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Speaker 2: new show. Lots of stuff going on. Got a lot
Speaker 2: of stuff to get into. Okay, I got Jimmy Butler
Speaker 2: to get into, all right, I got chad Ocho Sinko
Speaker 2: stuff to get into.
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Speaker 2: Got a lot of stuff to get into today, got
Speaker 2: a lot of interesting folks to talk to, so I
Speaker 2: can't wait to get started. But before I do any
Speaker 2: of that, I feel compelled to start off today's show
Speaker 2: with some news because Jimmy Butler, star of the Miami Heat,
Speaker 2: is making some noise. There have been rumors over the
Speaker 2: last several weeks that indeed he wanted out, even though
Speaker 2: his agent, Bernie Lee, had denied it at that time. Nevertheless,
Speaker 2: it's been made official because we heard from Jimmy Butler himself,
Speaker 2: and boy did we all hear from him. When he
Speaker 2: spoke up, it was not that pleasant. If you are
Speaker 2: pat Riley in the Miami Heat, this does not seem
Speaker 2: to be a star that wants to stay in this
Speaker 2: South Beach. Nevertheless, you don't usually hear such things from
Speaker 2: a player playing for Ley, but you heard it last night.
Speaker 1: Listen for yourself.
Speaker 3: I want to see me get my joy back from
Speaker 3: playing basketball, and wherever that may be, we'll we'll find
Speaker 3: out here pretty soon. But I want to get my
Speaker 3: joy back. I'm happy here, you know, off the court,
Speaker 3: but I want to be back to somewhere dominant. I
Speaker 3: want to hoop and I want to help this team win.
Speaker 3: Right now, I'm not doing that.
Speaker 1: Can you get your joy back here on the court?
Speaker 1: Probably not, Damn, ladies and gentlemen.
Speaker 2: I've been covering the NBA for close to thirty years.
Speaker 2: In that time, I don't recall hearing anybody that has
Speaker 2: played for Pat Riley when pat Rally was a coach,
Speaker 2: since pat Rally has been president of the basketball operations
Speaker 2: that have spoken that defiantly against an organization run by
Speaker 2: Pat Raley.
Speaker 1: It has never happened. Well, it's happened now.
Speaker 2: Jimmy Butler wants out, and I'm here to tell you
Speaker 2: I can't blame him. When you look at the Miami
Speaker 2: Heat presently a top six seed in the Eastern Conference,
Speaker 2: seventeen to fifteen, two games over five hundred at the
Speaker 2: time that we are recording this show. Nevertheless, nobody has
Speaker 2: them in the championship equation. And when you listen to
Speaker 2: Jimmy Butler, what essentially is it that he is saying.
Speaker 2: I'll tell you what he's saying he're saying, we're not
Speaker 2: very good and we're not going to compete for a championship.
Speaker 2: We're likely not better than the Milwaukee Bucks, We're probably
Speaker 2: not better than the New York Knicks, we definitely ain't
Speaker 2: better than the Cleveland Cavaliers, and we damn sure ain't
Speaker 2: better than a reigning defending NBA champion Boston Celtics. In
Speaker 2: other words, we have no chance at this particular juncture
Speaker 2: with the team that we presently have.
Speaker 1: In this assemble.
Speaker 2: If you are the Miami Heat, you can be a
Speaker 2: bit salty for how Jimmy Butler has chosen to handle this,
Speaker 2: and we would all understand that, but respectfully, how wrong
Speaker 2: is he? We hadn't heard anything from Jimmy Butler up
Speaker 2: to this point. And when we look at pat Riley,
Speaker 2: a person that I've known for you years, that I
Speaker 2: revere and I have a lot of love and respect for,
Speaker 2: even have him in my book Straight Shooter, in terms
Speaker 2: of the contribution he's made to my life and my career,
Speaker 2: there is no getting around the fact that pat Riley,
Speaker 2: the Great pat Riley, the Winner Within that was the
Speaker 2: name of the book that he authored, The Winner Within,
Speaker 2: who's been a champion on every level, as a player,
Speaker 2: as a coach, as a president of basketball operations. This
Speaker 2: man knows how to win, and he knows how to
Speaker 2: build a culture, and he knows how to have structure
Speaker 2: in order to an organization.
Speaker 1: He is a leader, and there's no question about that.
Speaker 2: But when it comes to Jimmy Butler, or the Jimmy
Speaker 2: Butler ever in Miami, one could easily ask what have
Speaker 2: you done for him lately?
Speaker 1: Bam out of Bayer can play.
Speaker 2: But this is not Joe Ellen, Biid, Nicola Yokich to
Speaker 2: somebody of that caliber that we're talking about. Okay, let's
Speaker 2: just get that out of the way right now.
Speaker 1: That's not what's going on here. And when you look
Speaker 1: at Jimmy Butler, a player option for next season, the
Speaker 1: fifty two point.
Speaker 2: Four one million, who's being paid over forty nine million.
Speaker 2: Now just look at some of the stats. Look at
Speaker 2: this here. Think about it. Minutes per game thirty point eight,
Speaker 2: fewest since twenty twelve, twenty and thirteen, scoring average seventeen
Speaker 2: point six, lowest since twenty thirteen, twenty and fourteen. Now
Speaker 2: you would look at those numbers to say, well, Jimmy Butler,
Speaker 2: that's on you right?
Speaker 1: Uh uh hold on brother shooting fifty five.
Speaker 2: Percent for the field fifty eight percent on two pointers,
Speaker 2: which means that when you give him.
Speaker 1: The ball for him to shoot the basketball.
Speaker 2: It goes in more times than it doesn't. Why isn't
Speaker 2: he getting it more? Why am I looking at a
Speaker 2: usage rate of twenty point three percent for the Miami Heat,
Speaker 2: which is the.
Speaker 1: Lowest on the team. Some dude named.
Speaker 2: Heyward Highsmith has a higher usage rate than Jimmy Butler.
Speaker 1: How how it makes no sense?
Speaker 2: Tyler hero can ball, but he shoots difficult shots at
Speaker 2: timso shots elections, leaves a lot to be desired. Bam
Speaker 2: out of bar ball, but he's not that kind of
Speaker 2: a stud offensively.
Speaker 1: Jimmy Butler's the one.
Speaker 2: That got you the two NBA finals in a four
Speaker 2: to five year period, and what has he been clamoring
Speaker 2: for over the last three summers or so?
Speaker 1: Help? Now you're to Miami Heat.
Speaker 2: You had an opportunity to get Kevin Durant didn't work out.
Speaker 2: You had an opportunity to get Damian Lillard didn't work out.
Speaker 2: Not only did you not get Damian Little, not only
Speaker 2: did you not get Kevin Durant, but it's in the
Speaker 2: aftermath of losing Lebron James because Lebron James felt that
Speaker 2: it was too tight of a ship that pat Riley
Speaker 2: was running. I don't know how true that is, because
Speaker 2: we all know that, like the Lebron James had aspirations
Speaker 2: to go back to Cleveland and make amends for the
Speaker 2: party from them before delivering a championship to the city
Speaker 2: who was enduring the fifty two year cursed before he
Speaker 2: ended it in twenty sixteen.
Speaker 1: But still, in all it leaves the question what help
Speaker 1: has Jimmy Butler got. The answer is minimum, and because
Speaker 1: of that.
Speaker 2: Is why he's probably said enough and why he spoke
Speaker 2: out is because after acknowledging that he wanted out, pat
Speaker 2: Rally came out last week and said.
Speaker 1: We ain't trading them.
Speaker 2: So he's making it clear I don't want to be here,
Speaker 2: and if he doesn't want to be there, why keep
Speaker 2: him there? To me, it's very very simple, ladies and gentlemen.
Speaker 2: I don't think there's anything to think about here. When
Speaker 2: I think about Jimmy Butler his four options that he
Speaker 2: would prefer Phoenix Suns, Golden State Warriors, Dallas Mavericks, Houston
Speaker 2: Rockets number one, number two. He's probably worried that par
Speaker 2: Rally gonna send them someplace that he don't want to
Speaker 2: go to, to a MORI enfranchised, mired than basketball purgatory
Speaker 2: that has a shot in hell of winning anything. Because
Speaker 2: when you speak out, pat Rally's not gonna do you
Speaker 2: any favors.
Speaker 1: Now. But if I'm Jimmy.
Speaker 2: Butler, or shall I say, if I'm one of those
Speaker 2: teams interested in Jimmy Butler, listen, there's a case that
Speaker 2: could be made. Jimmy Butler with Luca and Kyrie. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I don't know if you need that, but it's not
Speaker 2: a losing proposition. Jimmy Butler with the Houston Rockets, a
Speaker 2: young team, Yeah, he can help their veteran leadership, but
Speaker 2: they already got Dylan Brooks and Fred Van Vliet.
Speaker 1: But Jimmy Butler doesn't hurt. Let's call it what it is.
Speaker 2: The Golden State Warriors. Steph Curry, you need another Klay Thompson.
Speaker 2: You don't need a Jimmy Butler in my estimation, even
Speaker 2: though Jimmy Butler with Traymond Green in the same locker room,
Speaker 2: that's some fire for you, bro. That could go either way,
Speaker 2: but I think it would be a positive more so
Speaker 2: than the negative personally, because I think they're both winners.
Speaker 2: The ideal landing spot for Jimmy Butler is the Phoenix Sons.
Speaker 1: I don't mean to be disrespectful.
Speaker 2: I'm just telling you what I know based on reporting
Speaker 2: on the league for all of these years. The Phoenix
Speaker 2: Son's an ultra talented team with a lot of offensive firepower. Nevertheless,
Speaker 2: they are considered a team as soft as cottonlt tissue.
Speaker 2: Nobody is concerned about their toughness, and toughness is what
Speaker 2: gets it done for you in the playoffs. If you
Speaker 2: are the Phoenix Sons, you should get on your knees
Speaker 2: if you have to, and beg Bradley bial to wave
Speaker 2: that no trade clawes and take his ass to Miami,
Speaker 2: so no state income taxes there.
Speaker 1: The weather is.
Speaker 2: Beautiful, along with various other things that we won't mention here,
Speaker 2: and you should look forward to go on the South Beach,
Speaker 2: No state in come taxes, warm weather, got hurricanes in
Speaker 2: the summer time and stuff like that. But Demmi, you
Speaker 2: ain't gonna be there. You're gonna be in one island,
Speaker 2: one island or another. You know I'm saying, wonderful wife,
Speaker 2: wonderful family, Bradley Bill's good people. Go to Miami. Dog
Speaker 2: go to Miami. Let Jimmy Butler go out to Phoenix, Arizona.
Speaker 2: Because Jimmy Butler in that locker room with Kevin Durant
Speaker 2: and Devin b as his teammate, with Mike Budenholzer as
Speaker 2: a coach, with skilled but soft ass Nurkics as.
Speaker 1: Your big man.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you something that culture would change quick
Speaker 2: fasten than Ari.
Speaker 1: That's where I'm at with Jimmy Butler.
Speaker 2: Jimmy Butler should be a Phoenix son. It's brun the
Speaker 2: rest of Phoenix's hierarchy.
Speaker 1: Do what you.
Speaker 2: Can to get your hands on Jimmy Butler, and then
Speaker 2: you won't be in the middle of things in the
Speaker 2: Western Conference.
Speaker 1: You'll be at the top of the heap. You feel
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. My next topic.
Speaker 2: Has to be Sakwon Barkley, only in this regard, I'm
Speaker 2: kind of disgusted. He's a star running back for the
Speaker 2: Philadelphia Eagles. He's rushed over two thousand yards. Six of
Speaker 2: the eight previous players to rush for two thousand yards
Speaker 2: all reached the postseason but only one of them played
Speaker 2: in the Super Bowl, which was Terrell Davis, who won
Speaker 2: the Super Bowl in nineteen ninety eight with the Denver Broncos.
Speaker 2: What Saquon Barkley has accomplished this year is incredible, no
Speaker 2: doubt about it. But he's sitting out the last game
Speaker 2: of the season because the Eagles want to make sure
Speaker 2: that he's ready for the players.
Speaker 1: That he doesn't get injured, so you're trying to protect him.
Speaker 1: As a result, he's one.
Speaker 2: Hundred and one yard shot of the all time single season.
Speaker 1: Russian record set by Eric Dickerson, and he's not going
Speaker 1: to get an opportunity to go for it because.
Speaker 2: They want to arrest them now the most circumstances.
Speaker 1: I will completely understand that. Here's my issue. It's the
Speaker 1: running back position.
