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Speaker 1: Oh my god, Hello, did you miss us?

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Speaker 2: I know I did, Jordan, and I hope.

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Speaker 1: That you guys had a beautiful summer break. This is

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Speaker 1: adulting and I'm Michelle Mite.

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Speaker 3: And I'm Jordan Carlos, and we are back to help

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Speaker 3: you through all things adulting.

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Speaker 1: And guess what, everybody, we are a weekly show now, okay,

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Speaker 1: so you can get us in your ears every single week.

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Speaker 1: Just stuff us in your little holes.

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Speaker 3: Huge news you'll never get second us.

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Speaker 1: Jordan, I just realized two days after pouring rain that

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Speaker 1: my basement got flooded, two.

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Speaker 2: Days after you realize after down there, look at that.

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Speaker 1: No, I don't go to the basement. I'd be watching

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Speaker 1: them movies. I don't fuck with the basement. I even

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Speaker 1: still run up really fast, like someone's chasing my feet. Yes.

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Speaker 1: My husband's like, we should turn the attic into like

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Speaker 1: a sitting room. I'm like, where's the killer gonna live?

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Speaker 1: You don't because I'm sure somebody's living in the and

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Speaker 1: I don't give a shit as long as they pick

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Speaker 3: But like, hold on, so wait, what was flooded? How deep?

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Speaker 3: Where was it at? What's the problem? Do you need

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Speaker 1: These are all follow up questions that I should go

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Speaker 1: to Anglie's list and figure out. Honey, come on, I

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Speaker 1: got big titties and freckles. You think I know about flooding? No? No,

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Speaker 1: oh my goodness. First of all, hello, everybody, welcome to adulting.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know what it is. At this point,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna shall you tell us Jordan Carlos. Look, this

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Speaker 1: is not a humble brag. I worked really hard. I'm

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Speaker 1: a homeowner. It is a full time job. All the

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like the silent killer. You don't want that.

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Speaker 2: It's not cute.

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Speaker 1: It's not cute. And you know who's cute?

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Speaker 2: Sorry, very cute.

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Speaker 1: Why are you saying it like that?

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Speaker 2: Because I've got.

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Speaker 3: I'm trying to eat a salad and talk to you

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Speaker 3: at the same time, and it's yeah, you're.

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Speaker 1: Trying to eat a salad and like have me do

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Speaker 1: all the talking, which is fine by me. This is

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Speaker 3: It there's lots of people out here that love salad

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Speaker 3: amsr oh god, I'm about to put some ranch on this.

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Speaker 1: I feel like that's all the internet is right now.

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Speaker 1: I feel like my kid's growing up watching the internet.

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Speaker 1: They're just gonna think that cooking is just whispering and

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Speaker 2: Are there any more steps other than that?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, if you're reading a recipe your hands are dirty.

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Speaker 1: You're like, wait, what does it say half of what?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, your cussin half the time? Yeah, tea spoon versus tablespoon. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Can I just say you're the one taking this off track?

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Speaker 1: Because what out was trying to say is, yes, be

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Speaker 2: Why?

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Speaker 1: Because we have to take care of our homes and

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Speaker 1: At this point, it feels like it requires more work.

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Speaker 1: Al Roca, why can you tell me, al Roca.

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Speaker 3: It's a good problem to have. But yes, there's always

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Speaker 3: And that's not cool. So I have to go out

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Speaker 2: Then it just like sucks all the water down, and I'm.

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Speaker 1: Like, what in the All black reboot of Tornado is

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Speaker 3: But basement apartments in New York City's real people are like, oh, I.

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Speaker 2: Can fuck with this is somebodice baseball apartment. And then your.

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Speaker 1: Shits so many things happen. Yeah, your shit's fucked because

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Speaker 2: But we both have one hundred year old houses, right,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, everybody, I got a hundred year old house.

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Speaker 2: It's held up by hope streams and aarp.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I have leaks too, It's yeah. I mean I

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Speaker 3: But the upkeep is real. Yep, keep it so real.

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Speaker 3: Maybe I need to go retire and go to Boca

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Speaker 1: Please don't because the podcast would not be happening if

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Speaker 1: you no shape to Boco. But also shape. Yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: interesting because these houses are beautiful because they're essentially like landmarks,

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Yes, yes, but it's like,

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Speaker 1: We can retual metal bullshit right now. But we just

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Speaker 1: better standards. You remember that building that collapsed in Florida,

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Speaker 1: Bridges collapsed a ship, Come on now, don't do that

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Speaker 3: Was a parking garage collapse here in New York City

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Speaker 3: you got to pay the park had to pay for that.

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Speaker 1: I mean, that's crazy, that's crazy. One of the first

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Speaker 1: time I took my minivan. Yes, motherfuckers, I got a

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Speaker 1: mini van. You heard that right, Sure she does, but

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Speaker 1: The first time I took my vidiman into a parking

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Speaker 2: Guys were taming me.

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Speaker 1: I was was purposely driving the side of my minivan

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Speaker 2: And these guys were running behind me.

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Speaker 3: Miss no, miss I'm like, I got it.

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Speaker 3: No listen driving a mini van in those narrow parking lots.

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Speaker 1: When I got home, yes, he is like, what happened?

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Speaker 1: What happened? And I was like, Frank Red tomatoes. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you have to get a bumped out? What does that mean?

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Speaker 1: Why are you saying things like I'm your bro that

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Speaker 2: Bumping out means you took the dents off the side.

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Speaker 1: Bumping out mean something different than me, bitch.

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Speaker 3: You buff out or bump out a dent and then

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Speaker 2: There was a lot of that. There was a lot

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Speaker 3: Listen, it's like trying to get like an overgrown watermelon, right,

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Speaker 2: It's like it's just like you can't. You can't round

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Speaker 1: It was giving, like, oh my god, it was giving

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Speaker 1: That was like a dog. That's what driving a minivan

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Speaker 1: in New York City is like, Dan, here's the minivan shame.

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Speaker 1: Some parking lots don't even take minivans. What they don't

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Speaker 1: I said, it's the same spot. What's the extra for?

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Speaker 3: Save your life though, you know, save your life or

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Speaker 3: so what I'm saying, Wow, I didn't know there was

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Speaker 3: Turns out, turns out not the case. Not the motherfucking case.

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Speaker 2: How fast can you get in that thing?

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Speaker 1: How fast can I get in it? Or get up?

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Speaker 2: How fast does it go?

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Speaker 1: Stop? Why are you talking to me like I'm Danica

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Speaker 1: It goes fast enough to go to daycare and get

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, okay, But what was driving like in the

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Speaker 1: I can't imagine either. But you know what I can't

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Speaker 1: It's so exciting, bitch. You know, I'm gonna give you

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Speaker 1: He is our DJ Don Will, and he's here with

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Speaker 1: can't wait to talk to him. This is gonna be

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Speaker 1: very exciting. Hold on to your airhorns, bitches. It's done Will.

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Speaker 2: Oh shit, isn't done Will. They said it would never happen.

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Speaker 3: They said it would never happen, but we defied the Oh.

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Speaker 1: I'm so excited, so excited because, like, you know, you

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Speaker 1: answer questions that the audience ask, and that's cool. But

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Speaker 1: now we can actually sit down and wrap with you

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Speaker 1: and figure out what's going on in your life. And

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Speaker 1: I feel like every time we have like a little keykey,

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Speaker 1: I'm like, we gotta talk about that on the show.

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Speaker 1: So let's talk about it.

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Speaker 2: Let's get into it.

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Speaker 1: Congratulations on winning a Webby Award.

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Speaker 3: Yes, thank you, thank you, And I'm in therapy right now.

