1 00:00:01,920 --> 00:00:05,360 Speaker 1: It's that. Let's buckle up and let's hold on tight 2 00:00:05,440 --> 00:00:09,720 Speaker 1: as we as we slide on over to the Strawberry Letter. 3 00:00:09,880 --> 00:00:17,640 Speaker 1: It's up. This is morning time. Yeah up, take two, 4 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:23,720 Speaker 1: say take to Tommy. Come on all right, buckle up, 5 00:00:23,760 --> 00:00:28,280 Speaker 1: hold on time. We gotta here. It is Strawberry letter. 6 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:35,599 Speaker 1: Thank you, okay. Subject. If he can't pay, he can't stay. 7 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:41,160 Speaker 1: Drop the mic at that point. Yeah, just Stephen Shirley. 8 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:43,920 Speaker 1: I need advice, and I know you won't lie to me. 9 00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:47,680 Speaker 1: I'm twenty seven, I don't have any children, I'm in management, 10 00:00:47,760 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 1: I have two cars, my own place, and I'm in 11 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 1: school full time. Here's my issue. I'm dating a guy 12 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:57,240 Speaker 1: that has nothing going on. We've been together for three years. 13 00:00:57,280 --> 00:00:59,480 Speaker 1: He has four children, no car, and he used to 14 00:00:59,520 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 1: live with me. I tried to help him get a 15 00:01:01,720 --> 00:01:04,640 Speaker 1: better job, but he wants to work dead in jobs. 16 00:01:04,920 --> 00:01:06,880 Speaker 1: I told him he should offer to pay some of 17 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:09,640 Speaker 1: my household bills, and he says I watched too much 18 00:01:09,680 --> 00:01:11,440 Speaker 1: love and hip hop, and I want to live that 19 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:14,360 Speaker 1: kind of life. I don't say anything wrong with wanting 20 00:01:14,440 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 1: nice things and going on nice vacations. I want a 21 00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:20,480 Speaker 1: man that can say, baby, I'll pay your car note 22 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:23,640 Speaker 1: this month, or I'll pay your rent this month. Dang. 23 00:01:24,040 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 1: All I want is a man that I don't have 24 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:30,360 Speaker 1: to struggle with. I gave him chance after chance to 25 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:33,720 Speaker 1: get it together, and he didn't, so I finally put 26 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 1: him out. Now he constantly tried to make me feel 27 00:01:37,400 --> 00:01:40,400 Speaker 1: bad for wanting more. Don't get me wrong, I love 28 00:01:40,480 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 1: this man, but I'm fed up. Should I just cut 29 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:45,600 Speaker 1: him off or continue to try to help him get 30 00:01:45,680 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 1: his life on track? I'm almost thirty and I want 31 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:51,640 Speaker 1: a family, but not with him if he can get 32 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: If he can't get it together, I don't want to 33 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:55,960 Speaker 1: keep wasting my time with him. What should I do? 34 00:01:56,200 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 1: I need your advice. All your answers are in the letter? 35 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:02,760 Speaker 1: Are all there? I mean, you're fed up? All right? 36 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:05,960 Speaker 1: You're you're thirty, you you're almost thirty. You want a family, 37 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:09,040 Speaker 1: but not with him if he can't get it together. 