WEBVTT - Justice is Served 0:00:03.640 --> 0:00:06.320 Hey, there are folks. In this episode, Amy Robot goes 0:00:06.440 --> 0:00:09.879 back to Catholic church. But why is it that I 0:00:10.119 --> 0:00:12.959 was the one who felt like he was burning in hell? Also, 0:00:13.360 --> 0:00:16.680 how a self proclaimed Jewish mom helped us in our 0:00:16.720 --> 0:00:20.720 hour of need. Plus, I have drinks and I party 0:00:21.480 --> 0:00:26.640 with Amy Robock's ex husband, and we are considering coming 0:00:27.080 --> 0:00:30.000 to your city. We'd like to hear if you'd like 0:00:30.080 --> 0:00:33.000 us to come by. And finally, our guest today poses 0:00:33.040 --> 0:00:36.680 a question to us, and it may be the most 0:00:36.680 --> 0:00:41.040 intriguing question we've been asked in a year and a half. 0:00:41.080 --> 0:00:43.640 And with that, everybody, welcome to this episode of Amy 0:00:43.680 --> 0:00:47.160 and TJ Robes. But first, can you call women out there? Girls? 0:00:47.440 --> 0:00:49.920 Help me out? Why is it that you all wear 0:00:50.159 --> 0:00:55.000 things that are clearly uncomfortable for the sake of being cute? 0:00:55.160 --> 0:00:57.520 Robock helped me with that because we dealt with this. 0:00:57.720 --> 0:00:59.480 We've been dealing with us for the past couple of hours. 0:00:59.520 --> 0:01:00.600 You ain't come right now. 0:01:00.600 --> 0:01:03.400 Well, I have been trained since I can remember, Oh 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:06.560 trained you my mom and my grandmother that if it's 0:01:06.600 --> 0:01:09.720 pain for beauty, it's pain worth having. You know, if 0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:11.679 you're telling me I have to endure something because I 0:01:11.720 --> 0:01:14.480 have to have some like medical treatment to survive, then 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:16.839 I'm going to complain. But if it's just to look better, 0:01:17.000 --> 0:01:17.480 I got this. 0:01:17.800 --> 0:01:20.080 Why is that? Why that mindset? I don't think guys. 0:01:20.120 --> 0:01:22.760 I don't think guys do that, But why, Like I 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:26.720 think classically heels, you all will do whatever to wear 0:01:26.760 --> 0:01:28.559 some sexy heels just in pain. 0:01:28.959 --> 0:01:32.120 But your legs have never looked better in heels, so 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:32.959 it's worth it. 0:01:32.959 --> 0:01:35.080 It's bizarre that you're no matter what I say, you're 0:01:35.200 --> 0:01:38.080 justifying like I am the idiot for questioning that you 0:01:38.240 --> 0:01:40.560 all might do this, not that you all might say. 0:01:40.600 --> 0:01:45.039 You know what, maybe we should not be sacrificing our 0:01:45.120 --> 0:01:49.480 physical comfort for the sake of looking good for whoever. 0:01:49.720 --> 0:01:52.000 It's just it's just the level of pain and what 0:01:52.080 --> 0:01:54.640 it's worth. So there's a scale. You know, I'm not 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:56.880 gonna go be in I'm not gonna be suffering, but 0:01:56.920 --> 0:01:59.760 if it's slightly uncomfortable but I look great, I'm gonna 0:01:59.760 --> 0:02:00.000 do it. 0:02:00.080 --> 0:02:02.640 You're telling me you've never suffered for the sake of 0:02:02.680 --> 0:02:03.360 what you how you. 0:02:03.320 --> 0:02:06.880 Looked heals one percent. I've suffered without a doubt. So 0:02:07.520 --> 0:02:11.239 you see when I walked a little slower ten maybe 0:02:11.280 --> 0:02:12.960 it was like a seven on the scale of pain. 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:14.560 And we're talking about it now. I don't think it's pain, 0:02:14.639 --> 0:02:18.440 but it's comfort you you today ever since I came by, right, 0:02:18.480 --> 0:02:21.160 I came back by at ten am, and we were 0:02:21.160 --> 0:02:23.079 just INU just me and you and Ava, and you're 0:02:23.120 --> 0:02:26.920 adjusting your outfit. You kept, like, uncomfortably, you continued to 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:29.000 adjust your outfit. I didn't know what was going on, 0:02:29.280 --> 0:02:31.600 and then I pieced it together, but you explained, and 0:02:31.639 --> 0:02:34.799 then we got on the train and you were still adjusting. 