Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect
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Speaker 1: I am Gazelle Bryant's what's up? This is Robin Dixon.
Speaker 1: Thank you for being here once again. Yes, hi, Robin,
Speaker 1: Hijazel you seeing you again? No, I'm back in your house.
Speaker 1: How do you feel about that? I mean, I'm used
Speaker 1: to it. Yeah, I know, I know. I feel like
Speaker 1: we need to just like give you a bedroom here. Well,
Speaker 1: in the beginning, when I would come over, you would
Speaker 1: have like snacks and stuff. You would actually offer me
Speaker 1: like an orange, some carrots. Oh, do you want a cookie?
Speaker 1: Do you want something? No, But that's not the point.
Speaker 1: You don't even offer me a sip, a sip of water,
Speaker 1: because you would always be like, no, I'm okay, No,
Speaker 1: I'm okay, I'm okay, So okay. I just want when
Speaker 1: like you invite someone somewhere or out or to a
Speaker 1: party and they always say no, and then you stop
Speaker 1: inviting them. You know, that happens to me all the time.
Speaker 1: I know, But Robin, I still invite you. Actually, you
Speaker 1: know what's so good that happened to me recently? So
Speaker 1: I have a girlfriend and her actually her name is Kia,
Speaker 1: and so Kia never I invite her to a million things,
Speaker 1: she never comes out, never nothing. So the other day
Speaker 1: was her birthday and so I said, I hit her up.
Speaker 1: I was like, yo, you wanna take you lunch, take
Speaker 1: you to dinner? And she was like, um, okay, we
Speaker 1: can do lunch. So I said, okay, she's going to
Speaker 1: get her lashes done with Brenda and then we were
Speaker 1: gonna go after that. Well I didn't believe her, so
Speaker 1: I scheduled something after at the time that we were
Speaker 1: supposed to have lunch. So because I straight, you haven't
Speaker 1: you haven't followed through in five years, right, So she
Speaker 1: called me. She was like okay, so you know I'll
Speaker 1: be done at like one one thirty. She put the
Speaker 1: dog in the kennel or the play date where dogs
Speaker 1: to do whatever and what a dog hospitals, dog played
Speaker 1: dog camp. She put the dog in dog camp and
Speaker 1: um yeah, And I was like, yo, because I had
Speaker 1: an appointment with my I have like an estate. Oh
Speaker 1: I can say this, so this should be your shady
Speaker 1: moment for I had an Robbie. You cutting me off
Speaker 1: because I might say something very important. I had an
Speaker 1: appointment with my lawyer who is handling my estate. Oh
Speaker 1: sounds so regal, grand Taylor. I want you to put
Speaker 1: some music behind that, like, yes, I have an as,
Speaker 1: I did some estate planning. Meanwhile, you're gonna have like
Speaker 1: ten dollars in your account and you still have an estate.
Speaker 1: I don't have ten dollars in my account. I'm just saying,
Speaker 1: you're just saying it like it's like unusual. Well, I
Speaker 1: mean it was. It was unusual to me until I
Speaker 1: did it. It is important. Yeah, it's very important, portant,
Speaker 1: It's very important because something might happen to me. Yes,
Speaker 1: I need to do the same. But I feel like
Speaker 1: the name when you hear the word. So you have
Speaker 1: states Wait, you have haven't done any estate planning, right,
Speaker 1: but you're throwing shade on my estate planning. I'm just saying, yes, yeah, congratulations. Second,
Speaker 1: thank you, Robin, Thank you anyway, good for you. We
Speaker 1: all we all need to do our estate planning. Yes, okay,
Speaker 1: but that was the term sounds a lot more grand
Speaker 1: and fancy than it really is. Well, I've actually just
Speaker 1: I felt grand and fancy. Yes, yes, so did you
Speaker 1: complete it? You're done? Done? Nice? Done. Um, is that
Speaker 1: the first time you've done that? Or is it was
Speaker 1: it like a check up on it? Like it was
Speaker 1: the first time I did all that I did so
Speaker 1: not the totality. Yeah, I had done a portion before,
Speaker 1: but this was like everything. Yeah, so it's good. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So if I if I die tomorrow, my kids are rich. Good. Good.
Speaker 1: I mean, well, let's not that I don't want that
Speaker 1: to happen. I'm just saying that that good, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. Yeah, but it's so crazy because that
Speaker 1: is something that's been on my to do list for
Speaker 1: like years and I just have not gone to do it,
Speaker 1: and you know, not gonna would I hope I can
Speaker 1: get to do it. Well, I'll give you my lawyers people,
Speaker 1: Yeah for sure. But that okay, So that is not
Speaker 1: my reasonably shady moment. This is so you had to
Speaker 1: cancel on her. So she's all excited to go to
Speaker 1: lunch for her birthday. Did you invited her to? This
Speaker 1: is your shady moment. This is my shady moment. It's okay,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, Kia and adologizing right now. And she was
Speaker 1: all excited to put the dog in the kennel And
Speaker 1: it's not my fault. She has canceled on me for
Speaker 1: five years. I get it. But if she was coming
Speaker 1: from getting her lashes done, like oh my gosh, she
Speaker 1: was ready, she probably was moving on. So I was
Speaker 1: in New York recently and the um I was in
Speaker 1: the streets and I was actually hanging out with Porscha.
Speaker 1: We were hanging out, and so she was like, I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, we can just hang out at your hotel.
Speaker 1: So her hotel was not my hotel, and she was like,
Speaker 1: I'm staying at the Peninsula And I was like, god, damn,
Speaker 1: I know it's a very expensive over there. So let's
Speaker 1: hang out and do drinks at your hotel. Right. So
Speaker 1: we go there and mind you had to do a
Speaker 1: whole photo shoot in the streets. Like literally, we're like
Speaker 1: dodging cars to do a photo shoot. It was amazing. Wait,
Speaker 1: what this was a you were supposed you were you
Speaker 1: were doing a photo shoot? We were in No. We
Speaker 1: Porscha travels with I think she travels or maybe she
Speaker 1: just hired this guy to day a photographer. Got it.
Speaker 1: So we was a voluntary photo shoot. It wasn't like
Speaker 1: for something, no got it. It was just for the
Speaker 1: Graham just because got it, so before we could go
Speaker 1: into the peninsula, we had to do the photo shoot.
