WEBVTT - Patton Oswalt Runs at Love

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Alec Baldwin and you're listening to Here's the Thing

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<v Speaker 1>from My Heart Radio. My friend Lorne Michael's told me

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<v Speaker 1>that back in the nineteen seventies when he launched Saturday

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<v Speaker 1>Night Live, there were only a handful of comedy clubs

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<v Speaker 1>in the United States. Today there are hundreds of comedy clubs,

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<v Speaker 1>and Americans have available to them an ocean of sitcom's,

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<v Speaker 1>late night talk shows and streaming comedy specials. To distinguish

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<v Speaker 1>yourself in that world of comedy is a very difficult

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<v Speaker 1>thing to do. My guest today has succeeded at just that.

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<v Speaker 1>Actor writer comedian Patton Oswald has appeared in many sitcoms,

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<v Speaker 1>including The King of Queens, ap Bio, The Goldberg's Veep, Reno,

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<v Speaker 1>Parks and Wreck, and Brooklyn Nine. He's written two books,

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<v Speaker 1>including a memoir, Silver Screen Fiend, about his of of movies,

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<v Speaker 1>and he does a lot of voiceover work, from My

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<v Speaker 1>Little Pony and Word Girl to Archer and bow Jack, Horsemen, and,

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<v Speaker 1>perhaps most memorably, as Remy in Pixar's Rattatui. First of all,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a rat, which means life is hard. A second,

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<v Speaker 1>I have a highly developed sense of taste and smell flour, eggs, sugar,

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<v Speaker 1>vanilla bean, oh Small Twisdom. Patton Oswald has released three

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<v Speaker 1>Netflix comedy specials, including last year's I Love Everything, where

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<v Speaker 1>he riffs on parenting, home ownership, and turning fifty. If

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<v Speaker 1>you were to fly a helicopter low over the earth,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what you would see. You'd see people in

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<v Speaker 1>their twenties gobbling drugs, eating delicious food, having sex, People

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<v Speaker 1>in their thirties with actual jobs making the world run,

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<v Speaker 1>People in their forties trying to fund the twenty year olds,

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<v Speaker 1>and then us, the gentle surrendered fifty year olds. We've

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<v Speaker 1>got our earbuds in listening to podcasts what You're done

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<v Speaker 1>by twenty year olds that nobody wants to fuck. In

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<v Speaker 1>April two thousand sixteen, Patton Oswald suffered a great loss

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<v Speaker 1>the sudden death of his first wife, true crime writer

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<v Speaker 1>Michelle McNamara. She was forty six. She left behind patent

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<v Speaker 1>and there then seven year old daughter Alice. My absolute

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<v Speaker 1>first thought was, why isn't it me? She should be here.

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<v Speaker 1>She's doing, in my opinion, the more important work and

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<v Speaker 1>has the better bond with and it would be a

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<v Speaker 1>better example for to raise our daughter with not not

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<v Speaker 1>to I don't believe in you know, um false modesty.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you're going to choose a person to emulate you,

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<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, have do do Michelle more than yeah? Exactly mother.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't replace them right now? No, No, what was

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<v Speaker 1>that like for you in those early stages of managing that,

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<v Speaker 1>not just your grief but your single parenthood you you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't think about this aspect of a part of

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<v Speaker 1>being a dad. At least part of my process is

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<v Speaker 1>going off and having some solitude to be with my

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts and then be there because I was hardwired with

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<v Speaker 1>that old patriarchal model of I'm the one who goes

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<v Speaker 1>out into the wild and gathers up the firewood and

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<v Speaker 1>that kills the meat and brings it all back, and

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<v Speaker 1>then when I'm home I relaxed while they all prepare us.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I had to do I had to still

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<v Speaker 1>go out and get the sustenance, but then be there

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<v Speaker 1>and be the parents. So there was about a year

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<v Speaker 1>of kind of adjusting two. I very early on stop

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<v Speaker 1>judging myself for maybe not being the most dynamic, but

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<v Speaker 1>I was going I'm here, though I'm physically here, when

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<v Speaker 1>I'm home and she's home. I'm here, and I just

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<v Speaker 1>and you find out that if you want to, you

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<v Speaker 1>can adjust your schedule to go, Okay, well, she's in

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<v Speaker 1>school for these hours, so this is when I will

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<v Speaker 1>do work, and this is when I will get stuff

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<v Speaker 1>done in the minute she's done work has got to

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<v Speaker 1>know that I'm not available now and I want to

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<v Speaker 1>go pick her up at school and come home with

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<v Speaker 1>her and just be with her. And that was that

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<v Speaker 1>was how it was for a while. That's where were

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<v Speaker 1>That's where we're recording at this time. Because my two

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<v Speaker 1>youngest boys, not the baby, but the two middle boys,

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<v Speaker 1>they take a nap, right people, I mean, when are

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<v Speaker 1>we recording the podcast? I go one o'clock, it's naptime.

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<v Speaker 1>And when they when they nap, Yeah, the only time

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<v Speaker 1>the house is quiet enough to record. Yeah, exactly a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of times, what what you learn is when my

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<v Speaker 1>daughter was talking to me, I had to get over

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<v Speaker 1>my impulse to go, well, what is the action thing

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<v Speaker 1>we can do to solve this. A lot of times

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<v Speaker 1>she wasn't looking for the action solutions. She just let's

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<v Speaker 1>just talk this out and look at it. We don't

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<v Speaker 1>need a solution right now. I just want someone to

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<v Speaker 1>hear me and then to say back, oh, yeah, that

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<v Speaker 1>is really bad and I don't actually have an answer

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<v Speaker 1>right now. Like that, in a weird way, that was

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<v Speaker 1>more reassuring, because coming back with an immediate action solution

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<v Speaker 1>almost feels to that person, especially to my daughter. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>I think it felt like I don't think he really

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<v Speaker 1>was listening to me. I think he just wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>jump to the solution. And it seems like men want

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<v Speaker 1>to jump right to the solution, and women are so

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<v Speaker 1>much more patient and and confident in going let we

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<v Speaker 1>don't need to have us let's just keep let's look

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<v Speaker 1>at this exactly, you know, and menally, no, we solve

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<v Speaker 1>it right now. But but there's and nothing makes a

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<v Speaker 1>man panic more than you don't have the answer, where

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<v Speaker 1>there's not only do not have an answer, but when

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<v Speaker 1>you realize the answer is there is not an immediate solution.