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Speaker 3: How to accept compliments so I appreciate it from both

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Speaker 3: I woke up to it. I looked at my phone

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Speaker 1: There's that thing where it's just like how the fuck

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Speaker 1: Also, one thing I didn't realize about Don, which I

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Speaker 2: In general, I'm a very punctual person. It's true.

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Speaker 2: It's just all baked in. So now it's like.

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Speaker 3: There used to be these really great uh I don't

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Speaker 2: It was a modern fix for modern times, you know

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Speaker 3: Greasy, needed something greasy eat the sop up that ship, yes.

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Speaker 2: Yes, of course hungover. Some of my best work.

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Speaker 3: It was that that mid twenties. We were out drinking

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Speaker 1: I never could do a Yager bomb that. I was like,

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Speaker 3: Here's the question about shot. Are there any delicious shots?

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Speaker 3: Are there any good shots yet?

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Speaker 1: You know what, A lemon drop ain't bad.

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Speaker 1: It definitely is giving type two diabetes. It's very sweet.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I never do them. I'm more like

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Speaker 1: What's the face?

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Speaker 3: Like that hurts you? I mean, you can't do that

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Speaker 3: I feel like getting drunk as a forty year old adult,

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Speaker 3: out to Michelle. I was not a rose person before

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00:18:58,280 --> 00:19:00,520
Speaker 3: the house party, but I'll have two glasses of wine

442
00:19:00,600 --> 00:19:04,000
Speaker 3: or rose are just a beer, and literally the next

443
00:19:04,080 --> 00:19:07,920
Speaker 3: day I won't be wrecked, but I'll be noticeably sluggish.

444
00:19:08,200 --> 00:19:10,080
Speaker 2: Oh no, we're so old.

445
00:19:10,440 --> 00:19:12,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what that means, guys, what you got

446
00:19:12,600 --> 00:19:13,640
Speaker 3: to move on to other stuff.

447
00:19:13,960 --> 00:19:16,880
Speaker 2: Like I was in Canada. I did shrooms. Oh my god.

448
00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:17,960
Speaker 2: I felt like a little gnome.

449
00:19:18,280 --> 00:19:20,640
Speaker 3: I was going crazy on shrooms and you know what,

450
00:19:21,200 --> 00:19:22,040
Speaker 3: there's no hangover.

451
00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:23,720
Speaker 2: It felt great.

452
00:19:23,920 --> 00:19:26,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, I saw some old relatives and everything like that.

453
00:19:26,520 --> 00:19:28,879
Speaker 3: It was fantastic. You know, you saw them in person,

454
00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:32,240
Speaker 3: or the shrooms that came to you as hallucinations from

455
00:19:32,240 --> 00:19:36,520
Speaker 3: the as you know, as like you know, yes, as hallucinations.

456
00:19:36,760 --> 00:19:40,600
Speaker 2: But it was all good, you know, it was all good.

457
00:19:40,600 --> 00:19:42,240
Speaker 2: I was like in nature. It was great.

458
00:19:42,320 --> 00:19:43,960
Speaker 3: You feel the oneness of everything, and you know what,

459
00:19:44,000 --> 00:19:46,040
Speaker 3: when it's done, is done, and it's not like there's

460
00:19:46,040 --> 00:19:47,320
Speaker 3: no hangover, which I really like.

461
00:19:47,520 --> 00:19:50,199
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't like a residual hangover. I don't like

462
00:19:50,240 --> 00:19:52,880
Speaker 1: that at all. Like go away, yeah, work yourself out

463
00:19:52,880 --> 00:19:56,120
Speaker 1: of my system. You know, I was thinking, I think

464
00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:59,520
Speaker 1: why we work as a trio is because we're pretty

465
00:19:59,560 --> 00:20:01,800
Speaker 1: much on this page right, Like if we have a

466
00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:04,479
Speaker 1: problem or an issue, we could talk about it and

467
00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:07,359
Speaker 1: move on from it, which is very nice. Yeah, and

468
00:20:07,480 --> 00:20:10,360
Speaker 1: also like, I don't think i've seen y'all sloppy at all.

469
00:20:10,880 --> 00:20:12,639
Speaker 2: Yes, we also usually do the same.

470
00:20:12,560 --> 00:20:16,120
Speaker 3: Drugs, so that's important.

471
00:20:16,200 --> 00:20:18,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know Michelle really wants to see me sloppy.

472
00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:21,440
Speaker 1: I don't. I thought I did. I thought I did.

473
00:20:21,520 --> 00:20:25,280
Speaker 1: Now I don't, because seeing someone sloppy in your forties

474
00:20:25,320 --> 00:20:28,840
Speaker 1: now in your fifties just hits different way different. It

475
00:20:28,960 --> 00:20:30,840
Speaker 1: just hits in like a sad way where I'm just

476
00:20:30,880 --> 00:20:32,560
Speaker 1: like it is Telerpara gonna write a movie about this,

477
00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:36,240
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. It's just like my hug

478
00:20:36,320 --> 00:20:39,600
Speaker 1: can't save you type shit. Yeah, you know, like even

479
00:20:39,640 --> 00:20:43,520
Speaker 1: in your late thirties early forties, it's just like, uh, oh,

480
00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:45,960
Speaker 1: I'm so busy working my job. I forgot to have

481
00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:49,840
Speaker 1: lunch and I'm getting tipsy. But like when people are

482
00:20:49,880 --> 00:20:53,520
Speaker 1: just like slumped over, like mean and shit and don't

483
00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:56,520
Speaker 1: remember where they live and shit. It's like, oh my god.

484
00:20:56,920 --> 00:20:58,880
Speaker 3: I'm trying to remember the last time I was even

485
00:20:58,920 --> 00:21:01,359
Speaker 3: sloppy in general, and it had to be like a

486
00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:02,120
Speaker 3: decade ago.

487
00:21:02,400 --> 00:21:02,800
Speaker 2: I guess it.

488
00:21:02,840 --> 00:21:05,680
Speaker 3: Definitely wasn't anytime in recent memory, you know what I'm saying.

489
00:21:05,760 --> 00:21:07,440
Speaker 3: And I think that too much for me to drink.

490
00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:11,480
Speaker 3: I'm always hyper aware of my surroundings and myself. Somebody

491
00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:13,359
Speaker 3: was talking about doing MDMA or some shit and like

492
00:21:13,400 --> 00:21:15,000
Speaker 3: how it opens you up and frees you, it makes

493
00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:16,760
Speaker 3: you feel a little bit loose. I'm scared of that

494
00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:19,320
Speaker 3: because I think I'll get sloppy and too loose. So

495
00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:21,520
Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't want to do any drugs that'll

496
00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:22,000
Speaker 3: make me loose.

497
00:21:22,200 --> 00:21:22,560
Speaker 2: You won't.

498
00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:26,960
Speaker 1: You know why, because my manager came to Amsterdam like

499
00:21:27,080 --> 00:21:32,240
Speaker 1: years ago, years ago. She's very reserved, and I'm like,

500
00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:35,159
Speaker 1: we're doing this and we did it, and you don't me.

501
00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:37,840
Speaker 1: Everything's heightened. So I'm just like, I love you, I

502
00:21:37,880 --> 00:21:40,600
Speaker 1: love you. You're gonna make it. We're gonna be great, right,

503
00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:44,119
Speaker 1: just loving on everybody, And she literally turns to me

504
00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:45,600
Speaker 1: and she goes you look pretty today.

505
00:21:45,880 --> 00:21:48,400
Speaker 2: I was like, Okay, oh wow, you know what I mean.

506
00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:51,760
Speaker 1: It's just the elevation for certain people.

