1
00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,720
Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the

2
00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:24,200
Speaker 1: voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you

3
00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:27,160
Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe

4
00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:29,320
Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with

5
00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,159
Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how

6
00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,680
Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business.

7
00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:37,400
Speaker 1: What arever the cases I want to hear from you.

8
00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:40,120
Speaker 1: Remember these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're

9
00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:42,599
Speaker 1: suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help

10
00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:45,600
Speaker 1: from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and

11
00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:47,360
Speaker 1: leave your question. At the sound of the beat.

12
00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:52,479
Speaker 2: Hi, Cheeky, youve man is Stephanie. I just wanted to

13
00:00:52,560 --> 00:00:55,680
Speaker 2: say that I love you, and I love the podcast,

14
00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:59,800
Speaker 2: and I love your sister's podcast and all of your family,

15
00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:04,560
Speaker 2: and I just wanted to ask you how you and

16
00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:08,640
Speaker 2: your significant other ado with being apart from each other

17
00:01:08,800 --> 00:01:12,000
Speaker 2: for a certain amount of time, sometimes longer than other.

18
00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:14,480
Speaker 2: I know that you go on tour and stuff, so

19
00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:18,160
Speaker 2: I wanted to see My fiance is actually going to

20
00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:20,920
Speaker 2: be trucking over the road, so he won't be home

21
00:01:20,959 --> 00:01:24,160
Speaker 2: for two to three weeks at a time. Sometimes, so

22
00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:27,000
Speaker 2: I just wanted to call on us to see how

23
00:01:27,440 --> 00:01:29,640
Speaker 2: you guys deal with that, or how you deal with

24
00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:31,520
Speaker 2: that and the kind of things like that you guys

25
00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:35,680
Speaker 2: do to maybe help the time go by easier or faster.

26
00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:41,000
Speaker 2: Thank you so much. I love you, Stephanie.

27
00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:42,920
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Thank you for the support that

28
00:01:42,959 --> 00:01:47,200
Speaker 1: you give not only myself but to my family. And

29
00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:50,600
Speaker 1: in regards to your question, I'm not gonna say that

30
00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:52,760
Speaker 1: it's easy. Especially in the beginning. I think it was

31
00:01:52,800 --> 00:01:54,560
Speaker 1: a little harder for us to be apart because we

32
00:01:54,560 --> 00:01:56,559
Speaker 1: were just kind of like so obsessed with each other.

33
00:01:57,040 --> 00:02:00,400
Speaker 1: And now that you know we're going on for you years,

34
00:02:00,840 --> 00:02:04,160
Speaker 1: well we just celebrated three years. But now that the

35
00:02:04,240 --> 00:02:07,680
Speaker 1: relationship is more I think secure, and I mean like

36
00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:09,880
Speaker 1: I feel more secure and he feels most secure with me.

37
00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:12,840
Speaker 1: We've had a lot of great conversations, deep conversations. I

38
00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:16,280
Speaker 1: feel like we both feel better. I think when someone

39
00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:20,480
Speaker 1: doesn't trust, when one of the two don't trust, it

40
00:02:20,480 --> 00:02:23,200
Speaker 1: becomes harder. And I think in the beginning it's because

41
00:02:23,240 --> 00:02:25,800
Speaker 1: we were just the relationship was so new. We didn't

42
00:02:25,800 --> 00:02:29,120
Speaker 1: really know each other on like that deep level. Now

43
00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:31,960
Speaker 1: he knows exactly who I am, I know who he is,

44
00:02:32,720 --> 00:02:35,320
Speaker 1: and when he's gone or I'm gone, we do our

45
00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:37,600
Speaker 1: best to just communicate throughout the day, Like no matter

46
00:02:37,600 --> 00:02:39,440
Speaker 1: how busy I am, it's like, hey, what are you eating?

