WEBVTT - Find Your Person with Yanise Monét 0:00:00.840 --> 0:00:04.000 Hi, Catherine, Hi Chelsea, you have a baby with you? 0:00:04.280 --> 0:00:06.120 Oh, the baby is in the house. 0:00:06.240 --> 0:00:08.680 I have Bernice on my lap because we have a 0:00:08.720 --> 0:00:12.040 workman in the house, and she I think he hates 0:00:12.080 --> 0:00:14.080 men pretty much. I don't know where she got that from. 0:00:14.880 --> 0:00:16.880 What a surprise, Like mother, like daughter. 0:00:17.840 --> 0:00:20.120 No, I don't hate men. Might not be saying that 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:22.880 it's affecting my ability to get penetration. 0:00:24.920 --> 0:00:26.840 Chelsea loves men in all the senses. 0:00:27.040 --> 0:00:27.760 I do love men. 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:28.240 I do. 0:00:28.280 --> 0:00:30.040 I'm having actually a very good time with some men. 0:00:30.720 --> 0:00:31.720 I'm glad about that for you. 0:00:32.080 --> 0:00:34.080 I have a lot of flirtations going on at home 0:00:34.200 --> 0:00:38.199 abroad anyway, Doug is arriving, Casey is driving him up 0:00:38.320 --> 0:00:42.320 on Thursday he arrives. Doug is so fucking I already 0:00:42.320 --> 0:00:43.680 talked about Doug. I don't want to be one of 0:00:43.680 --> 0:00:46.240 those people who bangs on about my dogs, but he 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:49.160 is going to be. I'm gonna be really, it's gonna 0:00:49.200 --> 0:00:52.720 ruffle my feathers. Because this means basically, Bernice has an AirTag, 0:00:52.760 --> 0:00:54.640 like an Apple AirTag on her so I can just 0:00:54.720 --> 0:00:57.200 let her go out and then I go find her. 0:00:57.240 --> 0:01:00.240 You know, when I feel like it's ten minutes later, out, Yeah, 0:01:00.240 --> 0:01:02.400 because she doesn't go anywhere. She just like peas and 0:01:02.440 --> 0:01:04.679 then looks at the house and then looks at the trees. 0:01:05.080 --> 0:01:07.440 But Doug is gonna be a fucking maniac, like he 0:01:07.600 --> 0:01:09.920 is going and I already get stopped by Bernie's you know, 0:01:09.959 --> 0:01:11.560 it was so cute. There was like this group of 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:14.160 like eight twenty five year old guys renting a house 0:01:14.200 --> 0:01:16.160 down the street from me, and when I was walking 0:01:16.280 --> 0:01:18.920 with her, they were like, oh my god, look at 0:01:18.920 --> 0:01:21.840 that little dog bear and they were and I was like, 0:01:21.880 --> 0:01:25.520 it's so nice when men that age love dogs and 0:01:25.880 --> 0:01:28.000 noticed a dog, like they all stopped and they all 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:31.120 pet her. I was like, you guys are so cute. Yeah, 0:01:31.120 --> 0:01:33.080 it was really sweet. But I get so much attention 0:01:33.080 --> 0:01:34.800 from Bernice. I'm like, oh, Doug is going to be 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:38.080 a nightmare because everyone's gonna stop us about this guy. 0:01:38.240 --> 0:01:39.920 I mean, he is too good looking. 0:01:40.160 --> 0:01:42.440 He is gonna have all the energy. And Bernie has 0:01:42.440 --> 0:01:44.280 a personality a bit like a Xanax. 0:01:44.000 --> 0:01:46.000 Like, yeah, she has taken azanax. You probably took one 0:01:46.040 --> 0:01:48.480 of mine. And but also Doug is gonna have to 0:01:48.480 --> 0:01:49.960 because he's a puppy and he's eight months old and 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:51.320 this is going to be a new house and he's 0:01:51.320 --> 0:01:53.840 gonna be have driven with Casey. He's been shuffled around 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:55.880 a bit, you know, to try to get him up here. 0:01:56.080 --> 0:01:57.720 He's been with my Bell. She's tried to, you know, 0:01:57.880 --> 0:02:00.520 hypnotize him. I'm sure, but he he's going to have 0:02:00.560 --> 0:02:02.440 to go out a lot, and that is not my 0:02:02.520 --> 0:02:06.120 strong suit taking the dogs out. Like I just at 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:08.880 some point last season, I just started putting peepats out 0:02:08.919 --> 0:02:11.280 on the balcony and let them just go pee out there. 0:02:11.360 --> 0:02:13.000 I'm like, oh my god, I'm like living in a 0:02:13.000 --> 0:02:16.200 trailer park basically. But yeah, I'm really excited about my 0:02:16.240 --> 0:02:20.080 new family. It's just my dream dog. It's arrived. He's 0:02:20.120 --> 0:02:22.720 my baby. I love him. I had a great ski 0:02:22.800 --> 0:02:25.600 day yesterday. I'm about to go hop off of this 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:29.600 after we're done and go skiing again. And I am 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:32.600 just really really and I've been writing my book and 0:02:32.639 --> 0:02:36.880 it's finally coming together. I got so much work done 0:02:36.960 --> 0:02:40.240 with my ski buddy, Kelly. Her daughters are twins and 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:42.600 Katie and Jesse. They basically move in with me for 0:02:42.639 --> 0:02:44.880 winter when I move up here. They call me Dad. 