WEBVTT - Ep. 35 — Me-ternity: Should childless women get maternity leave too?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, hey, hey, hey guys, and we're busy. How's

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<v Speaker 1>your weekend?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, weekend was good. Actually, I finally, after like five

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<v Speaker 2>years of saying I wanted to go see Book of Mormon,

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<v Speaker 2>I finally went to go see Book of Mormon. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>that show. Have you ever seen it before?

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<v Speaker 3>No, I'm not really it's a Broadway show.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, anything not Disney. It's not really my style.

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<v Speaker 2>No, this is like Okay, first of all, it's a musical.

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<v Speaker 2>It's hilarious. It was created and written by the creators

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<v Speaker 2>of South Park, so it's raunchy, like raunchy, af do

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<v Speaker 2>not bring your parents. We were sitting wait, I got

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<v Speaker 2>really good seeds. And first of all, it's taken me

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<v Speaker 2>so long because five years ago, Book of Mormon was

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<v Speaker 2>the Hamilton Broadway where you could not get tickets, and

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<v Speaker 2>I five years ago was earning like way less than

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<v Speaker 2>I am now, so I could never afford to get tickets.

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<v Speaker 2>There were four hundred dollars. But I feel like I

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<v Speaker 2>have to say thank you to Hamilton because now that

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<v Speaker 2>Hamilton's out and Book of Mormon is not that popular anymore,

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<v Speaker 2>tickets are actually not bad and we were able to go,

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<v Speaker 2>but yeah, it's hilarious. And we were sitting next to

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<v Speaker 2>the whole premise of it is about Mormon missionaries who

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<v Speaker 2>are sent to Uganda and had the task of saving

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<v Speaker 2>or baptizing this Ugandan village, and just hilarity ensues, and

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<v Speaker 2>like it is not if you, you know, if anything

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<v Speaker 2>Larry Wilmore said in his White House correspondence to Inner

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<v Speaker 2>Speech offended you, then you don't want to see Book

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<v Speaker 2>of Mormon. But it was it was like just like

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<v Speaker 2>just fun. And we were sitting next to these two

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<v Speaker 2>old dudes. There's this older couple right next to us,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was really cute seeing them. Like are we

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<v Speaker 2>allowed to laugh at that? It's like, yes, you can

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<v Speaker 2>to joke about the devil and me like, yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>that was some fun. And you know, that's a nice

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<v Speaker 2>way to spend a Sunday. It was nasty yesterday.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah it was, which is so random because Saturday it

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<v Speaker 3>was so nice.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I frolicked. I was a little bit. I had

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<v Speaker 2>a girls night Friday and I had, you know, a

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<v Speaker 2>couple of margaritas and I don't really drink that much,

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<v Speaker 2>and so I was not feeling one hundred on Saturday,

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<v Speaker 2>but I forced myself to leave the house.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Saturday really nice. I spent like most of my

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<v Speaker 1>day outside. I was doing some taping of testimonials for

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<v Speaker 1>the Budget Nista. So we were in the Bronx. We

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<v Speaker 1>taped in New Brunswick, we taped in with Stars, we

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<v Speaker 1>taped in Newark. We're just like all over in New York,

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<v Speaker 1>New Jersey. And it actually was fun because it's so

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<v Speaker 1>crazy to see people living at different walks of life,

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<v Speaker 1>like in their actual environment, and it's just interesting to

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<v Speaker 1>come into their space and to kind of just feel

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<v Speaker 1>their energy in their space. It was really nice.

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<v Speaker 3>Actually, that was cool.

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<v Speaker 2>What are you gonna get the Budget Nista mobile? I know, right,

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<v Speaker 2>like a giant like mad I'm not the big giant placard.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, right, then I'll never get any peace. I already

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<v Speaker 1>go to the supermarket like in my town, in my

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<v Speaker 1>city because everybody knows what I do in my city,

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<v Speaker 1>and I can't even squeeze the tomatoes without someone being

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<v Speaker 1>like quick question right, bunch anisa credit, which actually I

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<v Speaker 1>don't mind. I kind of like that because it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, normally this is someone who might not otherwise

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<v Speaker 1>care about their credit, and now here they are asking

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<v Speaker 1>me about it in shopright.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it. Yeah, you should host your own little

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<v Speaker 2>like show a shop right, I know.

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<v Speaker 3>At the tomatoes.

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<v Speaker 2>Conversations and the produce Atyle.

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<v Speaker 1>So some Morca news a Missy Copeland and this barbie.

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<v Speaker 3>How do you feel about it?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>I love it. I saw that. I just saw it

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<v Speaker 2>on GMA. I posted it. I think it's awesome. I

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<v Speaker 2>kind of want to go back and redo my childhood now.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, right, like I could get it.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, what I love about the barbie is that

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<v Speaker 1>it's like clearly more muscular and like built like her you.

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<v Speaker 2>Know calves though those calves. Yes, I heard I read

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<v Speaker 2>that she was really involved. I'm sure she was like

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<v Speaker 2>doing modeling for them, like no, this is what my

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<v Speaker 2>cap looks like, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And even on GMA was cute because Ramin from GMA,

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<v Speaker 1>who was interviewing her, was telling like the people like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, Missy was actually making sure that the barbie

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<v Speaker 1>was in like the right position before like I guess

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<v Speaker 1>dight before they cut to commercial to show the barbie.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought that was so cute. She was like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>this is not how a ballerina stands. It has to

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<v Speaker 1>look like right.

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<v Speaker 2>She would know exactly I feel like. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 2>I always could get the one brown barbie because they

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<v Speaker 2>had a brown Barbie and a black Barbie when I

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<v Speaker 2>was little. I don't know how long they've been around,

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<v Speaker 2>but I always went for, like, you know, the racially

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<v Speaker 2>ambiguous one like I was. But she didn't like have

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<v Speaker 2>a kick ass career. She wasn't an athlete or a director.

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<v Speaker 1>She was like a mermaid, racially ambiguous mermaid Barbie.

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<v Speaker 3>That's awthful.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh man. So one other headline I wanted to talk

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<v Speaker 2>about this, which you know, one of my really close

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<v Speaker 2>co workers had a baby about a year ago now,

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<v Speaker 2>and I alway I wanted to get her opinion on this,

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<v Speaker 2>and she, like so many other moms, were super pissed off.

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<v Speaker 2>There's this woman who wrote a novel called Me Maternity,

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<v Speaker 2>which is like maternity leave but for single women with

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<v Speaker 2>or not single women women without children. And this writer

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<v Speaker 2>she well, she has the novel coming out, which is

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<v Speaker 2>a fictionalized story, but it was based on her own

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<v Speaker 2>experience working in New York in her early thirties, and

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<v Speaker 2>she was jealous of the moms and dads in the

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<v Speaker 2>office who got to call out when they had to

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<v Speaker 2>go pick up their son at six pm, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>or leave the office because the kid was sick. She said,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, it wasn't as it wasn't as kosher if

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<v Speaker 2>I were to say, oh, my best friend just got

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<v Speaker 2>you know, ghosted by her Okay Cupid date and she

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<v Speaker 2>needs a margarita and that girl she felt like she

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<v Speaker 2>felt like people without kids deserve some eternity, which rightfully

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<v Speaker 2>just like blew up. I mean, the New York posted

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<v Speaker 2>a whole interview with her. I do not know why

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<v Speaker 2>this woman put herself on that. Why would you do that?

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<v Speaker 2>It was just like some.

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<v Speaker 1>People do anything for fame, because she had to know

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<v Speaker 1>that that's the stupidest thing you've ever heard, Like maternity

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<v Speaker 1>to leave is not a vacation. Like I babysit my

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<v Speaker 1>nephew Tuesdays.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry, I was so agreed, I so agreed. I was choking.

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<v Speaker 1>So I babysitd my nephew on Tuesdays and Thursday mornings

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<v Speaker 1>from like seven to like ten thirty. And it is

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm exhausted afterwards, Like literally I spend the hour

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<v Speaker 1>after he leaves and I take a nap because my

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<v Speaker 1>sister was on maternity leave for a while and decided

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<v Speaker 1>she had to go back to work, you know, to

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<v Speaker 1>help support the family.

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<v Speaker 3>That I she had a baby. It was hard for

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<v Speaker 3>her to leave.

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<v Speaker 1>But her mother in law babysits him mostly when they're gone,

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<v Speaker 1>but her mother in law can't on Tuesdays and Thursday mornings.

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<v Speaker 1>And she asked if I would, and I was like, sure, easy, peasy.

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<v Speaker 1>What From the moment I walk in, Roman that's his name,

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<v Speaker 1>is like seven months, He's like, hey, Auntie, So what.

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<v Speaker 3>You're not gonna do is any work.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not gonna go to the bathroom because as soon

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<v Speaker 1>as you put me down, I'm going to scream bloody murder.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not gonna know why I'm crying. If I need

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<v Speaker 1>to poop, if I need to pee, if I need

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<v Speaker 1>to eat, if I just want to play, if I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to play, if I want you to.

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<v Speaker 3>Leave me alone.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it is so much work. I can't even

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<v Speaker 1>imagine twenty four to seven with the baby. What I mean, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm single and I don't have any kids, so yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>having me time is not the same thing as having

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<v Speaker 1>having to come home and take care of a kid.

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<v Speaker 1>It is egg exhausting and just the fact that I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just so selfish and so like, is she a millennial?

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry millennials, she's thirty eight.

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<v Speaker 2>She's like just she's like jen X. Sorry, she's yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you can claim you can have her.

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<v Speaker 3>We don't want her like I want to. I want

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<v Speaker 3>to draft her, get drafted in the age draft.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen. This is the part of her whole, her whole

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<v Speaker 2>thesis that drives me nuts, she says. As I watch

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<v Speaker 2>my friends take their real maternity leaves, I saw that

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<v Speaker 2>spending three months detached from their dusts made them much

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<v Speaker 2>more sure of themselves. One friend made the decision to

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<v Speaker 2>leave her corporate care weird to create her own business.

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<v Speaker 2>From the outside look like it looked like those few

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<v Speaker 2>weeks of them shifting their focus to something other than

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<v Speaker 2>their jobs gave them a whole new lens through which

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<v Speaker 2>to see their lives. You mean, the lens where if

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<v Speaker 2>you don't work and feed your kids, they will die, like.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you want to break, that's what vacation is for.

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<v Speaker 1>Save your vacations on time, and you know, take three

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<v Speaker 1>weeks off.

