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Speaker 1: Hey, welcome back to the podcast. Thanks for being here.

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Speaker 1: I'd love this as an honor. It has been for

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Speaker 1: these questions and to handle life and to deal with

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Speaker 1: life alongside you, the listener, So thank you. I'd love

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Speaker 1: hearing feedback, especially when I meet you out on the

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Speaker 2: I'll see people on the airport and.

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Speaker 2: That's so cool. It's so cool to me.

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Speaker 1: Not that it's not cool to hear the music thing,

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Speaker 1: but it's different, you know, and this podcast is meaningful

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Speaker 1: So it's interesting to think that there are people out

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Speaker 1: That's really cool. You guys have been through so much

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Speaker 1: as we walk through these questions with the biblical worldview,

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Speaker 1: dot com and we'll walk through that like we're sitting

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Speaker 1: the question could be about anything. Once again, podcast at

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Speaker 1: grangersmith dot com. Something interesting happened last week. I had

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Speaker 1: And I said in that video, hey, comment below if

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Speaker 1: you're watching on YouTube, or if you're listening on another platform,

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Speaker 1: and Chad says, my wife and I made the trip

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Speaker 1: but listen how interesting it is to think about someone

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Speaker 1: that says God first, I make God my first priority.

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Speaker 1: And then in the next tent it they say, I'm

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Speaker 1: just trying to find a church that fits with my

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Speaker 1: schedule because I work and I've got all these things

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Speaker 1: going on in my life, and I'm just trying to

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Speaker 1: find a church that fits me, my career and my work.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to I don't know, like, does that sound

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Speaker 1: like someone that's putting God first?

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Speaker 2: No, it doesn't.

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Speaker 1: So this email, I really want to switch some priorities.

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Speaker 1: I want to rearrange some priorities here. I want to

447
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Speaker 1: get I want to turn the girlfriend into a wife,

448
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Speaker 1: and I want to I want to make the job

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Speaker 1: revolve around the church. And then, you know, an easy

450
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Speaker 1: argument to that is you're like, well, Granger, this is

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Speaker 1: my job. This is all I've ever known, this is

452
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Speaker 1: this is what I'm talented at, this is this is

453
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Speaker 1: the work the Lord gave me. So I need to

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Speaker 1: find a church that revolves around that. And I say

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Speaker 1: this is when I say, hey, Tommy, I've lived this.

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Speaker 1: I was a country music singer, touring for twenty four years,

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Speaker 1: playing concerts on Saturday nights and traveling usually to go

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Speaker 1: home on Sunday mornings, never available for church. For years,

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Speaker 1: I was doing this and justifying it, and for a

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Speaker 1: while I was actually attending a church that had a

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Speaker 1: five pm service, thinking this works. I got a five

462
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Speaker 1: pm service, They got that church has like nine am service,

463
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Speaker 1: eleven AM service, a noon service, a five pm service.

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Speaker 1: That works out great. I get to pick the five.

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Speaker 1: I don't know anybody else that go to this church.

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Speaker 1: Because I only go to the five. I don't know

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Speaker 1: who's showing up at eight or nine or eleven whatever.

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Speaker 1: And slowly I realized, now looking back, that was like

469
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Speaker 1: taking a drop of Cini poisoning and putting it in

470
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Speaker 1: my drink every day, Just a drop of poison, separating

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Speaker 1: myself from the body of the church, separating myself from

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Speaker 1: the believers, acting like my job was more important, acting

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Speaker 1: like that's all I've ever known, and this is the

474
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Speaker 1: talent God gave me. So I'm going to do this

475
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Speaker 1: and that's going to keep me away from the church.

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Speaker 1: But that's okay, because you know God, God forgives right.

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Speaker 1: These are things to think about, Tommy, these are things

478
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Speaker 1: to wrestle with. Where are your priorities? I want to

479
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Speaker 1: suggest that some of these things get rearranged. And this

480
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Speaker 1: is a good example of a question that I would

481
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Speaker 1: if you want to go back on YouTube and then go, hey,

482
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Speaker 1: you're wrong, Granger, You're wrong.

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Speaker 2: And this is.

