WEBVTT - First-Year Milestones 0:00:05.480 --> 0:00:09.360 Hi everybody, and welcome to Katie's Crib. As you guys know, 0:00:09.480 --> 0:00:11.880 I really like to do episodes about stuff that I 0:00:11.960 --> 0:00:15.400 need to know about, and so this episode is all 0:00:15.480 --> 0:00:20.040 about year one milestones. We are really circling my son 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:22.960 Albi's first year birthday and I am, you know, trying 0:00:22.960 --> 0:00:25.440 not to freak out. UM. So what we're talking about 0:00:25.480 --> 0:00:27.240 is like the first mile, to the first steps, to 0:00:27.320 --> 0:00:28.920 the first words, and we're going to talk about some 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:32.680 developmental and physical growth stuff that happens during this amazing 0:00:32.720 --> 0:00:35.960 and absolutely insane first year. UM. And we're also going 0:00:36.000 --> 0:00:37.559 to talk about some of the important things to look 0:00:37.560 --> 0:00:42.360 out for and also very importantly how to enjoy the 0:00:42.479 --> 0:00:44.640 special and awesome moments in the first year of your 0:00:44.680 --> 0:00:48.320 child's life. Today, I'm super stoked. We have amazing guests. 0:00:48.640 --> 0:00:51.919 We have the wonderful and amazing pediatrician who I've been 0:00:51.960 --> 0:00:55.840 working with very closely and texting NonStop in New York 0:00:55.880 --> 0:00:59.200 City while I'm here doing UM waitress. She is a 0:00:59.240 --> 0:01:03.800 pediatrician by name of Dr Danielle Taylor. Welcome to the podcast. 0:01:03.840 --> 0:01:07.240 Than she is amazing, UM. And then we also have 0:01:07.319 --> 0:01:10.080 Nicolette Robinson, who is running a little late because I 0:01:10.120 --> 0:01:12.360 guess subways are crazy in New York and we are 0:01:12.360 --> 0:01:14.440 super bar downtown, so she'll be entering in a little bit. 0:01:14.560 --> 0:01:18.200 And then a very good friend, Jamie Stetler, who literally 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:22.520 was driven to high school by my husband, Adam drove 0:01:22.560 --> 0:01:25.800 me to high school. I'm up around the corner for 0:01:25.880 --> 0:01:28.319 me and here we are now, and Jamie and I 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:31.119 have known each other for years. And Jamie, how old 0:01:31.200 --> 0:01:35.959 is your daughter? Sonny is fifteen months? Fifteen months almost 0:01:35.959 --> 0:01:40.160 sixteen months, And I can't even imagine getting to that 0:01:40.240 --> 0:01:42.559 place at like a year, Like I'm like, what, what's 0:01:42.560 --> 0:01:45.600 going to happen? Now? This is so insane? And UM, 0:01:45.880 --> 0:01:50.360 Dr Danielle Taylor, who will just call Danielle now right? Perfect? Okay, great, UM, 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:52.440 tell us a little bit about yourself. We came to 0:01:52.480 --> 0:01:55.880 meet um through an actor in Waitress the musical. I've 0:01:55.960 --> 0:01:57.800 seriously I'll be had a cold and cough for the 0:01:57.800 --> 0:02:00.440 fifty million time and I needed a pdhan to reach 0:02:00.480 --> 0:02:03.960 out to. So I've I'm practicing, uh, the faculty practice 0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:08.200 at Columbia Universities. I worked for Columbia UM and it's 0:02:08.240 --> 0:02:10.600 just you've been there. It's a little small shop and 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:12.799 we see patients and we have fun and we see 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:17.519 babies and UM, I've been practicing for fourteen years. UM, 0:02:17.680 --> 0:02:19.840 and your mom yourself, I am. I have two children. 0:02:19.919 --> 0:02:21.920 I have eleven year old, so you I forgot to 0:02:23.120 --> 0:02:28.639 a thirteen year old. Someone asks, like another month, Well, 0:02:28.680 --> 0:02:31.600 now you're in years, so I guess we still forget 0:02:31.600 --> 0:02:35.120 that kind of easier. Who even knows? Um, So let's 0:02:35.120 --> 0:02:39.200 start with you, um, Dr Taylor Danielle. So when you 0:02:39.320 --> 0:02:41.760 come in for your like the one year check up 0:02:41.840 --> 0:02:45.560 is like this big thing. Are there actual, real like 0:02:45.840 --> 0:02:49.240 milestones that you're looking for? I mean, I think it's 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:54.160 important to um know that milestones, developmental midlestones have big ranges. 