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Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Sadie, a production of The Black Effect

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Speaker 1: Podcast Network and I Heart Radio. Making Money Moves featuring

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Speaker 1: Earnier Leisure February. Robin and I are entrepreneurs, and you know,

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Speaker 1: we always want to encourage especially black women, to get

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Speaker 1: out there and invest in yourself and and definitely like

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Speaker 1: strive for your dreams. But you need money to do that.

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Speaker 1: So what is the best way to like raise capital

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Speaker 1: for your business, especially if you're a startup you know

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Speaker 1: you're new to just this entrepreneuri game. I mean, there's

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Speaker 1: a few different ways you can't go about raising capital.

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Speaker 1: You can, you know, raise capital from friends and family. Um,

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Speaker 1: you can you know, leverage your credit. You can take

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Speaker 1: loans from your fall o one K. Everybody's situation is different.

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Speaker 1: What we did personally was we just started a business

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Speaker 1: that had low um startup costs, which is a podcast.

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Speaker 1: Doesn't mat take a lot of money to start a podcast,

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Speaker 1: and we used our personal money. UM. You know, I

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Speaker 1: wish I could have had more of an elaborate story

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Speaker 1: to tell, but it really wasn't. Um. We just we

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Speaker 1: staved up. We have money that we have from you know,

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Speaker 1: working our respective careers, and we were still working while

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Speaker 1: we were being entrepreneur. That's nothing to people. You don't

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Speaker 1: necessarily have to do one or the other, Like you know,

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Speaker 1: you can actually still do both at the same time.

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Speaker 1: If you have a nine of five job, you can

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Speaker 1: keep that note a five job and still be an

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Speaker 1: entrepreneur when you get home. And then eventually as your

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Speaker 1: nine the five, then you know it's time to leave.

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Speaker 1: But in the meantime, use the money from your note

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Speaker 1: a five job or whatever kind of job you have

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Speaker 1: to help fund your business. So like your job is

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Speaker 1: really is the investor is the angel investing in business

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Speaker 1: in that in that situation. Other than that, I mean,

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Speaker 1: of course, you can try to get bank financing. That's

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Speaker 1: gonna be extremely difficult, almost impossible, especially if you're just

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Speaker 1: starting out, your black entrepreneur. It's gonna be extremely difficult

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Speaker 1: to get money from a bank. So, like I said,

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Speaker 1: I mean, most of the time for entrepreneurs, if you're

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Speaker 1: just starting now, you're gonna have to either use your

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Speaker 1: um or you know, money from like retirement accounts, money

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Speaker 1: from friends and family, you can, you know, take money

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Speaker 1: from your house. I'm gonna have to stop you. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna to stop you right there. The friends and family,

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Speaker 1: that's like sure far away to cause a ruckets at

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Speaker 1: Thanksgiving Like no, okay, there's no no friends and family.

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Speaker 1: But definitely I believe in investing in yourself, saving money

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Speaker 1: and because there's there's nobody that's gonna support you or

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Speaker 1: like root for you more than yourself. Right, so I'm

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Speaker 1: definitely down with that. Friends and family, I say, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, it depends. I mean, if someone comes to me,

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Speaker 1: I would say more family than friends. If they come

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Speaker 1: to me they have a solid plan, then I'm not.

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Speaker 1: I'm I don't. I'm not going to shy away from

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Speaker 1: helping them out if I really believe in it, if

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Speaker 1: I see if they have a plan, if you know,

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Speaker 1: but not someone just says I'm struggling. Can I get

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Speaker 1: some money? Like no, I want to know if how

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Speaker 1: is this money going to put you in a better

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Speaker 1: place permanently, Like I don't want to just give you

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Speaker 1: money just to pay your bill and that's it now, Okay,

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Speaker 1: do you all loan money? That's a good question. Do

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Speaker 1: you all loan money? To people because I have a

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Speaker 1: firm stance because I didn't get burnt a couple of times. Yeah, no,

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Speaker 1: I ain't loaning nothing so loan would would would imply

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Speaker 1: that the money is gonna be paid back? Right, Yes,

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Speaker 1: but we all know it's not. Okay, I mean I haven't.

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Speaker 1: I haven't um with the intent of expecting it to

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Speaker 1: intent of helping out a situation. Okay, I like that. Okay,

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Speaker 1: now I'm gonna let you get back to the well wait,

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Speaker 1: well now that right, so wait, now we're going to

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Speaker 1: get back to the metaverse. And I but now that

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Speaker 1: you talked about business, I want to piggyback on that conversation.

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Speaker 1: I hear from a lot of people who, you know,

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Speaker 1: they they're working at nine to five and they really

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Speaker 1: want to be entrepreneurs. They really want to create multiple

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Speaker 1: And you know, my advice to them is, Okay, what

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Speaker 1: to monetize something that you're interested in. But for people

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Speaker 1: people should look into too, maybe become entrepreneurs, Like I

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Speaker 1: know there's so many things, like especially with the vending machines,

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Speaker 1: like how like how is that that going for you guys?

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Speaker 1: I'll just start with with education because I've had this

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Speaker 1: you have to do is what's your purpose? Right? And

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Speaker 1: that thing was like to help people. I'm like, well,

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Speaker 1: you have a skill set that somebody else doesn't have.

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Speaker 1: You have a skill set that I don't have. Ill

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Speaker 1: use a young lady for example, she her son uh

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Speaker 1: the past three years, and I told him like, look,

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Speaker 1: your level of advocacy everybody doesn't know how to do that.