Speaker 2: It's the one position in the National Football League where,
Speaker 2: no matter what numbers you produce, no matter how extraord
Speaker 2: whenever your season is, they look at your birth certificate
Speaker 2: and say, oh, you're thirty, You done. We ain't invested
Speaker 2: in you long term. We're not paying you, We're not
Speaker 2: making that investment in you. Your birth certificate is collected
Speaker 2: too much dust.
Speaker 1: We ain't messing with that by this is what they do.
Speaker 1: Remember de marcol Murray.
Speaker 2: With the Dallas Cowboys years ago, Remember when they gave
Speaker 2: him the ball three hundred and ninety two times.
Speaker 1: The brother was.
Speaker 2: An eagle after that because they said, Yo, we don't
Speaker 2: need you, We used you up, and now we're gonna
Speaker 2: throw you out with the bath water. The Giants, the
Speaker 2: New York Giants, that pathetic, moribund franchise that's contaminating the
Speaker 2: city of New York and all of northern New Jersey
Speaker 2: worse than the damn swamps, and it's surrounding areas. That's
Speaker 2: how much the stench from the New York Gumpants has
Speaker 2: smelled up East Bruther for New Jersey, which is right
Speaker 2: by the liquor tunnel. That New York Giants squad.
Speaker 1: They had hard knocks on television last year. They talked
Speaker 1: about Sa Kwan Parkley like he was nothing. Then they
Speaker 1: said let him go, we don't need him. Push them
Speaker 1: right out the door.
Speaker 2: Advertised it damn near monked them act like, yo, we
Speaker 2: don't care. It is after you gave Daniel Jones forty million,
Speaker 2: the same Daniel Jones that you ultimately benched.
Speaker 1: Before you let him go. That dude.
Speaker 2: You gave him four years, one hundred and sixty million,
Speaker 2: forty million park.
Speaker 1: You couldn't pay Sacon Parkley.
Speaker 2: He has an opportunity to go up against that team
Speaker 2: this Sunday, and you're not letting them do it.
Speaker 1: These bad taste in my mouth.
Speaker 2: Now, I know you're kind of worried because it's like,
Speaker 2: all right, he might get hurt.
Speaker 1: Did it ever occur to you.
Speaker 2: The Giants might let him get the yardage because they
Speaker 2: just as pissed off of the organization that they let
Speaker 2: him go.
Speaker 1: As he was never No.
Speaker 2: I mean, if Brett Falk could sit up there and
Speaker 2: give Michael straight hand that sack like Mark Gastano was
Speaker 2: crying about as if straight hand in having an illustrious
Speaker 2: career before that damn last sack breaking.
Speaker 1: The all time single season sack reckon.
Speaker 2: I mean, if something like that could happen, and I'm
Speaker 2: not saying it did.
Speaker 1: Who's said that the Giant's gonna do the same thing
Speaker 1: with sain Kwon Barkley this weekend.
Speaker 2: By the way, game's gonna be in Philadelphia at Link
Speaker 2: Financial Field. You think the offensive lineman don't want to
Speaker 2: block for sain Kwon Barkley. They don't want to wear
Speaker 2: as a badge of honor. Those were the individuals that
Speaker 2: blocked for the all time single season rushing leader.
Speaker 1: You don't think they want that.
Speaker 2: What stinks about this is that the running back position
Speaker 2: has been has been minimized and diminished for years. And
Speaker 2: this dude went out this season and reminded you just
Speaker 2: what the hell of running back and do for a team.
Speaker 2: And he wasn't the only one. Dereck Henry did it too,
Speaker 2: Josh Jacobs did it too, but especially Saquon Barkley really
Speaker 2: really stinks, really really stinks that this has happened to him.
Speaker 1: But I'll say this Nick Sirianni, head coach of the
Speaker 1: Philadelphia Eagles, So be it, bro, you go ahead and
Speaker 1: do your thing. I'm gonna say.
Speaker 2: This this man, say Quon Barkley is one of nine
Speaker 2: players in league history to rush for two thousand yards
Speaker 2: in the season.
Speaker 1: I told you about the other eight.
Speaker 2: Let me say this to you, since you made this decision,
Speaker 2: you better win that. You better win this shit bill God,
Speaker 2: theren win the NFC. Be'll going to super Bowl.
Speaker 1: You better not be home for the Super Bowl. And
Speaker 1: Sakwa Barkley didn't get the record. I know that much.
Speaker 1: I know that much.
Speaker 2: Let me transition to a different subject, even though it's
Speaker 2: gonna be in the world of sports. Okay, put me
Speaker 2: over here on this can replease? I have seen myself
Speaker 2: on the big screen right now. Got to talk about this.
Speaker 4: This is about a football player who had Hall of
Speaker 4: Fame credentials, who once donned a Hall of Fame jacket
Speaker 4: on the sidelines when he was catching touchdowns for the
Speaker 4: Cincinnati Biggles before his career went in a different direction,
Speaker 4: having to go to New England and play.
Speaker 1: With Tom Brady and Bill Belichick. I'm talking about the
Speaker 1: one and.
Speaker 2: Only Chad O Cho Sinko, famous these days for being
Speaker 2: the co host.
Speaker 1: Of Nightcap with My Man Shannon's show. He was on video.
Speaker 2: Talking about a uh breakup with his girlfriend, I suppose,
Speaker 2: and he was talking about some things, pretending about how
Speaker 2: she left him.
Speaker 1: You don't believe me. Take a look for yourself, please,
Speaker 1: Why are you breaking with that beautiful girl?
Speaker 5: Nigga? Have you seen men?
Speaker 6: Look at me?
Speaker 7: She left this.
Speaker 8: Look look at this.
Speaker 6: This means look at look at this fucking chocolate.
Speaker 8: Chocolate.
Speaker 6: It's not any kind Its really lock of chalklate.
Speaker 8: She left, she left this.
Speaker 6: Thank you, you know left me.
Speaker 9: She left you when I'm in my season too, my season.
Speaker 2: Oh lord, Let me say a couple of things real quick.
Speaker 2: Number one, I'm proud of my brother chad O Joe Cinko.
Speaker 2: He's been through a lot in life, He's overcome a
Speaker 2: lot in life, and to see what he's doing on
Speaker 2: a man Sharnon Sharp is admirable. I love seeing last
Speaker 2: week chad O Cho Sinco in those commercials previewing a
Speaker 2: Monday night football game.
Speaker 1: I love seeing that.
Speaker 2: I love seeing him on this Inside the NFL show
Speaker 2: where Ryan Clark and Bill Belichick and.
Speaker 1: All of those guys. I love that.
Speaker 2: I love that because Chado Josinko has a phenomenal personality.
Speaker 2: As far as I'm concerned, He's made for this business,
Speaker 2: made for television, and I will never root against him.
Speaker 1: He worries me, though.
Speaker 2: When he talks about these subjects, because you never know
Speaker 2: what kind of stuff people might bring up about him.
Speaker 1: And don't I worry about him because I root for
Speaker 1: him all the time. So I get the whole sexual
Speaker 1: chocolate thing. I got that. I feel you on that.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, ain't nothing wrong with a
Speaker 2: confident brother, but be careful about how much you're willing
Speaker 2: to talk about yourself in that regard. You never know
Speaker 2: when stuff can come back to on. That's just my
Speaker 2: thinking in today's generation. You know what I'm saying, and
Speaker 2: I leave it at that. But that's my man, that's
Speaker 2: my dog, and I root for him all the time.
Speaker 2: And I'm not commenting about who he's in a relationship
Speaker 2: with or whatever. But I'll give him credit for this.
Speaker 2: I have never seen him with anything less than a
Speaker 2: die piece ever ever.
Speaker 1: The band got good tasted, the man.
Speaker 2: Got good tastes in turns of beauty, he's got good taste.
Speaker 1: I give him that.
Speaker 2: Anything outside of that, I think it's important that I
Speaker 2: shut the hell up and leave it to a woman
Speaker 2: to come in here and touch on these issues, not
Speaker 2: only somebody that's smart and been educated, but accomplished as
Speaker 2: a journalist as well. Some of you might have heard
Speaker 2: from her, particularly of you down south, particular Atlanta.
Speaker 1: You might have heard of Tory Cooper before.
Speaker 2: But in case you have it, you're about to, and
Speaker 2: I assure you I don't think you'll be disappointed.
Speaker 1: I'll let her comment on this.
Speaker 2: It's a little less risk gay for her to talk
Speaker 2: about these things than made. But that's just how I
Speaker 2: feel about it. Want y'all le met a buddy of MoMA.
Speaker 2: She's in the house. If I could let my knucklehead
Speaker 2: and nephew on the show with no credentials alright, who
Speaker 2: calling himself the brownie James or the media? Remember that
Speaker 2: if I could let his no credential have an ass
Speaker 2: on the show, I can certainly let her on the show.
Speaker 1: Wait till you see her, Wait till you hear from her.
Speaker 1: She's up next.
Speaker 2: She'll provide a proper perspective on a few things. Chad
Speaker 2: Ocho Sikre just being one of them. The first thing,
Speaker 2: but certainly not the last.
Speaker 1: Stick around. Steven A. Smith Show in the House with
Speaker 1: my special guest up next. All right, y'all, listen up.
Speaker 2: Do you know that the NFL playoffs are right around
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Speaker 2: in the Cleveland Browns.
Speaker 1: Defense more or less than two hundred and four and
Speaker 1: a half passing yards.
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Speaker 2: I know their defense and get out there and Reek Havoc.
Speaker 2: I understand what their potential is. Offensively, they stink. So
Speaker 2: as a result of that, they're gonna give the offense
Speaker 2: to Baltimore Ravens a more opportunity because they ain't gonna
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Speaker 2: We go go with more on this run here more
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Speaker 1: Next up, we've got Bengals.
Speaker 2: Quarterback Joe Burrow going up against the Pittsburgh Steelers in Pittsburgh.
Speaker 1: More or less than two hundred and eighty five and
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Speaker 2: Yards thrown to Jamal Chase.
Speaker 1: Have you seen Jamal Chase? Have you seen what this
Speaker 1: brother can do? Have you seen the sixteen.
Speaker 2: Hundred plus yards he's accumulated, the fifteen sixteen touchdowns that
Speaker 2: he's accumulated. Have you seen Joe Burrow in a month
Speaker 2: of December, completing seventy five percent of his passes, throwing
Speaker 2: for over sixteen hundred yards, got fifteen damn touchdowns. This
Speaker 2: is Joe Burrow we're talking about here. Of course, we
Speaker 2: got to go more. Even though it gets about Pittsburgh Steelers.
Speaker 1: Which hurts me. I still got to go with more
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Speaker 2: Russell Wilson facing the Cincinnati Bengals secondary more or less
Speaker 2: than two hundred and thirty and a half passing yards.
Speaker 1: Look, I'm a bit reticent about this.
Speaker 2: I don't like the chemistry that exists or doesn't exist
Speaker 2: between him and George Pickens right now. I don't know
Speaker 2: if another receiver you can rely upon if you're Russell
Speaker 2: Wilson right now, I don't know where the hell of
Speaker 2: running game has gone With Warren and obviously Naji Harris,
Speaker 2: the offensive line has been absolutely suspect. Cincinnati's defense is suspect,
Speaker 2: no doubt, but they do get pressure on the quarterback,
Speaker 2: led by this kid Hendrickson, Who's what is it, fourteen
Speaker 2: sacks on the season, leading the National Football I still
Speaker 2: got to go with more because I gotta believe in
Speaker 2: Russell Wilson.
Speaker 1: You're lost three straight.
Speaker 2: You don't want to go into the players for the
Speaker 2: four game loser streak. I think that's what the Steelers
Speaker 2: are riding on right now there on their home turf
Speaker 2: in Pittsburgh.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go with more on this one.
Speaker 2: Finally, New York Giants quarterback Drew Locke playing the Philadelphia
Speaker 2: Eagles in Philly more or less than one hundred and
Speaker 2: ninety three and a half passing yards. Look, I don't
Speaker 2: expect most of the steel of the Philadelphia Eagles starters
Speaker 2: to be playing, and I get that part, but damn,
Speaker 2: as far as I'm gonna serg jew Locke in't a starter.
Speaker 2: I mean, he lucky to be in the damn lineup.
Speaker 2: I'm of the mindset that I'm looking at it and
Speaker 2: I'm saying I'm not expecting big things from anything associated
Speaker 2: with the New York Giants.
Speaker 1: Then a lucky Saquon Barckley ain't playing, or you lucky.
Speaker 2: Having said all of that, that's why we're going with less.
Speaker 2: I don't have any expectations for.
Speaker 1: The New York Giants.
Speaker 2: I hope my man is true that straight hand is
Speaker 2: gonna be the new GM.
Speaker 1: I believe in that, brother.
