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Speaker 1: Lisa Lampanelli is not a licensed therapist or life coach.

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Speaker 1: She is a meddling advice giving yanta and know it all,

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Speaker 1: and her words come from her head, her heart, and

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Speaker 1: often out of her ass. This podcast should not be

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Speaker 1: misconstrued as therapy. I should be taking with a huge

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Speaker 1: grain of salt for entertainment purposes only.

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Speaker 2: These You need help, You're the problems. Come on, come on, gollam,

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Speaker 2: take a pill. I think you're insane. Do what I say, dumb.

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Speaker 3: Ass, listen to me. You such a sweet, lovely girl.

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Speaker 2: That's what they say about me, Liza Lebrelli, Welcome to

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Speaker 2: mine and only my podcast that no one helped me get.

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Speaker 2: I did all myself, and no one is certainly doing

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Speaker 2: any heavy lifting here today except me and these other

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Speaker 2: two are nothing correct correct. Welcome to shrink this with

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Speaker 2: Lease lamp and l you. I of course have my

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Speaker 2: lovely and talented and very tentified host, co host or sidekick.

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Speaker 2: What is his name? Why? It's Nick scopol Eddie also

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Speaker 2: known as love Handle Jones.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: We're just studying Nick in the mirror and seeing what

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Speaker 2: parts of his body are most heinous. What do we

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Speaker 2: land on?

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Speaker 5: I think the love Handles number one. Yeah, we have

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Speaker 5: a bald spot on the Camera's pretty funny, but we

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Speaker 5: know him bald. It's not a big deal.

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Speaker 2: No, you lead with it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, the love handles.

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Speaker 2: But you're shrinking a little bit, a little bit now

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Speaker 2: that I'm saying things better than fat. You look great, girl.

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Speaker 2: You're thick with how many seas?

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Speaker 4: Three?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Four?

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Speaker 5: Maybe?

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 2: So Nick Scopoletti is here, and also the lovely Celia Robano.

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Speaker 2: Oh Celia, I work so hard and I'm sick. Here

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Speaker 2: she's back. Oh good, thank you, Oh my god. So listen.

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Speaker 2: If you have a question for us, this is a

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Speaker 2: show where we give you advice that you should never take. Obviously,

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Speaker 2: send any inquiries, any problems you're having to shrink this

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Speaker 2: show at gmail dot com. That shrink this show at

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Speaker 2: gmail dot com. We'll be here every week or every

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Speaker 2: other week or something to tell you stuff that you'll ignore.

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Speaker 2: But we may make you laugh along the way or

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Speaker 2: maybe if not. I don't care. All I care is that,

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Speaker 2: like all morning, Celia has been walking around the room

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Speaker 2: getting electrically shocked because she's wearing these heinous, suction cupped

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Speaker 2: moon boots as they're called you know, they should really

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Speaker 2: send me a free pair if I mentioned them anyway.

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Speaker 2: And she's like literally shocking herself for fashion. There's some shop.

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Speaker 2: There's something wrong with people who literally will physically hurt themselves.

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Speaker 2: It's like remember when they used to wear corsets in

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Speaker 2: the old days and they pull the string and your

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Speaker 2: ribs would break. No, this bitch's version is moon boots

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Speaker 2: that she walks around and shocks herself with. And I

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Speaker 2: said to her, Hey, She's like, oh, they're comfortable, lens soft.

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Speaker 2: And I said, sus my cunt, but you shouldn't put

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Speaker 2: it on your feet, which might though. I do have

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Speaker 2: suction cups on my cunt.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's true.

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Speaker 2: I think that's a good drop for this show. She

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Speaker 2: has sucks on her cunt. I think that's a really

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Speaker 2: good additional stock yourself for our show.

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Speaker 4: You just gone through us.

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Speaker 2: Please, I know you would put one on your penis. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm talking to cuffs. Oh you both are crazy.

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Speaker 5: Well I'm a different man.

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Speaker 2: Wait what Yeah, I've wicked, Yes, you have.

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Speaker 5: I watched was only six.

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Speaker 2: Months too late.

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Speaker 5: That's okay, Well you watch going to theaters alone? Okay,

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Speaker 5: I watched the privacy my own home.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. See that's good. That's the only way to do it.

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Speaker 5: I can't, I can't.

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Speaker 2: We're going to build you up to Hamilton. We're gonna

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Speaker 2: build you up to all the Broadway shows. We're gonna

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Speaker 2: turn you fully gay this morning. Are you enjoying it?

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Speaker 5: I was really?

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Speaker 2: Did you start at the beginning?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, Okay, it's good because because it's in black

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's just like I'm like a modern man.

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Speaker 2: You're not. But by the way, you recently had a move.

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Speaker 2: Don't tell anyone where because they'll stalk you. By the way,

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Speaker 2: if they do want to stalk you online, what does

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Speaker 2: your Instagram handle? Please? Nick Scopes could just spell that

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Speaker 5: And then Scope like the mouth was at the end.

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Speaker 2: Okay, too complicated? You know what?

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Speaker 5: Sorry again? K S C O P E U P

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Speaker 2: OKAYI stupors wicked fans know exactly the way you recently moved.

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Speaker 2: And this is sort of what made me think of

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Speaker 2: the topic for today. Actually, it's not even your move

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Speaker 2: this show? It's so good. It's on Apple TV. It's

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Speaker 2: called Shrinking. Have you watched it. It's Jason Siegel, it's

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Speaker 2: Michael Yuri. It's nominated in every category for all the

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Speaker 2: globes and all the things, all of it. But I

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Speaker 2: I really loved this show. I've loved it three years

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Speaker 2: in a row. Okay, but I'm obsessed with it. Why

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Speaker 2: what is it about that show? Yeah, it's great, good writing,

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Speaker 2: This time. I think I was in such a place

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Speaker 2: of like, oh, look at their life. It's so much

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Speaker 2: So I was like, I think I should just call Leo,

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Speaker 2: who's my business manager, and say, you know what, I

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Speaker 2: because every time I think about even going to school

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Speaker 2: I want to die think he might even take in

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Speaker 2: psych one oh one. But I'm like, all my problems

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Speaker 2: will be fixed by moving to LA. Friend group will

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Speaker 2: be better than my friend group here because you're in

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Speaker 2: People you better. I definitely am above you. Yeah, for sure,

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Speaker 2: the weather would be better, Apartment living would be so

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Speaker 2: much easier. I would be like so happy and walking

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Speaker 2: like looking in moon boots if you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: Just kidding. No, no, you don't want to walk out

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Speaker 2: We're in Connecticut, Like no one's looking at you. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: So we will take forty years off my life to

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Speaker 2: a minute. This is what they call in twelve step

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Speaker 2: programs geographic sobriety, geographic the geographic cure, which is, oh

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Speaker 2: my god, my life sucks here. I bet if I

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Speaker 2: which clearly wherever you go, there you are and eat.