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:56.800 So what some child would One child will do it 0:02:56.919 --> 0:02:58.959 nine months, another child will do it fifteen months, and 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:02.359 we don't care when it happens. It makes everybody crazy. 0:03:02.360 --> 0:03:04.320 Oh my god, this makes me feel so much better. 0:03:04.720 --> 0:03:08.440 Say I told you this podcast was just very selfish. 0:03:08.520 --> 0:03:10.480 It doesn't. It doesn't. It's a party trick. It doesn't 0:03:10.480 --> 0:03:11.919 mean anything special to us if they do it in in 0:03:12.000 --> 0:03:16.880 nine months versus fifteen months, as long as they're progressing. Brilliant. 0:03:16.919 --> 0:03:19.519 Because I literally went to a baby class here in 0:03:19.560 --> 0:03:21.480 New York and there was a mom whipping out flash 0:03:21.520 --> 0:03:23.200 cards to her nine month old and the baby could 0:03:23.240 --> 0:03:25.280 like touch her nose and touch her head and do 0:03:25.320 --> 0:03:28.760 all these things, which like Albie has like a now 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:33.320 her nowhere near like his no party tricks. Not really. 0:03:33.360 --> 0:03:34.720 So I was like, of course, you're just going to 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:38.280 freak out, land. Um, Now, did you feel a lot 0:03:38.320 --> 0:03:42.000 of pressure, um, Jamie when your daughter turned one, like 0:03:42.200 --> 0:03:45.960 about these milestones, like to have you felt like she 0:03:46.120 --> 0:03:48.120 was crawling by a certain age or she was not 0:03:48.240 --> 0:03:51.680 speaking yet or things like that. Well, what's so interesting 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:58.240 about Sonny is that she was walking at ten months, 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:02.760 Like see walking? What? Well, But here's the thing is 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:07.640 that she never crawled, so everyone else was crawling. She 0:04:07.640 --> 0:04:09.720 would always just kind of stand there like she wanted 0:04:09.760 --> 0:04:12.440 to be a big girl, and she just she stood there. 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:16.440 And so when she's walking, everyone's like, I can't believe 0:04:16.560 --> 0:04:20.560 she's walking. I can't believe she's walking. But now all 0:04:20.600 --> 0:04:22.920 of her friends are starting to have all these words, 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:27.560 and she says mama and dada and like that's it. Hey, 0:04:27.680 --> 0:04:32.760 there's two. But so it's like some people do some 0:04:32.839 --> 0:04:36.120 things faster than some do others. And so for us, 0:04:36.160 --> 0:04:40.200 it was more like she seems super ahead at certain things, 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:43.640 but she's also like a lot bigger than all of 0:04:43.680 --> 0:04:46.480 her friends, and it was like, what does that mean? 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:49.520 And and that's exactly how it goes. So so they 0:04:49.520 --> 0:04:52.000 sometimes will work on one skill, a verbal skill, and 0:04:52.000 --> 0:04:54.440 then the motor skills will kind of just stay where 0:04:54.440 --> 0:04:55.960 they are for a little bit and then they'll work 0:04:56.000 --> 0:04:58.360 on that skill. So it really is a big range. Um. 0:04:58.480 --> 0:05:02.160 Neither of my children called. They both started walking, which 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:04.560 is nerve racking at nine months when they're not crawling. 0:05:05.000 --> 0:05:09.840 Oh my gosh, Like literally, I'll be just started crawling. 