WEBVTT - Ladies, Get 'em Checked (S1, E18 “It’s Only a Test”) 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:10.320 It's with Jenny Garth and Tori Spelling. Hi you guys. 0:00:10.480 --> 0:00:13.960 We are back with another episode of O two one 0:00:14.040 --> 0:00:18.920 OMG with my favorite people, Jenny Garth and Sissony. Hi 0:00:19.079 --> 0:00:27.360 you guys, ladies. So happy to say is pretty ladies happy, 0:00:27.440 --> 0:00:30.200 whatever day of the week it is tal y'all, Hm, 0:00:30.680 --> 0:00:33.080 who knows when you're listening to this? I don't know, 0:00:34.479 --> 0:00:36.600 nobody knows, but we're happy that you're with us, that's 0:00:36.600 --> 0:00:41.400 for sure. Gosh so much you guys. The outpouring of 0:00:41.479 --> 0:00:45.760 love for our podcast has been amazing, and I'm just 0:00:45.800 --> 0:00:49.199 gonna say it, thanks for all of our stars. You 0:00:49.360 --> 0:00:52.599 like us, You really like us. Oh, the stars are 0:00:52.640 --> 0:00:58.640 so shiny. It's really nice. We're trying, we're trying really 0:00:58.640 --> 0:01:01.520 hard to do a good podcast through guys, and you know, 0:01:01.560 --> 0:01:03.840 we show up every week, we do our homework and 0:01:04.160 --> 0:01:08.480 sisanse always so happy to see us, and we're happy 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:11.480 to see you guys. So that's a baby on board. 0:01:11.520 --> 0:01:15.400 She has fifty million jobs and look at her. She 0:01:15.440 --> 0:01:18.440 has youth on her side. And you know what I 0:01:18.480 --> 0:01:22.520 realized today is that my weeks of pregnancy are matching 0:01:22.600 --> 0:01:25.720 up with the week that we're on that episode. So 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:29.600 stop it. So today we're talking about episode eighteen, and 0:01:29.640 --> 0:01:37.000 I am eighteen weeks pregnant. Crazy stuff happens all the time. 0:01:37.040 --> 0:01:41.039 That's just weird like that, like little little signs that 0:01:41.080 --> 0:01:44.360 you're exactly where you're supposed to be. Thank you, Thank 0:01:44.400 --> 0:01:49.200 your husband for shooting it that day. Oh my god. Okay, 0:01:49.200 --> 0:01:57.040 eighteen weeks ago. Well this was episode, like you said, eighteen, 0:01:58.160 --> 0:02:05.440 it's only a test a date March nine. The synopsis 0:02:05.480 --> 0:02:08.200 is Brenda is filled with horror when she discovers a 0:02:08.280 --> 0:02:11.720 lump in her breast, which calls for a biopsy. Meanwhile, 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:14.919 the upcoming S A T S put extra pressure on everyone, 0:02:15.040 --> 0:02:19.200 especially Andrea and Steam. Things heat up during a study 0:02:19.280 --> 0:02:23.000 night together when an intimate moment happens between the two. 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:30.560 Don't done. Yeah, this episode started out with you know, 0:02:31.040 --> 0:02:35.040 S A T frenzy, it's a test, the S A 0:02:35.120 --> 0:02:40.760 T S. Everybody was stressing out about it, and quickly 0:02:40.960 --> 0:02:44.240 kind of shifted gears into a different kind of test, 0:02:44.280 --> 0:02:50.640 which was Brenda's um for rest examination test and she 0:02:50.680 --> 0:02:52.400 had to go get a test at the hospital. So 0:02:52.400 --> 0:02:53.959 I thought it was interesting the way they will have 0:02:54.080 --> 0:02:59.639 these two storylines together. It was very clever that I'm 0:02:59.639 --> 0:03:01.600 not going to allow you. Guys, this is the episode 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:05.679 I was kind of dreading coming up, um for obvious reasons. 0:03:05.720 --> 0:03:09.440 With Shannon. It's you know, I know everyone thought about 0:03:09.440 --> 0:03:14.720 it when when she had cancer. This was really hard 0:03:14.840 --> 0:03:18.520 for me to watch, Like I had to actually use it. 0:03:19.000 --> 0:03:23.600 Cry was a couple of times because it was just 0:03:23.919 --> 0:03:31.240 too too close, man, too weirdly sinked in a not 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:35.760 good way. You know what is that called? That's like foreshadowing. 