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Speaker 2: It was so iconic, the idea of geographic sobriety that

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Speaker 2: what did he say? Nick?

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Speaker 5: There's no geographical solution to an emotional.

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Speaker 2: But by the way, Nick is so dumb that he

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Speaker 5: Because I'm perfect.

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Speaker 2: How about Titsy love Handle Anonymous? Oh my god, this

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Speaker 2: and he could take it jot. So, Nick, have you

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Speaker 2: ever had this sort of a fantasy about like, oh,

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Speaker 2: my life would be better somewhere else? I mean, I

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Speaker 2: definitely thought my life would be better if Nick was dead.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but same.

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Speaker 5: Man, I really wish I had some moon boots right now.

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Speaker 5: I would just get all the static and then just

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Speaker 5: shock les.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I've definitely thought that, especially doing comedy. I was like,

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Speaker 5: get that of like, well if I change jobs and

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Speaker 2: To travel more? Yeah? I think what we're programmed to think,

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Speaker 2: why would you throw that away? Well, we were programmed

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Speaker 2: get on a plane. I just turned down. Damn it,

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Speaker 2: stop shocking anymore. I got yesterday, turned down invitation to

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Speaker 2: I really don't like travel. But we're supposed to like

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Speaker 2: these things. But I think with when it's like career based,

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Speaker 2: you're not doing comedy in a vacuum in Connecticut and

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Speaker 2: why people move where there's industries, but moving and thinking

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Speaker 2: it's going to solve your internal stuff, you're gonna be

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Speaker 2: if you're unhappy drunk in Boston. I'm talking to you

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Speaker 2: You're an unhappy drunk in Boston with the masters that

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Speaker 2: Probably if you're getting yourself. I think, if you're working

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Speaker 2: you just know what I'm talking about? Absolutely, it's all

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I think it's shockingly good. We have a couple questions,

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Speaker 4: Yeah. So I was asking kind of about the college

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Speaker 2: No, no, But I think again, like we were saying

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Speaker 2: I don't know if you like milk and cheese a lot,

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Speaker 2: I think moving's fine. Just don't think the problems are

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's true.

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Speaker 2: So take off those boots and shut the fuck up. Okay,

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Speaker 2: very much so I think walking. They were made for

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Speaker 2: running the fuck away. I'm triggered. Love it. Okay, I

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Speaker 2: hate that expression. Okay, Nick, what's our first letter?

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Speaker 5: Our first letter? I'll do it. Oh it's gay man.

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Speaker 2: Okay, how do you know?

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Speaker 5: Did he say it's like in the first three words?

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Speaker 2: Okay, well, there you go. You're pretty close to that.

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Speaker 5: Dear Lisa, I'm a fifth he's fifty two.

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Speaker 2: Dear Lisa, have a Harvey fire scene.

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Speaker 5: I'm a fifty two year old gay man who has

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Speaker 5: worshiped the Queen since I first saw you live in to.

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Speaker 2: Run see see see what happens when you give me

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Speaker 5: Thank you for all the laughs. I have dated so

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Speaker 5: many shitty guys, bears.

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00:22:10,520 --> 00:22:14,080
Speaker 2: You got narrows, No, I mean otters.

436
00:22:14,240 --> 00:22:19,240
Speaker 5: Cubs, all of it. I don't discriminate that I've lost

437
00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:22,400
Speaker 5: faith in meeting somewhere here in Toronto, meeting someone here

438
00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:27,480
Speaker 5: in Toronto. I'm thinking of moving to the San Francisco

439
00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:34,760
Speaker 5: the cost, say that, or New York City to hopefully

440
00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:39,199
Speaker 5: meet someone that I really connect with. Which city do

441
00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:42,040
Speaker 5: you think might be a benefit for me? You County fan?

442
00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:46,560
Speaker 2: Do you know Christoph? Or County fans Christopher?

443
00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:49,920
Speaker 5: But at the end it's Christoph.

444
00:22:50,040 --> 00:22:52,680
Speaker 2: Yes, it is. It is. This is a weird one

445
00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:59,119
Speaker 2: because I don't think you can say, quote, this city

446
00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:02,800
Speaker 2: has all the good gaze and this city has the

447
00:23:02,920 --> 00:23:06,480
Speaker 2: bad gaze. You know what it sounds like with him,

448
00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:10,520
Speaker 2: It sounds like he's throwing too broad of a net.

449
00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:15,679
Speaker 2: And there's this thing about people go, I don't discriminate, Well,

450
00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:18,560
Speaker 2: you have to be discriminating in a way because you're

451
00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:20,840
Speaker 2: trying to make it work with people. It's not natural

452
00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:23,240
Speaker 2: with I've never met a gay man who doesn't have

453
00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:25,399
Speaker 2: a type. And you know, it doesn't have to be

454
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:27,320
Speaker 2: so narrow like they have to be one hundred and

455
00:23:27,320 --> 00:23:31,760
Speaker 2: forty pounds they have to be. But I mean, you know,

456
00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 2: we all have a type. This guy sounds like he's

457
00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:37,160
Speaker 2: throwing the broad net and he's not being discriminated enough

458
00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:40,840
Speaker 2: with himself and should maybe stay within his pool of

459
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:45,760
Speaker 2: people and see what's in him that's making him kind

460
00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:49,119
Speaker 2: of sound a little desperate. Honestly, Yeah, what do you

461
00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:50,760
Speaker 2: think does sound that way?

