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Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space.

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Speaker 2: If you're anything like me, lady, your mind is going

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Speaker 2: at a million miles per minute, and sometimes we just

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Speaker 2: slow that shit now so that we can be grounded

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Speaker 2: and be more present at our lives.

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Speaker 1: And so that is something that I love to do

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Speaker 1: as well. Today's episode is sure to provide you with motivation, inspiration,

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Speaker 1: or a fresh perspective. If you have any AHA moments

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Speaker 3: Welcome to Cultivating her Space, a podcast dedicated to uplifting

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Speaker 3: women like you. We're your hosts Doctor Dominique Broussard, a

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Speaker 3: college professor and psyche cologists.

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Speaker 2: And Terry Lomax, a techy and motivational speaker. In a

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Speaker 2: world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood, please

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Speaker 2: join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from

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Speaker 2: fibroids to fake friends, and create a safe space where

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Speaker 2: black women can.

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Speaker 1: Just be.

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Speaker 3: Our quote of the day. Every season is one of becoming,

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Speaker 3: but not always one of blooming. Be gracious with your

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Speaker 3: ever evolving self. I'm gonna say that one more time

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Speaker 3: so that you can close your eyes and feel it

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Speaker 3: in your spirit. Every season is one of becoming, but

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Speaker 3: not always one of blooming, be gracious with your ever

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Speaker 3: evolving self. That quote comes to us from b oapmen

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Speaker 3: Ari t. When you hear that quote, what comes up

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Speaker 2: Okay, So first things first, when I hear that quote,

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Speaker 2: it literally feels like I was closing my eyes for

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Speaker 2: a little bit as you were saying it, as you

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Speaker 2: saw me. Right. It feels like a big hug, like

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Speaker 1: And I think that, let.

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Speaker 2: Me look at it again so I can really, okay,

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Speaker 2: get into it. So what it means to me, Dom

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Speaker 2: is that throughout all the seasons that we face in life, right,

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Speaker 2: we are evolving, we're transforming, we're changing, and so we're

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Speaker 2: becoming something new in every season, whether we notice.

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Speaker 3: It or not.

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Speaker 2: And with that in mind, it doesn't mean that just

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Speaker 2: be just because we're becoming doesn't mean that we are

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Speaker 2: necessarily blooming, right, So it doesn't necessarily mean that we

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Speaker 2: sometimes we can sort of discount the process of becoming

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Speaker 2: because we were not blooming right now, why am I

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Speaker 2: not blooming? But I think that there this reminds me

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Speaker 2: that there is time and space for rest while you become.

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Speaker 2: You know, you don't always got to be outside, if

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, I like that. I like that. I think

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Speaker 3: for me, what I thought of was flowers, right, and

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Speaker 3: when you get it, it looks like it's beautiful, right,

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Speaker 3: and then it hits a season where all the petals

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Speaker 3: you keep watering, you keep taking care of it, and

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Speaker 3: eventually the flowers bloom again, right, and then the cycle

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Speaker 3: there are points in our life when things will be ugly,

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Speaker 2: I love that, and I love the last sentence too

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Speaker 2: down which I don't think we've really touched on. But

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Speaker 2: to be gracious with your ever evolving self, no matter

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Speaker 2: what season you're in, whether you're becoming or you're becoming

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Speaker 2: So lady, I feel like this conversation right here we

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Speaker 2: wanted to feel like a fall summer day, whether you

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Speaker 3: What is the summer day? A fall summer what fall

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Speaker 1: It should be a fall summer night.

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Speaker 3: No summer somer is gone. Girl on trips gone, see

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Speaker 2: I'm so glad, see thank you. That's the thing about podcast.

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Speaker 2: Do you say stuff. You say stuff and you're like, wait,

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Speaker 2: what is it? The pumpkin spice?

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Speaker 1: Is that when everybody be drinking in the fall?

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Speaker 3: No debatable, girl? You know why is there you about

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Speaker 3: But yes, you're you're preferred, You're preferred fall bridge.

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Speaker 2: There you go, your preferred fall beverage. I'm just envisioning

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Speaker 2: us being like cosed up on the couch. We got

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Speaker 2: It's a fall evening, right, cozy, good vibes were chilling,

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Speaker 2: and we're having a conversation about ways to rest and

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Speaker 2: recharge before the new year, because this could be a

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Speaker 3: Right, yes, I cano child.

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Speaker 2: Okay, listen, we might we may or may not be

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Speaker 2: speaking from experience, all right, well, yeah, it could be

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Speaker 3: So shows just jump on in. Job, let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So number one, y'all, we have nature walks and hikes,

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Speaker 3: And you know what I will say is why Terry

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Speaker 3: I'm also recognizing that with the time change, it's harder

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Speaker 2: I love that so much, John, because it's so easy.

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Speaker 2: I know, for me especially, I'm gonna just speak my

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Speaker 2: But it's so easy to like say, okay, I'm good,

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Speaker 3: Right, you're still doing the work.

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Speaker 2: So I have to really sometimes like grab myself like

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Speaker 2: Before we started recording about that walk, which is you

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Speaker 2: But us being able to do it together was really great.

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Speaker 2: But here, lady, if you can try to engage in

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Speaker 2: to ground yourself, especially in this season, that would be

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Speaker 2: an amazing idea. You can check out local parks and

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Speaker 2: allows me to appreciate the I want to say small things,

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Speaker 2: definitely a good idea. Hey lady, it's Terry here, Dom

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Speaker 3: might be you are writing what comes to mind. It's

439
00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 3: different from a gratitude journal because a gratitude journaling you

440
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:09,160
Speaker 3: are focused on naming things that you are grateful for.