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:40.440 It was foreshadowing synchronicity. But yeah, but with outcome, obviously, 0:03:41.800 --> 0:03:45.280 Chand's a warrior, she's a fighter, and she did you know, 0:03:45.720 --> 0:03:48.560 she's resilient, she she bounces back. She's a fighter. And 0:03:48.600 --> 0:03:51.680 I think Brenda is a fighter too, So those things 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:55.640 lined up in a positive way. But um, we've never 0:03:55.640 --> 0:03:59.400 talked to Shannon about it, but I can't help but 0:03:59.480 --> 0:04:02.320 know that must have thought about like, oh my gosh, 0:04:02.720 --> 0:04:05.520 only all these years ago, thirty years ago, gosh, who 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:07.840 would have thought that you know, this would come true 0:04:07.960 --> 0:04:11.760 thirty years later. Yeah. Yeah, we've never really said can 0:04:11.800 --> 0:04:16.200 you believe that episode where Brenda thought she had a 0:04:16.279 --> 0:04:18.880 lump and now you know that, Yeah, we've never really 0:04:18.880 --> 0:04:22.120 addressed that. We should and of all the characters, you 0:04:22.160 --> 0:04:24.560 know that. I mean obviously, I mean it lines up 0:04:24.560 --> 0:04:26.360 that they would have done it with Brenda, you know, 0:04:26.400 --> 0:04:30.520 one of the twins. But just the way it worked out, Um, 0:04:30.880 --> 0:04:34.360 it's just kind of it's shocking. Yeah, I mean, even 0:04:34.400 --> 0:04:39.120 without this sort of like weird synchronicity, the episode was 0:04:39.320 --> 0:04:46.200 very dramatic and very like serious undertones. Yeah, thank goodness, 0:04:46.279 --> 0:04:49.400 we had a little bit of comedic relief with um 0:04:49.440 --> 0:04:54.559 Steve and Andrea. Thank you Ian Srin for always flying 0:04:54.640 --> 0:05:01.080 us with that A little bed flipped that. Yeah. Yeah, 0:05:01.120 --> 0:05:06.000 he was very very excited to plant his lips on Andrea. 0:05:07.400 --> 0:05:09.479 You know what I love the most I got to 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:12.560 say is I mean, I'm gonna be honest. When we 0:05:12.600 --> 0:05:16.000 filmed this episode, I thought to myself, Oh my gosh, 0:05:16.040 --> 0:05:18.600 I mean I think I was like seventeen, like we 0:05:18.600 --> 0:05:21.560 were teenagers, you and I. And I was like, I've 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:23.800 never checked my breaths, Like I would never even think 0:05:23.800 --> 0:05:25.800 of it, you know, I didn't. I didn't know like 0:05:25.880 --> 0:05:29.039 this can happen to a sixteen year old. And I 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:31.960 remember because we filmed that, like we had to do 0:05:32.000 --> 0:05:35.680 it on the bed and they taught us. Um, I 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:39.279 definitely like that. After that, I always checked from that 0:05:39.360 --> 0:05:43.599 day forward, and I think it's important, like teenagers watching 0:05:43.600 --> 0:05:46.320 this today that are finding nine out two one oh now, 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:50.479 um too, it's relevant, like it's never too early to 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:53.280 start and it's such a great message and um, I 0:05:53.320 --> 0:05:59.400 just think it's so important as women agree. Yeah, I 0:05:59.440 --> 0:06:06.160 mean we were young, and I'm sure doing that on 0:06:06.200 --> 0:06:11.919 the bed Kelly and Donna and Brenda was really awkward, 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:15.039 like you know, the crew guys all standing around, and 0:06:16.080 --> 0:06:22.640 I'm sure that was uncomfortable but very very embarrassing. But also, 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:25.919 like you're saying, like super informative, very very helpful to 0:06:26.000 --> 0:06:29.599 so many young women out there. And I mean I 0:06:29.640 --> 0:06:32.920 mean hopefully, and I'm sure it did, but hopefully the 0:06:32.960 --> 0:06:35.680 show just really helped a lot of people with this 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:39.280 that the way they wrote it in was really creative 