Speaker 1: Not the point of the story. The point of the
Speaker 1: story is the shadiness of the peninsula was apparently there
Speaker 1: was some very important dignitary in the peninsula. To the
Speaker 1: point where they cut off the street, you could not
Speaker 1: drive a car to the front of the hotel. And
Speaker 1: the hotel the front doors has like red carpet, so
Speaker 1: that's like perfect for pictures, right, So we got out
Speaker 1: of our cars on the curve, we walked over to
Speaker 1: the red carpet. We were ready for a red carpet
Speaker 1: photo moment, and all of a sudden, out of nowhere
Speaker 1: jumps Secret Service and tells us to get to step
Speaker 1: to This is not a photo shoot. Okay, this is
Speaker 1: what y'all won't be doing. And we were like, but no,
Speaker 1: but no, give us a minute. They was like, get
Speaker 1: to step in. And you know when Secret Service gets auntcy, Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is what they do. They send a plane closed
Speaker 1: closed person first, and they send a plane close to
Speaker 1: the photographer and whispering his ear. Y'all got to move,
Speaker 1: but we didn't move, So then they send another person,
Speaker 1: same message, but do they identify should do they say
Speaker 1: we are Secret Service? No, they don't. He was just
Speaker 1: like he was like, so, y'all got to move because
Speaker 1: it gets bad. Okay, okay, all right. Two minutes later
Speaker 1: it was a full secret Service was written on this
Speaker 1: um what do you call those bulletproof vest He had
Speaker 1: about four guns. He was walking cock des well you
Speaker 1: know how they walk, and he was like, y'all got
Speaker 1: to move, and we were like, damn that. Going into
Speaker 1: the hotel, we had to go through full metal detectors.
Speaker 1: Pat down. I got patted down, and mind you, he
Speaker 1: was kind of cute patting me down. I was like
Speaker 1: pat me fronting back baby. Okay. Anyway, so I just
Speaker 1: the shady people right now? Is the Peninsula or Secret Service?
Speaker 1: One of the two? Wow? Okay, I mean that is
Speaker 1: kind of like rude. It's like, who are you to
Speaker 1: be telling me what I can and can't be doing? Well?
Speaker 1: They you know it was a security risk. I guess
Speaker 1: portion I were a security risk, yes, pose big booties.
Speaker 1: Yeah no, no, not all just portis booty um. And
Speaker 1: so we were trying to figure out who it was,
Speaker 1: right and it wasn't Trump by the way. Hopefully by
Speaker 1: now he's in jail. But that's a whole nother story, right. Um.
Speaker 1: Do you know okay, wait, I just saw this. He
Speaker 1: announced that he was going to be I don't know,
Speaker 1: it was like Friday, like the Friday before whatever. He
Speaker 1: said on Tuesday, I'm going to be arrested. Yeah. Do
Speaker 1: you know between Friday to Tuesday he raised like one
Speaker 1: point five million dollars And it's called witch hunt. The
Speaker 1: witch hunt. Uh you want to You're supposed send money
Speaker 1: to the witch hunt like organization or something. Wow, called
Speaker 1: witch hunt. Wow. This man is unbelievable, right. Um. Anyway,
Speaker 1: so I deduced that it was Barack. It was Barack Obama.
Speaker 1: That's who I think it was. Yeah, because it was
Speaker 1: a full it was a full blown, huge secure Why
Speaker 1: I mean, why would he at the Peninsula. Why would
Speaker 1: you think that was him? Because it wasn't Trump. Trump
Speaker 1: was in mar Larco. It was on the news that night.
Speaker 1: He was in Florida. So it wasn't Trump. And Trump
Speaker 1: would go to his what doesn't have a place in
Speaker 1: New York. Yeah, it wasn't Biden. It could have been
Speaker 1: Uncle Joe, yeah, because they would have let me talk
Speaker 1: to Uncle Joe because you know, we're friends. Oh really, yes, Okay, anyway,
Speaker 1: what's your shady moment? Lord? Shoot? Um, well, I just
Speaker 1: gave you two, so you can take one of mine. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'll just take one of your guys. I just you
Speaker 1: know what, I sat in front of this microphone and
Speaker 1: I forgot that I had to have a shady moment,
Speaker 1: you know what. And actually this is not the first time.
Speaker 1: It's not the first I've done this, so you will
Speaker 1: be excused. But I did want to. I'm gonna give
Speaker 1: you one. I'm give you this is this is not
Speaker 1: a shady moment. This is the world might be looking
Speaker 1: out for us moment. Okay. So do you remember when
Speaker 1: Cardi b sued Tasha k Oh yes, for four million
Speaker 1: dollars for defamation defamation, yes, and then she was awarded
Speaker 1: I thought she was awarded like two point five maybe ten.
Speaker 1: I think it's four anyway, So Tasha was like, oh,
Speaker 1: hell no, I only have four dollars, right, So I'm
Speaker 1: gonna appeal, right, and she lost the appeal. Right. So
Speaker 1: do we like this? I love this. I mean I
Speaker 1: don't know Tasha k And I'm not saying I like
Speaker 1: this because of her. I like this because you can't
Speaker 1: be going out there on the social you're just saying
Speaker 1: anything saying and so so for people don't know what
Speaker 1: we're talking about. Believe Tasha Kay is a blogger and
Speaker 1: she said something that was false about Cardi B but
Speaker 1: it was you know, damaging and Cardi suitor for defamation.
Speaker 1: And I think up until then, a lot of people
Speaker 1: on social media would just go online and just say
Speaker 1: whatever they want to say. They still do. Yeah, And honestly,
Speaker 1: I've had my moments where I have wanted to call
Speaker 1: our lawyer, yes and be like, you know, can you
Speaker 1: go um serve this little girl who's making up lies? Yeah,
Speaker 1: with something, because it's not it's it's just not okay.
Speaker 1: Like people have real lives, we have real families, we
Speaker 1: have real jobs, and it's not okay for people to
Speaker 1: be out there just willy nilly making stuff up. No. No,
Speaker 1: I have definitely considered going down that route. But I'm
Speaker 1: just like, uh, my guess is that this person has
Speaker 1: zero dollars, so it's no point. But and you're didn't
Speaker 1: have to pay to get done on your side, yes, right,
Speaker 1: but but yeah, it's just I mean, and I really
Speaker 1: feel like there should be more regulation to this type
Speaker 1: of stuff like how can we regulate you know or
Speaker 1: or um like filter like criminalize yes, almost, how do
Speaker 1: we criminalize like social media bullying that needs to be criminalized?
Speaker 1: It does, yes, it does. And even in you know
Speaker 1: this lawsuit that want is named in, the perpetrator should
Speaker 1: be it should be facing some sort of criminal um charges,
Speaker 1: but there are nothing. Yes, yes, catfishing should be a crime,
Speaker 1: right for sure, right, but there's nothing to hold him
Speaker 1: criminally you know, liable for anything, which is so it's
Speaker 1: that's the messed up part, right, um, I you know,
Speaker 1: as a part of me, that's like, okay, there is
Speaker 1: the what is it a freedom of speech? Yeah, there's
Speaker 1: a freedom of speech act, um an act or law
Speaker 1: law something. It's a something. So we do want people
Speaker 1: to be able to an amendment. What is it freedom
Speaker 1: of speech? It's in the constitution, carl okay. Carlie looked
Speaker 1: at a side eye because Robin and I did not know,
Speaker 1: and she's side eye just and said, uh, it's in
Speaker 1: the constitution, isn't it. Like it's like one of the
Speaker 1: amendment like the first Amendment or second amendment, right something,
Speaker 1: it's first the first Amendment and second first away, I mean,
Speaker 1: my son here, Carter would be able to tell me
Speaker 1: all about and Angel and run it down. So so
Speaker 1: I get that because we don't want to be a
Speaker 1: country in which you have to be censored, right, but
Speaker 1: there should be something to stop people from lying right
Speaker 1: on the internet, right, lying, deceiving, all of that, checking whatever,
Speaker 1: because I would I would be rich, rich, rich and
Speaker 1: rich if I came after all the people then't lied
Speaker 1: on me. I mean it's ridiculous, right, but they don't
Speaker 1: have money, so you really wouldn't. Oh that's right, I'd
Speaker 1: be broke, broken bro Yeah. Okay, yeah, well, speaking of lying, Yeah,
Speaker 1: we didn't talk about Jesse Schmolette and the four part documentary.