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Speaker 1: You should probably write a book on this, right, And

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Speaker 1: her mind was like, wait, I can't do that, And

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Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, you could, Like you're fighting for this

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Speaker 1: every single day. So the first thing I would say

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Speaker 1: possess a skill and a purpose that the other person doesn't. Write.

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Speaker 1: Another one of my colleagues, she was like, I don't know,

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Speaker 1: I need to create more income. I'm like, well, you're

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Speaker 1: you can do that after school. Like, that's not gonna

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Speaker 1: You're you're great at you're a teacher. So the problem

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Speaker 1: gonna dedicate the time to doing that or you're gonna

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Speaker 1: dedicate the next twenty five years to doing this. Right,

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Speaker 1: you drop a knowledge, you drop knowledge over there. It's

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Speaker 1: just what you you have to choose, right. But everybody,

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Speaker 1: I believe that everybody has a purpose. They just haven't

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Speaker 1: So like people ask me now, like hey, Troy, how's

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Speaker 1: it feel not to teach anyone? And I'm like, well,

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Speaker 1: I'm teaching every day. You still teach you. Yeah, you're

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Speaker 1: I can't learn about four things you can talk about right, right? No,

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Speaker 1: but you are teaching a lot because, like I said,

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Speaker 1: I learned about I Um, you know, I learned about

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Speaker 1: do for my children. One of which, um, I believe

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Speaker 1: I learned from you guys was, you know, make them

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Speaker 1: want to create generational wealth for their kids. They want

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Speaker 1: just start early, start early. Opening an investment account for them.

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Speaker 1: You can open up a UTMA and that's like a

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Speaker 1: me co executive producer. So what are you when you're

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Speaker 1: watching Potomac? What are you seeing that makes you think that? Okay,

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Speaker 1: So as a student, no, let let me not be

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Speaker 1: so humble. As a professor of super Sorry, Dr Wendy,

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Speaker 1: I'm the professor tonight. So you're talking about don't do it.

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Speaker 1: Don't do it? So luck when I watched the show

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Speaker 1: and that and that's the reason why I'm saying what

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Speaker 1: I said earlier was the relationship between the producer and

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Speaker 1: the cast members crucial because there's a level of trust.

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Speaker 1: And when you talked about the female producer, who you

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Speaker 1: still here in your ear like fix that face. I

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Speaker 1: can't wash Potomac. And one thing about the two of you,

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Speaker 1: y'all play off of each other. And I'll give it.

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Speaker 1: I'll give an example of two scenes that are I'll

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Speaker 1: give three very quickly. I'll give three very quickly. Season one,

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Speaker 1: episode one, Jeez, Okay, because I I do this ship

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Speaker 1: for real. When Gizelle told Karen, y'all have this argument

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Speaker 1: about the crab boils, and it was this whole thing

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Speaker 1: in the mirror. I I knew in that instance. I said, Oh, Gizelle,

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Speaker 1: it's like this has to be in the first episode.

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be a part of anything boring, so

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Speaker 1: let me make sure to just be honest. And since

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Speaker 1: Karen and are friends in real life, let me read

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Speaker 1: her real quick and it won't matter. So that's a

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Speaker 1: I'm not suner one. Number two is last season when

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Speaker 1: Professor Wendy and the two of you were on the couch.

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Speaker 1: You guys were on the cash trip. Um Ashley took

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Speaker 1: off maternity leave to be messy and to deliver the

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Speaker 1: message to Dr Wendy and y'all to set on the couch.

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Speaker 1: Wendy had was fed up to here y'all look on

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Speaker 1: the couch and said, girl, I don't really give a ship.

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Speaker 1: This was a great scene. I'm going to sip on

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Speaker 1: my bottle water with the straw, and Robin said, I'm

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Speaker 1: going to literally finger myself as you talk about that.

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Speaker 1: I was like, they are good paired and last or

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Speaker 1: not leaves last but not least when Ashley and Candice

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Speaker 1: had that altercation in candice home and Ashley gave the

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Speaker 1: read of girl, you mean your mama high official Mama table,

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Speaker 1: which I think is everything and canvas stupid knife. That

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Speaker 1: was all orchestrated because Robin's said, I'm just gonna say it. Uh,

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Speaker 1: your husband actually suck one stead like you set a

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Speaker 1: flat out and then Giselle said you leave it. I'll

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Speaker 1: come back in the house because we said I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: work to do because the crew is here for another

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Speaker 1: two hours. So that's what I mean when I say

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Speaker 1: you guys are the executive and the co EP. Shady

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Speaker 1: Preacher featuring Jamal Bryant November. Jamal is good about not

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Speaker 1: bragging on himself, but there's a little bragg I want

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Speaker 1: to do. You feed the community. When the COVID first started,

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Speaker 1: New Birth was very intentional about feeding the community. You

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Speaker 1: have fed how many I'm saying it wrong, you have

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Speaker 1: done how many? How many? So in the in the pandemic,

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Speaker 1: we started giving our groceries and uh, just a month

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Speaker 1: ago we hit one million families that we give groceries

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Speaker 1: to in the last few years. And it is great

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Speaker 1: and it is embarrassing to know that food insecurity is

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Speaker 1: that dire. And we're just talking about one metropolitan Erica.

