1 00:00:00,400 --> 00:00:15,600 Speaker 1: M M. What up everyone, Happy Wednesday and welcome to 2 00:00:15,760 --> 00:00:18,360 Speaker 1: Dear cheek Ease. I hope you're all having a happy 3 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:21,040 Speaker 1: hump Day and you're getting ready for a relaxing weekend. 4 00:00:21,640 --> 00:00:23,640 Speaker 1: I'm really looking forward to hearing some of the questions 5 00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:25,760 Speaker 1: you have for me today. In case this is your 6 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: first time listening to this podcast, I take questions from 7 00:00:28,920 --> 00:00:33,200 Speaker 1: listeners at speak pipe dot com, Slash Chickies and Chill podcast. 8 00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:36,080 Speaker 1: You can ask me for my advice there and you 9 00:00:36,159 --> 00:00:39,160 Speaker 1: just might hear it here on Dear Cheekies. Now, before 10 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:41,400 Speaker 1: we happen to the first question, these are my thoughts 11 00:00:41,440 --> 00:00:44,159 Speaker 1: and opinions. I encourage everyone to seek help from a 12 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:47,760 Speaker 1: professional if you're suffering an issue or hardship that requires 13 00:00:47,800 --> 00:00:53,880 Speaker 1: immediate attention. Now let's get into the first question. Chiquisamlesa 14 00:00:54,680 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 1: a little nervous. I just want to say your podcasts 15 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:01,880 Speaker 1: are great and I love to hear them, especially when 16 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: I'm at work. You know, Concer So a Lifestyle Mama, 17 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:38,000 Speaker 1: the Hasa Aldo Say Media and ranceysben c Co and 18 00:01:38,120 --> 00:01:49,680 Speaker 1: frances Hi Laser. Thank you so much for your question 19 00:01:50,160 --> 00:01:52,400 Speaker 1: and thank you for your beautiful words. I appreciate it. 20 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:54,560 Speaker 1: Mida I think you, first of all, have to be 21 00:01:54,880 --> 00:01:57,920 Speaker 1: compassionate with yourself and not be so hard on yourself. 22 00:01:57,960 --> 00:02:00,440 Speaker 1: I know that's hard. It's easier said and done for 23 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:03,160 Speaker 1: us women because we are kind of hard on ourselves 24 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:05,600 Speaker 1: and it's something I have to remind myself every day. 25 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 1: But you are working, like you said, pretty crazy hours 26 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:12,880 Speaker 1: from four pm to twelve thirty am, So that's a lot, 27 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:14,160 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And then I'm sure you 28 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 1: get home and you unwind, and then you probably don't 29 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:18,120 Speaker 1: go to sleep until two in the morning, and then 30 00:02:18,160 --> 00:02:19,519 Speaker 1: you have to wake up early to maybe get the 31 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:22,000 Speaker 1: kids ready for school. So I get it. I think 32 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:24,959 Speaker 1: that maybe you should start off slow and probably with 33 00:02:25,080 --> 00:02:45,280 Speaker 1: skites is look at comas is um Ela Limento. Okay, okay, 34 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:49,800 Speaker 1: but maybe I'm gonna start off with doing two times 35 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:52,600 Speaker 1: a week. I'm gonna start off with thirty minutes. Thirty 36 00:02:52,639 --> 00:02:54,359 Speaker 1: minutes is better than nothing, and you don't have to 37 00:02:54,400 --> 00:02:56,360 Speaker 1: do every single day. It's whenever you have the energy, 38 00:02:56,480 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 1: do it on the weekends. But more than anything, it's 39 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:00,959 Speaker 1: making better choices with what we eat that makes a 40 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:05,120 Speaker 1: huge difference, and