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<v Speaker 2>If you all have kids, you have maternity time, maternity

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<v Speaker 2>time all the time.

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<v Speaker 3>Exactly. It's called coming home, fool.

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<v Speaker 2>Coming home and doing whatever the hell you want to do.

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<v Speaker 2>I am enjoying thirty almost thirty years of maternity time myself,

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<v Speaker 2>and this is just bogus. Did you And also what's

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<v Speaker 2>funny is she was supposed to go on GMA and

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<v Speaker 2>she bailed. Really yeah, she toly let them hanging, like

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<v Speaker 2>I guess right up before the segment was supposed to air,

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<v Speaker 2>because she probably got in the building and you know

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<v Speaker 2>two GMA's audiences.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, women who have kids, women who.

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<v Speaker 2>Are yes, either have kids or you know, their home

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<v Speaker 2>at eight nine am watching this, so they were ready

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<v Speaker 2>with their pitchforks, I'm sure, and she just like went

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<v Speaker 2>into the building and walked right out.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, she was like, you know what, actually, I'm not

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<v Speaker 3>getting paid enough for this. But that was dumb.

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<v Speaker 1>You had to know that that was gonna happen, because

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<v Speaker 1>I justay, no.

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<v Speaker 2>I was just gonna say. In the concept, she talks

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<v Speaker 2>about people who have three months time off, Well that's

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<v Speaker 2>not the norm. America is one of the only developed

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<v Speaker 2>nations that does not guarantee paid family leave time. You

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<v Speaker 2>might get eight weeks twelve weeks off, but you're not

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<v Speaker 2>going to get paid for it. If you are, you

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<v Speaker 2>may even get paid half what you were getting paid

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<v Speaker 2>at a normal time. So it's just it's just bs,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's from someone who clearly does not understand the

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<v Speaker 2>way that maternity leave works.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, does she not know anybody with children? Like

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<v Speaker 1>anybody ever? Like if you've just been around someone who's

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<v Speaker 1>had a baby, you just see just how struck. I

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<v Speaker 1>remember within the first three months, I always would visit my

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<v Speaker 1>sister and I'd be like, uh, are you okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Because she looks like, hell, you're a human boob.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Literally, She's just like I just sit here and

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<v Speaker 1>take my shirt. I mean, like I have never my

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<v Speaker 1>adult life seeing my sister's boobs. But like, once you

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<v Speaker 1>get to a point, she's like, I don't even care anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>Just stand right there. I have to get the baby.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasnt exactly and it's just literally she just looked exhausted.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, do you want me to do your hair?

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<v Speaker 1>She's like hair, what's that? And it's just so tiring.

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<v Speaker 1>So and three months is not really enough time to

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<v Speaker 1>get a baby acclimated to the fact that they're not

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<v Speaker 1>no longer in tide of wone. They're still like, wait,

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<v Speaker 1>so where am I at? And who are you again?

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<v Speaker 1>Your voice sounds familiar, but I don't know who you are.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's just very, very, very stressful. It's just now,

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<v Speaker 1>like when I was babysitting and I was telling her,

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<v Speaker 1>oh man, I'm so exhausted, She's like exhausted.

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<v Speaker 3>She was like, he's darn near independent. He's darn near

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<v Speaker 3>an adult.

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<v Speaker 1>Now she's like when he was three months, two months,

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<v Speaker 1>She's liked.

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<v Speaker 3>This is the easy part. Seven months is nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>And here's one thing I've learned working with, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>working like side by side to someone who just had

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<v Speaker 2>a baby, Like you do not want to complain about

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<v Speaker 2>how tired you are or how exhausting your weekend was,

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<v Speaker 2>Like you just you can't complain anymore. I look at

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<v Speaker 2>her and I'm like, yeah, I really am going to

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<v Speaker 2>shut up and take a seat now, because that's that's

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<v Speaker 2>a real struggle.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, it is.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, like I said in the beginning, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>as the kids get older, it definitely gets a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit easier. But I just can't believe she wrote that.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I think she just wanted to be polarizing

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<v Speaker 1>on purpose and did not quite realize how polarizing she

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<v Speaker 1>was going to be and how much she was going

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<v Speaker 1>to be dragged.

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<v Speaker 3>But here we are.

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<v Speaker 2>There's one other thing I'll say on this is that,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, she talks about the concept of how it's

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<v Speaker 2>so easy for parents to just say, oh, I have

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<v Speaker 2>to leave my I have to leave at six, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>on the dot, because you know, little Joey needs soccer

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<v Speaker 2>practice or whatever. But in my experience, the parents that

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<v Speaker 2>I work with, they don't. They feel almost less like

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<v Speaker 2>they should be able to, like, less likely to say

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<v Speaker 2>that kind of stuff because they fear being looked at,

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<v Speaker 2>as you know, of not valuing or prioritizing their work,

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<v Speaker 2>and they try and do it all. And I think

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<v Speaker 2>it's even easier. And this is experience I've had just watching,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, over several employers, is that sometimes the men

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<v Speaker 2>you have kids are more likely to be like, oh sorry,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm running late, or oh sorry, I have to leave early.

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<v Speaker 2>Then the women I work with, I can't think of

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<v Speaker 2>a you know, one time my coworkers like called out

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<v Speaker 2>or said she's going to be late for you know,

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<v Speaker 2>her kids spit up on her or whatever. But I

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<v Speaker 2>can think of a couple dudes who have sent that

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<v Speaker 2>inter office email. Yeah, and there's just that extra pressure

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<v Speaker 2>I think to try and you know, act like to

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<v Speaker 2>cut it all.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like and it's just so crazy because you're right though,

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<v Speaker 1>Like my best friend just had a baby. He's just

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<v Speaker 1>turned one, and well not just had a baby, but she,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, she's always stressed when he was sick for rock,

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<v Speaker 1>because he's teething and all of a sudden, you're teething,

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<v Speaker 1>all these things go wrong. There's like stomach issues, there's fever,

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<v Speaker 1>and so he's been sick. And she does have a

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<v Speaker 1>daycare center where she drops them off, but they were like,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't bring a sick baby to daycare, just can't.

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<v Speaker 1>So she's just so stressed, like what are we going

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<v Speaker 1>to do? Like I have to go to work, I

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<v Speaker 1>have you know, I don't want to be the person

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<v Speaker 1>who's like not at work for a week because my

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<v Speaker 1>baby's teething.

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<v Speaker 3>What do we do?

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<v Speaker 1>What do we do? And I'm just watching like, wow,

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<v Speaker 1>that's really hard. My nephew was in the hospital because

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<v Speaker 1>his feet had gotten really high.

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<v Speaker 3>They didn't get home.

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<v Speaker 1>Until like five, six o'clock in the morning on a Monday.

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<v Speaker 1>She texts her boss like, I'll be there at ten.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, just got back from the hospital.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you imagine, like what like if I just got

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<v Speaker 1>back from the hospital, There's no way I'm going into work.

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<v Speaker 1>But she's feeling like, oh my gosh, I just got

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<v Speaker 1>back to work. I don't want to not come in,

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<v Speaker 1>and thankfully she got. She had a great boss and

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<v Speaker 1>he was like, are you crazy, Like your baby just

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<v Speaker 1>came home from the hospital, like stay home, It's okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and so yeah, yeah think I mean, but

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<v Speaker 1>not every boss is like that. Some bosses would be like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll see you at ten. So, yeah, this is not well.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be interested to see how this kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>blows out.

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<v Speaker 2>I hope her both bombs.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, well, it'll probably do well, just because you know,

0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:52.800
<v Speaker 1>people want to read it just so they can drag her.

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<v Speaker 2>It's about a woman who fakes a pregnancy so she

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<v Speaker 2>can take maternity leaves. That's what it's about. So I

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<v Speaker 2>already hate her.

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<v Speaker 1>So this is a little random, but I thought you

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<v Speaker 1>might be interested. Your hometown of atl has the first

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<v Speaker 1>annual mac and Cheese Festival.

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<v Speaker 3>Have you heard of this? What?

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<v Speaker 1>I know? October eighth, get on it. It's like supposed

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<v Speaker 1>to be the biggest mac and cheese festival in the nation.

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<v Speaker 1>It came across my fee because one of my friends

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<v Speaker 1>is like such a FOODI he like travels the country

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<v Speaker 1>looking for food and so yeah, I was like, ooh,

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<v Speaker 1>a mac and cheese festival. They actually have a website

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<v Speaker 1>atl Mac and Cheese Festival dot com, and I was like, ooh,

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<v Speaker 1>I love mac and cheese.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I'm lactose intolerant. I got really crampyge just

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<v Speaker 2>thinking about that idea.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it's so crazy because so many people of

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<v Speaker 1>color a lactose in tolerance.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, really, in Atlanta, you want to do this?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you sure that's going.

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<v Speaker 2>To be the stinkiest skeep festival? You better take your lactape.

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<v Speaker 1>We have to take lackad as soon as it's like

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<v Speaker 1>as you enter, you pay your ticket and you get

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<v Speaker 1>a lactate pip.

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<v Speaker 2>You'd better be a fart zone, like a tent where

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<v Speaker 2>you can just go and just like past gas and peace.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I never grew up drinking milk. I always hated it

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<v Speaker 2>from like a young young age. I remember being in

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<v Speaker 2>daycare like a like KinderCare or whatever. When I was

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<v Speaker 2>three or four and I was forced to drink milk

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<v Speaker 2>and I refused, and I instead of drinking milk, they

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<v Speaker 2>put me in time out or they would force me

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<v Speaker 2>to eat this like tomato soup with like bits of

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<v Speaker 2>onion in it or something, And it was so bad

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<v Speaker 2>that I never drank milk all through my childhood. I

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<v Speaker 2>always ate cereal cold like without anything in it. And

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<v Speaker 2>now whenever I like, I could eat cheese and stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>But recently, whenever I put a piece of cheese anywhere

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<v Speaker 2>near my vicinity, I just get sick immediately. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know what it is. I think my dad's the same way.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, cheese, I mean I can have some cheeses, like

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I can have mozzarella. American cheese is a

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<v Speaker 1>big no no yellow American cheese. It's a big, huge

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<v Speaker 1>no no. I just drink like almond milk. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>what's Superman still drinks home milk. I'm like, what are you,

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<v Speaker 1>like five years old who still drinks whole milk?

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<v Speaker 3>I know, I'm like, homework is like literally like cream.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, oh so.

