Speaker 1: All right, you guys, welcome back to the Overcover Podcast.
Speaker 1: I'm your host, Jenna Kalopez. Thank you guys so much
Speaker 1: for being here. I'm excited because I have the one,
Speaker 1: the only, the beautiful Bella.
Speaker 2: I don't want to butcher last name.
Speaker 1: How do you say it?
Speaker 2: Do you see how she says it? I can't. I
Speaker 2: didn't want a butcher.
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I'm not gonna get clipped to
Speaker 1: get fucked up about it. But I'm so happy that
Speaker 1: you're here. I obviously this is our first time meeting,
Speaker 1: and obviously you know, please get comfortable, Please fill at home.
Speaker 1: I know that's hard, especially you know, as people meeting
Speaker 1: for the first time, but I promise you I don't
Speaker 1: bite no.
Speaker 2: But I I've seen you.
Speaker 1: I think more than anything, I'm a huge fan of
Speaker 1: the mother that you are. I seen your content about
Speaker 1: your baby boy, and that's literally all that it is
Speaker 1: on your page, and I love that. But I also
Speaker 1: know that you have another life, like obviously you know
Speaker 1: your career and whatever you do, like I want, I
Speaker 1: want to get into I want to know Bella. I
Speaker 1: want to know how she grew up and and where
Speaker 1: she's at now because I know that you've been on
Speaker 1: other podcast, but your first time.
Speaker 3: He thank you for having me, of.
Speaker 1: Course, So let's get into it because we were already
Speaker 1: talking about rbbls and getting our bodies done and all that.
Speaker 2: But I want to know.
Speaker 1: Before the when you were born, your your childhood, Like,
Speaker 1: how was it for you growing up?
Speaker 2: Obviously you have a son, right, what's his name?
Speaker 3: Noah?
Speaker 2: Noah? Yes, I know, I was in my head. I'm
Speaker 2: like the arc Noah's are.
Speaker 3: How old is he? He's three? Before and June.
Speaker 2: I love that age.
Speaker 1: I have nieces and nephews like at that age, and I.
Speaker 2: Think it's the most sweetest.
Speaker 3: Like.
Speaker 2: Their love. And he's a boy, and like, I'm sure
Speaker 2: he adores you.
Speaker 1: He's a mama's boy boy for sure.
Speaker 2: I love it. Okay, Well to pass the mic to you.
Speaker 2: Please introduce yourself.
Speaker 1: For those that don't know you, your childhood, what you
Speaker 1: do all that gets chalk.
Speaker 3: Hi everyone. My name is Bela. I am a lifestyle
Speaker 3: content creator. I've been on social media since twenty twenty one.
Speaker 3: I started during COVID, so I haven't been in the
Speaker 3: game as long as others, but it feels like a
Speaker 3: long time. It's I can only imagine for people like
Speaker 3: that were there in the start. But anyways, so yeah,
Speaker 3: I started in twenty twenty one. I started making content
Speaker 3: with my son's dad and we started like as like
Speaker 3: a couples, and we grew into a family and now
Speaker 3: I'm more like solo mommy content. But I grew up
Speaker 3: in a family of six. There's three boys and three girls.
Speaker 3: Yeah okay, and I was the second to youngest.
Speaker 2: Oh I'm the second youngest too.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, everyone else was older than me. So they're
Speaker 3: all like in their thirties now. And then I have
Speaker 3: a younger sister who's twenty three.
Speaker 2: How old are you, I'm twenty five. I'm twenty seven.
Speaker 3: So yeah, so yeah, my dad was pretty strict growing up,
Speaker 3: especially with the girls of course Latinos. Yes, yes, it's
Speaker 3: the worst. Like I hated it. Where's your family from?
Speaker 1: Like I looked at him, Okay, yeah, my grandma's from there.
Speaker 1: Yeah so my family's yeah, so I get it. They're strict,
Speaker 1: you know, yeah there, you know.
Speaker 3: They're mainly like my life growing up was literally just
Speaker 3: like living at sports games. That's all because of the boys. Yes,
Speaker 3: literally baseball games, baseball practices, that's all. It was, but
Speaker 3: I can't complain. I feel like I lived a very
Speaker 3: good childhood, like never went a night without eating. So yeah,
Speaker 3: forever blessed for my parents. I love that life that
Speaker 3: they gave us. I think now being a mom, like
Speaker 3: I have so much respect for my parents. It's like
Speaker 3: they had six kids and they always made it happen.
Speaker 3: Like I hear so many stories of like like my
Speaker 3: friends and like how they grew up, and or like
Speaker 3: just like my son's father, like how he grew up.
Speaker 3: And my life was totally different.
Speaker 1: So it's hard when somebody else lives a different life
Speaker 1: than you, and then you kind of like trying to
Speaker 1: mesh that and understand each other. It's like complicated. It's
Speaker 1: like but no, like I'm not this person, and like,
Speaker 1: but I want you to understand me, but I also
Speaker 1: want to understand you.
Speaker 3: So I get that.
Speaker 2: Like it's like, yeah, because my.
Speaker 1: Family obviously you know, I don't know if you know,
Speaker 1: but people know that, Like you know, my mom was
Speaker 1: a singer and all that stuff, and I witnessed I've
Speaker 1: witnessed struggle with you know, how my mom took care
Speaker 1: of she was a single mom of five. So it's
Speaker 1: like it was, I've seen it, but a lot of
Speaker 1: people don't know that. And obviously she worked hard and like,
Speaker 1: you know, did what she could, all five of us
Speaker 1: and whatever. So a lot of people think, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm as, I'm spoiled or like whatever. Realistically it's not,
Speaker 1: maybe like other people were, but I still maintained like
Speaker 1: some type of humbleness and just like, yeah, I'm still
Speaker 1: a normal person and would love to like connect with
Speaker 1: people on a different level, if that makes sense. So
Speaker 1: that's why I was like, oh, you know what, like
Speaker 1: I want to sit down, let's have a chit chat
Speaker 1: with Bella, like I want to know, like you know
Speaker 1: who she is, and like, obviously was your boy planned?
Speaker 2: No, no, okay, so take me through that. What happened?
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, I was so scared. So I was twenty
Speaker 3: one when I got pregnant, and my son's dad was
Speaker 3: twenty okay, so pretty young.
Speaker 2: How long had you guys been together?
Speaker 3: Oh, maybe two and a half three years? Okay, we
Speaker 3: already had like our social media thing, okay, Okay, so yeah,
Speaker 3: but at the time, my dad was still strict, like
Speaker 3: he wasn't allowed to be in my room at my house, Okay.
Speaker 2: Because you still live there.