0:02:34.880 --> 0:02:36.960 Now you look adorable. Don't get me wrong, you are. 0:02:37.080 --> 0:02:39.760 You are summer cute. I mean, it is fantastic, y'all 0:02:39.760 --> 0:02:41.440 can't see it right now? She has this orange top 0:02:41.480 --> 0:02:43.200 on what do you call this thing? It's what it's 0:02:43.200 --> 0:02:46.000 a halter top, a halt the top. It's orange, it's bright, 0:02:46.120 --> 0:02:48.520 it's banging. She has this short little skirt. 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:52.120 Yeah, probably you can't wear a bra with it, okay, 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:55.400 So should I go here like normally? I mean, you 0:02:55.440 --> 0:02:57.520 can go into the drug store, you can go anywhere 0:02:57.560 --> 0:03:00.720 and get these little sticky things. So in lieu of 0:03:00.720 --> 0:03:03.800 a bra, you're just you know, not exposing more than 0:03:03.840 --> 0:03:06.440 you'd like. And so I left my sticky things at 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:06.919 your place. 0:03:07.080 --> 0:03:08.440 Okay, what are those things? 0:03:08.760 --> 0:03:12.840 What they're called? They do? We know what they're called? Pedals? 0:03:12.919 --> 0:03:13.399 Pedals. 0:03:13.480 --> 0:03:16.720 Yes, you can either like buy the ones that are 0:03:16.960 --> 0:03:18.680 one and done so they just stick on to you 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:20.880 like a band aid, or you can get the kind 0:03:20.919 --> 0:03:22.680 that have a little bit more silicone in them and 0:03:22.680 --> 0:03:25.520 they just kind of stick to your chest and they 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:28.480 stay put. Well, I don't have them, so I use 0:03:28.680 --> 0:03:30.920 you gut. Girls are going to laugh, so everyone knows. 0:03:30.960 --> 0:03:33.760 This is also something that drives me crazy. Sports bras 0:03:34.040 --> 0:03:36.600 you need a little padding sometimes, but they have these 0:03:37.160 --> 0:03:39.800 inserts that come out constantly and you have to constantly 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:41.840 move them around, and when you're washing them, they fall 0:03:41.880 --> 0:03:43.960 out in the dryer. I want to create a sports 0:03:44.000 --> 0:03:48.120 bra that has them in place. Okay, sorry, okay, I'm 0:03:48.120 --> 0:03:51.240 getting a preach from our producer here. Yes, uh, one 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:51.840 hundred percent. 0:03:52.360 --> 0:03:54.600 So I took those out of a sports braud I 0:03:54.720 --> 0:03:58.400 put them Wait what, I put them in my shirt 0:03:58.880 --> 0:04:00.760 so that I have a little bit of but they're 0:04:00.760 --> 0:04:03.240 not sticking like my sticky ones do, so they're moving 0:04:03.280 --> 0:04:04.000 around a little bit. 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:06.600 Okay, but you didn't have either of those options this morning. 0:04:07.200 --> 0:04:08.960 Well, no, I have that on right now? 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:12.960 Oh, you have that one. This is what you're wearing. 0:04:13.280 --> 0:04:15.920 This is why you're adjusting. Folks don't know. I am 0:04:15.920 --> 0:04:19.479 holding in my hand a weird padded thing that looks 0:04:19.520 --> 0:04:22.040 like something you would use at a restaurant to even 0:04:22.080 --> 0:04:27.400 the table out underneath if the tables. Okay, that goes 0:04:27.440 --> 0:04:30.120 to the sports ra The reason I know that the 0:04:30.200 --> 0:04:33.960 sticky things were not an option because the sticky things 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:35.800 are on my nightstand this morning. 