1 00:00:05,480 --> 00:00:09,360 Speaker 1: Hi everybody, and welcome to Katie's Crib. As you guys know, 2 00:00:09,480 --> 00:00:11,880 Speaker 1: I really like to do episodes about stuff that I 3 00:00:11,960 --> 00:00:15,400 Speaker 1: need to know about, and so this episode is all 4 00:00:15,480 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: about year one milestones. We are really circling my son 5 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:22,960 Speaker 1: Albi's first year birthday and I am, you know, trying 6 00:00:22,960 --> 00:00:25,440 Speaker 1: not to freak out. UM. So what we're talking about 7 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:27,240 Speaker 1: is like the first mile, to the first steps, to 8 00:00:27,320 --> 00:00:28,920 Speaker 1: the first words, and we're going to talk about some 9 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:32,680 Speaker 1: developmental and physical growth stuff that happens during this amazing 10 00:00:32,720 --> 00:00:35,960 Speaker 1: and absolutely insane first year. UM. And we're also going 11 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:37,559 Speaker 1: to talk about some of the important things to look 12 00:00:37,560 --> 00:00:42,360 Speaker 1: out for and also very importantly how to enjoy the 13 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:44,640 Speaker 1: special and awesome moments in the first year of your 14 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:48,320 Speaker 1: child's life. Today, I'm super stoked. We have amazing guests. 15 00:00:48,640 --> 00:00:51,919 Speaker 1: We have the wonderful and amazing pediatrician who I've been 16 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:55,840 Speaker 1: working with very closely and texting NonStop in New York 17 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 1: City while I'm here doing UM waitress. She is a 18 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:03,800 Speaker 1: pediatrician by name of Dr Danielle Taylor. Welcome to the podcast. 19 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 1: Than she is amazing, UM. And then we also have 20 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 1: Nicolette Robinson, who is running a little late because I 21 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 1: guess subways are crazy in New York and we are 22 00:01:12,360 --> 00:01:14,440 Speaker 1: super bar downtown, so she'll be entering in a little bit. 23 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:18,200 Speaker 1: And then a very good friend, Jamie Stetler, who literally 24 00:01:19,240 --> 00:01:22,520 Speaker 1: was driven to high school by my husband, Adam drove 25 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:25,800 Speaker 1: me to high school. I'm up around the corner for 26 00:01:25,880 --> 00:01:28,319 Speaker 1: me and here we are now, and Jamie and I 27 00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:31,119 Speaker 1: have known each other for years. And Jamie, how old 28 00:01:31,200 --> 00:01:35,959 Speaker 1: is your daughter? Sonny is fifteen months? Fifteen months almost 29 00:01:35,959 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 1: sixteen months, And I can't even imagine getting to that 30 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:42,559 Speaker 1: place at like a year, Like I'm like, what, what's 31 00:01:42,560 --> 00:01:45,600 Speaker 1: going to happen? Now? This is so insane? And UM, 32 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:50,360 Speaker 1: Dr Danielle Taylor, who will just call Danielle now right? Perfect? Okay, great, UM, 33 00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 1: tell us a little bit about yourself. We came to 34 00:01:52,480 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 1: meet um through an actor in Waitress the musical. I've 35 00:01:55,960 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: seriously I'll be had a cold and cough for the 36 00:01:57,800 --> 00:02:00,440 Speaker 1: fifty million time and I needed a pdhan to reach 37 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 1: out to. So I've I'm practicing, uh, the faculty practice 38 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:08,200 Speaker 1: at Columbia Universities. I worked for Columbia UM and it's 39 00:02:08,240 --> 00:02:10,600 Speaker 1: just you've been there. It's a little small shop and 40 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:12,799 Speaker 1: we see patients and we have fun and we see 41 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:17,519 Speaker 1: babies and UM, I've been practicing for fourteen years. UM, 42 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:19,840 Speaker 1: and your mom yourself, I am. I have two children. 43 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:21,920 Speaker 1: I have eleven year old, so you I forgot to 44 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:28,639 Speaker 1: a thirteen year old. Someone asks, like another month, Well, 45 00:02:28,680 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 1: now you're in years, so I guess we still forget 46 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:35,120 Speaker 1: that kind of easier. Who even knows? Um, So let's 47 00:02:35,120 --> 00:02:39,200 Speaker 1: start with you, um, Dr Taylor Danielle. So when you 48 00:02:39,320 --> 00:02:41,760 Speaker 1: come in for your like the one year check up 49 00:02:41,840 --> 00:02:45,560 Speaker 1: is like this big thing. Are there actual, real like 50 00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:49,240 Speaker 1: milestones that you're looking for? I mean, I think it's 51 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: important to um know that milestones, developmental midlestones have big ranges. 52 00:02:54,760 --> 00:02:56,800 Speaker 1: So what some child would One child will do it 53 00:02:56,919 --> 00:02:58,959 Speaker 1: nine months, another child will do it fifteen months, and 54 00:02:59,160 --> 00:03:02,359 Speaker 1: we don't care when it happens. It makes everybody crazy. 55 00:03:02,360 --> 00:03:04,320 Speaker 1: Oh my god, this makes me feel so much better. 56 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:08,440 Speaker 1: Say I told you this podcast was just very selfish. 57 00:03:08,520 --> 00:03:10,480 Speaker 1: It doesn't. It doesn't. It's a party trick. It doesn't 58 00:03:10,480 --> 00:03:11,919 Speaker 1: mean anything special to us if they do it in in 59 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 1: nine months versus fifteen months, as long as they're progressing. Brilliant. 60 00:03:16,919 --> 00:03:19,519 Speaker 1: Because I literally went to a baby class here in 61 00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:21,480 Speaker 1: New York and there was a mom whipping out flash 62 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 1: cards to her nine month old and the baby could 63 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: like touch her nose and touch her head and do 64 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:28,760 Speaker 1: all these things, which like Albie has like a now 65 00:03:29,320 --> 00:03:33,320 Speaker 1: her nowhere near like his no party tricks. Not really. 66 00:03:33,360 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: So I was like, of course, you're just going to 67 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:38,280 Speaker 1: freak out, land. Um, Now, did you feel a lot 68 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:42,000 Speaker 1: of pressure, um, Jamie when your daughter turned one, like 69 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:45,960 Speaker 1: about these milestones, like to have you felt like she 70 00:03:46,120 --> 00:03:48,120 Speaker 1: was crawling by a certain age or she was not 71 00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:51,680 Speaker 1: speaking yet or things like that. Well, what's so interesting 72 00:03:52,200 --> 00:03:58,240 Speaker 1: about Sonny is that she was walking at ten months, 73 00:03:58,920 --> 00:04:02,760 Speaker 1: Like see walking? What? Well, But here's the thing is 74 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:07,640 Speaker 1: that she never crawled, so everyone else was crawling. She 75 00:04:07,640 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 1: would always just kind of stand there like she wanted 76 00:04:09,760 --> 00:04:12,440 Speaker 1: to be a big girl, and she just she stood there. 77 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:16,440 Speaker 1: And so when she's walking, everyone's like, I can't believe 78 00:04:16,560 --> 00:04:20,560 Speaker 1: she's walking. I can't believe she's walking. But now all 79 00:04:20,600 --> 00:04:22,920 Speaker 1: of her friends are starting to have all these words, 80 00:04:23,440 --> 00:04:27,560 Speaker 1: and she says mama and dada and like that's it. Hey, 81 00:04:27,680 --> 00:04:32,760 Speaker 1: there's two. But so it's like some people do some 82 00:04:32,839 --> 00:04:36,120 Speaker 1: things faster than some do others. And so for us, 83 00:04:36,160 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 1: it was more like she seems super ahead at certain things, 84 00:04:40,240 --> 00:04:43,640 Speaker 1: but she's also like a lot bigger than all of 85 00:04:43,680 --> 00:04:46,480 Speaker 1: her friends, and it was like, what does that mean? 86 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:49,520 Speaker 1: And and that's exactly how it goes. So so they 87 00:04:49,520 --> 00:04:52,000 Speaker 1: sometimes will work on one skill, a verbal skill, and 88 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:54,440 Speaker 1: then the motor skills will kind of just stay where 89 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:55,960 Speaker 1: they are for a little bit and then they'll work 90 00:04:56,000 --> 00:04:58,360 Speaker 1: on that skill. So it really is a big range. Um. 91 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:02,160 Speaker 1: Neither of my children called. They both started walking, which 92 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:04,560 Speaker 1: is nerve racking at nine months when they're not crawling. 93 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:09,840 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Like literally, I'll be just started crawling. 94 00:05:09,839 --> 00:05:12,600 Speaker 1: He's eleven months. He just started crawling like a week ago, 95 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:16,560 Speaker 1: and I've been having a fucking heart attack. Now he's 96 00:05:16,760 --> 00:05:21,479 Speaker 1: army crawled for months. Uh no, not belly up. And 97 00:05:21,480 --> 00:05:23,880 Speaker 1: I was having a heart attack googling at three o'clock 98 00:05:23,880 --> 00:05:26,640 Speaker 1: in the morning during my insomnia of like why isn't 99 00:05:26,640 --> 00:05:29,599 Speaker 1: my baby crawling? Because really, I think what motherhood, and 100 00:05:29,760 --> 00:05:34,039 Speaker 1: especially around this year, milestone is so much about. It's funny. 101 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:36,480 Speaker 1: It's like an acting career. It's like that compared despair 102 00:05:36,560 --> 00:05:38,880 Speaker 1: thing which you really don't want to do, of like 103 00:05:39,279 --> 00:05:42,080 Speaker 1: really measuring up your child all the time with when 104 00:05:42,120 --> 00:05:45,200 Speaker 1: the other babies in class are doing things. Um, but 105 00:05:45,279 --> 00:05:47,120 Speaker 1: he started crawling like a week ago, which is like 106 00:05:47,520 --> 00:05:52,159 Speaker 1: super late. But I mean, what are you gonna do 107 00:05:52,200 --> 00:05:54,440 Speaker 1: about it? Right? But it's like, but then he has 108 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:57,240 Speaker 1: a thousand teeth, Like a thousand teeth. Why does he 109 00:05:57,320 --> 00:06:00,599 Speaker 1: have so many teeth? I don't know. Um, I'm gonna 110 00:06:00,839 --> 00:06:02,520 Speaker 1: interrupt really quick and we'll get back to this to 111 00:06:02,640 --> 00:06:06,640 Speaker 1: introduce the amazing Nicolet Robinson, who is my new friend 112 00:06:06,920 --> 00:06:10,919 Speaker 1: and is currently playing Jenna in Waitress. Yes, I'm so sorry, 113 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:13,559 Speaker 1: I'm late. You guys mama problems. I mean, I guess 114 00:06:13,680 --> 00:06:17,280 Speaker 1: that's the that's it. And also, you were starring on 115 00:06:17,360 --> 00:06:20,720 Speaker 1: Broadway yesterday, Like I sing like eleven songs of the 116 00:06:20,800 --> 00:06:23,800 Speaker 1: musical and Nicolet sings thirty billion songs in the musical 117 00:06:23,839 --> 00:06:26,040 Speaker 1: and care I think you're only offstage for one minute 118 00:06:26,440 --> 00:06:28,880 Speaker 1: probably and your line before you leave the stages, I 119 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:31,280 Speaker 1: have to go pee, which I know Sarah Brella is 120 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:33,120 Speaker 1: put in there specifically because she was like, you can't 121 00:06:33,120 --> 00:06:37,719 Speaker 1: go to and a half hours without going to that room. Um, 122 00:06:37,760 --> 00:06:40,240 Speaker 1: so tell us about you have a daughter. I do. 123 00:06:40,600 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: She has sixteen months same age and wait, so you 124 00:06:44,560 --> 00:06:46,920 Speaker 1: just said so my daughter was all, I'm just hopping 125 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:49,479 Speaker 1: in but like my daughter was so late and crawling 126 00:06:49,520 --> 00:06:53,240 Speaker 1: as well and walking, she just started she started walking 127 00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:56,600 Speaker 1: like last months, like a fifteen months she started walking. 