1 00:00:01,240 --> 00:00:04,840 Speaker 1: Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning show. 2 00:00:05,760 --> 00:00:09,039 Speaker 2: You know what, we've become such creatures of habit, not 3 00:00:09,080 --> 00:00:11,239 Speaker 2: only the way we brush our teeth and the way 4 00:00:11,280 --> 00:00:14,360 Speaker 2: we put on our clothes every morning. And we also 5 00:00:14,720 --> 00:00:17,959 Speaker 2: become creatures of habit in the way we perceive things 6 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:20,000 Speaker 2: and think of things. For instance, if you see a 7 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:23,160 Speaker 2: fire or smell of fire, you automatically think, well, it's 8 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:26,479 Speaker 2: this is that, And you think the same thing every 9 00:00:26,480 --> 00:00:28,600 Speaker 2: time you drive the same way to work every day. 10 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:32,720 Speaker 2: But Ghani and I, of course were members of we're 11 00:00:32,800 --> 00:00:37,239 Speaker 2: members of Medium. This incredible subscription you get. By the way, 12 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:39,199 Speaker 2: they're not sponsors of ours. We pay for it, We 13 00:00:39,280 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 2: pay full for us. Yeah, they send you incredible short 14 00:00:43,120 --> 00:00:46,720 Speaker 2: stories and I don't know how would you describe it. 15 00:00:47,760 --> 00:00:50,440 Speaker 1: I mean, there are all kinds of categories and people 16 00:00:50,479 --> 00:00:53,840 Speaker 1: can contribute to each category, you know, whether it's an 17 00:00:53,880 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 1: article or a list or science. And they're constantly updating it, 18 00:00:56,520 --> 00:00:57,960 Speaker 1: and I just I don't know, I really like it. 19 00:00:57,960 --> 00:01:01,400 Speaker 1: It's really digestible nuggets of news exactly. 20 00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:03,360 Speaker 2: They tell you. The following is a three minute read. 21 00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:07,040 Speaker 2: As a matter of fact, This one from Alberto Garcia 22 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:12,679 Speaker 2: three minute read. It's entitled three quick quotes from Louise Hay. 23 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:14,800 Speaker 2: We'll have to dig in and see who she is 24 00:01:15,200 --> 00:01:18,920 Speaker 2: that will instantly rewire your brain. Are you curious? Yes, 25 00:01:19,720 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 2: they're gone to say some phrases can heal the wounds 26 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:23,960 Speaker 2: of the soul. I've searched for these phrases and self 27 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:27,440 Speaker 2: help and spirituality books for the last seven years. These 28 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:30,839 Speaker 2: three from Louise Hay are the ones that have done 29 00:01:30,880 --> 00:01:34,759 Speaker 2: me the most good. Number one about your subconscious. Don't 30 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 2: make jokes or derogatory remarks about yourself, as they will 31 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:41,680 Speaker 2: not create good experiences for you. Don't do it about 32 00:01:41,680 --> 00:01:46,080 Speaker 2: others either. The subconscious does not distinguish between you and others. 33 00:01:46,840 --> 00:01:48,559 Speaker 2: You do know that, right, I. 34 00:01:48,480 --> 00:01:50,040 Speaker 1: Didn't know that. 35 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:50,960 Speaker 3: That's a tough one. 36 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:52,680 Speaker 1: I feel like we all make fun of ourselves all 37 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 1: the time. 38 00:01:53,240 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 2: Yep, so it's tough. 39 00:01:54,440 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 1: You know, you don't want to take yourself too seriously. 40 00:01:56,240 --> 00:01:58,560 Speaker 1: But at the same time, I totally get how making 41 00:01:58,560 --> 00:02:00,880 Speaker 1: fun of other people are talking badly other people would 42 00:02:00,920 --> 00:02:04,880 Speaker 1: rewire your brain to just be negative about everything exactly. 43 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 2: So if you're overly critical about yourself or other overly 44 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:13,280 Speaker 2: critical about other people, that stuff registers in your subconscious yep, mind, 45 00:02:14,080 --> 00:02:15,920 Speaker 2: and it doesn't know the difference between what's real and 46 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 2: what's not. They go on to say, being too critical 47 00:02:18,520 --> 00:02:21,800 Speaker 2: of others made people reject me, closed doors for me, 48 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:24,920 Speaker 2: and my subconscious could reaffirm that I'm not enough. Narrative. 49 00:02:24,919 --> 00:02:27,079 Speaker 2: That narrative was bigger than ever. All right, let me 50 00:02:27,120 --> 00:02:30,560 Speaker 2: give another one totally about manipulators. Does anyone here have 51 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:32,320 Speaker 2: a manipulator in their lives? Anyone? 