WEBVTT - | Ep 86 |  Who’s The One With The Ego? 0:00:00.680 --> 0:00:04.360 Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect 0:00:04.400 --> 0:00:17.759 Podcast Network and iHeartRadio. Welcome to another episode of Reasonably shade. Y. 0:00:17.960 --> 0:00:20.880 I am Gazelle Bryant's what's up? This is Robin Dixon. 0:00:20.920 --> 0:00:24.000 Thank you for being here once again. Yes, hi, Robin, 0:00:24.200 --> 0:00:28.920 Hijazel you seeing you again? No, I'm back in your house. 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:30.960 How do you feel about that? I mean, I'm used 0:00:30.960 --> 0:00:32.800 to it. Yeah, I know, I know. I feel like 0:00:32.800 --> 0:00:34.920 we need to just like give you a bedroom here. Well, 0:00:35.040 --> 0:00:36.720 in the beginning, when I would come over, you would 0:00:36.720 --> 0:00:38.960 have like snacks and stuff. You would actually offer me 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:42.440 like an orange, some carrots. Oh, do you want a cookie? 0:00:42.640 --> 0:00:45.319 Do you want something? No, But that's not the point. 0:00:45.360 --> 0:00:47.800 You don't even offer me a sip, a sip of water, 0:00:48.320 --> 0:00:50.600 because you would always be like, no, I'm okay, No, 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:54.959 I'm okay, I'm okay, So okay. I just want when 0:00:55.040 --> 0:00:58.320 like you invite someone somewhere or out or to a 0:00:58.360 --> 0:00:59.960 party and they always say no, and then you stop 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:01.800 inviting them. You know, that happens to me all the time. 0:01:03.800 --> 0:01:06.120 I know, But Robin, I still invite you. Actually, you 0:01:06.120 --> 0:01:07.760 know what's so good that happened to me recently? So 0:01:07.760 --> 0:01:10.280 I have a girlfriend and her actually her name is Kia, 0:01:10.400 --> 0:01:13.839 and so Kia never I invite her to a million things, 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:16.480 she never comes out, never nothing. So the other day 0:01:16.600 --> 0:01:20.280 was her birthday and so I said, I hit her up. 0:01:20.319 --> 0:01:21.680 I was like, yo, you wanna take you lunch, take 0:01:21.680 --> 0:01:24.760 you to dinner? And she was like, um, okay, we 0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:27.040 can do lunch. So I said, okay, she's going to 0:01:27.080 --> 0:01:29.360 get her lashes done with Brenda and then we were 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:32.360 gonna go after that. Well I didn't believe her, so 0:01:32.400 --> 0:01:34.640 I scheduled something after at the time that we were 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:38.039 supposed to have lunch. So because I straight, you haven't 0:01:38.440 --> 0:01:44.399 you haven't followed through in five years, right, So she 0:01:44.520 --> 0:01:46.240 called me. She was like okay, so you know I'll 0:01:46.280 --> 0:01:49.880 be done at like one one thirty. She put the 0:01:49.920 --> 0:01:52.960 dog in the kennel or the play date where dogs 0:01:53.520 --> 0:01:58.639 to do whatever and what a dog hospitals, dog played 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:01.640 dog camp. She put the dog in dog camp and 0:02:02.080 --> 0:02:05.280 um yeah, And I was like, yo, because I had 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:08.240 an appointment with my I have like an estate. Oh 0:02:08.280 --> 0:02:10.400 I can say this, so this should be your shady 0:02:10.480 --> 0:02:15.800 moment for I had an Robbie. You cutting me off 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:18.040 because I might say something very important. I had an 0:02:18.080 --> 0:02:24.160 appointment with my lawyer who is handling my estate. Oh 0:02:24.639 --> 0:02:27.720 sounds so regal, grand Taylor. I want you to put 0:02:27.760 --> 0:02:31.480 some music behind that, like, yes, I have an as, 0:02:33.840 --> 0:02:36.400 I did some estate planning. Meanwhile, you're gonna have like 0:02:36.440 --> 0:02:39.840 ten dollars in your account and you still have an estate. 0:02:40.720 --> 0:02:43.320 I don't have ten dollars in my account. I'm just saying, 0:02:43.800 --> 0:02:48.320 you're just saying it like it's like unusual. Well, I 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:50.960 mean it was. It was unusual to me until I 0:02:51.000 --> 0:02:53.520 did it. It is important. Yeah, it's very important, portant, 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:55.399 It's very important because something might happen to me. Yes, 0:02:55.400 --> 0:02:57.320 I need to do the same. But I feel like 0:02:57.360 --> 0:02:59.200 the name when you hear the word. So you have 0:02:59.280 --> 0:03:01.960 states Wait, you have haven't done any estate planning, right, 0:03:02.680 --> 0:03:10.120 but you're throwing shade on my estate planning. I'm just saying, yes, yeah, congratulations. Second, 0:03:10.639 --> 0:03:14.160 thank you, Robin, Thank you anyway, good for you. We 0:03:14.160 --> 0:03:17.280 all we all need to do our estate planning. Yes, okay, 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:20.440 but that was the term sounds a lot more grand 0:03:20.560 --> 0:03:24.360 and fancy than it really is. Well, I've actually just 0:03:25.040 --> 0:03:27.480 I felt grand and fancy. Yes, yes, so did you 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:30.560 complete it? You're done? Done? Nice? Done. Um, is that 0:03:30.600 --> 0:03:32.120 the first time you've done that? Or is it was 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:34.400 it like a check up on it? Like it was 0:03:34.440 --> 0:03:36.800 the first time I did all that I did so 0:03:36.920 --> 0:03:40.280 not the totality. Yeah, I had done a portion before, 0:03:40.360 --> 0:03:43.800 but this was like everything. Yeah, so it's good. Yeah. 0:03:43.880 --> 0:03:46.920 So if I if I die tomorrow, my kids are rich. Good. Good. 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:51.040 I mean, well, let's not that I don't want that 0:03:51.120 --> 0:03:53.080 to happen. I'm just saying that that good, you know 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:55.840 what I mean. Yeah, but it's so crazy because that 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:57.840 is something that's been on my to do list for 0:03:57.920 --> 0:04:01.840 like years and I just have not gone to do it, 0:04:01.880 --> 0:04:05.000 and you know, not gonna would I hope I can 0:04:05.080 --> 0:04:07.440 get to do it. Well, I'll give you my lawyers people, 0:04:07.640 --> 0:04:09.840 Yeah for sure. But that okay, So that is not 0:04:09.880 --> 0:04:18.760 my reasonably shady moment. This is so you had to 0:04:18.760 --> 0:04:20.720 cancel on her. So she's all excited to go to 0:04:20.800 --> 0:04:23.359 lunch for her birthday. Did you invited her to? This 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:27.760 is your shady moment. This is my shady moment. It's okay, 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:30.520 I'm sorry, Kia and adologizing right now. And she was 0:04:30.560 --> 0:04:32.440 all excited to put the dog in the kennel And 0:04:32.440 --> 0:04:35.160 it's not my fault. She has canceled on me for 0:04:35.200 --> 0:04:38.480 five years. I get it. But if she was coming 0:04:38.480 --> 0:04:40.839 from getting her lashes done, like oh my gosh, she 0:04:40.960 --> 0:04:45.200 was ready, she probably was moving on. So I was 0:04:45.400 --> 0:04:50.400 in New York recently and the um I was in 0:04:50.440 --> 0:04:53.839 the streets and I was actually hanging out with Porscha. 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:56.880 We were hanging out, and so she was like, I 0:04:56.960 --> 0:04:58.520 was like, oh, we can just hang out at your hotel. 0:04:58.720 --> 0:05:01.320 So her hotel was not my hotel, and she was like, 0:05:01.320 --> 0:05:03.360 I'm staying at the Peninsula And I was like, god, damn, 0:05:03.400 --> 0:05:05.760 I know it's a very expensive over there. So let's 0:05:05.920 --> 0:05:08.200 hang out and do drinks at your hotel. Right. So 0:05:08.240 --> 0:05:11.159 we go there and mind you had to do a 0:05:11.200 --> 0:05:13.960 whole photo shoot in the streets. Like literally, we're like 0:05:14.000 --> 0:05:16.479 dodging cars to do a photo shoot. It was amazing. Wait, 0:05:16.520 --> 0:05:19.599 what this was a you were supposed you were you 0:05:19.640 --> 0:05:24.159 were doing a photo shoot? We were in No. We 0:05:24.480 --> 0:05:27.400 Porscha travels with I think she travels or maybe she 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:29.880 just hired this guy to day a photographer. Got it. 0:05:30.279 --> 0:05:32.719 So we was a voluntary photo shoot. It wasn't like 0:05:32.839 --> 0:05:36.000 for something, no got it. It was just for the 0:05:36.080 --> 0:05:40.360 Graham just because got it, so before we could go 0:05:40.480 --> 0:05:42.799 into the peninsula, we had to do the photo shoot. 