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Speaker 3: The Bridezilla discarded me after using me.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, long time good friends of mine announced they

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Speaker 3: were getting married. I had been friends with both of

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Speaker 3: them since childhood. We went to school together, stated at

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Speaker 3: each other's houses, our parents socialized with each other. Basically

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Speaker 3: best friends of mine. We remained in touch socially and

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Speaker 3: had attended each other's family events frequently over the years.

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Speaker 3: I was part of the fairly large group that made

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Speaker 3: up the gang that eventually made up the wedding party.

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Speaker 1: I'm Dakota, I'm Kyle, I'm Keon, and we're here.

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Speaker 3: To give you good advice. Goofly, But we don't have

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Speaker 3: all the answers. We only know what we would do,

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Speaker 3: so if you would do something different, let us know

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Speaker 3: in the comments. As Op says, Bridezilla always had to

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Speaker 3: be the center of attention, but that was not unusual

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Speaker 3: behavior in our group of friends. She was not the

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Speaker 3: only one who needed to always be the star at

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Speaker 3: social gatherings, and her Groomzilla would do outrageous things to

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Speaker 3: get attention to Ah.

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Speaker 4: They're made for each other.

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Speaker 3: There were two peas in a pod. They were destined

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Speaker 3: to end up together. Really. I was one of the

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Speaker 3: more shy ones of the group, so I was kind

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Speaker 3: of grateful. Bridezilla was one of the extroverts and kept

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Speaker 3: the focus firmly on herself whenever possible. When they announced

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Speaker 3: they were getting married, it was no great surprise. It

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Speaker 3: was going to be a destination wedding for about half

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Speaker 3: the guests. The rest of family and friends lived close

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Speaker 3: by the destination, so it made sense to hold it

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Speaker 3: there and make it a fun weekend to get away.

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Speaker 3: They handed out Save the Eight cards at the engagement party,

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Speaker 3: which was a lovely event at the local Rowers club.

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Speaker 3: I was then pulled aside at the ngagement party by

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Speaker 3: bride and Groomzilla and in front of their parents officially

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Speaker 3: invited to be a part of the wedding party. They

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Speaker 3: asked me to assist the bride with organizing some things

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Speaker 3: like we can with you. I was extremely flattered to

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Speaker 3: be asked in this manner and thought it indicated how

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Speaker 3: as only a bridesmaid because the maid of honor was

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Speaker 3: her older sister, but unofficially the co made of honor

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Speaker 3: because the bride knew I could handle the great responsibility

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Speaker 3: outlandish and entitled behavior to the staff at these appointments.

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Speaker 3: The number of hens slash stag shower, kitchen, bridegroom, pre

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Speaker 4: Yikes, that's exhausting.

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Speaker 3: This sounds like you've got a real great group of

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Speaker 3: I tried to keep things affordable so that it was

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Speaker 3: and groom's families were well off, and Bridezilla needed things

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Speaker 3: to be memorable. I want people to be talking about

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Speaker 3: my wedding for years after. You have a weddings because

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Speaker 3: so that you want people to talk about it, like

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Speaker 3: shouldn't you have a wedding? Because it's like you want

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Speaker 5: Should he?

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Speaker 4: Should you have a wedding to just marry your husband

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Speaker 5: Excise me, pick, you want my wedding to be so

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Speaker 5: good that when other people have their wedding, they're like

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Speaker 4: I don't even know you terrible to me so much

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Speaker 3: Nah, I want you to do a secret wedding where

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Speaker 3: it's actually no one gets married and I have to

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Speaker 3: reckon with your own faults. She insisted on expensive, overly

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Speaker 3: bugged me was every event inevitably had someone loudly suggests

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Speaker 3: and so all the other attendees would need to increase

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Speaker 4: Two thousand dollars a person and they're not paying a thing.

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Speaker 3: Just the fact that you could expect your friends to

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Speaker 4: It's gonna be so staged and so like just having

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm sure it'll be like Okay, and now's the

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Speaker 3: time where you guys all build us a farmhouse, right,

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Speaker 3: you get the honor of building me property. Yeah, that's

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Speaker 4: I feel like this is gonna go so crazy. Is

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Speaker 4: my feet shall not touch the ground the whole day.

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Speaker 4: You guys will carry me everywhere.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. The way I would lose this person's number and

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm not paying two thousand dollars after all that.

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Speaker 3: I should have cut my losses at this point and

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Speaker 3: heavily guilted into attending and remaining involved by Bridezilla and

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Speaker 3: the other family members. Sunk cost fallacy, I think is

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Speaker 3: the term stupidity is probably more accurate. Three weeks before

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Speaker 3: the wedding, Bride and Groomzilla told us their exciting news.

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Speaker 3: Their respective families decided to surprise them with yet another

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Speaker 3: flights and accommodation. There was a silver lining, however, Bridezilla's

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Speaker 3: parents were graciously paying for private buses to take all

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Speaker 3: boutique hotel near the marina for the pre wedding week,

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Speaker 3: the wedding, and the week after just because they felt

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Speaker 3: same hotel, you needed to get yourself to their hotel

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Speaker 3: to take advantage of this bus offer. It was designed

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Speaker 3: to allow a repeat of all the showers, hens, et cetera,

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Speaker 3: so the rest of the family and friends did not

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Speaker 3: miss out. That was going to work out at just

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Speaker 3: over five thousand ahead to attend all the events. No, no,

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Speaker 3: have fun having no one at your wedding events. Honestly, no,

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Speaker 3: I'm not going to anything.

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Speaker 4: The events are optional, right.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess, but they're I'm sure that these people

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Speaker 3: What matters more our friendship or money?

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Speaker 4: I'm sure too. It's kind of like they expect the

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Speaker 4: wedding party to be there, but that's ridiculous. At that point,

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Also, yeah, Amanda Case has pre wedding vacation. Seriously, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it happened after guys, are ridiculous. Of course. Bride and

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Speaker 3: Ride and Groomsella both worked extremely well paying jobs in

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Speaker 4: A pre wedding vacation.

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Speaker 1: I've never heard a story where these people have been

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Speaker 1: so spoiled.

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Speaker 4: They're so spoiled.

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Speaker 3: This is disgusting, just literally the most entitled degenerate. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I don't even know how to insult these pays.

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Speaker 1: You know what's it be crazy? Oh? Go, go go ahead.

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Speaker 4: I want to know, like when it comes to the

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Speaker 4: actual wedding, our bridesmaids like also paying for their dress

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Speaker 4: and their makeup and their hair, Like is anything paid for?

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Speaker 1: What I was gonna say is hey, once once your

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Speaker 1: you know, six feet into the ground, your six feet

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Speaker 1: in the ground.

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Speaker 3: This is one of those these if you like the

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Speaker 3: kind of a holes who were like, well, how do

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Speaker 3: you think we made all this money by spending it?

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Speaker 4: We save?

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Speaker 3: It doesn't make it.

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Speaker 1: Because we joined the family business, we have to make

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Speaker 1: the best wedding in history. Nobody else can tap this.

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Speaker 3: It's going to be the best, but it's gonna cost

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Speaker 3: you eight thousand dollars.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you have to pay to come to our wedding.

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Speaker 3: They were quite put out when I said I could

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Speaker 1: Now I'm still going, but that I'm not going.