52 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:33,080 Speaker 1: I think so? 53 00:02:34,120 --> 00:02:35,919 Speaker 2: Why you were looking at me? I didn't do anything. 54 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:40,560 Speaker 2: She goes on to say, many times others send us 55 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:44,440 Speaker 2: negative messages because that's the easiest way to manipulate us. 56 00:02:44,960 --> 00:02:47,800 Speaker 3: This is true, yes, yeah, But isn't that like in 57 00:02:47,880 --> 00:02:52,080 Speaker 3: a lot of relationships, like abusive relationships, even mentally abusive, 58 00:02:52,440 --> 00:02:54,960 Speaker 3: that's what they do. They mentally, they get in your 59 00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:56,960 Speaker 3: head and they tell you you're not good enough without me, 60 00:02:57,200 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 3: or you're not good enough in general, and then that's yeah, 61 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:03,720 Speaker 3: it's manipulation absolutely, Or. 62 00:03:03,919 --> 00:03:05,919 Speaker 2: Also just saying, you know, making fun of you and 63 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:08,640 Speaker 2: bullying you because you bought something a shirt that they 64 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 2: don't like. Oh god, you're gonnaware of that, you know, Really, 65 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:17,040 Speaker 2: that's manipulating. The romantic partners, they say, who are constantly 66 00:03:17,040 --> 00:03:20,359 Speaker 2: criticized criticizing me, were not criticizing me because I was 67 00:03:20,400 --> 00:03:22,480 Speaker 2: as bad as they wanted me to think. They were 68 00:03:22,520 --> 00:03:24,919 Speaker 2: making me believe I was not up to their standards 69 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:27,640 Speaker 2: to keep me as long as possible. The boss my 70 00:03:27,720 --> 00:03:30,240 Speaker 2: bosses told me that I was doing badly when I 71 00:03:30,320 --> 00:03:33,800 Speaker 2: was the best seller in the law firm, to squeeze 72 00:03:33,840 --> 00:03:37,119 Speaker 2: as much out of me as possible. My father constantly 73 00:03:37,120 --> 00:03:39,880 Speaker 2: criticized me for everything I did, so I would seek 74 00:03:39,920 --> 00:03:44,120 Speaker 2: his approval. Oh yeah, how familiar is this seeking our parents' approval? 75 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 2: So I would seek his approval and make up for 76 00:03:47,680 --> 00:03:51,120 Speaker 2: lost time after years of neglect. The lesson is we've 77 00:03:51,120 --> 00:03:54,040 Speaker 2: been educated in guilt, and guilt works as a repressor 78 00:03:54,080 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 2: of our will. If someone's constantly criticizing you, ask yourself 79 00:03:57,520 --> 00:04:01,680 Speaker 2: why they're doing it. It's not that you're bad, but 80 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:04,760 Speaker 2: it's because that person has hidden agendas that you don't 81 00:04:04,800 --> 00:04:05,200 Speaker 2: know about. 82 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:08,200 Speaker 1: Without a doubt, I think criticizing people and being really 83 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:10,840 Speaker 1: mean and you know, saying all those hateful things, it's 84 00:04:10,840 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 1: the easiest way to keep somebody in a box. But 85 00:04:13,280 --> 00:04:14,760 Speaker 1: as soon as you get out of a box, that's 86 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:15,640 Speaker 1: when you can fly. 87 00:04:17,680 --> 00:04:20,760 Speaker 2: Very true and very will put a very nice visual there. 88 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:23,560 Speaker 2: If your childhood this is the last one. If in 89 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:25,840 Speaker 2: your childhood you felt a lot of fear and anguish 90 00:04:26,400 --> 00:04:29,040 Speaker 2: and now you sort of sort of mentally punish yourself, 91 00:04:29,080 --> 00:04:31,640 Speaker 2: you continue to treat your inner child the same way. 92 00:04:31,839 --> 00:04:34,560 Speaker 2: They say that children can become very cruel. And we 93 00:04:34,640 --> 00:04:36,920 Speaker 2: know that this person grew up in the eighties and 94 00:04:37,000 --> 00:04:40,640 Speaker 2: kids were diabolical as they were when I was. They 95 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:43,760 Speaker 2: are and a lot of times teachers look the other 96 00:04:43,760 --> 00:04:45,239 Speaker 2: way because they didn't want to have to deal. 97 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:48,120 Speaker 3: With it, which is not good. 98 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:52,719 Speaker 2: I was bullied myself. My inner child was bullied as well. 99 00:04:52,800 --> 00:04:56,920 Speaker 2: So when you feel hurt, you bully that kid that's 100 00:04:56,920 --> 00:05:00,880 Speaker 2: still in you. She says, My inner child needed two things. 