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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: this one right here, right now. And you just never

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Speaker 1: know because it could be your letter today. Buckle up

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Speaker 1: and hold on tight. We got it for you here

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Speaker 1: it is Strawberry Letter. Subject caught on camera. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I'm a forty two year old married woman, but I've

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Speaker 1: separated from my husband. I've been married four years and

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Speaker 1: I was in a long distance marriage because my husband

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Speaker 1: works almost three hours away. He was offered a job

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Speaker 1: that he couldn't refuse, so I told him to take it.

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Speaker 1: With him being out of town during the week. I

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Speaker 1: got a home security system installed with four cameras. I

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Speaker 1: put one camera in the basement and one in the

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Speaker 1: main living area, one at the back door and one

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Speaker 1: my phone so I could watch the cameras while I

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Speaker 1: was at work. On a Tuesday about a month ago,

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Speaker 1: I was at work and I got an alert that

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Speaker 1: the alarm was going off, then it was reset. It

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Speaker 1: sent chills up my spine because I was the only

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Speaker 1: one in town and the only person that could have

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Speaker 1: reset my alarm. I looked at the cameras and I

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Speaker 1: saw my husband in our abasement and a woman was

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Speaker 1: with him. The woman sat down as my husband went upstairs.

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Speaker 1: He came back minutes later with his garment bag. Then

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Speaker 1: he kissed the woman and they walked out the basement door.

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Speaker 1: I called him, and he lied and said he was

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Speaker 1: because I know he's in town and he had a

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Speaker 1: woman in our house. I asked him why he didn't

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Speaker 1: tell me he was in town, and why he would

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Speaker 1: bring a woman into my house. He hung up on me.

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Speaker 1: That night, he called and said he had a business

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Speaker 1: event to attend, so he needed his tucks, and he

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Speaker 1: used the basement door out of respect for me so

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Speaker 1: the woman wouldn't be all over our home. He said

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Speaker 1: he was going to take some time away from me

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Speaker 1: to work on himself. It has been almost a month

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Speaker 1: since he's reached out to me, so I filed for

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Speaker 1: a legal separation. Still no word from him. Is my

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Speaker 1: marriage over? Yes? I'm sorry, but it is. It's over.

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Speaker 1: I mean he was caught red handed on tape. Period.

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Speaker 1: Everything you saw in that camera was true and real,

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Speaker 1: no matter what lies. He thought of later and told

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Speaker 1: you he had a dinner to go to so he

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Speaker 1: needed a text. He had a business event to attend,

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Speaker 1: so he needed a tuck, and he didn't want the

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Speaker 1: woman all over your house. Lies, lies, lies, lies, lies.

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Speaker 1: Evidence clearly in his behavior that you saw on tape

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Speaker 1: not what he says, So don't let him play you.

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Speaker 1: Do not be fooled. He came back to town, he

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Speaker 1: didn't tell you, brought another woman to your house, kissed

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Speaker 1: You're his wife. He completely disrespected you. He betrayed your trust.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm sorry you had to see this and

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Speaker 1: that you had to go through this. He's wrong. You

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Speaker 1: did a good thing by filing for a separation. I say,

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Speaker 1: just go on and finish up the deal. File for

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Speaker 1: a divorce. He was hardly ever there anyway, and he's

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Speaker 1: not coming back. You haven't heard from him for a month,

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Speaker 1: so I say good out now, Steve, I really don't

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Speaker 1: understand this letter. I'm sorry, I don't called on cameras

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Speaker 1: to what we're talking about. Yeah, what what's the letter for?

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Speaker 1: It starts off with obvia stuff in it to me,

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Speaker 1: Stephen Sherley, I'm a forty two year all married woman,

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Speaker 1: but I'm separated from my husband now. Curiously, in this letter,

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Speaker 1: And then she says, I've been married four years. It

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Speaker 1: was and I was in I was, so this separation

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Speaker 1: is what they've decided. I was in a long distance

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Speaker 1: told him to take it. Now with him being out

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Speaker 1: Then it was reset, as she said, sent chills up

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Speaker 1: the lie he told. That was the only lie he

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Speaker 1: told in this letter ship, because I'm going to surprise you.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to surprise you, shill. I told him to

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Speaker 1: quit lying because I know he was in town. He

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Speaker 1: I filed for divorce. Still no word of him, and

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Speaker 1: as my marriage over, she filed for legation. Yeah, she

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Speaker 1: filed for legal separations. That's why she's shirley. You were

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Speaker 1: saying that he lied about coming home with the tucks

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Speaker 1: and all like this, like him, Well, he was on camera.

