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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: one right here, right now. Boggle up, hold on tight,

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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is a Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter subject she gave me more than I bargained for.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I need your help on how to

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Speaker 1: resolve a big mess with one of my girlfriends. I

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Speaker 1: have a nonprofit organization for homeless women, and I provide

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Speaker 1: clothing and toiletries for the ladies. I've been using part

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Speaker 1: of my living room to sort donations. An old friend

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Speaker 1: of mine recently lost weight and donated her old clothes

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Speaker 1: to my organization. I went by her house to pick

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Speaker 1: up the items, and I was happy to see that

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Speaker 1: she had two big black garbage bags full of clothes.

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Speaker 1: My trunk was already full, so she put the two

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Speaker 1: noticed something flying around the car. I pulled over to

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Speaker 1: I saw it was a big brown roach on my

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Speaker 1: back seat. I didn't know how it got in there,

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Speaker 1: but I live in a humid city, so it could

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Speaker 1: have crawled in from the outside. I went on home

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Speaker 1: and put both bags in my living room, and I

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Speaker 1: a few minutes later to find a roach crawling on

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Speaker 1: I was so startled and grossed out, but I managed

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Speaker 1: to get a cell phone video of the bugs. I

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Speaker 1: called my husband at work and he came straight home.

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Speaker 1: He checked my car and found two small roaches in there.

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Speaker 1: He called an exterminator to come immediately to spray the

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Speaker 1: house and my car. He quiets you, guys. I called

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Speaker 1: my girl friend and told her I threw her clothes

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Speaker 1: away because they were full of roaches. I asked her

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Speaker 1: to reimburse us for the exterminator, and she told me

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Speaker 1: to go to hell. I sent her the roach video

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Speaker 1: and she blocked my number. How can she act like this?

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Speaker 1: Should we take her to court for the money? Really?

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Speaker 1: To court? Come on, now, I know you're mad and

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Speaker 1: grossed out and everything, and I definitely will be. It

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Speaker 1: would be too because you but stop. Okay, she's not

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Speaker 1: giving anything back. You will not be reimbursed. You sound

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Speaker 1: always always, always act like it's no big deal. They

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Speaker 1: I can't, for the life of me understand this logic,

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Speaker 1: but it is what it is. I think maybe they

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Speaker 1: see roaches so much that maybe they become immune to them,

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Speaker 1: or you know, they're just part of the furniture whatever.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. So you're just gonna have to take

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Speaker 1: nothing is going to change. You're not gonna resolve this

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Speaker 1: issue with her. Be glad you could afford an exterminator

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Speaker 1: so you wouldn't have to deal with as many roaches

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Speaker 1: as she's dealing within her house. Okay, like her, that's it. Nothing,

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Speaker 1: Just move on. Nothing's gonna happen. It's roaches in her opinion,

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Speaker 1: in her mind, Steve, should we take her to court

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Speaker 1: for the money? The girl? Stop? Do you know how

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Speaker 1: much you got to go to court. You're gonna have

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Speaker 1: to take off work. You got to miss days. You

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Speaker 1: got to get some lawyers. How much was the exterminator?

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Speaker 1: The roaches just got there. They hadn't even had chance

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Speaker 1: to set up. Your husband had the exterminator come that day. Now,

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Speaker 1: let's just come to something. You went over there, you

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Speaker 1: picked up the clothes, your damn self. You put him

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Speaker 1: when you go picking up bags, you need to open up.

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Speaker 1: Look inside. They was in there. Because this bag was

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Speaker 1: full of roaches. You could bleed this now, they were

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Speaker 1: LUI was too Lewis Dan there making kids in this band?

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Speaker 1: The roach had been down in that bag. That ain't

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Speaker 1: big roaches. Now you're in a car and you notice

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Speaker 1: something was the windows down? Because it didn't sound like it,

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Speaker 1: So you head down. So now you already know they

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Speaker 1: time for peeking. You got to look lett see a

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Speaker 1: roach peeking is over the roaches peaks. You got to

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Speaker 1: get to the walls. Too late. If one pregnant roach

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Speaker 1: get in that wall, it's a ramp, good Lord of Mighty. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know where they came from, because when you came

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Speaker 1: We'll have you see that fun coming up at twenty

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Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour subject she gave me more

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Speaker 1: than I bargained for. We'll get back into it right

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Speaker 1: after this. You're listening to show, all right, Steve, Come on,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter. Subjects. She gave me more

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Speaker 1: than I bargained for. This damn letter is about roaches.