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<v Speaker 1>Like there's friend drama um at school and I and

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<v Speaker 1>I had to go I guess you have to go

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<v Speaker 1>back tomorrow and talk to her, or like like there

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't this specific I wanted to do that, like the

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<v Speaker 1>Good Fellas thing of like if someone was being mean

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<v Speaker 1>to her at school, like grab her and put her

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<v Speaker 1>head in a pizza of and go. You know that's

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<v Speaker 1>not doesn't work that way. When I say to my daughters,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I don't say this, but she'll be like,

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<v Speaker 1>she'll be crying and should be like, you know, Amanda

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<v Speaker 1>would mean to me it was mean to be on

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<v Speaker 1>a zoom call like, and my wife is so the

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<v Speaker 1>process and the you know, and I'm like, why don't

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<v Speaker 1>you just tell Amanda to go fund herself? You know,

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<v Speaker 1>like maybe I should go talk to a man. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't need to go into the school angry sixth

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<v Speaker 1>year old man yelling at an eight year old your

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<v Speaker 1>your Your wife was a writer her entire career. She was, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean she started as a writer in college. She

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<v Speaker 1>taught writing at Michigan and and started it was weird.

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<v Speaker 1>She started writing TV shows and screenplays in Hollywood. They

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<v Speaker 1>were comedies, but they were crime adjacent. And then as

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<v Speaker 1>she wrote them, she even, if you're writing a comedy

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<v Speaker 1>about a crime, you have to at least know the

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<v Speaker 1>crime has got to make sense or it doesn't. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>the comedy falls apart. So in researching the crime aspects

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<v Speaker 1>of it, she started realizing oh no, I really like

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<v Speaker 1>the crime way better. I don't want to write comedy.

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<v Speaker 1>I want actually, I don't want to write Springtime for Dahmer,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I don't want none of that for me. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So she worked as an assistant for a private eye

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<v Speaker 1>for a while, like, did cases with him, and and

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<v Speaker 1>just that became her thing. And then she when we

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<v Speaker 1>got together, you know, she would tell me that just

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<v Speaker 1>the Labrinthian details of these cases that she would just

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<v Speaker 1>research online. And I was like, why don't you just

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<v Speaker 1>because I had a web master, I had a web

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<v Speaker 1>page for my shows. I'm like, I'll just pay me

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<v Speaker 1>a little lecture. Let's get do you have a website?

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<v Speaker 1>Just write this stuff out. And she started writing it,

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<v Speaker 1>and she was starting to put these crimes together just

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<v Speaker 1>on This is like in the you know, the early

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<v Speaker 1>stages of the internet, and now there's a million crime

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<v Speaker 1>blogs and crime podcasts. Um. She was one of the

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<v Speaker 1>first that was doing it and was getting calls. She

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<v Speaker 1>got a call from Dateline. They hired her as a

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<v Speaker 1>consultant because she had put together a case they weren't

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<v Speaker 1>able to crack. And the reason they weren't able to

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<v Speaker 1>crack it was because when they would go to the

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<v Speaker 1>family and talk to him, it's like, oh, this is

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<v Speaker 1>the news. They would clam up. But some girl on

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<v Speaker 1>the internet, yeah I'll say anything that who cares? And

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<v Speaker 1>they told her everything. It was amazing. So the documentary,

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<v Speaker 1>which is the same name as the that's a six

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<v Speaker 1>part documentary. It's an on HBO. Yes, I'll Be Gone

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<v Speaker 1>in the Dark. It's yeah, they all six episodes are

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<v Speaker 1>out there now. Oh my god. And obviously did you

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<v Speaker 1>did you have any involvement with that at all? Were you?

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<v Speaker 1>I you know, it's a documentary about an extraordinary woman

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<v Speaker 1>that was made by an extraordinary woman. I love Liz

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<v Speaker 1>Garbas Liz Garbage, Oh my god, woman and so prolific.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, she did I'll Be Gone in the Dark,

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<v Speaker 1>then did all In Then now she's like she just

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<v Speaker 1>is able to capture the essence and the absolute right

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<v Speaker 1>angle of attack for these stories. It's incredible. It's as

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<v Speaker 1>much a tribute to Liz and her crew as it

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<v Speaker 1>is to Michelle and the people around her. And again,

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<v Speaker 1>just like I was with Michelle, I'm just the mediator.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess that the one thing I can give myself

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<v Speaker 1>credit for was knowing when to step the hell back

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<v Speaker 1>and let people do their work. And both times I

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<v Speaker 1>had the wherewithal to do that, Thank God. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>for me as a kid, TV was something that you.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm a bit older than you, and TV

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<v Speaker 1>was something that you sat down and you did what

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<v Speaker 1>I called I This might not be the most apt phrase,

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<v Speaker 1>but you would do back then in the sixties and seventies,

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<v Speaker 1>when I referred to as I are vedic listening, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you did the most intense listening known to man. You'd

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<v Speaker 1>watch one episode of a show or a movie and

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<v Speaker 1>you remember every line because you literally got into a

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<v Speaker 1>mirrorlogical electromagnetic field with the TV and it was going

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<v Speaker 1>into your brain and being chiseled into your brain. And

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<v Speaker 1>I remembered all the words to the show watching it

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<v Speaker 1>one time, because that's all you had. There was no VCR,

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<v Speaker 1>it wasn't coming back nothing. You watched it then and

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<v Speaker 1>that was it. So I would watch Herman Munster, I

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<v Speaker 1>watched Gilligan's Island, f Troop. I watched all the TV

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<v Speaker 1>from when I was a kid. Family Affair. It's weird

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<v Speaker 1>you you just mentioned the air vetic listening for shows

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<v Speaker 1>like Family Affair and Bewitched and and igree Ma Genie

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<v Speaker 1>and stuff like that. Do you think that that informed

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<v Speaker 1>your characterization of Jack Donneghee on thirty Rock only because

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<v Speaker 1>now that I'm thinking about it, he was an evangelical

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<v Speaker 1>salesman for that kind of sitcom hypnotism because he didn't

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<v Speaker 1>give a crap about the content of the shows. He

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<v Speaker 1>loved the fact that it got people into a state

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<v Speaker 1>where he could sell ducts, and it was why he

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<v Speaker 1>was so good at mimicking those rhythms on other people.

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<v Speaker 1>Was that like a subconscious thing that got drilled into

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<v Speaker 1>your brain and you didn't realize you had it? Probably subconscious, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>because you've done a lot of very like rough You

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<v Speaker 1>know that the mammt the you know, Miami Blue is

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<v Speaker 1>way more naturalistic stuff, and you very easily fell into

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<v Speaker 1>those kind of inhuman rhythms that you realize when you

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<v Speaker 1>listen to it. But that is kind of how we

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<v Speaker 1>talk because we've been programmed by the TV. It's really

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<v Speaker 1>weird that that happened a your vedic listening. What was

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<v Speaker 1>that background for you grew up where I grew up

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<v Speaker 1>in the very very bland suburbs of northern Virginia, Sterling Virginia.