47
00:02:39,600 --> 00:02:42,399
Speaker 1: Or I'll send him a like a selfie and he'll

48
00:02:42,440 --> 00:02:43,959
Speaker 1: send me one, or I'll ask him because he doesn't

49
00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:45,320
Speaker 1: really like to take selfies, but I'm like, you send

50
00:02:45,320 --> 00:02:48,080
Speaker 1: me a picture, please, and then it kind of just

51
00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:51,240
Speaker 1: recharges my batteries. So we do a lot of that

52
00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:54,679
Speaker 1: face timing. Thank goodness for technology, we're able to FaceTime.

53
00:02:54,720 --> 00:02:58,119
Speaker 1: Facetiming helps especially at night, and we always call each

54
00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:00,520
Speaker 1: other at night to say good night. Throughout the day

55
00:03:00,520 --> 00:03:02,800
Speaker 1: we're texting, we'll send voice notes, we'll send pictures, and

56
00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:04,720
Speaker 1: then at night we make sure that before one of

57
00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:06,720
Speaker 1: us goes to sleep, we say good night. That's super

58
00:03:06,760 --> 00:03:08,760
Speaker 1: important to me, Like I want to hear you say

59
00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:11,280
Speaker 1: good night to me, and that's that. And I can't worry,

60
00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:13,880
Speaker 1: Like if he tells me he's gonna be somewhere, I

61
00:03:13,919 --> 00:03:16,440
Speaker 1: have to trust that, like and vice versa, you know,

62
00:03:16,560 --> 00:03:21,120
Speaker 1: So I think it's just communication. Send him sexy pictures, bim,

63
00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:22,600
Speaker 1: he's gonna be on the road, He's gonna need them,

64
00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:23,720
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, So just send him some

65
00:03:24,000 --> 00:03:26,440
Speaker 1: random ass sexy pictures and be like, hey, thinking about you.

66
00:03:26,440 --> 00:03:26,960
Speaker 2: You know what I mean.

67
00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:29,120
Speaker 1: That kind of stuff keeps a relationship spicy.

68
00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:31,040
Speaker 3: So do that.

69
00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:33,800
Speaker 1: You could be naked, you could wear lingerie. You know,

70
00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:36,000
Speaker 1: you know what he likes, So do that. Do what

71
00:03:36,080 --> 00:03:38,160
Speaker 1: he likes. And if he's going to be at a

72
00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:40,880
Speaker 1: hotel room, sometimes I'll do that for a medio, Like

73
00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:43,880
Speaker 1: when I'm out and I know he's at a photo shoot,

74
00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:46,080
Speaker 1: I'll send him. Like he likes donuts, I'll send him

75
00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:48,160
Speaker 1: a don't, I'll send him coffees. I just surprise him, Like,

76
00:03:48,160 --> 00:03:50,440
Speaker 1: I think it's important that someone in the relationship always

77
00:03:50,560 --> 00:03:52,800
Speaker 1: keeps that stuff like whatever made you fall in love

78
00:03:52,840 --> 00:03:54,640
Speaker 1: with the person in the beginning, continue to do that

79
00:03:54,680 --> 00:03:57,960
Speaker 1: as much as you can throughout the relationship. So the

80
00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:03,040
Speaker 1: point is texting, communicate, you know, make sure he answers

81
00:04:03,040 --> 00:04:08,400
Speaker 1: your calls. That's important unless he's really really busy. But Okay, Stephanie,

82
00:04:08,400 --> 00:04:14,360
Speaker 1: I hope that helped. Thank you for your question. So

83
00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:16,640
Speaker 1: our next question comes from Janey.

