WEBVTT - LETTING GO: Letting love

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have

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<v Speaker 1>put together some of my favorite radio moments here to

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<v Speaker 1>share with you on our daily podcast, Do Love. Hey

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<v Speaker 1>it's Delilah. Hello, my friend, and welcome. Today we're going

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<v Speaker 1>to be talking about letting go, letting go and letting

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<v Speaker 1>love develop and grow and blossom on its own. We're

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<v Speaker 1>going to talk about not holding on so tightly, not

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<v Speaker 1>squeezing the life out of real love. If you struggle

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<v Speaker 1>with letting things be, if you struggle with holding on

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<v Speaker 1>a little too tightly, stick around. You are going to

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<v Speaker 1>love today's edition of Hey It's Delilah. Hi, good evening.

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<v Speaker 1>You've called the Delilah Show. Who is this Hi?

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<v Speaker 2>My name is Gloria.

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<v Speaker 3>Can you hear me?

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, Gloria, I can hear you. Welcome. How can I

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<v Speaker 1>make your night more glorious? Gloria? Thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm calling because I want to make a request for

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<v Speaker 2>my girlfriend. We've been like on and off arguing and

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<v Speaker 2>just our relationship is kind of going in a direction

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<v Speaker 2>that I don't want it to know.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't want it to go because we loved just

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<v Speaker 4>so much.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, And who is this for?

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<v Speaker 4>This is for Nancy?

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<v Speaker 1>And how long have you been together.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, we've been together for six months.

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<v Speaker 1>That's not a good sign, honey, if the passion is

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<v Speaker 1>waning after only six months.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but we've spoken about it and I see how

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<v Speaker 4>much he really cares about me and love me, and

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<v Speaker 4>I don't want it to, you know, go away. I

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<v Speaker 4>don't want our love Noway.

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<v Speaker 1>So you know that chasing it, clinging to it, holding

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<v Speaker 1>onto it, trying to to grab it is like trying

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<v Speaker 1>to grab water, right, Yeah, until that the more you worry,

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<v Speaker 1>the more you fuss, the more you try to grab

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<v Speaker 1>hold of love and hang on tight with clinched fist,

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<v Speaker 1>the quicker this thing is gonna come to an end.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's what I don't want.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't want it to come to an end.

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<v Speaker 1>Then let go. Let go of the need to control it,

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<v Speaker 1>let go of the need to fix it, let go

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<v Speaker 1>of the need to squeeze the life out of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Love is not like a teddy bear or a stuffed

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<v Speaker 1>animal that you hold on to and squeeze for dear

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<v Speaker 1>life when you're scared or lonely. It's a living, breathing thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, your one hundred percent right.

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<v Speaker 4>And I just want her to know that I really

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<v Speaker 4>do love her.

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<v Speaker 1>This isn't a matter of I want her to know

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<v Speaker 1>I really do love her. What you want to know

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<v Speaker 1>is that she really does love you and the way

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<v Speaker 1>that you think that she should. That's what you really want.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, she does show me a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>I will play a song for your heart, and I

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<v Speaker 1>hope that you're able to find peace and joy in

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<v Speaker 1>this situation. Thank you, I do appreciate it. Hi, Welcome

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<v Speaker 1>to the Delilah Show. Who's this My name is Melissa.

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<v Speaker 3>I have wanted to talk to you since I was

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<v Speaker 3>like eight years old, and right now I was just

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<v Speaker 3>inspired to call. And there's somebody at my heart and

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<v Speaker 3>I don't it's hard, it's complicated.

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<v Speaker 2>I met this guy and.

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<v Speaker 3>We were really great and we live in different states

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<v Speaker 3>and it's kind of hard. And we went six months

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<v Speaker 3>and it was really great, and then I told him

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<v Speaker 3>how I felt, and then it kind of was like

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<v Speaker 3>he just left and went away, and I'm really like,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm hurt and I'm sad, and I don't know what

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<v Speaker 3>to do and I don't know if I should get

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<v Speaker 3>over it or if I'm being tested.

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<v Speaker 1>I got and.

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<v Speaker 3>So I wanted to have a song for him.

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<v Speaker 1>So is it over? As he closed the door on

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<v Speaker 1>any future, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>He's not really being responsive. He said he needs time,

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<v Speaker 3>so I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>No texts, no calls, no I miss you. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>He's it's over.

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<v Speaker 5>I know.

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<v Speaker 3>But he did this before and he came back.

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<v Speaker 1>I know. But why would you want to be a yo? Yo?

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<v Speaker 3>You're so right? You know.

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<v Speaker 1>If he's done this before and then came back, he's

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<v Speaker 1>shown that he is not somebody that you can rely on.

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<v Speaker 1>The kind of person you want to spend your life

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<v Speaker 1>with is somebody who will be completely committed to you,

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<v Speaker 1>who will be there through thick and thin. Who's somebody

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<v Speaker 1>that you can count on and depend on. He's not

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<v Speaker 1>that someone.