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Speaker 1: For Thanksgiving, we're giving our five thousand turkeys. Uh. While

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Speaker 1: that sounds good in one way, in another way, it's

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Speaker 1: saying that it has to be done. Yeah. Now we

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Speaker 1: said one million groceries two years. Families, one million families,

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Speaker 1: one million bags of groceries in two years. Yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: fantast that's fantast I remember when I was when we

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Speaker 1: were married and I was the first lady of the

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Speaker 1: Paramit Temple Um the Women's Ministry that look, you know

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Speaker 1: what I know my next question, the Women's Ministry would decided,

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Speaker 1: Jamal has his hands over his face, right, it's covering

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Speaker 1: his face. We decided to to feed as many families

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Speaker 1: as we could and literally go to their house, knock

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Speaker 1: on the door and give them the food. So I

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Speaker 1: had like a bus. I had security. I was pregnant

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Speaker 1: the time with one of them kids I have and um,

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Speaker 1: and I was going knocking on doors. So it's like

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Speaker 1: I was in the hood of Baltimore knocking on doors.

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Speaker 1: You did not know what was gonna open the door.

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Speaker 1: All kinds of things was opening the door as I was. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I mean, obviously we were blessing them, but it was

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Speaker 1: such a blessing to me to be able to give

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Speaker 1: them what the Church gave them, and for me like

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Speaker 1: they would invite me in. It would be like a

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Speaker 1: weed infestive smelling house, and they would invite me in,

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Speaker 1: and I would pray with him a little bit and

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Speaker 1: I would say Happy Thanksgiving. But we made sure that

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Speaker 1: we gave them food from Thanksgiving to Christmas. Wow, so right,

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Speaker 1: enough food for for to last at least a month.

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Speaker 1: So yes, as that's what I did as first lady

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Speaker 1: at a POM. That fantastic. So look, speaking of gall

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Speaker 1: being first lady at Empowerment Temple, tell us Jamal, how

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Speaker 1: was just out as a first lady? There's a pause?

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Speaker 1: No, no no, no, So just Lle was not a Mother

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Speaker 1: Teresa first lady hit her head. She was a Michelle

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Speaker 1: Obama first lady. Yes, yes, she was coming in waving.

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Speaker 1: I was not waving to the it she was. She

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Speaker 1: was the black Princess due. She did a great job. Okay, well,

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Speaker 1: while we're on that that note, she did our first

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Speaker 1: women's conference. Yes, um, she did a whole lot of

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Speaker 1: mentoring a lot of the young girls came to her

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Speaker 1: from mentoring. A lot of the young ladies who had

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Speaker 1: come to Baltimore to go to either Copping or Morgan

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Speaker 1: really pulled on her. She wrote a whole lot of

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Speaker 1: a k letters, half of the aks and bolts to

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Speaker 1: my let us from Gazelle. Listen, I was the bomb.

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Speaker 1: Okay even back then. Now now I want to say,

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Speaker 1: there's some things that I missed not being married to

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Speaker 1: Jamal Bran Okay, okay, which is one of the things

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Speaker 1: I used to complain about. I think I now missage. Okay.

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Speaker 1: So you know, like I said, Jamal travels a lot,

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Speaker 1: so he would have to get his his suits and

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Speaker 1: his ties and his shirts together before he would go

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Speaker 1: on his trips. So he would always be like, wake

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Speaker 1: me up out of my sleep. Now you want to

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Speaker 1: be sleep, and when you sleep, leave me alone. But

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Speaker 1: he would wake me up, turn on all the lights.

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Speaker 1: He would say, Gazelle, does this suit go with this tie?

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Speaker 1: But does this shirt go with this tie? In this suit? Okay,

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Speaker 1: wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute, let

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Speaker 1: me get three other ties. Okay, these three ties go

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Speaker 1: with this five shirts. I mean it was like, so

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Speaker 1: you missed this. Now I'm just saying you have for

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Speaker 1: the store. What she missed I was picking her clothes out.

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Speaker 1: That's what she missed. When I was picking her clothes out, robbing,

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Speaker 1: she wasn't in no blog when I don't pick it out.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. Okay, the same we brought this off ing.

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Speaker 1: I need you to be robbing, you gotta be. I

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Speaker 1: was my first stylist of truth, the whole truth and

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Speaker 1: nothing but the truth, robbing. When I first met you,

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Speaker 1: where did I meet you? You met me at the

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Speaker 1: A C. Where did I first meet you? Rob Yes?

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Speaker 1: It as sacks, yes, true, yes, Sacks yes, yes. So

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Speaker 1: she does not miss picking out my ties. She misses

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Speaker 1: me dressing her. That's what she's not going to give

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Speaker 1: confession to. Okay, this is this is a breaking moment. Yes,

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Speaker 1: Jamal Bryant was my first stylist. Really, yes, okay my

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Speaker 1: last right and you're only only yes okay. See that

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Speaker 1: was one of my one of my questions for jam

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Speaker 1: All was how does he go about picking his outfits out?

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Speaker 1: Because you know, you look nice and sharp now, but

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Speaker 1: I've seen sometimes you have, like, you know, a pink

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Speaker 1: tie and a pink silky shirt talking about them Detroit

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Speaker 1: player suits you had, Okay, you had some plenty of

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Speaker 1: Detroit player suits. Do you do? You have a tailor,

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Speaker 1: and you're just like, give me one of every color,

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Speaker 1: give me everything in every color, in every print. What

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Speaker 1: the shade is coming. It's a work in progress. So

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Speaker 1: when I was at U from Detroit, Uh, that's when

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Speaker 1: I started wearing gagos So when I met Gazelle, I

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Speaker 1: had different color Gators for every suit. Gazelle threw my

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Speaker 1: gauges out. So I've tried to purge. I've tried to

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Speaker 1: purge that party and walk backwards. It's a working progress, yes,

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Speaker 1: but I mean they were like they were like, it's

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Speaker 1: like a whole green suit with the matching green gators,

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Speaker 1: orange suits with that matching. He had this one white leather.