84
00:04:17,000 --> 00:04:21,719
Speaker 3: Okay, let's see, Hi, Jakey's my name is Janie. I

85
00:04:21,760 --> 00:04:25,080
Speaker 3: am also the oldest of five. I'm also a cancer

86
00:04:25,760 --> 00:04:28,520
Speaker 3: and of course my name is Janie. I've always loved

87
00:04:28,520 --> 00:04:30,960
Speaker 3: that about you and your mom. It's spilled the exact

88
00:04:30,960 --> 00:04:34,120
Speaker 3: same way Ja and then Uy. And I noticed that

89
00:04:34,200 --> 00:04:36,440
Speaker 3: in the past you used to go by Jane, and

90
00:04:37,080 --> 00:04:39,800
Speaker 3: as like the last couple of years, you now go

91
00:04:39,880 --> 00:04:42,680
Speaker 3: by Jenny. And I know that you've mentioned in the

92
00:04:42,720 --> 00:04:44,400
Speaker 3: past that you kind of had a little bit of

93
00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:46,880
Speaker 3: a journey with that, so I just wanted to kind

94
00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:48,400
Speaker 3: of ask and see what's going on with that. I

95
00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:52,840
Speaker 3: definitely feel kind of like that kind of pronunciation crisis

96
00:04:52,839 --> 00:04:55,640
Speaker 3: sometimes with people, especially being making Kanna, it can be

97
00:04:55,680 --> 00:05:00,920
Speaker 3: difficult when introducing myself as that in when that's the

98
00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:03,920
Speaker 3: name meant English and people speak Spanish. Anyways, I love

99
00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:06,080
Speaker 3: you so much, Cheeky's. I've been following you and your

100
00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:10,120
Speaker 3: mom for years, and obviously with all our similarities, I

101
00:05:10,120 --> 00:05:11,160
Speaker 3: feel like we're sol sisters.

102
00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:17,120
Speaker 1: Anyways, Oh my gosh, you just took the words out

103
00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:18,440
Speaker 1: of my mouth. I was like, Oh my gosh, is

104
00:05:18,480 --> 00:05:21,960
Speaker 1: she my soul sister. We're both cancers. Our name is

105
00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:24,640
Speaker 1: exactly like spells exactly the same. You pronounce it Janey.

106
00:05:24,680 --> 00:05:26,840
Speaker 1: I pronounced Jane. Yes, you're right. So going back to

107
00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:30,400
Speaker 1: your question, I used to spell my name j A

108
00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:33,760
Speaker 1: n i E okay, because that's how my mom spelled

109
00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:36,840
Speaker 1: it for like ever until I was sixteen years old.

110
00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:40,000
Speaker 1: And then I looked at my birth certificate and I

111
00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:42,719
Speaker 1: noticed that it was spelled j a n n e y,

112
00:05:43,080 --> 00:05:46,600
Speaker 1: And I was like, mother, my whole life, it was Janey, Janey,

113
00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:49,000
Speaker 1: Janey when I went to elementary school, when I went

114
00:05:49,040 --> 00:05:52,120
Speaker 1: to middle school, and then I get to high school

115
00:05:52,240 --> 00:05:54,479
Speaker 1: and I'm like at Jordan High in Long Beach and

116
00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:57,960
Speaker 1: I'm still Janey. And then we moved to Riverside and

117
00:05:58,040 --> 00:06:00,160
Speaker 1: I go and take myself to school because I was

118
00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:02,200
Speaker 1: old enough at this point to like register myself. And

119
00:06:02,240 --> 00:06:04,760
Speaker 1: then I saw that my birth certificates said j A

120
00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:07,440
Speaker 1: n n e y, And I was like devastated. Not

121
00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:10,560
Speaker 1: only was I moving to like another county, like a

122
00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:13,520
Speaker 1: new school, I was sixteen years old. Now my name

123
00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:16,720
Speaker 1: is Jane, and that's what my mom told me. She says,

124
00:06:16,720 --> 00:06:19,279
Speaker 1: that's how I pronounced it, that's that was her middle name.

125
00:06:19,480 --> 00:06:21,440
Speaker 1: It was just it's this whole whole thing, you guys,

126
00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:25,400
Speaker 1: But I like Jane, and I feel like it's easier.

127
00:06:25,480 --> 00:06:28,200
Speaker 1: But I see why you you know why you pronounce

128
00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:31,360
Speaker 1: yours Janie. It could be Jane.

129
00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:33,440
Speaker 3: Huh hmm, it is.

