Speaker 1: Welcome back to the Overcomfort podcast. Thank you guys so
Speaker 1: much for choosing to listen to today's episode, and happy
Speaker 1: International Woman's Month. I know day just passed this last weekend,
Speaker 1: March eighth. If you are a woman and you're listening
Speaker 1: to this, this episode is for you, even for men.
Speaker 1: If you guys are tuning in, we are going to
Speaker 1: be talking about what it means to be a woman
Speaker 1: and how women should be treated. Please please please stick
Speaker 1: around because it is a topic so important to me.
Speaker 1: I am surrounded and admired. I have admired so many women,
Speaker 1: especially my mother and my sisters and a lot of artists,
Speaker 1: but I want to talk about what it means to
Speaker 1: be a woman to me. Originally, this episode was going
Speaker 1: to be with my nieces. I wanted to get their
Speaker 1: perspective being young and what it means to them and
Speaker 1: how important it is to them and how they see
Speaker 1: the world in society, and you know, it's good to
Speaker 1: see a different perspective. But unfortunately wet so it's just me,
Speaker 1: solo dolo, and we're going to be talking about it
Speaker 1: and hopefully it empowers you. And if you're feeling down today,
Speaker 1: if you're feeling less than or if you've been in
Speaker 1: situations for example, trigger warning, domestic abuse, any type of abuse, emotional,
Speaker 1: sexual harassment, all that. I just want to empower you today.
Speaker 1: You are worth more than those, than the circumstances that
Speaker 1: you've been through, than what people tell you, what others
Speaker 1: may say, because you are loved, You're wonderfully and fearfully made,
Speaker 1: and there is nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing, that is going
Speaker 1: to define your worth other than God and what He
Speaker 1: can offer you. So we're going to be exploring what
Speaker 1: it means to be a woman and how women should
Speaker 1: be treated in today's society. This is going to be
Speaker 1: probably a hot take, you know, give me your opinions,
Speaker 1: let's continue the conversation. Message me da meme, leave a comment, review, whatever,
Speaker 1: but let's start talking about what it means to be
Speaker 1: a woman today. Throughout history, women has been defined in
Speaker 1: so many ways. Obviously the biology, culture roles in society
Speaker 1: we have, you know, and personal identity roles in society.
Speaker 1: As far as the men should be the one to
Speaker 1: lead the men should, you know, Statistically men are supposed
Speaker 1: to have a better job than women. They're not, I
Speaker 1: don't want to say supposed to, but majority of the
Speaker 1: time they do. A lot of people think that it's
Speaker 1: less than a woman shouldn't be. You know, women aren't
Speaker 1: capable to lead. But women make almost fifty percent of
Speaker 1: the world's population, and yet they get treated so differently.
Speaker 1: Being a woman can mean so many things, like psychological
Speaker 1: aspects such as menstruation, pregnancy, and menopause. Obviously all that
Speaker 1: are are different, They're meant to be different. Aside from that,
Speaker 1: I feel like our bodies are so beautiful. We can create,
Speaker 1: we have the power to create something so beautiful, and
Speaker 1: you know, it obviously sucks. I'm gonna be, you know,
Speaker 1: completely honest to my but girls, I like when that
Speaker 1: time a month comes, I'm like, damn. Like, men don't
Speaker 1: ever get like it's they got it so easy. They
Speaker 1: don't have to worry about any of this. They just
Speaker 1: got to worry about taking care of bound there barely
Speaker 1: but for real, I get through those little moments, and
Speaker 1: we also have to deal with menopause and all that
Speaker 1: in our hormones, and it just sucks because it does.
Speaker 1: We do get treated differently in those ways. Like I
Speaker 1: would assume that you would treat them more carefully and
Speaker 1: with more thought, but they don't social expectations. Women are
Speaker 1: often expected to balance work, family, and personal ambitions. So,
Speaker 1: for example, a lot of machishthas think that women should
Speaker 1: be stay at home Mom's full respect to all the
Speaker 1: women that want to, but the woman that don't and
Speaker 1: have this man like, no, you're gonna stay your ass
Speaker 1: home and you're not gonna work. You're gonna take care
Speaker 1: of the kids, and you're gonna make sure there's food
Speaker 1: on the table when I get home. But her dreams
Speaker 1: are dying. What if this woman wanted to, I don't know,
Speaker 1: has a dream to start something, to sell something, to
Speaker 1: go out there, or she wanted to be a nurse,
Speaker 1: but she couldn't because she, you know, has a very
Speaker 1: strict husband, which is also not fair if you are
Speaker 1: in those situations. If you, guys, at any point in
Speaker 1: this episode need help, please please please contact the domestic
Speaker 1: violence line or a therapist or someone to help you,
Speaker 1: someone a close friend, et cetera. I'm here. But yeah,
Speaker 1: they're expected to just kind of of like, so you
Speaker 1: want the woman not to lead, but you want her
Speaker 1: to balance the home, the personal life, et cetera. You
Speaker 1: know what I mean. So it's kind of like a contradiction.