0:04:36.800 --> 0:04:39.720 Yep, that's exactly what happened. So it's not that I'm uncomfortable. 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:42.039 I'm just adjusting because they're moving around a little bit. 0:04:42.120 --> 0:04:45.039 But that's what I mean. You're uncomfortable, You're not. You're 0:04:45.120 --> 0:04:47.560 you're constantly adjusting something today. 0:04:47.720 --> 0:04:49.000 But thanks for sharing on my phone. 0:04:49.040 --> 0:04:51.200 But no, it's not a beauty No, no, no, I didn't. 0:04:51.240 --> 0:04:54.520 That's not a beauty secret. Every woman knows what you're 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:58.680 talking about. Just I didn't understand why it was still 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:02.000 worth it to you to constantly adjust or have it 0:05:02.040 --> 0:05:05.320 on your mind for the sake of being banged. 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:08.559 I just didn't want them to be anything extra showing 0:05:08.600 --> 0:05:10.240 that shouldn't that's all. 0:05:10.680 --> 0:05:13.320 Well, you look great, hey, and yes, everybody, I didn't. 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:15.000 We didn't plan on starting with that, but hey, that 0:05:15.080 --> 0:05:19.400 was the train ride. But we have had a heck 0:05:19.480 --> 0:05:22.320 of a week here last few days, the last few podcasts, 0:05:22.560 --> 0:05:24.840 I think a lot of no, we appreciate it. We've 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:27.480 gotten a lot of feedback from you all, and it's 0:05:27.720 --> 0:05:30.600 resonated to some degree, or at least a degree. We 0:05:30.600 --> 0:05:33.080 were very proud of the event we had at SOHO 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:35.800 House in which it was our first time speaking in 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:38.839 front of a live audience. But the other episode of 0:05:38.839 --> 0:05:41.360 the podcast that really got we got a lot of 0:05:41.400 --> 0:05:43.440 feedback on and we were so proud of and happy 0:05:43.440 --> 0:05:46.400 about was the episode that had that featured your parents, 0:05:46.440 --> 0:05:49.280 who were happy, we're just coming to town because your 0:05:49.360 --> 0:05:51.960 daughter was graduating high school, and we kind of just say, 0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:53.960 you know what, let's just happen. It wasn't a plan. 0:05:54.080 --> 0:05:56.920 It really happened the day before the plan came together. 0:05:57.560 --> 0:05:59.919 And what an episode is absolutely my favorite. 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:01.320 Yeah, I mean you know what. It was sweet because 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:03.360 it was your idea. To be specific, you said, hey, 0:06:03.360 --> 0:06:06.160 would your parents do the podcast with us? And I said, 0:06:06.279 --> 0:06:09.080 I think so, but let me ask, And then we 0:06:09.200 --> 0:06:10.840 joked and my mom wanted to know what we were 0:06:10.839 --> 0:06:12.919 going to ask her, and you assured her it was 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:14.880 going to be nothing that she didn't already know the 0:06:14.920 --> 0:06:19.159 answer to. But I've never seen them more comfortable. I've 0:06:19.240 --> 0:06:21.960 kind of forced them over the years wherever I've worked 0:06:21.960 --> 0:06:24.320 to do certain things on camera, and of course it's 0:06:24.360 --> 0:06:25.800 not the thing you do for a living. It's a 0:06:25.800 --> 0:06:29.159 little jarring, and you kind of are overthinking what you 0:06:29.160 --> 0:06:30.839 should do or what you should say. But I saw 0:06:30.880 --> 0:06:37.280 them at their absolute most comfortable. Honest, I was impressed 0:06:37.279 --> 0:06:39.800 by them. But what I was most impressed by was 0:06:41.240 --> 0:06:43.680 not only everyone's reaction to them, but your reaction to 0:06:43.720 --> 0:06:46.480 them specifically. I appreciate everyone, by the way, who wrote 