1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:05,640 Speaker 1: My purpose is to glorify God. How narcissistic must he 2 00:00:05,800 --> 00:00:10,239 Speaker 1: be if he creates beings and then their purpose is 3 00:00:10,280 --> 00:00:14,200 Speaker 1: to glorify him, like when you first look at it 4 00:00:14,200 --> 00:00:16,439 Speaker 1: on the surface, that's what it sounds like. I don't 5 00:00:16,480 --> 00:00:30,120 Speaker 1: really want to worship a god like that. What's up, guys, 6 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:33,440 Speaker 1: Welcome to the podcast, Episode one hundred and seventy six, 7 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:36,280 Speaker 1: And this is a special one because we got back 8 00:00:37,040 --> 00:00:42,040 Speaker 1: an amazing guest of mine, multi multi timer, and back 9 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:46,479 Speaker 1: Bernie Calcote. And if you're watching on YouTube, you'll notice something. 10 00:00:46,640 --> 00:00:49,120 Speaker 1: If you're not, if you're listening on Spotify or Apple 11 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:51,239 Speaker 1: or something, you won't notice. But he is now a 12 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:55,440 Speaker 1: mountain man. Yeah, he's got a beard. I'm embracing my 13 00:00:55,720 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 1: inner Will Brown, no haircut, not shit, you are that guy, 14 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:06,039 Speaker 1: I do remember. You'd be friends now the way you look. 15 00:01:06,080 --> 00:01:09,040 Speaker 1: You'd be friends with my friend Marv, who's a pastor. 16 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:12,240 Speaker 1: He's a mennnight pastor in South Carolina and he listens 17 00:01:12,280 --> 00:01:16,280 Speaker 1: to this podcast every Monday. Really really good dude. And Marv, 18 00:01:16,520 --> 00:01:18,240 Speaker 1: yeah his name is Marvin. You're starting to look like 19 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:23,960 Speaker 1: a midnight pastor with this beard. Shout up to what 20 00:01:24,040 --> 00:01:26,640 Speaker 1: we do on this podcast with Bernie. He helps me 21 00:01:26,680 --> 00:01:30,959 Speaker 1: a lot because we just answer your questions. And Bernie 22 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:34,200 Speaker 1: has been answering my questions for about twenty years. When 23 00:01:34,200 --> 00:01:36,120 Speaker 1: I have a problem, I reach out and I'm like, hey, birds, 24 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:38,520 Speaker 1: I got a problem, or it doesn't even have to 25 00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:41,919 Speaker 1: be a problem, just just a scenario walking through life, 26 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:44,319 Speaker 1: walking through life. And so that's what we do with you. 27 00:01:45,080 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 1: And you email me Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. 28 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:51,240 Speaker 1: We're gonna get to this inbox. I told Bernie, I 29 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 1: have no idea what's coming up like that. There's no planning, 30 00:01:55,040 --> 00:01:58,560 Speaker 1: there's no notes flying blind, we don't have no special 31 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:02,720 Speaker 1: quotes that we're just gonna out there. Our minds are 32 00:02:02,760 --> 00:02:07,800 Speaker 1: empty right now. Yeah, all right, So first question, Brenda 33 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:11,000 Speaker 1: gets it and it says this, Hey, granger I really 34 00:02:11,080 --> 00:02:15,160 Speaker 1: enjoy your podcast. I'm from West Virginia. I was married 35 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:18,079 Speaker 1: in two thousand and six, got divorced in two thousand 36 00:02:18,080 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: and eight. My ex husband died in twenty twenty. I 37 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: consider myself single, not divorced. Now. I have a relationship 38 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:30,480 Speaker 1: with God and I've been praying for a godly man. 39 00:02:30,560 --> 00:02:33,440 Speaker 1: Can you please tell me what to do? There is 40 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:36,280 Speaker 1: not a singles group in our church. I don't know 41 00:02:36,320 --> 00:02:38,560 Speaker 1: what I could do. Thank you for everything to do. God, 42 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: bless Brenda. Brenda from West Virginia, married, married in six, 43 00:02:46,120 --> 00:02:49,240 Speaker 1: got divorced in eight. He died in twenty. He died 44 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 1: in twenty twenty. So she considers herself single, not divorced. 45 00:02:54,600 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 1: Now that's just a mentality she's going with here. But 46 00:02:59,800 --> 00:03:02,639 Speaker 1: the question, it sounds like, is how do I get 47 00:03:02,639 --> 00:03:09,119 Speaker 1: a man? She's lonely? Yep, because two thousand and six 48 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:13,440 Speaker 1: a long that's a long time. Or two thousand and 49 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 1: eight when she divorced. Oh sorry, I got divorced two 50 00:03:16,040 --> 00:03:19,920 Speaker 1: thousand and eight. Still okay, So still we're talking a 51 00:03:19,960 --> 00:03:24,960 Speaker 1: long time, sixteen years something like that. Fifteen years. So 52 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:30,880 Speaker 1: I have a relationship with God, she says. I've been 53 00:03:30,919 --> 00:03:34,840 Speaker 1: praying for a godly man, she says, And then she 54 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:37,760 Speaker 1: asked me, and you, Bernie, but what can I do? 55 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:41,680 Speaker 1: There's not a singles group at church. I don't know 56 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 1: what to do. Okay, what you got for Brenda Brenda? 57 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:54,520 Speaker 1: So again, we don't prepare for these questions. I'm just 58 00:03:54,600 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 1: kind of praying beforehand that hey, Holy Spirit, give us 59 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 1: the words, bring to mind the things you want. These 60 00:04:01,480 --> 00:04:04,920 Speaker 1: people to hear and us to hear as well through 61 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:08,040 Speaker 1: this because I think this podcast ministers to Griz and 62 00:04:08,080 --> 00:04:13,160 Speaker 1: I both so. Pastor John Piper says that God is 63 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:16,960 Speaker 1: most glorified through us when we are most satisfied in Him. 64 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:20,280 Speaker 1: If you have a relationship with God and you are 65 00:04:20,320 --> 00:04:22,400 Speaker 1: in his word and you read that the purpose of 66 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:28,000 Speaker 1: our life is to glorify God with our lives, right, 67 00:04:29,440 --> 00:04:34,080 Speaker 1: and if that is the most evident when we are 68 00:04:34,080 --> 00:04:40,240 Speaker 1: most satisfied in Him, I think maybe that not that 69 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:46,279 Speaker 1: having a partner, and you know, a companion is a 70 00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:51,000 Speaker 1: bad thing by any means, but maybe just kind of check, like, man, 71 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:54,400 Speaker 1: am I most satisfied in him? Is he fulfilling? Is 72 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:59,000 Speaker 1: his grace sufficient? Is he enough? Or am I looking 73 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 1: to fill a part of that with this companion? Maybe 74 00:05:03,440 --> 00:05:08,760 Speaker 1: you answer, yes, God is enough. He's sustaining me. He 75 00:05:08,839 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 1: sustained me for the last however sixteen years or however 76 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:16,440 Speaker 1: long it's been. But you know, you do feel this 77 00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:21,039 Speaker 1: loneliness and you desire for companionship, which can be a 78 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 1: godly thing and can be a great, you know thing. 79 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:27,680 Speaker 1: As far as the practical, how do I do that? 80 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:33,120 Speaker 1: I've just been so out of the game so long. 81 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:35,159 Speaker 1: I have no I have no idea how you do 82 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 1: it these days. Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it, 83 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:39,479 Speaker 1: and I want to kind of reinforce what you said, 84 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:42,280 Speaker 1: because that's not that's not the first thing that came 85 00:05:42,320 --> 00:05:45,040 Speaker 1: to my mind when you went to the piper, most 86 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:48,000 Speaker 1: glorified thing. I love that, and I think that's a 87 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:50,400 Speaker 1: that's a great answer kind of for anyone with any question. 