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<v Speaker 1>Was your dad in the government, Yeah, he was. My

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<v Speaker 1>dad was a marine for twenty years and then he

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<v Speaker 1>retired and then he worked at USA today at Genet

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<v Speaker 1>and built all their computer systems. So it was he

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<v Speaker 1>was a tech guy out Silver Spring. And I remember

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<v Speaker 1>him saying he would talk vaguely because he couldn't even

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<v Speaker 1>conceive of it. But he's like, it's all gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>on a computer, like everything, Like I had a manual

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<v Speaker 1>typewriter and I wanted an electric And he said, just

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<v Speaker 1>why don't you just wait? In five years, it's all

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<v Speaker 1>gonna there won't be any typewriters. There won't like, there

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<v Speaker 1>won't be any of that. Just but he couldn't articulate

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<v Speaker 1>it enough. He didn't know exactly what was coming. But

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<v Speaker 1>he had an inkland because he saw what was going on,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, with Business Defense Department here. What did your

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<v Speaker 1>mom do? My mom was a legal secretary in Vienna.

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<v Speaker 1>It was all people the suburbs where I grew up.

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<v Speaker 1>It's all around four and everyone went into the city

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<v Speaker 1>and made money and then came to the suburbs. When

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<v Speaker 1>you're a child, it's the funny in your household and

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<v Speaker 1>everybody's going get up there, Patton. That is so funny?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you like the performing the family I had? I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I was funny in my family, but I was also

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<v Speaker 1>in you know that the term the class clown, that's

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<v Speaker 1>actually a false term. There's a clown click in every

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<v Speaker 1>high school. It's not. There's never just one. There's a

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<v Speaker 1>group of people, boys and girls who were super into comedy.

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<v Speaker 1>And that was my click. So then, of course in

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<v Speaker 1>my home, you know, I could lift more than everyone

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<v Speaker 1>else because I was hanging out all day with these

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<v Speaker 1>comedy nerds. But then I would come home and my

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<v Speaker 1>dad was you know, he introduced me very early on

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<v Speaker 1>to like Jonathan Winters uh and the mother's brothers and

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<v Speaker 1>stuff like that, and then that led me surreptitiously to

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<v Speaker 1>Richard Pryor and then, weirdly enough to Steve Martin, who

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<v Speaker 1>Steve Martin was my gateway to Monty Python because I

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<v Speaker 1>heard Monty Python before Steve Martin. I didn't get it.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought it was stupid. Then I heard Steve Martin

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<v Speaker 1>went oh, I get what they were doing. And then

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<v Speaker 1>that led me back into it. And then this whole

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<v Speaker 1>world like kind of opened up. It was great where

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<v Speaker 1>you go to college. I went to William and Mary.

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<v Speaker 1>I went there to study writing. And when I went

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<v Speaker 1>to William and Mary, this is in the late eighties,

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<v Speaker 1>early nineties. They they had a theater department, but they

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<v Speaker 1>really didn't have like a film society or any kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like stay up. They had a couple of improv

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<v Speaker 1>groups and stuff like that. And then now apparently it's

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<v Speaker 1>just it's even more exploded. You know. At the time,

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<v Speaker 1>I think William Mary was more of a feeder school

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<v Speaker 1>for like lawyers, and it was it was that kind

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<v Speaker 1>of thing. They weren't really that focused on the arts.

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<v Speaker 1>They majors exactly. Yeah. I remember I was having problems

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<v Speaker 1>with my senior because I had taken too many courses

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<v Speaker 1>in my major and I didn't have enough credits to

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<v Speaker 1>graduate because I took too many English courses and I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't understand that I was supposed to take some psychology.

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<v Speaker 1>Took a lot of geology and psychology too. But I

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<v Speaker 1>remember I had to petition the committee on degrees and

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<v Speaker 1>and asked them to wave it was just like nine

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<v Speaker 1>credits that I was shy, and I was talking to

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<v Speaker 1>my counsel and I was like, look, I really need

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<v Speaker 1>to graduate like, and he was like, you actually don't

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<v Speaker 1>need to. You can just do a whole other year.

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<v Speaker 1>It's great. You do a whole other year as a

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<v Speaker 1>senior and you only got to take nine credits, will

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<v Speaker 1>be the best year of your life. And I'm like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't understand. Like I have jobs lined because starting

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<v Speaker 1>stopping here, I started actually getting work as a comedian.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm like, by the time when I was a senior,

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<v Speaker 1>I have jobs lined up. School was in the way. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And and then he was like, oh, what firm, Like

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<v Speaker 1>what firm are you with? Like he in his mind

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<v Speaker 1>I had signed with it. I'm like, oh no, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>doing Charlie Goodnights in um North Carolina. I'm doing their Garvins,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm doing the Comedy Caravan, like I had all these

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<v Speaker 1>gigs lined up. And then he and then he said,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think William and Marian wants to be known

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<v Speaker 1>for producing comedians like like as a like kind of

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<v Speaker 1>And then I went okay, and then I just like

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<v Speaker 1>I just petitioned so hard and they went fine, just

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<v Speaker 1>get out and they gave me my diploma. But I

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<v Speaker 1>was like ah, and and and then like they William

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<v Speaker 1>and Mary Produced, Michelle Wolf and John Stewart. For God's sakes,

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<v Speaker 1>they should be proud of that. Comedian Patton Oswald. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>Alec Baldwin and you're listening to Here's the Thing. If

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<v Speaker 1>you like conversations with comedians who can also act, check

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<v Speaker 1>out our archives and my conversation with Kristen Wigg, who

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<v Speaker 1>credits her college acting teacher and helping her overcome her

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<v Speaker 1>performance anxiety. It was literally acting one on one that

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<v Speaker 1>was one class one class, and I was terrified to

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<v Speaker 1>take it. But something about this class we learned about

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<v Speaker 1>improv and my teacher was really supportive and at the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the class he was just like, have you

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<v Speaker 1>ever considered doing this? And I was like, oh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>right was your teacher? Was my teacher? Yeah? Here more

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<v Speaker 1>of my conversation with Kristen Wigg at Here's the Thing

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<v Speaker 1>dot org. After the break, I talked to Patton Oswald

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<v Speaker 1>about his move to San Francisco in the early nine

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<v Speaker 1>nineties and whyatt prompted him to tear up his previous

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<v Speaker 1>material and start all over. I'm Alec Baldwin and you're

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<v Speaker 1>listening to Here's the Thing from My Heart Radio. Patton

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<v Speaker 1>Oswald was a fan of stand up as a kid,

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<v Speaker 1>but he didn't try his hand at it until college.

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<v Speaker 1>It was between junior and sophomore year of college. That

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<v Speaker 1>was that somewhere where I'm like, oh, I better actually

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<v Speaker 1>figure out what I'm gonna do, and I because I

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't really And that was something I tried all these

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<v Speaker 1>different jobs. I started training to be a paralegal. I

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<v Speaker 1>was also working as a party DJ. I was writing

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<v Speaker 1>sports for a local paper under a pseudonym, just like,

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<v Speaker 1>what's one of these things is gonna stick? And then

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<v Speaker 1>I one evening, I went, because I always loved comedy,

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<v Speaker 1>went I'll do an open mic and I looked in

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<v Speaker 1>the paper. There was an open mics place called Garvin's.

