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Speaker 1: This is the Benn and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast

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Speaker 1: with i R Radio. It is the Ben and Ashley

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Speaker 1: I Almost Famous podcast. But Ben isn't here again. However,

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Speaker 1: I have so many guests to fill in his spot

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Speaker 1: this today, even though is he really somebody you can replace?

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying we're replacing him. I'm saying we have

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Speaker 1: some people filling in. And those people include Brooks like

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Speaker 1: Gavin Degrock, Caitlin Bristow and Jason Tartek, Nick Vill, Tanya

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Speaker 1: rad beck At, Tilly Yardley Smith, Jean Claude, Van dem

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Speaker 1: Brooke Burke, Megan King, Edmunds, Dean Anglert, and my husband.

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Speaker 1: And our first guests are sitting right next to me,

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Speaker 1: and they are Caitlyn and Jason. Does it still feel

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Speaker 1: weird to say husband? You said husband? And I got

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Speaker 1: like all tingle, I say husband, any chance I get

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Speaker 1: I call him husband? Yeah, I would too. I like that.

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Speaker 1: You need say my husband, Jared, You said my husband

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Speaker 1: was such a power. Yeah we all know, Yeah, my husband.

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Speaker 1: It does have a certain strength about it, does it does.

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Speaker 1: Fiance's like fancy and then husband's like you guys, you

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Speaker 1: mean it. You guys are in fiance is flirty, very flirty. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and boyfriend just sounds super like I'm in high school.

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Speaker 1: There needs to be a term that's like not boyfriend

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Speaker 1: and not fiance, like not man friend, because that's really

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Speaker 1: I won't like the word fiance. I'm like, it's too cliche.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't use it. I love it, you don't like

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Speaker 1: you know what. What I notice about when I used

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Speaker 1: to have to refer to Jared as fiance is it's

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Speaker 1: like so much less commanding than my husband. Like if

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh, thank you, I have to talk

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Speaker 1: to my fiance about it, like to make a decision.

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Speaker 1: It's like, oh, really, it's your fiance, but like I've

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Speaker 1: talked to my husband, of course you have to talk

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Speaker 1: to your perfect sense. Yeah, it's more of a legit word.

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Speaker 1: Fiance is very flirting. I think about your your wedding

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Speaker 1: often too. By the way, it was just such a

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Speaker 1: beautiful wedding. It was like you know, when you scroll

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Speaker 1: through photos in your phone, like looking for something to

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Speaker 1: post something. I always passed it. It It was just stunning,

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Speaker 1: really was. Thank you. And those photo booth photos that

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Speaker 1: like everybody is stupidly incredible. They're so insane Um, okay,

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Speaker 1: so we got to talk about the Bachelor with you guys. Um,

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Speaker 1: let's talk about the pregnancy theory first. So you guys

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Speaker 1: know that this is the new theory out in the

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Speaker 1: on the Wait Cyber's Fear, there's a pregnancy theory. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So now, ever since we got an extra clip, you know,

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Speaker 1: in the super tease, we got an extra clip after

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Speaker 1: Chris Harrison says we have big news. We just learned

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Speaker 1: it right now. And then there's a new scene that

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Speaker 1: they added where he's like lying on the bed and

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm making this up. I feel

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Speaker 1: like he had like ice on his head or yes,

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Speaker 1: I remember, yeah, and he looks super distraught. Now people

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Speaker 1: are saying that because they keep teasing sex before fantasy.

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Speaker 1: Sweet Caitlin, you know about that. I've liked, am I

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Speaker 1: the only one? Or am I the only one that

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Speaker 1: was exploited for me? Definitely the only one exploited for it? Um,

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Speaker 1: people are saying that possibly they're bringing that up so

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Speaker 1: much because a girl gets pregnant and then he finds

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Speaker 1: out there. I mean it's really a bit of a

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Speaker 1: stretch because you know, like you need how logistics guy, right,

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Speaker 1: like think about that weekend? How many saying no, but

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Speaker 1: you need Like don't you need just two weeks to

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Speaker 1: really know? Like if you miss your period and you

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Speaker 1: were opulating two weeks earlier, you just need two weeks.

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Speaker 1: But then I'm thinking, are you gonna have to call

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Speaker 1: him like Mari mariy whatever his name is to you know,

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Speaker 1: like he obviously would be the father, but who is

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Speaker 1: the mother? Because if you're having multiple women, you mean

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Speaker 1: who is the mother the one that I'm sorry, sorry

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Speaker 1: you wait now my whole my whole theory is screwed.

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Speaker 1: I'm just thinking, like, wow, I really did not think

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Speaker 1: this one through. You're right, I'm gonna make you feel

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Speaker 1: better right now. One time I had to write a

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Speaker 1: Spanish essay my sophomore ye of high school, and I

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Speaker 1: spent thirty minutes trying to find Spanish letters. Oh yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: that does make me feel a lot better. So you

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Speaker 1: just didn't think that went through. But what I'm getting

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Speaker 1: at is that's going to be a dramatic thing. But

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Speaker 1: think there's there's absolutely no legitimacy. They're like, Hannah Brown

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Speaker 1: Still I think, I mean, I'm still wanting to believe that.

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Speaker 1: Can I just ask you what you think about that?

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Speaker 1: What do you think about Hannah coming back and not

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Speaker 1: joining the season and then um then possibly like what

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Speaker 1: do you think of the whole situation? What do I

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Speaker 1: how do I feel like it's appropriate and she were

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Speaker 1: is it? Just your thoughts on that whole Hannah and

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Speaker 1: Peter situation. I'm okay with her coming back. I'm okay

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Speaker 1: with what she already did, which was come back and

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Speaker 1: like express her emotion. But then if she were to

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Speaker 1: just letting you know I'm still thinking about you. Then

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Speaker 1: that might be rude. Yeah, okay, yeah, I think it's done.

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Speaker 1: I think you had you know, she had to come back.

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Speaker 1: She gave the wings back that was cute. Then that

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Speaker 1: she led the date that was very production based, and

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Speaker 1: then I think when she was in the back we

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Speaker 1: can all relate to this when you're back in the

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Speaker 1: world almost like the PTSD, the emotions manifest, and I

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Speaker 1: think that was very raw and authentic. But I think

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Speaker 1: it's done, Like I think the whole hand and be

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Speaker 1: that's my theory. We won't see her again on this

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Speaker 1: season and her in Peter's relationship is over and they're

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Speaker 1: gonna like root for each other's happiness. Okay, so that

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Speaker 1: is probably what happened. What annoys me if that is

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Speaker 1: like concert there there's no there was It was inconclusive.

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Speaker 1: It was left open. Yes, that was ambiguous for I

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Speaker 1: didn't answer any questions that were brought up the episode beforehand,

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Speaker 1: which makes me think there's something left to be said.

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Speaker 1: At the end of the season. I think I think

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Speaker 1: her intention was like listen, I'm gonna check the boxes,

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Speaker 1: then I think it all just kind of hit there.

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Speaker 1: And that's why there wasn't an answer, because I don't

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Speaker 1: see you guys later. And I thought that we'd see

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Speaker 1: him in an interview for hours, just sobbing and like

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Speaker 1: just went into the date night like nothing happened. Bizarre,

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Speaker 1: super bizarre, super I'm glad you guys think that's where

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Speaker 1: does I do? It? Was super weird. Um Peter is

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Speaker 1: saying that reality Steve says that he can't be he

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Speaker 1: this is what does reality Steve say? Why no? But

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Speaker 1: Reality Steve, No, that's not. I'm saying Peter is saying

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Speaker 1: there's no way that Reality Steve can spoil this season. So, like,

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Speaker 1: does that mean that Peter doesn't even know how his

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Speaker 1: own season ends, Like he's still making a decision. It

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Speaker 1: must that I guarantee that, Well, there's no other explanation.

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Speaker 1: Even if he picks nobody, Reality Steve would still know that.

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Speaker 1: So right, So is that a spoiler in itself, Like

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Speaker 1: He's still trying to pick someone, I think, because otherwise

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Speaker 1: that's that's the only way you couldn't spoil it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the only way, especially today, like you can trace who

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Speaker 1: follows who, all the crazy stuff people do to be

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Speaker 1: able to like back into it and for it to

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Speaker 1: be actually unspoilable, then then he had to have made

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Speaker 1: like something his decision must be made on after the

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Speaker 1: right now. But then Harrison, like in those teasers, Harrison

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Speaker 1: like shocked at the finale, right, Like you could tell

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Speaker 1: he's got his Like I think it's his full tucks on.

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Speaker 1: So it's got to be the first we are you

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Speaker 1: what we were talking about when he had laid there, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: like that somebody's pregnant, because you know, I'm saying, right,

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Speaker 1: there is when in my opinion, that's when like something

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Speaker 1: unspoilable because there was going to pick someone before Harrison

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Speaker 1: I don't know, Maybe he someone doesn't. Maybe he picked

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Speaker 1: someone and they don't pick him back. No, that he'd

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Speaker 1: I think the last season he wasn't accurate on was yours. Well,

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Speaker 1: then he went back and said something like he caught

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Speaker 1: his initial spoiler wasn't true. No, he didn't catch it

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Speaker 1: until I spoiled everything. Oh, that's right, that's right, that's right,

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Speaker 1: that's right. Oh my gosh, of all seasons for him

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Speaker 1: to be wrong on and then I go and spoil it.

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Speaker 1: My goodness, I like being unspoiled by the way I have.

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Speaker 1: That's my my next question for you guys is do

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Speaker 1: you get spoiled every season because some fan will write

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Speaker 1: under your photo and your capture your comments and be

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Speaker 1: like it's so and so, and it's like, why would

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Speaker 1: you tell me? I'm trying to watch it, like just

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Speaker 1: did you see this? And it's him on a hometown

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Speaker 1: and I was like, no, I didn't, and I'm trying

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Speaker 1: to avoid spoilers, and she goes, yeah, me too, but

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Speaker 1: somebody showed me and I'm like, thanks, yeah, no, it's

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Speaker 1: spoiled now. I mean spoiler who goes to hometowns? But

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Speaker 1: I hate spoilers. I hate them. I love the like

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Speaker 1: I don't know the surprise at the end. I love

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Speaker 1: being all my toes the whole time. I'm I just

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Speaker 1: I don't like spoilers. But it always happens because people

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Speaker 1: comment under it, but I try to not look like

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Speaker 1: even if I know it's Bachelor related, I'll try and

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Speaker 1: not read the comments or even right now, watching Gray's Anatomy,

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Speaker 1: everybody knows what always happens, but when I tweet it,

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Speaker 1: I don't read the responses because I don't want spoilers

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Speaker 1: on Season A new and right now I've Jason. I

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Speaker 1: heard that there's like some issues in the relationship, because yeah,

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Speaker 1: it is like anytime caitlyn Is is on the couch,

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Speaker 1: it's gray, anytime she's going to bed, it's gray, and

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Speaker 1: then it's grace. He does he does one thing, and

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Speaker 1: I'm like, McDreamy would do that for Meredith. Yeah, I'm like, hey,

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Speaker 1: do you love me as much as McDreamy loves Meredith.

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Speaker 1: I think he does. You'll end up learning to love

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Speaker 1: a phobia of mine, you know, as an as an artist,

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Speaker 1: where everybody knows what the songs about, who the song

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Speaker 1: a phobia of mine, you know, I mean, that's to

428
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Speaker 1: me there's certain things that that you you want to

429
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Speaker 1: keep private, and uh, the second you start exposing someone

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Speaker 1: else to that, to that world, it's sort of irresistible, uh,

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Speaker 1: for for other folks not to pay attention to that

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Speaker 1: type of thing. I think he's really about about it.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I bumped into him on the street and pretended

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Speaker 1: like you didn't know me. That's a joke, right, is

435
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Speaker 1: trying to buy some gum? Well what are you thinking

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Speaker 1: you be singing tonight? I'm doing a couple of songs. Uh, yeah,

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Speaker 1: a little bit, a little bit of medley. Yeah, just

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Speaker 1: a little bit of taste of a taste of what

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Speaker 1: what I do. Me and a couple of my guys

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Speaker 1: from my band got together and we're gonna do a

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Speaker 1: little bit of something else, uh, just to spice up

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Speaker 1: the night. Song called Soldier, and a song that kind

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Speaker 1: of kicked off my career in the public eye called

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Speaker 1: I Don't Want to Be. So that's that's when that

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Speaker 1: really kind of changed my life to begin with. You know,

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Speaker 1: I got me out of the poorhouse, all right. I

447
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Speaker 1: actually saw you perform Soldier at the Thirst of the Thirst.

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Speaker 1: It was really cool. Yeah, that was an unbelievable night.

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Speaker 1: Man special evening, wasn't it. Yeah, If you guys aren't familiar,

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Speaker 1: the Thirst Gala is about building water mines in in

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Speaker 1: fetch water. Absolutely so crazy, the walk miles and miles

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Speaker 1: just to get a couple of gallons of water. It's

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Speaker 1: just incredible. All right, Well, thank you guys so much

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Speaker 1: for joining us. Thank you so much. Yeah, Ashley and

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Speaker 1: his son Chris, and you guys are here to support

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Speaker 1: It's called The Damn Good Fight, and it's it's about

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Speaker 1: you know how to achieve success through tips of you know,

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Speaker 1: that can be anything from just like your mindset to

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Speaker 1: training and nutrition and all of this. All the tips

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Speaker 1: you're gonna give us on this podcast is going to

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Speaker 1: help us achieve our our life goals. We all have

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Speaker 1: access to success. Is that's a great word, access to success.

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Speaker 1: Can you give us a tip right here on the podcast?

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Speaker 1: But for example, I came in this country and God

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Speaker 1: blessed America with nothing in my pocket. But I did

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Speaker 1: have I did formulate in my mind an image of

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Speaker 1: success that I create in my mind when I was young.

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Speaker 1: For many, many years, it became so alive into my head.

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Speaker 1: I threw this image in the future of America, and

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Speaker 1: when I came and I walked in America, I was

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Speaker 1: looking in my head like a star. I felt like

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Speaker 1: a star, and finally it happened. So it's like these

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Speaker 1: types of secret And also we'll have the point of

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Speaker 1: view of the young generation that I cannot follow sometimes

517
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Speaker 1: like Christ and many guys around him his age, So

518
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Speaker 1: we'll have this point of view, will have him correct

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Speaker 1: me when I make English grammatical. Lot of the show, actually,

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Speaker 1: if I may step in dewn, A lot of the

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Speaker 1: show has to do with representing a relatability factor with

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Speaker 1: the world itself. Right now, everybody's damn good fight to

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Speaker 1: the top. What is worth fighting for to them? Individually speaking?

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Speaker 1: You know, everybody has a damn good fight if you

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Speaker 1: want to say it in the commercial aspect of things,

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Speaker 1: but it's true. And um, the relatability factor of the

527
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Speaker 1: show and the people were going to be the guests

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Speaker 1: essentially we're going to be interviewing can share their fight

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Speaker 1: to where they've arrived with their success and they're in

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Speaker 1: their lives. So I think it's a very important show

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Speaker 1: that can bring people together to know that you know,

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Speaker 1: someone like my father and someone like myself and yourself,

533
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Speaker 1: and people in this room have a fight. They're fighting

534
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Speaker 1: for every day their purpose in life. Johnny, you um

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Speaker 1: just talked about the power positive thinking, visualizing. How do

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Speaker 1: you feel how do you feel people who have a

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Speaker 1: positive outlook differ in success than people who have a

538
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Speaker 1: negative outlook? Um, okay, we cannot be positive all the time.

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Speaker 1: I've got my dawn site a lot, and that will

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Speaker 1: be describing the show like you and everybody else. But

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Speaker 1: it's not like a technique, but it's a um, a

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Speaker 1: natural act of nature. And when it will be described

543
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Speaker 1: in the show with other people, famous people like you said,

544
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Speaker 1: Christopher and myself, they'll come on the show. Maybe we'll

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Speaker 1: have a champion from the UFC or a pilot. Uh,

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Speaker 1: Formula one, Formula one, how you say in English? Formula one?

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Speaker 1: We got it? Formula race car driver America and stuff

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Speaker 1: like that. So you I mean when you came here,

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Speaker 1: where you're from, which state? How you were able to

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Speaker 1: become so successful in in in in the radio and stuff.

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Speaker 1: My name is actually I was. I grew up in

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Speaker 1: Virginia and I went on a dating show. But that's cool, right, people,

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Speaker 1: So everybody on our show will be a star, not me,

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Speaker 1: not Chriz. Everybody will come on the show. They will

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Speaker 1: talk about stuff I didn't know about it like a

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Speaker 1: live YouTube visual not visual, because it's not camera. Stuff

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Speaker 1: I did not know about. It would be the correction

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Speaker 1: there because my son told me and I was doing

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Speaker 1: something to me that it's no camera on that show.

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Speaker 1: It's it's a it's a audio. So I said it

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Speaker 1: was a camera somewhere. He said that sometimes podcasts have

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Speaker 1: a video components to them. That's right. Why did you

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Speaker 1: choose podcasting? Well, I think you know. We were approached

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Speaker 1: by we were approached by a wonderful team. We're working

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Speaker 1: with a team called known as Cinematically. Consists of very

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Speaker 1: very important people in this, in this, in this this

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Speaker 1: show itself, and we couldn't be where we are without them,

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Speaker 1: so we're very grateful for that. Um Cinematically has approached

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Speaker 1: us and they when when things start to get fluid

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Speaker 1: on on a on a regular basis, even at home,

572
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Speaker 1: we are just ourselves while interviewing people like right now,

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Speaker 1: and we just kind of work well off each other

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Speaker 1: when we warm up to the to the correct RPM.

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Speaker 1: But um, I think, uh, the good thing about this

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Speaker 1: show is we have so much. My father has been

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Speaker 1: through what I've been through. Being underneath such a large

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Speaker 1: name like my father and the impact he has in

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Speaker 1: the world, it's very difficult to to try to Um.

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Speaker 1: It's a fight within itself, you know, And it's like

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Speaker 1: you're you're trying to cast your own shadow upon your

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Speaker 1: own shadow from within the shadow that's DNA based. So

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Speaker 1: it's like it's very hard to climb that mountain, but

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Speaker 1: it's possible. And um, coming from that side of the

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Speaker 1: of the fence, it's nice to hear my father's speak

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Speaker 1: about things I never even knew about. And I think

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Speaker 1: when we interview people who can relate to the pain

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Speaker 1: he shared for his time to make it to the

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Speaker 1: place he's been and vice versa. With me and the

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Speaker 1: and the guests we have on the show, we can

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Speaker 1: we can really share some important stuff. And I think, um,

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Speaker 1: I think, uh, I think we can go somewhere special

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Speaker 1: with this because it's as raw and grittain real as possible.

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Speaker 1: Our podcast is a lot about relationships because we talked

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Speaker 1: predominantly about the Bachelor franchise, and do you do you

596
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Speaker 1: guys ever expect to be talking about the damn good

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Speaker 1: fight that is love and marriage and all that. I

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Speaker 1: know that you've been married a few times, but you've

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Speaker 1: been with the same woman since now exceptional, I mean

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Speaker 1: to be able to First of all, I met my

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Speaker 1: wife into in front of me in the magazine in Belgium.

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Speaker 1: She was very known in Europe as a one of

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Speaker 1: the first body builder champion without the Jews, you know, steroids,

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Speaker 1: very very Jews, very female looking and uh like you know.

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Speaker 1: So anyway, I came to Los Angeles and I always

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Speaker 1: wanted to be with that woman, and finally we met. Look,

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Speaker 1: she basically met your celebrity trash, don't I was nobody

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Speaker 1: at that time, so she uh took me in and

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Speaker 1: and then um depend on but to be able to

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Speaker 1: remarry the woman and for her to be able to

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Speaker 1: wait and to forgive, it's something amazing. And that's why

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Speaker 1: people like to stay around her family. When people come

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Speaker 1: to our family, they don't want to live because they

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Speaker 1: see a wife like snow white. Uh, they see kids

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Speaker 1: like they saying yes, sir lady. Because they were born, homeschooling.

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Speaker 1: I was afraid for them to go into drugs because

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Speaker 1: my past history and so well protected but also well

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Speaker 1: instructed in terms of uh A, spirituality, intuition, science, connectivity stuff.

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Speaker 1: We can talk about people like wow connected. You know,

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Speaker 1: martial arts. But we can talk about even quantum physics,

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Speaker 1: plasma and all that stuff. So they heard this crazy

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Speaker 1: girl on YouTube learning what they learning what school and

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Speaker 1: they have that type of education. So when people come

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Speaker 1: to our place, they feel this type of feel welcomed

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Speaker 1: and we can relate to people. You know. Yeah, we

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Speaker 1: love people. Yeah, we love people, and we want to

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Speaker 1: do that with the show. And we love animals. Howe,

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Speaker 1: how many dogs you have amongst you guys? Can I

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Speaker 1: say the number? Countdown? All right? So we started. We've

631
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Speaker 1: everybody who comes to the house is welcomed by all

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Speaker 1: the pups. But now we're at seven. God bless those

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Speaker 1: who have passed away and left as they left. They

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Speaker 1: they lived long lives and they they've lived great lives,

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Speaker 1: long lives, and we we they're all rescues. Most of

637
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Speaker 1: them were rescues UM from filming locations, different sets around

638
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Speaker 1: the world. Um, we brought them a lot of my poor, my,

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Speaker 1: poor mom, my parents, they they and my sister and

640
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Speaker 1: I too. We all helped and contributed with the traveling.