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Speaker 1: You know, had us all full of hope with the title.

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Speaker 1: She gave me molding our bargain for house boy, what

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Speaker 1: you're complaining for now? This lady got a girlfriend. She

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Speaker 1: collects clothing for homeless people. Her girl told her she

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Speaker 1: got two big bags over here. Now, the bags been

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Speaker 1: sitting there for a while. You took him to getting

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Speaker 1: That was a roach. You got out. You took the

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Speaker 1: You got this look see stump. That's how this is work.

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Speaker 1: You got to be ls. You got to look see stunt.

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Speaker 1: So now you get distracted, you come back. You peek

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Speaker 1: in the band that's full of it's a garbage bag

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Speaker 1: full of cloth. You notice that it was a roach

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Speaker 1: like like, so coupling the roads and got out that band,

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Speaker 1: got a bundle something. You got scared? Called your husband.

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Speaker 1: He came right home, because I'll be damned here, I

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Speaker 1: of my pride conditions, and now I'm over here. What

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Speaker 1: what roach? Plus you panic? Y'all call exterminator boom. But

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Speaker 1: he went outside and the car and he found two

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Speaker 1: small roaches in. Now, now let me explain something to you.

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Speaker 1: Roaches can survive in the car. They can breathe, And

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Speaker 1: everybody didn't wasted a French fry down that little seat

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Speaker 1: right between the console and the seat. Everybody had a

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Speaker 1: little clone from a doughnut. One whole French fry can

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Speaker 1: pretty much whole a hundred roaches, wonder asked, French fry

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Speaker 1: can feed a hundred roaches for I don't know that

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Speaker 1: far fact, but it just seemed like they can hang

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Speaker 1: in now. So now you called your girlfriend and you

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Speaker 1: told her that you threw her clothes away because they

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Speaker 1: was full of roaches now without doing anything, you asked

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Speaker 1: this woman to reimburse y'all for the exterminator. Or see

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Speaker 1: you was talking to a crazon to ask what so

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Speaker 1: you ain't put that in letter. Kil I came up

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Speaker 1: your house and you're gonna gave me fucking closing the

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Speaker 1: roaches in my car and in my house and we

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Speaker 1: had to get an exterminated. You owe us, And in

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Speaker 1: front of exterminator, sheeter hung up on you. Your husband

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Speaker 1: took a video or the roaches, Like, who need a

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Speaker 1: video of a damn roach? Just because it's a video

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Speaker 1: of a damn roach, don't mean it's her roaches. Because see,

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Speaker 1: let me tell you, by law, once the roaches are transported,

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Speaker 1: those are no longer her roaches. Them is your roaches.

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Speaker 1: These is your roaches. Yes, that's a law. Once once

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Speaker 1: roaches leave your property line, them will not your roaches anymore.

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Speaker 1: They have thumbed a ride somewhere else and they are

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Speaker 1: now belong to the new owners that had the donation

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Speaker 1: center for the harmless thess all court cases that I'm

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Speaker 1: like dealing with right now. So I'm just gonna tell

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Speaker 1: roaches and she cannot reimburse you for your roaches, and

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Speaker 1: you you're crazy for writing us. Yeah, yeah, this is

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Speaker 1: just about roaches. We don't care, and the lady with

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Speaker 1: the roaches doesn't care. Now, let me ask you a question, then,

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Speaker 1: I want an honest answer. Anybody in here didn't glow

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Speaker 1: up and didn't see no roaches at day house? Oh

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Speaker 1: you see? Man? You see? So now why she acting

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Speaker 1: brand new? Yeah? You know, like she don't know what

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Speaker 1: the roaches? Oh my god, a roach. But I will

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Speaker 1: say this, Steve, having a couple of roaches every now

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Speaker 1: and again is different from an infestation, like living with them.

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Speaker 1: You know. Look it sounds like she packed them. But woman,

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Speaker 1: yeah it was an infestation. She lived with roaches on

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Speaker 1: I'm saying. People don't care. You sound crazy to this

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Speaker 1: one I played, asking her terminator who's house had been

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Speaker 1: overrun with roaches? We'd being been there all night, just

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Speaker 1: putting wine bottles on top of the roaches to kill them. Ches.

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Speaker 1: I killed with your best joker, Bam, that's your book

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Speaker 1: pick them up, partner, I didn't kill roaches with pool sticks,

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Speaker 1: all kind of stuff. Man, I'm not that comfortable. Listen,

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Speaker 1: this letter ain't more of him. No, no, no, you're

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