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Speaker 1: Here it is up letter. Thank you. Nephew's subject International player,

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Speaker 1: is about to get played to Stephen Shirley. I have

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Speaker 1: been married for nine years and I've been tapping my

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Speaker 1: husband's phone and I've found out about his three year

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Speaker 1: international love affair. He is from Zambia and he came

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Speaker 1: to Texas eleven years ago. One night, we were tipsy

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Speaker 1: our past. He told me about the one that got away.

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Speaker 1: He was madly in love with her, but her parents

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Speaker 1: didn't approve of him, so they couldn't be together. He

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Speaker 1: told me he truly loves me, but this woman was

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Speaker 1: his soul mate. He said it took him a while

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Speaker 1: to get her out of his system. What he didn't

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Speaker 1: tell me is that he searched for her until they reconnected.

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Speaker 1: He found her, and they have long phone calls while

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Speaker 1: he's at work or when I'm not home. They send

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Speaker 1: have discreetly read his messages and listened to their voicemails.

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Speaker 1: They speak in another language most of the time, but

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Speaker 1: to have a rendezvous in May, and he's told me

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Speaker 1: he has to go back home for an important family

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Speaker 1: After he leaves, I plan the next day. I plan

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Speaker 1: of a lifetime. I already have my ticket and I

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Speaker 1: know where he'll be. Imagine him thinking I am a

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Speaker 1: I am taking all of his clothes with me and

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Speaker 1: husband and asking him to meet me there. I'm planning

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Speaker 1: to leave my husband's raggedy behind in Zambia. My close

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Speaker 1: friends think I'm crazy. I do have a flair for

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Speaker 1: the dramatic. But is this too much? Or am I

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Speaker 1: justified for showing up and showing out? You're asking me,

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Speaker 1: are you justified? Let me compliment you on an absolutely

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Speaker 1: brilliant plan. Okay, this is brilliant, but please know that

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Speaker 1: if you plan on carrying it through and you do,

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Speaker 1: your marriage is over because neither you or your husband

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Speaker 1: will be able to recover from this. But we know

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Speaker 1: you're gonna do it anyway because you've already bought the ticket,

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Speaker 1: You're taking his clothes with you, and you're planning on

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Speaker 1: leaving him and them there in Zambia. Your plan. It

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Speaker 1: also won't work because you just told millions of people

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Speaker 1: who listen to this show what you're going to do, okay,

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Speaker 1: and someone is bound to tell your husband what you're

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Speaker 1: see in your otherwise brilliant plan to catch them, The

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Speaker 1: fact that we all know now, yeah, I mean it is,

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Speaker 1: you know, dramatic and all of that. It's a long

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Speaker 1: for even telling you this other woman is his soulmate.

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Speaker 1: Why would even say that to you? But he lied

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Speaker 1: to you about what did he say? Oh? Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: he has to attend an important family matter and you

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Speaker 1: you gotta do. Sometimes, Steve, Well, brilliant plan, Charley, you

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Speaker 1: love of family. That's a long time to be aware

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Speaker 1: the dramatic. You too, damn dramatic. If you asked me,

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Speaker 1: love affair. Now he's from Zambia, came to Texas eleven

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Speaker 1: that would be the dumbest thing I could do. He

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Speaker 1: your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.

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Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry Letter subject international player about to keep played.

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Speaker 1: We'll be back right after this. You're listening to show,

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Speaker 1: all right? Come on, Steve, Let's recap today's Strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: the check his international players about to get played. International

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Speaker 1: player about to get played. She've been married to this

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Speaker 1: man nine years. He's from Zambia. He came over here

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Speaker 1: eleven years ago. But through tapping his phone, she's discovered

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Speaker 1: know how she been doing this. Man, they speak in

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Speaker 1: two countries, fifty three county No, I can't remember. It's

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Speaker 1: dropped down there? That's what he's talking about. Anyway. He

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Speaker 1: he needs to handle it alone. Now hear what the

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Speaker 1: My close friends think I'm crazy. I do have a

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Speaker 1: am I justified? And showing up and showing out Shirley, Thanks,

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Speaker 1: You're playing is brilliant. I'm gonna have a few questions

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Speaker 1: But if you get on that plane, you're wasting money,

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