1
00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, they talk better than they tell me about. These

2
00:00:03,720 --> 00:00:06,320
Speaker 1: are the radio blogs on the Fred Show, like for

3
00:00:06,440 --> 00:00:08,280
Speaker 1: running in our diaries, except we said them aloud. We

4
00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:10,160
Speaker 1: call them blogs kinky go.

5
00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:13,080
Speaker 2: Yes, Okay, So, dear blog. I know we've been down

6
00:00:13,160 --> 00:00:15,800
Speaker 2: this road before. But I have a wedding coming up

7
00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:18,799
Speaker 2: for a friend, and you know, the friend group is tight,

8
00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:22,439
Speaker 2: So everybody has gotten their invites, rs vps are rolling in,

9
00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:27,480
Speaker 2: but there's some controversy because not everyone on the invite

10
00:00:27,560 --> 00:00:31,319
Speaker 2: list received a plus one. So I got a call

11
00:00:31,480 --> 00:00:33,760
Speaker 2: that said, hey, you girl, are you going to you

12
00:00:33,800 --> 00:00:36,240
Speaker 2: know so and so's wedding? I said yes. They said,

13
00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:40,120
Speaker 2: did Big Tim get an invite too? And I said yes,

14
00:00:40,880 --> 00:00:44,800
Speaker 2: and they're like, hmmm, well that's funny because my husband

15
00:00:45,120 --> 00:00:49,000
Speaker 2: didn't get invited and you all aren't even married. I said, oh, no,

16
00:00:49,080 --> 00:00:55,920
Speaker 2: hold on it. Yeah, I didn't make the invite, right,

17
00:00:56,280 --> 00:00:59,360
Speaker 2: But I was like, hmm, that's interesting. And so it

18
00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:01,920
Speaker 2: made me think of the question, like, when you're who

19
00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:05,800
Speaker 2: you know, doing a whole wedding, should every person invite

20
00:01:05,840 --> 00:01:07,240
Speaker 2: it get a plus one option.

21
00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:10,600
Speaker 1: I didn't realize if you were married that you could

22
00:01:10,600 --> 00:01:13,479
Speaker 1: invite just one of the people, right, Yeah, I thought

23
00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:15,280
Speaker 1: it was just kind of assumed that if I, if

24
00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:17,959
Speaker 1: I'm married, that my wife could come with me, Like

25
00:01:18,160 --> 00:01:19,959
Speaker 1: I didn't. I guess I figured that was a given.

26
00:01:20,040 --> 00:01:21,600
Speaker 1: Like when you invited me, you know it was gonna

27
00:01:21,600 --> 00:01:24,800
Speaker 1: be like, honey, I'm going to Toledo for a wedding

28
00:01:24,840 --> 00:01:27,280
Speaker 1: this week, so I gotta go. You know, Sorry, you

29
00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:29,119
Speaker 1: have a good weekend. Like whose wedding is? And I'm

30
00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:31,360
Speaker 1: so I know them too, Yeah, I know you weren't invited,

31
00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:34,160
Speaker 1: Like right, yeah, I don't know. I guess the only

32
00:01:34,200 --> 00:01:36,480
Speaker 1: time that I would, I don't know what the etiquette is,

33
00:01:36,800 --> 00:01:39,080
Speaker 1: but the only time that I would, I would. It's

34
00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:40,880
Speaker 1: a little gray of a gray area for me because

35
00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:43,000
Speaker 1: I typically am not dating anyone, and even if I were,

36
00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:47,039
Speaker 1: I'm not married to them. So like I sometimes will ask,

37
00:01:47,120 --> 00:01:48,920
Speaker 1: and I know people think that's rude, but it's like,

38
00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:51,480
Speaker 1: I don't know. Am I expected to show up by myself?

39
00:01:51,480 --> 00:01:53,800
Speaker 1: Maybe I am, but I guess I would. And people

40
00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:55,840
Speaker 1: have said to me before, like, oh, it's rude to ask.

41
00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:58,200
Speaker 1: I'm like, but I just tell me no, like can

42
00:01:58,240 --> 00:01:59,880
Speaker 1: I bring someone or not? And if the answer is no,

43
00:02:00,160 --> 00:02:02,440
Speaker 1: then no. But I guess it's the etiquette would say

44
00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:04,800
Speaker 1: it's based on a way that the invitation's written, right.

45
00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:07,520
Speaker 2: I guess so, And I just I just thought if

46
00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:10,080
Speaker 2: you have a wedding and every person you invite, you

47
00:02:10,160 --> 00:02:13,400
Speaker 2: just give them a plus one, whether they take a

48
00:02:13,440 --> 00:02:16,320
Speaker 2: person or not, you just offer it because maybe they

49
00:02:16,320 --> 00:02:18,160
Speaker 2: want to bring their best you know, their bestie to

50
00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:20,360
Speaker 2: hang with them tonight or may. I don't know. Everybody

51
00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:21,919
Speaker 2: wants somebody to kiss the something that a wedding.