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:45.640 I love it. 0:02:45.880 --> 0:02:47.920 And Jesse and I had like a work study program 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:49.839 this weekend and I got more writing done. I wrote 0:02:49.880 --> 0:02:53.640 for six straight hours and organized everything. I think this book. 0:02:53.919 --> 0:02:56.240 When I am ready to announce the title and the 0:02:56.240 --> 0:02:58.240 release date of the book, people are going to be 0:02:58.280 --> 0:03:01.000 really I think this is going to be really something 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:02.480 special that is fantastic. 0:03:02.560 --> 0:03:05.560 Now, Okay, so your writing process are you like, I 0:03:05.600 --> 0:03:07.880 gotta wait for inspiration. I gotta sit down see if 0:03:07.880 --> 0:03:08.960 the inspiration comes. 0:03:09.080 --> 0:03:11.200 No, I just have to a lot time and sit 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:13.560 down and just start writing, because the only way to 0:03:13.720 --> 0:03:15.200 keep writing is to start writing. 0:03:15.560 --> 0:03:16.480 You just have to start. 0:03:16.600 --> 0:03:18.280 And then, like I was writing this book, but there 0:03:18.360 --> 0:03:20.880 was like a joyfulness missing in the writing of the book. 0:03:21.120 --> 0:03:24.040 The way I lived my life wasn't coming through the page. 0:03:24.560 --> 0:03:27.720 And the page is about how to live this joyful 0:03:27.840 --> 0:03:31.040 experience of life. And so I don't know what happened, 0:03:31.040 --> 0:03:33.320 but something shifted. Actually, I've been working with that new 0:03:33.360 --> 0:03:36.680 therapist and I think she shifted some stology in me. Yeah, 0:03:36.680 --> 0:03:39.520 because we do these kind of exercises and she's like, Okay, 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:41.440 we're gonna get rid of that old stuff, like let's 0:03:41.480 --> 0:03:44.680 move into this new stuff that you want. And yeah, 0:03:44.720 --> 0:03:46.800 so I'm yeah, I feel good. Yeah, you know how 0:03:46.840 --> 0:03:49.119 much I love Whistler. It's just I never want to leave. 0:03:49.400 --> 0:03:52.640 And you're so restored there, like you you are getting 0:03:52.880 --> 0:03:55.640 positive vibes and you're able to put out positive vibes. 0:03:55.680 --> 0:03:57.560 But when you're like exhausted, you just won't have anything 0:03:57.600 --> 0:03:58.280 to give, you know. 0:03:58.800 --> 0:04:03.160 Yeah, right, an empty vessel. So anyway, OK, So as 0:04:03.200 --> 0:04:06.560 a great follow up to last week's episode, we have 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:10.680 the other half of Sam Jay which is called Yah Yah. 0:04:10.960 --> 0:04:14.320 I actually have a follow up from Sam's episode from 0:04:14.360 --> 0:04:16.760 one of our people who wrote in, and it's pretty 0:04:16.800 --> 0:04:17.640 juicy Chelsea. 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:19.560 Oh oh oh is it about ya ya? 0:04:20.000 --> 0:04:20.279 No? 0:04:20.279 --> 0:04:25.599 No, no, no, but it is about cheating. And oh someone 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:28.640 had written in about her sister's husband was running around 0:04:28.680 --> 0:04:31.200 and had this work bestie that he had spent the 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:33.760 night with, but he said they were just friends sort 0:04:33.800 --> 0:04:37.000 of thing. It was a female work bestie. Well Elle 0:04:37.200 --> 0:04:41.640 wrote in with a follow up. She said, Hi, there, 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:43.960 wanted to provide an update on my sister in law 0:04:43.960 --> 0:04:47.960 and her husband regarding his inappropriate relationship with his coworker. 0:04:48.400 --> 0:04:51.360 I appreciated all your feedback and advice because it definitely 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:55.560 validated the way I felt. So update. It all came 0:04:55.720 --> 0:04:59.440 out a two year affair with the girl plus sex 0:04:59.520 --> 0:05:02.480 worker and a few other casual one night stands here 0:05:02.520 --> 0:05:05.640 and there, and guess what, My sister in law has 0:05:05.720 --> 0:05:09.640 yet to leave despite her last straw being broken. He's 0:05:09.640 --> 0:05:12.840 totally playing the victim, and I don't think understands her 0:05:12.920 --> 0:05:16.080 need to heal. He's in his own sex therapy and 0:05:16.120 --> 0:05:18.960 they're indiscernment counseling, And at first we were all very 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:21.440 emotional about it, but as of lately, we've learned that 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:23.160 she does need to step away on her own and 0:05:23.200 --> 0:05:25.560 deal with this in her own way. Even if it 0:05:25.600 --> 0:05:28.039 does waste more time for her, She's only going to 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:30.640 be ready when she's ready. It sucks, it hurts, but 0:05:30.920 --> 0:05:33.640 it's their experience, even though I'm hoping she finally does 0:05:33.680 --> 0:05:37.600 gain this self worth to leave. Thanks again, Elle. Okay, 0:05:37.839 --> 0:05:41.400 I mean, wow, so update not great for sister in law. 