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Speaker 1: He never denied that after he found out he was

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Speaker 1: could have very well been true to get the tuxed though. No,

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Speaker 1: that's really going because all they did was kissing, go

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Speaker 1: out the dope. It could have been a tuxedo. It

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Speaker 1: could have been a business meeting. He told her the truth.

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Speaker 1: The problem is the truth wasn't enough. Yeah, the fact

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Speaker 1: the even tell her he was in town. Oh I

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Speaker 1: got more. Okay, all right, we'll have part two of

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Speaker 1: your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour,

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Speaker 1: subject of today's strawberry letter caught on camera. We'll get

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Speaker 1: back into it right after this. You're listening Harvey Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: The jet is caught on camera. Caught on camera, says

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Speaker 1: it all this woman put all these cameras in her house.

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Speaker 1: Heard her husband are currently separated. She gets an alert

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Speaker 1: on her phone that says the candle alarm has been reset. Well,

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Speaker 1: she's thinking her husband out of town, but he's in town.

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Speaker 1: She looked on the cameras. He in the basement with

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Speaker 1: out with a garden back. He calls her and asked

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Speaker 1: where he had He say he at work, fit to

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Speaker 1: go to lunch. He lied, he lied, So she called

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Speaker 1: him up and said, no, you wouldn't. I saw you

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Speaker 1: he hung up. He hung up because he was off balanced,

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Speaker 1: because he needed to regroup. So he's busted. Yes, So

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Speaker 1: now he calls back that night and said, all right,

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Speaker 1: here the deal. I was in town. I had a

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Speaker 1: business meeting to go to, so I needed to come

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Speaker 1: home and get my tuxedo, and out of respect for you,

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Speaker 1: I don't want this woman all over the house, so

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Speaker 1: I came through the basement. Though that's the truth, because

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Speaker 1: he wasn't denying that there wasn't a woman at the house.

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Speaker 1: He wasn't denying he didn't pick something up. He only

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Speaker 1: left with a garment bag that was probably the tuxedo,

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Speaker 1: and it was probably a business meeting. He did not

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Speaker 1: believe the truth. You saw it. Shirley's right. This marriage

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Speaker 1: is over. Is my marriage over? And you haven't heard

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, hell yeah, he's wrong. Dad wrong is not

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Speaker 1: the truth, what you're gonna do, it's time to move on.

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Speaker 1: Is my marriage over? Yes, it's over. So let me

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Speaker 1: show you something. This has nothing to do with the

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Speaker 1: letter Shirley on calling anybody. Ask me a question, and

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna show you how to lie. The sheer lying capability.

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Speaker 1: Watch watch the quickness and creativity. Okay, Shirley, you and

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Speaker 1: I are in a relationship. Ask me anything, and I'm

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Speaker 1: not gonna tell you the truth. I don't care how

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Speaker 1: simple or anything it is. Go ahead on your head?

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Speaker 1: Your hair? Is that? No, that's a patch right there.

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Speaker 1: it come so natural to you? Next question, we're in

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Speaker 1: a relationship. Yeah, did you Did you drive your car

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Speaker 1: to work today? No? I drove it, parted away and

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Speaker 1: I slipped in some old tied in. That's what happening.

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Speaker 1: That's you know. And you will lie when the truth

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Speaker 1: will do? What? What? What? What? What? Why not? But

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Speaker 1: can handle the truth. Oh no, you can't the way

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Speaker 1: we handle Oh no, you can't. You can handle our

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Speaker 1: reaction to your truth. You're a lie? Couldn't read? Can

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Speaker 1: I ask that? What is Yeah? Who is that on

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Speaker 1: that on the camera with me? Yeah, I'm talking to you.

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Speaker 1: Who is that on? The camera with you? Baby? What

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Speaker 1: Oh wait, wait, wait, who do you think I am? Shelly?

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Speaker 1: Any more questions? We're in a committed relationship. You can

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Speaker 1: ask me anything. What is the point of lying? Though?

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Speaker 1: I got to lie? Ask yourself that I am why?

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Speaker 1: to lie though reaction? Let's see right there, see how

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Speaker 1: you are? Okay, you see how you try to flip it.

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Speaker 1: Don't try to if you're going to accuse me of

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Speaker 1: doing I am and I am and I'm not doing it,

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