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Speaker 1: All right, it is time now for today's Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: we're gonna read this one right here, right now, and

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Speaker 1: you never know, it could be yours. It could be

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Speaker 1: buckle love and hold on tight. We got it for

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Speaker 1: you here. It is the Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subjects.

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Speaker 1: She's got one more time, okay. Dear Stephen Shirley, I've

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Speaker 1: been dating a great man for almost six months. It's

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Speaker 1: been It was a long distance relationship at first, but

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Speaker 1: I moved to a city three weeks ago. I have

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Speaker 1: an aunt that lives in this same city, and I'm

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Speaker 1: living with her temporarily. My boyfriend gave me a key

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Speaker 1: so I stay with him most of the time. His

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Speaker 1: mother has a key to his apartment too, and she

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Speaker 1: the traffic dies down. If she doesn't see my boyfriend's car.

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Speaker 1: She comes on in and won't even speak to me.

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Speaker 1: If I've cooked, she'll make a plate. If we have leftovers,

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Speaker 1: she'll make a plate. She doesn't talk to me, and

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Speaker 1: she doesn't ask before she eats our food. After a

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Speaker 1: few visits from her, I asked my boyfriend why she

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Speaker 1: only comes by when I'm there by myself. He laughed

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Speaker 1: and said that his mother doesn't trust me, so she

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Speaker 1: comes to keep an eye on me. I guess she

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Speaker 1: thinks I'm a thief and her son has money hidden

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Speaker 1: in the walls of his tiny, one bedroom apartment. I

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Speaker 1: decided to ask her if she had a problem with me,

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Speaker 1: and she got up in my face and told me

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Speaker 1: that I was a stranger and did nobody tell me

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Speaker 1: to move to her city and try to marry her son.

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Speaker 1: While she talked, she was spitting food particles my way

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Speaker 1: from between her spaced out brown's teeth. My boyfriend walked

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Speaker 1: in in the nick of time. I told him his

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Speaker 1: He agreed with me and asked his mama to give

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Speaker 1: him his house, but she refused to. He's been joking

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Speaker 1: about his mom jumping on me, and I don't find

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Speaker 1: that funny at all. Should I break up with him? Well,

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Speaker 1: you didn't say it, but you are aware that you

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Speaker 1: have a mama's boy on your hands, right, I mean,

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Speaker 1: he's been joking about his mom jumping on you, but

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Speaker 1: it's nothing funny about it at all, like you said,

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Speaker 1: and so far you've done nothing wrong, but please keep

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Speaker 1: it that way. What you don't want to do is

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Speaker 1: get into a fight with his crazy, disrespectful, rude, bully

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Speaker 1: of a mama, because I know you want to. I

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Speaker 1: know you do. So the next question is what are

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Speaker 1: your plans with him? Is his mom right? Are you

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Speaker 1: trying to marry her son? Is that the goal? If

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Speaker 1: it is, are you sure? Are you sure? His mom

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Speaker 1: is more than a handful and he's got to He's

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Speaker 1: got to be the one to stop her. Mama's boys

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Speaker 1: usually can't or won't do that. Okay, they won't stop

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Speaker 1: their moms. They won't say anything. And Lisi said something,

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Speaker 1: but mama's boys usually don't do that. I am glad

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Speaker 1: he talked to her, though, but it didn't do any good.

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Speaker 1: What he needs to do is let her know that

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Speaker 1: to get his key back from his mom, change the locks,

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Speaker 1: whatever he's got to do. And if that doesn't work,

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Speaker 1: why don't you move back with your aunt for a while,

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Speaker 1: think about getting your own apartment or moving, you know,

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Speaker 1: just moving on with your life, because mama's boys usually

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Speaker 1: this isn't a case of mama's boy. I want to

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Speaker 1: fall into that. In this letter, surely you said something

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Speaker 1: very important. You're saying that mama's boys usually don't say

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Speaker 1: anything to the mother, but he did. Well, it's because

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Speaker 1: he's not a mama's boy. He is not. Now his

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Speaker 1: mama is off the check. And what this letter is

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Speaker 1: about is about clearly you have a problem with mamma,

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Speaker 1: and Mama got a problem with you. And in your estimation,

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Speaker 1: due to the title of the letter, she got one

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Speaker 1: more time. That's all. Now you've moved into town with

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Speaker 1: this man, and nothing wrong with this. You staying with

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Speaker 1: there a lot. The problem is she, the mother in law,

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Speaker 1: she come on in. It won't even speak to me.

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Speaker 1: If I've cooked. Now here we go. This is what

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Speaker 1: you get to the last part of this letter. If

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Speaker 1: I've cooked, she'll make a plate. If we have leftovers,

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Speaker 1: she'll make a plate. Now we're dealing with a big

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Speaker 1: had to make plays. You know, big people eats only stove.