130
00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:36,640
Speaker 1: Janie either way, that's my name. That's what my mom

131
00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:40,360
Speaker 1: told me. She told me it's Janey, So I don't know.

132
00:06:40,760 --> 00:06:43,080
Speaker 1: I always I always wondered, I'm like mom, and her

133
00:06:43,120 --> 00:06:46,080
Speaker 1: answer to me was, oh, Mikah, I have five kids.

134
00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:47,720
Speaker 1: How do you expect me to keep up with all

135
00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:53,159
Speaker 1: of you? Dude? What here? I am sixteen years old? No,

136
00:06:53,279 --> 00:06:55,880
Speaker 1: it was so devastating, you guys, It was so devastating.

137
00:06:55,920 --> 00:06:58,080
Speaker 1: And I would even spell it with j N and

138
00:06:58,120 --> 00:06:59,600
Speaker 1: then like on the I, I would put like a

139
00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:01,680
Speaker 1: little heart and then like I just had this whole thing,

140
00:07:01,680 --> 00:07:05,000
Speaker 1: and then I had to just reinvent myself at sixteen

141
00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:09,920
Speaker 1: years old. And so it's Jenny, but Jane Janney Tomato

142
00:07:09,920 --> 00:07:14,160
Speaker 1: tomorrow right, So hopefully that has treated your question. Jane

143
00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:20,720
Speaker 1: Jane Jane. But yeah, oh just took me back my mother.

144
00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:30,400
Speaker 1: I love her, I really do. Let's move on to

145
00:07:30,440 --> 00:07:32,840
Speaker 1: the next question, and it is from Jussue.

146
00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:38,440
Speaker 4: Hi Cheeky's my name is Hosue. I just wanted to

147
00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:42,480
Speaker 4: start off by first saying that I love you so much.

148
00:07:42,640 --> 00:07:46,120
Speaker 4: I love you and your siblings and your mom. I'm

149
00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:50,200
Speaker 4: the biggest fan. You guys keep it real, and you

150
00:07:50,240 --> 00:07:54,320
Speaker 4: guys are so vocal about issues that you guys have faced,

151
00:07:54,320 --> 00:07:58,760
Speaker 4: and I just feel so connected to you guys. But

152
00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:03,720
Speaker 4: my question for you is, how do you let go

153
00:08:03,960 --> 00:08:08,200
Speaker 4: of a guy that clearly doesn't want anything to do

154
00:08:08,320 --> 00:08:13,720
Speaker 4: with you. I am very attached to this guy from

155
00:08:13,760 --> 00:08:17,800
Speaker 4: my past, and he has made a clear time and

156
00:08:17,840 --> 00:08:21,520
Speaker 4: time again that he does not want anything to do

157
00:08:21,600 --> 00:08:27,160
Speaker 4: with me. Yet it was really the only time I

158
00:08:27,240 --> 00:08:31,920
Speaker 4: felt loved by somebody, and I kind of messed it up.

159
00:08:31,960 --> 00:08:35,920
Speaker 4: But how do you just move on and overcome this

160
00:08:36,080 --> 00:08:40,480
Speaker 4: and just let that go? Because I'm still struggling with that,

161
00:08:40,800 --> 00:08:44,440
Speaker 4: and I'm just wondering if you had also experienced that too.

162
00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:50,440
Speaker 4: So yeah, that's my question. Thank you. Wait, but I

163
00:08:50,440 --> 00:08:52,840
Speaker 4: actually hope to be on your podcast one day because

164
00:08:52,880 --> 00:08:55,920
Speaker 4: I feel like we could go on for hours and

165
00:08:55,960 --> 00:08:58,280
Speaker 4: we could talk about some real shit.

166
00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:02,400
Speaker 1: But okay, oh sway, I would love to have you on.