441
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:14,760
Speaker 3: But mindful journaling is with the intention of reflection and

442
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:20,280
Speaker 3: you have a specific question or prompts that you're answering

443
00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:25,520
Speaker 3: and you can take however long you need to. But again,

444
00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:30,440
Speaker 3: the point is is that there is something specific that

445
00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:34,520
Speaker 3: you are spending time reflecting on. And so see what

446
00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:37,520
Speaker 3: has been your experience with mindful journaling.

447
00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:40,760
Speaker 2: Yes, girl, you already had this spot on. This is

448
00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:43,920
Speaker 2: definitely my jam mindful journaling. And also I want to

449
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:47,200
Speaker 2: add a little asterik and say voice notes as well,

450
00:26:47,240 --> 00:26:49,920
Speaker 2: because that's another thing that I do because a lot

451
00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:52,600
Speaker 2: of times journaling. Sometimes my hand is hurting, I haven't

452
00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:54,800
Speaker 2: been on a computer all day, and I just don't

453
00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:57,240
Speaker 2: feel like writing, and so I also do like I

454
00:26:57,240 --> 00:26:59,399
Speaker 2: guess you could call it mindful voice notes, or I

455
00:26:59,440 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 2: just pop up a voice note app on my phone

456
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:04,480
Speaker 2: and I would just like verbally vomit and just spill

457
00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:06,359
Speaker 2: out everything that's happened in my day or things that

458
00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:08,320
Speaker 2: are on my mind, just to get it out of

459
00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:11,240
Speaker 2: my brain and into another platform that I can revisit

460
00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:12,680
Speaker 2: and process later.

461
00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:16,000
Speaker 3: So that's really helpful for me. I used to also have.

462
00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:19,159
Speaker 2: This self reflection journal that I used to use for

463
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:22,040
Speaker 2: myself to reflect and map out goals. And I started

464
00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:25,000
Speaker 2: selling this years ago. It's like an e journal, And

465
00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:27,960
Speaker 2: what I loved about that is it was an annual

466
00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:30,639
Speaker 2: journal and I would have a track record of all

467
00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:32,679
Speaker 2: the things right with that, and it had different prompts

468
00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:34,600
Speaker 2: and whatnot. And some of the prompts that I love

469
00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:37,280
Speaker 2: the most and that journal were at the end of

470
00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:39,960
Speaker 2: the month, I would ask myself questions like what did

471
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:42,720
Speaker 2: I accomplish this month? Of course right, Another question I

472
00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:45,639
Speaker 2: really liked was who helped me? Like I love to

473
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 2: think about that question because it really gets me into

474
00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:50,159
Speaker 2: a space of gratitude and I'm like, well, what people

475
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:52,399
Speaker 2: in my corner am I grateful for?

476
00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:52,679
Speaker 3: Right?

477
00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:55,359
Speaker 2: So it has me kind of being creative and also

478
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:57,680
Speaker 2: prompts me to send out a thank you note or

479
00:27:57,800 --> 00:28:02,280
Speaker 2: thank you message. Also, what am I proud of? Areas

480
00:28:02,320 --> 00:28:05,240
Speaker 2: for improvement and I'm trying.

481
00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:05,600
Speaker 3: To think of a.

482
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:09,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, those are like some of the core prompts that

483
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:10,960
Speaker 2: come to mind. But I think this is great for

484
00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 2: just like healing emotions, understanding what you feel, why you

485
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 2: feel it, and also getting that load out of your mind,

486
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:21,280
Speaker 2: because if you're anything like me, lady, your mind is

487
00:28:21,359 --> 00:28:23,960
Speaker 2: going at a million miles per minute, and sometimes we

488
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:26,800
Speaker 2: just slow that shit now so that we can be

489
00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:30,000
Speaker 2: grounded and like be more present in our lives. And

490
00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:31,800
Speaker 2: so that is something that I love to do as well.

491
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 3: I think that's good. Thank you, Dom. Shall we jump

492
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:39,760
Speaker 3: into number five? Let's do it ill, right, y'all.

493
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 2: Number five is practice self care rituals. Dom and I

494
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:46,000
Speaker 2: have talked about self care so much on the podcast,

495
00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:49,080
Speaker 2: But depending on what your life looks like and what

496
00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:51,000
Speaker 2: is important to you and what will work for you

497
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 2: when it comes to self care, develop a self care

498
00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:58,000
Speaker 2: routine and It's ideally include activities that will allow you

499
00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:01,480
Speaker 2: to feel when is it like well rested, did rejuvenated.

500
00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:03,880
Speaker 2: So for me that would be like meditation. It might

501
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 2: be yoga. It could be bad. It could be pampering yourself.

502
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 2: I went to the spy the other day. Now, have

503
00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:13,840
Speaker 2: you been to a pearl spy? I shouldn't have said

504
00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:15,880
Speaker 2: that out loud because now I might see somebody up

505
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:18,480
Speaker 2: in the spot because it's like a nude women's spot,

506
00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:19,760
Speaker 2: and asf have you been.

507
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:22,360
Speaker 3: Not to that one? But I have been to one

508
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:24,840
Speaker 3: before in a couple in the Bay Area.

509
00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:28,800
Speaker 2: Yes, girl, I went and had this massage and this

510
00:29:28,880 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 2: scrub where they like scrubbed my whole body down, and

511
00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:34,000
Speaker 2: then I went and chilled in the JACUZI. I went

512
00:29:34,040 --> 00:29:37,120
Speaker 2: to the steam room thesauna. They had a clay room

513
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:40,400
Speaker 2: and I just, girl, I fell asleep on the recliner.

514
00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:42,960
Speaker 2: I mean, it was so relaxing, and I smoked an

515
00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:45,000
Speaker 2: eight before I went, so you know I was in there.