88 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 1: And so let's look, let's kind of dissect that and 89 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:55,479 Speaker 1: see what that looks like. Because to some people that 90 00:05:55,640 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 1: comes across is like, my purpose is to glorify godd 91 00:06:00,920 --> 00:06:06,120 Speaker 1: How narcissistic must he be if he creates beings, and 92 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:10,599 Speaker 1: then their purpose is to glorify him, Like when you 93 00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:12,320 Speaker 1: first look at it on the surface, that's what it 94 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:14,800 Speaker 1: sounds like. I don't really want to worship a god 95 00:06:14,880 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 1: like that, that a narcissistic god just wants attention, literally 96 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:21,640 Speaker 1: creates people so that they will give him attention. I 97 00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:23,640 Speaker 1: don't I don't like that. I don't like that thought. 98 00:06:23,640 --> 00:06:26,560 Speaker 1: That's what some of you might be thinking. So let's 99 00:06:26,600 --> 00:06:29,480 Speaker 1: unpack it and see what, like where that goes, and 100 00:06:29,600 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 1: maybe dig deeper into what that could mean for our lives, 101 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:37,880 Speaker 1: because the ultimate, the ultimate gift that you get from 102 00:06:37,920 --> 00:06:43,920 Speaker 1: that is your own joy and hope and love and peace. 103 00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:47,839 Speaker 1: These are fruits that you get as a result of 104 00:06:48,279 --> 00:06:52,120 Speaker 1: your worship to your creator. Okay, so let's unpack that 105 00:06:52,160 --> 00:06:54,720 Speaker 1: a little further. I've told I did a sermon one 106 00:06:54,720 --> 00:06:59,159 Speaker 1: time and looked at it like this. I grew up 107 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:02,280 Speaker 1: a huge George Strait. You know that, Bernie, Yes, So 108 00:07:02,400 --> 00:07:05,000 Speaker 1: imagine I used to go to these concerts by myself 109 00:07:05,279 --> 00:07:07,280 Speaker 1: when I was a teenager, and I would sit in 110 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:11,000 Speaker 1: the very center of the second row, right in the middle, 111 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:13,320 Speaker 1: and just I would go there, and I would camp 112 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:15,920 Speaker 1: out the night before to get the tickets, and then 113 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:18,880 Speaker 1: I would wait in these ridiculous lines and I would 114 00:07:18,920 --> 00:07:21,440 Speaker 1: get in at noon. George Strait didn't go on till 115 00:07:21,440 --> 00:07:25,800 Speaker 1: about eight pm, and I'm there in the building at noon, 116 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:29,360 Speaker 1: and I would go there. So imagine this scenario, and 117 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 1: we're going to play this out. Imagine I go in there, 118 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:35,400 Speaker 1: do all that, and I get there and there is 119 00:07:35,440 --> 00:07:39,000 Speaker 1: a camera stand right in front of my seat, and 120 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 1: George Strait comes out, and I'm just like, well, this 121 00:07:42,920 --> 00:07:47,200 Speaker 1: is not what I expected. So I started daydreaming kind 122 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: of lose my interest in the concert, and what am 123 00:07:49,120 --> 00:07:51,520 Speaker 1: I going to do? There's a camera right here, George 124 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 1: Strait in front of seventy thousand people. He's playing to everyone, 125 00:07:57,600 --> 00:08:01,640 Speaker 1: and he looks at me and he says, you move 126 00:08:01,680 --> 00:08:05,160 Speaker 1: the camera so you could see me. Look to me, 127 00:08:06,640 --> 00:08:11,240 Speaker 1: focus on me. That's why you came, that's why you're here. 128 00:08:13,080 --> 00:08:16,800 Speaker 1: So in that scenario, then would George Strait be narcissistic 129 00:08:16,880 --> 00:08:20,320 Speaker 1: to say that to me? Would he be some evil, 130 00:08:20,440 --> 00:08:24,720 Speaker 1: creepy guy that is just wanting to get glory from everyone. No, 131 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:28,760 Speaker 1: that's actually the most selfless thing he could do. In 132 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:31,840 Speaker 1: that scenario, when all these people are there, he looks 133 00:08:31,880 --> 00:08:35,080 Speaker 1: to me and goes, I'm gonna give you glory by 134 00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:38,320 Speaker 1: you giving me glory, I will give you hope, I 135 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:41,079 Speaker 1: will give you peace. I will give you unbelievable joy 136 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:45,120 Speaker 1: in this concert. Look to me, move all obstacles out 137 00:08:45,120 --> 00:08:49,200 Speaker 1: of the way. So that's what happens. God does that 138 00:08:49,440 --> 00:08:52,640 Speaker 1: so that we could be we could share in that glory. 139 00:08:52,679 --> 00:08:55,520 Speaker 1: He doesn't need any more from us, but he wants 140 00:08:55,559 --> 00:08:57,640 Speaker 1: to selflessly give it back to us so that we 141 00:08:57,679 --> 00:09:02,199 Speaker 1: could share in it as adopted kids. That's unbelievable. If 142 00:09:02,200 --> 00:09:05,439 Speaker 1: you unpack it that way, that's the depth behind what 143 00:09:05,480 --> 00:09:10,760 Speaker 1: Bernie is saying. God is most glorified in us when 144 00:09:10,800 --> 00:09:15,480 Speaker 1: we are most satisfied in Him. So, Brenda, that starts 145 00:09:15,520 --> 00:09:18,959 Speaker 1: the whole conversation, that starts probably every question we have today. 146 00:09:19,000 --> 00:09:24,200 Speaker 1: Can you say that, are you satisfied in Him? Because 147 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:28,679 Speaker 1: if you are, then you go, God, I'm single. I 148 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:33,240 Speaker 1: want somebody. But if that's not in your designs, that's 149 00:09:33,240 --> 00:09:35,760 Speaker 1: not in your plan for me. Let me just focus 150 00:09:35,800 --> 00:09:38,960 Speaker 1: on you. Let me just continue to glorify you, regardless 151 00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:41,920 Speaker 1: of who else is in my life. Okay, that's that 152 00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:47,040 Speaker 1: part that's done. Now let's get practical, Brenda. You say, 153 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:49,240 Speaker 1: I've been praying for godly man, can you tell me 154 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:51,560 Speaker 1: what to do? There's not a singles group in our church? 155 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:57,480 Speaker 1: Is that the only church? First question? Yeah? Is it 156 00:09:57,520 --> 00:10:03,839 Speaker 1: the only church? But also like, surely there's other ministries 157 00:10:04,800 --> 00:10:09,760 Speaker 1: within that church. Surely there's other kind of hobbies, desires 158 00:10:09,920 --> 00:10:12,320 Speaker 1: and gifts that God has given you to be able 159 00:10:12,360 --> 00:10:16,360 Speaker 1: to serve your community or whatever. Go do those things 160 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:21,880 Speaker 1: and just you know, listen to that still small voice 161 00:10:21,920 --> 00:10:26,719 Speaker 1: that's saying, Hey, there's this orphan care ministry that I'm 162 00:10:26,720 --> 00:10:28,720 Speaker 1: gonna lay on your heart and you're gonna like start 163 00:10:28,760 --> 00:10:33,000 Speaker 1: to push into that and you respond one day at 164 00:10:33,000 --> 00:10:34,800 Speaker 1: a time, you say, yeah, I'm gonna I'm gonna serve here. 165 00:10:34,800 --> 00:10:38,400 Speaker 1: I'm gonna serve here. It could be you know, like 166 00:10:38,960 --> 00:10:41,040 Speaker 1: some running group, or it could it could be anything 167 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:43,000 Speaker 1: that you just listen to that voice and you walk 168 00:10:43,120 --> 00:10:45,080 Speaker 1: in the spirit in that and then all of a sudden, 169 00:10:45,760 --> 00:10:49,000 Speaker 1: this dude shows up and he's he's kind of listening 170 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:51,280 Speaker 1: to the same spirit, and you guys are all of 171 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:53,880 Speaker 1: a sudden kind of walking next to each other, not 172 00:10:54,520 --> 00:10:57,440 Speaker 1: in order to find each other, but in order to 173 00:10:57,920 --> 00:10:59,839 Speaker 1: listen to the voice of God and walk in it. 174 00:11:00,120 --> 00:11:02,400 Speaker 1: But then you realize you're walking right next to each other, 175 00:11:03,080 --> 00:11:06,120 Speaker 1: and then it's like, Hey, I have a companion in 176 00:11:06,160 --> 00:11:09,079 Speaker 1: the work that God has put before us. I think 177 00:11:09,120 --> 00:11:11,800 Speaker 1: a lot of times these relationship questions can really be 178 00:11:12,880 --> 00:11:20,200 Speaker 1: just self focused, and relationship be self focused instead of Hey, 179 00:11:21,200 --> 00:11:24,040 Speaker 1: what if we found somebody that would co labor with 180 00:11:24,120 --> 00:11:26,120 Speaker 1: us in the work that God puts in front of us. 181 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:33,240 Speaker 1: That's that's what it's about, So maybe give that a shot. Brenda. 