Speaker 1: Hey, welcome back to the podcast. Thanks for being here.
Speaker 1: I'd love this as an honor. It has been for
Speaker 1: so long to do these episodes and to walk through
Speaker 1: these questions and to handle life and to deal with
Speaker 1: life alongside you, the listener, So thank you. I'd love
Speaker 1: hearing feedback, especially when I meet you out on the
Speaker 1: road somewhere, or at an event that I'm speaking at,
Speaker 1: or even someplace I just see you in public. I
Speaker 1: love people coming up and saying, hey, I listen to
Speaker 1: your podcast. It's interesting to me because most of my
Speaker 1: life people have said, hey, I'm a fan of your music.
Speaker 1: I know you from your music, And now the last
Speaker 1: five years or so, I hear more and more people
Speaker 1: say I know you from your podcast, or I'm a
Speaker 1: fan of your podcast.
Speaker 2: I'll see people on the airport and.
Speaker 1: They say, hey, I'm a fan of and I'm thinking
Speaker 1: music and they say, your podcast.
Speaker 2: That's so cool. It's so cool to me.
Speaker 1: Not that it's not cool to hear the music thing,
Speaker 1: but it's different, you know, and this podcast is meaningful
Speaker 1: to me.
Speaker 2: It matters to me.
Speaker 1: So it's interesting to think that there are people out
Speaker 1: there that don't even know that I had a music
Speaker 1: career at all.
Speaker 2: They just know me from the podcast.
Speaker 1: That's really cool. You guys have been through so much
Speaker 1: life with me and we've all evolved together. I should say,
Speaker 1: as we walk through these questions with the biblical worldview,
Speaker 1: the email so that we could walk through these questions
Speaker 1: if you want to email me email podcast at grangersmith
Speaker 1: dot com and we'll walk through that like we're sitting
Speaker 1: in a truck, like we're driving in a cab of
Speaker 1: a truck. And you say, hey, grangereg I got a
Speaker 1: question for you. Could we walk through this together? And
Speaker 1: I say yes, as if we're just old friends and
Speaker 1: the question could be about anything. Once again, podcast at
Speaker 1: grangersmith dot com. Something interesting happened last week. I had
Speaker 1: my pastor Marshall with me. If Marshall has been a
Speaker 1: guest on here many times, but we were dealing with
Speaker 1: a topic I believe the topic was last week it
Speaker 1: was how to handle multiple services in a church or
Speaker 1: how to think about multiple identical services in a church.
Speaker 1: And I said in that video, hey, comment below if
Speaker 1: you're watching on YouTube, or if you're listening on another platform,
Speaker 1: like you may be doing right now at the end
Speaker 1: of this video or at the end of this podcast,
Speaker 1: go to YouTube and comment on the YouTube version of
Speaker 1: this episode. If you want us to dig deeper on something,
Speaker 1: if you have another question within the question, comment that
Speaker 1: on the YouTube version, and that it's fascinating because there
Speaker 1: were a lot of people that came in there and
Speaker 1: had questions, and of all the episodes we've done, that's
Speaker 1: the first time I've really thought of it in that
Speaker 1: way that we could go to YouTube and on some
Speaker 1: of these videos we could dig deeper and come back.
Speaker 1: And I texted Marshall and I said, hey, you might
Speaker 1: have to come back and we might have to do this,
Speaker 1: do more of that topic because there were a lot
Speaker 1: of people that had more further questions of it. And
Speaker 1: he was like, yeah, sounds good, let's do it. So
Speaker 1: I think we'll probably schedule Marshall to come back in
Speaker 1: and I'll just sit here with that YouTube video and
Speaker 1: go down the comments and see what you guys said.
Speaker 1: And a lot of times it's like, hey, I agree,
Speaker 1: great podcasts, and sometimes it's like, hey, I wholeheartedly disagree completely.
Speaker 1: I disagree with everything you said, and we could talk
Speaker 1: about that. That's fair, you should have an opinion. And
Speaker 1: then there are other people that said things like, I
Speaker 1: agree to an extent, but here's a caveat in what
Speaker 1: you're saying. It only goes so far, but you forgot
Speaker 1: to say this stranger cool. So we could take that
Speaker 1: and we could dive into that too. I think that's
Speaker 1: I think that would be helpful, encouraging for all of us.
Speaker 1: And I say that in a way too to also say,
Speaker 1: let's do that with this video as well. Those of
Speaker 1: you that know me know that I'm I don't typically
Speaker 1: prepare for these. I sit down with your questions as
Speaker 1: you email them, and if there's anything I say that
Speaker 1: you want me to double down on or you want
Speaker 1: to hear me. You disagree with it and you want
Speaker 1: to hear me, have a rebuttal to your disagreement. Comment
Speaker 1: on the YouTube version of this episode granger Smith on
Speaker 1: YouTube and go find this episode. It should be the
Speaker 1: latest one and comment and I'll go through like I
Speaker 1: did this last one like five minutes ago. I was
Speaker 1: just looking at this and I was like, oh, this
Speaker 1: is cool. Okay, that might be something we can start doing.
Speaker 1: So that brings me to this first question once Again
Speaker 1: podcast at grangersmith dot com. This one comes from Chad,
Speaker 1: and Chad says, my wife and I made the trip
Speaker 1: to Georgetown from Ardmore, Oklahoma a few weeks ago, and
Speaker 1: we were able to attend a Mayis church and the
Speaker 1: service and introduce ourselves.
Speaker 2: To Marshall on the way out.
Speaker 1: It was encouraging to worship and hear God's word being
Speaker 1: preached with your local church. That's so cool. I'd love
Speaker 1: to hear that. And this has happened several times that
Speaker 1: people have come to a Mais church in Georgetown, my
Speaker 1: church and come from the podcast.
Speaker 2: So if you are one of those people, not a lot.
Speaker 2: Every once in a while, every a on a on
Speaker 2: a random.