641
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Speaker 1: But it was such a hard a hard trip to

642
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Speaker 1: bring some dogs. You know, quarantine avoiding, quarantine, all that,

643
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Speaker 1: all that stuff. But we love, we love animals big

644
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Speaker 1: on ecology. They don't care about them on the street.

645
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Speaker 1: They were dying. You want to take them out to

646
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Speaker 1: save them, and they give you so much headache. It

647
00:36:09,160 --> 00:36:11,680
Speaker 1: cost me ten times more money to save a dog

648
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Speaker 1: with all the papers, and it ridiculous, it's so, it's

649
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Speaker 1: so crazy, it's so it's Um. The way that I've

650
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Speaker 1: adopted dogs has always been quite easy, but I know

651
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Speaker 1: that there's a lot of people who they have to

652
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:26,840
Speaker 1: go through so many hoops and wait so many months

653
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Speaker 1: just to get a rescue. Just like let's you know,

654
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Speaker 1: they seem like a good person. You do a home check, okay, right,

655
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Speaker 1: and not the dog have a home. And also in

656
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Speaker 1: our audience, what we want to do because I've got

657
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Speaker 1: all those fans and believe or not to go okay,

658
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Speaker 1: it's full of no one. I'm not I create such

659
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Speaker 1: a such a database, a world in the social network around, yeah, worldwide.

660
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Speaker 1: And we want to give this, uh not a message,

661
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Speaker 1: but to give something for people to do. And we

662
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Speaker 1: have a way to convince them to do so. And

663
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Speaker 1: it's something very big that happened, that happens, that happens,

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Speaker 1: has that has to happen. Yeah, very fast. Kind of

665
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Speaker 1: emotional on on on that one with my words, excuse

666
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Speaker 1: me for that. But what I think he's trying to

667
00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:21,200
Speaker 1: say is that he wants to really bring in not

668
00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:24,759
Speaker 1: only his fan base and viewers alike, he wants to

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Speaker 1: deliver a message he feels it is important, um, you know,

670
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Speaker 1: representing his damn good fight and representing what he represents

671
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Speaker 1: now past just being a star, past just good. Um.

672
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Speaker 1: He's personal, you know, basically, and it's it's as relatable

673
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:38,240
Speaker 1: as it as it should be. Like other people coming

674
00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:42,480
Speaker 1: on our show, please open up to us. And also

675
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:45,800
Speaker 1: our show is super optimistic. We're not here to launch

676
00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 1: people and a new pass in this and that we

677
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Speaker 1: we we we live at the page. We don't understand

678
00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:54,919
Speaker 1: the past. We do we learn from it. But when

679
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Speaker 1: a guy come to my show is coming at the

680
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Speaker 1: page of today because every day, which chance for better words? Yeah,

681
00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:04,719
Speaker 1: I think about myself even nine months ago, and I'm like,

682
00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:18,719
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have picked that alphite out. Oh my god,

683
00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:21,160
Speaker 1: Oh my god. We have more people sitting next to me,

684
00:38:21,640 --> 00:38:24,120
Speaker 1: like my husband. He's back. You guys, I know you're like,

685
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Speaker 1: this is a second podcast this week that Charon's been on.

686
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Speaker 1: Is it really? Oh yea the live podcast? I forgot

687
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Speaker 1: about that, But I'm not alone. I have my co

688
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Speaker 1: host from the greatest podcast that ever was Help I

689
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Speaker 1: Suck at Dating Dean, I'm Glenn Suck. Help my sucking

690
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:45,640
Speaker 1: day a little. We're gonna work on a chance. My

691
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:49,560
Speaker 1: first question for you is, truly, like the podcast pride

692
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Speaker 1: is real. I've never seen somebody shout out their own

693
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Speaker 1: podcast or get so hype when it's brought up than

694
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Speaker 1: you two. Why it's a movement? You suck reason movement.

695
00:39:00,719 --> 00:39:02,840
Speaker 1: It's not stopping. We're coming from the People Choice Awards.

696
00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:07,880
Speaker 1: We're coming for podcast awards because you're not nominated today. No,

697
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Speaker 1: which excuse my language, but it's bull Viva love revolucy on.

698
00:39:12,600 --> 00:39:13,759
Speaker 1: You want to know what's funny is you know in

699
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Speaker 1: soccer and soccer matches in international sports. The only team

700
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Speaker 1: that shouts their name in the matches USA. We're the

701
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Speaker 1: only ones that go US usay every other country they

702
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Speaker 1: have like a song or anthem. Does that make us

703
00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:29,520
Speaker 1: like obnoxious or awesome horribly obnoxious? I don't know. I

704
00:39:29,560 --> 00:39:31,280
Speaker 1: think it kind of makes its awesome. Well. I appreciate

705
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Speaker 1: that because I feel like we're adopting that same mentality.

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Speaker 1: Help helping made I think I'm gonna I'm gonna dar

707
00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:45,520
Speaker 1: Deane to get up on stage tonight as somebody accepts

708
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Speaker 1: the pop category, talk about this. We're pulling. We're pulling

709
00:39:49,280 --> 00:39:52,359
Speaker 1: a full Kanye. There are relationships in dating category because

710
00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:54,360
Speaker 1: there should be no there's like TV and film. I

711
00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 1: think that it could be in film. It should be

712
00:39:57,680 --> 00:40:00,560
Speaker 1: relationships and dating. I agree there might have been motivation

713
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Speaker 1: which we could potentially fall under. I'm gonna let you finish,

714
00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:06,200
Speaker 1: but Jared was the best co hosted two nine Dean.

715
00:40:06,280 --> 00:40:09,120
Speaker 1: If you did this, you guys would get so many

716
00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 1: listens literally conversations. We'd be iconic. But the problem is

717
00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 1: Dean can't do it because you know he's not gonna.

718
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Speaker 1: He wouldn't have because the correct him coming, because you

719
00:40:18,600 --> 00:40:20,920
Speaker 1: would take so long security attackle me well before I

720
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Speaker 1: got to the mic at least. But I don't I

721
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Speaker 1: don't think you'll be able to pull it off in

722
00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:28,759
Speaker 1: the same way. What the hell is that supposed to be?

723
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Speaker 1: You know, you're too like suave like I've got. Wouldn't

724
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Speaker 1: that be a good thing you need to be. We

725
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Speaker 1: gottaet him a couple of drinks deep, and I think

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Speaker 1: he might be might be game. I've seen him a

727
00:40:40,120 --> 00:40:42,080
Speaker 1: couple of drinks deep. You've seen me a couple of

728
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Speaker 1: drinks deep. So how do we so we don't even

729
00:40:43,800 --> 00:40:45,840
Speaker 1: know what he's capable of. We don't exactly, guys, you

730
00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:47,799
Speaker 1: don't even know the beast within. Have you tried the

731
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:50,919
Speaker 1: Bartesian out there? We had it on Help I Suck

732
00:40:50,920 --> 00:40:54,120
Speaker 1: a Dating weeks ago? Really, yeah, we did for the

733
00:40:54,160 --> 00:40:57,760
Speaker 1: Christmas episode. I was thinking, like, we don't even drink

734
00:40:57,840 --> 00:41:00,319
Speaker 1: mixed drinks in the house all that much, but we

735
00:41:00,320 --> 00:41:03,000
Speaker 1: should get one of those. I mean, it's pretty cool. Okay,

736
00:41:03,040 --> 00:41:05,239
Speaker 1: So I my biggest question, and I feel like the

737
00:41:05,280 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 1: audience's biggest question for you guys in your podcast, is

738
00:41:09,040 --> 00:41:11,600
Speaker 1: how can you still suck at dating if you're both

739
00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:14,880
Speaker 1: in serious loving relationships. Do you want me to take

740
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:16,520
Speaker 1: this one? I would love for you too. Al Right, listen,

741
00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:20,200
Speaker 1: listen to everybody who's listening currently right now. Listen up,

742
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:25,479
Speaker 1: open those ears. Guys. We all suck at dating, whether

743
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:29,880
Speaker 1: in relationships, whether we're single, it does not matter, because

744
00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:32,719
Speaker 1: there's all things that we could work on get better at.

745
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:37,359
Speaker 1: There are aspects of marriage that I suck at. Give

746
00:41:37,400 --> 00:41:40,440
Speaker 1: them examples, Give me examples what you suck at. I

747
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:43,520
Speaker 1: could do a far better job of surprising you. What

748
00:41:43,520 --> 00:41:46,359
Speaker 1: do you mean surprising me? Just bringing home flowers every

749
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:49,640
Speaker 1: once in a while. It's it's things that I'm currently

750
00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:52,879
Speaker 1: working on. Really, I haven't seen any work actually, because

751
00:41:52,880 --> 00:41:56,160
Speaker 1: in all other aspects of marriage, I'm perfect. So I

752
00:41:56,280 --> 00:41:58,040
Speaker 1: have to have one thing I suck at in order

753
00:41:58,040 --> 00:42:00,800
Speaker 1: for the podcast to be successful. It's for the big baby.

754
00:42:01,400 --> 00:42:04,000
Speaker 1: This is why I don't get surprises. What you doesn't

755
00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:06,160
Speaker 1: mean so much for me, I know, but I'm working

756
00:42:06,160 --> 00:42:08,279
Speaker 1: on a Dean. Would you agree, though, that there's all

757
00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:10,040
Speaker 1: aspects that we suck at. I think you know that

758
00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:11,480
Speaker 1: right on the head. I think just because you're in

759
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:13,920
Speaker 1: a relationship doesn't mean you don't suck at dating. Just

760
00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:16,200
Speaker 1: because you're married doesn't mean you don't suck at dating.

761
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:18,520
Speaker 1: Just because you're single doesn't mean you don't suck at dating.

762
00:42:18,600 --> 00:42:21,000
Speaker 1: I think anyone can listen to the podcast and learn

763
00:42:21,080 --> 00:42:23,600
Speaker 1: things because it's not just us sharing our experiences. It's

764
00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:28,560
Speaker 1: also we have relationship experts, therapists, authors, et cetera that

765
00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:31,800
Speaker 1: come on the podcast and divulge all of their information

766
00:42:31,800 --> 00:42:34,560
Speaker 1: and all their wisdom upon us. And even like, like

767
00:42:34,560 --> 00:42:35,759
Speaker 1: I was saying, you don't have to be married in

768
00:42:35,760 --> 00:42:38,640
Speaker 1: a relationship or whatever your status is, you can still

769
00:42:38,680 --> 00:42:40,680
Speaker 1: take something from it, which is nice. You guys. Later

770
00:42:40,719 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 1: in the podcast and Nick Vile is coming on, do

771
00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:47,600
Speaker 1: we think that Nick sucks at dating? Absolutely? Yeah? Why

772
00:42:47,680 --> 00:42:51,360
Speaker 1: does Nick suck at dating? I think Nick is uh

773
00:42:51,360 --> 00:42:53,839
Speaker 1: And I say this as somebody who was part of

774
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Speaker 1: the groomsmen party that sits in front of me. Well,

775
00:42:56,280 --> 00:42:58,280
Speaker 1: Nick will never agree to this, but I think he's picky,

776
00:42:58,560 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 1: very Oh my god, I think you'd agree with you.

777
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:02,120
Speaker 1: I think you might be the pickiest person that I met.

778
00:43:02,200 --> 00:43:06,520
Speaker 1: Incredibly picky averything up to me. He's like he and

779
00:43:06,719 --> 00:43:08,560
Speaker 1: I are like the same amount of picky, Like there's

780
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 1: always something wrong even if it's perfect. There's always something wrong,

781
00:43:11,680 --> 00:43:14,120
Speaker 1: and he's just the epitome of a single guy living

782
00:43:14,120 --> 00:43:16,200
Speaker 1: in Los Angeles. It's hard paradox and choice kind of

783
00:43:16,440 --> 00:43:18,760
Speaker 1: like paralyzes people. You know, He's got so many options,

784
00:43:18,760 --> 00:43:21,200
Speaker 1: and Nick he's a you know, he's acting, he's obviously

785
00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:23,000
Speaker 1: used to be the bachelor. He's got a lot of

786
00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:24,560
Speaker 1: things going for him, and so a lot of women

787
00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:26,799
Speaker 1: probably would want to date him. And so sometimes that

788
00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:30,440
Speaker 1: ability to choose things that mobilizes you and makes you

789
00:43:30,520 --> 00:43:34,040
Speaker 1: question whether there's maybe something better around the next corner. Yeah,

790
00:43:34,080 --> 00:43:38,680
Speaker 1: that that's the millennial problem. Is there something better with Instagram? Now?

791
00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:41,799
Speaker 1: I'm sure Nick's dms are off the charts, blowing up,

792
00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:44,439
Speaker 1: you know daily. How is it felt to not check

793
00:43:44,520 --> 00:43:47,440
Speaker 1: that DM that other DM section for you over the

794
00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:49,920
Speaker 1: past seven or eight months. Well, I still check it,

795
00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:51,759
Speaker 1: but they'll check it to Yeah, it's just for fun

796
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:54,839
Speaker 1: some of the business recently. Yeah, because there are people

797
00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:56,080
Speaker 1: that will reach out and be like, hey, do you

798
00:43:56,080 --> 00:43:59,520
Speaker 1: want to like a pair of sweatpants and just tag

799
00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:01,480
Speaker 1: us on into a grand story like yeah, I would

800
00:44:01,520 --> 00:44:03,480
Speaker 1: love a parent swap pants, Thank you so much. But

801
00:44:03,480 --> 00:44:05,000
Speaker 1: it does it does feel good. I was walking through

802
00:44:05,000 --> 00:44:06,480
Speaker 1: the airport the other day when we were flying back

803
00:44:06,480 --> 00:44:09,280
Speaker 1: from Europe, and uh, I just had like randomly stopped

804
00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:10,880
Speaker 1: dead in my tracks. Caitlin as well ahead of me

805
00:44:10,880 --> 00:44:12,440
Speaker 1: because I embarray slow in my coutches, and I was like,

806
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:13,920
Speaker 1: I'm so glad I'm in a relationship and I know

807
00:44:13,960 --> 00:44:17,480
Speaker 1: have to be single anymore. It just being single as exhausting.

808
00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:19,759
Speaker 1: I have a friend who just broke up with her

809
00:44:19,800 --> 00:44:23,040
Speaker 1: boyfriend of two years this week, and I keep thinking

810
00:44:23,080 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 1: about her at thirty, needing to be back on the

811
00:44:25,760 --> 00:44:28,760
Speaker 1: dating field, and I'm like, that is stressful, and especially

812
00:44:28,840 --> 00:44:31,160
Speaker 1: since like so many of your other friends are in

813
00:44:31,239 --> 00:44:33,480
Speaker 1: serious relationships. Like who do you go out with to

814
00:44:33,560 --> 00:44:36,279
Speaker 1: like try to meet people? And it's just like you,

815
00:44:36,400 --> 00:44:39,280
Speaker 1: it's a relatability thing. It's like fun for five seconds

816
00:44:39,280 --> 00:44:42,640
Speaker 1: and then you're completely over it. Right, Um, what is

817
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:45,440
Speaker 1: what is Caitlin's number one complaint like about what you

818
00:44:45,520 --> 00:44:50,680
Speaker 1: stuck at dating? Oh? Man, Well, she's just so sweet.

819
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:54,200
Speaker 1: She doesn't really complain about much of anything. Uh. Sometimes

820
00:44:54,239 --> 00:44:57,200
Speaker 1: I get maybe drive the sarcasm home a little too hard,

821
00:44:57,840 --> 00:45:00,200
Speaker 1: like publicly, I feel like maybe not like between you too,

822
00:45:00,200 --> 00:45:02,440
Speaker 1: but I feel like like you kind of get on

823
00:45:02,440 --> 00:45:05,520
Speaker 1: her at Twitter on Twitter sometimes we're in interviews that

824
00:45:05,560 --> 00:45:07,960
Speaker 1: probably annoys her. No, but she maybe at first, but

825
00:45:08,040 --> 00:45:10,600
Speaker 1: she Like what I really adore about her is she's

826
00:45:10,640 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 1: kind of taking that whole thing and stride and now

827
00:45:13,040 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 1: she spits it right back at me twice as hard.

828
00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:17,279
Speaker 1: So it's like what she what used to be her

829
00:45:17,280 --> 00:45:20,360
Speaker 1: biggest grievance against me, she's turned into. One of my

830
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:22,040
Speaker 1: favorite things about her is that she's able to put

831
00:45:22,040 --> 00:45:24,880
Speaker 1: it back on me too. That's so cute. My last

832
00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:28,440
Speaker 1: question for you guys is, um, well, sorry, baby, it's

833
00:45:28,440 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: not for you. Well, it's like it's harder for me

834
00:45:31,719 --> 00:45:35,000
Speaker 1: to come with interview questions for you since you're my husband. Yeah,

835
00:45:35,040 --> 00:45:38,040
Speaker 1: we talk constantly. Yeah, um, Dean, I need to know

836
00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:40,640
Speaker 1: about all the things that you now appreciate, even more

837
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:43,439
Speaker 1: about Kaylin after she went to Switzerland and like help

838
00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:45,680
Speaker 1: you truck through Europe and all the nursing that she

839
00:45:45,719 --> 00:45:47,880
Speaker 1: did for you. Like I want like a little bit

840
00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:49,879
Speaker 1: of mush for the next sixty seconds. Oh my gosh,

841
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:52,200
Speaker 1: Musch is not really my strong now, but it's so

842
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:54,360
Speaker 1: sweet when it does come out. Um, I do appreciate

843
00:45:54,400 --> 00:45:56,880
Speaker 1: your coming her. I appreciate her coming out to help me.

844
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Speaker 1: There were a lot of times she called me and

845
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Speaker 1: she was like, hey, I'm gonna fly out to Switzerland,

846
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Speaker 1: like help you. I was like, no, like, don't come.

847
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Speaker 1: I don't want you to be bored in the hospital

848
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Speaker 1: with me. You're not gonna be doing anything. Um. And

849
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Speaker 1: there were times when you know, obviously she had like

850
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Speaker 1: carry my luggage to the airport and she had Today

851
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Speaker 1: actually was the first day since the accident that I

852
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Speaker 1: put my own shoes on and tied to myself. Really

853
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Speaker 1: proud of that. Um. So she was responsible for doing

854
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Speaker 1: that for me up until today basically. And I kind

855
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Speaker 1: of got a note at myself a few times because

856
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Speaker 1: there were like things that she would mistakenly do or

857
00:46:24,040 --> 00:46:26,040
Speaker 1: like forget to do, like forget to get me something

858
00:46:26,040 --> 00:46:28,400
Speaker 1: from Starbucks or something so silly like that, and I

859
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 1: would like get kind of annoyed, and then I was like, wait,

860
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:31,879
Speaker 1: why am I getting annoyed at this person that's trying

861
00:46:31,920 --> 00:46:34,239
Speaker 1: to help me. Um. But she was great every step

862
00:46:34,280 --> 00:46:37,160
Speaker 1: of the way. You know. It's really telling of her

863
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Speaker 1: to just kind of drop everything and come and help

864
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Speaker 1: me through the recovery process in Europe. And I appreciate

865
00:46:43,239 --> 00:46:45,080
Speaker 1: her for that it would have been a much, much

866
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Speaker 1: grimmer situation had she not been around. And so Kitlin,

867
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Speaker 1: if you're listening to this, which I'm sure you are,

868
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Speaker 1: I really appreciate you doing that for me. And if

869
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Speaker 1: the roles ever reverse, God forbid that ever happens, I

870
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Speaker 1: will be there for you as well. And I love you.

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Speaker 1: Thanks all right, thank you, guys for the best love.

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Speaker 1: of Intimate Knowledge on Brookburg, Meghan King Edmund and Lela Darville.

912
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Speaker 1: You guys know Brookburg and and Meghan King Evans. But um,

913
00:49:45,680 --> 00:49:50,440
Speaker 1: Lela is a sex and intimacy and professional relationship coach.

914
00:49:51,280 --> 00:49:53,960
Speaker 1: And I'm having my husband joined me on this segment

915
00:49:54,120 --> 00:50:00,879
Speaker 1: because you guys are sex intimacy relationship experts and we're

916
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:04,080
Speaker 1: going to get a little like sexy and this this. Uh.

917
00:50:04,120 --> 00:50:05,799
Speaker 1: I'm so glad he's here because our show is not

918
00:50:05,880 --> 00:50:08,080
Speaker 1: just for women. Are shows from men as well? Perfect

919
00:50:08,160 --> 00:50:10,080
Speaker 1: and people think it's like this chatty girle and just

920
00:50:10,160 --> 00:50:15,440
Speaker 1: Intimate Knowledge day. It's for everyone. So glad the hobbies here. Well,

921
00:50:15,480 --> 00:50:20,040
Speaker 1: it's kind of like, girls listen to the Man podcast

922
00:50:20,200 --> 00:50:23,759
Speaker 1: because they want to know what um to do. You know,

923
00:50:23,920 --> 00:50:26,400
Speaker 1: they want to know how to speak to their husbands

924
00:50:26,440 --> 00:50:28,840
Speaker 1: and their their partners. The best. People want to know

925
00:50:28,840 --> 00:50:30,560
Speaker 1: what the other sex is thinking. Yeah, and so then

926
00:50:30,760 --> 00:50:33,600
Speaker 1: guys should listen to you to figure out what women want.

927
00:50:33,640 --> 00:50:36,880
Speaker 1: And they do and they do figure out what it's great,

928
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Speaker 1: what everybody win? What do you think men don't get

929
00:50:40,320 --> 00:50:45,200
Speaker 1: about women the most? I know that's a very loaded question,

930
00:50:45,239 --> 00:50:48,880
Speaker 1: but like of all your listener questions that you get emailed,

931
00:50:49,120 --> 00:50:52,479
Speaker 1: what's a theme that comes up all the time? Go ahead,

932
00:50:52,520 --> 00:50:58,360
Speaker 1: I feel like Leela would be good at this one.