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<v Speaker 2>Thick discovering unsweetened almond breeze that was like my life changing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes me too, cereal with milk.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I like the vanilla one, right, you get the vanilla.

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<v Speaker 2>I get the vanilla unsweetened. That sweet and stuff's nasty.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't mind the sweet and stuff, but I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>it's too much sugar, titty, way too much sugar. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so I have on sweetened too. And then if I need,

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<v Speaker 1>like if I'm having cereal that I feel like needs

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<v Speaker 1>a little something, I'll put honey and like a little

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<v Speaker 1>squeeze of honey.

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<v Speaker 2>And I will just last thing like in the like

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<v Speaker 2>in February, I did this. I gave up. I was

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<v Speaker 2>doing like a lemonation diet where you're trying to see

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<v Speaker 2>what food's upset you, and then clearly I found out

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<v Speaker 2>mine was dairy. But like when I cut out completely

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<v Speaker 2>all the dairy and not just like I would have

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit of coffee sometimes a little bit of

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<v Speaker 2>milk in my coffee sometimes if there's no almond milk,

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<v Speaker 2>or I'd have a little bit. I'd always have cheese,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, my burger and pizza and stuff. I cut

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<v Speaker 2>out completely all that dairy, yogurt, nothing, and my skin

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<v Speaker 2>has never looked as good really in my life. Yeah

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<v Speaker 2>I heard that, but I thought that was another like

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<v Speaker 2>BS beauty trend. And I don't know if it works

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<v Speaker 2>for everybody, but I'm so happy. Yeah, I don't like

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<v Speaker 2>break out and not just said it, don't break out,

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<v Speaker 2>but even the people here who do makeup for us,

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<v Speaker 2>they've been commenting and you know they.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah they do.

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<v Speaker 1>They tell the truth. No, Oh, I gotta try that

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<v Speaker 1>because lately, I don't know, I've been breaking out, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I've never been to someone to break out a lot,

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<v Speaker 1>but I've been. I've broken down the last week like crazy,

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<v Speaker 1>not just my Facebook, like my chest, my back a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit. I'm like, what is going on?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know. I know I'm thinking like did I change? I?

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<v Speaker 1>Am I eating something new? I feel like I'm having

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<v Speaker 1>an allergic reaction. I mean, it doesn't look like it's

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<v Speaker 1>crazy because when I take pictures, like you can't really

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<v Speaker 1>see it because they're not like thiscolored.

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<v Speaker 3>But I'm like, what are all these little bumps and lumps.

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<v Speaker 1>You know now that I'm bringing I feel like a teenager.

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<v Speaker 1>So maybe I'll try that. Maybe because I know Dairy

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<v Speaker 1>and I are really not friends, but sometimes you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we try to be acquaintances, so maybe it's time to

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<v Speaker 1>move on.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I have a bachelor's of Arts and journalism, so

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<v Speaker 2>definitely take my advice on healthcare in dermatology.

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<v Speaker 1>So sidebar, like right before we get into like some

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<v Speaker 1>brown breaking in brown a boosting.

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<v Speaker 3>So Malia's going to Harvard. Woot.

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<v Speaker 2>I was just gonna say that.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, I'm not surprised.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not surprised either. What I think is really cool.

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<v Speaker 2>She's taken a gap year.

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<v Speaker 3>I really she's gonna take a year off.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but a year off, which I didn't do until

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<v Speaker 2>after I graduated college. I took a gap year after

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<v Speaker 2>my senior year of college, which was the best thing ever.

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<v Speaker 2>Not a full year, but it was like nine months.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that idea. I'm actually writing something up on

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<v Speaker 2>it for Yahoo today about like, yeah, what is a

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<v Speaker 2>gap year? How do you do it the right way?

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<v Speaker 2>And it's sort of a new concept in America, but

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<v Speaker 2>people in Europe and Australia have been doing it forever.

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<v Speaker 1>No.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's great. Just sometimes you just need to

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<v Speaker 3>like senate yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's a good idea because I'm sure it's

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<v Speaker 1>because you know, the whole world would of your father

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<v Speaker 1>being president. It's like, yeah, it'd be nice to take

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<v Speaker 1>a break from all that.

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<v Speaker 2>Well has already been interning on like if she's taken

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<v Speaker 2>her summer internships with like HBO on The Girls Show,

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<v Speaker 2>and there's one of the show she worked on. I

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<v Speaker 2>think it could be cool. I mean with you could

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<v Speaker 2>because I didn't realize you can for up to a year.

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<v Speaker 2>You can defer your freshman year of college. So you

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<v Speaker 2>get the idea is you get admitted, you accept, and

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<v Speaker 2>then you write a letter or some schools are organized

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<v Speaker 2>and they actually have a specific form and you defer

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<v Speaker 2>for a year and you say, okay, I'll you know,

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<v Speaker 2>enter next fall, and like you can do there's like

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<v Speaker 2>whole organizations. There's a there's a group called the American

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<v Speaker 2>Gap Association which has they actually review in a credit

0:19:27.000 --> 0:19:32.320
<v Speaker 2>different gap year programs. There's internship programs. There's volunteering ones

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<v Speaker 2>where you go to different countries, or there's a lot

0:19:34.760 --> 0:19:37.959
<v Speaker 2>of like in like American based domestic ones. You can

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<v Speaker 2>do AmeriCorps. There's another one called oh crap, I'm forgetting

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<v Speaker 2>the name of it, but American Gap Association is like

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<v Speaker 2>a really good resource for that. But it's not like

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<v Speaker 2>a like time for you to like hang out on

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<v Speaker 2>the couch and catch up on your real housewives. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't see Malia doing all that.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you think Michelle would allow that?

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<v Speaker 1>I know, Miselle's like, what that's all we've been through?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you better get up? Let's move.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh let's see what you did there. Congrats Malia.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And then congratitude one last one. Congratitude to the national

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<v Speaker 1>the Detroit girls chess team. They won like a national championship.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought that was dope.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh that could have been a win. Okay, Oh that's right.

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<v Speaker 3>One of these are supposed to be my win.

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<v Speaker 2>Darn it wasted your way?

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<v Speaker 3>What am I.

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<v Speaker 1>Gonna do now?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, that was supposed to be my win. I was wondering.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, why is it separate?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh? Yeah, that's fine.

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<v Speaker 3>All right. So it is time for a brown break

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<v Speaker 3>or brown boost? So are you breaking or boosting?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna do a boost boost today because I'm super

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<v Speaker 2>proud of my online shopping skills and I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>i've ever I mean, you probably have heard of these,

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<v Speaker 2>but I don't think i've ever shared my favorite three

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<v Speaker 2>tools I use when I save money online and I

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<v Speaker 2>was just stocking up on some really cute summer dresses

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<v Speaker 2>and I was super proud of myself. I found like

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<v Speaker 2>a twenty percent off coupon. But I didn't have to

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<v Speaker 2>even do anything because I have my web browser set

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<v Speaker 2>up with these things called extensions, and you install them

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<v Speaker 2>and they just like pop up and they tell you

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<v Speaker 2>exactly what deals you have going on. So there's two

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<v Speaker 2>main ones that I use that I love. One of

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<v Speaker 2>course is e baits, which pops up immediately and it

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<v Speaker 2>says activate, you know, and it always tells you there's

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<v Speaker 2>no you used to have to like go to e

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<v Speaker 2>baits dot com and type in the place to see

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<v Speaker 2>if there is a cash back thing. But if you

0:21:35.160 --> 0:21:39.879
<v Speaker 2>install the extension just Google like Ebates browser extension for

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<v Speaker 2>whatever browser you have, then it just pops up whenever

0:21:42.840 --> 0:21:44.359
<v Speaker 2>you go to website whre Tho's cash back and you

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<v Speaker 2>hit the button and you activated. And the second one

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<v Speaker 2>I use is called price Blink, and price Blink is

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<v Speaker 2>like a little yellow bar that pops up and it

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<v Speaker 2>tells you what coupons are available, but like not just

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<v Speaker 2>what coupons are available. What I like is I don't

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<v Speaker 2>really buy gadgets a lot, but when I do, if

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<v Speaker 2>you have the price Blink attachment or extension installed, it'll

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<v Speaker 2>tell you, oh, you want this HGTV. Well, I found

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<v Speaker 2>it for this much less at best buy dot com,

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<v Speaker 2>Amazon dot com, Hhgreg, like all the different websites. So

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<v Speaker 2>this saved me like fifty bucks when I was trying

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<v Speaker 2>to get back. It totally works. Like when my sister

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<v Speaker 2>and I were buying my MoMA one of those Ninja

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<v Speaker 2>blender thingies for Christmas, okay, and I was on like

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, Target dot com somewhere because I had

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<v Speaker 2>a coupon, and it alerted me that the same exact

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<v Speaker 2>blender was on sale for like fifty dollars less at

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<v Speaker 2>some random website I'd never really heard of. Like it

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<v Speaker 2>was like, that's the one where you I'm forgetting now,

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<v Speaker 2>but it ended up being it was like a home

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<v Speaker 2>goods website that I hadn't heard of before, and I

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<v Speaker 2>never would have known if not for price Blink.

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<v Speaker 1>So oh price, I'm gonna get that one because I

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<v Speaker 1>use honey that you put me onto. Honey, Yeah, of

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<v Speaker 1>course e baits, but price Blink.

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<v Speaker 3>That's a new one. Ooh, nice one.

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<v Speaker 2>Honey, is a little one I like, and I use

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<v Speaker 2>that too, especially if I'm on a site like Sephora

0:23:03.119 --> 0:23:05.680
<v Speaker 2>where there's tons and does of coupons, because Honey will

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<v Speaker 2>when you're ready to check out Honey, you can click

0:23:07.880 --> 0:23:10.240
<v Speaker 2>the Honey button and it will pull up all the

0:23:10.280 --> 0:23:12.680
<v Speaker 2>promo car codes it has for that website, and it'll

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<v Speaker 2>just try them for you. But what I found with

0:23:15.280 --> 0:23:18.520
<v Speaker 2>Honey is sometimes if there's multiple promo codes and one

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<v Speaker 2>of them works, it'll keep trying them and then that

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<v Speaker 2>one will disappear, and then another one will get added.

0:23:22.359 --> 0:23:25.840
<v Speaker 2>And it's kind of not as like I think price

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<v Speaker 2>blank is a little bit easier.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I'm gonna try price blank for sure. Like literally,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna hang up and be like, because I have

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<v Speaker 1>e baits online and I do have Honey.