Speaker 3: Yes, I still live with my parents, so yeah, And
Speaker 3: it was like I had to be home by a
Speaker 3: certain time. Yeah, it was like eleven o'clock, Where are
Speaker 3: you at? What time are you coming home? So my
Speaker 3: parents were still very much strict, like I was not
Speaker 3: allowed to go on vacation, nothing, none of that with
Speaker 3: my boyfriend. So I literally just had a feeling like
Speaker 3: I didn't miss my period. Well it had been like
Speaker 3: two or three days. Yeah, but it wasn't like I
Speaker 3: wasn't anything out of the ordinary because I had such
Speaker 3: an irregular period, So I wasn't like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 3: it's been three months and nothing. I just literally had
Speaker 3: a feeling. And like two days before I had a
Speaker 3: dream that I was like talking to a baby girl
Speaker 3: and she was like calling me mommy. And I woke
Speaker 3: up with my hand on my stomach. And that's what
Speaker 3: made me take up pregnancies.
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
Speaker 3: Okay, And well turned out to not be a girl.
Speaker 3: But I had so many dreams about a baby girl
Speaker 3: that I thought that I was gonna have a girl.
Speaker 3: But so that made me like be like I need
Speaker 3: to take a pregnancy test. And I had told my
Speaker 3: son's dad and he's like, no, you're not pregnant, and
Speaker 3: so I was like we literally even made a bet
Speaker 3: about it. I don't remember what the bet was, but
Speaker 3: we made a bet. He's like, I bet you you're not.
Speaker 3: I bet you you're not. So we had gone to
Speaker 3: get a pregnancy test and then he took me back
Speaker 3: home to drop me off, and I took it in
Speaker 3: my parents' bathroom upstairs. Oh my god, girl, Oh I'm
Speaker 3: so scared. I was being so quiet and then positive
Speaker 3: and I was like, oh, like, this wasn't the first
Speaker 3: pregnancy test that I've done.
Speaker 1: It.
Speaker 3: I feel like every girl takes them, like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: Of course, do you know the scared Like, yeah, of course.
Speaker 3: So I had taken a couple before.
Speaker 2: But she's like, it's gonna be negative.
Speaker 3: It's always negative. So when I saw the positive, like
Speaker 3: right away, I was like, oh my gosh. And he
Speaker 3: was still waiting outside. So I had like shoved it
Speaker 3: in my pocket and I went downstairs and I told him.
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my gosh. He was so chill though,
Speaker 3: like totally different family, Like his mom would have been
Speaker 3: like okay, but mine it's like totally different. So I
Speaker 3: think we went like two months without telling my family, okay,
Speaker 3: and then one day he was just like, we have
Speaker 3: to tell them, like we have to, like we need
Speaker 3: to know if you need to go to the doctor,
Speaker 3: like what you need to do, because we were looking
Speaker 3: everything up on Google, like when should you see us
Speaker 3: a doctor when you find out you're pregnant, And he's like,
Speaker 3: we need to tell them, like we need to know
Speaker 3: like what to do, and so I was like, oh
Speaker 3: my gosh, so I stayed He had an apartment at
Speaker 3: this time, and I stayed at his apartment and he's like,
Speaker 3: I'll just go tell them myself. No, yes, dude, I
Speaker 3: was so.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, yeah, Carrie, I would ship my parents, but
Speaker 1: go off.
Speaker 3: I shut off my phone. And he went to tell
Speaker 3: my parents, and my mom cried and she said that
Speaker 3: she already knew mol just saying that, but she was like, yeah,
Speaker 3: I already knew. Tell her like just to come home.
Speaker 3: And then my dad was just like, okay, it's hard
Speaker 3: to come home. But it wasn't the reaction I was expecting.
Speaker 1: You thought it was going to be, like I thought
Speaker 1: it was gonna be like get the fuck out my
Speaker 1: house type shit.
Speaker 3: Not necessarily them kicking me out. But I thought that
Speaker 3: they were going to be so mad, like your lectures
Speaker 3: and all of that.
Speaker 2: But were you used to that growing up?
Speaker 3: That my brother had a kid in high school? Okay,
Speaker 3: so my Solard, my sister whole nother story also like
Speaker 3: moved to Texas with her mom and like just popped
Speaker 3: out a baby and oh okay, that's how my dad
Speaker 3: found out when she had the baby. So I feel
Speaker 3: like they just had a lot of like there was
Speaker 3: a lot of trauma. Yeah. So I was expecting like
Speaker 3: a different reaction because they all had kids super young
Speaker 3: and it was like, oh my gosh, what are we
Speaker 3: going to do? Like I became a theon like kindergarten.
Speaker 3: So I was just expecting them to react different. But honestly,
Speaker 3: I think because we already had like an income going
Speaker 3: for us, that they were like, okay, like you guys,
Speaker 3: they can do it. Yeah, So they weren't really like
Speaker 3: scared for us. But I came home back that night
Speaker 3: and then they just cried and then the next morning
Speaker 3: made my doctor's appointment for me. Specially, it went a
Speaker 3: lot easier than I was expecting.
Speaker 2: And was this before or after body down first time?
Speaker 3: Or this was I had the baby first, okay I
Speaker 3: started Okay, all right, so we'll skip that it so obviously.
Speaker 1: You had him, yes, love him. How has life been
Speaker 1: as a mom these last three years?
Speaker 3: My gosh, well, the beginning was not what I expected
Speaker 3: at all. Super hard, so hard, Like so I was
Speaker 3: comparing myself a lot to the other like girls who
Speaker 3: were pregnant at the same time as me, because I
Speaker 3: feel like I got pregnant as like a couple other
Speaker 3: like influencers who already had their body done. So like after,
Speaker 3: I'm like, girl, how come we were able to snap
Speaker 3: back like right away? Like that's scared me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like, now that I got my body, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, and they tell you to wait to have kids,
Speaker 1: I'm like, I do not want to, Like when am
Speaker 1: I gonna have kids?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'd rather be bodied down now than to have kids. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but that is scary. It's like damn, like you invest
Speaker 1: all this money and all this time and the healing
Speaker 1: and all that, but I mean you got yours done
Speaker 1: after But obviously you were saying that it was it
Speaker 1: was it was hard, it was difficult, right, And how
Speaker 1: was it with your baby? You guys aren't together. No, Okay,
Speaker 1: can I ask why or what? Like what shifted or
Speaker 1: what changed?
Speaker 3: And when we first first started dating, we were super young.
Speaker 3: He was eighteen, I was nineteen. It was so toxic,
Speaker 3: so toxic, and obviously I know, and I think that
Speaker 3: it stems a lot from the way he was raised
Speaker 3: and the difference from the way he was raised to
Speaker 3: the way I was raised. And I think that like
Speaker 3: had everything to do with that. Like I would tell him,
Speaker 3: like we have to go to therapy, like we have
Speaker 3: to figure this out, and he was totally like anti therapy,
Speaker 3: like I don't need that. I don't need that, Like
Speaker 3: that's not going to do nothing for me, Like how
Speaker 3: is this random person going to tell me? Like yeah what?