0:06:46.480 --> 0:06:48.720 in on Instagram or on social media just to say 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:52.520 kind things about them, because everything that you wrote is true. 0:06:52.560 --> 0:06:56.760 They are a salt of the earth, wonderful, beautiful, pious, 0:06:58.600 --> 0:07:04.200 hard working, earn like beyond, and just to see other 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:07.360 people recognize that made me so happy. But I also 0:07:07.400 --> 0:07:11.200 told you you sat yesterday and started to speak. You 0:07:11.280 --> 0:07:12.760 re listened to the podcast. 0:07:13.280 --> 0:07:15.840 That was my first times it almost a week so 0:07:15.920 --> 0:07:18.120 we recorded it. I didn't listen to it till almost 0:07:18.200 --> 0:07:20.000 a week after we did it. It had already been out 0:07:20.000 --> 0:07:23.000 there so yeah, I just as I was getting round 0:07:23.040 --> 0:07:24.960 this decided to put it on and I was blown away. 0:07:25.280 --> 0:07:30.320 And you came over really enthusiastically talking about how much 0:07:30.400 --> 0:07:36.400 you appreciated my mom's honesty and her feistiness and her 0:07:36.880 --> 0:07:39.880 humor and then my dad's quiet wisdom. 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:41.040 He nailed it every time. 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:43.600 And you said that, and honestly, like, I got tears 0:07:43.640 --> 0:07:47.120 in my eyes seeing how much my man, my guy, 0:07:48.080 --> 0:07:50.960 not only loves my parents but respects them and maybe 0:07:51.000 --> 0:07:55.360 even more importantly likes them. And that has been huge. 0:07:55.680 --> 0:07:58.400 But you know, that is a big deal. With potential 0:07:58.480 --> 0:08:00.760 in laws or just family members of the people you love, 0:08:00.800 --> 0:08:02.400 it doesn't always go that way. 0:08:02.480 --> 0:08:04.440 But you know, I've liked hanging out with your parents 0:08:04.920 --> 0:08:05.440 for years. 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:07.679 You have. You've always said that, And I've hung. 0:08:07.520 --> 0:08:10.080 With your parents with you not around for years. You 0:08:10.160 --> 0:08:12.880 have and almost preferred to hang out with your parents 0:08:12.880 --> 0:08:13.600 when you're not around. 0:08:13.720 --> 0:08:15.680 You've taken it a step too far. Okay, sorry, but 0:08:16.080 --> 0:08:19.880 I genuinely felt so, Like, you know, it's like when 0:08:19.880 --> 0:08:22.960 someone tells you they love your child, when you'd say that, 0:08:23.160 --> 0:08:24.960 you know what I mean, Like it's like an extension 0:08:25.000 --> 0:08:27.440 of you and that you have no control over to 0:08:28.240 --> 0:08:31.160 a large degree, and when you came over and just 0:08:31.200 --> 0:08:33.320 were genuinely because I let's just say this about you. 0:08:33.480 --> 0:08:36.359 I think you can be honest here. You don't necessarily 0:08:37.080 --> 0:08:38.000 like a lot of people. 0:08:38.320 --> 0:08:39.679 Does that sound so bad? 0:08:39.960 --> 0:08:46.520 It's just you are discerning, you have You're very honest, 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:49.840 and it takes a lot, I think, for people to 0:08:49.880 --> 0:08:51.040 impress you. It does. 0:08:53.080 --> 0:08:56.480 What I'm saying, I don't. I don't waste time trying 0:08:56.520 --> 0:09:00.520 to fool somebody into thinking that I like them or 0:09:00.559 --> 0:09:02.360 I want to spend time with them. This was a 0:09:02.360 --> 0:09:05.280 lot of people said was to my detriment in media 0:09:05.400 --> 0:09:08.200 and in big corporate in a big corporate world, I 0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:10.560 never I've hung out. I've had bosses and presidents of 0:09:10.559 --> 0:09:12.920 companies that I loved and hung out with as friends, 0:09:12.920 --> 0:09:15.000 but never asked them to do anything for me. But 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:17.640 I've never been one to go kiss the