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<v Speaker 3>Of course I like retail me not. But you can

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<v Speaker 3>never save enough.

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<v Speaker 2>Never, Yeah, and there's no I mean sometimes I'll double

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<v Speaker 2>check retail me not. But really with price blank and

0:23:42.920 --> 0:23:45.560
<v Speaker 2>ebaits and ebaits now too is adding they I think

0:23:45.600 --> 0:23:48.600
<v Speaker 2>to compete. They started doing coupons too. If you click

0:23:48.600 --> 0:23:52.120
<v Speaker 2>on the little ebaits button once you have the extension installed,

0:23:52.119 --> 0:23:54.479
<v Speaker 2>you'll have a little button that has an E and

0:23:54.520 --> 0:23:56.480
<v Speaker 2>when you click on that, it'll also give you the

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<v Speaker 2>deals in store. Like I'm on Lulu's one of my

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<v Speaker 2>favorite upside to luluse dot com right now, and it's

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<v Speaker 2>like two point five percent cash back, and then I

0:24:04.160 --> 0:24:06.920
<v Speaker 2>click down on ebates and it's like free shipping over

0:24:07.000 --> 0:24:10.280
<v Speaker 2>fifty dollars, thirty percent off on this type of outfit,

0:24:10.720 --> 0:24:14.760
<v Speaker 2>on these shoes, et cetera, et cetera. Okay, so pro tips.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm gonna take a brown break again this week,

0:24:20.400 --> 0:24:22.400
<v Speaker 1>and I'm taking a brown break from my locks. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so tired of him. So, I mean, they're really.

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<v Speaker 2>How do you take a break from those?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just taking a break from thinking about it because

0:24:29.000 --> 0:24:30.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm not really a girly girl, so I don't.

0:24:30.480 --> 0:24:31.480
<v Speaker 3>Really know how to style them.

0:24:31.520 --> 0:24:33.760
<v Speaker 1>And they're so long now, Mandy, they're like mid back

0:24:33.800 --> 0:24:37.280
<v Speaker 1>way to you see me, they're mid back, and I'm like,

0:24:37.320 --> 0:24:39.359
<v Speaker 1>oh my gosh, Like I don't know what to do

0:24:39.440 --> 0:24:41.680
<v Speaker 1>with them. I feel like, you know, there's like long

0:24:41.720 --> 0:24:45.520
<v Speaker 1>hair and then there's like freakishly long hair. I'm borderline freakishly.

0:24:47.000 --> 0:24:49.360
<v Speaker 1>We were like, oh, what religious sect are you from?

0:24:49.480 --> 0:24:49.920
<v Speaker 3>Longness.

0:24:50.680 --> 0:24:54.080
<v Speaker 1>Really, Yeah, they've gotten so long and I don't know

0:24:54.080 --> 0:24:56.320
<v Speaker 1>what to do with them. So any of you are

0:24:56.440 --> 0:24:59.800
<v Speaker 1>listening and you are like really stylish with your locks,

0:25:00.200 --> 0:25:02.800
<v Speaker 1>have a great YouTube channel or something like that, definitely

0:25:02.800 --> 0:25:06.320
<v Speaker 1>tweet me, tweet us at the BA podcast or tweet

0:25:06.359 --> 0:25:08.720
<v Speaker 1>me at the budget me stuff. Because I'm side of

0:25:08.760 --> 0:25:10.320
<v Speaker 1>these locks. I just always put them in like a

0:25:10.359 --> 0:25:12.679
<v Speaker 1>messy bun or like that's about it.

0:25:13.200 --> 0:25:16.080
<v Speaker 2>I would suggest Pinterest. Pinterest. I've been pinning like all

0:25:16.119 --> 0:25:18.679
<v Speaker 2>my natural hairstyles. I've been like going to Pinterest and

0:25:18.760 --> 0:25:21.080
<v Speaker 2>just listening for a dinner. But do you and also

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<v Speaker 2>do you follow the Cipriana twins.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yes, but no, but I don't. Their locks are

0:25:26.160 --> 0:25:27.480
<v Speaker 3>not like I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Know, I know they're much different. But I was just

0:25:29.320 --> 0:25:30.520
<v Speaker 2>saying locks are beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>No, No, I mean I think so, honestly, I think,

0:25:32.960 --> 0:25:35.800
<v Speaker 1>and honestly mine are. Really they're beautiful, they're well kept.

0:25:35.920 --> 0:25:37.960
<v Speaker 1>It's just that I'm so I don't know how to

0:25:38.000 --> 0:25:40.280
<v Speaker 1>style them. So I always feel like it's such all

0:25:40.320 --> 0:25:43.840
<v Speaker 1>this wasted beauty because they're really long, they're clean, they're slim,

0:25:43.880 --> 0:25:46.960
<v Speaker 1>they're all the same size, and you know, everywhere every

0:25:46.960 --> 0:25:48.600
<v Speaker 1>time I go somewhere, someone will say, oh, your locks

0:25:48.600 --> 0:25:50.600
<v Speaker 1>are so nice. But I'm like, I wish I see

0:25:50.600 --> 0:25:52.680
<v Speaker 1>these women and their hair is so beautifully styled, and

0:25:52.720 --> 0:25:54.400
<v Speaker 1>here I am with the ponytail like I'm five.

0:25:55.040 --> 0:25:56.240
<v Speaker 3>So I'm like, I need help.

0:25:56.320 --> 0:25:58.159
<v Speaker 1>It's like, you know, I finally have big girl underwear,

0:25:58.200 --> 0:25:59.200
<v Speaker 1>I need big girl hair.

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<v Speaker 2>YouTube and Pinterest, Yeah, I just.

0:26:02.760 --> 0:26:04.680
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Pinterest is hard because I need someone to step

0:26:04.720 --> 0:26:07.160
<v Speaker 1>by step to show me, like with a twist and turn,

0:26:08.160 --> 0:26:10.840
<v Speaker 1>and I just there's to me, there's a thin line

0:26:10.840 --> 0:26:14.399
<v Speaker 1>in overly styled blocks. I don't like for myself anyway,

0:26:14.480 --> 0:26:16.679
<v Speaker 1>Like overly style where it's like a twist and a

0:26:16.680 --> 0:26:18.200
<v Speaker 1>curl and a curl and a twist and a turn.

0:26:18.640 --> 0:26:22.520
<v Speaker 1>I like more classically styled. So yeah, So if anybody

0:26:22.520 --> 0:26:25.120
<v Speaker 1>has any suggestions, because until then, I'm taking a break

0:26:25.119 --> 0:26:27.600
<v Speaker 1>from these things, I'm tired of them kind of looking

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<v Speaker 1>like my same old self.

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<v Speaker 2>How to take a break from something attached to your head?

0:26:32.640 --> 0:26:35.800
<v Speaker 1>Ah, well, if a break from trying to style.

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<v Speaker 2>Them it least would you ever cut them?

0:26:37.960 --> 0:26:38.560
<v Speaker 3>I would?

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<v Speaker 1>And actually I was considering getting them layered, like maybe

0:26:42.680 --> 0:26:44.520
<v Speaker 1>taking a few inches off the bottom and then like

0:26:44.640 --> 0:26:46.680
<v Speaker 1>layering the front so that way when I do wear

0:26:46.720 --> 0:26:49.240
<v Speaker 1>them out, they look styled. That's like I'm like the

0:26:49.320 --> 0:26:51.360
<v Speaker 1>queen of how do I look like I did them

0:26:51.440 --> 0:26:54.280
<v Speaker 1>but didn't do them? And so I was thinking that

0:26:54.320 --> 0:26:56.360
<v Speaker 1>and I think that I might do that this week. Actually,

0:26:56.440 --> 0:26:59.400
<v Speaker 1>Like a friend of mine cuts flocks and she said

0:26:59.400 --> 0:27:01.119
<v Speaker 1>she do that from me. But I'm nervous because I'm like,

0:27:01.160 --> 0:27:02.960
<v Speaker 1>what if he looks crazy new hair?

0:27:03.040 --> 0:27:07.199
<v Speaker 2>Knew you, I know, just ask her for referrals.

0:27:07.840 --> 0:27:09.480
<v Speaker 1>No, well, I've seen her, like, you know, like her

0:27:09.960 --> 0:27:11.399
<v Speaker 1>what she's done before. But I'm like, what if I

0:27:11.440 --> 0:27:12.880
<v Speaker 1>just don't like it on me? But I'm like, it's

0:27:12.880 --> 0:27:13.760
<v Speaker 1>heyre it'll grow.

0:27:13.560 --> 0:27:14.960
<v Speaker 2>Back, it will grow back.

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<v Speaker 3>So we had a question this week, don't we.

0:27:19.359 --> 0:27:21.560
<v Speaker 2>Yes, we have a question, And if you guys want

0:27:21.560 --> 0:27:23.440
<v Speaker 2>to send a question, you can email us at Brown

0:27:23.440 --> 0:27:30.080
<v Speaker 2>Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com. W fa HAA, Okay,

0:27:30.160 --> 0:27:33.359
<v Speaker 2>here's a question this week from anonymous. So here's a

0:27:33.400 --> 0:27:36.359
<v Speaker 2>little background, and this one's an interesting question. I wish

0:27:36.359 --> 0:27:39.200
<v Speaker 2>I had this problem. She says. I'm twenty three years old,

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<v Speaker 2>living in New York City with a full time job.

0:27:41.160 --> 0:27:44.800
<v Speaker 2>I graduated in twenty fifteen with no debts or loans

0:27:44.880 --> 0:27:47.919
<v Speaker 2>due to a full ride scholarship I received during my

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<v Speaker 2>time in undergrad. My mother passed away and because of that,

0:27:50.800 --> 0:27:54.879
<v Speaker 2>I received a significant inheritance. It's divided among savings and

0:27:55.000 --> 0:27:58.280
<v Speaker 2>investment accounts and some real estate. So here's your question.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm planning to get my MBA part time in twenty seventeen.

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<v Speaker 2>Should I use money for my inheritance to pay for

0:28:04.280 --> 0:28:07.720
<v Speaker 2>school in full? Or should I consider other methods such

0:28:07.720 --> 0:28:11.240
<v Speaker 2>as my own income which wouldn't be much, loans, credit cards,

0:28:11.280 --> 0:28:13.880
<v Speaker 2>et cetera, to pay for school. Should I not pay

0:28:13.920 --> 0:28:18.000
<v Speaker 2>such a large chunk of money outright? She also adds

0:28:18.000 --> 0:28:20.760
<v Speaker 2>this MBA scholarships are hard to come by, especially for

0:28:20.800 --> 0:28:25.080
<v Speaker 2>part time students. Well, I'm very sorry about your mom

0:28:25.119 --> 0:28:25.760
<v Speaker 2>passing away.