128 00:06:56,600 --> 00:07:00,800 Speaker 1: And no, it's not right in there only because you see, 129 00:07:01,120 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 1: compared to everybody else there kids that are off exactly. 130 00:07:04,240 --> 00:07:07,160 Speaker 1: Wait a second, all her friends were long before her, 131 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:10,040 Speaker 1: and we were just like she's taken her town. And 132 00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:12,280 Speaker 1: did you feel the chill about that? Like are you 133 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:16,080 Speaker 1: good at like checking yourself of like this is just 134 00:07:16,120 --> 00:07:18,200 Speaker 1: when she needs to do it, and that's fine, Like 135 00:07:18,200 --> 00:07:20,840 Speaker 1: as long as the doctors aren't worried, I should not worry. Yeah, 136 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:23,560 Speaker 1: I think. I mean every you of course want your 137 00:07:23,640 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 1: kid to be ahead of the ahead of the game always. 138 00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 1: You have this internal competition always. But yeah, I know, 139 00:07:31,800 --> 00:07:34,400 Speaker 1: I mean everybody was saying you're lucky, like you don't 140 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:37,400 Speaker 1: have to run all over chasing her and listen that 141 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:41,480 Speaker 1: so I mean, but but she also she's she's been 142 00:07:41,520 --> 00:07:45,600 Speaker 1: ahead like in terms of like words and yeah, she's 143 00:07:45,600 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 1: she's very more about like the verbal and the and 144 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:53,600 Speaker 1: its visual and seeing things in the movement. She's been 145 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:57,640 Speaker 1: she's been chill but she hasn't been like anxious about 146 00:07:57,680 --> 00:08:00,880 Speaker 1: it as long as she's not feeling you know, upset 147 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:07,120 Speaker 1: or feeling exactly exactly. They do not care. You're always 148 00:08:07,200 --> 00:08:12,400 Speaker 1: so happy you don't care. Um, can you guys? Really? Also? Uh, 149 00:08:12,480 --> 00:08:14,760 Speaker 1: I want to get into some more specifics with Danielle 150 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:18,480 Speaker 1: the doctor, but also tell me about UM. I know 151 00:08:18,480 --> 00:08:20,960 Speaker 1: we're talking a lot about like physical milestones with babies 152 00:08:20,960 --> 00:08:22,640 Speaker 1: and compared despaired. And I think you bring up a 153 00:08:22,720 --> 00:08:25,239 Speaker 1: really important point, Jamie that I think in this world 154 00:08:25,240 --> 00:08:28,880 Speaker 1: of social media, it's gotten like so much worse. Like 155 00:08:29,600 --> 00:08:31,880 Speaker 1: I can't tell you how many friends that post the 156 00:08:31,960 --> 00:08:34,480 Speaker 1: video of their baby's first steps or the baby's first crawl, 157 00:08:34,600 --> 00:08:36,200 Speaker 1: or the baby's first word, or the first time the 158 00:08:36,200 --> 00:08:39,160 Speaker 1: baby feeds themselves, and I go right into where does 159 00:08:39,160 --> 00:08:43,800 Speaker 1: my baby measure up in that? And it sucks. It's like, oh, 160 00:08:43,800 --> 00:08:46,760 Speaker 1: like you can't. Can you not your face all day 161 00:08:46,800 --> 00:08:49,839 Speaker 1: every day? And I'm doing it too, like I'm one 162 00:08:50,679 --> 00:08:55,000 Speaker 1: guilty like of of you know, like you know, posting 163 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:58,200 Speaker 1: family photos to family and things like that, of like 164 00:08:58,280 --> 00:09:02,559 Speaker 1: the milestones that he's reaching. Um. And also size is 165 00:09:02,600 --> 00:09:05,400 Speaker 1: a big like every time I get you know, Albie 166 00:09:05,480 --> 00:09:09,040 Speaker 1: is really small. He's in the seventeen percentile. Sonny is 167 00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:13,400 Speaker 1: in the center. I'm sure you feel concerned about that, 168 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:16,080 Speaker 1: and I feel concerned about him being small, and I'm 169 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:19,560 Speaker 1: completely clueless. I could not tell you in a million years. 170 00:09:19,720 --> 00:09:23,560 Speaker 1: And that's actually the better way to be that she's 171 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:28,440 Speaker 1: like average. I have no idea, no matter what I say. People, 172 00:09:28,679 --> 00:09:30,840 Speaker 1: So she's on the twentieth percentile, that's great, Well shouldn't 173 00:09:30,840 --> 00:09:32,000 Speaker 1: she be on the eighth pisente, Well she was on 174 00:09:32,040 --> 00:09:34,800 Speaker 1: the fifth percentile last time, So we're getting there. It's 175 00:09:34,800 --> 00:09:38,880 Speaker 1: all you and your temperament. And I have to say 176 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:41,880 Speaker 1: this is so important with whatever pediatrican you're working with, 177 00:09:41,920 --> 00:09:44,959 Speaker 1: but so lovingly that I'm working right now with doctor 178 00:09:45,559 --> 00:09:49,480 Speaker 1: Danielle that I feel like you always make me chill 179 00:09:49,520 --> 00:09:51,120 Speaker 1: about it, Like when you were like, well, i'll he's 180 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:54,000 Speaker 1: measuring in the seventeenth percentile, so you're like, you know, 181 00:09:54,120 --> 00:09:55,599 Speaker 1: I think he said something like so whatever, he's not 182 00:09:55,640 --> 00:09:57,840 Speaker 1: the biggest. He's not the biggest kid in the sandbox, 183 00:09:57,880 --> 00:10:01,200 Speaker 1: but like has he always been at that? And yes, 184 00:10:01,240 --> 00:10:07,280 Speaker 1: he's always consistently growing and never dropping scarily below that. 185 00:10:07,320 --> 00:10:09,480 Speaker 1: But you always make me feel at ease thanks for 186 00:10:09,559 --> 00:10:14,439 Speaker 1: saying I really appreciate that. Um. So uh. I want 187 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:17,120 Speaker 1: to talk really quickly also about the one year like 188 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:19,640 Speaker 1: birthday party situation that's going on now that we're in 189 00:10:19,720 --> 00:10:23,240 Speaker 1: social media. Um, because I'm in the midst of planning it. 190 00:10:23,640 --> 00:10:27,640 Speaker 1: I definitely said I wasn't having one stressful. Did you 191 00:10:27,760 --> 00:10:30,120 Speaker 1: ladies have a big for one your birthday party? And 192 00:10:30,160 --> 00:10:35,439 Speaker 1: you as well for your I can't remember me. I 193 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:37,720 Speaker 1: can't remember. There was no social media back then, and 194 00:10:37,760 --> 00:10:40,280 Speaker 1: I can't remember. My dad's gonna kill me. No, she's not. 195 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:43,199 Speaker 1: She doesn't remember either. Um, Jamie, did you have a 196 00:10:43,200 --> 00:10:45,880 Speaker 1: big birthday party? We did. I would have done it 197 00:10:45,920 --> 00:10:48,640 Speaker 1: in my apartment, but I was like, the smallest number 198 00:10:48,640 --> 00:10:51,320 Speaker 1: of people is like all of our immediate family, and 199 00:10:51,360 --> 00:10:53,640 Speaker 1: I was like, there's not enough places for people to 200 00:10:53,760 --> 00:10:56,360 Speaker 1: sit in our apartment for like the adults who me 201 00:10:57,120 --> 00:10:59,680 Speaker 1: and so we did it in the lounge of our building. 202 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:03,080 Speaker 1: So I was like thinking that that meant it would 203 00:11:03,080 --> 00:11:06,560 Speaker 1: still be chill, because it's like in our home quote unquote. 204 00:11:07,559 --> 00:11:10,280 Speaker 1: But then it was like, did you invite this person? 205 00:11:10,400 --> 00:11:12,720 Speaker 1: Did you invite that person? And the list just kept 206 00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:15,920 Speaker 1: growing and growing and growing, and Brian's like, what about 207 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:18,640 Speaker 1: this person I work with as a kid their age 208 00:11:18,880 --> 00:11:20,720 Speaker 1: and this person I work with, oh, and that person 209 00:11:20,760 --> 00:11:23,560 Speaker 1: would love to come. The list kept growing, and at 210 00:11:23,600 --> 00:11:25,760 Speaker 1: first it was like, we're just gonna put some balloons up, 211 00:11:26,840 --> 00:11:28,480 Speaker 1: and then it was like, we need a theme, and 212 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:33,320 Speaker 1: then it turned into Sunny's First Fiesta, and then you 213 00:11:33,320 --> 00:11:35,040 Speaker 1: were then you were cut to. You told me you 214 00:11:35,080 --> 00:11:40,599 Speaker 1: were making like Sonny's Margarita's from Scratch Sonny that we 215 00:11:40,720 --> 00:11:43,560 Speaker 1: got like the mini patron bottles, and I like, and 216 00:11:43,679 --> 00:11:46,920 Speaker 1: we got these colorful straw that sound like a dope party. 217 00:11:46,960 --> 00:11:49,080 Speaker 1: Though I was like, well, I was like, I want 218 00:11:49,080 --> 00:11:51,160 Speaker 1: to have a drink at this part of course, and 219 00:11:51,280 --> 00:11:55,160 Speaker 1: so and then it just it was one thing after 220 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:57,600 Speaker 1: the other. And then I was like, the only thing 221 00:11:57,640 --> 00:11:59,840 Speaker 1: I care about is the Momofuku birthday cake because it 222 00:11:59,920 --> 00:12:02,360 Speaker 1: is the best cake. It's on my to do list 223 00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:04,880 Speaker 1: because of you, best cake in the city, and everyone 224 00:12:04,920 --> 00:12:07,520 Speaker 1: loves it. So I got that. And then you hear, 225 00:12:07,880 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 1: what about a smash cake? Is there a smash cake 226 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:13,040 Speaker 1: for her? And I'm like, a smash cake? She's never 227 00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:16,400 Speaker 1: even had cake? Exactly? Can you explain what the hell 228 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:19,760 Speaker 1: of smash cake is? It's a small, like personal size 229 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:22,240 Speaker 1: cake just for her that she can do whatever she 230 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:26,160 Speaker 1: wants with and that's usually smash it okay, And I 231 00:12:26,200 --> 00:12:27,920 Speaker 1: want to know what the statistics are the babies that 232 00:12:27,960 --> 00:12:30,040 Speaker 1: actually do it well. We put the cake in front 233 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:33,400 Speaker 1: of her, expecting her to like lose her mind. She 234 00:12:33,600 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 1: was like, what is happening? What is this thing? So 235 00:12:37,120 --> 00:12:41,360 Speaker 1: I start literally like stopping the cake. I'm like, I 236 00:12:41,400 --> 00:12:44,640 Speaker 1: went and got this cake because it's all about us. 237 00:12:45,760 --> 00:12:47,959 Speaker 1: You're gonna eat the smash cake. It is here, I 238 00:12:48,120 --> 00:12:52,160 Speaker 1: