WEBVTT - Put it in writing

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that when you say something nice to someone,

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<v Speaker 1>follow up by putting it in a written format. That way,

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<v Speaker 1>the person you are praising can be encouraged by your

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<v Speaker 1>words again and again. Hopefully you are the sort of

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<v Speaker 1>person who praises people frequently. There is almost always something

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<v Speaker 1>to be celebrated, even in situations where all has not

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<v Speaker 1>gone perfectly, and it is good to point out what

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<v Speaker 1>goes well, But spoken praise tends to be fleeting. You

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<v Speaker 1>praise someone's work in a meeting and they beam, but

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<v Speaker 1>then it is over. The person will try to recall

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<v Speaker 1>what you said and may repeat what they remember to

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<v Speaker 1>their spouse that night, but it can become nebulous over time.

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<v Speaker 1>The solution helped make it more concrete by putting it

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<v Speaker 1>in writing. This really doesn't have to be complicated. After

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<v Speaker 1>a situation in which you've been able to praise someone,

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<v Speaker 1>send a note afterwards repeating what you said. Mary, I

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<v Speaker 1>just wanted to reiterate what I said in the meeting.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so thrilled with the work you've done to make

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<v Speaker 1>this a more cohesive team. I can see how much

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<v Speaker 1>more effective everyone is under your guidance. Now the person

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<v Speaker 1>has something they can look at again and again, they

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<v Speaker 1>won't forget any of the nuances or any extra bits

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<v Speaker 1>it might have thrown in. If a child has on

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<v Speaker 1>something great, you can praise it at the dinner table,

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<v Speaker 1>but then follow up with a handwritten note mentioning how

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<v Speaker 1>proud you are. Even gruff older children tend to put

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<v Speaker 1>these somewhere other than the garbage can. There are certainly

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<v Speaker 1>situations where you can be more formal about this. If

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<v Speaker 1>you are giving a toast at a wedding, consider writing

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<v Speaker 1>the toast out and then given that written copy to

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<v Speaker 1>the couple. If you are speaking mostly off the cuff,

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<v Speaker 1>have someone record it and then you can transcribe it.

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<v Speaker 1>This written record can then be something the couple includes

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<v Speaker 1>in a wedding album or frame if it's nice enough.

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<v Speaker 1>But the point is that even fleeting positive words can

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<v Speaker 1>be given more weight when they are put into written form.

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<v Speaker 1>The whole point of inventing writing was that it allowed

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<v Speaker 1>people to reference things over and over again without keeping

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<v Speaker 1>everything in their heads. Compliments deserve this special treatment as

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<v Speaker 1>much as records or anything else. So put it in writing.

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<v Speaker 1>That way, when you say something nice about someone, they

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<v Speaker 1>can relive the compliment again and again. That makes the

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<v Speaker 1>happiness last. And it is a very good use of

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<v Speaker 1>a few extra minutes in the meantime. This is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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