Speaker 1: Sunday, there will be a couple or one person that say, hey,
Speaker 1: okay because I heard I heard you mentioned this on
Speaker 1: the podcast. I'm always there, so if you want to come,
Speaker 1: say hey, do that. The rest of this email from Chad,
Speaker 1: it looks like they It's a long email, so I
Speaker 1: don't want to read it all, but it looks like
Speaker 1: they were members of a church, they were in Oklahoma
Speaker 1: for a long time, and then the wife it looks
Speaker 1: like okay, okay, so they they purchased a home in
Speaker 1: Oklahoma and they kind of you know they built their
Speaker 1: nest there, and then here's what he says. This last April,
Speaker 1: my wife was offered offered an opportunity to relocate with
Speaker 1: her current employer back to Kentucky, where she's from, and
Speaker 1: we felt ready to be close to family again. We
Speaker 1: made a plan to list our place for sale over
Speaker 1: Memorial Day weekend, and on the evening of April the
Speaker 1: twenty eighth, I got called into haul fuel to a
Speaker 1: rig and my wife didn't want me to go because
Speaker 1: it was bad weather, and I went and tried to
Speaker 1: reassure her it would be fine. A couple hours later,
Speaker 1: there were multiple tornadoes on the ground. One was heading
Speaker 1: towards our property. My wife and neighbor were able to
Speaker 1: get into a safe room. Our place took a direct hit,
Speaker 1: flooding our house and destroying most of our property. Through
Speaker 1: this tragedy, we've had so much support. A neighbor invited
Speaker 1: us to their church. It's the church we'd been looking
Speaker 1: for all along. This is in Oklahoma, and we've attended
Speaker 1: regularly since May. I'm feeling convicted to tithe going forward
Speaker 1: and possibly for the past five months. Hey, we don't
Speaker 1: feel comfortable going to a church while waiting for insurance
Speaker 1: to settle so we could relocate. Godly counsel for this
Speaker 1: situation would be much appreciated. Thanks, Ched, I think I
Speaker 1: understand what's going on, Chad.
Speaker 2: So you are.
Speaker 1: You guys found a place, You found this home in Oklahoma,
Speaker 1: you finally settled in there, and then your wife gets
Speaker 1: a job offer, and you guys all decide that's the
Speaker 1: best thing for the families to relocate to Kentucky. And
Speaker 1: then you decide that, and then a tornado hits the
Speaker 1: place in Oklahoma, and so then you're like, well, now
Speaker 1: the insurance has got to deal with this before we
Speaker 1: could actually sell it. And it was even listed it
Speaker 1: as a tornado hit, it sounds like, and so you
Speaker 1: got everything's kind of on hold, and in the meanwhile,
Speaker 1: you find this good church you're attending. So that's an
Speaker 1: interesting question. It's an interesting situation, and it's a good
Speaker 1: thing to be thinking through and praying through. And you're
Speaker 1: specifically asking about tithing. If you're convicted to be tithing anywhere,
Speaker 1: I think that should say something you should listen to
Speaker 1: that conviction and not just a church. Of course, I
Speaker 1: believe you should be given to your church. But because
Speaker 1: you're in this transition period, you're wondering what to be doing,
Speaker 1: and you could be convicted also on a for a ministry.
Speaker 1: You could meet someone that runs a ministry and you
Speaker 1: really believe in that ministry, and you could feel convicted
Speaker 1: to gift to that ministry. Amber and I will go
Speaker 1: through this. You know, Amber will come home and she'll go, Hey,
Speaker 1: I met this woman and she runs this.
Speaker 2: Thing, and I think we should give to them.
Speaker 1: And I'll say, okay, I'll trust your conviction on that,
Speaker 1: and then vice versa if it happens to me and
Speaker 1: I tell Amber, and we never disagree. It's always like, hey,
Speaker 1: if you're feeling convicted, let's do this. And I think
Speaker 1: that's what you're saying. You're feeling convicted to tie to
Speaker 1: this specific church, So there's nothing wrong with that and
Speaker 1: you should listen to that. But here's the deal. You
Speaker 1: don't feel comfortable joining the church while waiting for the
Speaker 1: insurance to fix the property, so you could just sell
Speaker 1: it and then move away. And I agree with that,
Speaker 1: and that doesn't mean you shouldn't attend. I think there's
Speaker 1: there would be nothing wrong, and in fact, you would
Speaker 1: be encouraged to attend. This good church with your friends
Speaker 1: and tell the leadership of the church exactly.
Speaker 2: What's going on.
Speaker 1: It's like, Hey, my name is Chad and this is
Speaker 1: my wife and and we we love your church. We're
Speaker 1: actually moving to Kentucky. We thought we were going to
Speaker 1: move be moving sooner, but you know, this tornado and
Speaker 1: took out our property and so we're dealing with insurance
Speaker 1: and the rebuildings. Think good as no one was hurt,
Speaker 1: but we're going to re We're going to fix things,
Speaker 1: get it back into shape so we could sell it.
Speaker 1: In the meantime, we're going to be here. We don't
Speaker 1: feel like we should be members here because we'll be moving,
Speaker 1: but but we want to be sitting under the wise
Speaker 1: teaching why we can. And I think that would be
Speaker 1: encouraging to the pastor. I think it would be appropriate
Speaker 1: to tell them that and they can kind of wrap
Speaker 1: their arms around you, help walk you through this transition.
Speaker 1: That's what they're there for. That's what a pastor would do.
Speaker 1: Is it's you know, a pastor is a shepherd in
Speaker 1: your sheep, and you would be waiting your a sheep
Speaker 1: in transition going to another pastor and another another group
Speaker 1: of sheep right, So this this shepherd is handing you
Speaker 1: off to the other other shepherd in the meanwhile, he's
Speaker 1: gonna love you and take care of you while you're
Speaker 1: in his pasture. Okay, I think that's pretty straightforward. But
Speaker 1: what I would be doing to avoid that sounds like
Speaker 1: a difficult situation.
Speaker 2: You've been in.
Speaker 1: Outside of a church, looking for a church, trying to
Speaker 1: find the right church. I want to make sure that everything,
Speaker 1: in everything I've said, you're appropriately investing time in Kentucky
Speaker 1: so that you're not just gonna this house gets fixed,
Speaker 1: you sell it, you move, you get to Kentucky, you
Speaker 1: settle in, you go. Okay, now that I'm here, let's
Speaker 1: find a church, let's.
Speaker 2: Get plugged in. Right, don't wait that long.