0:06:39.320 --> 0:06:41.840 to They had Kelly reading it out of a magazine, 0:06:42.360 --> 0:06:44.080 which is what you did when you were in high 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:46.000 school and your friends were over at your house. You 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:48.880 guys have through magazines and take the quizzes. And it 0:06:48.960 --> 0:06:54.239 was because they then had the shot of the visual, 0:06:54.400 --> 0:06:57.680 you know, like people could actually see what we were 0:06:57.720 --> 0:07:02.200 talking about. Just a really home like this is how 0:07:02.200 --> 0:07:05.719 you do it, you know. But to Jen's point, like, 0:07:05.800 --> 0:07:08.480 keep in mind, you guys, we were three teenage girls, 0:07:08.520 --> 0:07:10.880 all three of us were in our team still, and 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:14.000 imagine doing this in front of, predominantly at the time, 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:17.840 a male crew like you were saying, like, do you 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:20.480 remember what we felt like? Not like the actual physical 0:07:20.480 --> 0:07:23.120 part felt like, but like mentally, you know. I was 0:07:23.160 --> 0:07:25.600 just I was watching it and I was thinking, oh 0:07:25.640 --> 0:07:28.840 my god, Kelly is unbuttoning her What is happening. She's 0:07:28.920 --> 0:07:32.040 unbuttoning her shirt. I see there's all of her. And 0:07:32.080 --> 0:07:34.520 I was getting really nervous. And then I thought, Okay, 0:07:34.520 --> 0:07:38.400 grow up, she's she's just gonna do a breast exam. 0:07:38.480 --> 0:07:42.480 And I felt like the characters really, even though we 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:46.680 were probably super uncomfortable, uh, we all did a really 0:07:46.720 --> 0:07:50.000 good job of like not laughing. Like you know, there 0:07:50.040 --> 0:07:52.360 was a little levity in it with your line tour 0:07:53.240 --> 0:07:56.600 about aren't you glad you were a deoda in or something, 0:07:59.400 --> 0:08:03.040 But I felt I felt like we delivered the message 0:08:04.560 --> 0:08:07.880 as well as we could in that moment. There are 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:10.800 probably some giggles off camera because we were teen teen 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:14.360 girls having to touch our boobs on camera. Um, so 0:08:14.400 --> 0:08:16.520 it's uncomfortable. I mean definitely, you know, I think it's 0:08:16.520 --> 0:08:18.960 important that people do that behind the scenes and something 0:08:19.000 --> 0:08:21.640 you would do with your friends if you're curious, but 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:24.080 in front of, you know, a whole crew, Like how 0:08:24.120 --> 0:08:26.040 many crew members do you think would be on set 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:30.720 during something like that, just like right around us, like 0:08:30.800 --> 0:08:37.599 the core, the grips, the electricians, the proper people, but 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:43.800 many people at least at least at least So we're 0:08:43.840 --> 0:08:46.040 just trying to set the stage and you know, three 0:08:46.120 --> 0:08:48.520 teenage girls, this is all new to us. It's our 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:51.840 season one, you know, it wasn't a hit yet, and 0:08:51.880 --> 0:08:54.480 we're like, oh my god, what is happening under the 0:08:54.520 --> 0:08:58.640 spotlights of those huge, huge lights they had us under 0:08:59.000 --> 0:09:03.120 in a really bright room Kelly's bedroom, which was so 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:06.880 that was a lot like it's all the red and 0:09:06.920 --> 0:09:13.160 the pink and the artwork of herself. Who's that is that? Kelly? Yeah? 0:09:13.320 --> 0:09:17.080 That's that? Or those are pictures of Kelly on Kelly's 0:09:17.080 --> 0:09:21.440 walls doing it in front of a crew at forty 0:09:21.480 --> 0:09:23.760 seven years old, and like, you know, I can't imagine 0:09:23.880 --> 0:09:27.480 seventeen doing it, Like, oh wow, that's more awkward than 0:09:27.600 --> 0:09:34.280 a love scene in a bed, really I I don't 0:09:34.360 --> 0:09:37.559 think so. I hadn't done a love scene yet at 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:41.520 this point, so this was the closest for me at least. Okay, 0:09:41.559 --> 0:09:44.120 I mean, I guess I hadn't done a love scene before. 