thought it. And then she was like and then you 239 00:12:52,160 --> 00:12:53,760 Speaker 1: could tell she was kind of like, all right, this 240 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:55,360 Speaker 1: taste kind of good. And she had a couple of 241 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:59,560 Speaker 1: bites and everyone's taking pictures of her. She looks horrified, horrified, 242 00:13:00,360 --> 00:13:02,960 Speaker 1: But it was like, you do all these things because 243 00:13:03,000 --> 00:13:05,000 Speaker 1: there are things that everyone tells you that you have 244 00:13:05,120 --> 00:13:08,240 Speaker 1: to do. Did you feel like it was worth it? It 245 00:13:07,400 --> 00:13:10,920 Speaker 1: It was afterwards, like when you look back through the pictures, 246 00:13:10,920 --> 00:13:13,400 Speaker 1: you're like, I'm so glad I have these fun pictures 247 00:13:13,440 --> 00:13:15,960 Speaker 1: with this beautiful color balloons and the little sunny Rita's 248 00:13:16,040 --> 00:13:18,800 Speaker 1: like it's cute and I'm glad that we did it. 249 00:13:19,480 --> 00:13:22,640 Speaker 1: But A, I will tell you the whole week leading 250 00:13:22,720 --> 00:13:25,079 Speaker 1: up to it. I barely slapped. I was so stressed 251 00:13:25,120 --> 00:13:28,040 Speaker 1: out about it because it was one thing after another, 252 00:13:28,080 --> 00:13:30,320 Speaker 1: like you got the balloons, oh, and now where are 253 00:13:30,320 --> 00:13:31,520 Speaker 1: we going to get this? And where are we gonna 254 00:13:31,520 --> 00:13:35,160 Speaker 1: get that? And then the other thing. I will tell you, 255 00:13:35,760 --> 00:13:37,920 Speaker 1: and I don't like to really give advice, but if 256 00:13:37,960 --> 00:13:41,480 Speaker 1: you're gonna leave you a birthday party, have a human 257 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:45,320 Speaker 1: or two or three who do not have children, who 258 00:13:45,360 --> 00:13:50,920 Speaker 1: are there to help only help you, like facilitate a party, 259 00:13:51,440 --> 00:13:55,000 Speaker 1: whether it's a babysitter, a nanny, a family. My best 260 00:13:55,000 --> 00:13:58,120 Speaker 1: friend Jesse was there. God bless you Jess. She was 261 00:13:58,160 --> 00:14:02,040 Speaker 1: like making the margarita, would make up strong. Do you 262 00:14:02,040 --> 00:14:04,520 Speaker 1: feel like you got tanked? Because that's what my dream is. 263 00:14:05,960 --> 00:14:08,679 Speaker 1: I was like drinking, but it's like there's just so 264 00:14:08,920 --> 00:14:10,720 Speaker 1: you know, like when you're in party mode, it's like 265 00:14:10,760 --> 00:14:13,960 Speaker 1: a whole other there's a lot of adrenaline. I also 266 00:14:14,000 --> 00:14:16,400 Speaker 1: feel like the one your birthday party and I want 267 00:14:16,400 --> 00:14:18,640 Speaker 1: to hear what you didn't neglect to. I also feel 268 00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:21,520 Speaker 1: like the one your birthday party is it has it's 269 00:14:21,560 --> 00:14:23,520 Speaker 1: just so much more for us than it is for 270 00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:26,960 Speaker 1: the baby. Because right the one year old doesn't care, 271 00:14:27,400 --> 00:14:30,640 Speaker 1: and it's more I think, just a celebration that you've 272 00:14:31,200 --> 00:14:33,120 Speaker 1: made it to a year and like you did it, 273 00:14:33,280 --> 00:14:36,600 Speaker 1: and like that's why I think we have these images 274 00:14:36,600 --> 00:14:38,360 Speaker 1: in our head of like, well, I wasn't going to 275 00:14:38,440 --> 00:14:40,880 Speaker 1: do anything, but now I'm like, but I want to 276 00:14:41,200 --> 00:14:43,240 Speaker 1: pat myself on the back and have a themed party 277 00:14:43,280 --> 00:14:46,680 Speaker 1: and like congratulate myself and definitely have like one or 278 00:14:46,720 --> 00:14:50,080 Speaker 1: five mimosas. Like you realize all the pictures of all 279 00:14:50,120 --> 00:14:53,160 Speaker 1: the first birthday parties that you've seen, how much went 280 00:14:53,400 --> 00:14:56,680 Speaker 1: into those. You don't realize until you do it, and 281 00:14:56,680 --> 00:14:58,480 Speaker 1: you're like, how do people have the time and the 282 00:14:58,560 --> 00:15:00,880 Speaker 1: money and the energy for all? Did you have a 283 00:15:00,920 --> 00:15:04,160 Speaker 1: big na? We did? I mean, of course it was stressful. 284 00:15:04,200 --> 00:15:05,720 Speaker 1: I mean we were trying to make it as chill 285 00:15:05,760 --> 00:15:08,760 Speaker 1: as possible. And my birthday is five days before hers, 286 00:15:09,040 --> 00:15:11,120 Speaker 1: and it was my thirtieth birthday, and so we were 287 00:15:11,200 --> 00:15:17,120 Speaker 1: like big, big for mama and yeah, so so poor baby. 288 00:15:17,200 --> 00:15:19,800 Speaker 1: Her birthday totally got on the back burner. It was 289 00:15:19,960 --> 00:15:23,040 Speaker 1: I mean, like days before we decided we had no theme. 290 00:15:23,080 --> 00:15:24,560 Speaker 1: We had no but we decided we were going to 291 00:15:24,600 --> 00:15:26,280 Speaker 1: do it at my parents house and we were still 292 00:15:26,280 --> 00:15:28,880 Speaker 1: in l A. At the time. I literally had found 293 00:15:28,960 --> 00:15:32,000 Speaker 1: out days before that I had booked Waitress Musical on 294 00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:34,000 Speaker 1: Broadway and that we were coming. So it was like 295 00:15:34,520 --> 00:15:37,680 Speaker 1: lots of craziness and excitement. And I also had to 296 00:15:37,720 --> 00:15:42,120 Speaker 1: fly to New York on her actual birthday for the 297 00:15:42,160 --> 00:15:46,520 Speaker 1: final callback for this, and I was like devastated. My 298 00:15:46,600 --> 00:15:51,800 Speaker 1: husband kept it was so, I mean, I knew what 299 00:15:51,920 --> 00:15:54,440 Speaker 1: my family and my husband were reminding me was like, hey, 300 00:15:54,560 --> 00:15:56,400 Speaker 1: she's never going to remember, She's not going to know 301 00:15:56,440 --> 00:15:58,360 Speaker 1: that it's even her birthday today and we're going to 302 00:15:58,440 --> 00:16:01,840 Speaker 1: have a party for her on the weekend. But um, 303 00:16:01,960 --> 00:16:04,640 Speaker 1: for me, it was a good reminder to be like, 304 00:16:05,040 --> 00:16:09,280 Speaker 1: I'm doing this for myself, which is also going to 305 00:16:09,360 --> 00:16:12,280 Speaker 1: benefit her and her seeing that Mama's like out there, 306 00:16:12,400 --> 00:16:14,840 Speaker 1: get going to like do something she loves and she's 307 00:16:14,840 --> 00:16:17,520 Speaker 1: going to be working and all that. So, you know, 308 00:16:17,640 --> 00:16:20,680 Speaker 1: tried to keep it in perspective, what a huge milestone 309 00:16:20,720 --> 00:16:24,120 Speaker 1: for you on her one your birthday, to like you're 310 00:16:24,240 --> 00:16:26,840 Speaker 1: doing something for yourself, like on your for your career. 311 00:16:26,880 --> 00:16:29,720 Speaker 1: It felt like finally, like I mean, it had taken 312 00:16:29,720 --> 00:16:32,040 Speaker 1: me an entire year to get to this place where 313 00:16:32,040 --> 00:16:34,840 Speaker 1: I actually felt like I could do something for myself, 314 00:16:34,880 --> 00:16:37,520 Speaker 1: which I mean, I'm sure you guys unders time leaving her. No, 315 00:16:37,760 --> 00:16:40,920 Speaker 1: it wasn't. I've I've actually been doing like little work 316 00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:42,720 Speaker 1: jobs that had taken me out of town a lot. 317 00:16:42,880 --> 00:16:45,360 Speaker 1: Probably like a week was the longest I had been away, 318 00:16:45,600 --> 00:16:50,320 Speaker 1: and that's always so hard. But um, but yeah, but 319 00:16:50,400 --> 00:16:53,000 Speaker 1: I finally felt at the one year mark like I 320 00:16:53,000 --> 00:16:57,160 Speaker 1: had kind of gotten a hold of motherhood in a 321 00:16:57,320 --> 00:16:59,160 Speaker 1: in a way. I mean, we're still always I don't 322 00:16:59,160 --> 00:17:03,440 Speaker 1: know how you guys feel, like, do you my god? 323 00:17:03,840 --> 00:17:07,280 Speaker 1: Oh my god? Yeah, So did you end up having 324 00:17:07,280 --> 00:17:09,280 Speaker 1: a big party last minute? It was just like a 325 00:17:09,280 --> 00:17:11,399 Speaker 1: lot of family and friends and it was actually kind 326 00:17:11,400 --> 00:17:13,480 Speaker 1: of chill and sweet. And we did what you said. 327 00:17:13,720 --> 00:17:16,400 Speaker 1: We hired our housekeeper to come and like help with, 328 00:17:16,560 --> 00:17:19,000 Speaker 1: you know, cleaning up after, like with the food and 329 00:17:19,040 --> 00:17:21,240 Speaker 1: this and that, and and my parents were there and 330 00:17:21,520 --> 00:17:23,480 Speaker 1: a good amount of people who don't have kids were 331 00:17:23,520 --> 00:17:26,280 Speaker 1: there as well, so that was really helpful. It wasn't 332 00:17:26,480 --> 00:17:30,200 Speaker 1: too hands yeah, exact exactly, so it wasn't too chaotic. 333 00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:32,479 Speaker 1: We had, you know, in the house, we did we 334 00:17:32,520 --> 00:17:37,000 Speaker 1: did ridiculously order like tables and chairs and balloons, and 335 00:17:37,040 --> 00:17:40,359 Speaker 1: I felt like I just spent this much money on 336 00:17:40,680 --> 00:17:44,440 Speaker 1: party goods for a one year birthday, But like you 337 00:17:45,040 --> 00:17:47,639 Speaker 1: was pressured to do it, you just really do. But 338 00:17:47,840 --> 00:17:49,480 Speaker 1: I mean I definitely do and I was not going 339 00:17:49,520 --> 00:17:51,840 Speaker 1: to have one, but you don't have to. And part 340 00:17:51,880 --> 00:17:54,320 Speaker 1: of it is also for for your friends and your family. 341 00:17:54,320 --> 00:17:57,040 Speaker 1: It's it's partially because I was I don't know about you, guys, 342 00:17:57,040 --> 00:17:59,280 Speaker 1: but I was completely under a rock for a majority 343 00:17:59,320 --> 00:18:01,560 Speaker 1: of of the beginning of her life, and so it 344 00:18:01,600 --> 00:18:04,600 Speaker 1: was more like, let me invite people over so they 345 00:18:04,600 --> 00:18:08,119 Speaker 1: can see my daughter, and I'm going to try and 346 00:18:08,160 --> 00:18:11,199 Speaker 1: force myself to be more social. And you know, it 347 00:18:11,280 --> 00:18:13,840 Speaker 1: was coming out party. Yeah, coming out party. It is. 348 00:18:13,880 --> 00:18:16,240 Speaker 1: You're You're definitely in a fog that first year. Yeah. 349 00:18:16,520 --> 00:18:18,600 Speaker 1: I would say if you wear makeup at any point 350 00:18:18,680 --> 00:18:21,960 Speaker 1: during the first year pediatrician visit, you get like extra points. 351 00:18:22,560 --> 00:18:28,160 Speaker 1: I've never worn makeup to a pediatrician visit. My one 352 00:18:28,280 --> 00:18:30,639 Speaker 1: year I wear makeup and like, take a photo. It 353 00:18:30,760 --> 00:18:32,840 Speaker 1: is one year pig I am going to I mean, 354 00:18:32,880 --> 00:18:45,240 Speaker 1: I will be mind alone. Dr Taylor, can you explain 355 00:18:45,520 --> 00:18:49,240 Speaker 1: what a milestone regression is? Is that a thing? Oh? God, 356 00:18:49,280 --> 00:18:51,280 Speaker 1: she would not be talking about it. No, no, we 357 00:18:51,280 --> 00:18:54,679 Speaker 1: can talk well. So a milestone regression is um, just 358 00:18:54,720 --> 00:18:56,879 Speaker 1: like it sounds. It's when you used to do something 359 00:18:57,240 --> 00:18:59,560 Speaker 1: and you either don't do it anymore. You've plateaued, so 360 00:18:59,560 --> 00:19:01,960 Speaker 1: you haven't a vance. And we talked about ranges and 361 00:19:02,040 --> 00:19:05,399 Speaker 1: always progressing. So a regression is when you either do 362 00:19:05,480 --> 00:19:08,800 Speaker 1: something and stop doing it. Interesting, So babies can do that, 363 00:19:08,840 --> 00:19:10,520 Speaker 1: like they may have crawled for a week and then 364 00:19:10,520 --> 00:19:12,760 Speaker 1: they don't anymore, or you can do I mean there, 365 00:19:13,320 --> 00:19:15,439 Speaker 1: there's things that are definitely normal that can happen. When 366 00:19:15,560 --> 00:19:18,919 Speaker 1: do that big life changes moving to New York. Um, 367 00:19:19,680 --> 00:19:23,520 Speaker 1: that's when our sleep aggression hits sleep regression. Um, we're 368 00:19:23,560 --> 00:19:25,720 Speaker 1: working on a new skill, like we talked about. So 369 00:19:25,760 --> 00:19:28,840 Speaker 1: if you've been, if you've been you know, clapping your hands, 370 00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:31,399 Speaker 1: and now you're working on waving goodbye, you may not 371 00:19:31,400 --> 00:19:34,720 Speaker 1: clap your hands anymore. So definitely normal. I can make 372 00:19:34,720 --> 00:19:40,040 Speaker 1: it happen having another baby. I'll do it sometimes, changing 373 00:19:40,040 --> 00:19:43,200 Speaker 1: from the the baby room to the toddler room and 374 00:19:43,359 --> 00:19:47,159 Speaker 1: take care something like that. Um. There and then their 375 00:19:47,359 --> 00:19:50,359 Speaker 1: regressions that we worry about. So those regrestions that you 376 00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:53,040 Speaker 1: talk about aren't really ones to freak out about, not 377 00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:56,879 Speaker 1: at all because they're normal reactions to life environment exactly. 