0:05:42.960 --> 0:05:44.800 Not the point of the story. The point of the 0:05:44.839 --> 0:05:48.480 story is the shadiness of the peninsula was apparently there 0:05:48.520 --> 0:05:53.279 was some very important dignitary in the peninsula. To the 0:05:53.320 --> 0:05:56.520 point where they cut off the street, you could not 0:05:56.880 --> 0:06:00.880 drive a car to the front of the hotel. And 0:06:00.960 --> 0:06:03.960 the hotel the front doors has like red carpet, so 0:06:04.040 --> 0:06:07.960 that's like perfect for pictures, right, So we got out 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:11.000 of our cars on the curve, we walked over to 0:06:11.040 --> 0:06:14.200 the red carpet. We were ready for a red carpet 0:06:14.320 --> 0:06:17.320 photo moment, and all of a sudden, out of nowhere 0:06:17.400 --> 0:06:20.880 jumps Secret Service and tells us to get to step 0:06:20.960 --> 0:06:23.560 to This is not a photo shoot. Okay, this is 0:06:23.600 --> 0:06:25.880 what y'all won't be doing. And we were like, but no, 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:28.040 but no, give us a minute. They was like, get 0:06:28.080 --> 0:06:31.839 to step in. And you know when Secret Service gets auntcy, Yeah, 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:34.280 this is what they do. They send a plane closed 0:06:34.480 --> 0:06:37.960 closed person first, and they send a plane close to 0:06:38.000 --> 0:06:40.839 the photographer and whispering his ear. Y'all got to move, 0:06:41.360 --> 0:06:44.479 but we didn't move, So then they send another person, 0:06:45.279 --> 0:06:48.120 same message, but do they identify should do they say 0:06:48.200 --> 0:06:50.680 we are Secret Service? No, they don't. He was just 0:06:50.680 --> 0:06:53.880 like he was like, so, y'all got to move because 0:06:53.920 --> 0:06:57.800 it gets bad. Okay, okay, all right. Two minutes later 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:01.400 it was a full secret Service was written on this 0:07:02.040 --> 0:07:04.800 um what do you call those bulletproof vest He had 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:08.200 about four guns. He was walking cock des well you 0:07:08.200 --> 0:07:10.320 know how they walk, and he was like, y'all got 0:07:10.360 --> 0:07:15.679 to move, and we were like, damn that. Going into 0:07:15.720 --> 0:07:18.360 the hotel, we had to go through full metal detectors. 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:21.800 Pat down. I got patted down, and mind you, he 0:07:21.880 --> 0:07:24.600 was kind of cute patting me down. I was like 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:29.040 pat me fronting back baby. Okay. Anyway, so I just 0:07:29.120 --> 0:07:32.600 the shady people right now? Is the Peninsula or Secret Service? 0:07:32.640 --> 0:07:35.440 One of the two? Wow? Okay, I mean that is 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:37.840 kind of like rude. It's like, who are you to 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:40.440 be telling me what I can and can't be doing? Well? 0:07:40.600 --> 0:07:42.720 They you know it was a security risk. I guess 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:46.320 portion I were a security risk, yes, pose big booties. 0:07:46.400 --> 0:07:50.480 Yeah no, no, not all just portis booty um. And 0:07:50.520 --> 0:07:52.200 so we were trying to figure out who it was, 0:07:52.520 --> 0:07:55.080 right and it wasn't Trump by the way. Hopefully by 0:07:55.160 --> 0:07:59.280 now he's in jail. But that's a whole nother story, right. Um. 0:07:59.800 --> 0:08:02.240 Do you know okay, wait, I just saw this. He 0:08:02.280 --> 0:08:04.400 announced that he was going to be I don't know, 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:06.680 it was like Friday, like the Friday before whatever. He 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:09.000 said on Tuesday, I'm going to be arrested. Yeah. Do 0:08:09.040 --> 0:08:13.200 you know between Friday to Tuesday he raised like one 0:08:13.240 --> 0:08:16.080 point five million dollars And it's called witch hunt. The 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:19.600 witch hunt. Uh you want to You're supposed send money 0:08:19.640 --> 0:08:22.600 to the witch hunt like organization or something. Wow, called 0:08:22.600 --> 0:08:27.720 witch hunt. Wow. This man is unbelievable, right. Um. Anyway, 0:08:27.760 --> 0:08:30.000 so I deduced that it was Barack. It was Barack Obama. 0:08:30.040 --> 0:08:31.640 That's who I think it was. Yeah, because it was 0:08:31.640 --> 0:08:35.000 a full it was a full blown, huge secure Why 0:08:35.120 --> 0:08:37.120 I mean, why would he at the Peninsula. Why would 0:08:37.120 --> 0:08:38.920 you think that was him? Because it wasn't Trump. Trump 0:08:39.000 --> 0:08:41.439 was in mar Larco. It was on the news that night. 0:08:41.480 --> 0:08:44.040 He was in Florida. So it wasn't Trump. And Trump 0:08:44.080 --> 0:08:45.960 would go to his what doesn't have a place in 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:50.280 New York. Yeah, it wasn't Biden. It could have been 0:08:50.360 --> 0:08:52.679 Uncle Joe, yeah, because they would have let me talk 0:08:52.679 --> 0:08:58.040 to Uncle Joe because you know, we're friends. Oh really, yes, Okay, anyway, 0:08:58.040 --> 0:09:03.280 what's your shady moment? Lord? Shoot? Um, well, I just 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:05.079 gave you two, so you can take one of mine. Yeah, 0:09:05.120 --> 0:09:08.360 I'll just take one of your guys. I just you 0:09:08.400 --> 0:09:10.600 know what, I sat in front of this microphone and 0:09:10.679 --> 0:09:12.520 I forgot that I had to have a shady moment, 0:09:12.640 --> 0:09:15.920 you know what. And actually this is not the first time. 0:09:15.960 --> 0:09:18.240 It's not the first I've done this, so you will 0:09:18.280 --> 0:09:20.640 be excused. But I did want to. I'm gonna give 0:09:20.679 --> 0:09:23.080 you one. I'm give you this is this is not 0:09:23.120 --> 0:09:25.840 a shady moment. This is the world might be looking 0:09:25.880 --> 0:09:29.640 out for us moment. Okay. So do you remember when 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:35.280 Cardi b sued Tasha k Oh yes, for four million 0:09:35.679 --> 0:09:38.960 dollars for defamation defamation, yes, and then she was awarded 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:41.439 I thought she was awarded like two point five maybe ten. 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:45.120 I think it's four anyway, So Tasha was like, oh, 0:09:45.160 --> 0:09:47.640 hell no, I only have four dollars, right, So I'm 0:09:47.640 --> 0:09:50.880 gonna appeal, right, and she lost the appeal. Right. So 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:54.040 do we like this? I love this. I mean I 0:09:54.320 --> 0:09:55.960 don't know Tasha k And I'm not saying I like 0:09:56.000 --> 0:09:58.320 this because of her. I like this because you can't 0:09:58.320 --> 0:10:00.600 be going out there on the social you're just saying 0:10:00.600 --> 0:10:03.679 anything saying and so so for people don't know what 0:10:03.720 --> 0:10:06.440 we're talking about. Believe Tasha Kay is a blogger and 0:10:06.520 --> 0:10:11.000 she said something that was false about Cardi B but 0:10:11.040 --> 0:10:14.960 it was you know, damaging and Cardi suitor for defamation. 0:10:15.000 --> 0:10:17.760 And I think up until then, a lot of people 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:20.000 on social media would just go online and just say 0:10:20.000 --> 0:10:22.960 whatever they want to say. They still do. Yeah, And honestly, 0:10:23.000 --> 0:10:26.880 I've had my moments where I have wanted to call 0:10:26.960 --> 0:10:29.920 our lawyer, yes and be like, you know, can you 0:10:29.960 --> 0:10:34.760 go um serve this little girl who's making up lies? Yeah, 0:10:34.800 --> 0:10:38.120 with something, because it's not it's it's just not okay. 0:10:38.160 --> 0:10:40.160 Like people have real lives, we have real families, we 0:10:40.200 --> 0:10:42.800 have real jobs, and it's not okay for people to 0:10:42.840 --> 0:10:47.120 be out there just willy nilly making stuff up. No. No, 0:10:47.320 --> 0:10:49.959 I have definitely considered going down that route. But I'm 0:10:50.000 --> 0:10:52.840 just like, uh, my guess is that this person has 0:10:53.080 --> 0:10:56.040 zero dollars, so it's no point. But and you're didn't 0:10:56.080 --> 0:10:59.000 have to pay to get done on your side, yes, right, 0:10:59.240 --> 0:11:03.000 but but yeah, it's just I mean, and I really 0:11:03.000 --> 0:11:05.160 feel like there should be more regulation to this type 0:11:05.160 --> 0:11:10.199 of stuff like how can we regulate you know or 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:16.760 or um like filter like criminalize yes, almost, how do 0:11:16.800 --> 0:11:21.840 we criminalize like social media bullying that needs to be criminalized? 