462
00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:53,520
Speaker 5: He just needs lions and bears and twinks? Oh my,

463
00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:56,240
Speaker 5: I I know, am I right? I don't know. I

464
00:23:56,280 --> 00:24:00,439
Speaker 5: mean I guess if he's been somewhere. He didn't really

465
00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:02,560
Speaker 5: say how long he's been in Toronto. I'm assuming it's

466
00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:03,160
Speaker 5: his whole life.

467
00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:08,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, with that Toronto accent you did. Yeah, I

468
00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:08,920
Speaker 2: don't know.

469
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:17,200
Speaker 5: I'm sorry. Yeah, yeah, I mean it could work. I don't.

470
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:20,120
Speaker 5: I don't know, because here's the thing, like to say,

471
00:24:20,160 --> 00:24:23,119
Speaker 5: like like you said, to say, one city has bad

472
00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:25,359
Speaker 5: gays or good gays or what it doesn't matter.

473
00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:29,600
Speaker 2: Well, sure, but they're all just bad and going to hell.

474
00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:34,000
Speaker 2: I think we know that, you know. Yeah?

475
00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:34,320
Speaker 4: Yeah?

476
00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:38,960
Speaker 2: Right? But yeah, I mean I think it's a valid

477
00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:44,480
Speaker 2: thing of like, Oh, I live in Des Moines, Iowa,

478
00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:48,000
Speaker 2: and I really there's not a huge pool of gay man.

479
00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:49,560
Speaker 2: I don't know if there is or there isn't, But

480
00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:54,280
Speaker 2: suppose it's that Nick go on assignment there and I

481
00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:56,439
Speaker 2: just need to be around more people who are like me.

482
00:24:56,960 --> 00:25:01,040
Speaker 2: That seems valid, but it almost seems like his internal

483
00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:04,400
Speaker 2: work should be like figuring out what he wants and

484
00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:07,120
Speaker 2: targeting it. They say, with dating, I don't know anymore,

485
00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:09,920
Speaker 2: but like you just kind of have to know what

486
00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:12,800
Speaker 2: you want and not be like, well I've been with

487
00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:16,920
Speaker 2: the time. Well, I didn't want a woman who'll also work,

488
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:18,800
Speaker 2: but she wants to stay home. But so I guess

489
00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 2: it's okay, Yeah, and then that's nothing but like bad compromise.

490
00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:25,439
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, I'll be honest. This just came to

491
00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:27,359
Speaker 5: my head, and I've always thought about this, like I've

492
00:25:27,760 --> 00:25:29,400
Speaker 5: the first half of my life, I lived in New York,

493
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:31,679
Speaker 5: I lived in Westchester, then I moved to Connecticut, and

494
00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 5: there's always a part of me because I still stay

495
00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:36,960
Speaker 5: in contact with everyone, and there's always like a small

496
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:38,520
Speaker 5: part of me when I've been having a tough time

497
00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:41,800
Speaker 5: dating that I'm like, maybe if I because I look

498
00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:43,120
Speaker 5: at New York and I was like, if I stayed

499
00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:44,840
Speaker 5: in New York, I think maybe I would have met

500
00:25:44,840 --> 00:25:46,760
Speaker 5: someone by now like because there's a lot of guys

501
00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:50,639
Speaker 5: like me that look like me with some great looking,

502
00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:54,520
Speaker 5: fantastic women. I'm like, I my best dating matches are

503
00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:57,960
Speaker 5: in New York, Long Island and Jersey, And I'm like, yeah,

504
00:25:58,000 --> 00:25:59,640
Speaker 5: but if I stayed down there.

505
00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:02,000
Speaker 2: Well, but I think we both know you have a

506
00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:05,679
Speaker 2: shitload no offense and you know this internal work to

507
00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:10,040
Speaker 2: do on fear of intimacy and you know, you know, guh,

508
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:12,399
Speaker 2: if you're a married woman, Nick's not gonna fuck you,

509
00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:15,520
Speaker 2: but he's very comfortable talking to that. So you know,

510
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:20,720
Speaker 2: it's just like Nick loves safe and unattainable and that's okay.

511
00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:21,080
Speaker 5: And disappoint you.

512
00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 2: So that's gonna happen in New York too. So that's

513
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:29,080
Speaker 2: why I was like, two, It's the only way I

514
00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:32,000
Speaker 2: think a geographical thing works for dating is again, if

515
00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:35,239
Speaker 2: there's literally no gay community, you gotta find one. I

516
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:37,520
Speaker 2: think the only time it really works is when it's

517
00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:41,359
Speaker 2: a nursing home, because if you're old and go to

518
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:44,159
Speaker 2: a nursing home, there's a pool of like jacked up

519
00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:48,520
Speaker 2: old dudes that you could bang, so that would work.

520
00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:52,240
Speaker 2: Whereas if you're kind of not say you're old and

521
00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:54,640
Speaker 2: living in a house by yourself. You're not getting laid.

522
00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:59,920
Speaker 2: So I say, geographical cure is after age eighty three

523
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:02,439
Speaker 2: and you've given up going to nursing home, right, And

524
00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:04,880
Speaker 2: if you're a gay in Des Moines, get the fuck

525
00:27:04,920 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 2: out right, That's what I'm saying.

526
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:09,040
Speaker 5: There's a place in Florida that I think is called

527
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:13,480
Speaker 5: like the Villages. Yeah, yeah, dude, it's like just high

528
00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:17,199
Speaker 5: school for seeing. Like they're just there's STDs bang well.

529
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 5: Ever since like a rectile dysfunctioned medications, I think like

530
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 5: STDs amongst the elderly community has gone up like three

531
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:25,000
Speaker 5: hundred percent or something.

532
00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:30,880
Speaker 2: And that's just me. All right, you got another letter?

533
00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:37,479
Speaker 5: Oh my god? Yeah, So, dear Lisa, since the election,

534
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:40,480
Speaker 5: I have been so depressed and I'm thinking of leaving

535
00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:44,120
Speaker 5: the country for Ireland. Interesting, I'm Irish.

536
00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:45,919
Speaker 2: Oh wait, start over? You to do it in an

537
00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:50,440
Speaker 2: Irish accent? Do it like lucky charms. Dear Lisa, that's good.

538
00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:56,280
Speaker 5: Since the election, I have been so depressed and leaving

539
00:27:56,280 --> 00:27:58,040
Speaker 5: this country for good.

540
00:27:57,800 --> 00:28:00,200
Speaker 2: Old Ireland is a beautiful.