Speaker 1: Personal identity as gender is increasingly recognized as a spectrum,
Speaker 1: with some individuals identifying as a woman regardless of biological factors. Obviously,
Speaker 1: there's no single definition of what it means to be
Speaker 1: a woman. It's shaped by your personal experiences, society, and
Speaker 1: how you grew up. And I'm gonna ask you guys
Speaker 1: the same question for me, what does it mean to
Speaker 1: be a woman? To be empowered, to be a leader
Speaker 1: in my own way, in my own path, to reproduce,
Speaker 1: to guide, and I mean lead, not as far as
Speaker 1: like against a man, but with a man, and lead
Speaker 1: my children although I don't have children, but lead my
Speaker 1: children and the future generations and those around me. I
Speaker 1: feel like we hold so much power, and we hold
Speaker 1: so much grace that we're able to empower other women,
Speaker 1: and even mentally, I feel like we have it harder,
Speaker 1: Like our emotions are hormones, aren't mean something way more
Speaker 1: than a lot of people take that they take for granted.
Speaker 1: And I know also I gotta find that statistic as well.
Speaker 1: But I know women are a lot smarter than men.
Speaker 1: So men, do not start, do not play with us
Speaker 1: women like we are already ten steps ahead I believe
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna look that up too, how many women
Speaker 1: are in the CIA, because I feel like, if you're
Speaker 1: just just a little bit like a little bit crazy
Speaker 1: Foxica like me, you you're gonna search and you're gonna know,
Speaker 1: and like you know, especially when it comes to a relationship,
Speaker 1: like we know when we know, our intuition is so
Speaker 1: so powerful that men don't realize. But anyways, going back
Speaker 1: to the gender gap, to this day, there's a lot
Speaker 1: of challenges women face, significant barriers and various aspects of life.
Speaker 1: They earn eighty two percent eighty two cents for every
Speaker 1: dollar earned by men. Like the gender pay gap, it's
Speaker 1: even wider for women of color. One and three women
Speaker 1: in the worldwide. In the worldwide, one and three women
Speaker 1: worldwide experience physicals or sexual violence in their lifetime. And
Speaker 1: it domestic violence increased by twenty five to thirty three
Speaker 1: percent during COVID lockdowns, which is sad because obviously, you know,
Speaker 1: everyone has their own personal experience in COVID and what
Speaker 1: happened to them in the pandemic, and for that rate
Speaker 1: to go up, it makes me really really sad. Again,
Speaker 1: if you guys need help, I'm gonna leave a couple
Speaker 1: of links and please please please search. Also, fifty percent
Speaker 1: of the workforce are made up by women, but only
Speaker 1: hold ten percent of undred CEO positions. Politically, twenty six
Speaker 1: point seven percent of parliamentary seats globally are held by women.
Speaker 1: So if you're telling me that fifty percent of the
Speaker 1: world is made up by women, yeah, these percentage are
Speaker 1: less when it comes to work. So where are all the
Speaker 1: women at They're afraid at home, they're scared, or they
Speaker 1: don't feel adequate enough, they don't feel worthy enough because
Speaker 1: of what society has told us and led us to
Speaker 1: believe in our world today. And that's totally not fair.
Speaker 1: Like maybe that's just me in the way I grew up.
Speaker 1: My mom was very, very very I don't give a fuck.
Speaker 1: I'm a woman and she was a woman in her
Speaker 1: own class. She went against a lot of men and
Speaker 1: she made it out. And I want that to be
Speaker 1: a voice and to be able to inspire you ladies today. Also,
Speaker 1: I know that whether you guys don't know who my
Speaker 1: mom is or you guys do, look her up, Jennaveda,
Speaker 1: she is a star and my ultimate inspiration in life.
Speaker 1: Do I want to say that my mom was perfect.
Speaker 1: She made a lot of mistakes. She was a good mom,
Speaker 1: but not the best. But she was a very inspiring woman.
Speaker 1: When it came to work, she was business handy. My
Speaker 1: mom went through a lot of domestic violence. She went
Speaker 1: through a lot of pain in her in her childhood.