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:44.159 But now we know therapy. It's so hard for me 0:05:44.200 --> 0:05:45.800 to take that seriously, even though I know it's a 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:48.680 real thing. You know, it's just like sex therapy. Really, 0:05:49.080 --> 0:05:51.640 you can't keep your fucking dick in your pants. I mean, honestly, 0:05:51.720 --> 0:05:54.080 I don't know what's wrong with people. I know, yeh, 0:05:54.160 --> 0:05:55.640 control yourself, I know. 0:05:55.839 --> 0:05:58.440 And this is like sociopath behavior, like I know many 0:05:58.480 --> 0:06:01.719 of that. Gross. You can't fix that. You can't fix that. 0:06:01.760 --> 0:06:03.800 Okay, Well, anyway, let's move on to Yah Yah. I 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:06.120 don't think she needs any introduction. You're going to understand 0:06:06.120 --> 0:06:07.960 what I'm talking about when you listen to this interview, 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:12.080 because this girl is one hot potato I would like 0:06:12.160 --> 0:06:14.760 to introduce the world to. If you don't know of 0:06:14.839 --> 0:06:17.240 her yet, you will find out about her at some point. 0:06:17.839 --> 0:06:20.640 We spoke about her in her absence when I had 0:06:20.640 --> 0:06:23.200 Sam Jay on the podcast, right, Catherine, we talked about 0:06:23.560 --> 0:06:28.440 her significant other, who is very, very significant. Her name 0:06:28.560 --> 0:06:31.880 is Yaya and she is a fucking she is trouble 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:35.680 with a capital fucking tea. Okay, and now here she is. 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:37.520 She's sitting across from me. We're in New York City. 0:06:37.520 --> 0:06:38.920 Welcome to New York City. You live here? 0:06:38.960 --> 0:06:40.360 Thank you? Yes, I do live here. 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:42.160 So actually you should say to me, well, welcome to 0:06:42.200 --> 0:06:43.400 New York Tell thank you welcome. 0:06:43.400 --> 0:06:45.000 I would have welcomed you if I knew you were here. 0:06:45.240 --> 0:06:47.960 Thank you, yah Yah. That's a dig, because that's a 0:06:48.000 --> 0:06:50.120 dig because she just said, oh, how long you here for? 0:06:50.120 --> 0:06:52.080 It would have been nice to know. And I said 0:06:52.160 --> 0:06:54.800 before we got on air, I'm sitting right across from you, 0:06:54.920 --> 0:06:58.920 so obviously this is you knowing anyway, that is true, 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:00.560 But this is the kind of shit I'm dealing with 0:07:00.560 --> 0:07:04.159 with this woman. And I met Yah Yah. Well I 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:07.080 met you like at the Montreal Comedy Festival. I think 0:07:07.160 --> 0:07:08.279 was the first time I met you. 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:09.720 Yeah, that was like three years ago. 0:07:09.800 --> 0:07:12.360 Yeah. And what stood out with her eyelashes because they 0:07:12.480 --> 0:07:16.800 and her nails are equally there the same length. Her 0:07:16.840 --> 0:07:19.720 eyelashes you could use, as you know, the flippers when 0:07:19.720 --> 0:07:21.800 you go in swimming, like that is true, you could 0:07:21.840 --> 0:07:23.760 swim with those eyelashes and her nails. So when I 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:26.480 first met her, I was like, oh, this woman is 0:07:26.600 --> 0:07:29.680 trouble and I should just, you know, watch myself. And 0:07:30.760 --> 0:07:33.200 I wasn't wrong. My instincts were right. And then she 0:07:33.280 --> 0:07:35.080 came to Myorca with a whole group. We had like 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:38.040 a comedy week in my Orca with Sam and Fortune 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:41.320 and Jack's and Jamie Greenberg and a bunch of people, 0:07:41.440 --> 0:07:43.400 and that was really fun. And then we really bonded 0:07:43.440 --> 0:07:46.160 and you guys were planning on kind of leaving the 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:49.240 whole time that you were there in case we had 0:07:49.240 --> 0:07:50.520 an out right explain that. 0:07:50.600 --> 0:07:53.000 Please, Well, I mean it is kind of it's kind 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:55.200 of scary, you going on vacation with people you don't know. 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:56.200 So we had it out. 0:07:56.240 --> 0:07:57.880 We had an option to out if we didn't want 0:07:57.920 --> 0:08:00.000 to be there anymore, but we ended up liking you. 0:08:00.040 --> 0:08:02.280 But you said scary, you're leaving out the white part. 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:06.440 Yes, right, well it was a group of whites. I mean, 0:08:06.440 --> 0:08:07.280 there's nothing wrong with that. 0:08:07.480 --> 0:08:09.480 But also it is kind of intimidating when you're the 0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:11.560 only blacks there. You don't know what's gonna happen. So 0:08:11.600 --> 0:08:12.840 I didn't know if our lives are going to be 0:08:12.840 --> 0:08:14.880 in danger. And also you kept trying to take me hiking. 0:08:15.080 --> 0:08:17.080 Why the fuck did you keep trying to take me hiking? 0:08:17.320 --> 0:08:20.440 Because it's good exercise. It's not everything that I was suggesting. 0:08:20.440 --> 0:08:23.559 We're activities that were going to enhance enhance your life. 0:08:23.680 --> 0:08:26.280 You were even trying to make Sam go hiking with you. 0:08:26.320 --> 0:08:28.720 If you recall, yeah, we do together because I wanted 0:08:28.760 --> 0:08:29.320 to do it together. 0:08:29.360 --> 0:08:31.000 I wasn't gonna go wid out through alone. 0:08:31.560 --> 0:08:34.560 Yes, yes, but I'm in then almost a number, like 0:08:34.640 --> 0:08:37.040 I'm a safety number. You think I'm gonna be the one. 0:08:37.120 --> 0:08:39.319 No, it was like six against two, so it was 0:08:39.360 --> 0:08:41.160 like we had to I had to keep the number. 