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Speaker 1: Big people eating what's in the fridge. Big people eat

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Speaker 1: was in fall. Big people with thought stuff out if

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Speaker 1: your freezing to get it ready, big people know how

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Speaker 1: to work the defrost button on the microwave. You know,

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Speaker 1: I've never done that in my life. I've never put

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Speaker 1: anything in the microwave to defrost. But big people do

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Speaker 1: from big people know how to do it. Big people

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Speaker 1: know how to defrost stuff in no time. There's another thing,

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Speaker 1: fries I found that out truth. All right, we'll have

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Speaker 1: part two of Steve's response coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hour. Today's strawberry letter, subject She's Got

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Speaker 1: one More Time. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening Steve Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject She's Got one

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Speaker 1: more Time. Well, this letter one more Time is coming

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Speaker 1: from a woman who has this boyfriend that she moved

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Speaker 1: into town to be closer to. And she's been staying

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Speaker 1: with an aunt in that time. But he gave a

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Speaker 1: key to his one big room apartment and the problem

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Speaker 1: is she stays over there a lot. But his mother

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Speaker 1: had a key to the department too. Now hit a deal.

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Speaker 1: She's been staying over there often, cooking and stuff like that.

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Speaker 1: But the mama stops by even if she don't see

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Speaker 1: And if we have left over, she'll make a plate.

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Speaker 1: conclusionary way, it's this a big girl, because that's what

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Speaker 1: big people do. They make plates, They make plates. They

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Speaker 1: do things you don't do. Here's another clue that just

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Speaker 1: a big person. They can work the defrost button on

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Speaker 1: know how to do it. Everything I do frosts, I

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Speaker 1: put in the sink and some water. That's you. Well,

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Speaker 1: I'm just telling you big people ain't got time for

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Speaker 1: that process. They got to get this thought out. Now,

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Speaker 1: here's another thing I've noticed. Here's another I can tell

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Speaker 1: you this way. If you're dealing with a big person.

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Speaker 1: Big people do not have a friars. I'm gonna say

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Speaker 1: that again. They do not have a friars. Here's another thing.

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Speaker 1: I'm just giving you a rundown on big people because

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Speaker 1: it's that ain't about nothing. Listen, here's something else you'll

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Speaker 1: never find in their cupboard. Nothing that says vegan or paleo.

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Speaker 1: It ain't in there. They don't need paleo chips. They

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Speaker 1: don't do none of that anyway. She doesn't talk to me,

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Speaker 1: she don't ask me before she eat our food. And

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Speaker 1: after a few visit for her, I asked my boyfriend,

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Speaker 1: watch she only come back when I'm there by myself.

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Speaker 1: He laughed and said, his mother don't trust me, so

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Speaker 1: she comes to keep it out on me. Well, I

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Speaker 1: guess she thinks I'm a thief and her son got

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Speaker 1: money hidden in the walls of his tiny, little one

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Speaker 1: a problem with me. Here we go, just what the

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Speaker 1: letter about? Now? She got up in my face, told

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Speaker 1: me I was a stranger and didn't nobody tell me

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Speaker 1: to move to her city and try to marry her son.

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Speaker 1: O baby overprotective mama. Here we go. While she talked,

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Speaker 1: she was spitting food particles my way from between her

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Speaker 1: spaced out brown teeth. That's because she had gnawed them

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Speaker 1: down and ate them to death. I'm telling you, this

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Speaker 1: got space in them. You didn't ate them and gnawed

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Speaker 1: is constant chewing, constant chewing, you'd have spread them out.

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Speaker 1: and brown. Now every time she talked, food coming tween

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Speaker 1: her teeth. This is a big girl now, so you

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Speaker 1: got to be careful. And your boyfriend walked in in

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Speaker 1: the nick of time. He walked in the nickertar for

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Speaker 1: you because I've been to tell you something. I told

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Speaker 1: He's been joking about his mom jumping on me, and

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Speaker 1: I don't find it fun at all. Should I break

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Speaker 1: up with him? Well, this is the part you want

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Speaker 1: to avoid, young sister. Do not get in the fight

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Speaker 1: asking this letter. They eventually a young girl can get

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Speaker 1: the best of it. She's strong and determined, But for

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Speaker 1: his MoMA, because she's gonna put it on. She got

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Speaker 1: one more time for she started whipping or ass. Is

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Speaker 1: what this letter looked like to me. Now. I didn't

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Speaker 1: want to say that to you, you know, because I

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Speaker 1: this old, ragging and mouth, brown tooth woman. We wait

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Speaker 1: and you're doing your thing. Now your question you have,

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Speaker 1: and should I break up with him? I don't think

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Speaker 1: break up with the mama. Now. If he's not gonna

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