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Speaker 3: No, I'm not going, and I'm I'm.

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Speaker 4: Gonna look up the coolest thing to do near that

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Speaker 3: To do that, not gonna lie. I would make it

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I would wonder if there was any way

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Speaker 1: Them because you would read the wedding.

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Speaker 4: Invoice for all the work be like, oh, sorry, I

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Speaker 1: Because again they want to I don't think.

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Speaker 4: You can because there's no signed contract these people.

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Speaker 1: Want to picture perfect wedding. You already being there, not

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't really want to be there though.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to be there either, but it's time

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Speaker 4: I want to go.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'd go to the wedding and be like I

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Speaker 3: I slept with the groom. He'll never admit it. He

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Speaker 4: I would leave and just not even bother.

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Speaker 1: A lot of people are saying, just ruin the ruin

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Speaker 4: That's fine. I'm My advice is I wouldn't. I think

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Speaker 2: What are we doing today? Riley?

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Speaker 3: So they were playing a little game game, says the man,

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Speaker 3: about three special gifts for you guys, eBay. Each one

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Speaker 2: These guys.

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Speaker 3: Right, he's got one.

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Speaker 2: And that's a lot of box in the box. I

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Speaker 3: I wanted to kind of like let viewers know what

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Speaker 3: gift is who reveals it?

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Speaker 2: Okay, so should I open rine first?

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Speaker 3: I was thinking a key on okay, five? All right, biggest,

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Speaker 1: It box down like a cylinder you got.

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Speaker 6: That is.

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Speaker 3: Look at these colors, I think I know exactly.

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Speaker 2: I feel like I'm a colorful man.

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Speaker 1: This is this is the most vibrant man in the room.

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Speaker 2: I have been wanting to wear more colors, but this

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Speaker 3: The cod I got something for you, all right. It's

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Speaker 3: another well cylinder, cylinder like I wonder that is definitely.

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Speaker 1: Colors.

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Speaker 3: Mama, Oh yeah, I know this has got to be

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Speaker 3: for me, right, oh yeah.

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Speaker 2: Totally another colorful man. I have one more gift.

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Speaker 1: I guess I don't get a gift, and what is it?

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Speaker 6: It is a cowboy hat.

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Speaker 2: I feel like this has gotta be key root and okay,

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Speaker 2: here we go.

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Speaker 1: Here we go, the y the ye to my huw

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Speaker 1: Yeah we two stepping. We love line dancing. I've been

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Speaker 1: telling him I need a cowboy hat, and yes what

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Speaker 6: To thank you.

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Speaker 3: I got the biggest size they had to make sure

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much, Riley. These are such a thoughtful guests.

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Speaker 3: It was really fun picking these out for you guys.

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Speaker 3: On eBay, they got like a million things on there.

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Speaker 3: I will randomly browse eBay for fun.

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Speaker 1: You can find some crazy things on there.

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Speaker 3: Shop eBay for millions of fines, each with a story.

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Speaker 3: eBay Things People Love. I was incredibly hurt and confused

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Speaker 3: Even though I had thought I would be part of

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Speaker 3: I hope so. I was wearing similar attire to other

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Speaker 4: What called it? They don't want you there. They have

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Speaker 1: I'd be furious, I'd be pissed.

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Speaker 4: For sure, you can swim.

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Speaker 1: I'm writing my own boat. I've already paid so much

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Speaker 3: I have no words for the level of slime that

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Speaker 4: They were planning that the whole time.

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Speaker 3: I politely disagreed with the guards and said I must

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Speaker 3: That was when it finally sunk in and I gave up,

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Speaker 3: Once I left the marina, I had decided I would

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Speaker 3: I even ended up having a much better time that

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Speaker 3: you found some people worth hanging out with. I wouldn't

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Speaker 1: I already see a divorce coming.

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Speaker 4: They're just gonna one up each other until they eventually.

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Speaker 1: Like op, he should plant the seed. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 4: I don't think there's probably something that you can do

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Speaker 1: No, I don't worry. Kara Karma will get them.

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Speaker 4: Yes, that's what I'm figuring.

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Speaker 3: Well, let's finished this story. I know people will think

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Speaker 3: acted like they looked down on me as we had

444
00:19:52,200 --> 00:19:54,000
Speaker 3: grown up in the same area and went to the

445
00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:56,879
Speaker 3: same schools. It was only after UNI and I started

446
00:19:56,920 --> 00:19:59,040
Speaker 3: working in a very different field to them and was

447
00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:02,480
Speaker 3: not earning the same is them that obviously things changed

448
00:20:02,520 --> 00:20:05,080
Speaker 3: in their minds. However, they never indicated to me I

449
00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:08,040
Speaker 3: was now not part of the gang anymore, as they

450
00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:10,440
Speaker 3: invited me to the same things and our families still

451
00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:12,960
Speaker 3: socialized in the same way. They never acted like I

452
00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:15,320
Speaker 3: was less than them until the wedding. It was through

453
00:20:15,359 --> 00:20:18,320
Speaker 3: friends of friends I found out the other information long

454
00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:21,240
Speaker 3: after the wedding was over. Bride and Groomzilla never spoke

455
00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:23,600
Speaker 3: to me or my family again after that. No great

456
00:20:23,640 --> 00:20:25,760
Speaker 3: loss in the end if that was how they treated

457
00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:29,080
Speaker 3: people not at their same financial level, definitely better off

458
00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:30,879
Speaker 3: without them in my life, and that is the end

459
00:20:30,920 --> 00:20:31,440
Speaker 3: of that story.

460
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Speaker 4: I'm perspective to have how much Op ended up spending

461
00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:36,720
Speaker 4: in total, because I know she didn't go to everything,

462
00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:39,240
Speaker 4: so she didn't spend the like full what was it

463
00:20:39,359 --> 00:20:42,480
Speaker 4: seven K at the end, but I'm sure with everything

464
00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:44,920
Speaker 4: she probably still did enough. And I see people saying

465
00:20:44,920 --> 00:20:47,080
Speaker 4: in the chat like, technically she paid for that dress,

466
00:20:47,119 --> 00:20:49,760
Speaker 4: so that dress is hers and like, yeah, yeah, I said,

467
00:20:49,800 --> 00:20:52,399
Speaker 4: invoice for the wedding coordination, but like going to small

468
00:20:52,400 --> 00:20:54,800
Speaker 4: claims or some sort like fully just being like not

469
00:20:54,840 --> 00:20:56,760
Speaker 4: gonna talk to you, then not gonna talk to anybody,

470
00:20:56,800 --> 00:20:58,959
Speaker 4: like you'll be hearing from someone and like when you

471
00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:00,560
Speaker 4: get like search, are you.

472
00:21:00,520 --> 00:21:03,800
Speaker 3: Sure though, with the amount of financial assets they have,

473
00:21:03,960 --> 00:21:05,720
Speaker 3: they could just bury you in lawyers.

474
00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:08,960
Speaker 4: It's small claims two, which I'm sure they could.

475
00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:11,280
Speaker 3: I mean, couldn't you bury someone with lawyers and small

476
00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:12,760
Speaker 3: claims too? I don't know how that works.

477
00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:15,200
Speaker 4: I think sometimes small claims you're representing yourself.

478
00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:17,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's just because you can choose to write.

