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Speaker 1: Agie Martinez in Real Life podcast. This episode and conversation

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Speaker 1: is powered by I Do Say, Hey, guys, we are back.

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Speaker 1: It is another edition of the Edgie Martinez Irl Takeaways.

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Speaker 1: So I'm sure some of you know by now, but

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Speaker 1: these episodes are just takeaways of some of the amazing

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Speaker 1: conversations we've had. Our season is officially back, which is

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Speaker 1: very exciting because we had a little bit late in

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Speaker 1: the returning just because life was lifing and real life

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Speaker 1: was real lifing, and so we took a little break

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Speaker 1: to regroup and we are back now in the new season,

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Speaker 1: and we launched with our first live event, which was

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Speaker 1: so dope and so exciting and just I don't know,

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Speaker 1: it was a perfect way to launch because I feel

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Speaker 1: like number one, we had a great conversation with Rich Paul.

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Speaker 1: Number two of the event was super dope, and number

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Speaker 1: three I got a chance, I don't know something about

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Speaker 1: being in the room with community to have these conversations

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Speaker 1: was a perfect way to set off this new season. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: So I'm here with Britain our show producer, Hey Hey,

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Speaker 1: and then Young Nyla. Nyla's moan Hello actually DJed our

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Speaker 1: first live event, Yes at the beautiful compound. Shout out

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Speaker 1: to set Free for hosting it.

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Speaker 2: They have.

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Speaker 1: It was just it just was like shout out to Duce.

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Speaker 1: We had drinks, we had art, we had food, food

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Speaker 1: amazing and buts. We had Nyla DJing playing an assortment

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Speaker 1: of I don't know who you're playing vibes, a whole

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Speaker 1: lot of jay Z, a lot of it felt like

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Speaker 1: a jay Z room. We were in Brooklyn and then

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Speaker 1: our guest was Rich Paul Rich of course just put

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Speaker 1: a book out and it's called Lucky Me. And so

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Speaker 1: I know Rich, I've been around them before. I know

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Speaker 1: he's super smart, super successful, always interested to talk to

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Speaker 1: anybody who I think we could learn something from and

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Speaker 1: why you know, and so I was excited that he

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Speaker 1: agreed to do the pod. And what are our takeaways?

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Speaker 2: What are what are the number one things that.

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Speaker 1: People have said about this conversation, Brittany, that was you?

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Speaker 2: Oh thanks, thank you?

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Speaker 1: Well? What were your talk takeaways?

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Speaker 2: First of all, like my personal ones?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, everyone has to make a sacrifice for the.

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Speaker 2: Team to win. Mm hmmm, he said that, Yeah, he

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Speaker 2: said that.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I was there, but I don't know, I

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Speaker 1: don't have that specific wording when did when did that

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Speaker 1: come up?

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Speaker 2: What's the one thing? The big thing, the.

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Speaker 4: Big thing, fight, like everyone has to make a sacrifice

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Speaker 4: in order for the team to win. Right when the

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Speaker 4: college scouts was coming, I didn't get I didn't complain

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Speaker 4: because they're not coming to this. I know they're not

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Speaker 4: coming to see me. I ain't played in six games.

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Speaker 4: They come to see me, then they go they don't

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Speaker 4: have this job for long.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 4: But but at the end, but I'm also not afraid

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Speaker 4: to say that, right because I know who I am.

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Speaker 4: But ultimately, you got to know when to jump off

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Speaker 4: that that that dream train, especially if that dream could

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Speaker 4: never become a reality. There's a lot of kids chasing

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Speaker 4: that dream of being the actual out and in the

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Speaker 4: black community, we spend so much time trying to be

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Speaker 4: the talent that we never build anything.

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Speaker 3: It was about the bigger conversation than him talking about

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Speaker 3: how he didn't aspire to be in front of the limelight.

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Speaker 1: Yeah and that how oh what he was talking about

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Speaker 1: being on the college team. Yes, really playing, Yes, yes, yes.

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Speaker 3: Everyone has to make a sacrifice for the team to win.

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Speaker 3: It's not a new thought, but coming from him having

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Speaker 3: the success he has is like, yes, it's more meaningful

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Speaker 3: because I'm a person behind the scenes.

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Speaker 2: You felt seen.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I think you and I never I never aspire

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Speaker 3: person with all the lime night. That comes to different burdens.

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Speaker 3: But also when you when you don't aspire to be

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Speaker 3: Thank you, you.

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Speaker 2: Are appreciating it. And I was like, if I had clearance,

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Speaker 2: I would play in Tupac.

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Speaker 1: You are appreciate it right now. All good, guys, All good.