just changing that thought of this is 41 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:08,920 Speaker 1: a diet, it's more of a lifestyle. It's what's healthy 42 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:11,679 Speaker 1: for my mind, body, and soul. I want to feel better, 43 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:13,919 Speaker 1: of course, I want to look better. And when you 44 00:03:14,000 --> 00:03:16,200 Speaker 1: start changing that thought of oh I want to diet, 45 00:03:16,320 --> 00:03:19,760 Speaker 1: you feel restricted. You feel like it's just that word. 46 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:21,400 Speaker 1: I just don't like it. So that's what I'm telling you. 47 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:22,919 Speaker 1: This is a lifestyle. I want to be healthy for 48 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 1: my kids. I want to feel better. And then once 49 00:03:25,120 --> 00:03:28,560 Speaker 1: you start putting in your body better things, you're going 50 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:30,359 Speaker 1: to have more energy and it's going to kind of 51 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:32,239 Speaker 1: give you that boost to say, Okay, I want to 52 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:34,880 Speaker 1: find those thirty minutes in my day after I drop 53 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:36,560 Speaker 1: off the kids at school before I go to work. 54 00:03:36,880 --> 00:03:39,400 Speaker 1: Thirty minutes. That's it. And little by little you go 55 00:03:39,560 --> 00:03:41,600 Speaker 1: from one day a week to two to three and 56 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 1: so on and so forth. So I spoke be patient, 57 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 1: to be compassionate your mother. You're working, your hours are crazy, 58 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:56,640 Speaker 1: so that they thank you so much. And um, you 59 00:03:56,720 --> 00:04:02,960 Speaker 1: got this, girl, you got this. Let's get into our 60 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:06,760 Speaker 1: second question, you guys. This one comes from Jose Paychecks. 61 00:04:07,000 --> 00:04:08,760 Speaker 1: First off, I just want to thank you so much 62 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:11,440 Speaker 1: for all that you do for us France. For us, 63 00:04:11,520 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 1: boss Bees, we truly make each and every one of 64 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:17,120 Speaker 1: us for very special. I've had the absolute pleasure meeting you. 65 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 1: So with that being said, how do you keep your 66 00:04:20,240 --> 00:04:23,680 Speaker 1: voice healthy? You are, you know, throwing back shots at 67 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:26,479 Speaker 1: tequila something that your mom used to do to It's 68 00:04:26,640 --> 00:04:29,719 Speaker 1: a very big tradition in the regional genre. You're belting, 69 00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:33,120 Speaker 1: you're dancing around, you know, you're drinking a little bit 70 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 1: of alcohol. So how do you keep your voice healthy 71 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:38,680 Speaker 1: so that you can continuously get out there and kill 72 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:41,839 Speaker 1: it every night and then also kill it in the studio. 73 00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:45,240 Speaker 1: Any tips would be greatly appreciated because I would love 74 00:04:45,279 --> 00:04:47,960 Speaker 1: to be a singer like you, So I love you 75 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 1: very much. Thank you for answering my question. Jose Oh 76 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:56,839 Speaker 1: my god, you're gonna make me cry. Thank you so much, Bat, Bat, 77 00:04:56,920 --> 00:04:58,720 Speaker 1: Thank you for being a boss. B Thank you for 78 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:02,480 Speaker 1: those beautiful words. I honestly do it from the bottom 79 00:05:02,520 --> 00:05:05,280 Speaker 1: of my heart. I am so grateful. You have no 80 00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:08,040 Speaker 1: idea for you guys, time for the gifts for me. 81 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:11,440 Speaker 1: It's you guys invest in me. You guys invest in 82 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:14,520 Speaker 1: going to my concerts and my music. It just means 83 00:05:14,600 --> 00:05:17,400 Speaker 1: so much, So thank you so much for those beautiful words. 