speaker 3: a caring person, right.
Speaker 2: It's cute. So you were just going for it because
Speaker 2: she was like young and tight.
Speaker 4: Still nice abs.
Speaker 1: Okay, So Tanya is young, beautiful, and loves dogs. These
Speaker 1: are all good things.
Speaker 3: And yeah, I'm not going to deny that she was
Speaker 3: easy on the eyes.
Speaker 5: You know, I want to.
Speaker 1: Get into the actual date with Tanya. Tell us where
Speaker 1: you went? How did it go?
Speaker 3: So we met up for dreams, just to get to
Speaker 3: know each other, and it sort of naturally came up
Speaker 3: that I've been married before, right, But you know, honestly,
Speaker 3: she didn't seem bothered by that's really good. But but
Speaker 3: but we were interrupted and.
Speaker 1: Uh, someone you know, not your.
Speaker 3: No no, it wasn't. Okay, but the guy that comes
Speaker 3: up is my life insurance guy.
Speaker 4: Oh do you feel really old life insurance guy?
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I mean it just bumped you from like late thirties.
Speaker 2: I didn't know you had a guy for that late fifties.
Speaker 3: And so he I guess you had a few dreams
Speaker 3: because he was like to sell me right then, and
Speaker 3: they're like, oh, you know, for ten dollars more a month,
Speaker 3: you can have term life insurance and blah.
Speaker 1: Blah blah, oh god, oh man in front of Tanya.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but she was cool. She was laughing about it.
Speaker 3: And then you know, I said, let's get out of here,
Speaker 3: and I asked her if she wanted to come to
Speaker 3: my place and you know, watch a movie or something,
Speaker 3: and she was into it. She said, yeah, okay, Oh,
Speaker 3: this first date is going quite.
Speaker 1: Well for you.
Speaker 4: It's like his first date back on the scene and
Speaker 4: he's just making it happen.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I know, I'm thinking, oh wow, man, this is
Speaker 3: this is awesome. And then we get home to my place.
Speaker 3: Had asked her if she wanted some wine or something,
Speaker 3: but then she's like, it's like, really, it's a lot
Speaker 3: later than I thought. So I should probably go who's
Speaker 3: the old person?
Speaker 5: Now?
Speaker 1: That's really weird. Why would she do that?
Speaker 3: That's what I was wondering, you know, because it's like
Speaker 3: your face just it totally changed when we walked in.
Speaker 3: And then I looked around the living room and thinking
Speaker 3: was it something embarrassing or something I left out? But
Speaker 3: everything seemed okay, so.
Speaker 4: Hardy wait, like I'm thinking you're a recently divorced guy,
Speaker 4: Like does the apartment look like you're a squatter or something,
Speaker 4: you know, like a bed on.
Speaker 2: The I don't think that would scare young girl off, though, No,
Speaker 2: I was.
Speaker 3: Worried about exactly that pictures or you know, no, it's clean,
Speaker 3: you know, I have a cleaning person, and so I'm
Speaker 3: racking my brain like what was it?
Speaker 2: You know, I want to know too.
Speaker 1: So she just left after that, and you have you
Speaker 1: talked to her since?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 3: And I tried texting, calling, whatever.
Speaker 4: And the thing is on this one, you need to
Speaker 4: know if there's something weird in this place, like you're
Speaker 4: just beginning dating, if you're going to bring other women
Speaker 4: back to your pound, maybe need to change whatever she saw.
Speaker 3: And that's a good point. I want the feedback.
Speaker 1: To maybe Tanya took out her phone and googled what
Speaker 1: term life insurance was and realized how old you truly are,
Speaker 1: and it scared her off. But we're gonna find out
Speaker 1: for sure when we call her and get your second
Speaker 1: date update right after this.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, thank you, I'm a little nervous. Thank you though,
Speaker 3: thank you.
Speaker 1: All right, hold on, man, second date update. You know,
Speaker 1: during the break, Brooke pulled me aside and said she
Speaker 1: has a problem with older men dating much younger girls.
Speaker 3: With it.
Speaker 1: But while she was talking to me, one of the
Speaker 1: young fit promo boys and she looked at him like
Speaker 1: he was a giant Reese's peanut buttercup. Oh no, she
Speaker 1: was licking her lips. Her giant glasses fogged right up.
Speaker 1: Oh man, So to all the ladies on the textboard
Speaker 1: right now at seven eighty five, nine to two, saying
Speaker 1: he shouldn't be dating someone ten years younger, maybe direct
Speaker 1: your advice to Brook, say with.
Speaker 2: That peanut butter because even.
Speaker 1: Though she's married, doesn't mean Brook can't peruse the menu.
Speaker 1: Mama wants to see the special of the day.
Speaker 4: I'm just not going to order it.
Speaker 1: The reason why I would bring that up is because
Speaker 1: one of our listeners. Mike went out with a woman
Speaker 1: who's a few years younger than him and ended up
Speaker 1: having a great time until they got back to his house,
Speaker 1: where she started acting a little bit weird. We're gonna
Speaker 1: try and help figure out the reason why, Mike.