479
00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:17,800
Speaker 3: I don't know.

480
00:21:17,960 --> 00:21:18,399
Speaker 4: I don't know.

481
00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:21,119
Speaker 3: I hope their boat sinks and that's the end of

482
00:21:21,119 --> 00:21:25,080
Speaker 3: that story. I hope one hundred flying monkeys rain on

483
00:21:25,119 --> 00:21:28,840
Speaker 3: their wedding and pick everyone up and throw them in

484
00:21:28,880 --> 00:21:31,439
Speaker 3: the Laurentchian abyss. That's what I hope.

485
00:21:31,520 --> 00:21:35,520
Speaker 4: I refuse to give up my inheritance to pay for

486
00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:36,840
Speaker 4: my sister's wedding.

487
00:21:37,200 --> 00:21:38,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, probably it's a good move.

488
00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:43,000
Speaker 4: My dad passed away last year after a long illness.

489
00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:48,040
Speaker 4: It was devastating. I twenty eight female was the one

490
00:21:48,040 --> 00:21:50,320
Speaker 4: who moved back home to take care of him. I

491
00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:55,400
Speaker 4: handled doctor's appointments, late night emergencies, bills, and basically ran

492
00:21:55,480 --> 00:21:58,959
Speaker 4: the house when he couldn't anymore. It was exhausting, but

493
00:21:59,080 --> 00:22:01,879
Speaker 4: I don't regret it. He and I got very close

494
00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:04,960
Speaker 4: during that time. By the way, this comes from Extension

495
00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:07,919
Speaker 4: Gold thirty one forty nine. And if you want us

496
00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:09,919
Speaker 4: to make your own stories, go to the r slash

497
00:22:09,920 --> 00:22:13,440
Speaker 4: Oki storytime subreddit and we're here to give good advice. Goofully,

498
00:22:13,520 --> 00:22:15,919
Speaker 4: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

499
00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:17,800
Speaker 4: what we would do, So let us know what you

500
00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:20,960
Speaker 4: would do in the comments. And Opie says. My sister

501
00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:24,399
Speaker 4: thirty two female, on the other hand, lives out of state.

502
00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:27,439
Speaker 4: She came back twice in the last year of his life,

503
00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:30,400
Speaker 4: once for Christmas and once for his birthday. I don't

504
00:22:30,440 --> 00:22:34,200
Speaker 4: think she's a bad person, but she definitely distanced herself

505
00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:37,560
Speaker 4: from the responsibility. Her excuse was that she had her

506
00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:41,520
Speaker 4: own life and couldn't just drop everything. I understood at

507
00:22:41,560 --> 00:22:44,720
Speaker 4: the time, but it still hurt. When Dad passed, his

508
00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:49,480
Speaker 4: will specifically left me a decent chunk of money, not millions,

509
00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:52,120
Speaker 4: but enough that I could pay off my student loans

510
00:22:52,320 --> 00:22:55,399
Speaker 4: and actually start saving for a house. It was clear

511
00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:59,080
Speaker 4: in the will that this money was for me because

512
00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:02,399
Speaker 4: of the sacrifices I made while caring for him. My

513
00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:05,679
Speaker 4: sister received other things. He left her, some jewelry and

514
00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:08,520
Speaker 4: a classic car he had restored that she always loved,

515
00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:12,800
Speaker 4: but the majority of liquid assets went to me. Fast

516
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:16,480
Speaker 4: forward to now. My sister got engaged in May. Her

517
00:23:16,520 --> 00:23:20,640
Speaker 4: fiance is nice enough, but they both have champagne tastes

518
00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:24,920
Speaker 4: on in adult soda budget. Uh. The wedding they're planning

519
00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:29,520
Speaker 4: is way out of their price range. Destination resort, designer dress,

520
00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:33,760
Speaker 4: open bar, huge guest list. I assumed they were going

521
00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:36,520
Speaker 4: into debt for it, which I thought was their choice.

522
00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:39,760
Speaker 4: But then about a month ago, my sister sat me

523
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:42,159
Speaker 4: down and said, I need your help. Dad would have

524
00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:44,520
Speaker 4: wanted you to use some of that inheritance to make

525
00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:45,960
Speaker 4: my wedding special.

526
00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:49,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, but he actually wouldn't. That's the thing. He actually

527
00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:51,720
Speaker 3: didn't say in the will that he wanted me to

528
00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:54,439
Speaker 3: spend it on your stupid wedding. Remember how you couldn't

529
00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:56,840
Speaker 3: you couldn't make it, Remember how you were too busy

530
00:23:56,840 --> 00:23:58,679
Speaker 3: because you had your own life. I actually have my

531
00:23:58,720 --> 00:23:59,280
Speaker 3: own life too.

532
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Speaker 1: It's in this safe text. It's in the writing from

533
00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:04,879
Speaker 1: his will, the sacred texts, the sacred text.

534
00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:08,959
Speaker 4: She wasn't asking for a small loan. She wanted me

535
00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:14,080
Speaker 4: to hand over thirty thousand dollars to cover the venue

536
00:24:14,119 --> 00:24:14,680
Speaker 4: in catering.

537
00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:16,280
Speaker 3: I'd send her three hundred pennies.

538
00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:19,359
Speaker 4: I told her no. I said that Dad left me

539
00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:21,800
Speaker 4: that money for a reason, and I'm using it to

540
00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:25,199
Speaker 4: build stability in my life, not blow it on a party.

541
00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:29,480
Speaker 4: She immediately got defensive and accused me of being selfish

542
00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:33,680
Speaker 4: and choosing money over family. Now my mom has gotten involved.

543
00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:37,280
Speaker 4: She says Dad would have wanted me to share, and

544
00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:41,359
Speaker 4: that family comes first. I told her Dad literally wrote

545
00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:44,760
Speaker 4: a will that reflected his wishes, and if he wanted

546
00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:47,640
Speaker 4: to fund my sister's wedding, he would have set aside

547
00:24:47,680 --> 00:24:51,199
Speaker 4: money for that. Mom keeps saying I'm tearing the family apart.

548
00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:55,000
Speaker 4: My sister has been telling relatives that I'm punishing her

549
00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:58,160
Speaker 4: for not being around when Dad was sick, which makes

550
00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:00,440
Speaker 4: me feel sick to my stomach because it it's kind

551
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:04,760
Speaker 4: of true. I am resentful, but it also feels unfair

552
00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:07,719
Speaker 4: that the person who did all the work gets nothing

553
00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:10,880
Speaker 4: and the one who barely showed up gets rewarded.

554
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:11,080
Speaker 2: Ya.

555
00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:13,639
Speaker 1: Wait, can you imagine her telling the families like, yeah,

556
00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:15,560
Speaker 1: she's not you know, she's taking it out on me

557
00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:18,160
Speaker 1: because I wasn't there for dad being sick, And everyone's like.

558
00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:19,760
Speaker 4: Why weren't you there for dad being Wait?

559
00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 1: You weren't there for when your dad was sick?

560
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:23,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, just wait.

561
00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:29,359
Speaker 4: Some cousins are on her side and have texted me

562
00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:32,960
Speaker 4: things like it's just money, you'll make more, and your

563
00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:35,800
Speaker 4: dad would have wanted her to have a special day. Others,

564
00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:38,840
Speaker 4: thankfully you have said it's insane. She's even asking.

