1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,320 Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Fully Reckless, the production of iHeartRadio and 2 00:00:03,360 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 1: the Black Effects. 3 00:00:16,079 --> 00:00:18,479 Speaker 2: And just like that, we're back on air. 4 00:00:18,360 --> 00:00:21,120 Speaker 1: With another carefully reckless episode, which girl just larious. We're 5 00:00:21,120 --> 00:00:23,720 Speaker 1: going to jump straight in. This is a very very 6 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:25,800 Speaker 1: long story. Now, I know I mentioned voice memos, You 7 00:00:25,840 --> 00:00:28,760 Speaker 1: guys can send a carefully Reckless podcast page, not just 8 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:32,720 Speaker 1: Solarious official, not coparenting Therapy, not reckless Discussions, and not 9 00:00:32,800 --> 00:00:36,639 Speaker 1: Ebani dot Zena page. Speaking of Ebini dot Zena, does 10 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:38,839 Speaker 1: that have their own page where you can watch the 11 00:00:38,880 --> 00:00:41,519 Speaker 1: series start from episode one? I know when I do 12 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:45,960 Speaker 1: these videos Ebeni and Xena, I've been doing the newer 13 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 1: ones because it's a continuing story. Newer followers want to 14 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 1: know where it started and how it all started, So 15 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:54,880 Speaker 1: make sure you follow Ebini dot Zena e b o 16 00:00:55,200 --> 00:00:59,880 Speaker 1: n y e period z e n A's series about 17 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:03,720 Speaker 1: two women who share the same child's father and how 18 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:06,280 Speaker 1: they meant and how they became good friends. But they 19 00:01:06,319 --> 00:01:08,880 Speaker 1: still kind of sort of got this underlining issue with 20 00:01:08,959 --> 00:01:12,400 Speaker 1: each other, okay, and they talk shit in their heads 21 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:14,760 Speaker 1: about each other, but they never talk shit in person 22 00:01:14,800 --> 00:01:17,319 Speaker 1: to one another about each other. So yeah, that's a 23 00:01:17,319 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 1: good series to make sure you get into over the 24 00:01:19,600 --> 00:01:23,240 Speaker 1: weekend over a cup of coffee, however you feel in 25 00:01:23,280 --> 00:01:26,560 Speaker 1: about He wants some rad chittity follow Ebini dot zena. 26 00:01:26,680 --> 00:01:28,880 Speaker 2: Let's get straight into fixing this mess. This is a 27 00:01:28,959 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 2: juicy story. 'af so, jess, I've. 28 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:33,400 Speaker 1: Been talking to this guy for about five months now, 29 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:36,680 Speaker 1: and he literally was everything on my list. And don't 30 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,200 Speaker 1: jump down my neck for having a list, because as 31 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:41,680 Speaker 1: an independent black woman, we must have a list. 32 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:43,560 Speaker 2: Of standards, not expectations. 33 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 1: Okay, you are certainly right, honey, because what we expect 34 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 1: is not always what we get, so a list of 35 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:51,680 Speaker 1: standards is right. He was always going out of his 36 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 1: way to give me the reassurance that I needed, and 37 00:01:54,200 --> 00:01:56,080 Speaker 1: we had even started a thing where we would have 38 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:59,200 Speaker 1: date nights every week to keep the spark. Okay, the 39 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:01,240 Speaker 1: only thing that bob me about this is that he 40 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 1: never invited me over. 41 00:02:02,800 --> 00:02:04,320 Speaker 2: He would always come to my house. 42 00:02:04,720 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 1: Mind you, I would have never looked at it no 43 00:02:06,520 --> 00:02:08,120 Speaker 1: type of way, because I prefer to be in my 44 00:02:08,160 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 1: own space anyway. But I always thought to myself why 45 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:14,359 Speaker 1: he never invited me over? So on one of our 46 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:16,200 Speaker 1: more recent date nights, I sat down with him and 47 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:18,120 Speaker 1: I asked him why he has yet to ask me 48 00:02:18,280 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 1: to come over, and he told me there's always a 49 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 1: problem with the water, so between that and work, he's 50 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:26,560 Speaker 1: barely even there himself. I'm like, well, it's still the 51 00:02:26,600 --> 00:02:29,520 Speaker 1: thought of you even asking me. Regardless of your house issues, 52 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:31,639 Speaker 1: you still have yet to ask me to come over. 53 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:33,560 Speaker 1: And he said, Okay, as soon as I get these 54 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:35,960 Speaker 1: problems fixed, which should be by the end of the month, 55 00:02:36,080 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 1: you're going to stay the weekend with me. 56 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:38,639 Speaker 2: Okay. Cool. 57 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:40,600 Speaker 1: The weekend comes and when I tell you, the crib 58 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:43,359 Speaker 1: was nice. The crib was nice. It was giving five 59 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:45,799 Speaker 1: star luxury loft. Ooh, I'm know the fuck that's the 60 00:02:45,880 --> 00:02:48,160 Speaker 1: right girl. For the first night we stayed in, he 61 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:51,760 Speaker 1: cooked for me, We ate dinner and we were just vibing. Now, girl, 62 00:02:51,919 --> 00:02:54,080 Speaker 1: here is where things get crazy. As soon as we're 63 00:02:54,080 --> 00:02:56,000 Speaker 1: about to go to sleep, right there is banging on 64 00:02:56,080 --> 00:02:59,919 Speaker 1: the door. At first, I ignored it because he didn't budge, 65 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:03,160 Speaker 1: But then I started the self question why isn't he budgeting? 