Speaker 1: Did you watch it? I didn't? Is it out yet? No?
Speaker 1: That was like, am is that airring on Fox? Or
Speaker 1: something like a TMZ special? Or is there another special?
Speaker 1: It's a TMZ special? Okay, But I saw a clip. No,
Speaker 1: I didn't see a clip of that. I saw a
Speaker 1: clip of the two tires. Yes, they were re enacting,
Speaker 1: yes what Jesse had them do? Yes, And I was like,
Speaker 1: should I be laughing? Well, it was a comedy skit.
Speaker 1: It was a straight Comma D skit. By watching a
Speaker 1: sick because they were like Jesse, you know the whole
Speaker 1: reenactment of it. If you go on social media you
Speaker 1: can find it. It is very funny and it's sad
Speaker 1: because it's like, dude, you lied about this, and no
Speaker 1: one's coveringing this up for you. That was a mess
Speaker 1: that was that was wildly entertaining and like it was
Speaker 1: on Fix It's a fox at anatomy of a hoax.
Speaker 1: And and he got no jail time for them, right
Speaker 1: and Jesse, I'm sorry, Yeah, this is this was horrible.
Speaker 1: So what he did was the case you guys don't remember,
Speaker 1: was he staged staged a hate crime. Yeah, so they
Speaker 1: were supposed to put a noose around his neck. They
Speaker 1: were supposed to call him gay, empire boy or something
Speaker 1: like that. This was to scream that ye and these
Speaker 1: were these were the words that Jesse, Jesse gave the
Speaker 1: trainers to do. Like they didn't make this up. The
Speaker 1: two black African yeah men too. So if this is
Speaker 1: a hate crip, why did he pick the black Africans?
Speaker 1: It was a black on black crime, No, that would
Speaker 1: be that's different. Well apparently, well, I mean, okay, when
Speaker 1: when he goes in reports that he was attacked. He
Speaker 1: said it was white men. Oh he did, Yeah, they were.
Speaker 1: They supposed to have ski mask on, so he didn't
Speaker 1: see what color they were. I think he said they were,
Speaker 1: didn't he. I don't know. I think the assumption was
Speaker 1: they were white men, right of course, right with the news. Yes,
Speaker 1: this is ridiculous, but this but do you know the
Speaker 1: words like he was screwing the trainer? Oh, I'm sure right,
Speaker 1: was he? You didn't hear that? Yeah, he was screwing
Speaker 1: the trainer. That's what I which one because it was
Speaker 1: two of them, and they both have majorly nice by d's. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like the main like the one that was doing most
Speaker 1: of the talking. I think I could see that. Yeah, apparently,
Speaker 1: I don't know that that's that's that's allegedly. Yes, let's
Speaker 1: throwing no, but what he'sa gosh, I wish I could remember.
Speaker 1: It was some word that that dude use. I was
Speaker 1: literally cracking up at his reenactment. It was it was
Speaker 1: a mess. It was hilarious. Yes, so I believe that
Speaker 1: they need to retry this because he should do thirty days. Yes,
Speaker 1: he should do a thirty day jail stint, and that
Speaker 1: will stop other people from thinking that this is okay
Speaker 1: to do yes, because it's not. Carly has showed me
Speaker 1: her laptop. Can't what is all this on your screen?
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, she showing me her screen and I
Speaker 1: can't look at it because it's just shit all over it. Okay,
Speaker 1: but you know, Robin is bacteria. She's the bacteria police. Okay.
Speaker 1: So Crowley is showing us the screen of her computer
Speaker 1: and it says fallen. Empire star Jesse Smollett reportedly had
Speaker 1: bath house sex romps with personal trainer. He's accused of
Speaker 1: enlisting for hate crime hosts bath house sex romps. That's
Speaker 1: a whole episode in itself. It is Empire episode. I
Speaker 1: want to go to a bath house in New York. No,
Speaker 1: that's too much bacteria for you. Okay, now we're gonna
Speaker 1: move on. This came out and I thought about you,
Speaker 1: Robin Dixon. There was an article that said that water bottles,
Speaker 1: oh have more bacteria. I agree, then, No, you use
Speaker 1: a water I use I use ones that you throw
Speaker 1: away every you drink them and you throw them away.
Speaker 1: I don't use those those use didn't. I used to
Speaker 1: see you with walking around with water bottles. That wasn't you. No,
Speaker 1: not me. You't a green one. I have plenty of them.
Speaker 1: I have tons of them. I have a cabinet full
Speaker 1: of them. Okay, but I feel like, yes, they they
Speaker 1: collect bacteria and they end up smelling like mildew. And
Speaker 1: if you don't like wash them properly, they it gets
Speaker 1: all stuck in the lid and the top and all that. Yeah. No,
Speaker 1: that's why I'm sorry. I am destroying the planet. And
Speaker 1: I use disposable water bottles all day every day, So
Speaker 1: I guess we should use like glasses. Oh why Oh
Speaker 1: because of the plastic from the water bottle. It's destroying. Yeah.
Speaker 1: But then if you just use a glass, you just
Speaker 1: drink pour it out, you know, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like you just refill your glass. I had. This was
Speaker 1: a discussion actually I'm sharing that Jason and I had, yeah,
Speaker 1: because he he has this water bottle thing, and I
Speaker 1: was like, well, you know these can get like really
Speaker 1: like um, yeah, I didn't bacteria fied, is what I said.
Speaker 1: I think. Anyway, he went away somewhere and he brought
Speaker 1: me back a high tech water bottle and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is really nice. And I was actually going to
Speaker 1: like put this in my repertoire and use it all
Speaker 1: the time. Now, before the article, before I got a
Speaker 1: chance to do it, a door stolen from me because
Speaker 1: you know, they need that for sports. However, this is disgusting. Yes,
Speaker 1: So I told him. I was like, yo, all of
Speaker 1: these things are worse than toilets. He was like, clorox bleach.
Speaker 1: Just use bleached giselle. And I was like, oh, I
Speaker 1: didn't think about that. That is true. Yeah, and then
Speaker 1: you're drinking bleached You're drinking water from bleached containers. We're
Speaker 1: going down a rabbit holes. No, you just have to.