Speaker 2: I don't like anything else that I've seen with this
Speaker 2: more abunenfranchise, and I'm not sold on the Giants. Everything
Speaker 2: about theim shit be less, including ticket prices to their
Speaker 2: customers since they've been robbing.
Speaker 1: Them for years.
Speaker 2: But since that's not the case, all I can do
Speaker 2: is point out that when it comes to jew lock
Speaker 2: and one hundred and ninety three and a half passing yards,
Speaker 2: I'm going to have to go with less. That's rare
Speaker 2: because when I'm talking prospects, I'm usually talking more, as
Speaker 2: in more money in your pocket.
Speaker 1: It's why they represent this show. We appreciate that very
Speaker 1: very much. Welcome back to the Stephen A.
Speaker 2: Smith Show right here with the digital areas of YouTube
Speaker 2: and the course of our Heart Radio. You know, when
Speaker 2: I'm usually sitting up here, when I have a guest,
Speaker 2: that's usually not someone that's in studio. On a rare
Speaker 2: occasion that there has been somebody in studio, whether it's
Speaker 2: a Tay Diggs, or it's an Ariva Martin, or it's
Speaker 2: an Ebony K.
Speaker 1: Williams, you know that usually stops there.
Speaker 2: I got a lot of friends, and I got a
Speaker 2: dear friend sitting next to me right now. She's been
Speaker 2: waiting to come on this show because most of the
Speaker 2: time she's disagreeing with me.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you can believe that, but she
Speaker 1: actually disagrees with me. But she has the credibility to.
Speaker 2: Disagree with me because she's a renowned journalist, very reputabullet
Speaker 2: what she does.
Speaker 1: The one and only Tory Cooper, How are you? How's everything?
Speaker 10: I'm doing great?
Speaker 2: So you finally you're finally at the You're finally on
Speaker 2: the show right now? I mean, why is it you
Speaker 2: said to me you wanted to come on because sometimes
Speaker 2: I just don't agree with you?
Speaker 1: Is that true? You really don't agree with me?
Speaker 10: Yeah? Sometimes I just really don't.
Speaker 1: Why not? I mean, how could you possibly disagree with me?
Speaker 11: I mean because I have an opinion and it's not
Speaker 11: the same as yours, especially in the relationship space. Okay,
Speaker 11: So I figured, why not we can poke him a
Speaker 11: little bit, get some questions answered. Got a little curiosity,
Speaker 11: like I like knowing where you fall on certain things?
Speaker 10: You know, and I see people come on here, tell
Speaker 10: the truth.
Speaker 1: You go back to your man.
Speaker 2: You go back to your man because I know you
Speaker 2: have a wonderful fiance and all that. You go and
Speaker 2: so you go back to your man, and what you
Speaker 2: do is you go to him and and you tell
Speaker 2: him what I said, so you could get a feel
Speaker 2: from him as to whether I'm right or not.
Speaker 1: Is that true?
Speaker 10: I don't know if I'm that balance. I don't know
Speaker 10: if I'm that balance.
Speaker 11: But you know, we do talk about some of the
Speaker 11: topics I've talked about with you and where you fall
Speaker 11: on things. He's been watching you for fifteen years, so
Speaker 11: he understands where you're probably gonna fall on things.
Speaker 10: But he's a little different than you.
Speaker 1: He's a little different.
Speaker 10: Yeah, he's is he different? Well, for startings, he's a
Speaker 10: bit younger.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, ed okay, so I'm old old hey now.
Speaker 1: You okay, okay, okay, okay, we'll go with that. We'll
Speaker 1: go with that.
Speaker 2: Let me ask you this because I want you to
Speaker 2: tell the orders before we get into because I got
Speaker 2: to get to you about what you saw with chad
Speaker 2: Ocho Sako, along with a couple of other topics. Just
Speaker 2: give some people your background because I don't just let
Speaker 2: anybody I know. I left my knucklehead and nephew, but
Speaker 2: I love him to death, and he is smart, he
Speaker 2: is talented, and I love him to death. But you know,
Speaker 2: you are a seasoned journalist. I want you to tell
Speaker 2: people about your background.
Speaker 10: Yeah. So, spent ten years as a news.
Speaker 11: Anchor andorter, working from the back of the camera all
Speaker 11: the way to the front of the camera. Started off
Speaker 11: in Denver, played soccer Division one soccer. I played for
Speaker 11: the University of Georgia, the University of Colorado Boulder, and
Speaker 11: then you know, after that, I had some professional soccer opportunities,
Speaker 11: and then I realized that I didn't want to do
Speaker 11: that because the news came calling as a sports reporter
Speaker 11: and intern, and I said, look, I'm going to just
Speaker 11: take this and run with it and never look back
Speaker 11: and to hang up my soccer collets. And then so
Speaker 11: from there I essentially took off with it. I started
Speaker 11: behind the scenes as a camera person. I went to
Speaker 11: cover Peyton Manning as he was winning the Super Bowl
Speaker 11: in Denver, and then applied to a bunch of jobs
Speaker 11: and then landed my TV my first TV job as
Speaker 11: a sports reporter and anchor in Washington State.
Speaker 10: I was filming my.
Speaker 11: Own highlights, editing my own highlights. Well yeah, but then
Speaker 11: I had some guys coming from my job in a
Speaker 11: small market, the weather man wanted my job. I said,
Speaker 11: I'm good. And then I had guys just macing on
Speaker 11: me at games and you know names I will not
Speaker 11: name in the NFL who were very disrespectful.
Speaker 10: And I said, I'm good off this.
Speaker 11: And then you have people saying that, you know, you
Speaker 11: didn't say it right, and I'm like, look the paperwork
Speaker 11: in the documents say I'm right about this homicide.
Speaker 10: You know.
Speaker 11: And so I transitioned into news, fell in love with it,
Speaker 11: fell in love with crime, investigations, politics, and then yeah,
Speaker 11: I got moved to Bakersfield doing I was working as
Speaker 11: a MMJ multimedia journalist there, shooting all my own video,
Speaker 11: all my own stories, editing everything myself.
Speaker 10: And then I, you know, rose in the ranks.
Speaker 11: Became the anchor in Bakersfield, California, which is like the armpit.
Speaker 10: Everybody knows that. And then I got my call in Atlanta.
Speaker 11: Started off again as my own cameraman, my own editor
Speaker 11: and reporter and going live by myself, shooting two stories
Speaker 11: a day on a deadline, and eventually I worked my
Speaker 11: way up to the anchor and became the anchor at
Speaker 11: CBS News in Atlanta.
Speaker 10: It was great, and you know, things changed. You know,
Speaker 10: I had an.
Speaker 11: Opportunity for, you know, to elevate there, but overall I
Speaker 11: felt like it was time to move forward in a
Speaker 11: different direction.
Speaker 10: But ten years of covering crime.
Speaker 11: Politics, sports, have just traveled with the Hawks, most recently
Speaker 11: along the road with my boyfriend.
Speaker 10: Actually that was fun. Okay, he's on the news too.
Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with that. But let me ask you this.
Speaker 2: You you brought up the NFL real quick and how
Speaker 2: you didn't like how you know, folks approached you in
Speaker 2: the NFL.
Speaker 1: How do you.
Speaker 2: Feel about the modern day athlete? I mean in terms
Speaker 2: of what you're seeing. I'm not even talking about them
Speaker 2: on the field. I'm talking about people with their own podcast,
Speaker 2: their own platforms and stuff like that. You know, how
Speaker 2: are you feeling about the advent of that industry growing
Speaker 2: in terms of professional athletes having a voice and a
Speaker 2: microphone and the camera in front of them.
Speaker 11: I love it because I love it because use your platform,
Speaker 11: use your voice.
Speaker 10: Don't just be an athlete, you know.
Speaker 11: Show that you have more depths, show that you have
Speaker 11: an opinion in these rooms, be welcome on any topic,
Speaker 11: made sure that you come correct with the evidence to
Speaker 11: back your perspective, period. But I also think that many
Speaker 11: of these athletes are not recognizing the moment. You know,
Speaker 11: at the same time, you know, if we just talk
Speaker 11: about the shadow Jo Cinco moment. Yes, you know, you
Speaker 11: recognize your platform. You know, people love you, people enjoy you.
Speaker 11: You're you have a great background and stuff. But when
Speaker 11: you start talking about relationship stuff, you know, you can
Speaker 11: lose respect very easily.
Speaker 1: Explain that. I mean, I mean, don't get me wrong,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't.
Speaker 2: Advise that that that chad Ocho Cinko go out there
Speaker 2: and talk about himself too much. But in the same breath,
Speaker 2: one would all of you no harm, no foul in
Speaker 2: the YouTube age and what have you.
Speaker 1: People find that very very entertaining, of course.
Speaker 11: But when is it a private partnership, Like when are
Speaker 11: we going to get back to that?
Speaker 10: When is it private?
Speaker 5: Still?
Speaker 10: You know, because that's what's the biggest power moved Stephen.
Speaker 1: You tell me silence. I agree with that.
Speaker 10: Silence.
Speaker 1: That's how, that's how I flow, That's how.
Speaker 2: But for some men would that, you know what, not
Speaker 2: being silent actually works for them?
Speaker 1: What do you say to that I mean, by the way,
Speaker 1: let me transit. Hold on, wait, there are a lot
Speaker 1: more women talking.
Speaker 2: I mean usually usually it was supposed to be the
Speaker 2: ladies that insisted upon you shutting your mouth. Now you
Speaker 2: got a lot of them telling their business.
Speaker 1: What's up with that?
Speaker 10: You know? And I'm gonna side with you on that.
Speaker 11: It's pretty inappropriate some of the things that I'm saying,
Speaker 11: and not just from you know, celebrities. You know, as
Speaker 11: we're talking about Shadow Cho Cinco's ex fiance, you know,
Speaker 11: she has an incredible resume. You know, spent thirteen years
Speaker 11: as a paratrooper in the army. You know, has a
Speaker 11: real estate empire for selling luxury real estate and Tampa.
Speaker 11: You know, so she also has her own power that
Speaker 11: you can keep and you don't need to go out
Speaker 11: online and be shattering your men.
Speaker 10: And she was on there talking about them exactly.
Speaker 11: Well, so so I'm trying to tell you, you know,
Speaker 11: I've been more disappointed in the women that I've been
Speaker 11: seeing online. And enough people talk about that, because honestly,
Speaker 11: I have friends doing this. I have friends that have
Speaker 11: millions of followers, millions of followers on Instagram killing it
Speaker 11: just batties, but they're posting screenshots of relationships stuff. They're saying,
Speaker 11: look who he flewed out.
Speaker 10: I'm like, take this.
Speaker 1: Down right when you tell them to take this down?
Speaker 10: So I don't.
Speaker 1: Why don't you?
Speaker 11: Because they're too sensitive and they can't handle it. And
Speaker 11: I will not even drop names right here because they
Speaker 11: can't handle it.
Speaker 1: So you're telling me so.
Speaker 2: And then you went to one of your girls and
Speaker 2: you said to them, look, take it down.
Speaker 1: It's none of nobody's business.
Speaker 2: They would take that to heart and their feelings would
Speaker 2: be hurt over something the simplistic as that.
Speaker 11: Look, not everybody has the wherewithal to move with that
Speaker 11: level of decorum. And you just got to recognize your
Speaker 11: friends where they at. They bring certain talents to the
Speaker 11: table and they don't bring certain things that they maybe
Speaker 11: need still and they need to. You can tell someone
Speaker 11: not to date someone, but at the end of the day,
Speaker 11: they're going to date that person.
Speaker 10: You can you know what I mean. I can tell
Speaker 10: you not to post something, but you're gonna post it.
Speaker 1: What's your criteria for a man?
Speaker 10: Okay?
Speaker 1: What's your criteria? Number one?
Speaker 10: Number one?
Speaker 1: You want to give you number one?
Speaker 10: Humility?
Speaker 1: Okay? And now what does that mean. What does that mean?
Speaker 1: I mean humility?
Speaker 10: Okay, you can have a quiet confidence.
Speaker 1: There's various levels to humility.
Speaker 11: There is various levels to humility. But it's been lost
Speaker 11: in the wind in the world that we live.
Speaker 10: In, stephen A, because the confidence is no longer confidence.
Speaker 10: It's arrogance. I know everything, I'm great.
Speaker 11: I have so many fault you know, it's just too
Speaker 11: much about the ego. If you can pull up with
Speaker 11: a quiet confidence and you could show out in what
Speaker 11: you do and you be low key, you're the person
Speaker 11: in the back chilling, quiet, not on their phone, just observing.
Speaker 10: That's my type of person.
Speaker 1: Is that how your men dear? I say dear to
Speaker 1: himself to you? Did he have a quiet confident?