Speaker 1: I know a lot of people, a lot of faithful
Speaker 1: brothers that have moved, and before they even found the
Speaker 1: place that they moved into, they made sure that the
Speaker 1: church they wanted to join was in the neighborhood, so
Speaker 1: they they base their move around the church instead of
Speaker 1: the church around the move. And that's not often talked
Speaker 1: about or thought about, but most people they go and
Speaker 1: they say they're going to go, dear brother, mine, dear friend,
Speaker 1: he was actually an elder and at amaeis he moves
Speaker 1: to Seattle just this year and because of work, he
Speaker 1: had to go to Seattle and relocate. And Seattle's a
Speaker 1: big place, you know, there's lots of suburbs, there's lots
Speaker 1: of towns around it, there's ways for him to commute.
Speaker 1: So they didn't as a family, they didn't look at
Speaker 1: the map and go, Okay, where is the place where
Speaker 1: our dream home is. What's the neighborhood that we want
Speaker 1: to live in that has the biggest yards so we
Speaker 1: could throw the football in the backyard. What's the neighborhood
Speaker 1: where I could park my bass boat in the driveway,
Speaker 1: you know, what has room for me to back out.
Speaker 1: They didn't think about that in that way. They thought
Speaker 1: about it in terms of where is the church, the
Speaker 1: healthy church that we know of through our network of
Speaker 1: people that know good churches. Where are the churches that
Speaker 1: we would attend and then we could actually become members
Speaker 1: and serve. Where are those churches? And I think they
Speaker 1: found two of them, and that one was here on
Speaker 1: the map and one was here on the map. And
Speaker 1: so from that they go, he's going there because he
Speaker 1: has a job, so he's also just going to build
Speaker 1: the relationship with his work. But he's going there and
Speaker 1: he's going to these churches and he's talking to the
Speaker 1: pastors there. Here's my situation, here's my name, here's my family.
Speaker 1: We're moving from Texas. We're going to come here, and
Speaker 1: we want to know more about what you're doing here
Speaker 1: in this church. I mean that there's a lot more
Speaker 1: to it, but that's the main part of the converse
Speaker 1: is we want to see what this is like here.
Speaker 2: And so they prayed through it.
Speaker 1: He brought his wife, They met with a lot of
Speaker 1: wise counsel, prayed through it, talked through it, spent many
Speaker 1: times visiting these churches. They decided on the church. Finally
Speaker 1: they decided which one out of the two that they
Speaker 1: would they would like, and then from there they build
Speaker 1: the radius around that of where they would be willing
Speaker 1: to drive that that was in appropriate distance to work
Speaker 1: in church and kind of meet in the middle. What's
Speaker 1: what's in between my work and my church. Let's pick
Speaker 1: a house in that area. And that's kind of crazy,
Speaker 1: that's totally practical, but in a way, people don't do
Speaker 1: it that way. And that's what Chad, that's what I'm
Speaker 1: warning you of don't move to Kentucky and go, Okay,
Speaker 1: now that we're here, where's.
Speaker 2: A good church?
Speaker 1: Do it the opposite right now, be finding the good church.
Speaker 1: Be traveling there right now. It's the spiritual leader of
Speaker 1: your household. Go to Kentucky right now during this transition
Speaker 1: period and use utilize the church you're currently attending, and
Speaker 1: use the leadership there and say, I'm moving to Kentucky.
Speaker 1: Help me, help me find a good, healthy church for
Speaker 1: my family. This is critical for my family, and we
Speaker 1: need to find a good church that feeds us spiritually.
Speaker 1: And and then go there and find that church and
Speaker 1: interview the church.
Speaker 2: Essentially, that's that's the word. You want to interview them.
Speaker 1: And then you're going to and then build your radis
Speaker 1: and then look for homes around that church. And obviously
Speaker 1: and that are that's still a driving a decent driving
Speaker 1: distance for your wife to go to work.
Speaker 2: Do it that way. Don't wait.
Speaker 1: This is this is the most important thing that your
Speaker 1: email didn't say. Think about that. Think about tomorrow's church,
Speaker 1: and then as you're convicted tithe today's church, go and
Speaker 1: attend today's church. Involve yourself in today's church. You don't
Speaker 1: have to be a member there. You don't have to join.
Speaker 1: You're going to be joining in Kentucky. But right now,
Speaker 1: during this transition period, it might be a while. It
Speaker 1: might be six months, might be eight month, it might
Speaker 1: be the year until this house gets fixed from the tornado.
Speaker 2: Be thinking about Kentucky right now.
Speaker 1: That was a long I'm sorry that was a long
Speaker 1: way through that answer, but I think it's important. Next
Speaker 1: question comes from Tommy says, good morning, Grader. My name
Speaker 1: is Tommy. I'm twenty three years old. I live in
Speaker 1: Kansas City with my girlfriend. Later this month, I plan
Speaker 1: on asking her to marry me. She is an overnight
Speaker 1: nurse at a nearby hospital. I drive a box truck
Speaker 1: and deliver snacks to nearby grocery stores and gas stations.
Speaker 1: Last week in your podcast, you weren't necessarily a fan
Speaker 1: of a church with multiple services. You made some very
Speaker 1: valuable points. My issue is that we've been struggling to
Speaker 1: find a church that fits both of us with our
Speaker 1: work schedules, and both of us often work Sunday. Do
Speaker 1: you have any suggestions that can help out? Thanks stranger, Tommy.
Speaker 1: All right, Tommy, thank you brother. This is I mentioned
Speaker 1: that on that YouTube channel. There were a lot of questions.
Speaker 1: Probably the biggest complaint or disagreement I had with Marshall
Speaker 1: and I discouraging churches with multiple identical services. Probably the
Speaker 1: biggest thing that I heard was, well, I work on
Speaker 1: Sundays and so I need to find a church that
Speaker 1: has a schedule that meets mine. And that's kind of
Speaker 1: what this question is. So I'm want to dive into
Speaker 1: this with Tommy, and I'm going to tackle this as if,
Speaker 1: like all these questions, as if we're driving down the
Speaker 1: road you asked me a question, we're in the truck together,
Speaker 1: I say, Man, this was me.
Speaker 2: Here's what I.