101 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:02,520 Speaker 2: Number one to know that I love it and to 102 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:06,240 Speaker 2: trust the adult I've become. So, whether you start a 103 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:10,000 Speaker 2: self destructive habit, visualize your inner child. So that's it. 104 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:12,200 Speaker 2: If you're doing something in your life now that's a 105 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:16,599 Speaker 2: habit that's bad for you. It could be drinking, smoking, drugs, whatever, 106 00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:21,440 Speaker 2: or not taking care of yourself physically or emotionally. Whenever 107 00:05:21,480 --> 00:05:25,520 Speaker 2: you start this self destructive habit, visualize your inner child 108 00:05:26,120 --> 00:05:28,599 Speaker 2: and look at it as if you were its parent 109 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:32,960 Speaker 2: and act accordingly. This little exercise can seriously change your 110 00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:35,120 Speaker 2: life completely. It's like a little virtual hug you. Does 111 00:05:35,160 --> 00:05:36,200 Speaker 2: that make sense what I just said? 112 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:37,920 Speaker 3: Yes? Yeah. 113 00:05:38,000 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 2: If you're doing something that's bad, it may be because 114 00:05:41,080 --> 00:05:44,000 Speaker 2: you need a quick fix. You may be sad. But 115 00:05:44,160 --> 00:05:46,599 Speaker 2: if you do this or that, it'll make you happy, 116 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:52,080 Speaker 2: like eating an entire pizza whatever. Well that what would 117 00:05:52,080 --> 00:05:53,880 Speaker 2: you as a parent of your inner child is a 118 00:05:53,920 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 2: parent of yourself? What would you say, Hey, yeah, you 119 00:05:57,200 --> 00:05:58,840 Speaker 2: don't want to do that, and here's why, even though 120 00:05:58,880 --> 00:06:01,760 Speaker 2: it tastes good, you shouldn't do it. I don't know. 121 00:06:01,800 --> 00:06:03,840 Speaker 2: I think this is pretty strong. I don't know if 122 00:06:03,880 --> 00:06:06,400 Speaker 2: I gave it to you in as strong as manner 123 00:06:06,440 --> 00:06:10,640 Speaker 2: as it needed. I don't know any thoughts about any 124 00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 2: of this. 125 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:12,560 Speaker 1: I love that kind of stuff. I don't know. I 126 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:15,320 Speaker 1: just like to think about what am I doing and 127 00:06:15,320 --> 00:06:18,160 Speaker 1: why am I doing it this way? It is interesting 128 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 1: what you just said about picture your inner child doing it. 129 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:23,719 Speaker 1: It is really weird to think about a little me, 130 00:06:24,040 --> 00:06:26,159 Speaker 1: the child version of me, like taking a shot of whiskey. 131 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:29,080 Speaker 1: That's crazy. 132 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:32,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, what are you doing? Child? Yeah? What are you 133 00:06:32,960 --> 00:06:35,520 Speaker 2: doing here? Why are you doing it? That's another thing, 134 00:06:35,680 --> 00:06:37,440 Speaker 2: like if you're out with friends and like, come on, 135 00:06:37,520 --> 00:06:42,320 Speaker 2: let's drink, let's get really messed up. Well, okay, but 136 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:43,240 Speaker 2: why am I doing it? 137 00:06:44,160 --> 00:06:46,480 Speaker 3: It'll be interesting to see what each person would say, 138 00:06:46,520 --> 00:06:51,560 Speaker 3: because obviously it would be totally different for everyone exactly exactly. 139 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:54,760 Speaker 2: So sometimes you need to be your own parent, which 140 00:06:54,839 --> 00:06:57,760 Speaker 2: is something I'd never really thought about until I read this. 141 00:06:57,839 --> 00:06:59,760 Speaker 2: And I want to know more about Louise Hey. 142 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:03,640 Speaker 1: She was a motivational speaker and an author. She liked 143 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:08,920 Speaker 1: to encourage people to enjoy joy and find joy, positive affirmations, 144 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:10,320 Speaker 1: and feel good about themselves. 145 00:07:10,760 --> 00:07:12,640 Speaker 2: And if you want to know more about a lot 146 00:07:12,680 --> 00:07:17,160 Speaker 2: of these essays and short stories you can read. It's Medium. 147 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:20,400 Speaker 2: It's the name of the organization. You can join and 148 00:07:20,400 --> 00:07:23,520 Speaker 2: they will send you stories and essays that are curated 149 00:07:23,520 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 2: to the things that you are interested in. Right, is 150 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:27,680 Speaker 2: that what we did? 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