541
00:28:01,240 --> 00:28:03,880
Speaker 5: I'm Irish and I love it there. Do you think

542
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:06,400
Speaker 5: this is reasonable? Am I just overreacting?

543
00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:15,160
Speaker 2: Yeah? No, you're not overreactingal maw, don't you. You don't

544
00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:17,000
Speaker 2: know this, but there used to be a soap opera

545
00:28:17,080 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 2: on Before All My Children on ABC. It was on

546
00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 2: twelve thirty to one called Ryan's Hope and it was

547
00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:25,520
Speaker 2: an Irish soap opera. But that took place at an

548
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:29,200
Speaker 2: Irish bar in New York and the matriarch of the family,

549
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:34,399
Speaker 2: wash Maye Ryan played by Big Red from Orange is

550
00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:36,760
Speaker 2: the New Black. You know, the Kate Melligan that or

551
00:28:36,760 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 2: whatever name is that battle axe which he was young

552
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:42,479
Speaker 2: and hot. Isn't funny? The big battle axes sometimes were

553
00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:47,680
Speaker 2: actually hot. Subject for a future podcast. No, but that's

554
00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:50,960
Speaker 2: a weird one. I so many people talk about this

555
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 2: dual citizenship and should I go to a different country.

556
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:57,400
Speaker 2: He doesn't sound like he's trying to escape internal shit.

557
00:28:57,640 --> 00:29:01,360
Speaker 2: He's trying to just escape and and I would say

558
00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:03,560
Speaker 2: this is probably the one time if your heart really

559
00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:06,200
Speaker 2: tells you that I would be happier in a different country.

560
00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:10,200
Speaker 2: And trust me, my shrink is British and lives there,

561
00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:12,360
Speaker 2: so we do zoom. I don't fly there every week,

562
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 2: even though I'm wealthy. Yeah she's rich, honey, she says

563
00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:19,720
Speaker 2: more than anybody else. She goes, we have tons of

564
00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 2: problems here too, she goes, You guys are, of course

565
00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 2: laughing stock, which we are, she goes, but we have

566
00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:27,760
Speaker 2: huge problems here too. So as long as he's not

567
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 2: delusional about Irish politics being perfect, because I think that's

568
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:36,160
Speaker 2: the problem. That's the only time I remember. I always

569
00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 2: I said I hate travel, and I would punch myself

570
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:43,240
Speaker 2: in the dick. Well, the one time I ever think

571
00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:47,600
Speaker 2: about travel, I oh, Ireland is so beautiful. It's all green. Well,

572
00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:50,560
Speaker 2: so is the US if you go to a fricking forest,

573
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:52,680
Speaker 2: but I'm not going there. I won't even go in

574
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 2: the woods. But I'm gonna all go to Ireland. But

575
00:29:57,160 --> 00:30:00,960
Speaker 2: if he has good, solid memories of loving it there

576
00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:03,960
Speaker 2: and really feeling at home there, I think that's different

577
00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:07,880
Speaker 2: than running. It's almost like a runaway and a run

578
00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:09,760
Speaker 2: towards at the same time. What do you think?

579
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, do whatever you want. Who cares? Why

580
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:14,640
Speaker 5: are you listening to this?

581
00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:22,320
Speaker 2: I mean, well you and I also I want to

582
00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:26,480
Speaker 2: interrupt you because you weren't saying anything anyway. Also, don't

583
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:29,920
Speaker 2: we need more people like him to stick around? And

584
00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:33,960
Speaker 2: it get that we don't every person in the US

585
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 2: doesn't owe the world anything, Like you just don't live

586
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:40,120
Speaker 2: your life. You don't have to help other people. You

587
00:30:40,120 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 2: could be the dick you are and just be self

588
00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:46,959
Speaker 2: absorbed or whatever. Nick. But people who like really are

589
00:30:47,000 --> 00:30:49,560
Speaker 2: on the right side of things, it's good to have

590
00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 2: them here. So I think he has to just resolve

591
00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:57,240
Speaker 2: within himself. And also the knee jerkness of it. If

592
00:30:57,240 --> 00:31:00,560
Speaker 2: you just let it be for three months and see

593
00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:03,680
Speaker 2: how it is, if you your internal stress is through

594
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:06,040
Speaker 2: the roof and it hasn't worked to do anything else,

595
00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:08,880
Speaker 2: and you're kind of have a safety net, and you're like,

596
00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:12,200
Speaker 2: let me just live where I've dual citizenship, go for it.

597
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:14,239
Speaker 5: Yeah, hell yeah. I mean you could stay here and

598
00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:16,760
Speaker 5: be a cop like most Irish people'd.

599
00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:17,880
Speaker 2: Be fine and a drunk with a gun at night.

600
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:19,480
Speaker 2: As David Teil's that it does.

601
00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:21,600
Speaker 5: Yes, we did, they stay here.

602
00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:23,200
Speaker 2: Shut up, all cops are bad.

603
00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 5: That's actually a good point though, of like go for

604
00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:29,040
Speaker 5: like three weeks and like see how you feel.

605
00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:33,120
Speaker 2: Well. I didn't say that because no, it's okay, no, no,

606
00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 2: I can explain myself okay, like codependent much just kidding, No,

607
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:42,360
Speaker 2: I said, let the decision sit in the decision for

608
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:44,120
Speaker 2: a few months before you go, because if you go

609
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:47,360
Speaker 2: for three months, it's going to be rose colored glasses.

610
00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 2: Look at this vacation, it feels so good. I've bought

611
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:56,840
Speaker 2: houses when I'm on vacation. I once I no, no,

612
00:31:56,920 --> 00:32:00,320
Speaker 2: like I'm gone. I remember going to Kenny right chelse

613
00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:05,400
Speaker 2: Ba and Tucson, and I had such an amazing emotional

614
00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:08,640
Speaker 2: spiritual experience because they have all these great like practitioners

615
00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:10,320
Speaker 2: and this and that. I'm like, I just need a

616
00:32:10,320 --> 00:32:13,440
Speaker 2: house on property and they sell house on They're not stupid,

617
00:32:13,640 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 2: they sell houses on property. So you suddenly move there.

618
00:32:16,960 --> 00:32:19,640
Speaker 2: Guess what, you still got all the same fucking problems.