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:43.600 I had to branch off from the white people. And 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:45.320 you were also you would have go into the water 0:08:45.400 --> 0:08:46.960 with me at night. You wouldn't get. 0:08:46.800 --> 0:08:48.200 Into a I was kind of spooky. 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:51.680 Okay, we'll explain that you can't swim at night. That's wild. 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:52.560 Why not. 0:08:53.040 --> 0:08:56.200 It's the ocean and I'm black. 0:08:56.640 --> 0:08:57.240 Uh huh. 0:08:57.440 --> 0:08:59.200 I'm not getting in a boat with you at night. 0:08:59.240 --> 0:09:01.560 That doesn't make sen to me. I'm not doing it that. 0:09:01.640 --> 0:09:03.079 This didn't make That didn't add up. 0:09:03.559 --> 0:09:05.120 But you let Sam get in a boat with me. 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:07.120 I was very fearful of that and I told her 0:09:07.160 --> 0:09:08.800 not to, but you core host her. 0:09:08.679 --> 0:09:11.960 In to doing that. She she you influenced her all week. 0:09:12.080 --> 0:09:15.560 Yeah. Oh really, Yeah, okay, okay, this is another Yeah, 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:17.559 this is another thing I forgot to mention when Sam 0:09:17.679 --> 0:09:20.160 was on. Sam shows up in my Orca and asks 0:09:20.280 --> 0:09:22.560 what drugs I have, And of course I have some, 0:09:22.880 --> 0:09:24.840 but I was running low because I was on my 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:27.920 third week in Mayorca, and I had twenty different people 0:09:27.920 --> 0:09:30.040 through my house before this group came. 0:09:30.320 --> 0:09:31.880 So this was the the best group. 0:09:32.080 --> 0:09:34.079 Well, okay, you were a great group. I can't say 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:36.480 who the best group was. Okay, No, we know who. Okay. 0:09:36.480 --> 0:09:38.360 Well everyone thinks they're the best group, and that's fine 0:09:38.360 --> 0:09:40.080 with me. I would never even think about trying to 0:09:40.080 --> 0:09:44.240 be the best group. Okay. But Sam wanted demanded drugs, 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:46.480 she needed them, and then when I gave her what 0:09:46.559 --> 0:09:49.679 I had, it wasn't Yeah. Yeah, goes, look at you, 0:09:49.840 --> 0:09:52.600 Look at you influencing my boo. You did because she 0:09:52.640 --> 0:09:57.040 got really fucked up. No, I'm a I am a supplier. 0:09:57.160 --> 0:10:01.600 I'm a hostess. You were Frank Lucas of my Orca. 0:10:02.000 --> 0:10:04.880 That's who you are. You are Frank Lucas my Orca. 0:10:05.720 --> 0:10:07.960 I was being a very good hostess. And every time 0:10:08.040 --> 0:10:09.640 Sam went a little bit off the rails, which is 0:10:09.640 --> 0:10:10.600 almost every day. 0:10:11.400 --> 0:10:13.560 Yeah, yeah, well know, you're a great hostess. Thank you. 0:10:13.679 --> 0:10:15.840 Yeah, yeah, thank you very much. Yah Yah would look 0:10:15.840 --> 0:10:17.160 at me and try and lay blame on me. 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:19.280 No, you were great hostess. You were just a pusher, 0:10:19.320 --> 0:10:20.520 but you are a great right. 0:10:20.559 --> 0:10:23.120 I do want people to do drugs. I do like that, 0:10:23.280 --> 0:10:25.480 you know. I just feel like so many people have 0:10:25.600 --> 0:10:29.480 untapped resources and creativity within them that once they do 0:10:29.600 --> 0:10:31.480 the right drug that they find the right thing. And 0:10:31.520 --> 0:10:33.920 it's not for everybody. You know, drugs are not for everybody. 0:10:34.000 --> 0:10:36.400 I want to say that as a medical professional on 0:10:36.440 --> 0:10:39.640 this on this what that's why? Is that funny? 0:10:39.800 --> 0:10:41.200 No? No, no, I trust you. 0:10:41.280 --> 0:10:44.400 Okay, as a medical professional on this podcast, I would 0:10:44.400 --> 0:10:45.960 like to say that drugs are not for everyone, but 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:46.680 they are for me. 0:10:46.960 --> 0:10:48.760 Okay, all drugs aren't for me. 0:10:49.000 --> 0:10:51.440 And you don't like, Oh you know what I loved? 0:10:51.679 --> 0:10:54.120 Tell us this story. This is a good drug story. 0:10:54.120 --> 0:10:56.680 Would you mind telling it? The one where you saw 0:10:56.679 --> 0:11:00.640 the video of yourself? Oh wow, we're going Well, we 0:11:00.679 --> 0:11:03.040 don't have to. We can go to a different area 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:04.440 if you're not comfortable. 0:11:03.960 --> 0:11:06.120 Talking about it with that. No, I just saw myself. 0:11:06.160 --> 0:11:08.800 Me and my friends used to like in our early twenties. 0:11:08.840 --> 0:11:10.800 It's a long time ago, so let's put this on 0:11:10.840 --> 0:11:16.080 the record. We would recreationally pop up pill or two. 0:11:16.320 --> 0:11:17.600 So what's the drug called though. 0:11:17.559 --> 0:11:19.560 Flex areal? Flexireo was my drug choice. 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:21.160 Oh, I thought it was something else. Oh that's like 0:11:21.200 --> 0:11:22.000 a muscle relaxer. 0:11:22.080 --> 0:11:23.000 Yeah, it's like flexireal. 