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Speaker 1: That's my small violence. Let me see, well my take away,

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Speaker 1: there was a few, a lot of them. I love

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Speaker 1: his red flags. Oh, I'm looking for characters and people

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Speaker 1: who have insecurity or people. This was interesting because this

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Speaker 1: in real life too, Like he was saying that, like

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Speaker 1: in business, if you're negotiating with somebody, you're doing business

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Speaker 1: out of everything, selfish, that is a red flag selfish, right,

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Speaker 1: And so we think about that in terms of like

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Speaker 1: personal relationships, we don't necessarily think about that in business

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Speaker 1: and the people we want to do business with, Like

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Speaker 1: business dealing should work for both parties, right, and so

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Speaker 1: if you approach it that way and how to, I

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Speaker 1: don't know. I just I thought that was interesting, an

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Speaker 1: interesting take that that was such something that he really

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Speaker 1: paid attention to. That was a red flag when somebody

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Speaker 1: you know those friends that are always like, come to

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Speaker 2: And then they don't show up to your stuff, yo.

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Speaker 1: But then like, you know, so I think you know,

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Speaker 1: that was interesting to hear his business take on that

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Speaker 4: If someone is too focused on what's only in it

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Speaker 4: if you're not respecting people that are basically making your

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Speaker 4: life easier, that's a character flaw. And by the way,

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Speaker 4: the more successful you become, the better person you should

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Speaker 4: Like if you're going to be successful, be successful in everything.

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Speaker 3: But that's about building relationships, Like his whole career is

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Speaker 3: based on relationships. Yeah, working your relationships that you have,

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Speaker 3: and you don't want to come back and do business

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Speaker 2: So if you just play let's be as fair as possible.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it makes me okay, I want to do more

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Speaker 5: And then outside of that, it's like you're really only

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Speaker 5: doing it for you, you know, like you're not doing it

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Speaker 5: for love, you're not doing it for the passion. You're

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Speaker 5: just doing it to get from A to B. Yes, nobody,

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Speaker 5: what's work with those type of people?

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Speaker 2: Life's too short, by the way.

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Speaker 3: You set a bar about that too, because stepping out

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Speaker 2: You know, Rich Paul came from a really rough background.

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Speaker 3: His mom was addicted to drugs, Like, he had to

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Speaker 3: of life. And Angie actually said a bar and was like,

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Speaker 3: circle that but it's.

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Speaker 1: Also not a groundbreaking thought, yes, but but it is

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Speaker 1: groundbreaking if you if you really use, if you really

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Speaker 1: are mindful about the decisions you make, because sometimes you

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Speaker 1: just get into friendship. You get into relationship because it's convenient,

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Speaker 1: because somebody's cool, somebody's funny, somebody makes it squeeze their

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Speaker 1: your life, that's how you fix That's how you fix that,

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Speaker 1: that's how you change it. Because yes, of course, bad

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but we.

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Speaker 1: Don't always consciously make decisions about the people that we

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Speaker 5: It's true, you also got to have the willingness to

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Speaker 5: be around, because, like you.

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Speaker 2: Said, people will like squeeze their away in.

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Speaker 1: Well, that's only if you let them. Can't force. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: don't care, you can't forced.

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Speaker 5: But like having to verbalize your boundaries. I guess it's

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Speaker 5: I you go to them, do you ghosts or you like, oh,

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Speaker 5: I tried ghosting one person. It did not work. They

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Speaker 5: I just was blunt about it and said what, Yeah,

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Speaker 5: I really want to know what I said?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you want to.

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Speaker 2: I don't really want to say pretty person's gonna know.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but pretty much I told them like I don't

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Speaker 2: Have a lot going on in so many That was fair, though.

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Speaker 1: I was expecting a lot rougher. That's way more mature

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Speaker 1: than I ever am. Yeah, that was really Yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: I'm be the most mature. I don't go that far. Well,

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Speaker 1: then again, I just cut it off faster. I don't

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Speaker 1: even I don't if I see flags. I don't get

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Speaker 2: I will be I don't.

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Speaker 1: By the time I get to a point with you

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Speaker 1: to be around, I've probably already removed myself because I

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Speaker 5: But you know, they felt you ghosting them, Like, it's

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Speaker 1: It's just a little arm a little elbow up, a.

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Speaker 5: Little, a little, it's just elbow up like, you know,

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Speaker 5: a little boys they call it a little, a little

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Speaker 2: Little back up. And that's okay.

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Speaker 1: So what if they felt uncomfortable, it's not uncomfortable, it's

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Speaker 1: just they felt you maybe pull away. I don't know me,

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Speaker 1: and maybe it's not the right thing to do, but

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Speaker 1: I have always I will. You know me, you guys

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Speaker 1: know me. Yeah, I will let you know if you

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Speaker 1: are welcomed into my space, for sure. And I'm a

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Speaker 1: welcoming person, like I'm gracious and I like to talk

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Speaker 1: to people and meet people. But if you push me

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Speaker 1: and I will make sure that a boundary is understood.

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Speaker 2: Was it always like that, though, or did you cultivate that?

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Speaker 1: I don't I could. I've been like that as as

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Speaker 1: long as I can remember.

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Speaker 2: Oh well, that's good.

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Speaker 3: I feel like it's a hard thing to cultivate because

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and let us no, we're going to have more

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Speaker 1: the meantime, you could check out the rich Pole episode

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Speaker 1: ah thanks guys,