Speaker 3: So we were super super toxic as teens, like so toxic,
Speaker 3: but things got better, like when we started doing social
Speaker 3: media together and like making that income, like we became
Speaker 3: more like a like a team. And then when I
Speaker 3: got pregnant, he was the best, Like I could not
Speaker 3: have asked for a better partner, like super caring, super loving,
Speaker 3: like did everything I needed, Like I would literally lay
Speaker 3: in bed and sleep all day and he would just
Speaker 3: like buy me food brun my feet, Like I could
Speaker 3: not have asked for a better partner. And then after
Speaker 3: two same thing, he was good. But I feel like
Speaker 3: what really caused like the problems after birth was it
Speaker 3: was just so hard to like care for a newborn
Speaker 3: and then I feel like not having that one on
Speaker 3: one time like with him, and like me being tired,
Speaker 3: over stimulated, like figuring out motherhood him like figuring out
Speaker 3: how to be a dad, and then also like working together,
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, it would be like we need to film,
Speaker 3: we need to do that, and I'm like, I'm tired,
Speaker 3: like I was up all night. So like I feel
Speaker 3: like the tension was just like there, like any little
Speaker 3: thing would cause an argument. But yeah, eventually he was
Speaker 3: just like no, like this is not working anymore. And
Speaker 3: then we continued to live together for a year. We
Speaker 3: broke up for a year, okay, and I lived with
Speaker 3: him still.
Speaker 2: How was that? Like would you date other people? Would
Speaker 2: he date other people?
Speaker 3: I don't know what he was doing.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I was so in love with him, Like I wasn't
Speaker 3: expecting to cry, but like I was like so in
Speaker 3: love with him that like I couldnot like.
Speaker 2: You didn't see anything else.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So like that's the whole reason I stayed there
Speaker 3: for the whole year was because like I was like,
Speaker 3: there's no way that like I could be with someone else,
Speaker 3: Like I want my family together, dude. I would literally
Speaker 3: be crying, like holding my baby, like I'm so sorry
Speaker 3: that I did this, like to you, Like all I
Speaker 3: wanted was for him. I wasn't expecting to cry, but
Speaker 3: I wasn't like expect like I never ever ever wanted
Speaker 3: that from my son. So like I felt like I
Speaker 3: let him down.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I feel like I can I feel that
Speaker 1: because like when you have a kid, you want to
Speaker 1: be able just to have that loving surrounding family, yeah,
Speaker 1: and give that to them and like have this perfect
Speaker 1: idea and this like everything that's in your head.
Speaker 3: Like since I was a little girl, that's all I
Speaker 3: ever imagine imagine, like was getting married, having kids. Like
Speaker 3: so I feel like when I had my baby with him,
Speaker 3: like that's everything that I wanted and I would like
Speaker 3: literally expect like the engagement ring. So like the breakup,
Speaker 3: I was like.
Speaker 2: Huh, like it was it threw you off?
Speaker 3: Yeah, And so like I felt so bad for my baby,
Speaker 3: and that's why I stayed living there with him because
Speaker 3: I was like, there's no way I can be separated
Speaker 3: from my son and share him, and like I really
Speaker 3: just wanted nothing more than to be with my son's
Speaker 3: dad at the time. And then we got back together
Speaker 3: and like tried to make things work for a little bit,
Speaker 3: and then we just broke up again. And then that's
Speaker 3: why I was like, Okay, I like I can't keep
Speaker 3: doing this. Thank you. Yeah, I was like I can't
Speaker 3: keep doing this. And then things kind of started getting
Speaker 3: a little bit toxic, right, and so I was like, Okay,
Speaker 3: I think it's best that like I move out and.
Speaker 1: All right, you guys, we're gonna want a quick break
Speaker 1: and we'll be right back.
Speaker 2: Welcome back, you guys.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's really really good, super healthy, Like I could
Speaker 3: not have asked for a better co parent. I see
Speaker 3: all of these like talk.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and I'm my god, I see all these
Speaker 1: videos on tiktoks of like moms dropping off their babies
Speaker 1: with like their dad and like they do like the
Speaker 1: little POV and stuff like that, like oh, come drop
Speaker 1: off my baby co parenting with they're toxic, and I'm
Speaker 1: like and then they spill the beans and I'm like,
Speaker 1: I mean, I kind of live.
Speaker 2: For it, you know, yea, Like I'm watching I'm like, damn.
Speaker 1: You know crazy, But it's like it's better. It's better
Speaker 1: for your son, it's better for you, Yeah, Because then
Speaker 1: that's also another stress and a lot of worry, like
Speaker 1: is he okay?
Speaker 2: Is my son okay?
Speaker 1: And having that confidence that your baby daddy's gonna take
Speaker 1: care of.
Speaker 3: Him, yes, oh my gosh. Yes. And I feel like
Speaker 3: that's what gives me so much peace of mind, is
Speaker 3: that we're on such a good like stage in our
Speaker 3: relationship right now that like I can call him and
Speaker 3: like talk to him, like we talk about everything, like you.
Speaker 2: Guys are best friend.
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm like so like we're in such a good
Speaker 3: place in our relationship right now. It was really rough
Speaker 3: when I had first moved out, but now we're like
Speaker 3: at such a good stage in a relationship, and it
Speaker 3: makes me easy. You're like I can call you and
Speaker 3: FaceTime you for thirty minutes and see what my son's doing,
Speaker 3: or take them to Disneyland and things like aren't weird
Speaker 3: so that I make respect. Yes, it's so much easier now.
Speaker 1: I want to know how it is when you guys
Speaker 1: are dating other people because this sounds like this sounds
Speaker 1: really good, honestly great co parenting. But I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: honest with you as a girl, I maybe.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: Maybe everybody can you know, chime in and whoever's watching
Speaker 1: and stuff.
Speaker 3: But like.
Speaker 2: If my man's who has a kid with somebody.
Speaker 1: Else, like you know, I get like the birthday parties
Speaker 1: and I get going out like.
Speaker 2: I don't know about Disney Girl like things like that.
Speaker 3: Agree, I said I would never date a man who
Speaker 3: has a kid. Okay, having a kid okay, because I
Speaker 3: would never write it's toxic. But I wouldn't never tolerate that, Okay.
Speaker 1: But the thing is, how do you guys do have you?
Speaker 1: Have you dated and he knows or has he dated
Speaker 1: and he knows him.
Speaker 3: I've been in like talking stages, but I've never been
Speaker 3: in like another relation. But does he know something serious? Yes,
Speaker 3: he knew about it?
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah it did he get toalkdic about it? No?
Speaker 3: But and to be honest, I'm not sure if he
Speaker 3: ever told me this, Like he didn't want the guy around,
Speaker 3: right son, but like he didn't care what I did.