516
00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:47,200
Speaker 1: Feeling you good? Okay, Yeah, it was good.

517
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 2: So yeah, I would say, do some type of self

518
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:51,240
Speaker 2: care leader, whatever self care looks like for you, for

519
00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:53,880
Speaker 2: maintaining your mental and physical health.

520
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 3: And I think what I would add to that too,

521
00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:01,800
Speaker 3: is that like in the fall, what you being mindful

522
00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:05,280
Speaker 3: of the season, right, So what you need in the

523
00:30:05,320 --> 00:30:11,080
Speaker 3: fall might not be would work for you in the winter.

524
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:15,480
Speaker 3: In the winter, or really in the summer, right, because

525
00:30:15,480 --> 00:30:19,640
Speaker 3: the temperatures are different. You get to in the summer

526
00:30:19,840 --> 00:30:23,960
Speaker 3: it's hot, and so maybe if you're like me yours,

527
00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:26,200
Speaker 3: one of your self care things is to be out

528
00:30:26,240 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 3: by the water and lounge out, you know, in the

529
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:36,760
Speaker 3: sun by the water. Well, these fall temperatures say that

530
00:30:36,760 --> 00:30:41,080
Speaker 3: that might not be the best idea unless, lady, you

531
00:30:41,160 --> 00:30:48,080
Speaker 3: are somewhere tropical and lucky you where the sun shines

532
00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:51,880
Speaker 3: and the temperatures are seventy five degrees all year. Lucky you, lady,

533
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 3: if that's you. But if you are like the rest

534
00:30:54,120 --> 00:30:58,680
Speaker 3: of us where fall starts to see cooler temperatures and

535
00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:00,920
Speaker 3: like I said before, some people or starting to even

536
00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:05,320
Speaker 3: see snow, your self care rituals may need to look

537
00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:08,160
Speaker 3: a little different. So for me, one of the things

538
00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 3: that I'm paying attention to is, you know, I talk

539
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:15,680
Speaker 3: about it all the time my sleep, right, But what

540
00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 3: I'm aware of is that in the wintertime, because there

541
00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 3: is less hours of sunlight I tend to be, like

542
00:31:25,000 --> 00:31:30,480
Speaker 3: a lot of us, more tired in the winter and

543
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:33,480
Speaker 3: in the fall, where like starting in the fall, right,

544
00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:39,360
Speaker 3: so my self care routine is really I amp up

545
00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:44,440
Speaker 3: my prioritization on sleep. So in the fall, for me,

546
00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 3: starting in the fall and through the winter, I try

547
00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:53,360
Speaker 3: to get more hours of sleep because I know that

548
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:59,280
Speaker 3: my body needs that. So in the spring and summer,

549
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:05,000
Speaker 3: maybe seven hours is my sweet spot in terms of

550
00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:09,040
Speaker 3: the sleep that I need. In the fall and winter,

551
00:32:09,520 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 3: we're talking more like eight or nine. And so for me,

552
00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:16,760
Speaker 3: that type of self care is that means that I'm

553
00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:22,760
Speaker 3: adjusting my schedule to make sure that I am getting

554
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 3: that sleep. So when I wake up in the morning

555
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:29,120
Speaker 3: and it's still slightly dark outside, I'm rested enough to

556
00:32:29,280 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 3: get up and start my day.

557
00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:33,680
Speaker 1: Eight or nine hours a sleep sounds amazing.

558
00:32:34,680 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 3: Oh my god. Let me be clear, that is the ideal.

559
00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:41,040
Speaker 3: That is the idea that works for me. That's my

560
00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:44,760
Speaker 3: body's sweet spot. I'm being one hundred percent honest. I

561
00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:47,280
Speaker 3: don't always in the fall and winter, I don't always

562
00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 3: get that right, but that's the goal for sure. And

563
00:32:53,560 --> 00:32:59,800
Speaker 3: so that takes us to number six. Indulge in nostalgia

564
00:33:00,880 --> 00:33:05,479
Speaker 3: so thinking about the things, the memories, taking time to

565
00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:11,280
Speaker 3: reminisce in the things that bring you comfort, the things

566
00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 3: that forge connection. I know, you know, for a lot

567
00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:20,440
Speaker 3: of us, the fall leading into the winter, there are

568
00:33:20,480 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 3: the holidays, right, and for a lot of us not

569
00:33:25,120 --> 00:33:33,400
Speaker 3: all the holidays naturally bring out that nostalgia right and

570
00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:38,960
Speaker 3: hopefully affords us the opportunity to connect with friends and

571
00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 3: family that we may not have, that we may not

572
00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:45,560
Speaker 3: be able to connect with at other times of the year.

573
00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:50,600
Speaker 3: I know, for me, the holidays is a big deal.

574
00:33:51,680 --> 00:33:57,040
Speaker 3: I definitely prioritize making time for my family. And one

575
00:33:57,080 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 3: of the things that generally feels good for us is,

576
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:08,600
Speaker 3: you know, Thanksgiving at my grandmother's house and we're all

577
00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:12,279
Speaker 3: my siblings and I and some cousins and aunts and

578
00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:19,879
Speaker 3: uncles were gathered there to cook and eat a lot

579
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:24,680
Speaker 3: and get some drinking in and spending time together right

580
00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:31,560
Speaker 3: as soon as Thanksgiving hits. For me, it's also a

581
00:34:31,600 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 3: time for me to watch my favorite Christmas movies, and

582
00:34:37,600 --> 00:34:41,520
Speaker 3: so I you know, I make time to cozy up

583
00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:46,400
Speaker 3: on my couch and watch I'm not naming names on

584
00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:50,040
Speaker 3: these right now. Today We're gonna do it. We're gonna

585
00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:52,080
Speaker 3: have to do a whole different episode. I'm a name it.

