WEBVTT - Just Keep Living (Ep 381)

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, hey, hey, O my voice, I'm back. I'm black,

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<v Speaker 1>but brown. Ambition, ambition, ambition, ambition, ambition. Child. Let me

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<v Speaker 1>tell you some mean it's not here on this dude today,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's me, Tiffany the Virginista, and uh, I went

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<v Speaker 1>to go see Lauren Hill last night. So my voice

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<v Speaker 1>is a little so a little backstory, don't come from me. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she was late, let's just even start right there. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>she was late. You knew she was gonna be late

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<v Speaker 1>two hours, two and a half. But Lauren Hill was

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<v Speaker 1>born and raised in Essex County, North New Jersey, well

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<v Speaker 1>not Newark. I'm South Orange, New Jersey, which is, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>a stone's throat from the new Ark where I live.

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<v Speaker 1>And I grew up like, you know, she's only like

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<v Speaker 1>a year older than me, maybe two, but I grew

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<v Speaker 1>up knowing a lot of people who knew her. And

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<v Speaker 1>my best friend Linda actually went to the same high

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<v Speaker 1>school as Lauren, I think, at the same time. And

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<v Speaker 1>like she's got this great song like called like every Ghetto,

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<v Speaker 1>every city of New Jerusalem, right where she says, drill

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<v Speaker 1>teams on Month Street. I'm like, I know mine. Remember

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<v Speaker 1>when Halfer and Chancellor had beef. I'm like, I know,

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<v Speaker 1>Chancellor author, I mean, Lauren is very Jersey Jersey Jersey.

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<v Speaker 1>So I love me some Laurn Hill. And on top

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<v Speaker 1>of that, she's just super talented, super talented. Was singing

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<v Speaker 1>down Mike was on wrapping down like she you know.

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<v Speaker 1>So even though she was you know, she was at

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<v Speaker 1>the Prudential Center, it was packed because for one, she

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<v Speaker 1>was in her hometown. So it was a mashup between

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<v Speaker 1>twenty five years of miseducation of Lauren Hill and the Fujis.

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<v Speaker 1>So the first half was Lauren. She sang almost all

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<v Speaker 1>the songs, which I'm surprised. I don't think she sang

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<v Speaker 1>New Jerusalem, which is like the Jersey song, which I'm shocked.

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<v Speaker 1>And the second half was the Fujies and like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a foodie, stand down, Why how many mics do you

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<v Speaker 1>rip on the daily? Say me say Menny money, say

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<v Speaker 1>me sayn n Mini. Okay, what you know about that?

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<v Speaker 1>It was about had a good time past being the annoyed.

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<v Speaker 1>When I say annoyed, we was all like child You

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<v Speaker 1>just see everybody's face was like, I guess she's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>come whenever. But when she finally got on she you

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<v Speaker 1>know she from what I understand. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 1>it's like for fact for sure, but I remember reading

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<v Speaker 1>somewhere you know, Lauren had owed all these back taxes,

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<v Speaker 1>and in an effort to remedy owing back taxes, something

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<v Speaker 1>about her catalog, so she can't perform it like verbatim.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I don't know if she sold it or whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm assuming she probably because you can own the copyright.

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<v Speaker 1>So for example of my book, why do you see

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<v Speaker 1>behind me? Al hey mayor right? So for example, from

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<v Speaker 1>my book, I own the copyright to the words, but

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<v Speaker 1>I don't own the publishing right. Basically I can't republish

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<v Speaker 1>it wherever I want. So I think maybe that's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of the same. Like Lauren might own the copyrights to

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<v Speaker 1>her words because she wrote them, but doesn't own the

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<v Speaker 1>musicality behind it. I'm assuming so, like I said, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>big assuming. I just remember reading when like reading that

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<v Speaker 1>you know that she this is as a result of

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<v Speaker 1>owning back taxes and having to use her catalog in

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<v Speaker 1>some sort of way to help run you that anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>it was later supporting and that you know she did

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<v Speaker 1>like she did her songs, but it was like a

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<v Speaker 1>different mashup. But when they did the Fuji songs, they

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<v Speaker 1>did it like the album and I was like, hay,

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<v Speaker 1>so that's just like a little you know, like that's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of money's will have been you know that,

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<v Speaker 1>like your finances will follow you no matter how big,

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<v Speaker 1>no matter how small. That you know, getting your financial

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<v Speaker 1>life together is a critical component of life, whether you're famous,

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<v Speaker 1>whether you're a teacher, whatever that looks like. But all

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<v Speaker 1>in all, you know, I had a really good time.