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<v Speaker 1>And I went to Garvin's Comedy club that was in

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<v Speaker 1>d C on L Street between thirteen and fourteen Street,

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<v Speaker 1>very super sketchy area. I went on. I went out

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<v Speaker 1>and I went on stage. It did not go well,

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<v Speaker 1>but one thing that I said got like a half

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<v Speaker 1>got that comedian laugh from like that kind of ah

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<v Speaker 1>like that. Also, my first night on stage was also

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<v Speaker 1>Dave Chappelle's first night on age. He was fourteen years

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<v Speaker 1>old and he when he went on. It looked like

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<v Speaker 1>he'd been doing it for thirty years. He was amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>He just like having my god and and I I

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<v Speaker 1>was nineteen and it but the one I really loved.

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<v Speaker 1>I loved sitting and watching all the comedians hanging out

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<v Speaker 1>and riffing with each other and building jokes at a

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<v Speaker 1>thin air. And I realized, even though there's no immediate

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<v Speaker 1>reward here for me, I want this life. My roommate

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<v Speaker 1>in college as a comedian named Gary Laser, who I was,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, Gary Laser was my my and then he

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<v Speaker 1>and I were roommates. We got in an apartment together

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<v Speaker 1>for a couple of years, lived at him for a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of years. We have Gary was my roommate off

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<v Speaker 1>and on for like four or five years. And Garrett

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<v Speaker 1>I would go to the clubs with him, to the

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<v Speaker 1>Good Times on thirty on thirty of them third or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>The ben atar was discovered. We got and we go

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<v Speaker 1>to these different clubs with him and his friends and

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<v Speaker 1>they don't get up there and perform. And I remember,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it was like there's no place else I'd

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<v Speaker 1>rather be, you know, these guys, Gary Leason and going.

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<v Speaker 1>I was married to my first wife, yeah. We were

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<v Speaker 1>together for three years, and that three years went by

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<v Speaker 1>just like many had so many materials. Material I still

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<v Speaker 1>remember his routine and I loved him. And then I

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<v Speaker 1>go and do what I'm doing, and when I come

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<v Speaker 1>back and do thirty Rock, it's like I'm around those

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<v Speaker 1>people again, where like on my best day, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>as funny as them on their worst day. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>Tina Carlock call them they're so in terms of writing.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not a comedian, you know, they're just so blindingly funny.

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<v Speaker 1>And for you, did you go through a period where

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<v Speaker 1>you're like you're honing, you're working. You said that the

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<v Speaker 1>thing went so and at what point, you know, you're

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<v Speaker 1>here at Garvin's and d C. At what point do

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<v Speaker 1>you sit there and go I think I got this,

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's going well. I really didn't. He Here's

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<v Speaker 1>it was weird. I felt like one of the things

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<v Speaker 1>I like was I'm sitting at the so first of all,

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<v Speaker 1>this material, I'm not hearing joke. Second hand, I'm here

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<v Speaker 1>where they're being created, so I'm upstream. I'm one of

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<v Speaker 1>the people sending it down into the you know culture,

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<v Speaker 1>which that was also really exciting, but very early on

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<v Speaker 1>I learned it's weird how you talked about the air

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<v Speaker 1>of atic listening with with TV. I kind of had

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<v Speaker 1>that with comedy in that I learned the rhythms very

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<v Speaker 1>early on, and I could get away with very very

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<v Speaker 1>mediocre material. But because I had the rhythms, and because

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<v Speaker 1>there was this comedy boom, you could kind of go

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<v Speaker 1>up and talk in those rhythms and people would just

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<v Speaker 1>kind of go, okay, this is comedy. And then as

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<v Speaker 1>I was doing it, I started getting good in that

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<v Speaker 1>I was getting a lot of work. Then I remember

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<v Speaker 1>very very specifically, I moved to San Francisco, and this

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<v Speaker 1>is when the comedy boom was starting to collapse and

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<v Speaker 1>all the clubs were closing, and I went to the

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<v Speaker 1>Holy City Zoo. I'm the new kid in town. I've

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<v Speaker 1>been killing it on the road. I'm gonna do great,

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<v Speaker 1>and and that was I went into this room, Holy

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<v Speaker 1>City Zoo, and on the show was like Greg Proops,

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<v Speaker 1>Margaret Show, Jeanine Garoffalo, Greg Barren, like all these comedians

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<v Speaker 1>doing this stuff that rhythms I'd never heard before. I

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<v Speaker 1>went up with my road rhythms, all my a stuff

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<v Speaker 1>that I thought would kill and it just died. Then

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<v Speaker 1>I watched all of these comedians I'd never seen before,

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<v Speaker 1>who were the best comedians I'd ever seen. I remember

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<v Speaker 1>very specifically, I walked across street from the Holy City

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<v Speaker 1>Zoo to the Taiwan Restaurant on Clement Street, and I

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<v Speaker 1>sat there with my notebook and I tore all the

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<v Speaker 1>pages out of my notebook, all my routines, and I

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<v Speaker 1>wrote it was May five, the tip. And then I

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<v Speaker 1>just started fresh, like I gotta start at zero now

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<v Speaker 1>because none of that stuff works, Like I've got to

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<v Speaker 1>start over the road. Stuff doesn't work. And then I

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<v Speaker 1>started rebuilding that. And that's when probably around four years

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<v Speaker 1>after that was when I really felt like, oh now

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<v Speaker 1>I'm me on stage Francisco. I'm still in San Francis. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>at that I moved away from San Francisco because also

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<v Speaker 1>the clubs were closing there, and I got a writing

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<v Speaker 1>job doing what I was writing on the first two

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<v Speaker 1>seasons a Mad TV. You went down to l A,

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<v Speaker 1>went down to l A, and then that your first

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<v Speaker 1>time in l A. That was my first permanent time

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<v Speaker 1>in l A. Yeah. And then and that's when the

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<v Speaker 1>un Cabaret was happening in Largo. And all these alternative rooms,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was going there and that's when I really

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<v Speaker 1>really felt like I became who I am. And that's

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<v Speaker 1>how many years? So that's my point. How many years

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<v Speaker 1>into your career are you before you go I think

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<v Speaker 1>that the cake is cooked for me? It was like

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<v Speaker 1>eight years before I felt really it's an amazing yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>But but what's weird is, and I'm sure a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people have experiences. I was working as a professional comedian,

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<v Speaker 1>but I doesn't. I didn't feel like I was me,

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<v Speaker 1>And I wonder if that's I bet there's a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of actors and writers and performers who had years of

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<v Speaker 1>making money but weren't feeling like they were actually doing,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, something that was theirs. So you start writing

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<v Speaker 1>from Mad TV? And then what kind of zone do

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<v Speaker 1>you find yourself? Does everything get to be different when

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<v Speaker 1>you're in the big league, so to speak? So, um what?