378 00:19:57,000 --> 00:19:59,560 Speaker 1: And then what are the ones to worry about? There? 379 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:01,600 Speaker 1: Never want that with the adopt there's one that you 380 00:20:01,640 --> 00:20:03,119 Speaker 1: bring to me. You bring all of them to me, 381 00:20:03,560 --> 00:20:05,120 Speaker 1: and I say, you know what, you just had a baby, 382 00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:07,159 Speaker 1: you just had another baby, so this baby kind of 383 00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:10,119 Speaker 1: wants to go back a little bit. Or you know 384 00:20:10,160 --> 00:20:12,000 Speaker 1: that this didn't get a lot of sleep, working on 385 00:20:12,040 --> 00:20:15,760 Speaker 1: some language skills, working on some new motor skills. So um. 386 00:20:15,800 --> 00:20:17,840 Speaker 1: And then if you say, you know this baby has 387 00:20:17,880 --> 00:20:20,879 Speaker 1: been cruising for ten months, never I mean, hopefully it 388 00:20:20,880 --> 00:20:23,000 Speaker 1: doesn't get that far, but I didn't progress past that. 389 00:20:23,119 --> 00:20:25,719 Speaker 1: Then maybe we investigate a little more, but it's never 390 00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:28,600 Speaker 1: anything to anything to worry about. Do you find that 391 00:20:28,680 --> 00:20:32,520 Speaker 1: moms with their first baby m like me, text you 392 00:20:32,680 --> 00:20:34,679 Speaker 1: all the time, like a thousand questions, and then their 393 00:20:34,680 --> 00:20:40,080 Speaker 1: second baby comes around and it's like whatever, yes and no, okay, 394 00:20:40,119 --> 00:20:45,200 Speaker 1: tell me? Um, does this ever ever end the neuroses 395 00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:47,840 Speaker 1: and the anxiety? I really hear my mother saying, well, 396 00:20:47,880 --> 00:20:50,960 Speaker 1: better to be safe than sorry. I'm like, oh my God, 397 00:20:50,960 --> 00:20:54,240 Speaker 1: Like it is endless. I mean I know that is true. 398 00:20:54,880 --> 00:20:57,800 Speaker 1: Hopefully they hopefully we've learned some stuff. Hopefully we've developed 399 00:20:57,800 --> 00:21:01,560 Speaker 1: a relationship where, um, you can rely on what I 400 00:21:01,600 --> 00:21:03,399 Speaker 1: say and count on what I say, and and you 401 00:21:03,400 --> 00:21:05,719 Speaker 1: know me a little better with the second baby. Um, 402 00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:08,800 Speaker 1: most of the questions questions from a mom with a 403 00:21:08,840 --> 00:21:12,359 Speaker 1: second baby start, so the first baby did this, the 404 00:21:12,400 --> 00:21:15,720 Speaker 1: second baby does this differently? Babies to each other. Yes, 405 00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:21,120 Speaker 1: different twins differently. Um, they do it in a different way, 406 00:21:21,160 --> 00:21:24,440 Speaker 1: they did it in in a different timetable. Is that okay? 407 00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:26,360 Speaker 1: And like I said, there's a rain, so of course 408 00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:31,960 Speaker 1: it's okay. It makes sense. Yeah, it totally makes sense. Um. 409 00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:35,680 Speaker 1: Let's um, I want to hear about how you guys 410 00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:38,960 Speaker 1: felt the first time, Like was it a big deal 411 00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:42,600 Speaker 1: when your baby like first walked, because like I haven't 412 00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:46,280 Speaker 1: had that yet. You will, oh yeah, I will, you 413 00:21:46,320 --> 00:21:50,520 Speaker 1: will like was it a big deal? You were there 414 00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:52,280 Speaker 1: or not there? Like you got it on tape or 415 00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:55,159 Speaker 1: you didn't, because I'm one convinced I'm not going to 416 00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:57,280 Speaker 1: be there. I wasn't there when she crawled, and my 417 00:21:57,359 --> 00:22:00,640 Speaker 1: family was terrified to tell me, and I don't think 418 00:22:00,720 --> 00:22:04,000 Speaker 1: I don't think they should tell you necessarily really because 419 00:22:04,080 --> 00:22:07,119 Speaker 1: because the nanny stopped telling the stuff. Let me figure 420 00:22:07,119 --> 00:22:09,280 Speaker 1: it out. Doesn't matter if they saw it first or 421 00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:11,280 Speaker 1: you saw it first. Just let me let me. Like, 422 00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:14,920 Speaker 1: my husband had a full blown meltdown because we've both 423 00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:17,280 Speaker 1: were both in waitress right now. So the nanny's like, 424 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:21,560 Speaker 1: whoa like a lot of hours being logged, um, and 425 00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:23,280 Speaker 1: she was in Central Park and she sent a photo 426 00:22:23,320 --> 00:22:25,120 Speaker 1: with like white stuff all over his face and my 427 00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 1: husband wrote, what's that? And she said, oh, I gave 428 00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:32,760 Speaker 1: him ice cream? And I thought my Now, I secretly 429 00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:36,440 Speaker 1: inside really kind of liked it because I have given 430 00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:38,480 Speaker 1: up a lot of firsts to my nanny. I went 431 00:22:38,520 --> 00:22:41,800 Speaker 1: back to work when Albi was eight weeks old. Adam 432 00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:46,399 Speaker 1: this was his first of like Adam's favorite dessert in 433 00:22:46,400 --> 00:22:50,520 Speaker 1: the world is ice cream. It's his everything. And the 434 00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:53,760 Speaker 1: fact that the nanny gave it to him without Adam, 435 00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:56,919 Speaker 1: there was like mass pandemonium in my household. But I 436 00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:58,840 Speaker 1: was like, Okay, it's his first ice cream with her, 437 00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:01,280 Speaker 1: but you're gonna have your You're going to have your 438 00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:03,159 Speaker 1: first ice cream with him, and it'll probably be like 439 00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:05,720 Speaker 1: a better flavor or like whatever it is better. Yeah, 440 00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:08,399 Speaker 1: Like you know, um, you're definitely going to capture it 441 00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:11,000 Speaker 1: better because my nanny is you know, she's wonderful, but 442 00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:16,320 Speaker 1: she's she's not amazing at the technological phone photography. Um 443 00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:20,280 Speaker 1: So anyway, he faced his first like big miss out, 444 00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:24,320 Speaker 1: Um you missed her crawling? Yeah, I did, but with walking. 445 00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:27,600 Speaker 1: I literally caught it on video, which is crazy, which 446 00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:30,520 Speaker 1: I don't I don't even know how well my sister's 447 00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:33,240 Speaker 1: My sister is really good with kids, and she she works, 448 00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:36,760 Speaker 1: actually she's getting her final hours and um she has 449 00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:39,240 Speaker 1: her masters in psychology and she works with kids under 450 00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:42,159 Speaker 1: the age of three who are showing signs of autism 451 00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 1: possibly or behavioral issues or developmental developmental issues. So she's 452 00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:51,520 Speaker 1: really good at like talking, teaching kids, like just helping 453 00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:55,280 Speaker 1: assisting with their development. And so she was like holding Lucy, 454 00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:57,560 Speaker 1: my daughter's Lucy, and she was holding her hand like 455 00:23:57,640 --> 00:24:00,280 Speaker 1: basically like just I had a finger for her to 456 00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:03,199 Speaker 1: hold and my daughter was barely holding onto her but 457 00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:05,960 Speaker 1: it was just more of a security blanket. And so 458 00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:08,639 Speaker 1: that was such an int I had never thought to 459 00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:11,520 Speaker 1: do that. Um, I mean it was more just like here, 460 00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:14,560 Speaker 1: I'm with you. But she was basically walking by herself 461 00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:16,760 Speaker 1: but just holding onto her fingers. So I I grabbed 462 00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:20,320 Speaker 1: the camera, my phone and I was just recording it, 463 00:24:20,359 --> 00:24:23,959 Speaker 1: and eventually she just was continuing to walk alongside her 464 00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:26,119 Speaker 1: and then she just like slipped her finger out of 465 00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:29,399 Speaker 1: her hand, and then there was she was walking, and 466 00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:31,280 Speaker 1: then she did it one other time and then she 467 00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:36,359 Speaker 1: basically didn't do it again for like a week. Okay, 468 00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:41,920 Speaker 1: there you go, that's normal. Car. What about Sonny. Sonny 469 00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:44,960 Speaker 1: was like pushing things, like never really crawled, like I said, 470 00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:47,600 Speaker 1: So it was like she was pushing around her little 471 00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:53,679 Speaker 1: loud walker thing that things the most annoying songs, or 472 00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:56,880 Speaker 1: she was pushing this wagon thing, and so we knew 473 00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:59,840 Speaker 1: it was coming, and so I was always like phone out, 474 00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:04,240 Speaker 1: ready for it. And then I got a couple of 475 00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:09,320 Speaker 1: her first steps on camera. And then the next morning 476 00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:12,920 Speaker 1: because I'm on the local morning news here in New York. 477 00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:19,640 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, as like a breaking news. That's 478 00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:24,040 Speaker 1: so cute walking. And like the beauty of social media, 479 00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:27,520 Speaker 1: I will say, because there's so much bad with like 480 00:25:27,640 --> 00:25:31,159 Speaker 1: comparing and all of that stuff, I really have found 481 00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:35,240 Speaker 1: that sharing a lot of those big