0:28:26.080 --> 0:28:27.200
<v Speaker 3>Yes I am as well.

0:28:27.480 --> 0:28:29.359
<v Speaker 2>But how nice that she was able to give you

0:28:29.440 --> 0:28:31.720
<v Speaker 2>something for you know, your future.

0:28:32.200 --> 0:28:34.840
<v Speaker 3>No, that is that's like, it's a beautiful gift that

0:28:34.880 --> 0:28:36.280
<v Speaker 3>she gave you. So that's awesome.

0:28:36.320 --> 0:28:38.840
<v Speaker 1>And then the fact that you don't have any debt

0:28:38.920 --> 0:28:41.040
<v Speaker 1>moving forward is doubly awesome.

0:28:42.280 --> 0:28:43.680
<v Speaker 3>Huh.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, my initial knee jerk reaction is to say not

0:28:49.000 --> 0:28:52.000
<v Speaker 1>to use credit cards to put yourself through school I

0:28:52.080 --> 0:28:54.760
<v Speaker 1>feel like that'd be a step back, you know, totally.

0:28:56.160 --> 0:28:57.560
<v Speaker 3>And I mean I can.

0:28:57.520 --> 0:29:01.080
<v Speaker 1>Understand her hesitancy and like using a lump sum of

0:29:01.120 --> 0:29:07.000
<v Speaker 1>money for school, but it's to me, it's better than

0:29:07.040 --> 0:29:09.520
<v Speaker 1>putting yourself back in debt. I feel like she needs

0:29:09.520 --> 0:29:11.840
<v Speaker 1>to sit down and just like, are you gonna.

0:29:11.560 --> 0:29:13.160
<v Speaker 3>Sell real estate to go to school?

0:29:13.280 --> 0:29:14.640
<v Speaker 1>You know, like some of it, Like is that what's

0:29:14.680 --> 0:29:17.640
<v Speaker 1>gonna happen or I just don't know, like what specifically

0:29:17.720 --> 0:29:20.560
<v Speaker 1>some of her her money is tied up in, and

0:29:20.960 --> 0:29:24.800
<v Speaker 1>just being mindful of making sure the places that you're

0:29:24.800 --> 0:29:27.680
<v Speaker 1>going to get the money from is probably the best

0:29:27.680 --> 0:29:29.280
<v Speaker 1>place to take it from. Meaning like if you have

0:29:29.360 --> 0:29:30.960
<v Speaker 1>like rental property and it's giving you a ton of

0:29:30.960 --> 0:29:34.520
<v Speaker 1>money a month, or maybe there's ways to shift and

0:29:34.560 --> 0:29:37.520
<v Speaker 1>adjust where some of your investments are so that with

0:29:37.600 --> 0:29:40.520
<v Speaker 1>the investment yields more income and you can use that

0:29:40.560 --> 0:29:44.120
<v Speaker 1>income like dividends you know, from stocks and stuff to

0:29:43.400 --> 0:29:47.960
<v Speaker 1>pay for your MBA. Just being creative, like maybe a

0:29:48.000 --> 0:29:50.600
<v Speaker 1>mix between what you make at work and then you know,

0:29:50.760 --> 0:29:52.080
<v Speaker 1>some of the stuff that your mom left you, but

0:29:52.160 --> 0:29:54.200
<v Speaker 1>not all of it, but definitely not new debt if

0:29:54.200 --> 0:29:54.920
<v Speaker 1>you can avoid it.

0:29:55.480 --> 0:29:58.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And I definitely. I mean, I am a fan

0:29:58.240 --> 0:30:00.760
<v Speaker 2>of Okay, so you have this inheritance, and it's obviously

0:30:00.880 --> 0:30:03.080
<v Speaker 2>education is an amazing way to use it. I mean

0:30:03.120 --> 0:30:05.080
<v Speaker 2>the fact that you're even considering that is just it

0:30:05.080 --> 0:30:07.560
<v Speaker 2>shows you have pretty good judgment already. And the fact

0:30:07.560 --> 0:30:09.239
<v Speaker 2>that your mom went out of her way to make

0:30:09.280 --> 0:30:11.360
<v Speaker 2>sure you had this in a mix of savings and

0:30:11.400 --> 0:30:13.520
<v Speaker 2>investment accounts in real estate, like she set you up

0:30:13.560 --> 0:30:16.440
<v Speaker 2>for success. But I would say, first thing is you

0:30:16.480 --> 0:30:20.000
<v Speaker 2>want to set aside money so you have an emergency fund,

0:30:20.080 --> 0:30:22.800
<v Speaker 2>just basics, So don't blow through your entire cash savings

0:30:23.200 --> 0:30:25.400
<v Speaker 2>on education and then have nothing left when you know

0:30:25.520 --> 0:30:27.640
<v Speaker 2>something could go wrong and you might need some money.

0:30:28.000 --> 0:30:30.760
<v Speaker 2>So I would set aside like the standard three six

0:30:30.800 --> 0:30:34.200
<v Speaker 2>months amount of income you need on the side. And

0:30:34.400 --> 0:30:36.360
<v Speaker 2>I don't see a problem personally, I don't. I don't

0:30:36.360 --> 0:30:38.720
<v Speaker 2>think there's any problem with taking that money and using

0:30:38.800 --> 0:30:42.280
<v Speaker 2>it for school. I think it's especially if you're going

0:30:42.360 --> 0:30:45.760
<v Speaker 2>to pay use them, like spend the money anyway. All

0:30:45.760 --> 0:30:48.120
<v Speaker 2>you're going to do, and especially with MBA is like

0:30:48.200 --> 0:30:50.640
<v Speaker 2>that's usually that means private loans, and private loans me

0:30:50.720 --> 0:30:53.800
<v Speaker 2>high interest rates because usually you max out your federal

0:30:53.920 --> 0:30:58.920
<v Speaker 2>and your federal student loan allowance pretty quickly with your MBA.

0:30:59.600 --> 0:31:03.440
<v Speaker 2>But I say, keep your job, use the inheritance to

0:31:03.600 --> 0:31:05.920
<v Speaker 2>pay for your MBA. I mean, it's great if it

0:31:05.960 --> 0:31:08.040
<v Speaker 2>can pay for all of it, but doesn't really give

0:31:08.080 --> 0:31:12.320
<v Speaker 2>that much detail. It may seem like it's crazy to

0:31:12.360 --> 0:31:16.200
<v Speaker 2>put that much money down right up front, but people

0:31:16.320 --> 0:31:19.160
<v Speaker 2>do it. I mean, and and you'd be doing it anyway.

0:31:19.160 --> 0:31:20.800
<v Speaker 2>If you take out loans, you're still putting down a

0:31:20.880 --> 0:31:22.760
<v Speaker 2>huge lumps on a cash exactly.

0:31:22.880 --> 0:31:24.440
<v Speaker 3>So you're going to pay for one way or the other.

0:31:25.320 --> 0:31:28.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. So I and you have the investment accounts, don't

0:31:28.240 --> 0:31:30.200
<v Speaker 2>touch those. And you have the real estate in real estate.

0:31:30.200 --> 0:31:32.480
<v Speaker 2>It's a great long term investment, or it can be.

0:31:33.040 --> 0:31:34.600
<v Speaker 2>But that's the kind of thing you you know, you

0:31:34.640 --> 0:31:38.280
<v Speaker 2>want to hold on to, especially if it's New York

0:31:38.280 --> 0:31:43.600
<v Speaker 2>real estate. Hang on to that exactly, especially right now.

0:31:44.000 --> 0:31:45.440
<v Speaker 2>But it sounds like you got a good head on

0:31:45.440 --> 0:31:46.840
<v Speaker 2>your shoulders.

0:31:47.600 --> 0:31:49.480
<v Speaker 3>Yeah. I was like, Wow, that's good.

0:31:49.480 --> 0:31:51.880
<v Speaker 1>I wish. I mean, I feel like my father has

0:31:51.960 --> 0:31:54.720
<v Speaker 1>I mean, he's still alive, thankfully, and I feel like

0:31:55.440 --> 0:31:58.240
<v Speaker 1>that he has made financial choices that will make sure

0:31:58.320 --> 0:32:00.920
<v Speaker 1>that my mom's okay. And we're all grown now, but

0:32:00.960 --> 0:32:04.000
<v Speaker 1>that he has set up his finances in a way

0:32:04.080 --> 0:32:08.480
<v Speaker 1>that will be you know, that they'll be something left

0:32:08.480 --> 0:32:11.440
<v Speaker 1>over to put toward generational wealth, just because that's just

0:32:11.480 --> 0:32:13.600
<v Speaker 1>the kind of person he is. And that's like some

0:32:13.680 --> 0:32:15.240
<v Speaker 1>of the stuff that he's shown us. I'm like, wow,

0:32:15.600 --> 0:32:17.440
<v Speaker 1>you do have money. He's like, yes, what do you

0:32:17.440 --> 0:32:17.880
<v Speaker 1>think I'd been.

0:32:17.840 --> 0:32:18.480
<v Speaker 3>Doing all the side?

0:32:19.960 --> 0:32:22.760
<v Speaker 2>That is my dream man. When I was talking about

0:32:22.880 --> 0:32:25.280
<v Speaker 2>I was talking to my coworker earlier about how much

0:32:25.320 --> 0:32:27.960
<v Speaker 2>he spends on his kids, just childcare. I mean, he

0:32:28.000 --> 0:32:29.240
<v Speaker 2>showed me a bill. I don't want to put his

0:32:29.280 --> 0:32:31.960
<v Speaker 2>business out there, but it was several thousand dollars for

0:32:32.080 --> 0:32:34.560
<v Speaker 2>his like toddler's childcare and he and then he was like,

0:32:34.600 --> 0:32:38.240
<v Speaker 2>oh yeah, and he has another kid who's in kindergarten.

0:32:38.280 --> 0:32:40.840
<v Speaker 2>And even that doesn't really help, you know, because they're

0:32:40.880 --> 0:32:42.920
<v Speaker 2>not it's not that they're paying for all day daycare now.