ring or 0:09:17.720 --> 0:09:22.800 try to make good with the boss just because. So yeah, 0:09:22.840 --> 0:09:25.600 and to that way, discerning, I just if I like 0:09:25.679 --> 0:09:27.079 you, you know it. If I don't like you, I don't 0:09:27.080 --> 0:09:29.400 want to spend time with you. It's you might not 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:30.640 know it, but. 0:09:30.880 --> 0:09:32.760 You probably do know it. 0:09:32.760 --> 0:09:35.040 It's not because he's mean to me. It's because he's 0:09:35.760 --> 0:09:38.040 he didn't show up, or he didn't call back, or 0:09:38.040 --> 0:09:40.520 he didn't message back, or he did it's probably more so. 0:09:40.520 --> 0:09:43.160 That I don't want that to be a negative because 0:09:43.520 --> 0:09:45.240 one of the things I love about you is that 0:09:45.320 --> 0:09:47.880 you are who you are. You don't put on airs, 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:50.959 you don't pretend you're the opposite of being a bullshit 0:09:51.040 --> 0:09:53.880 or you are as real as they come. So in 0:09:53.920 --> 0:09:56.360 a weird way, like because we were always friends, I 0:09:56.360 --> 0:09:59.680 remember always feeling extra special because I knew you liked me, 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:04.400 and I was like, yay, he likes me, because you 0:10:04.480 --> 0:10:07.520 know what when you do. But anyway, you came over 0:10:07.720 --> 0:10:10.960 without them ever knowing or hearing or ever imagining that 0:10:11.000 --> 0:10:14.400 I would say anything, but just I was so blown 0:10:14.400 --> 0:10:17.760 away at your reaction to them and what they had 0:10:17.760 --> 0:10:19.960 to say. So it was really it was really great. 0:10:20.120 --> 0:10:23.080 So we left that podcast recorded with your parents. They 0:10:23.080 --> 0:10:25.840 were here for the graduation now you all. We recorded 0:10:25.880 --> 0:10:29.840 that at nine thirty in the morning that Thursday, and 0:10:30.000 --> 0:10:32.840 I mean it was a rat race. After that. We 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:35.760 left the studio and we had to get set up 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:39.719 at your home to host about thirty people, and you 0:10:39.760 --> 0:10:43.839 all had to leave for the graduation, which was at five, 0:10:43.920 --> 0:10:47.760 but you all left plenty early. So I am left 0:10:47.800 --> 0:10:52.920 at the house. There's no ice, there's no beer. There 0:10:53.000 --> 0:10:56.240 was wine, but the food was coming. I had to 0:10:56.280 --> 0:10:59.400 receive because I didn't actually go to the graduation at St. Patris. 0:10:59.440 --> 0:11:01.640 We had a very limited number of tickets at Saint 0:11:01.640 --> 0:11:03.440 Patt's because of the seating capacity. 0:11:03.640 --> 0:11:06.880 Maybe, yes, so I am okay being the good boyfriend, 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:10.680 which is great. That's that's fine. Okay. Now when you left. 0:11:11.200 --> 0:11:12.760 Before you left, that was a little bit of a 0:11:12.800 --> 0:11:16.240 panic because you got that many people. You need ice, yep, 0:11:16.360 --> 0:11:20.000 drinks to keep things cold. The last thing I've said 0:11:20.040 --> 0:11:22.640 to you when you were trying to order things, I said, Baby, 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:25.079 order too much ice. 0:11:25.480 --> 0:11:28.520 You said, whatever, you do, order more ice than you 0:11:28.559 --> 0:11:29.080 think we need. 0:11:29.160 --> 0:11:31.200 Whatever you think. It's like being at the movie theater 0:11:31.200 --> 0:11:33.240 and they give you butter and you say, hey, when 0:11:33.280 --> 0:11:35.360 you think you put too much, put some more butter on. 0:11:35.679 --> 0:11:38.760 It was one of those things, Baby, order too much ice. 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:41.280 I can let ice melt, but if I don't have 0:11:41.480 --> 0:11:43.400 enough ice, it's gonna be a problem. 