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:49.760 That's a kiss that wasn't like a kiss in the 0:09:49.800 --> 0:09:54.000 garage come on different. It was different. I don't know 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:56.200 neither of us. I don't we hadn't any of us. 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:59.840 Even Brenda hadn't done like love scenes on the show, 0:10:00.760 --> 0:10:03.200 but Andrea Steve did. I keep coming back to it 0:10:03.240 --> 0:10:07.760 because I'm sorry. It was interesting. My jaw dropped when 0:10:07.800 --> 0:10:09.920 we did b h n oh two one out. I 0:10:09.920 --> 0:10:12.480 don't know who brought it up, but the writers I think, 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:14.880 brought it up that Andrea and Steve had had this 0:10:14.960 --> 0:10:17.160 love scene. And I don't think we remember this, and 0:10:17.160 --> 0:10:19.920 we were like that never happened, that they never got 0:10:19.960 --> 0:10:23.240 together that, but hello, they did. That's it? Is this 0:10:23.320 --> 0:10:26.199 it or does it go further? I'm very curious to 0:10:26.240 --> 0:10:30.280 Andrea and Steve hook up again. I don't think one 0:10:30.400 --> 0:10:34.560 time special events one and one and done. We like 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:42.960 special events, limited special events, special little special relationship. But 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:45.320 she did look super cute. She did look super cute 0:10:45.360 --> 0:10:48.520 there on the bed with her took off her glasses 0:10:50.200 --> 0:10:53.880 hot for teacher, look like without your glasses. And he's all, 0:10:54.520 --> 0:10:59.800 I mean manly in in his white tight T shirt 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:04.160 is tight acid washed jeans. He's just so confident and like, 0:11:05.120 --> 0:11:08.079 oh no, I think I I as the fire of 0:11:08.160 --> 0:11:12.880 that age. I'd be like, hi, so burly. I always 0:11:12.880 --> 0:11:19.120 thought his room. Didn't he have like money behind him 0:11:19.120 --> 0:11:27.199 on the giant dollar bills or something dollar bills. He 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:30.000 loved the money. But he was hot in that scene. 0:11:30.280 --> 0:11:33.800 And then when she left he was sexy, so she 0:11:33.800 --> 0:11:38.760 she was super sexy. Yeah right, and yes, of course 0:11:38.880 --> 0:11:41.640 he like flipped over his bed and like laid down 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:43.600 on the couch. And then when he's laying on the couch, 0:11:43.720 --> 0:11:46.560 right before that they cut to the next scene, you 0:11:46.600 --> 0:11:52.560 can see him going like like doing the funniest like 0:11:51.000 --> 0:11:55.400 like it was so cute and so iron like it 0:11:55.559 --> 0:11:58.320 just you know, that's like one of those so many 0:11:58.320 --> 0:12:01.680 times with um with I in it was Steve. Their 0:12:01.760 --> 0:12:05.040 characters are so blended to me, like because he brought 0:12:05.080 --> 0:12:09.080 so much of his humor and his like just love 0:12:09.080 --> 0:12:13.280 ability to that character. I really want to meet him. 0:12:13.320 --> 0:12:14.920 I really want him to come on the point we 0:12:14.960 --> 0:12:19.280 want you to to. I saw this he posted. He 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:22.200 says he wants to do it, and he's active on 0:12:22.240 --> 0:12:24.240 social media. He posted this video the other day of 0:12:24.480 --> 0:12:27.480 his lunch, and I watched the whole thing and he 0:12:27.520 --> 0:12:31.800 was making avocado toast with a poached egg. I watched 0:12:31.880 --> 0:12:37.000 that entire thing. His voice is just so soothing, and 0:12:37.040 --> 0:12:39.480 he was just so excited for his life. Was like watching, 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:44.719 you know, one of those like late night infomercial. Stop watching. 