167
00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:04,679
Speaker 1: That'd be great, I think, Yeah, we can definitely talk

168
00:09:04,720 --> 00:09:11,000
Speaker 1: about all kinds of things. Okay, So, yes, I've been

169
00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:14,640
Speaker 1: in that situation where I have liked a guy very much,

170
00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:17,720
Speaker 1: and he didn't necessarily like me back the way I

171
00:09:17,760 --> 00:09:20,800
Speaker 1: wanted him to or the way I deserved. So I

172
00:09:20,800 --> 00:09:23,040
Speaker 1: don't know exactly what happened, because you said something about

173
00:09:23,040 --> 00:09:25,040
Speaker 1: that you know, he loved you very much, and then

174
00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:27,600
Speaker 1: you kind of mess it up. I think it's just

175
00:09:28,320 --> 00:09:30,240
Speaker 1: accepting the fact that you made a mistake and you

176
00:09:30,240 --> 00:09:32,959
Speaker 1: need to forgive yourself for that. Don't feel like, oh

177
00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:37,480
Speaker 1: my god, it's my fault. You just have to think of, Okay,

178
00:09:38,440 --> 00:09:42,559
Speaker 1: how can I learn from this situation in order to

179
00:09:42,600 --> 00:09:45,240
Speaker 1: not make that same mistake in the next relationship or

180
00:09:45,240 --> 00:09:47,800
Speaker 1: the next person that comes into my life. If this

181
00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:49,679
Speaker 1: person has made it very clear to you that they

182
00:09:49,720 --> 00:09:52,320
Speaker 1: want nothing to do with you, then you need to

183
00:09:52,400 --> 00:09:57,400
Speaker 1: really love yourself enough and step away, because you will

184
00:09:57,440 --> 00:10:00,640
Speaker 1: push him further and further away, especially if he's been

185
00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:04,520
Speaker 1: clear like you just kind of have to like, Okay,

186
00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:06,520
Speaker 1: he wants something to do with me, I'm going to

187
00:10:06,520 --> 00:10:08,520
Speaker 1: do my best to just forget about him. And it's

188
00:10:08,520 --> 00:10:11,199
Speaker 1: gonna take some time, and you're gonna cry, and there

189
00:10:11,200 --> 00:10:12,720
Speaker 1: are days where you're gonna be fine, and then there's

190
00:10:12,720 --> 00:10:14,880
Speaker 1: gonna be days where you're just like, I can't believe it.

191
00:10:14,920 --> 00:10:16,600
Speaker 1: I miss him. I want to call him, Do not call,

192
00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:20,280
Speaker 1: do not text. You need to heal, give yourself that

193
00:10:20,320 --> 00:10:24,680
Speaker 1: grace to heal this, and you will. Maybe you're gonna

194
00:10:24,679 --> 00:10:26,040
Speaker 1: feel like, oh my god, this is the end of

195
00:10:26,040 --> 00:10:27,959
Speaker 1: the world, because I have felt like that quite a

196
00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:29,560
Speaker 1: few times where I'm just like, oh my god, I'm

197
00:10:29,600 --> 00:10:31,560
Speaker 1: not gonna get out of this, like I'm so heartbroken.

198
00:10:31,720 --> 00:10:35,600
Speaker 1: Like you will be fine. You have to want to

199
00:10:35,600 --> 00:10:38,400
Speaker 1: be fine, though, and you also know what you deserve.

200
00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:41,480
Speaker 1: So if this person isn't giving you the same energy,

201
00:10:41,920 --> 00:10:44,520
Speaker 1: then you need to save that energy for yourself, build

202
00:10:44,520 --> 00:10:49,640
Speaker 1: yourself back up again and have dignity and just say, Okay,

203
00:10:49,679 --> 00:10:51,520
Speaker 1: I'm gonna leave that where it is, and I gotta

204
00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:55,520
Speaker 1: walk away from my own mental sanity and emotion and

205
00:10:55,800 --> 00:11:00,200
Speaker 1: hopefully you're able to attract someone that does love you

206
00:11:00,320 --> 00:11:02,680
Speaker 1: and does care about you the way that you deserve.