moments, the comments 482 00:25:35,280 --> 00:25:37,120 Speaker 1: at least, and who knows about all the people who 483 00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:41,560 Speaker 1: aren't saying anything or whatever, but there's so much beauty 484 00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:44,800 Speaker 1: in the support that you get and the cheering on 485 00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:48,919 Speaker 1: and even the times when I've asked a question, like 486 00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:51,800 Speaker 1: when she was teething and I was like, I am 487 00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:56,200 Speaker 1: losing my mind. Tell me every teething remedy you have 488 00:25:56,440 --> 00:26:00,359 Speaker 1: ever had, and it's like, in those moments, social media 489 00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:02,960 Speaker 1: is a beautiful thing. You have found it to be 490 00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:07,520 Speaker 1: very helpful. Yeah, yeah, um this also, have you guys 491 00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:11,520 Speaker 1: had uh a milestone happened that has like brought you 492 00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:15,720 Speaker 1: to tears because I I've been like, fie, he crawled, 493 00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:18,200 Speaker 1: the army crawled, he did all this stuff, and like 494 00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:20,800 Speaker 1: it's just been like great, like yeah, like he's doing 495 00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:23,879 Speaker 1: it and totally fine. But when he got his first tooth, 496 00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:26,879 Speaker 1: I sobbed, like I don't know why that is. And 497 00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:29,400 Speaker 1: this is a really disgusting Hilary story, but I called 498 00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:31,400 Speaker 1: my mom when he got his first tooth and I said, 499 00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:35,000 Speaker 1: I can't believe I'm having this reaction. Like I also 500 00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:37,520 Speaker 1: think it's probably just because he got his first tooth 501 00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:40,480 Speaker 1: really early on, and I'm I was still a hormonal, 502 00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:42,760 Speaker 1: insane person. And I think we're all going to look 503 00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:44,880 Speaker 1: back at these first two years and realized we were 504 00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:47,440 Speaker 1: all still insane. Too, like I still think, like I'm 505 00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:48,959 Speaker 1: just like I can't believe you and I are doing 506 00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:51,480 Speaker 1: a Broadway musical in this state, Like I just it's 507 00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:54,719 Speaker 1: really insane. I'm so impressed with you because I told you, 508 00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:56,639 Speaker 1: like one year mark for me was really when I 509 00:26:56,680 --> 00:26:59,600 Speaker 1: was like ready to come out of my little rabbit hole. 510 00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:02,600 Speaker 1: I hear me to look back on everything I've done, 511 00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:04,399 Speaker 1: and it's going to be like I don't think I 512 00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:06,680 Speaker 1: was okay. But anyway, here we are. It's for all 513 00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:08,679 Speaker 1: of you guys to hear and judge, so you're welcome. 514 00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:11,159 Speaker 1: I think it's interesting the milestones that hit you and 515 00:27:11,240 --> 00:27:14,919 Speaker 1: the ones that don't, or whether it's it comes on 516 00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:17,600 Speaker 1: a certain day when you're particularly emotional, it's not the 517 00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:23,560 Speaker 1: actual milestone that's with you. Like when we lowered Sunny's 518 00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:27,920 Speaker 1: crib from like the high thing to like the full 519 00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:30,800 Speaker 1: crib and we put her down and she sat in 520 00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:36,080 Speaker 1: there and at the time she looked tiny, and it 521 00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:39,639 Speaker 1: wrecked me. I was like, she looks like she's in 522 00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:43,160 Speaker 1: a cage. I don't think she's happy. This isn't good. 523 00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:46,320 Speaker 1: And of course she was like, so fine, it doesn't care. 524 00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:51,840 Speaker 1: But it was like the things that move you and 525 00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:56,080 Speaker 1: you're like back in your own bedroom, sobbing. My mom said, 526 00:27:56,119 --> 00:27:58,360 Speaker 1: I called her and I was like, he just got 527 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,800 Speaker 1: his first twoth and I just believe it. And I 528 00:28:00,800 --> 00:28:02,480 Speaker 1: stuck my finger in there, and Adam said he felt 529 00:28:02,480 --> 00:28:03,879 Speaker 1: something that I put my finger in there and I 530 00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:06,000 Speaker 1: felt it. He has tooth. And Mom was like, so 531 00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:08,679 Speaker 1: my mother, she was like, oh, I remember when I 532 00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:11,119 Speaker 1: like lost my mind when you were growing up. And 533 00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:13,199 Speaker 1: I said, what what made you like? Sab? She's like, 534 00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:15,199 Speaker 1: I had to exit and go to the bedroom and 535 00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:17,280 Speaker 1: just cry when I saw that you had your first 536 00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:24,520 Speaker 1: pup took it took a while, like can you believe that? 537 00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:27,320 Speaker 1: Like she was like, that's what's marked in her brain 538 00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:29,280 Speaker 1: is like her little daughter was like growing up. It 539 00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:30,960 Speaker 1: must have been like changing out of a beating suit 540 00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:33,280 Speaker 1: or like god knows what. But she like I saw 541 00:28:33,359 --> 00:28:35,520 Speaker 1: some sort of like hair growing there. And she said 542 00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:38,720 Speaker 1: she lost her mind. And I was like, oh my god, 543 00:28:39,080 --> 00:28:40,840 Speaker 1: like that's going to be a whole other thing we 544 00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:43,240 Speaker 1: have to do. Oh God. So that's where you're at 545 00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:45,840 Speaker 1: because you're in the teenage stage, which seems like a 546 00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:48,640 Speaker 1: real nightmare. But I remember I don't remember crying with 547 00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:51,120 Speaker 1: my daughter with Miles Sons. When I cut my son's 548 00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:54,000 Speaker 1: hair for the first time because he looked like a 549 00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:57,160 Speaker 1: big boy and the baby curls came off and he 550 00:28:57,200 --> 00:28:59,800 Speaker 1: was over a year. He needed a haircut terribly. He 551 00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:04,440 Speaker 1: looked really really need a haircut. And the first time 552 00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:07,200 Speaker 1: we cut his hair, he's a pick boy. I do 553 00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:10,520 Speaker 1: remember that. And I cried in the Cosey cuts her kids. 554 00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:13,040 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm not ready for the first haircut either. 555 00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:18,000 Speaker 1: Um so uh oh. What we were talking about with 556 00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:21,280 Speaker 1: people missing them like Serena Williams woo woo. She tweeted 557 00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:23,440 Speaker 1: that she wasn't there for her daughter's first steps, you know, 558 00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:25,680 Speaker 1: like she took her first steps and she was training 559 00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:28,920 Speaker 1: and she cried and she missed it. Like I'm so 560 00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:30,560 Speaker 1: scared at he's going to walk and I'm not going 561 00:29:30,600 --> 00:29:33,520 Speaker 1: to see it. But all the responses to that tweet 562 00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:38,840 Speaker 1: were beautiful. On there were so many people that were like, 563 00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:41,720 Speaker 1: she's gonna walk again, or you were making her so proud, 564 00:29:41,840 --> 00:29:44,600 Speaker 1: or wait till she sees what you were doing on 565 00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:47,600 Speaker 1: the day when she took her first step, which, by 566 00:29:47,600 --> 00:29:49,160 Speaker 1: the way, like do any of you know when you 567 00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:52,880 Speaker 1: took your first step? Because like, I don't know. I honestly, yeah, 568 00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:54,720 Speaker 1: I don't even. I was talking about this with my 569 00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:57,720 Speaker 1: husband the other day. I was like, what when do 570 00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:00,239 Speaker 1: you remember when your first memory was? Because my for 571 00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:02,320 Speaker 1: sure it wasn't until I was like at least two, 572 00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:07,360 Speaker 1: and then probably after that like way later. Yeah. Oh yeah, 573 00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:09,719 Speaker 1: Like I have maybe one memory when I was like 574 00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:14,760 Speaker 1: barely walking, but like that's it. Your parents probably remember. 