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<v Speaker 1>But here's here. Here's the interesting thing. At the time

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<v Speaker 1>that I was writing on Mad TV, and they were

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<v Speaker 1>amazing writers on that show, and we got to do

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<v Speaker 1>some really good stuff. But Mad TV was my introduction to, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>this is what it's like working for a big network

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<v Speaker 1>where you've got to serve a lot of things before

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<v Speaker 1>you can even get to the comedy, which I've heard

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes can happen on SNL where there's like other considerations

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<v Speaker 1>first and then you got to get to the comedy.

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<v Speaker 1>And at the time that I was my Mad TV

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<v Speaker 1>at the same time Mr Show was happening over on

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<v Speaker 1>HBO and all my friends a lot of my friends

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<v Speaker 1>or on Mr Show, and that was where there was

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<v Speaker 1>nothing but the comedy. It was all about what was

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<v Speaker 1>the best idea and everyone is getting to work at

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<v Speaker 1>the height of their powers. And I was so jealous

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<v Speaker 1>of like why can't I be over there? But it

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<v Speaker 1>took me a while to see that I was learning

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<v Speaker 1>some very important lessons over at mad TV of how

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<v Speaker 1>to circumvent the system. And also when I look back,

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<v Speaker 1>there were real moments of brilliance that the actors and

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<v Speaker 1>the writers could conspire together and get through around the network,

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<v Speaker 1>going but we need to have this thing, and we

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<v Speaker 1>need to have this thing and there, and they found

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<v Speaker 1>ways to give them what they thought they wanted and

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<v Speaker 1>then do amazing stuff. So there's always no matter where

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<v Speaker 1>you are. What I learned was don't look at over

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<v Speaker 1>what other people are doing look at where you are

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<v Speaker 1>and how can you make that as good and interesting

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<v Speaker 1>as you can? So you wrote a memoir silver screen fiend.

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<v Speaker 1>M hm, how did you get that book published? Um?

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<v Speaker 1>I had published a book before of like essays, but

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<v Speaker 1>but it wasn't totally met. There were like a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of memoir chapters, but I wasn't confident enough to just

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<v Speaker 1>write a full memoir at Simon and Schuster and they

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<v Speaker 1>liked it and they said, you have another book in you.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I was looking through my old calendars at

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<v Speaker 1>my time in the in l A, in the when

0:24:54.440 --> 0:24:57.719
<v Speaker 1>I moved there, and I'm like, my god, I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't realize how obsessed I was with films because

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<v Speaker 1>it was the first time that I really lived in

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<v Speaker 1>a city where you could go see a movie, either

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<v Speaker 1>a new or a classic movie, pretty much every night

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<v Speaker 1>of the week in the theater, not at home, in

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<v Speaker 1>the theater with people the new Beverly Beverly and the

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<v Speaker 1>new Art and the new Art and all those places.

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<v Speaker 1>So I started going and I started kind of and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure you went through the same thing with when

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<v Speaker 1>you first started being a theater actor. And there must

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<v Speaker 1>have been a time when you would just obsessively go

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<v Speaker 1>to the theater to watch shows because you realize, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to be doing this, so I'm going to absorb

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<v Speaker 1>as much of it. The love Oh I not to

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<v Speaker 1>do oh my god. My friends and I would go

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<v Speaker 1>watch bad stand up at open mics, not to make

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<v Speaker 1>fun of it, but just to go, oh, don't do that,

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<v Speaker 1>don't do that, don't do you know. It was and

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<v Speaker 1>same with films. Oh when you see like the same

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<v Speaker 1>things happening over and over again, Oh, don't do that,

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<v Speaker 1>don't do that. So that kind of um obsession, I

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<v Speaker 1>really you know, it kind of took over my life

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<v Speaker 1>for like those four years. It's I go, this is

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<v Speaker 1>the most boring addiction memoir ever written, because it's about

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<v Speaker 1>me being addicted to movies. Although I saw people I

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<v Speaker 1>got very close to tipping over the edge of There

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<v Speaker 1>are people that are kind of lost by films, and

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<v Speaker 1>you see them holding their like Leonard Malton guides that

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<v Speaker 1>are just tattered clip and mark because they've got to

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<v Speaker 1>see every movie. And there's a you know, in New

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<v Speaker 1>York is an even just as equally a dangerous place

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<v Speaker 1>to be a film fanatic because you can go see

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<v Speaker 1>I mean not now, obviously, in the heyday, I live

0:26:37.400 --> 0:26:40.800
<v Speaker 1>around the corner from Cinema Village, really live downtown. But

0:26:41.320 --> 0:26:43.800
<v Speaker 1>you say about New Beverley is, and I remember this.

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<v Speaker 1>I would go to There was the KB Cerberus Theater

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<v Speaker 1>in Washington, and I would go there. I'll never forget

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<v Speaker 1>one day in a revival theater. I can see Last

0:26:53.840 --> 0:26:57.000
<v Speaker 1>Tango and I go into that theater and the music

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<v Speaker 1>and the whole and Brando's you know, self flagellation, all

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<v Speaker 1>of it. I go see this movie and I haven't

0:27:03.119 --> 0:27:05.360
<v Speaker 1>seen any movies like that, And I remember coming out

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<v Speaker 1>of the theater and I was hammered and the sky

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<v Speaker 1>was gray. It's washing. The sky was wintertime. I'm in

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<v Speaker 1>school and the sky is leaden. Remember seeing it, going

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<v Speaker 1>like I didn't want to go back into the world.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't. I wanted to go back into the theater

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<v Speaker 1>and go run it again or show me another movie.

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't. I didn't want to face the world. I mean, yeah,

0:27:24.760 --> 0:27:28.080
<v Speaker 1>I get into these weird dives. But the mood that

0:27:28.119 --> 0:27:30.840
<v Speaker 1>I've been in, I wanted to see Alec Guinness in

0:27:30.920 --> 0:27:34.600
<v Speaker 1>Tinker Taylor because I've been so starved for a character

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<v Speaker 1>who's just quiet and competent and can just do like.

0:27:37.960 --> 0:27:39.960
<v Speaker 1>I was so starved for that that that was my

0:27:40.119 --> 0:27:43.800
<v Speaker 1>oasis during all this was Oh, a quiet, non flashy

0:27:43.800 --> 0:27:46.280
<v Speaker 1>guy who can actually get stuff done. He was so

0:27:46.359 --> 0:27:49.480
<v Speaker 1>good He would clean his eyeglasses with a fat part

0:27:49.520 --> 0:27:52.639
<v Speaker 1>of his tie, and it became so much part of

0:27:52.640 --> 0:27:55.720
<v Speaker 1>his character that that that when Lakaray wrote Smile these People,

0:27:56.000 --> 0:27:58.840
<v Speaker 1>he added that trait because of watching the TV shows,

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<v Speaker 1>like he did the character that I created better, and

0:28:01.480 --> 0:28:04.199
<v Speaker 1>now I've got to adjust him to the actor that

0:28:04.240 --> 0:28:08.119
<v Speaker 1>did it like that level of just inhabiting. But the

0:28:08.160 --> 0:28:11.520
<v Speaker 1>thing about writing and acting, there's a risk Alan Moore

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<v Speaker 1>talked about this when you truly inhabit characters long term.