933
00:50:59,360 --> 00:51:03,480
Speaker 1: Women learning they really yearning to be touched, for their

934
00:51:03,520 --> 00:51:05,719
Speaker 1: hearts to be touched, for there to be seen. I

935
00:51:05,840 --> 00:51:10,200
Speaker 1: tell you this, and it's like the real key to

936
00:51:10,320 --> 00:51:13,640
Speaker 1: this is women are deeply yearning the presence of their

937
00:51:13,680 --> 00:51:16,600
Speaker 1: man like and you know you started that out by

938
00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:18,880
Speaker 1: saying touched, But what she really means, she means like

939
00:51:18,920 --> 00:51:25,319
Speaker 1: everywhere soul hot connection, connect, Like, don't look at your

940
00:51:25,320 --> 00:51:26,920
Speaker 1: phone when you're talking to me, Like, I need to

941
00:51:27,040 --> 00:51:29,040
Speaker 1: make eye contact. I want to press something. I want

942
00:51:29,040 --> 00:51:32,160
Speaker 1: to see for you here, I want to feel you

943
00:51:32,520 --> 00:51:36,480
Speaker 1: seeing me in our first episode when we were talking

944
00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:39,480
Speaker 1: about what intimacy means to everyone, and it was incredible.

945
00:51:39,480 --> 00:51:42,440
Speaker 1: It's so different. That's what we really talked about, the

946
00:51:43,440 --> 00:51:46,600
Speaker 1: being seen. That's I think what we're all like, yearning

947
00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:49,279
Speaker 1: and striving. I'm not from the men, get that. What

948
00:51:49,560 --> 00:51:54,759
Speaker 1: do you what? He's real turning? Are you? Are you

949
00:51:54,800 --> 00:51:56,759
Speaker 1: being present right now? I'm very present. What do you

950
00:51:56,920 --> 00:52:03,440
Speaker 1: something about? Yeah? I agree, I mean from my experience

951
00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:06,880
Speaker 1: being married and being in relationships. Yeah, I guess women.

952
00:52:08,840 --> 00:52:11,120
Speaker 1: I think it's just it goes back to vulnerability. I

953
00:52:11,160 --> 00:52:14,680
Speaker 1: think that men have difficulty being vulnerable with their counterpart,

954
00:52:14,960 --> 00:52:17,600
Speaker 1: and so I think probably a lot of times you

955
00:52:17,640 --> 00:52:20,600
Speaker 1: bring up looking at your phone while in the midst

956
00:52:20,640 --> 00:52:22,440
Speaker 1: of a conversation. Most of the time, I'm sure when

957
00:52:22,440 --> 00:52:25,400
Speaker 1: guys look at their phone, the conversations about something serious,

958
00:52:25,760 --> 00:52:27,960
Speaker 1: and so they just avoid eye contact because they don't

959
00:52:28,000 --> 00:52:31,560
Speaker 1: want to be vulnerable because eyes obviously are a pathway

960
00:52:31,600 --> 00:52:35,480
Speaker 1: to the soul. So I think, and I think women

961
00:52:35,480 --> 00:52:38,319
Speaker 1: are far more willing to be vulnerable. And this is

962
00:52:38,360 --> 00:52:44,680
Speaker 1: a it's a real skill actually, to to a skill

963
00:52:44,840 --> 00:52:49,319
Speaker 1: and to feel a willingness. Yes, these vulnerables really Yeah,

964
00:52:49,360 --> 00:52:51,960
Speaker 1: and to build the capacity to hold that. Like you said,

965
00:52:52,000 --> 00:52:54,560
Speaker 1: a lot of men like divert their eyes or draw

966
00:52:54,600 --> 00:52:58,200
Speaker 1: their attention elsewhere, um, instead of like deeply connecting, because

967
00:52:58,200 --> 00:53:00,560
Speaker 1: it can be a lot to hold. And so a

968
00:53:00,600 --> 00:53:04,160
Speaker 1: man has to be deeply present within him embodied within

969
00:53:04,280 --> 00:53:07,280
Speaker 1: himself to be able to show up for a woman.

970
00:53:08,120 --> 00:53:09,920
Speaker 1: You guys talk about sex a lot in the podcast,

971
00:53:10,760 --> 00:53:13,920
Speaker 1: and um, here should we get a little should we

972
00:53:14,000 --> 00:53:18,319
Speaker 1: like be a little revealing right now? Yeah, it's okay.

973
00:53:18,400 --> 00:53:20,920
Speaker 1: So everybody knows that I was you know, I was

974
00:53:20,960 --> 00:53:23,359
Speaker 1: a virgin for a long time. That was my thing

975
00:53:23,480 --> 00:53:26,640
Speaker 1: on the Bachelor, And um, I think because I started

976
00:53:26,719 --> 00:53:29,200
Speaker 1: later in life, I like have this thing where like

977
00:53:29,239 --> 00:53:32,040
Speaker 1: I have such a hard time feeling sexy, Like I

978
00:53:32,080 --> 00:53:36,680
Speaker 1: cannot present myself as sexy. Like I can feel hot,

979
00:53:36,719 --> 00:53:37,880
Speaker 1: like I can look in the mirror and be like

980
00:53:37,920 --> 00:53:39,840
Speaker 1: you're having a really good day, like you're really pretty,

981
00:53:39,880 --> 00:53:42,840
Speaker 1: but like I can't like be sexy, So like I

982
00:53:42,880 --> 00:53:46,440
Speaker 1: need advice from you ladies. Look things like I can

983
00:53:46,520 --> 00:53:48,439
Speaker 1: feel like I look in the mirror and I'd be like, yeah,

984
00:53:48,440 --> 00:53:50,799
Speaker 1: it look good, but like I can't like like put

985
00:53:50,840 --> 00:53:53,440
Speaker 1: on like a sexy persona. It's so interesting to hear

986
00:53:53,480 --> 00:53:56,000
Speaker 1: you say that, because your body language is sexy and

987
00:53:56,040 --> 00:53:58,840
Speaker 1: you are as like a sexy woman exuding that. And

988
00:53:58,920 --> 00:54:01,800
Speaker 1: this is an amazing inversation because it comes from within

989
00:54:01,960 --> 00:54:04,239
Speaker 1: such a deep place. And what we're talking about a

990
00:54:04,239 --> 00:54:06,440
Speaker 1: lot on our podcast is about getting in touch and

991
00:54:06,480 --> 00:54:09,960
Speaker 1: dialing in and discovering and tapping into all of the

992
00:54:10,080 --> 00:54:13,560
Speaker 1: powerful feminine qualities that we all possess and sort of

993
00:54:13,560 --> 00:54:16,359
Speaker 1: owning that and giving ourselves permission. We talk a lot

994
00:54:16,440 --> 00:54:20,000
Speaker 1: about permission to feel, to discover and to find freedom

995
00:54:20,040 --> 00:54:21,680
Speaker 1: in that. And like I look at you, even the

996
00:54:21,719 --> 00:54:25,440
Speaker 1: way you are moving, you're so sexy in your in

997
00:54:25,480 --> 00:54:28,120
Speaker 1: your body language. So it's about I think, changing your

998
00:54:28,120 --> 00:54:31,839
Speaker 1: inner dialogue and you know that inner messaging um and

999
00:54:31,880 --> 00:54:35,320
Speaker 1: feeling it from a deep, authentic place because it's actually

1000
00:54:35,320 --> 00:54:37,800
Speaker 1: already happening. You might be in a little wit denial,

1001
00:54:38,120 --> 00:54:41,200
Speaker 1: thank you. I think. I think it's definitely my sister, who,

1002
00:54:41,239 --> 00:54:43,160
Speaker 1: like I know, I blame her for this all the time.

1003
00:54:43,480 --> 00:54:46,000
Speaker 1: It's because like all of my twenties, she was like, actually,

1004
00:54:46,040 --> 00:54:47,719
Speaker 1: oh my god, you're so awkward. Oh my god, you're

1005
00:54:47,760 --> 00:54:49,640
Speaker 1: so awkward, Like I can't ever imagine you like that.

1006
00:54:49,680 --> 00:54:54,080
Speaker 1: And I really think that it went to my soul. Yeah. Yeah, well,

1007
00:54:54,120 --> 00:54:59,440
Speaker 1: you know when you are very sexy. Let me say this,

1008
00:54:59,640 --> 00:55:02,200
Speaker 1: I do you think you are awkward, But that's your

1009
00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:05,120
Speaker 1: your that's your person, that's who you are, that's your

1010
00:55:05,120 --> 00:55:08,560
Speaker 1: most endearing quality. But I also think it goes back,

1011
00:55:09,080 --> 00:55:12,640
Speaker 1: if I'm being honest, to confidence, because it's so confident

1012
00:55:12,719 --> 00:55:17,600
Speaker 1: in every other territory. That's let me let me explained.

1013
00:55:17,640 --> 00:55:20,040
Speaker 1: I think even Brook, like you guys, you leaders, are

1014
00:55:20,080 --> 00:55:23,000
Speaker 1: saying Ashley is very sexy right now because she's in

1015
00:55:23,040 --> 00:55:26,600
Speaker 1: a podcast studio on a mike, very confident because she

1016
00:55:26,640 --> 00:55:28,520
Speaker 1: does this all the time, and this is like this

1017
00:55:28,600 --> 00:55:31,279
Speaker 1: is your this is your thing. You know, you know, like, hey,

1018
00:55:31,320 --> 00:55:33,520
Speaker 1: I got this, I can interview like a podcast, I

1019
00:55:33,520 --> 00:55:36,399
Speaker 1: can talk. You're very confident in that area. I think

1020
00:55:36,440 --> 00:55:39,759
Speaker 1: sometimes because everybody well knows you might be a little

1021
00:55:39,800 --> 00:55:44,040
Speaker 1: inexperienced in some aspects of relationships, you lack the confidence,

1022
00:55:44,080 --> 00:55:48,120
Speaker 1: and I think your awkwardness comes out because you're also

1023
00:55:48,200 --> 00:55:52,040
Speaker 1: the person that you can't hide anything. So when you

1024
00:55:52,120 --> 00:55:56,160
Speaker 1: are feeling awkward, you are putting that vibe out and

1025
00:55:56,200 --> 00:55:59,680
Speaker 1: you're like, I don't feel comfortable, and I'm I am

1026
00:55:59,680 --> 00:56:01,759
Speaker 1: I do is this not good? Like, I don't know,

1027
00:56:03,160 --> 00:56:05,839
Speaker 1: and it's sort of adorable. But don't we all feel

1028
00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:09,239
Speaker 1: awkward at times? Awkward at times? Well yeah, otherwise we'd

1029
00:56:09,239 --> 00:56:11,640
Speaker 1: just be arrogant, we'd be like walking around owning it

1030
00:56:11,680 --> 00:56:13,759
Speaker 1: and it wouldn't be as attractive. So that might be

1031
00:56:13,840 --> 00:56:17,400
Speaker 1: your most attractive quality. But when you tap into that,

1032
00:56:17,400 --> 00:56:24,239
Speaker 1: that's sensual confidence. Girl, it's an it's sexy that you know.

1033
00:56:24,440 --> 00:56:27,879
Speaker 1: It's not like what someone looks like. It's what how

1034
00:56:27,920 --> 00:56:31,319
Speaker 1: they are feeling and that coming through you know, it's

1035
00:56:31,440 --> 00:56:35,160
Speaker 1: um it's really an energy. It's someone who is feeling themselves.

1036
00:56:35,160 --> 00:56:38,600
Speaker 1: You can see like someone who isn't what we deem

1037
00:56:38,680 --> 00:56:40,879
Speaker 1: to be sexy walking down the street. But if if

1038
00:56:40,920 --> 00:56:44,800
Speaker 1: that person is feeling themselves so they are their senses

1039
00:56:44,840 --> 00:56:48,360
Speaker 1: are alive and that is emanating through their body, that

1040
00:56:48,560 --> 00:56:51,520
Speaker 1: is sexy. And that's what we're seeing in you right

1041
00:56:51,560 --> 00:56:54,200
Speaker 1: here when you're talking and you can I can see

1042
00:56:54,320 --> 00:56:56,640
Speaker 1: and feel all the energy moving from your body and

1043
00:56:56,680 --> 00:57:01,680
Speaker 1: it's coming out. Damn, you're really you're you're feeding me that.

1044
00:57:01,960 --> 00:57:03,560
Speaker 1: We're going to talk about this on our in our

1045
00:57:03,600 --> 00:57:07,239
Speaker 1: next episode. I think on Monday. B D E b

1046
00:57:07,400 --> 00:57:10,920
Speaker 1: D is so it's big dick energy. Yeah, Like and

1047
00:57:11,000 --> 00:57:13,919
Speaker 1: guys have it, like a really confident like centual dude

1048
00:57:13,920 --> 00:57:16,520
Speaker 1: will have b D And it's not necessarily a compliment

1049
00:57:16,640 --> 00:57:19,560
Speaker 1: or a bad thing, just it is. But women can

1050
00:57:19,640 --> 00:57:22,200
Speaker 1: have it as well. So it's this, it's this like

1051
00:57:23,360 --> 00:57:27,320
Speaker 1: it's like a confidence like a it's like, um, not

1052
00:57:27,400 --> 00:57:31,080
Speaker 1: an ambiance if you will. And it's interesting and it's

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00:57:31,160 --> 00:57:34,640
Speaker 1: kind of like this powerful feeling. I feel like that's

1054
00:57:34,640 --> 00:57:39,080
Speaker 1: what Pete Davidson has and that's why he gang. Okay,

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00:57:39,120 --> 00:57:41,360
Speaker 1: if you Urban Dictionary b d E because I have

1056
00:57:41,800 --> 00:57:45,160
Speaker 1: his name is on there. There we go, because like

1057
00:57:45,240 --> 00:57:48,040
Speaker 1: he's cutesy and he's super funny. But like it's because

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00:57:48,880 --> 00:57:54,520
Speaker 1: Dictionary know where we know what. We thank God for

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00:57:54,600 --> 00:57:59,040
Speaker 1: the Urban Dictionary, right we are learning back in the scene.

1060
00:57:59,080 --> 00:58:02,120
Speaker 1: I gotta I gotta like learning these these acronyms. I

1061
00:58:02,160 --> 00:58:04,400
Speaker 1: haven't make it a nightcrack about that kind of stuff

1062
00:58:04,520 --> 00:58:08,040
Speaker 1: that because we're like Google searching, like searching. Oh yeah,

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00:58:08,080 --> 00:58:10,720
Speaker 1: I have this. So I thought i'd bring this up

1064
00:58:10,720 --> 00:58:13,680
Speaker 1: on this podcast because I have this sponsorship with k

1065
00:58:13,960 --> 00:58:18,840
Speaker 1: Y coming up and their new acronym is um. It's

1066
00:58:19,000 --> 00:58:23,560
Speaker 1: resting pleasured to face instead of resting bitch face. And

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00:58:23,840 --> 00:58:26,560
Speaker 1: I feel like lube is one of those taboo things

1068
00:58:26,880 --> 00:58:29,760
Speaker 1: with sex. What do you think is a taboo that

1069
00:58:29,800 --> 00:58:31,800
Speaker 1: people just need to get over and be like, you know,

1070
00:58:31,880 --> 00:58:34,120
Speaker 1: we should just talk about it. I didn't add with

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00:58:34,200 --> 00:58:37,040
Speaker 1: them last year for Valentine's n and I was and

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00:58:37,080 --> 00:58:40,160
Speaker 1: I was like a little bit nervous. Yeah, but I

1073
00:58:40,200 --> 00:58:43,120
Speaker 1: was like, you know what, I have sex and I

1074
00:58:43,160 --> 00:58:45,400
Speaker 1: am okay with that, So like, why am I not

1075
00:58:45,560 --> 00:58:48,000
Speaker 1: okay with telling the public that I have sex? Love?

1076
00:58:48,080 --> 00:58:51,920
Speaker 1: And I did that, right girl, That's good. And I

1077
00:58:52,000 --> 00:58:54,840
Speaker 1: get why you're a little like hesitant that accomplign like that.

1078
00:58:54,920 --> 00:58:56,920
Speaker 1: I get it. But it was empowering because we all

1079
00:58:56,960 --> 00:59:00,360
Speaker 1: do it. Yeah, and like we do like lube, right, yeah,

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00:59:00,680 --> 00:59:03,840
Speaker 1: we do. No, I'm glad to do that because I

1081
00:59:03,840 --> 00:59:05,760
Speaker 1: do think that, like, as a society, we should be

1082
00:59:05,760 --> 00:59:08,840
Speaker 1: talking more about sex because the only way it doesn't

1083
00:59:08,880 --> 00:59:11,640
Speaker 1: become a taboo topic is is if people are rave

1084
00:59:11,760 --> 00:59:13,919
Speaker 1: enough to talk about it And lube is a great

1085
00:59:13,920 --> 00:59:17,520
Speaker 1: example of because people always feel weird about talking about luke,

1086
00:59:17,600 --> 00:59:19,240
Speaker 1: but it is a part of sex. I mean, like

1087
00:59:19,280 --> 00:59:22,880
Speaker 1: we talked about there's like it's a great way drug. Yeah,

1088
00:59:23,760 --> 00:59:26,480
Speaker 1: remind me in our next episode to bring something up

1089
00:59:26,520 --> 00:59:29,520
Speaker 1: that I won't get into right now in the loop department. Okay,

1090
00:59:29,640 --> 00:59:33,400
Speaker 1: do not let me forget Okay, talking about and coconut

1091
00:59:33,400 --> 00:59:35,919
Speaker 1: oil and don't don't let me coconut oil I heard

1092
00:59:36,000 --> 00:59:39,280
Speaker 1: was not good because like oil can like make little

1093
00:59:39,320 --> 00:59:44,640
Speaker 1: cuts or something. No, it's good for everything and everything.

1094
00:59:46,400 --> 00:59:48,680
Speaker 1: I have false information. Don't listen to me. I have

1095
00:59:48,760 --> 00:59:51,760
Speaker 1: two more questions for you, ladies. Um, I have a

1096
00:59:51,800 --> 00:59:54,240
Speaker 1: friend right now who has gone on two dates with

1097
00:59:54,280 --> 00:59:57,920
Speaker 1: a guy. She likes him a lot, The conversation is great,

1098
00:59:58,280 --> 01:00:02,520
Speaker 1: they have a great energy between them. Um, but she

1099
01:00:02,720 --> 01:00:06,960
Speaker 1: like doesn't feel like it's her person. Do you think

1100
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:09,800
Speaker 1: that you always have to give three dates? Because that's

1101
01:00:09,840 --> 01:00:12,880
Speaker 1: always been the rule that my mom taught me that

1102
01:00:13,480 --> 01:00:16,920
Speaker 1: my my sister in law, she wasn't sure about my

1103
01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:20,400
Speaker 1: brother in law until the third date. I feel like

1104
01:00:20,400 --> 01:00:22,520
Speaker 1: the third day is a magical number, and I'm just

1105
01:00:22,840 --> 01:00:24,960
Speaker 1: should she give him the third day or like if

1106
01:00:25,000 --> 01:00:28,480
Speaker 1: you're if you're not feeling it's your forever person by

1107
01:00:28,560 --> 01:00:30,880
Speaker 1: date to then you just got I don't know about

1108
01:00:30,920 --> 01:00:34,960
Speaker 1: what forever person, Maybe not forever if you're not excited,

1109
01:00:35,000 --> 01:00:37,400
Speaker 1: I guess for a third date. If you're not excited

1110
01:00:37,440 --> 01:00:39,720
Speaker 1: for a third date, do you go on one just

1111
01:00:39,760 --> 01:00:42,960
Speaker 1: to like give it it's all, or do you cut

1112
01:00:43,000 --> 01:00:45,320
Speaker 1: it off at the second day? Three dates For me

1113
01:00:45,440 --> 01:00:49,240
Speaker 1: seems like a great investment of time. I mean, maybe

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01:00:49,240 --> 01:00:51,080
Speaker 1: you get to the second date. If you I mean,

1115
01:00:51,080 --> 01:00:55,280
Speaker 1: I don't know, Like yeah, you're like I have kids,

1116
01:00:55,320 --> 01:00:57,520
Speaker 1: Like you know, who the hell has that kind of time?

1117
01:00:58,720 --> 01:01:02,320
Speaker 1: I'd rather tell it, I say, follow. I think she

1118
01:01:02,320 --> 01:01:04,440
Speaker 1: should follow her guy fellow, her instinct. She doesn't have

1119
01:01:04,520 --> 01:01:07,800
Speaker 1: to have reasons and kind of have logical explanations for

1120
01:01:07,920 --> 01:01:11,160
Speaker 1: how she's actually feeling. That's what that's what she to

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01:01:11,360 --> 01:01:14,200
Speaker 1: be guided by. Like on paper he's good, but like

1122
01:01:14,240 --> 01:01:17,200
Speaker 1: there's something in his in her gut that says that

1123
01:01:17,360 --> 01:01:19,440
Speaker 1: is going to be nagging at her or if she

1124
01:01:21,360 --> 01:01:25,480
Speaker 1: or not, if or if it continues that first thought

1125
01:01:25,600 --> 01:01:28,360
Speaker 1: and impulses going to I think we should be talking

1126
01:01:28,400 --> 01:01:31,840
Speaker 1: ourselves out of that gut feeling and compromising like at

1127
01:01:31,840 --> 01:01:35,520
Speaker 1: the stage, and we're championing the mind over what is felt.