38 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:11,560 Speaker 1: I don't want to keep wasting my time with him. 39 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:13,800 Speaker 1: All your answers are right here in this letters. I 40 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 1: have some questions for you. Why should you help someone 41 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:20,320 Speaker 1: that doesn't want to help themselves? Why should you do that? 42 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:23,119 Speaker 1: Why do you want to help a man who constantly 43 00:02:23,240 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 1: puts you down? Constantly put you down. Why why do 44 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:29,400 Speaker 1: you want to live like that? You have way too 45 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 1: much going on. It's like Beyonce says in the letter 46 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 1: and in that song, hold up, don't try to slow 47 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:40,000 Speaker 1: me down. Listen, Please just keep him moving. Okay, you've 48 00:02:40,000 --> 00:02:42,320 Speaker 1: tried to help him. He doesn't want to help himself, 49 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:45,160 Speaker 1: he doesn't want to do better on his own. Okay, 50 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:48,639 Speaker 1: you can't help him. Um, you know you put him 51 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:52,480 Speaker 1: out already. You feel you feel like sorry for him 52 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:55,000 Speaker 1: or something. Right now, you have to keep it moving 53 00:02:55,040 --> 00:02:56,679 Speaker 1: and go on with your life. You've got a lot 54 00:02:56,760 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 1: going on, you have a lot on your plate. You know. 55 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:01,640 Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that you can't care about him, But 56 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:05,520 Speaker 1: as far as you know, picking him up and and 57 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:07,560 Speaker 1: doing all the things that you want to do, that's over. 58 00:03:07,680 --> 00:03:10,960 Speaker 1: You already put him out. Don't look back on this situation. 59 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:13,200 Speaker 1: Be his friend if he wants to talk or something 60 00:03:13,280 --> 00:03:16,760 Speaker 1: like that, but you're done with him. He can bring 61 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:18,880 Speaker 1: you down. He puts you down all the time. Don't 62 00:03:18,960 --> 00:03:23,120 Speaker 1: allow that. All right, move on with your life and 63 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 1: keep it moving, and don't let him make you feel 64 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:28,480 Speaker 1: guilty about it. Jack, have you ever heard of the 65 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 1: expressions people and this is how it said to people 66 00:03:32,280 --> 00:03:35,920 Speaker 1: who think they're being everybody else. That's this lady right here. 67 00:03:36,680 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: She thinks she bid everybody. You think, and it's always 68 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:46,880 Speaker 1: sad like that. You just think you bid everybody else, 69 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 1: not better bid everybody else. All I'm a sadden. You 70 00:03:51,320 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 1: got a little you know what they're bringing up with 71 00:03:53,320 --> 00:03:57,680 Speaker 1: your little job. You got a little baby. That's you 72 00:03:57,800 --> 00:04:04,160 Speaker 1: got your little Now you won't talk down to me, Well, 73 00:04:04,160 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 1: I'm fine with where I am. I ain't trying to 74 00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:11,640 Speaker 1: talk down and nobody see your problem and your problem 75 00:04:11,640 --> 00:04:17,279 Speaker 1: in your You think you bid everybody here better than 76 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:20,560 Speaker 1: that said that way, you think that you wouldn't school 77 00:04:20,839 --> 00:04:26,080 Speaker 1: you bidding everybody there the little apartment, you bid everybody, 78 00:04:27,279 --> 00:04:35,360 Speaker 1: You ain't bet nobody. You just like me, Just like me, 79 00:04:37,040 --> 00:04:39,919 Speaker 1: trying to bring me down, top down to me because 80 00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:42,279 Speaker 1: I ain't got a job. But you know what I 81 00:04:42,400 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: got me, that's all I need. You think you didn't 82 00:04:48,880 --> 00:04:57,839 Speaker 1: everybody you bid anybody? You