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<v Speaker 1>And something else that I really took away from watching

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<v Speaker 1>Lauren on stage, especially when White Cleff come out. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>they all grew up in Jersey together, although I think

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<v Speaker 1>why Cliff and Prize might have grow up in Brooklyn,

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<v Speaker 1>but you know, I know that they used to play

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<v Speaker 1>at it like a Prize and White Cleff used to

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<v Speaker 1>play at a church in I think Irvington, New Jersey together.

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<v Speaker 1>So one of the things that really struck me like

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<v Speaker 1>watching Lauren perform and on stage with Proz on stage

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<v Speaker 1>with Why Cleft. Like so many groups, they had, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>a falling out for whatever reason. We know what reason

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<v Speaker 1>child the drama, but we're not it's not a gossip site,

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<v Speaker 1>but if you don't know, google it. So they fell

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<v Speaker 1>out and to see them all together twenty five, twenty

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<v Speaker 1>six years later. She even said, so many people thought

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<v Speaker 1>this could never happen, including some people on the stage,

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<v Speaker 1>And here we are and one of my social media friends, Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>friend Demetria, she's got an awesome podcast called Ratchet and Respectable.

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<v Speaker 1>Demetria would always say, I think it was her grandmother,

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<v Speaker 1>either her grandmother or grandfather, maybe her mom or dad.

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<v Speaker 1>But there is a piece of advice that that one

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<v Speaker 1>of the elders in her life gave to her, and

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<v Speaker 1>this was a testament, and I'm gonna share that advice

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<v Speaker 1>with you. She said, Like, you know, sometimes these big,

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<v Speaker 1>gargantuan things are happening and it seems like they'll never

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<v Speaker 1>be a remedy. And this elder would always tell her

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<v Speaker 1>just keep living. And when you're young, you're like, what

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<v Speaker 1>you talking about, girl, Like I'm sixteen and I got pregnant,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god. Yeah. And then when you're thirty something

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<v Speaker 1>years old, it's not the big of a deal. You

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<v Speaker 1>got a kid, Just keep living, you know. It's like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not talking to my sister, you know, she, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>never told me that she saw my boyfriend cheating on me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm so mad at her, you know, it's like

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<v Speaker 1>so fresh, and I didn't speak her in ten years.

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<v Speaker 1>And then you find out your sister is sick and

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<v Speaker 1>you go to see her and you reconcile. Just keep living,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, just like your person, you know, and you're like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think I'm gonna be able to make it. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just too much, and you know, and then one day

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<v Speaker 1>you have your first laugh, like genuine laugh, and you

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<v Speaker 1>realize that there is still joy left in this world

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<v Speaker 1>and two things can be true, and you realize that, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I think I want to experience some of this joy

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<v Speaker 1>because I do believe one day you do see your

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<v Speaker 1>loved ones again. Just keep living. And so last night

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<v Speaker 1>that was the big takeaway. I mean, I just had

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<v Speaker 1>an amazing time. Like like like the mis Education Lauren

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<v Speaker 1>Hill is basically a perfect album. It is a perfect album.

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<v Speaker 1>Every song ain't no skips, ain't no skips. And another

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<v Speaker 1>lesson takeaway because I saw a lot of people online

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<v Speaker 1>saying like, oh, that mis Education Lauryn Hill. That was

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<v Speaker 1>a fluke that album because she never did nothing else

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<v Speaker 1>after that. Here's the thing that I feel sad that

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<v Speaker 1>not enough people understand about life that sometimes you create

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<v Speaker 1>something or you do something and it goes really really well,

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<v Speaker 1>but the cost of that thing was time, family, energy, sanity,

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<v Speaker 1>and you determine, although I can have more money and

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<v Speaker 1>more claim, I've decided that cause Lauren has four babies,

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<v Speaker 1>four kids, I've decided that this is what's more important.