207
00:11:03,120 --> 00:11:07,800
Speaker 1: But first you have to love yourself enough, because you're

208
00:11:07,840 --> 00:11:11,920
Speaker 1: only going to attract what you're going to mirror that

209
00:11:12,040 --> 00:11:13,320
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like, what it is that

210
00:11:13,400 --> 00:11:15,960
Speaker 1: you're projecting, what it is that you feel about yourself

211
00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:19,480
Speaker 1: is what you're going to attract. If that makes sense,

212
00:11:19,679 --> 00:11:23,439
Speaker 1: you know, So get yourself all situated and aligned again,

213
00:11:23,640 --> 00:11:30,040
Speaker 1: take a deep breath, and just let him go. Okay,

214
00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:34,960
Speaker 1: So our next question comes from Nancy Hi Cheeky's.

215
00:11:35,240 --> 00:11:36,760
Speaker 5: First of all, I want to say I've always been

216
00:11:36,800 --> 00:11:38,600
Speaker 5: a really big fan of your mom. I'm a big

217
00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:40,680
Speaker 5: fan of yours. I follow you on Instagram and I

218
00:11:40,840 --> 00:11:44,280
Speaker 5: just recently started listening to your podcasts And in one

219
00:11:44,320 --> 00:11:46,400
Speaker 5: of your podcasts, someone asked you if you've ever thought

220
00:11:46,480 --> 00:11:50,560
Speaker 5: of in the future possibly purchasing your mother's home, and

221
00:11:50,600 --> 00:11:52,800
Speaker 5: your answer was that you still need to pray about that.

222
00:11:53,160 --> 00:11:56,360
Speaker 5: So my question is about faith when it comes to praying.

223
00:11:56,800 --> 00:11:59,520
Speaker 5: I was a race Catholic, but I'm not a super

224
00:11:59,520 --> 00:12:02,560
Speaker 5: devout Catholic. I don't go to church every Sunday. I

225
00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:05,440
Speaker 5: do believe in God, I do pray before I go

226
00:12:05,480 --> 00:12:07,640
Speaker 5: to bed, but I can't ever say that I've ever

227
00:12:08,280 --> 00:12:11,760
Speaker 5: prayed about something and received like a clear cut answer

228
00:12:11,920 --> 00:12:14,640
Speaker 5: about what to do. So my question is for you,

229
00:12:14,720 --> 00:12:17,319
Speaker 5: when it comes to praying, how do you go about that?

230
00:12:17,480 --> 00:12:20,920
Speaker 5: Are you asking for clarity? Are you asking for an answer?

231
00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:23,880
Speaker 5: Are you asking for a sign? And then when you

232
00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:27,000
Speaker 5: do pray, how do you decide what that answer is?

233
00:12:27,000 --> 00:12:29,320
Speaker 5: Is it a feeling that you get. Are you looking

234
00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:31,400
Speaker 5: for a sign to say, God, give me a sign

235
00:12:31,480 --> 00:12:34,400
Speaker 5: and then something just automatically happens and you say, okay,

236
00:12:34,720 --> 00:12:38,720
Speaker 5: that's my answer. How does that work for you?

237
00:12:38,880 --> 00:12:41,720
Speaker 1: Nancy, Well, welcome to the podcast. Thank you so much

238
00:12:41,720 --> 00:12:44,080
Speaker 1: for listening. I appreciate it and hope you're enjoying it.

239
00:12:44,440 --> 00:12:47,680
Speaker 1: And I really like your question because I say that

240
00:12:47,720 --> 00:12:48,959
Speaker 1: a lot. I'm gonna pray about it. I'm going to

241
00:12:49,000 --> 00:12:51,280
Speaker 1: pray about it, and I do pray about it. I

242
00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:53,800
Speaker 1: literally am like God, I have this situation. I don't

243
00:12:53,840 --> 00:12:56,880
Speaker 1: know what to do. Please help me. Just sometimes I'm

244
00:12:56,880 --> 00:13:01,439
Speaker 1: gonna help me, help me. And no, I don't get

245
00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:03,320
Speaker 1: a text message from God saying this is what you

246
00:13:03,360 --> 00:13:05,680
Speaker 1: gotta do you know what I mean? Or it's spilled

247
00:13:05,720 --> 00:13:09,440
Speaker 1: out in the sky. It's not like that. Obviously. I'm

248
00:13:09,480 --> 00:13:13,640
Speaker 1: looking for peace, for peace of mind, like more than anything.

