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Speaker 1: It's that time. Buckle up and hold on tight to

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Speaker 1: Awberry letter. Thank you Tommy, subject outside adult advice. Hello everyone.

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Speaker 1: My mother forty nine in parentheses and father fifty have

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Speaker 1: been together for twenty one years and married for eighteen,

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Speaker 1: and for thirteen of those years, my father has been

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Speaker 1: cheating on my mother. The reason I know this is

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Speaker 1: because ever since I was a little, ever since I

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Speaker 1: was little, when they got into arguments, which is often,

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Speaker 1: he proudly throws the fact that he has a couple

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Speaker 1: of women on the side in her face, and sometimes

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Speaker 1: calls his mother and tells her how stupid my mom

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Speaker 1: is for staying with him when she knows he is

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Speaker 1: cheating on her. Now, recently, my dad decided that he

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Speaker 1: was going to change his ways and go back to church.

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Speaker 1: I do commend him for this, but my mom has

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Speaker 1: told me that she feels like it's a little it's

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Speaker 1: too little, too late. After all the verbal, mental, and

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Speaker 1: once or twice physical abuse, she feels like she should

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Speaker 1: move Vaughan. She feels that she is too old to

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Speaker 1: deal with this, and his temper and hygiene are are

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Speaker 1: getting worse as he ages. So basically I think my

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Speaker 1: mom should do what makes her happy. But I know

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Speaker 1: that God frowns upon divorce and a child should stay

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Speaker 1: in his or her place. More importantly, my mom faithfully

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Speaker 1: listens to this show and maybe you all can provide

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Speaker 1: some outside adult advice. Wow. Well, dear daughter, First of all,

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Speaker 1: I gotta say that you sound like a very loving

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Speaker 1: daughter who who wants her mother to be happy. And yes,

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Speaker 1: the Bible and some religions, you know, they frown on divorce,

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Speaker 1: you know, although there are divorces in the Bible, but

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Speaker 1: the Bible also speaks of being equally yoked. Husband's loving

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Speaker 1: their wives as Christ loved the Church. I mean, there's

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Speaker 1: a lot of stuff in the Bible, you know, on

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Speaker 1: this particular subject. But this is what I do know.

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Speaker 1: I know that the Lord wants his children to be

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Speaker 1: loved and treated well. He wants them respected and not humiliated.

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Speaker 1: And if your mother, you know, has been that for

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Speaker 1: all her years of marriage, or for at least thirteen

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Speaker 1: of the twenty one years of marriage, then maybe it

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Speaker 1: is time for for for mom, for you to move

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Speaker 1: on and um, you know, not be subjected to this

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Speaker 1: kind of treatment. I mean, this is humiliation, this is

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Speaker 1: wrong treatment. Your husband is out of order doing this

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Speaker 1: to you. I'm not in the situation, but based on

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Speaker 1: what your daughter says, yes, this is wrong. You should

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Speaker 1: not be treated this way. And it probably is a

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Speaker 1: little too late, too little too late. So you know,

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Speaker 1: do what you have to do. This is your decision,

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Speaker 1: and you know, if it's right in your heart, the

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Speaker 1: Lord will forgive you if you ask him, you know,

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Speaker 1: And that's basically what I have to tell you. You You know,

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Speaker 1: I mean, this is wrong. He's humiliating you, you know,

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Speaker 1: calling his mom, he's cheating, throwing it in your face.

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Speaker 1: You know, you don't have to deal with this. You

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Speaker 1: don't have to put up with this, Steve Um. First

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Speaker 1: of all, the girl who wrote the letter, I didn't

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Speaker 1: um get her age. Yeah, I didn't get her age.

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Speaker 1: But she's obviously old enough to write intelligently, I'll say,

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Speaker 1: and want some outside adult advice. M Um, she's been

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Speaker 1: raised properly. She's a good kid that wrote this letter,

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Speaker 1: A good daughter anyway. Um. The mother's forty nine, the

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Speaker 1: father's fifty. Uh, this girl has overheard some crazy conversation.

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Speaker 1: First of all, this man, I don't know any man

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Speaker 1: who argues like this. I really don't you get into

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Speaker 1: an argument, and then you're proudly throwing the fact that

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Speaker 1: he has a couple of women on the side, and

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Speaker 1: you're telling this to your wife. I cannot tell you

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Speaker 1: how that conversation is really supposed to go. But I

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Speaker 1: don't know many women where you can throw this in

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Speaker 1: her face mo thing one time, not that blatant of

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Speaker 1: a statement. I got a couple of women on the side.