1128
01:01:35,600 --> 01:01:39,640
Speaker 1: And I think that's a huge mistake. Actually, I love that, Like,

1129
01:01:39,840 --> 01:01:42,360
Speaker 1: don't champion the mind over what your heart and your

1130
01:01:42,360 --> 01:01:45,440
Speaker 1: gut are saying. We're obsessed by what says rather than

1131
01:01:47,560 --> 01:01:50,439
Speaker 1: I also have another friend who is seeing a guy

1132
01:01:50,480 --> 01:01:53,440
Speaker 1: that she really likes, but the kissing is bad. What

1133
01:01:53,480 --> 01:02:02,040
Speaker 1: do you do? Get out? Run run back. I've definitely

1134
01:02:02,080 --> 01:02:08,440
Speaker 1: trained a few people. I think they can be trained. Absolutely.

1135
01:02:08,800 --> 01:02:11,480
Speaker 1: I think there's a lot of misleading. You might have

1136
01:02:11,520 --> 01:02:15,760
Speaker 1: had some very misleading information before, and so I think

1137
01:02:15,840 --> 01:02:20,040
Speaker 1: he's likely could be trained. So another girl may have

1138
01:02:20,120 --> 01:02:25,240
Speaker 1: given him bad lessons, bad feedback. Everybody needs feedback, especially

1139
01:02:25,240 --> 01:02:29,080
Speaker 1: without our bodies, Like I think I think we need

1140
01:02:29,120 --> 01:02:32,640
Speaker 1: some roadmaps. Is like, no, I dump it. I just

1141
01:02:32,680 --> 01:02:34,800
Speaker 1: feel like I've raised for children. I'm looking at me

1142
01:02:34,880 --> 01:02:37,120
Speaker 1: and going training right now. You know hard we're working

1143
01:02:37,120 --> 01:02:38,680
Speaker 1: on to like we design our lives and raise our

1144
01:02:38,760 --> 01:02:40,919
Speaker 1: kids like I would like long term maybe if it's

1145
01:02:40,920 --> 01:02:45,280
Speaker 1: your but just providing some value information like a little

1146
01:02:45,320 --> 01:02:50,160
Speaker 1: to the left. You know that's valuable. And I've glows

1147
01:02:51,320 --> 01:02:54,200
Speaker 1: back and a little bit slower. I'm looking at my

1148
01:02:54,280 --> 01:02:56,000
Speaker 1: husband now, and I know that this man doesn't like

1149
01:02:56,040 --> 01:02:59,000
Speaker 1: criticism and nic kind. What's your mail take on that

1150
01:02:59,360 --> 01:03:01,520
Speaker 1: you can give him tips? Or is he going to

1151
01:03:01,600 --> 01:03:04,480
Speaker 1: take that bad? I mean guys have big egos, so

1152
01:03:04,600 --> 01:03:07,240
Speaker 1: it might not. I think it's probably what's best for him,

1153
01:03:07,240 --> 01:03:09,400
Speaker 1: but they probably won't take it the best. Guess what

1154
01:03:09,440 --> 01:03:11,479
Speaker 1: about I guess the delivery of the style in which

1155
01:03:11,560 --> 01:03:17,280
Speaker 1: somebody Well, of course, Cosmo always like, love it when

1156
01:03:17,280 --> 01:03:19,720
Speaker 1: you do this, even if he's not doing it like that.

1157
01:03:20,040 --> 01:03:24,360
Speaker 1: I think that's legit good. Yeah, say that again. Cosmo

1158
01:03:24,440 --> 01:03:26,240
Speaker 1: will suggest that you're like, oh, I love it when

1159
01:03:26,280 --> 01:03:29,040
Speaker 1: you do this. It's like, you know, like you try

1160
01:03:29,080 --> 01:03:31,040
Speaker 1: to point them to the right direction and instead of

1161
01:03:31,040 --> 01:03:34,080
Speaker 1: telling him what's wrong. Yeah, that makes sense. Alright, Well, ladies,

1162
01:03:34,080 --> 01:03:37,160
Speaker 1: this listen. This has been so much fun. I want

1163
01:03:37,160 --> 01:03:41,280
Speaker 1: to be on your podcast. Okay, Well, we also want

1164
01:03:41,320 --> 01:03:42,960
Speaker 1: to know what people want us to talk about and

1165
01:03:42,960 --> 01:03:45,120
Speaker 1: what they think, and so we're sort of developing this

1166
01:03:45,200 --> 01:03:48,760
Speaker 1: and evolving this for everyone because it's such a personal conversation.

1167
01:03:48,840 --> 01:03:52,520
Speaker 1: So yeah to us, yeah, god, Dad, give it to us.

1168
01:03:52,560 --> 01:03:55,440
Speaker 1: Sounds good. Maybe I'll just like drop in the studio

1169
01:03:55,600 --> 01:03:58,920
Speaker 1: sometime when you're recordings and they come out Monday's. That's right,

1170
01:03:58,960 --> 01:04:01,800
Speaker 1: every Monday. I knew episod own and knowledge. Thanks for

1171
01:04:01,840 --> 01:04:15,120
Speaker 1: having Thank you so much, Thank you, Thank you all. Right, next, guest,

1172
01:04:15,280 --> 01:04:17,920
Speaker 1: I know we keep rolling through them. This is insane.

1173
01:04:18,000 --> 01:04:21,720
Speaker 1: We have Yardley Smith. She is most famous for her

1174
01:04:21,800 --> 01:04:24,080
Speaker 1: role as Lisa Simpson on The Simpsons for the past

1175
01:04:24,280 --> 01:04:27,560
Speaker 1: thirty years. Lisa Simpson is as old as me. Well,

1176
01:04:27,600 --> 01:04:30,360
Speaker 1: actually I'm a year older than her, but still, Um,

1177
01:04:30,400 --> 01:04:34,600
Speaker 1: you're Yardley is an actress, a producer, a writer. You

1178
01:04:34,720 --> 01:04:38,200
Speaker 1: have been everywhere TV, Broadway, You've been as good as

1179
01:04:38,200 --> 01:04:41,040
Speaker 1: it gets Dharma and Gregg, the Tracy Yelloman Show. And

1180
01:04:41,120 --> 01:04:45,080
Speaker 1: now you have a podcast called small Town, Big Dicks,

1181
01:04:45,440 --> 01:04:50,360
Speaker 1: Big Crime, Big time crime happening in small town USA.

1182
01:04:50,800 --> 01:04:53,640
Speaker 1: How do we go from all that comedy to a

1183
01:04:53,800 --> 01:04:58,400
Speaker 1: true crime podcast? Actually, it's it's just small town Dix,

1184
01:04:59,200 --> 01:05:02,720
Speaker 1: smalltown Dick. I don't know the tagline. We've made a

1185
01:05:02,760 --> 01:05:06,200
Speaker 1: tagline for you if you will get thanks, thanks for that. Uh.

1186
01:05:06,240 --> 01:05:10,320
Speaker 1: Dick's being the the noir slang for detective. Um you know?

1187
01:05:10,920 --> 01:05:15,760
Speaker 1: I oh? Is that why? Like they called him Dick Tracy. Yes, yes,

1188
01:05:16,960 --> 01:05:22,240
Speaker 1: learning things all the time on the almost famous podcast. UM.

1189
01:05:22,880 --> 01:05:28,680
Speaker 1: I have always been fascinated by people who aren't interested

1190
01:05:28,720 --> 01:05:30,760
Speaker 1: in following the rules that the rest of us following

1191
01:05:30,880 --> 01:05:35,160
Speaker 1: order for society to function well. And then since there

1192
01:05:35,160 --> 01:05:37,080
Speaker 1: are those people in the world, I also want to

1193
01:05:37,080 --> 01:05:39,000
Speaker 1: know that there is another group of people that are

1194
01:05:39,040 --> 01:05:41,920
Speaker 1: willing to put the train back on the tracks in

1195
01:05:42,040 --> 01:05:45,080
Speaker 1: order for society to continue to function well. So that

1196
01:05:45,120 --> 01:05:48,080
Speaker 1: means that I want to know that there's law enforcement

1197
01:05:48,240 --> 01:05:51,160
Speaker 1: who take their job really seriously, who feel that it

1198
01:05:51,240 --> 01:05:53,800
Speaker 1: is a calling and not just a job, who are

1199
01:05:53,840 --> 01:05:58,280
Speaker 1: willing to line up all the dominoes exactly right. And

1200
01:05:58,480 --> 01:06:01,560
Speaker 1: what I've learned on our podcast is that in order

1201
01:06:01,560 --> 01:06:05,080
Speaker 1: for an investigation to result in justice, you have no

1202
01:06:05,200 --> 01:06:09,920
Speaker 1: idea how much granular detail needs to be put in

1203
01:06:10,000 --> 01:06:12,959
Speaker 1: place in order for all of these things to line

1204
01:06:13,040 --> 01:06:15,280
Speaker 1: up precisely, in order for a d A to file,

1205
01:06:15,360 --> 01:06:20,200
Speaker 1: in order for justice to be served, so that this perpetrator,

1206
01:06:20,360 --> 01:06:25,280
Speaker 1: this criminal who has been who has committed a crime

1207
01:06:25,320 --> 01:06:29,400
Speaker 1: against a person, against a home, against you know, society

1208
01:06:29,800 --> 01:06:32,600
Speaker 1: can be put in jail and we all feel a

1209
01:06:32,600 --> 01:06:38,320
Speaker 1: little bit safer. Have you watched with cats? You know?

1210
01:06:38,480 --> 01:06:41,400
Speaker 1: I've Actually it's so funny you say that because about

1211
01:06:41,520 --> 01:06:43,880
Speaker 1: seven people say yardly, because I love cats, I have

1212
01:06:44,000 --> 01:06:47,760
Speaker 1: two cats, You've got to watch with cats and that

1213
01:06:47,880 --> 01:06:49,840
Speaker 1: I'm like okay, well and they're like okay, but there's

1214
01:06:49,880 --> 01:06:53,800
Speaker 1: just you know, they don't show you what to the cats,

1215
01:06:54,120 --> 01:06:56,000
Speaker 1: but you know, it's kind I'm like, Okay, I'm not sure,

1216
01:06:56,040 --> 01:06:59,960
Speaker 1: I gotta I think you should watch it because especially

1217
01:07:00,080 --> 01:07:04,200
Speaker 1: you're so interested on the side of the people trying

1218
01:07:04,280 --> 01:07:06,439
Speaker 1: to do good and get these people in jail. You'll

1219
01:07:06,480 --> 01:07:10,360
Speaker 1: see like this huge Facebook community I know what happened

1220
01:07:10,680 --> 01:07:15,000
Speaker 1: Like it's a community of like regular non criminal expert

1221
01:07:15,720 --> 01:07:18,960
Speaker 1: and who say, dude, law enforcement listened to me. There

1222
01:07:19,000 --> 01:07:21,520
Speaker 1: is a dude who's killing kittens and he's going to

1223
01:07:21,720 --> 01:07:24,800
Speaker 1: escalate and he's gonna start killing people and guess what,

1224
01:07:24,960 --> 01:07:28,120
Speaker 1: oh he did. It was fascinating to see like how

1225
01:07:28,200 --> 01:07:33,400
Speaker 1: behind the times the real professionals were there. It is, um,

1226
01:07:33,440 --> 01:07:37,040
Speaker 1: you know, it's it's really all those stories are so

1227
01:07:37,160 --> 01:07:40,360
Speaker 1: interesting because when you think about what we have learned

1228
01:07:40,360 --> 01:07:43,000
Speaker 1: from our detectives, because all of the cases on our

1229
01:07:43,200 --> 01:07:46,680
Speaker 1: podcast are told by the detectives who investigated the case,

1230
01:07:47,480 --> 01:07:50,920
Speaker 1: so which is really quite unusual in the podcast space.

1231
01:07:51,000 --> 01:07:54,400
Speaker 1: You see it much more on television. So, um, what

1232
01:07:54,440 --> 01:07:58,479
Speaker 1: we've learned is that the case load never gets less, right,

1233
01:07:58,720 --> 01:08:02,640
Speaker 1: there to do list never gets smaller. And they, as

1234
01:08:02,640 --> 01:08:05,000
Speaker 1: I said, they really consider their job of calling not

1235
01:08:05,160 --> 01:08:08,360
Speaker 1: just a job. And these cases really stick with them.

1236
01:08:08,440 --> 01:08:11,400
Speaker 1: So what I do on my side of the table,

1237
01:08:11,800 --> 01:08:14,320
Speaker 1: as the lay person is I want to know not

1238
01:08:14,440 --> 01:08:18,080
Speaker 1: just what it took to take this investigation from soup

1239
01:08:18,080 --> 01:08:21,200
Speaker 1: to nuts, but I want to know as a human being,

1240
01:08:21,800 --> 01:08:25,200
Speaker 1: when you are the person who pursues humanity, who sees

1241
01:08:25,240 --> 01:08:28,439
Speaker 1: the worst of humanity every single day, where does that

1242
01:08:28,479 --> 01:08:30,360
Speaker 1: live in you? When you have a family, if you

1243
01:08:30,439 --> 01:08:34,080
Speaker 1: have a wife or a husband, um and children, where

1244
01:08:34,080 --> 01:08:36,639
Speaker 1: does that go and you at the end of a day.

1245
01:08:36,800 --> 01:08:40,120
Speaker 1: A lot of those guys struggle, all of them. It's

1246
01:08:40,240 --> 01:08:43,040
Speaker 1: really really hard, and they all say, well, you know,

1247
01:08:43,160 --> 01:08:45,240
Speaker 1: we just put it in a box. But what's also

1248
01:08:45,280 --> 01:08:49,240
Speaker 1: true is the lock on that box isn't that good? Yeah,

1249
01:08:49,320 --> 01:08:52,439
Speaker 1: it's They have a lot inside them, and I think

1250
01:08:52,479 --> 01:08:55,840
Speaker 1: a lot of them struggle keep the struggle to keep

1251
01:08:55,840 --> 01:08:59,200
Speaker 1: it in. It's and you ultimately you can't really keep

1252
01:08:59,240 --> 01:09:02,120
Speaker 1: it in, and so they it's unhealthy. They process it

1253
01:09:02,160 --> 01:09:05,080
Speaker 1: with each other because they also feel like, no matter

1254
01:09:05,160 --> 01:09:08,160
Speaker 1: how close I am to you, the light person, right,

1255
01:09:08,280 --> 01:09:13,720
Speaker 1: my partner, my um, mother, my sister, my whatever, you

1256
01:09:13,800 --> 01:09:16,240
Speaker 1: have no idea what I've actually seen. You have no

1257
01:09:16,320 --> 01:09:19,120
Speaker 1: idea what it was like to try to do CPR

1258
01:09:19,160 --> 01:09:21,479
Speaker 1: on that baby and it didn't work. You have no

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01:09:21,560 --> 01:09:23,920
Speaker 1: idea what it was like to explain to those three

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01:09:24,000 --> 01:09:27,519
Speaker 1: children that they're dad just killed their mom and so

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01:09:28,320 --> 01:09:32,439
Speaker 1: those things. So they process those experiences with their fellow

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01:09:32,520 --> 01:09:37,160
Speaker 1: law enforcement personnel and then at the end of the day,

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01:09:37,200 --> 01:09:40,040
Speaker 1: as you say, I mean, there's a lot of sort

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01:09:40,040 --> 01:09:43,200
Speaker 1: of emotional stress that goes along with that, and so

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01:09:44,160 --> 01:09:47,240
Speaker 1: they're just I always feel like everybody has a story,

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01:09:47,320 --> 01:09:50,040
Speaker 1: no matter what the story is. Everybody feels like their

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01:09:50,080 --> 01:09:54,639
Speaker 1: story isn't that interesting, and everybody is wrong. Everybody's like, oh,

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01:09:54,680 --> 01:09:58,720
Speaker 1: it's boring, But like I'm compelled by a people's supposed

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01:09:58,760 --> 01:10:02,040
Speaker 1: boring stories. There's so wrong about that. It is the

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01:10:02,200 --> 01:10:05,120
Speaker 1: It's in the details, no matter what the details are.

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01:10:06,720 --> 01:10:09,240
Speaker 1: This week are the Aaron Hernande's story came out on

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01:10:09,280 --> 01:10:11,600
Speaker 1: and I watched it yes on Netflix. I finished it

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01:10:11,680 --> 01:10:13,800
Speaker 1: last night as well. My my husband and I are

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01:10:13,880 --> 01:10:17,680
Speaker 1: big Patriots fans, and he came into the bedroom of

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01:10:17,720 --> 01:10:19,160
Speaker 1: the morning it came out and he was like, the

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01:10:19,240 --> 01:10:22,760
Speaker 1: Aaron Hernande's documentary dropped him and I was like, Yay,

1277
01:10:23,000 --> 01:10:25,799
Speaker 1: We're gonna go watch it tonight. During what we eat dinner?

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01:10:25,800 --> 01:10:27,800
Speaker 1: It was like very exciting, and then I'm like this

1279
01:10:27,960 --> 01:10:30,800
Speaker 1: is so crazy, Like yeah, I'm excited to learn about

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01:10:31,040 --> 01:10:35,560
Speaker 1: this horrible story of multiple people dying, about this absolutely

1281
01:10:35,640 --> 01:10:38,160
Speaker 1: tormented man. Why do you think that we are so

1282
01:10:38,200 --> 01:10:44,320
Speaker 1: obsessed with true crime? Because I think that by and large,

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01:10:44,360 --> 01:10:48,519
Speaker 1: we recognize, like I said, that society only functions if

1284
01:10:48,520 --> 01:10:51,679
Speaker 1: we really do all abide by a certain set of rules.

1285
01:10:51,960 --> 01:10:55,400
Speaker 1: If we don't, we have complete and utter chaos. So

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01:10:56,000 --> 01:10:59,800
Speaker 1: who are these people who, especially the ones who are

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01:10:59,840 --> 01:11:04,439
Speaker 1: really successful and or gifted and or um, the ones

1288
01:11:04,479 --> 01:11:07,439
Speaker 1: who pulled themselves up by their bootstraps, like um, Aaron

1289
01:11:07,439 --> 01:11:11,800
Speaker 1: Hernandez who was had extraordinary talent as an athlete and

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01:11:11,920 --> 01:11:15,840
Speaker 1: he then made that into incredible opportunities. He made it

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01:11:15,880 --> 01:11:18,559
Speaker 1: onto the Patriots, right he was a fourth round draft pick.

1292
01:11:19,040 --> 01:11:21,400
Speaker 1: Then there was like, what the hell is happening? How

1293
01:11:21,439 --> 01:11:23,400
Speaker 1: come he hasn't been chosen? Oh my god, Oh my god.

1294
01:11:23,439 --> 01:11:26,800
Speaker 1: And then he becomes this huge star and then like okay, no, wait,

1295
01:11:26,880 --> 01:11:30,680
Speaker 1: what the is happening here? What? And he was this

1296
01:11:30,760 --> 01:11:33,479
Speaker 1: huge star and then everybody had to sort of pull

1297
01:11:33,560 --> 01:11:37,000
Speaker 1: on the reins and go, hang on, this isn't right.

1298
01:11:37,560 --> 01:11:41,439
Speaker 1: And I think there is a kind of a kind

1299
01:11:41,479 --> 01:11:46,200
Speaker 1: of is there is there anything inside of me that

1300
01:11:46,960 --> 01:11:49,960
Speaker 1: is like that? And if there isn't anything inside of

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01:11:50,000 --> 01:11:54,000
Speaker 1: me that's like that, how did he get like that? Right?

1302
01:11:54,360 --> 01:11:57,479
Speaker 1: And so if you watch that documentary, you'll see there's

1303
01:11:57,479 --> 01:12:00,639
Speaker 1: a theory that he had the brain in tree right

1304
01:12:00,720 --> 01:12:03,639
Speaker 1: at the very n C T e um. And then

1305
01:12:03,680 --> 01:12:06,559
Speaker 1: there is the well, he was gay and he couldn't

1306
01:12:06,600 --> 01:12:09,479
Speaker 1: handle that, And then there is though he was abused

1307
01:12:09,520 --> 01:12:12,760
Speaker 1: as a kid. There are so many theories, but at

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01:12:12,800 --> 01:12:15,040
Speaker 1: the end of the day will probably really never know.

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01:12:15,800 --> 01:12:19,879
Speaker 1: And so I think there's a fascination of what actually

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01:12:19,920 --> 01:12:22,240
Speaker 1: made him go over the edge. And then there are

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01:12:22,240 --> 01:12:24,120
Speaker 1: people who say, well, I don't think it was him.

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01:12:24,160 --> 01:12:26,960
Speaker 1: I don't think he actually pulled the trigger. But for

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01:12:27,280 --> 01:12:29,920
Speaker 1: I gotta tell you, So, I watched that documentary with

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01:12:30,640 --> 01:12:34,080
Speaker 1: Detective Dan. Right, Who's who? So? I co host my

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Speaker 1: podcast with Detective Dan and Detective Day for Identical Twins. Right,

1316
01:12:38,880 --> 01:12:43,599
Speaker 1: and so I watched that documentary Detective Dan, and he says,

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01:12:44,120 --> 01:12:47,479
Speaker 1: listen to me as a detective. A guy who gets

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01:12:47,479 --> 01:12:49,960
Speaker 1: in a car with four people, one of them ends

1319
01:12:50,040 --> 01:12:53,400
Speaker 1: up dead half a mile from the house of Aaron Hernandez,

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01:12:53,439 --> 01:12:56,439
Speaker 1: who then goes into his house, goes into his basement

1321
01:12:56,600 --> 01:13:00,519
Speaker 1: and comes out with a glock that the dude was

1322
01:13:00,640 --> 01:13:04,599
Speaker 1: that Odin was killed with. Half an hour later and

1323
01:13:04,960 --> 01:13:07,280
Speaker 1: his lawyer is going, it could have been an iPad

1324
01:13:07,680 --> 01:13:10,759
Speaker 1: or a cell phone. Dan is like, dude, that's not true.