182 00:11:33,280 --> 00:11:35,720 Speaker 1: Start looking around at those opportunities, like what is God 183 00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:37,520 Speaker 1: put in front of you and then start doing, and 184 00:11:37,520 --> 00:11:39,199 Speaker 1: then look to your left and right and see who's 185 00:11:39,200 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 1: with you. So good, reach out, serve others. Don't get 186 00:11:43,120 --> 00:11:45,440 Speaker 1: caught sitting on the couch waiting for your church to 187 00:11:45,520 --> 00:11:50,120 Speaker 1: provide you with a singles group. Right, all right, next 188 00:11:50,200 --> 00:11:55,960 Speaker 1: question here, Well we can go to this one. I like, guys, 189 00:11:55,960 --> 00:11:57,400 Speaker 1: I have no idea what these are about to say, 190 00:11:57,440 --> 00:12:00,360 Speaker 1: but it says easy question. Hey, my name is Joseph. 191 00:12:00,400 --> 00:12:04,440 Speaker 1: I'm fifteen. I live in Port Angelus, Washington. Thank you 192 00:12:04,480 --> 00:12:06,600 Speaker 1: for helping me get through when I broke my leg. 193 00:12:06,640 --> 00:12:09,560 Speaker 1: I was listening to your podcast in the hospital. I 194 00:12:09,720 --> 00:12:11,840 Speaker 1: was wondering if there's a way to make your voice 195 00:12:11,960 --> 00:12:18,800 Speaker 1: deeper or higher pitched. What kind of exercises are there? Yeah? Ye, 196 00:12:18,840 --> 00:12:21,880 Speaker 1: God blessed. So fifteen is a time that's kind of 197 00:12:21,880 --> 00:12:24,160 Speaker 1: the time you start asking me. You're like, hey, man, 198 00:12:24,200 --> 00:12:26,959 Speaker 1: everyone's got a deep voice, but me, what do I do? 199 00:12:27,880 --> 00:12:34,840 Speaker 1: Hey Grader? Yeah, yeah, Hey, that's his nature, isn't it? Like? 200 00:12:35,000 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 1: I don't know at some level, Joseph, if you're the 201 00:12:37,000 --> 00:12:40,600 Speaker 1: voice pro like just gonna happen. If you're talking about singing, 202 00:12:40,640 --> 00:12:42,560 Speaker 1: maybe you're talking about singing. That's a little different. But 203 00:12:42,679 --> 00:12:46,440 Speaker 1: if you're talking about speaking, that's just gonna happen. You. 204 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:49,320 Speaker 1: Have you heard yourself in a while. I have listened 205 00:12:49,320 --> 00:12:51,840 Speaker 1: to you from old tapes, But have you heard yourself 206 00:12:51,920 --> 00:12:56,680 Speaker 1: talk from twenty five years ago? No, I've listened to 207 00:12:56,679 --> 00:12:58,839 Speaker 1: you two or five years ago recently, because there's one 208 00:12:58,840 --> 00:13:01,199 Speaker 1: on one of your albums. Oh no, is that one 209 00:13:01,240 --> 00:13:04,520 Speaker 1: where you're out talking? Oh? Yeah, yeah, what's a homeless guy? Yeah? Yeah, 210 00:13:04,559 --> 00:13:07,839 Speaker 1: So when you listen to yourself twenty years ago, all 211 00:13:07,880 --> 00:13:11,120 Speaker 1: of us our voices are different. It's almost not even 212 00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:16,280 Speaker 1: the same person. It's weird. Harrison Ford. I was listening 213 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:18,360 Speaker 1: to him talk the other day. That guy's voice is 214 00:13:18,400 --> 00:13:21,920 Speaker 1: so deep now and it wasn't necessarily like that when 215 00:13:21,920 --> 00:13:25,520 Speaker 1: he was han solo. Wow, so we change, Joseph, your 216 00:13:25,559 --> 00:13:28,199 Speaker 1: voice is going to change naturally. The more you use it, 217 00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:33,439 Speaker 1: the more that muscle gets stronger. And uh, just don't 218 00:13:33,440 --> 00:13:36,480 Speaker 1: worry about it. If you're talking about singing, you exercise it. 219 00:13:36,559 --> 00:13:38,640 Speaker 1: Just like you want to be a runner, you would 220 00:13:38,640 --> 00:13:40,320 Speaker 1: exercise your legs. If you want to be a singer, 221 00:13:40,360 --> 00:13:44,520 Speaker 1: you exercise your vocal cords. Oh, look at this one 222 00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:51,000 Speaker 1: subject line, mark of the Beast. Hey, grangem twenty nine 223 00:13:51,040 --> 00:13:53,600 Speaker 1: years old, live in Indiana. So we're sitting around a campfire, 224 00:13:53,920 --> 00:13:55,760 Speaker 1: and I'd like to hear your thoughts on the Mark 225 00:13:55,800 --> 00:13:59,160 Speaker 1: of the Beast. Revelations thirteen explains it how the end 226 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:01,640 Speaker 1: of times will be near and nobody will be able 227 00:14:01,679 --> 00:14:04,839 Speaker 1: to buy or sell without worshiping the anti Christ. The 228 00:14:04,920 --> 00:14:07,560 Speaker 1: number is sixty six six also plays a role in 229 00:14:07,600 --> 00:14:10,440 Speaker 1: the end times. And it's all a little confusing to me. 230 00:14:10,760 --> 00:14:14,800 Speaker 1: I'm young. I have a hard time comprehending comprehending revelations 231 00:14:14,840 --> 00:14:16,839 Speaker 1: with an s on the end. Would love to hear 232 00:14:16,880 --> 00:14:20,880 Speaker 1: your thoughts. God bless and that is Did he say 233 00:14:20,880 --> 00:14:25,960 Speaker 1: his name? He just said he's twenty nine. Yeah, email 234 00:14:25,960 --> 00:14:31,840 Speaker 1: says jer So we'll call you Jeremy. Jeremy. Okay. It's 235 00:14:31,880 --> 00:14:34,520 Speaker 1: actually really nice that Bernie's sitting here because he could 236 00:14:34,560 --> 00:14:37,840 Speaker 1: go a totally different direction. And you're you're open to 237 00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:39,920 Speaker 1: I'll let it. Let you do whatever you want to 238 00:14:39,960 --> 00:14:42,920 Speaker 1: do here. This is not my special okay, Okay, Well 239 00:14:43,120 --> 00:14:45,560 Speaker 1: then we'll just walk through this together. Here's the deal, Jeremy. 240 00:14:46,960 --> 00:14:49,440 Speaker 1: There was actually was a time when I was in 241 00:14:49,520 --> 00:14:52,160 Speaker 1: high school. I was really into this stuff, Like I 242 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:54,200 Speaker 1: would get into it, and I would listen to these 243 00:14:54,680 --> 00:14:58,080 Speaker 1: they left behind, Yeah, like the left behind times that 244 00:14:58,200 --> 00:15:02,640 Speaker 1: was around that that era in the nineties. But what 245 00:15:02,800 --> 00:15:06,840 Speaker 1: I have come to learn over these years, especially the 246 00:15:06,920 --> 00:15:11,320 Speaker 1: recent years, of really diving into the New Testament, diving 247 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:16,920 Speaker 1: into Revelation, diving into Daniel and Isaiah and the different 248 00:15:17,440 --> 00:15:23,440 Speaker 1: apocalyptic stories, the apocalyptic narratives that we see in the Bible, 249 00:15:25,280 --> 00:15:28,240 Speaker 1: And what I'm about to say is probably going to 250 00:15:28,320 --> 00:15:31,680 Speaker 1: make you. Maybe it's going to make some people not 251 00:15:31,680 --> 00:15:33,680 Speaker 1: want to listen to the podcast anymore because it's boring. 252 00:15:34,520 --> 00:15:37,440 Speaker 1: But at a lot of modern day scholars will say 253 00:15:37,480 --> 00:15:41,160 Speaker 1: that a lot of that stuff that was prophesied in 254 00:15:41,200 --> 00:15:48,120 Speaker 1: Revelation has already happened, that that Nero was part of that. 255 00:15:48,280 --> 00:15:54,240 Speaker 1: All this plan when Jerusalem was that the the Israelites 256 00:15:54,320 --> 00:15:58,600 Speaker 1: revolted in sixty six AD right against the Romans because 257 00:15:58,640 --> 00:16:02,480 Speaker 1: of the oppression, because they were taxed heavily. It was 258 00:16:02,520 --> 00:16:07,280 Speaker 1: it was a terrible environment in the sixties AD. And 259 00:16:07,360 --> 00:16:11,560 Speaker 1: so the Israelites got together with all these revolutionists and 260 00:16:11,600 --> 00:16:15,880 Speaker 1: they revolted, and Rome crushed them over the course of 261 00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:19,560 Speaker 1: four years, and in seventy a d the temple in 262 00:16:19,680 --> 00:16:26,440 Speaker 1: Jerusalem was demolished, just like Jesus prophesied. The religion was crushed. 263 00:16:26,480 --> 00:16:29,280 Speaker 1: They built a pagan temple on that mount right there 264 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:32,480 Speaker 1: where the where the Jerusalem Temple was, where the Second 265 00:16:32,640 --> 00:16:38,480 Speaker 1: Temple that Solomon was. They they then kicked everyone out 266 00:16:38,480 --> 00:16:44,400 Speaker 1: that wanted to worship the Yahweh God. They they they 267 00:16:44,960 --> 00:16:49,600 Speaker 1: made it illegal to sacrifice, illegal to obey the Sabbath, 268 00:16:49,680 --> 00:16:55,960 Speaker 1: illegal to circumcise. Jews were dispersed, It was completely crushed. 269 00:16:56,160 --> 00:16:59,000 Speaker 1: In fact, there was one more small revolt in one 270 00:16:59,120 --> 00:17:03,880 Speaker 1: thirty five a d. When that was crushed, Israel no 271 00:17:03,960 --> 00:17:09,280 Speaker 1: longer was a state. They're gone until crazy nineteen forty three. 