66 00:03:03,800 --> 00:03:05,600 Speaker 2: So I asked him, are you gonna get that? 67 00:03:06,040 --> 00:03:07,960 Speaker 1: He told me that there are people that's trying to 68 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:10,440 Speaker 1: serve in papers for something that he didn't do and 69 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:13,080 Speaker 1: blah blah blah. I'm like, okay, cool, I trust you. 70 00:03:13,400 --> 00:03:15,440 Speaker 1: But they were knocking for a while and it would 71 00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 1: get louder and louder. So I finally got up to 72 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:19,079 Speaker 1: answer the door. And when I say, he. 73 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:21,760 Speaker 2: Looked real nervous, he looked real nervous. 74 00:03:22,040 --> 00:03:24,320 Speaker 1: I answer, and there's a woman at the door, holding 75 00:03:24,360 --> 00:03:27,080 Speaker 1: a baby in one hand and bags in the other hand, crying. 76 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:28,600 Speaker 2: Damn the fuck. 77 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:31,000 Speaker 1: I mean not to laugh at this poor woman, but 78 00:03:31,200 --> 00:03:34,160 Speaker 1: when she saw me, oh baby, them tears dried up 79 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:36,160 Speaker 1: and the veins was popping through that forehead. 80 00:03:36,320 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 2: I already knew what this was. 81 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:39,640 Speaker 1: I wasn't even going to try to be delusional about it, 82 00:03:39,680 --> 00:03:41,720 Speaker 1: so I asked, you must be his baby mother, right, 83 00:03:42,440 --> 00:03:43,720 Speaker 1: she said, yup, and I live here. 84 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 2: Excuse me ooh ah h. 85 00:03:46,120 --> 00:03:48,320 Speaker 1: I could have hit her right there. I'm glad you didn't. 86 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:49,800 Speaker 1: That one would have had your ass locked up hitting 87 00:03:49,840 --> 00:03:52,160 Speaker 1: her in her own house. But God had me. I'm 88 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 1: glad he did, and she had that baby, so it 89 00:03:55,400 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 1: wasn't the right time. Lol, No, it wasn't. 90 00:03:57,400 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 2: And you did good. 91 00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:02,320 Speaker 1: Following joeudgment, there, she walks in and goes to him 92 00:04:02,320 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 1: and asks him why do you have this bitch in 93 00:04:04,160 --> 00:04:04,600 Speaker 1: my house? 94 00:04:04,800 --> 00:04:04,960 Speaker 2: Now? 95 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:07,600 Speaker 1: I'm waiting to see what he's gonna say. Jess, you're 96 00:04:07,600 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 1: not gonna believe it. He tells her that we've just 97 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 1: been fucking around, nothing serious, as if this is something 98 00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:15,320 Speaker 1: that they do. So I started spassing on his ass 99 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:16,560 Speaker 1: and he yells at me just. 100 00:04:16,520 --> 00:04:19,280 Speaker 2: Get the fuck out. Ah. I was confused on it. 101 00:04:19,279 --> 00:04:21,640 Speaker 1: If I should be mad, should I be sad, or 102 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:24,039 Speaker 1: even if I should kill him? Mm, but you're trying 103 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:26,000 Speaker 1: to go to jail, real man, ain't you? So I 104 00:04:26,040 --> 00:04:27,680 Speaker 1: punched him in his throat and walked out. 105 00:04:28,120 --> 00:04:28,600 Speaker 2: Good call. 106 00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:31,479 Speaker 1: The next day, he's blowing my phone up, apologizing with 107 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:34,360 Speaker 1: the dumbest excuses ever, and even came to my job. 108 00:04:34,920 --> 00:04:37,640 Speaker 1: I told my assistant no visitors, which made him wait 109 00:04:37,640 --> 00:04:38,520 Speaker 1: for me at my house. 110 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:40,799 Speaker 2: Okay, assistant, I know that's right, black woman. 111 00:04:41,240 --> 00:04:43,680 Speaker 1: This man gets out of his car boohun talking about 112 00:04:43,720 --> 00:04:45,560 Speaker 1: how sorry he is and that his baby mom is 113 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:48,200 Speaker 1: threatening to take the baby away and how he's going 114 00:04:48,200 --> 00:04:49,880 Speaker 1: to be on child support. So he had to play 115 00:04:49,920 --> 00:04:51,760 Speaker 1: it like that and blah blah blah so she don't 116 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:52,800 Speaker 1: turn against him. 117 00:04:53,279 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 2: What I'm like? First of all, I didn't even know 118 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:56,560 Speaker 2: you had a fucking baby. 119 00:04:56,760 --> 00:04:59,680 Speaker 1: Okay, until I seen her and her mom standing on 120 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:02,240 Speaker 1: your you're a step looking to come back home. Oh 121 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:06,039 Speaker 1: my god, girl, just a whole bunch of bullshit. I 122 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:07,919 Speaker 1: told him, If you don't get the fuck off my porch, 123 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 1: I'm calling the police. Jess, I have never in my 124 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:13,160 Speaker 1: life dealt with something like this before. I feel like 125 00:05:13,200 --> 00:05:14,360 Speaker 1: I'm in a lifetime movie. 126 00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:14,680 Speaker 2: Loo. 127 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 1: Well, this sound like a lifetime movie. Honey, I'm only 128 00:05:17,279 --> 00:05:19,719 Speaker 1: twenty six. What should I do? How should I go 129 00:05:19,760 --> 00:05:22,719 Speaker 1: about this? How do I heal? I really started falling 130 00:05:22,760 --> 00:05:26,520 Speaker 1: for him and I never seen this coming. Oh my god, 131 00:05:26,279 --> 00:05:28,720 Speaker 1: that that was. That was a pretty juicy story there, 132 00:05:28,760 --> 00:05:30,560 Speaker 1: and that was a lot. Hold up, Hold up, I 133 00:05:30,600 --> 00:05:32,599 Speaker 1: know this shit getting good. But listen to just a 134 00:05:32,640 --> 00:05:37,360 Speaker 1: couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. Okay, 135 00:05:37,560 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 1: how should you go about this? You should leave, honey. 