52
00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:25,239
Speaker 1: No always, sorry, girl, Yeah, weddings are a little weird

53
00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:27,959
Speaker 1: to go to by yourself, especially if you maybe don't

54
00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:29,960
Speaker 1: know the person as well, Like if it's a family

55
00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:31,960
Speaker 1: wedding or something, that's one thing, but I don't know.

56
00:02:31,960 --> 00:02:33,839
Speaker 1: And I get that it would be rude to put

57
00:02:33,840 --> 00:02:35,960
Speaker 1: someone in the spot that like, hey, can I bring someone?

58
00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:38,240
Speaker 1: But I also know about situations where people have just

59
00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:41,000
Speaker 1: brought or RSVP plus one and they didn't have one

60
00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:43,160
Speaker 1: and they didn't know. So I guess I would rather

61
00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:45,800
Speaker 1: just clarify, like, hey, are you expecting me or expect

62
00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:47,880
Speaker 1: can I bring someone? And if you say like oh no,

63
00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:50,320
Speaker 1: I've had people say no it was just you and

64
00:02:50,600 --> 00:02:53,079
Speaker 1: it's fine because I also would understand somebody who's like,

65
00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:55,200
Speaker 1: I don't need to pay. I don't need some random

66
00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:56,760
Speaker 1: at my wedding, you know what I mean, Like, I

67
00:02:56,760 --> 00:02:59,360
Speaker 1: don't don't go on like hinge and I wouldn't do this,

68
00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:00,919
Speaker 1: but like, don't go get a dating app, you know,

69
00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:02,880
Speaker 1: don't go match with somebody and then bring that what

70
00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:05,520
Speaker 1: I gotta pay for that I even know them, so

71
00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:07,120
Speaker 1: I get that, like in the dating world that can

72
00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:08,960
Speaker 1: be a little bit weird. But I did not know

73
00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:11,840
Speaker 1: that you could invite one half of a married couple

74
00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:12,320
Speaker 1: and not the.

75
00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:14,919
Speaker 2: Other right, and then here you go, you got your

76
00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:17,120
Speaker 2: technically single friend over here with her man, and now

77
00:03:17,160 --> 00:03:19,720
Speaker 2: everybody's looking like, well, why didn't I get an invite?

78
00:03:19,720 --> 00:03:21,600
Speaker 2: And I'm just like, I don't know the proper way

79
00:03:21,600 --> 00:03:24,160
Speaker 2: to do this. I just if it was me, I

80
00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:27,440
Speaker 2: think I would just invite whoever I want to invite,

81
00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:30,040
Speaker 2: and they would get a plus one. Whatever you do

82
00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:32,960
Speaker 2: with your plus one is up to you. But you know,

83
00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:36,720
Speaker 2: I don't want to single anybody out. That's how I think.

84
00:03:36,320 --> 00:03:38,080
Speaker 1: That's the easiest way to do this, because then you

85
00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:41,360
Speaker 1: don't have this situation where it's like, well, Kiki's boyfriend

86
00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:44,360
Speaker 1: got invited, but my wife didn't or my husband didn't,

87
00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:46,360
Speaker 1: and I think that's more important than a boyfriend. And

88
00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:47,880
Speaker 1: then you get into all that, and then you could

89
00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:49,800
Speaker 1: also make the argument I don't care what you think,

90
00:03:49,800 --> 00:03:52,119
Speaker 1: it's my wedding. Well that part, but I also think

91
00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:55,160
Speaker 1: if it's your wedding, you're gonna you might alienate yourself

92
00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:58,240
Speaker 1: from people by doing it this way. True, you know

93
00:03:58,280 --> 00:04:01,600
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like your friend might be irritated with you.

94
00:04:02,120 --> 00:04:04,160
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying it's there right because again, it's

95
00:04:04,160 --> 00:04:06,360
Speaker 1: your day, but like, why would you leave my husband

96
00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:07,400
Speaker 1: out of this right.

97
00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:10,000
Speaker 2: In this particular friend, She says she did not r SVP.

98
00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:12,800
Speaker 2: She's like, I'm just not because it's only from me.

99
00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:14,600
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh, okay.

100
00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:17,760
Speaker 3: I think married or long term someone should get a

101
00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:20,680
Speaker 3: plus one. I understand if someone's single, you're not giving

102
00:04:20,680 --> 00:04:24,359
Speaker 3: them one if things are tight money or space, but

103
00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:26,840
Speaker 3: I think it shouldn't matter married or long term you've

104
00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:29,160
Speaker 3: been dating to him forever. I think you both should

105
00:04:29,160 --> 00:04:31,919
Speaker 3: have plus ones. Not going as wild.