0:11:22.080 --> 0:11:25.600 It does, yes, it does. And even in you know 0:11:25.640 --> 0:11:30.600 this lawsuit that want is named in, the perpetrator should 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:36.360 be it should be facing some sort of criminal um charges, 0:11:36.520 --> 0:11:39.880 but there are nothing. Yes, yes, catfishing should be a crime, 0:11:40.080 --> 0:11:43.760 right for sure, right, but there's nothing to hold him 0:11:43.840 --> 0:11:47.320 criminally you know, liable for anything, which is so it's 0:11:47.440 --> 0:11:52.120 that's the messed up part, right, um, I you know, 0:11:52.920 --> 0:11:54.840 as a part of me, that's like, okay, there is 0:11:54.960 --> 0:11:57.400 the what is it a freedom of speech? Yeah, there's 0:11:57.400 --> 0:12:00.840 a freedom of speech act, um an act or law 0:12:01.040 --> 0:12:04.080 law something. It's a something. So we do want people 0:12:04.080 --> 0:12:06.360 to be able to an amendment. What is it freedom 0:12:06.360 --> 0:12:10.560 of speech? It's in the constitution, carl okay. Carlie looked 0:12:10.559 --> 0:12:12.600 at a side eye because Robin and I did not know, 0:12:12.720 --> 0:12:15.240 and she's side eye just and said, uh, it's in 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:17.000 the constitution, isn't it. Like it's like one of the 0:12:17.040 --> 0:12:19.680 amendment like the first Amendment or second amendment, right something, 0:12:19.800 --> 0:12:24.400 it's first the first Amendment and second first away, I mean, 0:12:24.480 --> 0:12:26.040 my son here, Carter would be able to tell me 0:12:26.080 --> 0:12:29.840 all about and Angel and run it down. So so 0:12:30.679 --> 0:12:32.520 I get that because we don't want to be a 0:12:32.559 --> 0:12:34.880 country in which you have to be censored, right, but 0:12:35.200 --> 0:12:38.720 there should be something to stop people from lying right 0:12:39.160 --> 0:12:43.560 on the internet, right, lying, deceiving, all of that, checking whatever, 0:12:43.800 --> 0:12:45.800 because I would I would be rich, rich, rich and 0:12:45.920 --> 0:12:48.400 rich if I came after all the people then't lied 0:12:48.480 --> 0:12:50.600 on me. I mean it's ridiculous, right, but they don't 0:12:50.640 --> 0:12:52.679 have money, so you really wouldn't. Oh that's right, I'd 0:12:52.679 --> 0:12:56.520 be broke, broken bro Yeah. Okay, yeah, well, speaking of lying, Yeah, 0:12:56.559 --> 0:13:02.120 we didn't talk about Jesse Schmolette and the four part documentary. 0:13:02.240 --> 0:13:04.560 Did you watch it? I didn't? Is it out yet? No? 0:13:05.120 --> 0:13:08.199 That was like, am is that airring on Fox? Or 0:13:08.240 --> 0:13:10.920 something like a TMZ special? Or is there another special? 0:13:11.440 --> 0:13:14.640 It's a TMZ special? Okay, But I saw a clip. No, 0:13:14.679 --> 0:13:16.120 I didn't see a clip of that. I saw a 0:13:16.160 --> 0:13:20.760 clip of the two tires. Yes, they were re enacting, 0:13:21.040 --> 0:13:24.560 yes what Jesse had them do? Yes, And I was like, 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:27.360 should I be laughing? Well, it was a comedy skit. 0:13:27.760 --> 0:13:31.120 It was a straight Comma D skit. By watching a 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:35.760 sick because they were like Jesse, you know the whole 0:13:35.760 --> 0:13:38.520 reenactment of it. If you go on social media you 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:42.280 can find it. It is very funny and it's sad 0:13:42.360 --> 0:13:46.079 because it's like, dude, you lied about this, and no 0:13:46.080 --> 0:13:48.560 one's coveringing this up for you. That was a mess 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:53.800 that was that was wildly entertaining and like it was 0:13:53.840 --> 0:13:57.800 on Fix It's a fox at anatomy of a hoax. 0:13:58.040 --> 0:14:00.640 And and he got no jail time for them, right 0:14:01.080 --> 0:14:04.320 and Jesse, I'm sorry, Yeah, this is this was horrible. 0:14:04.360 --> 0:14:06.400 So what he did was the case you guys don't remember, 0:14:06.840 --> 0:14:11.160 was he staged staged a hate crime. Yeah, so they 0:14:11.160 --> 0:14:13.400 were supposed to put a noose around his neck. They 0:14:13.440 --> 0:14:16.920 were supposed to call him gay, empire boy or something 0:14:17.000 --> 0:14:19.240 like that. This was to scream that ye and these 0:14:19.280 --> 0:14:24.160 were these were the words that Jesse, Jesse gave the 0:14:24.160 --> 0:14:26.680 trainers to do. Like they didn't make this up. The 0:14:26.800 --> 0:14:32.560 two black African yeah men too. So if this is 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:35.680 a hate crip, why did he pick the black Africans? 0:14:35.960 --> 0:14:38.760 It was a black on black crime, No, that would 0:14:38.800 --> 0:14:41.800 be that's different. Well apparently, well, I mean, okay, when 0:14:41.840 --> 0:14:43.400 when he goes in reports that he was attacked. He 0:14:43.440 --> 0:14:46.600 said it was white men. Oh he did, Yeah, they were. 0:14:46.600 --> 0:14:48.560 They supposed to have ski mask on, so he didn't 0:14:48.560 --> 0:14:51.240 see what color they were. I think he said they were, 0:14:51.280 --> 0:14:53.280 didn't he. I don't know. I think the assumption was 0:14:53.280 --> 0:14:56.600 they were white men, right of course, right with the news. Yes, 0:14:56.880 --> 0:15:00.800 this is ridiculous, but this but do you know the 0:15:00.800 --> 0:15:04.720 words like he was screwing the trainer? Oh, I'm sure right, 0:15:05.840 --> 0:15:08.080 was he? You didn't hear that? Yeah, he was screwing 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:10.120 the trainer. That's what I which one because it was 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:14.040 two of them, and they both have majorly nice by d's. Yeah, 0:15:14.080 --> 0:15:16.280 like the main like the one that was doing most 0:15:16.280 --> 0:15:19.360 of the talking. I think I could see that. Yeah, apparently, 0:15:19.400 --> 0:15:23.440 I don't know that that's that's that's allegedly. Yes, let's 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:27.920 throwing no, but what he'sa gosh, I wish I could remember. 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:30.600 It was some word that that dude use. I was 0:15:30.760 --> 0:15:34.800 literally cracking up at his reenactment. It was it was 0:15:34.920 --> 0:15:39.120 a mess. It was hilarious. Yes, so I believe that 0:15:39.160 --> 0:15:42.920 they need to retry this because he should do thirty days. Yes, 0:15:43.000 --> 0:15:44.960 he should do a thirty day jail stint, and that 0:15:45.000 --> 0:15:47.600 will stop other people from thinking that this is okay 0:15:47.600 --> 0:15:50.280 to do yes, because it's not. Carly has showed me 0:15:50.280 --> 0:15:52.840 her laptop. Can't what is all this on your screen? 0:15:53.280 --> 0:15:55.480 Oh my gosh, she showing me her screen and I 0:15:55.560 --> 0:15:59.880 can't look at it because it's just shit all over it. Okay, 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:04.160 but you know, Robin is bacteria. She's the bacteria police. Okay. 0:16:04.640 --> 0:16:07.920 So Crowley is showing us the screen of her computer 0:16:08.360 --> 0:16:13.400 and it says fallen. Empire star Jesse Smollett reportedly had 0:16:13.480 --> 0:16:17.480 bath house sex romps with personal trainer. He's accused of 0:16:17.640 --> 0:16:23.720 enlisting for hate crime hosts bath house sex romps. That's 0:16:23.720 --> 0:16:27.040 a whole episode in itself. It is Empire episode. I 0:16:27.080 --> 0:16:30.080 want to go to a bath house in New York. No, 0:16:30.200 --> 0:16:32.840 that's too much bacteria for you. Okay, now we're gonna 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:41.320 move on. This came out and I thought about you, 0:16:42.800 --> 0:16:47.000 Robin Dixon. There was an article that said that water bottles, 0:16:47.520 --> 0:16:52.600 oh have more bacteria. I agree, then, No, you use 0:16:52.640 --> 0:16:56.760 a water I use I use ones that you throw 0:16:56.800 --> 0:16:58.640 away every you drink them and you throw them away. 0:16:58.640 --> 0:17:01.640 I don't use those those use didn't. I used to 0:17:01.640 --> 0:17:04.240 see you with walking around with water bottles. That wasn't you. No, 0:17:04.480 --> 0:17:08.120 not me. You't a green one. I have plenty of them. 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:10.280 I have tons of them. I have a cabinet full 0:17:10.280 --> 0:17:13.400 of them. Okay, but I feel like, yes, they they 0:17:13.920 --> 0:17:16.720 collect bacteria and they end up smelling like mildew. And 0:17:16.760 --> 0:17:19.480 if you don't like wash them properly, they it gets 0:17:19.520 --> 0:17:21.760 all stuck in the lid and the top and all that. Yeah. No, 0:17:21.880 --> 0:17:24.879 that's why I'm sorry. I am destroying the planet. And 0:17:25.080 --> 0:17:31.360 I use disposable water bottles all day every day, So 0:17:31.480 --> 0:17:35.400 I guess we should use like glasses. Oh why Oh 0:17:35.440 --> 0:17:39.840 because of the plastic from the water bottle. It's destroying. Yeah. 0:17:39.880 --> 0:17:41.640 But then if you just use a glass, you just 0:17:42.119 --> 0:17:44.040 drink pour it out, you know, you know what I mean, 0:17:44.080 --> 0:17:46.240 Like you just refill your glass. I had. This was 0:17:46.280 --> 0:17:49.640 a discussion actually I'm sharing that Jason and I had, yeah, 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:52.439 because he he has this water bottle thing, and I 0:17:52.480 --> 0:17:54.320 was like, well, you know these can get like really 0:17:54.359 --> 0:17:57.720 like um, yeah, I didn't bacteria fied, is what I said. 0:17:57.720 --> 0:18:00.520 I think. Anyway, he went away somewhere and he brought 0:18:00.520 --> 0:18:04.040 me back a high tech water bottle and I was like, oh, 0:18:04.080 --> 0:18:06.080 this is really nice. And I was actually going to 0:18:06.160 --> 0:18:09.119 like put this in my repertoire and use it all 0:18:09.160 --> 0:18:13.119 the time. Now, before the article, before I got a 0:18:13.200 --> 0:18:15.240 chance to do it, a door stolen from me because 0:18:15.280 --> 0:18:21.120 you know, they need that for sports. However, this is disgusting. Yes, 0:18:21.240 --> 0:18:23.240 So I told him. I was like, yo, all of 0:18:23.280 --> 0:18:25.960 these things are worse than toilets. He was like, clorox bleach. 