136 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 1: The proof is right there and you're putting it. Don't 137 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 1: get no more crystal clear. It don't get no more 138 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:47,760 Speaker 1: crystal clearer than that. First of all, your woman in 139 00:05:47,760 --> 00:05:50,159 Speaker 1: a wish. And that's something that we got that tells 140 00:05:50,240 --> 00:05:53,560 Speaker 1: us something before we tell ourselves something. You understand is 141 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 1: before we even can verbally say it, we're already thinking it. 142 00:05:56,480 --> 00:05:59,040 Speaker 1: Your inuition is your guardian angel, and I need for 143 00:05:59,080 --> 00:05:59,960 Speaker 1: more women to live. 144 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:00,520 Speaker 2: Listen to that. 145 00:06:00,839 --> 00:06:02,960 Speaker 1: You knew somewhat right. You know, you said you've been, 146 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:04,680 Speaker 1: you know, dealing with the guy for five months. He's 147 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:07,120 Speaker 1: never invited you over to his house and when you 148 00:06:07,160 --> 00:06:09,560 Speaker 1: ask him, is because something always going wrong with the water. 149 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 1: What the fuck y'all live in Flint, Michigan. N Yeah, yeah, 150 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:13,960 Speaker 1: stop fucking playing with me. 151 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:15,120 Speaker 2: Fuck the water. 152 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:17,359 Speaker 1: Nigga, you never eat, like you said, no, you just 153 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:21,440 Speaker 1: never even extended the invitation, like yo, Like, we just 154 00:06:21,520 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 1: keep going to myles, going out and going to my house, 155 00:06:23,360 --> 00:06:25,480 Speaker 1: going out and going to myus. And I've had stories 156 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:29,080 Speaker 1: similar to this one before where a man wouldn't invite 157 00:06:29,080 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 1: the woman over and then the woman later found out 158 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:32,600 Speaker 1: that there was a wife that he was hiding, or 159 00:06:32,640 --> 00:06:34,520 Speaker 1: there was a girlfriend he was hiding, or the nigga 160 00:06:34,520 --> 00:06:36,280 Speaker 1: ain't even have a house he lived with his mom. 161 00:06:36,839 --> 00:06:38,919 Speaker 1: In this case, I wish that was the case because 162 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:41,440 Speaker 1: now I hate that you felt for this guy and 163 00:06:41,440 --> 00:06:43,040 Speaker 1: that you do really like him. I don't know if 164 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:46,159 Speaker 1: you love him or not, because this is five months. 165 00:06:46,160 --> 00:06:48,160 Speaker 1: But love doesn't have a time on it, you know 166 00:06:48,200 --> 00:06:49,800 Speaker 1: what I mean. You can love a nigga in five days. 167 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:51,159 Speaker 1: You could love a nigga in five years. 168 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:51,400 Speaker 2: You know. 169 00:06:52,040 --> 00:06:55,200 Speaker 1: But I can tell that you you express a deep 170 00:06:55,200 --> 00:06:57,320 Speaker 1: concern about this because you really really love I mean, 171 00:06:57,360 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 1: because you really really like him. You're attractive woman, obviously 172 00:07:00,520 --> 00:07:03,320 Speaker 1: there is something there. And you say, he mocked every 173 00:07:03,440 --> 00:07:06,919 Speaker 1: check on your list, honey until the baby, mama, and 174 00:07:06,960 --> 00:07:10,000 Speaker 1: the baby popped up that night. All right, So when 175 00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:11,840 Speaker 1: is the last time you talk to him? I mean, 176 00:07:11,840 --> 00:07:14,680 Speaker 1: because obviously if you're telling me you don't know what 177 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:17,000 Speaker 1: you should do or how to feel, or you're angry, 178 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 1: and then said you miss him, And I can almost 179 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:24,280 Speaker 1: assure every listener listening to this that you've been in 180 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 1: contact again. Now I'm not gonna say you're stupid for that. 181 00:07:28,320 --> 00:07:30,040 Speaker 1: I'm not going to say you're dumb, but I am 182 00:07:30,080 --> 00:07:32,680 Speaker 1: going to say, if anything else comes out with this woman, 183 00:07:33,080 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 1: and if he doesn't leave her, you know anything, you know, 184 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:38,160 Speaker 1: it's kind of like but you knew, you know what 185 00:07:38,200 --> 00:07:40,320 Speaker 1: I mean, you knew now you can't just turn off 186 00:07:40,360 --> 00:07:43,040 Speaker 1: your feelings for somebody. But he hit a whole fucking 187 00:07:43,080 --> 00:07:43,800 Speaker 1: baby from you. 188 00:07:44,160 --> 00:07:44,640 Speaker 2: Baby. 189 00:07:44,720 --> 00:07:47,480 Speaker 1: I'm not saying he doesn't care about you, but he's 190 00:07:47,520 --> 00:07:49,680 Speaker 1: not upfront and truthful, and he's not to be trusted 191 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:52,800 Speaker 1: until he is proven to be trusted. He hid a 192 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:56,520 Speaker 1: baby from you. I understand the reason he gave a 193 00:07:56,520 --> 00:08:00,760 Speaker 1: reason about hiding the baby. Mother says she's gonna put 194 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:02,640 Speaker 1: me on child support and she's gonna turn against me. 195 00:08:02,640 --> 00:08:04,600 Speaker 1: I'm never gonna see my child again, but you never 196 00:08:04,680 --> 00:08:06,600 Speaker 1: even let me know that you had a fucking child. 