Speaker 1: Would say because specifically with this question, Tommy, I've been
Speaker 1: in your shoes. I've lived this, and so I can
Speaker 1: tell you, looking back in hindsight, maybe what I did
Speaker 1: wrong and maybe what I did right. So that's how
Speaker 1: we'll approach this first question. First question I have for
Speaker 1: I would have for you is you say I live
Speaker 1: in Kansas City with my girlfriend, and then you say
Speaker 1: later this month, I plan on asking her to marry me.
Speaker 1: So there's there's a couple of things that might be.
Speaker 2: Out of order here.
Speaker 1: I'm assuming you're saying you're living with or like same house,
Speaker 1: living with their same apartment. That's not a good way
Speaker 1: to start this this journey. It would be it would
Speaker 1: be going going against the Council of the Bible, if
Speaker 1: that's that's the way this was. So if that was
Speaker 1: the case, I would say, let's move out right now,
Speaker 1: let's let's separate right now. You're not you're not married,
Speaker 1: so let's not pretend like you're married. This isn't she's
Speaker 1: not your wife, So it's not pretend like she's your
Speaker 1: wife until she is. And one of the implications, one
Speaker 1: of the smaller implications of that is it's going to
Speaker 1: be so much more special when you do marry or
Speaker 1: and you move in together for the first time as
Speaker 1: a married couple. It's going to be much more special.
Speaker 1: That's a small implication of a bigger problem that I'm
Speaker 1: seeing right here, of how the Bible would speak about
Speaker 1: this specifically sexual sin. We have to eradicate that from
Speaker 1: our lives, right And so I would not encourage you
Speaker 1: to be living with your girlfriend in the same place,
Speaker 1: in the same apartment, same house in Kansas City.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't.
Speaker 1: That would be horrible, That would not be loving to me.
Speaker 1: If I said that was cool, man, let's move on.
Speaker 1: Then you say, later this month, I plan on asking
Speaker 1: her to marry me.
Speaker 2: Let's do that.
Speaker 1: Let's Tommy, Let's make sure that happens next month. We
Speaker 1: can't put that off because if something happens or tornado
Speaker 1: hits the forum, like the last question, let's make sure
Speaker 1: this happens. Okay, And and then when you're engaged with
Speaker 1: your fiance, that's the time then to start talking about
Speaker 1: what works for your church that you want to start
Speaker 1: together as a married couple. And Lord William raise some
Speaker 1: babies in Okay, So you see the order of events here.
Speaker 1: You wouldn't want to be with your girlfriend talking about
Speaker 1: the church in a way that we need to pick
Speaker 1: this now. It's not that it's unhealthy to talk to
Speaker 1: your girlfriend about a church. You want to because you
Speaker 1: want to know that she's on the same page. But
Speaker 1: you guys are planning like you're married and you're not yet.
Speaker 1: So there's the nuance. Let's make sure that's taken care of.
Speaker 1: And then let's dive into the real question. If you've
Speaker 1: already dealt with everything I just said, let's move on
Speaker 1: from that. And you see My issue with that, with
Speaker 1: the multiple services in a church, as we've been struggling
Speaker 1: to find the right church that fits both of us,
Speaker 1: that we'll work with both of our schedules, with both
Speaker 1: of us often working Sundays.
Speaker 2: So it's a little bit.
Speaker 1: Similar to the last question where I was saying, don't
Speaker 1: move to Kentucky and then find the church instead, Let's
Speaker 1: make church the priority. What if what if we lived
Speaker 1: a life Christians that actually says in the way that
Speaker 1: we live, not what we say, not what we post
Speaker 1: on Instagram, But what if we lived a life that
Speaker 1: reflected this idea that gathering with other Saints, other Christians,
Speaker 1: other believers was very important to us. And what if
Speaker 1: we lived a life in such a way that career, jobs,
Speaker 1: finding homes, findings for our kids revolved around this idea
Speaker 1: that we're making a priority above all of that for
Speaker 1: a good, healthy church to sit under healthy, good biblical
Speaker 1: teaching from a good pastor, and a good church surrounded
Speaker 1: by other covenanting members of that church surrounding us. What
Speaker 1: if we looked at it and lived a life that
Speaker 1: said career comes second to that where we live, in
Speaker 1: what neighborhood we live comes second.
Speaker 2: To that where my kids go to school.
Speaker 1: Comes second to that, second to being in that healthy
Speaker 1: church and showing up and giving glory to God through worship,
Speaker 1: through prayer, through wise teaching, which is the most important part.
Speaker 1: Is the preaching of the Word is the most important
Speaker 1: part of church. I don't know if y'all know that,
Speaker 1: if I don't know if I've said that, or if
Speaker 1: you maybe don't know that, But the preaching of the Word,
Speaker 1: the text, whatever text that the pastor is working through
Speaker 1: that day, and if he's not working through a specific text,
Speaker 1: that's a huge problem. But that is the most important
Speaker 1: part of the church service is the preaching. That's why
Speaker 1: in the Reformation they moved the pulpit from the side
Speaker 1: to the middle. It didn't have anything to do with
Speaker 1: the preacher. That had everything to do with the word.
Speaker 1: The preaching of the Word, the inspired word is it
Speaker 1: goes out into the converce congregation, is the most important
Speaker 1: part of the service. Knowing that the Word of God
Speaker 1: cuts sharper than any two edged sword, piercing to the
Speaker 1: division of soul and of spirit, and discerning the thoughts
Speaker 1: and intentions of the heart. The Word does that as
Speaker 1: it goes out and it does not return empty. So
Speaker 1: knowing that the word is going out through the mouth
Speaker 1: of the preacher through inspired scripture, that the preacher is
Speaker 1: reading that he has prepared and will apply that into
Speaker 1: your lives for these next six days until he sees
Speaker 1: you again. That is the most important thing. That is
Speaker 1: more important than the box truck that you drive, are
Speaker 1: the snacks that you delivered to grocery stores and gas stations.
Speaker 1: It's more important than the job your girlfriend has, the
Speaker 1: girlfriend that I hope you marry soon. It's more important
Speaker 1: than all of these things. And if you align this correctly,
Speaker 1: like the Bible would say, if you put him first,
Speaker 1: we say that a lot right.
Speaker 2: God first? What does that mean?