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Speaker 1: They weren't ready. It's definitely not ready. I don't know

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Speaker 1: you were killing them, but they weren't ready. White leather,

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Speaker 1: trench coade. I couldn't wait for him to go on

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Speaker 1: a trip leather. I do that thing in the trash.

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Speaker 1: I said, I can't do this. You ain't no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: I was ahead of my time. White leather cause, um, okay,

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Speaker 1: So where I threw it in the trash can Jamal

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Speaker 1: Bryant's it's gone. Okay, that thing probably costs fourteen dollars.

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Speaker 1: It is gone. I couldn't take it. Um but no,

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Speaker 1: I feel like you have come a long way and

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Speaker 1: I love you. Do you do rock the dashiki situation? Sometimes?

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Speaker 1: I see you on the Instagram? Um? So, so do

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Speaker 1: you like dashiki suits? Get you a man that could

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Speaker 1: do both? Did you a man that can do both?

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00:34:05,200 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 1: Is that what he said? But to answer your question,

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Speaker 1: he has tailors upon Taylors upon Taylors. Oh yeah, yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: I believe that. Yes see, I'm not a really good cook,

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00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:17,520
Speaker 1: so I'm not. I don't I didn't really wine and

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Speaker 1: Dina Jamal a by my home cooking. Right, But what

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Speaker 1: was your favorite part of Robber? Let me tell you

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00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:29,080
Speaker 1: that robbing, Robbing? I gotta tell you this. You know

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Speaker 1: what our first fight was in marriage? What was that?

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00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:36,759
Speaker 1: I have no idea? When are you going to the supermarket?

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Speaker 1: You didn't know before robbing she was coming back with

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Speaker 1: chips and started getting the home cooked meals to the girls.

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Speaker 1: Was oh my god. Okay, but yeah, in my defense,

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Speaker 1: in my defense, Jamal, you like to go to restaurants

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Speaker 1: to eat. You like to do that, but when we're

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Speaker 1: sitting in the same house, you gotta go down the

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Speaker 1: state Robin, this is two thousand one, No Huber eating. No,

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Speaker 1: there was no brother. This is the one just got

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Speaker 1: off a motor rolling two way pages something. Okay, this

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Speaker 1: was actually gonna be my last question to you, and

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Speaker 1: and we might finish it just for what he just said.

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00:35:23,600 --> 00:35:25,720
Speaker 1: But anyway, okay, so what was the best part about

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Speaker 1: being married to Chisel? Because you're the only person on

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Speaker 1: this planet that has been married to me, there's a

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Speaker 1: reason there would be a whole another show it to you. No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: just Zell pushed me to be better. And she's the

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Speaker 1: only one out out of my parents who has spoken

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00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:56,000
Speaker 1: into my life to really push me to go to

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Speaker 1: another level. I preached um at a conference at my

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00:35:59,480 --> 00:36:02,279
Speaker 1: home church one day and I thought I killed that John.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I thought Star Wars the Force was with

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00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:08,920
Speaker 1: and Giselle. We got in a car and Giselle was like,

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Speaker 1: you have really stopped growing? Do you really think just

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Speaker 1: the best that you can do? I was high level offended,

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00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:23,560
Speaker 1: but it really seriously but didn't really go to another point.

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Speaker 1: And then when this herschel Walker video went virable, I

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Speaker 1: saw Giselle maybe a week after that, and she said,

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Speaker 1: this is your vein. Why did you leave that? You

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Speaker 1: need to stay in what it is that you're good

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Speaker 1: at and be your best. And a lot of people,

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00:36:40,520 --> 00:36:43,960
Speaker 1: uh don't really have authentic friends that can push you

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Speaker 1: to be better. Uh. And so the thing that I

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Speaker 1: value about Giselle, She's always pushed me to be better,

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Speaker 1: even if she's pushing me over the cliff without a parachute. Okay,

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00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:58,279
Speaker 1: we're gonna leave it at that. That was such a

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Speaker 1: nice way to end. I want everybody know Jamal Bryant

634
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:04,719
Speaker 1: is one of my favorite people on Earth. Oh that's nice. Yes,

635
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:07,680
Speaker 1: one of my favorite people on Earth. That don't do

636
00:37:07,719 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 1: that because rapping is sitting there, not one of, not

637
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 1: one of don't do that. You're not the I have.

638
00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:15,759
Speaker 1: Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't do that because

639
00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:20,200
Speaker 1: rapping is sitting Now. Okay, I have I have Grace

640
00:37:20,239 --> 00:37:27,560
Speaker 1: Angel and my favorite people. It's okay, I can say

641
00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:29,960
Speaker 1: that you you are in the top five. Okay, a

642
00:37:30,040 --> 00:37:37,000
Speaker 1: favorite people. But I have three kids. I have three kids,

643
00:37:37,040 --> 00:37:39,160
Speaker 1: three kids, I have two parents. I have three kids.