272 00:17:10,320 --> 00:17:13,920 Speaker 1: All this time goes by, right, so two thousand years 273 00:17:13,960 --> 00:17:18,240 Speaker 1: go by. Anyway, Most modern day scholars now will say 274 00:17:18,280 --> 00:17:21,560 Speaker 1: that all this mark of the Beast stuff, all this revelation, 275 00:17:21,760 --> 00:17:24,439 Speaker 1: end of times, all that stuff that John was talking 276 00:17:24,440 --> 00:17:28,919 Speaker 1: about the apostle was already fulfilled. And the destruction of 277 00:17:28,920 --> 00:17:32,080 Speaker 1: the temple, destruction of Israel, the dispersion of the people. 278 00:17:32,680 --> 00:17:35,320 Speaker 1: That is really boring because so many of us want 279 00:17:35,359 --> 00:17:37,440 Speaker 1: to just be like, oh, this mark of the Beast, 280 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:39,320 Speaker 1: here's it come, here it comes. I remember when they 281 00:17:39,320 --> 00:17:41,240 Speaker 1: said it was credit cards you know when that first 282 00:17:41,320 --> 00:17:44,040 Speaker 1: came out. Now it's all you know, it's the vaccine 283 00:17:44,080 --> 00:17:47,439 Speaker 1: that was it for a while. And we know this. 284 00:17:47,520 --> 00:17:49,040 Speaker 1: I could tell you this about the end of times 285 00:17:49,080 --> 00:17:54,000 Speaker 1: for sure. When Jesus came, the end of times began. 286 00:17:54,400 --> 00:18:00,280 Speaker 1: Then he ushered in the end of times phase this, 287 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:04,240 Speaker 1: this is the last of days. When Jesus came, right, 288 00:18:04,720 --> 00:18:07,639 Speaker 1: he became the new Covenant, he became the once and 289 00:18:07,720 --> 00:18:10,320 Speaker 1: for all sacrifice. So no longer that people have to 290 00:18:10,440 --> 00:18:13,399 Speaker 1: kill lambs and dove and lay them on an altar 291 00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:18,720 Speaker 1: and cook them and oxen. Jesus became the once for 292 00:18:18,760 --> 00:18:23,920 Speaker 1: all sacrifice for all humans that would receive him as 293 00:18:23,960 --> 00:18:29,320 Speaker 1: their lord and savior. So, Jeremy, if we just focus 294 00:18:29,400 --> 00:18:33,040 Speaker 1: on that and stop digging into maybe what was six 295 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:36,359 Speaker 1: six six market the beast to buy and sell and trade? 296 00:18:36,880 --> 00:18:39,240 Speaker 1: What if that already happened, and you need to be 297 00:18:39,280 --> 00:18:42,359 Speaker 1: focused on the savior that made the once and for 298 00:18:42,400 --> 00:18:45,440 Speaker 1: all sacrifice in the end of times, which is right 299 00:18:45,520 --> 00:18:47,520 Speaker 1: now that we're living in. People say we're living in 300 00:18:47,520 --> 00:18:50,320 Speaker 1: the end of Times. Yeah we are. We always have 301 00:18:50,400 --> 00:18:53,560 Speaker 1: been for two thousand years. Once again, so boring like 302 00:18:53,600 --> 00:18:58,280 Speaker 1: this doesn't get any clickbait on a podcast. No, that's 303 00:18:58,320 --> 00:18:59,960 Speaker 1: not what people want to hear. People want to say. 304 00:19:00,440 --> 00:19:03,800 Speaker 1: They want me to say, yeah, I heard that President 305 00:19:03,880 --> 00:19:08,879 Speaker 1: Biden might be the anti Christ. At the end of 306 00:19:08,880 --> 00:19:12,200 Speaker 1: the world is coming when you lie seventeen yeah, yeah. 307 00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:16,280 Speaker 1: So I'm sorry that burst some bubbles and that might 308 00:19:16,359 --> 00:19:20,359 Speaker 1: actually create some people talking and wanting to fight against 309 00:19:20,440 --> 00:19:23,639 Speaker 1: me on that. And you're totally welcome to I'm not 310 00:19:24,080 --> 00:19:27,240 Speaker 1: totally right about this. This is all speculation. No one 311 00:19:27,359 --> 00:19:32,639 Speaker 1: really knows, but modern scholars really believe that this stuff 312 00:19:32,760 --> 00:19:35,760 Speaker 1: that John's talking about already happened. I can tell you 313 00:19:35,800 --> 00:19:39,160 Speaker 1: this for sure. And I'm not talking about the apocalypse 314 00:19:39,200 --> 00:19:41,840 Speaker 1: and the end war. I'm not talking about that. I'm 315 00:19:41,840 --> 00:19:46,760 Speaker 1: talking about six sixty six. What we need to know 316 00:19:46,840 --> 00:19:53,399 Speaker 1: is this, and this is the truth. For thousands of years, 317 00:19:53,440 --> 00:19:56,240 Speaker 1: people have thought maybe their generation is the last one 318 00:19:56,560 --> 00:19:59,080 Speaker 1: and that the rapture is coming. If you believe in raptured. 319 00:19:59,320 --> 00:20:05,920 Speaker 1: There's people that don't believe in rapture. But ninety nine 320 00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:10,840 Speaker 1: infinite percent chance you will die, Jeremy before any of 321 00:20:10,840 --> 00:20:13,720 Speaker 1: this happens, and me and Bernie and everyone listening to 322 00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:17,280 Speaker 1: this podcast will die a human death and not be 323 00:20:17,400 --> 00:20:21,760 Speaker 1: raptured because it's not our time. So if that's the odds, 324 00:20:21,760 --> 00:20:23,960 Speaker 1: if that was a Vegas odds, I would say, if 325 00:20:23,960 --> 00:20:27,120 Speaker 1: that's my Vegas odds, I'm putting all my bets on 326 00:20:27,320 --> 00:20:31,120 Speaker 1: Jesus as my savior that I will meet him after 327 00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:35,960 Speaker 1: an earthly death, and I put my trust in him 328 00:20:36,280 --> 00:20:38,720 Speaker 1: as the once and for all sacrifice. And I'm not 329 00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:42,600 Speaker 1: looking to the sky for some crazy apocalypse burning that's 330 00:20:42,600 --> 00:20:49,520 Speaker 1: gonna happen. Not yet. Yeah, dude, that is impressive. Let 331 00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:52,680 Speaker 1: me just say, did y'all know that he knew all that? 332 00:20:52,880 --> 00:20:56,159 Speaker 1: Like that's I knew you were a history buff, but 333 00:20:56,200 --> 00:21:01,399 Speaker 1: you're like, you know and once again, and dude, that's impressive. 334 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:05,000 Speaker 1: I didn't know that stuff. 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That's Better Help hg LP dot 386 00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:16,840 Speaker 1: com slash Granger. All right, back to the podcast, diving 387 00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:18,960 Speaker 1: into another question. If you want to talk to me 388 00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:22,560 Speaker 1: and Bernie, email Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. We'll 389 00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:24,520 Speaker 1: put it in the queue. We have no notes, nothing 390 00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:26,840 Speaker 1: in front of us. We're just walking through it like 391 00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:29,160 Speaker 1: a couple buddies sitting around a campfire. Like that last 392 00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:33,880 Speaker 1: question said, I like that. Next question subject says need advice. 393 00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:37,520 Speaker 1: The email says, Hey Granger, my name is James, I'm eighteen. 394 00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:40,320 Speaker 1: I'm a senior in high school this year. I emailed 395 00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:42,040 Speaker 1: you two weeks ago and asked if I should try 396 00:24:42,080 --> 00:24:44,680 Speaker 1: talking to my ex girlfriend I still had feelings for. 397 00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:48,880 Speaker 1: Turns out, we both felt the same way. We've talked 398 00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:51,040 Speaker 1: for about a week and a half, and she told 399 00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:53,679 Speaker 1: her parents and they pretty much told her that they 400 00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:56,040 Speaker 1: didn't want her talking to me because they didn't want 401 00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:58,919 Speaker 1: it to hurt her again. And we both feel like 402 00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:01,639 Speaker 1: we've changed. I heard a lot since the last time. 403 00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:05,359 Speaker 1: She's only seventeen, so I respect her parents, but I 404 00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:07,720 Speaker 1: also feel like she is old enough to make these 405 00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:10,400 Speaker 1: kind of decisions. Any advice would be great, thanks again, 406 00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:17,639 Speaker 1: ye James eighteen A little piece here. You said, I 407 00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:21,240 Speaker 1: want to respect her parents, but I also feel like 408 00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:25,119 Speaker 1: she is old enough to make these decisions. Then you 409 00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:29,959 Speaker 1: don't respect her parents. Start with that. You might want to, 410 00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:36,320 Speaker 1: but you don't. You don't really want to. What'd you think? 