Speaker 3: He just didn't want the guy around my son only
Speaker 3: because he knew like that the relationship was like and
Speaker 3: it was valid. He just knew that it wasn't nothing
Speaker 3: serious and you shouldn't be bringing my son around this, right. Yeah,
Speaker 3: so I thought it was very valid. And honestly, I
Speaker 3: don't know what he's doing. He says that he's not
Speaker 3: dating anyone. But I know that my son has been
Speaker 3: around like other girls, because he'll tell me.
Speaker 2: Your son will tell you. Yeah, okay, so how you see.
Speaker 2: I don't get guy though, Like, why do you play
Speaker 2: that game? It's right you can girl? Why can you?
Speaker 3: So you know what happened. My son had a birthday
Speaker 3: party in the summer, and at the time we were
Speaker 3: like super we were kind of rocky and our co
Speaker 3: parenting relationship, uh uh huh. And I had saw this
Speaker 3: girl there but she looked super young. But I'm like,
Speaker 3: who is this girl? But she was hanging out with
Speaker 3: his younger brother. So in my head, I'm like, oh,
Speaker 3: that's his little girlfriend. Because the girl was tiny, I
Speaker 3: just thought it was a brother's girlfriend. So I brushed
Speaker 3: it off. Later on, I see all my TikTok for you, Paige,
Speaker 3: the girl.
Speaker 1: With him, Oh so so TikTok helped you out, yeah, basically.
Speaker 3: And so I sent it to him and I was like,
Speaker 3: why was this girl at my son's birthday party? Oh?
Speaker 3: And he goes, that's my brother's friend.
Speaker 2: Uh huh.
Speaker 3: Time I let a slide. I'm like, whatever, I don't
Speaker 3: want I guess uh huh. Time goes on. I see
Speaker 3: another video on my for you page of her like
Speaker 3: in like a thong and like he's like hanging her
Speaker 3: upside down and like her thongs like slipping out her
Speaker 3: pants and it like they did a trend. But I'm like,
Speaker 3: you are not being that friendly. Like I start, I
Speaker 3: started spying. I'm like, you're not that friendly with your
Speaker 3: brother's friend, right, And then it goes, oh, she's my assistant.
Speaker 1: You you guys swear like, oh, like, why is your
Speaker 1: assistant at my son's birthday party?
Speaker 3: Oh? She gets everything for my videos?
Speaker 2: What And she wasn't even doing anything.
Speaker 3: No, She's just standing there like she brought her little
Speaker 3: brother along for the ride too, Like there was a
Speaker 3: little boy there with her. Oh my, she was like
Speaker 3: full on, like she was just there to like hang out.
Speaker 3: Like whatever. I'm not going to push the issue. One
Speaker 3: thing about me is I'm super like like almost like
Speaker 3: too chill, Like I feel like I just don't want
Speaker 3: yes yes for my son.
Speaker 2: I'm like, you don't want to have the argument. I
Speaker 2: want yes girl.
Speaker 3: But then later on, like I wanted to take my
Speaker 3: son to seat Inside Out too, and he was like
Speaker 3: I told him, I'm like, baby, like, oh, we should
Speaker 3: go see this movie and he's like, oh, mom, I
Speaker 3: already saw it with dad. And the girl's name not
Speaker 3: even just the girl, he said her full on name.
Speaker 3: I was like oh, And I told him, I'm like,
Speaker 3: how come my son is telling me that he went
Speaker 3: to the movies to go see like the movies with
Speaker 3: this girl and he just starts laughing. I'm like, oh
Speaker 3: my gosh.
Speaker 2: So okay, So how do you like now that that's happening,
Speaker 2: Like is there like some type of boundary or like no.
Speaker 3: But honestly, I'm not even sure what to think about
Speaker 3: him and like that relationship, Like I don't think they're.
Speaker 2: Doing relationships in general.
Speaker 1: Look because because me, at least for me, if I'm
Speaker 1: going into a relationship with a man that has a
Speaker 1: baby as a woman, but this is just me and
Speaker 1: maybe a lot of women don't.
Speaker 2: Think like me.
Speaker 1: I don't want to meet your son unless we're like
Speaker 1: like for real, for real, because I love kids and
Speaker 1: like I know the importance of that, Like, yeah.
Speaker 3: I get attached.
Speaker 2: I'm the problem, like because I know I work well
Speaker 2: with kids.
Speaker 1: So it's like I set that rule for me and
Speaker 1: even like as a respect as like a man like
Speaker 1: or or the baby mama, like as a woman, like
Speaker 1: I don't want to overstep your boundaries or what you like,
Speaker 1: you're at the end of the day, you're the mom,
Speaker 1: Like there's no one gonna take your spot.
Speaker 2: Just know that I'm gonna love and take care of
Speaker 2: your kid as well.
Speaker 1: So it's kind of just like, God, I don't know,
Speaker 1: Like I don't obviously guys don't really think you know clearly.
Speaker 2: But it's like I feel like.
Speaker 1: It's like common sense, yes, Like you can't just be
Speaker 1: introducing some random man girls woman to a baby, Like
Speaker 1: what kind of example are you also setting for your son,
Speaker 1: like or.
Speaker 2: So that idea like what you know, like as a
Speaker 2: respect to you too.
Speaker 1: What if what if you decided to call her mom
Speaker 1: one day? You know, like and that's not cool for
Speaker 1: you either without you even knowing, right, I don't know.
Speaker 2: I've dated men with with you know, kids.
Speaker 1: And I just it's it's a lot, and it's it's
Speaker 1: like it's a journey, and it's like I just know
Speaker 1: that I'm not ready to meet somebody or meet their
Speaker 1: family in general without making sure like all these boxes
Speaker 1: are checked off. And it's like I think it's just
Speaker 1: healthier that way for sure, because you know, it's a baby,
Speaker 1: Like they are young, they have like emotions and feelings
Speaker 1: and you just got to take care of them too,
Speaker 1: And I feel like it's just maybe a little bit selfish.
Speaker 2: I don't know, but I'm happy that you guys have
Speaker 2: a healthy.
Speaker 1: Relationship and co parenting. That's very beneficial for the baby
Speaker 1: for sure. But so you guys don't do content anymore then.
Speaker 3: Here and there, Yeah, like you'll ask me to like
Speaker 3: film videos. But I kind of stopped with him for
Speaker 3: a while because this guy that I was talking to, like, yeah,
Speaker 3: my baby daddy was like for some reason, his like
Speaker 3: biggest op, like he never met him nothing. But I
Speaker 3: think he honestly just like jealousy of like successful he was.
Speaker 2: And insecure's call it secure.
Speaker 3: He like didn't compare to him at all, but he
Speaker 3: like me filming with my son's dad was like off limits,
Speaker 3: like totally cheating to him. Okay, that's how he felt.