ain't that nobody I'm doing 83 00:04:57,920 --> 00:05:01,359 Speaker 1: to your girl. Come on, let's go ahead and just 84 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:03,120 Speaker 1: put it out there at the bottom of the lit 85 00:05:03,400 --> 00:05:08,359 Speaker 1: is you won't too damn much. You won't too much. 86 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:11,640 Speaker 1: That's what's wrong with you. If he can't paid, he 87 00:05:11,920 --> 00:05:15,680 Speaker 1: can't stay. You won't too much with your greeting. But 88 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:25,040 Speaker 1: how about that, Yeah, if he can't paid, he can't stay. 89 00:05:25,200 --> 00:05:27,919 Speaker 1: How about you won't too much with your greeted. But 90 00:05:28,160 --> 00:05:31,120 Speaker 1: how about you got to call? You got to have 91 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 1: them call. You want your own place, You got to 92 00:05:33,720 --> 00:05:36,120 Speaker 1: have in you hadn't management. You've been want that. You 93 00:05:36,160 --> 00:05:38,640 Speaker 1: want to go on vacations, You want outlet. You want 94 00:05:38,640 --> 00:05:41,800 Speaker 1: somebody to pay this for you pay that. You won't 95 00:05:41,960 --> 00:05:45,240 Speaker 1: too much with your greeted. But that's what's wrong with 96 00:05:48,480 --> 00:05:51,680 Speaker 1: That's what's wrong. You got seeing this ladder while you 97 00:05:51,680 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: don't see that. You see that man struggling, He got folk, 98 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:57,240 Speaker 1: can't you see strug and you want to pile some 99 00:05:57,360 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 1: more on his plate? Now you want to get me 100 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:02,039 Speaker 1: a house of more babies? You see the man got 101 00:06:02,360 --> 00:06:05,880 Speaker 1: ba taking one of them, two kids and claim them. 102 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:07,880 Speaker 1: Why you got to go sitting this man through this? 103 00:06:11,200 --> 00:06:17,320 Speaker 1: How is this her fault? With folk? Kids? Much ship? 104 00:06:20,480 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 1: She picked him? She says she loved him. Love to 105 00:06:23,360 --> 00:06:29,400 Speaker 1: be unconditional, It only comes with conditions. I see not 106 00:06:31,120 --> 00:06:33,200 Speaker 1: since she got to go on vacation, what's wrong with 107 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:40,280 Speaker 1: she lived? It a nice vacation. She's in school, she works. 108 00:06:41,040 --> 00:06:44,919 Speaker 1: I want a vacation. Yeah, don't, don't do don't people 109 00:06:44,920 --> 00:06:47,680 Speaker 1: do stay cases all the time. Stay right there in vacation, 110 00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:52,960 Speaker 1: vacation in and then and see what divide look like. 111 00:06:53,000 --> 00:06:55,880 Speaker 1: You ain't got to go to do that. You ain't 112 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 1: got to run down in calaphone. You looking, but I'm 113 00:06:57,800 --> 00:06:59,400 Speaker 1: putting up on the internet. You can go to these 114 00:06:59,440 --> 00:07:04,680 Speaker 1: places at the tip of you, in your mind, in 115 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:07,040 Speaker 1: your mind. All right, come on, Junior, before we get out, 116 00:07:07,800 --> 00:07:13,360 Speaker 1: you're done with your stupidity and nephew Jill taste. Yeah, 117 00:07:13,360 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 1: I've got about thirty seconds. Where were you Jesus Teasus, Junior? 118 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:27,640 Speaker 1: Where were you in? Oh three? For me? Just where 119 00:07:27,800 --> 00:07:33,840 Speaker 1: was she in? O? Three? For me? Everyone's rhyming when 120 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:39,960 Speaker 1: everyone is rhyming this morning? Okay, she started, he can't 121 00:07:40,520 --> 00:07:44,320 Speaker 1: he can't stay and get out. Okay, we'll do part 122 00:07:44,360 --> 00:07:47,760 Speaker 1: two of this strawberry letter U when we come back 123 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:50,560 Speaker 1: at twenty three after Junior euroup, we'll be back. If 124 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:54,320 Speaker 1: you're listening to Steve Morning Show, all right, back to 125 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:57,640 Speaker 1: this crazy