586
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:56,040
Speaker 3: I'm gonna do my top five on a different episode.

587
00:34:56,320 --> 00:35:00,239
Speaker 3: And and so but for me, that that's it's my

588
00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:06,160
Speaker 3: indulging in nostalgia because not only does it bring up

589
00:35:06,239 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 3: is does it feel good to watch those movies. What

590
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:13,040
Speaker 3: it does is it brings up those good memories from

591
00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:17,200
Speaker 3: childhood that are associated with the holidays. And so it's

592
00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 3: a time for me to indulge in those movies but

593
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:26,400
Speaker 3: also reminisce with myself and reflect on those things that

594
00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:28,080
Speaker 3: felt really good about childhood.

595
00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:31,960
Speaker 2: What about for you, well, first time, I love that

596
00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:35,040
Speaker 2: so much, and I love the fact that you still

597
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:36,880
Speaker 2: have that right now in your life.

598
00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:38,040
Speaker 3: That's really special.

599
00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:42,040
Speaker 2: I think about my grandparents. They were the ones, like,

600
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:44,719
Speaker 2: really my grandmother the matriarch. She was the one who

601
00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:47,360
Speaker 2: organized all the dinners and we would all go to

602
00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:50,280
Speaker 2: her house in Philly. And so now that they're not here,

603
00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:52,920
Speaker 2: they were kind of the glue that kept everything together,

604
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:54,799
Speaker 2: and so we don't really have that. So now being

605
00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 2: on this coast and having a different family dynamic, we

606
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 2: kind of create our own tradition.

607
00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:01,720
Speaker 3: So I missed those times.

608
00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:04,640
Speaker 2: But the cool thing is I have so many videos

609
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:07,600
Speaker 2: from over the years from those moments, so I like

610
00:36:07,680 --> 00:36:10,120
Speaker 2: to I usually try to like call my siblings and

611
00:36:10,160 --> 00:36:11,840
Speaker 2: I'll send them old pictures and videos.

612
00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 1: I'll watch some of the videos.

613
00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:17,320
Speaker 2: I a couple Christmases ago, I was in the kitchen

614
00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 2: cooking like my grandmama. I sprayed her perfume and put

615
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:23,440
Speaker 2: on the music she would listen to. I had my

616
00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:26,000
Speaker 2: robe and my little bonded on cooking this food she

617
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:27,640
Speaker 2: would cook. So I feel like I was kind of

618
00:36:27,680 --> 00:36:31,200
Speaker 2: like channeling her energy and kind of inviting her in.

619
00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:33,439
Speaker 2: And so I think that if you're in a space, lady,

620
00:36:33,440 --> 00:36:36,799
Speaker 2: where you don't necessarily you know, have the people that

621
00:36:36,840 --> 00:36:39,200
Speaker 2: were there that kind of made those memories special, you

622
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:41,759
Speaker 2: can always set an intention to invite them in. Right,

623
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:45,200
Speaker 2: Like energy doesn't die, it just gets transferred, So we

624
00:36:45,239 --> 00:36:48,279
Speaker 2: can invite the energy in of our ancestors or loved

625
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:50,480
Speaker 2: ones that have passed on, so we can bring them

626
00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:53,360
Speaker 2: into this space. And I also love to share insider

627
00:36:53,480 --> 00:36:55,760
Speaker 2: jokes with my siblings. So if there's something that happened

628
00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:58,120
Speaker 2: and we knew my grandma were like my mom would

629
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:01,080
Speaker 2: have said this, so I'll text that text crazy videos

630
00:37:01,080 --> 00:37:03,440
Speaker 2: of her being silly back in the day. But I

631
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 2: think the nostalgia can just kind of create that sense

632
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:08,640
Speaker 2: of belonging and boost your mood and enhance those feelings

633
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:10,800
Speaker 2: of connection, and you can find.

634
00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:11,640
Speaker 3: Ways to recreate that.

635
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:15,200
Speaker 2: So this is These are all I think good and important,

636
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:16,759
Speaker 2: but that is definitely my favorite one. I am a

637
00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:22,319
Speaker 2: sucker for nostalgia for sure. Yes, so yeah, And I

638
00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:25,080
Speaker 2: guess I'm on to number seven, which is another good one.

639
00:37:25,280 --> 00:37:29,560
Speaker 2: So number seven, Lady, is to practice gratitude or have

640
00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:33,759
Speaker 2: a gratitude practice, Okay, to cultivate a gratitude practice by

641
00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:36,359
Speaker 2: regularly reflecting one and writing down the things that you're

642
00:37:36,360 --> 00:37:40,120
Speaker 2: grateful for, no matter how small. I literally in the morning,

643
00:37:40,200 --> 00:37:43,040
Speaker 2: I've gotten to the practice of literally waking up and

644
00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 2: I'm trying to get myself excited and energize about the

645
00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:50,200
Speaker 2: day and being so thankful that I'm alive, because you know,

646
00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:53,160
Speaker 2: like that is it. We take it for granted oftentimes,

647
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:57,200
Speaker 2: but I think about just breathing, right, that's a privilege.

648
00:37:57,280 --> 00:37:57,440
Speaker 3: Right.

649
00:37:57,480 --> 00:37:59,880
Speaker 2: We don't think about our next breath before we take

650
00:37:59,920 --> 00:38:02,640
Speaker 2: it oftentimes, but it's not guaranteed. And so I think

651
00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:05,120
Speaker 2: I try to be thankful for all the small things.