Speaker 1: If you use those reusable water bottles, then you just
Speaker 1: have to be diligent and keeping them clean and keeping
Speaker 1: them open, you know, like, okay, if you use it
Speaker 1: and you just let us sit overnight and it's closed up,
Speaker 1: and that's when all the bacteria kind of grows and stuff,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So you just have to,
Speaker 1: like you have to. It takes a little more effort
Speaker 1: in work to make sure it's not the bacteria is
Speaker 1: not growing. No one has time for all that effort
Speaker 1: and work. Yeah. Okay, So speaking of bacteria and something
Speaker 1: that I feel like would be gross, but you might
Speaker 1: like it. Would you eat a lab grown chicken because
Speaker 1: that is on its way to grocery store. I've seen that,
Speaker 1: a lab grown chicken, Yeah, I've seen that. What we
Speaker 1: do is we take really high quality animal cells from
Speaker 1: like say a cow or a pig, or a chicken
Speaker 1: or a lobster, and we look for cells that can
Speaker 1: continue to grow outside the animal in a very robust
Speaker 1: and a healthy way. The part that's remarkable about it
Speaker 1: is we didn't have to raise and slaughter a chicken
Speaker 1: to get real chicken meat. I feel like the people
Speaker 1: that ate it said it tasted good, right, it's called
Speaker 1: good meat good. Yes, I saw that report. I would
Speaker 1: prefer not to Why I don't trust it. That just
Speaker 1: that doesn't sound right to me. That doesn't sound healthy. Well,
Speaker 1: they're saying that the feature of our planet depends on
Speaker 1: how we feed ourselves, right, Okay, so I guess this
Speaker 1: would be saving chickens. Yes, But then how we get
Speaker 1: the eggs and what came first the eggs? Well, I
Speaker 1: guess we're saving We were getting the eggs from the
Speaker 1: actual chickens because we're not killing them to eat them.
Speaker 1: Oh right, But I thought there's enough. But do you
Speaker 1: remember there was like during COVID there was like a
Speaker 1: chicken wing shortage. You know how expensive chicken wings are now, Okay,
Speaker 1: but I thought that that was just something that they created,
Speaker 1: just like they created the gas prices. Just I mean,
Speaker 1: could lose their mind, possibly, but chicken wings are expensive
Speaker 1: as hell. I don't like Still, I don't know. Okay,
Speaker 1: you don't know. No, Okay, I do sometimes, Okay, okay.
Speaker 1: And I'm sure the boys like chicken wings. Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: so I feel like that we saw a lot of chemicals.
Speaker 1: If it's if it's lab grown, right, it's a bunch
Speaker 1: of chemicals, right, it's a bunch of I don't know
Speaker 1: what it is. Yes, it doesn't sound right. That doesn't
Speaker 1: sound right. Now, that doesn't sound But are we so?
Speaker 1: And why do you have a shortage chicken? Probably? I
Speaker 1: mean I think it's like I don't know. Um, maybe
Speaker 1: they are going to say that it is healthier because
Speaker 1: now maybe they have they can grow without the hormones
Speaker 1: and all that. I don't know, you know, because now
Speaker 1: they're saying, like the meat and stuff that we eat
Speaker 1: is not healthy because it is pumped with hormones and
Speaker 1: all types of other chicken the non organic chicken, is right.
Speaker 1: I don't eat that. I don't know, but I eat
Speaker 1: it with the with the best organic I eat organic chicken. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm skeptical. Okay, so would you eat it? I am
Speaker 1: not eating that. What if your favorite restaurant? Yes, they wouldn't.
Speaker 1: They wouldn't. But whatever happens, it needs to have a
Speaker 1: quick because an asteroid is coming to kill us all
Speaker 1: on Valentized Day, of all days in thirty years, thirty
Speaker 1: of an asteroid is on its way. Okay, it's gonna
Speaker 1: break up before it gets here, you think, So, yeah,
Speaker 1: is that what happened? Yeah? I feel like they always
Speaker 1: say stuff like this, oh really yeah, and then they're like,
Speaker 1: I've never heard of this. So I kind of got concerned.
Speaker 1: Are you're scared well on Valentine's Day thirty years from now,
Speaker 1: because I'm gonna be still popping at that point, Like
Speaker 1: what what I mean my boo gonna do? You're gonna
Speaker 1: hold hands and die? You're gonna me and my book?
Speaker 1: I have issues? Serious? Like no, I mean you just
Speaker 1: let it come, okay, all right, I mean you know,
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's how it sounds. Okay, So
Speaker 1: I have one more question. There is artificial intelligence. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that says, then in thirty days, it will cure you
Speaker 1: of cancer. If you have cancer, that crift created something
Speaker 1: that will cure you in thirty days. Really, yes, Robin,
Speaker 1: this is a real article and you believe it. Hell, yes,
Speaker 1: I believe real. Okay, So so what do you have
Speaker 1: to do? You said it's artificial intelligence, So what do
Speaker 1: you have to go? Live in the in the okay,
Speaker 1: artificial intelligence world? Okay, listen, Researchers at the University of
Speaker 1: Toronto have developed a potential treatment for liver cancer using
Speaker 1: artificial intelligence, and you will be cured in thirty days.
Speaker 1: Carry on a need more? Okay. Creation of this potential
Speaker 1: drug was accomplished in just thirty days, and the AI
Speaker 1: system can also predict a patients survival rate. So listen,
Speaker 1: I'm confused. I'm not I'm not well. This is great
Speaker 1: because cancer is horrible. It has killed a lot of people.
Speaker 1: So why on earth have we had to wait all
Speaker 1: this time to get some Really what do they mean
Speaker 1: by artificial intelligence? I don't understand. What is that robots?
Speaker 1: Just let the robots do what they do. Okay, So
Speaker 1: the robots are curing liver cancer something they're making a
Speaker 1: drug in thirty days. How listen, you take the pill,
Speaker 1: you pop the pill. That's what this is what I'm thinking. Okay,
Speaker 1: I mean that would be wonder full if that actually works. Okay,
Speaker 1: if it's true. So is it like on the market
Speaker 1: now are people taking it? Like? What? Well, first of
Speaker 1: falls in Toronto? So okay, that's fine. A lot of
Speaker 1: drug companies are in Toronto. No, meaning like it's not
Speaker 1: in the States. Okay, So I don't we don't have
Speaker 1: further research. Okay, So I will keep you inform into this. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: because as we get older, you never know. I mean, no,
Speaker 1: that would be lovely. And then hopefully and why is
Speaker 1: it just liver cancer? What do you mean? Oh oh,
Speaker 1: that's a good question. I'm going to ask the AI people,
Speaker 1: the artificial intelligence people. When it said AI, I thought
Speaker 1: it was Alan. I were saon when I found Hi
Speaker 1: Alan speaking of Is that? Remember? Um? What is all
Speaker 1: that stuff that was happening? Not? It wasn't bitcoin. It
Speaker 1: was like the the metaverse is that it's called the metaverse?
Speaker 1: Is that still a thing? Metaverse? Yeah? As in Facebook? No,
Speaker 1: remember people are like buying um oh yeah, oh yes,
Speaker 1: the fake the fake um fake world. Yes, yes, is
Speaker 1: that so a thing? What does that have to do
Speaker 1: with Alan Irverson? That has something to do with artificial intelligence? Oh?