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<v Speaker 1>And there will be people who will say you gave

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<v Speaker 1>up and instead you gave you know, your living, and

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<v Speaker 1>so that's what like, you know, especially Western culture will

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<v Speaker 1>teach you that to quote unquote when at life is

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<v Speaker 1>to win externally. And I challenge people to realize that.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds like to me that Lauren decided to win internally.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I'm not saying how life is perfect obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>but you know, like one of the beautiful components of

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<v Speaker 1>the of the show was that she sang different songs.

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<v Speaker 1>She had like home videos and pictures. When she's sang Zion,

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<v Speaker 1>I almost wept. Now the joy of my world is

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<v Speaker 1>in Zion. It was like one spotlight her with a

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<v Speaker 1>guitar and all you see all these beautiful baby photos

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<v Speaker 1>of Zion and coming up. There's this one line where

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<v Speaker 1>she said oh, she said like she said, like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>it was basically they told her to abort Zion and

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<v Speaker 1>they said, she's like, how beautiful more then two way

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<v Speaker 1>a zign. So no, I've never been in love like

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<v Speaker 1>this before. She was like, it's basically someone it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>Lauren baby, use my head, but I forget, like, oh, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a good part. I wish I could remember the

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<v Speaker 1>damn lyric, but basically it's a lyric where let me

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<v Speaker 1>see if I can look it up, because I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's just that important. Hold on, Lauren, I know some

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<v Speaker 1>of you guys are dying right now because you know

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<v Speaker 1>right now you first war. It's hilarious because y'all know that,

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm the worst with my memory, and Mandy probably

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<v Speaker 1>like girl laurin Zion lyrics. There you go, because you

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<v Speaker 1>need to hear it. Okay, let me see me say it.

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<v Speaker 1>Anthimina manchild will be born? Will this crazy circumstance. I

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<v Speaker 1>knew his life deserved a chance, but everybody told me

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<v Speaker 1>to be smart. Can you imagine to be smart when

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<v Speaker 1>it came to life? Look at your career. They said,

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<v Speaker 1>Lauren baby, use your head, but instead I chose to

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<v Speaker 1>use my heart. I just and now she's got this

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<v Speaker 1>amazing grown sun. You know that I think he performed

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<v Speaker 1>last night because the name that was that she said,

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<v Speaker 1>this is my baby, like I'm one of her kids

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<v Speaker 1>performed like a song last night, a reggae song last night,

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<v Speaker 1>And I wasn't sure if it was Ziona, it was

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<v Speaker 1>one of her other kids. But can you imagine, look

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<v Speaker 1>at your career. I'm all for, you know, choice, So

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<v Speaker 1>like you know, I believe that women should have a

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<v Speaker 1>choice to live their own life, to choose what they

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<v Speaker 1>want with their body. But to make a choice, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like from a place of like do I have this

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<v Speaker 1>baby that I actually want? Or do I advance in

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<v Speaker 1>my career? And for people to try to enforce that

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<v Speaker 1>kind of choice on you, it's wild to me, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean, Like, like I said, I believe

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<v Speaker 1>that women should be able to make whatever choices they

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<v Speaker 1>want for their own body, you know. And you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and certainly you know the fact that women be like

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<v Speaker 1>I do want to have a baby, but what will

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<v Speaker 1>it do for my career? That should not be a

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<v Speaker 1>choice that a woman has to make. It's one thing

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<v Speaker 1>to say, like I don't want to have kids, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>but not I do want I have kids, but dag

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<v Speaker 1>on this career like that is crazy to me. And

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<v Speaker 1>I just thought to myself, as I was like watching

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<v Speaker 1>Lauren and listening to Laurena and for a long time,

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<v Speaker 1>how she kind of disappeared from public life, and how

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<v Speaker 1>it was so clear by the pictures that were so

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<v Speaker 1>full of love and family and connectedness that I could

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<v Speaker 1>tell it was such a new Jersey house and it

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't some old, big, old fancy mansion. I could tell

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<v Speaker 1>that she had spent a lot of time loving and connecting, familying,

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<v Speaker 1>and I love that for her, you know, I did.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, any people can say like, oh she

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<v Speaker 1>fell offt she whatever, She was just as talented for

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<v Speaker 1>as ever, her voice was amazing. She, like Laurda, is

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<v Speaker 1>one of the few artists out there that could wrap

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<v Speaker 1>you down right, sing you down, act you down. Face.