Speaker 11: Yeah, very much, a quiet confidence. And you know, he
Speaker 11: had every reason to be cocky. He's handsome, he's smart,
Speaker 11: he's elevated. Ah, he brings it all, you know, and
Speaker 11: he has every reason to be cocky and rude and
Speaker 11: mean and oh you should be chasing after me.
Speaker 10: And that was never the case. It was someone like, hey,
Speaker 10: I know what you do. I respect what you do
Speaker 10: in any way I can elevate you.
Speaker 2: I'm in an elevation so after humility be a step
Speaker 2: number one?
Speaker 1: What step number two?
Speaker 10: Family? You have to treat your mom right, You can
Speaker 10: have to treat you that's all right.
Speaker 1: Any man that doesn't treat his mama right, he's just looking.
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm a head of receptual even I'm look
Speaker 2: at a man and don't treat his mama right.
Speaker 11: But I do want to talk about something because we
Speaker 11: need to honor our black men who we can. This book,
Speaker 11: you did an excellent tribute to your grandmother and your mother.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, you know, and.
Speaker 11: It was a pleasure getting to learn about them through
Speaker 11: your eyes. And I didn't mean to like derail that conversation,
Speaker 11: but she just really enjoyed learning about, you know, where
Speaker 11: you grew up, what it was like, you know, and
Speaker 11: to see the star that you are at this moment
Speaker 11: in your life and to be glorifying God in such
Speaker 11: a big way.
Speaker 2: My mother is the greatest woman I've ever known. I know,
Speaker 2: and very few you know, like like my nephew over there,
Speaker 2: my mother, his grandma. I'm love the ground that he
Speaker 2: walked on. My grandmama loved the ground.
Speaker 1: That I walked on.
Speaker 2: So I had it really, really really really good and
Speaker 2: it's taught me. Dare I say some of the things
Speaker 2: to avoid and to make me more attractive to a woman.
Speaker 1: Because I know how to act. I know how to act.
Speaker 2: Having said that, I'm very particular about a woman.
Speaker 1: Knowing how to act.
Speaker 11: Yeah, I gotta ask you, Okay, so what do you think?
Speaker 11: What do you think about this issue? Do you feel
Speaker 11: like they both share equal you know, blame for how
Speaker 11: they talked about this? You think they both should do?
Speaker 1: I do because I think that.
Speaker 2: I think in Chad's case, because of so much that
Speaker 2: he's endured.
Speaker 1: I know what he's had to overcome.
Speaker 2: I know some personal things about him that the typical
Speaker 2: person wouldn't know, and what he had to go through,
Speaker 2: and so for him to work so diligently to get
Speaker 2: through all of that, I just don't want him putting
Speaker 2: himself in a position where he's reminding folks and stuff.
Speaker 1: But I got so much love for him and so much.
Speaker 2: Appreciation for how far he's come, and I respect him
Speaker 2: for that. But I also think that he's an entertainer.
Speaker 2: He's absolutely phenomenal at what he does. I love him
Speaker 2: with Shannon on Nightcap. I love what they're doing together.
Speaker 2: And most importantly, you know, Chad is one of those
Speaker 2: dudes that he want to make people smile, He want
Speaker 2: to make people laugh, he wants to have a good time.
Speaker 2: And you got a lot of ladies out there, dare
Speaker 2: I say they they seem.
Speaker 1: Harder than they've ever been.
Speaker 2: And when you are and when you talk to them
Speaker 2: about it, a lot of the ladies will say it's
Speaker 2: because of y'all, you men, You've done this to us,
Speaker 2: as opposed to owning up to them just choosing to
Speaker 2: be that way.
Speaker 1: That would be my answer to that. Do you have
Speaker 1: a problem with what I just said?
Speaker 10: Speaking you know, I'm soaking it in.
Speaker 1: Well, let's just say this. There's nothing wrong with saying
Speaker 1: Stephen a right, not wrong.
Speaker 11: No, I agree, I no, I agree with what you're saying.
Speaker 11: I feel like they both share an equal blame here.
Speaker 11: But I do agree that, you know, don't give people
Speaker 11: a reason to reminisce on the past. And you know,
Speaker 11: with Chad, you know, I think that's a fair take.
Speaker 2: You sent me a tag, okay, because you want you
Speaker 2: want to make sure that there was a couple of
Speaker 2: subjects that.
Speaker 1: You wanted to touch on. You know, when you when
Speaker 1: you paid a visit to the show.
Speaker 2: So I was like, okay, I mean, I'm down for
Speaker 2: I was a little nervous. You know, I'm nervous because
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm like, it's sir. Tory could come up.
Speaker 1: With some stuff.
Speaker 2: Now, this is a professional journalist here, she could try me.
Speaker 2: You know, I don't know, but you you brought up
Speaker 2: something about open relationships or something open dating? Could you
Speaker 2: explain that that what you wanted to get what you
Speaker 2: wanted to hear from me about that?
Speaker 11: It's the hottest topic on the internet, open relationshipship.
Speaker 10: And I know not to hit.
Speaker 11: On you with your age, I don't buy be looking
Speaker 11: at our generation like what are y'all doing?
Speaker 10: And I wanted to hear what you had to say.
Speaker 2: So when we talk about open dating, I need specific
Speaker 2: I mean, what the what the what do they need
Speaker 2: when they say open dating specific?
Speaker 11: So I've read a few articles about just you know,
Speaker 11: people's understanding about what an open relationship is, why it's
Speaker 11: more acceptable in society now as.
Speaker 10: Compared to before.
Speaker 11: And they're saying, you know, I have enough love for
Speaker 11: more than one person. So where do you say about
Speaker 11: that you feel like you got enough love for more
Speaker 11: than one person.
Speaker 1: I do, but it's not how I wrote.
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm the kind of person I'm in a
Speaker 2: relationship while I'm not. So if I'm in a relationship
Speaker 2: my attitude, there ain't no damn open relationship. Now, if
Speaker 2: I'm not in a relationship, then we might as well
Speaker 2: be open because I'm gonna do what the hell I wanted.
Speaker 2: You could do what the hell you want. I ain't
Speaker 2: gonna lose no sleep.
Speaker 1: Over it, that's me.
Speaker 10: So you have to make the commitment.
Speaker 2: You have to make the commitment in order for it
Speaker 2: to be a relationship. But once you make the commitment,
Speaker 2: that's the commitment.
Speaker 1: Right. So having said all of that, let me tell
Speaker 1: you what I think the issue is. Okay, women have
Speaker 1: to accept the fact. I'm gonna have to say this
Speaker 1: to me, I'm glad to say this.
Speaker 10: Here we go.
Speaker 2: Women have to accept the fact that there is in
Speaker 2: a man's mind a double standard.
Speaker 1: Here's what I mean by that.
Speaker 2: I'm not talking about his actions, I'm talking about his mentality.
Speaker 2: A guy can sit up there and no matter what
Speaker 2: he does to transgress to violate the relationship, no matter
Speaker 2: how guilty it is, he'll lose it.
Speaker 1: If you did it.
Speaker 2: Don't they for one second that if you his woman,
Speaker 2: that he's gonna be okay.
Speaker 1: At any point with you letting somebody else hook up
Speaker 1: with you, he's gonna lose his mind. But there's a
Speaker 1: reason for that. I've said this to.
Speaker 2: Many women, and I'll say it to you right now.
Speaker 2: If you walked up to a man and you said, look,
Speaker 2: I'm really not interested in anything.
Speaker 12: I really just where.
Speaker 11: Experience giving vulnerable, this.
Speaker 1: Is what I'm saying. This is what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: If a woman comes up to a guy and she says,
Speaker 2: to a god, I really I've been through a lot.
Speaker 2: I just I don't want a relationship. I want us
Speaker 2: to have a good time. When we have a good time,
Speaker 2: and then when we don't. You know, you do what
Speaker 2: you want to do. I do what I want to do.
Speaker 2: Ain't a man alive turning that down? He got no
Speaker 2: problem with it, you understand, zero down?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: No, wait a minute, okay, fanom I shouldn't say, I
Speaker 2: shouldn't speak indefinitives like that, But most men are not
Speaker 2: turning that. What I'm saying is is that even though
Speaker 2: you said that to him, he won't turn that down.
Speaker 2: You come up as a woman to him, and you're
Speaker 2: saying that to him, He's cool with it. Right the
Speaker 2: second there's any kind of commitment whatsoever.
Speaker 1: All of that changes because he's.
Speaker 2: Thinking, my woman, the woman I've chosen to be with,
Speaker 2: the woman that I want to be committed to, wouldn't.
Speaker 1: Do such a thing. This is why most guys lose it.
Speaker 2: Because they never anticipate that the woman that they've invested
Speaker 2: in would do something like that.
Speaker 1: Whereas we know.
Speaker 2: As men, that's a potential that we have to work
Speaker 2: against a lot of times. Like, for example, I've told
Speaker 2: that for allder sisters. I've got nine nieces and nephews.
Speaker 2: I've got numerous tens of female relatives, cousins.
Speaker 1: Stuff like that, and I've told them all this.
Speaker 2: I've said, look, when you go up to a man,
Speaker 2: I don't care what you say. He could sit up there,
Speaker 2: he could be with you, he could have your speaking
Speaker 2: in tongues.
Speaker 1: He can love you, can love him to death.
Speaker 2: You will still walk out of there thinking about what
Speaker 2: you gave.
Speaker 1: We always know we're getting.
Speaker 2: So because of that, there's a detachment that we might have.
Speaker 2: Whereas a woman she's invested herself physically, physically, physiologically, emotionally, spiritually,
Speaker 2: et cetera. And when she invests herself in you as
Speaker 2: a guy, you're convinced she's all in. So when she
Speaker 2: veers left, it's a shock to his system. It's devast dating.
Speaker 1: To his ego.
Speaker 11: Yeah, and then you have to compensate. Right then you're
Speaker 11: going to find yourself compensating for maybe what you're not
Speaker 11: getting no longer in your partnership. And so that's what
Speaker 11: I want to touch on a little bit because I
Speaker 11: have a lot of friends and family members that are
Speaker 11: this this open relationship topic and issue, I guess you
Speaker 11: could call it. At this point, it's in a lot
Speaker 11: of different families, and it's not just confusing for the
Speaker 11: people maybe in this relationship when their partner approaches them
Speaker 11: and says, hey, you know you.
Speaker 10: Want to open this up. You know it's not it's
Speaker 10: not just confusing.
Speaker 1: For that as much as.
Speaker 10: Women are doing this, women are yes, women are doing this.
Speaker 10: Women are doing this. And you know, you know.
Speaker 11: You had a caller actually on your show that wanted
Speaker 11: her man to dress up like a.
Speaker 1: Firefighter because she wanted the fire fight.
Speaker 10: She wanted the firefighter.
Speaker 11: But yeah, okay, she wanted her husband to do that.
Speaker 11: But then you know down the street was the fire.
Speaker 11: You know, I'm just saying, but that's not what I'm
Speaker 11: That wasn't this. But I'm just saying, there are women
Speaker 11: who are doing this, who are opening this up. And
Speaker 11: it's not only people who are in relationships who are
Speaker 11: maybe you know, in their marriage, who are married and
Speaker 11: may have kids and then want to bring a third
Speaker 11: party in. And so now not only is it confusing
Speaker 11: for the kids involved, it's confusing for your partner because
Speaker 11: now your partners now trying to compensate for maybe they're
Speaker 11: not getting from you. And then let's take a step
Speaker 11: further to the younger generation. Really quick, let's speak to
Speaker 11: you guys. I have friends that have family members involved
Speaker 11: in these types of relationships, and the parents are in
Speaker 11: their sixties and seventies.
Speaker 10: They're like, when are we going to see a wedding?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 10: Why an't we going to see a wedding?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 11: So, you know, the traditional values, you know, you know,
Speaker 11: it's confusing, it's hard for family members, and you know,
Speaker 11: I'm speaking to them and watching them be open minded,
Speaker 11: and there's you know, they're trying to be open minded.
Speaker 11: And then I've seen people say, you know, I was
Speaker 11: only being open minded. I didn't actually want this, you know,
Speaker 11: my partner wanted to.
Speaker 1: So if a woman wants an open relationship, why do
Speaker 1: they want that tour?
Speaker 10: I think it's because they're bored, bored with tory.
Speaker 11: Could be, you know, there's a lot more. It depends
Speaker 11: on the type of woman you are. But if you
Speaker 11: can't have stimulating conversation with your man, one conversation, converse, okay, sex, yes,
Speaker 11: we're gonna say sex, yes, okay, yes, they're born in
Speaker 11: the bedroom. One okay, that's for starters. Okay, you're not
Speaker 11: doing it. You're not able to communicate.
Speaker 1: Starting in the bedroom with your man.