411 00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:43,720 Speaker 1: Burns James? James, James. So it's just a couple old 412 00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:46,919 Speaker 1: guys over here. Okay, you're sitting around the campfire with 413 00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:52,160 Speaker 1: some old guys, all right, with daughters with daughters, and 414 00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:55,400 Speaker 1: I grizz has said this many times on this podcast, 415 00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:58,520 Speaker 1: and every time we get something from somebody fifteen sixteen, 416 00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:02,960 Speaker 1: seventeen eighteen, I always just think and remember what you say, 417 00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:06,920 Speaker 1: just be eighteen. Like, these kind of things can take 418 00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:11,119 Speaker 1: so much of your time and attention that could be 419 00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:15,439 Speaker 1: spent on making really good memories with friends and you know, 420 00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:23,040 Speaker 1: going places, building new friendships. So yeah, apart from her parents, 421 00:26:23,520 --> 00:26:26,520 Speaker 1: I would be interested to know why the parents don't 422 00:26:26,560 --> 00:26:29,600 Speaker 1: want her to hang out with you other than like 423 00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:32,400 Speaker 1: you hurt her before, I guess, and they don't want 424 00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:38,840 Speaker 1: her to get hurt again. But you've matured. Yeah, So 425 00:26:39,920 --> 00:26:43,359 Speaker 1: practically speaking, I would say this, and I've said this before, James, 426 00:26:45,160 --> 00:26:48,720 Speaker 1: You're to me. Your only card to play is you 427 00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:53,560 Speaker 1: talk to the dad and you just say you man up. James. 428 00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:55,840 Speaker 1: You're an eighteen year old. You're old enough to go 429 00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:59,720 Speaker 1: into the Marine Corps. You're old enough to call on 430 00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:04,959 Speaker 1: the phone the dad. I'd say, Sir James, here, I 431 00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:06,879 Speaker 1: know you're a busy guy, and I don't want to 432 00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:08,639 Speaker 1: bother you, but I would love to be able to 433 00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:13,280 Speaker 1: go to lunch with you or coffee and have a 434 00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:18,400 Speaker 1: discussion with you. Manda man. Now hopefully he says sure, 435 00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:21,000 Speaker 1: let's do it, and you get together and you say, Sir, 436 00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:25,359 Speaker 1: I have feelings for your daughter. I would love to 437 00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:28,360 Speaker 1: be able to Dater. I understand that you have concerns 438 00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:32,400 Speaker 1: about me, and understand that that's because you love her, 439 00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:35,280 Speaker 1: and I admire that, and so I do not want 440 00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:38,560 Speaker 1: to do anything behind your back. So I wanted to 441 00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:41,680 Speaker 1: have lunch and maybe to discuss some of your concerns 442 00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:45,560 Speaker 1: if I could answer any questions. Bottom line is I 443 00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:47,080 Speaker 1: care about your daughter and I would love to be 444 00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:51,840 Speaker 1: able to dater and I would like your permission. Yeah, 445 00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:54,040 Speaker 1: if you can do that, you are going to start 446 00:27:54,080 --> 00:28:00,440 Speaker 1: to earn some respect from the parents for sure. Yeah, 447 00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:02,879 Speaker 1: I don't know if you can do that. That's tough 448 00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:04,639 Speaker 1: for an eighteen year old. I wouldn't have done that 449 00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:07,960 Speaker 1: at eighteen. Yeah. The only other card you have is 450 00:28:08,160 --> 00:28:13,359 Speaker 1: forget her. Forget her dude. Yeah, be eighteen options B eighteen. 451 00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:20,800 Speaker 1: Next question, interesting subject here, pastor let me down. So 452 00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:22,800 Speaker 1: my wife and I finally found a church that we love. 453 00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:25,040 Speaker 1: We were baptized and joined his members two years ago. 454 00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:27,919 Speaker 1: Church is four years in. We were voted in by 455 00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:30,280 Speaker 1: six people. Then four of the six have left the 456 00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:35,080 Speaker 1: church now, including only six members. We recently purchased a 457 00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:39,840 Speaker 1: large building and get about sixty five people on average. Sunday, 458 00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:43,960 Speaker 1: our pastor emailed my wife asking us to become members. 459 00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:47,560 Speaker 1: We already were. Then he blamed someone else for the 460 00:28:47,600 --> 00:28:50,520 Speaker 1: mix up and said that it was his fault. We 461 00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:53,360 Speaker 1: decided to step back and watch online and do our 462 00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:55,720 Speaker 1: own worship at home as a family. I feel horrible. 463 00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:59,920 Speaker 1: I've been friends with him and my wife with his 464 00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:04,440 Speaker 1: but his response also said that we have a responsibility 465 00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:07,720 Speaker 1: as members to show up to church. There are other 466 00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:10,920 Speaker 1: issues we pushed through, but this one has finally pushed 467 00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:14,040 Speaker 1: us away. I have a feeling we won't be going back. 468 00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:17,320 Speaker 1: It seems like they're pushing for new members, for money 469 00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:21,320 Speaker 1: and for a new building. Should we try. They haven't 470 00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:24,320 Speaker 1: even attempted to contact us. Only one member called me 471 00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:30,240 Speaker 1: Anonymous Wisconsin. I love how your voice y'all. Notice his 472 00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:33,360 Speaker 1: voice changes sometimes once he gets halfway into an email 473 00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:38,040 Speaker 1: and he starts talking like they may be from Wisconsin. Right, 474 00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:41,280 Speaker 1: that's the radio show coming out on the podcast? Yeah, 475 00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:47,600 Speaker 1: I love it, so I think the very end it says, 476 00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:49,720 Speaker 1: please let me know if you respond. I don't catch 477 00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:53,440 Speaker 1: all the podcasts. That kind of says something about the 478 00:29:53,480 --> 00:29:59,080 Speaker 1: personality as well. Yeah right, yeah, yeah, very This is 479 00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:05,480 Speaker 1: about me getting something kind of consumer focused. I'm not 480 00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:08,920 Speaker 1: gonna give as much as I'm gonna look to get, right, 481 00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:13,240 Speaker 1: is that thing I'm gonna let you go off? This person? Well, 482 00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:15,040 Speaker 1: I'm the good cop, so I'm not gonna go off 483 00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:17,520 Speaker 1: as much as Granger will go off. All right, did 484 00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:22,000 Speaker 1: we get a name? Did we get a name? It's anonymous? Okay, Wisconsin, 485 00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:27,800 Speaker 1: we'll Wisconsin. I I I'm not going to dismiss your 486 00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:30,680 Speaker 1: claim because there are a lot of churches out there 487 00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:34,760 Speaker 1: that just don't have great leadership. They don't have the 488 00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:39,400 Speaker 1: holy spirit they you know, you know that that's that's true. 489 00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:44,400 Speaker 1: But I do feel like you're being a little bit 490 00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:48,200 Speaker 1: selfish here. I feel like you are kind of getting 491 00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:52,720 Speaker 1: hung up on maybe some like some response that the 492 00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:57,760 Speaker 1: pastor had and basically saying we're not going to go 493 00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:00,560 Speaker 1: back because he responded a certain way, and you're and 494 00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:03,760 Speaker 1: from there, like a critical spirit can start to be 495 00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:08,200 Speaker 1: like a cancer, and not just for a community, but 496 00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:10,640 Speaker 1: in your own mind, like you start to spiral and 497 00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:12,840 Speaker 1: then you're all of a sudden critical of you know, 498 00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:16,560 Speaker 1: his wife, and you're critical of why they're having new members. 