Speaker 1: There we go, boom back at it. This is why
Speaker 1: we keep roving around because she is smart. Okay, So
Speaker 1: I think that that phase might be over because people
Speaker 1: realize they spending their money on nothing. What I did
Speaker 1: realize was that they said that people aren't frivolously spending
Speaker 1: money anymore. Okay, that's what they said. Okay, because about
Speaker 1: to go into a recession. Yes, y'all, best save y'all coins.
Speaker 1: Doomsday is coming, y'all, Doomsday, it's coming. Best save your coins. Okay.
Speaker 1: So a couple of months, about a month ago, we
Speaker 1: talked about men that measure their penises and we got
Speaker 1: a look, we got a couple of people who have
Speaker 1: chimed in more than a couple they jumped into the Okay.
Speaker 1: So this one is from Nathan Trinidad because I've done
Speaker 1: my own independent research. Yeah yeah, so that's why we're
Speaker 1: talking about Okay. Okay, So he says, you want to
Speaker 1: say something else, No to say this is a follow
Speaker 1: up to the question about on grinder, right, Yeah, yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: okay about measuring the penis right right? The question we
Speaker 1: asked the question, is there like an input section on Grinder? Oh?
Speaker 1: We did, Yes, I forgot about that. Yes. Oh this
Speaker 1: is getting good. That's that's what this is what this
Speaker 1: email is in response to we asked on Grinder, is
Speaker 1: there some sort of input for where you can say
Speaker 1: my penis is eight inches? Yes? You know, I think
Speaker 1: people be lying, but okay, so um it says hi
Speaker 1: Robin and yourself. First of all, let me just say
Speaker 1: I love you both. I've been a RHRP fans and
Speaker 1: stay one team green Eye bandits all the way. Yay
Speaker 1: um oh speaking of green Eyes, I am all over
Speaker 1: the place right now. So Erica bad Okay, I did
Speaker 1: an interview. Did y'all say this interview though? And I
Speaker 1: think it was Are Martinez and interviewed her and said, um, so, Erica,
Speaker 1: you know they have said over the years that people
Speaker 1: can just look at you in your eyes and fall
Speaker 1: in love. And I was like, yeah, that's me every day.
Speaker 1: I mean, I get it, I get it. So she
Speaker 1: was like yes, men and women, boys and girl, oh
Speaker 1: my god, red black and yellow, purple, and okay, she
Speaker 1: didn't say all that, Okay, anybody, she didn't. She didn't deny,
Speaker 1: She was like, yes, this has been a thing my
Speaker 1: entire life. I think it has something to do with
Speaker 1: being a green eyed bandit because her ice cream a
Speaker 1: hazel hers are very pretty. Okay, she's she's a hazel
Speaker 1: eyed bandit. But hasn't this happened to you your entire life, Robin,
Speaker 1: that people fall in love with me from looking into
Speaker 1: my eyes? Yes? No, oh, where have you what? You
Speaker 1: are not using the powers of the green eyes? I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't want people to fall in love with me
Speaker 1: just from looking in my eyes and it happens. I'm
Speaker 1: just here to tell you, Okay. Moving on back to
Speaker 1: the letter, it says, so I am a gay man
Speaker 1: and I used Grinder regularly. Yes, I'm a hoe. While
Speaker 1: while Grinder does not have a feel for penis size,
Speaker 1: most men will send you unsolicited penis picks. Either way,
Speaker 1: Grinder does have a feel for your position top bottom
Speaker 1: verse V E R S. What does that mean? Oh? Versatile? Okay,
Speaker 1: you can do either. And if you accept N s
Speaker 1: f W photos. While most people don't pay attention to that,
Speaker 1: what is n s FW You wouldn't know. But it's
Speaker 1: not safe for work. Oh wow, you wouldn't know. I
Speaker 1: don't have one of those kind of jobs. Okay. I
Speaker 1: love the podcast and listen every mind day. Okay, So, I,
Speaker 1: because this was intriguing to me, spoke to a couple
Speaker 1: of my gay male friends, not cal and I asked,
Speaker 1: I said, do you measure your penis? He said, that's
Speaker 1: a gay thing. Oh. This is a gay man that
Speaker 1: said to me that's a gay thing. So I said,
Speaker 1: well what does that mean and he said yeah, they
Speaker 1: like to play around and do that. I said, well,
Speaker 1: have you ever measured your penis? He said no, and
Speaker 1: he's a gay man. Yes, but it's a gay thing.
Speaker 1: I don't think it. I think maybe it's a funny
Speaker 1: gay thing. Oh my god, I can't. We're moving on.
Speaker 1: So Carlie has giving us way too much information. We're
Speaker 1: moving We're moving on. We're moving on. I think it's
Speaker 1: just a men are stupid thing. That stupid but they
Speaker 1: just having fun. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't think
Speaker 1: it's just a gay thing. I don't. Okay, So is
Speaker 1: this equivalent to we know women's boob size because of
Speaker 1: bra siyes? Like if you're c D double D. Well,
Speaker 1: we need to know our bra sizes. We need to
Speaker 1: know our boom size because we need to know our
Speaker 1: braw sides. True, so men don't need to know their
Speaker 1: penis eyes to Okay, I was I was trying to
Speaker 1: figure out what side underwear they're getting, right, Yeah, they
Speaker 1: do so big cross, little cross. I mean I think
Speaker 1: they can just eyeball it like yes, okay, But I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't think it's just a gay thing. I don't.
Speaker 1: I think I think sharing it of course, like you know,
Speaker 1: is it maybe a gay thing, because maybe that's important.
Speaker 1: But I I think I can see where a lot
Speaker 1: of males, whether there are young men from the age
Speaker 1: of fifteen, sixteen, seventeen, they might do it. I could
Speaker 1: see twenty two year old men just doing just for
Speaker 1: the fun of it. Yeah. Oh, by the way, did
Speaker 1: you ever see Sex Life? Did I tell you to
Speaker 1: watch that? I haven't. Okay, I do want to watch that, Okay,
Speaker 1: I heard that's good. Yeah. By the way, I have
Speaker 1: been wanting to provide this update please, so on the
Speaker 1: television show, I think they I said something where I
Speaker 1: said something like, you know, Corey, I still walk around
Speaker 1: naked around my kids on the Roal Housewives of Atom.
Speaker 1: Yeah okay, okay, I said that, did you yeah? Do you? Well,
Speaker 1: I'm just giving you an update. Okay, Corey no longer
Speaker 1: is interested in, I would hope, not in seeing me naked. Yes,
Speaker 1: not that he was interested before, but now it's like
Speaker 1: put some clothes on, mommy. Yeah, it's like, oh no,
Speaker 1: you know, let me cover my eyes. But he still
Speaker 1: barges into my bathroom when I'm in the shower or
Speaker 1: into my room like you know, so I'll just be like,
Speaker 1: but when I hear him coming, I'll be like, I'm naked,
Speaker 1: and then he'll like, he'll wait, close his eyes, turn
Speaker 1: around whatever. Good before And however, Carter is not faced yet.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, Carter's thirteen thirteen seven, I give him six
Speaker 1: more months, right, Yeah, he's not faced, but Corey is like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I want no parts. Even my girls are like my
Speaker 1: pus of clothes one really yes, like oh or they'll
Speaker 1: say give us a heads up like boob alert or something.