652
00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:07,040
Speaker 2: And I think one of the best ways that we

653
00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:11,040
Speaker 2: can manifest more and gear up for the new year

654
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:14,080
Speaker 2: is to just be thankful for what we have right now,

655
00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:16,360
Speaker 2: even if it's not every single thing that we desire

656
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 2: at one point in our life, we're probably praying for

657
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 2: some of the things that we have right now, and

658
00:38:21,280 --> 00:38:23,960
Speaker 2: so if we can be grateful for these things, I

659
00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:25,680
Speaker 2: believe that it can put us in the right energy

660
00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:28,960
Speaker 2: space to attract more of what we desire. So gratitude

661
00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:30,120
Speaker 2: is so important.

662
00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:33,400
Speaker 3: Yes it is, Oh my gosh, yes it is. And

663
00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:39,920
Speaker 3: I think about oftentimes when I've seen on social media

664
00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:44,120
Speaker 3: and in other spaces, is gratitude for like grateful November

665
00:38:44,160 --> 00:38:47,560
Speaker 3: and like people spend the month like I and gay

666
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:50,320
Speaker 3: I've done it before too, is like spending the month

667
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:55,239
Speaker 3: identifying each day identifying something that you're grateful for. And

668
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:59,439
Speaker 3: so I think that that's a great practice to particularly

669
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:05,160
Speaker 3: if you are in the habit of practicing gratitude, that

670
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 3: taking on grateful November or Thankful November, you know, taking

671
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:15,879
Speaker 3: on that challenge and every day naming something that you're

672
00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:20,120
Speaker 3: grateful for will help move you into a space of

673
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:23,000
Speaker 3: regularly practicing it. So maybe you don't do it every day,

674
00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:30,600
Speaker 3: but you get more comfortable with the idea of being,

675
00:39:30,680 --> 00:39:36,680
Speaker 3: of practicing gratitude and identifying I think that's the biggest

676
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:45,160
Speaker 3: piece actually, is identifying the things that you are grateful for,

677
00:39:45,280 --> 00:39:50,120
Speaker 3: the big, small things, right. So what it starts to

678
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:54,879
Speaker 3: get you to do is in your everyday life, as

679
00:39:54,880 --> 00:39:58,600
Speaker 3: you're just going about your day, you notice the small

680
00:39:58,640 --> 00:40:03,880
Speaker 3: things and you can be grateful and express that gratitude.

681
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:09,400
Speaker 3: And so let's do a quick recap of these seven

682
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 3: ways to rest and recharge, and then we'll have some

683
00:40:14,360 --> 00:40:17,480
Speaker 3: questions for you, lady, as you are trying to identify,

684
00:40:18,160 --> 00:40:20,680
Speaker 3: what are other ways that you could fall into wellness

685
00:40:20,680 --> 00:40:26,359
Speaker 3: this season? So number one, take nature walks and hikes.

686
00:40:27,760 --> 00:40:34,960
Speaker 3: Number two, try a digital detox. Number three, get into

687
00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:42,040
Speaker 3: that cozy reading session. Number four, try out mindful journaling.

688
00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:51,280
Speaker 3: Number five, be intentional about practicing self care rituals. Number

689
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:58,360
Speaker 3: six give yourself permission to indulge in some nostalgia. And

690
00:40:58,520 --> 00:41:03,240
Speaker 3: number seven lean into practicing gratitude.

691
00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:07,279
Speaker 2: I love it, I love it, Okay, dom So these questions, lady,

692
00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:10,440
Speaker 2: questions that you can use for your journaling prompt and Domini,

693
00:41:10,440 --> 00:41:12,000
Speaker 2: I may answer a couple as.

694
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 1: Well, so now I'm trying to think of where we

695
00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:14,320
Speaker 1: should go.

696
00:41:14,440 --> 00:41:19,120
Speaker 2: Let's see, Okay, is there a specific memory or experience

697
00:41:19,160 --> 00:41:22,680
Speaker 2: you revisit often and why does it mean so much

698
00:41:22,680 --> 00:41:23,000
Speaker 2: to you?

699
00:41:24,960 --> 00:41:27,960
Speaker 3: Oh, that's a great question to ask, particularly as you're

700
00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:32,040
Speaker 3: looking at if you're wanting to lean into and allow

701
00:41:32,120 --> 00:41:38,480
Speaker 3: yourself that time to indulge in nostalgia. And so for me,

702
00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:44,600
Speaker 3: for me actually because I regularly engage in it, there

703
00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:51,520
Speaker 3: are several memories that typically come up for me. So

704
00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:55,759
Speaker 3: one memory, and it's not a specific memory, but it's

705
00:41:55,880 --> 00:42:02,480
Speaker 3: like a general thing is as a kid, for Christmas,

706
00:42:02,840 --> 00:42:09,360
Speaker 3: we were Catholic growing up, and so for Christmas it

707
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:11,600
Speaker 3: was one it was one of the few times that

708
00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:15,520
Speaker 3: we got like brand new church outfits, Like it was

709
00:42:15,719 --> 00:42:20,160
Speaker 3: we knew that a new church outfit was coming Christmas

710
00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:25,600
Speaker 3: and eastern and hair your hair was yes, yes, hair

711
00:42:25,760 --> 00:42:28,960
Speaker 3: was lead right. That was one of the few guaranteed times,

712
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:32,040
Speaker 3: not saying it didn't happen at other times, but you

713
00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 3: knew it was coming, right. And so I remember growing

714
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:43,920
Speaker 3: up that being Catholic, we would go to midnight Mass

715
00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:50,359
Speaker 3: for Christmas, and so Christmas Eve, leaning into Christmas Day,

716
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:56,080
Speaker 3: we would go to midnight Mass, and traditionally Catholic Mass