Speaker 1: Are we living that or are we living a life
Speaker 1: that looks like that instead of just saying it on
Speaker 1: our Instagram bio God first, God above everything. And then
Speaker 1: listen to this temmy. I'm not knocking you at all,
Speaker 1: but listen how interesting it is to think about someone
Speaker 1: that says God first, I make God my first priority.
Speaker 1: And then in the next tent it they say, I'm
Speaker 1: just trying to find a church that fits with my
Speaker 1: schedule because I work and I've got all these things
Speaker 1: going on in my life, and I'm just trying to
Speaker 1: find a church that fits me, my career and my work.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to I don't know, like, does that sound
Speaker 1: like someone that's putting God first?
Speaker 2: No, it doesn't.
Speaker 1: So this email, I really want to switch some priorities.
Speaker 1: I want to rearrange some priorities here. I want to
Speaker 1: get I want to turn the girlfriend into a wife,
Speaker 1: and I want to I want to make the job
Speaker 1: revolve around the church. And then, you know, an easy
Speaker 1: argument to that is you're like, well, Granger, this is
Speaker 1: my job. This is all I've ever known, this is
Speaker 1: this is what I'm talented at, this is this is
Speaker 1: the work the Lord gave me. So I need to
Speaker 1: find a church that revolves around that. And I say
Speaker 1: this is when I say, hey, Tommy, I've lived this.
Speaker 1: I was a country music singer, touring for twenty four years,
Speaker 1: playing concerts on Saturday nights and traveling usually to go
Speaker 1: home on Sunday mornings, never available for church. For years,
Speaker 1: I was doing this and justifying it, and for a
Speaker 1: while I was actually attending a church that had a
Speaker 1: five pm service, thinking this works. I got a five
Speaker 1: pm service, They got that church has like nine am service,
Speaker 1: eleven AM service, a noon service, a five pm service.
Speaker 1: That works out great. I get to pick the five.
Speaker 1: I don't know anybody else that go to this church.
Speaker 1: Because I only go to the five. I don't know
Speaker 1: who's showing up at eight or nine or eleven whatever.
Speaker 1: And slowly I realized, now looking back, that was like
Speaker 1: taking a drop of Cini poisoning and putting it in
Speaker 1: my drink every day, Just a drop of poison, separating
Speaker 1: myself from the body of the church, separating myself from
Speaker 1: the believers, acting like my job was more important, acting
Speaker 1: like that's all I've ever known, and this is the
Speaker 1: talent God gave me. So I'm going to do this
Speaker 1: and that's going to keep me away from the church.
Speaker 1: But that's okay, because you know God, God forgives right.
Speaker 1: These are things to think about, Tommy, these are things
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Speaker 1: on this. Hey Granger, I disagree with you, or I
Speaker 1: totally agree with you, or I partially disagree with you.
Speaker 2: Either way, you know, of course.
Speaker 1: I don't expect to be right in your eyes every
Speaker 1: time I don't expect you to agree with me in
Speaker 1: everything that I say. I'm going to base my answers
Speaker 1: on a biblical worldview, meaning I'm going to balance everything
Speaker 1: off the Bible like it's a brick and your question
Speaker 1: is a basketball, and I'm going to bounce the basketball
Speaker 1: off of the Bible brick wall and see which way
Speaker 1: it comes back to me. And however it comes back
Speaker 1: to me, that's gonna be my answer. So I'm not
Speaker 1: expecting you to always agree with how I see that.
Speaker 2: That would be weird if you did. Anyway.
Speaker 1: It would be like me saying my favorite flavor of
Speaker 1: ice cream is cookies and cream Bluebell, and every single person.
Speaker 2: Goes me too, that's my favorite. That would be a.
Speaker 1: Boring world if we live that way. We all have
Speaker 1: different flavors, and so that's okay. That being said, I
Speaker 1: also just don't expect and I don't plan on being
Speaker 1: right all the time. My hope is that I treat
Speaker 1: you like a friend of mine. As I read your
Speaker 1: question and we're just taking a walk through the woods,
Speaker 1: we're driving a truck together, and you say, hey, I
Speaker 1: got something I want to run by you, And I
Speaker 1: would say, based on the Bible. What I believe is
Speaker 1: the best answer to that. That brings me to the
Speaker 1: next question comes from Josh. It says, Hey Granger. On
Speaker 1: a previous podcast, you spoke in favor of traditional burial
Speaker 1: instead of cremation because burial has historically been a Christian tradition.
Speaker 1: I have always wanted to be cremated because of the
Speaker 1: modern day process of embalming and preserving the body are
Speaker 1: just morbid and incredibly strange to me. Is embalming the
Speaker 1: body a preservation that Christians do today simply because signs
Speaker 1: and technology allow for it. To me, it seems like
Speaker 1: burials should be in a pine box and nothing else,
Speaker 1: since when the body dies, our souls go on to Heaven.
Speaker 1: I'm curious to hear more of your thoughts on this
Speaker 1: because I cannot find anywhere in the Bible where it
Speaker 1: has an answer to this. Thanks and gig them Josh
Speaker 1: from Spring Texas. Hey, Josh, thanks for the question, man. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and on that previous podcast you're talking about basically London,
Speaker 1: was sittating here London, my daughter was in the guest seat,
Speaker 1: and we were talking about burial versus cremation and how
Speaker 1: traditionally throughout millennia, Christians have buried the dead as a
Speaker 1: form of respect for the body, the vessel that has
Speaker 1: been given to us by God to live while we're
Speaker 1: on this earth. So we understand when we say this,
Speaker 1: that has nothing to do with our life after this.
Speaker 1: The way that we bury does not determine where you
Speaker 1: end up after this.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: That is only people that have faith and have put
Speaker 1: their trust and turned from their sin into Jesus alone.
Speaker 1: They have trusted and surrendered and have faith and repented
Speaker 1: from their sin and put all that trust into Jesus,
Speaker 1: the Messiah sent from God to redeem and.
Speaker 2: Restore his people. That's it.
Speaker 1: That's the only way to heaven. That's the only way
Speaker 1: to go to heaven, and to be with Him eternally,
Speaker 1: worshiping him in eternal glory.
Speaker 2: That's it. So after that, and this is what I
Speaker 2: mentioned in the last podcast, there's a but.