Speaker 1: I'm like, but they don't know. So the three of
Speaker 1: them cover up around. No, not at all. They just
Speaker 1: don't want to see my old part. Yeah, okay, yes, sorry, okay, um, okay,
Speaker 1: I thought this. Okay. We asked you guys to send
Speaker 1: us questions and we would answer them. This is just
Speaker 1: one We're gonna talk about her because we got a
Speaker 1: couple more emails to Yeah, and this is not my question.
Speaker 1: It's not just our question. This is from f Harris
Speaker 1: one seven one one, Okay. He said, why are educated
Speaker 1: women attractive to Pooky and Ray Ray? First of all,
Speaker 1: I don't know who Pooky and Ray Ray are? Okay,
Speaker 1: I don't know who they represent. I don't know anything
Speaker 1: about Pooky or Ray Ray. And I don't are we
Speaker 1: talking about Pooky as in like Chris Rock's Pooky character
Speaker 1: or New Jack City the Crackhead? Right? Are we saying
Speaker 1: that people are attracted to him? Black people like him?
Speaker 1: People like him? I don't know anyone that likes Pooky
Speaker 1: from Crackhead, okay, that wants to date him? Right? Or?
Speaker 1: And who's Ray Ray Ray? Ray? Ray Ray is like
Speaker 1: on the corner, Okay, He's not the drug dealer, He's
Speaker 1: the lookout for the drug dealer. He's the lookout boy.
Speaker 1: Yeah okay, yeah, And that's universal pretty much. I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't want stereotype Ray Rays out here. But okay,
Speaker 1: well that's you know, the ray Ray on my corner.
Speaker 1: He's the look out boy and my my own your corner.
Speaker 1: My question is is he asking us this because we're
Speaker 1: educating women or is he asked us because he just
Speaker 1: wants to know about educated women. I'm so confused by
Speaker 1: this question that that's why I had to ask. But
Speaker 1: I am an educated woman. Huh. The man that I'm
Speaker 1: married is very educated, so I don't fall under the
Speaker 1: pookie and the ray Ray. I will say, okay, if
Speaker 1: if he's I mean, clearly, this is a you know,
Speaker 1: he's trolling a little bit. You know, he's using us
Speaker 1: a little crazy questions. But I think if we could
Speaker 1: generalize this question, right, okay, because you do have women,
Speaker 1: good women who come from good backgrounds, and they and
Speaker 1: they would prefer to date instead of dating a nice guy,
Speaker 1: a nice educated man or nice professional man, they want
Speaker 1: to date, you know, the the bad guy. The bad guy, right,
Speaker 1: the local drug dealer he considered a bad at because
Speaker 1: some drug dealer is really nice. I'm just saying to
Speaker 1: tell you I don't know them. Don't look at me, Carl. However,
Speaker 1: I've heard that they are very nice. You know, they
Speaker 1: say that women are attracted to bad, bad boy boys.
Speaker 1: I get. So maybe that's what this question is trying
Speaker 1: to get at. I get that, And I have actually
Speaker 1: told my children, because they're a dating age, that the
Speaker 1: cornballs are your future c yes and CFOs, doctor sars,
Speaker 1: so go on and get with them. Yes, but the
Speaker 1: bad boys don't lands long, right, I agree? Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: so that that's what I've been telling me. I've been
Speaker 1: I've had a bad boy too, and I'm sure you
Speaker 1: have too, Yes, And it is extremely exciting and some
Speaker 1: excitement running from the cops now and you're in the passenger. See,
Speaker 1: but that gets old. Yeah, that gets old. They get
Speaker 1: and they run out, you know. Or even if it's
Speaker 1: the guys, it's not even just about you know, bad guys,
Speaker 1: I eat drug dealers or whatever. But like say the
Speaker 1: guys at in your school, your middle school, you're high school, whatever,
Speaker 1: and they're like the cool, sexy, handsome ones and they're
Speaker 1: you know, the players, and they're the ones that like
Speaker 1: all the girls want, and then you twenty years later
Speaker 1: you see them you're like, oh my gosh, I can't
Speaker 1: believe that that's him, like because he's literally like working
Speaker 1: in the gas station or something like and it's a
Speaker 1: big belly, right, yeah, he's a beer belly, right. So
Speaker 1: it's just funny to see, Like, I mean, I've seen
Speaker 1: so many guys like that. I remember when they when
Speaker 1: we were younger, and they were like fine, yes, hot,
Speaker 1: so fine, and they were everybody wanted them, and they
Speaker 1: had all the girls. And now you look at them
Speaker 1: and they're like in age. Well yeah, like I'm cool
Speaker 1: on you, tess, or you see them in a club
Speaker 1: and they have like a receding hairline and the stomach
Speaker 1: is like really fast, all of that. Yeah, and they
Speaker 1: haven't figured out how to transition out of the Heyday. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they're Heyday gas. They're holding onto it. Yeah yeah, no,
Speaker 1: let it go, let it go boo. Yeah yeah. Not
Speaker 1: all guys transition well no it. Meanwhile, the guys that
Speaker 1: were like just being studious and minding their business and
Speaker 1: they're the ones that are yeah yeah, the CEO of
Speaker 1: the pharmacy utical company or listen, you know, listen. But
Speaker 1: like Indris Elba has remained fine over the decade, definitely has.
Speaker 1: I'm just slashing back to him at the Oscars with
Speaker 1: his beautiful wife. Yes, and she looked really good. This
Speaker 1: was the first time and I hate to umoset try
Speaker 1: to say this in the best way possible that I
Speaker 1: ever saw a picture of them. And I looked at
Speaker 1: her because I always look at him, look at him, right,
Speaker 1: But I looked at her longer than I looked at him. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they're a great amazing they're a great looking couple. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I can't remember her name, but Sabrina, Oh Sabrina, that's right.
Speaker 1: She looked dropped at gorgeous. But that interest yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: oh he still looks good. That thing. I just watched
Speaker 1: a movie with him in it. It was the movie, Um,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go back and watch the Wire again, Luther.
Speaker 1: So they oh yeah, I love Luther. So they made
Speaker 1: a movie. No, but they made a movie. Oh really, huh?
Speaker 1: Okay have you seen the series. I never watched the series, Okay,
Speaker 1: I didn't really. The movie was just just okay. I
Speaker 1: saw the series like on one of my trips, an
Speaker 1: international trip, when I had like a whole lot of time. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So we have a good question that somebody sent us. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: this is from his subject is what to do? Okay? Hi,
Speaker 1: I just started listening to the podcast and have become
Speaker 1: a fan. I've always been a fan of Rhop. So
Speaker 1: I am dating and he has dating and quotes a
Speaker 1: married man. I know, shame on me, but I was
Speaker 1: tricked into it. He told me they were separated, and
Speaker 1: when I found out, I broke things off with him. Well,
Speaker 1: he is in love with me and I have turned
Speaker 1: him away on three separate occasions, but the last time
Speaker 1: I gave in and fast forward two years later and
Speaker 1: we are still together. He recently told his wife he
Speaker 1: was not happy okay, and was only with her for
Speaker 1: the kids, and she refuses to let him go. When
Speaker 1: I date other people, he gets in his feelings about
Speaker 1: it and he lavishes me with things to keep my
Speaker 1: attention on him. I guess I'm asking how can I
Speaker 1: break this off? Or should I? Since I'm the one
Speaker 1: he really wants, don't be harsh with me? Signed sneaky link. Yes, Okay,
Speaker 1: So this is a tough one. Yeah actually, well actually
Speaker 1: not really. I mean the tough part is um Brett
Speaker 1: is Brett man. Okay. The married man is a man
Speaker 1: and the merryman is married to a woman to a woman.