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<v Speaker 5>You're right.

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<v Speaker 3>I needed to hear that.

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<v Speaker 1>What he is doing to you, in and out, off

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<v Speaker 1>and on. I'm here, No, I'm not, Yes, I am no,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not. I want you. I want you. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if I want you? That is not love?

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<v Speaker 3>And will you play a song just for me for

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<v Speaker 3>me to heal?

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<v Speaker 1>I will. I will play a song for your sweetheart,

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<v Speaker 1>Stephen High. This is Delilah.

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<v Speaker 5>What can I do for you? How are you doing?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good?

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<v Speaker 5>Who are you thinking of Jennifer.

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<v Speaker 1>Who is Jennifer.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, she's a friend that I kind of wanted something more,

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<v Speaker 5>but you.

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<v Speaker 1>Kind of wanted something more. So you're in love with Jennifer,

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<v Speaker 1>but you don't think she's in love with you.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't think she is.

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<v Speaker 3>Now.

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<v Speaker 1>Did did she say so much? Did she say I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not interested? I'm not going there? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>Pretty much. What happened was I had a crush on

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<v Speaker 5>her before I do still, but for a very long time.

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<v Speaker 5>And I asked her out two times and she turned

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<v Speaker 5>me down two times. So I waited a while, about

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<v Speaker 5>nine months or so, and I wanted to ask red again.

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<v Speaker 5>So I wrote her a three page letter about how

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<v Speaker 5>I feel about her and things about me, and I

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<v Speaker 5>gave it to her finally, and she took it, read

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<v Speaker 5>it and called me, and we talked for hours and hours,

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<v Speaker 5>and they found out we have a lot in common,

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<v Speaker 5>a personal he's matched, and it just so much was

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<v Speaker 5>there and it was just so awesome. And we were

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<v Speaker 5>talking one day and I said, you know, I'll call

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<v Speaker 5>you back, said okay, And then when I did, I no,

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<v Speaker 5>I got no answer. I felt something there, but you know,

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<v Speaker 5>I guess it wasn't a two way street.

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<v Speaker 1>Well it sounds like it was a two way street,

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<v Speaker 1>and then she took the exit, the off round. And

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know why. Maybe it's because you know, somebody

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<v Speaker 1>else was in the picture before you. Maybe she's scared.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe there's stuff going on in her home life that

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<v Speaker 1>you know prevents her from being available. You don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>But what you do know is you did a good

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<v Speaker 1>thing by being honest and vulnerable. So pat yourself on

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<v Speaker 1>the back and move on down the road to light.

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<v Speaker 1>If she's the one, she'll catch up.

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<v Speaker 5>I hope.

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<v Speaker 1>So good luck, honey, thank you. Hi, good evening. Who's

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<v Speaker 1>this Hi?

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<v Speaker 5>This is Rachel.

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<v Speaker 1>Rachel, how are you tonight?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm great? How are you?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm wonderful.

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<v Speaker 6>I was wondering if you could play a song for

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<v Speaker 6>me because well, lately I've been going through My boyfriend

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<v Speaker 6>broke up with me and he told me if I

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<v Speaker 6>ever wanted to be with him, I would have to wait.

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<v Speaker 6>And I was like, oh, I was just really down

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<v Speaker 6>and the press and crying. Wait for what for us

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<v Speaker 6>if we could ever be together again.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait for what, like for six months for him to

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<v Speaker 1>get out of the military, for him to graduate, or

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<v Speaker 1>just you're supposed to put your life on hold. Well, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>he figures out who he is exactly.

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<v Speaker 6>He wanted to figure out who he was. And I said, okay, but.

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<v Speaker 1>I really, how old are you? How old to see?

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<v Speaker 6>I'm nineteen, he's twenty two. But I realized I don't

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<v Speaker 6>even know what I want and I can't wait for someone.

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<v Speaker 6>Then I can't be sad because I have so much

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<v Speaker 6>more in life and it's not worth it to cry

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<v Speaker 6>over someone and be depressed. And I have to get

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<v Speaker 6>on with my life and be who I am. And

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<v Speaker 6>like I know a lot of people will go through

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<v Speaker 6>breakups and it's like they just realize that the only

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<v Speaker 6>person that can make their lives better is themselves.

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<v Speaker 5>I just have to hold on.

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<v Speaker 6>Things will get better. It wasn't easy, but I just

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<v Speaker 6>had to open my eyes and realize that there are

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<v Speaker 6>a lot of things out there that can make my

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<v Speaker 6>life better. And if it means moving on, you know,

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<v Speaker 6>I can't wait for him.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me play that song for you and everybody else

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<v Speaker 1>who needs to reach that point. Thank you so much

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<v Speaker 1>to live, thank you, good luck. I so hope you

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<v Speaker 1>have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I enjoy

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<v Speaker 1>bringing them to you. I'll share more with you each weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey it's Delilah. Do you do