Speaker 2: Why would you want an open relationship when he's doing
Speaker 2: it for you?
Speaker 11: Hey, you know it's gonna start, it's gonna start, and
Speaker 11: you know, But the thing is, it's it's deeper than that.
Speaker 11: Some people don't feel like they're hurt, don't feel like
Speaker 11: they're in the you know, they're not getting enough emotionally.
Speaker 11: You know, you can some people they lose interest, even
Speaker 11: if the sex was good at one time, they lose
Speaker 11: interest in you know that pan.
Speaker 2: So a woman could be thoroughly enjoying herself with her
Speaker 2: man physically, but she's not getting enough attention. And so
Speaker 2: as a result that I got to be here and
Speaker 2: going in a different direction because he's not paying me
Speaker 2: enough attention.
Speaker 1: He's not watching friends.
Speaker 2: Or more and or or something something like that with the.
Speaker 11: Screaming on Xbox with his friends playing cod and you know,
Speaker 11: maybe you are.
Speaker 2: Well he's doing that while she's sitting up there saying, baby,
Speaker 2: you want to come up in here, and you're trying
Speaker 2: to tell me that's what doing.
Speaker 11: Look, I've seen a few comedians talking about how you
Speaker 11: know they're cool if their their girlfriend just disappeared.
Speaker 2: Yes, So let me ask you this question, so so
Speaker 2: so so, with all of that knowledge that you just
Speaker 2: disseminated to the masses.
Speaker 10: I'm probably gonna get cut up for it.
Speaker 2: But what what do you say to people yourself included,
Speaker 2: who are looking forward to marriage?
Speaker 1: Oh? What do you say?
Speaker 10: Don't rush?
Speaker 11: Don't rush and don't be so pressed on the Instagram photo?
Speaker 10: Right, it's so annoying, so annoying to watch.
Speaker 2: So I tell ladies all the time, you're gonna show
Speaker 2: it to everybody? What's what am I getting?
Speaker 1: But it's what's the adventure?
Speaker 2: Of what I'm getting it don't show that everybody you
Speaker 2: under what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I mean, what what what?
Speaker 11: What's the intrigue with do you truly I want to
Speaker 11: ask you though. Okay, you're talking a lot about my relationship.
Speaker 11: You know, I've had to be an open book today,
Speaker 11: which I was, you know, not really.
Speaker 1: Really really highlight my man.
Speaker 10: But what about you, Steven?
Speaker 11: Where's your commitment at a lady?
Speaker 10: You got a lady. You know that I know that
Speaker 10: she's a place.
Speaker 2: I mean, don't get me wrong, I mean it is
Speaker 2: what it is. I'm happy at the moment.
Speaker 8: You can get marriage.
Speaker 1: I hope to one day.
Speaker 10: Really, I mean, I hope this is refreshing to hear
Speaker 10: from you. This is refreshing.
Speaker 1: I got news for you. Marriage for me.
Speaker 2: Marriage for me has never ever once been about an
Speaker 2: issue of monogamy.
Speaker 10: That has never been very the issue.
Speaker 1: The issue because because I would hope that.
Speaker 2: Listen, I'm not gonna get married knowing that I'm gonna
Speaker 2: cheat on my wife.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna do it, but I think I'm gonna
Speaker 1: do that. I'm a bound.
Speaker 10: So what hold you from getting there?
Speaker 2: Money, the society that we live in, you you wake
Speaker 2: up one day and decide you don't want me. In half,
Speaker 2: my shit's gone, you know, I mean my pension, my retirement, all.
Speaker 1: Of this other stuff that's meant to me. Forget the
Speaker 1: women and the men. Society has messed with.
Speaker 2: Marriage because we've made it putative. In other words, if
Speaker 2: it don't work.
Speaker 1: Out, it's gonna cost you.
Speaker 2: It's very few marriages that people amicably separate from one another.
Speaker 1: I love you, you love me. So I'm like this.
Speaker 1: You know you could wake up one day and not
Speaker 1: want me, but I gotta.
Speaker 10: Pay a hass So what are the perimeters?
Speaker 11: We are these tests that she's been put she's being
Speaker 11: put through, or anybody in that matter, who's maybe you know,
Speaker 11: speak more general, because let's be respectable to your relationship
Speaker 11: unless you want to go there.
Speaker 2: No, here's the deal. I'm gonna say it very plain
Speaker 2: and simple. And my nephew's here and he will attest
Speaker 2: to it. And I'm ashamed to admit it, but it
Speaker 2: is true. My mother knew this about me, My sisters
Speaker 2: know this about me, my nieces and my other nephew knows.
Speaker 1: Everybody knows this is true.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be very, very comfortable when I get married.
Speaker 1: You know why you gonna be old, You're gonna be.
Speaker 10: You ain't got nothing.
Speaker 1: I know you love me. Now I'm gonna tell you why.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you great.
Speaker 2: Ready, you're gonna be I'm gonna have a lot.
Speaker 1: I will have put her through hell. Here's what I
Speaker 1: mean by that. Here's what I mean by that.
Speaker 2: Anybody can act right when everything is good.
Speaker 1: Where's the adversity? Where's the stress? Where's the strength? This
Speaker 1: easy path?
Speaker 10: It's not it's not stressful dating you? Is that what
Speaker 10: you're saying?
Speaker 1: It is stressful dating?
Speaker 10: Okay?
Speaker 2: It's part of on purpose because it's like I don't
Speaker 2: stress you out.
Speaker 11: I'm gonna come here and stress you out well and
Speaker 11: see how far I can push you.
Speaker 1: You don't love someone, here's a deal. I'm not playing
Speaker 1: games though. Here's what I mean by that.
Speaker 2: It's not like calculating and playing. It's just a level
Speaker 2: of defiance. Like you roll up in my life. There's
Speaker 2: certain things I'm gonna be hard headed about naturally. Why
Speaker 2: wait until we married for you to find that out.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna show it to you from joking hard.
Speaker 1: From now, I'm gonna be I'm gonna be a pain
Speaker 1: in the neck from now. I'm gonna be this. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be that, I'm paid.
Speaker 2: I'm showing you this is what you get in and
Speaker 2: you're gonna have to learn, Yo, this is this is money.
Speaker 2: This is my man's that's what comes with him. And
Speaker 2: some women have had a difficult time dealing with that.
Speaker 1: They departed and you.
Speaker 11: Know, their flight left, and I think that does they
Speaker 11: flew out and.
Speaker 10: It is so how she do it? See how she doing?
Speaker 10: How she means these moments?
Speaker 1: Fossil, gup, we gotta go to break, got breath, We
Speaker 1: gotta go break.
Speaker 2: You're trying to get all in the mind right now,
Speaker 2: coming up. I mean, you heard us talking.
Speaker 1: It's the new year. He happened to be in studio.
Speaker 2: My nephew got a lot to say about stuff like this.
Speaker 2: And I asked Torri ahead of Thompson, you mind.
Speaker 1: If he joins us with the last block of the show.
Speaker 2: She's like, I don't want she's scared. If she ain't scared,
Speaker 2: how the hell am I gonna be heard her?
Speaker 10: I'm excited. He's my cousin. He's my cousin.
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Speaker 1: Welcome back to stephen A. Smith Shill right here. It
Speaker 1: was with YouTube. Of course, iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2: Before I get to my next additional guest, once again,
Speaker 2: I wanted to thank Tory Cooper for being on the
Speaker 2: show with us. She is a bit overdressed, but it's
Speaker 2: a perfectly logical explanation. She usually was watching How I'm Dressed,
Speaker 2: and she was working and came straight here to see
Speaker 2: me all of this other stuff, but don't worry about it.
Speaker 1: Here's the deal.
Speaker 2: I wanted to move on and talk about various other subjects,
Speaker 2: but my nephew was in the house, and you know,
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna call him a knucklehead because I love
Speaker 2: him and he's not I just love him messing with him,
Speaker 2: but I don't mind.
Speaker 1: Calling him a knucklehead. Because he's always taking.
Speaker 2: My stuff, Torri, the man sitting next to you, my nephew, Josh.
Speaker 1: Do y'all have footage of the last time he was
Speaker 1: on this show? Please? Could you show a split.
Speaker 2: Screen to him now compared to them now, ladies and gentlemen,
Speaker 2: that's a different pair of shades.
Speaker 1: He keeps stealing my shades, and then he.
Speaker 2: Doesn't consider it stealing because he believed that whatever is
Speaker 2: min it's his.
Speaker 1: It's ridiculous. And oh, by the way, you were lying
Speaker 1: about being this nick fan. Why you wearing a.
Speaker 2: Spurs jacket if you you don't see me wearing another
Speaker 2: team's jacket.
Speaker 8: Well, so she mentioned a jacket. Let me take it
Speaker 8: off because I got merch and I was.
Speaker 1: Rich.
Speaker 10: Mhm, it's split.
Speaker 1: It's lit. I don't want rich. He's not rich. He's
Speaker 1: not rich.
Speaker 8: I'm so you're with me.
Speaker 1: We were rich.
Speaker 9: Let me give you some perspective. And I don't want
Speaker 9: to just make it seem like I'm this loser. Let
Speaker 9: me show you how I an't my check. So growing up,
Speaker 9: Stephen would call me, he's two levels upstairs.
Speaker 8: He's all the way at the top.
Speaker 1: Don't ever call me Stephene. What's my name.
Speaker 8: What's your name, Uncle Steve.
Speaker 1: Don't be disrespectful. I will whip your ass. We tell you.
Speaker 2: My daughters, it was say daddy. One name you understead
Speaker 2: of saying with you is uncle Steve. Don't ever flip
Speaker 2: up on me.
Speaker 1: So then we are rich, none of Uncle Steve, because.
Speaker 2: I got I got plenty of uncles that have money and.
Speaker 8: They didn't have anybody else.
Speaker 9: Us emphasize, but let me get back to myself. So
Speaker 9: he's two levels up, like it's in castle or something.
Speaker 9: I'm in the basin the cellar.
Speaker 8: He'll call me all the way upstairs.
Speaker 1: Can you pass me the cup?
Speaker 8: Where's the cup? The cups right there.
Speaker 1: That's a lie. He is lying.
Speaker 8: He has my nephew.
Speaker 1: Tory. He knows good.
Speaker 2: No, that's a lie. That's what my mother, his grandmother
Speaker 2: did to me. And then ultimately him stay at gun
Speaker 2: in the house and we run from outside and we
Speaker 2: went all the way to yes, maham, what's going on?
Speaker 1: Turn off the light and it's three feet away. My
Speaker 1: mother would do something.
Speaker 2: So he's whiting off of that to try to act
Speaker 2: like I did it when he knows that it's not true.
Speaker 2: And here's the proof. Grandma would have never allowed that.
Speaker 2: That's a lie.
Speaker 10: Did you do this to created storyline?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 8: No, you promise.
Speaker 10: Okay, wow, it's a promise.
Speaker 1: Your promises me. He will embellish and he will take
Speaker 1: his uncle's stuff to go.
Speaker 2: Would you mind telling her the story about how you
Speaker 2: would call me and I wouldn't answer the phone, but
Speaker 2: you let the voicemail be heard by ladies?
Speaker 1: Do you bring that up?
Speaker 10: I did my homework.
Speaker 11: I thoroughly remember that part. But it got you through
Speaker 11: the door right in big places, right.
Speaker 1: Hold hold on.
Speaker 2: That is very inconsistent tory with what you just finished
Speaker 2: talking about in.
Speaker 1: Terms of the need for men to be honest.
Speaker 2: You got this kid here, and now you're saying him
Speaker 2: it got you in the door, didn't it?
Speaker 1: It got you in the door. Didn't excuse me?
Speaker 11: Where are fine with a man being deceitful to get
Speaker 11: in the door?
Speaker 10: Is that this seems the fact that you are a family.
Speaker 1: I'm a family member.
Speaker 8: There's no.
Speaker 10: Where's the dec where's the see? He said, my uncle's
Speaker 10: right here. You're gonna believe here? What's up?
Speaker 1: Can we move on?
Speaker 2: Before we move on a couple of these other subjects,
Speaker 2: let's talk about for a second before I move on
Speaker 2: away from sports, you wanted to comment about Jimmy Butler.
Speaker 2: What possible problems could you have with what I had
Speaker 2: to say about Jimmy Butler.
Speaker 9: I heard Jimmy Butler say he needs to find a
Speaker 9: joy in basketball.
Speaker 8: How much you making sure?
Speaker 2: Forty nine forty nine million is gonna make fifty two
Speaker 2: next season?
Speaker 1: We'll give me the money.
Speaker 8: I'll find a joy forty nine million.
Speaker 1: Is it just about the money? Can I Is it
Speaker 1: just about the money? But after you've already had that,
Speaker 1: can I.