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<v Speaker 1>Card never declined she had all the things, and she said,

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<v Speaker 1>all the things are inside my home and that's where

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna be. I love that for hu, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>And so I don't know, it was like such a like.

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<v Speaker 1>Although I enjoyed the concert, there was just a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of like lessons taken away lessons about money, because like,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're not about your business, your business will be

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<v Speaker 1>about you. And that like not being able to fully

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<v Speaker 1>express your art because of the business, you know, choices

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<v Speaker 1>that were made. You know. That's why even if you

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<v Speaker 1>hire somebody for your taxes and finances, and it is

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<v Speaker 1>so important that you're on it, you're asking questions like,

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<v Speaker 1>for example, I'll give you an example. I just got

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<v Speaker 1>a tax bill from the street of New Jersey that

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<v Speaker 1>freaked me the hell out. It was for fifty I've

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<v Speaker 1>got it right here because y' don't know I'd be

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<v Speaker 1>open fifty six thousand, two hundred and eighty six dollars

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<v Speaker 1>and seventy nine cents. I said, say, well, no, why

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<v Speaker 1>would I own New Jersey that much? You know what

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<v Speaker 1>they said? They said that I underpaid taxes by thirty

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<v Speaker 1>six thousand dollars to thirty six thousand, three hundred dollars.

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<v Speaker 1>And then they said I did not follow up. This

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<v Speaker 1>is why I knew. I was like, something's wrong. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to know what the late filing penalty. This

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<v Speaker 1>is why I tell y'all frial taxes, like all your

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<v Speaker 1>business owners file even if you don't have the money,

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<v Speaker 1>file your taxes. The late filing penalty was fourteen thousand,

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<v Speaker 1>two hundred eighty three dollars, fifteen thousand dollars in damn

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<v Speaker 1>near in late filing penalty, and then interest three thousand,

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<v Speaker 1>one hundred eighty dollars, and then installment interest, which I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even know what the hell that is two thousand

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<v Speaker 1>and twenty two thousand, five hundred and thirty two dollars.

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<v Speaker 1>So what would have been taxes old at thirty six

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<v Speaker 1>thousand is fifty six thousand additional twenty thousand dollars. But

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<v Speaker 1>I said, not me. You want to know why because

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<v Speaker 1>I don't play that. I pay my taxes quarterly. So

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, so confused. So I was like, let

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<v Speaker 1>me send this some my account. And then as I

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<v Speaker 1>was looking, it said you have been and you have

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<v Speaker 1>been charged installment interest because you did not make the

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<v Speaker 1>following requirement payments. And I looked and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I do pay quarterly. I'm looking like I paid. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>then I remember this is just like a great tax lesson.

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<v Speaker 1>So this paper from the state of New Jersey actually

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<v Speaker 1>says Tiffany E. Liche and Jerrell Smith my late husband,

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<v Speaker 1>and he is no longer here, and so when I

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<v Speaker 1>used to file tax I did our taxes, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>through our accountant like I would file. I'm not really

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<v Speaker 1>sure why they do it this way, but I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's because I honestly, I don't know why. But when

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<v Speaker 1>you're filing taxes as a married couple, there is one

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<v Speaker 1>person's social Security that you file taxes under and then

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<v Speaker 1>it counts for both of y'all. So when Jerell was here,

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<v Speaker 1>I used to file taxes under his social Security because

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<v Speaker 1>we were married, and for whatever reason, that was the

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<v Speaker 1>social Security that they assigned to both of us, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>social Security number. And so this is the state of

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<v Speaker 1>New Jersey once again. Because the only reason why I

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<v Speaker 1>know is because they forgot they did this last time.