84 00:05:17,440 --> 00:05:20,440 Speaker 1: Like I said, and look in regards to how do 85 00:05:20,520 --> 00:05:23,159 Speaker 1: I take care of my voice, I have to be honest. 86 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:25,520 Speaker 1: I could take care of it a little more. I 87 00:05:25,720 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 1: like ice a little too much, so I should be 88 00:05:28,520 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 1: drinking more tease and I do my best to do that. 89 00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:36,000 Speaker 1: Of course, water hydration is very important just for life, 90 00:05:36,040 --> 00:05:38,360 Speaker 1: for your vocal cords, even for your brain. Believe it 91 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:42,640 Speaker 1: or not. So hydration a lot of hot teas ginger 92 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:46,679 Speaker 1: Ginger is really good. There's a tea called throat coat 93 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:50,840 Speaker 1: that you can buy that also helps tequila in our tradition, 94 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: Like you said, people think and have this misconception of 95 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:56,600 Speaker 1: taking a shot of tequila before going on stage is 96 00:05:56,680 --> 00:05:58,760 Speaker 1: going to help clear your throat, and it actually drives 97 00:05:58,800 --> 00:06:01,719 Speaker 1: out your vocal cords, so you have to be very careful. 98 00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:06,440 Speaker 1: That's why it's so important to hydrate, especially before the 99 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:08,920 Speaker 1: show and during the show, which is for me super important. 100 00:06:08,960 --> 00:06:10,599 Speaker 1: I always have water, so I take a little bit 101 00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:12,480 Speaker 1: of alcohol and then I drink some water. It's even 102 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:16,320 Speaker 1: on my prompter, drink water. Anyways, it's taken me some 103 00:06:16,440 --> 00:06:19,680 Speaker 1: time to get a little better at singing and dancing. 104 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:22,880 Speaker 1: Practice makes perfect, so that's helped me being on stage, 105 00:06:22,920 --> 00:06:25,120 Speaker 1: of course, but also on the treadmill. I do my 106 00:06:25,200 --> 00:06:28,159 Speaker 1: best to sing. I got that tip from Beyonce. Beyonce 107 00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:31,560 Speaker 1: literally in her heels though goes on the treadmill, walks 108 00:06:31,600 --> 00:06:33,880 Speaker 1: on it in client and sings. Haven't gotten there yet, 109 00:06:34,360 --> 00:06:37,440 Speaker 1: but I've been doing it and it really does help 110 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:41,200 Speaker 1: your endurance and your stamina. So working out has helped 111 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:44,159 Speaker 1: me a lot. And then I meditate and I clear 112 00:06:44,279 --> 00:06:46,680 Speaker 1: my throat chakra. To me, that's super important before I 113 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:49,160 Speaker 1: go on stage. After you know, I believe I'm very 114 00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:51,839 Speaker 1: spiritual as you know, and I sage and palosantho myself 115 00:06:51,880 --> 00:06:54,880 Speaker 1: and I clear my throat chakra. You can find someone YouTube, 116 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:57,599 Speaker 1: so just look up, you know, meditation for throat chakra 117 00:06:57,839 --> 00:06:59,560 Speaker 1: and that's it, you know. And little by little, the 118 00:06:59,640 --> 00:07:01,880 Speaker 1: more you're on stage, the more you sing, the stronger 119 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:04,800 Speaker 1: you get, the more you learn to use your diaphragm, 120 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:09,120 