499 00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,240 Speaker 1: I think you probably need to check your own heart 500 00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:24,239 Speaker 1: in this situation. And then next I think you need 501 00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:29,800 Speaker 1: to probably sit with your wife and the pastor and 502 00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:31,520 Speaker 1: his wife. You said you guys are friends, y'all need 503 00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:35,680 Speaker 1: to sit and like sit in the conflict. Guys. Conflict 504 00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:39,120 Speaker 1: is not something to avoid. It actually can bring clarity 505 00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:45,200 Speaker 1: and it can make things stronger. So quick side note. 506 00:31:45,800 --> 00:31:51,160 Speaker 1: I'm running this weekend early early in the morning, still 507 00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:52,760 Speaker 1: dark out, so I just have a head lamp and 508 00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:54,680 Speaker 1: I'm in the woods. I don't know really where I am, 509 00:31:54,720 --> 00:31:58,280 Speaker 1: and I start to hear a noise, and then all 510 00:31:58,280 --> 00:32:00,600 Speaker 1: of a sudden, that noise starts to get a little louder, 511 00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:05,400 Speaker 1: and it's coming towards me. And again it's dark except 512 00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:07,480 Speaker 1: from my head lamp, and I just hear all of 513 00:32:07,520 --> 00:32:10,200 Speaker 1: this wrestling. It's kind of getting louder. It's come, and 514 00:32:10,320 --> 00:32:12,840 Speaker 1: so I start to get a little scared. I'm not 515 00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:15,480 Speaker 1: gonna lie, and then all of a sudden, this little 516 00:32:15,520 --> 00:32:17,440 Speaker 1: bunny rabbit runs across the trail right in front of me, 517 00:32:18,720 --> 00:32:21,400 Speaker 1: a little cute, little bunny rabbit, and I gotta stop. 518 00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:24,880 Speaker 1: I was like bunny. I had to catch myself. But 519 00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:28,200 Speaker 1: then I realized, like it was just a bunny. The 520 00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:32,160 Speaker 1: point is, whenever we keep things in the dark, a 521 00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:34,120 Speaker 1: lot of times they can be a lot bigger than 522 00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:36,640 Speaker 1: we think they are, and in our minds they can 523 00:32:36,680 --> 00:32:38,520 Speaker 1: be a lot bigger. It may just be a small 524 00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:41,560 Speaker 1: little bunny rabbit. If you just sit and talk, be honest, 525 00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:45,880 Speaker 1: bring some light to the situation. Because once my light 526 00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:48,600 Speaker 1: saw what it was, it was just a bunny rabbit. 527 00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:51,760 Speaker 1: Wasn't that big a deal? So Dn, that is so good. 528 00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:55,640 Speaker 1: That is amazing. Did you think about that that I 529 00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:57,720 Speaker 1: got scared of a bunny rabbit or did you think 530 00:32:57,720 --> 00:32:59,120 Speaker 1: of that story in your way here, like I'm gonna 531 00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:01,480 Speaker 1: find a way to use that coming here here. No, 532 00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:06,040 Speaker 1: absolutely not, Man, Bernie, that's so good. That's what you 533 00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:08,480 Speaker 1: would tell me. If well, I will, I will say 534 00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:12,680 Speaker 1: that after I started running again, I started analyzing what 535 00:33:12,760 --> 00:33:16,120 Speaker 1: I just went through, and that's what the thought came 536 00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:19,600 Speaker 1: to me was, Hey, that thing was so scary when 537 00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:21,080 Speaker 1: it was in the dark and you didn't know what 538 00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:25,240 Speaker 1: it was. But once you saw it, you know, there's 539 00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:28,760 Speaker 1: nothing to be afraid of. Yes, yeah, I think we 540 00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:31,160 Speaker 1: all that's a good word for all of us right there. 541 00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:37,400 Speaker 1: So Anonymous Wisconsin, you think this is a country club? 542 00:33:40,360 --> 00:33:42,440 Speaker 1: A lot of people do. Man, it is church a 543 00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:45,920 Speaker 1: country club to you? Or is it a youth select 544 00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:50,440 Speaker 1: baseball team? And you're mad at the coach? I mean, 545 00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:53,680 Speaker 1: that's what this email sounds like. It doesn't sound like 546 00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:59,160 Speaker 1: someone that's that's that's part of a life giving community 547 00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:03,400 Speaker 1: that shares in a life giving faith that's outward reaching. 548 00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:07,080 Speaker 1: That doesn't sound like that. It sounds like you're mad 549 00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:10,240 Speaker 1: at the country club owner because you've been a member 550 00:34:10,480 --> 00:34:12,600 Speaker 1: at this country club for four years and he just 551 00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:15,279 Speaker 1: gave your locker away and you're so you're going to 552 00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:18,040 Speaker 1: go to another country club. In fact, you're just gonna 553 00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:20,640 Speaker 1: build your own country club in your own backyard. That's 554 00:34:20,719 --> 00:34:25,160 Speaker 1: kind of what this sounds like. And I want to 555 00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:27,799 Speaker 1: kind of read back the scenario to you. You were 556 00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:30,200 Speaker 1: part of the at that church at the beginning. You 557 00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:33,839 Speaker 1: joined two years ago and the church is only four 558 00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:35,600 Speaker 1: years in, so you've been half of the life of 559 00:34:35,600 --> 00:34:39,040 Speaker 1: the church. You've been there and you're in way before 560 00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:42,319 Speaker 1: they had sixty five people in there. And then the 561 00:34:42,360 --> 00:34:46,720 Speaker 1: pastor is trying to do his due diligence, not defending him, 562 00:34:46,760 --> 00:34:50,319 Speaker 1: just stating the facts. He's doing his due diligence and 563 00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:54,080 Speaker 1: reaching out to people members of the congregation. He stumbles 564 00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:57,520 Speaker 1: upon your name and your wife's name. He reaches out 565 00:34:57,560 --> 00:35:01,319 Speaker 1: to you and he says, I would like you for 566 00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:04,720 Speaker 1: you two to become members. Now, let's stop right there. 