619
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:22,719
Speaker 2: So if he would go to Donkey Irish Country for

620
00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 2: like three months, he might still have the rose colored

621
00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 2: glasses to be like ye pub, Like every time I

622
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:31,360
Speaker 2: watched Ted Lasso, I want to move to England because

623
00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:35,520
Speaker 2: I was like, oh wow, a pub everyone would know

624
00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:37,840
Speaker 2: who I am. Well, I could go to any pub

625
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:40,400
Speaker 2: in Connecticut and like, if you're putting the time to

626
00:32:40,440 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 2: make friends and you go to trivia or whatever, you

627
00:32:43,160 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 2: will have a place where everyone knows your name. Norm

628
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 2: from Cheers. It's not moving to Boston to get cheers.

629
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:53,200
Speaker 2: So I think work on the decision, work through it

630
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 2: with a pro but the escape thing, yeah, and also

631
00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:57,600
Speaker 2: we need to hear it.

632
00:32:57,680 --> 00:32:59,920
Speaker 5: Don't leave chill for a little bit and then maybe

633
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:02,640
Speaker 5: going a few months, going on vacation, going on.

634
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:04,880
Speaker 2: A vacation and come back. Stop with the vacation.

635
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 5: Take me shut up.

636
00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:09,200
Speaker 2: We got one more, bitch.

637
00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:13,000
Speaker 5: We got one more, all right? I think they're French.

638
00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:15,080
Speaker 2: Oh no, I mean great.

639
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 5: I don't really know. I can't do. I've lived. I

640
00:33:23,520 --> 00:33:26,120
Speaker 5: lived in Paris, close to my family my whole life.

641
00:33:26,160 --> 00:33:29,040
Speaker 5: But think the proximity to my parents, particularly my mom

642
00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:32,400
Speaker 5: has held me back from chasing my dreams and doing

643
00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:35,400
Speaker 5: what I want with my life. She's a total control freak,

644
00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 5: sizes me constantly. She's like me, my mom's dead. I

645
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:42,800
Speaker 5: move away from her so I can grow and finally

646
00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:45,720
Speaker 5: feel free. Or should I just limit my phone time

647
00:33:45,800 --> 00:33:52,080
Speaker 5: and visits with her and stay here? Thanks? Am you

648
00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 5: say it? You're from normal.

649
00:33:56,280 --> 00:33:59,600
Speaker 2: Like literally, everyone who's moved away from their mother does

650
00:33:59,640 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 2: not move away from their mother. You do not get

651
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 2: rid of your codependent relationship with your mom, which you will,

652
00:34:05,840 --> 00:34:07,760
Speaker 2: by the way, if you don't work on your codependency

653
00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:10,560
Speaker 2: will transfer to someone else, which will be your friends,

654
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:14,279
Speaker 2: your family, and everything every boyfriend or girlfriend or whatever

655
00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:20,480
Speaker 2: you get or in between, right, Nick, Yeah, so it

656
00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:22,400
Speaker 2: will be an issue that needs to be worked on.

657
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:27,080
Speaker 2: I think the stronger person goes, okay, let me work

658
00:34:27,120 --> 00:34:30,960
Speaker 2: on boundaries. Let me work on limiting. Boundaries are great

659
00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:33,719
Speaker 2: because you don't even have to tell someone it's a boundary.

660
00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:38,000
Speaker 2: Like I could literally be like, okay, sell Ya is

661
00:34:38,080 --> 00:34:41,440
Speaker 2: up my ass all the time, Like she's so annoying,

662
00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 2: Like I'm not making this up. Okay, Okay, let me

663
00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:47,160
Speaker 2: pick somebody else. Nick is up my ass all the time. No,

664
00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:50,920
Speaker 2: It's like, and suppose Nick sends me Suppose I have

665
00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:54,120
Speaker 2: a codependent relationship with Nick and he sends me ten

666
00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 2: Sopranos memes a day, And I'm like, I really need

667
00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:02,080
Speaker 2: to create a bounce around this. But I don't even

668
00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:04,800
Speaker 2: have to tell him. I just say I'm going to

669
00:35:04,880 --> 00:35:07,000
Speaker 2: look at it once a day. I'm going to delete

670
00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:09,759
Speaker 2: them all. He doesn't even have to be told. So

671
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:12,160
Speaker 2: she could create these boundaries with her mother about we

672
00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:14,319
Speaker 2: only talk once a week, but mom doesn't have to know.

673
00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:16,319
Speaker 2: You just have to return the call once a week.

674
00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:18,760
Speaker 2: It's just standing in your own power as a person.

675
00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:24,239
Speaker 2: So you never escape a parent by running away. They

676
00:35:24,600 --> 00:35:26,880
Speaker 2: It's almost like if you don't address the codependency, they

677
00:35:26,920 --> 00:35:29,000
Speaker 2: come out even in more full force. So it'll be like, well,

678
00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:31,279
Speaker 2: when am I flying in to see you? Well, I'm

679
00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:35,279
Speaker 2: gonna say it's your apartment? Right? Like no, right, So,

680
00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:37,680
Speaker 2: unless you're lucky enough to have a dead mother like Nick,

681
00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:40,000
Speaker 2: I know that was a good escape you made.

682
00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:41,200
Speaker 4: I know.

683
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:44,520
Speaker 2: I don't blame you. I met her. No, you just

684
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:47,480
Speaker 2: have to work on that internal stuff. And yeah, eventually,

685
00:35:47,520 --> 00:35:52,320
Speaker 2: it'd be like Paris always such a fantasy. It's such

686
00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:55,560
Speaker 2: a I watched five episodes of Emily in Paris and

687
00:35:55,760 --> 00:35:58,919
Speaker 2: have outfits, so I'm gonna go. It just doesn't work.