Speaker 1: and the vocals just sound better. So hopefully that answered 121 00:07:09,120 --> 00:07:11,680 Speaker 1: your question, Jose, That's what I do. And it's a 122 00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 1: little by little, like I said, the more you sing, 123 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 1: sing as much as you can. Okay, because thank you, 124 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:20,440 Speaker 1: but by I sent you a big, big hug. Oh 125 00:07:20,520 --> 00:07:29,960 Speaker 1: my god, you definitely made me feel like amazing. Okay, 126 00:07:30,080 --> 00:07:34,400 Speaker 1: so our last question comes from Patricia. My question is 127 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:37,480 Speaker 1: how do I cope with my name life? In the 128 00:07:37,640 --> 00:07:41,080 Speaker 1: last two years, my life has completely changed. I'm divorced 129 00:07:41,160 --> 00:07:44,200 Speaker 1: due to a betrayal of infidelity, spiritual abuse. I was 130 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:47,360 Speaker 1: married for eighteen years. My teenage daughter has been affected, 131 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:51,160 Speaker 1: has been very rebellious. We don't have a good relationship. 132 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:54,000 Speaker 1: From a car room from a car accident. Lastly, I 133 00:07:54,080 --> 00:07:56,600 Speaker 1: confronted my mom for not protecting me for my dad's 134 00:07:56,600 --> 00:07:58,840 Speaker 1: sexual abuse that she witnessed when I was a child. 135 00:07:59,280 --> 00:08:02,400 Speaker 1: My siblings not speak due to their characters, and I'm 136 00:08:02,440 --> 00:08:05,400 Speaker 1: setting boundaries. I'm going to therapy. I have a life coach. 137 00:08:05,480 --> 00:08:08,920 Speaker 1: I exercise healthy. The positive of my life is I 138 00:08:09,040 --> 00:08:11,720 Speaker 1: learned to love myself. I'm a wonderful man my friends 139 00:08:11,800 --> 00:08:14,720 Speaker 1: or my family, But I have to learn to fight 140 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:19,200 Speaker 1: every day to be happy, enjoy, very very exhausted. So 141 00:08:20,400 --> 00:08:23,360 Speaker 1: what can you encourage me in this new life? Please 142 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:27,760 Speaker 1: give me your input. Patricia, thank you for your question, 143 00:08:28,080 --> 00:08:31,240 Speaker 1: and and first of all, I'm sorry that you're going 144 00:08:31,320 --> 00:08:34,040 Speaker 1: through this. Look I'm gonna give you the best advice. 145 00:08:34,480 --> 00:08:37,599 Speaker 1: I think it's important for us to just understand that 146 00:08:38,080 --> 00:08:41,040 Speaker 1: in life. There will always be highs and lows. It's 147 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:45,319 Speaker 1: just the law of life. I think once we understand that, 148 00:08:45,480 --> 00:08:48,079 Speaker 1: like instead of thinking, oh my God, why does this 149 00:08:48,160 --> 00:08:50,599 Speaker 1: always happen to me, we have to think life is 150 00:08:50,640 --> 00:08:55,079 Speaker 1: happening for me now. Obviously right now in this moment, 151 00:08:55,880 --> 00:08:58,720 Speaker 1: it's harder to see it that way. But I think 152 00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:03,240 Speaker 1: once you just grasp that and understand that this is 153 00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:06,600 Speaker 1: just a moment, doesn't mean that it's a bad life. 154 00:09:06,679 --> 00:09:09,240 Speaker 1: It's just a bad day, maybe a couple of bad days. 155 00:09:09,440 --> 00:09:12,920 Speaker 1: I feel you, girl, I've been there, I've gone through it. Look, 156 00:09:12,960 --> 00:09:15,920 Speaker 1: I always go back to God because that's what's helped 157 00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:17,719 Speaker 1: me through everything. And I'm not trying to preach to 158 00:09:17,760 --> 00:09:21,600 Speaker 1: you guys, but prayer has gotten me through everything. When 159 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:24,840 Speaker 1: I get down on my knees, it just changes my life. 160 00:09:25,240 --> 00:09:27,280 Speaker 1: Like I don't know if you've ever heard of that quote, 161 00:09:27,320 --> 00:09:30,480 Speaker 1: but when life drops you to your knees, you're already 162 00:09:30,520 --> 00:09:34,520 Speaker 1: down there, might as well