717
00:42:56,120 --> 00:43:01,839
Speaker 3: was about an hour, but Christmas midnight Mass was one

718
00:43:01,880 --> 00:43:05,799
Speaker 3: of those times where I felt like, oh, this must

719
00:43:05,880 --> 00:43:08,920
Speaker 3: be what it's like to go to a different church

720
00:43:09,239 --> 00:43:14,280
Speaker 3: in the non Catholic church, because one Mass itself was longer,

721
00:43:14,920 --> 00:43:22,200
Speaker 3: but two my grandparents' church, they would have Christmas caroling

722
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:27,640
Speaker 3: before Mass started, and so that meant the gospel choir

723
00:43:27,719 --> 00:43:31,280
Speaker 3: that they had, because some black Catholic churches had gospel

724
00:43:31,320 --> 00:43:38,120
Speaker 3: choirs hour and that was usually my favorite part of Mass.

725
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:43,040
Speaker 3: And so the gospel choir would do Christmas carols maybe

726
00:43:43,360 --> 00:43:46,400
Speaker 3: thirty to forty five minutes before midnight Mass was supposed

727
00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:50,400
Speaker 3: to start. And it was just a joyful time, like

728
00:43:50,680 --> 00:43:56,359
Speaker 3: you come in and everybody's in such a great mood.

729
00:43:56,400 --> 00:43:58,360
Speaker 3: It doesn't feel like that. It doesn't feel like a

730
00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:01,880
Speaker 3: regular Sunday because you know it's always it won't be

731
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:05,080
Speaker 3: on a Sunday, right, like it's dependent upon Christmas, even

732
00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:09,799
Speaker 3: Christmas Day, And it was such a beautiful time to

733
00:44:10,040 --> 00:44:14,720
Speaker 3: like have like we're at Mass. And then the younger

734
00:44:14,800 --> 00:44:16,919
Speaker 3: I was, it was always like fighting to stay awake

735
00:44:17,239 --> 00:44:23,400
Speaker 3: because that's past our typical bedtime and you can't be

736
00:44:23,440 --> 00:44:26,239
Speaker 3: falling asleep in church in the first place, and so

737
00:44:26,440 --> 00:44:28,759
Speaker 3: it's all these things, right, But then the goal is

738
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:31,600
Speaker 3: also to stay up because you don't want you don't

739
00:44:31,600 --> 00:44:34,040
Speaker 3: want the adults to see you fall asleep, because then

740
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:40,239
Speaker 3: that reduces your chances of your snack after mass. So

741
00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:44,800
Speaker 3: after midnight Mass, we would always go back to my grandparents' house.

742
00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:49,000
Speaker 2: Well, when you would get cookies, if you fell asleep,

743
00:44:49,000 --> 00:44:51,200
Speaker 2: they wouldn't give you as much snack as many snacks,

744
00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 2: Is that what you're saying.

745
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:58,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, ok, so like so or you would get

746
00:44:58,440 --> 00:44:59,560
Speaker 3: fussed that and nobody.

747
00:44:59,320 --> 00:45:00,720
Speaker 1: Wants to get us.

748
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:04,120
Speaker 3: No, nobody wants that. And so we would go to

749
00:45:04,160 --> 00:45:07,080
Speaker 3: my grandparents' house after Mass and we would get whatever

750
00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:11,360
Speaker 3: Christmas cookies my grandmother made rumballs, which was a treat,

751
00:45:11,560 --> 00:45:15,799
Speaker 3: you know, because yeah, and then egg no, and we

752
00:45:15,840 --> 00:45:18,360
Speaker 3: would get we would and so and everybody it just

753
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:22,719
Speaker 3: felt so festive. Yeah. And then some years we spent

754
00:45:22,800 --> 00:45:26,279
Speaker 3: the night at my grandparents' house. Other years, as we

755
00:45:26,320 --> 00:45:28,440
Speaker 3: got older, we didn't spend the night over there. And

756
00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:29,920
Speaker 3: so it was like all right, now we got to

757
00:45:30,000 --> 00:45:34,720
Speaker 3: drive home and go to sleep and wait for Santa Claus.

758
00:45:35,360 --> 00:45:38,680
Speaker 3: And then you know, and you have to go to sleep,

759
00:45:38,920 --> 00:45:41,600
Speaker 3: because if you don't go to sleep, Santa Claus won't come.

760
00:45:42,440 --> 00:45:44,719
Speaker 3: And so that's one of the biggest memories that I

761
00:45:44,760 --> 00:45:47,319
Speaker 3: have that I usually like like to sit in and

762
00:45:47,360 --> 00:45:50,760
Speaker 3: reflect on, particularly when I'm watching like the holiday movies.

763
00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:51,759
Speaker 3: What about for you?

764
00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:55,839
Speaker 2: Okay, let me just say, as we're talking about this down,

765
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 2: it's making me think back to these moments in childhood.

766
00:45:58,640 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 2: And I don't know this would change anything, but I

767
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:04,839
Speaker 2: low key wish that my younger self knew, like these

768
00:46:04,840 --> 00:46:07,920
Speaker 2: moments are fleeting, like it's not going to be here forever.

769
00:46:07,960 --> 00:46:10,200
Speaker 3: Because I missed my grandparents so much. They were like

770
00:46:10,239 --> 00:46:10,520
Speaker 3: on my.

771
00:46:10,800 --> 00:46:13,880
Speaker 2: They were literally like my parents. They were literally like grandparents.