0:18:26.680 --> 0:18:29.720 Just use bleached giselle. And I was like, oh, I 0:18:29.720 --> 0:18:34.160 didn't think about that. That is true. Yeah, and then 0:18:34.200 --> 0:18:37.920 you're drinking bleached You're drinking water from bleached containers. We're 0:18:37.920 --> 0:18:42.399 going down a rabbit holes. No, you just have to. 0:18:42.960 --> 0:18:47.199 If you use those reusable water bottles, then you just 0:18:47.240 --> 0:18:49.920 have to be diligent and keeping them clean and keeping 0:18:49.960 --> 0:18:53.040 them open, you know, like, okay, if you use it 0:18:53.080 --> 0:18:55.199 and you just let us sit overnight and it's closed up, 0:18:55.240 --> 0:18:57.600 and that's when all the bacteria kind of grows and stuff, 0:18:58.280 --> 0:18:59.679 you know what I mean. So you just have to, 0:18:59.720 --> 0:19:02.320 like you have to. It takes a little more effort 0:19:02.320 --> 0:19:05.440 in work to make sure it's not the bacteria is 0:19:05.440 --> 0:19:07.439 not growing. No one has time for all that effort 0:19:07.440 --> 0:19:11.399 and work. Yeah. Okay, So speaking of bacteria and something 0:19:11.400 --> 0:19:13.720 that I feel like would be gross, but you might 0:19:13.760 --> 0:19:19.080 like it. Would you eat a lab grown chicken because 0:19:19.119 --> 0:19:22.000 that is on its way to grocery store. I've seen that, 0:19:22.720 --> 0:19:28.199 a lab grown chicken, Yeah, I've seen that. What we 0:19:28.280 --> 0:19:30.960 do is we take really high quality animal cells from 0:19:31.000 --> 0:19:33.119 like say a cow or a pig, or a chicken 0:19:33.280 --> 0:19:36.280 or a lobster, and we look for cells that can 0:19:36.280 --> 0:19:38.879 continue to grow outside the animal in a very robust 0:19:38.960 --> 0:19:41.679 and a healthy way. The part that's remarkable about it 0:19:41.760 --> 0:19:43.560 is we didn't have to raise and slaughter a chicken 0:19:43.720 --> 0:19:46.800 to get real chicken meat. I feel like the people 0:19:46.840 --> 0:19:49.080 that ate it said it tasted good, right, it's called 0:19:49.080 --> 0:19:54.840 good meat good. Yes, I saw that report. I would 0:19:54.840 --> 0:19:58.320 prefer not to Why I don't trust it. That just 0:19:59.359 --> 0:20:02.160 that doesn't sound right to me. That doesn't sound healthy. Well, 0:20:02.160 --> 0:20:04.040 they're saying that the feature of our planet depends on 0:20:04.080 --> 0:20:06.639 how we feed ourselves, right, Okay, so I guess this 0:20:06.720 --> 0:20:12.840 would be saving chickens. Yes, But then how we get 0:20:12.880 --> 0:20:17.199 the eggs and what came first the eggs? Well, I 0:20:17.240 --> 0:20:19.359 guess we're saving We were getting the eggs from the 0:20:19.359 --> 0:20:21.720 actual chickens because we're not killing them to eat them. 0:20:21.760 --> 0:20:24.119 Oh right, But I thought there's enough. But do you 0:20:24.119 --> 0:20:26.800 remember there was like during COVID there was like a 0:20:26.920 --> 0:20:30.960 chicken wing shortage. You know how expensive chicken wings are now, Okay, 0:20:30.960 --> 0:20:33.200 but I thought that that was just something that they created, 0:20:33.280 --> 0:20:36.600 just like they created the gas prices. Just I mean, 0:20:36.720 --> 0:20:40.119 could lose their mind, possibly, but chicken wings are expensive 0:20:40.160 --> 0:20:42.760 as hell. I don't like Still, I don't know. Okay, 0:20:42.880 --> 0:20:46.600 you don't know. No, Okay, I do sometimes, Okay, okay. 0:20:46.600 --> 0:20:49.000 And I'm sure the boys like chicken wings. Yes, yes, 0:20:49.200 --> 0:20:52.960 so I feel like that we saw a lot of chemicals. 0:20:53.480 --> 0:20:56.560 If it's if it's lab grown, right, it's a bunch 0:20:56.600 --> 0:20:59.320 of chemicals, right, it's a bunch of I don't know 0:20:59.359 --> 0:21:02.200 what it is. Yes, it doesn't sound right. That doesn't 0:21:02.200 --> 0:21:04.760 sound right. Now, that doesn't sound But are we so? 0:21:04.880 --> 0:21:08.800 And why do you have a shortage chicken? Probably? I 0:21:08.800 --> 0:21:14.040 mean I think it's like I don't know. Um, maybe 0:21:14.280 --> 0:21:17.560 they are going to say that it is healthier because 0:21:17.640 --> 0:21:20.640 now maybe they have they can grow without the hormones 0:21:20.640 --> 0:21:22.320 and all that. I don't know, you know, because now 0:21:22.320 --> 0:21:24.720 they're saying, like the meat and stuff that we eat 0:21:24.840 --> 0:21:27.840 is not healthy because it is pumped with hormones and 0:21:27.840 --> 0:21:31.520 all types of other chicken the non organic chicken, is right. 0:21:32.280 --> 0:21:35.040 I don't eat that. I don't know, but I eat 0:21:35.040 --> 0:21:38.760 it with the with the best organic I eat organic chicken. Yeah, 0:21:38.800 --> 0:21:42.919 I'm skeptical. Okay, so would you eat it? I am 0:21:42.920 --> 0:21:47.600 not eating that. What if your favorite restaurant? Yes, they wouldn't. 0:21:48.520 --> 0:21:51.399 They wouldn't. But whatever happens, it needs to have a 0:21:51.480 --> 0:21:54.560 quick because an asteroid is coming to kill us all 0:21:54.920 --> 0:21:59.000 on Valentized Day, of all days in thirty years, thirty 0:21:59.560 --> 0:22:03.880 of an asteroid is on its way. Okay, it's gonna 0:22:03.880 --> 0:22:05.720 break up before it gets here, you think, So, yeah, 0:22:05.880 --> 0:22:08.920 is that what happened? Yeah? I feel like they always 0:22:08.920 --> 0:22:10.800 say stuff like this, oh really yeah, and then they're like, 0:22:10.840 --> 0:22:13.240 I've never heard of this. So I kind of got concerned. 0:22:13.240 --> 0:22:15.800 Are you're scared well on Valentine's Day thirty years from now, 0:22:15.800 --> 0:22:18.320 because I'm gonna be still popping at that point, Like 0:22:18.400 --> 0:22:21.879 what what I mean my boo gonna do? You're gonna 0:22:21.880 --> 0:22:25.240 hold hands and die? You're gonna me and my book? 0:22:25.320 --> 0:22:27.320 I have issues? Serious? Like no, I mean you just 0:22:27.400 --> 0:22:29.879 let it come, okay, all right, I mean you know, 0:22:31.280 --> 0:22:33.800 I don't know if that's how it sounds. Okay, So 0:22:34.000 --> 0:22:39.520 I have one more question. There is artificial intelligence. Yeah, 0:22:39.760 --> 0:22:42.840 that says, then in thirty days, it will cure you 0:22:42.920 --> 0:22:46.240 of cancer. If you have cancer, that crift created something 0:22:46.480 --> 0:22:50.800 that will cure you in thirty days. Really, yes, Robin, 0:22:50.880 --> 0:22:53.680 this is a real article and you believe it. Hell, yes, 0:22:53.760 --> 0:22:56.919 I believe real. Okay, So so what do you have 0:22:56.960 --> 0:22:59.520 to do? You said it's artificial intelligence, So what do 0:22:59.520 --> 0:23:02.120 you have to go? Live in the in the okay, 0:23:02.320 --> 0:23:06.480 artificial intelligence world? Okay, listen, Researchers at the University of 0:23:06.480 --> 0:23:10.560 Toronto have developed a potential treatment for liver cancer using 0:23:10.760 --> 0:23:14.000 artificial intelligence, and you will be cured in thirty days. 0:23:15.320 --> 0:23:18.760 Carry on a need more? Okay. Creation of this potential 0:23:18.840 --> 0:23:22.959 drug was accomplished in just thirty days, and the AI 0:23:23.119 --> 0:23:28.119 system can also predict a patients survival rate. So listen, 0:23:28.440 --> 0:23:32.960 I'm confused. I'm not I'm not well. This is great 0:23:33.280 --> 0:23:35.960 because cancer is horrible. It has killed a lot of people. 0:23:36.160 --> 0:23:38.280 So why on earth have we had to wait all 0:23:38.320 --> 0:23:41.320 this time to get some Really what do they mean 0:23:41.320 --> 0:23:45.600 by artificial intelligence? I don't understand. What is that robots? 0:23:45.680 --> 0:23:48.640 Just let the robots do what they do. Okay, So 0:23:48.680 --> 0:23:51.960 the robots are curing liver cancer something they're making a 0:23:52.040 --> 0:23:54.680 drug in thirty days. How listen, you take the pill, 0:23:54.720 --> 0:23:58.840 you pop the pill. That's what this is what I'm thinking. Okay, 0:23:58.880 --> 0:24:02.040 I mean that would be wonder full if that actually works. Okay, 0:24:02.160 --> 0:24:04.919 if it's true. So is it like on the market 0:24:04.960 --> 0:24:07.119 now are people taking it? Like? What? Well, first of 0:24:07.119 --> 0:24:09.560 falls in Toronto? So okay, that's fine. A lot of 0:24:09.640 --> 0:24:11.760 drug companies are in Toronto. No, meaning like it's not 0:24:11.800 --> 0:24:13.760 in the States. Okay, So I don't we don't have 0:24:13.800 --> 0:24:17.880 further research. Okay, So I will keep you inform into this. Yeah, yeah, 0:24:17.960 --> 0:24:20.840 because as we get older, you never know. I mean, no, 0:24:20.880 --> 0:24:22.920 that would be lovely. And then hopefully and why is 0:24:22.920 --> 0:24:26.280 it just liver cancer? What do you mean? Oh oh, 0:24:27.400 --> 0:24:30.760 that's a good question. I'm going to ask the AI people, 0:24:30.760 --> 0:24:33.720 the artificial intelligence people. When it said AI, I thought 0:24:33.720 --> 0:24:37.800 it was Alan. I were saon when I found Hi 0:24:37.920 --> 0:24:41.480 Alan speaking of Is that? Remember? Um? What is all 0:24:41.480 --> 0:24:44.320 that stuff that was happening? Not? It wasn't bitcoin. It 0:24:44.400 --> 0:24:48.000 was like the the metaverse is that it's called the metaverse? 