Speaker 1: There has also been this idea that we should respect
Speaker 1: this body while we have it, and a way to
Speaker 1: show the respect for the body that God gave us.
Speaker 1: That's flawed and sinful and fleshly and needy, but it
Speaker 1: is the body that He gave us to carry.
Speaker 2: Out the gospel.
Speaker 1: Here on this earth, then we should respect it by
Speaker 1: burying it instead of burning it. I say that. Let
Speaker 1: me tell you the caveat with this. My dad was cremated.
Speaker 1: My grandparents on his side were cremated. So I'm not
Speaker 1: coming to you from a vacuum saying all my family
Speaker 1: only only bury. I'm used to this idea of cremation.
Speaker 1: In fact, I remember back in twenty fourteen when I
Speaker 1: lost my dad, and I remember he always wanted to
Speaker 1: be cremated, kind of.
Speaker 2: Like you, Josh.
Speaker 1: And this is before I was in a place where
Speaker 1: I had these kind of discussions. I didn't have any
Speaker 1: kind of deep Bible conversation with anybody back in the day.
Speaker 1: So I wouldn't have discussed this with Dad. With my dad,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have thought through this with him. That's okay,
Speaker 1: that's totally fine. I'm at peace with that. But here's
Speaker 1: the deal. I remember they scheduled Dad's cremation for noon
Speaker 1: on a certain day, and it was in Waco, Texas,
Speaker 1: and that was about an hour west of where or
Speaker 1: hour east of where Mom and Dad live.
Speaker 2: And so I remember looking at my.
Speaker 1: Watch on that day and thinking to myself, you know,
Speaker 1: it's like eleven o three am. I wonder if they're
Speaker 1: loading Dad up in the Hurst, you know, Look down
Speaker 1: my watch eleven seventeen. Now they're probably driving by. Now
Speaker 1: Dad's in the Hurst, and I wonder if they made
Speaker 1: it to Valley Mills by now. Looked down at my
Speaker 1: watch eleven thirty one. I bet they're getting to the
Speaker 1: edge of Waco Lake heading out there. Just passed past
Speaker 1: the bridge. Look back at my watch again eleven fifty one.
Speaker 1: Surely he's out of the car. They've pulled him out
Speaker 1: of the car. They're undressing him or whatever they do,
Speaker 1: put him on that table wherever he's going. Maybe the
Speaker 1: fire is getting hot, you know, got my watch again
Speaker 1: twelve o three, and I was thinking, I wonder if
Speaker 1: he's in there, the dad that I've always known my
Speaker 1: whole life, the big, big bodied man, very lovable, great hugs,
Speaker 1: big smile, big firm handshake, just crush anybody's hand when
Speaker 1: he shook your hand.
Speaker 2: All that is that? All burning? Right now? These are
Speaker 2: thoughts I'm having, you know, as the sun here at
Speaker 2: my house.
Speaker 1: I'm sitting here thinking about all this as I'm watching
Speaker 1: my watch and just imagining what's happening to his body
Speaker 1: that I loved, not as sult's not of soul. It's
Speaker 1: not a spirit. I understand that it's all different.
Speaker 2: But it's it's still.
Speaker 1: The body that I've always known that housed the soul
Speaker 1: of my dad, you know.
Speaker 2: Maybe the best way to say it.
Speaker 1: And then I remember thinking, you know again, it's like
Speaker 1: twelve twelve, twenty seven PM.
Speaker 2: Yeah, probably pulled him out.
Speaker 1: Now, it's probably just ashes, probably nothing but ashes by now.
Speaker 1: And then I remember going to Moms a week later
Speaker 1: and they had delivered it, and there he is in
Speaker 1: a plastic bag. There are there are his ashes. And
Speaker 1: I remember holding that plastic bag Dad's ashes, you know,
Speaker 1: and I'm kind of mashing, it's kind of squeezing it.
Speaker 1: I feel something in the bag and I kind of
Speaker 1: move it around through the plastic with my thumbs and
Speaker 1: there's a there's a big screw in there and some
Speaker 1: bolts and a little bracket. I'm like, like, oh, that
Speaker 1: that was in Dad's ankle. He broke his ankle when
Speaker 1: he was in his twenties playing football somewhere and twisted
Speaker 1: it and broke it and needed surgery and they put
Speaker 1: those screws, and he always complained about it. You know,
Speaker 1: every time me the weather turned and it was cold
Speaker 1: outside or we were snowskiing, he'd be like, ah, that
Speaker 1: my ankle, I feel my ankle, got.
Speaker 2: The screws in there, you know.
Speaker 1: And there it was, right there, in this cold plastic
Speaker 1: bag with these gray ashes and fragments of bone and
Speaker 1: like dust, and there he is.
Speaker 2: And it's just just a weird feeling. You know.
Speaker 1: It's strange for a family member. So to say that
Speaker 1: embalming is weird, and burial is weird, and coffins are weird.
Speaker 1: I would say, amen, it is all that's weird. But
Speaker 1: my point is cremation is not better by any means.
Speaker 1: Cremation is not cleaner or better, or more compact or
Speaker 1: you know, more convenient. That's none of those things. We
Speaker 1: should recognize through this conversation. The death is not the
Speaker 1: way it's supposed to be. We should see death as Christians,
Speaker 1: and we could recognize that in Genesis God created and
Speaker 1: it was good, the Bible says, and death was not
Speaker 1: part of that good. Death was a result of the
Speaker 1: fall of man. As we fell as mankind found. I
Speaker 1: say we because we have inherited that seed of Adam,
Speaker 1: that seed of sin. We have inherited that in ourselves,
Speaker 1: and that is clear. I have a three year old
Speaker 1: in my house, and it's very clear if you look
Speaker 1: at a two or three year old, that they are
Speaker 1: little rebels at heart. They are little sinners, rebelling, wanting
Speaker 1: to push the boundaries as far as they can.
Speaker 2: From the very beginning. We are liars.