644
00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:42,239
Speaker 1: I have two parents. Yes, so you you beat out

645
00:37:42,320 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 1: one parent. Jeez. Anyway, thank you for letting me come

646
00:37:49,080 --> 00:38:08,600
Speaker 1: on the show. Words to Live By May nine. So

647
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:14,399
Speaker 1: Robin has eight sentences that we should all live our

648
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:17,960
Speaker 1: lives by. So this is gonna be profound, y'all. Y'all,

649
00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:20,600
Speaker 1: you know, we talked about a whole lot of stuff,

650
00:38:20,640 --> 00:38:23,040
Speaker 1: a whole lot of nonsense, but we do try to,

651
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:30,000
Speaker 1: you know, impart some type of inspirational words as well. Um.

652
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:33,080
Speaker 1: So I come across these posts on Instagram and I'll

653
00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:34,839
Speaker 1: save them, and I said, I'm going to share this

654
00:38:35,440 --> 00:38:39,239
Speaker 1: with the podcast listeners because I love you all. So

655
00:38:39,280 --> 00:38:44,480
Speaker 1: this is eight sentences that everyone should believe. Okay, Okay,

656
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 1: so you should believe Okay. So I haven't heard any

657
00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:48,719
Speaker 1: of these sentences, okay, but I'm here to tell you.

658
00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:51,160
Speaker 1: If something sounds crazy, I'm gonna let you know. Okay,

659
00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:55,080
Speaker 1: I appreciate it. Okay. Um, you have to lose a

660
00:38:55,080 --> 00:39:02,080
Speaker 1: few people find yourself. That's true. I like that. I

661
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:07,360
Speaker 1: like that. But are they um exclusive? You know what

662
00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:09,719
Speaker 1: I mean? Like? Can they be mutually exclusive? Like can

663
00:39:09,760 --> 00:39:14,960
Speaker 1: you find yourself without happening without having to lose people? Yeah? Um.

664
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:18,239
Speaker 1: According to this post, no you cannot Okay, continue on.

665
00:39:19,840 --> 00:39:22,960
Speaker 1: I think I think it actually should read. You shouldn't

666
00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:25,840
Speaker 1: be afraid to lose a few people to find yourself.

667
00:39:26,360 --> 00:39:28,799
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? I got one for you. Okay, No, okay,

668
00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 1: you do yours, okay before you forget Okay. So this

669
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:34,600
Speaker 1: is my T. D. Jake's impressionation. Okay, because I've watched

670
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:39,359
Speaker 1: this real about fourteen times. Okay. So T. D. Jake said,

671
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:46,479
Speaker 1: you ain't gonna let fear rue rue your life, even

672
00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:50,600
Speaker 1: if you scare, even if you're trembling, even if you

673
00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:54,880
Speaker 1: um can't do it, and you and you're terrified, do

674
00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:59,440
Speaker 1: it anyway, have the courage to do it because you

675
00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:03,000
Speaker 1: don't want to be in the old folks home being

676
00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:07,879
Speaker 1: in a bad band. And you didn't do it? Did

677
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:10,520
Speaker 1: he really say that? Yes? Yes, And let me tell

678
00:40:10,520 --> 00:40:13,839
Speaker 1: you something. That thing shook me to the core, right you. Yeah,

679
00:40:14,040 --> 00:40:16,279
Speaker 1: But whatever it is I was fearful about. I was

680
00:40:16,320 --> 00:40:19,319
Speaker 1: probably scared that I don't know anyway, But I mean

681
00:40:19,320 --> 00:40:24,319
Speaker 1: I appreciate that like like fear will like debilitate you, yes,

682
00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:27,319
Speaker 1: and it will stop you from from doing a lot

683
00:40:27,360 --> 00:40:29,400
Speaker 1: of stuff that you you you know, it can stop

684
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:31,920
Speaker 1: you from leading a life that you never even imagine

685
00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:33,640
Speaker 1: that you could leave. Yes, and a lot of times

686
00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:35,799
Speaker 1: the fears in your head, so it's like you're you're

687
00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:38,000
Speaker 1: stopping yourself from doing something. But once you go ahead

688
00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:40,360
Speaker 1: and do it, you look back like, what what was

689
00:40:40,400 --> 00:40:42,799
Speaker 1: the scared of that for? Exactly? And then you know

690
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:44,600
Speaker 1: you just never want to have regrets. So do you

691
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:46,480
Speaker 1: want to let fear prevent you from doing stuff that?

692
00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:49,840
Speaker 1: When you're an old folks home, you're like, man, I

693
00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:51,600
Speaker 1: should have just done that, I should have just done X,

694
00:40:51,719 --> 00:40:53,040
Speaker 1: Y and Z. Let me tell you something. I'm out

695
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 1: here doing it. Yes, yes, all right, so back to

696
00:40:55,600 --> 00:40:57,640
Speaker 1: my list. So you have to lose a few people

697
00:40:57,680 --> 00:41:00,160
Speaker 1: to find yourself, which I think we should edit to say,

698
00:41:00,280 --> 00:41:02,640
Speaker 1: don't be afraid of losing a few people in order

699
00:41:02,680 --> 00:41:04,239
Speaker 1: to find yourself. And I think that you know that

700
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:11,680
Speaker 1: can apply to friendships, relationships, you know, businesses, whatever, coworkers, um.

701
00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:14,560
Speaker 1: Sometimes people are holding you back, um number two. Sometimes

702
00:41:14,600 --> 00:41:17,880
Speaker 1: it's best to keep it private until you know it's permanent.