letter subject. If he can't pay, he can't stay. 126 00:07:57,760 --> 00:08:01,120 Speaker 1: Before we get to it, let's remind everyone. If you 127 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:04,640 Speaker 1: have relationship issues, you want us to give you some advice, 128 00:08:04,960 --> 00:08:07,960 Speaker 1: please send all your letters, all your Strawberry letters to 129 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey dot com. Okay, and we'll get to him 130 00:08:10,520 --> 00:08:13,200 Speaker 1: and uh we'll try and iron it out and help you, 131 00:08:13,280 --> 00:08:15,920 Speaker 1: just like we're trying to do with this young lady. Uh. 132 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:18,320 Speaker 1: It was written by a twenty seven year old lady. 133 00:08:18,600 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: The subject is if he can't pay, he can't stay. 134 00:08:21,800 --> 00:08:24,920 Speaker 1: She's twenty seven, she doesn't have any children, she's in management, 135 00:08:24,960 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 1: she has two cars, her own place. She's in school 136 00:08:27,680 --> 00:08:30,400 Speaker 1: full time, so she's got a full plate right there. 137 00:08:31,200 --> 00:08:33,440 Speaker 1: But here's her issue. She says she's dating a guy 138 00:08:33,480 --> 00:08:37,200 Speaker 1: that has nothing going on. They've been together for about 139 00:08:37,240 --> 00:08:40,080 Speaker 1: three years. He has four children, he doesn't have a car. 140 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:42,800 Speaker 1: They used to live together. She tried to help him, 141 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:45,319 Speaker 1: but he just wants to work these dead end jobs. 142 00:08:46,640 --> 00:08:48,720 Speaker 1: She told him that he should offer to pay some 143 00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:51,240 Speaker 1: of her bills, and he says she just watches too 144 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:54,200 Speaker 1: much love and hip hop. You know, she just wants 145 00:08:54,640 --> 00:08:58,720 Speaker 1: too much. Uh, she wants that kind of lifestyle. She says, 146 00:08:58,880 --> 00:09:01,080 Speaker 1: I don't see anything wrong with wanting nice things and 147 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:03,679 Speaker 1: going on nice vacations, and she wants a man who 148 00:09:03,760 --> 00:09:06,440 Speaker 1: can help her pay some bills, pay her rent, do 149 00:09:06,480 --> 00:09:09,000 Speaker 1: all of those nice things for her. She says she's 150 00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:12,559 Speaker 1: given him chance after chance, and um, you know, if 151 00:09:12,600 --> 00:09:16,880 Speaker 1: he doesn't get it together, well what the ultimate happens? 152 00:09:16,920 --> 00:09:19,320 Speaker 1: She finally had to put him out, but now he's 153 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:22,199 Speaker 1: constantly trying to make her feel bad for wanting more. 154 00:09:22,679 --> 00:09:24,679 Speaker 1: And she says she loves him, but she's fed up? 155 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:27,840 Speaker 1: Does she? The question is does she just cut him 156 00:09:27,880 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 1: off or continue to try to help him get his 157 00:09:30,240 --> 00:09:32,760 Speaker 1: life on track. She's almost thirty. She wants a family, 158 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:35,000 Speaker 1: but not with him if he doesn't get it together. 159 00:09:35,400 --> 00:09:38,520 Speaker 1: All right, she doesn't want to keep wasting her time? 160 00:09:38,600 --> 00:09:44,600 Speaker 1: What should she do? So? Um, she's wasted. That's all 161 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:50,720 Speaker 1: he has is time everything. She got a good job 162 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:56,679 Speaker 1: to cause a man. She wants a man to help her. 163 00:09:56,720 --> 00:09:59,800 Speaker 1: Come on, junior, what do you have? Tommy is on 164 00:09:59,840 --> 00:10:02,760 Speaker 1: the wrong side of this one? Actually, you know? Because 165 00:10:02,760 --> 00:10:04,439 Speaker 1: really I do? I do, and now I'm been about 166 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:07,280 Speaker 1: to be over there with them this. Don't get this confused. 