1325
01:13:10,920 --> 01:13:14,840
Speaker 1: That's a glock like a little burry and oh it

1326
01:13:14,880 --> 01:13:20,240
Speaker 1: could yeah, it's we don't really know it's it has

1327
01:13:20,280 --> 01:13:25,639
Speaker 1: a very specific um shape to it, that gun. And so,

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01:13:26,560 --> 01:13:30,400
Speaker 1: you know, it's really fascinating to watch. I only so

1329
01:13:30,600 --> 01:13:34,120
Speaker 1: it's ruined doing the true crime podcast is actually ruined

1330
01:13:34,720 --> 01:13:39,519
Speaker 1: um uh, scripted true crime, scripted crime shows for me,

1331
01:13:39,960 --> 01:13:42,439
Speaker 1: because now I'm like, ah, that's crime Light. I can't

1332
01:13:42,479 --> 01:13:46,120
Speaker 1: watch that now. I only want to watch Oxygen and

1333
01:13:46,200 --> 01:13:48,720
Speaker 1: I D Discovery and stuff and stuff like that. And

1334
01:13:48,800 --> 01:13:53,520
Speaker 1: it's really fascinating to watch it from a real detective's

1335
01:13:53,600 --> 01:13:56,519
Speaker 1: point of view, because of course he'll always tell you

1336
01:13:56,560 --> 01:13:59,080
Speaker 1: in the first two minutes, like, ah, I'll tell you

1337
01:13:59,120 --> 01:14:03,479
Speaker 1: who I'm like. Also, it's like, my dad's a doctor

1338
01:14:03,520 --> 01:14:05,680
Speaker 1: and you can't watch Gray's Anatomy with him because he's

1339
01:14:05,720 --> 01:14:09,840
Speaker 1: like this says both like all the entire episode, the

1340
01:14:09,920 --> 01:14:12,160
Speaker 1: same with the same with Dan He's like, the badge

1341
01:14:12,200 --> 01:14:14,600
Speaker 1: is in the wrong place. That's not how you hold

1342
01:14:14,360 --> 01:14:16,320
Speaker 1: Then never do that. You can never enter a room

1343
01:14:16,360 --> 01:14:18,439
Speaker 1: that way. I'm like, could you just I'm just it's

1344
01:14:18,479 --> 01:14:22,559
Speaker 1: just television. It's television. Yes, enjoy it, right, Yes. My

1345
01:14:22,640 --> 01:14:25,639
Speaker 1: last question for you is, of all the podcasts you've

1346
01:14:25,680 --> 01:14:28,880
Speaker 1: done thus far, what's the story that sticks out to

1347
01:14:28,920 --> 01:14:32,479
Speaker 1: you the most that will really sell our audience to

1348
01:14:32,640 --> 01:14:37,280
Speaker 1: listen to your podcast. Oh gosh, um, really there are

1349
01:14:37,520 --> 01:14:40,320
Speaker 1: We've done over seventy episodes now we just closed our

1350
01:14:40,360 --> 01:14:42,759
Speaker 1: fifth season, although we're only about two and a half

1351
01:14:43,240 --> 01:14:46,719
Speaker 1: years old. There are two. I'll give you two because

1352
01:14:46,720 --> 01:14:48,720
Speaker 1: I can't. It's trying to like trying to pick your

1353
01:14:48,720 --> 01:14:51,040
Speaker 1: favorite child, but we don't want you to make Sophie,

1354
01:14:51,280 --> 01:14:54,040
Speaker 1: thank you, thank you. Um. We have one four part

1355
01:14:54,080 --> 01:14:56,840
Speaker 1: series in season one called The Sociopath and the Whistleblower,

1356
01:14:56,880 --> 01:15:01,400
Speaker 1: which is about one of our detect tis investigating a

1357
01:15:01,439 --> 01:15:05,080
Speaker 1: bad cop on his own police force, which is fascinating

1358
01:15:05,240 --> 01:15:09,840
Speaker 1: and heartbreaking and it ruined the whole small town. And

1359
01:15:09,880 --> 01:15:12,599
Speaker 1: then we have another one that aired at the end

1360
01:15:12,680 --> 01:15:16,960
Speaker 1: of this past season five, which just aired about a

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01:15:17,000 --> 01:15:22,120
Speaker 1: man who executed a guy when he was fourteen years

1362
01:15:22,160 --> 01:15:26,280
Speaker 1: old and was put away for seventeen years and got

1363
01:15:26,320 --> 01:15:31,040
Speaker 1: out on um a thing called a second look. Uh.

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01:15:31,200 --> 01:15:33,800
Speaker 1: We actually on our podcast, we don't give any of

1365
01:15:33,800 --> 01:15:35,760
Speaker 1: the names or places where the crimes took place. But

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01:15:35,840 --> 01:15:37,760
Speaker 1: in the second case, exactly because you don't want to

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01:15:37,760 --> 01:15:40,800
Speaker 1: give fame to the criminals. Um. We actually it's out

1368
01:15:40,840 --> 01:15:42,600
Speaker 1: of respect for the victims. Okay, I was going to

1369
01:15:42,680 --> 01:15:47,439
Speaker 1: say that's on the other side, yes, yes, And also

1370
01:15:47,479 --> 01:15:50,559
Speaker 1: because many of our detectives are still working, and so

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01:15:50,800 --> 01:15:52,800
Speaker 1: we don't want any of them ever to be on

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01:15:52,880 --> 01:15:55,920
Speaker 1: the stand and have a prosecutor going. So you're part

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01:15:55,960 --> 01:16:00,160
Speaker 1: of that podcast called small Town Dicks, right, so, Um,

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01:16:00,160 --> 01:16:03,360
Speaker 1: but this guy, his name is Trevor Walraven and because

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01:16:03,920 --> 01:16:07,760
Speaker 1: his case is quite famous, Um, he executed a man

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01:16:08,640 --> 01:16:10,880
Speaker 1: when he was fourteen years old, and then he got

1377
01:16:10,880 --> 01:16:14,720
Speaker 1: caught a week later, and he doing what after you

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01:16:14,760 --> 01:16:16,519
Speaker 1: got a week after he got out of jail, he

1379
01:16:16,520 --> 01:16:19,559
Speaker 1: got caught doing no. No, he got caught for having

1380
01:16:19,640 --> 01:16:22,840
Speaker 1: murdered this man a week later. So and then he

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01:16:22,920 --> 01:16:26,040
Speaker 1: got put in prison for seventeen years and now he's

1382
01:16:26,040 --> 01:16:30,280
Speaker 1: out and now he's an advocate for youth offenders. And

1383
01:16:30,439 --> 01:16:34,160
Speaker 1: it's a fascinating two part interview. Yeah, and you can

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01:16:34,240 --> 01:16:37,120
Speaker 1: get our podcast everywhere you like to listen, so Apple

1385
01:16:37,160 --> 01:16:41,480
Speaker 1: podcast as your Google play, um, you name it, We're there.

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01:16:41,800 --> 01:16:45,759
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Has been so cool. You're cool.

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Speaker 1: started this podcast, Easton asked me, He's like, is it

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Speaker 1: harder to come up with questions for your actual close

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Speaker 1: friends than it is these strangers? And the answers Absolutely.

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Speaker 1: I enjoyed by one of my good friends, Nick Vial

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Speaker 1: of the Vial Files, which he's here at the I

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Speaker 1: Heart Podcast Awards celebrating. He needs no introduction, especially with

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01:19:10,520 --> 01:19:14,080
Speaker 1: our audience. Bet, I was gonna call you Ben. And

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01:19:14,120 --> 01:19:16,519
Speaker 1: also I feel like good friend is a little kind

1421
01:19:16,520 --> 01:19:19,479
Speaker 1: of underselling our relationship. If I speaking freely, should I

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01:19:19,479 --> 01:19:23,160
Speaker 1: say best friend, my best friend, you're one of my

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01:19:23,200 --> 01:19:28,400
Speaker 1: best friend. You know, groom groomsmen, bridal party here a

1424
01:19:28,520 --> 01:19:32,920
Speaker 1: bridal party friend, performer at your wedding. Performer. He sure

1425
01:19:32,960 --> 01:19:37,400
Speaker 1: did perform. He recited did you did you? You did

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01:19:37,400 --> 01:19:40,760
Speaker 1: Harry met Sally? Right? Yeah, So he did a monologue

1427
01:19:40,840 --> 01:19:44,439
Speaker 1: at the ceremony, the Harry met Sally scene before the

1428
01:19:44,479 --> 01:19:48,760
Speaker 1: clock strikes midnight. He did an outstanding performance and he

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01:19:48,800 --> 01:19:52,080
Speaker 1: filled in last minute from somebody who had stage right.

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01:19:52,600 --> 01:19:55,839
Speaker 1: But you know, you were definitely the best decision. Acting

1431
01:19:55,840 --> 01:19:59,160
Speaker 1: classes are finally paying off shore are so I called

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01:19:59,200 --> 01:20:02,280
Speaker 1: you Ben in the beginning. My first question is do

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01:20:02,479 --> 01:20:08,960
Speaker 1: you think that you or Ben looks more like Peter Pete?

1434
01:20:09,240 --> 01:20:14,840
Speaker 1: Pilot Pete? Yes, you you even put a picture. You

1435
01:20:15,240 --> 01:20:16,479
Speaker 1: took a picture of the two of you next to

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01:20:16,520 --> 01:20:21,639
Speaker 1: each other, and you're like doubledangers. All right. I've seen

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01:20:21,680 --> 01:20:23,800
Speaker 1: some pictures where they're up. There will be times or

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01:20:23,840 --> 01:20:25,920
Speaker 1: I'll see a picture of Pete and at first glance,

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01:20:25,960 --> 01:20:27,880
Speaker 1: I'm like, that was that like an old photo of me?

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01:20:28,000 --> 01:20:31,840
Speaker 1: Or I don't think he really looks like Ben? Okay,

1441
01:20:32,120 --> 01:20:34,759
Speaker 1: I think I thought he looked so much like Benn

1442
01:20:34,840 --> 01:20:39,880
Speaker 1: has a boyish look, but their eyes, the dimensions of

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01:20:39,920 --> 01:20:42,439
Speaker 1: their face, like their face shape. I thought there was

1444
01:20:42,520 --> 01:20:46,639
Speaker 1: so much better in him, and then look, I think

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01:20:46,680 --> 01:20:49,000
Speaker 1: that's I think it's the boys. I think there's something

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01:20:49,120 --> 01:20:51,960
Speaker 1: Doughey in their eyes, like Doughey into like a nice

1447
01:20:52,000 --> 01:20:55,280
Speaker 1: like Dollway. I think it's it's that boyish charm that

1448
01:20:55,320 --> 01:20:57,840
Speaker 1: they both have. Okay, So anyway, so Peter was sitting

1449
01:20:57,920 --> 01:21:00,800
Speaker 1: next to me and I was like, oh my god,

1450
01:21:00,920 --> 01:21:04,760
Speaker 1: you are the actual child of Nick and Ben, and

1451
01:21:04,800 --> 01:21:08,920
Speaker 1: then you also became the Bachelor. It was weird. I

1452
01:21:08,920 --> 01:21:11,559
Speaker 1: think it's very attractive. Yes, he's very attractive. He has

1453
01:21:11,600 --> 01:21:15,080
Speaker 1: your coloring, and he has been structure is very is

1454
01:21:15,080 --> 01:21:19,879
Speaker 1: wild to see. Why do you Nick feel like when

1455
01:21:19,920 --> 01:21:24,519
Speaker 1: a person becomes the Bachelor they go to Ben for

1456
01:21:24,560 --> 01:21:32,000
Speaker 1: advice and not you. I think so, yes, I don't know,

1457
01:21:32,640 --> 01:21:35,599
Speaker 1: and I've talked to Peter, okay, but I feel like

1458
01:21:35,720 --> 01:21:37,880
Speaker 1: Ben is like, then, why do you think that Ben

1459
01:21:37,960 --> 01:21:42,000
Speaker 1: is the godfather of the franchise? You're you're dropping these

1460
01:21:42,040 --> 01:21:44,920
Speaker 1: truths on me. I didn't know. You don't think that

1461
01:21:44,960 --> 01:21:48,360
Speaker 1: like Ben has looked at as the like the president

1462
01:21:48,760 --> 01:21:54,639
Speaker 1: of the Bachelor. I guess No, No, I feel like yes,

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01:21:56,560 --> 01:22:00,200
Speaker 1: you apparently don't. I think Ben's great. I mean, sure,

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01:22:00,200 --> 01:22:02,000
Speaker 1: I'd go to him for advice. I didn't know that.

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01:22:02,200 --> 01:22:03,920
Speaker 1: Did you go to him for advice when he became

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Speaker 1: the bachelor? He gave me advice and we had we

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01:22:06,720 --> 01:22:09,519
Speaker 1: had we had dinner and before I went so I

1468
01:22:09,560 --> 01:22:12,920
Speaker 1: got him him and Lauren? Who else did you get?

1469
01:22:13,400 --> 01:22:16,280
Speaker 1: Actually gave me better advice than that? What did she say? She?

1470
01:22:16,479 --> 01:22:18,280
Speaker 1: You know, she just told me to focus and I

1471
01:22:18,320 --> 01:22:20,920
Speaker 1: don't know, she just told me to protect the relationship.

1472
01:22:20,960 --> 01:22:24,479
Speaker 1: If I thought I was going to pick someone. Okay,

1473
01:22:24,520 --> 01:22:26,760
Speaker 1: that's good. That's good advice. Did you talk to any

1474
01:22:26,760 --> 01:22:31,760
Speaker 1: other bachelors beforehand? Beforehand when I was going to be

1475
01:22:31,760 --> 01:22:36,479
Speaker 1: the best? No? No, I didn't. That was you know,

1476
01:22:37,520 --> 01:22:41,839
Speaker 1: that was that was all I needed. I guess relevance

1477
01:22:41,960 --> 01:22:46,479
Speaker 1: may Chris a little bit? Yeah, maybe Chris souls um. Okay. So,

1478
01:22:46,520 --> 01:22:49,280
Speaker 1: in addition to the viral files, which you talked about

1479
01:22:49,320 --> 01:22:52,280
Speaker 1: a number of things, it's not just bachelor oriented. You

1480
01:22:52,360 --> 01:22:59,280
Speaker 1: do interviews with relationship experts, a list celebrities, and you

1481
01:22:59,400 --> 01:23:04,599
Speaker 1: also do questions with Nick every Sunday on Instagram. Questions

1482
01:23:04,600 --> 01:23:08,479
Speaker 1: with Nick is when people send in all these questions

1483
01:23:08,520 --> 01:23:10,360
Speaker 1: when you know, you set up the Q and A thing,

1484
01:23:10,880 --> 01:23:13,120
Speaker 1: what is the number one? Like? What is the question

1485
01:23:13,160 --> 01:23:14,880
Speaker 1: that you get every single week? And you're like, are

1486
01:23:14,880 --> 01:23:18,240
Speaker 1: you kidding me? I'm getting this question again? Uh. They're

1487
01:23:18,280 --> 01:23:23,000
Speaker 1: generally different variations of is he into me? Like why

1488
01:23:23,000 --> 01:23:27,920
Speaker 1: hasn't he called? Right? Yeah, it's it's either it's it's

1489
01:23:27,960 --> 01:23:30,400
Speaker 1: like why hasn't he called? Or what does he mean

1490
01:23:30,479 --> 01:23:32,600
Speaker 1: by this? It's more it's a lot of more like

1491
01:23:32,640 --> 01:23:36,760
Speaker 1: what does he mean your Your answers are almost always

1492
01:23:36,760 --> 01:23:39,400
Speaker 1: he's not dying to you. Well, there's a lot of

1493
01:23:39,400 --> 01:23:43,360
Speaker 1: those themes that try to be more specific. It's, uh,

1494
01:23:43,400 --> 01:23:46,280
Speaker 1: it's more or less about it's less about he's not

1495
01:23:46,360 --> 01:23:50,960
Speaker 1: that into you and more about uh trying to encourage,

1496
01:23:51,160 --> 01:23:53,040
Speaker 1: And it seems to be more women asking questions, but

1497
01:23:53,160 --> 01:23:57,200
Speaker 1: trying to encourage them to maybe have greater expectations of

1498
01:23:58,240 --> 01:24:02,760
Speaker 1: uh their own require mention dating, greater expectations for their

1499
01:24:02,800 --> 01:24:05,800
Speaker 1: own requirements, like do you think that girls should be

1500
01:24:05,920 --> 01:24:08,960
Speaker 1: shooting higher? And they're like kind of settling for less.

1501
01:24:09,200 --> 01:24:12,599
Speaker 1: I think a lot well, for what I've noticed with questions,

1502
01:24:12,600 --> 01:24:17,439
Speaker 1: I think a lot of young women tend to um

1503
01:24:17,600 --> 01:24:21,160
Speaker 1: be more worried about whether he likes her, and that

1504
01:24:21,280 --> 01:24:26,519
Speaker 1: seems to be their biggest concerns. You know, what do

1505
01:24:26,560 --> 01:24:29,640
Speaker 1: I like about him? Do I like that he does this?

1506
01:24:29,720 --> 01:24:33,599
Speaker 1: Do I not like that he does that? Um, it's

1507
01:24:33,640 --> 01:24:36,040
Speaker 1: seemed to kind of dismiss all these things all around.

1508
01:24:36,640 --> 01:24:39,320
Speaker 1: Does he like me? So I try to, you know,

1509
01:24:39,479 --> 01:24:42,519
Speaker 1: in different ways, you know, point that out. Okay, so

1510
01:24:43,320 --> 01:24:46,320
Speaker 1: you obviously like we haven't seen you in a relationship

1511
01:24:46,439 --> 01:24:51,280
Speaker 1: that lasted a long long time. Why do you Why

1512
01:24:51,280 --> 01:24:54,599
Speaker 1: do you think that you can teach like those who

1513
01:24:54,640 --> 01:24:57,479
Speaker 1: can't teach. I don't even suggest that I can teach.

1514
01:24:57,520 --> 01:24:59,800
Speaker 1: I just you know, people ask me a question, I

1515
01:25:00,000 --> 01:25:01,800
Speaker 1: of an answer. I don't know if they like it.

1516
01:25:01,880 --> 01:25:03,760
Speaker 1: I don't even know. I'm not even suggesting it's the

1517
01:25:03,840 --> 01:25:07,400
Speaker 1: right advice. It's just the advice I'm it's not even advice.

1518
01:25:07,439 --> 01:25:11,160
Speaker 1: It's more just like your feedback. This is my feedback. Also,

1519
01:25:11,439 --> 01:25:14,320
Speaker 1: you know, coaches don't play you know kind of thing,

1520
01:25:16,720 --> 01:25:19,559
Speaker 1: but at all seriousness. I mean, I think, you know,

1521
01:25:20,040 --> 01:25:23,759
Speaker 1: try like you learn, you can learn more from failure

1522
01:25:23,800 --> 01:25:28,400
Speaker 1: and you learn from from disappointment. UM. And I will

1523
01:25:28,439 --> 01:25:30,720
Speaker 1: say a lot of sometimes the advice I give is

1524
01:25:31,320 --> 01:25:34,880
Speaker 1: is based off of things I've learned in the past,

1525
01:25:35,040 --> 01:25:37,720
Speaker 1: and points of view that I used to have when

1526
01:25:37,760 --> 01:25:41,600
Speaker 1: I was younger, um, and and things that you know

1527
01:25:41,680 --> 01:25:44,080
Speaker 1: I learned to you know, have you learned to view

1528
01:25:44,320 --> 01:25:46,320
Speaker 1: the world differently and learn how to be a little

1529
01:25:46,320 --> 01:25:48,880
Speaker 1: bit more honest with myself? And so those are kind

1530
01:25:48,880 --> 01:25:53,280
Speaker 1: of things I try to to to suggest, but again

1531
01:25:53,439 --> 01:25:56,080
Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm right. Sometimes I want to, like,

1532
01:25:56,240 --> 01:25:59,360
Speaker 1: I read through your questions and I think I'm gonna

1533
01:25:59,400 --> 01:26:03,000
Speaker 1: scrench his his answer, the question, his answer, and then

1534
01:26:03,040 --> 01:26:05,560
Speaker 1: give my own answer and like, just see the parallels.

1535
01:26:06,720 --> 01:26:08,800
Speaker 1: Shall I do that one time? Do you think we

1536
01:26:08,840 --> 01:26:11,200
Speaker 1: wouldn't be annoyed? You know, I'm going to like approach

1537
01:26:11,240 --> 01:26:13,360
Speaker 1: everything with a little bit more rainbows and butterflies than

1538
01:26:13,400 --> 01:26:17,160
Speaker 1: you are. Are you? I feel like you would always

1539
01:26:17,200 --> 01:26:20,240
Speaker 1: constantly just post a photo of you and Jared and

1540
01:26:20,360 --> 01:26:24,680
Speaker 1: be like, well, I'm the exception to the rule. Are

1541
01:26:24,880 --> 01:26:28,040
Speaker 1: very much exception To try to tell people that smart

1542
01:26:28,360 --> 01:26:31,559
Speaker 1: it's quite honestly, well, it's a great story. It's a

1543
01:26:31,680 --> 01:26:35,720
Speaker 1: very dangerous story to tell. It is. It is my

1544
01:26:35,840 --> 01:26:38,479
Speaker 1: last question for you, And because we have to get

1545
01:26:38,479 --> 01:26:41,360
Speaker 1: go into the awards soon, obviously there's a little friction

1546
01:26:41,520 --> 01:26:44,479
Speaker 1: between the by all files and the almost as podcasts.