Speaker 4: You ready, yes, Oh my god, I've been thinking about it.
Speaker 4: Maybe it's because you offered her wine instead of Alexis's
Speaker 4: favorite white cloth exactly. Maybe she was like, this guy
Speaker 4: doesn't get me.
Speaker 2: I'm out.
Speaker 3: I wish I knew what it is.
Speaker 1: Maybe she was worried that you were going to card her.
Speaker 2: No, she's going to get kicked down.
Speaker 1: But only one way to find out is by just
Speaker 1: asking her directly. So I'm going to dial her number
Speaker 1: right now.
Speaker 5: Here we go.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay, and.
Speaker 1: Remember this is Mike's first online date that he's ever
Speaker 1: had since his divorce happened a few years back.
Speaker 2: So a year back.
Speaker 4: Okay, Well, I'm just saying thank you for the fact check.
Speaker 1: Here we go. It's called Tanya.
Speaker 5: Hello.
Speaker 1: Hey, is this Tanya?
Speaker 5: Yes, mister she.
Speaker 1: Hey Tanya, how's it going on? My name is Jeff
Speaker 1: from the radio show Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 5: Oh, I've never been called by a radio, so you
Speaker 5: might be familiar with us.
Speaker 1: I do these awesome parody songs every week. Have you
Speaker 1: heard about them? Young Jeffrey song of the Week.
Speaker 5: I may have heard it, but I wouldn't be able
Speaker 5: to be like, yeah, totally.
Speaker 1: A huge fan, huge fan. I can tell she's she's intimidated.
Speaker 1: Don't be intimidated.
Speaker 2: He's not going to sing to you if it makes
Speaker 2: you feel better, Tanya.
Speaker 5: Okay.
Speaker 1: The real reason that we're calling is because we're doing
Speaker 1: a segment called a second Date update. Have you ever
Speaker 1: heard of that before?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, now we're getting the honesty. I like that, Tanya.
Speaker 2: That's what we need.
Speaker 1: It's where we help our listeners who've gone out on
Speaker 1: a date recently figure out the reason why they're getting ghosted.
Speaker 5: Okay, all right.
Speaker 1: And so the other day you went out with a
Speaker 1: guy named Mike.
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, you remember Mike?
Speaker 5: Yeah? I remember Mike.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So we've spoke to Mike about the hangout that you
Speaker 1: guys had going to the bar, and we want to
Speaker 1: get your perspective on it. How was it for you?
Speaker 5: You just want me to tell you about the date.
Speaker 4: Or just like about your feelings about him too, you know, like,
Speaker 4: did you have fun?
Speaker 2: We could start there.
Speaker 5: Like, okay, uh, yeah I had fun. I mean he's
Speaker 5: very nice, very personable.
Speaker 1: So why aren't you dating him anymore?
Speaker 2: Stop? Jeffrey, sorry getting there. I know these are all
Speaker 2: good things.
Speaker 5: I mean, yeah, there was nothing wrong with him, Like
Speaker 5: he was fine. He really was. I would definitely have
Speaker 5: gone out with him.
Speaker 1: He thought you were very fine too, if you just
Speaker 1: want okay, that's yeah, it's a good thing.
Speaker 2: So what changed? I mean, you're not calling him back?
Speaker 2: Why why did that change?
Speaker 5: Well, like I said, it went well, and I actually
Speaker 5: went back to his place with him. We were going
Speaker 5: to watch a movie and then everything kind of just
Speaker 5: fell apart and I had to leave right then and
Speaker 5: there I was like I gotta go.
Speaker 1: Yeah we heard that happen, but I don't think Mike
Speaker 1: knows the reason why him.
Speaker 5: Okay, So when we pulled up, I really didn't recognize anything.
Speaker 5: I didn't think of having been there before. But we
Speaker 5: get into the house and I immediately know I've been
Speaker 5: here before.
Speaker 2: You've been in his house before.
Speaker 5: I have been in his house before.
Speaker 1: WHOA, No, She's like I have amnesia?
Speaker 5: Was definitely not his ex wife, but I have met
Speaker 5: his ex wife. Okay, about five years ago. I actually
Speaker 5: used to babysit kids in that house.
Speaker 2: You were a baby.
Speaker 5: They must have been separated because Mike didn't live there. Like,
Speaker 5: I never saw a guy. It was just the mom,
Speaker 5: just the kids, and I used to babysit them for
Speaker 5: like almost a year. Whoa, I never met him. But
Speaker 5: as soon as I got to that house, I saw
Speaker 5: the living room, I saw the paintings on the wall,
Speaker 5: and they're like pictures, and I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 5: I know these kids.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: It was just so awkward because like, how am I
Speaker 5: going to ever meet these kids then be like and
Speaker 5: now I'm dating your dad.