567 00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:07,640 Speaker 1: Like we're in a court case right now, we're just 568 00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:11,879 Speaker 1: we're laying out to the to the jury what's happening here. 569 00:35:12,520 --> 00:35:15,720 Speaker 1: The pastor doing due diligence and going down the list 570 00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:18,920 Speaker 1: of people that have attended the church, and he's trying 571 00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:21,399 Speaker 1: to get membership from the people, which is a good thing. 572 00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:25,560 Speaker 1: We want to be members of a body so that 573 00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:29,280 Speaker 1: we could then help with communication, help help delegate serving, 574 00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:32,360 Speaker 1: like who's good at the media team, who's good at music, 575 00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:35,960 Speaker 1: who's good it admissions, Let's delegate. So that's why we 576 00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:39,400 Speaker 1: need members, and the pastor needs to understand who's a 577 00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:41,440 Speaker 1: member and who's not. But he reaches out to you 578 00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:45,680 Speaker 1: and ladies and gentlemen of the jury. He didn't know 579 00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:49,360 Speaker 1: you guys very well, y'all aren't very very prominent people 580 00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:53,480 Speaker 1: in the church because he accidentally called you to ask 581 00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:56,640 Speaker 1: you to be members and he didn't know you. Yeah, 582 00:35:56,880 --> 00:36:00,000 Speaker 1: in a church of sixty five people, I bet you 583 00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:05,279 Speaker 1: dollars to donuts that you are not participating actively in 584 00:36:05,320 --> 00:36:08,280 Speaker 1: the community. There's no way, no way, you're not serving 585 00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:12,799 Speaker 1: in probably any capacity. You're not. You're likely not in 586 00:36:12,840 --> 00:36:16,120 Speaker 1: any kind of small group that is missional in any way. 587 00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:19,120 Speaker 1: Otherwise he would look and see your name. Oh, they 588 00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:23,240 Speaker 1: shouldn't be on this list. Just talk to them yesterday. Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly. 589 00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:27,400 Speaker 1: So this this is a huge problem with the corporate 590 00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:33,360 Speaker 1: church in the West. Yeah, consumer consumer based. Yeah, we 591 00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:35,920 Speaker 1: are just going to like you said, it's a country club. 592 00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:40,840 Speaker 1: It's another thing that it's an affiliation, but it misses 593 00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:44,200 Speaker 1: completely misses the biblical intention of the church. So yeah, 594 00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:47,520 Speaker 1: it's like mister and missus anonymous. Oh, of course they're members. 595 00:36:47,520 --> 00:36:50,000 Speaker 1: I just talked to them on Wednesday at the whatever. 596 00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:56,800 Speaker 1: So the appropriate response from you could have been, hey, pastor, 597 00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:00,840 Speaker 1: this is this is actually a little embarrassing, but we 598 00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:03,920 Speaker 1: actually are members, and we just haven't been very active. 599 00:37:03,960 --> 00:37:06,440 Speaker 1: That's why. That's why our names came up and you 600 00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:09,880 Speaker 1: didn't recognize us. But we need to be held accountable. 601 00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:12,759 Speaker 1: We need to we need to be more, be there 602 00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:16,000 Speaker 1: for you more. And so I'm sorry that there's this 603 00:37:16,080 --> 00:37:22,200 Speaker 1: embarrassing mix up. But instead your response was instead, man, 604 00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:25,600 Speaker 1: forget it, We're just gonna go online. The pastor didn't 605 00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:29,400 Speaker 1: even know us. How dare he not even know us? 606 00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:31,480 Speaker 1: That guy's got a lot on his mind. Once again, 607 00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:34,240 Speaker 1: I'm not defending him. Like Bernie said, they're are corrupt pastors. 608 00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:36,759 Speaker 1: Of course, I'm not defending him. I'm just laying out 609 00:37:36,760 --> 00:37:39,480 Speaker 1: the facts for the jury here. You don't have a 610 00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:42,319 Speaker 1: very good case to convince Bernie and I that you're 611 00:37:42,719 --> 00:37:47,200 Speaker 1: really good standing members of this small body church here. Well, 612 00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:51,360 Speaker 1: and for your own just for your own spiritual growth 613 00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:57,600 Speaker 1: and maturity and connectedness to a community. If you're gonna 614 00:37:57,600 --> 00:38:00,480 Speaker 1: have those things. And this is for anybody, include me 615 00:38:00,560 --> 00:38:03,000 Speaker 1: and Granger, Like, we are going to have to be 616 00:38:03,160 --> 00:38:08,920 Speaker 1: people of grace and patience. I don't know why, as 617 00:38:09,040 --> 00:38:15,520 Speaker 1: believers in Jesus who came and displayed perfectly God's grace 618 00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:19,319 Speaker 1: unmerited favor, Like we should be a people more than 619 00:38:19,440 --> 00:38:23,400 Speaker 1: anybody on the face of the earth that sees somebody 620 00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:30,040 Speaker 1: doing something that doesn't deserve our favor or our grace. 621 00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:33,160 Speaker 1: And we were like looking for areas to be like, oh, hey, 622 00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:35,640 Speaker 1: I forgive you, It's all good, it's all good, Like 623 00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:38,839 Speaker 1: let's give grace instead. A lot of times we can 624 00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:42,480 Speaker 1: just become very critical and judgmental. But it's the opposite 625 00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:46,840 Speaker 1: of the Gospel. So this is true probably for your marriage, 626 00:38:46,920 --> 00:38:50,200 Speaker 1: any relationships that you're in. We just need to be 627 00:38:50,360 --> 00:38:54,120 Speaker 1: people that are full of grace, full of patience, and 628 00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:56,960 Speaker 1: full of forgiveness. Yea one hundred percent. If it's going 629 00:38:57,040 --> 00:39:01,680 Speaker 1: to be a healthy relationship, a healthy community, a healthy tchaper. Yeah, yeah, 630 00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:05,960 Speaker 1: let's let's play. Devil's advocates say this pastor should have 631 00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:08,879 Speaker 1: known you, then you could also respond in a way 632 00:39:08,880 --> 00:39:13,360 Speaker 1: that says, pastor, buddy, we just saw you Sunday. We 633 00:39:13,480 --> 00:39:16,799 Speaker 1: are members. You've got a lot on your plate. How 634 00:39:16,840 --> 00:39:19,359 Speaker 1: could I help serve you to take some of this 635 00:39:19,360 --> 00:39:21,919 Speaker 1: this membership status stuff off your plate. We would love 636 00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:24,759 Speaker 1: to help serve you in that way. One more thing here, 637 00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:27,600 Speaker 1: you say at the end, I have a feeling we 638 00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:30,040 Speaker 1: won't be going back. It seems like they're pushing for 639 00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:34,759 Speaker 1: new members for money for the new building. Okay, let's 640 00:39:34,800 --> 00:39:38,480 Speaker 1: take just that. Imagine being a pastor. I'm not, Bernie's not, 641 00:39:38,719 --> 00:39:44,960 Speaker 1: You're not. There's pastors listening. Is that wrong? Is that 642 00:39:45,120 --> 00:39:49,880 Speaker 1: wrong for him to be seeking more of his of 643 00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:53,920 Speaker 1: his flock and a better building for his flock. I 644 00:39:53,920 --> 00:39:56,480 Speaker 1: don't think that's there's nothing wrong. I mean, as long 645 00:39:56,520 --> 00:39:58,239 Speaker 1: as it doesn't become as idol. And that's what he's 646 00:39:58,280 --> 00:40:01,520 Speaker 1: worried about, and that's he's he wasting all this energy 647 00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:04,920 Speaker 1: and it's not shepherding the current flock that he has. 648 00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:07,600 Speaker 1: I understand. But we can't look at that as a 649 00:40:07,600 --> 00:40:10,840 Speaker 