0:12:45.520 --> 0:12:48.400 Like if if he had had that avocado and egg 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:51.280 toast for sale, you know what I actually was like, 0:12:51.400 --> 0:12:52.960 is he going to put a link to the egg, 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:55.560 the egg, the hard boiled egg. Yeah, he had a 0:12:55.600 --> 0:12:59.120 machine that makes that poaches the egg for him. He 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:03.719 doesn't have to put so, you know, irons a total entrepreneur. 0:13:03.920 --> 0:13:05.960 If he was thinking straight, he should have put a 0:13:06.000 --> 0:13:07.640 link to that because he would have sold them. Because 0:13:07.679 --> 0:13:11.199 I was in I was like this with hard boiled eggs. 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:15.040 I don't know if I'm I would buy hard boiled eggs. 0:13:15.200 --> 0:13:16.720 It was no, it was a poached egg, but he 0:13:16.800 --> 0:13:19.760 overcooked it. He did. He did so slow and then 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:21.920 what one broke a little bit, and I was like, 0:13:22.480 --> 0:13:25.000 you know, good for him. This is real, this is real, 0:13:25.040 --> 0:13:27.960 which it never happens on Instagram. He didn't go back. 0:13:29.040 --> 0:13:33.040 He kiss feed you know dad life, but I for 0:13:33.080 --> 0:13:36.160 sure definitely long dam video. Now I know how I'm 0:13:36.160 --> 0:13:38.439 going to spend the rest of my afternoon. Thanks guys. 0:13:39.240 --> 0:13:41.160 Going back to a lot of olive oil though he 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:43.360 poured on it. Yeah, I think it went a little 0:13:43.600 --> 0:13:46.280 overboard the end, but it's fine. The funny thing is 0:13:46.400 --> 0:13:48.719 I was watching, I was like, God, are they our 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:52.600 pennant and and me, I'm gonna eat this? And I 0:13:52.640 --> 0:13:55.480 was like nervous because I was like for young kids, 0:13:55.480 --> 0:13:59.720 it was very adults. He had some salt and some 0:14:00.000 --> 0:14:04.000 it was a lot not by the video stopped talking 0:14:04.080 --> 0:14:08.240 about the sucking avocado tost video. I'm done. Sorry, Sorry, 0:14:08.280 --> 0:14:10.320 Remember we were talking about all those like the five 0:14:10.360 --> 0:14:13.040 stars we had and all, yeah, all the people lost 0:14:13.080 --> 0:14:17.199 them just like that to the show. Sorry, I'm hungry. 0:14:17.720 --> 0:14:19.720 I want to talk about the opening of the show, 0:14:20.080 --> 0:14:22.960 just because there was just win particular one moment that 0:14:23.080 --> 0:14:27.480 was like whoa, um, it's the nineties. There there's a 0:14:27.560 --> 0:14:30.600 kid sitting outside the school before we But if Ford 0:14:30.680 --> 0:14:34.600 ever really starts and he has the biggest, weirdest contraption 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:37.880 on his lap. I don't know what it looks like 0:14:37.880 --> 0:14:42.600 a typewriter, but ginormous. And I'm not guessing that was 0:14:42.640 --> 0:14:47.520 like the first ever laptop made ever by man. It's 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:51.560 like it was like like a caveman laptop. It was. 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:55.920 It was so huge. It definitely caught my eye. Yeah, 0:14:55.920 --> 0:14:58.360 I had to like stop, stop the thing and rewind 0:14:58.360 --> 0:15:00.880 and watch it rewind. Don't know, go back? What do 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:04.880 you say these days? Um? And then also another moment 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:08.200 in the show that brought me right back was that 0:15:08.680 --> 0:15:12.120 when when Carol is in the kitchen and she has 0:15:12.680 --> 0:15:15.960 a giant phone book. Do you guys see that? Like 0:15:16.120 --> 0:15:20.720 we missed the giant phone by enormous yellow page and 0:15:20.760 --> 0:15:23.240 they don't have that anymore. They don't have phone books anymore. 