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Speaker 1: Why I disagree, totally disagree. And this is why you

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Speaker 1: can't make everybody go to church on Sunday morning. Some

486
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Speaker 1: people have jobs, Granger they can't change that, I say,

487
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Speaker 1: I say, at least I could say I've been there,

488
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Speaker 1: I lived that, I gave the job up. You know what,

489
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Speaker 1: I don't regret that for a second. Hey, if you

490
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Speaker 1: have a business out there online e commerce business, or

491
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Speaker 1: you're thinking about getting into it, listen up. At ee

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Speaker 1: we have used shopify for a long long time, all

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Speaker 1: the way back to the grangersmith dot com days. When

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Speaker 1: I was first starting to sell shirts, I didn't know

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Speaker 1: how to do it. I mean I could be creative

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Speaker 1: enough to think about a T shirt that might sell

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Speaker 1: at at a concert at the merch table, but I

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Speaker 1: didn't know how to physically set that up and take

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Speaker 1: care of customers when they enter the credit card information

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Speaker 1: and it keeps track of that and you do the

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Speaker 1: whole check out thing.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how. I still don't know how to

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Speaker 2: do that.

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Speaker 1: And that was until we discovered Shopify, me and my

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Speaker 1: two brothers at EEE, when everything started to change. It

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Speaker 1: allows you to be creative and do what you do

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Speaker 1: and then leave the technical stuff up to them. They

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Speaker 1: know how to take customers, let them put your product

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Speaker 1: about all this is that I really don't have to

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Speaker 1: keep up with it at all. I just trust that

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Speaker 1: Shopify is doing the job behind the scenes that allows

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Speaker 1: me to be creative and them to be business minded.

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Speaker 1: So if you want to get a business going, or

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Speaker 1: upgrade your selling today shopify dot com slash granger. The

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Speaker 1: email to ask me a question is podcast at grangersmith

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Speaker 1: dot com or to die back in these and I'll

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Speaker 1: say that I do think it's it's a good idea.

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Speaker 2: Whatever platform you're.

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Speaker 1: Listening on right now, to be able to go to

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Speaker 1: the YouTube version of this episode and comment double down

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Speaker 1: on this. Hey Granger, I disagree with you, or I

528
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Speaker 1: totally agree with you, or I partially disagree with you.

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Speaker 2: Either way, you know, of course.

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Speaker 1: I don't expect to be right in your eyes every

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Speaker 1: time I don't expect you to agree with me in

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Speaker 1: everything that I say. I'm going to base my answers

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Speaker 1: on a biblical worldview, meaning I'm going to balance everything

534
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Speaker 1: off the Bible like it's a brick and your question

535
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Speaker 1: is a basketball, and I'm going to bounce the basketball

536
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Speaker 1: off of the Bible brick wall and see which way

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Speaker 1: it comes back to me. And however it comes back

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Speaker 1: to me, that's gonna be my answer. So I'm not

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Speaker 1: expecting you to always agree with how I see that.

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Speaker 2: That would be weird if you did. Anyway.

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Speaker 1: It would be like me saying my favorite flavor of

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Speaker 1: ice cream is cookies and cream Bluebell, and every single person.

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Speaker 2: Goes me too, that's my favorite. That would be a.

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Speaker 1: Boring world if we live that way. We all have

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Speaker 1: different flavors, and so that's okay. That being said, I

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Speaker 1: also just don't expect and I don't plan on being

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Speaker 1: right all the time. My hope is that I treat

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Speaker 1: you like a friend of mine. As I read your

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Speaker 1: question and we're just taking a walk through the woods,

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Speaker 1: we're driving a truck together, and you say, hey, I

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Speaker 1: got something I want to run by you, And I

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Speaker 1: would say, based on the Bible. What I believe is

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Speaker 1: the best answer to that. That brings me to the

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Speaker 1: next question comes from Josh. It says, Hey Granger. On

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Speaker 1: a previous podcast, you spoke in favor of traditional burial

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Speaker 1: instead of cremation because burial has historically been a Christian tradition.

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Speaker 1: I have always wanted to be cremated because of the

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Speaker 1: modern day process of embalming and preserving the body are

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Speaker 1: just morbid and incredibly strange to me. Is embalming the

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Speaker 1: body a preservation that Christians do today simply because signs

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Speaker 1: and technology allow for it. To me, it seems like

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Speaker 1: burials should be in a pine box and nothing else,

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Speaker 1: since when the body dies, our souls go on to Heaven.

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Speaker 1: I'm curious to hear more of your thoughts on this

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Speaker 1: because I cannot find anywhere in the Bible where it

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Speaker 1: has an answer to this. Thanks and gig them Josh

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Speaker 1: from Spring Texas. Hey, Josh, thanks for the question, man. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and on that previous podcast you're talking about basically London,

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Speaker 1: was sittating here London, my daughter was in the guest seat,

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Speaker 1: and we were talking about burial versus cremation and how

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Speaker 1: traditionally throughout millennia, Christians have buried the dead as a

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Speaker 1: form of respect for the body, the vessel that has

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Speaker 1: been given to us by God to live while we're

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Speaker 1: on this earth. So we understand when we say this,

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Speaker 1: that has nothing to do with our life after this.