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:12.600 He's eleven months. He just started crawling like a week ago, 0:05:12.720 --> 0:05:16.560 and I've been having a fucking heart attack. Now he's 0:05:16.760 --> 0:05:21.479 army crawled for months. Uh no, not belly up. And 0:05:21.480 --> 0:05:23.880 I was having a heart attack googling at three o'clock 0:05:23.880 --> 0:05:26.640 in the morning during my insomnia of like why isn't 0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:29.599 my baby crawling? Because really, I think what motherhood, and 0:05:29.760 --> 0:05:34.039 especially around this year, milestone is so much about. It's funny. 0:05:34.040 --> 0:05:36.480 It's like an acting career. It's like that compared despair 0:05:36.560 --> 0:05:38.880 thing which you really don't want to do, of like 0:05:39.279 --> 0:05:42.080 really measuring up your child all the time with when 0:05:42.120 --> 0:05:45.200 the other babies in class are doing things. Um, but 0:05:45.279 --> 0:05:47.120 he started crawling like a week ago, which is like 0:05:47.520 --> 0:05:52.159 super late. But I mean, what are you gonna do 0:05:52.200 --> 0:05:54.440 about it? Right? But it's like, but then he has 0:05:54.480 --> 0:05:57.240 a thousand teeth, Like a thousand teeth. Why does he 0:05:57.320 --> 0:06:00.599 have so many teeth? I don't know. Um, I'm gonna 0:06:00.839 --> 0:06:02.520 interrupt really quick and we'll get back to this to 0:06:02.640 --> 0:06:06.640 introduce the amazing Nicolet Robinson, who is my new friend 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:10.919 and is currently playing Jenna in Waitress. Yes, I'm so sorry, 0:06:10.920 --> 0:06:13.559 I'm late. You guys mama problems. I mean, I guess 0:06:13.680 --> 0:06:17.280 that's the that's it. And also, you were starring on 0:06:17.360 --> 0:06:20.720 Broadway yesterday, Like I sing like eleven songs of the 0:06:20.800 --> 0:06:23.800 musical and Nicolet sings thirty billion songs in the musical 0:06:23.839 --> 0:06:26.040 and care I think you're only offstage for one minute 0:06:26.440 --> 0:06:28.880 probably and your line before you leave the stages, I 0:06:28.880 --> 0:06:31.280 have to go pee, which I know Sarah Brella is 0:06:31.320 --> 0:06:33.120 put in there specifically because she was like, you can't 0:06:33.120 --> 0:06:37.719 go to and a half hours without going to that room. Um, 0:06:37.760 --> 0:06:40.240 so tell us about you have a daughter. I do. 0:06:40.600 --> 0:06:44.440 She has sixteen months same age and wait, so you 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:46.920 just said so my daughter was all, I'm just hopping 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:49.479 in but like my daughter was so late and crawling 0:06:49.520 --> 0:06:53.240 as well and walking, she just started she started walking 0:06:53.320 --> 0:06:56.600 like last months, like a fifteen months she started walking. 0:06:56.600 --> 0:07:00.800 And no, it's not right in there only because you see, 0:07:01.120 --> 0:07:04.080 compared to everybody else there kids that are off exactly. 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:07.160 Wait a second, all her friends were long before her, 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:10.040 and we were just like she's taken her town. And 0:07:10.080 --> 0:07:12.280 did you feel the chill about that? Like are you 0:07:12.320 --> 0:07:16.080 good at like checking yourself of like this is just 0:07:16.120 --> 0:07:18.200 when she needs to do it, and that's fine, Like 0:07:18.200 --> 0:07:20.840 as long as the doctors aren't worried, I should not worry. Yeah, 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:23.560 I think. I mean every you of course want your 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:27.280 kid to be ahead of the ahead of the game always. 0:07:27.320 --> 0:07:31.760 You have this internal competition always. But yeah, I know, 0:07:31.800 --> 0:07:34.400 I mean everybody was saying you're lucky, like you don't 0:07:34.400 --> 0:07:37.400 have to run all over chasing her and listen that 0:07:37.680 --> 0:07:41.480 so I mean, but but she also she's she's been 0:07:41.520 --> 0:07:45.600 ahead like in terms of like words and yeah, she's 0:07:45.600 --> 0:07:50.520 she's very more about like the verbal and the and 0:07:50.720 --> 0:07:53.600 its visual and seeing things in the movement. She's been 0:07:53.600 --> 0:07:57.640 she's been chill but she hasn't been like anxious about 