Speaker 1: And and thieves, and we rebel against our parents, and
Speaker 1: we have to be taught. We have to be taught
Speaker 1: what the Bible says. We have to Eventually, we have
Speaker 1: to be reborn, and we have to be given new
Speaker 1: hearts so that we become aware of that sin and
Speaker 1: our need for a savior, of Jesus who lived the
Speaker 1: perfect life and died for that death so he could
Speaker 1: defeat it and we get a victory over it, so
Speaker 1: we could see through cremation and through burial that this
Speaker 1: is not the way it's supposed to be. And we
Speaker 1: shouldn't hold our eyes over it. We shouldn't try to
Speaker 1: not talk about it. We shouldn't go to funerals and
Speaker 1: call them celebrations of life and put balloons up and
Speaker 1: flowers everywhere and make it happy.
Speaker 2: It's not happy. Death is horrible death is sad.
Speaker 1: We should grieve over it, we should be disgusted with it,
Speaker 1: and we should immediately say how can we get past this?
Speaker 1: How could we get over death? And Jesus says, I
Speaker 1: am the only way. So let's not ever have a
Speaker 1: discussion about death or the way that we should bury
Speaker 1: without recognizing that death. Even an atheist would admit death
Speaker 1: doesn't seem right. It seems out of place from everything.
Speaker 1: It seems very out of place. That everything you build
Speaker 1: and you love, and that all the people you get
Speaker 1: close to eventually they die and you put them in
Speaker 1: the ground, and you go to a tomb and you look.
Speaker 2: At it and you put a rose on it.
Speaker 1: Your mother, for instance, you lose your mother, and she's
Speaker 1: there in the ground, the one that loved you, the
Speaker 1: one that bore you, the one that gave you food
Speaker 1: when you're hungry, the one that nursed you as a baby.
Speaker 1: There's her body's in the ground, in the snow, and
Speaker 1: I put a rose on it. And somehow that's supposed
Speaker 1: to make it better. We should recognize through all that
Speaker 1: there's not supposed.
Speaker 2: To be that way.
Speaker 1: So we look to Jesus, who overcame death, who has
Speaker 1: the only one who's that who has had victory over death.
Speaker 1: He's defeated it. Okay, So that brings us to this question,
Speaker 1: what about embalming.
Speaker 2: Is it that is that weird?
Speaker 1: I say, yeah, of course it is. It's not supposed
Speaker 1: to be that way, and neither is cremation. It doesn't
Speaker 1: make it any better. And so that's why I argue,
Speaker 1: and it's not just my opinion. I think I stand
Speaker 1: on the shoulders of many, many, many Christians that come
Speaker 1: before me in millennia to say I think the respectful
Speaker 1: thing is to have respect for the body and put
Speaker 1: the body in a casket and put in the ground.
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying and once again, my dad, my grandparents,
Speaker 1: all them, all the ones that were cremated, I'm not
Speaker 1: saying that they're going to hell for that. I'm just
Speaker 1: saying I think if I would have known what I
Speaker 1: know now, I think I would.
Speaker 2: Have told Dad, Dad, let's bury you.
Speaker 1: Especially in hindsight of looking back on the time that
Speaker 1: he was cremated, I think Dad would have been like, whatever, yeah, sure,
Speaker 1: put yeah, put me in.
Speaker 2: A cast it, you know.
Speaker 1: And on top of that, I've buried several pets in
Speaker 1: my life out here in the woods and behind my house,
Speaker 1: and unless you dig a hole deep enough and you
Speaker 1: seal that box tight enough, there is an animal that
Speaker 1: will dig up that body.
Speaker 2: I hate to say that, but that's that's true.
Speaker 1: I've had I have cat bones all over my woods
Speaker 1: that Maverick goes and pulls out because we've had codes
Speaker 1: that come and dig up cats that I've buried. So
Speaker 1: embalming is a process that helps prevent the natural decomposition.
Speaker 2: Of the body, you know.
Speaker 1: So, yeah, it's weird, but I think it's I think
Speaker 1: it is a alternative to at least consider as a
Speaker 1: Christian in respect for the vessel that was given to
Speaker 1: us by God.
Speaker 2: We put it in the ground.
Speaker 1: And we expect as Christians that that body will be
Speaker 1: resurrected and made new because of Jesus. I think that's
Speaker 1: enough for you, Josh, I hope it is. Brother, Thanks
Speaker 1: for the question. I'd move on to Brennan. Hey, Granger,
Speaker 1: I've been a fan for a long time. My question is,
Speaker 1: is going to a school four hours away wrong? I'm
Speaker 1: going to a school in a couple of weeks and
Speaker 1: I'm moving four hours away, and I'm the only one
Speaker 1: in the family that has gone that far, and all
Speaker 1: of my family is not taking it well, and I
Speaker 1: want to know if there's a way that I could
Speaker 1: help them and make this a little less hard for them.
Speaker 1: Thanks for your time, Brennan. First of all, I want
Speaker 1: to say, brother, this is so exciting, this is so encouraging,
Speaker 1: and you're doing a good thing.
Speaker 2: And I don't know.
Speaker 1: Maybe you've been told this by your family, but if not,
Speaker 1: let me be the only guy that has told you
Speaker 1: this is a good thing. A boy your age should
Speaker 1: leave the nest and get out and spread his wings
Speaker 1: and try to fly and fall if necessary, and get
Speaker 1: back up and spread his wings again. That is what's
Speaker 1: always happened in human history boys and girls. Can't speak
Speaker 1: as much for girls because I didn't experience that, but
Speaker 1: as a boy I could tell you from experience and
Speaker 1: from history that getting out of the house is a
Speaker 1: good thing. About your age seventeen, eighteen, nineteen, twenty years old,
Speaker 1: somewhere in that world, it's time to get out and
Speaker 1: make a name for yourself, to fail on your own,
Speaker 1: to fall and pick yourself up. Your parents have picked
Speaker 1: you up for so long, and now it's time for
Speaker 1: you to learn how.
Speaker 2: To pick yourself up.
Speaker 1: And you can only do that if you've left the
Speaker 1: nest and you've gone out on your own. So, brother,
Speaker 1: I'm so excited for you. You're coming in a long line
Speaker 1: of men that have done this before you.
Speaker 2: And I'm not.
Speaker 1: Necessarily advocating that school is what you need to do.