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Speaker 1: The way that we bury does not determine where you

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Speaker 1: end up after this.

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 1: That is only people that have faith and have put

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Speaker 1: their trust and turned from their sin into Jesus alone.

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Speaker 1: They have trusted and surrendered and have faith and repented

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Speaker 1: from their sin and put all that trust into Jesus,

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Speaker 1: the Messiah sent from God to redeem and.

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Speaker 2: Restore his people. That's it.

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Speaker 1: That's the only way to heaven. That's the only way

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Speaker 1: to go to heaven, and to be with Him eternally,

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Speaker 1: worshiping him in eternal glory.

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Speaker 2: That's it. So after that, and this is what I

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Speaker 2: mentioned in the last podcast, there's a but.

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Speaker 1: There has also been this idea that we should respect

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Speaker 1: this body while we have it, and a way to

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Speaker 1: show the respect for the body that God gave us.

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Speaker 1: That's flawed and sinful and fleshly and needy, but it

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Speaker 1: is the body that He gave us to carry.

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Speaker 2: Out the gospel.

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Speaker 1: Here on this earth, then we should respect it by

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Speaker 1: burying it instead of burning it. I say that. Let

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Speaker 1: me tell you the caveat with this. My dad was cremated.

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Speaker 1: My grandparents on his side were cremated. So I'm not

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Speaker 1: coming to you from a vacuum saying all my family

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Speaker 1: only only bury. I'm used to this idea of cremation.

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Speaker 1: In fact, I remember back in twenty fourteen when I

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Speaker 1: lost my dad, and I remember he always wanted to

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Speaker 1: be cremated, kind of.

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Speaker 2: Like you, Josh.

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Speaker 1: And this is before I was in a place where

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Speaker 1: I had these kind of discussions. I didn't have any

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Speaker 1: kind of deep Bible conversation with anybody back in the day.

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Speaker 1: So I wouldn't have discussed this with Dad. With my dad,

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't have thought through this with him. That's okay,

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Speaker 1: that's totally fine. I'm at peace with that. But here's

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Speaker 1: the deal. I remember they scheduled Dad's cremation for noon

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Speaker 1: on a certain day, and it was in Waco, Texas,

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Speaker 1: and that was about an hour west of where or

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Speaker 1: hour east of where Mom and Dad live.

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Speaker 2: And so I remember looking at my.

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Speaker 1: Watch on that day and thinking to myself, you know,

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Speaker 1: it's like eleven o three am. I wonder if they're

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Speaker 1: loading Dad up in the Hurst, you know, Look down

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Speaker 1: my watch eleven seventeen. Now they're probably driving by. Now

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Speaker 1: Dad's in the Hurst, and I wonder if they made

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Speaker 1: it to Valley Mills by now. Looked down at my

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Speaker 1: watch eleven thirty one. I bet they're getting to the

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Speaker 1: edge of Waco Lake heading out there. Just passed past

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Speaker 1: the bridge. Look back at my watch again eleven fifty one.

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Speaker 1: Surely he's out of the car. They've pulled him out

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Speaker 1: of the car. They're undressing him or whatever they do,

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Speaker 1: put him on that table wherever he's going. Maybe the

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Speaker 1: fire is getting hot, you know, got my watch again

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Speaker 1: twelve o three, and I was thinking, I wonder if

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Speaker 1: he's in there, the dad that I've always known my

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Speaker 1: whole life, the big, big bodied man, very lovable, great hugs,

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Speaker 1: big smile, big firm handshake, just crush anybody's hand when

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Speaker 1: he shook your hand.

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Speaker 2: All that is that? All burning? Right now? These are

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Speaker 2: thoughts I'm having, you know, as the sun here at

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Speaker 2: my house.

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Speaker 1: I'm sitting here thinking about all this as I'm watching

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Speaker 1: my watch and just imagining what's happening to his body

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Speaker 1: that I loved, not as sult's not of soul. It's

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Speaker 1: not a spirit. I understand that it's all different.

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Speaker 2: But it's it's still.

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Speaker 1: The body that I've always known that housed the soul

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Speaker 1: of my dad, you know.

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Speaker 2: Maybe the best way to say it.

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Speaker 1: And then I remember thinking, you know again, it's like

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Speaker 1: twelve twelve, twenty seven PM.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, probably pulled him out.

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Speaker 1: Now, it's probably just ashes, probably nothing but ashes by now.

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Speaker 1: And then I remember going to Moms a week later

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Speaker 1: and they had delivered it, and there he is in

652
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Speaker 1: a plastic bag. There are there are his ashes. And

653
00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 1: I remember holding that plastic bag Dad's ashes, you know,

654
00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:48,759
Speaker 1: and I'm kind of mashing, it's kind of squeezing it.