249
00:13:13,760 --> 00:13:16,920
Speaker 1: It's more of like, okay, for instance, my mom the house.

250
00:13:17,559 --> 00:13:20,959
Speaker 1: If I don't know right now for me, it's out

251
00:13:20,960 --> 00:13:23,480
Speaker 1: of my means. It's about an eight million dollar home.

252
00:13:24,320 --> 00:13:26,840
Speaker 1: I would say, okay, Well, maybe one day I'll be

253
00:13:26,920 --> 00:13:29,040
Speaker 1: making millions and millions and I'll say okay, if the

254
00:13:29,080 --> 00:13:32,200
Speaker 1: house is available and I have the money for it,

255
00:13:32,960 --> 00:13:35,680
Speaker 1: then that's what I'm going to do. That's what is

256
00:13:35,760 --> 00:13:37,600
Speaker 1: meant for me to do, you know what I mean.

257
00:13:38,240 --> 00:13:41,160
Speaker 1: It's just having peace more than anything, for everything to

258
00:13:41,240 --> 00:13:43,640
Speaker 1: align in order for it to happen, you know what

259
00:13:43,640 --> 00:13:46,959
Speaker 1: I mean. And it's more of a feeling I guess

260
00:13:47,120 --> 00:13:49,200
Speaker 1: that I feel. It could be about anything. It's it's

261
00:13:49,320 --> 00:13:51,240
Speaker 1: if I ask myself, Okay, how do I feel about

262
00:13:51,240 --> 00:13:55,320
Speaker 1: this situation? You know? Or for a long time, I

263
00:13:55,360 --> 00:13:58,040
Speaker 1: was like praying about, okay, am I going to speak

264
00:13:58,040 --> 00:14:00,559
Speaker 1: to this person ever again? And a part of me

265
00:14:00,640 --> 00:14:03,120
Speaker 1: miss them. But then when I thought about getting close

266
00:14:03,160 --> 00:14:05,200
Speaker 1: to them again, I didn't have peace and asked me

267
00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:07,840
Speaker 1: praying like okay, is this person meant to be in

268
00:14:07,840 --> 00:14:11,400
Speaker 1: my life? But then it's like I miss them. But

269
00:14:11,440 --> 00:14:13,240
Speaker 1: then I think about them and I think of having

270
00:14:13,240 --> 00:14:16,320
Speaker 1: a conversation with them face to face and rekindling that relationship,

271
00:14:16,360 --> 00:14:19,600
Speaker 1: and I'm like, ooh, something feels uneasy. It's not like

272
00:14:19,640 --> 00:14:21,520
Speaker 1: a heck, yes, I'm gonna go sit down, and it

273
00:14:21,560 --> 00:14:24,280
Speaker 1: doesn't feel like I want to jump into that situation

274
00:14:24,480 --> 00:14:26,680
Speaker 1: right away. And I continue to just pray about that

275
00:14:26,880 --> 00:14:31,280
Speaker 1: until I feel, Oh, this feels good. It's not. It

276
00:14:31,280 --> 00:14:34,200
Speaker 1: doesn't scare me, it doesn't worry me. It just feels.

277
00:14:34,960 --> 00:14:37,440
Speaker 1: It feels good. And for instance, with my mom's house,

278
00:14:37,720 --> 00:14:40,120
Speaker 1: you know, that's what it is. I'm praying about it,

279
00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:42,440
Speaker 1: Like if that house is meant for me in the

280
00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:44,760
Speaker 1: next I don't know, five years, then it'll be available.