0:32:42.920 --> 0:32:45.160
<v Speaker 2>But then I have to pay for after school daycare

0:32:45.200 --> 0:32:47.680
<v Speaker 2>because school lets out at three and they work till

0:32:47.720 --> 0:32:50.840
<v Speaker 2>like five or six, and then summertime is coming up.

0:32:50.880 --> 0:32:53.440
<v Speaker 2>And he was telling me how much summer school costs

0:32:53.520 --> 0:32:56.560
<v Speaker 2>or not a summer camp costs and I was thinking like,

0:32:56.600 --> 0:32:58.440
<v Speaker 2>and we were going back and forth, like, yeah, man,

0:32:58.560 --> 0:33:00.880
<v Speaker 2>when we were kids, our parents didn't have the money

0:33:00.960 --> 0:33:03.840
<v Speaker 2>or didn't even know about those kinds of opportunities. But

0:33:03.920 --> 0:33:05.840
<v Speaker 2>I would be so happy to be able to give

0:33:05.880 --> 0:33:09.080
<v Speaker 2>my kids those kind of like opportunities. Like it sounds

0:33:09.120 --> 0:33:13.560
<v Speaker 2>like the worst, thousands of dollars for childcare, thousands of

0:33:13.600 --> 0:33:16.480
<v Speaker 2>dollars for college tuition, but like I feel like that's

0:33:16.480 --> 0:33:18.600
<v Speaker 2>my goal is to be sure that you know, like

0:33:18.640 --> 0:33:21.160
<v Speaker 2>your dad, I do all the work, all the hard

0:33:21.200 --> 0:33:24.000
<v Speaker 2>work now and the and the make the tough decisions,

0:33:24.080 --> 0:33:26.240
<v Speaker 2>you know, to save money now so that we can

0:33:26.720 --> 0:33:28.760
<v Speaker 2>can do things like that for our kids later on.

0:33:29.200 --> 0:33:32.320
<v Speaker 2>The kids I don't even know yet, but you know,

0:33:32.480 --> 0:33:34.080
<v Speaker 2>and if they're breads, I'll just take it off from

0:33:34.080 --> 0:33:35.960
<v Speaker 2>myself exactly.

0:33:36.000 --> 0:33:38.200
<v Speaker 1>Like, see, you were gonna have a great life, but

0:33:38.280 --> 0:33:39.480
<v Speaker 1>you decided now.

0:33:42.240 --> 0:33:42.280
<v Speaker 3>No.

0:33:42.440 --> 0:33:44.160
<v Speaker 1>But I think that yeah, So I mean I think

0:33:44.160 --> 0:33:47.240
<v Speaker 1>that's our advice for you is to, you know, do

0:33:47.320 --> 0:33:49.120
<v Speaker 1>a mix of maybe some of the things that you're

0:33:49.160 --> 0:33:52.200
<v Speaker 1>working with, Like Mandy said, put aside money for emergency fund.

0:33:53.200 --> 0:33:55.960
<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't sell real estate, but there's nothing wrong with

0:33:56.120 --> 0:33:57.680
<v Speaker 1>using some of the money that your mom gave you

0:33:57.920 --> 0:34:01.040
<v Speaker 1>and left you for education. It's because of education, if

0:34:01.080 --> 0:34:03.840
<v Speaker 1>done right, will help put more money in your pocket.

0:34:04.240 --> 0:34:05.240
<v Speaker 3>So it's a win win.

0:34:06.160 --> 0:34:09.080
<v Speaker 2>Maybe he's a teeny tiny amount to have some fun. Yes,

0:34:09.200 --> 0:34:12.720
<v Speaker 2>I believe in that, maybe like five percent. I believe

0:34:12.920 --> 0:34:15.000
<v Speaker 2>do something your mom. Maybe take a gap year between

0:34:15.120 --> 0:34:17.640
<v Speaker 2>or take a trip between you know your your uh

0:34:18.400 --> 0:34:21.239
<v Speaker 2>you're you graduate in twenty fifteen, take a little time

0:34:21.280 --> 0:34:22.799
<v Speaker 2>and got some new time.

0:34:23.800 --> 0:34:26.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, that's always a good idea. And I don't

0:34:26.239 --> 0:34:28.520
<v Speaker 1>like I took a while between, did you? When I

0:34:28.520 --> 0:34:29.960
<v Speaker 1>got my master's I took I don't even know. I

0:34:30.000 --> 0:34:31.680
<v Speaker 1>think it was like four or five years because I

0:34:31.680 --> 0:34:33.319
<v Speaker 1>wanted to make sure this is what I wanted to do.

0:34:33.480 --> 0:34:35.320
<v Speaker 1>I feel like your undergrad degree is a degree that

0:34:35.360 --> 0:34:39.920
<v Speaker 1>you're just like, I guess, and your master's degree is like, okay,

0:34:39.960 --> 0:34:41.319
<v Speaker 1>you know what. I'm pretty sure this is how I

0:34:41.320 --> 0:34:42.600
<v Speaker 1>want to spend like my career.

0:34:43.040 --> 0:34:44.960
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, because you have to be so focused. I

0:34:45.000 --> 0:34:47.239
<v Speaker 2>don't know, I'm I would love to go back because

0:34:47.239 --> 0:34:50.040
<v Speaker 2>I'd love to teach one day. Oh really yeah, I

0:34:50.080 --> 0:34:52.000
<v Speaker 2>always think about that, But I have to have a master's.

0:34:52.080 --> 0:34:54.040
<v Speaker 2>Like most cases, you have to have a master's yeah,

0:34:54.120 --> 0:34:56.319
<v Speaker 2>unless you're like, I don't know, Christiane, I'm on poor

0:34:56.640 --> 0:34:58.480
<v Speaker 2>but of course I'm sure she has like ten degrees.

0:34:58.800 --> 0:35:01.239
<v Speaker 2>But yeah, and I would go back for that, but

0:35:01.280 --> 0:35:03.400
<v Speaker 2>not until I'm sure, because.

0:35:03.120 --> 0:35:06.680
<v Speaker 1>It's exactly it's expensive to be unsure with your.

0:35:06.520 --> 0:35:11.160
<v Speaker 2>Masters, and it hasn't hurt me yet. So anyway, all right,

0:35:11.200 --> 0:35:13.799
<v Speaker 2>Well that wraps up the tips for today. Again, if

0:35:13.800 --> 0:35:15.480
<v Speaker 2>you don't want to, email us or email us Brown

0:35:15.520 --> 0:35:23.120
<v Speaker 2>Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com dot com. Where's that from?

0:35:23.760 --> 0:35:25.879
<v Speaker 1>That's like Travelosity, isn't it Media.

0:35:28.320 --> 0:35:28.800
<v Speaker 3>Expedia.

0:35:28.880 --> 0:35:30.920
<v Speaker 2>We're gonna get sued for like I don't know.

0:35:31.040 --> 0:35:33.120
<v Speaker 1>Travels is like really, all this money we spent and

0:35:33.120 --> 0:35:39.320
<v Speaker 1>you can't even get it right? So it's tad for Winds.

0:35:39.880 --> 0:35:42.439
<v Speaker 1>All I do is Wayne wa wain No matter what?

0:35:43.719 --> 0:35:45.080
<v Speaker 3>Do you have any wins this week?

0:35:45.640 --> 0:35:50.840
<v Speaker 2>Money? Oh, mama wins this week? Well, yes, I have

0:35:50.880 --> 0:35:53.400
<v Speaker 2>a win I want. Well, it's a win. I wanted

0:35:53.400 --> 0:35:55.680
<v Speaker 2>to talk about this during Buzzworthy, but I decided to

0:35:55.680 --> 0:35:57.799
<v Speaker 2>make it a win because it's like a win and

0:35:57.880 --> 0:36:01.640
<v Speaker 2>a let's have an educated conversation about this. So Larry

0:36:01.640 --> 0:36:05.520
<v Speaker 2>Wilmore hosted The White House Correspondence dinner on what was

0:36:05.560 --> 0:36:08.480
<v Speaker 2>it Saturday night? And first of all, President Obama. I

0:36:08.480 --> 0:36:10.600
<v Speaker 2>guess the win of this is that President Obama's speech

0:36:10.920 --> 0:36:14.279
<v Speaker 2>was like the best twenty minutes ever. Did he get

0:36:14.280 --> 0:36:17.320
<v Speaker 2>a chance to watch it? No, but I will spoiler

0:36:17.360 --> 0:36:19.640
<v Speaker 2>at the end spoiler alert, he just like takes the

0:36:19.680 --> 0:36:20.440
<v Speaker 2>mic and drops it.

0:36:20.680 --> 0:36:22.200
<v Speaker 3>Yes, I heard that, drops mic.

0:36:22.239 --> 0:36:26.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, yeah, bad assery from start to finish. So

0:36:26.520 --> 0:36:28.719
<v Speaker 2>Larry Wilmore came on aut I didn't watch the whole

0:36:28.719 --> 0:36:31.279
<v Speaker 2>thing as it happened. I watched like Sunday morning, because

0:36:31.280 --> 0:36:33.400
<v Speaker 2>you can go to c C span dot org or

0:36:33.400 --> 0:36:35.600
<v Speaker 2>whatever the website is and watch it yourself. But I

0:36:35.600 --> 0:36:37.880
<v Speaker 2>thought Larry Wilmore it was like really funny, and you know,

0:36:38.000 --> 0:36:40.839
<v Speaker 2>we haven't had a black host of the White House

0:36:40.840 --> 0:36:43.960
<v Speaker 2>correspondent cinner and like I don't know how long, but

0:36:44.040 --> 0:36:45.480
<v Speaker 2>one of the things he said at the end was

0:36:45.520 --> 0:36:50.000
<v Speaker 2>kind of controversial. Was he used, well, there, I only

0:36:50.040 --> 0:36:54.920
<v Speaker 2>heard one thing. He made a joke about the word jigaboo, jigaboo,

0:36:54.960 --> 0:36:58.920
<v Speaker 2>which was like a very old timey derogatory term for

0:36:58.960 --> 0:36:59.520
<v Speaker 2>a black person.

0:36:59.600 --> 0:37:01.320
<v Speaker 3>And yeah, and at.

0:37:01.160 --> 0:37:04.520
<v Speaker 2>The very end of his speech he was saying, I

0:37:04.600 --> 0:37:06.719
<v Speaker 2>forget what it was like the punchline of some joke.

