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Speaker 1: Tomorrow is Super Tuesday and election day in the following states.

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Speaker 1: for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need advice unreal

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Speaker 1: your letter live on the air. This is for Jake,

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Speaker 1: just like that. Ah, it is strawberry letter. Let's go

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Speaker 1: all right, Thank you nephew. Subject how Daddy got his

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Speaker 1: groove back? Okay, Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married for

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Speaker 1: twenty five years, and last weekend, my wife and I

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Speaker 1: took a road trip to see my wife's dad. My

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Speaker 1: is still adjusting to being alone. Her dad was so

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Speaker 1: cook his favorite dinner. So when my wife started cooking,

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Speaker 1: my father in law slipped outside and was talking to

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Speaker 1: an older lady that had pulled up. When he came

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Speaker 1: be joining us for dinner. I could tell my wife

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Speaker 1: was right. You couldn't help but see the chemistry between

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Speaker 1: after dinner, she left and we went to bed. My

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Speaker 1: our room was upstairs. Around midnight, we could hear movement downstairs,

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Speaker 1: so my wife wanted to go check on her dad.

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Speaker 1: I went to look out the window first, and I

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Speaker 1: When she got back upstairs, she was a nervous wreck.

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Speaker 1: She said. She walked in on her dad lying on

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Speaker 1: The next day, she fussed at her dad like he

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Speaker 1: was a child, and her dad put us out there.

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Speaker 1: Was they are not speaking there? Life is too short

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Speaker 1: to be mad over something this petty. How can I

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Speaker 1: get my wife to stop judging her dad and make

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Speaker 1: because your wife probably can't right now. All kinds of

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Speaker 1: things are going through her head. Was he seeing this woman,

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Speaker 1: you know, while her mom was alive? All those things,

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Speaker 1: and your wife is still grieving the loss of her mom.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you got to remember that it's been three years.

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Speaker 1: But no matter how long it takes, that is her process,

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Speaker 1: her grieving process. She did forget one thing and her

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Speaker 1: or even that he's cheating on her. I know she's

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Speaker 1: passed away, but some people even think that even though

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Speaker 1: and it's his life, so he didn't like your wife

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Speaker 1: this you know through this. Eventually maybe she will call

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Speaker 1: I don't you know, Lady sir, appreciate you writing a

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Speaker 1: from top to bottom is your wife. She did wrong.

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Speaker 1: She wrong. There's nowhere in this letter she's right. She

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Speaker 1: just wrong. She's wrong for everything she did in this letter. Now, dog,

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Speaker 1: First of all, let me take my hat off to

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Speaker 1: tell you something in my letter. Took a roll trip.

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Speaker 1: See wife's dad. My wife's mom passed three years ago.

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Speaker 1: So her dad is still adjusting to being alone. Where

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Speaker 1: he didn't adjust it, Okay, he's still adjusting to being alone.

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Speaker 1: He done adjusted. He was so happy to see us.

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Speaker 1: my wife grew up with her children. You know this

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Speaker 1: lady stay down the street. It's huh, that's her name. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: to bed. We come back. I'll fix it, all right, Steve.

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letter, How

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Speaker 1: Daddy Got his group back is the subject. We'll get

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Speaker 1: All right, Steve, come on, Let's recap today's Strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: How Daddy got his groove back? Simple letter, everybody, this

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Speaker 1: woman is wrong. Throughout this letter. This man been married

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Speaker 1: to her for twenty five years. Say they went to

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Speaker 1: visit her father, his mother, His wife passed. Her mom

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Speaker 1: passed three years ago, and you know he's been taking

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Speaker 1: time to adjust well. According to this letter, he had

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Speaker 1: Kind of threw the wife off a little bit, but

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Speaker 1: with her children, So you're thinking cool, right. I assumed

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Speaker 1: time couldn't help us see the chemistry between the old

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Speaker 1: They room upstairs. Around midnight twelve, y'all know what happened

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Speaker 1: thanky thank you all know the song if he's come about?

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Speaker 1: Uh after? Around midnight we could hear movement downstairs. Now

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Speaker 1: your nosey asked wife wanted to go check on her dad. Now,

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Speaker 1: all three years he'd been in that house by himself,

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Speaker 1: and you saw the old lady's car was out there again.

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Speaker 1: So now you know the noise, the movement is she

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Speaker 1: from going down, said the baby, baby, don't go down.

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Speaker 1: That man might have some company. That that same car

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Speaker 1: that was in the driveway. She came back, she went anyway,

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Speaker 1: the dad put him out because you can't cussing the

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Speaker 1: old black dude in his house. You know how that go.

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Speaker 1: And you, my daughter, I'm still your daddy. Get out. Now.

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Speaker 1: They're not speaking right now because your wife is a

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Speaker 1: to be mad over something. That's petty, And you're right, bro,

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Speaker 1: it's petty. But let me tell you what happened though.

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Speaker 1: How could I get my wife to stop judging her

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Speaker 1: daughter is probably still grieving the loss of her mother.

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Speaker 1: I can understand that it takes time to get over loss.

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Speaker 1: But it's been three years. And when you're older, since

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Speaker 1: So now he didn't grieve the loss of his wife.

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Speaker 1: It's then happened and the old lady down street that

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Speaker 1: if I get a bad medical report, sex, I get

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Speaker 1: Sex if I don't make the football team, sex get

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Speaker 1: the lottery. Six if I hit the lottery, plenty six. Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, See your wife is grieving. He was grieving.

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Speaker 1: But see nine over with. When you take vials, you

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Speaker 1: say to death due us part one of them, and

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Speaker 1: I'm not trying to sound callous about it. One of

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Speaker 1: them has party and it happened three years ago. He's

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Speaker 1: an older gentleman. He over it. But having sex don't

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Speaker 1: mean that you You You don't forgot about your wife

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Speaker 1: and your on loving no more. He has sex with

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Speaker 1: any damn way? Take your ass back up stairs to

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Speaker 1: your room? Why don't you and your husband makes some

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Speaker 1: damn noise? You go, But see you all downstairs in

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Speaker 1: my business. He on top of her naked. You have

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Speaker 1: to take your clothes off. It's too much, can get

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Speaker 1: snagged and cought. This is for safety, naked, it's for safety,

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Speaker 1: exactly calling it's the safety purposes. Can't get nothing caught

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Speaker 1: and all on all these clothes and stuff, tanning, snagging,

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Speaker 1: and so we ain't got no money to replace you.

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Speaker 1: We don't well, we don't fix income. We ain't got

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Speaker 1: no money. Teddy clothes off now let's lay in here

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Speaker 1: neck all right, thank you, Steve, post your comments on

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