0:11:43.520 --> 0:11:43.800 Yep. 0:11:44.280 --> 0:11:47.400 So you go to church for the graduation, yep, which 0:11:47.480 --> 0:11:51.920 was at five. This was all we should look at it. 0:11:52.200 --> 0:11:54.640 I assure it was the hottest, most humid day on 0:11:54.720 --> 0:11:56.240 record in New York City this year. 0:11:56.320 --> 0:11:59.199 It was crazy. I've not felt that kind of humidity 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:02.719 at all in maybe a year, like other than being 0:12:02.720 --> 0:12:04.560 in New Orleans. It was that human. 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:06.960 There was that human. So they all go to the graduation. 0:12:07.040 --> 0:12:09.840 They're sitting inside was the was the cathedral air condition. 0:12:09.960 --> 0:12:10.520 It was lovely. 0:12:10.640 --> 0:12:13.800 That's awesome. So I am. I'm at the house. The 0:12:13.920 --> 0:12:18.120 food comes. Wonder if we have enough. I'm sweating, y'all. 0:12:18.120 --> 0:12:21.720 I'm literally in her home with sweatpants on and no shirt. 0:12:22.080 --> 0:12:24.800 It's hots. Also my inside outside. 0:12:24.320 --> 0:12:26.400 And my AC doesn't work so well in the back. 0:12:26.200 --> 0:12:28.400 Though, yeah, but yeah, and even one in the front 0:12:28.760 --> 0:12:29.839 unevenly does run. 0:12:29.960 --> 0:12:31.960 It's a really New York City. 0:12:31.440 --> 0:12:34.720 What I'm saying, y'all is it was hot. The ice comes. 0:12:35.600 --> 0:12:38.840 We have a cooler in this little outdoor area. The 0:12:39.000 --> 0:12:42.720 ice comes for thirty people. There are one hundred cans 0:12:42.800 --> 0:12:47.559 of beer and stuff that came. The ice isn't enough 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:50.400 to even fill up a third of the cooler. Whoops, 0:12:50.800 --> 0:12:51.400 a third. 0:12:51.559 --> 0:12:54.640 They were five pound bags, not twenty third. 0:12:55.160 --> 0:13:00.240 Was called the cooler. So right, they're at the graduation. 0:13:00.520 --> 0:13:02.319 I know they're going to be back at six thirty, 0:13:02.520 --> 0:13:04.560 and people are going to start coming at seven thirty, 0:13:04.760 --> 0:13:08.240 so it's five fifteen, five point thirty six o'clock. I 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:10.920 try to order ice Instacart and it says it can 0:13:10.960 --> 0:13:14.520 be there between six fifteen and seven forty nine. Like, oh, 0:13:14.559 --> 0:13:17.800 that's cutting it too close. I gotta go get ice, yep, 0:13:17.920 --> 0:13:19.640 and a lot of it. So this is what happens, y'all. 0:13:20.840 --> 0:13:21.520 I do put on a. 0:13:21.559 --> 0:13:23.920 Shirt at least before I leave, but you with sweatpants 0:13:23.960 --> 0:13:24.959 and dress shoes. 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:30.320 Else I'm walking down in through Tribeca, y'all with sweatpants 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:34.000 and tasseled dress shoes, it's true, and a T shirt. 0:13:34.360 --> 0:13:37.480 And I go to a seven eleven and I say, ma'am, 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:39.880 I need ten bags of ice, but I can only 0:13:39.960 --> 0:13:42.440 carry about five on my own right now. Can I 0:13:42.480 --> 0:13:44.280 pay you for them all? And then I'll come back 0:13:44.320 --> 0:13:46.800 and make another trip. The lady says, you poor thing, 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:50.040 gives me a trash bag out from behind the counter, 0:13:50.400 --> 0:13:55.520 says try this. I walk back with six bags two blocks. 0:13:54.960 --> 0:13:57.200 In the heat like Sandy Claus. 0:13:56.760 --> 0:14:00.760 Literally off me. I dumped that ice. I grab some 0:14:00.880 --> 0:14:02.600 bags you have at the house. I go back to 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:05.280 seven eleven fill up with another. I think it was 0:14:05.360 --> 0:14:06.120 twelve bags. 0:14:06.160 --> 0:14:11.480 Oh my gosh, while you're in church yep, and air conditioning. 