281
00:14:45,120 --> 00:14:47,640
Speaker 1: I'll have the money to purchase it. I don't have

282
00:14:47,720 --> 00:14:50,000
Speaker 1: to worry or like feel like I'm gonna be stressed

283
00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:52,240
Speaker 1: out every month because I want to pay for it.

284
00:14:52,320 --> 00:14:55,000
Speaker 1: Just because I want to have something that was my mom's.

285
00:14:55,200 --> 00:14:59,800
Speaker 1: It has to feel like peaceful, like easy in a way,

286
00:15:00,200 --> 00:15:02,960
Speaker 1: you know. So that's kind of what I mean when

287
00:15:02,960 --> 00:15:04,320
Speaker 1: I say I'm going to pray about it. It's more

288
00:15:04,360 --> 00:15:06,400
Speaker 1: of like do I have peace with the situation? Does

289
00:15:06,440 --> 00:15:08,840
Speaker 1: it feel good here? Does it make my tummy tighten up?

290
00:15:09,120 --> 00:15:10,600
Speaker 1: If it makes my tummy tighten up it makes me

291
00:15:10,600 --> 00:15:13,120
Speaker 1: feel uneasy, then I'm like, then Okay, that situation or

292
00:15:13,120 --> 00:15:16,360
Speaker 1: that person or that thing isn't for me. So your

293
00:15:16,440 --> 00:15:19,680
Speaker 1: question made complete sense. I hope that my answer now

294
00:15:19,680 --> 00:15:22,520
Speaker 1: made complete sense. But yes, I guess for me, and

295
00:15:22,560 --> 00:15:25,400
Speaker 1: it's different for everyone else. For me, it's more of

296
00:15:25,440 --> 00:15:27,480
Speaker 1: a feeling I want. I'm looking for peace in my

297
00:15:27,560 --> 00:15:29,400
Speaker 1: heart and in my mind where I'm just like, Okay,

298
00:15:29,440 --> 00:15:32,240
Speaker 1: this feels easy. You know, it's not something I got

299
00:15:32,240 --> 00:15:34,560
Speaker 1: a force. That's what it is. I don't want to

300
00:15:34,560 --> 00:15:36,760
Speaker 1: force anything. If it feels just comes easy and it

301
00:15:36,760 --> 00:15:39,600
Speaker 1: feels like all right, cool, this fits, then that's what

302
00:15:39,680 --> 00:15:40,760
Speaker 1: I go based off.

303
00:15:40,640 --> 00:15:42,720
Speaker 3: Of being aligned, you know.

304
00:15:43,840 --> 00:15:46,920
Speaker 1: But yeah, thank you guys so much for your question.

305
00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:51,400
Speaker 1: Stephanie Janey okay, oh so and Nancy you guys, thank

306
00:15:51,440 --> 00:15:53,600
Speaker 1: you and for those of you that are watching and listening.

307
00:15:54,000 --> 00:15:57,000
Speaker 1: If you have a question, it could be about anything

308
00:15:57,000 --> 00:15:59,960
Speaker 1: as you could see, please feel free to leave your

309
00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:04,120
Speaker 1: question at speakpipe dot com, slash Cheeky's and Chill podcast Okay,

310
00:16:04,480 --> 00:16:05,720
Speaker 1: hope to hear from you guys soon.

311
00:16:06,040 --> 00:16:06,400
Speaker 5: Yes.

312
00:16:11,320 --> 00:16:15,400
Speaker 1: This is a production of iHeartRadio and make Quintura podcast Network.

313
00:16:15,520 --> 00:16:19,440
Speaker 1: Follow us on Instagram at my Quintura Podcasts and follow

314
00:16:19,480 --> 00:16:23,120
Speaker 1: me Cheeky's That's c h i q U i s.

315
00:16:23,160 --> 00:16:27,520
Speaker 1: For more podcasts from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,

316
00:16:27,640 --> 00:16:29,720
Speaker 1: or wherever you get your favorite shows.