Speaker 2: Tell you a little secret? A little secret. I mean, see,
Speaker 2: if we were really rich, you would know this. But
Speaker 2: since we are not really rich, allow me to help
Speaker 2: you out here. Do you know that when you think
Speaker 2: about the money, you think about it during contract negotiations.
Speaker 2: You think about it when you know that it's supposed
Speaker 2: to be in your bank account, once you can take
Speaker 2: for granted that it's going to be there. Do you
Speaker 2: know that you really never think about your money because
Speaker 2: you already know you've achieved it. So why he's not
Speaker 2: lying what he's saying is I know I got the money.
Speaker 1: I earned it. This is what I brought to the table.
Speaker 2: They gave me the contract, commiserate with my talents. Cool,
Speaker 2: but that doesn't take away from the fact that I'm
Speaker 2: unhappy right now when you got me standing in a corner,
Speaker 2: when you're giving the ball more to some dude named
Speaker 2: Heyward Heidsmith than you are with me, or letting Tyler
Speaker 2: Hero and Bam out of Bile do whatever they want
Speaker 2: at my expense, and you not prioritizing getting me the
Speaker 2: ball and involve in the offense around me. You're trying
Speaker 2: to tell me that Jimmy Butler don't.
Speaker 1: Have a case in that.
Speaker 9: I'm trying to tell you that if it was Kawhi
Speaker 9: or somebody like that that y'all didn't like personally, y'all
Speaker 9: would have a different attitude.
Speaker 1: I don't dislike Kawhi Leonard. I just like the fact that.
Speaker 2: He's never there, but he's always available to get a
Speaker 2: contract extension in every perk that comes with it. That's
Speaker 2: what I like I dislike about Kawhi Leonard.
Speaker 9: Well, Jimmy Butler, to me, he shows up in the
Speaker 9: playoffs and stuff like that, But you make fifty million dollars,
Speaker 9: you complaining about your role on the floor. You're standing
Speaker 9: in the corner. What about Steph Curry who shot a
Speaker 9: faith from three last night?
Speaker 1: The goot Okay, he is the greatest shoot that God
Speaker 1: has ever created.
Speaker 9: Greatest player okay, and the lineup that he plays with.
Speaker 9: You don't hear him ever complaining. You don't hear him
Speaker 9: ever trying to demand a trade or demand players to
Speaker 9: his team.
Speaker 8: He kind of works with what here?
Speaker 11: But at what point is it about not only your
Speaker 11: mental health? Because again, to your uncle Stevens point, he
Speaker 11: already knows the money's coming.
Speaker 10: He's already done it. It's in his bank account. We're good.
Speaker 1: Now.
Speaker 11: He has a moment to leverage his own power. So
Speaker 11: you know what about that? Not only is mental health?
Speaker 11: Obviously he wants to win championship. He doesn't see it
Speaker 11: happening with the current players around him. So at what
Speaker 11: point does he exercise his right to maybe push into
Speaker 11: that and get a better spot in environment for him
Speaker 11: to shine in that question?
Speaker 9: Nephew, Yeah, I mean, I'm a Nick fan, so what's
Speaker 9: going on with the Miami Heat doesn't really interest me
Speaker 9: like that. But to demand the trade when you're making
Speaker 9: forty eight million dollars and you're the guy.
Speaker 8: In your team y'all giving him excuses.
Speaker 9: Now, this is not the same stephen A that judges
Speaker 9: certain other players. I ain't gonna, you know, pin us
Speaker 9: against nobody because we rich and.
Speaker 1: Well, listen, I will say this to you.
Speaker 2: I get where you're coming from. You're wrong, no surprise there,
Speaker 2: but I do get where you're coming from. I would
Speaker 2: normally be harder. I've known Jimmy Butler for years and
Speaker 2: I know what his mentality is like. And I watched
Speaker 2: the Miami Heat get blown out last night by the
Speaker 2: Indiana Pacers, and I saw him standing in the corner.
Speaker 2: And I know that's not because of him, That's because
Speaker 2: of the offense that's being called. And I've seen this
Speaker 2: on numerous occasions this season. And so if you're not
Speaker 2: actively involving him in the fabric of the offense, You're
Speaker 2: going to get an attitude for Jimmy Butler. Everybody knows that.
Speaker 2: And so that's where I'm at with it. But let
Speaker 2: me let me transition to the whole Chad O Joe
Speaker 2: Sinko thing. I'll get into the oh, you know, open
Speaker 2: relationships in just a second.
Speaker 1: Josh, what did you have to say about Chad Oh?
Speaker 1: I'm scared to damp and to ask. But what did
Speaker 1: you have to say?
Speaker 9: I mean, it's not so much a comment, it's more
Speaker 9: a question like what are you saying wrong?
Speaker 11: It's not about what's wrong, it's why why not say
Speaker 11: like why just not be just be quiet?
Speaker 10: He's a podcast, Yeah, but this wasn't even that moment.
Speaker 10: It wasn't like he had his shades on and was
Speaker 10: on the podcast. It wasn't that. It was look at me,
Speaker 10: I'm beautiful. I'm beautiful. She left me in my season. Look,
Speaker 10: you're in your season all day.
Speaker 11: We understand that you're keying like you do great, but
Speaker 11: right now it's giving.
Speaker 10: You aren't keeping things private.
Speaker 11: You feel like you need attention right now from the world.
Speaker 11: And also it's also giving. I may have you go
Speaker 11: to my TikTok right now and check out my skincare
Speaker 11: routine because.
Speaker 10: I'm beautiful and I'm in my season, so you know, like,
Speaker 10: what are we doing? What are we doing?
Speaker 5: Why?
Speaker 9: Why didn't we just like let it go when y'all
Speaker 9: find y'all glory in the negative situation?
Speaker 8: It's woman power and stuff like that.
Speaker 11: I didn't say that, though, you saw right so that
Speaker 11: I said, why are we posting screenshots of text messages.
Speaker 11: Why are we not letting our men be the men
Speaker 11: that they were in our lives?
Speaker 10: You know, at some point you were friends.
Speaker 11: That's my deal is at some point you were friends,
Speaker 11: and why can't you just remember that.
Speaker 2: And remember that and respect one another enough to keep
Speaker 2: your stuff from that part?
Speaker 10: I agree about y'all.
Speaker 8: Y'all know what y'all did. Y'all put me on the
Speaker 8: outside of the couch. I don't got no tea. Y'all
Speaker 8: agreeing with each other's two against one, It's all right.
Speaker 8: The comments is is gonna to do so.
Speaker 2: So you know what, when do you ever want t see?
Speaker 2: That's the bs right there? You usually drink whatever. You
Speaker 2: don't even want that.
Speaker 8: I'm not saying I wanted it, but nobody asked.
Speaker 1: That's a matra that's on Sumatra right there.
Speaker 9: So the water over here parsh harsh.
Speaker 1: You know, good to damn well. Your mother would have
Speaker 1: told you to get your own damn tea.
Speaker 2: Let me move on to this last before we get
Speaker 2: to the callers, because we got some callers on the
Speaker 2: line and want to holler at us.
Speaker 1: What were your thoughts about the whole open dating issue?
Speaker 8: Josh, it's not an issue.
Speaker 1: It's not an issue dating.
Speaker 8: It's not an issue. Use use the support everyone.
Speaker 10: Yeah, I'm just listening. I'm just listening. I just you know,
Speaker 10: I'm learning about it.
Speaker 1: She agrees with me, I'm learning about it. I didn't
Speaker 1: get the impression that you agreed with him. Whoa, whoa.
Speaker 10: Wait, okay, here, hold on, I'm in the middle that.
Speaker 11: But what we're gonna say, Look, I understand this is
Speaker 11: I was bringing you up to speed that this topic
Speaker 11: is out there.
Speaker 10: This is happy, this is women want this. This is
Speaker 10: not just men. Women are doing this too. I just
Speaker 10: wanted to get your I haven't.
Speaker 2: Encountered any woman that that that has expressed that desire.
Speaker 1: I haven't encountered that.
Speaker 2: Okay, usually they want monopolization.
Speaker 1: I want you all to themselves.
Speaker 11: I mean I'm one of them, open date and like
Speaker 11: the ones open to d Yeah, it's not just see.
Speaker 1: Look at that. Look at that.
Speaker 10: See so when a woman asks you, ain't about it?
Speaker 9: You know, And the reason why is because we buy
Speaker 9: our way into being able to.
Speaker 8: Do so when we because you rich, so you know,
Speaker 8: when we're not rich.
Speaker 9: Though, when you go on a date with somebody doesn't
Speaker 9: he have to pay first. Yeah, no matter where you work, right,
Speaker 9: even if you have a great job and you could
Speaker 9: afford it.
Speaker 11: Is it like this, you asked me out on a date?
Speaker 11: Or is it like, hey, we're just meeting up, you know,
Speaker 11: get to know each other for a moment, like it's
Speaker 11: not established, like this is the date?
Speaker 8: What if you're hungry?
Speaker 10: I'm just saying, like, let's I want to know, Josh,
Speaker 10: Are you saying.
Speaker 11: That this is like you asked If you ask me
Speaker 11: out on a real date.
Speaker 10: To eat, then yes, you're gonna pay.
Speaker 8: You're gonna eat too.
Speaker 10: Yeah, and you're gonna pay.
Speaker 8: I'm gonna pay. You're rich no matter where you work,
Speaker 8: I'm gonna.
Speaker 10: Pay, Yeah, because it's principal. What if I like, what
Speaker 10: if it's the burrito?
Speaker 5: What?
Speaker 10: You know what I mean? Because well, here's the thing.
Speaker 10: Here's the thing.
Speaker 11: It's not about the expectation, okay, because I'm not gonna
Speaker 11: expect it because I'm always gonna come prepared to pay
Speaker 11: for myself no matter what.
Speaker 10: But I'm gonna.
Speaker 11: Test, you know, see see if he offers, because our parameters,
Speaker 11: I gotta see where you're at.
Speaker 8: So this is where I'm and you're gonna agree with you.
Speaker 10: You got your own test, don't you.
Speaker 11: You just sat up here and told us all that
Speaker 11: you have a series of tests.
Speaker 10: Okay.
Speaker 11: So yeah, So I'm gonna show up ready to pay
Speaker 11: the period and I'm not gonna be entitled, but I'm
Speaker 11: gonna see how you move.
Speaker 8: So what about us testing you?
Speaker 9: So me since i'm you know, we're since we're since
Speaker 9: we we're financially slavey okay? When when you take us
Speaker 9: when we go out, when we go out on the
Speaker 9: first day, it's usually so the god can prove like, oh,
Speaker 9: he has something.
Speaker 8: He's paying for me to go out. We're gonna eat together?
Speaker 1: Is it? But with me?
Speaker 9: Why should I let you in on our rich life?
Speaker 9: You gotta show me why So when we go out,
Speaker 9: you gotta pay?
Speaker 8: Wow?
Speaker 10: Wow should want to pay for my tacos? You should
Speaker 10: want to pay for my tacos.
Speaker 8: Tacos?
Speaker 11: Yeah, tacos are great, But what if it's just tacos?
Speaker 11: Like what if it's not something elaborated? What if we're
Speaker 11: just going to taco It's like you're not.
Speaker 10: So here's my thing? Why can't you downgrade the date?
Speaker 10: Why is it gonna be so much like yo? We're
Speaker 10: going to the Five Seasons or the rints. Carlton like
Speaker 10: downgrade the date.
Speaker 1: Grandma is turning over in but it's fine. But but
Speaker 1: staten Grandma here, you get this wrong.
Speaker 9: She's pro safe and she raised me in the second half.
Speaker 1: You gotta go to the calls. I can't.
Speaker 2: I got to hurry up, get out of here. I
Speaker 2: got I can't have America listening. And let's go to
Speaker 2: Caleb in Rochester, New York. You're with stephen A, along
Speaker 2: with my dear Frank Tory and of course my nephew Josh.
Speaker 1: Go ahead, what's up, bro? Go ahead?
Speaker 13: Talk to me, man, I got a relationship question for you.
Speaker 1: Go ahead.
Speaker 6: I'm here, all right, So I'm on the East coast,
Speaker 6: New York.
Speaker 13: Right, Yes, I've been talking with this girl.
Speaker 1: West coast.
Speaker 6: Okay, Washington.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's pretty far. That's six hours.
Speaker 6: Yes, that's that's far.
Speaker 1: Six outs.
Speaker 13: You think you think you think we could work out,
Speaker 13: You think you think that could work.
Speaker 2: Hell no, hell no, listen, long distance. The only way
Speaker 2: that long distance works is if she doesn't care that
Speaker 2: much about being with you, and vice versa.