703
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:23,680
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something, hunts need hunt. It's very

704
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:26,000
Speaker 1: difficult for being robbing to keep things private because we're

705
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:28,840
Speaker 1: on this show your Housewives of Potomach and they all

706
00:41:28,880 --> 00:41:32,359
Speaker 1: in our business. But I do agree with that, Yeah, yeah, yeah,

707
00:41:32,520 --> 00:41:35,239
Speaker 1: I agree. I mean whenever whatever, it is like in

708
00:41:35,280 --> 00:41:37,919
Speaker 1: good stuff and bad stuff. So I think about when

709
00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:39,719
Speaker 1: you're going through stras. See, it's hard because like when

710
00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:42,239
Speaker 1: you're going through struggles with your partner or with a

711
00:41:42,320 --> 00:41:45,879
Speaker 1: friend or whatever, and then you, um, you can find

712
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:49,080
Speaker 1: in another person, right, and then you make up, you

713
00:41:49,120 --> 00:41:51,560
Speaker 1: resolve those issues, and then that other person is still

714
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:54,879
Speaker 1: mad and they like, don't you remember where he did?

715
00:41:55,160 --> 00:41:57,400
Speaker 1: And so it's like sometimes it's like you really have

716
00:41:57,480 --> 00:41:59,640
Speaker 1: to be careful with what you're sharing with people because

717
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:02,600
Speaker 1: sometimes they're gonna hold hold it against you. And then

718
00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:04,680
Speaker 1: on the flip side, it's like you could think that

719
00:42:04,719 --> 00:42:07,560
Speaker 1: you're about to close a business deal. I don't you

720
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:09,399
Speaker 1: do you know how many people because in the world

721
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 1: of reality TV, UM reality TV production companies and casting companies,

722
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:18,760
Speaker 1: they try to cast people left right up, down all around.

723
00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:20,880
Speaker 1: Do you know how many people I've heard that have

724
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:24,400
Speaker 1: gone around telling all their friends and family that they're

725
00:42:24,400 --> 00:42:26,560
Speaker 1: going to be famous and they're gonna be on reality

726
00:42:26,600 --> 00:42:29,920
Speaker 1: TV because someone so talked to them and blah blah blah,

727
00:42:30,000 --> 00:42:33,960
Speaker 1: and it doesn't happen, right, So then you're left looking stupid,

728
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:37,680
Speaker 1: kind of stupid when people are like, hey, whatever happened

729
00:42:37,719 --> 00:42:39,399
Speaker 1: to that show? You said you were going to be one?

730
00:42:39,520 --> 00:42:42,320
Speaker 1: Whatever happened to that? Because I mean and that it's

731
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:44,799
Speaker 1: so funny because like I applied that to my own

732
00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:49,560
Speaker 1: experience with Potomac. Remember, I mean, could tell you listen,

733
00:42:49,680 --> 00:42:52,080
Speaker 1: we're all season three and I was like, so we're

734
00:42:52,080 --> 00:42:55,240
Speaker 1: on a show, right, Yes, we've been doing this for years.

735
00:42:55,320 --> 00:42:58,399
Speaker 1: What are you talking about? Like the cameras at my door?

736
00:42:58,440 --> 00:43:01,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, what y'all doing here? So so anyway, yeah,

737
00:43:01,640 --> 00:43:03,880
Speaker 1: I just think it's important. It's it's always hard. It's like,

738
00:43:03,920 --> 00:43:06,080
Speaker 1: just be careful with what you share and who you

739
00:43:06,120 --> 00:43:08,600
Speaker 1: share it with and how premature you share and all

740
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:10,839
Speaker 1: that type of stuff. Okay, now I gotta go back

741
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:13,520
Speaker 1: to my phone and I gotta a call coming in.

742
00:43:14,040 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 1: Why doesn't iPhone like you can't hit decline when your

743
00:43:19,440 --> 00:43:21,880
Speaker 1: phone when you're not like on your phone. Anyway, that's

744
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:23,880
Speaker 1: a whole another subject. I can we can have our

745
00:43:23,920 --> 00:43:27,600
Speaker 1: iPhone rans later? Okay? Number three? If you can attach,

746
00:43:28,400 --> 00:43:33,960
Speaker 1: you can detach hm. So that that brings me to

747
00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 1: a story so I was, um, this was years ago,

748
00:43:36,600 --> 00:43:43,360
Speaker 1: and I was, um, I thought I was on a date. Okay,

749
00:43:43,560 --> 00:43:45,680
Speaker 1: I was. I was. I was doing a little vak

750
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:48,480
Speaker 1: with this dude, right, And I didn't really know when

751
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:50,120
Speaker 1: I was he let's say he had to be there

752
00:43:50,160 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 1: for the week and I was in town for a

753
00:43:53,200 --> 00:43:54,400
Speaker 1: couple of days, and I didn't really know when I

754
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:56,440
Speaker 1: was leaving, right because I had just had stuff to do.

755
00:43:57,200 --> 00:43:59,799
Speaker 1: And he was like, just Elsa, when when are you leaving?

756
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:03,319
Speaker 1: And I was like, are you trying to get rid

757
00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:06,480
Speaker 1: of me? Right? And he said, no, I need to.