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Speaker 1: That's that's some doggish behavior right there. That's how men

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Speaker 1: get the title of dogs. Not that right there is

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Speaker 1: some doggish behavior, because now you're just gonna do dirt

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Speaker 1: and then you're gonna smith the mud and the crap

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Speaker 1: in her face. Come on, man, that that's a bit much.

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Speaker 1: Then sometimes you would call the girl's mother and tell

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Speaker 1: her how stupid she was for staying with him. Wow,

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Speaker 1: who is this guy? What guy argues like this? Your

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Speaker 1: mom has had some low self esteem. But it looks

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Speaker 1: like your mom is getting it together. But it's coincidental

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Speaker 1: dad decided that he was gonna change his ways and

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Speaker 1: and I do too, But guess what your mama feels like.

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Speaker 1: It's a little too late. Guess what your mama is

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Speaker 1: feeling exactly what she's supposed to feel, and it's a

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Speaker 1: natural reaction for her to feel like it's a little

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Speaker 1: bit too late. Your mother's forty nine. She's not over

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Speaker 1: the hill and done. When we come back, let's discuss

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Speaker 1: the hygiene paul A right. Two of Steve's response coming

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Speaker 1: up at twenty three after the hour. Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Part two of your response to today's strawberry letter. Let's

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Speaker 1: go just about this woman has been married to this

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Speaker 1: man for twenty one years and uh, she's forty nine,

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Speaker 1: he's fifty. He's been cheating on her. The girl the

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Speaker 1: daughter wrote the letter, wants to know if we could

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Speaker 1: just give a mom some advice. And he's been throwing

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Speaker 1: and when she knows that he's cheating on her. Now,

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Speaker 1: recently her dad decided that he's gonna change his ways

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Speaker 1: and go back to church. Now a little girl commends

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Speaker 1: him for this, But her mom told me that she

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Speaker 1: ought to move on. She feels that she's too old

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Speaker 1: getting worse as he ages. Right now, that line right

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Speaker 1: there made me start to think his temple and hygiene

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Speaker 1: things for reasons. I'm thinking maybe this the fact that

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Speaker 1: his temple and his hygiene and got worse as he ages.

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Speaker 1: Maybe that asked what pushed him back into church, Because see,

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Speaker 1: he'd been crawling, his little nasty, stinky, trifling eva lass

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Speaker 1: up in these other women's bed. Now they didn't got

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Speaker 1: tired of it. Don't come over here no more unless

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Speaker 1: you can wash. Listen to me, hold on, hold on,

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Speaker 1: I'm tired of you crawling to me, smelling like every

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Speaker 1: bit of us go chi hi is your butt ashy?

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Speaker 1: Your whole body is ash Now you're gonna flying on

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Speaker 1: top of me. Let me say something. Don't don't come

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Speaker 1: over here no more. So now he had got a

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Speaker 1: come on, come on here, don't mote you heard me

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Speaker 1: now you're gonna be nasty and act nasty. Don't come

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Speaker 1: over here, I now. Guess what Now he back at

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Speaker 1: the church now because see the law to take you nasty,

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Speaker 1: ashy and skk stinking. Now he back at church. But

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Speaker 1: guess what, your mama don't deserve this. And sometimes you

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Speaker 1: got to pay for your actions. Sometimes it's just time

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Speaker 1: for pop to pay. That's all. Pop. You can't just

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Speaker 1: because you want to straighten it up, don't mean it's

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Speaker 1: gonna get right. You cannot do women wrong and expect

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Speaker 1: them just because you're ready to change, not them to

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Speaker 1: change to. Well, guess what, while he was cheating on

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Speaker 1: them and whipping on them, they changed to tell your

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Speaker 1: mama that it's perfectly fine for her to go head on.

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Speaker 1: The church might frown on divorce, but hell, let the

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Speaker 1: church sleep with him. If they want to be accepting

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Speaker 1: another man, let him, Let the church take him in.

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Speaker 1: Your mama don't have to keep taking this. Tell your

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Speaker 1: mama gonna find herselves some happiness, you know, and don't

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Speaker 1: even worry about with his big thank you all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: you know we gotta go. Email us or Instagram. What's

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Speaker 1: your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter at My Girl Shirley,

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Speaker 1: And thank you so much for joining me yesterday and

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Speaker 1: every Thursday. Don't forget for the after show Strawberry Letter Live.

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Speaker 1: I appreciate you guys very much