Speaker 3: So we stopped for a while, but now we do
Speaker 3: it like here and there, but it's nothing like it
Speaker 3: used to be before. Like if I see like a trend,
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, do this with me.
Speaker 1: But do you guys think as maybe if you get
Speaker 1: a little older, you guys would get that together.
Speaker 2: I don't know. Look, I'm gonna be totally transparent.
Speaker 1: I don't know anything like and maybe look maybe I
Speaker 1: maybe people think that I should, but I like not
Speaker 1: knowing because I want to know what you really think,
Speaker 1: what you really feel, and without the opinions of everybody else.
Speaker 3: Honestly, I don't know. Like I think about it a lot,
Speaker 3: and I feel like for my son, it's something that
Speaker 3: like I want to do only because it makes life
Speaker 3: like so much easier, Like I hate hate having to
Speaker 3: share him, and I always think, like I feel so
Speaker 3: guilty because I'm like, what happens if I meet a
Speaker 3: guy one day and I have a kid with him
Speaker 3: and my son is never going to be fully in
Speaker 3: my life, Like he will never like I will always
Speaker 3: have him only figure Yeah, yeah, so like what if
Speaker 3: I want to go to Disneyland. What if we want
Speaker 3: to like certain stuff, like my son is not going
Speaker 3: to be present for it, and that just makes me
Speaker 3: so sad, Like I feel like he'll think that like
Speaker 3: I'm like replacing him or like starting like over, like
Speaker 3: starting a new family, like and I can never give
Speaker 3: him like his family, right, So I think about that
Speaker 3: a lot, But honestly, I don't know like what the
Speaker 3: future has in store. I feel like it was it's
Speaker 3: nothing that's like never again, right, But honestly, right now,
Speaker 3: I'm like not even really thinking about it. I feel
Speaker 3: like I'm like, you're happy, thriving and happy on my
Speaker 3: own right now, but I'm not like a post.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean obviously it's like time goes by and
Speaker 1: like you guys get older and like probably be more mature,
Speaker 1: like you guys were together probably very young, super young,
Speaker 1: so it's like, you know, all that is in your
Speaker 1: head is that toxicity and like this, but I think
Speaker 1: with growth maybe who knows.
Speaker 2: I like that you have the door a little bit.
Speaker 2: It's not like a cry like you're like it's about
Speaker 2: to be shut, but we'll see.
Speaker 3: Like every other week it's open shut.
Speaker 1: We'll see all right, So I want to know, girl,
Speaker 1: you've gotten three bbls.
Speaker 3: How why what? I need to stop going to cream barbecue?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: Okay, so walk me through what made you want to
Speaker 2: get your body done?
Speaker 3: Like honestly and why three?
Speaker 2: Why are we here? What's going on?
Speaker 3: Honestly, It's something that I've always wanted to do since
Speaker 3: high school. Girl, Like I would put like shirts my
Speaker 3: butt and like stare at myself in the mirror because
Speaker 3: the Kardashians, like because of the Kardashians, like I would
Speaker 3: be like damn, like if I just had a little
Speaker 3: bit of ass, but yeah, my bill Like before my
Speaker 3: BBLS was like literally stick stick, no boobs, no button, nothing.
Speaker 3: So after I gave birth, I was like at my
Speaker 3: lowest point, like mentally, like I hated my body, like
Speaker 3: I would not be able to go out. One day
Speaker 3: I went to the club for my friend was hosting
Speaker 3: the club and I was getting ready and I literally
Speaker 3: sat there crying like I hate the way I look
Speaker 3: in everything that I'm wearing, and I'm gonna go next
Speaker 3: to all these girls who look amazing, Like I just
Speaker 3: felt like I was at my lowest point. And then
Speaker 3: I was like I've always wanted to get a B bill,
Speaker 3: So I as soon as I got to that point,
Speaker 3: I had met with a doctor, but he said that
Speaker 3: I had to wait at least six months after giving
Speaker 3: birth for like my muscles to go back into place.
Speaker 3: So as soon as it I literally scheduled the appointment
Speaker 3: for that six month mark to get my surgery.
Speaker 2: She's like, not one second later and soon.
Speaker 3: So as soon as it hit the six month mark,
Speaker 3: I got my surgery, and I just wasn't satisfied. Okay,
Speaker 3: I did another one. I did them all in Beverly Hills,
Speaker 3: same doctor, No, all different doctors, she said.
Speaker 1: She said, I'm going on a trial ride, like we're
Speaker 1: testing all the flavors.
Speaker 3: Yes, so my son's dad paid for two of them. Okay,
Speaker 3: first too.
Speaker 1: You know what, I agree to that because you know,
Speaker 1: as someone that's gotten their body done before kids, like
Speaker 1: I need that to be known, Like if you want
Speaker 1: me to look this body down makeup, yeah, you're paying
Speaker 1: for the next one. Like if you want me to
Speaker 1: have kids, you better have that ready, like be ready,
Speaker 1: because you're gonna if you still want to fall in
Speaker 1: love with me with this ass and this waste, Like
Speaker 1: pay up, baby, But okay, yeah.
Speaker 3: Huh yeah. So I got the first one and then
Speaker 3: literally as soon as I did another consultation like oh,
Speaker 3: I'm not happy, and they're like, yeah, well you still
Speaker 3: have like more fat that we could do another one.
Speaker 3: And then they told me like, oh, it doesn't always happen,
Speaker 3: like you don't always get the looks you want the
Speaker 3: first time, like usually have to do two three rounds,
Speaker 3: which I'm like, I don't know about that, but that's
Speaker 3: what I was told. So we did the first one.
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, happier but not what I wanted.
Speaker 3: And then we did another one and then my family
Speaker 3: was like, you need to chill. They thought that I
Speaker 3: was addicted to I mean, like be so for real,
Speaker 3: Like my mom was genuinely like you're addicted, Like you
Speaker 3: need to stop. Okay, So I did the second one
Speaker 3: and then I did the last one after well, I
Speaker 3: got my boobs done as I was moving out from
Speaker 3: my son's dads, so like we were like I got
Speaker 3: them done, and then we like were fighting and like
Speaker 3: literally the next week I was out, Oh my god,
Speaker 3: but the boobs I had to pay for myself. I
Speaker 3: didn't want to pay for that, so I paid for that,
Speaker 3: I got a breast lift and then implants. And then
Speaker 3: during that surgery, I had told him, oh, I also
Speaker 3: got chin leight bom.
Speaker 2: You know what, to each their own.
Speaker 1: You're a woman of your own body. You could do
Speaker 1: whatever the hell you want, for sure. Have you gotten
Speaker 1: judged for it a lot because of it?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: But and then so as I like did the augmentation,
Speaker 3: I told him like, oh, like, by the way, I
Speaker 3: also like, I'm thinking about getting another BBL, like I've
Speaker 3: had two, and he was like, yeah, you definitely could.