565
00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:39,560
Speaker 3: Now.

566
00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:42,280
Speaker 4: My sister says she won't invite me to the wedding

567
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:44,160
Speaker 4: unless I do the right thing.

568
00:25:44,440 --> 00:25:48,439
Speaker 3: These dumbasses are saying, it's just money. How about you

569
00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 3: give her yours? Yes, this is just money. You give

570
00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:52,719
Speaker 3: her your money? Right?

571
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:53,280
Speaker 4: Yeah?

572
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:55,640
Speaker 3: Oh wait, it's different now, isn't it.

573
00:25:55,760 --> 00:25:57,639
Speaker 4: I was gonna say, I don't think that it's wrong

574
00:25:57,920 --> 00:26:01,239
Speaker 4: to maybe, out of your own kindness, maybe be like

575
00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 4: I'll do something special for you, Like maybe like I'll

576
00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:06,679
Speaker 4: give you a really big budget to buy a cool dress,

577
00:26:06,800 --> 00:26:08,720
Speaker 4: like a really pretty dress that you wanted, and that'll

578
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:11,320
Speaker 4: be like my contribution to your wedding, Like not something

579
00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:14,159
Speaker 4: that's gonna be crazy, crazy expensive, but something that's like

580
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:16,760
Speaker 4: a couple thousand dollars more than she probably would have spent.

581
00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:19,200
Speaker 3: I should just pick out a fifteen thousand dollars wedding.

582
00:26:19,400 --> 00:26:21,200
Speaker 4: You cap it. Still, you'd be like, you have five

583
00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 4: thousand dollars to find a dress or ten thousand dollars to.

584
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:25,520
Speaker 1: Pay to guarantee you. She's like, I don't know, that's

585
00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:26,520
Speaker 1: not a good enough present.

586
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:28,600
Speaker 4: Well, I'm saying like off or something like that, and

587
00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:30,880
Speaker 4: if she wants to turn that down, then buy.

588
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:32,359
Speaker 1: That's what you're gonna do for me.

589
00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:37,200
Speaker 3: I gave you after you already like before she's like, yeah,

590
00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:39,439
Speaker 3: give me thirty k. And it's like, yeah, sure you

591
00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:41,399
Speaker 3: as soon as she's like, you know, no, give me

592
00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 3: thirty k. I think if she gave you exactly nothing now.

593
00:26:44,560 --> 00:26:46,960
Speaker 4: I think if she came and she was like yeah, also,

594
00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:50,720
Speaker 4: like Kat said, she has a really nice car, and was.

595
00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:53,240
Speaker 3: It it didn't she say like oh I'm too busy

596
00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:57,000
Speaker 3: to make it to the funeral or what was the beginning?

597
00:26:57,200 --> 00:26:59,080
Speaker 3: What was it She's like, oh, I have my own life,

598
00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:01,359
Speaker 3: I can't make it. Yeah, Well, and it was to

599
00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:04,480
Speaker 3: what to like see their dad off just out more times.

600
00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 4: She only came out for Christmas and his birthday. She

601
00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:09,520
Speaker 4: said she just couldn't come home more than that. I'd

602
00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 4: offer like something tiny and then be like, okay, you

603
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:15,679
Speaker 4: don't want to take that. That was me being generous.

604
00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:19,199
Speaker 4: Nothing certainly not thirty thousand dollars. And it would be

605
00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:21,800
Speaker 4: all gone after this part, because now my sister says

606
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:24,399
Speaker 4: she won't invite me to the wedding at all unless

607
00:27:24,440 --> 00:27:25,400
Speaker 4: I do the right thing.

608
00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:28,879
Speaker 1: She's threatening you. Yeah, Oh my gosh, you're threatening me

609
00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:31,639
Speaker 1: because you want my money. Oh my gosh.

610
00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:34,080
Speaker 4: At that point, it sounds like a I'm actually really

611
00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:36,520
Speaker 4: busy with my own life the weekend of your wedding.

612
00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:38,240
Speaker 4: I know, I don't know what weekend it is yet,

613
00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:40,800
Speaker 4: but I'm really busy that weekend. I don't think I

614
00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:41,520
Speaker 4: can come anyway.

615
00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 3: Sorry, I have my own life. I can't just drop

616
00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:45,480
Speaker 3: everything for your wedding.

617
00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:48,800
Speaker 4: My mom is begging me to reconsider for the sake

618
00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:52,320
Speaker 4: of peace, but honestly, I can't see myself handing over

619
00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:56,000
Speaker 4: thirty k just so my sister can have a fancy

620
00:27:56,080 --> 00:28:00,200
Speaker 4: Instagram wedding while I put my future on hold. Still well,

621
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:03,080
Speaker 4: the guilt is eating at me. Am I really the

622
00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 4: knucklehead for refusing to share my inheritance with my sister

623
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:10,560
Speaker 4: to pay for her wedding. We have some comments, but no.

624
00:28:11,119 --> 00:28:14,080
Speaker 3: What would be extra funny is if you spent thirty

625
00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:20,359
Speaker 3: thousand dollars on really elaborate skywriting and I say skyriders,

626
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:26,439
Speaker 3: oh writing, airplanes right, happy future divorce over your sister's wedding.

627
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:29,280
Speaker 4: That'd be great, crazy crazy crazy.

628
00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 1: It's your wedding, it's my money. Do whatever you want

629
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:34,679
Speaker 1: with your wedding. I'll do whatever I want with my money.

630
00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:38,600
Speaker 4: Dad specified it was to me. Top Comments A Temporary

631
00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:41,400
Speaker 4: Bench fifty ninety five s stand your ground and holds

632
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:45,080
Speaker 4: your boundaries. No one needs or is entitled to an

633
00:28:45,120 --> 00:28:48,920
Speaker 4: extravagant wedding. They chose to plan outside of their budget.

634
00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:53,080
Speaker 4: They can figure it out. Their request is selfish and rude.

635
00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:56,880
Speaker 4: Glass Armadillo ninety eight seventy one says, tell her you

636
00:28:56,960 --> 00:29:00,880
Speaker 4: are right. Family comes first. Dad is family and respecting

637
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 4: his wishes comes first. Don't tell me what Dad would

638
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:07,480
Speaker 4: have wanted. I know because he literally wrote it down.

639
00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:11,479
Speaker 4: Don't ask me to disrespect my passed away father's final

640
00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:15,400
Speaker 4: wishes of Yola Swamp says, you're right. Family comes first.

641
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:18,160
Speaker 4: That's why I made sacrifices to be there for Dad

642
00:29:18,240 --> 00:29:21,960
Speaker 4: when he needed help. You chose to prioritize yourself as

643
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:25,280
Speaker 4: you're doing now. I don't owe you anything, and you're

644
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:28,680
Speaker 4: not getting a cent from me. When turn in right,

645
00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:32,280
Speaker 4: she's using family comes first only when it's convenient for her.

646
00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 4: Arwin's Roe says, you are right. Family comes first, which

647
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:38,280
Speaker 4: is why I moved home and took care of dad.