655
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:53,200
Speaker 1: I feel something in the bag and I kind of

656
00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:57,239
Speaker 1: move it around through the plastic with my thumbs and

657
00:35:57,280 --> 00:36:01,040
Speaker 1: there's a there's a big screw in there and some

658
00:36:01,160 --> 00:36:07,520
Speaker 1: bolts and a little bracket. I'm like, like, oh, that

659
00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 1: that was in Dad's ankle. He broke his ankle when

660
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:13,760
Speaker 1: he was in his twenties playing football somewhere and twisted

661
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:15,879
Speaker 1: it and broke it and needed surgery and they put

662
00:36:15,880 --> 00:36:17,600
Speaker 1: those screws, and he always complained about it. You know,

663
00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:19,959
Speaker 1: every time me the weather turned and it was cold

664
00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:22,480
Speaker 1: outside or we were snowskiing, he'd be like, ah, that

665
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:25,719
Speaker 1: my ankle, I feel my ankle, got.

666
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:26,719
Speaker 2: The screws in there, you know.

667
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:31,480
Speaker 1: And there it was, right there, in this cold plastic

668
00:36:31,560 --> 00:36:37,080
Speaker 1: bag with these gray ashes and fragments of bone and

669
00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:39,839
Speaker 1: like dust, and there he is.

670
00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:44,799
Speaker 2: And it's just just a weird feeling. You know.

671
00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:50,879
Speaker 1: It's strange for a family member. So to say that

672
00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 1: embalming is weird, and burial is weird, and coffins are weird.

673
00:36:56,080 --> 00:36:58,840
Speaker 1: I would say, amen, it is all that's weird. But

674
00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:03,880
Speaker 1: my point is cremation is not better by any means.

675
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:09,279
Speaker 1: Cremation is not cleaner or better, or more compact or

676
00:37:09,640 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 1: you know, more convenient. That's none of those things. We

677
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 1: should recognize through this conversation. The death is not the

678
00:37:18,160 --> 00:37:22,200
Speaker 1: way it's supposed to be. We should see death as Christians,

679
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:26,319
Speaker 1: and we could recognize that in Genesis God created and

680
00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:30,480
Speaker 1: it was good, the Bible says, and death was not

681
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:33,640
Speaker 1: part of that good. Death was a result of the

682
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:36,400
Speaker 1: fall of man. As we fell as mankind found. I

683
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:39,880
Speaker 1: say we because we have inherited that seed of Adam,

684
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:43,080
Speaker 1: that seed of sin. We have inherited that in ourselves,

685
00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:45,600
Speaker 1: and that is clear. I have a three year old

686
00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:48,600
Speaker 1: in my house, and it's very clear if you look

687
00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:50,759
Speaker 1: at a two or three year old, that they are

688
00:37:50,840 --> 00:37:54,240
Speaker 1: little rebels at heart. They are little sinners, rebelling, wanting

689
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:56,200
Speaker 1: to push the boundaries as far as they can.

690
00:37:56,480 --> 00:37:59,960
Speaker 2: From the very beginning. We are liars.

691
00:37:59,800 --> 00:38:04,160
Speaker 1: And and thieves, and we rebel against our parents, and

692
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:06,239
Speaker 1: we have to be taught. We have to be taught

693
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:08,440
Speaker 1: what the Bible says. We have to Eventually, we have

694
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:10,560
Speaker 1: to be reborn, and we have to be given new

695
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:14,200
Speaker 1: hearts so that we become aware of that sin and

696
00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:16,719
Speaker 1: our need for a savior, of Jesus who lived the

697
00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:19,879
Speaker 1: perfect life and died for that death so he could

698
00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:21,719
Speaker 1: defeat it and we get a victory over it, so

699
00:38:21,760 --> 00:38:24,840
Speaker 1: we could see through cremation and through burial that this

700
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:27,160
Speaker 1: is not the way it's supposed to be. And we

701
00:38:27,200 --> 00:38:29,799
Speaker 1: shouldn't hold our eyes over it. We shouldn't try to

702
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:32,360
Speaker 1: not talk about it. We shouldn't go to funerals and

703
00:38:32,400 --> 00:38:34,680
Speaker 1: call them celebrations of life and put balloons up and

704
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:37,000
Speaker 1: flowers everywhere and make it happy.

705
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:40,240
Speaker 2: It's not happy. Death is horrible death is sad.

706
00:38:40,400 --> 00:38:43,239
Speaker 1: We should grieve over it, we should be disgusted with it,

707
00:38:43,400 --> 00:38:46,360
Speaker 1: and we should immediately say how can we get past this?