0:37:06.760 --> 0:37:12.239
<v Speaker 2>But he's like, yo, bear, you did it my n word. Yeah,

0:37:12.480 --> 0:37:16.000
<v Speaker 2>And Obama didn't seem to like phase by it. But

0:37:16.160 --> 0:37:18.200
<v Speaker 2>of course the media it's all over it, and yes,

0:37:18.560 --> 0:37:21.480
<v Speaker 2>thought pieces and tweets and like people are it's always

0:37:21.560 --> 0:37:23.759
<v Speaker 2>like this, you know, and I'm just wondering, is that

0:37:23.800 --> 0:37:27.120
<v Speaker 2>a win or is that a miss? Like I personally,

0:37:27.200 --> 0:37:30.279
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. To me, it's like a like maybe

0:37:30.280 --> 0:37:33.920
<v Speaker 2>they know each other like that, or I don't know,

0:37:34.080 --> 0:37:36.319
<v Speaker 2>I don't know how to feel about it.

0:37:38.600 --> 0:37:41.600
<v Speaker 1>You know, it's so crazy because to me it's it's

0:37:42.239 --> 0:37:44.880
<v Speaker 1>it's like a typical like you know whatever Superman and

0:37:44.920 --> 0:37:46.600
<v Speaker 1>his boys, you know, like you like, yeah, my nick

0:37:46.719 --> 0:37:49.440
<v Speaker 1>you know, and so it's not a but I guess

0:37:49.480 --> 0:37:52.640
<v Speaker 1>because of like where it was, like I'm president, Obama

0:37:52.680 --> 0:37:55.600
<v Speaker 1>probably didn't feel any kind of way because with his

0:37:56.440 --> 0:38:00.239
<v Speaker 1>you know, black friends, college, growing up, whatever, it's a

0:38:00.239 --> 0:38:01.000
<v Speaker 1>big deal to.

0:38:00.960 --> 0:38:01.919
<v Speaker 3>Say that to each other.

0:38:02.120 --> 0:38:05.480
<v Speaker 1>Like but like it just it's rare in like such

0:38:05.719 --> 0:38:07.640
<v Speaker 1>open company that you.

0:38:07.760 --> 0:38:09.399
<v Speaker 3>Use words like that.

0:38:10.280 --> 0:38:11.759
<v Speaker 1>You know. There's definitely stuff that I say with my

0:38:11.800 --> 0:38:15.279
<v Speaker 1>girlfriends that I would not ever say, you know, and

0:38:15.440 --> 0:38:17.640
<v Speaker 1>like public public we might just say, like, you know,

0:38:17.719 --> 0:38:20.919
<v Speaker 1>with each other. So that's probably where he wasn't based

0:38:20.960 --> 0:38:22.480
<v Speaker 1>because it wasn't like He's not going to take a fence.

0:38:22.560 --> 0:38:26.840
<v Speaker 1>President Obama's like, you know, whatever, what's up? But like, yikes,

0:38:26.880 --> 0:38:30.520
<v Speaker 1>the whole world is watching, so they're like, you.

0:38:30.440 --> 0:38:35.120
<v Speaker 2>Know, so audience, I know, so they were like, oh

0:38:35.200 --> 0:38:38.880
<v Speaker 2>my god, but I mean awards.

0:38:38.840 --> 0:38:41.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I just exactly if there had been the BET Awards,

0:38:41.640 --> 0:38:43.919
<v Speaker 1>nobody would have better than that. So I can see

0:38:43.960 --> 0:38:46.960
<v Speaker 1>both sides for sure, And I don't know that it's

0:38:46.960 --> 0:38:48.880
<v Speaker 1>a win or loss. I'm kind of like neutral on it.

0:38:48.920 --> 0:38:51.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm kind of like, well, you know, it's just normal,

0:38:52.120 --> 0:38:56.200
<v Speaker 1>you know, black guy camaraderie conversation. But at the same time,

0:38:56.239 --> 0:38:58.200
<v Speaker 1>I don't know that the world is ready to see

0:38:58.200 --> 0:38:58.520
<v Speaker 1>all that.

0:38:58.960 --> 0:39:00.960
<v Speaker 2>It's like it just made me think about code switching

0:39:01.000 --> 0:39:03.399
<v Speaker 2>and how we kind of turn it on and off. Yes,

0:39:03.560 --> 0:39:06.680
<v Speaker 2>I never grew up saying that word. I'm never comfortable

0:39:06.680 --> 0:39:08.360
<v Speaker 2>saying it's I don't have a code to switch. I

0:39:08.440 --> 0:39:11.000
<v Speaker 2>just don't turn that code on. I just don't say it.

0:39:11.000 --> 0:39:13.600
<v Speaker 2>But I have friends, obviously, friends who do family my

0:39:13.719 --> 0:39:16.200
<v Speaker 2>dad like, and it's just it's natural for me. To

0:39:16.200 --> 0:39:18.200
<v Speaker 2>hear that kind of thing. But yeah, it's sort of

0:39:18.760 --> 0:39:21.040
<v Speaker 2>for me, it's a win in that. Larry was like,

0:39:21.080 --> 0:39:24.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to turn the switch, like for this moment,

0:39:24.400 --> 0:39:27.360
<v Speaker 2>Like in this moment, you are my brother, like we

0:39:27.920 --> 0:39:31.200
<v Speaker 2>and what you signify is so huge for not just

0:39:31.239 --> 0:39:34.080
<v Speaker 2>black men but all of black you know, America, And

0:39:34.160 --> 0:39:36.040
<v Speaker 2>can we just take a second and acknowledge how fucking

0:39:36.040 --> 0:39:36.640
<v Speaker 2>cool this is?

0:39:36.960 --> 0:39:39.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know what I mean, I think you know

0:39:39.520 --> 0:39:43.080
<v Speaker 1>what it's so I think, like I like that the

0:39:43.120 --> 0:39:45.520
<v Speaker 1>way you phrase that. You're right, it was like we

0:39:45.880 --> 0:39:47.640
<v Speaker 1>all cold switch. It's like, honestly, it's not a word

0:39:47.640 --> 0:39:49.480
<v Speaker 1>that I use typically. I don't think too many, like

0:39:49.760 --> 0:39:51.480
<v Speaker 1>I mean, none of my girlfriends. It's not like a

0:39:51.560 --> 0:39:54.560
<v Speaker 1>hey girl, Like that's not a normal greeting, Like it's

0:39:54.600 --> 0:39:57.560
<v Speaker 1>mostly usually a normal greeting among men of color, not

0:39:57.640 --> 0:40:01.040
<v Speaker 1>necessarily women of color. So that's not something I normally

0:40:01.400 --> 0:40:03.000
<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't say unless I was just trying to be

0:40:03.000 --> 0:40:04.920
<v Speaker 1>really funny with a girlfriend of mine, you know, or

0:40:04.960 --> 0:40:06.799
<v Speaker 1>even if I'm talking to a guy friend maybe to

0:40:06.840 --> 0:40:10.960
<v Speaker 1>be funny with him. But but yeah, it was that

0:40:11.120 --> 0:40:12.840
<v Speaker 1>is definitely like kind of like a win in that,

0:40:12.920 --> 0:40:14.680
<v Speaker 1>like you know it. Normally I would code switch, but

0:40:14.760 --> 0:40:16.680
<v Speaker 1>today I will not, and you will deal.

0:40:18.080 --> 0:40:20.320
<v Speaker 2>I don't think he's listening to sleep over it, honestly.

0:40:20.800 --> 0:40:21.480
<v Speaker 3>I think both of them.

0:40:21.520 --> 0:40:26.320
<v Speaker 1>President Obama's like, honestly, yeah, so elections are happening in November.

0:40:26.360 --> 0:40:28.800
<v Speaker 2>I don't care. It's been like rever, you know, the Rev.

0:40:29.000 --> 0:40:31.759
<v Speaker 2>Al Sharpton is speaking out about it, and I'm just like, yeah,

0:40:31.800 --> 0:40:35.759
<v Speaker 2>I doubt Larry is worried exactly at all. So I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to make it a win, A win for you, Larry,

0:40:37.600 --> 0:40:40.040
<v Speaker 2>a win for Obama. It was his last White House

0:40:40.080 --> 0:40:43.000
<v Speaker 2>correspondence dinner. He gave it hilarious speech, so I go

0:40:43.120 --> 0:40:45.719
<v Speaker 2>check it out. Like President, whoever wins the next leg

0:40:45.960 --> 0:40:48.640
<v Speaker 2>election is not going to have a swag like swag

0:40:48.760 --> 0:40:51.440
<v Speaker 2>like Obama. He just they just won't like Hillary whoever.

0:40:51.719 --> 0:40:53.400
<v Speaker 2>It just it's never going to be the same. Like

0:40:53.640 --> 0:40:56.240
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to miss him. I miss him already.

0:40:56.719 --> 0:40:58.240
<v Speaker 3>I know that's so crazy.

0:40:59.040 --> 0:41:02.600
<v Speaker 2>Oh eight years he was the first president I ever

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<v Speaker 2>voted for?

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<v Speaker 1>Real?

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<v Speaker 3>Is that really? Wow?

0:41:07.000 --> 0:41:08.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to think who was the first person I

0:41:08.360 --> 0:41:09.560
<v Speaker 1>ever voted for it, and it's Clinton.

0:41:10.719 --> 0:41:11.520
<v Speaker 3>I think Clinton.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's sae my wind so my wind was supposed to

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<v Speaker 1>be the Detroit Girls, and I totally forgot to put

0:41:18.800 --> 0:41:19.320
<v Speaker 1>w byer.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you didn't like go into detail if you want

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<v Speaker 2>to talk about it exactly what happened.

0:41:25.239 --> 0:41:30.000
<v Speaker 1>Well, I didn't exactly have exact detail. I was just like, oh,

0:41:30.040 --> 0:41:31.319
<v Speaker 1>I just thought it was so great because you know,

0:41:31.440 --> 0:41:34.080
<v Speaker 1>so many things. Detroit just holds like a little deer

0:41:34.120 --> 0:41:36.840
<v Speaker 1>place in my heart for me, because it's like Newark,

0:41:36.880 --> 0:41:39.439
<v Speaker 1>you know, where I live, and everyone always has something

0:41:39.480 --> 0:41:42.279
<v Speaker 1>to say about Detroit. Everyone always has something negatives to

0:41:42.280 --> 0:41:45.400
<v Speaker 1>say about Newark or Oakland or you know, places like

0:41:45.480 --> 0:41:48.240
<v Speaker 1>that that people have written off as like lost cities

0:41:48.360 --> 0:41:50.960
<v Speaker 1>or like cities that can never come back. And so

0:41:51.120 --> 0:41:54.560
<v Speaker 1>when something like this happens, and chess is not traditionally

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<v Speaker 1>seen as something that people of African American descent excel at,

0:41:59.040 --> 0:42:03.040
<v Speaker 1>and so to see these group of brown, beautiful girls win,

0:42:04.600 --> 0:42:08.799
<v Speaker 1>you know, the national championship for chess nationally, and so

0:42:08.880 --> 0:42:10.480
<v Speaker 1>that just really warmed our heart to say, you know,

0:42:10.640 --> 0:42:13.719
<v Speaker 1>like Detroit, it's not just the water issue. Detroit is

0:42:13.800 --> 0:42:17.600
<v Speaker 1>not just a broken city. You know, Detroit has things.