197 00:08:06,840 --> 00:08:09,040 Speaker 2: How old is the baby? How old is the baby? 198 00:08:09,080 --> 00:08:11,240 Speaker 2: She says she lived there. You know what I mean. 199 00:08:11,240 --> 00:08:14,640 Speaker 1: Even if they're not happy, they're still technically together, even 200 00:08:14,680 --> 00:08:16,680 Speaker 1: if he's fighting to get out of the relationship. You 201 00:08:16,680 --> 00:08:18,000 Speaker 1: don't need to be up in that until he is 202 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:21,280 Speaker 1: fully past her and able to leave her alone and 203 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:24,680 Speaker 1: able to control the situation, because it don't seem like 204 00:08:24,680 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 1: he had controlled at all. Talk about somebody trying to 205 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:28,560 Speaker 1: surf him with some fucking papers because of something that 206 00:08:28,600 --> 00:08:30,240 Speaker 1: he didn't do. No, what you didn't do is tell 207 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:30,920 Speaker 1: the fucking truth. 208 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:31,400 Speaker 2: Scotti. 209 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: I don't know if that's his name or not, but 210 00:08:33,040 --> 00:08:35,600 Speaker 1: we're gonna go with Scotty. You know you didn't tell 211 00:08:35,640 --> 00:08:37,440 Speaker 1: me the fucking truth, and now my feelings are hurt. 212 00:08:37,760 --> 00:08:40,760 Speaker 1: And you were in that woman's house, so she had 213 00:08:40,800 --> 00:08:42,320 Speaker 1: every right to call you a bit, to feel you 214 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:45,920 Speaker 1: feel a certain way or whatever, because this is her home. 215 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:47,040 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. 216 00:08:47,640 --> 00:08:50,080 Speaker 1: Now, you are probably not the first or the last 217 00:08:50,200 --> 00:08:51,960 Speaker 1: woman that she's caught in their home. 218 00:08:52,160 --> 00:08:53,079 Speaker 2: You understand what I'm saying. 219 00:08:53,080 --> 00:08:54,640 Speaker 1: They probably take a little breaks, and she'd probably go 220 00:08:54,679 --> 00:08:56,160 Speaker 1: stay at her mothers, go stay at her friends, or 221 00:08:56,160 --> 00:08:58,520 Speaker 1: go get her own apartment or whatever, and then comes 222 00:08:58,559 --> 00:09:01,440 Speaker 1: back because it's still her home. She just probably takes 223 00:09:01,480 --> 00:09:03,680 Speaker 1: these breaks because, like you said, they was doing this 224 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:05,640 Speaker 1: like this is something that they do. Obviously, if you 225 00:09:05,640 --> 00:09:07,640 Speaker 1: think it's something they acted like, this was something that 226 00:09:07,679 --> 00:09:10,520 Speaker 1: they do, this is something that they do. She has 227 00:09:10,559 --> 00:09:13,160 Speaker 1: called this nigga and she can't get over him and 228 00:09:13,200 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 1: he can't leave her. That's just what it is, and 229 00:09:15,559 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 1: that's actually common these days. It's not normal, but it's 230 00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:24,080 Speaker 1: very common. It's not right, but it's very common. It's 231 00:09:24,120 --> 00:09:26,920 Speaker 1: not cute either, but it's very common. And it doesn't 232 00:09:26,960 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 1: make it okay because it happens so frequent, but it's I. 233 00:09:30,440 --> 00:09:31,720 Speaker 2: Think you can do better than this. 234 00:09:32,360 --> 00:09:33,880 Speaker 1: You didn't tell me what you do for work, but 235 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:37,040 Speaker 1: you did say you told your assistant, no, visitors, no, 236 00:09:37,200 --> 00:09:39,040 Speaker 1: So that lets me know right there that you're a 237 00:09:39,080 --> 00:09:41,400 Speaker 1: boss of some sort, like some kind. I don't know 238 00:09:41,400 --> 00:09:43,160 Speaker 1: if you own your own company or whatever, but you 239 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:45,439 Speaker 1: are a fucking boss. You're only twenty six. You got 240 00:09:45,440 --> 00:09:47,600 Speaker 1: four more years until you hit that third decade of 241 00:09:47,640 --> 00:09:50,520 Speaker 1: your life. You know, live out your twenties, live out 242 00:09:50,520 --> 00:09:54,480 Speaker 1: your twenties date, but focused on your career because you're 243 00:09:54,480 --> 00:09:56,560 Speaker 1: at that half mark, you know what I mean, like 244 00:09:56,600 --> 00:09:58,680 Speaker 1: where you got four more years to figure the shit out, 245 00:09:58,840 --> 00:10:01,080 Speaker 1: and you can't be fucking up. You can't be sucking up. 246 00:10:01,160 --> 00:10:03,280 Speaker 1: You are already a boss. You have an assistant, so you 247 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:05,520 Speaker 1: already have You know what responsibility is. You know what 248 00:10:05,559 --> 00:10:08,600 Speaker 1: self discipline is. Discipline yourself and lead that nigga alone. 249 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:09,800 Speaker 1: Leave him alone. 250 00:10:10,040 --> 00:10:10,440 Speaker 2: Fuck that. 251 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:12,960 Speaker 1: If he checked off every mark on your list, make 252 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:14,719 Speaker 1: another list, because that wasn't it. 253 00:10:15,160 --> 00:10:16,360 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. I want to know what 254 00:10:16,400 --> 00:10:17,640 Speaker 2: the fuck was on your list of how the fuck 255 00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:21,360 Speaker 2: you didn't see this coming? Jesus. But niggas are slick. 256 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:23,760 Speaker 2: I will give you that. Men are slick. And you 257 00:10:23,760 --> 00:10:24,360 Speaker 2: know so are we. 258 00:10:24,480 --> 00:10:26,760 Speaker 1: But in this case, men are very slick and they 259 00:10:26,760 --> 00:10:30,480 Speaker 1: can hide things and you would never know. But to 260 00:10:30,520 --> 00:10:34,520 Speaker 1: tell you something going on with the water, you know, I. 261 00:10:35,760 --> 00:10:36,320 Speaker 2: Just don't know. 262 00:10:36,640 --> 00:10:39,160 Speaker 1: I think I think that you should really have a 263 00:10:39,200 --> 00:10:42,200 Speaker 1: conversation with him and tell him that you're gonna move on, 264 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:46,240 Speaker 1: because this is not something that you want to You 265 00:10:46,280 --> 00:10:49,240 Speaker 1: don't want to dim your light like this by just 266 00:10:49,320 --> 00:10:53,679 Speaker 1: allowing him to be shared between you and another woman 267 00:10:53,720 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 1: like you don't want to share him. And then the 268 00:10:56,080 --> 00:10:59,400 Speaker 1: woman that you're sharing him with, she ain't gonna have 269 00:10:59,400 --> 00:11:00,720 Speaker 1: gon nowhere because he has his child. 270 00:11:01,480 --> 00:11:03,199 Speaker 2: And then if he already scared. 