575 00:30:15,080 --> 00:30:17,040 Speaker 1: And I do tell people when they're worried about milestones 576 00:30:17,040 --> 00:30:18,720 Speaker 1: and when people when they reached them, I said, ask 577 00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:20,680 Speaker 1: your mother, ask your mother in law, when did you 578 00:30:20,760 --> 00:30:24,560 Speaker 1: do that? Invariably it's going to be early or late, 579 00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:27,320 Speaker 1: and it'll and and genetics being what they are, they 580 00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:29,680 Speaker 1: do reflect and we have to kind of remember that 581 00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:32,160 Speaker 1: we all are sitting here, and we all poop on 582 00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:35,600 Speaker 1: a toilet, and we all sleep through the night, and 583 00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:38,240 Speaker 1: we're going all the time. I'm like, Brian, have you 584 00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:41,760 Speaker 1: ever seen an adult like aside from medical problems of 585 00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:47,880 Speaker 1: some kind, Like no one's crawling to work, right, Everyone's 586 00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:51,720 Speaker 1: going to get at some point we're gonna be okay. 587 00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:56,760 Speaker 1: Have you guys found like any books or um apps 588 00:30:56,880 --> 00:31:01,800 Speaker 1: or anything like that to be like super helpful um 589 00:31:01,840 --> 00:31:04,720 Speaker 1: in this sort of arena, Like is there something in 590 00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:07,080 Speaker 1: the first year of having your baby that you like 591 00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:11,600 Speaker 1: couldn't live without? Like, I, Um, I really love this 592 00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:15,920 Speaker 1: book called The Conscious Parent, um, which is just a 593 00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:19,280 Speaker 1: wonderful reminder to me always. I think also in milestones 594 00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:22,520 Speaker 1: with this compared despair thing that like, the book is 595 00:31:22,720 --> 00:31:24,640 Speaker 1: very much about how the baby is here to teach 596 00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:26,840 Speaker 1: me stuff and I'm not supposed to teach him stuff, 597 00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:28,880 Speaker 1: and the baby is here to I mean, this is 598 00:31:28,920 --> 00:31:31,760 Speaker 1: a little l a woo woo, but whatever, he's he's 599 00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:34,120 Speaker 1: here to make me a better person and me take 600 00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:37,480 Speaker 1: me to another plane of consciousness, so to speak. And 601 00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:40,120 Speaker 1: so I try to remind myself that when I'm sitting 602 00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:43,200 Speaker 1: here trying to measure up his milestones and when he's 603 00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:44,840 Speaker 1: supposed to walk and when he's supposed to talk and 604 00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:46,920 Speaker 1: all this stuff, is to just really let him be 605 00:31:47,040 --> 00:31:48,960 Speaker 1: and that he's here to teach me when I'm what 606 00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:51,560 Speaker 1: I'm supposed to talk and walk and how I'm supposed 607 00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:54,640 Speaker 1: to talk and walk. Um, have you guys found anything 608 00:31:54,680 --> 00:31:56,880 Speaker 1: to be super helpful in your year? Like is there 609 00:31:56,920 --> 00:32:00,000 Speaker 1: an app that like when you're pregnant, there's all these 610 00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:02,480 Speaker 1: apps about like this month, this is happening in this month, 611 00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:04,280 Speaker 1: and that is happening. But and then you you don't 612 00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:05,920 Speaker 1: get on your phone for the next year or so. 613 00:32:05,960 --> 00:32:09,280 Speaker 1: Nobody really that's the recommendation is not to not google 614 00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:12,800 Speaker 1: this ship. Um. I think that the breastfeeding apps are 615 00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:15,840 Speaker 1: helpful because I'm gonna ask you in the first visit 616 00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:17,280 Speaker 1: how many peas and poops there are, and you're gonna 617 00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:20,200 Speaker 1: have to look at your paper or but there's an appted, 618 00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:22,080 Speaker 1: but there's an app for that, and that's that's a 619 00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:25,120 Speaker 1: good one. Yeah, glow. I use like, yeah, when you're 620 00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:27,239 Speaker 1: at the beginning, when you're really making sure that there 621 00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:30,280 Speaker 1: are wet diapers and poopy diapers and because that's the 622 00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:32,240 Speaker 1: way you can tell they're not dehydrated and they're eating 623 00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:33,840 Speaker 1: and that things are going in and things are coming out, 624 00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:39,080 Speaker 1: which I also actually still use when he's sick, like, um, 625 00:32:39,120 --> 00:32:41,120 Speaker 1: if he has a cold or a cough or something like, 626 00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:46,440 Speaker 1: I know it's not red alarm alert, holy shit problem area, 627 00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:49,040 Speaker 1: Like if my nanny and I are like, well, he 628 00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:51,840 Speaker 1: he's had you know, a lot of p diapers today 629 00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:53,960 Speaker 1: and his poop is normal, and how many times because 630 00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:55,560 Speaker 1: you know that it's just like a cold and coffin. 631 00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:59,840 Speaker 1: We're not like dehydrated or something like that. Literally just 632 00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:02,480 Speaker 1: check my phone and I deleted them all. I was 633 00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:08,120 Speaker 1: just so I was like, like's off my phone, just 634 00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:10,960 Speaker 1: like I don't remember the name of the apps for me, 635 00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:15,000 Speaker 1: but maybe on the Block is a good one, the happiest. Yeah, 636 00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:18,120 Speaker 1: with the five it's great. Dr Carp. Yeah, they I 637 00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:20,120 Speaker 1: used this and he has a toddler book as well. 638 00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:23,680 Speaker 1: M hmm yep, oh he does use this new I 639 00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:26,600 Speaker 1: I used this new like for the first four or 640 00:33:26,640 --> 00:33:29,800 Speaker 1: five months of her life. And this news, so you 641 00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:31,880 Speaker 1: guys know, is a crib designed by Dr Carp that's 642 00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:34,960 Speaker 1: essentially like a baby nurse. The crib senses when the 643 00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:37,200 Speaker 1: baby wakes up and just kind of gently shakes the baby, 644 00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:41,040 Speaker 1: which mimics how the baby feels inside the womb, so 645 00:33:41,080 --> 00:33:44,360 Speaker 1: that the shock after they come out to just like 646 00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:46,840 Speaker 1: kind of having to sleep silently by themselves and not 647 00:33:46,920 --> 00:33:50,680 Speaker 1: be comforted. Yeah, it's great. It was great, But yeah, 648 00:33:50,720 --> 00:33:53,160 Speaker 1: I I also the happiest toddler on the That's what 649 00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:57,120 Speaker 1: was right. Yeah, my mom, I'm the worst with that stuff, 650 00:33:57,160 --> 00:33:59,960 Speaker 1: Like I literally have like you are, I feel like 651 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:04,400 Speaker 1: your child. Thank God, you're hanging I'm hanging out with honestly, Honestly, 652 00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:08,440 Speaker 1: I'm not chill. I mean I am way more chill now. 653 00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:12,960 Speaker 1: I had so much anxiety in the beginning phases, and 654 00:34:13,000 --> 00:34:17,200 Speaker 1: I also like completely had the worst, most horrible time 655 00:34:17,239 --> 00:34:19,839 Speaker 1: with breastfeeding. I had to stop at five weeks with her, 656 00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:23,040 Speaker 1: and so like I had just you know, eventually, I 657 00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:26,239 Speaker 1: think it was partially just me being like, screw all this, 658 00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:28,880 Speaker 1: I don't deal with it. I can't deal with the pressure. 659 00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:31,200 Speaker 1: And I still had the anxiety, and you know, in 660 00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:34,960 Speaker 1: l A called called my pediatrician all the time. I 661 00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:40,319 Speaker 1: haven't bothered you too much yet, but yeah, I but 662 00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:42,839 Speaker 1: I have a zillion books that I've never picked up. 663 00:34:43,120 --> 00:34:45,600 Speaker 1: But my mom is good with that stuff, and she 664 00:34:45,600 --> 00:34:48,839 Speaker 1: she was helpful with the happiest toddler, like the biggest thing. 665 00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:51,560 Speaker 1: I think that helped me because sometimes you're dealing with 666 00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:54,239 Speaker 1: this with your child and they're doing new things and 667 00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:57,160 Speaker 1: you're like, I have no idea, like behavioral wise, because 668 00:34:57,200 --> 00:34:58,919 Speaker 1: they don't know the difference at this age that they're 669 00:34:58,960 --> 00:35:01,000 Speaker 1: doing something that they're not supposed to be doing, But 670 00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:06,399 Speaker 1: how do you Sometimes sometimes they know. Yeah, but like 671 00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:09,160 Speaker 1: even with like when she would get really frustrated and 672 00:35:09,239 --> 00:35:11,280 Speaker 1: get upset. She she kind of went through this phase 673 00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:14,120 Speaker 1: where any any little thing that went wrong, if she 674 00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:16,440 Speaker 1: dropped something, or if she was pointing at something and 675 00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:19,560 Speaker 1: you couldn't you know, you didn't understand what she was doing. 676 00:35:19,600 --> 00:35:22,320 Speaker 1: She was just having a trouble, having trouble with communicating, 677 00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:25,600 Speaker 1: and she just got really frustrated real fast. She would 678 00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:29,399 Speaker 1: just start crying or yelling immediately. And so my mom 679 00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:32,600 Speaker 1: read a tantrum. It wasn't a tantrum. It was just 680 00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:34,759 Speaker 1: like a lot of noise and a lot of it, 681 00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:40,240 Speaker 1: just like I don't know or singer and she's got 682 00:35:40,440 --> 00:35:44,839 Speaker 1: I mean, she's herself. And she was like, well, Mama 683 00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:46,800 Speaker 1: DoD sing all the time. She'll be in her crib 684 00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:50,319 Speaker 1: and just like making sounds and singing stuff like by 685 00:35:50,360 --> 00:35:52,719 Speaker 1: herself for for like a full hour before she takes 686 00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:55,399 Speaker 1: her nap. She'll just yeah, but that's another thing. But 687 00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:59,560 Speaker 1: but for when she couldn't communicate, my mom read somewhere 688 00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:03,239 Speaker 1: that you like that was helpful for us. I don't 689 00:36:03,239 --> 00:36:04,880 Speaker 1: know if it works for everybody, but you know, if 690 00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:08,080 Speaker 1: she was upset, oh, you identify, I know you're feeling 691 00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:11,800 Speaker 1: Lucy's feeling frustrated or you're feeling sad. Let's talk about 692 00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:14,920 Speaker 1: we're feeling sad because I know you want this toy 693 00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:17,319 Speaker 1: but right now you can't have it, but you feel sad. 694 00:36:17,400 --> 00:36:20,160 Speaker 1: And just like