0:42:17.640 --> 0:42:19.640
<v Speaker 1>You know, I always think whenever people talk about cities

0:42:19.680 --> 0:42:22.719
<v Speaker 1>like that, I'm like, someone's living there, you know. It's

0:42:22.719 --> 0:42:25.799
<v Speaker 1>not like it's like a it's like you know, like

0:42:27.040 --> 0:42:29.239
<v Speaker 1>Battle warn and it's like everything is like broken down

0:42:29.239 --> 0:42:32.320
<v Speaker 1>buildings and it's all empty. No people live there. Don't

0:42:32.360 --> 0:42:34.759
<v Speaker 1>just write off places that people live, you know. And

0:42:34.840 --> 0:42:37.279
<v Speaker 1>so it was just nice to see something other than

0:42:37.640 --> 0:42:39.520
<v Speaker 1>what we normally see about the city like Detroit.

0:42:39.520 --> 0:42:41.200
<v Speaker 3>And I just want to say congratulations ladies.

0:42:41.800 --> 0:42:45.439
<v Speaker 2>And they were like they were busies thirteen thirteen years old.

0:42:45.760 --> 0:42:46.479
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so cute.

0:42:46.480 --> 0:42:47.879
<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, look at them and they're all

0:42:47.880 --> 0:42:52.160
<v Speaker 1>like we won. I just thought that was great, and

0:42:52.200 --> 0:42:54.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm just like, yes, I want to see more. I

0:42:54.160 --> 0:42:57.560
<v Speaker 1>wish there was more balanced news about places like Detroit

0:42:57.600 --> 0:42:59.879
<v Speaker 1>and you know, in Newark and Oakland and places like that,

0:43:00.200 --> 0:43:02.279
<v Speaker 1>because they are good things that are happening here and

0:43:03.080 --> 0:43:05.760
<v Speaker 1>that you know, if you only focus on the negative,

0:43:05.880 --> 0:43:08.399
<v Speaker 1>then sometimes to me, you just bring more negativity about

0:43:08.400 --> 0:43:10.720
<v Speaker 1>because what you think about you bring about I really believe,

0:43:10.800 --> 0:43:13.120
<v Speaker 1>and so yeah, I'd love that.

0:43:13.200 --> 0:43:15.160
<v Speaker 3>So that was just really nice to see something good

0:43:15.160 --> 0:43:15.480
<v Speaker 3>like that.

0:43:16.320 --> 0:43:18.239
<v Speaker 2>Two of the girls were twins and their names were

0:43:18.320 --> 0:43:22.200
<v Speaker 2>Jayden and Jada. That's just mean, I'm just going to

0:43:22.320 --> 0:43:23.280
<v Speaker 2>confuse everybody.

0:43:24.239 --> 0:43:26.560
<v Speaker 1>First of all, there's social security stuff, all that stuff.

0:43:26.800 --> 0:43:29.200
<v Speaker 1>It's gonna be so jacked up when they getting older,

0:43:29.200 --> 0:43:32.480
<v Speaker 1>because you know how like it's already what because my boyfriend,

0:43:32.480 --> 0:43:36.280
<v Speaker 1>his name is it's a J and his.

0:43:35.560 --> 0:43:36.680
<v Speaker 3>His twin, he has a twin.

0:43:36.920 --> 0:43:39.120
<v Speaker 1>His name starts with the T, but it's like the

0:43:39.160 --> 0:43:42.840
<v Speaker 1>same like ending, you know, and so what happens with

0:43:42.880 --> 0:43:43.640
<v Speaker 1>them all the time?

0:43:43.680 --> 0:43:46.600
<v Speaker 3>And he was like if they they always.

0:43:46.320 --> 0:43:49.240
<v Speaker 1>Are mixing records, you know, like his stuff and his brothers,

0:43:49.280 --> 0:43:51.719
<v Speaker 1>and so you just gotta be careful with names like that.

0:43:51.760 --> 0:43:52.920
<v Speaker 3>But yeah, that is a little.

0:43:52.680 --> 0:43:57.160
<v Speaker 1>Bit like come on now, Jada, JJ you hey you.

0:43:58.520 --> 0:44:00.680
<v Speaker 2>I feel all this affirmation right now because I was

0:44:00.719 --> 0:44:03.600
<v Speaker 2>in the academic team when I was in school, which

0:44:03.640 --> 0:44:05.480
<v Speaker 2>is like the nerdy club where you just answer like

0:44:05.800 --> 0:44:09.839
<v Speaker 2>trivia questions about everything. This makes me feel better about

0:44:09.880 --> 0:44:11.560
<v Speaker 2>that you're.

0:44:11.400 --> 0:44:12.360
<v Speaker 3>Not a nerd or were you not?

0:44:12.760 --> 0:44:16.960
<v Speaker 2>I got teased, Oh I did. It wasn't just about

0:44:16.960 --> 0:44:19.640
<v Speaker 2>my hair. People also found time to tease me for

0:44:19.880 --> 0:44:22.520
<v Speaker 2>my nerdy club affiliations.

0:44:23.200 --> 0:44:25.680
<v Speaker 1>Oh well, I was always well see, people were very

0:44:25.719 --> 0:44:28.480
<v Speaker 1>careful about teasing me because although I was a super geek.

0:44:29.000 --> 0:44:31.239
<v Speaker 1>My best friend, oddly enough, was not. She was like

0:44:31.280 --> 0:44:35.160
<v Speaker 1>super cute, super cool. Everybody loved Veronica. And also Veronica

0:44:35.200 --> 0:44:37.480
<v Speaker 1>was a really good fighter, which came in handy for

0:44:37.520 --> 0:44:41.480
<v Speaker 1>super geek like me. So one thing you didn't do

0:44:41.680 --> 0:44:44.120
<v Speaker 1>was mess with tifty, not because I was. I mean,

0:44:44.120 --> 0:44:46.360
<v Speaker 1>there was plenty of fodder, so Therefrey people tried to

0:44:46.360 --> 0:44:48.080
<v Speaker 1>sneak it in, but then I'd be like, let me

0:44:48.120 --> 0:44:50.960
<v Speaker 1>go give Veronica and quickly.

0:44:51.040 --> 0:44:52.480
<v Speaker 3>I literally it isn't so funny.

0:44:52.480 --> 0:44:54.879
<v Speaker 1>But oh, Veronica, if you're listening, I love you because

0:44:54.920 --> 0:44:56.160
<v Speaker 1>you were like the best in high school.

0:44:56.200 --> 0:44:59.000
<v Speaker 3>She kept me like just out of the trash cans

0:44:59.040 --> 0:44:59.600
<v Speaker 3>and out.

0:44:59.400 --> 0:45:01.520
<v Speaker 2>Of my locker, like your bodyguard.

0:45:01.960 --> 0:45:04.120
<v Speaker 1>What. Meanwhile, Vernica is like five to five and I'm like,

0:45:04.120 --> 0:45:06.839
<v Speaker 1>by thee not even five five, probably like five four.

0:45:06.880 --> 0:45:09.799
<v Speaker 1>She's so little fatigue, but that girl can fight. I've

0:45:09.800 --> 0:45:12.160
<v Speaker 1>actually had guys who would tease me come up to

0:45:12.200 --> 0:45:14.480
<v Speaker 1>me later and say, Hey, Tiffany, I just want to

0:45:14.520 --> 0:45:16.680
<v Speaker 1>apologize to you about what I said yesterday.

0:45:16.360 --> 0:45:18.920
<v Speaker 3>And I'm like what, And then I'm like, did Veronica

0:45:19.000 --> 0:45:19.360
<v Speaker 3>talk to you?

0:45:19.400 --> 0:45:25.200
<v Speaker 1>They're like, uh so, I just want to apologize to them,

0:45:25.760 --> 0:45:27.759
<v Speaker 1>but yeah, shout out to her, but shout out to

0:45:27.760 --> 0:45:29.600
<v Speaker 1>all the girls out there and guys out there who

0:45:29.640 --> 0:45:32.080
<v Speaker 1>protect their friends even if their friends are not on

0:45:32.120 --> 0:45:34.719
<v Speaker 1>the same level as cool as them. Because Ronica made

0:45:34.719 --> 0:45:40.160
<v Speaker 1>sure I had a very smooth high school experience. She's

0:45:40.160 --> 0:45:42.000
<v Speaker 1>still the same way now, Like if I call her, now,

0:45:42.680 --> 0:45:43.080
<v Speaker 1>who did it?

0:45:43.120 --> 0:45:43.200
<v Speaker 3>Do?

0:45:43.239 --> 0:45:44.960
<v Speaker 1>I need to come down there? Let me get my vasseline.

0:45:44.960 --> 0:45:50.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, Veronica, we're thirty six now, I'm okay. But yeah,

0:45:50.520 --> 0:45:53.439
<v Speaker 1>so that's probably in too, just Veronica having friends who

0:45:53.880 --> 0:45:56.080
<v Speaker 1>will have your back. I mean, she rarely had to fight.

0:45:56.120 --> 0:45:59.400
<v Speaker 1>People were just naturally afraid. I don't know why. I

0:45:59.400 --> 0:46:02.279
<v Speaker 1>think she just had persona that seemed like this is

0:46:02.320 --> 0:46:05.799
<v Speaker 1>to the death and like.

0:46:07.760 --> 0:46:09.600
<v Speaker 2>The seven girlfriends to back you up. I'm sure these

0:46:09.760 --> 0:46:11.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm sure these chess girls real deep.

0:46:11.719 --> 0:46:17.240
<v Speaker 3>Exactly like what next move man? Yes, that's awesome.

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<v Speaker 1>All right.

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