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Speaker 2: Sounds like a mystery.

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Speaker 1: Because something unwelcome has been living in his apartment. Oh,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, a pest of sorts that he just

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Speaker 1: control or his local exterminator because it's actually a living,

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, don't deal with them.

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Speaker 1: His own friend even Oh and that's why he's turned

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Speaker 1: to us for help, because I have a feeling this

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Speaker 1: us all in a brand new awkward Tuesday phone call.

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Speaker 1: That's next, it's awkward.

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Speaker 3: It's it's awkward Tuesday phone call.

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Speaker 1: What would you do if a friend of yours fell

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Speaker 3: Would you step up for them?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, I'm not just asking that because Alexis is about

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Speaker 1: to be kicked off her mom's insurance.

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Speaker 3: But I'm glad to hear you're so altruistic about it.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, brother.

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Speaker 2: Yea, So we'll get all ready put you in as

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Speaker 2: a dependent So I think we're okay.

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Speaker 3: Perfect. Yeah, now that that fire is put out.

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Speaker 1: I also bring it up because one of our listeners

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Speaker 1: reaching out to us for help. So, Chris, are you

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Speaker 1: exactly can we assist you today?

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Speaker 5: So I actually have this awkward situation and I don't

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Speaker 5: even know how to handle it for the Brook face.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's the first time someone hasn't taken me

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Speaker 3: Yeah, keep him on the phone, Okay, put it away, Brooke.

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Speaker 3: What's going on with you? And you said you had

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: His name is Ethan?

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Speaker 3: Okay, what's going on with Ethan?

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Speaker 5: So pretty much he's falling on these hard times lately,

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Speaker 5: got dumped by his girlfriend of two years, all on

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Speaker 5: I really wanted to be there for him, so I

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Speaker 5: on your feet. He was all about that, which was

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Speaker 1: Okay, is he allowed in any other part of the

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Speaker 5: So wait, wait till I tell you this. So pretty

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Speaker 5: much the first week I didn't ask anything of him,

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Speaker 5: like nothing at all. Yeah, okay, as supportive as Yeah,

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Speaker 5: he can crash on the couch, he can watch TV

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he probably could use that after getting breakup.

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Speaker 5: No, no, nothing like that. Well, after a while he's

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Speaker 2: But I mean, who didn't see this coming?

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Speaker 5: Long is a while? Oh he's been here for already,

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Speaker 2: Has he offered to help chip in? I mean, maybe

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Speaker 5: But nothing, He has not offered anything. And at the

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Speaker 2: So you did have that conversation, then that's good.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but I mean he didn't really we didn't even

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Speaker 5: Month, like nothing, nothing like that. I guess that was

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Speaker 5: He actually has a part time job, part time.

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Speaker 2: You can chip in some money, like yeah, you can't

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Speaker 4: Bucks or something exactly exactly.

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Speaker 5: That's what I'm saying. That's why I called you, because

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Speaker 2: I mean, you don't really know someone until you live

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Speaker 7: Yeah, so I was.

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Speaker 5: I was forgiving at first, but this has been going

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Speaker 5: I just feel like a jerk even bringing this up,

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Speaker 3: I mean, well, and I.

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Speaker 2: Also think it's it should be on him because you've

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Speaker 3: And I think you know it's bad when it's your

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Speaker 6: Like, girls are way cleaner, they're always gonna be like, like.

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Speaker 1: Help me, bro, I mean, are you sure you don't

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Speaker 5: That would be a good idea, of course, because I

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Speaker 5: like my free time. But I mean, like I said,

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Speaker 5: he's my really good friend. I mean I just would

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, Well, and that's like, and that sucks because

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Speaker 2: like you're probably developing animosity towards him over it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I am to be honest, Like there's times where

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Speaker 3: Oh I feel that.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, and I understand it. That's got to be

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Speaker 4: I okay, I don't know that.

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Speaker 3: Did your friends not ever say that to you? Okay?

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Speaker 3: This in the private schools, we have different sayings.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I guess.

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Speaker 5: Little bit n Yes, yes, because that's what I was wondering.