acknowledging the feelings that she exactly what 695 00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:22,640 Speaker 1: I tell people to do. It can interesting go down 696 00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:25,000 Speaker 1: to their eye level, and so I understand you don't 697 00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:27,240 Speaker 1: want to leave the park yet. You're having a really 698 00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:30,879 Speaker 1: good time, but it's time to go, and it'll you'll 699 00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:32,400 Speaker 1: still get the crying, but it'll probably be at a 700 00:36:32,520 --> 00:36:35,520 Speaker 1: you know, seventies sixty pc, which is huge. Um, right, 701 00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:38,600 Speaker 1: it's being heard versus like just really shoving down their 702 00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:40,799 Speaker 1: throat what needs to happen right now, which is why 703 00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:43,359 Speaker 1: she used to say when Sonny was crying, she would 704 00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:47,560 Speaker 1: be like, Sonny got really angry, and Brian and I 705 00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:51,600 Speaker 1: would always laugh and be like, she's assigning these full on, 706 00:36:51,719 --> 00:36:55,040 Speaker 1: like adult emotions to her. And for a while we 707 00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:57,360 Speaker 1: thought it was like the funniest thing in the world 708 00:36:57,400 --> 00:36:59,800 Speaker 1: that she would talk about her like she was in 709 00:36:59,880 --> 00:37:03,080 Speaker 1: a don't But after a while like she was slowly 710 00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:07,400 Speaker 1: teaching us and now we've all caught on how important 711 00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:10,879 Speaker 1: it is that like though she does have real emotions 712 00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:13,440 Speaker 1: and that you should be talking to her that way, 713 00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:16,640 Speaker 1: and that she responds to that so well. It's not 714 00:37:16,719 --> 00:37:18,600 Speaker 1: just like, oh, she's crying, When is the baby going 715 00:37:18,640 --> 00:37:21,520 Speaker 1: to stop crying? Yeah, because their babies, we think that 716 00:37:21,560 --> 00:37:24,359 Speaker 1: they don't understand as much, but it is incredible how 717 00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:27,440 Speaker 1: much they understand what we're saying. And if you can 718 00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:30,200 Speaker 1: just like communicate with them, they actually they can't communicate 719 00:37:30,239 --> 00:37:33,680 Speaker 1: back as well, but they really do understand all. Part 720 00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:38,719 Speaker 1: of the language that's by reading is so important to them. 721 00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:40,960 Speaker 1: And you can read your scripts. You can read oh 722 00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:45,960 Speaker 1: I run lines without just doing with do with a singsong. 723 00:37:46,080 --> 00:37:48,120 Speaker 1: Voys do it with a nice gentle like you're reading, 724 00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:51,719 Speaker 1: you know, the best story whatever. But it can be 725 00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:54,759 Speaker 1: anything and they love it. I was so worried because 726 00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:57,360 Speaker 1: Adam and I were on vocal rest so much because 727 00:37:57,360 --> 00:38:00,440 Speaker 1: we're Broadway singers now, and it was really hard, scary 728 00:38:00,880 --> 00:38:02,799 Speaker 1: and um there were so many days where he would 729 00:38:02,800 --> 00:38:04,440 Speaker 1: look at me like mom, why are you moving your 730 00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:07,319 Speaker 1: face so much? And like not talking because I got 731 00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:10,040 Speaker 1: really sick. It was crazy, Like oh my god, you 732 00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:16,320 Speaker 1: guys Broadway, real deal, So let's talk about phases and 733 00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:20,759 Speaker 1: when things are supposed to end or start or move on, 734 00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:24,759 Speaker 1: because you did mention Danielle like that there are windows, 735 00:38:24,840 --> 00:38:28,840 Speaker 1: which for some reason, that word feels much better to me. Um, 736 00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:30,879 Speaker 1: you know than like I think about like the do date, 737 00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:34,320 Speaker 1: Like I wish it was like a window. So you know, um, 738 00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:36,920 Speaker 1: can you tell us like our doctors really looking at 739 00:38:36,960 --> 00:38:40,080 Speaker 1: phases and when things start or end or windows, we 740 00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:42,560 Speaker 1: do look at windows. So walking window, you know, it 741 00:38:42,600 --> 00:38:46,279 Speaker 1: would be nine months to fifteen months, sixteen months, And 742 00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:48,560 Speaker 1: like I said, if you're progressing and you're right there 743 00:38:48,600 --> 00:38:51,040 Speaker 1: and you're holding onto a finger, but you just don't 744 00:38:51,040 --> 00:38:52,680 Speaker 1: want to let go because that's you know, they come 745 00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:56,359 Speaker 1: here a certain way, that's your temperament. So possibly they 746 00:38:56,360 --> 00:38:58,680 Speaker 1: can walk, but they just they're feeling a little hesitant. 747 00:38:58,760 --> 00:39:01,319 Speaker 1: Or you have the child that is really motivated to 748 00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:04,680 Speaker 1: walk and they're and they're going full on. Um. So 749 00:39:04,719 --> 00:39:09,279 Speaker 1: I think if if you're ever concerned, you know, we 750 00:39:09,280 --> 00:39:12,480 Speaker 1: can always do evaluations and always tell your pet trip. 751 00:39:12,560 --> 00:39:13,960 Speaker 1: You know, I know you said not to worry, but 752 00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:16,680 Speaker 1: I am worried, So let's make me not worry. And 753 00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:19,120 Speaker 1: that's always an appropriate thing to say in question to 754 00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:22,680 Speaker 1: ask um. So there are there are windows and talking. 755 00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:26,680 Speaker 1: You know, we want at a year maybe mama, dada 756 00:39:26,880 --> 00:39:29,200 Speaker 1: or the dog's name or that that which they say 757 00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:31,759 Speaker 1: for everything when they're pointing at stuff. We more want 758 00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:34,520 Speaker 1: them to understand you. So if you say where's the 759 00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:37,840 Speaker 1: cat or where's the dog, you know that's also language. 760 00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:41,400 Speaker 1: Sign language is also language. UM. So there are different 761 00:39:41,400 --> 00:39:44,440 Speaker 1: ways to communicate UM in their different ranges. UM. And 762 00:39:44,480 --> 00:39:47,200 Speaker 1: so they're like not saying words again, guys using Katie's 763 00:39:47,239 --> 00:39:51,840 Speaker 1: group benefit um. If he's like not saying words, but 764 00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:54,200 Speaker 1: you're like, where's my baby and he points to himself 765 00:39:54,280 --> 00:39:59,280 Speaker 1: or like where's my understanding? He can hear, he understands 766 00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:01,319 Speaker 1: what you're saying. He knows he's the baby. Just don't 767 00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:03,439 Speaker 1: feel like saying it. You also can't want it too bad. 768 00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:07,480 Speaker 1: I always say. I'm always like, don't make them perform 769 00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:11,879 Speaker 1: like she will do it when she wants to, like 770 00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:15,080 Speaker 1: she knows, Like I always feel like she has all 771 00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:20,120 Speaker 1: these words and she's looking at us, like gosh, my 772 00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:25,760 Speaker 1: cousin's kids twins, they didn't speak until they were almost 773 00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:29,400 Speaker 1: like three years old, and now they are just they 774 00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:32,640 Speaker 1: are chatty and just I mean it just we were 775 00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:37,000 Speaker 1: nervous about it. But I think they speaking to each 776 00:40:37,040 --> 00:40:39,680 Speaker 1: other they like, I think in their own sort of 777 00:40:39,719 --> 00:40:43,440 Speaker 1: like twins sort of communication way. They were kind of 778 00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:45,920 Speaker 1: just communicating with each other in a lot of sounds, 779 00:40:46,480 --> 00:40:49,520 Speaker 1: but not Yeah, they weren't speaking and we were all 780 00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:53,760 Speaker 1: so nervous, and now they're they're like they're completely from 781 00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:56,320 Speaker 1: the Yeah, they chat all the time, so I wouldn't 782 00:40:56,600 --> 00:40:59,719 Speaker 1: lose my mind. Oh yeah, see this was so cure. 783 00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:02,600 Speaker 1: That's out of the range. But that's far but it's 784 00:41:02,600 --> 00:41:05,959 Speaker 1: still okay. Yeah, but like it's still okay. Yeah, that's 785 00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:09,160 Speaker 1: what's you know. It's just very like this is such 786 00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:11,880 Speaker 1: an everyday lesson and just I mean for me personally, 787 00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:15,799 Speaker 1: just the anxiety of it, you know, like saving it 788 00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:20,319 Speaker 1: up's gonna say seven words at eighteen months? Um, can 789 00:41:20,360 --> 00:41:23,960 Speaker 1: we go around and say if there's any advice that 790 00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:27,040 Speaker 1: you would have for I know, I know it's high pressure. 