758
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:10,520
Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out when to disconnect. Oh, and

759
00:44:10,560 --> 00:44:13,000
Speaker 1: that that also was rude to me. I was like,

760
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:16,200
Speaker 1: what the hell does that mean? But he I understood,

761
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:18,920
Speaker 1: like he just wanted to know, like when was the

762
00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:22,960
Speaker 1: disconnection happening? Yeah? So was that so disconnect from like

763
00:44:23,280 --> 00:44:28,319
Speaker 1: being hospitable, or disconnect from me getting out of his room,

764
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:33,040
Speaker 1: disconnect from us being together? Really? Yeah, he just it

765
00:44:33,120 --> 00:44:37,480
Speaker 1: was a very strange way of him asking me, yes,

766
00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:40,600
Speaker 1: I proceeded to start packing, Yeah, yeah, yeah, you know,

767
00:44:40,800 --> 00:44:43,600
Speaker 1: like okay, you know what in fact, well and my

768
00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:46,799
Speaker 1: flight leaves in ten minutes. But I think really it

769
00:44:46,880 --> 00:44:49,480
Speaker 1: was because I never really had I didn't know when

770
00:44:49,480 --> 00:44:52,080
Speaker 1: I was leaving, so he you know, I guess he

771
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:54,359
Speaker 1: just needs to know when I was leaving anyway, Yes,

772
00:44:54,480 --> 00:44:57,480
Speaker 1: that that that I mean, I guess that's similar. But

773
00:44:57,640 --> 00:44:59,799
Speaker 1: um yeah, like if you can attach to something or

774
00:44:59,840 --> 00:45:03,719
Speaker 1: some one, then you have the ability to detach as well,

775
00:45:03,960 --> 00:45:06,520
Speaker 1: so don't So it's pretty much don't put all your eggs,

776
00:45:07,360 --> 00:45:12,399
Speaker 1: have them egg scrambletony all over the alright. Number four,

777
00:45:12,480 --> 00:45:16,479
Speaker 1: social media has made perfect look achievable, so now real

778
00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 1: has become undesirable, and that's so true. Yeah, yeah, I

779
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:26,280
Speaker 1: mean I think honestly, I think even before social media,

780
00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:30,200
Speaker 1: people had issues with trying to achieve perfection. You know,

781
00:45:30,280 --> 00:45:32,760
Speaker 1: whether it's like passed on, passed down from their parents.

782
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:34,239
Speaker 1: You know how many people I know that have like

783
00:45:35,800 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 1: parent issues you know what I'm saying, because their mother

784
00:45:38,200 --> 00:45:41,239
Speaker 1: wanted them to be skinny, or you know what, they

785
00:45:41,239 --> 00:45:43,960
Speaker 1: wanted to live up to their parents expectations and stuff.

786
00:45:44,000 --> 00:45:47,160
Speaker 1: So so yeah, I mean social media definitely. You know

787
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:49,919
Speaker 1: people on social media, they're not and I would say

788
00:45:50,120 --> 00:45:51,719
Speaker 1: most most of us are guilty of it. We're not

789
00:45:51,760 --> 00:45:54,200
Speaker 1: going to post the ugly pictures, but no I don't.

790
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:56,600
Speaker 1: I don't want y'all see that, right, Yeah, I mean,

791
00:45:56,640 --> 00:45:59,680
Speaker 1: but you know, it is like the filters and stuff, like,

792
00:45:59,719 --> 00:46:02,440
Speaker 1: you know, you have to be mindful that if you're

793
00:46:02,440 --> 00:46:05,000
Speaker 1: posting a picture and you look nothing like that, you

794
00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:08,840
Speaker 1: don't post that, right that. Yeah, that's an issue. Yeah, yeah,

795
00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:11,319
Speaker 1: but yes, we we. I would love to be back

796
00:46:11,360 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 1: to real nous because because I do feel like if

797
00:46:15,000 --> 00:46:18,400
Speaker 1: you look at what people look like today with with

798
00:46:18,520 --> 00:46:21,440
Speaker 1: or without filters and stuff, versus what they look like

799
00:46:21,520 --> 00:46:23,680
Speaker 1: in the eighties, you know what I mean, people in

800
00:46:23,719 --> 00:46:26,839
Speaker 1: the eighties were just more raw and more like now

801
00:46:26,920 --> 00:46:30,120
Speaker 1: it's just like, I don't know, we're so like overdone.

802
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:34,120
Speaker 1: I agreed, agreed, Yes, yeah, And I want to go

803
00:46:34,160 --> 00:46:37,000
Speaker 1: back to having like real conversations with people. Yes, yeah,

804
00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:39,240
Speaker 1: I used to do that a lot. Yeah, I agree.

805
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:42,080
Speaker 1: All right, let's see number five. Anything that costs you

806
00:46:42,080 --> 00:46:46,360
Speaker 1: your mental health is too expensive look elsewhere, Like what

807
00:46:46,520 --> 00:46:49,279
Speaker 1: give me an example. I mean, anything that's stressing you

808
00:46:49,280 --> 00:46:52,120
Speaker 1: out to the point where you're like, you know, you're

809
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:56,080
Speaker 1: feeling depressed or yeah, I mean ship that can be

810
00:46:56,080 --> 00:46:59,040
Speaker 1: a whole lot of stuff. So it's pretty much saying

811
00:46:59,080 --> 00:47:03,640
Speaker 1: like there's nothing out here, that's worth compromising and you know,

812
00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:08,440
Speaker 1: weakening your mental health, right, So so yeah, just keep

813
00:47:08,480 --> 00:47:10,920
Speaker 1: that in mind. If something is bothering you to the

814
00:47:10,960 --> 00:47:13,720
Speaker 1: point where it's consuming you and you can't think straight

815
00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:18,279
Speaker 1: and you're depressed, and let it go. Agree Number six.