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:27.000 Where did all the phone books go? Isn't that sad? 0:15:27.040 --> 0:15:29.400 I remember as a little kid, as a toddler, you 0:15:29.400 --> 0:15:32.440 didn't take around booster seats and stuff, and you would 0:15:32.480 --> 0:15:34.800 go into restaurants and they would bring out their phone 0:15:34.800 --> 0:15:36.880 book and they would put it on the kid. You 0:15:36.880 --> 0:15:41.360 would sit on its table or a booth. Not crazy. 0:15:41.480 --> 0:15:45.040 And also there was that joke too, We're not the joke, 0:15:45.880 --> 0:15:49.120 It's not a joke something about like I could listen 0:15:49.160 --> 0:15:52.320 to him read the phone book. Oh yeah, Like that 0:15:52.360 --> 0:15:54.400 means like somebody's just so good. You just want to 0:15:54.440 --> 0:15:56.040 You don't care what they're saying, You just want to 0:15:56.040 --> 0:15:59.520 listen to them. What would be the two thousand twenty 0:15:59.520 --> 0:16:05.240 one version and that nobody talks to was gonna Dictionary? 0:16:05.280 --> 0:16:08.160 But even that's like everything is digital. I could listen 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:10.920 to him read read it all day long. Yeah, there 0:16:10.960 --> 0:16:16.240 you go. But yeah, Brandon says right out right out 0:16:16.280 --> 0:16:18.720 of the gate, you can't study for the s a 0:16:18.800 --> 0:16:24.120 t S. He's very advent about that, right, He's like says, 0:16:24.120 --> 0:16:27.160 you can't study. You can but off for the s 0:16:27.200 --> 0:16:29.840 A t S. Did you take that SAT S? No, 0:16:30.600 --> 0:16:33.760 to him, I did horrible. Like I did so bad 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:36.040 that I had to take it again in hopes that 0:16:36.040 --> 0:16:37.520 you get like a higher score, and it was like 0:16:38.080 --> 0:16:40.400 forty points higher. And I was like, Okay, that's a 0:16:40.440 --> 0:16:43.680 lot this acting thing works out. Now, that's a lot 0:16:43.920 --> 0:16:46.320 of forty points, my girls. I mean, because that's the thing. 0:16:46.360 --> 0:16:49.600 You can take it three times now and you like 0:16:49.640 --> 0:16:53.120 pick your best score. But now colleges aren't even using 0:16:53.240 --> 0:16:57.760 SAT scores for acceptably Yeah. Thing in the past. That's 0:16:57.760 --> 0:16:59.240 going to be a thing of the past, unless you're 0:16:59.280 --> 0:17:03.800 going for like, you know, a doctor, like some a doctor, 0:17:04.280 --> 0:17:06.360 you know, if you're studying that. I think they don't 0:17:06.359 --> 0:17:09.160 even look at test scores anymore. They didn't for my 0:17:09.320 --> 0:17:12.520 daughter that applied this year. She did. She she was 0:17:12.560 --> 0:17:15.639 given the option. You can either you know, send in 0:17:15.680 --> 0:17:18.240 your chest results or you don't have to just send 0:17:18.320 --> 0:17:20.600 in a do all the other things that you have 0:17:20.640 --> 0:17:23.760 to do to apply and write a really good letter. 0:17:26.119 --> 0:17:28.879 So like, yeah, I know, sis notes, we have to 0:17:28.880 --> 0:17:31.800 take notes. That's going to happen to us one day 0:17:31.880 --> 0:17:35.240 and me sooner than year. Oh my god, No, my 0:17:35.320 --> 0:17:38.160 kid just turned guys, and I'm having a real hard 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:40.560 time with her. You know, I felt that on your Instagram. 0:17:40.640 --> 0:17:43.000 I really feel like if you took a trip down 0:17:43.040 --> 0:17:45.479 memory lane with all those pictures, oh my god, the 0:17:45.520 --> 0:17:48.360 cutest pictures ever finding all day you guys. I don't 0:17:48.400 --> 0:17:50.000 know what was wrong with me. It was really weird. 0:17:51.160 --> 0:17:54.200 But I'm not sure what it is. You guys. I turned, 0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:56.879 you know, forty, and like it was okay, now forty 0:17:56.920 --> 0:17:59.960 seven and I'm like, it's fine. He turned thirteen, didn't 0:18:00.000 --> 0:18:01.919 have a big deal he turned fourteen, and it was 0:18:02.000 --> 0:18:04.720 as if my world ended. I don't know what it is. 0:18:05.119 --> 0:18:07.800 I keep looking at old pictures of him. I keep crying. 