708
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:50,279
Speaker 1: How could we get over death? And Jesus says, I

709
00:38:50,280 --> 00:38:56,680
Speaker 1: am the only way. So let's not ever have a

710
00:38:56,680 --> 00:39:00,120
Speaker 1: discussion about death or the way that we should bury

711
00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:06,440
Speaker 1: without recognizing that death. Even an atheist would admit death

712
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:09,880
Speaker 1: doesn't seem right. It seems out of place from everything.

713
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:14,840
Speaker 1: It seems very out of place. That everything you build

714
00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:17,600
Speaker 1: and you love, and that all the people you get

715
00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 1: close to eventually they die and you put them in

716
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:24,240
Speaker 1: the ground, and you go to a tomb and you look.

717
00:39:24,080 --> 00:39:25,520
Speaker 2: At it and you put a rose on it.

718
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:30,279
Speaker 1: Your mother, for instance, you lose your mother, and she's

719
00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 1: there in the ground, the one that loved you, the

720
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:35,360
Speaker 1: one that bore you, the one that gave you food

721
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:37,920
Speaker 1: when you're hungry, the one that nursed you as a baby.

722
00:39:38,080 --> 00:39:43,279
Speaker 1: There's her body's in the ground, in the snow, and

723
00:39:43,320 --> 00:39:45,400
Speaker 1: I put a rose on it. And somehow that's supposed

724
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:48,719
Speaker 1: to make it better. We should recognize through all that

725
00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:50,280
Speaker 1: there's not supposed.

726
00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:50,960
Speaker 2: To be that way.

727
00:39:52,040 --> 00:39:55,480
Speaker 1: So we look to Jesus, who overcame death, who has

728
00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:59,280
Speaker 1: the only one who's that who has had victory over death.

729
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 1: He's defeated it. Okay, So that brings us to this question,

730
00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 1: what about embalming.

731
00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:08,040
Speaker 2: Is it that is that weird?

732
00:40:09,280 --> 00:40:13,120
Speaker 1: I say, yeah, of course it is. It's not supposed

733
00:40:13,120 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 1: to be that way, and neither is cremation. It doesn't

734
00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:19,240
Speaker 1: make it any better. And so that's why I argue,

735
00:40:20,920 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 1: and it's not just my opinion. I think I stand

736
00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:26,120
Speaker 1: on the shoulders of many, many, many Christians that come

737
00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:30,120
Speaker 1: before me in millennia to say I think the respectful

738
00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:32,200
Speaker 1: thing is to have respect for the body and put

739
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:36,880
Speaker 1: the body in a casket and put in the ground.

740
00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:40,480
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying and once again, my dad, my grandparents,

741
00:40:40,520 --> 00:40:42,279
Speaker 1: all them, all the ones that were cremated, I'm not

742
00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:45,640
Speaker 1: saying that they're going to hell for that. I'm just

743
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:48,680
Speaker 1: saying I think if I would have known what I

744
00:40:48,719 --> 00:40:49,800
Speaker 1: know now, I think I would.

745
00:40:49,640 --> 00:40:51,560
Speaker 2: Have told Dad, Dad, let's bury you.

746
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:55,400
Speaker 1: Especially in hindsight of looking back on the time that

747
00:40:55,440 --> 00:40:58,680
Speaker 1: he was cremated, I think Dad would have been like, whatever, yeah, sure,

748
00:40:58,800 --> 00:40:59,759
Speaker 1: put yeah, put me in.

749
00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:01,279
Speaker 2: A cast it, you know.

750
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:05,719
Speaker 1: And on top of that, I've buried several pets in

751
00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:08,520
Speaker 1: my life out here in the woods and behind my house,

752
00:41:09,239 --> 00:41:12,120
Speaker 1: and unless you dig a hole deep enough and you

753
00:41:12,160 --> 00:41:14,840
Speaker 1: seal that box tight enough, there is an animal that

754
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 1: will dig up that body.

755
00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:18,959
Speaker 2: I hate to say that, but that's that's true.

756
00:41:19,000 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 1: I've had I have cat bones all over my woods

757
00:41:22,120 --> 00:41:24,960
Speaker 1: that Maverick goes and pulls out because we've had codes

758
00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:28,560
Speaker 1: that come and dig up cats that I've buried. So

759
00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:36,879
Speaker 1: embalming is a process that helps prevent the natural decomposition.

760
00:41:36,160 --> 00:41:37,799
Speaker 2: Of the body, you know.

761
00:41:38,960 --> 00:41:42,160
Speaker 1: So, yeah, it's weird, but I think it's I think

762
00:41:42,239 --> 00:41:46,200
Speaker 1: it is a alternative to at least consider as a

763
00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:50,600
Speaker 1: Christian in respect for the vessel that was given to

764
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:51,720
Speaker 1: us by God.