Speaker 1: That has led her to stand her feet and stand
Speaker 1: her ground. And I want that same inspiration for my
Speaker 1: own life. Although I haven't gone through what my mother,
Speaker 1: my mother went through, I do believe that her story
Speaker 1: is impactful and especially in my life, and I want
Speaker 1: to be able to lead and guide my children in
Speaker 1: a better way than my mother did. And I think
Speaker 1: that we all have that one person. So if you
Speaker 1: look at if you look and admire at somebody, look
Speaker 1: at their mistakes and learn from them and also what
Speaker 1: they did, how they impacted the world. My mom was
Speaker 1: a strong woman in a very men defined field. All right,
Speaker 1: you guys, we're gonna want a quick break and we'll
Speaker 1: be right back. Welcome back. Now we're going to get
Speaker 1: into it biblically, what does it truly mean to be
Speaker 1: a woman. Womanhood is the reflection of God's creation. Obviously,
Speaker 1: in Genesis, he talks about creating man kind in his
Speaker 1: own image, the image of God. He created male and female,
Speaker 1: He created them, and I want you to take that
Speaker 1: with you today that whether you're feeling not the prettiest
Speaker 1: or you're not feeling the best about yourself, remember that
Speaker 1: you are created in his image. You're beautiful and meant
Speaker 1: to lead and guide. We are strong and capable, and
Speaker 1: we are important instruments to God's plan. For example, Mary, Ruth, Esther, Deborah.
Speaker 1: They obviously have impacted the Bible and impacted our world today.
Speaker 1: And I want you to take that with you whether
Speaker 1: you're feeling less than the other. And I guess it
Speaker 1: comes to the point where it says how women should
Speaker 1: be treated, and I want to preface this. And the
Speaker 1: reason why I wanted to do this with my nieces
Speaker 1: as well is because one of them was having a
Speaker 1: bad day and she come up to me and she
Speaker 1: was like, I don't feel pretty. And that saddened me
Speaker 1: so much. It hurt my heart because it's a how
Speaker 1: are you so young and feel this way? And then
Speaker 1: I reminded myself, I'm like and I told her I'm like, look, baby,
Speaker 1: felt I feel the same way sometimes and it's okay.
Speaker 1: To feel these things, and I empowered her and I
Speaker 1: told her, look, Mama, you are wonderfully and fearfully made.
Speaker 1: You are made in the image of God. There's no
Speaker 1: one person that's going to take away take that away
Speaker 1: from you, or that should change your mind about that.
Speaker 1: It is normal to have these feelings, but you have
Speaker 1: to take your power back and remind yourself who created
Speaker 1: you and why you were created. You have equal value
Speaker 1: and equal worth. Every woman deserves the same opportunities and
Speaker 1: leadership roles as men. Women should be empowered to lead, speak,
Speaker 1: and influence their communities. And we are strong, resilient and
Speaker 1: created in God's image. Whether in the workplace, church, or home,
Speaker 1: woman deserve to be valued, respected, and empowered. If you
Speaker 1: are in a situation where you're not feeling in any
Speaker 1: of these things, please leave find your worth. Find your
Speaker 1: worth in God, seek the image and the Kingdom of
Speaker 1: God so that you can know and feel and ask
Speaker 1: God to show you God, I want to see how
Speaker 1: you created me. I want to feel what it feels
Speaker 1: like to be loved by you. And going back on
Speaker 1: to my niece, it just made me sad because it's
Speaker 1: also how we treat others in our community, especially in
Speaker 1: schools or whatever. I think we could do better as parents.
Speaker 1: I'm not even a parent, but as adults and people
Speaker 1: that have the ability to lead and guide, we need
Speaker 1: to be better by uplifting each other and speaking better
Speaker 1: to ourselves, for our children, for the future generations, and
Speaker 1: even in our homes. If you guys are married, look husbands, men, brothers.
Speaker 1: If you have sisters, look how you're treating your sister.
Speaker 1: Treat your sister with with love and respect. Treat your mother,
Speaker 1: Honor your mother. Everything that you do is a reflection
Speaker 1: to others, and they will take that and so get in.
Speaker 1: We air sponges. We soak up information, we soak up experiences,
Speaker 1: and people take that and they will bleed it onto
Speaker 1: everybody else. So look at it. Look how you're treating people,
Speaker 1: and how that could be reflection in our future generations
Speaker 1: and societies. And I told myself, I'm going to speak
Speaker 1: better about myself in front of my nieces and my nephews.
Speaker 1: I'm going to do better by them because they deserve it.
Speaker 1: I don't ever want them to feel what I feel.
Speaker 1: And if that empowers them, it's going to empower me
Speaker 1: more to do better and be better. So if there's
Speaker 1: anything I could tell you guys today, women again, you're strong,
Speaker 1: resilient and creating God's image. You're valued, respected and empowered.
Speaker 1: Whether you feel that today or not, just take those
Speaker 1: words and let them soak in your brain and remember
Speaker 1: it is beautiful to be a woman. We have the
Speaker 1: capability to lead and to guide, and we hold more
Speaker 1: power than what has been told to us. So I
Speaker 1: want to ask you, guys, how can we do better
Speaker 1: by a uplifting woman in our communities. Make sure you
Speaker 1: guys let me know in the comments, share your thoughts,
Speaker 1: and I want to thank you guys so much for
Speaker 1: tuning in. Please subscribe, share and leave a review. And
Speaker 1: until next time, remember, empowered women empower the world. See
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