0:11:23.040 --> 0:11:25.160 But it was like, yeah, you can't take that and 0:11:25.200 --> 0:11:25.520 go out. 0:11:25.720 --> 0:11:28.120 No, but we were drinking too, and I think some 0:11:28.160 --> 0:11:30.480 of this stuff was opioid based. 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:32.320 I think flexieral is opioid based. 0:11:32.360 --> 0:11:33.720 So like when I saw a video of like, I 0:11:33.720 --> 0:11:35.520 thought I was just chilling and having a good time 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:38.160 and having fun. But then my friends played a video 0:11:38.240 --> 0:11:40.480 back of me and I was not off at the table, 0:11:40.520 --> 0:11:42.400 and it was just like, that's what that Wasn't you. 0:11:42.360 --> 0:11:44.520 Thought you were crushing it. You were out thinking you 0:11:44.520 --> 0:11:47.880 had a blast. You're like, last night was fun. It like, 0:11:48.240 --> 0:11:49.920 you need to see a video of yourself if you 0:11:49.920 --> 0:11:51.679 think you were having it. And it was cute. 0:11:51.720 --> 0:11:53.160 So I was just like, I want to look cute 0:11:53.160 --> 0:11:54.679 at all times, so when I did look cute, I 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:55.079 couldn't do it. 0:11:55.400 --> 0:11:56.559 You look really cute right now? 0:11:56.640 --> 0:11:57.320 Thank you? 0:11:57.360 --> 0:11:59.800 Shoot later, I want to talk about your relationship with Sam. 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:00.640 Went about it. 0:12:00.679 --> 0:12:03.200 Okay, so you're from Atlanta, Yes I am. Okay, you 0:12:03.240 --> 0:12:05.080 should be on the Real Housewives of something. 0:12:05.160 --> 0:12:05.560 You know what. 0:12:05.600 --> 0:12:07.560 They tried to get me on the Real house Oh 0:12:07.600 --> 0:12:10.360 my god, they did. Yeah at least was like eons ago, 0:12:10.559 --> 0:12:12.000 and why did you fucking do that? 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:14.000 I didn't have money like that, so I just felt 0:12:14.040 --> 0:12:15.760 like it would just been too fraudulent. 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:16.560 Too. 0:12:16.559 --> 0:12:18.760 Fargs like I owned a business. It was just like 0:12:19.000 --> 0:12:21.839 it wasn't lucrative, but you would have gotten down to business. 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:23.000 With the Yeah, I would have. 0:12:23.120 --> 0:12:24.760 And I think that's what the world wants to see, 0:12:24.760 --> 0:12:27.160 because if you were on one of the housewife franchises, 0:12:27.200 --> 0:12:29.480 I would watch that fucking show, would you, Yeah, because 0:12:29.520 --> 0:12:31.280 I know what would go down. I saw the video 0:12:31.360 --> 0:12:34.120 stories if Sam Sam Jay's on tour right now? Yeah, 0:12:34.200 --> 0:12:36.920 yeah's on tour with her, which means she is calling 0:12:36.920 --> 0:12:39.679 people out in the audience, screaming and yelling at anybody. 0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:42.080 What was the last incident that happened when you had 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:43.000 to remove one of the. 0:12:43.120 --> 0:12:45.600 I didn't remove her, Security removed her. She was being 0:12:45.600 --> 0:12:48.440 a nuisance. She was being loud and belligerent and drunk, 0:12:48.880 --> 0:12:50.960 and I just asked her to be quiet, and she 0:12:51.000 --> 0:12:52.880 didn't want to listen, so she had to get out 0:12:52.880 --> 0:12:53.120 of here. 0:12:53.559 --> 0:12:55.160 And then did what did she say to you? Didn't 0:12:55.160 --> 0:12:55.959 she say something to you? 0:12:56.120 --> 0:12:56.320 Yeah? 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:58.880 She was like some lady, some black lady told me 0:12:58.920 --> 0:13:00.480 to be quiet. I just walked about. It was me. 0:13:00.720 --> 0:13:02.640 It was me, girl, I told you to shut the 0:13:02.640 --> 0:13:05.199 fuck up. It was me, shut the fuck up. And 0:13:05.240 --> 0:13:07.080 she was like, I can't believe you said that, but 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:10.080 I had asked her twice. The first time, I was 0:13:10.160 --> 0:13:11.840 very pleasant and I was excuse me, ma'am. Can you 0:13:11.840 --> 0:13:13.440 bring it down a little bit? Like she was on 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:15.960 her phone, she was watching a basket a baseball game. 0:13:16.200 --> 0:13:18.800 It was just wild. I fucking hate that so much. 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:19.880 I hate that so much. 0:13:20.000 --> 0:13:22.600 It's just rude because she was disturbing the people around her. 0:13:22.920 --> 0:13:25.160 Like literally, when she got kicked out, she was with 0:13:25.280 --> 0:13:28.640 about twenty people. Nobody gave a fuck because they wanted 0:13:28.679 --> 0:13:30.360 her to leave too, but they didn't know how because 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:32.720 she was ahead of HR, so they felt like their jobs. 0:13:33.520 --> 0:13:38.520 Yeah, the head exactly, ironic. She was the worst. 0:13:38.840 --> 0:13:41.440 So yeah, okay, So bring us back to your relationship 0:13:41.520 --> 0:13:43.120 with Sam, because you guys have been together for a 0:13:43.160 --> 0:13:46.160 long time. Yeah, and we're gonna be giving relationship advice 0:13:46.200 --> 0:13:49.200 on this show, okay, potentially in this episode. So I 0:13:49.240 --> 0:13:51.720 want you to walk us through the status of your 0:13:51.800 --> 0:13:55.120 relationship over the years, because it's been You've had turbulent 0:13:55.200 --> 0:13:57.560 times and Sam loves when I bring up her cheating, 0:13:57.679 --> 0:14:00.760 So we can talk about that, or we could talk 0:14:00.760 --> 0:14:02.120 about just the genesis. 