648
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:42,560
Speaker 4: Mike drop Hey, pretty lady ma'am says, and if her

649
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:45,560
Speaker 4: wedding is so important to her, she can sell her

650
00:29:45,640 --> 00:29:49,480
Speaker 4: vintage restored classic car for the thirty k she expects

651
00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:52,720
Speaker 4: from her sister Opie. Tell her Dad already gave her

652
00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:54,920
Speaker 4: money for the wedding. She just doesn't want to part

653
00:29:54,960 --> 00:29:58,280
Speaker 4: with her inheritance when she can keep hers and scam

654
00:29:58,360 --> 00:30:01,160
Speaker 4: you for yours. Tell you your family she got the

655
00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:03,959
Speaker 4: money she needed from Dad already. She can sell her

656
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:07,760
Speaker 4: share if she's that desperate. I'm so tired of selfish,

657
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 4: lazy siblings refusing to do their part and demanding the rewards.

658
00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:16,120
Speaker 4: Stop feeling guilty. Send her an auto trader and tell

659
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:19,280
Speaker 4: her to get cracking. That car ain't selling itself, and

660
00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 4: you're not giving her money she already has relishing nonsense,

661
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:25,920
Speaker 4: says Opie. Tell her dad already gave her money for

662
00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:29,240
Speaker 4: her wedding and responding to that comment, yes, this is perfect.

663
00:30:29,560 --> 00:30:32,440
Speaker 4: Sister is choosing to have a fancy wedding. If she

664
00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:34,479
Speaker 4: thinks Dad would have wanted her to have it, then

665
00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:36,720
Speaker 4: she can sell the car and pay for it. He

666
00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 4: probably didn't give her cash because he knew she would

667
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:42,920
Speaker 4: waste it on something like an overpriced wedding. Why do

668
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:45,720
Speaker 4: people think you should give up financial safety nets so

669
00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:49,000
Speaker 4: that she can play pretty princess for a day. A

670
00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:52,520
Speaker 4: good marriage doesn't need an expensive wedding, Opie. Did you

671
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:54,960
Speaker 4: have to give up working or work less while you

672
00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 4: were taking care of your dad? Your sister didn't. If

673
00:30:57,880 --> 00:31:00,240
Speaker 4: you did, then you could point out that your dad

674
00:31:00,320 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 4: understood that taking care of him had set you back financially,

675
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:07,200
Speaker 4: hence the liquid funds, et cetera. We have an update

676
00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:07,960
Speaker 4: two days later.

677
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:11,480
Speaker 3: Dude, everyone in these stories, it's like the worst people

678
00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 3: I've ever heard in my life. Yeah.

679
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:15,520
Speaker 4: The second she's like, you're not coming to my wedding.

680
00:31:15,560 --> 00:31:18,080
Speaker 4: Then I'm like, Okay, prioritize peace.

681
00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:21,440
Speaker 3: What is your mom smoking? Get out of here. Your

682
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 3: sister's trying to extort money out of you by not

683
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:28,480
Speaker 3: allowing you to go to her wedding, which she's choosing

684
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:34,680
Speaker 3: to make extravagantly too expensive. Yeah, because she's sane and shallow,

685
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:40,680
Speaker 3: too self important to show up for her ailing father

686
00:31:41,040 --> 00:31:45,480
Speaker 3: who passed away and in his wisdom, left his liquid

687
00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:50,000
Speaker 3: assets to the child who actually gave a crap about

688
00:31:50,040 --> 00:31:53,200
Speaker 3: him and still left her a restored sports car.

689
00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:57,120
Speaker 4: And other stuff to love stuff. But we have an update, Sam.

690
00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:58,880
Speaker 2: Here we're gonna get back to the stories. But here's

691
00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 2: three of us bad from our spot.

692
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:04,080
Speaker 4: Two days later. I didn't expect to be writing again

693
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 4: so soon, but the last couple of days have been

694
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 4: a whirlwind. I've cried, I've screamed into pillows, and at

695
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,760
Speaker 4: one point I've just sat in the dark, staring at

696
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 4: the ceiling, wondering what the heck happened to my family.

697
00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:19,720
Speaker 4: After my first post, things with my sister kept escalating.

698
00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:22,600
Speaker 4: She kept sending me guilt trippy text saying things like,

699
00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 4: if you really loved me, you'd do this for me.

700
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:26,960
Speaker 3: Don't love you. I don't love you.

701
00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 1: Sorry, sorry, she doesn't love you. She loves money.

702
00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 3: I love the money more than you, I guess.

703
00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:35,880
Speaker 4: And you're choosing money over your only sister. I was

704
00:32:35,920 --> 00:32:37,760
Speaker 4: holding strong, but it's still hurt.

705
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:40,560
Speaker 1: I would have pulled up. What about my only father?

706
00:32:40,840 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 6: Yeah?

707
00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:45,200
Speaker 4: Then something came out that I wasn't prepared for. One

708
00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:48,440
Speaker 4: of my cousins who's been quietly on my side, told

709
00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:52,880
Speaker 4: me my sister hasn't exactly been faithful to her fiance.

710
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:56,959
Speaker 4: At first I didn't believe it. It sounded too wild and

711
00:32:57,000 --> 00:33:01,040
Speaker 4: too cruel, but then they showed me messages. My sister

712
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:04,560
Speaker 4: has been seeing a man from her job for months,

713
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 4: married man. She apparently told my cousin she's not even

714
00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 4: sure she wants to marry her fiance, but she's going

715
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,960
Speaker 4: through with the wedding anyway because everything's already in motion

716
00:33:15,360 --> 00:33:18,880
Speaker 4: and she deserves the spotlight after a hard year.

717
00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:21,920
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Wow, we really are reading like the

718
00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:23,160
Speaker 1: worst people today.

719
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:24,720
Speaker 3: Put her in the river, dude.

720
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:27,160
Speaker 1: That's insane. The fact that she's like, yeah, I'm gonna

721
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:28,840
Speaker 1: just I don't want to marry this guy, but I

722
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 1: deserve the spotlight everyone. So I've had a hard year.

723
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:36,160
Speaker 3: How the fiance tell the wife of the man she's

724
00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:38,680
Speaker 3: cheating on him with she's had a hard year. One

725
00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:41,040
Speaker 3: needs to know what's going on.

726
00:33:41,080 --> 00:33:42,800
Speaker 1: And I guarantee you she's just saying that she's had

727
00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:46,120
Speaker 1: a hard year. She's using the passing of her father

728
00:33:46,320 --> 00:33:49,840
Speaker 1: that she wasn't there for helping out as an excuse.

729
00:33:50,080 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 1: Tod be like, yeah, I you know, I really deserved.

730
00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 4: It, she said, a hard year trying to live this

731
00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:55,840
Speaker 4: double life.

732
00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:58,880
Speaker 3: You deserve a razor scooter to the shins.

733
00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:02,640
Speaker 1: I would literally respond to the sister and be like,

734
00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:04,840
Speaker 1: all right, you really want to play this game. You

735
00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:07,440
Speaker 1: want to keep pushing my buttons. Push it one more time.

736
00:34:07,520 --> 00:34:08,479
Speaker 1: I want to see you try.

737
00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:11,160
Speaker 3: You deserve na'er in your shampoo bottle.

738
00:34:11,480 --> 00:34:12,439
Speaker 1: I want to see you do it.