0:07:57.680 --> 0:08:00.880 it as long as she's not feeling you know, upset 0:08:01.040 --> 0:08:07.120 or feeling exactly exactly. They do not care. You're always 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:12.400 so happy you don't care. Um, can you guys? Really? Also? Uh, 0:08:12.480 --> 0:08:14.760 I want to get into some more specifics with Danielle 0:08:14.800 --> 0:08:18.480 the doctor, but also tell me about UM. I know 0:08:18.480 --> 0:08:20.960 we're talking a lot about like physical milestones with babies 0:08:20.960 --> 0:08:22.640 and compared despaired. And I think you bring up a 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:25.239 really important point, Jamie that I think in this world 0:08:25.240 --> 0:08:28.880 of social media, it's gotten like so much worse. Like 0:08:29.600 --> 0:08:31.880 I can't tell you how many friends that post the 0:08:31.960 --> 0:08:34.480 video of their baby's first steps or the baby's first crawl, 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:36.200 or the baby's first word, or the first time the 0:08:36.200 --> 0:08:39.160 baby feeds themselves, and I go right into where does 0:08:39.160 --> 0:08:43.800 my baby measure up in that? And it sucks. It's like, oh, 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:46.760 like you can't. Can you not your face all day 0:08:46.800 --> 0:08:49.839 every day? And I'm doing it too, like I'm one 0:08:50.679 --> 0:08:55.000 guilty like of of you know, like you know, posting 0:08:55.040 --> 0:08:58.200 family photos to family and things like that, of like 0:08:58.280 --> 0:09:02.559 the milestones that he's reaching. Um. And also size is 0:09:02.600 --> 0:09:05.400 a big like every time I get you know, Albie 0:09:05.480 --> 0:09:09.040 is really small. He's in the seventeen percentile. Sonny is 0:09:09.040 --> 0:09:13.400 in the center. I'm sure you feel concerned about that, 0:09:13.480 --> 0:09:16.080 and I feel concerned about him being small, and I'm 0:09:16.120 --> 0:09:19.560 completely clueless. I could not tell you in a million years. 0:09:19.720 --> 0:09:23.560 And that's actually the better way to be that she's 0:09:23.600 --> 0:09:28.440 like average. I have no idea, no matter what I say. People, 0:09:28.679 --> 0:09:30.840 So she's on the twentieth percentile, that's great, Well shouldn't 0:09:30.840 --> 0:09:32.000 she be on the eighth pisente, Well she was on 0:09:32.040 --> 0:09:34.800 the fifth percentile last time, So we're getting there. It's 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:38.880 all you and your temperament. And I have to say 0:09:38.880 --> 0:09:41.880 this is so important with whatever pediatrican you're working with, 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:44.959 but so lovingly that I'm working right now with doctor 0:09:45.559 --> 0:09:49.480 Danielle that I feel like you always make me chill 0:09:49.520 --> 0:09:51.120 about it, Like when you were like, well, i'll he's 0:09:51.120 --> 0:09:54.000 measuring in the seventeenth percentile, so you're like, you know, 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:55.599 I think he said something like so whatever, he's not 0:09:55.640 --> 0:09:57.840 the biggest. He's not the biggest kid in the sandbox, 0:09:57.880 --> 0:10:01.200 but like has he always been at that? And yes, 0:10:01.240 --> 0:10:07.280 he's always consistently growing and never dropping scarily below that. 0:10:07.320 --> 0:10:09.480 But you always make me feel at ease thanks for 0:10:09.559 --> 0:10:14.439 saying I really appreciate that. Um. So uh. I want 0:10:14.480 --> 0:10:17.120 to talk really quickly also about the one year like 0:10:17.240 --> 0:10:19.640 birthday party situation that's going on now that we're in 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:23.240 social media. Um, because I'm in the midst of planning it. 0:10:23.640 --> 0:10:27.640 I definitely said I wasn't having one stressful. Did you 0:10:27.760 --> 0:10:30.120 ladies have a big for one your birthday party? And 0:10:30.160 --> 0:10:35.439 you as well for your I can't remember me. I 0:10:35.440 --> 0:10:37.720 can't remember. There was no social media back then, and 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:40.280 I can't remember. My dad's gonna kill me. No, she's not. 0:10:40.520 --> 0:10:43.199 She doesn't remember either. Um, Jamie, did you have a 0:10:43.200 --> 0:10:45.880 big birthday party? We did. I would have done it 0:10:45.920 --> 0:10:48.640 in my apartment, but I was like, the smallest number 0:10:48.640 --> 0:10:51.320 of people is like all of our immediate family, and 0:10:51.360 --> 0:10:53.640 I was like, there's not enough places for people to 0:10:53.760 --> 0:10:56.360 sit in our apartment for like the adults who me 0:10:57.120 --> 0:10:59.680 and so we did it in the lounge of our building. 