507
00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:54,840
Speaker 2: Just it's right. So I've been micro dos and shrooms

508
00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:55,960
Speaker 2: for a couple months now.

509
00:21:56,080 --> 00:21:56,920
Speaker 1: I didn't know that.

510
00:21:57,200 --> 00:21:58,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't do them every day. I do them

511
00:21:58,600 --> 00:21:59,399
Speaker 2: like every three days.

512
00:21:59,480 --> 00:21:59,960
Speaker 1: Yum.

513
00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:04,040
Speaker 3: Jordan knows the way, and honestly, like every time I

514
00:22:04,160 --> 00:22:06,320
Speaker 3: do it. China, my partner, She'll like, I don't tell

515
00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:07,639
Speaker 3: her what I'm doing. I'll just like do it, and

516
00:22:07,640 --> 00:22:09,720
Speaker 3: then I'll just be like, hey, you know sometimes I

517
00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:11,720
Speaker 3: like look around the apartment and the plants are just

518
00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:15,239
Speaker 3: like radiant. She's just like he's on mushrooms. And then

519
00:22:15,280 --> 00:22:18,040
Speaker 3: we get into like these wonderful conversations about life and

520
00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:19,159
Speaker 3: love and work and stuff.

521
00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:21,360
Speaker 2: And then the next day I wake up and I'm

522
00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:23,159
Speaker 2: just like, ah, eat my coffee. I can't talk to

523
00:22:23,200 --> 00:22:23,720
Speaker 2: you right now.

524
00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:26,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I know now that, like I've tried everything.

525
00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:30,800
Speaker 3: I've tried coffee and jitters and anxiety, and that's not

526
00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 3: a great way to get through life.

527
00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:34,680
Speaker 2: So like microdosing, I'm all for.

528
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:38,040
Speaker 3: Especially you take that Eddie when you need to put

529
00:22:38,040 --> 00:22:44,200
Speaker 3: the kids to bed, Eddie before Betty yeah, Eddie before

530
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,800
Speaker 3: Betty Steady. That is so helpful because my son will

531
00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:47,120
Speaker 3: be like.

532
00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:53,080
Speaker 2: Can I read a Noble book please? Like sure, what's

533
00:22:53,119 --> 00:22:54,520
Speaker 2: doctor sus Scott Force? Now?

534
00:22:54,600 --> 00:22:57,520
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I turn into like a negotiator, and

535
00:22:57,560 --> 00:22:59,959
Speaker 1: not like a cute one, like a Sam Jackson negotiator.

536
00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:06,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, like, it's like I am not myself when

537
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:07,480
Speaker 1: my kids have had a snickers.

538
00:23:07,600 --> 00:23:10,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, your kids are so well behaved though, they're so great.

539
00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:13,760
Speaker 3: They were over at my office time and that sounds crazy,

540
00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:14,200
Speaker 3: but they were.

541
00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:15,639
Speaker 1: They had a pitch.

542
00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:16,600
Speaker 2: It was a hot pitch.

543
00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:20,360
Speaker 3: They're an official kid business with the little kiddie briefcases.

544
00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:22,000
Speaker 2: Yes, Otis had a folio.

545
00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:27,480
Speaker 3: Otis would have a folio that makes it cars for kids, Yeah,

546
00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:29,359
Speaker 3: the one and hit cards for kids. Pitch was pretty

547
00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:32,120
Speaker 3: good until I realized I'd be giving my car so.

548
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:35,600
Speaker 2: But no, they were so cute running around.

549
00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:38,680
Speaker 3: I mean they're like really mild manner, like hat soft

550
00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:41,640
Speaker 3: to you, Michelle, and I think you're doing it right.

551
00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:42,720
Speaker 2: I think you're doing it right.

552
00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:46,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you. I'm trying. It'll change they get older.

553
00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:51,440
Speaker 1: Things happened, but while I'm still here, we got manners.

554
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:53,440
Speaker 2: In this economy with them, curl.

555
00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:57,960
Speaker 1: We're gonna be polite. We gotta say please and thank

556
00:23:58,000 --> 00:23:59,600
Speaker 1: you and give turns.

557
00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:20,560
Speaker 3: And truly, your daughter's older, right, yeah, she's thirteen.

558
00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:22,480
Speaker 2: What did she think of you getting the webby?

559
00:24:23,520 --> 00:24:28,399
Speaker 3: She is very internal. She won't outward and be like,

560
00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:30,240
Speaker 3: oh my god, dad, I'm so proud. She'll like make

561
00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:32,880
Speaker 3: a weird joke. Oh, like she'll like, I can't wait

562
00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:34,480
Speaker 3: to come up to New York and hang out with

563
00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 3: you and steal your webby from you, or something like that.

564
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:39,360
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. I guess it's never She's

565
00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:42,040
Speaker 3: not like an outwardly emotional person, which I.

566
00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:43,240
Speaker 2: Just wanted some time to like, I just want to

567
00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:45,399
Speaker 2: hug and be your dad. I love you so much.

568
00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:49,120
Speaker 2: She's just kind of like dad, No, oh no, dad, Yeah.

569
00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:51,480
Speaker 1: My daughter's like that at four. Want to give her

570
00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:53,880
Speaker 1: like a lot of hugs, and she's like, I will

571
00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:55,040
Speaker 1: see from what.

572
00:24:54,960 --> 00:24:56,920
Speaker 2: I can what I can gage. She's like a very

573
00:24:57,000 --> 00:24:57,760
Speaker 2: sensitive person.

574
00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:01,400
Speaker 3: So like for her, any sort of that armor is

575
00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:05,480
Speaker 3: like a big open emotional thing. I think that especially

576
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:07,879
Speaker 3: as they get older and as the world kind of

577
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:09,600
Speaker 3: starts to corrode it.

578
00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 2: Whatever that thing is you try to instill at them.

579
00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:13,720
Speaker 3: All you can do is like set them up for

580
00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:15,959
Speaker 3: success in that way where you like arm them with

581
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:17,760
Speaker 3: what you just said, Like you know, we're gonna say please,

582
00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 3: we're gonna be patient with our turn.

583
00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:21,320
Speaker 2: We're gonna not.

584
00:25:20,440 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 3: Not like you know what I'm saying, not be offensive

585
00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:24,880
Speaker 3: unless somebody puts you in that position.

586
00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:25,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, all that.

587
00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:29,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's absolutely just dealing with the world in ways

588
00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:31,080
Speaker 3: that we can't save them from. They have to like

589
00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:33,760
Speaker 3: have their interactions and come home with it and then

590
00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:35,679
Speaker 3: just kind of figure out how to parse it.

591
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:38,520
Speaker 2: But yes, the thing that's dope is that we still talk.

592
00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:41,520
Speaker 3: She communicates with me about like school, and about her friends,

593
00:25:41,560 --> 00:25:43,800
Speaker 3: and about things that she may or may not like.

594
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:45,600
Speaker 2: And I think that that's the gym.

595
00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:48,719
Speaker 3: Like she might not share with me what her favorite

596
00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:50,440
Speaker 3: musical act is, or she might be like, I don't

597
00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:52,280
Speaker 3: want to show you my drawings anymore, Dad, but she

598
00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 3: will absolutely tell me if something's going bad at school, you.

599
00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:55,280
Speaker 2: Know what I'm saying.

600
00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like it's a bigger deal. Well, she's

601
00:25:57,840 --> 00:25:59,679
Speaker 3: got her own private life, but she lets you in

602
00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:03,639
Speaker 3: for her personal life. Yeah, absolutely, absolutely, Oh that's so great.