765
00:41:52,120 --> 00:41:53,439
Speaker 2: We put it in the ground.

766
00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:57,680
Speaker 1: And we expect as Christians that that body will be

767
00:41:58,239 --> 00:42:04,719
Speaker 1: resurrected and made new because of Jesus. I think that's

768
00:42:04,800 --> 00:42:07,120
Speaker 1: enough for you, Josh, I hope it is. Brother, Thanks

769
00:42:07,120 --> 00:42:09,960
Speaker 1: for the question. I'd move on to Brennan. Hey, Granger,

770
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:12,440
Speaker 1: I've been a fan for a long time. My question is,

771
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:16,879
Speaker 1: is going to a school four hours away wrong? I'm

772
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:18,360
Speaker 1: going to a school in a couple of weeks and

773
00:42:18,400 --> 00:42:20,680
Speaker 1: I'm moving four hours away, and I'm the only one

774
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:22,839
Speaker 1: in the family that has gone that far, and all

775
00:42:22,840 --> 00:42:24,880
Speaker 1: of my family is not taking it well, and I

776
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:26,120
Speaker 1: want to know if there's a way that I could

777
00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:28,080
Speaker 1: help them and make this a little less hard for them.

778
00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 1: Thanks for your time, Brennan. First of all, I want

779
00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:37,040
Speaker 1: to say, brother, this is so exciting, this is so encouraging,

780
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:39,399
Speaker 1: and you're doing a good thing.

781
00:42:39,680 --> 00:42:40,440
Speaker 2: And I don't know.

782
00:42:40,840 --> 00:42:43,359
Speaker 1: Maybe you've been told this by your family, but if not,

783
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:45,920
Speaker 1: let me be the only guy that has told you

784
00:42:46,320 --> 00:42:50,680
Speaker 1: this is a good thing. A boy your age should

785
00:42:50,760 --> 00:42:54,080
Speaker 1: leave the nest and get out and spread his wings

786
00:42:54,680 --> 00:42:57,879
Speaker 1: and try to fly and fall if necessary, and get

787
00:42:57,920 --> 00:43:00,920
Speaker 1: back up and spread his wings again. That is what's

788
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:05,439
Speaker 1: always happened in human history boys and girls. Can't speak

789
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:07,440
Speaker 1: as much for girls because I didn't experience that, but

790
00:43:07,480 --> 00:43:09,799
Speaker 1: as a boy I could tell you from experience and

791
00:43:09,880 --> 00:43:12,880
Speaker 1: from history that getting out of the house is a

792
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 1: good thing. About your age seventeen, eighteen, nineteen, twenty years old,

793
00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:20,040
Speaker 1: somewhere in that world, it's time to get out and

794
00:43:20,120 --> 00:43:23,719
Speaker 1: make a name for yourself, to fail on your own,

795
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 1: to fall and pick yourself up. Your parents have picked

796
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:29,040
Speaker 1: you up for so long, and now it's time for

797
00:43:29,080 --> 00:43:29,839
Speaker 1: you to learn how.

798
00:43:29,760 --> 00:43:30,440
Speaker 2: To pick yourself up.

799
00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:32,640
Speaker 1: And you can only do that if you've left the

800
00:43:32,719 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 1: nest and you've gone out on your own. So, brother,

801
00:43:35,120 --> 00:43:38,399
Speaker 1: I'm so excited for you. You're coming in a long line

802
00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:40,000
Speaker 1: of men that have done this before you.

803
00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:41,040
Speaker 2: And I'm not.

804
00:43:41,040 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 1: Necessarily advocating that school is what you need to do.

805
00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:47,320
Speaker 1: Not everyone is made for school. Not everyone can afford

806
00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:51,120
Speaker 1: school like college. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't get

807
00:43:51,120 --> 00:43:52,960
Speaker 1: out of the house. I am such a big advocate

808
00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:55,279
Speaker 1: for getting out of the house. And that could mean

809
00:43:55,400 --> 00:43:59,200
Speaker 1: trade school, that could mean a university. That could mean

810
00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:02,960
Speaker 1: going off to work on an oil rig. I could

811
00:44:03,000 --> 00:44:04,600
Speaker 1: be going into the Marine Corps or the Army, or

812
00:44:04,600 --> 00:44:06,680
Speaker 1: the Air Force or the Navy. Could it could be

813
00:44:06,760 --> 00:44:09,920
Speaker 1: military work like that too. But all of these things

814
00:44:10,200 --> 00:44:13,880
Speaker 1: are part of the journey, right. This is part of

815
00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:17,800
Speaker 1: the journey of figuring out how to use the tools