Speaker 1: How did we not get that from what you just
Speaker 1: read I did Oh you got it? Yeah, I didn't
Speaker 1: get it. Okay, I get it now. So the merryman, yes,
Speaker 1: goes both ways obviously, yes, And maybe he really wants
Speaker 1: to be gay, right, but he doesn't want to leave
Speaker 1: his wife and kids. Well it sounds like his wife
Speaker 1: doesn't want to let him go, but that's according to him.
Speaker 1: This is all one side of stores, one side of conversation,
Speaker 1: so he probably doesn't, you know. It's like, okay, you
Speaker 1: have to ask, okay, well, like is there something in
Speaker 1: his life that's preventing him from living his life? You know,
Speaker 1: the way that he would preferred to, right, is it
Speaker 1: his job? Is it his you know, his kids, his family, um, society, whatever,
Speaker 1: society exactly at the end of the day, I don't
Speaker 1: think it's fair to the wife in the situation, and
Speaker 1: it's not fair to the what is so so you
Speaker 1: know what I know the term for like what mistress means? Like,
Speaker 1: what's the opposite for a male? Oh, misstraw, He's not
Speaker 1: a mistress. He's a mister. Oh he's a mister, A
Speaker 1: mister he's as Like, what's the opposite? What is the
Speaker 1: opposite of a mistress? What is a male version of
Speaker 1: a mistress. I need to google. Okay, you're gonna google that.
Speaker 1: Why you google that? I feel like cheating is cheating.
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter if you're a man, woman, whatever the situation.
Speaker 1: Cheating is cheating. So should he stop dating him? Yes?
Speaker 1: And he should want better for himself than to be
Speaker 1: dating or in a relationship with a man that's married.
Speaker 1: Paramore a paramore, So that paramore means you're a man
Speaker 1: and your personal side is a man? Well, no, no,
Speaker 1: it just means it says it's not exclusively male, but
Speaker 1: it can to apply to either partner in an illicit relationship. Okay,
Speaker 1: I have heard the term paramore a manstress, a manstress,
Speaker 1: so I said misstra, So no manstress. I like that
Speaker 1: mistress manstress. That makes sense. Manstress. I guess I feel
Speaker 1: like the ss at the end indicates female. But okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: manstress all right, for the purposes of this conversation, is
Speaker 1: the manstress? Yeah? Okay, so you need to run. You
Speaker 1: need to because you should want more for yourself period, right,
Speaker 1: unless he doesn't, unless he's like, you know what, I'm
Speaker 1: just having fun. I don't you know what I mean? Like,
Speaker 1: let me take these gifts but I believe I agree.
Speaker 1: And the fact that the married man gets upset with him, say,
Speaker 1: he gets upset when he gets upset other people. When
Speaker 1: the manstress starts seeing other people that he should see
Speaker 1: that are single, Yeah, when I date other people, he
Speaker 1: gets in his feelings about it. So yeah, this man
Speaker 1: that you're in a you know, toxic relationship, Yes, that
Speaker 1: you are are fooling around with is no good. No,
Speaker 1: nothing's going to change. If he leaves his wife and
Speaker 1: he comes to be with you, it's going to be
Speaker 1: the same type of situation. Yes, he's going to The
Speaker 1: way you got him is the way he's going to leave. Ye,
Speaker 1: Is that right? That's something like that. The way you
Speaker 1: keep him, the way you where you got him, the
Speaker 1: way you keep him. Know, the way you got you
Speaker 1: lose him. The way you got him is the way
Speaker 1: you lose him. Yes. So if you were the manstress,
Speaker 1: there's gonna be another manstress behind you, right, or a mistress. Right.
Speaker 1: But if you do have a conscience, I feel like
Speaker 1: my conscience would just be like yes, karma, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't want to be involved in that. The the merriyman
Speaker 1: is being super selfish to everyone around him. Yes, right,
Speaker 1: and um, you know, he can't have his cake and
Speaker 1: eat it too now, not unless everybody is informed. Like
Speaker 1: when I'm seventy five, if I have a boo, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell everyone you can do whatever you want, right,
Speaker 1: because I don't feel like, okay, just go for it right,
Speaker 1: right exactly. But when I'm gonna do whatever i want right,
Speaker 1: but it has to be when I'm seventy five. Seventy five, yes,
Speaker 1: and if he's if he's younger, yeah, that's a good deal. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Hey for sure. Hey, yeah, okay, So I want to
Speaker 1: do one more Yeah, okay. This is from Sherry Sherry
Speaker 1: King hash Harry. Yeah, Hey Sherry. She says, hello, ladies,
Speaker 1: first time every email in the podcast. But I listened
Speaker 1: to you guys, and I think you can assist with
Speaker 1: my dilemma. So I've been talking to an older gentleman
Speaker 1: for six months and over the holidays, my furnace went out,
Speaker 1: so I'm freaking out. I'm telling about the situation. You know.
Speaker 1: It came during the coldest time of the year, during
Speaker 1: the holidays, so I went and got my furnace fixed,
Speaker 1: and just a month later I had to replace it.
Speaker 1: So she's telling this older general her frustration about all
Speaker 1: the repairs she's venting. One day, I get a cash
Speaker 1: app notification that he sent me some money, and on
Speaker 1: the caption he said, put it toward your furnace. Oh
Speaker 1: that's nice, Okay, keep him very nice. Wow, this is
Speaker 1: where it changes. So immediately I'm thinking, oh my god,
Speaker 1: what a sweet gesture. And that is a nice thing.
Speaker 1: But I didn't want to accept the money because we're
Speaker 1: not in a relationship. That's when you accept the money, right,
Speaker 1: there's no strings here. Plus I never told him how
Speaker 1: much the furnace was, or asked any asked for any
Speaker 1: help from him. Okay, I was just venting. So I
Speaker 1: returned the cash app. Sherry, you idiot, right YEA not
Speaker 1: an idiot, Sherry, but just not something that would do right, Okay.
Speaker 1: So I returned the cash app and I said, thank
Speaker 1: you for your help. I appreciate it, but I'm good.
Speaker 1: For some reason, that hurt his feeling. Yes, he said
Speaker 1: that pride is a hell of a thing. I told
Speaker 1: him my entire life, I have supported myself and I've
Speaker 1: never depended on anybody to do anything for me. And
Speaker 1: the gesture was a surprise, and I appreciate it, and
Speaker 1: I'm sorry if returning it hurt your feeling. I hate her, Ladies.