0:28:16.680 --> 0:28:19.680
<v Speaker 1>There's a mental risk for great writers and great actors

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<v Speaker 1>when you sacrifice your personality to go into these other lives.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got to have a safe place to come out

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<v Speaker 1>of and kind of get yourself back on the ground.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I think you see with a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>actors who go way deep later in life, they kind

0:28:34.480 --> 0:28:37.040
<v Speaker 1>of suffer their personality flickers a little bit and they're

0:28:37.080 --> 0:28:40.880
<v Speaker 1>never quite on a steady keel after a while. You know,

0:28:41.320 --> 0:28:44.320
<v Speaker 1>Peter Sellers is a great example of you know, he

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<v Speaker 1>basically said, I don't have a personality. It's like he

0:28:47.480 --> 0:28:51.800
<v Speaker 1>sacrifices personality before he even started acting. So you've gone

0:28:51.920 --> 0:28:53.800
<v Speaker 1>kind of deep with some of you. I mean, there's

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<v Speaker 1>not a lot. There's not a lot of the warm

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<v Speaker 1>of uncular Alec Baldwin at the beginning of Glen Garry

0:28:59.640 --> 0:29:01.880
<v Speaker 1>Glenn us, how do you do you have a place

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<v Speaker 1>where you can come out of characters like that or well,

0:29:05.680 --> 0:29:08.720
<v Speaker 1>I always tell the same story. And this is to

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<v Speaker 1>me one of the most meaningful moments of my career

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<v Speaker 1>where a director really helped me. This guy, Jamie Folly,

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<v Speaker 1>said to me, he said, it's like that scene in

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<v Speaker 1>Patton when Patton slaps the guy and says, you call

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<v Speaker 1>yourself a soldier. He said, that's what we're doing here.

0:29:19.080 --> 0:29:21.080
<v Speaker 1>He says, you call yourself a salesman. He said, you're

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<v Speaker 1>doing this for their own good. You're doing this for

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<v Speaker 1>their own good. You don't want to do this, he said,

0:29:27.240 --> 0:29:28.600
<v Speaker 1>you gott And once he said that to me, I

0:29:28.600 --> 0:29:30.960
<v Speaker 1>felt like, literally like a cartoon character. Were like the

0:29:31.080 --> 0:29:34.040
<v Speaker 1>lightning bolts went through my shoulders down into my fingertips.

0:29:34.080 --> 0:29:36.040
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I looked at my wing. I got

0:29:36.080 --> 0:29:37.840
<v Speaker 1>it and I went out there and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna fucking I'm gonna, I'm gonna knock you out. Man.

0:29:40.960 --> 0:29:42.600
<v Speaker 1>If you don't, you gotta you gotta do whatever that

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<v Speaker 1>Just do what the funk I tell you to do.

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<v Speaker 1>And I went out there and and and folly. The

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<v Speaker 1>phrase I use for what I teach acting is authorization.

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<v Speaker 1>What authorizes you do when you if you go into

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<v Speaker 1>an operating room. And I've done this to prepare for

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<v Speaker 1>a film. I watched over a hundred hours of surgery

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<v Speaker 1>in Last Angeles and in western Massachusetts to the movie Malice,

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<v Speaker 1>not because I wanted to learn surgery. My favorite line

0:30:05.800 --> 0:30:07.920
<v Speaker 1>is Walter Matthau. They said, you're playing a doctor, do

0:30:07.920 --> 0:30:10.000
<v Speaker 1>you want to go observe surgery? And Walter math I

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<v Speaker 1>took a pause and said, I'm a movie actor. No

0:30:12.760 --> 0:30:16.280
<v Speaker 1>one expects me to really know how to do surgery.

0:30:17.040 --> 0:30:18.959
<v Speaker 1>But the point is that I wanted to go in

0:30:18.960 --> 0:30:21.440
<v Speaker 1>that room so that when I went into the set,

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<v Speaker 1>when I got on the stage and we did the scene,

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<v Speaker 1>I'd seen it right, I knew it. I was authorized

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<v Speaker 1>to do this because I knew it, And to me,

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<v Speaker 1>that's vital. I need the authorization of that character. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but but I just wonder how far is too far? Sometimes?

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<v Speaker 1>And I wonder that too, like when I'm writing or

0:30:38.920 --> 0:30:41.360
<v Speaker 1>when I'm doing some of the more dramatic roles. Like

0:30:41.520 --> 0:30:44.080
<v Speaker 1>I just watched the Michael Jordan documentary. This is weird

0:30:44.120 --> 0:30:46.720
<v Speaker 1>how this ties in. But his teammates are talking in

0:30:46.720 --> 0:30:49.040
<v Speaker 1>the documentary about how he was kind of an a hole,

0:30:49.440 --> 0:30:53.400
<v Speaker 1>but he needed to operate at this I'm a demigod

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<v Speaker 1>level to perform at the level that he did, Like

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<v Speaker 1>that's how he won. And at the end, like you

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<v Speaker 1>see how kind of drained he is, he's crying a

0:31:00.600 --> 0:31:02.720
<v Speaker 1>little bit, like I know that I was doing that,

0:31:02.760 --> 0:31:04.600
<v Speaker 1>but it's what I needed to do to with Like

0:31:05.040 --> 0:31:07.640
<v Speaker 1>in art, you do wonder how much of myself do

0:31:07.680 --> 0:31:11.240
<v Speaker 1>I sacrifice? How much do I hold back? You know,

0:31:11.360 --> 0:31:14.000
<v Speaker 1>like that's always gonna be that ongoing question. And also

0:31:14.040 --> 0:31:18.440
<v Speaker 1>with with comedy, how when I was doing that special annihilation,

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<v Speaker 1>how deep into my own darkness do I go as

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<v Speaker 1>a comedian until it stops being entertainment instinct you've developed?

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't. I mean, luckily I had years of doing

0:31:31.360 --> 0:31:34.040
<v Speaker 1>comedy where I kind of had an idea. But when

0:31:34.120 --> 0:31:36.640
<v Speaker 1>it really got down to it, I remember Bob kat

0:31:36.640 --> 0:31:39.440
<v Speaker 1>Goldthwaite was directing the special and he came back into

0:31:39.440 --> 0:31:41.520
<v Speaker 1>the green room before I went on or He was like,

0:31:41.960 --> 0:31:43.400
<v Speaker 1>you just want to go out there, don't you like?