739
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:15,120
Speaker 4: I felt like I'd been punched, not because I care

740
00:34:15,160 --> 00:34:18,120
Speaker 4: about her fiance that much, We've never been close, but

741
00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 4: because it shattered the last bit of moral ground she

742
00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:25,160
Speaker 4: had to stand on. She's been calling me selfish, manipulative,

743
00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:28,880
Speaker 4: greedy all while living a double life. Here's the part

744
00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:33,520
Speaker 4: that broke me. My mom knows she admitted it. When

745
00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:36,680
Speaker 4: I confronted her last night. She says. She walked in

746
00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:40,120
Speaker 4: on my sister late at night whispering on the phone,

747
00:34:40,680 --> 00:34:44,840
Speaker 4: and when she pushed her, my sister confessed. Mom's exact

748
00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:47,200
Speaker 4: words to me were, she just needs to get it

749
00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:49,959
Speaker 4: out of her system. When she's married, she'll settle down.

750
00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:51,359
Speaker 4: Don't ruin this for her.

751
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:53,480
Speaker 3: Nah, I'm not going to ruin anything for her. She

752
00:34:53,600 --> 00:34:56,160
Speaker 3: ruined it. Yeah, your mom, create you do this to

753
00:34:56,400 --> 00:34:59,520
Speaker 3: my dad is what I'd immediately then ask, so did

754
00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:01,520
Speaker 3: you do this too? Running the family?

755
00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:04,120
Speaker 1: Mom is just as stinky as the sister.

756
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:05,719
Speaker 4: Mom's a little cuckoo.

757
00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:08,880
Speaker 1: Golden child. I think someone said earlier it was golden child,

758
00:35:08,920 --> 00:35:10,520
Speaker 1: but this is giving golden child.

759
00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:13,440
Speaker 4: I don't even know who my mother is anymore. The

760
00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:16,960
Speaker 4: woman who raised me to believe in honesty and integrity

761
00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:20,000
Speaker 4: is now telling me to keep quiet while my sister

762
00:35:20,320 --> 00:35:25,000
Speaker 4: destroys her relationship and another family's marriage, all so we

763
00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 4: can have a happy event to cover the grief of

764
00:35:28,239 --> 00:35:32,240
Speaker 4: losing Dad. And here's the kicker. My sister is still

765
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:35,480
Speaker 4: hammering me for the money, still saying Dad would want

766
00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:37,920
Speaker 4: me to share, still threatening to cut me out of

767
00:35:37,960 --> 00:35:41,080
Speaker 4: her life completely. She has no idea. I know what

768
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:44,399
Speaker 4: she's doing. Part of me wants to out her, tell

769
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:48,480
Speaker 4: her fiance, tell the whole dang family, throw the truth

770
00:35:48,640 --> 00:35:51,279
Speaker 4: like a grenade, and walk away. Another part of me

771
00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:55,239
Speaker 4: is exhausted. I already spent years holding my dad's hand

772
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 4: in hospitals while everyone else lived their lives. Do I

773
00:35:58,719 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 4: really want to take on this into for now? I've

774
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:04,520
Speaker 4: decided to step back. I'm not going to her wedding

775
00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:08,239
Speaker 4: invite or no invite, I won't be there. I took

776
00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:11,200
Speaker 4: more of the inheritance and paid down my student loans today,

777
00:36:11,560 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 4: and I cried when I saw my balance shrink. Not

778
00:36:14,320 --> 00:36:17,640
Speaker 4: out of guilt this time, but relief because Dad left

779
00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:20,759
Speaker 4: me that money so I could finally breathe. Yeah, there's

780
00:36:20,840 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 4: a little bit more.

781
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 3: Tell everybody, dude, do the grenade. Yeah, do the grenade.

782
00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:27,279
Speaker 3: I'd want to have the grenade thrown. If I was him,

783
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:29,520
Speaker 3: I'd say do it. If I was you, I wouldn't

784
00:36:29,560 --> 00:36:31,239
Speaker 3: be able to help myself. Why are there's so many

785
00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:31,759
Speaker 3: flies in her?

786
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:34,319
Speaker 4: He think it's just one that's like really good one.

787
00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:38,320
Speaker 3: Here, there's one flying above me. She's ruining her her future,

788
00:36:38,400 --> 00:36:42,480
Speaker 3: She's ruining someone else's marriage, She's ruined her relationship with you,

789
00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:46,480
Speaker 3: and if your mom is uh, like, I don't know,

790
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:49,239
Speaker 3: I don't know what to call it short sighted? Your

791
00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:51,239
Speaker 3: mom is silly enough to try to tell you that

792
00:36:51,239 --> 00:36:53,480
Speaker 3: that's your fault. Cut them both off.

793
00:36:53,719 --> 00:36:56,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like this was probably like the sister

794
00:36:56,320 --> 00:36:59,279
Speaker 4: was always Mom's closer mom, and she was probably always

795
00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:01,839
Speaker 4: way closer to so it's like she doesn't have her

796
00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:03,040
Speaker 4: little sidekick anymore.

797
00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:04,880
Speaker 3: It sounds like your mom she did on your dad.

798
00:37:05,080 --> 00:37:05,960
Speaker 4: I know that too.

799
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:08,560
Speaker 3: That's house Would she be okay.

800
00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 4: With this a little bit more? My sister might never

801
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 4: forgive me, my mom might never understand me, and maybe

802
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:16,480
Speaker 4: I'll be painted as the villain for the rest of

803
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:19,759
Speaker 4: my life. But at least I know deep down I'm

804
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 4: not the one lying to everyone. I just wish dad

805
00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:25,239
Speaker 4: was still here. He'd cut through all this noise in

806
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:28,000
Speaker 4: five seconds flat. That is the end of that story.

807
00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:31,080
Speaker 4: So sorry for your loss of your dad too, And

808
00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:34,440
Speaker 4: you're doing the right thing. Pay down those student loans rip.

809
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:36,880
Speaker 4: But that's the end of that story. We got another one.

810
00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:40,560
Speaker 3: My stepdaughter's mother is furious that I'm the one walking

811
00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:41,480
Speaker 3: her down the aisle.

812
00:37:41,640 --> 00:37:43,600
Speaker 4: Who does she want to walk down the aisle?

813
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:47,320
Speaker 3: Trigger warning substance abuse. Her background. I married my husband

814
00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:49,880
Speaker 3: Frank at twenty four years old. He was also twenty

815
00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 3: four and had two children from his previous relationship, daughter

816
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:56,000
Speaker 3: Cindy six at the time of our marriage, currently twenty two,

817
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:59,280
Speaker 3: and son Max, seven and a half at the time,

818
00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:02,080
Speaker 3: currently twenty three. By the way, this comes from user

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00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:04,320
Speaker 3: inner Research eighty eight nineteen. And if you want to

820
00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:06,359
Speaker 3: submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay

821
00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 3: storytime subreddit where this story was submitted. And we are

822
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:11,359
Speaker 3: here to give you good advice. Goofy, But we don't

823
00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:12,920
Speaker 3: have all the answers. We only know what we would do,

824
00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:14,840
Speaker 3: So if you would do something different, let us know

825
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:19,319
Speaker 3: in the comments. And ope, says their biological mother, Stephanie,

826
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 3: who was the same age as Frank and myself, decided

827
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:24,759
Speaker 3: at twenty she was too young to be a mother.