0:14:02.280 --> 0:14:04.760 Well, what do you want to start with? In the beginning. 0:14:04.800 --> 0:14:06.920 Start at the beginning, because it's a beautiful love story, 0:14:06.960 --> 0:14:09.600 and I think it's it gives other people, you know, 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:12.200 I think other people probably have similar relationships where they 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:14.760 love someone and then they're not together, and then give 0:14:14.840 --> 0:14:16.040 them hope to come back together. 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:18.240 That's true. I think our versions are kind of different 0:14:18.240 --> 0:14:18.719 from each other. 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:21.360 No, they're definitely different, because the two of you couldn't 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:21.920 be more office. 0:14:22.080 --> 0:14:24.160 Yeah, I think our versions of the story is different. 0:14:24.440 --> 0:14:27.440 But we met in Atlanta, she says. I met her 0:14:27.440 --> 0:14:29.200 in the club, but I don't remember meeting her because 0:14:29.240 --> 0:14:31.880 our friends knew each other. So on the way home, 0:14:31.960 --> 0:14:34.120 their car broke down in front of my house. So 0:14:34.240 --> 0:14:36.520 I saw them and they looked hot and thirsty because 0:14:36.520 --> 0:14:38.160 they would trying to change a tire. So I just 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:39.920 asked if they needed help, if they wanted to sit 0:14:39.960 --> 0:14:41.200 inside before the tow truck came. 0:14:41.240 --> 0:14:43.000 And that's how its very nice of you, Yaya. It 0:14:43.040 --> 0:14:44.920 must have been before nine pm when you did that. 0:14:45.040 --> 0:14:48.520 Actually it was probably around one am. Oh oh, so so. 0:14:48.480 --> 0:14:50.000 It must have been another flips to do and all 0:14:50.040 --> 0:14:51.320 that happens. 0:14:51.800 --> 0:14:55.040 But yeah, so we eventually went out on a date. 0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:57.200 Did she tell you the first time we went out 0:14:57.240 --> 0:14:59.920 a date, well, the first time I went out a date, 0:15:00.120 --> 0:15:01.320 Sam left her. 0:15:01.440 --> 0:15:03.160 She left her money. 0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:04.800 Apparently she didn't have any money, so I had to 0:15:04.960 --> 0:15:06.840 I left my wallet because I knew I wasn't paying. 0:15:07.080 --> 0:15:09.560 Of course not. I mean, no, no, you're not gonna pay. 0:15:09.680 --> 0:15:11.880 Hello, that's what I thought too, But I ended up 0:15:11.920 --> 0:15:14.440 having to pay because Sam couldn't buy me my slice 0:15:14.440 --> 0:15:17.640 of pizza. Oh, so I had to call my friend like, hey, 0:15:17.640 --> 0:15:19.000 can you go to my house and go get my 0:15:19.040 --> 0:15:20.320 wallet and bring my wallet to me? 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:22.040 So he was like, aren't you on a date? 0:15:22.080 --> 0:15:23.880 And I'm like, yeah, bitch, I am on a date, 0:15:23.920 --> 0:15:26.200 but come bring me my wallet. So from that day 0:15:26.200 --> 0:15:28.240 for it, he didn't like Sam at all. 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:29.520 He hated or would. 0:15:29.360 --> 0:15:31.280 I, But I loved her. She was so cool. 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:33.280 But I'm surprised that you were okay with that because 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:35.000 that doesn't seem like something you're down with. 0:15:35.280 --> 0:15:35.640 It's not. 0:15:35.800 --> 0:15:39.440 But she was so charismatic, she was so funny, she 0:15:39.520 --> 0:15:40.280 was so sweet. 0:15:40.760 --> 0:15:42.520 I don't know why. She just won me over. 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:46.000 And then what happened. She fucked me right after the pizza. 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:46.960 Yeah, pretty much. 0:15:47.000 --> 0:15:50.480 So that's like, okay, anyone who's listening that would be like, Oh, 0:15:50.560 --> 0:15:52.440 I had a date who didn't have any money, and 0:15:52.480 --> 0:15:54.080 then the next thing you do is go home to 0:15:54.120 --> 0:15:54.840 fuck that person. 0:15:55.000 --> 0:15:56.960 Yeah, I mean I knew if she was broke, then 0:15:56.960 --> 0:15:59.200 she probably had some good, good moves. 0:15:59.560 --> 0:16:02.080 Well, because I remember you guys having sex on my terrorists. 0:16:02.200 --> 0:16:02.800 Oh my god. 0:16:02.840 --> 0:16:03.440 We did not have. 0:16:04.600 --> 0:16:05.000 We did not. 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:06.280 We did not. 0:16:06.480 --> 0:16:10.200 Yeah, they did did. They were up every night till 0:16:10.240 --> 0:16:13.240 five am. We were talking and talking and then I yeah, 0:16:13.280 --> 0:16:15.240 and then when y'all, y'all wants it, she needs to 0:16:15.240 --> 0:16:17.120 get it right away, and then she goes. 0:16:16.960 --> 0:16:18.360 Come on, come on, come on, come on, come on. 0:16:18.480 --> 0:16:20.440 But we did not have. Till you hears, we did 0:16:20.480 --> 0:16:20.760 not have. 0:16:21.040 --> 0:16:24.920 They had sex in their bedroom. Yeah, you probably the terrorists. 