1: bad thing, that he wants a bigger, better building for everyone, 650 00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:16,200 Speaker 1: with better facilities. As long as he's content. You understand 651 00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:19,359 Speaker 1: the balance here. But this is another issue that you 652 00:40:19,400 --> 00:40:23,520 Speaker 1: can come forward and say, pastor, we feel like there 653 00:40:23,600 --> 00:40:28,279 Speaker 1: is a lot of effort going into new people so 654 00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:31,200 Speaker 1: that we could have a new building. How could we 655 00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:36,000 Speaker 1: help you shepherd the current people so that they don't 656 00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:38,839 Speaker 1: feel forgotten, so that they don't feel lost. Me and 657 00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:41,440 Speaker 1: my wife would love to be able to do that 658 00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:44,640 Speaker 1: and to cultivate what's already here, Like these are ways 659 00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:48,240 Speaker 1: that you could serve forward instead of recoiling back and saying, 660 00:40:48,239 --> 00:40:50,440 Speaker 1: you know what, I got to feel in this one 661 00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:56,200 Speaker 1: just pushed us away for good. Yeah, we could go 662 00:40:56,239 --> 00:41:01,239 Speaker 1: on this one for a while, but yeah, you gotta 663 00:41:01,320 --> 00:41:04,239 Speaker 1: check yourself, I think, and we all need to, you know, 664 00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:08,200 Speaker 1: where we're kind of at with those kind of relationships. 665 00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:09,759 Speaker 1: Let's hit another one. We don't have a lot of 666 00:41:09,800 --> 00:41:11,279 Speaker 1: time in this break, but we could hit one more. 667 00:41:11,280 --> 00:41:14,960 Speaker 1: Here says dating on deployment. Hey granger, I'm currently deployed 668 00:41:15,000 --> 00:41:17,800 Speaker 1: overseas with the Army, and me and this girl started 669 00:41:17,920 --> 00:41:20,760 Speaker 1: a relationship right before I left. I put the situation 670 00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:23,480 Speaker 1: in plain text before I left, and she felt confident 671 00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:26,200 Speaker 1: that we could do it. We're two months in now 672 00:41:26,440 --> 00:41:30,200 Speaker 1: and she's having doubts. We've been friends for four years 673 00:41:30,800 --> 00:41:34,160 Speaker 1: now I'm scared a loser? What do I do? Love 674 00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:37,200 Speaker 1: the podcast, Thanks for the advice. PS. Saw you in 675 00:41:37,400 --> 00:41:42,480 Speaker 1: North Lawrence, Ohio for country Fest. Christopher, first of all, 676 00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:45,799 Speaker 1: thanks for your service. Appreciate you emailing and listening and 677 00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:50,200 Speaker 1: being a fan of music. What we got for this guy? Burns? 678 00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:54,239 Speaker 1: He's I mean, and then like the first rule of deployment, like, 679 00:41:54,320 --> 00:41:56,640 Speaker 1: don't start a relationship right before you know you're gonna 680 00:41:56,640 --> 00:41:59,640 Speaker 1: get deployed. Yeah, I mean, thank you for your service, Like, 681 00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:04,200 Speaker 1: don't think only me missed that, but I you know, 682 00:42:04,360 --> 00:42:06,360 Speaker 1: I guess it's neither here nor there. He's in the 683 00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:09,880 Speaker 1: situation he's in. But yes, so the people that are 684 00:42:09,880 --> 00:42:13,200 Speaker 1: not in this city situation, let's make that a unwritten rule. 685 00:42:14,160 --> 00:42:16,839 Speaker 1: Probably don't get into a relationship right before you leave. 686 00:42:17,360 --> 00:42:20,440 Speaker 1: But if you do, like Chris, let's talk about it. 687 00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:24,560 Speaker 1: He said, I put my situation in plain text before 688 00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:27,399 Speaker 1: I left, and she felt confident that we could do it. 689 00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:31,360 Speaker 1: But here's here's the deal. Until you're in it, you 690 00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:34,560 Speaker 1: don't know. You can feel confident like I think I can. 691 00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:37,759 Speaker 1: But until that, you know, the six months goes by, 692 00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:42,480 Speaker 1: the seven months and she's still hasn't seen you, then 693 00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:44,759 Speaker 1: you don't know how she's going to react. That's a 694 00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:46,759 Speaker 1: good point. Ask me right now, if I could climb 695 00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:49,560 Speaker 1: Mount Everest, Yeah, can you climb out? Every dude? You 696 00:42:49,600 --> 00:42:52,279 Speaker 1: know I could, bro I'll do it. You want to 697 00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:55,279 Speaker 1: go tomorrow? Yeah? Right, I promise you. I get half 698 00:42:55,320 --> 00:42:59,400 Speaker 1: a day in and I'm stopping. Yeah. But if whenever 699 00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:03,239 Speaker 1: you're not in it, you're over confident, you're like, of 700 00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:06,919 Speaker 1: course we can fight, do anything. Let's go. So let's 701 00:43:07,600 --> 00:43:11,480 Speaker 1: let's wrap this up by saying, practically, what could he 702 00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:14,840 Speaker 1: do to not lose her? That's what he's worried about. Ultimately, 703 00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:17,000 Speaker 1: there've been friends and he doesn't want to lose her. 704 00:43:17,480 --> 00:43:19,239 Speaker 1: I can tell you how. Let's first of all, say 705 00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:21,560 Speaker 1: how you can lose her. Here's how you can lose 706 00:43:21,600 --> 00:43:24,200 Speaker 1: her by smothering or by saying, please, I don't want 707 00:43:24,200 --> 00:43:26,600 Speaker 1: to lose you. Please? What can I do? Please? Please? 708 00:43:26,719 --> 00:43:28,680 Speaker 1: You better not be Are you seeing somebody else? Is 709 00:43:28,719 --> 00:43:31,440 Speaker 1: this about another guy? Hey? Why didn't you pick up 710 00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:33,680 Speaker 1: your face time at three o'clock? You you missed? You're 711 00:43:33,719 --> 00:43:37,040 Speaker 1: seeing something? You know? Like, that's the way loser. The 712 00:43:37,080 --> 00:43:40,120 Speaker 1: way to not lose her, I think is by saying 713 00:43:41,680 --> 00:43:44,839 Speaker 1: I get it. It's hard to know ahead of time 714 00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:49,759 Speaker 1: what a deployment would be like. So I really care 715 00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:52,040 Speaker 1: about you and I really feel like I could do it. 716 00:43:52,480 --> 00:43:55,800 Speaker 1: But if you can't, I would suggest we hit the 717 00:43:55,840 --> 00:43:59,360 Speaker 1: brakes a little bit back away. Let's I'll give you 718 00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:01,440 Speaker 1: some space. If you need me, you know where to 719 00:44:01,480 --> 00:44:04,680 Speaker 1: find me. I think another thing you could do is 720 00:44:05,040 --> 00:44:11,000 Speaker 1: I'm guessing there's other folks that you're deployed with that 721 00:44:11,160 --> 00:44:14,239 Speaker 1: maybe are deeper into a relationship and maybe have been 722 00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:17,400 Speaker 1: through a deployment and figured out how to do that, 723 00:44:17,640 --> 00:44:20,640 Speaker 1: and maybe ask their advice, ask them the situation. They'll 724 00:44:20,680 --> 00:44:23,319 Speaker 1: be able to, you know, give you some advice. It's 725 00:44:23,480 --> 00:44:26,680 Speaker 1: very different than you know, me and Gris, but yeah, 726 00:44:26,719 --> 00:44:29,719 Speaker 1: maybe ask them and they may say, yeah, dude, you 727 00:44:29,800 --> 00:44:31,960 Speaker 1: probably if you're just this much in and you're already 728 00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:34,120 Speaker 1: feeling this, you probably need to give her the space 729 00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:36,600 Speaker 1: and you know, do a granger set. But maybe they'll 730 00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:39,160 Speaker 1: have something else for you. I don't know. Appreciate you, 731 00:44:39,280 --> 00:44:42,040 Speaker 1: Chris and all of y'all. Thanks for listening. We'll see 732 00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:44,520 Speaker 1: you next Monday. GigE, thanks for joining me on the 733 00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:47,919 Speaker 1: Grangersmith podcast. I appreciate all of you guys, you could 734 00:44:47,920 --> 00:44:51,000 Speaker 1: help me out by rating this podcasts on iTunes. 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