0:14:12.600 --> 0:14:14.120 You should be on fire. 0:14:14.320 --> 0:14:16.560 But you know what's so sweet? He does all of this. 0:14:16.920 --> 0:14:19.880 I come in, I don't know what he's been through, 0:14:19.920 --> 0:14:22.360 and he doesn't tell me until the next day. He 0:14:22.480 --> 0:14:24.760 was like, I didn't want to make you feel bad 0:14:24.960 --> 0:14:27.040 or to worry about it, so I just did it. 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:29.680 I didn't say anything about it. He didn't say one 0:14:29.880 --> 0:14:31.000 word until the next day. 0:14:31.480 --> 0:14:34.240 The whole party took place that night. Nothing. But the 0:14:34.280 --> 0:14:36.680 next morning she got up and I woke her up 0:14:36.720 --> 0:14:41.040 like this, like rattling ice in earth. Hear that ice? Baby. 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:41.960 I got started to see. 0:14:42.040 --> 0:14:44.240 There's a reason why we have an ice is what 0:14:44.320 --> 0:14:48.120 it is. I was like, oh my god, I'm so sorry. 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:49.920 You're like, that's why I didn't tell you. That's why 0:14:49.920 --> 0:14:50.520 I didn't tell you. 0:14:50.680 --> 0:14:52.560 But it's all right. The party was great. I mentioned 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:54.680 at the time, I was partying. Yes, I was having 0:14:54.760 --> 0:14:58.640 drinks in the kitchen and having conversation with your ex husband. 0:14:58.800 --> 0:15:02.560 Yep, your first, yes, my first yes. 0:15:03.000 --> 0:15:05.520 Ye're yes. At least the name is Dad was a 0:15:05.520 --> 0:15:06.360 part of the festivity. 0:15:06.520 --> 0:15:09.560 Yes, yes, their dad Tim and his wife Jess, who 0:15:09.760 --> 0:15:12.480 they're both lovely people. They flew in from South Carolina 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:15.000 and so they were there and we were all in 0:15:15.040 --> 0:15:18.000 this apartment together with my parents and by the way, 0:15:18.040 --> 0:15:22.280 Sabine as well came in for the festivities and it 0:15:22.560 --> 0:15:25.520 was beautiful. It went off without a hitch. I don't 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:28.160 think I've ever had a party where I've had so 0:15:28.200 --> 0:15:30.640 many people I'd never met before, because it was parents 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:33.880 of other young women who were all there together, and 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:37.920 it really just was this beautiful and you you made 0:15:37.960 --> 0:15:41.640 it perfect, so thank you. Thank you. Had ice in 0:15:41.680 --> 0:15:43.680 their drinks and that was very important. 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:46.120 Every every michaelob Ultra was cold. 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:47.800 It was. It was indeed. 0:15:56.720 --> 0:15:59.320 The other part. Look, we had a series of podcasts 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:01.600 here that kind of got I guess got on more 0:16:01.640 --> 0:16:03.480 of a personal note, but it was back in March 0:16:03.520 --> 0:16:05.760 we told you all with the last couple of episodes, 0:16:05.760 --> 0:16:08.400 we had an event at Soho House here in New 0:16:08.480 --> 0:16:14.000 York and it it went well and we've gotten great 0:16:14.040 --> 0:16:17.200 feedback from you all as well about the episodes. But 0:16:17.800 --> 0:16:20.080 that only came about because of a friend of ours. 0:16:21.040 --> 0:16:23.120 Mortin Akachuku is his name. He's the head of a 0:16:23.200 --> 0:16:25.960 company called what Works, but a friend somebody went to 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:29.960 college with, but a robot we connected with here, reconnected 0:16:30.000 --> 0:16:32.160 with I guess this year and he was the one 0:16:32.160 --> 0:16:33.280 that sat us down and saying, you know, what you 0:16:33.280 --> 0:16:36.120 guys should do? And it was his idea and we 0:16:36.200 --> 0:16:38.480 said no, he said, not