772
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:16,719
Speaker 2: They were my great you know, incredible parents. And so

773
00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:21,480
Speaker 2: I literally often think back to like two instances, right, So,

774
00:46:21,560 --> 00:46:24,080
Speaker 2: being in Philly at my mom's house, even though it

775
00:46:24,120 --> 00:46:27,120
Speaker 2: was my mom and Popap's house, everybody says my mom's house, right, yep.

776
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:29,480
Speaker 2: And so with my mom's house even though he paid

777
00:46:29,520 --> 00:46:31,279
Speaker 2: Papa paid the bills too, but it's my mom's house.

778
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:32,400
Speaker 1: So we're our house.

779
00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 3: Right.

780
00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:36,279
Speaker 2: It's Sunday morning, and she's downstairs in the kitchen with

781
00:46:36,320 --> 00:46:38,920
Speaker 2: her bonnet and her. She used to wear these like

782
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:42,760
Speaker 2: house gowns and one O three point nine. The gospel

783
00:46:42,800 --> 00:46:47,080
Speaker 2: station is playing some type of Kirk Franklin, Donni Mcclerkland something,

784
00:46:47,680 --> 00:46:52,719
Speaker 2: and literally the smell of bacon, grits, eggs and homemade

785
00:46:52,800 --> 00:46:58,879
Speaker 2: pancakes is just running through the house. My grandmother's estay

786
00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:02,120
Speaker 2: laud of perfume. I could smell it. White diamonds. I

787
00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:04,080
Speaker 2: smell all o perfumes. She got a whole bunch of

788
00:47:04,440 --> 00:47:07,440
Speaker 2: had that white diamonds, pop hoop his colonne.

789
00:47:07,480 --> 00:47:07,800
Speaker 3: You smell it.

790
00:47:07,800 --> 00:47:09,839
Speaker 2: Because we're getting ready for church, and I just hear

791
00:47:09,880 --> 00:47:11,879
Speaker 2: the music and the vibes and it's just.

792
00:47:12,360 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 3: It just I just miss it. So I think about that.

793
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 2: Right, we're getting ready for church, and it's like a

794
00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:20,600
Speaker 2: little chaotic, but it's also it's like our chaos, so

795
00:47:20,640 --> 00:47:23,239
Speaker 2: it's it's fine, right, everybody's trying to get ready to

796
00:47:23,239 --> 00:47:23,720
Speaker 2: get closed.

797
00:47:23,719 --> 00:47:25,440
Speaker 3: Where's this, where's this sock? Where's this?

798
00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 2: You know all that, And then the other memory is

799
00:47:30,480 --> 00:47:33,239
Speaker 2: just hanging out with my grandparents watching movies. We used

800
00:47:33,239 --> 00:47:35,640
Speaker 2: to just lay in their bed with them watch movies

801
00:47:35,680 --> 00:47:39,760
Speaker 2: and order like cheese steaks and read this water ice

802
00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:41,760
Speaker 2: and pretzels and like just.

803
00:47:41,680 --> 00:47:43,240
Speaker 3: Lounge around and spend time together.

804
00:47:43,880 --> 00:47:46,520
Speaker 2: I missed that so much, and I really wish I

805
00:47:46,520 --> 00:47:48,560
Speaker 2: could just go back and tell my younger self, like, girl,

806
00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:51,360
Speaker 2: cherish this moment because it's not going to be here forever,

807
00:47:51,440 --> 00:47:53,920
Speaker 2: because now that they're not here, even though I appreciated

808
00:47:53,960 --> 00:47:55,839
Speaker 2: them when they were here, it's just those moments are

809
00:47:55,880 --> 00:47:59,160
Speaker 2: so special. And my daughter, I think her upbringing is

810
00:47:59,160 --> 00:48:00,840
Speaker 2: going to be so different, Like I think the world

811
00:48:00,880 --> 00:48:02,400
Speaker 2: is just so different from how it was when we

812
00:48:02,400 --> 00:48:05,359
Speaker 2: were younger, or we would play outside and we didn't

813
00:48:05,360 --> 00:48:06,719
Speaker 2: have social media and all these things.

814
00:48:06,800 --> 00:48:08,200
Speaker 3: So those are.

815
00:48:08,120 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 2: Some of the specific memories that I can think of,

816
00:48:11,040 --> 00:48:11,920
Speaker 2: and I think they mean.

817
00:48:11,840 --> 00:48:14,480
Speaker 1: So much because they were just so precious.

818
00:48:14,520 --> 00:48:18,080
Speaker 2: They were so they were really good times, you know,

819
00:48:18,560 --> 00:48:21,040
Speaker 2: and they mean a lot with really special people. So

820
00:48:21,080 --> 00:48:23,879
Speaker 2: I think that's why, Yeah, those times mean so much.

821
00:48:25,120 --> 00:48:29,240
Speaker 3: That was fun, that was And So what's another question

822
00:48:30,120 --> 00:48:35,040
Speaker 3: that folks can ask themselves as they are trying to

823
00:48:35,040 --> 00:48:41,319
Speaker 3: figure out how to dive into these these wellness tips?

824
00:48:41,480 --> 00:48:45,560
Speaker 2: Okay, so another question is are there any books that

825
00:48:45,600 --> 00:48:48,920
Speaker 2: have had a lasting impact on you or change your perspective?

826
00:48:49,440 --> 00:48:53,440
Speaker 2: And if so, what was the book? And what perspective

827
00:48:53,440 --> 00:48:57,160
Speaker 2: shift did you have? And I wanted to actually ask

828
00:48:57,200 --> 00:48:58,920
Speaker 2: you that earlier down when we were talking about books.