0:11:00.280 --> 0:11:03.080 So I was like thinking that that meant it would 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:06.560 still be chill, because it's like in our home quote unquote. 0:11:07.559 --> 0:11:10.280 But then it was like, did you invite this person? 0:11:10.400 --> 0:11:12.720 Did you invite that person? And the list just kept 0:11:12.800 --> 0:11:15.920 growing and growing and growing, and Brian's like, what about 0:11:16.480 --> 0:11:18.640 this person I work with as a kid their age 0:11:18.880 --> 0:11:20.720 and this person I work with, oh, and that person 0:11:20.760 --> 0:11:23.560 would love to come. The list kept growing, and at 0:11:23.600 --> 0:11:25.760 first it was like, we're just gonna put some balloons up, 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:28.480 and then it was like, we need a theme, and 0:11:28.480 --> 0:11:33.320 then it turned into Sunny's First Fiesta, and then you 0:11:33.320 --> 0:11:35.040 were then you were cut to. You told me you 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:40.599 were making like Sonny's Margarita's from Scratch Sonny that we 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:43.560 got like the mini patron bottles, and I like, and 0:11:43.679 --> 0:11:46.920 we got these colorful straw that sound like a dope party. 0:11:46.960 --> 0:11:49.080 Though I was like, well, I was like, I want 0:11:49.080 --> 0:11:51.160 to have a drink at this part of course, and 0:11:51.280 --> 0:11:55.160 so and then it just it was one thing after 0:11:55.240 --> 0:11:57.600 the other. And then I was like, the only thing 0:11:57.640 --> 0:11:59.840 I care about is the Momofuku birthday cake because it 0:11:59.920 --> 0:12:02.360 is the best cake. It's on my to do list 0:12:02.400 --> 0:12:04.880 because of you, best cake in the city, and everyone 0:12:04.920 --> 0:12:07.520 loves it. So I got that. And then you hear, 0:12:07.880 --> 0:12:10.480 what about a smash cake? Is there a smash cake 0:12:10.520 --> 0:12:13.040 for her? And I'm like, a smash cake? She's never 0:12:13.120 --> 0:12:16.400 even had cake? Exactly? Can you explain what the hell 0:12:16.440 --> 0:12:19.760 of smash cake is? It's a small, like personal size 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:22.240 cake just for her that she can do whatever she 0:12:22.280 --> 0:12:26.160 wants with and that's usually smash it okay, And I 0:12:26.200 --> 0:12:27.920 want to know what the statistics are the babies that 0:12:27.960 --> 0:12:30.040 actually do it well. We put the cake in front 0:12:30.040 --> 0:12:33.400 of her, expecting her to like lose her mind. She 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:36.920 was like, what is happening? What is this thing? So 0:12:37.120 --> 0:12:41.360 I start literally like stopping the cake. I'm like, I 0:12:41.400 --> 0:12:44.640 went and got this cake because it's all about us. 0:12:45.760 --> 0:12:47.959 You're gonna eat the smash cake. It is here, I 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:52.160 thought it. And then she was like and then you 0:12:52.160 --> 0:12:53.760 could tell she was kind of like, all right, this 0:12:53.800 --> 0:12:55.360 taste kind of good. And she had a couple of 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:59.560 bites and everyone's taking pictures of her. She looks horrified, horrified, 0:13:00.360 --> 0:13:02.960 But it was like, you do all these things because 0:13:03.000 --> 0:13:05.000 there are things that everyone tells you that you have 0:13:05.120 --> 0:13:08.240 to do. Did you feel like it was worth it? It 0:13:07.400 --> 0:13:10.920 It was afterwards, like when