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Speaker 5: I'm like, how do I even approach this conversation?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and also clean up after himself and also not

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Speaker 1: And yeah, if nothing else, Brooke will let him live

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Speaker 3: No, okay, up in the attic. Then right now, we

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Speaker 2: Even the kids have to do chores, jeff Oh, yeah,

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Speaker 2: there's nobody that goes without a workload in my house,

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Speaker 3: That house has enough of a hell hold.

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Speaker 1: So we'll come up with better advice and let you

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Speaker 3: Hold on, man, it's awkward.

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Speaker 5: It's Tuesday.

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Speaker 3: It's awkward Tuesday phone call.

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Speaker 1: It's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning, and we're dealing

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Speaker 3: John Stamos said that to the Full House Twins. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: A lot of that's going around on TV and on movies.

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Speaker 3: But maybe it's just a life lesson that stayed with me.

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Speaker 1: That definitely applies to our listener Chris today because he

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Speaker 2: Change the rent or the food, jeff, all of it.

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Speaker 1: So how do we help him broach that topic of conversation?

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Speaker 3: Brooke, what's your advice?

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Speaker 2: Here's the thing. You sound pretty upset.

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Speaker 3: I am upset. I don't think that this is oh Chris, Yeah, Chris,

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Speaker 8: Dude.

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Speaker 2: I think what you do is you just tell your roommate, hey, listen,

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Speaker 1: So it sounds like, again, Brook, your advice is to

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Speaker 2: I mean, the problem is is that I just don't

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Speaker 3: Okay, we're going to cancel that and move right on

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Speaker 3: over to Jose. What's your advice, Jose? I would just

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Speaker 3: tell him that the landlords on oh, blame the landlord.

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Speaker 3: They noticed him coming in and out of the apartment and.

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Speaker 5: It's totally cool.

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Speaker 6: But that just means you got to put him on

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Speaker 2: This is actually really helpful.

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Speaker 3: Okay, what do you feel about that? Chris? Can can

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Speaker 2: Oh, this happened to me and I just complained in

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Speaker 2: silence for like five months and suffered, So don't ask

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Speaker 2: me I'm pretty sure. If I remember when Alexis started here,

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Speaker 2: she was living with five people in a two bedroom apartment.

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Speaker 2: Nobody was paying rent except for her.

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Speaker 1: Oh, so maybe you can send your buddy Ethan over

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Speaker 1: to live with Alexis's friend.

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Speaker 3: I won't kick him out. I won't be able to

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Speaker 3: community live. But here we go.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna dial Ethan's number and we're gonna step back

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Speaker 5: You got it?

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Speaker 3: Are you ready?

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Speaker 5: All right? Okay? Okay, okay, okay, here's your friend.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, nothing on the line except friendship.

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Speaker 8: So here Okay, Hello, hey bro, what's up?

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Speaker 5: What do you what do you want to? Wait? Is

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Speaker 5: it Chris? Yeah? Oh, dude, you call from a weird number.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 5: Maybe it's I don't know. I'm calling for my phone.

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Speaker 5: I don't know why.

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Speaker 4: hanging dude. Man, I'm tired today. Didn't get enough restless, Chagan,

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Speaker 4: Do you want to or some pizza or something? You

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Speaker 5: No, I'm not actually at work.

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Speaker 4: Oh burg that sucks, dude. You know what could you

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Speaker 4: could you steal? Like door dash dif from your phone?

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Speaker 4: Would that be cool.

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Speaker 5: Are you being serious? You want me to door dash

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Speaker 5: your food at my place? Is that? Is? Am I

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Speaker 4: I'm a little wife this week. Man, could you help

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Speaker 5: A little bit? You're always light every week. That's actually

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Speaker 4: What what? That's this is why you're calling man.

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Speaker 5: You've you've been staying in my place for a while now,

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Speaker 5: and if I'm being totally honest, it's just I just

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Speaker 4: Of Wait, wait, who who's taking advantage of you?

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Speaker 5: Well? You you are, that's or that's how it feels, Chris,

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Speaker 5: Are you super right out me?