816
00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 1: that God has given you to go out and take

817
00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:23,160
Speaker 1: what is yours and to figure out how how to

818
00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:25,560
Speaker 1: act on those gifts and figure out how to find

819
00:44:25,560 --> 00:44:27,440
Speaker 1: a church on your own, and how to covenant with

820
00:44:27,800 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 1: your own with God's people on your own, not just

821
00:44:31,080 --> 00:44:34,879
Speaker 1: just under the wings of your parents. And then when

822
00:44:34,920 --> 00:44:36,279
Speaker 1: you do that and you begin to figure that out,

823
00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:38,480
Speaker 1: then you can go back home, and then you could

824
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:40,440
Speaker 1: live in your hometown, and you could get married to

825
00:44:40,480 --> 00:44:42,160
Speaker 1: a girl, and you could raise them in your hometown

826
00:44:42,320 --> 00:44:44,760
Speaker 1: just like you grew up, if that's what you choose,

827
00:44:45,000 --> 00:44:46,680
Speaker 1: and you can if your grandparents right down the road,

828
00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:47,760
Speaker 1: if that's what you choose.

829
00:44:48,120 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 2: But at least you know what it's like out there.

830
00:44:51,600 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 1: I went when I was eighteen, I left home and

831
00:44:56,040 --> 00:44:59,080
Speaker 1: I went to Texas, A and m and my parents

832
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:03,480
Speaker 1: took me. Tyler was there, and Parker was there, and

833
00:45:03,520 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 1: there were boys, and Mom cried. I remember that Dad

834
00:45:08,680 --> 00:45:11,319
Speaker 1: was happy, you know, Dad was excited, maybe holding back

835
00:45:11,360 --> 00:45:14,760
Speaker 1: some emotion. But Mom cried, you know, And I remember

836
00:45:14,800 --> 00:45:19,040
Speaker 1: that last hug. She's scared and nervous and sad all

837
00:45:19,080 --> 00:45:23,120
Speaker 1: at the same time. That's a sign of a good mama.

838
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:25,920
Speaker 1: I've got a feeling your family is going through that

839
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:29,359
Speaker 1: as well. There's more of the unknown that's involved here.

840
00:45:29,760 --> 00:45:31,759
Speaker 2: They don't know you're two weeks out. They don't know

841
00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:33,640
Speaker 2: what it's going to be like to lose their baby boy.

842
00:45:34,640 --> 00:45:36,399
Speaker 1: And if your mom didn't feel that way, there would

843
00:45:36,400 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 1: be something wrong, right If mom was like, I can't

844
00:45:39,080 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 1: wait for you to be gone. This is so exciting.

845
00:45:42,000 --> 00:45:43,880
Speaker 1: I've already got your room redecorated.

846
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:45,520
Speaker 2: That would be weird.

847
00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:50,400
Speaker 1: So the fact that they are taking this hard is

848
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:53,080
Speaker 1: probably a good thing. It means they love you, they

849
00:45:53,120 --> 00:45:54,800
Speaker 1: care for you. That means you're part of the family.

850
00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:57,759
Speaker 1: You matter to them, you know you fit with them,

851
00:45:57,800 --> 00:46:00,319
Speaker 1: and you make them be what they are as a

852
00:46:00,320 --> 00:46:06,120
Speaker 1: family unit. So embrace that acknowledge. That tell your mom,

853
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:10,080
Speaker 1: that tell her, Mama, I just want to tell you,

854
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:14,960
Speaker 1: Mom that I just I appreciate you all that you've

855
00:46:14,960 --> 00:46:20,040
Speaker 1: prepared me to do to go into this world. I've

856
00:46:20,080 --> 00:46:23,719
Speaker 1: just been so encouraged all these years by your love,

857
00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:29,120
Speaker 1: by your grace, by your discipline, from all the things

858
00:46:29,120 --> 00:46:31,600
Speaker 1: that you've prepared me to do, and Mom, you've made

859
00:46:31,640 --> 00:46:34,200
Speaker 1: me ready for this moment. I'm going to college, I'm

860
00:46:34,200 --> 00:46:36,319
Speaker 1: going into the world, and I just want to let

861
00:46:36,320 --> 00:46:39,040
Speaker 1: you know that I'm able to do that because of

862
00:46:39,120 --> 00:46:41,239
Speaker 1: all the diligent work and all the prayers and all

863
00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:44,160
Speaker 1: and everything you did as a mother to set me

864
00:46:44,280 --> 00:46:46,640
Speaker 1: up for this moment. I'm able to do it because

865
00:46:46,680 --> 00:46:49,319
Speaker 1: of you. And this is so exciting for me.