Speaker 3: But we had to get fat from like other places
Speaker 3: because I didn't have a lot and the first time
Speaker 3: I own first two times I only got it from
Speaker 3: like three sixty and then this time I had to
Speaker 3: get it from my arms, my thighs. She's like, the next.
Speaker 2: One's gonna be the toes.
Speaker 1: They're like, there's nowhere else to get it from.
Speaker 3: Literally, so and that one I was already like separated
Speaker 3: from my son's dad and living on my own, and
Speaker 3: he was the only one who knew that I was
Speaker 3: getting the surgery. None of my family knew so and
Speaker 3: at the time we were doing fifty to fifty, like
Speaker 3: you have him here, I have him there, so I
Speaker 3: scheduled it for when I didn't have my son. I'm
Speaker 3: so crazy, Like, how are you going to recover from
Speaker 3: a BBL and take care of a three year old
Speaker 3: on your own?
Speaker 2: Not one but three? Yes, right after?
Speaker 3: So crazy?
Speaker 1: Okay, so if he's three, what's the timeline of the
Speaker 1: surgery each year?
Speaker 3: I probably yeah, yeah, I was probably like one each year.
Speaker 3: You're just not satisfied with it with the yeah, and
Speaker 3: I'm still not like I love the way that I look,
Speaker 3: but I feel like it's a little bit too natural
Speaker 3: for my liking, Like I want just a little bit more,
Speaker 3: you know, when you're like super swollen after surgery, Like yeah,
Speaker 3: but and that's.
Speaker 2: What I cute. Yes, but then when it sets down,
Speaker 2: gravity does its thing.
Speaker 3: Like where's my ass on? And for three times, I'm like,
Speaker 3: this does not look like it.
Speaker 2: She's like, not for this amount of money, Like, dude.
Speaker 3: When I get the commentsary baby all looks so natural,
Speaker 3: I'm like, is that what I want to hear?
Speaker 2: But I think, honestly, you're beautiful, You're gorgeous. I do
Speaker 2: want to say.
Speaker 1: She just confirmed to me that her nose is not fake,
Speaker 1: and I hate it, and I wish that she said
Speaker 1: that she got it done because I'm gonna be hating.
Speaker 2: I love it like I've always I've been too scared
Speaker 2: to do it.
Speaker 1: But you are very beautiful, and I think with or
Speaker 1: without surgery, I think your heart is gold and you
Speaker 1: seem and you look and you are in case nobody
Speaker 1: ever tells you you are a good mother and a
Speaker 1: good person. So don't ever feel like you're less than
Speaker 1: or that, because you know it's normal you have a postpartum.
Speaker 2: You know it's women are meant to feel like that.
Speaker 1: Even if I haven't had kids, I've had very low
Speaker 1: moments where I'm just like, I fucking hate my body.
Speaker 2: I hate what I look like, and so I get
Speaker 2: what that means. But as from a girl to a girl,
Speaker 2: girl's girl, you're very beautiful.
Speaker 3: And you deserve all the love.
Speaker 1: No, no, but I just feel like it's important, like
Speaker 1: to remind people like you know, and I if your
Speaker 1: guys judging her because of all these surgeries, then don't
Speaker 1: be a hater because you just can you couldn't and
Speaker 1: you just.
Speaker 2: You know you would want to.
Speaker 1: It is what it is, and all right, you guys,
Speaker 1: we're gonna want a quick break and we'll be right back.
Speaker 2: Welcome back you guys.
Speaker 1: You also do OnlyFans, yeah as well, which go ahead, girl,
Speaker 1: go off, do what you'd want to do. I did
Speaker 1: it for a little bit too, oh period, I did.
Speaker 1: I don't anymore. Tried it out, just wasn't my thing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I want to know what led you there?
Speaker 2: How's that experience for you.
Speaker 3: All that m I think I found out because my
Speaker 3: friend was doing it at the time, and she was
Speaker 3: doing really really well on there, and she was telling
Speaker 3: me that, like she wasn't even posting like crazy stuff
Speaker 3: like I don't know if you know that girl, Sophie Rain.
Speaker 2: I feel like I've heard of her.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she doesn't even do nothing on there, like multi
Speaker 3: millionaire and she's eighteen years old. Go off, some eighteen
Speaker 3: years old girl. I can't believe I heard of her.
Speaker 3: She's like going crazy right now. No, okay. Anyways, So
Speaker 3: I was just thinking, like, okay, like let me get
Speaker 3: on there and like try it out and just see
Speaker 3: like where it takes me. And I've been doing like
Speaker 3: good on there and I don't post like the craziest
Speaker 3: things like I feel like people think, oh f and
Speaker 3: they instantly.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a bad negative like, but there's people.
Speaker 3: On there that literally post like working out content, Like
Speaker 3: what it is this for you to subscribe to a
Speaker 3: creator to get like personal content like you're messaging them
Speaker 3: and yeah, like it's more like a personal level. But
Speaker 3: my content is like not that bad, honestly, it's just
Speaker 3: more of like a like more of like an explicit
Speaker 3: version of me, like just like without the sweats you on.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I get it, people, I get so much
Speaker 3: hate for it because I'm a mom, right and I
Speaker 3: get it. But at the same time, I'm like, come on, like,
Speaker 3: my three year old lives a very good life and
Speaker 3: entertain that also, yes, And I'm like, he has a
Speaker 3: savings account, he has a roth Ira, like he is
Speaker 3: set up for the future, and why am I going
Speaker 3: to stop like when I'm at my prime and I
Speaker 3: could be doing stuff for him like this and setting
Speaker 3: him up. And everyone's like telling me, like, your son's
Speaker 3: gonna hate you, like you're such a bad mom, I
Speaker 3: can't believe you would do this. I'm like, maybe, like
Speaker 3: there's that possibility, but I also think he's going to
Speaker 3: be very happy when he.
Speaker 2: Gets to that.
Speaker 3: At that nineteen and like has all of this money
Speaker 3: in his bank when the time comes, if you ever
Speaker 3: want to explain that to him, Like I think that's
Speaker 3: like a learning lesson, like not even just like not
Speaker 3: to judge other people, because there's obviously people that do
Speaker 3: other things that.
Speaker 2: Are actual strippers or prostitutes.
Speaker 1: Or whatever, and it's like there's a difference and no
Speaker 1: matter what, like not to judge those people. It's like
Speaker 1: a learning experience and people can do as they please
Speaker 1: and maybe it wasn't for me and it works out
Speaker 1: for you and that's amazing, Like there's no shame and
Speaker 1: whatever women want to do with their bodies and how
Speaker 1: they want to do it.
Speaker 2: But growing up with strict parents, do they.
Speaker 3: Know or how was that? If I'm being honest, I
Speaker 3: don't know if they know.
Speaker 2: Shut up.
Speaker 3: They've never brought it up to me.