1547
01:26:45,080 --> 01:26:48,960
Speaker 1: Love Jed, I do love Tea. I'm talking about my podcast.

1548
01:26:49,520 --> 01:26:51,400
Speaker 1: I just said the almost same as podcast. I thought

1549
01:26:51,400 --> 01:26:53,599
Speaker 1: you said, I hope a second there's friction. Oh, I

1550
01:26:53,640 --> 01:26:58,040
Speaker 1: know there's friction between the second. I love to tease you, guys,

1551
01:26:58,160 --> 01:27:00,920
Speaker 1: there's enough. There's enough of love to all. I'm in

1552
01:27:01,000 --> 01:27:05,719
Speaker 1: teasing friction. Of course. Tell our audience if they don't

1553
01:27:05,760 --> 01:27:07,680
Speaker 1: listen to the viral files and what they're going to

1554
01:27:07,800 --> 01:27:10,360
Speaker 1: get there? What was your favorite episode, your best interview

1555
01:27:10,400 --> 01:27:12,360
Speaker 1: for them to go listen to to get them hooked?

1556
01:27:13,120 --> 01:27:16,680
Speaker 1: Two on my podcast? Yeah, well, I mean if you like,

1557
01:27:17,040 --> 01:27:19,960
Speaker 1: for one, we do well. Now we're doing three episodes

1558
01:27:20,000 --> 01:27:22,800
Speaker 1: a week during well Bachelor's on. So if you if

1559
01:27:22,800 --> 01:27:27,600
Speaker 1: you like listening to people's dating stories all across the spectrum,

1560
01:27:28,120 --> 01:27:31,559
Speaker 1: it's very interesting and relatable, and we try to give

1561
01:27:31,600 --> 01:27:34,800
Speaker 1: our opinions of what people should or shouldn't do and

1562
01:27:34,800 --> 01:27:37,759
Speaker 1: their interating situations and timetimes. Sometimes we have a guests

1563
01:27:37,760 --> 01:27:40,200
Speaker 1: to help me out, uh, and then we do like

1564
01:27:40,280 --> 01:27:43,160
Speaker 1: some very interesting interviews and with batchler people or other

1565
01:27:43,320 --> 01:27:46,600
Speaker 1: dating experts or just other celebrities and just try to

1566
01:27:46,600 --> 01:27:49,839
Speaker 1: have interesting conversations. And then when the Bachel's on, Will

1567
01:27:49,880 --> 01:27:52,400
Speaker 1: Will recap The Bachelor every Tuesday. I'm going to give

1568
01:27:52,400 --> 01:27:55,559
Speaker 1: you a really big compliment here. Thanks. Actually, no one

1569
01:27:55,920 --> 01:27:59,320
Speaker 1: recaps with so many thoughts as Nick does, and Nick

1570
01:27:59,439 --> 01:28:05,320
Speaker 1: analyze is the episode so in detail, like he'll give

1571
01:28:05,360 --> 01:28:09,200
Speaker 1: you all the perspectives. Hey, well, I mean I've I

1572
01:28:09,320 --> 01:28:13,240
Speaker 1: lived it all, all the sides you've lived, loved it all,

1573
01:28:13,560 --> 01:28:17,120
Speaker 1: Mr Vil to break it down. But you know, you

1574
01:28:17,160 --> 01:28:19,160
Speaker 1: guys are the You guys are the O G. Batchelor.

1575
01:28:19,280 --> 01:28:24,000
Speaker 1: We thanks. Look look at us giving compliments to go

1576
01:28:24,040 --> 01:28:36,880
Speaker 1: around so much love all right, love you Nick. All right.

1577
01:28:37,240 --> 01:28:40,439
Speaker 1: I have my husband joining me again because we have

1578
01:28:40,600 --> 01:28:44,360
Speaker 1: a couple that is doing their own I heeart podcast

1579
01:28:44,439 --> 01:28:54,560
Speaker 1: called He said, Oh man, this ideal. It's Rosalind Chances

1580
01:28:55,000 --> 01:28:58,320
Speaker 1: and Eric Winter and Rosalind I just like I watched

1581
01:28:58,360 --> 01:29:01,160
Speaker 1: TV Spades and I watched I Know it's hell a

1582
01:29:01,320 --> 01:29:03,760
Speaker 1: big fan of yours. That's really really cool to have

1583
01:29:03,840 --> 01:29:05,800
Speaker 1: you on the podcast. And then Eric is currently on

1584
01:29:05,840 --> 01:29:09,240
Speaker 1: ABC's The Rookie and here you guys have a podcast

1585
01:29:09,280 --> 01:29:12,240
Speaker 1: about marriage and how you guys both came from two

1586
01:29:12,640 --> 01:29:16,880
Speaker 1: very different cultural backgrounds and how that works out in marriage. Yes, yeah,

1587
01:29:16,920 --> 01:29:19,680
Speaker 1: we're pretty much just even outside of marriage, we're just

1588
01:29:19,720 --> 01:29:22,400
Speaker 1: the epitome of opposites. I guess attract in a way.

1589
01:29:22,640 --> 01:29:24,720
Speaker 1: I mean, I think we're still attracting to each other.

1590
01:29:26,080 --> 01:29:36,559
Speaker 1: Attracted every podcast, right, like more sex anymore? Wow? Really? Um?

1591
01:29:36,640 --> 01:29:38,839
Speaker 1: So yeah, it's really a podcast about coming at everything

1592
01:29:38,840 --> 01:29:43,800
Speaker 1: from our complete opposite perspectives on life, marriage, kids, pop culture, um,

1593
01:29:43,920 --> 01:29:46,040
Speaker 1: and just diving in and having fun with it. What

1594
01:29:46,200 --> 01:29:48,800
Speaker 1: do you guys feel like is the part of your

1595
01:29:48,800 --> 01:29:56,760
Speaker 1: relationship where you're the most different? Well, there's so many things.

1596
01:29:57,000 --> 01:30:01,040
Speaker 1: Oh that's the next question. U are we the most different?

1597
01:30:01,240 --> 01:30:08,600
Speaker 1: I think the differences came hardcore after we had kids,

1598
01:30:09,240 --> 01:30:12,559
Speaker 1: but we but we have differences for sure. As you

1599
01:30:12,600 --> 01:30:15,040
Speaker 1: start to raise a little you know, a little people,

1600
01:30:15,280 --> 01:30:17,519
Speaker 1: you start to realize how I mean, some people do

1601
01:30:17,560 --> 01:30:20,439
Speaker 1: everything exactly the same. But we, for whatever reason, a

1602
01:30:20,439 --> 01:30:23,960
Speaker 1: lot of our differences and raising kids came front and center.

1603
01:30:23,960 --> 01:30:25,840
Speaker 1: And that was more about how we were in life too,

1604
01:30:25,840 --> 01:30:29,160
Speaker 1: with schedules and timing and you know, I'm very much

1605
01:30:29,160 --> 01:30:31,080
Speaker 1: by the book and straightforward with everything, and I like

1606
01:30:31,120 --> 01:30:39,000
Speaker 1: to have everything under control. And she that's pretty much

1607
01:30:39,000 --> 01:30:48,360
Speaker 1: what because that was like in your marriage, there's always

1608
01:30:48,400 --> 01:30:50,800
Speaker 1: Astley Land. I'm I'm learning to just become a part

1609
01:30:50,840 --> 01:30:56,000
Speaker 1: of Ashley Lands. If I want to have a happy life,

1610
01:30:56,120 --> 01:30:58,240
Speaker 1: I need to have a happy wife, which means buying

1611
01:30:58,240 --> 01:31:01,360
Speaker 1: real estate in Ashley Land. Yeah, yeah, think you that, Eric.

1612
01:31:04,600 --> 01:31:06,360
Speaker 1: It's interesting just trying to sell at times and buy

1613
01:31:06,400 --> 01:31:11,080
Speaker 1: something else, instill in Rosin's Land, just new locations. It's

1614
01:31:11,120 --> 01:31:13,120
Speaker 1: interesting that you guys talk about how when you guys

1615
01:31:13,120 --> 01:31:16,760
Speaker 1: started having kids, more of your disagreements or differences came

1616
01:31:16,800 --> 01:31:19,400
Speaker 1: to the forefront. Because Ashley and I even the little

1617
01:31:19,439 --> 01:31:24,120
Speaker 1: things like interioring, you know, interior decorating or like you know,

1618
01:31:24,160 --> 01:31:26,120
Speaker 1: scheduling things like that. I think a lot of it

1619
01:31:26,160 --> 01:31:27,639
Speaker 1: is just kind of pushed to the side because it's

1620
01:31:27,680 --> 01:31:29,720
Speaker 1: just the two of us. But I'm curious, when you know,

1621
01:31:30,240 --> 01:31:31,920
Speaker 1: knock on wood, as long as everything is healthy, we

1622
01:31:31,960 --> 01:31:36,280
Speaker 1: have kids, Um, if like those differences will start, like

1623
01:31:36,360 --> 01:31:39,000
Speaker 1: you guys said, maybe becoming more of a priority because

1624
01:31:39,200 --> 01:31:41,160
Speaker 1: it's how we raise our kids. Well, one thing even

1625
01:31:41,200 --> 01:31:44,080
Speaker 1: you just said, which is very different for us, and

1626
01:31:44,120 --> 01:31:45,800
Speaker 1: maybe it's good for you guys. Are you guys both

1627
01:31:45,840 --> 01:31:48,400
Speaker 1: the same, Like when you talk about interior decorating. Are

1628
01:31:48,439 --> 01:31:50,320
Speaker 1: you guys both good at keeping on a budget? Are

1629
01:31:50,320 --> 01:31:54,360
Speaker 1: you both? We're both really the same money, So that's great.

1630
01:31:55,439 --> 01:31:57,680
Speaker 1: Like we're like comfortably forgot, like we like live a

1631
01:31:57,720 --> 01:31:59,880
Speaker 1: good life, but we just don't over spand so you're

1632
01:32:00,160 --> 01:32:04,200
Speaker 1: that's how I am. Yeah, I'm comfortably frugal. Chap. She's

1633
01:32:04,280 --> 01:32:08,720
Speaker 1: completely opposite, Chap. We just at our house. It was

1634
01:32:08,760 --> 01:32:11,120
Speaker 1: like she said a budget and we went over every

1635
01:32:11,160 --> 01:32:13,280
Speaker 1: step of the way because she says, I want it

1636
01:32:13,280 --> 01:32:15,160
Speaker 1: for this price, but I want that and it just

1637
01:32:15,360 --> 01:32:17,600
Speaker 1: you can't make that happen for that price. And the

1638
01:32:17,600 --> 01:32:23,520
Speaker 1: house became the entire time I'm with Rosslyn here because UM,

1639
01:32:23,640 --> 01:32:26,439
Speaker 1: when we talk about buying a house one day, I'm

1640
01:32:26,439 --> 01:32:28,439
Speaker 1: always like, Oh, it's gonna be this, It's gonna be this.

1641
01:32:28,520 --> 01:32:30,320
Speaker 1: And then he's like, well, we don't need that. I'm like,

1642
01:32:30,600 --> 01:32:36,840
Speaker 1: why would we not get what we want? We need? Yeah,

1643
01:32:36,880 --> 01:32:39,640
Speaker 1: we don't need We went to UM a couple of

1644
01:32:39,640 --> 01:32:42,280
Speaker 1: months ago and it was at this massive house like

1645
01:32:42,280 --> 01:32:45,439
Speaker 1: outrage is like a hotel. Like I was joking when

1646
01:32:45,479 --> 01:32:47,639
Speaker 1: I said, you know what this is living? And he said,

1647
01:32:47,800 --> 01:32:49,240
Speaker 1: would you live that in the house like this? And

1648
01:32:49,280 --> 01:32:52,920
Speaker 1: I went absolutely talking like, you was ridiculous. This place

1649
01:32:52,960 --> 01:32:54,880
Speaker 1: is stupid, and it was. It was absurd. It's like

1650
01:32:54,920 --> 01:32:58,840
Speaker 1: a resort, but it was amazing. I'm wait, what do

1651
01:32:58,880 --> 01:33:00,720
Speaker 1: you mean you want to live in the place like this?

1652
01:33:00,800 --> 01:33:04,240
Speaker 1: This is incredible? Like dreamt in thirds and by three

1653
01:33:04,280 --> 01:33:06,040
Speaker 1: of them in different locations, and he's like, you need

1654
01:33:06,040 --> 01:33:07,920
Speaker 1: a walkie talking, Yeah, do what, I'll call you with

1655
01:33:07,960 --> 01:33:13,920
Speaker 1: a love the East or whatever. No, but it was

1656
01:33:13,960 --> 01:33:16,559
Speaker 1: it was a ridiculous body. Yeah. We yeah, I just

1657
01:33:16,560 --> 01:33:19,040
Speaker 1: tend to like at least she said, you're ridiculous. That's

1658
01:33:19,040 --> 01:33:20,880
Speaker 1: the important part. You admitted to it. I love how

1659
01:33:20,880 --> 01:33:23,880
Speaker 1: honest you guys are with each other. Um. People always

1660
01:33:23,880 --> 01:33:27,120
Speaker 1: say like newly for newlyweds, you know, I was like, oh,

1661
01:33:27,200 --> 01:33:30,720
Speaker 1: the first year is the hardest, but I feel like

1662
01:33:30,840 --> 01:33:34,559
Speaker 1: the first year is definitely gonna be one, probably the easiest.

1663
01:33:34,560 --> 01:33:36,719
Speaker 1: But it's also the first year with kids, it's probably

1664
01:33:36,760 --> 01:33:40,680
Speaker 1: the hardest, right, very possible. Yeah, it's tough for me.

1665
01:33:41,080 --> 01:33:43,760
Speaker 1: Everything changes, everything changes, and also you're going through it.

1666
01:33:43,800 --> 01:33:48,519
Speaker 1: You also see who handles. For example, it's much different

1667
01:33:48,560 --> 01:33:50,519
Speaker 1: with the second kid, but with the first kid, I

1668
01:33:50,560 --> 01:33:54,840
Speaker 1: would have meltdowns whenever she would get sick, like meltdown, Yeah,

1669
01:33:55,120 --> 01:33:57,760
Speaker 1: freak out. WoT handle it. She'd be more calm, but

1670
01:33:57,960 --> 01:34:00,120
Speaker 1: she'd freak out of the kids scraped her knee, and

1671
01:34:00,160 --> 01:34:01,880
Speaker 1: I'm like, it's fine, let them fall, bumps and bruises,

1672
01:34:01,920 --> 01:34:03,519
Speaker 1: no big deal, run into the cabinet, It's fine. You

1673
01:34:03,520 --> 01:34:05,960
Speaker 1: need to do these things. So we were again opposite

1674
01:34:05,960 --> 01:34:08,280
Speaker 1: even on that. You don't know how you're going to

1675
01:34:08,400 --> 01:34:10,559
Speaker 1: handle those things when you're in these situations, and it

1676
01:34:10,600 --> 01:34:13,920
Speaker 1: creates an anxiety and a stress that's built up when

1677
01:34:13,920 --> 01:34:16,760
Speaker 1: you're trying to raise these two kids. Kid gets sick,

1678
01:34:16,880 --> 01:34:19,240
Speaker 1: you gotta be there for each other because the kid's miserable,

1679
01:34:19,560 --> 01:34:23,320
Speaker 1: and you feel like every second it's grave danger, you know,

1680
01:34:23,360 --> 01:34:25,080
Speaker 1: And you realize, now we all went through all this

1681
01:34:25,120 --> 01:34:27,840
Speaker 1: and we all are going to be okay. But it's

1682
01:34:27,840 --> 01:34:34,120
Speaker 1: good to have those things in common. Yes, it helps us. Yeah, yeah,

1683
01:34:34,320 --> 01:34:35,960
Speaker 1: but you just got married. You don't have kids. Well,

1684
01:34:35,960 --> 01:34:39,840
Speaker 1: I mean, clock thing. You know, I'm already one. I'll

1685
01:34:39,840 --> 01:34:44,000
Speaker 1: be already too in March. We have time enjoy, but

1686
01:34:44,200 --> 01:34:48,320
Speaker 1: we want to before enjoy marriage then a little bit, right, Yeah,

1687
01:34:48,400 --> 01:34:53,040
Speaker 1: that's what we want. That's how two years we've been together.

1688
01:34:53,120 --> 01:34:57,320
Speaker 1: Two years, but we've been together for four years. We

1689
01:34:57,320 --> 01:34:58,720
Speaker 1: were best friends for a few years before that, and

1690
01:34:58,760 --> 01:35:02,320
Speaker 1: it was we very much relationship without touching very much.

1691
01:35:02,360 --> 01:35:04,439
Speaker 1: So enjoy the touching a little longer before your kids,

1692
01:35:04,560 --> 01:35:09,120
Speaker 1: because then you'll be without touching. You guys said everything.

1693
01:35:10,560 --> 01:35:12,080
Speaker 1: I feel like I hear that all the time, where

1694
01:35:12,080 --> 01:35:15,760
Speaker 1: everything changes when you have kids. What changes You're the

1695
01:35:15,800 --> 01:35:19,719
Speaker 1: priorities in life just become all about these kids. Something traveling,

1696
01:35:19,840 --> 01:35:22,720
Speaker 1: Like we love traveling and we used to go on

1697
01:35:23,000 --> 01:35:26,040
Speaker 1: travel all the time the moment, let's just go somewhere.

1698
01:35:26,400 --> 01:35:28,800
Speaker 1: Now when you have kids, it's not as easy, you know,

1699
01:35:28,840 --> 01:35:30,559
Speaker 1: because you have a little human being next to you

1700
01:35:30,600 --> 01:35:32,760
Speaker 1: and they star preschool on school and then you can

1701
01:35:32,760 --> 01:35:35,120
Speaker 1: pull them out of school and they have their activities.

1702
01:35:35,200 --> 01:35:37,840
Speaker 1: You know, it's not granted you can do it with

1703
01:35:37,880 --> 01:35:39,519
Speaker 1: a baby. Should just staying on the way. He's like

1704
01:35:39,560 --> 01:35:42,160
Speaker 1: our friends taking her baby all over the world all

1705
01:35:42,160 --> 01:35:44,160
Speaker 1: the time, And I'm like, I get it. It's one kid, yeah,

1706
01:35:44,320 --> 01:35:45,720
Speaker 1: and you're going to travel with at least one or

1707
01:35:45,760 --> 01:35:51,320
Speaker 1: two nannies in that situation, this particular person does, it's problem.

1708
01:35:51,360 --> 01:35:53,320
Speaker 1: I will grab my dogs and my kids and I

1709
01:35:53,360 --> 01:35:55,559
Speaker 1: will travel the way. Problem you would bring like four

1710
01:35:55,560 --> 01:35:59,240
Speaker 1: people to help. For sure, I go on vacation and

1711
01:35:59,240 --> 01:36:01,120
Speaker 1: I want to go to the point I'll do it.

1712
01:36:01,240 --> 01:36:05,240
Speaker 1: He's so concerned about everything that just the fact that

1713
01:36:05,320 --> 01:36:08,280
Speaker 1: that there's a time difference and if the Dylan knaps

1714
01:36:08,320 --> 01:36:09,920
Speaker 1: at one, what are we going to do? Is five

1715
01:36:09,960 --> 01:36:11,760
Speaker 1: o'clock over there? When is it going to nap? Like

1716
01:36:11,880 --> 01:36:14,479
Speaker 1: no that I don't like to throw him off on

1717
01:36:14,560 --> 01:36:16,720
Speaker 1: a time change for a quick trip. These are the

1718
01:36:16,800 --> 01:36:19,519
Speaker 1: kinds of things you will jump into when you guys

1719
01:36:19,560 --> 01:36:22,640
Speaker 1: might be on the same I love you, don't you

1720
01:36:22,680 --> 01:36:24,320
Speaker 1: know what I mean? You never know because I feel

1721
01:36:24,320 --> 01:36:28,479
Speaker 1: like we need to have dinner with you guys. Even

1722
01:36:28,600 --> 01:36:32,040
Speaker 1: when you said when you were talking about dreams, Rosalind, God,

1723
01:36:32,080 --> 01:36:34,320
Speaker 1: you sound exactly like Ashley. She has a dream of

1724
01:36:34,320 --> 01:36:36,360
Speaker 1: your dreams. Oh yeah, She's like, if your dreams are realistic,

1725
01:36:36,400 --> 01:36:39,960
Speaker 1: they're not big enough. That's and it's like I get that,

1726
01:36:40,479 --> 01:36:42,479
Speaker 1: it's just not that's not who I am in my

1727
01:36:42,560 --> 01:36:44,960
Speaker 1: car and that's like a big fight of us. That's

1728
01:36:45,000 --> 01:36:47,320
Speaker 1: one of our big things. Yeah. That was like our

1729
01:36:47,360 --> 01:36:49,599
Speaker 1: second our first podcast, and everybody called me dream Poper

1730
01:36:49,600 --> 01:36:52,840
Speaker 1: at that point that the thirteen years she's called me

1731
01:36:52,840 --> 01:36:55,080
Speaker 1: a dreamp. You need that pop a little bit. She's like,

1732
01:36:55,280 --> 01:36:58,720
Speaker 1: she's like, that would be nice, would be nice. I'm

1733
01:36:59,000 --> 01:37:01,240
Speaker 1: sure that would be nice because it will happen, and

1734
01:37:01,280 --> 01:37:02,720
Speaker 1: he like, well they He'll be like, no, I mean,

1735
01:37:02,720 --> 01:37:04,599
Speaker 1: like the odds of it happening are very little. Let's

1736
01:37:04,600 --> 01:37:08,160
Speaker 1: be realist. And it doesn't mean I'm not gone. Here's

1737
01:37:08,160 --> 01:37:09,360
Speaker 1: the thing. It doesn't mean I'm not going to go

1738
01:37:09,400 --> 01:37:11,080
Speaker 1: after my dreams. But I'm also gonna have a level

1739
01:37:11,160 --> 01:37:13,040
Speaker 1: head about it going after it. But then she's like,

1740
01:37:13,160 --> 01:37:15,200
Speaker 1: if you have that attitude, it's not gonna happen. I'm like,

1741
01:37:15,320 --> 01:37:18,320
Speaker 1: I disagree. That doesn't mean I'm still not working towards it,

1742
01:37:20,560 --> 01:37:22,439
Speaker 1: because then what happens is I don't know about you,

1743
01:37:22,479 --> 01:37:24,559
Speaker 1: but I'll speak on her behalf is then something doesn't

1744
01:37:24,560 --> 01:37:29,160
Speaker 1: go right in that dream process. Everybody's this and this

1745
01:37:29,200 --> 01:37:31,479
Speaker 1: person did that, and this is book. I don't know

1746
01:37:31,520 --> 01:37:33,840
Speaker 1: why doesn't work out for me? Because your dream is

1747
01:37:33,880 --> 01:37:36,400
Speaker 1: too big. You never know what happens if you have

1748
01:37:36,439 --> 01:37:41,200
Speaker 1: a level of reality. What about reality? When you dream big?