271 00:11:02,920 --> 00:11:05,000 Speaker 1: The death to make up all these stories about how 272 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:07,040 Speaker 1: the water don't work in this place because you know, 273 00:11:07,160 --> 00:11:08,520 Speaker 1: he don't want you to run into her, and all 274 00:11:08,559 --> 00:11:11,360 Speaker 1: that he scared of her ass too, you know what 275 00:11:11,440 --> 00:11:13,760 Speaker 1: I'm saying. They still hunt him for sure. She can't 276 00:11:13,800 --> 00:11:15,360 Speaker 1: get past him, and he won't leave her. So you 277 00:11:15,520 --> 00:11:17,839 Speaker 1: tell me what you need to do with that. Update me, 278 00:11:17,920 --> 00:11:21,640 Speaker 1: baby girl, you're better than that and moving on. Okay, 279 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:24,400 Speaker 1: here we go, woo child, where do I start? 280 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:26,040 Speaker 2: I hope you can fix my mess? Jest. 281 00:11:26,160 --> 00:11:28,040 Speaker 1: So I met this guy at the beginning of twenty twenty, 282 00:11:28,160 --> 00:11:31,400 Speaker 1: right before COVID hit. It was literally supposed to be 283 00:11:31,559 --> 00:11:33,839 Speaker 1: just the hookup and that was it because he was 284 00:11:33,920 --> 00:11:36,560 Speaker 1: from out of town originally and here in the Dirty 285 00:11:36,640 --> 00:11:39,319 Speaker 1: D just visiting. Hey, y'all, shout out to The Dirty D. 286 00:11:39,480 --> 00:11:42,840 Speaker 1: That is a series on TV and it's now on Peacock. 287 00:11:42,880 --> 00:11:47,480 Speaker 1: Congratulations to Lisa Brown and the acts just some of 288 00:11:47,559 --> 00:11:50,199 Speaker 1: the actors that I do know by name. Diesel is 289 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:54,240 Speaker 1: in it, Crystal to Dall, my guy who looked like 290 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:56,200 Speaker 1: James Earl Jones. He looked like he can be James 291 00:11:56,240 --> 00:11:59,640 Speaker 1: Earl Jones's son, Like Yo. Detroit is really like the 292 00:11:59,760 --> 00:12:02,800 Speaker 1: new fucking Black Hollywood, and I love it. I fucking 293 00:12:02,880 --> 00:12:05,199 Speaker 1: love it, y'all. If you haven't seen Dirty D, hop 294 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:07,960 Speaker 1: on to b O Peacock and watched the whole first 295 00:12:08,000 --> 00:12:10,520 Speaker 1: season and the second season as well. 296 00:12:10,600 --> 00:12:12,040 Speaker 2: It's a really really good story. Man. 297 00:12:12,080 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 1: They executed the acting well and as you get and 298 00:12:15,880 --> 00:12:17,160 Speaker 1: you know what, my bad, I'm going a little bit 299 00:12:17,200 --> 00:12:17,719 Speaker 1: too much into it. 300 00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:18,000 Speaker 2: My bad. 301 00:12:18,080 --> 00:12:19,520 Speaker 1: Let me get back to her story. And that's my 302 00:12:19,600 --> 00:12:22,600 Speaker 1: show right there. So you're in Detroit basically, all right, 303 00:12:22,800 --> 00:12:23,480 Speaker 1: that's what they call it. 304 00:12:23,559 --> 00:12:23,959 Speaker 2: Dirty D. 305 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:24,320 Speaker 3: Y'all. 306 00:12:24,720 --> 00:12:27,240 Speaker 1: So fast forward a couple months, he came back up 307 00:12:27,280 --> 00:12:29,480 Speaker 1: here to visit again and we linked up again for 308 00:12:29,600 --> 00:12:30,319 Speaker 1: what I don't know. 309 00:12:30,720 --> 00:12:33,040 Speaker 2: I wasn't looking for anything serious, for the simple fact 310 00:12:33,080 --> 00:12:35,520 Speaker 2: that he wasn't from here. So we link again, and 311 00:12:35,679 --> 00:12:39,160 Speaker 2: you know, we do the nasty. Oh yeah, y'all did 312 00:12:39,200 --> 00:12:41,040 Speaker 2: an answer in a dirty day. I know that's all right. 313 00:12:41,480 --> 00:12:43,199 Speaker 2: He came to me before he left and was like, 314 00:12:43,280 --> 00:12:45,480 Speaker 2: I want to be with you. I'm like, say, what, 315 00:12:45,760 --> 00:12:47,599 Speaker 2: come again? He like, I want to be with you. 316 00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:50,280 Speaker 2: I'm like, how you don't even be here like that? 317 00:12:50,679 --> 00:12:53,559 Speaker 2: He gonna say, so, I'll make it work. I know what. 318 00:12:53,559 --> 00:12:55,680 Speaker 2: That's right, girl, This man is telling you he's gonna 319 00:12:55,679 --> 00:12:57,120 Speaker 2: make it work. He's professing his live. 320 00:12:58,000 --> 00:13:00,800 Speaker 1: Fast forward another couple months, we locked in, rocking hard 321 00:13:00,920 --> 00:13:05,120 Speaker 1: out the gate stupid right, No, not stupid, but me 322 00:13:05,280 --> 00:13:07,640 Speaker 1: being me. I love hard and plus he was fine 323 00:13:07,679 --> 00:13:11,480 Speaker 1: as hell with some good ass d they be the ones. 324 00:13:12,120 --> 00:13:14,800 Speaker 1: But ever since then we've been breaking up, getting back 325 00:13:14,800 --> 00:13:16,360 Speaker 1: together multiple times. 326 00:13:16,800 --> 00:13:20,280 Speaker 2: We've been through it all. Okay, so that's it. Like 327 00:13:20,400 --> 00:13:22,400 Speaker 2: she she just left it like that. She ain't want 328 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:23,160 Speaker 2: to say nothing else. 329 00:13:23,360 --> 00:13:25,080 Speaker 1: I hate what y'all do this I hate when y'all 330 00:13:25,200 --> 00:13:28,839 Speaker 1: leave me on a cliff, just hanging and dangling because 331 00:13:28,880 --> 00:13:30,960 Speaker 1: y'all don't know what what the fuck? 332 00:13:31,040 --> 00:13:33,480 Speaker 2: What happened? Did the nigga walk in the room while 333 00:13:33,520 --> 00:13:35,959 Speaker 2: you was typing and sent this shit to me? Like? 334 00:13:36,120 --> 00:13:37,959 Speaker 2: Come on, like, I need to know what else is 335 00:13:38,040 --> 00:13:39,240 Speaker 2: going on? All right? 336 00:13:39,320 --> 00:13:41,800 Speaker 1: So I guess if we can go from where you 337 00:13:42,000 --> 00:13:46,200 Speaker 1: left off, then you know, basically everything was good up 338 00:13:46,320 --> 00:13:48,760 Speaker 1: until just a couple of months ago. I want to 339 00:13:48,840 --> 00:13:50,720 Speaker 1: know did he move to Detroit because y'all you said 340 00:13:50,760 --> 00:13:52,960 Speaker 1: y'all locked in and everything, like, did he move ended 341 00:13:53,040 --> 00:13:53,679 Speaker 1: up moving there? 342 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:56,760 Speaker 2: Did you move to where he is? Does he just 343 00:13:56,840 --> 00:13:58,040 Speaker 2: come up certain times? 344 00:13:58,120 --> 00:13:58,160 Speaker 3: Like? 345 00:13:58,400 --> 00:13:59,800 Speaker 2: Is he there? More? What happened? 346 00:14:00,000 --> 00:14:03,000 Speaker 1: Because you said ever since ever since then, we've been 347 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:04,880 Speaker 1: breaking up and getting back together multiple times? 