that sounds crazy. First of all, 0:16:38.480 --> 0:16:40.040 nobody's going to show up. Who the hell wants to 0:16:40.040 --> 0:16:42.080 show up and listen to us say anything was our 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:44.040 first thing. He just shook his head like, you don't 0:16:44.040 --> 0:16:48.160 even know, you don't even know, so it it was 0:16:48.560 --> 0:16:50.720 not our idea. We want to give him credit for it, 0:16:50.880 --> 0:16:53.800 but us complaint said nobody's going to show up. There's 0:16:53.800 --> 0:16:56.360 no way in hell. And sure enough, when tickets were 0:16:56.360 --> 0:16:59.520 made available, he sent me a note said tickets went up, 0:17:00.080 --> 0:17:02.480 they were going in an hour. So all the tickets were 0:17:02.480 --> 0:17:05.560 going an hour. We had a packed house, a lot 0:17:05.560 --> 0:17:09.480 of standing room in the house. But it was a 0:17:09.520 --> 0:17:11.919 big deal because we hadn't faced an audience in the 0:17:11.960 --> 0:17:12.520 year and a half. 0:17:12.600 --> 0:17:14.480 Yeah, I mean, and we talked about it when we 0:17:14.520 --> 0:17:17.200 first started. If you all listened to the first live 0:17:17.240 --> 0:17:19.920 episode from the SOHO House, I mean, we were saying 0:17:19.960 --> 0:17:22.240 we were nervous. But my god, here just to explain 0:17:22.440 --> 0:17:24.960 just how nervous we were. I mean TJ was pacing 0:17:26.480 --> 0:17:29.479 and our hands were shaking, like if you put our 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:31.959 hands out, they were shaking. We had not been in 0:17:31.960 --> 0:17:35.879 front of people other than a few select folks, so 0:17:35.960 --> 0:17:38.680 we knew we were safe with We had never opened 0:17:38.680 --> 0:17:42.120 ourselves up to an audience. We didn't know who said 0:17:42.160 --> 0:17:44.120 yes to the tickets, we didn't know who was there, 0:17:44.160 --> 0:17:45.960 we didn't know who would ask us what questions, and 0:17:46.000 --> 0:17:48.520 we knew we were opening ourselves up to being asked anything, 0:17:48.880 --> 0:17:53.679 and we genuinely prepared ourselves for every the worst, yeah. 0:17:53.520 --> 0:17:57.640 The worst. We actually had a discussion about security. I said, sweetheart, 0:17:57.640 --> 0:17:59.520 if so and so one happens, if this happens and 0:17:59.560 --> 0:18:01.280 we need to go here, I'm gonna grab you and 0:18:01.320 --> 0:18:03.200 were We actually had that discussion. 0:18:03.320 --> 0:18:05.639 And not to be dramatic, I mean, this is the truth. 0:18:05.920 --> 0:18:09.919 I had multiple emails that involved death threats. When the 0:18:10.200 --> 0:18:13.040 first pictures went up, people were so angry, not just 0:18:13.119 --> 0:18:17.359 about what they said was behind our relationship, but just 0:18:17.400 --> 0:18:19.400 the fact that we were an interracial couple. I had 0:18:19.480 --> 0:18:25.800 some racial fueled, you know, hateful emails that actually went 0:18:25.840 --> 0:18:28.040 into descriptions about how they were going to kill us both. 0:18:28.080 --> 0:18:30.560 So yes, there was genuine like, I know those are 0:18:30.640 --> 0:18:33.760 outliers and random folks, but you just can't not take 0:18:33.800 --> 0:18:36.639 that seriously in those moments when you first put yourself 0:18:36.680 --> 0:18:38.040 back out there in the public. 0:18:37.800 --> 0:18:40.000 And we were in a position we walk into the room, 0:18:40.680 --> 0:18:45.080 we didn't essentially see the room until they Martin introduced us. 0:18:45.280 --> 0:18:47.199 Here's Am and TJ. And we walk in and we're 0:18:47.240 --> 0:18:50.000 seeing the room for the first time. Lights were on us. 0:18:50.320 --> 0:18:53.040 It was we actually still couldn't really see the audience. 0:18:53.040 --> 0:18:54.960 We didn't know who was in there. We knew we 0:18:55.040 --> 0:18:57.280 had family members in there, the girls were in there, 0:18:57.320 --> 0:18:59.760 we had friends in there, but we didn't know. But 0:18:59.840 --> 0:19:02.239