0:24:48.320 --> 0:24:52.120 Is that still a thing? Metaverse? Yeah? As in Facebook? No, 0:24:52.600 --> 0:24:55.520 remember people are like buying um oh yeah, oh yes, 0:24:55.560 --> 0:24:58.879 the fake the fake um fake world. Yes, yes, is 0:24:58.920 --> 0:25:00.920 that so a thing? What does that have to do 0:25:00.920 --> 0:25:05.000 with Alan Irverson? That has something to do with artificial intelligence? Oh? 0:25:05.080 --> 0:25:07.360 There we go, boom back at it. This is why 0:25:07.400 --> 0:25:11.119 we keep roving around because she is smart. Okay, So 0:25:11.680 --> 0:25:14.280 I think that that phase might be over because people 0:25:14.320 --> 0:25:17.040 realize they spending their money on nothing. What I did 0:25:17.200 --> 0:25:20.959 realize was that they said that people aren't frivolously spending 0:25:20.960 --> 0:25:24.480 money anymore. Okay, that's what they said. Okay, because about 0:25:24.480 --> 0:25:27.240 to go into a recession. Yes, y'all, best save y'all coins. 0:25:27.240 --> 0:25:30.359 Doomsday is coming, y'all, Doomsday, it's coming. Best save your coins. Okay. 0:25:30.400 --> 0:25:32.320 So a couple of months, about a month ago, we 0:25:32.359 --> 0:25:36.800 talked about men that measure their penises and we got 0:25:36.800 --> 0:25:38.800 a look, we got a couple of people who have 0:25:39.400 --> 0:25:43.639 chimed in more than a couple they jumped into the Okay. 0:25:43.760 --> 0:25:47.160 So this one is from Nathan Trinidad because I've done 0:25:47.200 --> 0:25:49.640 my own independent research. Yeah yeah, so that's why we're 0:25:49.640 --> 0:25:52.159 talking about Okay. Okay, So he says, you want to 0:25:52.200 --> 0:25:54.200 say something else, No to say this is a follow 0:25:54.280 --> 0:25:58.840 up to the question about on grinder, right, Yeah, yeah, okay, 0:25:58.960 --> 0:26:02.920 okay about measuring the penis right right? The question we 0:26:02.960 --> 0:26:06.080 asked the question, is there like an input section on Grinder? Oh? 0:26:06.160 --> 0:26:08.679 We did, Yes, I forgot about that. Yes. Oh this 0:26:08.720 --> 0:26:11.119 is getting good. That's that's what this is what this 0:26:11.200 --> 0:26:14.560 email is in response to we asked on Grinder, is 0:26:14.560 --> 0:26:17.040 there some sort of input for where you can say 0:26:17.520 --> 0:26:20.280 my penis is eight inches? Yes? You know, I think 0:26:20.320 --> 0:26:23.719 people be lying, but okay, so um it says hi 0:26:23.920 --> 0:26:25.960 Robin and yourself. First of all, let me just say 0:26:25.960 --> 0:26:28.800 I love you both. I've been a RHRP fans and 0:26:28.880 --> 0:26:31.879 stay one team green Eye bandits all the way. Yay 0:26:32.800 --> 0:26:35.760 um oh speaking of green Eyes, I am all over 0:26:35.800 --> 0:26:40.040 the place right now. So Erica bad Okay, I did 0:26:40.040 --> 0:26:43.119 an interview. Did y'all say this interview though? And I 0:26:43.160 --> 0:26:46.760 think it was Are Martinez and interviewed her and said, um, so, Erica, 0:26:46.840 --> 0:26:49.639 you know they have said over the years that people 0:26:49.640 --> 0:26:51.400 can just look at you in your eyes and fall 0:26:51.400 --> 0:26:54.320 in love. And I was like, yeah, that's me every day. 0:26:54.520 --> 0:26:57.600 I mean, I get it, I get it. So she 0:26:57.760 --> 0:27:02.719 was like yes, men and women, boys and girl, oh 0:27:02.800 --> 0:27:07.439 my god, red black and yellow, purple, and okay, she 0:27:07.480 --> 0:27:11.800 didn't say all that, Okay, anybody, she didn't. She didn't deny, 0:27:11.880 --> 0:27:13.480 She was like, yes, this has been a thing my 0:27:13.680 --> 0:27:15.720 entire life. I think it has something to do with 0:27:16.280 --> 0:27:20.240 being a green eyed bandit because her ice cream a 0:27:20.680 --> 0:27:24.000 hazel hers are very pretty. Okay, she's she's a hazel 0:27:24.040 --> 0:27:27.040 eyed bandit. But hasn't this happened to you your entire life, Robin, 0:27:27.480 --> 0:27:29.920 that people fall in love with me from looking into 0:27:29.960 --> 0:27:33.760 my eyes? Yes? No, oh, where have you what? You 0:27:33.840 --> 0:27:36.000 are not using the powers of the green eyes? I mean, 0:27:36.040 --> 0:27:37.639 I don't want people to fall in love with me 0:27:37.720 --> 0:27:40.640 just from looking in my eyes and it happens. I'm 0:27:40.680 --> 0:27:42.920 just here to tell you, Okay. Moving on back to 0:27:42.960 --> 0:27:45.200 the letter, it says, so I am a gay man 0:27:45.280 --> 0:27:48.200 and I used Grinder regularly. Yes, I'm a hoe. While 0:27:49.160 --> 0:27:52.359 while Grinder does not have a feel for penis size, 0:27:52.480 --> 0:27:55.720 most men will send you unsolicited penis picks. Either way, 0:27:56.520 --> 0:27:59.440 Grinder does have a feel for your position top bottom 0:28:00.160 --> 0:28:03.879 verse V E R S. What does that mean? Oh? Versatile? Okay, 0:28:03.920 --> 0:28:07.600 you can do either. And if you accept N s 0:28:07.720 --> 0:28:12.240 f W photos. While most people don't pay attention to that, 0:28:12.320 --> 0:28:15.800 what is n s FW You wouldn't know. But it's 0:28:15.880 --> 0:28:19.320 not safe for work. Oh wow, you wouldn't know. I 0:28:19.359 --> 0:28:23.560 don't have one of those kind of jobs. Okay. I 0:28:23.600 --> 0:28:26.840 love the podcast and listen every mind day. Okay, So, I, 0:28:27.720 --> 0:28:30.560 because this was intriguing to me, spoke to a couple 0:28:30.560 --> 0:28:34.760 of my gay male friends, not cal and I asked, 0:28:35.200 --> 0:28:39.120 I said, do you measure your penis? He said, that's 0:28:39.120 --> 0:28:42.040 a gay thing. Oh. This is a gay man that 0:28:42.160 --> 0:28:44.160 said to me that's a gay thing. So I said, 0:28:44.160 --> 0:28:47.760 well what does that mean and he said yeah, they 0:28:47.880 --> 0:28:50.240 like to play around and do that. I said, well, 0:28:50.280 --> 0:28:53.400 have you ever measured your penis? He said no, and 0:28:53.520 --> 0:28:55.480 he's a gay man. Yes, but it's a gay thing. 0:28:56.120 --> 0:28:58.680 I don't think it. I think maybe it's a funny 0:28:58.720 --> 0:29:03.320 gay thing. Oh my god, I can't. We're moving on. 0:29:03.480 --> 0:29:06.000 So Carlie has giving us way too much information. We're 0:29:06.080 --> 0:29:08.880 moving We're moving on. We're moving on. I think it's 0:29:08.920 --> 0:29:14.240 just a men are stupid thing. That stupid but they 0:29:14.320 --> 0:29:17.520 just having fun. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't think 0:29:17.520 --> 0:29:20.040 it's just a gay thing. I don't. Okay, So is 0:29:20.040 --> 0:29:24.240 this equivalent to we know women's boob size because of 0:29:24.360 --> 0:29:28.160 bra siyes? Like if you're c D double D. Well, 0:29:28.200 --> 0:29:30.120 we need to know our bra sizes. We need to 0:29:30.160 --> 0:29:31.880 know our boom size because we need to know our 0:29:31.880 --> 0:29:34.960 braw sides. True, so men don't need to know their 0:29:34.960 --> 0:29:37.360 penis eyes to Okay, I was I was trying to 0:29:37.360 --> 0:29:40.760 figure out what side underwear they're getting, right, Yeah, they 0:29:40.800 --> 0:29:44.040 do so big cross, little cross. I mean I think 0:29:44.080 --> 0:29:50.320 they can just eyeball it like yes, okay, But I don't. 0:29:50.560 --> 0:29:52.680 I don't think it's just a gay thing. I don't. 0:29:53.080 --> 0:29:56.640 I think I think sharing it of course, like you know, 0:29:56.840 --> 0:29:59.480 is it maybe a gay thing, because maybe that's important. 0:29:59.520 --> 0:30:02.160 But I I think I can see where a lot 0:30:02.240 --> 0:30:05.080 of males, whether there are young men from the age 0:30:05.080 --> 0:30:09.160 of fifteen, sixteen, seventeen, they might do it. I could 0:30:09.200 --> 0:30:11.120 see twenty two year old men just doing just for 0:30:11.160 --> 0:30:13.240 the fun of it. Yeah. Oh, by the way, did 0:30:13.240 --> 0:30:14.600 you ever see Sex Life? Did I tell you to 0:30:14.600 --> 0:30:17.880 watch that? I haven't. Okay, I do want to watch that, Okay, 0:30:17.920 --> 0:30:21.080 I heard that's good. Yeah. By the way, I have 0:30:21.160 --> 0:30:25.160 been wanting to provide this update please, so on the 0:30:25.280 --> 0:30:29.479 television show, I think they I said something where I 0:30:29.480 --> 0:30:31.840 said something like, you know, Corey, I still walk around 0:30:31.880 --> 0:30:34.560 naked around my kids on the Roal Housewives of Atom. 0:30:34.800 --> 0:30:38.920 Yeah okay, okay, I said that, did you yeah? Do you? Well, 0:30:38.960 --> 0:30:41.320 I'm just giving you an update. Okay, Corey no longer 0:30:41.400 --> 0:30:46.920 is interested in, I would hope, not in seeing me naked. Yes, 0:30:47.240 --> 0:30:49.640 not that he was interested before, but now it's like 0:30:49.880 --> 0:30:52.479 put some clothes on, mommy. Yeah, it's like, oh no, 0:30:52.600 --> 0:30:55.320 you know, let me cover my eyes. But he still 0:30:55.360 --> 0:30:59.080 barges into my bathroom when I'm in the shower or 0:30:59.120 --> 0:31:01.640 into my room like you know, so I'll just be like, 0:31:01.760 --> 0:31:03.840 but when I hear him coming, I'll be like, I'm naked, 0:31:03.960 --> 0:31:06.400 and then he'll like, he'll wait, close his eyes, turn 0:31:06.480 --> 0:31:11.600 around whatever. Good before And however, Carter is not faced yet. 0:31:12.040 --> 0:31:16.160 Oh okay, Carter's thirteen thirteen seven, I give him six 0:31:16.240 --> 0:31:19.520 more months, right, Yeah, he's not faced, but Corey is like, yeah, 0:31:19.560 --> 0:31:22.000 I want no parts. Even my girls are like my 0:31:22.080 --> 0:31:26.000 pus of clothes one really yes, like oh or they'll 0:31:26.000 --> 0:31:30.200 say give us a heads up like boob alert or something. 