0:18:08.200 --> 0:18:11.240 He walks into the room and I get emotional and 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:14.080 I'm like, I can't believe this because he's so big now, 0:18:14.119 --> 0:18:16.440 he's just like a yeng man all of a sudden. 0:18:17.520 --> 0:18:21.199 But it it really um oh god, I'm gonna start crying. 0:18:21.240 --> 0:18:25.560 It was the first time that this has ever hit me, 0:18:25.720 --> 0:18:29.520 that that chapter is over, like it's it's finality. It 0:18:29.560 --> 0:18:33.560 really is like the baby making the baby, little babies 0:18:33.880 --> 0:18:37.040 them as toddlers, you know, and Bow two weeks so 0:18:37.240 --> 0:18:40.840 my first and my last are ten years apart. In 0:18:41.080 --> 0:18:45.320 eleven days, so March second to March fourteen, and Bow 0:18:45.440 --> 0:18:48.159 turned four and then Liam turned fourteen, and it's just 0:18:48.240 --> 0:18:52.359 like I know, I mean, I know you know it 0:18:52.480 --> 0:18:55.120 to Jen, and it's just like you look at little babies. 0:18:55.160 --> 0:18:58.240 We look at you like you're embarking on this journey again, 0:18:58.240 --> 0:19:01.520 and it's so amazing, and it's something that's you know, 0:19:02.119 --> 0:19:04.240 it's a closed chapter in our lives and we can't 0:19:04.280 --> 0:19:07.120 go back. And my kids keep saying, but Mom, you'll 0:19:07.119 --> 0:19:08.840 be a grandma one day. And you can hold all 0:19:08.880 --> 0:19:12.840 the babies. And I'm like, yeah, and I'm grateful, but 0:19:13.960 --> 0:19:17.840 wait till your way, till your baby turns fourteen, you're 0:19:17.880 --> 0:19:20.159 going to be a hot mess. Are you trying to 0:19:20.200 --> 0:19:24.480 break her? Right now? You're getting me, I know, because 0:19:24.560 --> 0:19:27.280 I think you know I'm a crier. Don't do it. 0:19:27.280 --> 0:19:30.480 It's so awful, And you're right like that, But I 0:19:30.600 --> 0:19:33.600 missed the babies, and I miss all the fun of 0:19:33.640 --> 0:19:36.439 being a mom to little people and chasing them. And 0:19:36.480 --> 0:19:40.080 it's really a hard transition, and as you get older 0:19:40.119 --> 0:19:42.480 to think, oh, I'm never okay. That's something that I've 0:19:42.560 --> 0:19:45.800 really loved and valued and cherished and I'm never going 0:19:45.840 --> 0:19:48.480 to get to have that again. But then you have 0:19:48.840 --> 0:19:51.280 many things you could say that about rights you have 0:19:51.400 --> 0:19:53.800 to do. You have to sort of like reset and 0:19:54.880 --> 0:19:57.920 look ahead at being a grandparent and how exciting that's 0:19:57.920 --> 0:20:04.080 gonna be. Granny Tori? Can they call like that? You're youngest, 0:20:04.119 --> 0:20:10.439 it's still so young. You have grand names? Do you 0:20:10.480 --> 0:20:13.400 know your grandma name is yet? I think her should 0:20:13.400 --> 0:20:17.439 be Tata. That means boobies. Why are you like it? 0:20:17.520 --> 0:20:21.160 For you? I'm gonna be tatas was actually my grandpa's name, 0:20:21.200 --> 0:20:25.600 that's what we called our grandpa. Was sorry, the Hispanic 0:20:26.600 --> 0:20:32.560 name grandfather probably not the right episode. Sorry, But okay, 0:20:34.200 --> 0:20:36.840 why don't you know what, Let's let's regroup. Let's regroup, 0:20:36.960 --> 0:20:39.560 got some tissue um, and let's come back. We still 0:20:39.560 --> 0:20:41.960 need to cover more of the s A T storyline. 0:20:42.119 --> 0:20:46.679 And and then I have questions about how when Brenda 0:20:46.720 --> 0:20:49.479 went to the doctor and how the doctor was just 0:20:49.560 --> 0:20:51.760 like pooh pooed the mom and was like, you need 0:20:51.800 --> 0:20:53.520 to leave, and I need to talk to your underage 0:20:53.640 --> 0:20:56.120 daughter alone. So a lot of questions about let's talk 0:20:56.119 --> 0:21:09.359 about that when we come come back. Yeah. So in 0:21:09.480 --> 0:21:13.040 this show, Kelly's reading out of the article in the 0:21:13.080 --> 0:21:16.440 magazine when they're doing the breast exam and she says 0:21:17.160 --> 0:21:20.199 one out of nine women will get breast cancer. That 0:21:20.240 --> 0:21:25.520 was in so I was curious, what, you know, what 0:21:25.600 --> 0:21:28.080 has happened over all these years? Have we gone better? 