828
00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:28,520
Speaker 3: She and my husband separated, and Stephanie gave up her

829
00:38:28,600 --> 00:38:31,400
Speaker 3: legal rights to her children. My husband's family stepped in

830
00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:34,520
Speaker 3: to help him during that time. I lived several towns

831
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:38,200
Speaker 3: over and met my husband in passing, and it was magical.

832
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:41,920
Speaker 3: We built a wonderful home and family together. I adopted

833
00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:46,200
Speaker 3: his children and became their mom. Aw now for the

834
00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:50,960
Speaker 3: tragic events that occurred. Ten years into our marriage. My

835
00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:55,480
Speaker 3: husband suffered a severe back injury. He received surgery and

836
00:38:55,680 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 3: was doing well with physical therapy and his doctors. We

837
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:00,840
Speaker 3: thought we actually beat this and it was a small

838
00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:05,200
Speaker 3: setback in an otherwise healthy relationship. Unfortunately, my husband became

839
00:39:05,239 --> 00:39:08,359
Speaker 3: addicted to pain medication and passed away several years ago.

840
00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:11,040
Speaker 3: The memories are still painful, and our children are still

841
00:39:11,040 --> 00:39:14,040
Speaker 3: struggling with the memories of their father. I have always

842
00:39:14,040 --> 00:39:16,879
Speaker 3: said to remember the man he was prior to his

843
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:20,799
Speaker 3: substance use disorder and passing. I do blame myself in

844
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:23,080
Speaker 3: the end for asking him to leave. It was too

845
00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:27,920
Speaker 3: much on the children and myself. We tried rehabs, method owne, NA,

846
00:39:28,040 --> 00:39:31,160
Speaker 3: you name it. If it was available, we tried. However,

847
00:39:31,320 --> 00:39:33,759
Speaker 3: the toll of maintaining a household and making sure the

848
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:36,560
Speaker 3: children were well cared for was too much. It broke

849
00:39:36,640 --> 00:39:39,600
Speaker 3: my heart. I blamed the doctors, and I blame the

850
00:39:39,680 --> 00:39:42,840
Speaker 3: companies for making those pills, and I blame my husband

851
00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:45,880
Speaker 3: for not being honest and telling me sooner about his problems.

852
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:47,920
Speaker 3: I still love him and remember the man he was

853
00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:50,520
Speaker 3: before all of this. I'm more in the loss of

854
00:39:50,560 --> 00:39:53,719
Speaker 3: that man the most. Now for the current situation, my

855
00:39:53,840 --> 00:39:56,800
Speaker 3: daughter Cindy is getting married to her high school sweetheart

856
00:39:56,840 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 3: and love of her life. Cindy has been through a

857
00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 3: lot has been my greatest friend. I'm so proud and

858
00:40:02,719 --> 00:40:05,560
Speaker 3: grateful for her and my son Max. If it wasn't

859
00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:07,520
Speaker 3: for them, I wouldn't have been able to survive and

860
00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:10,719
Speaker 3: thrive after the loss of Frank. Cindy's wedding is in

861
00:40:10,719 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 3: a few months, and even though her biological mother isn't

862
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:16,520
Speaker 3: in her life except for the random cards and calls,

863
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:18,960
Speaker 3: she did invite Stephanie to the wedding as a guest.

864
00:40:19,040 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 3: Stephanie is remarried and has a new family of her own,

865
00:40:21,840 --> 00:40:24,760
Speaker 3: two twin boys aged ten and a husband named John.

866
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:27,000
Speaker 3: Cindy asked me to give her away at the wedding,

867
00:40:27,320 --> 00:40:29,680
Speaker 3: as well as being the mother of the bride. I

868
00:40:29,760 --> 00:40:32,200
Speaker 3: was proud to give her away and shared this special

869
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:35,040
Speaker 3: moment with her. I was a supportive mother of the bride.

870
00:40:35,120 --> 00:40:38,400
Speaker 3: I let her choose the dress and didn't interfere with anything.

871
00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:40,279
Speaker 3: This is Cindy's special day.

872
00:40:40,600 --> 00:40:40,880
Speaker 4: Now.

873
00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:44,200
Speaker 3: This week, coming to my house, Cindy was in tears.

874
00:40:44,440 --> 00:40:47,319
Speaker 3: Her mother called her and was furious that she was

875
00:40:47,400 --> 00:40:50,239
Speaker 3: listed as a guest on the invitation and not as

876
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:53,359
Speaker 3: her proper title as mother of the bride. Cindy said

877
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Speaker 3: her mother was furious, but she didn't care. Stephanie was

878
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Speaker 3: never there and she didn't see her as her mother. Yeah, yeah,

879
00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:03,520
Speaker 3: because she gave up her parental rights to be your mother.

880
00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 3: She's on. I don't know what she's on. Cindy said

881
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:08,759
Speaker 3: she was upset over the hurtful words Stephanie said to her.

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00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 3: Once I got Cindy calmed down, I asked if she

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Speaker 3: would like me to talk to Stephanie about this, and

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Speaker 3: Cindy agreed. Cindy said if Stephanie was not going to

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Speaker 3: be supportive, she's not welcome anymore. I called Stephanie as

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Speaker 3: soon as Cindy left the house. Stephanie answered with, oh,

887
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Speaker 3: it's you. I told her to excuse herself and check it.

888
00:41:25,840 --> 00:41:29,200
Speaker 3: Stephanie said she would not because I'm stealing her rightful place.

889
00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 3: Her only daughter is getting married and she's not listed

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Speaker 3: as the mother of the bride. It's bad enough that

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Speaker 3: I'm giving her only daughter away, but it's wrong that

892
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Speaker 3: a barren woman is stealing her only daughter. She said

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Speaker 3: that I should have had children of my own if

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Speaker 3: I wanted to be a mother of the bride.

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Speaker 4: Stephanie, shut up, you should have been a mother of

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Speaker 4: your kids.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Stephanie, literally, you have no place to talk. Your

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00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:54,560
Speaker 3: words have no value. You are irrelevant to this conversation.

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00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:57,640
Speaker 3: I hung up after that and texted Stephanie that she's

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Speaker 3: no longer welcome as a guest at Cindy's wedding if

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Speaker 3: this is how she feels, Cindy, Max's, my mother's and

902
00:42:03,640 --> 00:42:07,000
Speaker 3: my own phone are being spammed by extended family members

903
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Speaker 3: of Stephanie's family. This includes Stephanie's mother, whom Cindy or

904
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Speaker 3: Max have no type of relationship with, and various other

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Speaker 3: family members. We do not have a relationship with. Cindy

906
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Speaker 3: and Max want nothing to do with Stephanie. We have

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Speaker 3: a little bit more story.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, no, she's not coming to the wedding. Then if

909
00:42:23,960 --> 00:42:27,719
Speaker 4: she doesn't want to behave stop being a little poopoo. Stephanie,

910
00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:32,279
Speaker 4: you didn't ever act like a mom. You gave up

911
00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 4: your rights to be a mom.

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00:42:33,840 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, you didn't raise my mom, So why now do

913
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:40,280
Speaker 3: you feel entitled to be the mother of the bride

914
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:41,879
Speaker 3: when you weren't.

915
00:42:41,560 --> 00:42:44,000
Speaker 4: There ever, it's just for show at this point.