603
00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:05,639
Speaker 3: I give her a space to have her own private

604
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:06,959
Speaker 3: life as well, Like you know what I'm saying, I'm

605
00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:09,480
Speaker 3: definitely I mean, I'm going to creep my head in

606
00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:10,920
Speaker 3: and see it, like what's going on?

607
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:11,680
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah.

608
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,600
Speaker 3: But for the most part, like I remember, I always

609
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:17,239
Speaker 3: think about myself at thirteen and myself as like a

610
00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:20,600
Speaker 3: preteen or a teen was like yeah, yeah, yeah.

611
00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:21,280
Speaker 1: Who were you?

612
00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:28,600
Speaker 3: I was popular, a little popularteen thirteen, No, middle school,

613
00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:30,960
Speaker 3: Donald was awkward. I had just came from an all

614
00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:34,159
Speaker 3: white Catholic school, oh no, and been put into an

615
00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:37,760
Speaker 3: all black public school. So there was this level of

616
00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:39,879
Speaker 3: culture shock and trying to figure out how to relate

617
00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:43,280
Speaker 3: to how to relate to black people and myself, And

618
00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:44,960
Speaker 3: the way that I found to do it was through

619
00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:49,080
Speaker 3: fashion and music, mostly music, but fashion was like, you know,

620
00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:51,160
Speaker 3: in the black community, you got some cool shoes.

621
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:52,520
Speaker 2: They're like, oh I see you, I see you out there.

622
00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:55,159
Speaker 3: What are those Jordan's So like That's why shoes are

623
00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:56,639
Speaker 3: such a big deal to me, because they was like

624
00:26:56,680 --> 00:26:58,440
Speaker 3: they were the first way I could communicate and then

625
00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:01,119
Speaker 3: say you guys like, oh man, I like your shoes.

626
00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:03,760
Speaker 3: I'm like, have you heard the new Trip called Quest album?

627
00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:07,600
Speaker 3: Like yeah, I'm like Okay, we're friends now. So it

628
00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:10,240
Speaker 3: was kind of like finding ways to communicate with people

629
00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:12,280
Speaker 3: non verbally because I wasn't shy.

630
00:27:12,680 --> 00:27:13,920
Speaker 2: I was just guarded, you know.

631
00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:16,720
Speaker 3: I found that people when I would show them my

632
00:27:16,760 --> 00:27:23,240
Speaker 3: collection of spores and moles, they didn't have the same respect. Okay,

633
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:27,560
Speaker 3: your bio tells me that you went then in college

634
00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:31,840
Speaker 3: from you Cincinnati, great school, great program, all the way

635
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:34,040
Speaker 3: to North Carolina A and T great school, great program.

636
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:39,880
Speaker 1: I love him.

637
00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:42,880
Speaker 3: What was that like, because I know you Cincinnati, Yeah,

638
00:27:42,880 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 3: that's a white school. Yeah, and then you went to

639
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:48,679
Speaker 3: an HPCU. That was culture shock in a different way.

640
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:51,240
Speaker 3: At that point, I was very much immersed in like culture,

641
00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:52,960
Speaker 3: and I was around my people, was feeling good.

642
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:53,680
Speaker 2: It was lovely, but.

643
00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:56,240
Speaker 3: It was also like this, yeah, like I would come

644
00:27:56,280 --> 00:27:58,200
Speaker 3: in the walls of school and it's black and it's

645
00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:00,600
Speaker 3: majority black high school, and like know with children.

646
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 2: Now we go outside and it's just white white and

647
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:04,399
Speaker 2: it's white, white white.

648
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:06,600
Speaker 3: Then I went to North Carolina and tea and it

649
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:09,560
Speaker 3: was literally like I remember after a week or two

650
00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:11,560
Speaker 3: there being like I haven't seen a white person.

651
00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 2: How are they? How are the whites doing you?

652
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:17,880
Speaker 1: Guys? I don't even understand it was.

653
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:20,240
Speaker 2: It was. I would say I was one of the

654
00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:21,840
Speaker 2: most formative experiences in my life.

655
00:28:21,880 --> 00:28:25,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely, hands down, one of the things that you know,

656
00:28:25,400 --> 00:28:27,800
Speaker 3: I'm one of those people that like, I'm like, college

657
00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 3: is an expense. Is an expense. Sometimes you need it,

658
00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:31,359
Speaker 3: sometimes you don't. If my daughter doesn't want to go

659
00:28:31,400 --> 00:28:33,320
Speaker 3: to college, it's a conversation. I'm not tripping, you know

660
00:28:33,359 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 3: what I'm saying.

661
00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:37,320
Speaker 1: I'm right there with you. Because college was not for me.

662
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:40,959
Speaker 1: I didn't even realize that I was dyslexic or you know,

663
00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:44,320
Speaker 1: that I had like an attention deficit, Like there were

664
00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:46,760
Speaker 1: so many things that could have been done differently. But

665
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:48,920
Speaker 1: thank God for the arts because I really do feel

666
00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 1: like it saved me. But again, I was too shy

667
00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:53,080
Speaker 1: to even take an acting class in college, so I

668
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:55,680
Speaker 1: was just like, you know, kind of like this late bloomer,

669
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:58,000
Speaker 1: but my body had already bloomed. So I'm just like,

670
00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:00,360
Speaker 1: what what is this I.

671
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:01,080
Speaker 2: Was supposed to do?

672
00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:05,080
Speaker 3: It's absolutely not for everybody, and the people that it's

673
00:29:05,160 --> 00:29:08,600
Speaker 3: not for who end up there anyway, Like, there were

674
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:11,880
Speaker 3: so many people in our generation that were promised jobs

675
00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:14,480
Speaker 3: and all these things upon having a degree and you

676
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:17,080
Speaker 3: leave college and you're like trying to get a job

677
00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:19,120
Speaker 3: at a watch kiosk in the mall or something.

678
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:20,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, with a bachelor's.

679
00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 1: Degree, No shame.

680
00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 2: Oh tiktoks, no shame for a good spot. Rvis Yea.

681
00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:28,440
Speaker 3: Let me ask you this though, So, like, I just

682
00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:30,800
Speaker 3: was wondering at what point music came in.

683
00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 2: I mean, you're a prolific musician.

684
00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 3: I even heard your music on a podcast called slow

685
00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:37,680
Speaker 3: Burn about Biggie and Tupac, and I was like, yo,

686
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:39,240
Speaker 3: don is everywhere.

687
00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:42,120
Speaker 2: So I just need to know that inflection point. What

688
00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 2: was that for you? That was college?

689
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:45,000
Speaker 3: That was one of the reasons why college is one

690
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:47,080
Speaker 3: of the most formative experiences in my life is because

691
00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:50,640
Speaker 3: it was where I found other people who were as

692
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:53,080
Speaker 3: into the things that I was into, and.

693
00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 2: We were was that that Petri Dish.

694
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:57,520
Speaker 3: We were all confined to this space and we were like,

695
00:29:57,560 --> 00:29:59,720
Speaker 3: we didn't have anything but each other, so we just

696
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:01,640
Speaker 3: start to make a music and hanging out. That was

697
00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:04,160
Speaker 3: one hundred percent where I'd kind of made that decision

698
00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 3: to go into the arts and go into music.

699
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:07,239
Speaker 1: Oh I love that.

700
00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:07,760
Speaker 2: Wow.

701
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:10,840
Speaker 3: So sports and Molts, Sports and Molts and Petridish yeah,

702
00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:11,760
Speaker 3: absolutely beautiful.

703
00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:15,720
Speaker 1: Oh my god. Okay, this is very exciting because usually

704
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:18,680
Speaker 1: when Down's up the show, he is the DJ, he's

705
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:20,840
Speaker 1: doing air horns, he's also jumping in doing questions. But

706
00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 1: now we have you all to ourselves and we can

707
00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 1: ask you questions that the audience has sent in for us.