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Speaker 4: You do? You don't want to take an advantage of you? Dude?

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Speaker 5: Well, well it's it's been months. I've been helping you

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Speaker 6: And hold on, dude, hold on, hold on. Okay, you

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Speaker 6: told me that I could stay here and you would

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Speaker 6: take care of everything, right, he said, it was no problem, right,

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Speaker 6: he said, he said, don't worry.

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Speaker 7: Dude, I got you. Man, this is you getting me

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Speaker 5: Right, yeah, exactly. Well, I said that I can help

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Speaker 5: you out for a while, but I didn't I didn't

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Speaker 5: mean I'd cover your expenses forever. And you have a

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Speaker 4: Yeah, dude, I am working part I'm not like your

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Speaker 5: Wait, what is that supposed to mean? Dude?

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Speaker 6: Come on, come on, dude, we both know you're making

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Speaker 4: Dude, don't play man ethan.

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Speaker 5: That doesn't that doesn't even matter. It's that's not what

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Speaker 4: Hey, be honest, man, it's just me and you to

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Speaker 4: be honest. Money do you actually make? Tell me what?

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Speaker 7: What?

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Speaker 1: How much?

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Speaker 7: Dude?

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Speaker 5: How much?

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Speaker 7: How much do you actually make?

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Speaker 6: Dude?

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Speaker 5: Tell me? What does that have anything to do with this?

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Speaker 5: What are you saying?

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Speaker 7: You know what I has to do?

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Speaker 4: Because you know what the other day I was born, right,

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Speaker 4: I'll try to run around.

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Speaker 6: Came across some of your bank statements and dude, Chris,

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Speaker 6: those are the big numbers.

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Speaker 7: Dude, What do you mean what are you thinking those

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Speaker 4: Dude?

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Speaker 5: Bro, Bro, you can't be going through my stuff. That's

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Speaker 7: If you want to come at me asking for money.

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Speaker 7: You should be making less than two hundred thousand dollars

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Speaker 5: Dude, you're not, You're not. What are you what are

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Speaker 5: you doing? What are you talking about?

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Speaker 3: God?

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Speaker 8: Chris?

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Speaker 5: Whoa what is this? What the hell is that?

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Speaker 3: Hold on, Chris? You really make that much money? What

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Speaker 3: I does have to do with anything? He could do

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Speaker 3: with anything. He works hard and he's sorry. You're right,

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Speaker 9: It doesn't mean he should be paying for his buddyin

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Speaker 9: We'll get a job that location forever you work after this,

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Speaker 9: quick Ethan, You're probably hearing a lot of people right

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Speaker 9: now because you're on the radio with a show called

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Speaker 4: I'm on the radio. Wait, how are I go on

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Speaker 4: the radio?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Well the magic of your friend emailing us asking for help.

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Speaker 1: Because this is a segment called the Awkward Tuesday phone Call.

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Speaker 3: We've been listening the whole time.

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Speaker 2: Why are you going through his bank statements?

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Speaker 5: Okay, look, it was just there.

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Speaker 6: It was just there on the on the calendar. I

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Speaker 2: Didn't have your name on it.

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Speaker 3: Well, I'm sure, he was cleaning it. He was cleaning

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Speaker 2: Dude, you're freeloading off your buddy.

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Speaker 4: Man.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's get to the core of why we're doing

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Speaker 1: this entire call, Ethan is because your friend Chris reached

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Speaker 7: Yeah, but did you hear how much you make?

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Speaker 3: You Know's like, sugar baby, Dude, like it doesn't matters,

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Speaker 3: but I like that.

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Speaker 5: Man, that's not even the point. The other day you

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Speaker 5: used all my toothbrush and then you had the audacity

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Speaker 5: to tell me to go to the store and get

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Speaker 7: Wait toothpaste, by another toothbrush. You could buy a toothbrush

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Speaker 7: for every day of.

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Speaker 4: The week, bro.

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Speaker 5: But that's not even the point here.

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Speaker 3: It's the morals, man. It's like, I mean, I'm trying

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Speaker 3: to say the base of it.