1749
01:37:41,280 --> 01:37:43,920
Speaker 1: Maybe the dream doesn't happen, but the steps that you

1750
01:37:44,000 --> 01:37:47,080
Speaker 1: take towards the dream and the plan something leads you

1751
01:37:47,160 --> 01:37:49,639
Speaker 1: to the right direction. Here. Here's the thing I'd say.

1752
01:37:49,680 --> 01:37:52,040
Speaker 1: In the world of entertainment, and I don't know if

1753
01:37:52,040 --> 01:37:54,320
Speaker 1: you guys, dreams include if that's what it is, right.

1754
01:37:54,880 --> 01:37:56,880
Speaker 1: If you have a dream of becoming a doctor, it's

1755
01:37:56,880 --> 01:37:58,840
Speaker 1: a very realistic dream. If you stick to your plan,

1756
01:37:58,960 --> 01:38:01,400
Speaker 1: you go to school, you ask your test, you'll be

1757
01:38:01,439 --> 01:38:03,880
Speaker 1: a doctor. It's not that hard, like, if you do

1758
01:38:03,920 --> 01:38:06,040
Speaker 1: everything right, you'll be a doctor. It is an easy

1759
01:38:06,040 --> 01:38:08,240
Speaker 1: because it's a path that if you do everything and

1760
01:38:08,280 --> 01:38:11,120
Speaker 1: you score, you'll get it. It's I don't want to

1761
01:38:11,120 --> 01:38:13,400
Speaker 1: say you have you have. You have a very difficult

1762
01:38:13,400 --> 01:38:15,880
Speaker 1: path to fulfill and live up to and score right

1763
01:38:15,920 --> 01:38:17,720
Speaker 1: on all your tests. But there's there's a path that

1764
01:38:17,800 --> 01:38:19,920
Speaker 1: if you do it all, you will get it. So

1765
01:38:20,000 --> 01:38:23,080
Speaker 1: there's a dream you can accomplish with hard work. In entertainment.

1766
01:38:23,080 --> 01:38:24,679
Speaker 1: You can set all the dreams you want in the world,

1767
01:38:25,240 --> 01:38:28,559
Speaker 1: and most everything happening is in somebody else's hands. Now

1768
01:38:28,560 --> 01:38:31,040
Speaker 1: it sucks, So being a dreamer can get you in

1769
01:38:31,040 --> 01:38:33,760
Speaker 1: a lot of trouble in entertainment. I think it also

1770
01:38:35,040 --> 01:38:37,559
Speaker 1: mee I alsost see. I agree with you though, because

1771
01:38:37,600 --> 01:38:41,760
Speaker 1: I think in this industry it's to bring them this

1772
01:38:41,920 --> 01:38:44,479
Speaker 1: in anxiety because I completely agree with you. We're a

1773
01:38:44,560 --> 01:38:48,240
Speaker 1: lot of the decisions, Like like you said, uh, you know,

1774
01:38:48,840 --> 01:38:50,920
Speaker 1: at jobs that I've had before where I'm working fifty

1775
01:38:50,920 --> 01:38:52,840
Speaker 1: hours a week, it was like, you have a path,

1776
01:38:52,920 --> 01:38:54,920
Speaker 1: and this is how you work up and make more money,

1777
01:38:54,920 --> 01:38:57,679
Speaker 1: and this is where you're going. In the entertainment industry,

1778
01:38:57,960 --> 01:39:00,360
Speaker 1: it's literally just like throwing stuff against the law and

1779
01:39:00,400 --> 01:39:03,720
Speaker 1: being like I hope, I hope that I'm working hard

1780
01:39:03,840 --> 01:39:06,360
Speaker 1: enough and people are seeing it enough where they'll do

1781
01:39:06,439 --> 01:39:08,400
Speaker 1: something about it. But even if you go to the extreme,

1782
01:39:08,479 --> 01:39:10,840
Speaker 1: and this is something again not an easy path, but

1783
01:39:10,880 --> 01:39:13,679
Speaker 1: even professional sports not easy to be a pro athlete.

1784
01:39:14,200 --> 01:39:17,080
Speaker 1: But if you have the physical gift and you work

1785
01:39:17,120 --> 01:39:20,160
Speaker 1: hard every single day, you're gonna get a result that

1786
01:39:20,160 --> 01:39:22,360
Speaker 1: people will quantify and say, Okay, that result will get

1787
01:39:22,360 --> 01:39:25,800
Speaker 1: you a scholarship, will get you a contract. You could

1788
01:39:25,800 --> 01:39:28,559
Speaker 1: be the best actor, host, whatever it is in the world,

1789
01:39:28,600 --> 01:39:30,760
Speaker 1: and no one whatever give you a shot because it's

1790
01:39:30,800 --> 01:39:33,599
Speaker 1: one person's opinion that has to say yes, you can't

1791
01:39:33,600 --> 01:39:35,600
Speaker 1: control it. So I feel like, are we may be

1792
01:39:35,680 --> 01:39:39,519
Speaker 1: similar because everything that I've pretty much dreamed, I've pretty

1793
01:39:39,600 --> 01:39:42,639
Speaker 1: much accomplished too. Yeah, so that there there, it works

1794
01:39:42,640 --> 01:39:49,400
Speaker 1: for me, works for you, So therefore I conclude it works.

1795
01:39:49,720 --> 01:39:52,240
Speaker 1: It works. Got an amount of times if I had

1796
01:39:52,760 --> 01:39:56,400
Speaker 1: I dream, but I get it done. It works. Everything

1797
01:39:56,400 --> 01:40:00,439
Speaker 1: I've dreamed has come true. My family members tell him too,

1798
01:40:00,439 --> 01:40:03,200
Speaker 1: there like anything actually wants Astley gets and he's like,

1799
01:40:03,320 --> 01:40:06,800
Speaker 1: I got to hear this act otherwise, especially in the

1800
01:40:06,960 --> 01:40:09,720
Speaker 1: entertainment world, is the only way, Eric. Otherwise, you know,

1801
01:40:10,560 --> 01:40:12,800
Speaker 1: you have to visualize and you have to be so

1802
01:40:12,920 --> 01:40:16,920
Speaker 1: certain that it is possible. And I've dreamed things that

1803
01:40:16,960 --> 01:40:18,800
Speaker 1: happened and they've happened. But there are plenty of things

1804
01:40:18,800 --> 01:40:20,840
Speaker 1: that I've dreamt to happen and have not happened. But

1805
01:40:20,920 --> 01:40:24,080
Speaker 1: when we're talking very business, but we're talking about dreams

1806
01:40:24,080 --> 01:40:26,400
Speaker 1: that are attainable and dreams that are when you're really

1807
01:40:26,400 --> 01:40:31,439
Speaker 1: good at something, not like I dreamed. Took okay, next question,

1808
01:40:31,560 --> 01:40:34,920
Speaker 1: final question UM. On my other podcast, I Don't Get

1809
01:40:34,920 --> 01:40:37,880
Speaker 1: a podcast this week, I was talking about big personality

1810
01:40:37,880 --> 01:40:41,560
Speaker 1: females with big personalities and guys being drawn to them.

1811
01:40:41,760 --> 01:40:46,760
Speaker 1: I am determined, passionate, emotional expressive. I feel like you're

1812
01:40:46,760 --> 01:40:50,720
Speaker 1: in the same way. You're beautiful, you have the profession,

1813
01:40:50,800 --> 01:40:53,960
Speaker 1: the personality, the big personality. Was that something that was

1814
01:40:54,000 --> 01:40:58,360
Speaker 1: intimidating to you at first? Eric? No, I actually were

1815
01:40:58,400 --> 01:41:03,599
Speaker 1: you into girls like that? In the Girls Girls? Were

1816
01:41:03,600 --> 01:41:06,080
Speaker 1: you into girls like that? Because I just noticed from

1817
01:41:06,479 --> 01:41:09,960
Speaker 1: personal experience and watching The Bachelor, it seems like the

1818
01:41:10,080 --> 01:41:14,800
Speaker 1: soft spoken demrror take a backseat type girl always gets

1819
01:41:14,800 --> 01:41:17,839
Speaker 1: a head on the show. Really yeah, but in life,

1820
01:41:18,080 --> 01:41:20,360
Speaker 1: I don't know. But we had had a McDonald on

1821
01:41:20,479 --> 01:41:23,679
Speaker 1: and we're and she obviously has that huge personality, and

1822
01:41:23,840 --> 01:41:25,960
Speaker 1: she was like, I do think it's harder for girls

1823
01:41:26,120 --> 01:41:29,680
Speaker 1: with that type of personality to get guys. But like

1824
01:41:29,680 --> 01:41:33,320
Speaker 1: a strong personality. Yeah, I remember when we first met,

1825
01:41:33,439 --> 01:41:36,160
Speaker 1: there was a whole She was shocked first of all

1826
01:41:36,160 --> 01:41:37,400
Speaker 1: that I was a white guy, and I went up

1827
01:41:37,439 --> 01:41:39,000
Speaker 1: to her because that was blew her mind right away.

1828
01:41:39,000 --> 01:41:40,600
Speaker 1: She's like, who's this guy? Why are you talking to

1829
01:41:40,680 --> 01:41:43,160
Speaker 1: me more white guys? Don't you talking about you? I know,

1830
01:41:43,200 --> 01:41:44,800
Speaker 1: but I was when when he came always saying no,

1831
01:41:44,840 --> 01:41:46,439
Speaker 1: we just wanted to do myself. My name is Eric.

1832
01:41:46,479 --> 01:41:51,240
Speaker 1: I looked back, going, there's no way these white She realized,

1833
01:41:51,240 --> 01:41:54,600
Speaker 1: like I did Latino life my whole life, because in

1834
01:41:54,640 --> 01:41:55,880
Speaker 1: the city I grew up, it was all it was

1835
01:41:55,920 --> 01:41:58,479
Speaker 1: all Mexican predominantly one day. But I grew up with

1836
01:41:58,520 --> 01:42:01,120
Speaker 1: a lot of Latina, so I was, as you know, Latina,

1837
01:42:01,200 --> 01:42:03,720
Speaker 1: So she was shocked about that. But my point is

1838
01:42:03,800 --> 01:42:07,080
Speaker 1: I never when I got to dating her, I realized

1839
01:42:07,160 --> 01:42:08,720
Speaker 1: right away she was a strong personality just the first

1840
01:42:08,720 --> 01:42:10,040
Speaker 1: time I met her. And we were friends like you

1841
01:42:10,040 --> 01:42:13,439
Speaker 1: guys for almost a year before we ever started dating,

1842
01:42:14,200 --> 01:42:16,840
Speaker 1: and I realized, it's a very strong, strong lady. But

1843
01:42:16,840 --> 01:42:19,160
Speaker 1: I'm a solve, I'm a very type a personality as well.

1844
01:42:19,479 --> 01:42:22,439
Speaker 1: So once we started dating, I remember having another conversation

1845
01:42:22,479 --> 01:42:24,599
Speaker 1: being like, look, I get it, you're strong, I'm strong.

1846
01:42:24,720 --> 01:42:26,960
Speaker 1: One of us has to give. Somebody's gonna have to

1847
01:42:27,000 --> 01:42:29,320
Speaker 1: take a back seat at different points in time, or

1848
01:42:29,360 --> 01:42:31,360
Speaker 1: this is never gonna work. And that was like early.

1849
01:42:31,560 --> 01:42:33,720
Speaker 1: She wouldn't remember much in our relationship because she's been

1850
01:42:37,600 --> 01:42:40,640
Speaker 1: and here we are talking about resolutions and compromise is

1851
01:42:40,680 --> 01:42:42,960
Speaker 1: still at the forefront of what your new resolution needs

1852
01:42:42,960 --> 01:42:46,920
Speaker 1: to be. So even then it was like, somebody has

1853
01:42:46,960 --> 01:42:49,920
Speaker 1: to be She hates the word submissive. Somebody has to

1854
01:42:49,960 --> 01:42:53,120
Speaker 1: submit at any point in time in a relationship. You

1855
01:42:53,240 --> 01:42:56,120
Speaker 1: have to or you won't. If two people are constantly

1856
01:42:56,520 --> 01:43:02,880
Speaker 1: the dominant. Where do you go compromising doing use so mission, take,

1857
01:43:03,040 --> 01:43:05,920
Speaker 1: take a take a seat, take a step back. Somebody

1858
01:43:05,920 --> 01:43:08,000
Speaker 1: has to take a step back in a position or

1859
01:43:08,000 --> 01:43:11,320
Speaker 1: a decision. So are too strong? Personalities kind of came

1860
01:43:11,560 --> 01:43:13,320
Speaker 1: to a head early in dating and it was like,

1861
01:43:13,320 --> 01:43:14,720
Speaker 1: all right, this way, this way has to be if

1862
01:43:14,720 --> 01:43:17,400
Speaker 1: we're gonna be together. And we've been able to make

1863
01:43:17,439 --> 01:43:21,120
Speaker 1: that work. Amazing. Okay, after this, how are you guys

1864
01:43:21,160 --> 01:43:25,960
Speaker 1: not gonna go listen to he said? He said it perfectly,

1865
01:43:26,080 --> 01:43:29,000
Speaker 1: I know, and I'm just like, I'm gonna go listen

1866
01:43:29,040 --> 01:43:32,720
Speaker 1: to this podcast immediately. Awesome. I love I love a

1867
01:43:32,840 --> 01:43:36,519
Speaker 1: couples couples conversations. It's real, it's raw, and you guys

1868
01:43:36,520 --> 01:43:41,640
Speaker 1: are very real. Then it's it's refreshing and refreshing. Obviously,

1869
01:43:41,760 --> 01:43:43,200
Speaker 1: as you guys know, you see a lot of people

1870
01:43:43,240 --> 01:43:46,679
Speaker 1: who are not themselves, and you guys are very much yourself.

1871
01:43:46,760 --> 01:43:49,519
Speaker 1: Maybe that's why we've been together. The first episode we

1872
01:43:49,520 --> 01:43:52,800
Speaker 1: did because we got into this like not knowing what

1873
01:43:52,800 --> 01:43:56,400
Speaker 1: we're doing. Right, So we did the first episode and

1874
01:43:56,600 --> 01:43:59,479
Speaker 1: we left and we were shaking because we felt like

1875
01:43:59,520 --> 01:44:02,400
Speaker 1: we you revealed too much? So much we do that

1876
01:44:02,520 --> 01:44:05,160
Speaker 1: too was freaking out. I was like, oh my god,

1877
01:44:05,160 --> 01:44:07,160
Speaker 1: I what do you do? What do we do? Is

1878
01:44:07,160 --> 01:44:10,280
Speaker 1: that we we're exposing and so many topics and we

1879
01:44:10,320 --> 01:44:12,640
Speaker 1: had a blast, but we I got home and I

1880
01:44:12,720 --> 01:44:15,320
Speaker 1: was sick to my stomach going was that okay, you know,

1881
01:44:15,400 --> 01:44:19,000
Speaker 1: because it's really it's liberating therapy. But it's like therapy.

1882
01:44:19,439 --> 01:44:21,920
Speaker 1: I've said many times, like it's actually a bit therapeutic.

1883
01:44:22,280 --> 01:44:24,719
Speaker 1: We've been talking about ourselves a lot, and we laughed

1884
01:44:24,760 --> 01:44:27,320
Speaker 1: the whole way through and we're laughing. That's a good thing.

1885
01:44:27,720 --> 01:44:29,920
Speaker 1: So comedy has been great with it, like for us,

1886
01:44:30,000 --> 01:44:32,960
Speaker 1: but it is it's very therapeutic. Easton was saying that

1887
01:44:33,080 --> 01:44:35,160
Speaker 1: it's one of the podcasts that he loves sitting in

1888
01:44:35,200 --> 01:44:38,760
Speaker 1: the most. Thank you, we have some good because east

1889
01:44:38,760 --> 01:44:40,120
Speaker 1: and I are on the same page after ten round?

1890
01:44:40,360 --> 01:44:43,920
Speaker 1: What happened? What are you talking about? All right? Thank

1891
01:44:43,920 --> 01:44:46,680
Speaker 1: you guys so much. This has been a blast, all right.

1892
01:44:46,800 --> 01:44:49,320
Speaker 1: Next up we have our final guests, Tony rad and

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Speaker 1: Beck Attilly Tokayo. Garnica is going to be the next

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I could say their names, but

1895
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Speaker 1: you know, you know that the me sicking fast casual

1896
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Speaker 1: restaurants that you've been going to for like the past

1897
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Speaker 1: fifteen years. I'm telling you it's gonna beat them out

1898
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Speaker 1: use the highest quality ingredients. Um, they cater to every

1900
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Speaker 1: sort of diet there is, vegan, gluten free, vegetarian. They're

1901
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Speaker 1: gonna make your vegetarian burrito taste like it has meeting it.

1902
01:45:24,680 --> 01:45:26,439
Speaker 1: Like I was actually mind boggled when I got a

1903
01:45:26,520 --> 01:45:29,160
Speaker 1: vegetarian burritos, like Jared, can you believe it tastes this

1904
01:45:29,280 --> 01:45:32,400
Speaker 1: good and it doesn't have meeting it. I'm mind boggled.

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Speaker 1: They also are free of hormones, steroids, and antibiotics, so

1906
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Speaker 1: I never feel guilty eating from them. I know that

1907
01:45:40,120 --> 01:45:43,439
Speaker 1: I'm always so full after my burrito ball or whatnot,

1908
01:45:43,680 --> 01:45:46,280
Speaker 1: where I'm like, oh my god, just tortured myself, but

1909
01:45:46,400 --> 01:45:50,160
Speaker 1: like everything was very nutritious. There's nothing to feel guilty about.

1910
01:45:50,520 --> 01:45:55,000
Speaker 1: So if you are planning on hosting a big party,

1911
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Speaker 1: whether that's for the Oscars or the Super Bowl, Tokaya

1912
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Speaker 1: is so good good for catering a large event, and

1913
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Speaker 1: you can do that at Tokaya Organica dot com. And

1914
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Speaker 1: you'll also be able to find your nearest location. There.

1915
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Speaker 1: If you're in southern California, you probably passed by one

1916
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Speaker 1: every day and you may not even know it yet,

1917
01:46:12,920 --> 01:46:19,559
Speaker 1: but it's going to become your regular stomping ground. I

1918
01:46:19,640 --> 01:46:25,960
Speaker 1: am now lastly joined by I by I Heart Radio

1919
01:46:26,160 --> 01:46:35,080
Speaker 1: Podcasts the Scrubbing In. Wow, what the interview along? Just

1920
01:46:35,120 --> 01:46:37,840
Speaker 1: don't read anything you got this? This is funny. I

1921
01:46:37,920 --> 01:46:42,160
Speaker 1: was just reading. I was reading you guys. I'm joined

1922
01:46:42,160 --> 01:46:46,600
Speaker 1: by Becca of the Scrubbing of scrubbing In on I

1923
01:46:46,760 --> 01:46:51,280
Speaker 1: Heart Radio. There you guys, you started the podcast you

1924
01:46:51,320 --> 01:46:57,160
Speaker 1: know about TV predominantly about Gray's anatomy. So I have

1925
01:46:57,360 --> 01:47:02,080
Speaker 1: to ask, what the is up with the departure of

1926
01:47:02,120 --> 01:47:06,000
Speaker 1: Alex krev a k Alex Chambers. Is it on him?