866
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:53,640
Speaker 2: So thank you, Mom. Have you told her that.

867
00:46:53,120 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 1: Something she needs to hear, and then set up something

868
00:46:57,880 --> 00:47:01,560
Speaker 1: where you have you have specific times when you're gonna

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Speaker 1: talk to her and specific times when you're gonna see her.

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Speaker 1: Put it on a calendar. She needs to know that

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00:47:06,960 --> 00:47:09,080
Speaker 1: I'm speaking in terms of just the mother, but put

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00:47:09,080 --> 00:47:10,640
Speaker 1: the dad, put the rest of the family in there too.

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00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:12,920
Speaker 1: They need to know, we're gonna hear from you on

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00:47:13,000 --> 00:47:18,840
Speaker 1: FaceTime at five o'clock every weekday or Monday, Wednesday, Friday,

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Speaker 1: or just on Sundays.

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00:47:20,480 --> 00:47:22,240
Speaker 2: But whatever's appropriate.

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Speaker 1: Whatever works good with the schedules, you're gonna talk to

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00:47:24,520 --> 00:47:27,640
Speaker 1: them at this time on FaceTime. You're gonna you're gonna

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00:47:27,640 --> 00:47:29,880
Speaker 1: get on there and you say, Mom, everything's going great.

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00:47:32,239 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 1: And then you're gonna say, and on the twenty sixth,

881
00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:36,399
Speaker 1: I'm gonna see you, and I'm gonna come stay from

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00:47:36,400 --> 00:47:39,040
Speaker 1: the twenty sixth through the twenty eighth, and I'm gonna

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00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:42,400
Speaker 1: see you, and can you please make biscuits and gravy,

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00:47:43,000 --> 00:47:45,600
Speaker 1: you know, and then and then I'm also gonna see

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00:47:45,600 --> 00:47:48,200
Speaker 1: you the next month on the twelfth, thirteenth, and fourteenth.

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00:47:48,239 --> 00:47:49,920
Speaker 1: So put that down, Mama, and come stay with you.

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00:47:50,520 --> 00:47:52,000
Speaker 1: And she needs to know that she needs to see

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00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:53,879
Speaker 1: it on the calendar, and that way she can get

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00:47:53,880 --> 00:47:57,279
Speaker 1: through these moments of you leaving and go, Okay, I

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Speaker 1: just got seven more days and I'm gonna I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: see him again. I'm gonna see Brennan in seven more days,

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00:48:02,800 --> 00:48:05,120
Speaker 1: looking forward to that. And of course I get to

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00:48:05,120 --> 00:48:08,160
Speaker 1: talk to him tonight at five. So I'm sad, i

894
00:48:08,160 --> 00:48:11,400
Speaker 1: feel lonely, I'm worried about him, but I'm gonna talk

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00:48:11,480 --> 00:48:13,759
Speaker 1: to him in about forty five minutes, just like I.

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00:48:13,719 --> 00:48:17,040
Speaker 2: Do every night. That's all good stuff. She needs to

897
00:48:17,080 --> 00:48:18,719
Speaker 2: know that she needs to hear that from you. She

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00:48:18,800 --> 00:48:19,439
Speaker 2: needs a plan.

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Speaker 1: She needs to be encouraged that she has set you

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Speaker 1: up for this very moment and that you are so

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00:48:27,280 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 1: excited about this moment. And then know that her worrying

902
00:48:31,200 --> 00:48:33,319
Speaker 1: about you is a sign of the love that she has.

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Speaker 1: And then I don't want to leave this question without

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Speaker 1: reiterating that I am encouraged by your brother, I'm excited

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00:48:42,080 --> 00:48:44,920
Speaker 1: for you. And then I feel like everybody should do

906
00:48:44,960 --> 00:48:46,839
Speaker 1: this when they get to this age. They should leave

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00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:51,000
Speaker 1: the house and go on and adventure. And that can

908
00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:53,080
Speaker 1: mean a bunch of different things, but you need to

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00:48:53,120 --> 00:48:55,719
Speaker 1: get away from the parental units and get out of

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00:48:55,719 --> 00:49:00,480
Speaker 1: the house and try and fail and stand up and

911
00:49:00,640 --> 00:49:03,520
Speaker 1: try to fly and figure out your wings haven't developed.

912
00:49:03,560 --> 00:49:05,799
Speaker 1: And so you work harder and you get stronger, and

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Speaker 1: this is how you come into your own to who God.

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Speaker 2: Has created you to be.

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Speaker 1: Brennan, and to all of you that have emailed, thank

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Speaker 1: you and I love you and we'll see you next Monday.

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Speaker 2: Thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith podcast. I appreciate

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Speaker 2: all of you. Guys.

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