Speaker 2: Okay, so they're not in social media, Like they're not.
Speaker 3: They are, Okay. Things got really rocky with them when
Speaker 3: me and my my dad, my son's father broke up.
Speaker 3: Things got really rocky with them because I felt like
Speaker 3: they thought that I like left to go like party
Speaker 3: and like live a crazy life, Like.
Speaker 2: I went to go get babls literally but I feel like.
Speaker 3: They think that I'm like not being a good mom.
Speaker 3: So things got super rocky with them. Like I went
Speaker 3: through a period with them where I didn't talk to them,
Speaker 3: Like it was like maybe like three months, which is
Speaker 3: a long time because I was super close to my
Speaker 3: mom especially so and then I had talked to them
Speaker 3: for the first time at my son's birthday. So yeah,
Speaker 3: things were super rocky with them. And I feel like
Speaker 3: I'm sure that they know I have them blocked on everything.
Speaker 3: I'm sure that they know now because I'm sure they
Speaker 3: see clips, comments other people's videos, and then I've talked
Speaker 3: about it on a podcast before, so if they saw
Speaker 3: the podcast, they know they have, but they've never brought
Speaker 3: it up to me ever, right, But I always never
Speaker 3: like that I was pulling my breath around them. But
Speaker 3: I mean, honestly, I feel like I'm just at a
Speaker 3: point in my life now where I'm like I'm an
Speaker 3: adult and at the end of the day, like I
Speaker 3: love them so much and I respect their opinion, but
Speaker 3: they're not going to pay my bills.
Speaker 2: For me exactly or your sons.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like you have a whole nother you have a
Speaker 3: human Yeah.
Speaker 1: Like to worry about how is your relationship with him, Like,
Speaker 1: what is like your obviously you know you love him
Speaker 1: your door, how is it like, I don't know, like
Speaker 1: what is like baby?
Speaker 3: Like I love him so much as my baby. I
Speaker 3: literally saw him this morning because I went to give
Speaker 3: his dad a ride, and I'm just like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 3: I miss him so much. Like a week away from
Speaker 3: him feels like.
Speaker 2: Also he goes for like a week.
Speaker 3: Yes, we do weeks at a time, so we switch
Speaker 3: off every Friday. It's because we were doing two days
Speaker 3: and then that was like and then we started doing
Speaker 3: three days, and it was just was so unstable, Like
Speaker 3: it's like we were starting to get a routine with him,
Speaker 3: and then I have to give him back.
Speaker 2: You feel like, yeah, that's a little bit more confusing
Speaker 2: for him.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's hard.
Speaker 2: It is crazy.
Speaker 3: The dad tried doing a month. I was like, no,
Speaker 3: you're crazy. He'll be a whole nother baby by the
Speaker 3: time I get him back.
Speaker 2: He doesn't live or like you guys don't live near
Speaker 2: each other.
Speaker 3: We were like eighteen minutes. No, no, no, not eighteen minutes.
Speaker 3: We're literally eight minutes away. But I recently just moved
Speaker 3: and now I'm like forty five minutes away from him.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it works out well. Yeah, what about school, Well,
Speaker 2: he doesn't go to school yet.
Speaker 3: He's a baby's doing Yeah, And that too is like
Speaker 3: where I'm like, oh, like it's gonna get so rough
Speaker 3: because we're super like big on, like we think we're
Speaker 3: gonna homeschool him.
Speaker 2: You should yeah, yeah, I feel like, what are your reasons?
Speaker 3: I just feel like I have so much like time
Speaker 3: on my hands, and I have a lot of downtime
Speaker 3: that I'd rather my son be at home with me
Speaker 3: versus like another adult for eight hours of the day
Speaker 3: where he's not getting like one on one time. And
Speaker 3: also I feel like public schools are scary and like
Speaker 3: weird these days.
Speaker 2: I agree, I agree because I don't know, Like I
Speaker 2: just feel like I know there's bullies, even there's baby bullies.
Speaker 3: And it's sad.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's like I don't know if I want.
Speaker 1: To do that, and not everyone necessarily agrees with the way,
Speaker 1: Like maybe there's certain things like in school that I
Speaker 1: don't agree that they teach, but it's like there's things
Speaker 1: that I just I don't want my kids to learn
Speaker 1: that I feel like there's other things to know, Like
Speaker 1: when I grew up, they never taught me how to
Speaker 1: write a check. They never taught me, Like I'm not saying.
Speaker 1: I'm saying like in high school and all that shit too,
Speaker 1: like like they just there's things that they don't teach you.
Speaker 1: And I feel like three is like a prime age
Speaker 1: to like teach I don't know, just like I feel
Speaker 1: like the baby baby them a little bit, like I
Speaker 1: don't know.
Speaker 3: Yes, honestly, like everyone's telling me like, oh, what is it?
Speaker 3: Like what aren't my families? Like when are you gonna
Speaker 3: sign him up for preschool? Like he already knows all
Speaker 3: of that stuff, Like my son is super smart. He
Speaker 3: knows all of that and more so, I'm like I'd
Speaker 3: rather like teach him one on one at his pace
Speaker 3: when he could be learning like different things, versus him
Speaker 3: sitting in a classroom of thirty five kids with a
Speaker 3: different adult, Like he's gonna be spending like six hours
Speaker 3: a day with another person when he could be with me,
Speaker 3: Like I would either even like rather hire a tutor
Speaker 3: or a teacher to come to my house and be
Speaker 3: in the safety of my own home.
Speaker 1: I guess the only thing that it would probably be
Speaker 1: like it's for some parents for sure. I know my
Speaker 1: cousin and I have a cousin that homeschool is all
Speaker 1: four of her kids. Wow, So I'm like, damn, Like
Speaker 1: you don't catch a break at all for sure, you know,
Speaker 1: and socializing the kids, socializing with other people, Like I
Speaker 1: get that.
Speaker 2: So it's like finding that balance to.
Speaker 1: Like, you know, he has to live a normal life
Speaker 1: and like go to the park and play with friends
Speaker 1: and you know, see other people.
Speaker 3: So I get that.
Speaker 2: But girl, you're the mom. You do whatever the hell
Speaker 2: you want.
Speaker 1: Like, and that's what I don't like about social media
Speaker 1: is like they paint this picture and they feel like
Speaker 1: because they see something, they're able to create this whole
Speaker 1: story about you and control your narrative when in reality
Speaker 1: it's not that. How do you handle obviously, like every
Speaker 1: the hate and just everything.