829
00:48:58,920 --> 00:49:01,359
Speaker 3: So, yeah, that a great question. How what you think

830
00:49:01,400 --> 00:49:05,000
Speaker 3: about So I will say that I am one to

831
00:49:05,040 --> 00:49:09,240
Speaker 3: not necessarily go back and read reread a book. And

832
00:49:09,360 --> 00:49:15,439
Speaker 3: because I read so much, particularly fiction books, a lot

833
00:49:15,480 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 3: of times I don't necessarily remember the fine details of

834
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:21,880
Speaker 3: the books that I read. Like I can tell you

835
00:49:21,880 --> 00:49:24,759
Speaker 3: where we are at this point in the year, I

836
00:49:25,120 --> 00:49:30,839
Speaker 3: have and I yeah, I have read almost twenty five

837
00:49:30,880 --> 00:49:34,239
Speaker 3: books this year so far this year. That's amazing. And

838
00:49:34,280 --> 00:49:37,560
Speaker 3: that's book that's just the books for fun, right, And

839
00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:41,399
Speaker 3: so can I tell you what was in all twenty

840
00:49:41,440 --> 00:49:44,880
Speaker 3: five of those books the plotline? Nah? Nah? Nah? But

841
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:48,040
Speaker 3: what I know is that those books in that moment

842
00:49:48,239 --> 00:49:53,640
Speaker 3: serve their purpose. Right, Oh, I love that now. And

843
00:49:53,680 --> 00:49:55,319
Speaker 3: so that's why I feel like it's easy for me

844
00:49:55,400 --> 00:49:57,360
Speaker 3: to like read it and forget it and I'm good.

845
00:49:57,520 --> 00:50:00,960
Speaker 3: And that's the point for me in reading fiction, particularly

846
00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:03,120
Speaker 3: the books that I read right before I fall asleep.

847
00:50:04,600 --> 00:50:06,759
Speaker 3: It's supposed to be light. It's supposed to be something

848
00:50:06,800 --> 00:50:10,040
Speaker 3: that I'm not emotionally invested in because it's supposed to

849
00:50:10,040 --> 00:50:12,680
Speaker 3: be relaxing for me, and that's what works for me.

850
00:50:14,080 --> 00:50:18,719
Speaker 3: But I will say their eyes were watching God by

851
00:50:18,840 --> 00:50:25,640
Speaker 3: Zora Neil Hurston is Oh that book that is probably

852
00:50:25,719 --> 00:50:28,120
Speaker 3: that is the one book that I have read multiple times.

853
00:50:28,560 --> 00:50:33,439
Speaker 3: And why is that? For me? It's because that book

854
00:50:33,560 --> 00:50:36,320
Speaker 3: is about womanhood, Black womanhood. To be specifical, let me

855
00:50:36,400 --> 00:50:41,640
Speaker 3: be clear that it's about black womanhood. And I have

856
00:50:41,760 --> 00:50:45,279
Speaker 3: read it at various stages in my life and have

857
00:50:45,400 --> 00:50:50,520
Speaker 3: been able to take away something different every time I

858
00:50:50,600 --> 00:50:55,440
Speaker 3: read it. So when I read it in high school,

859
00:50:56,760 --> 00:51:03,000
Speaker 3: I'm looking at this woman, the main character, and I'm like, oh,

860
00:51:03,680 --> 00:51:05,960
Speaker 3: so is this what like It's more like looking at

861
00:51:05,960 --> 00:51:12,560
Speaker 3: it for insight, right? Whereas now if I go back

862
00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:16,400
Speaker 3: and read it again, not if when, yeah, because I

863
00:51:16,440 --> 00:51:19,000
Speaker 3: probably I probably will. I'm due to read it again.

864
00:51:20,200 --> 00:51:24,160
Speaker 3: When I go back and read it again, it's more

865
00:51:24,320 --> 00:51:28,160
Speaker 3: so going to be from a space of reflection of

866
00:51:29,000 --> 00:51:32,839
Speaker 3: hum that's what womanhood was like at the time that

867
00:51:32,960 --> 00:51:38,760
Speaker 3: Zora wrote it. How does that compare to womanhood Black

868
00:51:38,760 --> 00:51:45,719
Speaker 3: womanhood now? And how does that compare to like my womanhood? Right?

869
00:51:46,880 --> 00:51:49,680
Speaker 3: And so yeah, so for me, that's like the one

870
00:51:49,800 --> 00:51:54,560
Speaker 3: book that I can that I love to read again

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Speaker 3: and again to help me kind of also like see

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Speaker 3: where I'm at. Yeah, I love that, you know what.

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Speaker 3: I love that you said two times.

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Speaker 2: I love that you said that I may not remember

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Speaker 2: all the books that I reading, all the plots, but

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Speaker 2: it served its purpose when I read it. And I

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Speaker 2: think that is so powerful because a lot of times,

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Speaker 2: me as someone who's like self help book junkie, when

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Speaker 2: I read those books, I get into action mode, work mode,

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Speaker 2: let me outline, let me outline and highlight, annotate, and

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Speaker 2: sometimes it is really important for me to read for

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Speaker 2: pleasure where I don't have to take notes and I can.

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Speaker 3: Get lost in the story.

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Speaker 2: And so I love the fact that you said that

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Speaker 2: because just because you read it doesn't mean that you

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Speaker 2: have to retain it. Sometimes it serves a purpose in

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Speaker 2: that moment, which can be to just be present with

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Speaker 2: the story. And so, speaking of being a self help junkie,

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Speaker 2: the book that I am reading now on audible and

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Speaker 2: physically is by doctor Joe despends It and it's called

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Speaker 2: Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself. And this book so far,

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Speaker 2: it's amazing. I think that one of the biggest takeaways

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Speaker 2: or not even perspective shift. But reminderus for me is

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Speaker 2: that we really had the power to change our minds

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Speaker 2: mental programming. And as someone who grew up with the

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