708
00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:27,440
Speaker 1: So here we go.

709
00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 2: Oh oh, hot seat, trying to turn up.

710
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:31,880
Speaker 1: I'm single in my late forties, and I'm ready for

711
00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 1: my first threesome. That took a turn, but it always do.

712
00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:40,480
Speaker 1: But how do you have any tips?

713
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 2: Oh, my gosh, first threesome.

714
00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:45,840
Speaker 3: I have some tips, but no, go on, I mean, okay,

715
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:48,720
Speaker 3: I never so this will be interesting. I would say

716
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 3: I've had a couple of failed threesomes. Oh that's a

717
00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:55,320
Speaker 3: whole other thing. But I would say the first rule

718
00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 3: of having a threesome from a person that's had a

719
00:30:57,520 --> 00:31:00,360
Speaker 3: failed threesome is be sober. If there is drug and

720
00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:03,480
Speaker 3: alcohol involved, like one or two drinks, nothing sloppy. You

721
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:05,240
Speaker 3: don't want to be sloppy. Oh yeah, and the other

722
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:07,680
Speaker 3: one is, obviously, you know, consent. I don't think that

723
00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:10,080
Speaker 3: needed to be said, but yeah, absolutely should be. Yeah,

724
00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 3: I'm sorry. The question was how to find the threesome.

725
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:15,360
Speaker 1: No, it was like I'm ready for it, but I

726
00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:17,200
Speaker 1: guess I guess it is like how.

727
00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:19,720
Speaker 2: Oh, there's there's an app for it. Feel get on feel.

728
00:31:20,480 --> 00:31:22,760
Speaker 1: Usually I'm just like, don't prepare, just be out there

729
00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:24,280
Speaker 1: and like be open. But I think for a threesome

730
00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:25,160
Speaker 1: you should definitely prepare.

731
00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:25,840
Speaker 2: Absolutely.

732
00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:27,400
Speaker 1: I don't think it should be anyone that you know.

733
00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:30,880
Speaker 1: I know that sounds good, but don't get involved with anyone,

734
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:33,360
Speaker 1: you know. I think when you do meet the person,

735
00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:36,880
Speaker 1: they're people. Yes, when you do meet the people, like

736
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:40,200
Speaker 1: definitely talk about what you like and don't like, like

737
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:43,640
Speaker 1: definitely a safety word and shit right. I also think

738
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:46,000
Speaker 1: like be prepared to like, like one person more.

739
00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:48,120
Speaker 2: Oh, they're gonna get more ice cream.

740
00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:50,760
Speaker 1: Oh god, Jordan, Jesus.

741
00:31:50,440 --> 00:31:52,560
Speaker 2: There's a delegation of work that happens.

742
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:55,000
Speaker 1: He's so oh he's such a creepy dad.

743
00:31:55,960 --> 00:31:56,440
Speaker 2: My god.

744
00:31:56,640 --> 00:31:58,280
Speaker 3: Can you imagine somebody saying that in the middle of

745
00:31:58,280 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 3: a threesome, I'm gonna give you more ice cream?

746
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:00,280
Speaker 2: Ugh?

747
00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 1: No, in group sex and ice cream, copper coats, sprinkles. Ultimately,

748
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:08,239
Speaker 1: whoever wrote this question, I just want to let you know,

749
00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:11,480
Speaker 1: good for you for exploring your sexuality. In your forties.

750
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 1: I think, like, I don't know, I'm assuming that you've

751
00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:15,479
Speaker 1: been having sex for a while, but it's sort of

752
00:32:15,520 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 1: like going to college in your forties compared to your twenties,

753
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:20,480
Speaker 1: Like you're just like more mature. You can handle things

754
00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:23,200
Speaker 1: better and you can have more fun. So definitely make

755
00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 1: it about you. If you're co producing this threesome, you'd

756
00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:27,640
Speaker 1: be the Beyonce at this Coachella.

757
00:32:27,680 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 3: Okay, bitch, co producing the threesome is a wild sentence

758
00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:33,680
Speaker 3: and I love it.

759
00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:35,719
Speaker 2: Okay.

760
00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:37,960
Speaker 1: Next question, I have gained a lot of weight with

761
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:40,640
Speaker 1: age and can't find the time to exercise. Do you

762
00:32:40,680 --> 00:32:43,680
Speaker 1: have any hacks or tips for a working mom who's

763
00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:45,200
Speaker 1: ready for a healthier lifestyle.

764
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 2: I would say, cut sugar oo.

765
00:32:48,760 --> 00:32:50,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, like everywhere, in as.

766
00:32:50,760 --> 00:32:52,960
Speaker 3: Many places as you can cut it or monitor it

767
00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 3: very closely. When you take sugar out of your diet everywhere, Yeah,

768
00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:58,600
Speaker 3: the pounds start to melt. You know what I'm saying.

769
00:32:58,640 --> 00:33:00,680
Speaker 3: Sugar and portion controler the two things, at least in

770
00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:08,120
Speaker 3: my opinion, John, we have lost the audience. Okay, you

771
00:33:08,160 --> 00:33:10,840
Speaker 3: can switch to certain things, right, like the darker chocolate. Yeah,

772
00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:13,040
Speaker 3: that seems to be really good, right, yeah, the deep

773
00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:17,080
Speaker 3: cacao cow. It's hard to find the time.

774
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:19,320
Speaker 1: But like for me, I do like a little zoom

775
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:22,000
Speaker 1: like a little half hour zoom workout, and then like

776
00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 1: I'll do like one in person workout where like I

777
00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:26,960
Speaker 1: wear my new exercise outfit. Do you know what I mean?

778
00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:30,040
Speaker 1: I always say buying like a new thing to go

779
00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:32,080
Speaker 1: do a thing that you dread put some pep in

780
00:33:32,120 --> 00:33:32,480
Speaker 1: your step.

781
00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:33,440
Speaker 2: True, that's very true.

782
00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:34,720
Speaker 1: It just gets harder the older you get.

783
00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, if you could like fold in and like make

784
00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:40,360
Speaker 3: an activity that you already do a little bit more athletic. Yes,

785
00:33:40,520 --> 00:33:42,480
Speaker 3: if you have to drop your kids off somewhere, just

786
00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:45,160
Speaker 3: take an extra lap around the building before you get

787
00:33:45,160 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 3: back in your car.

788
00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:46,800
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.

789
00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:50,000
Speaker 1: Ooh, the YMCA has killer zoomba classes. You can put

790
00:33:50,040 --> 00:33:52,400
Speaker 1: on your knee on shorts, get a little wedgie with everybody,

791
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:54,200
Speaker 1: get sweaty, come.

792
00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 2: On and get some sleep.

793
00:33:55,840 --> 00:33:58,720
Speaker 3: Yes, they say, like, actually eight hours of sleep is

794
00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:01,560
Speaker 3: really important to losing weight because the body holds onto

795
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:04,680
Speaker 3: our fat cells longer, because our body is like we're like,

796
00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:06,840
Speaker 3: hey man, we think we're stressed if we stay up late.

797
00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:09,759
Speaker 3: So the body holds onto fat longer. So they're like, oh,

798
00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:11,960
Speaker 3: you need this because you're in danger. So if you

799
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:13,480
Speaker 3: go to bed and get rid of them.

800
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:13,759
Speaker 4: You know what.

801
00:34:14,040 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 1: I am convinced that's why I gained so much weight

802
00:34:16,600 --> 00:34:20,359
Speaker 1: performing at colleges because I always had the first flight out,

803
00:34:20,400 --> 00:34:22,799
Speaker 1: so like never slept. You can't sleep with a five

804
00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 1: am flight.