816
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:22,000
Speaker 1: If they don't know you personally, never take it personally.

817
00:47:22,160 --> 00:47:25,480
Speaker 1: Oh that's not good on that And that's good for

818
00:47:25,480 --> 00:47:28,080
Speaker 1: people that are in business. Of times, if you're in

819
00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:30,360
Speaker 1: business and something happens and you take it so personally,

820
00:47:30,960 --> 00:47:34,680
Speaker 1: it ain't personal. It is business. That's true. That's true,

821
00:47:34,880 --> 00:47:36,839
Speaker 1: but it's it's like so important. It's like even if

822
00:47:36,920 --> 00:47:40,799
Speaker 1: you know someone like in passing, people still might not

823
00:47:40,960 --> 00:47:43,239
Speaker 1: know the real you, Like if you don't spend a

824
00:47:43,239 --> 00:47:47,919
Speaker 1: lot of time around someone, um, you know, like, still

825
00:47:47,960 --> 00:47:51,440
Speaker 1: don't take that stuff personally personal. Yeah, And I always

826
00:47:51,440 --> 00:47:52,920
Speaker 1: like flip it on a person. I'm like, well, that's

827
00:47:52,960 --> 00:47:56,640
Speaker 1: they issue, that's their insecurity, that's there, you know, whatever,

828
00:47:56,840 --> 00:48:00,319
Speaker 1: their their mama drama that they're putting on you. Yes,

829
00:48:00,360 --> 00:48:01,839
Speaker 1: and if and I just want to put this out there,

830
00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:03,959
Speaker 1: if you want a reality television show and you're getting

831
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:08,840
Speaker 1: a paycheck, it's business. That's very true. Yeah, just saying

832
00:48:10,400 --> 00:48:15,520
Speaker 1: very true, it's hard, it's a little it's because we are,

833
00:48:15,960 --> 00:48:17,960
Speaker 1: you know, friends, we want to be friends. We want

834
00:48:17,960 --> 00:48:20,880
Speaker 1: to nurture our friendship. Very true. It is definitely a

835
00:48:21,280 --> 00:48:26,080
Speaker 1: fine line. Number seven. Never assumed that loud is strong

836
00:48:26,600 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 1: or quiet is weak. It's often the other way around.

837
00:48:32,120 --> 00:48:34,319
Speaker 1: Very true. I would I would agree with that. Yes,

838
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:39,560
Speaker 1: my grandfather like barely spoke, but when he did, you listen,

839
00:48:39,680 --> 00:48:41,560
Speaker 1: you listen, and even when he was quiet, it was

840
00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:45,719
Speaker 1: like just his presence in the room spoke volume. So yeah,

841
00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:49,839
Speaker 1: I want to stop talking. But then there are some

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Speaker 1: people who who you know, they walk in and they're like,

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Speaker 1: you know, they they want to be the center of attention.

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Speaker 1: And it's like you can just tell like, okay, you're

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Speaker 1: not you're not comfortable where you are, you know what

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Speaker 1: I mean, Like it's it's it's yeah, so never soon

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Speaker 1: all right, if you're happy alone, you'll be happier together.

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Speaker 1: So I guess it's saying, like two people, if you're

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Speaker 1: happy and content by yourself, by yourself, then in a relationship,

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Speaker 1: that that makes for a better relationship. Facts, yes, yeah,

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Speaker 1: and then like you might even like being alone better

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Speaker 1: than the relations Just send them home. The yep that

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Speaker 1: was it. Those were good. I think people can learn

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Speaker 1: from all of those. I mean, something you can speak

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Speaker 1: to somebody. Yeah, I think I think that sometimes we

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Speaker 1: just have to stop and like really think about what's

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Speaker 1: important and what's what's valued, what we're valuing, and what

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Speaker 1: we should like get rid of. Yeah, yeah, absolutely, And

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Speaker 1: I just like one of my I think people seeking

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Speaker 1: per affection is like the root of a lot of

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Speaker 1: issues that people have in life, you know. So it's

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Speaker 1: just like, if we can just let go of our

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Speaker 1: desire to be perfect, in our desire to be perceived

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Speaker 1: as perfect, so much will just you know be better.

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Speaker 1: Like you know, everyone you're just afraid to fail or

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Speaker 1: you don't want to disappoint someone or or you know,

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Speaker 1: afraid you don't want to be judged, Like so what Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And I don't even really And I tell my this

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Speaker 1: to my kids because I'm raising three teenage daughters and

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Speaker 1: so that whole perfection thing is huge right now. So

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Speaker 1: I always tell them, like, I don't even understand what

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Speaker 1: perfect means, Like what does that mean? Right? Who defines perfect? Right?

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Speaker 1: Just be yourself and that's the perfect whatever that is

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Speaker 1: flaws and all so um, But yeah, I think that

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Speaker 1: that's what we're given to the people. Yes, if you are,

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Speaker 1: if you are something called perfect, don't be perfect. No,

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Speaker 1: that's not you, don't exist. Just be yourself, damn it.

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Speaker 1: Figure out what that is. Figure out what makes you happy,

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Speaker 1: what makes you sad. Just be yourself. Yes. Reasonably Shady

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