106
00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:33,800
Speaker 1: Right, I was like, oh boy, I'm with you though

107
00:04:33,839 --> 00:04:35,800
Speaker 1: about it. Just kind of assuming that people are going

108
00:04:35,880 --> 00:04:37,760
Speaker 1: to bring a plus one because you're going to invite couples,

109
00:04:37,800 --> 00:04:39,880
Speaker 1: and you're going to invite singles, and some of the

110
00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:42,880
Speaker 1: couples won't come, right because I get when you invite people,

111
00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:44,960
Speaker 1: you're thinking in your head, well like three quarters of

112
00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:47,279
Speaker 1: these people are going to RSVP, and then because you

113
00:04:47,320 --> 00:04:49,479
Speaker 1: know how many people you can, you're going to pay

114
00:04:49,520 --> 00:04:51,560
Speaker 1: for and whatever. I guess I figure it kind of

115
00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:52,320
Speaker 1: all shakes out.

116
00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:55,280
Speaker 2: I don't know. I was just like, I don't want

117
00:04:55,320 --> 00:04:57,000
Speaker 2: to be in the middle of this. I don't want

118
00:04:57,040 --> 00:04:58,280
Speaker 2: to be I don't know.

119
00:04:59,600 --> 00:05:00,880
Speaker 1: Someone takes said I was a maid of honor and

120
00:05:00,920 --> 00:05:02,520
Speaker 1: I found out three days before her wedding that my

121
00:05:02,520 --> 00:05:07,480
Speaker 1: spouse was not invited honor. Your spouse wasn't.

122
00:05:07,279 --> 00:05:10,320
Speaker 4: Invited to brides or people just do this. I don't

123
00:05:10,360 --> 00:05:12,400
Speaker 4: get it. You're already doing the wedding and doing the

124
00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:14,719
Speaker 4: whole circus, Like just pay that little one hundred dollars plate,

125
00:05:14,839 --> 00:05:17,760
Speaker 4: let's up. I don't get it, Like what why are

126
00:05:17,760 --> 00:05:19,760
Speaker 4: you trying to like be this big shot of like

127
00:05:19,839 --> 00:05:21,880
Speaker 4: your husband can't come or you're a boy or whatever.

128
00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:24,360
Speaker 4: I give plus a right give I've given a plus

129
00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:26,440
Speaker 4: one when I got married because I was like, well,

130
00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:29,920
Speaker 4: just bring whoever, like Caylen didn't bring a significant other.

131
00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:31,880
Speaker 4: She brought a good friend and that was okay with that.

132
00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:34,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, she told her boyfriend at the time. You don't get.

133
00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:36,080
Speaker 4: Exactly she don't get to come.

134
00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:38,400
Speaker 3: No, I asked your permission because I know obviously, like

135
00:05:38,400 --> 00:05:39,839
Speaker 3: I don't want you to have to pay for just

136
00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:42,000
Speaker 3: someone who's just a friend. But I also don't want

137
00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:44,360
Speaker 3: to bring a random if I'm single, I think that's disrespectful.

138
00:05:44,360 --> 00:05:45,560
Speaker 3: So I'd rather bring a girlfriend.

139
00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:48,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would as a single person, even if I

140
00:05:48,880 --> 00:05:51,559
Speaker 1: absolutely ask. Just to be clear, I love it about

141
00:05:51,600 --> 00:05:54,440
Speaker 1: you know, if it's cool depending on the status. And again,

142
00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:57,839
Speaker 1: you have every right to tell me no, Like no,

143
00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:00,560
Speaker 1: like we were just planning on you and you're paying

144
00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:02,920
Speaker 1: for it to your day. It's fine. We're getting married

145
00:06:02,960 --> 00:06:05,040
Speaker 1: next year and we're finishing up our list. But every

146
00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:07,919
Speaker 1: name on it has either the partner we know or

147
00:06:07,920 --> 00:06:11,440
Speaker 1: it will say plus one. I think it's proper etiquette,

148
00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:15,560
Speaker 1: and I guess it's how Danita Listener number one texted

149
00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:18,320
Speaker 1: that it does have to do with what the invitation says.

150
00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:20,400
Speaker 1: Typically it'll say mister and missus, or it'll say mister,

151
00:06:20,480 --> 00:06:23,200
Speaker 1: or it'll say and guest. But I've also had a

152
00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:25,240
Speaker 1: plus one where it didn't say that, So I don't know.

153
00:06:25,600 --> 00:06:27,560
Speaker 1: And I'm not married and never I never have a girlfriend,

154
00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:30,680
Speaker 1: so I'm always in this position, so I don't know.

155
00:06:30,800 --> 00:06:34,320
Speaker 1: Jesse Lope, this is what I've been saying. This is

156
00:06:34,360 --> 00:06:37,480
Speaker 1: what I've been saying. Waiting the phone will do more.

157
00:06:37,520 --> 00:06:38,839
Speaker 1: Freadshell next