348 00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:08,839 Speaker 2: Now, did you catch them cheating with somebody else in 349 00:14:08,920 --> 00:14:11,640 Speaker 2: the dirty d like? What was it? I need to know. 350 00:14:12,120 --> 00:14:14,760 Speaker 2: I need to know because you just left me hanging here. 351 00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:16,839 Speaker 2: I don't have no advice to give you. 352 00:14:17,320 --> 00:14:20,320 Speaker 1: I will say I will speak on long distance relationships 353 00:14:20,360 --> 00:14:23,080 Speaker 1: though I have done that, and it takes a certain 354 00:14:23,120 --> 00:14:25,320 Speaker 1: type of person to be able to endure having a 355 00:14:25,400 --> 00:14:28,080 Speaker 1: relationship with someone or being in a relationship with someone 356 00:14:28,120 --> 00:14:30,760 Speaker 1: that lives miles and miles away, like not somewhere you 357 00:14:30,800 --> 00:14:33,000 Speaker 1: can drive to like a plane ride, you know what 358 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:34,840 Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like you got to take a train to get. 359 00:14:34,680 --> 00:14:36,360 Speaker 2: To this motherfucker. Like you got to be driving for 360 00:14:36,440 --> 00:14:38,440 Speaker 2: more than five hours to get to this nigga. 361 00:14:38,720 --> 00:14:41,600 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. It takes a certain human 362 00:14:41,680 --> 00:14:43,200 Speaker 1: being to be able to do that. It takes a 363 00:14:43,240 --> 00:14:46,200 Speaker 1: certain amount of patience to be able to deal with that. 364 00:14:46,880 --> 00:14:49,080 Speaker 1: I don't think I could because I'm a very clingy person. 365 00:14:49,160 --> 00:14:51,200 Speaker 1: I'm clingy. You know, us Aquarius as we love and 366 00:14:51,280 --> 00:14:54,480 Speaker 1: we love hard. You know, we love physically, emotionally, mentally, 367 00:14:54,600 --> 00:14:56,880 Speaker 1: we love you with everything that we have. I can 368 00:14:56,960 --> 00:14:58,720 Speaker 1: only speak on my sign because I've been my sign 369 00:14:58,800 --> 00:15:00,320 Speaker 1: for thirty one years and I ain't going way. It 370 00:15:00,320 --> 00:15:03,160 Speaker 1: ain't gonna change, So I know how I love you 371 00:15:03,280 --> 00:15:07,880 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. But to that point, I don't 372 00:15:08,080 --> 00:15:12,400 Speaker 1: think the best thing is to be in a relationship 373 00:15:12,840 --> 00:15:16,600 Speaker 1: where you're not close to your lover, you know, because 374 00:15:16,680 --> 00:15:19,080 Speaker 1: then trust issues can arouse, you know what I'm saying, 375 00:15:19,120 --> 00:15:20,920 Speaker 1: Like what you're doing when you there, I mean when 376 00:15:20,960 --> 00:15:23,280 Speaker 1: you when you in Detroit, you my nigga, But when 377 00:15:23,320 --> 00:15:25,640 Speaker 1: you go back to Chicago. I I'm just throwing something 378 00:15:25,680 --> 00:15:28,160 Speaker 1: out there. When he's in Chicago, when you in Chicago, 379 00:15:28,200 --> 00:15:30,960 Speaker 1: you could be doing what whatever with who knows who? 380 00:15:31,120 --> 00:15:33,920 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, like, And then what are 381 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:35,800 Speaker 1: you doing because at the beginning of the story, you 382 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:37,560 Speaker 1: said that you didn't even want a relationship. You were 383 00:15:37,600 --> 00:15:39,400 Speaker 1: just looking to fuck somebody. You know what I'm saying, Like, 384 00:15:40,000 --> 00:15:41,760 Speaker 1: is that the shit you're still on? I mean, I 385 00:15:41,840 --> 00:15:43,480 Speaker 1: know you fell for Home and all of that shit, 386 00:15:43,520 --> 00:15:46,160 Speaker 1: but where you did you still have other people like 387 00:15:46,320 --> 00:15:48,560 Speaker 1: on your roster when you started dealing with him, because 388 00:15:48,680 --> 00:15:51,000 Speaker 1: you said he came to you and proposed a relationship first, 389 00:15:51,120 --> 00:15:53,440 Speaker 1: you didn't come to him and say that that ain't 390 00:15:53,440 --> 00:15:55,840 Speaker 1: even what you wanted to begin with. So let me 391 00:15:55,960 --> 00:15:57,600 Speaker 1: know your side of the story too. Did you still 392 00:15:57,600 --> 00:15:59,280 Speaker 1: have niggas you was talking to that you couldn't just 393 00:15:59,320 --> 00:16:02,520 Speaker 1: cut off? Because now he's in your city, he's coming 394 00:16:02,600 --> 00:16:04,320 Speaker 1: to your city. You understand what I'm saying, ain't no 395 00:16:04,400 --> 00:16:06,600 Speaker 1: telling what you were doing either, you know, ain't no 396 00:16:06,680 --> 00:16:08,400 Speaker 1: telling what he was doing. But and the reason why 397 00:16:08,400 --> 00:16:11,440 Speaker 1: I'm not trying to blame you for y'all breaking up 398 00:16:11,520 --> 00:16:13,480 Speaker 1: multiple times and nothing, you know, nothing like that. I'm 399 00:16:13,520 --> 00:16:14,880 Speaker 1: just going off of what you told me you didn't 400 00:16:14,880 --> 00:16:18,360 Speaker 1: even want a relationship as the table turned where you 401 00:16:18,960 --> 00:16:21,480 Speaker 1: wanted this relationship and then he jumped in intoo fast 402 00:16:21,520 --> 00:16:22,920 Speaker 1: and he felt like he didn't want it anymore. 403 00:16:22,960 --> 00:16:24,200 Speaker 2: I need some more meat on the bone. 404 00:16:24,200 --> 00:16:27,600 Speaker 1: Why the fuck you're gonna send me a passage and 405 00:16:27,680 --> 00:16:29,760 Speaker 1: then be like to be continued, bitch that say how 406 00:16:29,840 --> 00:16:30,160 Speaker 1: that work? 407 00:16:30,200 --> 00:16:32,200 Speaker 2: Ain't no commercials? The fuck? 408 00:16:32,880 --> 00:16:35,080 Speaker 1: Come on, girl, I need to know. So you need 409 00:16:35,120 --> 00:16:37,360 Speaker 1: to get back with me and let me know what happened. 410 00:16:37,720 --> 00:16:39,520 Speaker 1: And then your name is beauty and brains. 411 00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:40,440 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. 412 00:16:40,480 --> 00:16:42,480 Speaker 1: Oh damn, I done gave you Instagram name other saw Good. 413 00:16:42,480 --> 00:16:44,640 Speaker 1: It's a million of y'all on there. They don't know 414 00:16:44,680 --> 00:16:47,000 Speaker 1: the underscores and the periods and shit. But you got 415 00:16:47,040 --> 00:16:49,040 Speaker 1: beauty and brains. The bitch you need to use both, 416 00:16:49,400 --> 00:16:52,880 Speaker 1: all right, I'm serious about this. Now, we got a 417 00:16:52,920 --> 00:16:55,000 Speaker 1: commercial and if you click off of this podcast, I 418 00:16:55,040 --> 00:16:56,080 Speaker 1: swear I'm gonna beat your ass. 419 00:16:56,560 --> 00:16:56,840 Speaker 2: Listen. 