791 00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:30,320 Speaker 1: It can be multiple things of just like whatever you 792 00:41:30,360 --> 00:41:32,560 Speaker 1: would want to say, either about milestones or about anything 793 00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:34,439 Speaker 1: that you wish you had known in the first year 794 00:41:34,480 --> 00:41:37,600 Speaker 1: and change of your kid's life, or you as a doctor, 795 00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:44,160 Speaker 1: Like yeah, I guess for me, I would just remind 796 00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:49,960 Speaker 1: parents that it gets easier. It does, it does. I mean, 797 00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:52,359 Speaker 1: it's still, of course, I'm sure it's always hard. I'm 798 00:41:52,400 --> 00:41:55,880 Speaker 1: sure you can attest to that. But for me, the 799 00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:58,160 Speaker 1: first the first year was for sure. I mean, and 800 00:41:58,760 --> 00:42:00,799 Speaker 1: talk to me in like two years and we'll see 801 00:42:00,800 --> 00:42:03,680 Speaker 1: how I feel. But if it was really really challenging, 802 00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:05,799 Speaker 1: but you feel like it's easier for you now than 803 00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:09,080 Speaker 1: it was when she was within that year mark, that's 804 00:42:09,120 --> 00:42:11,480 Speaker 1: great to hear. Now that she can like sort of 805 00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:15,440 Speaker 1: communicate and she can walk, and she sleeps through the 806 00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:20,480 Speaker 1: night and you know, and she's relying on the regular 807 00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:23,040 Speaker 1: food and she's had she has teeth now, so I 808 00:42:23,080 --> 00:42:27,080 Speaker 1: know that she mostly can like chew everything up and um, 809 00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:30,440 Speaker 1: and she's had her fair share of colds, which scared 810 00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:32,839 Speaker 1: the crap out of me. And now I don't get 811 00:42:32,960 --> 00:42:35,880 Speaker 1: quite as freaked out. So I guess it's just like 812 00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:39,319 Speaker 1: I just have a little less anxiety and I'm not 813 00:42:39,520 --> 00:42:42,560 Speaker 1: so freaked out about you know, germs and this, and 814 00:42:42,680 --> 00:42:46,239 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm still definitely like have my share of 815 00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:49,239 Speaker 1: no but I think my my Duela, who was on 816 00:42:49,600 --> 00:42:51,720 Speaker 1: the UM was a guest on one of the episodes, 817 00:42:51,800 --> 00:42:54,440 Speaker 1: Rebecca Benetti. She says, your mom muscle has got stronger, 818 00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:56,520 Speaker 1: Like you know what I mean, It's just a muscle 819 00:42:56,560 --> 00:42:58,759 Speaker 1: that you didn't have before. And in the first year 820 00:42:58,800 --> 00:43:01,920 Speaker 1: it's really tested and you do a lot of reps. 821 00:43:02,320 --> 00:43:04,319 Speaker 1: You have a better handle on it all, and you 822 00:43:04,480 --> 00:43:08,120 Speaker 1: just yeah, so it just gets just trust that it 823 00:43:08,120 --> 00:43:10,239 Speaker 1: gets easier and you can do this. And we're all 824 00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:13,799 Speaker 1: on our own path, but we all can support each 825 00:43:13,840 --> 00:43:18,279 Speaker 1: other and and understand the challenges and the and the 826 00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:26,440 Speaker 1: winds as well. Yeah, Jamie, that was beautiful. She is 827 00:43:26,480 --> 00:43:29,399 Speaker 1: going to a beautiful and inside out everybody. Come check 828 00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:31,520 Speaker 1: her out and waitress the musical on Broadway. She's playing 829 00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:35,160 Speaker 1: Jenna as well as Katie Loves. I feel like to 830 00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:39,440 Speaker 1: go back to the phases thing we always say, now 831 00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:43,600 Speaker 1: everything is a phase, the good stuff and the bad stuff, 832 00:43:44,719 --> 00:43:49,120 Speaker 1: like this too shall pass, like because undoubtedly there's like 833 00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:52,680 Speaker 1: a new habit, like now she when she is done eating. 834 00:43:53,760 --> 00:43:56,279 Speaker 1: We've taught her. I tried to teach her a bunch 835 00:43:56,280 --> 00:43:58,800 Speaker 1: of sign language words. The only one that's really caught 836 00:43:58,840 --> 00:44:02,719 Speaker 1: on is all that on the podcast can see like 837 00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:05,799 Speaker 1: she does this. It's kind of like jazz hands. It's 838 00:44:05,840 --> 00:44:07,600 Speaker 1: sort of a form of like she kind of starts 839 00:44:07,600 --> 00:44:12,560 Speaker 1: clapping for herself, like all done. But right before that 840 00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:15,120 Speaker 1: because when I realized she's getting close to it, I 841 00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:18,960 Speaker 1: have to move fast because she starts throwing the food 842 00:44:19,040 --> 00:44:21,960 Speaker 1: off the tray and it's like everything, We'll just she's done, 843 00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:24,480 Speaker 1: get it off the tray. I'm done. So that's when 844 00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:30,040 Speaker 1: I'm like all done and food too. Throws food like unbelievable. 845 00:44:30,440 --> 00:44:32,640 Speaker 1: But we we look at each other and we kind 846 00:44:32,640 --> 00:44:34,640 Speaker 1: of laugh and we're like, in two weeks from now, 847 00:44:34,840 --> 00:44:38,759 Speaker 1: this won't be a thing. Everything that's a thing was 848 00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:42,440 Speaker 1: only a thing so briefly, and then it's either we 849 00:44:42,520 --> 00:44:44,880 Speaker 1: taught her not to do something, but in most cases 850 00:44:44,920 --> 00:44:47,839 Speaker 1: they just sort of grow or phase out of it 851 00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:51,040 Speaker 1: and then you're onto the next thing, you know, Like 852 00:44:51,080 --> 00:44:53,279 Speaker 1: when she was teething. We're in sort of a weird 853 00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:55,440 Speaker 1: break from teething. I feel like there's probably more coming 854 00:44:55,640 --> 00:44:59,319 Speaker 1: too soon. Great, but for a while, it was like 855 00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:02,279 Speaker 1: she wakes up every night at the same exact time 856 00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:04,399 Speaker 1: and like screams or head off, and it was like, 857 00:45:04,640 --> 00:45:07,960 Speaker 1: when is this phase is gonna be over? And so 858 00:45:08,719 --> 00:45:13,480 Speaker 1: I think that in some ways, right now, while I'm 859 00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:16,360 Speaker 1: with all adults, I can say like, that's helped to 860 00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:18,520 Speaker 1: call me a little bit. Oh my god. I think 861 00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:22,080 Speaker 1: that's huge to remember, like you're this ship show. You're 862 00:45:22,120 --> 00:45:25,200 Speaker 1: only in until there's either like a break and a 863 00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:27,239 Speaker 1: lapse and a joy and then there's like another news 864 00:45:27,239 --> 00:45:32,000 Speaker 1: ship show. Yes, so it's sort of just like hang 865 00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:35,680 Speaker 1: on like whatever is happening, like hang on like the 866 00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:39,160 Speaker 1: next like good thing will come. That's great. It reminds 867 00:45:39,160 --> 00:45:40,799 Speaker 1: me so much of my labor because I was like 868 00:45:41,239 --> 00:45:43,960 Speaker 1: my mantra was when a contraction would come, would say, 869 00:45:43,960 --> 00:45:49,040 Speaker 1: I would say, this is only temporary. This is only temporary, 870 00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:50,799 Speaker 1: over and over again until it would pass, and then 871 00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:55,800 Speaker 1: I was like, check, please, where is the epidural thing? Much? Um, 872 00:45:55,840 --> 00:45:58,560 Speaker 1: that's hugely helpful, Jamie and a good or both of 873 00:45:58,640 --> 00:46:02,200 Speaker 1: these are very good reminders to me and Danielle Um. 874 00:46:02,200 --> 00:46:05,799 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say the non pediatrician thing and say, take 875 00:46:05,840 --> 00:46:11,359 Speaker 1: care of yourself. A lot of snapping for that. We're 876 00:46:11,440 --> 00:46:13,480 Speaker 1: makeup to your point. Now, take care, take care of 877 00:46:13,480 --> 00:46:18,680 Speaker 1: your relationships. Oh god, snaps. Lord is pressuring me to 878 00:46:18,719 --> 00:46:20,680 Speaker 1: go away with him and leave the baby. Go away 879 00:46:20,719 --> 00:46:23,279 Speaker 1: with your husband and leave the baby. You gotta do it. 880 00:46:23,280 --> 00:46:27,000 Speaker 1: It's huge you gotta do it because because it passes, 881 00:46:27,040 --> 00:46:30,799 Speaker 1: as you said, and when it's gone, you're still yourself. 882 00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:34,040 Speaker 1: So you you and you're you still have hopefully have 883 00:46:34,120 --> 00:46:41,319 Speaker 1: your relationship, which hopefully is still there. Um. But I 884 00:46:41,360 --> 00:46:43,319 Speaker 1: think it's really important because I do see the kind 885 00:46:43,320 --> 00:46:44,680 Speaker 1: of the good, the bad, and the ugly in the 886 00:46:44,719 --> 00:46:47,200 Speaker 1: office of stuff when when mom's put too much into 887 00:46:47,239 --> 00:46:49,319 Speaker 1: their children. And obviously you can't put too much, but 888 00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:51,680 Speaker 1: you can forget about yourself, and it really is important 889 00:46:51,680 --> 00:46:57,160 Speaker 1: to take care of yourself. I just got it's so hard, 890 00:46:58,080 --> 00:47:00,879 Speaker 1: so hard, it is. It's so are to like make 891 00:47:00,920 --> 00:47:03,800 Speaker 1: the time for yourself to go to a workout class, 892 00:47:05,080 --> 00:47:10,600 Speaker 1: never even heard of it, take a shower. If they're 893 00:47:10,600 --> 00:47:12,120 Speaker 1: gonna be crying when you get back where they won't 894 00:47:12,120 --> 00:47:15,640 Speaker 1: be crying, great, and you'll be guilt of like if 895 00:47:15,680 --> 00:47:19,480 Speaker 1: you have a free moment or whatever, you're like, well, 896 00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:21,040 Speaker 1: I should I should just be with my baby. Like 897 00:47:21,120 --> 00:47:26,000 Speaker 1: it's so like I mean a date with Adam, yeah, right, 898 00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:29,279 Speaker 1: like like especially like on this Broadway schedule, it's like 899 00:47:29,280 --> 00:47:31,000 Speaker 1: we get one day off a week, so I make 900 00:47:31,040 --> 00:47:33,719 Speaker 1: sure that the date consists of a dam and I 901 00:47:33,800 --> 00:47:37,439 Speaker 1: putting the baby to bed. But like, I mean, it's like, 902 00:47:37,960 --> 00:47:41,200 Speaker 1: but again, this is a phase, phase, and at the 903 00:47:41,280 --> 00:47:43,160 Speaker 1: end of the day, I'll be going to grow up 904 00:47:44,120 --> 00:47:47,359 Speaker 1: and you'll be you and Adam will have this This 905 00:47:47,400 --> 00:47:50,640 Speaker 1: could be a whole other episode because my am my, um. 906 00:47:50,680 --> 00:47:53,759 Speaker 1: I think someone said my. I love my sister in law. 907 00:47:53,800 --> 00:47:56,840 Speaker 1: We're very, very close and she's a incredible mother. But 908 00:47:56,920 --> 00:48:00,960 Speaker 1: they have this joke about her husband. It's like he's 909 00:48:00,960 --> 00:48:02,800 Speaker 1: always like, well, they're gonna leave and then you're gonna 910 00:48:02,880 --> 00:48:04,680 Speaker 1: be It's just gonna be me and you, honey. And 911 00:48:04,719 --> 00:48:08,480 Speaker 1: she's like, oh my god, Like what a reality. You're like, 912 00:48:08,960 --> 00:48:11,200 Speaker 1: oh crap, there. I mean, if we do our jobs 913 00:48:11,800 --> 00:48:14,040 Speaker 1: and we do a great job, these babies are going 914 00:48:14,080 --> 00:48:16,239 Speaker 1: to leave and they're going to be independent. And these 915 00:48:16,280 --> 00:48:20,080 Speaker 1: milestones of school or getting a job or moving out 916 00:48:20,160 --> 00:48:23,240 Speaker 1: to the goal and these real big milestones, these life 917 00:48:23,239 --> 00:48:26,480 Speaker 1: ones that they will remember, will be them growing up 918 00:48:26,520 --> 00:48:28,960 Speaker 1: and growing out of us. And then and then he 919 00:48:29,000 --> 00:48:34,080 Speaker 1: wouldn't go. My children went to sleep away camp this 920 00:48:34,160 --> 00:48:36,479 Speaker 1: summer two weeks and three weeks and it was like, oh, 921 00:48:36,880 --> 00:48:40,479 Speaker 1: you're still here. I should probably do something. Oh my god, 922 00:48:40,560 --> 00:48:43,240 Speaker 1: this has been so wildly helpful. That was a wonderful 923 00:48:43,280 --> 00:48:47,040 Speaker 1: tip of advice Danielle. Thank you, um, Danielle and Jamie 924 00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:49,680 Speaker 1: and Nicolette. I cannot thank you for your wise words 925 00:48:49,800 --> 00:48:55,000 Speaker 1: and making us laugh because really that's also very important. UM. 926 00:48:55,000 --> 00:48:57,200 Speaker 1: Thank you so much you guys for tuning into Katie's 927 00:48:57,200 --> 00:49:12,000 Speaker 1: crib and talking about milestone. I U I do