0:16:24.920 --> 0:16:27.080 I'm sure I probably would have, but we did not. 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:29.040 That would have been a good memory, though. But your 0:16:29.080 --> 0:16:32.239 window was like right there, yeah exactly. Can you imagine. 0:16:32.800 --> 0:16:35.120 I would have been like, hey, guys, can keep it down, 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:38.600 can you keep it down please? Okay, So then you 0:16:38.640 --> 0:16:40.640 guys were together for how like a period of time? 0:16:40.720 --> 0:16:43.360 Yeah, we were together for a minute, and then I 0:16:43.440 --> 0:16:44.400 did some shady shit. 0:16:45.360 --> 0:16:48.040 This is this SPAN's like seventeen years, right, Yeah, yeah, 0:16:48.040 --> 0:16:49.480 seventeen there's a relationship. 0:16:49.560 --> 0:16:52.320 Yeah, so we were young. So at the time Sam 0:16:52.360 --> 0:16:54.280 says we were together. I say we weren't together. We 0:16:54.280 --> 0:16:56.880 were dating other people. But she says that we were exclusive. 0:16:57.120 --> 0:16:59.560 So this is where it gets cloudy. But also this 0:16:59.720 --> 0:17:02.680 was like seventeen sixteen years ago. So I say that 0:17:02.720 --> 0:17:05.119 we were freely dating other people. She says that we 0:17:05.119 --> 0:17:08.480 were committed and I dated someone else and then she 0:17:08.640 --> 0:17:11.400 found out about it, and then so we stopped talking. 0:17:11.480 --> 0:17:13.760 And then I started, well, we were always friends about 0:17:13.800 --> 0:17:15.800 this process, so it was like she really, we really 0:17:15.800 --> 0:17:18.560 didn't stop talking. We just stopped talking in that capacity. 0:17:19.119 --> 0:17:20.640 So then she started dating other people. 0:17:20.760 --> 0:17:22.760 But what was that like wasn't that tinged with like 0:17:22.880 --> 0:17:25.080 jealousy and feelings? 0:17:25.320 --> 0:17:25.760 Absolutely? 0:17:25.760 --> 0:17:27.800 Because every time she started dating someone that she would 0:17:27.800 --> 0:17:29.320 go out on dates and now we didn't care. But 0:17:29.359 --> 0:17:32.159 then when she would start like repeating the dates, it 0:17:32.200 --> 0:17:34.000 was like, that's a problem. You're going out with the 0:17:34.000 --> 0:17:36.080 same person again. So then I would have to break 0:17:36.080 --> 0:17:38.080 that up. So then it was just a lot of 0:17:38.160 --> 0:17:40.000 back and forth. It was a lot of that you 0:17:40.040 --> 0:17:42.320 break that up. Oh, I would just go see her 0:17:42.600 --> 0:17:45.399 fuck that up. She cut me off completely cold turkey 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:48.840 because she said I was toxic, and then she ran 0:17:48.880 --> 0:17:51.320 off and got married and blocked me from everything. 0:17:51.800 --> 0:17:53.240 Why did she think you were toxic? 0:17:53.480 --> 0:17:56.000 I was in Atlanta, I was in black Gay Mecca, 0:17:56.320 --> 0:17:57.480 so I was outside. 0:17:57.760 --> 0:18:00.240 Okay. Also I had money, so it was It's just 0:18:00.240 --> 0:18:01.520 like I was in a free for all. So it 0:18:01.560 --> 0:18:02.640 was fun. I was having fun. 0:18:02.960 --> 0:18:04.600 And there's a lot of pussy, not a lot of 0:18:04.840 --> 0:18:06.680 well no, not a lot of pussy. 0:18:06.320 --> 0:18:06.960 But I was. 0:18:07.680 --> 0:18:10.240 I bet you what about guys? Were you feeling around 0:18:10.240 --> 0:18:12.440 with guys at all? Just no, I'm you've been done 0:18:12.480 --> 0:18:14.320 with men for a long time. Yeah, well yeah I 0:18:14.359 --> 0:18:15.000 was done with men. 0:18:16.960 --> 0:18:19.920 Yeah, basically I want I'm done. 0:18:20.040 --> 0:18:22.800 Okay, So you broke up and then what what drew 0:18:22.800 --> 0:18:23.480 you back together? 0:18:24.080 --> 0:18:26.879 She got married fast forward, like a year or two later, 0:18:27.200 --> 0:18:29.640 after she's been buried for Yeah. We were still friends though, 0:18:29.640 --> 0:18:31.359 but I did not pursue her. She didn't pursue me. 0:18:31.440 --> 0:18:33.680 She was really into her marriage, and so I was like, Okay, 0:18:33.680 --> 0:18:35.480 if this is where you want to go, girl, that's fine. 0:18:35.640 --> 0:18:37.800 But you know, were devastated. 0:18:38.000 --> 0:18:40.119 I was devastated, but I always knew that we were 0:18:40.119 --> 0:18:41.639 going to be together, so I wasn't really pressed. 0:18:41.680 --> 0:18:43.639 You really believe that even though she was married to 0:18:43.680 --> 0:18:47.520 someone else. Yes, because a normal person yah yah when 0:18:47.560 --> 0:18:51.120 that happens when the other person gets married, would be like, oh, 0:18:51.160 --> 0:18:53.120 I guess our relationship is over. 0:18:53.480 --> 0:18:54.760 No, I didn't think that at all. 0:18:54.800 --> 0:18:56.520 And now that I'm watching this show she put me 0:18:56.560 --> 0:19:00.840 onto this show what is called scandal. Now that I'm 0:19:00.840 --> 0:19:04.160 watching Scandal, I kind of understand it because I always 0:19:04.240 --> 0:19:05.719 knew it was just like that's my person. 0:19:05.800 --> 0:19:07.159 Like I knew she was being crazy. 