805
00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:24,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't.

806
00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 1: It's more like five am.

807
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:29,439
Speaker 2: Fright, Okay, next kiss Jael.

808
00:34:29,520 --> 00:34:31,839
Speaker 3: Oh my god, my best friend finally moved into her

809
00:34:31,840 --> 00:34:34,760
Speaker 3: own apartment post breakup, but she lost all her plants

810
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:37,839
Speaker 3: in the move. So as a housewarming gift, I want

811
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:40,680
Speaker 3: to help her out, but I have zero plant skills knowledge.

812
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:43,759
Speaker 3: Do you have any suggestions on what house plants to

813
00:34:43,800 --> 00:34:44,080
Speaker 3: get her?

814
00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 1: Oh?

815
00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:45,680
Speaker 2: I have tons of suggestions.

816
00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:47,440
Speaker 1: Actually, oh yeah, okay, you go.

817
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:50,239
Speaker 3: So it depends on how well how much light the

818
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:53,080
Speaker 3: apartment gets, how much light the space gets. But a

819
00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:56,880
Speaker 3: good all around plant is a pathos. You've seen pathos everywhere.

820
00:34:56,920 --> 00:34:58,680
Speaker 3: They're the plants that are just kind of like the

821
00:34:58,719 --> 00:35:02,520
Speaker 3: standard leafy vine pass. Good snake plant is good snakes

822
00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:03,359
Speaker 3: are the ones that grow up.

823
00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:05,520
Speaker 1: Like oh, they're called mother in law tongues too.

824
00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:10,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, mother in law tongue triggering that those are good

825
00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:12,600
Speaker 3: for low light, and they also grow kind of slow

826
00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:14,879
Speaker 3: and they're kind of durable. And it's one more.

827
00:35:15,200 --> 00:35:17,200
Speaker 2: Succulens are good. Yeah, Suclelents are good.

828
00:35:17,200 --> 00:35:19,239
Speaker 3: Succulents are hard for people to believe it or not

829
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:21,279
Speaker 3: because people oh water them because they don't need a

830
00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:23,200
Speaker 3: lot of water and they need fast draining soil.

831
00:35:23,320 --> 00:35:25,520
Speaker 1: Whatever you do, don't give your friend an orchid, because

832
00:35:25,520 --> 00:35:27,640
Speaker 1: that's just fucked up. That's like giving me like a

833
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:29,319
Speaker 1: jigsaw puzzle. How fucking dare you?

834
00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:32,120
Speaker 3: What's funny is as I'm answering this question, there's a

835
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:37,799
Speaker 3: very dead plant right behind me. Take this man's advice. Now,

836
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:39,920
Speaker 3: I've always thought of myself as an emotional succulent. I

837
00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:42,440
Speaker 3: don't eat much spread my god.

838
00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:45,719
Speaker 2: Can we start a band called the Emotional Succulents? Jordan?

839
00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:46,719
Speaker 2: I think so.

840
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:49,600
Speaker 1: Look, I'm gonna open for you, and I'm gonna be

841
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:56,240
Speaker 1: called emotional osteoporosis. Tell everybody all my feelings about everything,

842
00:35:56,280 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 1: all the time. This is the next question. Is it

843
00:35:58,719 --> 00:36:00,959
Speaker 1: okay to smoke weed at the if there's a kid's

844
00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:02,120
Speaker 1: party set up nearby?

845
00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:04,200
Speaker 2: I mean, how old's the kid?

846
00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 1: If you in Brooklyn, It's like you don't have a choice.

847
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:08,960
Speaker 3: But there's a lot of smells in the city, you

848
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:11,520
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, a lot of smells. Yeah, it's

849
00:36:11,520 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 3: like that exercise. It's like, close your eyes, what smells

850
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:16,160
Speaker 3: you here? Just or smell five smells if it's a

851
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:18,359
Speaker 3: big butt Buddha and it is what it is. But yeah,

852
00:36:18,480 --> 00:36:21,080
Speaker 3: I feel like it's a public park. If you can smoke,

853
00:36:21,120 --> 00:36:24,000
Speaker 3: you can smoke. I mean, you're not smoking cigarettes, you know.

854
00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 2: Yeah.

855
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:26,719
Speaker 3: And another thing too, is that you could probably walk

856
00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:29,359
Speaker 3: a couple feet further away to just get down wind.

857
00:36:29,719 --> 00:36:31,440
Speaker 2: Just be mindful, you know what.

858
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:34,560
Speaker 1: I'm don't make these kids think there's an actual skunk

859
00:36:34,560 --> 00:36:35,080
Speaker 1: in the park.

860
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:35,759
Speaker 3: And what.

861
00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:40,279
Speaker 2: About a vape? Right something like that?

862
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:42,360
Speaker 1: Vapes are just kind of creepy to me at this point.

863
00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:44,480
Speaker 1: I'm just like, boy, if you don't just get a joint,

864
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:46,520
Speaker 1: because it looks like you're trying to get in touch

865
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:49,960
Speaker 1: with a matrix, I'm like, okay, okay, this is our

866
00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 1: last question, and it's a good question. I've had this

867
00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 1: urge to cheat on my partner. No, boy, I would

868
00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:58,640
Speaker 1: never do it. Never in all caps, bitch, But no

869
00:36:58,680 --> 00:37:00,839
Speaker 1: matter how much I tell myself, it would hurt us

870
00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:04,279
Speaker 1: both the urge still lingers to him. How do I

871
00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:06,680
Speaker 1: make it go away? Do I need to make it

872
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:12,760
Speaker 1: go away? I'm very confused. Please help, bitch. This is confusing.

873
00:37:13,840 --> 00:37:17,200
Speaker 3: I think I think don you should answer if you

874
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:21,239
Speaker 3: want to. I was like, you go first, I'll say

875
00:37:21,280 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 3: this and this this might be a dark.

876
00:37:23,280 --> 00:37:24,960
Speaker 2: Urn, but I don't know it. Yeah, let's do it.

877
00:37:25,040 --> 00:37:25,560
Speaker 1: Let's do it.

878
00:37:25,680 --> 00:37:27,759
Speaker 3: There are so many people that are like, I have

879
00:37:27,760 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 3: the urge to kill myself, but I'm not gonna do it.

880
00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:31,840
Speaker 3: But I think about it all the time. Yeah, the

881
00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:35,440
Speaker 3: urge doesn't really go anywhere. It's just like when you're meditating,

882
00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 3: and if you get into meditation, they teach you that

883
00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:40,360
Speaker 3: thoughts aren't permanent. They pass through, like they can linger,

884
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:43,080
Speaker 3: they can visit, but they pass through. So the urge

885
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:46,440
Speaker 3: to cheat is as natural as the urge to watch porn,

886
00:37:46,520 --> 00:37:48,360
Speaker 3: or the urge to like compliment, like you know what

887
00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:50,200
Speaker 3: I'm saying, Like, if you have a partner and you

888
00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 3: can tell a partner, man, I was a really that

889
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:54,040
Speaker 3: chick was really hotter like, or your part of gonna

890
00:37:54,040 --> 00:37:56,799
Speaker 3: tell you like that person's really hot. That's a healthy relationship.

891
00:37:56,920 --> 00:37:58,719
Speaker 3: When you have to take those urges and hide them.

892
00:37:58,800 --> 00:38:01,360
Speaker 3: That's when it becomes unhealthy. Yeah, the urge to cheat

893
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:03,920
Speaker 3: probably won't leave you, just don't act on the urge

894
00:38:03,960 --> 00:38:06,759
Speaker 3: to cheat unless you're ready to take all the things

895
00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:08,320
Speaker 3: that comes with cheating on a partner, you know.