688
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:01,239
Speaker 2: It's like every York could moved to New York City

689
00:36:01,239 --> 00:36:03,360
Speaker 2: because they thought they'd be like Sex in the City,

690
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:05,600
Speaker 2: and it is never like Sex in the City. I

691
00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:11,799
Speaker 2: wore heels once. I wanted to shoot myself. No one

692
00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:15,960
Speaker 2: has a well written life like no one has a

693
00:36:16,000 --> 00:36:18,719
Speaker 2: life that's written like Michael Patrick King wrote Sex in

694
00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:22,520
Speaker 2: the City or Emily in Para. David Darren starwits Emily

695
00:36:22,520 --> 00:36:25,920
Speaker 2: in Paris. Our lives aren't written that way. They're mostly

696
00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:30,240
Speaker 2: at home crying and bored. I mean, if you're living,

697
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:31,880
Speaker 2: like in a city where you don't feel like you

698
00:36:31,960 --> 00:36:35,319
Speaker 2: have connection yet, So I would. I would. If I

699
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:38,320
Speaker 2: was her mother, I'd be much better than her mother,

700
00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:42,000
Speaker 2: but I would be like, work on your boundaries and codependency. First,

701
00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:44,279
Speaker 2: have a plan in place, and then see if you

702
00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 2: want to run towards a new experience. When you're looking

703
00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 2: at as an experience not an escape, is when you

704
00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:51,320
Speaker 2: know it's okay to go.

705
00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:54,360
Speaker 5: I agree with all of that, but you just said

706
00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:57,120
Speaker 5: yeah because if she just runs away. I actually think

707
00:36:57,120 --> 00:36:58,960
Speaker 5: about this a lot because it's just my dad and

708
00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:03,319
Speaker 5: I and I know he would. He's not controlling. It's

709
00:37:03,360 --> 00:37:06,000
Speaker 5: different with like a dad, but yeah, it could be,

710
00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:09,759
Speaker 5: you know. So, But I do think about, like, man,

711
00:37:09,840 --> 00:37:14,280
Speaker 5: if I moved away, like would he be okay? Yeah,

712
00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:16,400
Speaker 5: even to New York, even though it's an hour and

713
00:37:16,440 --> 00:37:18,560
Speaker 5: a half drive to Connecticut lives, I would be like,

714
00:37:18,640 --> 00:37:20,879
Speaker 5: oh what, he'd be all right? And I don't have

715
00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 5: that codependency stuff, but it's still I get it, Like

716
00:37:24,239 --> 00:37:26,600
Speaker 5: that's something I would definitely worry about, and to move

717
00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:30,360
Speaker 5: to leave she's in New Orleans to go to France. Yeah,

718
00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:31,800
Speaker 5: you could.

719
00:37:31,560 --> 00:37:34,600
Speaker 2: Put up less boundaries with your mom and get a

720
00:37:34,640 --> 00:37:37,640
Speaker 2: better result and be able to not move. Yeah, like

721
00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:40,279
Speaker 2: you could literally just be an adult. Like I hate

722
00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:42,560
Speaker 2: to say it, but like be a grown up. Be

723
00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:45,000
Speaker 2: a grown up and be like, oh, it's not my

724
00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:48,200
Speaker 2: job to answer the phone every time mom calls, or

725
00:37:49,680 --> 00:37:52,040
Speaker 2: just the phrasing she said about because of my mom,

726
00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:56,280
Speaker 2: I haven't pursued my dreams. Like there's literally no parent

727
00:37:56,960 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 2: whoever says I don't want you to live your dreams

728
00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:03,239
Speaker 2: or there's probably very few. Yeah, most people just you

729
00:38:03,320 --> 00:38:05,680
Speaker 2: have to kind of straighten them out a little bit, yeah.

730
00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:07,160
Speaker 5: Or at least I mean, like I remember when like

731
00:38:07,800 --> 00:38:10,000
Speaker 5: I stopped. This is so messed up, but I stopped

732
00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:12,320
Speaker 5: like telling my dad things like cool things that happened

733
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:15,000
Speaker 5: in my life. Yeah, when I was like twenty three

734
00:38:15,160 --> 00:38:16,960
Speaker 5: or twenty four, I just stopped because every time I

735
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 5: was excited and I told him, he always came back with, well,

736
00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:23,120
Speaker 5: you know, oh, you know what you're gonna do that? Yeah,

737
00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:25,799
Speaker 5: like Olivia Soprano.

738
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:28,080
Speaker 2: Of like Oh the World, Yeah yeah sure.

739
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:29,960
Speaker 5: So my grandmother was the same way. I was, like,

740
00:38:29,960 --> 00:38:32,359
Speaker 5: I'm just not gonna tell anyone anything anymore, right, So,

741
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 5: like that was the boundary I did. And he didn't

742
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:37,560
Speaker 5: want me to not be successful, Like I don't know how.

743
00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:39,319
Speaker 2: He was just fear.

744
00:38:39,640 --> 00:38:41,440
Speaker 5: But I mean I don't think your mom was like,

745
00:38:41,480 --> 00:38:43,680
Speaker 5: don't take that job, you fucking lose her.

746
00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:47,160
Speaker 2: Right. Well, I heard on a podcast that what not

747
00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:50,759
Speaker 2: Ours one people actually listened to where she said, no

748
00:38:50,840 --> 00:38:52,680
Speaker 2: one sets out to say I'm going to be a

749
00:38:52,719 --> 00:38:57,319
Speaker 2: shitty parent. It just is stuff that you know, they're

750
00:38:57,360 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 2: they're doing their best. Her mother's probably some big inta

751
00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:02,480
Speaker 2: who just wants her to be safe. You know, Oh

752
00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:04,160
Speaker 2: it's better you have a job as an accountan. Why

753
00:39:04,160 --> 00:39:06,440
Speaker 2: are you going to major in that? That's it's just

754
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:07,400
Speaker 2: hard to be an actor.

755
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:08,279
Speaker 4: You know.

756
00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:09,879
Speaker 2: That's a tough thing.

757
00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:12,959
Speaker 5: Sorry, I don't even cut you off. But my dad

758
00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:16,279
Speaker 5: does that with comedy. Yeah, when I first started, he

759
00:39:16,360 --> 00:39:20,399
Speaker 5: would be like, so like this comedy thing, like it's

760
00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:23,279
Speaker 5: just fun, right, Like you're not right, like I mean yeah,

761
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:25,799
Speaker 5: but like you're making money or I go, I mean

762
00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:29,840
Speaker 5: some and he's like, just have fun, don't yeah, Like

763
00:39:30,560 --> 00:39:32,480
Speaker 5: and coming from him when your dad's and you know,

764
00:39:32,560 --> 00:39:35,040
Speaker 5: his fast food outfit at seventy five years old, he's

765
00:39:35,040 --> 00:39:37,480
Speaker 5: going bankrupt twice. You're like, all right, I see where

766
00:39:37,480 --> 00:39:39,360
Speaker 5: this is coming from, right, he does. He wants his

767
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:41,759
Speaker 5: son to be safe. He's not saying, don't do it,

768
00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 5: You're you're not gonna be good. It's I don't want

769
00:39:43,680 --> 00:39:46,359
Speaker 5: you to be successful. He's just like, please don't end

770
00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:49,040
Speaker 5: up like me. Like he's basically what he's saying.