Speaker 2: You know, at least you know the kids like you.
Speaker 5: They did like me, but it's been five years. They're
Speaker 5: all grown up. They're gonna hate me. They're gonna be like,
Speaker 5: what a homewrecker, And I'm going to be like, you
Speaker 5: did this. It was like the long time, but like,
Speaker 5: I can't.
Speaker 4: You're saying that they're going to assume that you, like,
Speaker 4: were having an affair or something.
Speaker 5: Yes, that was the first thing that came into my head.
Speaker 5: I was like, oh my god, these kids are going
Speaker 5: to hate me. I have to get out of here.
Speaker 1: But once you had that realization, why didn't you tell
Speaker 1: Mike that? Why did you just leave? Because it like
Speaker 1: it left him not knowing what happened.
Speaker 5: I felt really, really awkward, and I felt embarrassed, and
Speaker 5: I honestly didn't really know how to handle the situation.
Speaker 5: So I just felt like gott to get out of here.
Speaker 1: Well, I think I know how to handle the situation,
Speaker 1: and that's by putting you in direct contact with Mike
Speaker 1: right now, because he's on the other line listening.
Speaker 5: Are you serious.
Speaker 1: I'm serious. He wants to talk to you. Mike.
Speaker 3: You there, Yeah, Oh my goodness, Oh wow, wow, I'm
Speaker 3: so sorry.
Speaker 5: Weird. I really you're a great guy. It was nothing
Speaker 5: about about you. It's just the fact that i've like
Speaker 5: given your kids bad Yeah.
Speaker 3: This is this is the crazy, This is the weirdest
Speaker 3: thing that. Oh I can't believe it.
Speaker 5: You weren't living there, right, Like, I didn't just not
Speaker 5: see you, because that would be probably even worse.
Speaker 3: Right, No, No, I you know. Basically the arrangement was
Speaker 3: that I was out of the house after we separated,
Speaker 3: and in the final divorce, I ended up getting the house.
Speaker 3: That's why I have it.
Speaker 4: Now you move back in, Okay, I mean, but Mike,
Speaker 4: do you see this as a deal breaker because I
Speaker 4: know you're making a bunch of assumptions Tanya about like
Speaker 4: what his family will think about you. But you don't
Speaker 4: even know why they got divorced. Maybe it's his ex
Speaker 4: wife that asked for the divorce.
Speaker 5: I don't know. It was just the first thing that
Speaker 5: I thought, Mike.
Speaker 1: Now that you know all this, like, what are your thoughts?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I think this is actually positive.
Speaker 3: I think it's great news. I mean, she already knows
Speaker 3: my kids, and you know, you already know how to
Speaker 3: get to the house.
Speaker 2: You know where the silver drawer is, how to do that.
Speaker 3: You're really familiar with the kitchen, you know, and in a.
Speaker 1: Few years, Mike's gonna need help bathing. You can help
Speaker 1: him out with that.
Speaker 4: Maybe it sounds tiny like he's not concerned about, you know,
Speaker 4: his kids hating you.
Speaker 2: It sounds the opposite.
Speaker 5: I mean, this that's cool. But I was just kind
Speaker 5: of thinking this was a date or two or maybe
Speaker 5: leading to something. And now I'm like a second mom
Speaker 5: because I know where the kitchen is like, I don't
Speaker 5: know where to go from here.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, no, no, no, no, you got to take
Speaker 3: these things a little, you know, a day at a time.
Speaker 3: I'm not saying, well, move in now. I'm just saying
Speaker 3: that if it ultimately gets to that point, don't talk
Speaker 3: about don't.
Speaker 1: I would just focus on getting that second date, because
Speaker 1: I know for Mike, I bet nothing would feel better
Speaker 1: then showing up to his ex's house with their babysitter girlfriend.
Speaker 5: Crazy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's crazy sexy.
Speaker 2: I think that's health, Jeff.
Speaker 1: I mean, at this point, I just need to ask you, Tanya,
Speaker 1: would you like to go out on another date with
Speaker 1: Mike because we'll pay for it.
Speaker 5: I mean, it's definitely weird, but it's kind of cool
Speaker 5: weird and no, maybe this is kind of like the
Speaker 5: movie moment. Let's let's try it.
Speaker 1: What kind of movie?
Speaker 5: Not that kind of movie?
Speaker 1: Okay, well, congratulations you too. It sounds like you guys
Speaker 1: are going to go out again.
Speaker 5: Okay, all right.
Speaker 3: I was going to say the movie it would be
Speaker 3: fatal attraction, but Tanya probably doesn't even know.
Speaker 5: What that is. I know what that is, family movie night.
Speaker 2: Take that that ends well.
Speaker 5: Something, I think it ends ination like try and get.
Speaker 3: Let's not have a long ago. It's a long time
Speaker 3: of old alright.
Speaker 1: I didn't think we could get any sexier, but we
Speaker 1: did it. Jeffrey in the morning,