896
00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:12,239
Speaker 1: I'm yeah, I think also, I think this is like

897
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:15,400
Speaker 1: a big couple's therapy thing, Like you should have a

898
00:38:15,400 --> 00:38:18,120
Speaker 1: couple therapists and then also do a one on one

899
00:38:18,160 --> 00:38:20,600
Speaker 1: with your couples therapists and tell them because you have

900
00:38:20,640 --> 00:38:23,319
Speaker 1: to tell somebody and work it out, because maybe you

901
00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:25,800
Speaker 1: want to talk to your partner in front of your therapist,

902
00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:28,120
Speaker 1: and maybe both you guys want to cheat, and maybe

903
00:38:28,120 --> 00:38:31,080
Speaker 1: you should just figure out an open relationship. Perhaps how

904
00:38:31,120 --> 00:38:32,040
Speaker 1: do you know it's just you?

905
00:38:32,360 --> 00:38:33,799
Speaker 2: Then you should find the person that wants to have

906
00:38:33,840 --> 00:38:34,360
Speaker 2: a threesome.

907
00:38:36,080 --> 00:38:38,840
Speaker 1: Okay, I see what you.

908
00:38:40,960 --> 00:38:42,520
Speaker 3: But no, like you blew my mind a little bit

909
00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:44,920
Speaker 3: when you said talk to your couples therapists about cheating

910
00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:45,680
Speaker 3: in front of your partner.

911
00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:48,360
Speaker 2: I've never thought about that's what happens a couple's therapy.

912
00:38:48,800 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what I feel from this question that

913
00:38:52,200 --> 00:38:55,600
Speaker 3: this person is it sounds like they feel ignored.

914
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:59,480
Speaker 2: And maybe that their partner doesn't see.

915
00:38:59,320 --> 00:39:02,319
Speaker 3: Them, so if you do something unforgivable that they have

916
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 3: to see, then they'll have to deal with you. So again,

917
00:39:06,160 --> 00:39:09,520
Speaker 3: I agree, therapy is the way, but it's like, what's

918
00:39:09,600 --> 00:39:10,319
Speaker 3: behind that?

919
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 2: You know, why do you want to cheat?

920
00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:17,600
Speaker 3: Because you are lacking in communication here, right, And the

921
00:39:17,640 --> 00:39:21,960
Speaker 3: fear of being rejected is like all the more why

922
00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:23,080
Speaker 3: you're hitting the pause button on this.

923
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:26,200
Speaker 1: The fear of being rejected from your partner or.

924
00:39:26,120 --> 00:39:28,160
Speaker 3: The person that you want to cheat on with rejected

925
00:39:28,200 --> 00:39:30,520
Speaker 3: from your partner by telling them how you feel, you

926
00:39:30,560 --> 00:39:33,400
Speaker 3: fear that rejection from them, you know. And it's like

927
00:39:33,640 --> 00:39:37,040
Speaker 3: if I told them, oh my god, all these things

928
00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:37,960
Speaker 3: would change.

929
00:39:38,160 --> 00:39:41,560
Speaker 1: But Jordan, that is something that you can't come back from.

930
00:39:41,719 --> 00:39:43,359
Speaker 1: That's yeah, that's why I'm like.

931
00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:45,880
Speaker 3: Oh, if you told them that sometimes you have feelings

932
00:39:45,880 --> 00:39:49,080
Speaker 3: that you want to be with other people, Yeah, I

933
00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:51,440
Speaker 3: don't know about that because you haven't acted on them.

934
00:39:51,440 --> 00:39:53,399
Speaker 3: It's kind of natural to want to be with other people.

935
00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:55,239
Speaker 3: I mean, so much is thrown in your face and

936
00:39:55,280 --> 00:39:57,440
Speaker 3: you're told that this is the only person you're ever

937
00:39:57,480 --> 00:39:59,080
Speaker 3: going to be with, you know, Yeah, I mean it's

938
00:39:59,200 --> 00:39:59,959
Speaker 3: natural in life.

939
00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:01,560
Speaker 2: People make lists things like that.

940
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:03,919
Speaker 1: But I think it's something that you can't come back

941
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:07,839
Speaker 1: from depending on whatever this relationship is, right, because when

942
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:10,440
Speaker 1: you put that out there, it's almost like you're planning

943
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:14,080
Speaker 1: the seed of doubt in your partner, right, because then

944
00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:17,920
Speaker 1: if your partner is insecure, let's say, let's say not

945
00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:20,640
Speaker 1: even like fully insecure, but is now it's like, are

946
00:40:20,680 --> 00:40:22,719
Speaker 1: you looking at that person or and then that's like

947
00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:26,680
Speaker 1: a whole other world of trouble for this person. So like,

948
00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:29,160
Speaker 1: I do believe this person is reaching out saying I

949
00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:32,680
Speaker 1: have an urge to cheat because they can't fully communicate

950
00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:35,360
Speaker 1: with their partner.

951
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:36,239
Speaker 2: Sad.

952
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:40,520
Speaker 1: This doesn't even sound like a couple that can say

953
00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 1: that's an attractive person, you know, look at that girl's

954
00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:46,080
Speaker 1: but look at that man's whatever, look at that person's whatever.

955
00:40:46,160 --> 00:40:50,680
Speaker 1: Like I don't even hear that in this or maybe yes,

956
00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:53,839
Speaker 1: or maybe they do have a really comfortable relationship and

957
00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:56,640
Speaker 1: this person's just ready to take it to the next level,

958
00:40:56,680 --> 00:41:00,000
Speaker 1: because it is quite impossible that we're supposed to be

959
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,840
Speaker 1: be with the same person for the rest of our lives.

960
00:41:03,320 --> 00:41:05,640
Speaker 1: You know, marriage really was working out at the turn

961
00:41:05,640 --> 00:41:07,600
Speaker 1: of the century when people didn't wash their hands and

962
00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:10,399
Speaker 1: they died when they were twenty two. Want some shit

963
00:41:10,440 --> 00:41:12,440
Speaker 1: and they lived thirty shit, you.

964
00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:13,000
Speaker 4: Know what I mean?

965
00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:15,600
Speaker 1: Like absolutely, marriage is fucking crazy. We had all these

966
00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:21,680
Speaker 1: vitamins and shit, we could live. We want all these vitamins, Suzanne,

967
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:23,600
Speaker 1: some is the shit. You just be alliant.

968
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:25,399
Speaker 2: They're about to turn us all to AI. We're gonna

969
00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:27,160
Speaker 2: live forever in a minute. I'm telling you.

970
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:29,799
Speaker 3: I just think that using terms like cheat and things

971
00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:32,040
Speaker 3: like that, you know, m it feels as though the

972
00:41:32,080 --> 00:41:35,680
Speaker 3: person is like punishing themselves and so guilt ridden that Yes,

973
00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:39,680
Speaker 3: a therapist, some interference and a third party is so needed.

974
00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:42,440
Speaker 2: Anyway. That's just my two cents. I like that.

975
00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:45,280
Speaker 1: Dom. This has been just fucking fantastic.

976
00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:46,040
Speaker 2: It has.

977
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:50,359
Speaker 1: You know, we asked every one of our guests, what

978
00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:52,880
Speaker 1: is the most adult thing that you want to do

979
00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:54,799
Speaker 1: for yourself this year that you haven't had time to do?

980
00:41:54,880 --> 00:41:56,400
Speaker 1: And you know it could be anything. You know, it

981
00:41:56,440 --> 00:41:58,319
Speaker 1: could be anything. He's listened to all the answers, so

982
00:41:58,360 --> 00:41:59,040
Speaker 1: this is gonna be.