pray. So prayer, meditation, it's 163 00:09:34,559 --> 00:09:36,520 Speaker 1: like an everyday thing. I think you have to wake 164 00:09:36,600 --> 00:09:39,599 Speaker 1: up in the morning and just have time for you, 165 00:09:40,679 --> 00:09:44,599 Speaker 1: which means no cell phone, no one, just you and 166 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:47,640 Speaker 1: your faith in God or whatever. It is that you 167 00:09:47,720 --> 00:09:50,480 Speaker 1: believe in a moment in the morning, at least half 168 00:09:50,520 --> 00:09:52,560 Speaker 1: an hour where you're by yourself and your thoughts. Maybe 169 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:55,200 Speaker 1: you can journal, you can manifest what kind of day 170 00:09:55,240 --> 00:09:58,120 Speaker 1: you want to have, pray, listen to meditation music, and 171 00:09:58,240 --> 00:09:59,839 Speaker 1: just set the tone for the rest of your day. 172 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:02,960 Speaker 1: It changes your life forever because things can be thrown 173 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:05,400 Speaker 1: at you. But when you've given yourself and you've centered 174 00:10:05,400 --> 00:10:08,000 Speaker 1: yourself and aligned yourself with the universe, it's almost like 175 00:10:10,040 --> 00:10:12,320 Speaker 1: it's kind of like, okay, it's fine, it's gonna be okay. 176 00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:14,920 Speaker 1: It kind of like bounces right off of you. Granted 177 00:10:14,960 --> 00:10:17,040 Speaker 1: it takes a little bit of time. It's not gonna 178 00:10:17,080 --> 00:10:19,679 Speaker 1: happen like boom, like a miracle. It's a muscle. You 179 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:22,559 Speaker 1: have to exercise it for it to become stronger. So 180 00:10:22,720 --> 00:10:25,240 Speaker 1: the more you do it, the better. Consistency is key. 181 00:10:25,679 --> 00:10:28,199 Speaker 1: So that's my suggestion. Life is always going to have 182 00:10:28,360 --> 00:10:30,000 Speaker 1: and throw things at us. It's just how do you 183 00:10:30,120 --> 00:10:32,320 Speaker 1: dodge it? And the way to dodge it is by 184 00:10:32,400 --> 00:10:35,440 Speaker 1: really centering yourself every single day. Right now, you're going 185 00:10:35,520 --> 00:10:37,199 Speaker 1: through a rough patch with your daughter. You have to 186 00:10:37,240 --> 00:10:39,920 Speaker 1: also understand she's trying to figure things out herself, be 187 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:44,160 Speaker 1: patient and always the more it's just love and light everywhere. 188 00:10:44,240 --> 00:10:47,240 Speaker 1: Everything's gonna be okay. And that's the best advice I 189 00:10:47,280 --> 00:10:49,040 Speaker 1: can give you. But they say, I hope that it 190 00:10:49,160 --> 00:10:52,160 Speaker 1: helps you and and I'm praying for you. I definitely am, 191 00:10:52,200 --> 00:10:55,800 Speaker 1: and I'm sending you positive vibes, positive vibes see sip 192 00:10:55,920 --> 00:10:59,920 Speaker 1: with it, guys. Um, that's all the time we have today. 193 00:11:00,320 --> 00:11:02,120 Speaker 1: This is almost like a form of therapy for me. 194 00:11:02,480 --> 00:11:04,160 Speaker 1: So thank you, guys for allowing me to help you 195 00:11:04,559 --> 00:11:06,679 Speaker 1: and whatever it is that you're going through. And Guys, 196 00:11:06,800 --> 00:11:09,400 Speaker 1: once again, these are my thoughts and my opinions, and 197 00:11:09,440 --> 00:11:13,040 Speaker 1: I encourage everyone to seek professional help if you're struggling 198 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:15,880 Speaker 1: with an issue or hardship. Sending you all love and 199 00:11:15,960 --> 00:11:25,959 Speaker 1: light until next time. H m hmm. This is a 200 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:29,720 Speaker 1: production of I Heart Radio and the Michael Dura podcast Network. 201 00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:33,240 Speaker 1: Follow us on Instagram at Michael Dura podcast then follow 202 00:11:33,320 --> 00:11:36,079 Speaker 1: me cheeks that's c h I q U I s. 203 00:11:36,840 --> 00:11:39,800 Speaker 1: For more podcasts from My Heart, visit the I Heart 204 00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:42,960 Speaker 1: Radio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you listen to your 205 00:11:43,000 --> 00:11:43,920 Speaker 1: favorite podcasts.