420 00:16:59,040 --> 00:17:02,920 Speaker 1: Moving on last story. Heyjus, I've been dealing with this 421 00:17:03,000 --> 00:17:05,320 Speaker 1: girl for a month. We've been kicking it and been 422 00:17:05,600 --> 00:17:08,640 Speaker 1: very cool with each other. However, she travels a lot, 423 00:17:08,720 --> 00:17:12,040 Speaker 1: and so do I. She currently stays in Vegas, so 424 00:17:12,200 --> 00:17:14,919 Speaker 1: the time zone is very different. I get up very 425 00:17:15,000 --> 00:17:18,560 Speaker 1: early when I'm getting up for work. She's going out now. 426 00:17:18,680 --> 00:17:20,919 Speaker 1: The career that she's in, she's surrounded by a lot 427 00:17:21,000 --> 00:17:24,600 Speaker 1: of celebrities. She's always around big influencers and things like that, 428 00:17:25,160 --> 00:17:27,639 Speaker 1: as well as I am, but she's a little different 429 00:17:27,680 --> 00:17:30,440 Speaker 1: with it. I feel as if she comes off as 430 00:17:30,440 --> 00:17:33,640 Speaker 1: a groupie at times, and I don't like that, because 431 00:17:33,640 --> 00:17:36,879 Speaker 1: if you're supposed to be into me, then all that 432 00:17:37,119 --> 00:17:38,720 Speaker 1: energy is supposed to go into me. 433 00:17:39,240 --> 00:17:39,400 Speaker 2: Now. 434 00:17:39,600 --> 00:17:42,840 Speaker 1: I understand about being starstruck, as I've been starstruck a 435 00:17:42,920 --> 00:17:45,880 Speaker 1: few times, but I don't give groupie. We got into 436 00:17:45,920 --> 00:17:48,840 Speaker 1: an argument about it just last night. She was saying 437 00:17:48,880 --> 00:17:51,399 Speaker 1: that one of her favorite influencers was going to be 438 00:17:51,960 --> 00:17:52,920 Speaker 1: at a venue. 439 00:17:52,920 --> 00:17:53,840 Speaker 2: That she had to work. 440 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:56,680 Speaker 1: I don't know whether she was joking or not, but 441 00:17:56,840 --> 00:17:59,560 Speaker 1: she quoted that's my type. I can't wait to see 442 00:17:59,600 --> 00:18:03,600 Speaker 1: her to night groupie or nah. That shit made me mad, 443 00:18:03,720 --> 00:18:06,040 Speaker 1: and I must say, I don't know where to go 444 00:18:06,640 --> 00:18:09,119 Speaker 1: from here. Do I stop talking to her? Do I 445 00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:13,080 Speaker 1: communicate with her now, Jess, I'm around celebrities all the time, 446 00:18:13,320 --> 00:18:17,040 Speaker 1: but I never act pressed like that, especially because I 447 00:18:17,320 --> 00:18:20,600 Speaker 1: am devoting myself to this one person and I'm actually 448 00:18:20,680 --> 00:18:24,080 Speaker 1: working on being in a relationship with someone someone that 449 00:18:24,160 --> 00:18:26,720 Speaker 1: lives so far away that's also kind of doing the 450 00:18:26,800 --> 00:18:29,119 Speaker 1: same thing that I'm doing. I just want to know 451 00:18:29,880 --> 00:18:32,960 Speaker 1: are we compatible? Have you ever been in this situation before, 452 00:18:33,080 --> 00:18:36,000 Speaker 1: and if so, how would you handle it? Because she's 453 00:18:36,160 --> 00:18:39,080 Speaker 1: very attractive to me, but this makes her unattractive and 454 00:18:39,160 --> 00:18:41,560 Speaker 1: it pushes me away, and I'm scared to even go 455 00:18:41,680 --> 00:18:43,920 Speaker 1: out in public with her because what if we run 456 00:18:43,960 --> 00:18:46,440 Speaker 1: into a celebrity while we're out? Will you act like 457 00:18:46,480 --> 00:18:48,440 Speaker 1: a groupie in front of me? Will you leave me 458 00:18:48,880 --> 00:18:50,879 Speaker 1: to go hang out with them? I just need to 459 00:18:50,920 --> 00:18:54,119 Speaker 1: know what you would do in this case. Well, I 460 00:18:54,240 --> 00:18:55,879 Speaker 1: want to know how old both of you are. If 461 00:18:55,920 --> 00:18:57,680 Speaker 1: you can write me back and keep me updated, I 462 00:18:57,760 --> 00:18:59,640 Speaker 1: want to know how old both of you are, because 463 00:18:59,640 --> 00:19:04,600 Speaker 1: this is said like, you know, childish activity and coming 464 00:19:04,640 --> 00:19:08,760 Speaker 1: from somebody of youth, you know, and it's expected for 465 00:19:08,880 --> 00:19:11,760 Speaker 1: somebody to be around celebrities and act pressed and you know, 466 00:19:11,840 --> 00:19:13,600 Speaker 1: and to even be a groupie or whatever. 467 00:19:13,720 --> 00:19:16,159 Speaker 2: You know. I'm just happy to be around celebrities. 468 00:19:16,560 --> 00:19:21,880 Speaker 1: However, if you are engaging a little too much, then yeah, 469 00:19:22,160 --> 00:19:23,800 Speaker 1: at that point, it's like, all right, because you do 470 00:19:23,920 --> 00:19:26,440 Speaker 1: have somebody at home you are dating, So I don't 471 00:19:26,480 --> 00:19:28,240 Speaker 1: give a fuck if it's a celebrity or not. I 472 00:19:28,320 --> 00:19:30,960 Speaker 1: don't give a fuck if Tianna Taylor walked through a 473 00:19:31,000 --> 00:19:32,840 Speaker 1: motherfucking door. Bitch, you are supposed to. 474 00:19:32,880 --> 00:19:36,680 Speaker 2: Be my girl. We're working on this. We've been dealing 475 00:19:36,720 --> 00:19:37,119 Speaker 2: with each other. 476 00:19:37,200 --> 00:19:40,280 Speaker 1: Now you said it's only been a month, I'm gonna 477 00:19:40,320 --> 00:19:42,520 Speaker 1: assume that it's been a month that y'all have been together, 478 00:19:42,840 --> 00:19:46,560 Speaker 1: or you can give me more of an update, whether 479 00:19:46,680 --> 00:19:48,720 Speaker 1: that's y'all were together for a month or y'all have 480 00:19:48,840 --> 00:19:51,000 Speaker 1: only been knowing each other for a month. Because knowing 481 00:19:51,080 --> 00:19:54,720 Speaker 1: each other for a month that actually changes my answer 482 00:19:54,840 --> 00:19:56,440 Speaker 1: because you have to you have to get to know 483 00:19:56,520 --> 00:19:59,720 Speaker 1: her more. You know what I'm saying. And whoever they 484 00:20:00,040 --> 00:20:02,440 Speaker 1: know you, they are, they are that person. This sounds 485 00:20:02,560 --> 00:20:08,320 Speaker 1: like a person who obviously they didn't grow up being 486 00:20:08,480 --> 00:20:10,920 Speaker 1: in the industry. You know, she probably this job is 487 00:20:11,000 --> 00:20:14,200 Speaker 1: probably new for her. Because if you still being a 488 00:20:14,240 --> 00:20:16,680 Speaker 1: groupie and this is something that you've been doing for 489 00:20:16,800 --> 00:20:20,159 Speaker 1: a long time. Then yeah, you're you're probably more so 490 00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:22,760 Speaker 1: an opportunists more than likely, you know what I'm saying. 491 00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:24,720 Speaker 1: I mean, I just you know, looking for the next 492 00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:26,720 Speaker 1: big thing or you are you one of those people 493 00:20:26,760 --> 00:20:29,359 Speaker 1: that like to jump on whoever's hot and shit like that. 494 00:20:29,880 --> 00:20:31,920 Speaker 2: I think you need to give me more clarity on that. 495 00:20:32,320 --> 00:20:36,080 Speaker 1: I was in a relationship with somebody who was in 496 00:20:36,160 --> 00:20:38,200 Speaker 1: the same line of work as you know as me, 497 00:20:38,359 --> 00:20:40,560 Speaker 1: but they wasn't a groupie. They wasn't really pressed to 498 00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:43,320 Speaker 1: be around you know, celebrities. But he was an older gentleman, 499 00:20:43,400 --> 00:20:45,320 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I think this girl may 500 00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:47,960 Speaker 1: be young, and she may be out of your fucking league. 