1927
01:47:06,360 --> 01:47:08,320
Speaker 1: Or is this a Shawn Rhymes move? I think his

1928
01:47:08,400 --> 01:47:14,519
Speaker 1: name was justin. What did I say? You guys see

1929
01:47:14,600 --> 01:47:16,519
Speaker 1: that I just did. I think I've done two straight

1930
01:47:16,560 --> 01:47:21,720
Speaker 1: hours of interviews and even through nine interviews, so like,

1931
01:47:21,840 --> 01:47:24,120
Speaker 1: I'm also letting loose with you guys because it's you,

1932
01:47:24,360 --> 01:47:27,479
Speaker 1: so I don't have to be on my interview. I

1933
01:47:27,520 --> 01:47:30,320
Speaker 1: want you to turn your card over, like, don't even care.

1934
01:47:31,400 --> 01:47:34,280
Speaker 1: I know that's it's really funny. I'm just like, really,

1935
01:47:34,479 --> 01:47:37,080
Speaker 1: I just I'm just really glad to have friends here

1936
01:47:38,400 --> 01:47:42,360
Speaker 1: right now. So what the hell? I mean you what

1937
01:47:42,680 --> 01:47:45,600
Speaker 1: like you did the whole benching of grades, like I

1938
01:47:45,720 --> 01:47:48,760
Speaker 1: stopped season fifteen. I just couldn't do it anymore. Just

1939
01:47:48,800 --> 01:47:53,439
Speaker 1: wasn't good anymore, you know what. I'm getting to that point. Yeah, okay, no,

1940
01:47:53,760 --> 01:47:58,120
Speaker 1: we have to watch there's no storyline that we're talking

1941
01:47:58,200 --> 01:48:03,360
Speaker 1: to now. They've taken away everything with Justin Chambers leaving,

1942
01:48:03,360 --> 01:48:07,720
Speaker 1: you know, I mean, he was my favorite, He's my

1943
01:48:08,040 --> 01:48:11,360
Speaker 1: He's probably my favorite characters at the entire series. So interesting,

1944
01:48:11,600 --> 01:48:14,599
Speaker 1: and I definitely I loved him. I love him. I

1945
01:48:14,600 --> 01:48:17,600
Speaker 1: don't you know what I'm mostly upset about, Like I

1946
01:48:17,600 --> 01:48:19,599
Speaker 1: would have been upset no matter what, but the fact

1947
01:48:19,680 --> 01:48:22,160
Speaker 1: that we've already seen his last episode, but we didn't

1948
01:48:22,160 --> 01:48:24,800
Speaker 1: get to prepare for that being his last episode. That's

1949
01:48:24,840 --> 01:48:27,920
Speaker 1: so messed up. It's unfair, it's so weird, and I

1950
01:48:28,000 --> 01:48:30,320
Speaker 1: do we think that's on him though, like he got

1951
01:48:30,360 --> 01:48:33,880
Speaker 1: there was some insaternal drama where he probably thought, like

1952
01:48:33,960 --> 01:48:37,400
Speaker 1: this script is freaking horrible, this show is become trash. No,

1953
01:48:37,560 --> 01:48:39,639
Speaker 1: I'm done. I don't think it's that because I feel

1954
01:48:39,680 --> 01:48:41,200
Speaker 1: like he would have done that like a season ago,

1955
01:48:41,640 --> 01:48:44,000
Speaker 1: to be honest, or maybe it was after that season

1956
01:48:44,040 --> 01:48:45,559
Speaker 1: that he was like, you know, I just don't feel

1957
01:48:45,600 --> 01:48:48,200
Speaker 1: like I'm growing and my character. This to me feels

1958
01:48:48,240 --> 01:48:52,720
Speaker 1: like um Ashonda, Like it feels like something happened to

1959
01:48:52,800 --> 01:48:55,920
Speaker 1: him personally and he needs to like step back for

1960
01:48:55,920 --> 01:49:00,360
Speaker 1: a minute, maybe like the family thing, yeah, or just

1961
01:49:00,400 --> 01:49:02,640
Speaker 1: like I don't know, I really don't know, but it

1962
01:49:02,680 --> 01:49:06,240
Speaker 1: feels it feels too quick and sudden to be a

1963
01:49:06,280 --> 01:49:08,960
Speaker 1: Shaunda thing, or he just wasn't into the script thing.

1964
01:49:09,160 --> 01:49:11,719
Speaker 1: There's no way they would not do like a goodbye

1965
01:49:11,720 --> 01:49:15,040
Speaker 1: episode if it wasn't something sudden and abrupt. Yeah, because

1966
01:49:15,080 --> 01:49:16,880
Speaker 1: why all the sudden is it just like you've already

1967
01:49:16,880 --> 01:49:19,760
Speaker 1: seen his episode he's gone because he was like I

1968
01:49:19,800 --> 01:49:22,519
Speaker 1: can't anymore and throw his papers in the air. I

1969
01:49:22,560 --> 01:49:26,080
Speaker 1: don't think so, I really don't. I don't know. I'm

1970
01:49:26,120 --> 01:49:29,679
Speaker 1: just like sixteen, like I mean, fifteen and a half

1971
01:49:29,720 --> 01:49:35,040
Speaker 1: seasons and then that he just disappears, like with no warning.

1972
01:49:35,560 --> 01:49:36,680
Speaker 1: But then like, what are they going to do with

1973
01:49:36,760 --> 01:49:40,000
Speaker 1: Joe and his storyline? You mean they're like a couple

1974
01:49:40,000 --> 01:49:44,120
Speaker 1: of storiline. I don't know. I don't know if they

1975
01:49:44,160 --> 01:49:46,160
Speaker 1: tell us that he passed away or if they're like,

1976
01:49:46,200 --> 01:49:48,559
Speaker 1: he's gone to find Izzy. He's not going to be

1977
01:49:48,600 --> 01:49:52,200
Speaker 1: passed away, right, didn't he? Like I didn't watch a

1978
01:49:52,200 --> 01:49:55,240
Speaker 1: fan theory that like they could kill him off. I

1979
01:49:55,280 --> 01:49:58,160
Speaker 1: thought it already aired. Guys, they're going to pretend like

1980
01:49:58,200 --> 01:50:01,919
Speaker 1: while he had he Christina Yang would like call Merritath

1981
01:50:01,960 --> 01:50:04,320
Speaker 1: and she left, like they could still fake calls from him,

1982
01:50:04,320 --> 01:50:06,719
Speaker 1: and then like who knows. Sure, I guess they'll probably

1983
01:50:06,720 --> 01:50:09,040
Speaker 1: do that. I hope, so they can't kill him off,

1984
01:50:09,479 --> 01:50:11,840
Speaker 1: But he's not gonna Joe. Joe is going to move

1985
01:50:11,840 --> 01:50:16,320
Speaker 1: on with someone else. Move on with someone else. Yeah,

1986
01:50:16,560 --> 01:50:20,160
Speaker 1: they're married, That's what I'm saying. Maybe what happens if

1987
01:50:20,200 --> 01:50:28,080
Speaker 1: you're married and then one of you dies, you're a widow? Yeah,

1988
01:50:28,080 --> 01:50:29,639
Speaker 1: you're right there. I was like there was a term

1989
01:50:29,680 --> 01:50:36,160
Speaker 1: for that. Oh my gosh, I guess who I met

1990
01:50:36,240 --> 01:50:38,760
Speaker 1: last weekend? Yeah, that was my next great question? You

1991
01:50:38,880 --> 01:50:43,439
Speaker 1: met Patrick Dempsey? How'd that go? Like the best moment

1992
01:50:43,479 --> 01:50:45,280
Speaker 1: of my life? I wish I had, Like I wish

1993
01:50:45,280 --> 01:50:46,719
Speaker 1: I had a GoPro in my head for a moment

1994
01:50:46,960 --> 01:50:49,719
Speaker 1: back because I like blacked out. So I can't really

1995
01:50:49,720 --> 01:50:53,000
Speaker 1: remember everything, but it was really just like magical. You're

1996
01:50:53,080 --> 01:50:55,360
Speaker 1: with Chris Harrison and he was like guiding you through

1997
01:50:55,400 --> 01:50:57,800
Speaker 1: this whole thing. He guided you through a journey. It

1998
01:50:57,880 --> 01:51:00,280
Speaker 1: just wasn't the bachelor journey. It was your greatest It

1999
01:51:00,360 --> 01:51:02,680
Speaker 1: was my grays journey. And he like alle me so

2000
01:51:02,840 --> 01:51:04,920
Speaker 1: legit to where he was, like, she said a part

2001
01:51:04,960 --> 01:51:08,040
Speaker 1: of an award winning podcast called Scrubbing In that's all

2002
01:51:08,080 --> 01:51:12,160
Speaker 1: about Gray's natomy. I was either the award winning in

2003
01:51:12,200 --> 01:51:14,640
Speaker 1: there was. I mean, do you wish he would have

2004
01:51:14,720 --> 01:51:18,080
Speaker 1: ended it after award winning podcast and not thrown into

2005
01:51:18,080 --> 01:51:20,680
Speaker 1: all that, Yeah, because then it would have made me

2006
01:51:20,720 --> 01:51:23,360
Speaker 1: sound really cool and smart and not a groupie. Yeah,

2007
01:51:23,400 --> 01:51:25,400
Speaker 1: because I went for sure. I went groupie, full groupy.

2008
01:51:25,439 --> 01:51:29,080
Speaker 1: I was like, well, as a married woman now, like

2009
01:51:29,240 --> 01:51:31,240
Speaker 1: I go full grouping now because I'm not like I

2010
01:51:31,240 --> 01:51:34,360
Speaker 1: don't need to like woo my celebrity crush. I just

2011
01:51:34,760 --> 01:51:38,200
Speaker 1: want to show appreciation. I think he's married. I was

2012
01:51:38,880 --> 01:51:41,720
Speaker 1: like him, I was just trying to like get him

2013
01:51:41,720 --> 01:51:44,960
Speaker 1: on the podcast maybe, but that was you know, did

2014
01:51:45,040 --> 01:51:47,960
Speaker 1: you attempt? No? You kidding? I could barely get words

2015
01:51:47,960 --> 01:51:49,120
Speaker 1: out and I was like, are you gonna like throw

2016
01:51:49,160 --> 01:51:52,920
Speaker 1: the ball around. Wait, actually, so there's talks of Tanya

2017
01:51:53,000 --> 01:51:55,800
Speaker 1: going on the Bachelor. There is there are talks. There's

2018
01:51:55,840 --> 01:51:58,240
Speaker 1: talks she could. We all know that she could just

2019
01:51:58,280 --> 01:52:00,439
Speaker 1: be thrown in at any time she wants. I mean,

2020
01:52:00,479 --> 01:52:02,759
Speaker 1: it's already done filming, so we'd have to start filming

2021
01:52:02,800 --> 01:52:05,760
Speaker 1: her season in September. What do you think about this?

2022
01:52:06,520 --> 01:52:08,479
Speaker 1: I mean I feel like, how has it not happened yet?

2023
01:52:08,600 --> 01:52:12,599
Speaker 1: She's the unhonorable member of Bachelor Nation? How do you guy?

2024
01:52:12,720 --> 01:52:17,559
Speaker 1: You'd handle the production, the whole, the part of dating

2025
01:52:17,560 --> 01:52:20,840
Speaker 1: other a man, that is, dating other women. I can't

2026
01:52:20,880 --> 01:52:23,080
Speaker 1: do that in my real life. There's a lot of

2027
01:52:23,120 --> 01:52:26,080
Speaker 1: things here. One, it would be cool to see you

2028
01:52:26,120 --> 01:52:28,000
Speaker 1: as not just an honorary member, but like as an

2029
01:52:28,000 --> 01:52:30,680
Speaker 1: official member of Bachelor Nation. But the thing is, I

2030
01:52:30,680 --> 01:52:32,559
Speaker 1: think you'd have such a target on your back because

2031
01:52:32,600 --> 01:52:35,639
Speaker 1: you're basically a celebrity. I mean, yeah, you were playing

2032
01:52:35,640 --> 01:52:38,439
Speaker 1: in a celebrity softball game with Patrick Dempsey, Chard Harrison.

2033
01:52:39,600 --> 01:52:41,880
Speaker 1: It's like you have a leg up I target on

2034
01:52:41,920 --> 01:52:44,479
Speaker 1: your back. That's your friends with Chris Harrison was saying.

2035
01:52:44,520 --> 01:52:47,440
Speaker 1: She was like, they're gonna hate you. I was like, yeah,

2036
01:52:47,640 --> 01:52:51,360
Speaker 1: I don't care. I'm gonna win them over. But that's

2037
01:52:51,360 --> 01:52:53,559
Speaker 1: not the point. The point for me is like I

2038
01:52:53,600 --> 01:52:56,759
Speaker 1: can't date someone and even think he's eating other people.

2039
01:52:56,880 --> 01:52:59,479
Speaker 1: I think, if I honestly, I'm putting myself in the situation.

2040
01:52:59,720 --> 01:53:01,240
Speaker 1: I think if I saw it all happening and I

2041
01:53:01,280 --> 01:53:03,439
Speaker 1: saw him kissing other girls, like I would literally be

2042
01:53:03,520 --> 01:53:08,800
Speaker 1: crying every day like that with the Bachelor's But I'm

2043
01:53:08,840 --> 01:53:11,680
Speaker 1: to like prepare mentally knowing that you're going to go

2044
01:53:11,720 --> 01:53:14,599
Speaker 1: on and that I'm mentally get me there. I'm like,

2045
01:53:15,040 --> 01:53:18,320
Speaker 1: I do like this happening, and I think it's like

2046
01:53:19,360 --> 01:53:22,960
Speaker 1: beck is the commis person around if only she can

2047
01:53:23,040 --> 01:53:25,759
Speaker 1: give you a little bit of herself. I've been asking

2048
01:53:25,840 --> 01:53:27,479
Speaker 1: for this for years. I'm like, if I could just

2049
01:53:27,600 --> 01:53:30,360
Speaker 1: be a little bit as chill as she is my

2050
01:53:30,439 --> 01:53:32,120
Speaker 1: dating life, I feel like I probably would be married

2051
01:53:32,120 --> 01:53:35,520
Speaker 1: by now. So I was just talking to Rosalind Sanchez

2052
01:53:35,600 --> 01:53:39,760
Speaker 1: about like girls with big personalities and how guys take

2053
01:53:39,800 --> 01:53:43,880
Speaker 1: to them, and how I feel like a big passionate

2054
01:53:43,920 --> 01:53:48,439
Speaker 1: personality is always so much less likely to be approached

2055
01:53:48,439 --> 01:53:50,120
Speaker 1: by a guy, which I think is super sad, but

2056
01:53:50,200 --> 01:53:54,600
Speaker 1: I think it's true, don't you, Yes, Why is that

2057
01:53:54,640 --> 01:53:56,840
Speaker 1: approached by a guy, but I like to stick around,

2058
01:53:56,920 --> 01:54:01,000
Speaker 1: to stick around for sure, because I think, like I

2059
01:54:01,080 --> 01:54:02,519
Speaker 1: just also I'm in a place where like I know

2060
01:54:02,520 --> 01:54:05,479
Speaker 1: what i want very much, so I'm not shy about

2061
01:54:05,560 --> 01:54:10,840
Speaker 1: voicing that. Yeah, but like expressive, like more outspoken for sure,

2062
01:54:10,960 --> 01:54:15,200
Speaker 1: girls that like speak with confidence. I feel like I'm

2063
01:54:15,200 --> 01:54:18,439
Speaker 1: the bachelor and I'm saying the exact same thing I

2064
01:54:18,439 --> 01:54:20,760
Speaker 1: said in the previous interview. But I'm the bachelor. It

2065
01:54:20,800 --> 01:54:22,800
Speaker 1: feels like the girls who just are like a little

2066
01:54:22,800 --> 01:54:24,880
Speaker 1: bit like they bat their eyes and they speak so

2067
01:54:24,960 --> 01:54:27,840
Speaker 1: sweet and soft. They're the ones that are always like

2068
01:54:27,840 --> 01:54:31,120
Speaker 1: the front runners. I think there's an element of mystery

2069
01:54:31,200 --> 01:54:35,120
Speaker 1: that draws and see its mystery to a woman, just

2070
01:54:35,200 --> 01:54:40,400
Speaker 1: like there's like that like stereotype of because like there's

2071
01:54:40,400 --> 01:54:43,200
Speaker 1: a stereotype of a man being like the hunter or whatever.

2072
01:54:43,800 --> 01:54:46,000
Speaker 1: So like for someone who's mysterious and I'll back, he's

2073
01:54:46,080 --> 01:54:49,560
Speaker 1: like I gotta pursue that, because I gotta pursue that

2074
01:54:49,600 --> 01:54:51,720
Speaker 1: to get to know her. Otherwise I'm not gonna like

2075
01:54:52,160 --> 01:54:55,040
Speaker 1: if you put it all out there. That's a specific

2076
01:54:55,160 --> 01:54:57,080
Speaker 1: man who's like I want a confident girl who's going

2077
01:54:57,120 --> 01:54:59,880
Speaker 1: to go into a room and like shine, you know

2078
01:55:00,080 --> 01:55:03,280
Speaker 1: if he's like, wait, I get this, now, you just

2079
01:55:03,320 --> 01:55:06,000
Speaker 1: got I think you figured it out. They just like

2080
01:55:06,080 --> 01:55:08,960
Speaker 1: the mystery and girls like me and Tanya and and Beckett,

2081
01:55:09,000 --> 01:55:11,000
Speaker 1: you're just like all around and you just got it,

2082
01:55:12,040 --> 01:55:15,520
Speaker 1: you know. But she like appeals to everyone. Yeah, there's

2083
01:55:15,520 --> 01:55:18,600
Speaker 1: like she's like very real. It's like she's outspoken, yet

2084
01:55:18,680 --> 01:55:20,800
Speaker 1: does it in a gentle way. I don't like to

2085
01:55:21,120 --> 01:55:23,040
Speaker 1: do it. Like I could pretend, like, you know, to

2086
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Speaker 1: be like this cool, calm and like mystery girl, but

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Speaker 1: that's not me. So it's like the guy's going to

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Speaker 1: know within a month, like that's not me. You know

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Speaker 1: I can yeah, So it's like I just I can't.

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Speaker 1: I can't fake it. Yeah, And I'm telling you, like

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Speaker 1: just like I always say, Tanya has gotta find her Jared,

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01:55:38,960 --> 01:55:42,160
Speaker 1: because like Jared like celebrates that part about you, you know,

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01:55:42,200 --> 01:55:45,440
Speaker 1: like he loves it, and Tanya's guys gonna celebrate that

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01:55:45,480 --> 01:55:47,800
Speaker 1: about her. He wasn't like at first though. That's what

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01:55:47,880 --> 01:55:49,600
Speaker 1: held him back because he was like, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: I never imagined a girl like this, true, but that's

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Speaker 1: what took him. So it's longer to come around. That's

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying you never know, but we're not banking

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Speaker 1: on that time and I don't have to. Maybe you

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Speaker 1: should just h yeah, maybe you should um woo them

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Speaker 1: with friendship first, because I do feel like with girls

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Speaker 1: like us, perhaps friendship first would be great because then

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Speaker 1: they're like, oh wait, busy girls are really awesome, Like

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Speaker 1: I know that's something I'm bad at, Like I can't.

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Speaker 1: I just have too many friends and I don't want

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Speaker 1: a guy, you know, like if I if my tongue

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Speaker 1: has been in your mouth, Like noah, you can't backtrack. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we talk a lot about Tommy's tongue being in someone's mouth,

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Speaker 1: and my tongue has been in or around your mouth,

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Speaker 1: like you're not only my friend. Yeah, my friend Lizzie

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Speaker 1: always talks about that tongue and a tongue in a

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Speaker 1: guy's mouth. And I'm like, I don't really like tongue

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Speaker 1: that much, so that you don't know, I don't really know.

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Speaker 1: I really don't um, but my friend Lizzie is single,

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Speaker 1: nows so maybe you guys out yeah you know, wow,

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01:56:46,400 --> 01:56:51,480
Speaker 1: words words spreads quick. She was because I like post

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Speaker 1: a lot of quotes and stuff, and she was saying,

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Speaker 1: how they like help her, and I was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: that's so sweet, y'all. Are both you and Lizzie are

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Speaker 1: going to find I forgot that you us can both

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01:57:00,640 --> 01:57:03,480
Speaker 1: like go on the prowl together. Now there's no problem,

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Speaker 1: but I go on it doesn't want to go on

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Speaker 1: a prowl either. God, Okay, this is definitely an off

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Speaker 1: podcast conversation. We're talking about somebody who's not a podcast host,

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Speaker 1: not even a public figure. All right, y'all, thank you

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Speaker 1: for sticking with me for all these hours. I would

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Speaker 1: like to thank all our guests that stop by and

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Speaker 1: thank you too, Fine and Funky for dressing our presenters tonight.

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Speaker 1: We love Finding Funky. Whenever we are in the Reno,

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Speaker 1: Tahoe area, I always stop by there to get some

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Speaker 1: really adorable outfits. You can check them out online at

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Speaker 1: shop finding Funky dot com. And speaking of Tahoe, we

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Speaker 1: will be there. Jared, Me, Dean, Kaylin, Ben and Jess

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01:57:46,480 --> 01:57:50,240
Speaker 1: will all be there the weekend of February and Jared

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Speaker 1: and I will be making a special guest appearance at

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Speaker 1: Ben's Bachelor Live in Reno, So we hope to see

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Speaker 1: you guys there. Thank you for joining me on this

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Speaker 1: podcast episode. This very very special episode. We've missed Ben

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Speaker 1: this week and we will get to see him on Monday. Bye, guys,

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Speaker 1: it's been Ashley. Follow the Benn and Ashley I Almost

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