0:31:43.440 --> 0:31:45.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, yeah, I can't think about this anymore. I

0:31:45.800 --> 0:31:48.280
<v Speaker 1>have to go out there. And you you must have

0:31:48.280 --> 0:31:50.680
<v Speaker 1>seen this in place where we've rehearsed the ship out

0:31:50.680 --> 0:31:53.560
<v Speaker 1>of it. But now, can we just go and get

0:31:53.600 --> 0:31:55.640
<v Speaker 1>started and then we'll fucking figure it out. If we

0:31:55.680 --> 0:31:57.600
<v Speaker 1>can start, that's the best way to figure it out.

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<v Speaker 1>Just let me fucking go out there and I'll figure

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<v Speaker 1>it out. You know, I see people who are comic

0:32:02.400 --> 0:32:04.520
<v Speaker 1>talent who I think I'll never forget. I said to

0:32:04.560 --> 0:32:06.960
<v Speaker 1>Chris Rock one time. I said, I knew some guys

0:32:07.360 --> 0:32:09.680
<v Speaker 1>that were very powerful group of people in the music

0:32:09.720 --> 0:32:12.760
<v Speaker 1>business and had a lot of access to rights and things.

0:32:13.160 --> 0:32:15.760
<v Speaker 1>And I said to Chris, you should play Miles Davis.

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<v Speaker 1>I said, I know you're an actor. You're you're an actor.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean that you're funny and you do all that

0:32:21.520 --> 0:32:26.400
<v Speaker 1>marauding the stage and the way I always cry, and

0:32:26.480 --> 0:32:28.400
<v Speaker 1>I feel the same way about you. You're an actor.

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<v Speaker 1>And do you sometimes feel like, Okay, I've done the

0:32:32.560 --> 0:32:35.640
<v Speaker 1>comedy thing. I got that in my pocket, marauding the

0:32:35.680 --> 0:32:39.880
<v Speaker 1>stage with a microphone in Charlotte, be dazzling everybody. Time

0:32:39.880 --> 0:32:42.840
<v Speaker 1>to go do something else. You know the thing about

0:32:42.880 --> 0:32:44.840
<v Speaker 1>Santa Bus. It doesn't have to be either or you

0:32:44.840 --> 0:32:47.720
<v Speaker 1>can go do other things and then go do That's

0:32:47.720 --> 0:32:49.200
<v Speaker 1>what I remember. I went and saw me and Maria

0:32:49.240 --> 0:32:53.240
<v Speaker 1>Bamford went and saw Jerry Steinfeld's comedian documentary together, and

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<v Speaker 1>we were walking out and she was like, we picked

0:32:55.120 --> 0:32:58.040
<v Speaker 1>a profession that we can do forever. We could always

0:32:58.040 --> 0:33:00.520
<v Speaker 1>do stand up. We can also do other things. We

0:33:00.560 --> 0:33:02.760
<v Speaker 1>can always do stand up and stand up is such

0:33:02.800 --> 0:33:05.880
<v Speaker 1>a It is one of the last pure, I guess,

0:33:05.920 --> 0:33:09.479
<v Speaker 1>dictatorial posts where I think it, I say it. That's it.

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<v Speaker 1>And if anything, you get to a point where I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe I'll get to the point where Chris Rock is.

0:33:14.240 --> 0:33:17.320
<v Speaker 1>Where you can get to the point where you not

0:33:17.320 --> 0:33:19.600
<v Speaker 1>only elicit laughter, you elicit what I like to call

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<v Speaker 1>the laughter of disbelief, where Chris Rock says things and

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<v Speaker 1>people like the h ship. I mean, that's true, but

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<v Speaker 1>holy fuck, I mean, did can he that? I mean

0:33:32.560 --> 0:33:35.280
<v Speaker 1>that is true? But we don't like he says things

0:33:35.680 --> 0:33:38.959
<v Speaker 1>where the audience you can you feel the laughter is like,

0:33:39.360 --> 0:33:41.040
<v Speaker 1>I mean, we all know that, but we're not supposed

0:33:41.080 --> 0:33:42.720
<v Speaker 1>to say that, all right, But he just said that,

0:33:42.760 --> 0:33:45.640
<v Speaker 1>So I guess we're gonna like that level of you know,

0:33:45.680 --> 0:33:47.840
<v Speaker 1>maybe I can get to that level. But I never

0:33:47.920 --> 0:33:49.800
<v Speaker 1>want to stop doing stand up, but I definitely want

0:33:49.840 --> 0:33:53.080
<v Speaker 1>to do other things because, especially if you do stand

0:33:53.120 --> 0:33:55.160
<v Speaker 1>up long enough and you try to be as wired

0:33:55.240 --> 0:33:59.200
<v Speaker 1>into not only other people's foibles but especially your own.

0:34:00.040 --> 0:34:03.320
<v Speaker 1>You see in acting where people don't go deep enough

0:34:03.320 --> 0:34:05.200
<v Speaker 1>with that or they're not as honest, like, oh you

0:34:05.280 --> 0:34:09.040
<v Speaker 1>pulled back. Why didn't you just stay and go that deep?

0:34:09.200 --> 0:34:11.840
<v Speaker 1>So then you want to do that as an actor,

0:34:13.560 --> 0:34:18.200
<v Speaker 1>actor and comedian Patton Oswald, if you're enjoying this conversation,

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<v Speaker 1>come back, Patton Oswald talks about falling in love again.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Alec Baldwin and this is Here's the Thing. In

0:34:43.800 --> 0:34:47.720
<v Speaker 1>Patton Oswald's Netflix comedy special I Love Everything. He talks

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<v Speaker 1>about finding love again. Not to bum you guys out,

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<v Speaker 1>but I was very, very resigned to living in the gray.

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<v Speaker 1>I was, after what I went through a couple of

0:34:56.880 --> 0:34:58.400
<v Speaker 1>years ago. I was just going to I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>live in the gray, and I'm just to raise my

0:35:01.440 --> 0:35:04.640
<v Speaker 1>daughter alone and try to put focus all the joy

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<v Speaker 1>and adventure in life on her and give her that life,

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<v Speaker 1>and I will merely exist. I'm not going to hit

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<v Speaker 1>joy again, but that's fine. I can still exist, That's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I met this poem of a woman who

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<v Speaker 1>ReLit the sky, and I just said, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>run at love again. If you see love, run at it.

0:35:26.080 --> 0:35:31.239
<v Speaker 1>Run at love. If you see it, trust me, run

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<v Speaker 1>at love. Patton Oswald married actress Meredith Salinger in November

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<v Speaker 1>two thousand seventeen. Her breakout role came at age fifteen

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<v Speaker 1>as the lead in the Journey of Natty Gan. I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to know how Patton Oswald found such a perfect

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<v Speaker 1>match a second time. I was married to this extraordinary woman,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think the fact that I was with her

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<v Speaker 1>for so long was what helped me see very quickly

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<v Speaker 1>this other ex ordinary woman. Because Meredith Sounder, who is

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<v Speaker 1>yes child actress, insanely gorgeous teen actress beyond gorgeous, like

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<v Speaker 1>like classic nineteen forties movie siren gorge Yes, exactly, how

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<v Speaker 1>did you meet her? We have a friend in common,

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<v Speaker 1>Martha Plimpton, amazing actress, and Martha Plimpton likes to do

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<v Speaker 1>these salons where she brings various people together for dinners

0:36:26.920 --> 0:36:29.240
<v Speaker 1>at her house. That's what I do. And the morning

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<v Speaker 1>of it, I had to fly back from Austin at

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<v Speaker 1>like six in the morning. And when I got home, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't go out again. I'm so dehydrated and exhausted,

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<v Speaker 1>and I I'm so sorry I have to beg off.