Speaker 1: If you really.
Speaker 2: Really want each other, then it becomes painful to be
Speaker 2: a part which builds frustration. Frustration Ultimately, animosity isn't far behind,
Speaker 2: and eventually.
Speaker 1: The heart.
Speaker 2: You know, absence makes the heart grow fonder, but too
Speaker 2: much absence makes the heart wonder.
Speaker 1: It's just that simple. I don't under staying, how why
Speaker 1: are you looking at me like that? Tory?
Speaker 10: Because I'm in a long distance relationship?
Speaker 1: Okay, wait, wait a minute, Wait a minute, wait a minute.
Speaker 12: Time out Atlanta, Yeah, New York, Right, the same, but
Speaker 12: it still is like when you go from having your
Speaker 12: partner in a.
Speaker 11: Certain place, the same place as you, and then you go.
Speaker 10: To a different spot for a little bit. But it's
Speaker 10: just for a little bit, right, And that's what I
Speaker 10: was gonna say.
Speaker 11: There's an that was I was letting you finish with
Speaker 11: our beautiful and awesome call here.
Speaker 10: What's Caleb? Thank you? Caleb.
Speaker 11: Look, there has to be an end in sight to
Speaker 11: the long distance otherwise, no otherwise.
Speaker 2: Stephen is right, Yeah, very much, go ahead, Josh, scared
Speaker 2: to hear the answer for glhad.
Speaker 9: The only way that it's gonna work is that if
Speaker 9: their relationship is what we.
Speaker 8: Just spoke about, open, open, open too.
Speaker 2: What what's the difference between open and open open right
Speaker 2: like open.
Speaker 9: Open open, open is what we explained. She she could
Speaker 9: be in on the openness too. Just open is when
Speaker 9: men is late, you know, h keleb.
Speaker 1: Does that answer your question?
Speaker 5: Yeah? Answer? Thank you man, I love the insight.
Speaker 1: Appreciate it. Man, Thank you so much. Toby and Maryland.
Speaker 1: You're live with Stephen Ay and his crew? What's going on? Man?
Speaker 7: Him?
Speaker 1: How you doing? Female?
Speaker 14: Go ahead, I'm good.
Speaker 7: I have a question for you. Yes, So, how do
Speaker 7: you feel about the youngest son and the only daughter
Speaker 7: diamic the relationship dam.
Speaker 1: Youngest son, oldest daughter, only daughter, only daughter. Let me
Speaker 1: say this to you, dad, that's a problem. That's a problem.
Speaker 1: Let me explain why I thought you Originally you had
Speaker 1: said the oldest daughter.
Speaker 2: See, the oldest daughter is usually associated with the matriarch
Speaker 2: of the family, so he's nurturing everybody. She's raising us
Speaker 2: like on Linda, you know, stuff like that, You raising
Speaker 2: us up.
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: So she's used to being a nurturer and to some
Speaker 2: degree in control. The youngest is the baby, so they
Speaker 2: used to being nurtured and used to being baby, so
Speaker 2: it works.
Speaker 1: But if he is the youngest, and she's the only Both.
Speaker 2: Are using the used to being spoiled, and it usually
Speaker 2: there's one with slippage because no matter how much spoiling
Speaker 2: you do, one of the other usually requires more than
Speaker 2: what they're getting.
Speaker 1: And because well, in most situations, I would tell you
Speaker 1: it's the only it's it's the girl.
Speaker 2: It's the only it's the only child, the only child,
Speaker 2: it's the only child, the only child, which is the
Speaker 2: girl in this particular instance, she's.
Speaker 1: Accustomed because she don't have to share.
Speaker 2: See, you the youngest, You might be spoiled, but you
Speaker 2: still understand that there's certain stuff that's doled out for
Speaker 2: everybody else. When you the only you don't have to
Speaker 2: share everything with yours So because of that, Oh, hell no,
Speaker 2: that that's a bad situation, Toby, I'm sorry, sweet, I mean,
Speaker 2: that's a bad situation.
Speaker 1: Go ahead, go ahead tell me.
Speaker 10: Are you in this relationship?
Speaker 5: Right?
Speaker 10: Are you the.
Speaker 5: Hip?
Speaker 7: But it's funny, it's not like she's the only child.
Speaker 7: Get it right.
Speaker 5: I'm not the only child.
Speaker 7: I'm the only girl, but I'm the youngest. And the boyfriend,
Speaker 7: my boyfriend is the youngest son, but he's not he's
Speaker 7: the second only so see.
Speaker 1: What I'm saying. Now, that's a different thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but still at all, there's still it's still not
Speaker 2: an only Yeah you still.
Speaker 1: You got a chance. It's a better change, definitely a
Speaker 1: better chance. That's a better chance, Josh chance. It sounds
Speaker 1: like there's a chance. Told me you're in a good situation.
Speaker 1: You're in a good situation because you got a chance.
Speaker 5: Me.
Speaker 2: It's a custom to share it, and as long as
Speaker 2: both sides are accustomed to stuff being shared, the requirements
Speaker 2: lessen to some degree.
Speaker 9: If the guy is the youngest, though, you're dealing with
Speaker 9: a stephen A.
Speaker 8: What's you been You're the youngest in the house.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, what's a step the spoiled? Go get
Speaker 1: me this?
Speaker 2: How am I spoiled you?
Speaker 1: You?
Speaker 2: You know your mother and your aunts? When was I
Speaker 2: spoiled by them? They slap me upside their head and
Speaker 2: tell me to go get do it myself.
Speaker 8: All in love.
Speaker 1: It was all in love. Thank you, Thank you. Toby.
Speaker 14: Give a shout out really quick, go ahead, real quick.
Speaker 5: Shout out to my dad Patrick, my boyfriend Olu, and
Speaker 5: my brother Toby.
Speaker 7: With an eye, Toby with an eye, Mine is with
Speaker 7: a wife, got you, no problem, Thank you day, have
Speaker 7: a nice day.
Speaker 1: Happy New Year.
Speaker 2: Matthew, South Carolina. Talk to me and the crew. What's
Speaker 2: going on?
Speaker 5: What's up, guys, how y'all doing?
Speaker 1: We here?
Speaker 5: We here?
Speaker 1: What's up?
Speaker 14: So let me let me set up the stage for you.
Speaker 5: Stephen A.
Speaker 14: Smith, right, let me let me set the stage for you. Okay.
Speaker 14: So a couple of years ago, I talked to my
Speaker 14: boys Steve Harvey Okay, about how to pick up a girl.
Speaker 14: Because I was clueless, I didn't know how. He gave
Speaker 14: me some great advice. I use it now. I've been
Speaker 14: married for a few years, okay, and.
Speaker 5: I feel like that we've kind of been just doing
Speaker 5: the same exact thing over and over in the bed,
Speaker 5: and I want your advice. How do I spice it
Speaker 5: up in the bedroom? And how do I get like
Speaker 5: Shannon Sharp?
Speaker 1: Well, a couple of things.
Speaker 2: I have no idea what the hell you mean in
Speaker 2: terms of how do I get like Shannon Shaw.
Speaker 1: Let's get that out the way. I have no clue
Speaker 1: what you're talking about. Secondly, when you talk about.
Speaker 2: Spicing it up in the bedroom, I think it's important
Speaker 2: to ask a certain question to work with me.
Speaker 1: He Torri work I think it's important to ask a
Speaker 1: couple of questions.
Speaker 2: Number one, is she complaining about the lack of spice?
Speaker 1: Good question, Matthew. Is she complaining about the lack of spice?
Speaker 13: I mean, I think I mean my.
Speaker 1: Last I asked you a direct question. You know the
Speaker 1: answer to that question?
Speaker 2: What's up with the studying or the stuttering rather and
Speaker 2: and the wiggling your way around?
Speaker 1: Ask you a direct question?
Speaker 14: Is she I mean, she's not complaining.
Speaker 5: I'm just saying that I would love to it up
Speaker 5: a little bit more.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: What I'm saying to you is this, If she's not complaining,
Speaker 2: then you're confident she's satisfied.
Speaker 13: I mean she's satisfied.
Speaker 1: I said she's I said she's satisfied. I said, you're
Speaker 1: confident she's satisfied.
Speaker 5: Correct?
Speaker 1: Correct?
Speaker 2: Okay, Then anything you do that's different, it's going to
Speaker 2: help you out because it's a deviation unless it doesn't work.
Speaker 2: Now you try something new and it don't work, that
Speaker 2: would be problematic.
Speaker 10: Sounds like he's the one that wants to spice it up.
Speaker 10: She you know, she's good, has.
Speaker 11: Been established in this conversation. That's what I'm getting from you. Matthew,
Speaker 11: is that correct. You're the one that wants to spice
Speaker 11: it up.
Speaker 10: You're a feeling like it's getting predictable, exactly.
Speaker 11: Okay, okay, okay, So but keep in mind, this is
Speaker 11: someone who expects a certain show from you every time.
Speaker 10: So you deviate, you're gonna ask for this. This is
Speaker 10: coming from what is coming is coming from? Did you
Speaker 10: get this from the internet? Did you get this from
Speaker 10: testing it out somewhere?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 10: Why are you interested in this?
Speaker 5: Now?
Speaker 10: I'm gonna call my friend. So you're opening up. You know,
Speaker 10: I think it's always better to have an open.
Speaker 2: Because she says in communication for Matthew, did you hear
Speaker 2: what Tory saying?
Speaker 10: Open communication first?
Speaker 2: What she's saying, right, Matthew, She said that the minute
Speaker 2: you deviate, the minute you deviate from the norm, you're
Speaker 2: gonna raise antenna's slash suspicions.
Speaker 12: Question.
Speaker 2: When you get this from what you're doing, who you've
Speaker 2: been doing it with, where you've been you feel me?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 5: I feel you.
Speaker 14: I just want to I want to raise the bar
Speaker 14: you can.
Speaker 10: But you got about it first, Matthew.
Speaker 1: You got to talk about it first.
Speaker 10: You got to say, hey, I love you. I just
Speaker 10: have something.
Speaker 9: Why are you looking like that, Jo, because you're coming
Speaker 9: down on the course. Support what Matthew, Matthew, Matthew, Look,
Speaker 9: I thought he hung up. They don't understand, they don't
Speaker 9: understand where you're coming from. You try to break it
Speaker 9: down two different times. It's about him wanting to be better,
Speaker 9: and y'all still crashing.
Speaker 8: Down on him.
Speaker 2: No, we supported, We just better, meaning wants better, He
Speaker 2: wants more, he wants more spies.
Speaker 8: Yeah, he just wanted You said you want to spice
Speaker 8: it up?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 9: Go watch me, go watch go watch Steven a show
Speaker 9: two episodes ago and see what I told y'all to.
Speaker 8: Do on tender meet another one and add her to
Speaker 8: the bedroom.
Speaker 5: Wow.
Speaker 11: Yeah, but I said, you know, Matthew, that's what I'm
Speaker 11: talking about.
Speaker 10: Don't listen to.
Speaker 1: Don't do it. Trust me, trust me. You're gonna be
Speaker 1: ready to want, You're gonna want to throw Take it easy, Matthew.
Speaker 1: Thanks a lot, man. Two more callers left. Let's go
Speaker 1: to Kyrie in Maryland. You're live with Stephen A and
Speaker 1: the crew. What's going on, Kyrie?
Speaker 6: Stephen? Stephen A was good? How you doing the new year?
Speaker 1: Talk to me? What's up?
Speaker 6: So you know, we've been watching you on TV for
Speaker 6: a long time now, right, So I'm quoting. I'm quoting
Speaker 6: your nephew Josh. He said, you gotta find someone to
Speaker 6: be old with you. So my question is have you
Speaker 6: You don't got to say the name. We just want
Speaker 6: to yes or no. And the second part of that question.
Speaker 6: You know it's twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1: I believe, I believe. I believe I found out to
Speaker 1: answer your first question. But go ahead. What's your second question?
Speaker 6: Okay, second question? It's twenty twenty five. Can we expect
Speaker 6: that Stephen Ay pop out with the person he is
Speaker 6: being old with? Mate?
Speaker 1: I have been seeing with my lady on several occasions.
Speaker 1: I just don't advertise.
Speaker 2: You see us holding hands together, walking, walking in public places,
Speaker 2: at events and things of that nature. She has been
Speaker 2: with me. I haven't hid or anything like that. I
Speaker 2: don't do that, either with me or you not.
Speaker 6: Okay, I feel it. I feel it. So you want
Speaker 6: to just keep it private?
Speaker 1: No? No, I don't you know why?
Speaker 2: Because God forbid we break up and we ain't together.