167 00:10:08,280 --> 00:10:11,480 Speaker 1: I think the problem is it's not her. She's got 168 00:10:11,520 --> 00:10:14,600 Speaker 1: the wrong guy. See, if you're gonna get a nothing. Dude, 169 00:10:14,640 --> 00:10:16,480 Speaker 1: you should have gotten me, because where was you for 170 00:10:16,679 --> 00:10:20,480 Speaker 1: me in Oh three? I didn't have nothing going on. 171 00:10:21,760 --> 00:10:24,320 Speaker 1: If you don't have no money, you need extra skills. 172 00:10:24,679 --> 00:10:27,280 Speaker 1: You just cannot have no money and complain. Okay, I 173 00:10:27,280 --> 00:10:31,000 Speaker 1: don't have no money, but I can cook. Okay, say 174 00:10:31,080 --> 00:10:32,880 Speaker 1: you come home, you think about putting me out of 175 00:10:32,960 --> 00:10:34,880 Speaker 1: I can cook. I ain't got no money, but I 176 00:10:34,920 --> 00:10:36,800 Speaker 1: can watch them too calls. I know I can watch 177 00:10:36,840 --> 00:10:40,319 Speaker 1: them to call, so I can't had nothing going on 178 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:42,880 Speaker 1: oh three. See, that's why I think I should have 179 00:10:42,920 --> 00:10:44,920 Speaker 1: been there. She could have gave me a lot of motivation. 180 00:10:45,120 --> 00:10:46,600 Speaker 1: I know I don't have no money, but I tell 181 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:48,920 Speaker 1: you what, I can fold sheets, and that is diffic. 182 00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:54,679 Speaker 1: Call them skills to stay in that house. She had 183 00:10:54,720 --> 00:10:58,760 Speaker 1: the wrong he want to do nothing, just want I 184 00:10:58,760 --> 00:11:03,960 Speaker 1: would have been in there. Done still. April draws on 185 00:11:04,240 --> 00:11:07,040 Speaker 1: Dustin that I do something to stay in this house. 186 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:09,199 Speaker 1: So you can't have no money, Just be lazy, That's 187 00:11:09,200 --> 00:11:12,199 Speaker 1: all I'm saying. You cannot have it. I can't. I 188 00:11:12,240 --> 00:11:15,200 Speaker 1: ain't got no money, but I do kid homework real well. 189 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:20,800 Speaker 1: I'm really good at them kids homework. I know how 190 00:11:20,840 --> 00:11:23,000 Speaker 1: to do a love that I rub feet. I ain't 191 00:11:23,000 --> 00:11:25,040 Speaker 1: got no money, but I can rub feet make you 192 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:26,760 Speaker 1: feel like you got two new ones. Now. You just 193 00:11:26,840 --> 00:11:28,840 Speaker 1: ain't got no money. You just can't lay up in 194 00:11:28,880 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 1: that house. That's all I'm saying. That's right, that's right. 195 00:11:31,880 --> 00:11:35,800 Speaker 1: You're kind of on her side. Yeah, but he just nothing, dude, 196 00:11:36,200 --> 00:11:41,239 Speaker 1: that's right. Should move on something and you keep yeah, yeah, 197 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:46,679 Speaker 1: or you haven't to change your heart, nephew, No, no, 198 00:11:46,880 --> 00:11:49,559 Speaker 1: I'm not. I still think she's selfish because she has 199 00:11:49,600 --> 00:11:53,240 Speaker 1: a whole lot. She got a good job, nighthouse, two calls. 200 00:11:53,800 --> 00:11:55,560 Speaker 1: You know what more do you want? You got a 201 00:11:55,559 --> 00:11:58,240 Speaker 1: good man, she loves it. We're not a good man, 202 00:11:59,120 --> 00:12:07,839 Speaker 1: you know what. Surely the gerry ran into one yesterday. 203 00:12:08,840 --> 00:12:12,320 Speaker 1: Man and the dad. And that's what different y'all agree to. 204 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:19,280 Speaker 1: That's that's different. They meet. That's not what she's talking about. 205 00:12:19,440 --> 00:12:24,320 Speaker 1: This man home doing nothing. Yeah, he's doing nothing. She 206 00:12:24,400 --> 00:12:26,720 Speaker 1: needs to move on. She's been with this man for 207 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:28,920 Speaker 1: three years and all he does is put her down. No, 208 00:12:29,040 --> 00:12:31,400 Speaker 1: because she wants a better life. Come on now and 209 00:12:31,720 --> 00:12:34,720 Speaker 1: as hard as she's working. Sorry, guys, I don't agree 210 00:12:34,720 --> 00:12:38,040 Speaker 1: with you on this one. Sometimes nothing takes a lot 211 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:43,200 Speaker 1: of work, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you, thank you. 212 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:45,480 Speaker 1: We have to go okay, we have to move on. 213 00:12:45,559 --> 00:12:47,840 Speaker 1: You can email us or Instagram. 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