Speaker 1: He told me that he does not accept my apology
Speaker 1: and the fact that I returned his money. I stole
Speaker 1: his hope and I should never take away anyone's hope.
Speaker 1: So she says, I can't deal with a man with
Speaker 1: a fragile ego. Well, okay, okay, can you can stop there,
Speaker 1: because we can we can. Okay, he doesn't have a
Speaker 1: fragile ego. He just has an ego, and what she
Speaker 1: did was stomp all over it. A man is born
Speaker 1: to or they're supposed to provide. Right, he was trying
Speaker 1: to provide even when you didn't even ask him, Right,
Speaker 1: that's what you want a man to do. I think
Speaker 1: outside of his ego, I think what she did is
Speaker 1: kind of maybe prove a preconceived notion that he might
Speaker 1: have about single, independent women. Do you know what I mean? Like,
Speaker 1: because what did he say? That pride is a hell
Speaker 1: of a thing. So you know, I think we know
Speaker 1: that a lot of women who have supported themselves, they've
Speaker 1: been independent for a long time, they don't want to
Speaker 1: accept a man's help because they don't want the man
Speaker 1: to think, right, I need to depend on you, right,
Speaker 1: And so I think she kind of proved his point, yes,
Speaker 1: that being in a relationship maybe you know, sometimes getting
Speaker 1: to know someone in a relationship in this predicament is
Speaker 1: a challenge because the females want to let the man
Speaker 1: know I got this, I don't need your help. So
Speaker 1: I feel like that I don't even know if it's
Speaker 1: his ego. I think it was more like she was
Speaker 1: showing him like, yeah, I don't need you, which is
Speaker 1: not that he's like I need you to need me,
Speaker 1: but it's kind of like I need you to drop
Speaker 1: the guards, yes, drop all the walls. And you emasculated him, right.
Speaker 1: He is there to help you, boo. This is what
Speaker 1: you want a man to do, and you messed it up, right,
Speaker 1: And you got to think about it. This might be
Speaker 1: his love language. This might be the way he shows
Speaker 1: that he, you know, cares about someone. He's listening to
Speaker 1: you and he's just like, hey, I hear you, I
Speaker 1: feel you. I want to help you out. So I
Speaker 1: do think, Sherry, that you were kind of the wrong
Speaker 1: in this situation. You dropped the ball, sharing and I
Speaker 1: dropped the ball. You fumbled the ball, Yeah, yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: because what he did wasn't wrong. No, it's not a
Speaker 1: red flag, it's not all Now, what you could have
Speaker 1: done was said, hey, I really you know, that was
Speaker 1: so nice of you, so unexpected. But I don't want
Speaker 1: you to think that I was venting to you because
Speaker 1: I was asking for money. I just want to make
Speaker 1: sure you know that I was not trying to ask
Speaker 1: for your money. Listen, every time from then on that
Speaker 1: we go out, after he sent me the cash app,
Speaker 1: I'd be like, oh my gosh, my roof, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: might feed her ny News shoes, I would like, right
Speaker 1: if he if he's a type of dude that wants
Speaker 1: to do that, yeah, I'm gonna let you do it now, right,
Speaker 1: and you don't have to be my boo, right, we
Speaker 1: don't have to have a quote commitment, right. Yes. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So now she says, there, I don't be quiet over here.
Speaker 1: I don't think you're I mean, I think if if
Speaker 1: it's like a no strings attached thing, like I don't,
Speaker 1: I mean, maybe there's other stuff going on where she
Speaker 1: feels like it was a you know, let me send
Speaker 1: this money and maybe I'll slide up in there or something.
Speaker 1: I don't know. But if this is a caring man
Speaker 1: that's listening to you and he wants to be generous
Speaker 1: and help you out, like, that's hard to find, you
Speaker 1: know what I do. There is something to be said
Speaker 1: about women that are all like and people think you
Speaker 1: and I are like this, people think I'm like this
Speaker 1: that Oh my gosh, I'm a strong independent woman. I
Speaker 1: don't need a man and I financially no for children
Speaker 1: for procreation. No, but I do want a man to
Speaker 1: like be a companion and to like hang out with
Speaker 1: me and to listen to me because I got a
Speaker 1: whole lot of shit to say. So I need to
Speaker 1: know that you're listening to me, and that is important. Now,
Speaker 1: if it comes what you're gonna send me with with
Speaker 1: you're sending me money, that's right too, but it's not necessary.
Speaker 1: Yeah but girl, you don't ever send the money back? Right? Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that almost. I feel like I don't think it's an
Speaker 1: ego thing. I think he's probably like I can't win here, no,
Speaker 1: like if she doesn't want to accept my kind gesture,
Speaker 1: I can't really win. Yes, yes, so she says we
Speaker 1: are going on a cruise next month. Oh it continues, Yes, Okay, yes,
Speaker 1: she said the kickers. We're going on a cruise next month,
Speaker 1: paid in full, and I'm still going. But my family
Speaker 1: is saying that's shady of me because it's his family
Speaker 1: reunion cruise. That's not my fault and he's wrong, not me,
Speaker 1: So why should I miss my vacation? Am I being shady?
Speaker 1: Any thoughts would be helpful, but truth be told, my
Speaker 1: ass is still going. Okay, So who's I'm confused about
Speaker 1: the cruise. It sounds like, okay, it's his family reunion's
Speaker 1: cruise that I'm sure he paid, that he paid for okay,
Speaker 1: and he paid for her, and that she's still going
Speaker 1: because it's like in her name. I guess yes, and
Speaker 1: she wants to have fun but they're not. But it doesn't.
Speaker 1: But it sounds like the relationship is over over and
Speaker 1: I'm still going on a cruise. So we need to
Speaker 1: tell her all the cruise. Make it right, Okay, drop
Speaker 1: down and get your eagle on his penis. Okay, that's
Speaker 1: number one, number two, so you can accept the cruise.
Speaker 1: You can accept the vacation, but except for the furnace
Speaker 1: to be fixed, right, girl, you got your priorities mixed up? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean the man doesn't make sense, that's backwards. Yes,
Speaker 1: let the man pay for everything, right, I don't want
Speaker 1: to have nothing. So I feel like go back to
Speaker 1: him and apologize. Yes, not because you are you know,
Speaker 1: independent and you're financially stable and you don't need his help.
Speaker 1: Just apologize that you didn't accept his kind gesture. And
Speaker 1: you didn't and you know what I'm saying, like, and
Speaker 1: so take all the I can do for myself part away, yes, right,
Speaker 1: and just say I'm really sorry that I did not
Speaker 1: recognize that you were just trying to be kind out
Speaker 1: the goodness of your right. And lastly about that is
Speaker 1: a lot of times we want support and we want
Speaker 1: um validation and we want somebody to congratulate us, so
Speaker 1: to speak on on the hard work that we do. Right, right,
Speaker 1: you do want to do a guy to like acknowledge that, right,
Speaker 1: But him helping you out financially is not him not
Speaker 1: knowledging that right. He don't need to. Maybe you got
Speaker 1: it right, We understand you got your whole money. Now
Speaker 1: spend it on you, not your furnace the end. Yeah, yes,
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