you look back through the pictures, 0:13:10.920 --> 0:13:13.400 you're like, I'm so glad I have these fun pictures 0:13:13.440 --> 0:13:15.960 with this beautiful color balloons and the little sunny Rita's 0:13:16.040 --> 0:13:18.800 like it's cute and I'm glad that we did it. 0:13:19.480 --> 0:13:22.640 But A, I will tell you the whole week leading 0:13:22.720 --> 0:13:25.079 up to it. I barely slapped. I was so stressed 0:13:25.120 --> 0:13:28.040 out about it because it was one thing after another, 0:13:28.080 --> 0:13:30.320 like you got the balloons, oh, and now where are 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:31.520 we going to get this? And where are we gonna 0:13:31.520 --> 0:13:35.160 get that? And then the other thing. I will tell you, 0:13:35.760 --> 0:13:37.920 and I don't like to really give advice, but if 0:13:37.960 --> 0:13:41.480 you're gonna leave you a birthday party, have a human 0:13:41.760 --> 0:13:45.320 or two or three who do not have children, who 0:13:45.360 --> 0:13:50.920 are there to help only help you, like facilitate a party, 0:13:51.440 --> 0:13:55.000 whether it's a babysitter, a nanny, a family. My best 0:13:55.000 --> 0:13:58.120 friend Jesse was there. God bless you Jess. She was 0:13:58.160 --> 0:14:02.040 like making the margarita, would make up strong. Do you 0:14:02.040 --> 0:14:04.520 feel like you got tanked? Because that's what my dream is. 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:08.679 I was like drinking, but it's like there's just so 0:14:08.920 --> 0:14:10.720 you know, like when you're in party mode, it's like 0:14:10.760 --> 0:14:13.960 a whole other there's a lot of adrenaline. I also 0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:16.400 feel like the one your birthday party and I want 0:14:16.400 --> 0:14:18.640 to hear what you didn't neglect to. I also feel 0:14:18.640 --> 0:14:21.520 like the one your birthday party is it has it's 0:14:21.560 --> 0:14:23.520 just so much more for us than it is for 0:14:23.600 --> 0:14:26.960 the baby. Because right the one year old doesn't care, 0:14:27.400 --> 0:14:30.640 and it's more I think, just a celebration that you've 0:14:31.200 --> 0:14:33.120 made it to a year and like you did it, 0:14:33.280 --> 0:14:36.600 and like that's why I think we have these images 0:14:36.600 --> 0:14:38.360 in our head of like, well, I wasn't going to 0:14:38.440 --> 0:14:40.880 do anything, but now I'm like, but I want to 0:14:41.200 --> 0:14:43.240 pat myself on the back and have a themed party 0:14:43.280 --> 0:14:46.680 and like congratulate myself and definitely have like one or 0:14:46.720 --> 0:14:50.080 five mimosas. Like you realize all the pictures of all 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:53.160 the first birthday parties that you've seen, how much went 0:14:53.400 --> 0:14:56.680 into those. You don't realize until you do it, and 0:14:56.680 --> 0:14:58.480 you're like, how do people have the time and the 0:14:58.560 --> 0:15:00.880 money and the energy for all? Did you have a 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:04.160 big na? We did? I mean, of course it was stressful. 0:15:04.200 --> 0:15:05.720 I mean we were trying to make it as chill 0:15:05.760 --> 0:15:08.760 as possible. And my birthday is five days before hers, 0:15:09.040 --> 0:15:11.120 and it was my thirtieth birthday, and so we were 0:15:11.200 --> 0:15:17.120 like big, big for mama and yeah, so so poor baby. 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:19.800 Her birthday totally got on the back burner. It was 0:15:19.960 --> 0:15:23.040 I mean, like days before we decided we had no theme. 