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Speaker 1: and emotions. Alright, Dear Stephen Shirley. A year ago, I

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Speaker 1: We both knew he could get in trouble since he

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Speaker 1: He told me that he was going to talk to

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Speaker 1: Help me, please, I don't want to lose him. What

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Speaker 1: not none, and and a demotion for love? Come on?

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Speaker 1: And he knew he was gonna get a demotion when

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Speaker 1: to supervise. This is crazy. You don't go to your

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Speaker 1: love right here? He made some major sacrifices for you.

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Speaker 1: I mean, he gambled. He could have lost everything. I

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Speaker 1: mean the only thing that happened was he did get

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Speaker 1: like the Isley Brothers say. But having said all that,

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Speaker 1: I do agree with you about not wanting your co

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Speaker 1: because the truth of the matter is, you did get

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Speaker 1: a promotion because of him. You did. You did this

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Speaker 1: to think that. But I believe in, you know, not

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Speaker 1: letting everyone be in your business too. He on the

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Speaker 1: that's nephew, Come on, nephew. Emotions promotion and emotions. Yes, yeah,

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Speaker 1: be back with two of this letter demotions, promotions and emotions.

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Speaker 1: We'll be back in twenty three after you're listening Steve

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Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show. All right, we're back to the part

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Speaker 1: two of the Strawberry Letter today. The subject dim emotions,

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Speaker 1: Promotions and emotions. That is the subject we've heard from Jay,

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Speaker 1: So Formacy is former supervisor, was fine with that. Meanwhile,

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Speaker 1: She wants to keep the relationship, but she doesn't want

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Speaker 1: I think, really he should leave and and get another job.

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Speaker 1: He really should, he should leave. I've been sprawn a

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Speaker 1: for it though. Well, that's the sacrifice he made for love,

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Speaker 1: I'm stretched that four thousand. I didn't pay for this

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Speaker 1: They're on the fifteen floor. Yeah, yeah, I'm out here.

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Speaker 1: Guess who's sitting on the trunk. You ain't got to

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Speaker 1: worry about this. Somebody go see us together. The question

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Speaker 1: Sorry about that, Mr hert for love for love, for love. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: You can't do one round with somebody that's stupid. He

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