0:31:30.800 --> 0:31:33.600 I'm like, but they don't know. So the three of 0:31:33.640 --> 0:31:36.720 them cover up around. No, not at all. They just 0:31:36.760 --> 0:31:41.240 don't want to see my old part. Yeah, okay, yes, sorry, okay, um, okay, 0:31:41.240 --> 0:31:44.680 I thought this. Okay. We asked you guys to send 0:31:44.760 --> 0:31:47.200 us questions and we would answer them. This is just 0:31:47.280 --> 0:31:49.160 one We're gonna talk about her because we got a 0:31:49.200 --> 0:31:53.120 couple more emails to Yeah, and this is not my question. 0:31:53.200 --> 0:31:55.560 It's not just our question. This is from f Harris 0:31:55.960 --> 0:32:02.160 one seven one one, Okay. He said, why are educated 0:32:02.200 --> 0:32:08.400 women attractive to Pooky and Ray Ray? First of all, 0:32:08.920 --> 0:32:11.320 I don't know who Pooky and Ray Ray are? Okay, 0:32:11.400 --> 0:32:14.160 I don't know who they represent. I don't know anything 0:32:14.200 --> 0:32:17.040 about Pooky or Ray Ray. And I don't are we 0:32:17.080 --> 0:32:21.280 talking about Pooky as in like Chris Rock's Pooky character 0:32:21.640 --> 0:32:24.200 or New Jack City the Crackhead? Right? Are we saying 0:32:24.240 --> 0:32:28.160 that people are attracted to him? Black people like him? 0:32:28.160 --> 0:32:30.280 People like him? I don't know anyone that likes Pooky 0:32:30.320 --> 0:32:32.920 from Crackhead, okay, that wants to date him? Right? Or? 0:32:32.960 --> 0:32:35.280 And who's Ray Ray Ray? Ray? Ray Ray is like 0:32:35.560 --> 0:32:39.360 on the corner, Okay, He's not the drug dealer, He's 0:32:39.360 --> 0:32:41.360 the lookout for the drug dealer. He's the lookout boy. 0:32:41.520 --> 0:32:45.120 Yeah okay, yeah, And that's universal pretty much. I mean, 0:32:45.560 --> 0:32:49.680 I don't want stereotype Ray Rays out here. But okay, 0:32:50.080 --> 0:32:52.080 well that's you know, the ray Ray on my corner. 0:32:52.080 --> 0:32:54.400 He's the look out boy and my my own your corner. 0:32:54.520 --> 0:32:57.960 My question is is he asking us this because we're 0:32:58.120 --> 0:33:01.080 educating women or is he asked us because he just 0:33:01.160 --> 0:33:04.000 wants to know about educated women. I'm so confused by 0:33:04.040 --> 0:33:06.560 this question that that's why I had to ask. But 0:33:06.800 --> 0:33:10.120 I am an educated woman. Huh. The man that I'm 0:33:10.160 --> 0:33:13.040 married is very educated, so I don't fall under the 0:33:13.040 --> 0:33:16.640 pookie and the ray Ray. I will say, okay, if 0:33:16.840 --> 0:33:18.880 if he's I mean, clearly, this is a you know, 0:33:19.200 --> 0:33:22.400 he's trolling a little bit. You know, he's using us 0:33:22.520 --> 0:33:27.280 a little crazy questions. But I think if we could 0:33:27.280 --> 0:33:30.600 generalize this question, right, okay, because you do have women, 0:33:30.960 --> 0:33:34.520 good women who come from good backgrounds, and they and 0:33:34.560 --> 0:33:37.800 they would prefer to date instead of dating a nice guy, 0:33:37.920 --> 0:33:41.960 a nice educated man or nice professional man, they want 0:33:41.960 --> 0:33:46.600 to date, you know, the the bad guy. The bad guy, right, 0:33:46.680 --> 0:33:49.280 the local drug dealer he considered a bad at because 0:33:49.280 --> 0:33:52.000 some drug dealer is really nice. I'm just saying to 0:33:52.080 --> 0:33:55.320 tell you I don't know them. Don't look at me, Carl. However, 0:33:55.320 --> 0:33:57.440 I've heard that they are very nice. You know, they 0:33:57.480 --> 0:34:00.720 say that women are attracted to bad, bad boy boys. 0:34:00.760 --> 0:34:03.280 I get. So maybe that's what this question is trying 0:34:03.280 --> 0:34:06.040 to get at. I get that, And I have actually 0:34:06.080 --> 0:34:09.400 told my children, because they're a dating age, that the 0:34:09.520 --> 0:34:15.879 cornballs are your future c yes and CFOs, doctor sars, 0:34:16.160 --> 0:34:18.799 so go on and get with them. Yes, but the 0:34:18.880 --> 0:34:23.520 bad boys don't lands long, right, I agree? Yeah, yeah, 0:34:23.760 --> 0:34:25.799 so that that's what I've been telling me. I've been 0:34:25.840 --> 0:34:27.520 I've had a bad boy too, and I'm sure you 0:34:27.560 --> 0:34:32.600 have too, Yes, And it is extremely exciting and some 0:34:32.760 --> 0:34:36.000 excitement running from the cops now and you're in the passenger. See, 0:34:36.600 --> 0:34:39.839 but that gets old. Yeah, that gets old. They get 0:34:40.160 --> 0:34:42.359 and they run out, you know. Or even if it's 0:34:42.360 --> 0:34:44.960 the guys, it's not even just about you know, bad guys, 0:34:45.040 --> 0:34:47.400 I eat drug dealers or whatever. But like say the 0:34:47.480 --> 0:34:50.640 guys at in your school, your middle school, you're high school, whatever, 0:34:51.000 --> 0:34:55.000 and they're like the cool, sexy, handsome ones and they're 0:34:55.480 --> 0:34:58.440 you know, the players, and they're the ones that like 0:34:58.480 --> 0:35:01.520 all the girls want, and then you twenty years later 0:35:01.600 --> 0:35:04.320 you see them you're like, oh my gosh, I can't 0:35:04.360 --> 0:35:07.880 believe that that's him, like because he's literally like working 0:35:07.920 --> 0:35:10.920 in the gas station or something like and it's a 0:35:10.960 --> 0:35:13.680 big belly, right, yeah, he's a beer belly, right. So 0:35:13.719 --> 0:35:16.719 it's just funny to see, Like, I mean, I've seen 0:35:16.760 --> 0:35:19.279 so many guys like that. I remember when they when 0:35:19.280 --> 0:35:22.160 we were younger, and they were like fine, yes, hot, 0:35:22.320 --> 0:35:25.759 so fine, and they were everybody wanted them, and they 0:35:25.800 --> 0:35:27.799 had all the girls. And now you look at them 0:35:27.840 --> 0:35:31.839 and they're like in age. Well yeah, like I'm cool 0:35:31.920 --> 0:35:33.919 on you, tess, or you see them in a club 0:35:33.920 --> 0:35:36.360 and they have like a receding hairline and the stomach 0:35:36.520 --> 0:35:39.560 is like really fast, all of that. Yeah, and they 0:35:39.600 --> 0:35:44.839 haven't figured out how to transition out of the Heyday. Yeah, 0:35:44.920 --> 0:35:47.719 they're Heyday gas. They're holding onto it. Yeah yeah, no, 0:35:47.880 --> 0:35:50.000 let it go, let it go boo. Yeah yeah. Not 0:35:50.080 --> 0:35:53.319 all guys transition well no it. Meanwhile, the guys that 0:35:53.400 --> 0:35:56.319 were like just being studious and minding their business and 0:35:56.640 --> 0:35:59.360 they're the ones that are yeah yeah, the CEO of 0:35:59.400 --> 0:36:03.839 the pharmacy utical company or listen, you know, listen. But 0:36:03.880 --> 0:36:10.680 like Indris Elba has remained fine over the decade, definitely has. 0:36:11.000 --> 0:36:13.120 I'm just slashing back to him at the Oscars with 0:36:13.200 --> 0:36:16.239 his beautiful wife. Yes, and she looked really good. This 0:36:16.320 --> 0:36:18.359 was the first time and I hate to umoset try 0:36:18.360 --> 0:36:20.040 to say this in the best way possible that I 0:36:20.080 --> 0:36:21.880 ever saw a picture of them. And I looked at 0:36:21.920 --> 0:36:24.719 her because I always look at him, look at him, right, 0:36:25.200 --> 0:36:27.759 But I looked at her longer than I looked at him. Yeah, 0:36:27.800 --> 0:36:30.720 they're a great amazing they're a great looking couple. Yeah. 0:36:30.719 --> 0:36:33.640 I can't remember her name, but Sabrina, Oh Sabrina, that's right. 0:36:33.680 --> 0:36:38.359 She looked dropped at gorgeous. But that interest yeah, yeah, 0:36:38.400 --> 0:36:40.960 oh he still looks good. That thing. I just watched 0:36:41.000 --> 0:36:43.240 a movie with him in it. It was the movie, Um, 0:36:43.239 --> 0:36:45.239 I'm gonna go back and watch the Wire again, Luther. 0:36:45.520 --> 0:36:47.799 So they oh yeah, I love Luther. So they made 0:36:47.800 --> 0:36:50.480 a movie. No, but they made a movie. Oh really, huh? 0:36:50.800 --> 0:36:53.759 Okay have you seen the series. I never watched the series, Okay, 0:36:53.800 --> 0:36:56.480 I didn't really. The movie was just just okay. I 0:36:56.520 --> 0:37:00.120 saw the series like on one of my trips, an 0:37:00.120 --> 0:37:02.520 international trip, when I had like a whole lot of time. Yeah. 0:37:09.200 --> 0:37:13.400 So we have a good question that somebody sent us. Okay, okay, 0:37:13.760 --> 0:37:18.040 this is from his subject is what to do? Okay? Hi, 0:37:18.280 --> 0:37:21.160 I just started listening to the podcast and have become 0:37:21.160 --> 0:37:23.840 a fan. I've always been a fan of Rhop. So 0:37:24.239 --> 0:37:27.120 I am dating and he has dating and quotes a 0:37:27.320 --> 0:37:30.360 married man. I know, shame on me, but I was 0:37:30.400 --> 0:37:33.440 tricked into it. He told me they were separated, and 0:37:33.480 --> 0:37:37.360 when I found out, I broke things off with him. Well, 0:37:37.600 --> 0:37:39.919 he is in love with me and I have turned 0:37:40.000 --> 0:37:43.319 him away on three separate occasions, but the last time 0:37:43.360 --> 0:37:46.960 I gave in and fast forward two years later and 0:37:47.280 --> 0:37:52.440 we are still together. He recently told his wife he 0:37:52.640 --> 0:37:56.120 was not happy okay, and was only with her for 0:37:56.239 --> 0:37:59.839 the kids, and she refuses to let him go. When 0:37:59.840 --> 0:38:02.120 I date other people, he gets in his feelings about 0:38:02.120 --> 0:38:04.520 it and he lavishes me with things to keep my 0:38:04.560 --> 0:38:07.520 attention on him. I guess I'm asking how can I 0:38:07.520 --> 0:38:09.960 break this off? Or should I? Since I'm the one 0:38:10.000 --> 0:38:19.360 he really wants, don't be harsh with me? Signed sneaky link. Yes, Okay, 0:38:19.600 --> 0:38:23.880 So this is a tough one. Yeah actually, well actually 0:38:24.040 --> 0:38:33.440 not really. I mean the tough part is um Brett 0:38:31.880 --> 0:38:35.399 is Brett man. Okay. The married man is a man 0:38:36.160 --> 0:38:39.000 and the merryman is married to a woman to a woman. 