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<v Speaker 1>And then the next day Meredith sent me a message saying,

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<v Speaker 1>you missed the best lasagna last night, dude, And then

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<v Speaker 1>I wrote back story in my life film. Maybe we'll

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<v Speaker 1>go get coffee. It's not sorry, you know, And then

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<v Speaker 1>we just started. This was in February of sen I'm

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<v Speaker 1>still deep in my grief, but I'm just talking to

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<v Speaker 1>We're just talking about books and politics. Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>the world is insane right now. And it got to

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<v Speaker 1>the point where of the many things I missed about Michelle,

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<v Speaker 1>I missed having someone fascinating to talk to in the

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<v Speaker 1>dark at the end of the day, so as I

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<v Speaker 1>would put Alice to bed and then I would just

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<v Speaker 1>get on my phone like at nine o'clock and I

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<v Speaker 1>would go, hey, are you here, and you're like, oh, yeah,

0:37:16.840 --> 0:37:19.720
<v Speaker 1>what's going because she was also like she has dated

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<v Speaker 1>some fascinating and very troubled people in her life, and

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<v Speaker 1>she was taking a hiatus from the damaged Geniuses, and

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<v Speaker 1>so she was just in her apartment with her cats,

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<v Speaker 1>and we would just every night like, okay, same time

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<v Speaker 1>tomorrow night. And for three months we never spoke on

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<v Speaker 1>the phone, never met in person. We would just right

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<v Speaker 1>for like hours about everything and just talking, talking, talking,

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<v Speaker 1>and then without us either because I was not looking

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<v Speaker 1>to date anyone, not having to fall in love and like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh someone, And there was also someone that wasn't it's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna sound weird. She wasn't in my immediate circle of

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<v Speaker 1>friends or family, so every conversation didn't start off with

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<v Speaker 1>the how are you doing okay? How like this was

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<v Speaker 1>just me talking about to someone with an incredibly agile

0:38:01.640 --> 0:38:04.880
<v Speaker 1>brain from your suffering exactly, And so we would just

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<v Speaker 1>connect on all these supper levels and then without knowing it,

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<v Speaker 1>we just kind of I just we fell in love

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<v Speaker 1>with each other without realizing it. And then we finally

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<v Speaker 1>met in May after three months of just talking in

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<v Speaker 1>the lobby of Shutters Hotel and she I go, I go,

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<v Speaker 1>let's go get dinner. She goes, well, let's go somewhere

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<v Speaker 1>where if it doesn't work out. We were so realistic

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<v Speaker 1>about it, like if we meet and it doesn't click,

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<v Speaker 1>we either of us can leave. And I go, absolutely,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a great idea. And so we went to shut

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<v Speaker 1>Hers Hotel and had dinner in the restaurant there. But

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<v Speaker 1>when we met and she tapped me on the shoulder

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<v Speaker 1>in the lobby and I turned around and her first

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<v Speaker 1>words were and I'm saying this as a brag, because

0:38:42.120 --> 0:38:44.960
<v Speaker 1>Meredith Sounder said to me and she goes, oh, you're

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<v Speaker 1>so cute. And I was like okay, and then yeah,

0:38:51.960 --> 0:38:57.399
<v Speaker 1>and playing against him like the woman she is, like

0:38:58.080 --> 0:39:03.279
<v Speaker 1>she is enragingly beautiful, Just like, what the hell are

0:39:03.320 --> 0:39:07.000
<v Speaker 1>you kidding me? Love is love God love. You find

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<v Speaker 1>it where you find it, and when you find it,

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<v Speaker 1>the only thing is you say thank you. You're grateful.

0:39:11.040 --> 0:39:14.759
<v Speaker 1>You're grateful. Yeah, And I was like, I was so

0:39:14.880 --> 0:39:17.960
<v Speaker 1>obviously I had some oh my god, I'm getting married.

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<v Speaker 1>But also it's not like we're in our twenties trying

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<v Speaker 1>to discover ourselves. I don't know if I like at

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<v Speaker 1>that age, if you know, when you find the other person, like,

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<v Speaker 1>let's get married. What I'm not going to go to

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<v Speaker 1>all this and you know, you know, yeah, And I

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<v Speaker 1>remember talking to other widows and they were like, ignore

0:39:32.040 --> 0:39:34.680
<v Speaker 1>all the stuff. Because one of the widows, and I

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<v Speaker 1>knew it was a woman, she was like, I waited

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<v Speaker 1>ten years to get married. And I got the same

0:39:39.800 --> 0:39:42.359
<v Speaker 1>crap from people because they're like, she waited too long.

0:39:45.680 --> 0:39:48.440
<v Speaker 1>She got grief because she waited too long, you know

0:39:48.440 --> 0:39:51.239
<v Speaker 1>what I mean. So she's like, there's no way to

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<v Speaker 1>do it, but no one will ever be happy with it.

0:39:53.160 --> 0:39:55.480
<v Speaker 1>You have to be happy. You can't live their lives.

0:39:55.560 --> 0:39:58.600
<v Speaker 1>Go do what you have to do. And it's been great.

0:39:59.080 --> 0:40:04.720
<v Speaker 1>And Meredith is the most amazing mom to our daughter.

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<v Speaker 1>She is like again, it's like Alice had Michelle, this

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<v Speaker 1>amazing crime fighter, and now she has Meredith, who's this

0:40:13.880 --> 0:40:18.600
<v Speaker 1>amazing adventurer. I'm following a small basket of people's careers,

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<v Speaker 1>of which yours is one of them. Wow, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>I find you as somebody who and I really really

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<v Speaker 1>mean this. The thing about you that I find so

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<v Speaker 1>exciting is anything is possible. There's just nothing you could

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<v Speaker 1>do that would surprise me. Dramatically acting I mean the

0:40:32.600 --> 0:40:35.359
<v Speaker 1>writing and stuff like, but in terms of comedy and

0:40:35.440 --> 0:40:38.400
<v Speaker 1>comedy shows and stand up but also a dramatic acting.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that you're capable of anything, Thank you. I

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<v Speaker 1>mean even marrying Meredith Salinger. That is that must have

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<v Speaker 1>been the okay, that was the real point. God, wow,

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<v Speaker 1>the Ratitui married Natty Gain. I don't know how he

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<v Speaker 1>pulled it off. Yeah he did. Comedian Patton Oswald. I'm

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