501 00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:49,840 Speaker 1: To be honest, you sound a lot more mature than 502 00:20:49,880 --> 00:20:53,119 Speaker 1: she is. And I think if she is young, and 503 00:20:53,359 --> 00:20:55,520 Speaker 1: if this is the case, she just got to grow up, 504 00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:59,280 Speaker 1: that's all. And you, you, being as mature as you are, 505 00:20:59,600 --> 00:21:02,240 Speaker 1: you gotta date on your level, you know what I mean. 506 00:21:02,320 --> 00:21:05,400 Speaker 1: A lot of people are not gonna be on your level. 507 00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:06,959 Speaker 1: I don't give fuck how much money they got, how 508 00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:10,080 Speaker 1: many celebrities they rub elbows with, whatever, you know, there 509 00:21:10,119 --> 00:21:14,720 Speaker 1: has to be some type of standard that your partner 510 00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:18,080 Speaker 1: can hold their self to even around celebrities, you know, 511 00:21:18,160 --> 00:21:20,000 Speaker 1: and if you're able to do it, she's able to 512 00:21:20,040 --> 00:21:20,520 Speaker 1: do it as well. 513 00:21:20,600 --> 00:21:24,320 Speaker 2: But maybe she's not ready. So again, I want to 514 00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:24,640 Speaker 2: know if. 515 00:21:24,560 --> 00:21:26,239 Speaker 1: You guys have been together for a month or if 516 00:21:26,280 --> 00:21:27,960 Speaker 1: you guys have been talking four month, because then you 517 00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:30,000 Speaker 1: got a lot more getting to know her to do, 518 00:21:30,600 --> 00:21:32,520 Speaker 1: you know, And I think you should have a conversation 519 00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:33,720 Speaker 1: with her. And let I know you said y'all got 520 00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:35,560 Speaker 1: into an argument about it, but I think you should 521 00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:37,240 Speaker 1: actually go into depth a lot more. 522 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:37,520 Speaker 3: You know. 523 00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:40,000 Speaker 2: Look, especially if you know what you want. Look, this 524 00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:41,920 Speaker 2: is what I want. We're in the same line of work. 525 00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:43,960 Speaker 1: There should be no reason that you should be this 526 00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:47,119 Speaker 1: way around around celebrities, especially if you're telling me that 527 00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:49,320 Speaker 1: you want me and we're in this together. 528 00:21:49,760 --> 00:21:52,800 Speaker 2: Now. The time zone shit, that shit is different. It 529 00:21:52,960 --> 00:21:53,679 Speaker 2: is very different. 530 00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:55,640 Speaker 1: I mean, should be outside all hours of the night, 531 00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:59,320 Speaker 1: which some jobs in this industry require, you know, late 532 00:21:59,440 --> 00:22:00,600 Speaker 1: nights and all that type of shit. 533 00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:03,920 Speaker 2: But all of that extra you know, going in my 534 00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:05,000 Speaker 2: a and all the extra shit. 535 00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:07,600 Speaker 1: Nah, that's like dating a rabit at oh, I was 536 00:22:07,640 --> 00:22:10,240 Speaker 1: in the studio now using the studio fucking bitches, you know, 537 00:22:10,359 --> 00:22:12,040 Speaker 1: And then that little remark, like you said, you don't 538 00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:13,960 Speaker 1: know if she was joking or not, but when she 539 00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:16,920 Speaker 1: referred to one of you know, her favorite celebrities or 540 00:22:17,080 --> 00:22:19,760 Speaker 1: influencers being at the club or venue that she was 541 00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:21,440 Speaker 1: going to be at that night, saying, oh, that's my type. 542 00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:23,119 Speaker 1: I can't wait to see her. I will be the 543 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:26,080 Speaker 1: first to say that's some clowned out ass shit. I 544 00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:29,560 Speaker 1: don't like that, but that's probably who she is. And 545 00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:34,359 Speaker 1: just take note of her showing you indirectly who she is. 546 00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:37,159 Speaker 1: She's subconsciously she don't want you to think nobody's ever 547 00:22:37,160 --> 00:22:38,520 Speaker 1: gonna say, yeah, I'm a group of Yeah I like 548 00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:41,320 Speaker 1: to be around celebrities. Yeah, I like nobody's ever gonna 549 00:22:41,320 --> 00:22:43,600 Speaker 1: cop to that because people look down on that. You know, 550 00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:46,920 Speaker 1: it's the clout of it all. But I think you're 551 00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:51,280 Speaker 1: a little bit better than this situation. If I may 552 00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:53,159 Speaker 1: just be one hundred percent honest with you, and I 553 00:22:53,280 --> 00:22:55,879 Speaker 1: think she didn't pay attention to your work right now, 554 00:22:56,000 --> 00:22:57,280 Speaker 1: and then that right person. 555 00:22:57,080 --> 00:22:59,760 Speaker 2: Will come along for you. For sure. 556 00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:02,200 Speaker 1: You and this girl could be friends, you know, and 557 00:23:02,359 --> 00:23:05,879 Speaker 1: you can even teach her, you know, she can. She 558 00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:08,040 Speaker 1: seems like she can learn some things from you. You know, 559 00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,840 Speaker 1: especially if y'all are in the same industry. But keep 560 00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:14,200 Speaker 1: me updated. 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