Speaker 1: Not everyone is made for school. Not everyone can afford
Speaker 1: school like college. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't get
Speaker 1: out of the house. I am such a big advocate
Speaker 1: for getting out of the house. And that could mean
Speaker 1: trade school, that could mean a university. That could mean
Speaker 1: going off to work on an oil rig. I could
Speaker 1: be going into the Marine Corps or the Army, or
Speaker 1: the Air Force or the Navy. Could it could be
Speaker 1: military work like that too. But all of these things
Speaker 1: are part of the journey, right. This is part of
Speaker 1: the journey of figuring out how to use the tools
Speaker 1: that God has given you to go out and take
Speaker 1: what is yours and to figure out how how to
Speaker 1: act on those gifts and figure out how to find
Speaker 1: a church on your own, and how to covenant with
Speaker 1: your own with God's people on your own, not just
Speaker 1: just under the wings of your parents. And then when
Speaker 1: you do that and you begin to figure that out,
Speaker 1: then you can go back home, and then you could
Speaker 1: live in your hometown, and you could get married to
Speaker 1: a girl, and you could raise them in your hometown
Speaker 1: just like you grew up, if that's what you choose,
Speaker 1: and you can if your grandparents right down the road,
Speaker 1: if that's what you choose.
Speaker 2: But at least you know what it's like out there.
Speaker 1: I went when I was eighteen, I left home and
Speaker 1: I went to Texas, A and m and my parents
Speaker 1: took me. Tyler was there, and Parker was there, and
Speaker 1: there were boys, and Mom cried. I remember that Dad
Speaker 1: was happy, you know, Dad was excited, maybe holding back
Speaker 1: some emotion. But Mom cried, you know, And I remember
Speaker 1: that last hug. She's scared and nervous and sad all
Speaker 1: at the same time. That's a sign of a good mama.
Speaker 1: I've got a feeling your family is going through that
Speaker 1: as well. There's more of the unknown that's involved here.
Speaker 2: They don't know you're two weeks out. They don't know
Speaker 2: what it's going to be like to lose their baby boy.
Speaker 1: And if your mom didn't feel that way, there would
Speaker 1: be something wrong, right If mom was like, I can't
Speaker 1: wait for you to be gone. This is so exciting.
Speaker 1: I've already got your room redecorated.
Speaker 2: That would be weird.
Speaker 1: So the fact that they are taking this hard is
Speaker 1: probably a good thing. It means they love you, they
Speaker 1: care for you. That means you're part of the family.
Speaker 1: You matter to them, you know you fit with them,
Speaker 1: and you make them be what they are as a
Speaker 1: family unit. So embrace that acknowledge. That tell your mom,
Speaker 1: that tell her, Mama, I just want to tell you,
Speaker 1: Mom that I just I appreciate you all that you've
Speaker 1: prepared me to do to go into this world. I've
Speaker 1: just been so encouraged all these years by your love,
Speaker 1: by your grace, by your discipline, from all the things
Speaker 1: that you've prepared me to do, and Mom, you've made
Speaker 1: me ready for this moment. I'm going to college, I'm
Speaker 1: going into the world, and I just want to let
Speaker 1: you know that I'm able to do that because of
Speaker 1: all the diligent work and all the prayers and all
Speaker 1: and everything you did as a mother to set me
Speaker 1: up for this moment. I'm able to do it because
Speaker 1: of you. And this is so exciting for me.
Speaker 2: So thank you, Mom. Have you told her that.
Speaker 1: Something she needs to hear, and then set up something
Speaker 1: where you have you have specific times when you're gonna
Speaker 1: talk to her and specific times when you're gonna see her.
Speaker 1: Put it on a calendar. She needs to know that
Speaker 1: I'm speaking in terms of just the mother, but put
Speaker 1: the dad, put the rest of the family in there too.
Speaker 1: They need to know, we're gonna hear from you on
Speaker 1: FaceTime at five o'clock every weekday or Monday, Wednesday, Friday,
Speaker 1: or just on Sundays.
Speaker 2: But whatever's appropriate.
Speaker 1: Whatever works good with the schedules, you're gonna talk to
Speaker 1: them at this time on FaceTime. You're gonna you're gonna
Speaker 1: get on there and you say, Mom, everything's going great.
Speaker 1: And then you're gonna say, and on the twenty sixth,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna see you, and I'm gonna come stay from
Speaker 1: the twenty sixth through the twenty eighth, and I'm gonna
Speaker 1: see you, and can you please make biscuits and gravy,
Speaker 1: you know, and then and then I'm also gonna see
Speaker 1: you the next month on the twelfth, thirteenth, and fourteenth.
Speaker 1: So put that down, Mama, and come stay with you.
Speaker 1: And she needs to know that she needs to see
Speaker 1: it on the calendar, and that way she can get
Speaker 1: through these moments of you leaving and go, Okay, I
Speaker 1: just got seven more days and I'm gonna I'm gonna
Speaker 1: see him again. I'm gonna see Brennan in seven more days,
Speaker 1: looking forward to that. And of course I get to
Speaker 1: talk to him tonight at five. So I'm sad, i
Speaker 1: feel lonely, I'm worried about him, but I'm gonna talk
Speaker 1: to him in about forty five minutes, just like I.
Speaker 2: Do every night. That's all good stuff. She needs to
Speaker 2: know that she needs to hear that from you. She
Speaker 2: needs a plan.
Speaker 1: She needs to be encouraged that she has set you
Speaker 1: up for this very moment and that you are so
Speaker 1: excited about this moment. And then know that her worrying
Speaker 1: about you is a sign of the love that she has.
Speaker 1: And then I don't want to leave this question without
Speaker 1: reiterating that I am encouraged by your brother, I'm excited
Speaker 1: for you. And then I feel like everybody should do
Speaker 1: this when they get to this age. They should leave
Speaker 1: the house and go on and adventure. And that can
Speaker 1: mean a bunch of different things, but you need to
Speaker 1: get away from the parental units and get out of
Speaker 1: the house and try and fail and stand up and
Speaker 1: try to fly and figure out your wings haven't developed.
Speaker 1: And so you work harder and you get stronger, and
Speaker 1: this is how you come into your own to who God.
Speaker 2: Has created you to be.
Speaker 1: Brennan, and to all of you that have emailed, thank
Speaker 1: you and I love you and we'll see you next Monday.
Speaker 2: Thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith podcast. I appreciate
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