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<v Speaker 1>After he passed away this and my accountant figured out

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<v Speaker 1>the issue. They are still looking for me paying under

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<v Speaker 1>Jurell's social but I now pay under my social Security

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<v Speaker 1>number because he's not here. And so because I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I absolutely paid these, So I'm going to give it

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<v Speaker 1>to her, she's gonna hit up di Ars and say

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<v Speaker 1>again you need to merge Tiffany's tax account with this one,

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<v Speaker 1>because this is the new social Security numbers that she's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be filing under. So they're just looking at it

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<v Speaker 1>from the two years ago when he was here. So anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>I just say all that to say, imagine, look what

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<v Speaker 1>happens when one you don't file how much money a

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<v Speaker 1>fifteen thousand dollars penalty and then interest on top of

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<v Speaker 1>another five thousand dollars worth of interest, and so like

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<v Speaker 1>hiding and burying your head in the sand and not

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<v Speaker 1>doing your taxes and not being on top of your

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<v Speaker 1>finances is so expensive. Like I said, thankfully, for me,

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<v Speaker 1>this is a mistake because I know because I've been

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<v Speaker 1>here before, this like the second time they've done this,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's annoying. But I know I don't own the

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<v Speaker 1>by No. Fifty six thousand dollars because your girl be

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<v Speaker 1>on top of her finance. I wasn't always, but that

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<v Speaker 1>is critically important. So that was a lesson, like being

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<v Speaker 1>on top of your finance is critically important because it's

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<v Speaker 1>affecting her ability to be her full creative self on

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<v Speaker 1>stage because like I said, I read this article that

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<v Speaker 1>was like she wasn't able to perform her music the

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<v Speaker 1>way it initially is intended because of this tax issue.

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<v Speaker 1>That she's had and having to pay it back and

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<v Speaker 1>this is part of that. So that's one. Two, just

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<v Speaker 1>keep living. That was a huge lesson and that even

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<v Speaker 1>through trauma, drama, over like experiences that seem above and

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<v Speaker 1>beyond what we're capable of navigating and managing. That like

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<v Speaker 1>time smooth so many things, doesn't always heal, but time

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<v Speaker 1>can wear a way and wear down so many things.

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<v Speaker 1>Just keep living. And three, you know, like choosing life,

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<v Speaker 1>like life is not just what's displayed externally. That the

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<v Speaker 1>most important parts of life on what happens when nobody

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<v Speaker 1>else is around, Like I'm talking about the world at large.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, like Lauren did decided to turn inward, have children,

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<v Speaker 1>leaning to her family. It seems like she just I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I know pictures don't tell everything, but you know, just

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<v Speaker 1>even from hearing her talk through like the choices that

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<v Speaker 1>she'd made and the family that she decided to have

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<v Speaker 1>and and so like she's chosen that. And you know,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all know, after Gerll passed away, I've really been focused

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<v Speaker 1>on what does it look like to have enough? And

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I travel more this year than I have

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know since Like I've been to Egypt, Kenya, London, France, Paris, France.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm off the coast. I just got back from Atlanta, DC, Maryland, Detroit. No,

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<v Speaker 1>that wasn't this year, Detroit. But I can't even keep

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<v Speaker 1>track of all the places that I've traveled to this year,

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<v Speaker 1>and you've seen like none of it on online. I

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<v Speaker 1>have just been internally enjoying my life, internally enjoying my friend.

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<v Speaker 1>And there's nothing wrong we're posting online, you know, if

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<v Speaker 1>I so choose, But I purposefully have been challenging myself, like,

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<v Speaker 1>can I lean into the joy without having to share

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<v Speaker 1>with everyone? Like it is it just as joyful? And

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<v Speaker 1>it is. And if I decide to share, great, If not,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, but I just love that and I love

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<v Speaker 1>that and I want that for you too. So those

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<v Speaker 1>are the three lessons I took away from the Lauren

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<v Speaker 1>Hill Show. And so if you're gonna go see her,

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<v Speaker 1>chall go ahead and be an hour late because she

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<v Speaker 1>ain't gonna be there on time, but it's gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>a showdown. Hopefully that was helpful, maydy something. Hopefully we'll

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<v Speaker 1>be back on the next show with me. Yeah, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'll see you hopefully for ba Qa, where we answer

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<v Speaker 1>your business questions, your finance questions, your money questions, and yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>until until Friday, by y'all,