0:15:23.080 --> 0:15:24.560 We had no but we decided we were going to 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:26.280 do it at my parents house and we were still 0:15:26.280 --> 0:15:28.880 in l A. At the time. I literally had found 0:15:28.960 --> 0:15:32.000 out days before that I had booked Waitress Musical on 0:15:32.000 --> 0:15:34.000 Broadway and that we were coming. So it was like 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:37.680 lots of craziness and excitement. And I also had to 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:42.120 fly to New York on her actual birthday for the 0:15:42.160 --> 0:15:46.520 final callback for this, and I was like devastated. My 0:15:46.600 --> 0:15:51.800 husband kept it was so, I mean, I knew what 0:15:51.920 --> 0:15:54.440 my family and my husband were reminding me was like, hey, 0:15:54.560 --> 0:15:56.400 she's never going to remember, She's not going to know 0:15:56.440 --> 0:15:58.360 that it's even her birthday today and we're going to 0:15:58.440 --> 0:16:01.840 have a party for her on the weekend. But um, 0:16:01.960 --> 0:16:04.640 for me, it was a good reminder to be like, 0:16:05.040 --> 0:16:09.280 I'm doing this for myself, which is also going to 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:12.280 benefit her and her seeing that Mama's like out there, 0:16:12.400 --> 0:16:14.840 get going to like do something she loves and she's 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:17.520 going to be working and all that. So, you know, 0:16:17.640 --> 0:16:20.680 tried to keep it in perspective, what a huge milestone 0:16:20.720 --> 0:16:24.120 for you on her one your birthday, to like you're 0:16:24.240 --> 0:16:26.840 doing something for yourself, like on your for your career. 0:16:26.880 --> 0:16:29.720 It felt like finally, like I mean, it had taken 0:16:29.720 --> 0:16:32.040 me an entire year to get to this place where 0:16:32.040 --> 0:16:34.840 I actually felt like I could do something for myself, 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:37.520 which I mean, I'm sure you guys unders time leaving her. No, 0:16:37.760 --> 0:16:40.920 it wasn't. I've I've actually been doing like little work 0:16:41.000 --> 0:16:42.720 jobs that had taken me out of town a lot. 0:16:42.880 --> 0:16:45.360 Probably like a week was the longest I had been away, 0:16:45.600 --> 0:16:50.320 and that's always so hard. But um, but yeah, but 0:16:50.400 --> 0:16:53.000 I finally felt at the one year mark like I 0:16:53.000 --> 0:16:57.160 had kind of gotten a hold of motherhood in a 0:16:57.320 --> 0:16:59.160 in a way. I mean, we're still always I don't 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:03.440 know how you guys feel, like, do you my god? 0:17:03.840 --> 0:17:07.280 Oh my god? Yeah, So did you end up having 0:17:07.280 --> 0:17:09.280 a big party last minute? It was just like a 0:17:09.280 --> 0:17:11.399 lot of family and friends and it was actually kind 0:17:11.400 --> 0:17:13.480 of chill and sweet. And we did what you said. 0:17:13.720 --> 0:17:16.400 We hired our housekeeper to come and like help with, 0:17:16.560 --> 0:17:19.000 you know, cleaning up after, like with the food and 0:17:19.040 --> 0:17:21.240 this and that, and and my parents were there and 0:17:21.520 --> 0:17:23.480 a good amount of people who don't have kids were 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:26.280 there as well, so that was really helpful. It wasn't 0:17:26.480 --> 0:17:30.200 too hands yeah, exact exactly, so it wasn't too chaotic. 0:17:30.240 --> 0:17:32.479 We had, you know, in the house, we did we 0:17:32.520 --> 0:17:37.000 did ridiculously order like tables and chairs and balloons, and 0:17:37.040 --> 0:17:40.359 I felt like I just spent this much money on 0:17:40.680 --> 0:17:44.440 party goods for a one year birthday, But like you 0:17:45.040 --> 0:17:47.639 was pressured to do it, you just really do. But 0:17:47.840 --> 0:17:49.480 I mean I definitely do and I was not going 0:17:49.520 --> 0:17:51.840 to have one, but you don't have to. And part 0:17:51.880 --> 0:17:54.320 of it is also for for your friends and your family. 0:17:54.320 --> 0:17:57.040 It's it's partially because I was I don't know about you, guys, 0:17:57.040 --> 0:17:59.280 but I was completely under a rock for a majority 0:17:59.320 --> 0:18:01.560 of of the beginning of her life, and so it 0:18:01.600 --> 0:18:04.600 was more like, let me invite people over so they 0:18:04.600 --> 0:18:08.119 can see my daughter, and I'm going to try and 0:18:08.160 --> 0:18:11.199 force myself to be more social. And you know, it 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:13.840 was coming out party. Yeah, coming out party. It is. 