0:21:28.119 --> 0:21:32.360 Have we gotten worse? So in two thousand one, it's 0:21:32.400 --> 0:21:35.439 now one out of eight women we'll get breast cancer. 0:21:38.080 --> 0:21:41.159 That is so, there's that. So it's worse. That's worse, right, 0:21:41.280 --> 0:21:46.119 that's worse. That's so interesting. You would have thought that 0:21:46.240 --> 0:21:49.520 thirty years later like it would have we would have progressed, 0:21:49.560 --> 0:21:52.760 we would have like learned or but I guess maybe 0:21:52.760 --> 0:21:58.199 there's more people in the world of course now, Um, 0:21:58.320 --> 0:22:02.280 but we're so much more informed now women. Yeah, that's true. 0:22:04.320 --> 0:22:09.280 That's true. And Brenda went in to get checked out 0:22:09.320 --> 0:22:11.280 and she's with her mom. I thought it was I 0:22:11.280 --> 0:22:13.480 thought it was so weird that the doctor told the 0:22:13.560 --> 0:22:16.000 mom to get out of the room and she would 0:22:16.040 --> 0:22:19.120 speak to Brenda. I'm like, does that happen? I don't 0:22:19.119 --> 0:22:22.720 have kids that are teenagers, but does that happen? It's 0:22:22.800 --> 0:22:26.280 if there's a weird fine line when you're your kid 0:22:26.400 --> 0:22:31.560 becomes uh uh, you know, an independent person and they 0:22:31.600 --> 0:22:33.840 can function on their own and they should speak for themselves. 0:22:33.960 --> 0:22:36.600 And have you had to leave the room? Yes? I 0:22:36.640 --> 0:22:40.479 have had to leave the room? You wow, wow? Um, 0:22:40.760 --> 0:22:45.399 Because you know, of course it's like are you I asked, 0:22:45.480 --> 0:22:47.639 are you okay with me leaving room and whatever the 0:22:47.800 --> 0:22:52.000 circumstances were, um, And they always said yes. And and 0:22:52.040 --> 0:22:54.199 of course I knew who they were going to be 0:22:54.240 --> 0:22:57.640 sitting with and talking with and um. And I also 0:22:57.960 --> 0:23:02.760 after they finished the meeting, I would kind of get 0:23:02.760 --> 0:23:06.320 a general fill in from the doctor or the person 0:23:06.359 --> 0:23:07.800 that they had met with. So it wasn't like I 0:23:07.840 --> 0:23:10.040 was completely out of the loop, but they just want 0:23:10.080 --> 0:23:15.400 to establish that kind of um with Yeah. And and 0:23:15.600 --> 0:23:17.720 because you need that moving forward in your life, you 0:23:17.800 --> 0:23:21.320 have to be able to have full disclosure with whoever 0:23:21.400 --> 0:23:23.239 it is that you're speaking to a therapist or a 0:23:23.240 --> 0:23:25.640 doctor of any kind, you know. And so I think 0:23:25.720 --> 0:23:29.119 I think that's an important step in um, just becoming 0:23:29.160 --> 0:23:32.120 an adult and becoming your own voice. And I think 0:23:32.119 --> 0:23:33.560 I thought it was a good thing. But it was 0:23:33.600 --> 0:23:38.760 definitely you could tell Cindy wasn't comfortable with it. Yeah, 0:23:38.840 --> 0:23:42.560 I wouldn't be either, but I guess I have to be. Yeah, 0:23:42.600 --> 0:23:45.199 the first time it happens, you'll see it sort of 0:23:45.200 --> 0:23:47.400 plays out in front of your eyes, and you'll make 0:23:47.440 --> 0:23:50.159 the right decisions. You'll you'll do the right thing, but 0:23:50.200 --> 0:23:54.639 it will feel a little weird mm hmm. And the 0:23:54.680 --> 0:23:57.320 doctor I thought was so great, she reminded me of 0:23:57.680 --> 0:24:02.320 my kind of colleges that I had. This is so weird, right, 0:24:03.520 --> 0:24:07.399 she remembers to me of doctor Goldman Um who was 0:24:07.440 --> 0:24:10.199 my first guy ecologist. And I had moved to l A. 0:24:10.280 --> 0:24:12.520 I didn't have any doctors or anything and I must 0:24:12.520 --> 0:24:16.520 have been sixteen or seventeen, and at some point I 0:24:16.560 --> 0:24:18.880 needed a guy know, and I didn't know who to ask, 0:24:18.960 --> 0:24:25.160 so I asked my manager and Brandy James. He's a man. 0:24:26.240 --> 0:24:28.720