0:38:39.200 --> 0:38:40.879 How did we not get that from what you just 0:38:40.880 --> 0:38:42.959 read I did Oh you got it? Yeah, I didn't 0:38:42.960 --> 0:38:47.600 get it. Okay, I get it now. So the merryman, yes, 0:38:48.239 --> 0:38:51.720 goes both ways obviously, yes, And maybe he really wants 0:38:51.719 --> 0:38:54.200 to be gay, right, but he doesn't want to leave 0:38:54.239 --> 0:38:57.280 his wife and kids. Well it sounds like his wife 0:38:57.320 --> 0:39:00.920 doesn't want to let him go, but that's according to him. 0:39:01.000 --> 0:39:03.680 This is all one side of stores, one side of conversation, 0:39:03.800 --> 0:39:06.680 so he probably doesn't, you know. It's like, okay, you 0:39:06.680 --> 0:39:09.160 have to ask, okay, well, like is there something in 0:39:09.200 --> 0:39:11.920 his life that's preventing him from living his life? You know, 0:39:12.360 --> 0:39:15.160 the way that he would preferred to, right, is it 0:39:15.239 --> 0:39:20.720 his job? Is it his you know, his kids, his family, um, society, whatever, 0:39:20.880 --> 0:39:24.480 society exactly at the end of the day, I don't 0:39:25.040 --> 0:39:28.600 think it's fair to the wife in the situation, and 0:39:28.640 --> 0:39:33.000 it's not fair to the what is so so you 0:39:33.040 --> 0:39:35.960 know what I know the term for like what mistress means? Like, 0:39:36.000 --> 0:39:41.600 what's the opposite for a male? Oh, misstraw, He's not 0:39:41.640 --> 0:39:44.319 a mistress. He's a mister. Oh he's a mister, A 0:39:44.440 --> 0:39:47.200 mister he's as Like, what's the opposite? What is the 0:39:47.239 --> 0:39:50.279 opposite of a mistress? What is a male version of 0:39:50.320 --> 0:39:52.440 a mistress. I need to google. Okay, you're gonna google that. 0:39:52.520 --> 0:39:54.880 Why you google that? I feel like cheating is cheating. 0:39:55.160 --> 0:39:57.560 It doesn't matter if you're a man, woman, whatever the situation. 0:39:57.840 --> 0:40:01.160 Cheating is cheating. So should he stop dating him? Yes? 0:40:01.760 --> 0:40:05.239 And he should want better for himself than to be 0:40:06.040 --> 0:40:08.360 dating or in a relationship with a man that's married. 0:40:08.840 --> 0:40:12.640 Paramore a paramore, So that paramore means you're a man 0:40:12.920 --> 0:40:16.560 and your personal side is a man? Well, no, no, 0:40:16.600 --> 0:40:19.960 it just means it says it's not exclusively male, but 0:40:20.000 --> 0:40:24.560 it can to apply to either partner in an illicit relationship. Okay, 0:40:24.800 --> 0:40:28.759 I have heard the term paramore a manstress, a manstress, 0:40:29.480 --> 0:40:33.000 so I said misstra, So no manstress. I like that 0:40:33.280 --> 0:40:36.879 mistress manstress. That makes sense. Manstress. I guess I feel 0:40:36.920 --> 0:40:39.759 like the ss at the end indicates female. But okay, yeah, 0:40:39.840 --> 0:40:43.200 manstress all right, for the purposes of this conversation, is 0:40:43.200 --> 0:40:46.279 the manstress? Yeah? Okay, so you need to run. You 0:40:46.280 --> 0:40:50.000 need to because you should want more for yourself period, right, 0:40:50.239 --> 0:40:53.560 unless he doesn't, unless he's like, you know what, I'm 0:40:53.560 --> 0:40:55.640 just having fun. I don't you know what I mean? Like, 0:40:55.960 --> 0:41:00.239 let me take these gifts but I believe I agree. 0:41:00.320 --> 0:41:05.920 And the fact that the married man gets upset with him, say, 0:41:06.040 --> 0:41:08.120 he gets upset when he gets upset other people. When 0:41:08.160 --> 0:41:11.040 the manstress starts seeing other people that he should see 0:41:11.080 --> 0:41:13.319 that are single, Yeah, when I date other people, he 0:41:13.360 --> 0:41:15.839 gets in his feelings about it. So yeah, this man 0:41:15.920 --> 0:41:19.360 that you're in a you know, toxic relationship, Yes, that 0:41:19.440 --> 0:41:22.759 you are are fooling around with is no good. No, 0:41:23.080 --> 0:41:25.200 nothing's going to change. If he leaves his wife and 0:41:25.239 --> 0:41:26.880 he comes to be with you, it's going to be 0:41:26.880 --> 0:41:29.520 the same type of situation. Yes, he's going to The 0:41:29.560 --> 0:41:31.640 way you got him is the way he's going to leave. Ye, 0:41:31.880 --> 0:41:33.640 Is that right? That's something like that. The way you 0:41:33.719 --> 0:41:35.600 keep him, the way you where you got him, the 0:41:35.640 --> 0:41:37.480 way you keep him. Know, the way you got you 0:41:37.520 --> 0:41:39.239 lose him. The way you got him is the way 0:41:39.280 --> 0:41:42.480 you lose him. Yes. So if you were the manstress, 0:41:42.880 --> 0:41:46.040 there's gonna be another manstress behind you, right, or a mistress. Right. 0:41:46.160 --> 0:41:47.920 But if you do have a conscience, I feel like 0:41:47.960 --> 0:41:51.040 my conscience would just be like yes, karma, Yeah, I 0:41:51.080 --> 0:41:54.480 don't want to be involved in that. The the merriyman 0:41:54.640 --> 0:41:58.120 is being super selfish to everyone around him. Yes, right, 0:41:58.880 --> 0:42:02.880 and um, you know, he can't have his cake and 0:42:02.920 --> 0:42:06.319 eat it too now, not unless everybody is informed. Like 0:42:06.360 --> 0:42:08.200 when I'm seventy five, if I have a boo, I'm 0:42:08.200 --> 0:42:10.759 gonna tell everyone you can do whatever you want, right, 0:42:10.800 --> 0:42:14.000 because I don't feel like, okay, just go for it right, 0:42:14.880 --> 0:42:17.719 right exactly. But when I'm gonna do whatever i want right, 0:42:18.800 --> 0:42:21.399 but it has to be when I'm seventy five. Seventy five, yes, 0:42:21.719 --> 0:42:25.400 and if he's if he's younger, yeah, that's a good deal. Yeah, 0:42:25.520 --> 0:42:29.600 Hey for sure. Hey, yeah, okay, So I want to 0:42:29.640 --> 0:42:33.160 do one more Yeah, okay. This is from Sherry Sherry 0:42:33.239 --> 0:42:35.960 King hash Harry. Yeah, Hey Sherry. She says, hello, ladies, 0:42:36.000 --> 0:42:38.200 first time every email in the podcast. But I listened 0:42:38.200 --> 0:42:40.080 to you guys, and I think you can assist with 0:42:40.120 --> 0:42:42.720 my dilemma. So I've been talking to an older gentleman 0:42:42.840 --> 0:42:46.799 for six months and over the holidays, my furnace went out, 0:42:46.960 --> 0:42:50.400 so I'm freaking out. I'm telling about the situation. You know. 0:42:50.440 --> 0:42:52.439 It came during the coldest time of the year, during 0:42:52.440 --> 0:42:55.360 the holidays, so I went and got my furnace fixed, 0:42:55.400 --> 0:42:57.759 and just a month later I had to replace it. 0:42:58.600 --> 0:43:01.560 So she's telling this older general her frustration about all 0:43:01.600 --> 0:43:05.720 the repairs she's venting. One day, I get a cash 0:43:05.760 --> 0:43:08.200 app notification that he sent me some money, and on 0:43:08.280 --> 0:43:10.719 the caption he said, put it toward your furnace. Oh 0:43:10.760 --> 0:43:13.759 that's nice, Okay, keep him very nice. Wow, this is 0:43:13.800 --> 0:43:16.120 where it changes. So immediately I'm thinking, oh my god, 0:43:16.120 --> 0:43:17.839 what a sweet gesture. And that is a nice thing. 0:43:17.840 --> 0:43:19.759 But I didn't want to accept the money because we're 0:43:19.760 --> 0:43:22.880 not in a relationship. That's when you accept the money, right, 0:43:23.040 --> 0:43:26.640 there's no strings here. Plus I never told him how 0:43:26.719 --> 0:43:29.200 much the furnace was, or asked any asked for any 0:43:29.239 --> 0:43:31.719 help from him. Okay, I was just venting. So I 0:43:31.800 --> 0:43:35.799 returned the cash app. Sherry, you idiot, right YEA not 0:43:35.840 --> 0:43:38.839 an idiot, Sherry, but just not something that would do right, Okay. 0:43:38.920 --> 0:43:41.040 So I returned the cash app and I said, thank 0:43:41.080 --> 0:43:43.000 you for your help. I appreciate it, but I'm good. 0:43:43.440 --> 0:43:46.480 For some reason, that hurt his feeling. Yes, he said 0:43:46.920 --> 0:43:50.120 that pride is a hell of a thing. I told 0:43:50.200 --> 0:43:53.200 him my entire life, I have supported myself and I've 0:43:53.239 --> 0:43:56.200 never depended on anybody to do anything for me. And 0:43:56.239 --> 0:43:58.680 the gesture was a surprise, and I appreciate it, and 0:43:58.719 --> 0:44:03.440 I'm sorry if returning it hurt your feeling. I hate her, Ladies. 