771
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 2: I get that. And also like with someone like her,

772
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:57,799
Speaker 2: she's anyone. Anytime somebody says so and so is a

773
00:39:57,880 --> 00:40:03,520
Speaker 2: control freak where volunteering to be controlled. So this is

774
00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:06,600
Speaker 2: not the case obviously with abused people or people who

775
00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:09,680
Speaker 2: are in a tenuous situation financially and can't leave the

776
00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 2: husband or wife or whatever. But if your mom's a

777
00:40:12,520 --> 00:40:16,200
Speaker 2: control freak, like you're allowing it, and it's hard. It's

778
00:40:16,239 --> 00:40:18,960
Speaker 2: not easy. I'm not saying, oh, so just stop no,

779
00:40:19,200 --> 00:40:23,680
Speaker 2: but you have to figure out why. And every little

780
00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:26,160
Speaker 2: time you don't call back immediately, every little time you

781
00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:28,359
Speaker 2: don't pick up that phone, every little time you go, yeah, well,

782
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:32,040
Speaker 2: I think I'm right, it's just nicking away what you

783
00:40:32,160 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 2: need to work on, and then maybe you don't have

784
00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 2: to upend your whole life and move to Paris because

785
00:40:38,080 --> 00:40:40,600
Speaker 2: they hate us there they do, and you know what,

786
00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:52,960
Speaker 2: I hate you already, Paris. You count Oh my god. Well,

787
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:57,359
Speaker 2: I think we've helped literally no one, which is my goal,

788
00:40:57,760 --> 00:41:01,320
Speaker 2: just talk and help damn soul. This is the time

789
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:04,680
Speaker 2: that we always do Lisa's fuck up of the week. Now,

790
00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 2: I have a long list, because I usually have a

791
00:41:08,080 --> 00:41:11,960
Speaker 2: running list for a week. This week, I feel a

792
00:41:12,040 --> 00:41:15,880
Speaker 2: near to gonna laugh, but it's I'm truthful. I feel

793
00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:21,320
Speaker 2: like bad about making fun of Celia's moon boots, and

794
00:41:21,320 --> 00:41:23,879
Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell you why. No, You're gonna both laugh.

795
00:41:24,000 --> 00:41:31,840
Speaker 2: But I mean this, I don't think that was nice.

796
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 2: Just because I think someone's footwear is morally reprehensible, ugly

797
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:46,160
Speaker 2: and unflattering doesn't mean that I should puss out and

798
00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 2: wait till i'm the air. What I do is the

799
00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:54,200
Speaker 2: old me. What I would do is say, like an

800
00:41:54,239 --> 00:41:57,120
Speaker 2: opening act of mine would be in the room or whatever,

801
00:41:57,440 --> 00:41:59,840
Speaker 2: and they'd have on something I didn't like, and I

802
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:02,680
Speaker 2: would be like, no, great good, And then I go

803
00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:05,440
Speaker 2: and say, just say, the fucking shoes on that guys,

804
00:42:05,440 --> 00:42:11,240
Speaker 2: like a terrible, cowardly thing. But also, my opinion doesn't count.

805
00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:14,960
Speaker 2: I think I wanted to make fun of them because

806
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:18,000
Speaker 2: of me saying so's my cunt, Like I wanted to

807
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:20,840
Speaker 2: get a funny line in at the expense of your shoes.

808
00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:25,920
Speaker 2: So I feel like I don't want you to be sad. No,

809
00:42:26,120 --> 00:42:28,200
Speaker 2: don't answer before I'm done. I'm not your code of

810
00:42:28,239 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 2: pending fucking weird parents that we'll talk about some other time.

811
00:42:32,080 --> 00:42:35,799
Speaker 2: I don't want you to feel like, Wow, you know

812
00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:38,799
Speaker 2: I'm gonna come in here and oh suddenly I'm the

813
00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:42,600
Speaker 2: fucking fodder for the routine and you probably are. You're

814
00:42:42,640 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 2: gonna have to be. That's what you get when you

815
00:42:45,040 --> 00:42:48,279
Speaker 2: sign on. So not taking my apology back now, So

816
00:42:48,520 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 2: I feel like it came out sideways. My opinion of

817
00:42:53,239 --> 00:42:59,520
Speaker 2: people's fashion and boots, etc. Is not everyone's opinion and

818
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 2: is long. You're happy. It's killing me to say it.

819
00:43:02,760 --> 00:43:07,399
Speaker 2: I'm happy, but I felt that you were getting too

820
00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:11,840
Speaker 2: many shocks also, which felt weird, and it's almost like,

821
00:43:12,160 --> 00:43:17,560
Speaker 2: I don't want you being shocked for something that's that unattractive.

822
00:43:17,680 --> 00:43:20,879
Speaker 2: So if you're gonna wear something that, I get why

823
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:24,600
Speaker 2: they wore corsets and we're uncomfortable because it's fucking hot weight.

824
00:43:24,640 --> 00:43:31,600
Speaker 2: Now I don't know you're not part, so I shouldn't

825
00:43:31,680 --> 00:43:35,239
Speaker 2: yuck you'r yum. So I feel bad, but not bad

826
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:37,120
Speaker 2: enough for I'm not still making fun of it, so

827
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:40,400
Speaker 2: there's still something wrong with me. So I apologize for

828
00:43:40,440 --> 00:43:43,640
Speaker 2: having a terrible personality. I think I'm just apologizing for

829
00:43:43,719 --> 00:43:48,480
Speaker 2: not being having any real answer to this thing, like

830
00:43:48,560 --> 00:43:50,799
Speaker 2: how do you be a comic and even know I'm

831
00:43:50,840 --> 00:43:54,240
Speaker 2: retired and not make fun and how do you really

832
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 2: do it? But I'm still finding my way, so I apologize.