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Speaker 2: It feels weird, Like you don't feel weird not paying

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Speaker 7: Honestly, it feels weird that he's not paying for more,

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Speaker 7: Like we should have a better apartment. This apartment is a.

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Speaker 5: Dude.

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Speaker 2: Don't get a full time job and move out, I think,

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Speaker 2: is what he's trying to say.

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Speaker 5: Chris.

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Speaker 7: If the roles were reversed right, and like I was

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Speaker 7: wouldn't ask you for a single dime. Oh wow, I

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Speaker 7: wouldn't be over here faking being poor and like I'm

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Speaker 7: some secret one percent.

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Speaker 3: What does that mean?

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Speaker 4: You should see this place.

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Speaker 7: It's a dope and you should see the crappy car.

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Speaker 4: He has a way better car.

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Speaker 5: His money.

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Speaker 2: Probably why he has money.

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Speaker 3: He sees a lot of potential in you. Chris, reading

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Speaker 5: You know what, Ethan, it doesn't matter because my landlords

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Speaker 5: saw you the other day and she actually reached out

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Speaker 5: and she told me, like, we need to sign a lease,

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Speaker 5: and I need to probably even have you on the

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Speaker 5: lease now.

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Speaker 7: Oh wow, yeah, I mean if I got to sign

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Speaker 7: a lease, I'm okay with sign a least.

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Speaker 4: But you definitely got to pay more. Dude, you have

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Speaker 4: the bigger.

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Speaker 3: Rooms, just real estate wise, that seems fair.

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Speaker 1: Ethn All we all understand that you've fallen on a

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Speaker 1: rough time in your life. And the whole reason that

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Speaker 1: Chris even wanted to do this is because he values

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Speaker 1: your friendship. He doesn't want to be kicking you out

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Speaker 1: on your butt with nowhere else to go. He just

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Speaker 1: wants a little bit of fairness.

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Speaker 4: I get it, man, I'm trying to be respectful.

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Speaker 5: You know.

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Speaker 6: I didn't want to bring any ladies over anything like that.

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Speaker 6: But you know what's going to happen this weekend. He's

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Speaker 6: definitely gonna come over and we're gonna hang out.

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Speaker 1: Hold on, in that case, she better get he better

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Speaker 1: get the bigger room.

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Speaker 3: If there's gonna be gonna have to swap all.

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Speaker 5: Right, you know what, we'll meet with the landlord and

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Speaker 5: we'll just figure everything out. Okay, well, we'll sort everything

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Speaker 3: Okay, that's good, is it?

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Speaker 2: It just sounds like he's stuck with Ethan.

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Speaker 7: No nobody with me. I'm a privilege, No, I get it.

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Speaker 1: Brook tells us all the time, it's a privilege that

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Speaker 1: we get to work with her. Same vine Jeffrey in

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Speaker 1: the morning. I want to say that we helped with

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Speaker 1: again saying help he's still living here, yeah, or yeah,

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Speaker 1: I kicked him out and now he's living with my

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Speaker 2: Oh man, I just love that his friend thinks that

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean you said Chris was the one that

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Speaker 3: I got you. You don't have to worry. He took

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Speaker 2: Bit too far, checked his bank account to see how

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Speaker 1: Last, I will say, don't leave your bank statements all

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Speaker 1: you're letting somebody live there, don't leave them out for

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Speaker 3: We're going to give Chris anything as a mistake, that

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Speaker 1: It does sound like Ethan needs to find his own

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Speaker 1: personal motivation, though, because that's what they say is you

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Speaker 1: can't make people want to change, they have to want

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Speaker 3: You should make or k on his own doing what

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Speaker 2: At least find a girlfriend that's making money so he

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Speaker 2: any like Bennies.

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Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: Ethan just wants to keep living that sugar buddy life.

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Speaker 4: And for that, you.

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Speaker 7: Invented sugar buddy.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I do want one that's hot.

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Speaker 1: We could be your sugar buddies and call somebody who

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Speaker 1: you need help calling. We can do it with your

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Speaker 1: awkward Tuesday phone call email the show.

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Speaker 3: We could help you out.