0:44:03.920 --> 0:44:06.000 He told me that he does not accept my apology 0:44:06.080 --> 0:44:08.120 and the fact that I returned his money. I stole 0:44:08.160 --> 0:44:10.600 his hope and I should never take away anyone's hope. 0:44:11.400 --> 0:44:14.719 So she says, I can't deal with a man with 0:44:14.760 --> 0:44:18.080 a fragile ego. Well, okay, okay, can you can stop there, 0:44:18.080 --> 0:44:20.360 because we can we can. Okay, he doesn't have a 0:44:20.400 --> 0:44:23.840 fragile ego. He just has an ego, and what she 0:44:23.960 --> 0:44:26.880 did was stomp all over it. A man is born 0:44:27.520 --> 0:44:31.120 to or they're supposed to provide. Right, he was trying 0:44:31.160 --> 0:44:33.920 to provide even when you didn't even ask him, Right, 0:44:34.040 --> 0:44:36.120 that's what you want a man to do. I think 0:44:36.600 --> 0:44:38.560 outside of his ego, I think what she did is 0:44:38.680 --> 0:44:42.319 kind of maybe prove a preconceived notion that he might 0:44:42.440 --> 0:44:46.239 have about single, independent women. Do you know what I mean? Like, 0:44:46.440 --> 0:44:50.080 because what did he say? That pride is a hell 0:44:50.120 --> 0:44:52.480 of a thing. So you know, I think we know 0:44:52.600 --> 0:44:55.000 that a lot of women who have supported themselves, they've 0:44:55.040 --> 0:44:58.440 been independent for a long time, they don't want to 0:44:58.440 --> 0:45:00.319 accept a man's help because they don't want the man 0:45:00.400 --> 0:45:02.680 to think, right, I need to depend on you, right, 0:45:02.719 --> 0:45:05.239 And so I think she kind of proved his point, yes, 0:45:05.600 --> 0:45:09.960 that being in a relationship maybe you know, sometimes getting 0:45:10.000 --> 0:45:13.200 to know someone in a relationship in this predicament is 0:45:13.200 --> 0:45:17.960 a challenge because the females want to let the man 0:45:18.080 --> 0:45:21.839 know I got this, I don't need your help. So 0:45:22.000 --> 0:45:23.879 I feel like that I don't even know if it's 0:45:23.880 --> 0:45:25.880 his ego. I think it was more like she was 0:45:25.920 --> 0:45:28.759 showing him like, yeah, I don't need you, which is 0:45:28.840 --> 0:45:31.840 not that he's like I need you to need me, 0:45:31.880 --> 0:45:33.800 but it's kind of like I need you to drop 0:45:33.840 --> 0:45:38.480 the guards, yes, drop all the walls. And you emasculated him, right. 0:45:38.640 --> 0:45:40.839 He is there to help you, boo. This is what 0:45:40.880 --> 0:45:44.040 you want a man to do, and you messed it up, right, 0:45:44.120 --> 0:45:46.319 And you got to think about it. This might be 0:45:46.400 --> 0:45:49.360 his love language. This might be the way he shows 0:45:49.440 --> 0:45:52.440 that he, you know, cares about someone. He's listening to 0:45:52.480 --> 0:45:55.560 you and he's just like, hey, I hear you, I 0:45:55.600 --> 0:45:57.879 feel you. I want to help you out. So I 0:45:57.960 --> 0:46:00.439 do think, Sherry, that you were kind of the wrong 0:46:00.480 --> 0:46:03.000 in this situation. You dropped the ball, sharing and I 0:46:03.040 --> 0:46:05.480 dropped the ball. You fumbled the ball, Yeah, yes, yeah, 0:46:05.560 --> 0:46:07.800 because what he did wasn't wrong. No, it's not a 0:46:07.840 --> 0:46:10.360 red flag, it's not all Now, what you could have 0:46:10.400 --> 0:46:13.200 done was said, hey, I really you know, that was 0:46:13.280 --> 0:46:16.279 so nice of you, so unexpected. But I don't want 0:46:16.320 --> 0:46:19.440 you to think that I was venting to you because 0:46:19.480 --> 0:46:21.839 I was asking for money. I just want to make 0:46:21.880 --> 0:46:23.799 sure you know that I was not trying to ask 0:46:23.800 --> 0:46:26.040 for your money. Listen, every time from then on that 0:46:26.120 --> 0:46:27.879 we go out, after he sent me the cash app, 0:46:27.960 --> 0:46:32.920 I'd be like, oh my gosh, my roof, oh my gosh, 0:46:33.080 --> 0:46:36.839 might feed her ny News shoes, I would like, right 0:46:37.000 --> 0:46:38.879 if he if he's a type of dude that wants 0:46:38.920 --> 0:46:41.799 to do that, yeah, I'm gonna let you do it now, right, 0:46:42.080 --> 0:46:44.840 and you don't have to be my boo, right, we 0:46:44.920 --> 0:46:48.200 don't have to have a quote commitment, right. Yes. Yeah. 0:46:48.600 --> 0:46:51.560 So now she says, there, I don't be quiet over here. 0:46:51.800 --> 0:46:54.040 I don't think you're I mean, I think if if 0:46:54.080 --> 0:46:56.200 it's like a no strings attached thing, like I don't, 0:46:56.239 --> 0:46:58.440 I mean, maybe there's other stuff going on where she 0:46:58.560 --> 0:47:00.600 feels like it was a you know, let me send 0:47:00.640 --> 0:47:03.120 this money and maybe I'll slide up in there or something. 0:47:03.239 --> 0:47:05.879 I don't know. But if this is a caring man 0:47:06.000 --> 0:47:09.120 that's listening to you and he wants to be generous 0:47:09.160 --> 0:47:12.440 and help you out, like, that's hard to find, you 0:47:12.520 --> 0:47:15.279 know what I do. There is something to be said 0:47:15.280 --> 0:47:18.040 about women that are all like and people think you 0:47:18.120 --> 0:47:19.759 and I are like this, people think I'm like this 0:47:20.239 --> 0:47:22.040 that Oh my gosh, I'm a strong independent woman. I 0:47:22.120 --> 0:47:26.320 don't need a man and I financially no for children 0:47:26.480 --> 0:47:30.080 for procreation. No, but I do want a man to 0:47:30.280 --> 0:47:33.080 like be a companion and to like hang out with 0:47:33.239 --> 0:47:35.880 me and to listen to me because I got a 0:47:35.920 --> 0:47:38.000 whole lot of shit to say. So I need to 0:47:38.080 --> 0:47:41.319 know that you're listening to me, and that is important. Now, 0:47:41.360 --> 0:47:43.120 if it comes what you're gonna send me with with 0:47:43.480 --> 0:47:46.520 you're sending me money, that's right too, but it's not necessary. 0:47:46.680 --> 0:47:52.120 Yeah but girl, you don't ever send the money back? Right? Yeah? Yeah, 0:47:52.200 --> 0:47:54.359 that almost. I feel like I don't think it's an 0:47:54.400 --> 0:47:57.800 ego thing. I think he's probably like I can't win here, no, 0:47:58.080 --> 0:48:00.640 like if she doesn't want to accept my kind gesture, 0:48:01.160 --> 0:48:04.120 I can't really win. Yes, yes, so she says we 0:48:04.200 --> 0:48:08.040 are going on a cruise next month. Oh it continues, Yes, Okay, yes, 0:48:08.280 --> 0:48:10.160 she said the kickers. We're going on a cruise next month, 0:48:10.280 --> 0:48:12.479 paid in full, and I'm still going. But my family 0:48:12.560 --> 0:48:15.080 is saying that's shady of me because it's his family 0:48:15.160 --> 0:48:20.080 reunion cruise. That's not my fault and he's wrong, not me, 0:48:20.400 --> 0:48:23.720 So why should I miss my vacation? Am I being shady? 0:48:24.120 --> 0:48:26.160 Any thoughts would be helpful, but truth be told, my 0:48:26.239 --> 0:48:29.200 ass is still going. Okay, So who's I'm confused about 0:48:29.200 --> 0:48:31.879 the cruise. It sounds like, okay, it's his family reunion's 0:48:31.960 --> 0:48:35.000 cruise that I'm sure he paid, that he paid for okay, 0:48:35.160 --> 0:48:37.640 and he paid for her, and that she's still going 0:48:38.000 --> 0:48:40.200 because it's like in her name. I guess yes, and 0:48:40.280 --> 0:48:42.680 she wants to have fun but they're not. But it doesn't. 0:48:42.840 --> 0:48:47.480 But it sounds like the relationship is over over and 0:48:47.520 --> 0:48:49.160 I'm still going on a cruise. So we need to 0:48:49.200 --> 0:48:52.640 tell her all the cruise. Make it right, Okay, drop 0:48:52.680 --> 0:48:55.560 down and get your eagle on his penis. Okay, that's 0:48:55.680 --> 0:48:58.440 number one, number two, so you can accept the cruise. 0:48:58.680 --> 0:49:00.960 You can accept the vacation, but except for the furnace 0:49:01.000 --> 0:49:03.799 to be fixed, right, girl, you got your priorities mixed up? Yeah, 0:49:04.160 --> 0:49:07.160 I mean the man doesn't make sense, that's backwards. Yes, 0:49:07.400 --> 0:49:10.120 let the man pay for everything, right, I don't want 0:49:10.120 --> 0:49:12.840 to have nothing. So I feel like go back to 0:49:13.000 --> 0:49:18.000 him and apologize. Yes, not because you are you know, 0:49:18.480 --> 0:49:21.239 independent and you're financially stable and you don't need his help. 0:49:21.360 --> 0:49:25.480 Just apologize that you didn't accept his kind gesture. And 0:49:25.600 --> 0:49:27.440 you didn't and you know what I'm saying, like, and 0:49:27.600 --> 0:49:32.200 so take all the I can do for myself part away, yes, right, 0:49:32.320 --> 0:49:34.000 and just say I'm really sorry that I did not 0:49:34.120 --> 0:49:37.279 recognize that you were just trying to be kind out 0:49:37.280 --> 0:49:39.640 the goodness of your right. And lastly about that is 0:49:39.840 --> 0:49:43.760 a lot of times we want support and we want 0:49:44.239 --> 0:49:49.440 um validation and we want somebody to congratulate us, so 0:49:49.600 --> 0:49:52.640 to speak on on the hard work that we do. Right, right, 0:49:53.320 --> 0:49:56.319 you do want to do a guy to like acknowledge that, right, 0:49:56.600 --> 0:49:59.560 But him helping you out financially is not him not 0:50:00.080 --> 0:50:02.759 knowledging that right. He don't need to. Maybe you got 0:50:02.800 --> 0:50:05.160 it right, We understand you got your whole money. Now 0:50:05.239 --> 0:50:08.640 spend it on you, not your furnace the end. Yeah, yes, 0:50:09.160 --> 0:50:11.440 so don't ever forget to live your life, either reasonable 0:50:11.560 --> 0:50:23.080 or shady. Reasonably Shady is a production of the Black 0:50:23.200 --> 0:50:27.759 Affect podcast Network. For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the 0:50:27.880 --> 0:50:31.319 iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your 0:50:31.360 --> 0:50:34.400 favorite shows, and you can connect with us on social 0:50:34.480 --> 0:50:39.720 media at Robin Dixon, ten, Giselle Briant, and Reasonably Shady.