Speaker 3: Honestly, I'm so good at blocking out everything, Like I
Speaker 3: don't respond to anything. There was only one time where
Speaker 3: I did lash out. We had gone to Hawaii with
Speaker 3: all my friends and it was my time to not
Speaker 3: have my son and everyone like we were on live
Speaker 3: and everyone was coming for me. Like, girl, go be
Speaker 3: a mom, Go take care of your kid. Like, mom,
Speaker 3: am I supposed to do when it's his Like what
Speaker 3: do people think, like when it's his dad's turn to
Speaker 3: have him? What am I supposed to do? And that's
Speaker 3: what I think, Like for my parents too, like what
Speaker 3: do you want me to do? Like sit at home
Speaker 3: crying that and like staring at a picture of him?
Speaker 3: Like genuinely, what am I supposed to do? If I
Speaker 3: don't have him? It's more than okay for me to
Speaker 3: go to Hawaii. I didn't take my time that I
Speaker 3: was supposed to have my son and say hey, can
Speaker 3: you guys watch him so I could go to Hawaii?
Speaker 2: Like I use my that's different.
Speaker 3: Yeah, right, I used the time that his dad had
Speaker 3: to be with him to go on vacation.
Speaker 2: And I don't think there's anything bad that at all.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So, yeah, that was the only time that I've
Speaker 3: ever lashed out on social media, but for the most part,
Speaker 3: or keep my mouth shut. Yeah, when people.
Speaker 1: Say stuff, I might at this point again, they're not
Speaker 1: paying your bills, yeah you know, And I say social media,
Speaker 1: I'm not saying you know your parents and I'm sure
Speaker 1: that you know your parents have you know, good intention,
Speaker 1: Like obviously they know they've lived longer than everybody and
Speaker 1: h but you're grown now, I mean your mom, Like,
Speaker 1: I feel like everything changes and I'm excited for you
Speaker 1: and for you know, for your baby Noah and the
Speaker 1: possibility possibilities for you and you know what you what
Speaker 1: you can do? What is what are the what are
Speaker 1: the plans for you? What do you feel like now
Speaker 1: that okay your mom? Obviously shit gets more serious? You know,
Speaker 1: life is like you put life into another perspective.
Speaker 2: Where are you at now?
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. Honestly, I feel like a lot of things,
Speaker 3: like I always have to like.
Speaker 1: What is that?
Speaker 3: Like, I always have to like double think everything because
Speaker 3: I'm like, what about my son and his dad? Like
Speaker 3: I can't just buy a house anywhere. I always have
Speaker 3: to think, like, Okay, well I need to be close
Speaker 3: to his dad. So a lot of like the decisions
Speaker 3: that I make now, I always have to think about
Speaker 3: my son and like what his dad is doing. So
Speaker 3: it's like like I always have to be connected to
Speaker 3: the dad.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So like me living like forty five minutes away right now,
Speaker 3: I'm like, dang, and I'm thinking like hopefully this is
Speaker 3: gonna be my last year renting and next year I'll
Speaker 3: be actually buying a house, and I'm like, are we
Speaker 3: supposed to buy houses in the same city? Like yeah,
Speaker 3: So definitely like a lot to think about.
Speaker 1: With him that.
Speaker 2: What about your career, what do you feel like you're.
Speaker 3: Honestly, I don't know. I feel like this year, I
Speaker 3: definitely took a break and I slacked too much. But
Speaker 3: I feel like I had like such a strict dad
Speaker 3: and then I got pregnant and then I had the baby,
Speaker 3: so like this time, like on my own, I almost
Speaker 3: used it as like a way to experience life. And
Speaker 3: I don't have any regrets because I feel like I
Speaker 3: like this was my first time on a plane. Right.
Speaker 2: Oh, you feel like you grew up a little bit
Speaker 2: too fast, like because you had your baby young.
Speaker 3: Yes, and I wasn't Like with my son's dad. All
Speaker 3: we did was like be at home and be a family.
Speaker 3: Like we never went out. Yeah, you skipped the whole Yes,
Speaker 3: So I feel like now I finally got to like
Speaker 3: I never went to clubs, never traveled, never go through
Speaker 3: all that. So now I use like this whole year
Speaker 3: to like do like experience life, and I don't regret it.
Speaker 3: But I definitely took a lot of time away from
Speaker 3: my social media. So yeah, this year, I definitely want
Speaker 3: to like get back on YouTube and yeah, I get
Speaker 3: back on my grind because I'm slacking.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think that I think that's fine though,
Speaker 1: Like I want to call it slacking. I want to
Speaker 1: call it like, you know, I much.
Speaker 2: Needed probably a break, like you needed to. You're recalibrating,
Speaker 2: like life happens so fast for you and you're just
Speaker 2: like who am I? Like what am I doing?
Speaker 1: And that's normal, Like, yeah, you were with him at
Speaker 1: what did you say, eighteen nineteen? Yeah, yeah, like you
Speaker 1: were with him at that and then you had the baby.
Speaker 1: You're practically married.
Speaker 2: You're married, and like, so I get it. So don't
Speaker 2: feel bad. Do not feel bad for where you're at
Speaker 2: right now.
Speaker 1: You're successful again, you're a great mom, You're beautiful, and
Speaker 1: it's okay, Like.
Speaker 2: Time's there's always.
Speaker 1: Going to be time, you know, it's never too late,
Speaker 1: and I just, you know, there's I'm twenty seven and
Speaker 1: I feel like I still don't even feel like what
Speaker 1: the fuck I'm going to do? Like, you know, I'm
Speaker 1: not going to I don't am I I don't know
Speaker 1: if I'm going to keep continuing podcasting for the rest
Speaker 1: of my life, like or if I get married the
Speaker 1: day tomorrow. Like life is constantly changing and we're meant to.
Speaker 2: Go ahead and grow and learn with it.
Speaker 3: It doesn't stop.
Speaker 2: You just grow with it. And taking those breaks is
Speaker 2: so necessary. It's better for you. You know, you went
Speaker 2: through a lot.
Speaker 1: You had depression, you had you know, your postpartum and
Speaker 1: everything like, so it don't be hard on yourself. You're
Speaker 1: just you're doing the best that you can and every way,
Speaker 1: and you have to honor the things, the good things
Speaker 1: that you have done, you know, And like, maybe it
Speaker 1: didn't work out with the baby daddy, and that's okay,
Speaker 1: there's always a reason why.
Speaker 2: But you're successful.
Speaker 1: You have a house, you have a bad hoss car,
Speaker 1: your body's bomb, your kid is healthy, he's happy, your
Speaker 1: relationship are good and that's it.
Speaker 2: And life is going to continue to grow and be good.
Speaker 3: Yeah, to be thankful for for sure.
Speaker 2: I tho's percent agree.
Speaker 1: But I appreciate you being here and sharing your heart
Speaker 1: and your story.
Speaker 2: And I loved getting to know you and.
Speaker 1: Decide that probably a lot of people don't see. So
Speaker 1: I appreciate you opening your heart and connecting with me.
Speaker 1: Please share your socials so that people can go ahead
Speaker 1: and follow you and Noah and all your dreams and
Speaker 1: everything that you'll be doing.
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