1 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:09,520 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning. 2 00:00:11,200 --> 00:00:17,400 Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 3 00:00:17,400 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 1: tip is that when you say something nice to someone, 4 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:27,360 Speaker 1: follow up by putting it in a written format. That way, 5 00:00:27,840 --> 00:00:30,920 Speaker 1: the person you are praising can be encouraged by your 6 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:37,320 Speaker 1: words again and again. Hopefully you are the sort of 7 00:00:37,360 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: person who praises people frequently. There is almost always something 8 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:46,919 Speaker 1: to be celebrated, even in situations where all has not 9 00:00:47,040 --> 00:00:51,400 Speaker 1: gone perfectly, and it is good to point out what 10 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:58,200 Speaker 1: goes well, But spoken praise tends to be fleeting. You 11 00:00:58,280 --> 00:01:01,680 Speaker 1: praise someone's work in a meeting and they beam, but 12 00:01:01,720 --> 00:01:05,440 Speaker 1: then it is over. The person will try to recall 13 00:01:05,480 --> 00:01:08,319 Speaker 1: what you said and may repeat what they remember to 14 00:01:08,400 --> 00:01:12,959 Speaker 1: their spouse that night, but it can become nebulous over time. 15 00:01:14,360 --> 00:01:18,920 Speaker 1: The solution helped make it more concrete by putting it 16 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:24,040 Speaker 1: in writing. This really doesn't have to be complicated. After 17 00:01:24,080 --> 00:01:26,880 Speaker 1: a situation in which you've been able to praise someone, 18 00:01:27,840 --> 00:01:32,400 Speaker 1: send a note afterwards repeating what you said. Mary, I 19 00:01:32,680 --> 00:01:35,039 Speaker 1: just wanted to reiterate what I said in the meeting. 20 00:01:35,959 --> 00:01:38,240 Speaker 1: I'm so thrilled with the work you've done to make 21 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 1: this a more cohesive team. I can see how much 22 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:47,160 Speaker 1: more effective everyone is under your guidance. Now the person 23 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:51,200 Speaker 1: has something they can look at again and again, they 24 00:01:51,200 --> 00:01:55,680 Speaker 1: won't forget any of the nuances or any extra bits 25 00:01:55,960 --> 00:02:00,160 Speaker 1: it might have thrown in. If a child has on 26 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:03,680 Speaker 1: something great, you can praise it at the dinner table, 27 00:02:04,720 --> 00:02:08,640 Speaker 1: but then follow up with a handwritten note mentioning how 28 00:02:08,680 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 1: proud you are. Even gruff older children tend to put 29 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 1: these somewhere other than the garbage can. There are certainly 30 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:22,919 Speaker 1: situations where you can be more formal about this. If 31 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:26,760 Speaker 1: you are giving a toast at a wedding, consider writing 32 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:30,640 Speaker 1: the toast out and then given that written copy to 33 00:02:30,760 --> 00:02:34,800 Speaker 1: the couple. If you are speaking mostly off the cuff, 34 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:38,840 Speaker 1: have someone record it and then you can transcribe it. 35 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:43,080 Speaker 1: This written record can then be something the couple includes 36 00:02:43,080 --> 00:02:46,840 Speaker 1: in a wedding album or frame if it's nice enough. 37 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 1: But the point is that even fleeting positive words can 38 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:55,520 Speaker 1: be given more weight when they are put into written form. 39 00:02:56,840 --> 00:03:00,400 Speaker 1: The whole point of inventing writing was that it allowed 40 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:04,959 Speaker 1: people to reference things over and over again without keeping 41 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:11,799 Speaker 1: everything in their heads. Compliments deserve this special treatment as 42 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 1: much as records or anything else. So put it in writing. 43 00:03:17,400 --> 00:03:21,880 Speaker 1: That way, when you say something nice about someone, they 44 00:03:21,880 --> 00:03:26,519 Speaker 1: can relive the compliment again and again. That makes the 45 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:31,200 Speaker 1: happiness last. And it is a very good use of 46 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:36,960 Speaker 1: a few extra minutes in the meantime. This is Laura. 47 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:42,720 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of 48 00:03:42,800 --> 00:03:52,000 Speaker 1: our time. 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