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:16.240 You're You're definitely in a fog that first year. Yeah. 0:18:16.520 --> 0:18:18.600 I would say if you wear makeup at any point 0:18:18.680 --> 0:18:21.960 during the first year pediatrician visit, you get like extra points. 0:18:22.560 --> 0:18:28.160 I've never worn makeup to a pediatrician visit. My one 0:18:28.280 --> 0:18:30.639 year I wear makeup and like, take a photo. It 0:18:30.760 --> 0:18:32.840 is one year pig I am going to I mean, 0:18:32.880 --> 0:18:45.240 I will be mind alone. Dr Taylor, can you explain 0:18:45.520 --> 0:18:49.240 what a milestone regression is? Is that a thing? Oh? God, 0:18:49.280 --> 0:18:51.280 she would not be talking about it. No, no, we 0:18:51.280 --> 0:18:54.679 can talk well. So a milestone regression is um, just 0:18:54.720 --> 0:18:56.879 like it sounds. It's when you used to do something 0:18:57.240 --> 0:18:59.560 and you either don't do it anymore. You've plateaued, so 0:18:59.560 --> 0:19:01.960 you haven't a vance. And we talked about ranges and 0:19:02.040 --> 0:19:05.399 always progressing. So a regression is when you either do 0:19:05.480 --> 0:19:08.800 something and stop doing it. Interesting, So babies can do that, 0:19:08.840 --> 0:19:10.520 like they may have crawled for a week and then 0:19:10.520 --> 0:19:12.760 they don't anymore, or you can do I mean there, 0:19:13.320 --> 0:19:15.439 there's things that are definitely normal that can happen. When 0:19:15.560 --> 0:19:18.919 do that big life changes moving to New York. Um, 0:19:19.680 --> 0:19:23.520 that's when our sleep aggression hits sleep regression. Um, we're 0:19:23.560 --> 0:19:25.720 working on a new skill, like we talked about. So 0:19:25.760 --> 0:19:28.840 if you've been, if you've been you know, clapping your hands, 0:19:28.840 --> 0:19:31.399 and now you're working on waving goodbye, you may not 0:19:31.400 --> 0:19:34.720 clap your hands anymore. So definitely normal. I can make 0:19:34.720 --> 0:19:40.040 it happen having another baby. I'll do it sometimes, changing 0:19:40.040 --> 0:19:43.200 from the the baby room to the toddler room and 0:19:43.359 --> 0:19:47.159 take care something like that. Um. There and then their 0:19:47.359 --> 0:19:50.359 regressions that we worry about. So those regrestions that you 0:19:50.400 --> 0:19:53.040 talk about aren't really ones to freak out about, not 0:19:53.080 --> 0:19:56.879 at all because they're normal reactions to life environment exactly. 0:19:57.000 --> 0:19:59.560 And then what are the ones to worry about? There? 0:19:59.720 --> 0:20:01.600 Never want that with the adopt there's one that you 0:20:01.640 --> 0:20:03.119 bring to me. You bring all of them to me, 0:20:03.560 --> 0:20:05.120 and I say, you know what, you just had a baby, 0:20:05.160 --> 0:20:07.159 you just had another baby, so this baby kind of 0:20:07.800 --> 0:20:10.119 wants to go back a little bit. Or you know 0:20:10.160 --> 0:20:12.000 that this didn't get a lot of sleep, working on 0:20:12.040 --> 0:20:15.760 some language skills, working on some new motor skills. So um. 0:20:15.800 --> 0:20:17.840 And then if you say, you know this baby has 0:20:17.880 --> 0:20:20.879 been cruising for ten months, never I mean, hopefully it 0:20:20.880 --> 0:20:23.000 doesn't get that far, but I didn't progress past that. 0:20:23.119 --> 0:20:25.719 Then maybe we investigate a little more, but it's never 0:20:25.760 --> 0:20:28.600 anything to anything to worry about. Do you find that 0:20:28.680 --> 0:20:32.520 moms with their first baby m like me, text you 0:20:32.680 --> 0:20:34.679 all the time, like a thousand questions, and then their 0:20:34.680 --> 0:20:40.080 second baby comes around and it's like whatever, yes and no, okay, 0:20:40.119 --> 0:20:45.200 tell me? Um, does this ever ever end the neuroses 0:20:45.280 --> 0:20:47.840 and the anxiety? I really hear my mother saying, well, 0:20:47.880 --> 0:20:50.960 better to be safe than sorry. I'm like, oh my God, 0:20:50.960 --> 0:20:54.240 Like it is endless. I mean I know that is true. 0:20:54.880 --> 0:20:57.800 Hopefully they hopefully we've learned some stuff. Hopefully we've developed 0:20:57.800 --> 0:21:01.560 a relationship where, um, you can rely on what I 0:21:01.600 --> 0:21:03.399 say and count on what I say, and and you 0:21:03.400 --> 0:21:05.719