Speaker 2: You know, you get with somebody else. Oh that's stephen
Speaker 2: A's X. See that's the kind of shit I don't
Speaker 2: like you. Understand, I'm saying, why can't it be hard?
Speaker 1: Why I got to be? Oh, that's stephen A's X.
Speaker 1: I don't play that stuff.
Speaker 8: I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't you know. I will cheat you with respect,
Speaker 2: courtesy or whatever. But once we've done, we're done. I'm
Speaker 2: not deferring to you. I'm not referencing you. I'm not
Speaker 2: pointing out that you used to be with me. I
Speaker 2: don't want anybody else doing that.
Speaker 1: Et cetera, et cetera, either with me or you not.
Speaker 6: That's how we're gonna walk attached to them if you.
Speaker 1: Let me, unless you with me. I've often said this.
Speaker 1: I've offen said this.
Speaker 2: I'm not hiding anything, but I've often said this, You'll
Speaker 2: definitively know who I'm with when she's missing stephen A. Smith,
Speaker 2: why are you advertising the relationships that have been out
Speaker 2: there where you walking around and you're advertising this is
Speaker 2: the person that you're with, and then she ends up
Speaker 2: with somebody else and you in the news because of
Speaker 2: somebody else's business. Has nothing to do with you, cause
Speaker 2: you ain't no longer with the person, but you in
Speaker 2: the news. I don't want no parts of.
Speaker 1: That, I don't. I don't discuss it. I don't debate it.
Speaker 1: I'm not revealed. I don't. I don't play that nonsense.
Speaker 1: I can't stand people that get in the people's personal business.
Speaker 2: Of all the years that I've been a reportatory, all
Speaker 2: the years i've been a reporter, I don't get in
Speaker 2: the people's person I got my man Galen over there
Speaker 2: and so Mantra and every I don't get in the
Speaker 2: people's personal business.
Speaker 1: I stay you. My nephew knows this.
Speaker 2: If you basketball or football box and whatever into your study,
Speaker 2: I'm talking about your.
Speaker 1: Profession, or if you end up in the police blodders,
Speaker 1: I have to talk about that.
Speaker 2: That's a matter of public information. If it's private, it's
Speaker 2: none of my business. No matter what I've seen or heard,
Speaker 2: I keep it moving. It's none of my business.
Speaker 6: I respect that.
Speaker 10: That's all about you.
Speaker 11: I would say, that's that's what I would hope that
Speaker 11: everyone watching would take that and move like that, because
Speaker 11: especially the men that are in high places, because you
Speaker 11: will get so much more respect from the woman around
Speaker 11: you if you move like that.
Speaker 8: Damn man, would you say you because you just started
Speaker 8: claiming me. They want to know who your girlfriend is. Yeah, family,
Speaker 8: don't even really claim yet, Like you gotta work your
Speaker 8: way in with.
Speaker 1: Right cools down. Tell him.
Speaker 5: That for him.
Speaker 1: Cole last colon Colon Michigan. You love of Stephen. It
Speaker 1: was a cold.
Speaker 7: Mister Smith.
Speaker 1: How's it going, man, I'm all right. I'm waiting for
Speaker 1: this show to end because my nephew is getting on
Speaker 1: my damn nerves.
Speaker 13: We'll go ahead, yeah, I mean shit, I'll be He'd
Speaker 13: be getting on my nerves too if I were.
Speaker 6: All this stuff.
Speaker 13: Come on, No, I'm playing.
Speaker 5: Go ahead for sure.
Speaker 13: Thank you guys for your time and congratulations on a
Speaker 13: million steven A, thank you.
Speaker 6: So I called in.
Speaker 13: I tell you tweet you're asking about? Uh you were
Speaker 13: talking about relationships stuff. You want to questions for that?
Speaker 1: Uh?
Speaker 13: So my question for you is with Josh. I don't
Speaker 13: know Josh's background, but uh you know you obviously I don't.
Speaker 1: Want to know Josh's background.
Speaker 13: Go ahead, yeah, okay, okay, why what's Josh the other way?
Speaker 5: Know?
Speaker 1: Just keep it moving? Go ahead?
Speaker 7: Okay.
Speaker 13: So, being as successful as you are, traveling as much
Speaker 13: as you are, you know, how do you keep healthy relationships?
Speaker 13: How do you how do you manage relationships well.
Speaker 1: First of all, I don't travel as much as I
Speaker 1: used to.
Speaker 2: When I did travel that that much, I refrained from
Speaker 2: having relationships because I know I couldn't be as honorable
Speaker 2: as I would it would be compelled to be. If
Speaker 2: I'm traveling two hundred plus days out of the year,
Speaker 2: that's number one.
Speaker 1: Number two. Now that I travel significantly less, it's a
Speaker 1: lot easier.
Speaker 2: But I would tell you listen, nobody's perfect, and we
Speaker 2: get that, and especially us trifling ask men.
Speaker 1: Sometimes we do the wrong things. That's all true, But
Speaker 1: there is never an excuse to.
Speaker 2: Be emotionally dishonest to let somebody know how you feel.
Speaker 2: If you ain't happy, say so. If you're not turned on,
Speaker 2: say so. If you need more excitement, say so. If
Speaker 2: somebody is not the conversations are not a stimulating enough,
Speaker 2: or the sex ain't working, or you know they working
Speaker 2: hard enough, or they're not supportive of you and your goals,
Speaker 2: your ambitions.
Speaker 1: Except whatever it may be, there is never an excuse.
Speaker 2: For not letting somebody know how you feel, because when
Speaker 2: you let somebody know how you feel, they can deduce
Speaker 2: what's inevitable. If you let them know where you stand,
Speaker 2: and that is the rule that I've religiously followed.
Speaker 11: Go ahead, Tori, Yeah, I would say the exact same thing.
Speaker 11: You have to communicate over communicate, and otherwise you're not
Speaker 11: going to have any stability in your relationship. You're not
Speaker 11: going to go know where you stand in your relationship
Speaker 11: if you're not, because you're going to pick up on
Speaker 11: where the person's feel what the person's feeling, and if
Speaker 11: they don't say it now, you're creating.
Speaker 10: A rift between the two of you.
Speaker 11: But that's the only way to have a cohesive partnership
Speaker 11: is through communication.
Speaker 2: Josh, I'm gonna okay, I'm really starting to believe.
Speaker 9: That I speak for the people that really don't care
Speaker 9: about their relationship stuff because it's.
Speaker 1: What's in it for us. Who's us?
Speaker 8: The man men come, I'm speaking for men you like
Speaker 8: in the middle because you know this is different and.
Speaker 10: He's doing a good job. But I feel like it's genuine.
Speaker 8: It is genuine, trusting is genuine.
Speaker 1: I was raised by five women. He knows it's me too. Ahead.
Speaker 1: You weren't.
Speaker 8: No, you weren't in the same house.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but no, you weren't. You weren't. At first of all,
Speaker 1: you weren't the same house you was living on two fourteenth.
Speaker 1: She stopped that. Okay, that's number one. Number two.
Speaker 2: You know Grandma shielded you from all of that stuff,
Speaker 2: all right, all right, and you were around me more
Speaker 2: than you were around your aunt, So stop it.
Speaker 8: I was around you. We'll talk about some years. Listen,
Speaker 8: he ain't everything. He cracking up. I'm not understanding.
Speaker 9: He's the sixty year old version of me. Maybe in
Speaker 9: twenty five is I'll tony down. But for now, when
Speaker 9: you're in these relationships, I just don't feel like it's
Speaker 9: much in it for us.
Speaker 8: We gotta pay for everything.
Speaker 9: If somebody breaks into the house, he ain't gonna wake
Speaker 9: you up and be like figure that out.
Speaker 8: That's me and light of danger.
Speaker 10: That's true. I mean not to laugh about it, but yes,
Speaker 10: this is what I'm saying. Expected to do something about it.
Speaker 9: So can y'all answer that for me? Like what's in
Speaker 9: and don't give me the corny? Oh, she's gonna love
Speaker 9: you and know what's in it for us, because we
Speaker 9: know what's in it for y'all. You look at somebody
Speaker 9: to pay half the bills at least sometimes all of it.
Speaker 9: Right that you told me in the car the other day.
Speaker 11: He told me, I'm not the right person to ask
Speaker 11: that question because I pay for my bills.
Speaker 10: I pay for all my bills with the boyfriend. With
Speaker 10: a boyfriend. Yeah, we had that, We had that tough
Speaker 10: conversation early on.
Speaker 3: Oh.
Speaker 11: He said, there's no there's no expect expectation here, there's
Speaker 11: no entitlement.
Speaker 10: And I said, look, you still gotta.
Speaker 1: Want to buy. He's misconstruing my point.
Speaker 2: His whole thing is that when I talked about and
Speaker 2: all the bills, I'm not talking about all of her bills.
Speaker 1: I'm talking about in my home, in my habitat.
Speaker 2: This is I'm living like this. So in other words,
Speaker 2: I'm not looking for a woman to come along and
Speaker 2: pay bills where I'm living. Yeah, where I live, this is,
Speaker 2: this is my dra and I'm and obviously I believe
Speaker 2: it's gonna be upgraded enough where you know it's gonna
Speaker 2: be up to snuff and you know you'll want to
Speaker 2: be there too.
Speaker 1: But the point is that I'm.
Speaker 2: Gonna take care of me, and I'm gonna take care
Speaker 2: of anybody in my habitat. That doesn't mean I'm gonna
Speaker 2: go outside and take care of your stuff.
Speaker 1: That's not what I said.
Speaker 8: So he's missing so pretty much just said it again.
Speaker 8: He's missing a whole he's saying in my my me.
Speaker 8: If you're in a house with your woman, is our house, right?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 10: Me together? But sometimes you're not always living together.
Speaker 8: We're not talking about that. If we living together, you're
Speaker 8: trying to be funny.
Speaker 15: We living together, we split in the bills. I'm not
Speaker 15: even getting a girl that can't help me. Okay, well
Speaker 15: I'm not get a girl. Okay, yeah, no, I respect that, Listen, Helen.
Speaker 1: Well no, I'm passing it. Stuff it, Listen.
Speaker 2: I gotta get on out of here. He knows it's
Speaker 2: not He wasn't raised this way. He was not raised
Speaker 2: this way.
Speaker 1: You understand. And this is the thing. And you asked
Speaker 1: the question. I'll end the show by saying this. You
Speaker 1: ask what is it?
Speaker 2: What's in it for a man? A relationship, marriage, all
Speaker 2: of that stuff. A It depends on the right woman.
Speaker 2: But if you have the right woman, one that communicates
Speaker 2: with you, one that takes care of the things you
Speaker 2: don't want.
Speaker 1: To take care of, that enables you to be positioned
Speaker 1: to take care of the things that you have to
Speaker 1: take care of.
Speaker 5: None.
Speaker 1: Let me explain. If Uncle Steve is about paying bills right, well,
Speaker 1: I want to pay bills.
Speaker 2: So when I come home, I don't feel like cooking,
Speaker 2: I don't feel like cleaning. I don't feel like doing
Speaker 2: a whole bunch of domesticated household stuff because I have
Speaker 2: no desire to do that because I've been.
Speaker 1: Working all day handling my business.
Speaker 2: If we have that understanding and she takes care of that,
Speaker 2: that's a lot that's off my shoulders that I don't
Speaker 2: have to be concerned about because she handles my business
Speaker 2: on that personal level, and that enables me to do
Speaker 2: all the things that I want to do without having
Speaker 2: to be preoccupied time wise with a whole bunch of
Speaker 2: domesticated obligations because I have nobody at home to do
Speaker 2: that for me. Not to mention the fact that I
Speaker 2: ain't got to go out and look for nothing that
Speaker 2: I want in between the sheets, because it's right there.
Speaker 1: So I got all of that going on for me too.
Speaker 1: Understand a partner that that that does matter.
Speaker 10: So this is what you get out of it, that's
Speaker 10: what you get out of it. What's your impression? What
Speaker 10: do you get out of it?
Speaker 9: So everybody's be careful, right, So everybody always asks, like
Speaker 9: Steven Ay, really your uncle, cause you know his hair
Speaker 9: and this and that.
Speaker 8: My hairline has no going to do with hereditary Oh women,
Speaker 8: did this?
Speaker 5: Whoa?
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, because I've only seen you with
Speaker 1: the hat on.
Speaker 10: I've fully seen you with a hat.
Speaker 1: On until this moment.
Speaker 8: Man, And I've been bold because I was twenty two,
Speaker 8: so you just had looking off.
Speaker 1: Now y'all heard me exposing my story.
Speaker 8: Man, let me get this, Michael.
Speaker 1: I hope y'all enjoyed the show staying They shouted off
Speaker 1: until next time. That's it, y'all,