833
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:02,719
Speaker 2: I just don't know.

834
00:44:03,360 --> 00:44:05,799
Speaker 4: Well, I love being a clown, so I don't mind

835
00:44:05,800 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 4: being made fun of, But will you be laughing when

836
00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:10,240
Speaker 4: you fall on the ice?

837
00:44:10,280 --> 00:44:12,240
Speaker 2: And I don't, well, no, because I have a driver,

838
00:44:12,880 --> 00:44:15,399
Speaker 2: so I don't.

839
00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:18,239
Speaker 4: Nick actually absolutely annihilated with that.

840
00:44:18,920 --> 00:44:20,239
Speaker 2: You know what? It is funny though?

841
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 4: No?

842
00:44:21,239 --> 00:44:25,000
Speaker 2: Uh no, you're right, they're certain. But don't you have

843
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:28,680
Speaker 2: the thing where like you wear them and then change

844
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:30,960
Speaker 2: them into shoes that don't shock you? Because I think

845
00:44:30,960 --> 00:44:34,719
Speaker 2: there's two issues. The two issues are I find them

846
00:44:35,480 --> 00:44:38,799
Speaker 2: weird looking and only cute when you would have like

847
00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:42,160
Speaker 2: proportionately like leggings or whatever, because then they would be

848
00:44:42,239 --> 00:44:46,520
Speaker 2: some proportion like yeah, I mean it shouldn't be boxbox box.

849
00:44:46,520 --> 00:44:48,799
Speaker 2: It should be who I am an azoid, So I'm

850
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:51,640
Speaker 2: a fashion influence on by the way what I have on.

851
00:44:51,960 --> 00:44:54,919
Speaker 2: I know I have boxbox box. I get it. I've

852
00:44:54,920 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 2: done boxbox box, but the thin legging and that would

853
00:44:59,680 --> 00:45:02,719
Speaker 2: probably oh my god, they're a fashion piece and now

854
00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 2: it just looks boxy. But so it doesn't matter if

855
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:09,400
Speaker 2: I like him or hate them. I just also was like,

856
00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:16,560
Speaker 2: wonder why you're willing to not change and then not

857
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:19,600
Speaker 2: get shocks. But that's none of my business anyway.

858
00:45:20,239 --> 00:45:21,399
Speaker 4: Honestly, I didn't think about it.

859
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:24,759
Speaker 2: So maybe I'm a great person because I've opened you

860
00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:29,400
Speaker 2: up to this possibility. I actually do get concerned over youngsters,

861
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Speaker 2: and you're young. You know, you're twenty two, So I

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Speaker 2: get concerned over like, ooh, this pattern of volunteering for

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Speaker 2: pain probably is in other areas of one's life, you

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Speaker 2: know what I mean, like over doing things, over working,

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Speaker 2: over exercise, not eating it up, whatever it is. It's like, ooh,

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Speaker 2: how much pain are we going to volunteer for? So

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Speaker 2: I think I saw them as more of a symptom

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Speaker 2: of ooh, self inflicted harm. You're doing sah, self harm.

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Speaker 2: This is cutting is your version of cutting for cowards,

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Speaker 2: so it just won't even be okay. I think at

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Speaker 2: heart it was a noble uh pointing him out on

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Speaker 2: my part, but came with a joke that I don't like.

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Speaker 2: So that's all I apologize. If not, if I apologize

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Speaker 2: that it was probably said incorrectly, does that make sense? Absolutely? Say,

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Speaker 2: I forgive you, Lisa, I forget. Who's the cutest person

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Speaker 2: I ever met?

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 2: No, you're okay.

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Speaker 4: You know what I do look like so I can't

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Speaker 4: even you can't even next week we have like snatched leggings,

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Speaker 4: but you're right.

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Speaker 2: Just just take them off when you're in here and

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Speaker 2: don't shock yourself. Just go and bare feet do something

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Speaker 2: I will je good feet. I have big feet, me too?

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Speaker 2: What size? Holy ship minor ten? You're drag green feet

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Speaker 2: and they're wide. I'm also oh yeah, huh, Nick, I'm

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Speaker 2: very very tall, NiCoT, your.

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Speaker 5: Feet eleven and a half?

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Speaker 2: Holy shito, we know what that means? Follow me, Nick,

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Speaker 2: scope of handle, big cat cag All right. So as

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Speaker 2: long as Celia forgives me, I'm happy. And by the way,

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Speaker 2: I know I mispronounced her name, it's on purpose. It's

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Speaker 2: a control thing. I'm working on it. Okay, so listen,

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Speaker 2: this was fun. Nick. Did you ever get Tiama?

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Speaker 5: I had like a blast.

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Speaker 2: Well, you know what I'm going to say, are very

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Speaker 2: very neatly typed up outro, which is thanks for listening.

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Speaker 2: Be sure to email us your questions at shrink this

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Speaker 2: Show at gmail dot com. That Shrink this Show at

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Speaker 2: gmail dot com. Follow me on socials Lise Lamp and

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Speaker 2: Ally Lee's lamp and Elly Jeez a big cunt and

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Speaker 2: we know it. Uh and uh listen into like all

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Speaker 2: ones it Wait, this is the one we always have

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Speaker 2: to edit. Make sure to listen to Well, Nick should

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Speaker 2: be doing this. You do the loser work here. I

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Speaker 2: should not say you know what, I take it back,

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Speaker 2: Shut up, I take back my apology. Make Nick do

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Speaker 2: the loser stuff.

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Speaker 3: Go ahead, Nick.

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Speaker 5: Make sure to follow me on socials at Nick Scobes

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Speaker 5: and Lisa Lambell both of us, And make sure to

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Speaker 5: listen to Shrink This on your iHeartRadio app or wherever

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Speaker 5: you get podcasts.

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Speaker 2: I get mine at the iHeartRadio podcast app. Where do

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Speaker 2: you get it?

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Speaker 3: Nick?

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Speaker 2: Where do you get yours?

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Speaker 5: Usually spotifyheart Radio. Yeah, yeah, it's.

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Speaker 2: Such a fucking jerk, we love you. Shrink this