916
00:42:44,360 --> 00:42:47,160
Speaker 3: My mother is another story. My mother wants to compromise

917
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Speaker 3: with either us acting as co mothers of the bride,

918
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 3: or if I give Cindy away, maybe we should just

919
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:55,919
Speaker 3: make Stephanie mother of the bride. My mom isn't one

920
00:42:55,960 --> 00:42:59,440
Speaker 3: to have conflict with strangers. Myself is another story. I

921
00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:01,960
Speaker 3: am teams Cindy and told her I will do whatever

922
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:05,080
Speaker 3: you need. Cindy said, Stephanie is a guest or nothing

923
00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:08,279
Speaker 3: at all. My mother and father are helping to pay,

924
00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:11,040
Speaker 3: and they insist we keep the peace. And mother said,

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Speaker 3: I don't understand what Stephanie is going through because I've

926
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Speaker 3: never birthed a child. I am very close to writing

927
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Speaker 3: my parents a check and paying their share. Any advice, Yeah,

928
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Speaker 3: I would do that as well. Yeah for your own mother.

929
00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:24,600
Speaker 3: Again to throw it back and that, well, you haven't

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Speaker 3: had children.

931
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Speaker 6: It's like she gave up her parental right, she signed

932
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Speaker 6: away any obligation or responsibility she had to this child. Yeah,

933
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Speaker 6: and now she wants to come around like she's her mother.

934
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Speaker 6: You have to raise somebody to be their mother.

935
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Speaker 4: Yeah, coming out of this person doesn't just automatically be like, yes,

936
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Speaker 4: you have all the rights of all the last years

937
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Speaker 4: that you were ignoring me to come back and be

938
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Speaker 4: my mom.

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Speaker 3: Maybe it would be different if there wasn't you know,

940
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Speaker 3: OP in the picture and it was like, oh, well

941
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Speaker 3: I lost my father. I guess my estranged mother is

942
00:43:58,840 --> 00:44:01,200
Speaker 3: coming back into the picture. It's better than having no one.

943
00:44:01,480 --> 00:44:07,399
Speaker 3: OPI is Cindy's mother. For all intents and purposes, these

944
00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:08,880
Speaker 3: people are in shame.

945
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Speaker 4: Yeah, Cindy's wedding too, Like, if Cindy's telling you that

946
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Speaker 4: that's what she wants to do, that's what her wedding

947
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Speaker 4: should do. It's Cindy's wedding.

948
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Speaker 3: Yeah, but I don't know.

949
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Speaker 4: Let Cindy walk herself down the aisle if she wants to,

950
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Speaker 4: but she should get what she wants her wedding.

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Speaker 2: Hey, it's sam og Host. We're gonna get back to

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Speaker 2: these delectable stories. But here's three minutes of ads from

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Speaker 2: our sponsors to help support the show.

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Speaker 1: But we do have comments on our video. My ex's

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Speaker 1: father called me a slur. This is from September eleventh,

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty five. This is the story story one, so

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Speaker 1: the first story and a quick told you are here,

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Speaker 1: Op twenty one male dated his ex nineteen female and

959
00:44:45,480 --> 00:44:48,400
Speaker 1: her super strict dad just found out they slept together.

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00:44:48,680 --> 00:44:51,440
Speaker 1: Now the dad is calling Opie's parents, calling him a

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Speaker 1: man or and trying to shame him for taking her virginity.

962
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Speaker 1: Opie's family is caught in the middle and things are

963
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Speaker 1: about to get real awkward. If you're curious to know

964
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Speaker 1: the full story, you can go watch the full video.

965
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Speaker 1: And we do have some comments here. The first comment here,

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Speaker 1: it's a little lengthy one, so be prepared. This is

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Speaker 1: from Katie sixty five fifty one. I was raised Christian

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Speaker 1: and I love my parents, but the talk was terrible. Again.

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Speaker 1: The talk a cartoon book written by our pastor at

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Speaker 1: the time, and they whipped the book out of our

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Speaker 1: favorite restaurant when I was a kid, and proceeded to

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Speaker 1: make out with tongue and pass a mint back and forth.

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Speaker 1: After what what? What did I just read?

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Speaker 6: Hold on, They're like, let me show you out worse,

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Speaker 6: let me show you babe.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know I read that correctly. A cartoon book

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Speaker 1: written by our pastor at the time, and they whipped

978
00:45:46,360 --> 00:45:48,640
Speaker 1: out the book at our favorite restaurant when I was

979
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Speaker 1: a kid and proceeded to make out with tongue and

980
00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:54,080
Speaker 1: pass a mint back and forth after. Oh my god,

981
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:58,879
Speaker 1: I will never forget that nasty memory, and neither will

982
00:45:58,920 --> 00:46:01,720
Speaker 1: I now. Thank you for that. But I learned nothing

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Speaker 1: about feminine hygiene or anything of the sort and had

984
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Speaker 1: to figure it out from my teenage to young adult years.

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Speaker 1: I have a relationship with God and truly appreciate my parents,

986
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Speaker 1: but I have no intention of going about that topic

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Speaker 1: anywhere near the way my parents did and not leave

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Speaker 1: out important things like hygiene, safety, and honesty. I never

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Speaker 1: was able to talk to my parents about it. When

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Speaker 1: I lost my V card, my mom actually went crazy,

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Speaker 1: took us to a restaurant and she freaked me out

992
00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:31,880
Speaker 1: and I had to hide in the bathroom until I

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Speaker 1: felt safe. Wow, this is.

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Speaker 4: Girl, this comment, there's a whole story in its own.

995
00:46:38,440 --> 00:46:41,720
Speaker 1: Then, now as a married woman, my mom makes a lot,

996
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Speaker 1: and a lot is emphasized of uncomfortable spicy jokes. That

997
00:46:45,360 --> 00:46:47,680
Speaker 1: seems like she wants to know about our spicy time.

998
00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:51,120
Speaker 1: She nags my dad NonStop, then makes jokes about wanting

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Speaker 1: to go home and do the do It makes my

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00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:59,040
Speaker 1: spouse and myself very uncomfortable. Wow, that's a comment. For

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Speaker 1: the ages.

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Speaker 4: How many of you guys in the chat had the

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Speaker 4: American girl doll one girl doll book about this?

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Speaker 3: Oh, there's an American girl doll book about how reproduction.

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Speaker 4: Works about women's bodies.

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Speaker 3: I don't know anything about that.

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Speaker 1: Let me know, all right, Well, we have another comment here.

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Speaker 1: Reading another comment here by Megan Korkorn nineteen fifty two,

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Speaker 1: it's so weird that dads are so involved in the

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Speaker 1: virginity of their legal adult daughter. That's crossing so many boundaries.

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Speaker 4: Yikes. Yeah, yeah, he I did not read this story.

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Speaker 1: I don't remember this story.

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Speaker 3: Come on, that was a good one, right, I don't

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Speaker 3: think I was here for it.

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Speaker 1: Reading the final comment here for this story, Queen of

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Speaker 1: the Zombie Apocalypse says pretty sure that if the dad

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Speaker 1: hooks up, it cancels out whatever OPI and the ex

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Speaker 1: girlfriend did, that's probably what he meant by fixing it.

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Speaker 1: That is the end of those comments and the end

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Speaker 1: of this episode.

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