983
00:41:59,040 --> 00:41:59,800
Speaker 2: Could be hanglining.

984
00:42:00,000 --> 00:42:02,799
Speaker 3: I've thought long and hard about this question all day

985
00:42:02,960 --> 00:42:04,760
Speaker 3: because I know I was gonna get asked this question.

986
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 3: Oh my god, And okay, and I think the thing

987
00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:14,840
Speaker 3: that I want to do the most is remodel a kitchen.

988
00:42:15,239 --> 00:42:19,160
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, that is literally the most adult thing because

989
00:42:19,160 --> 00:42:22,400
Speaker 3: it's the room that I spend the most time in,

990
00:42:22,480 --> 00:42:26,200
Speaker 3: hands down, and if it just had a few minor tweaks,

991
00:42:26,200 --> 00:42:28,840
Speaker 3: it would make so much more sense for not only me,

992
00:42:29,000 --> 00:42:31,200
Speaker 3: but the renters who come behind me, because I won't

993
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:34,280
Speaker 3: live here for ever. Yes, but that's the adult decision

994
00:42:34,280 --> 00:42:34,680
Speaker 3: I want to.

995
00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:35,240
Speaker 2: Make for myself.

996
00:42:35,280 --> 00:42:38,000
Speaker 1: I get it. Just be in the moment and do it.

997
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:39,840
Speaker 1: That's what I say. Be in the moment and do

998
00:42:39,920 --> 00:42:42,239
Speaker 1: it because it's going to make you feel happy. And

999
00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:44,640
Speaker 1: then the next kitchen you're like, oh I did this,

1000
00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:46,360
Speaker 1: Now I'm gonna do this in this other kitchen, and

1001
00:42:46,400 --> 00:42:49,719
Speaker 1: the money will come. Just trust it will. Because you

1002
00:42:50,239 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 1: are fun, you are a friendly, you are smart, you

1003
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:58,600
Speaker 1: are punctual, you are talented. I mean the money will come. Period.

1004
00:42:59,040 --> 00:43:01,240
Speaker 2: Yes, I mean.

1005
00:43:01,640 --> 00:43:03,840
Speaker 1: It's a Father's day because I gave you your flowers.

1006
00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:08,680
Speaker 3: Don We love you man, thank you for having me.

1007
00:43:08,719 --> 00:43:10,279
Speaker 3: I love you guys too. This is one of my

1008
00:43:10,360 --> 00:43:11,279
Speaker 3: favorite things to do.

1009
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:29,080
Speaker 4: Oh dude, h don his family.

1010
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:32,120
Speaker 1: I know, no, but really, like I really mean it.

1011
00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:34,759
Speaker 1: I want the best. I want the best for him

1012
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:37,440
Speaker 1: and his family. He's so talented. What can't he do?

1013
00:43:37,800 --> 00:43:41,400
Speaker 1: A real renaissance man. He wants to up at the kitchen.

1014
00:43:42,520 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 1: He knows how to make a plant grow. He can

1015
00:43:44,600 --> 00:43:49,120
Speaker 1: communicate without saying anything through music. He's raising a beautiful

1016
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:54,040
Speaker 1: young girl. His girlfriend is stop also very talented. China moses.

1017
00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:56,960
Speaker 1: You better follow her on Instagram and get your life man.

1018
00:43:57,680 --> 00:44:00,160
Speaker 1: And you know what's really fun is that we're on

1019
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:04,680
Speaker 1: the same adulting journey where it feels like we're hitting

1020
00:44:04,719 --> 00:44:07,040
Speaker 1: our stride in the same way.

1021
00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:08,120
Speaker 2: Like who were.

1022
00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:09,040
Speaker 1: Drinking the same thing?

1023
00:44:09,760 --> 00:44:10,879
Speaker 2: That's right, you know what I mean?

1024
00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:13,879
Speaker 3: Like we need the same tea in the morning.

1025
00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:17,640
Speaker 1: No, it was very fun. He just DJ'ed one of

1026
00:44:17,719 --> 00:44:20,120
Speaker 1: my shows the other night and we all went out afterwards,

1027
00:44:20,680 --> 00:44:23,479
Speaker 1: and we all had the same amount to drink, sang

1028
00:44:23,560 --> 00:44:27,479
Speaker 1: the same songs, knew the same words. And this from

1029
00:44:27,880 --> 00:44:31,680
Speaker 1: different places all over the United States in some other countries.

1030
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:34,040
Speaker 1: And it's just nice to like find your people.

1031
00:44:34,520 --> 00:44:36,640
Speaker 3: See Michelle, I thought I was special because I got

1032
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:37,440
Speaker 3: done to hang out.

1033
00:44:37,320 --> 00:44:37,879
Speaker 2: After a show.

1034
00:44:38,280 --> 00:44:40,279
Speaker 3: So, uh, you've got to hang out after a show

1035
00:44:40,280 --> 00:44:41,719
Speaker 3: because he usually does like I'm out. I mean, he

1036
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:43,960
Speaker 3: just like throws down gas balls and he's just like

1037
00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:45,440
Speaker 3: disappears a cloud of faithball.

1038
00:44:45,520 --> 00:44:47,800
Speaker 1: See this is what it's like being friends with a

1039
00:44:47,840 --> 00:44:51,400
Speaker 1: middle child. Everybody, instead of Jordan's saying Don loves us

1040
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 1: so much he hangs out with us, He's like.

1041
00:44:54,320 --> 00:44:55,399
Speaker 2: You gotta do it.

1042
00:44:55,640 --> 00:44:58,359
Speaker 1: I thought it was my thing that he did. And

1043
00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:03,040
Speaker 1: it's always a competition with him, yes, and not with me.

1044
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:05,360
Speaker 3: I'm only incompetent with my parents had another kid and

1045
00:45:05,360 --> 00:45:06,360
Speaker 3: I wasn't the baby anymore.

1046
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:09,240
Speaker 2: Okay, so yes, that's my everybody has to push.

1047
00:45:09,280 --> 00:45:11,520
Speaker 1: Oh my god for our next episode. Everybody, thank you

1048
00:45:11,560 --> 00:45:14,360
Speaker 1: for joining. Take care of yourself and your friends and

1049
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:16,160
Speaker 1: have siblings that didn't feel seen.

1050
00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:24,840
Speaker 2: Bye bye bye. This has been an exactly right production.

1051
00:45:25,160 --> 00:45:26,960
Speaker 1: Our senior producer is g Holley.

1052
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:29,160
Speaker 2: Our associate producer is Alex Cheat.

1053
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:31,560
Speaker 1: This episode was mixed by John Bradley.

1054
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:33,400
Speaker 2: Our guest booker is Patrick Cottner.

1055
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:35,920
Speaker 1: Additional production support from Hannah Kyle Crichton.

1056
00:45:36,200 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 2: Theme song and live show djaning is by Don will.

1057
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:41,240
Speaker 1: Our live show producer is Marian Ways.

1058
00:45:41,520 --> 00:45:43,200
Speaker 2: Artwork by Jamie Bechtel.

1059
00:45:43,120 --> 00:45:45,480
Speaker 1: Photography by Heis vander Most.

1060
00:45:45,760 --> 00:45:49,440
Speaker 3: Executive produced by Karen kilgera Georgia Hardstar and Daniel Kramer.

1061
00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 1: Follow the show on Instagram at Adulting the Pod.

1062
00:45:52,640 --> 00:45:56,319
Speaker 3: Email your questions to Adulting Questions at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 1: Mmmmm