0:19:07.160 --> 0:19:09.160 I knew she was being wild, and I also knew 0:19:09.200 --> 0:19:12.399 I was getting my karma back from the food I 0:19:12.480 --> 0:19:14.439 was doing. And also when she wanted to commit and 0:19:14.440 --> 0:19:16.719 settle down, I told her no, who was so like, Okay, 0:19:17.000 --> 0:19:19.239 I get it, but play this out. You know this 0:19:19.280 --> 0:19:22.040 is not gonna work. So I'll let you do this 0:19:22.480 --> 0:19:24.840 and be dumb and then when you're ready, come home. 0:19:25.359 --> 0:19:27.480 And that's what happened. Because she was in New York. 0:19:27.520 --> 0:19:30.159 She ended up doing New York Comedy Festival. And I 0:19:30.200 --> 0:19:32.200 was in New York at the same time doing Victoria's 0:19:32.200 --> 0:19:35.040 Secret Fashion doing Victoria's Secret and New York Fashion Week, 0:19:35.280 --> 0:19:36.879 so we were in New York at the same time. 0:19:37.119 --> 0:19:38.600 So I hit her up and I was like, hey, 0:19:38.640 --> 0:19:40.720 do you want to grab a drink so we could 0:19:40.760 --> 0:19:43.320 see each other and talk because we haven't spoken really 0:19:43.359 --> 0:19:46.119 since she had gotten married. And we met at the 0:19:46.200 --> 0:19:48.600 seller a matter of fact, and I was like in 0:19:48.600 --> 0:19:52.560 twenty and fifteen or twenty fourteen, and we talked at 0:19:52.560 --> 0:19:54.600 the seller and after we talked, I was like. 0:19:55.359 --> 0:19:57.960 She coming home. So I knew she was coming home. 0:19:58.440 --> 0:20:01.320 That's cute. That's a cute story. It's a hot mess 0:20:01.320 --> 0:20:01.879 of a story. 0:20:01.880 --> 0:20:04.400 Oh it is. It's like it's Ghetto's Hill. But there's 0:20:04.440 --> 0:20:06.800 a lot of ups and down. That's a lot of Yeah, 0:20:06.840 --> 0:20:08.840 but we're we've made it through and now we're engaged. 0:20:09.080 --> 0:20:11.160 Yeah, and when's the wedding going to because I really 0:20:11.160 --> 0:20:12.159 would like to not miss that. 0:20:12.280 --> 0:20:13.920 Okay, you're gonna come to the wedding? 0:20:13.960 --> 0:20:15.399 Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm gonna come to the wedding. And 0:20:15.440 --> 0:20:16.480 you want me to come to the wedding. 0:20:17.000 --> 0:20:19.159 You seem like you're a good time. Oh yeah, I heard. 0:20:19.440 --> 0:20:21.280 Seem like I'm a good time. You've hung out with me, 0:20:21.359 --> 0:20:22.600 I am a good that is true. 0:20:22.600 --> 0:20:24.480 But no, I'm saying like in those kind of settings 0:20:24.520 --> 0:20:26.359 because somebody was telling me. I think it was the 0:20:26.400 --> 0:20:28.480 guy he was really really sweet. He was telling me 0:20:28.480 --> 0:20:30.880 that you were at Bruce Springsting's concert and you were 0:20:30.920 --> 0:20:32.480 like making drinks at the after party. 0:20:32.480 --> 0:20:35.040 You became like the bartender. Yeah, and I was like, 0:20:35.080 --> 0:20:38.200 that sounds like a good time. I wish I was there. 0:20:38.440 --> 0:20:39.800 Oh yeah, that was a good time. 0:20:40.359 --> 0:20:41.800 So I would like I would like for you to come. 0:20:41.920 --> 0:20:44.000 Okay, well I will, I will, I will come. 0:20:44.080 --> 0:20:46.040 I will commit is a formal invitation? 0:20:46.119 --> 0:20:48.439 Yeah, well, maybe I should officiate the wedding. Maybe you 0:20:48.440 --> 0:20:52.080 should be nice. I've already done it once, have you. 0:20:52.160 --> 0:20:52.360 Yeah? 0:20:52.359 --> 0:20:53.240 I did it. Well. 0:20:53.280 --> 0:20:55.560 Michael Ja was supposed to, but he's so anti weddings. 0:20:55.600 --> 0:20:56.720 I don't know if he's going to do it. 0:20:56.800 --> 0:20:59.400 Oh really yeah, we'll see if he If he's not available, 0:20:59.400 --> 0:21:01.200 i'll do it. Okay, So we're gonna take a quick 0:21:01.200 --> 0:21:08.160 break and we'll be right back. And now we're back, Catherine, 0:21:08.200 --> 0:21:09.880 what do we have for yah y'all today? I can't 0:21:10.400 --> 0:21:11.400 wait for this. 0:21:11.359 --> 0:21:16.520 So many things. We have a boob related question. And yeah, yeah, 0:21:16.560 --> 0:21:19.320 you're in good company with this boob question because. 0:21:19.160 --> 0:21:21.040 I see because I got boom. 0:21:21.280 --> 0:21:22.760 I'm the same way. I'm the same way. 0:21:22.800 --> 0:21:24.760 And Chelsea's got big question. 0:21:25.080 --> 0:21:25.360 I don't. 0:21:25.440 --> 0:21:27.320 I have big boobs, but those are like extra. 0:21:27.480 --> 0:21:29.000 No, you have perfect booths. 0:21:28.800 --> 0:21:29.359 Oh, thank you. 0:21:29.440 --> 0:21:32.160 I would agree with that if you have break New 0:21:32.240 --> 0:21:32.960 York tits. 0:21:37.320 --> 0:21:38.560 What are New York tits? 0:21:38.720 --> 0:21:40.160 You don't remember that from Chappelle? 0:21:40.320 --> 0:21:41.160 No, what does that mean? 0:21:41.280 --> 0:21:43.280 He would walk around with the guy and they would stand, 0:21:43.320 --> 0:21:45.200 they would put a sticker on bitches titties and like, 0:21:45.240 --> 0:21:46.760 you got great New York booths. 0:21:46.960 --> 0:21:47.440 I don't know. 0:21:47.760 --> 0:21:50.879 I don't segment. It's funny, but yeah, y'alls are enormous, 0:21:50.920 --> 0:21:54.119 and Catherine, yours are enormous. Yeah, so we're prepared. We 0:21:54.160 --> 0:22:00.399 can come on, We're tis, We're prepared to field these questions. 0:22:00.520 --> 0:22:04.280 Amazing. Well, our first question now comes from Alyssa. 0:22:04.480 --> 0:22:07.760 And all of ours are natural? Yes, right, yeah, yeah, 0:22:07.880 --> 0:22:08.639 mine are natural. 0:22:08.720 --> 0:22:09.760 Yours are not natural. 0:22:10.240 --> 0:22:12.840 Hey, I showed you them. They are natural. I do 0:22:12.920 --> 0:22:15.720 not have fake tits. You don't know they're real. 0:22:15.920 --> 0:22:18.280 You have really good boobs, like really great boobs. 0:22:18.359 --> 0:22:20.760 I know, thank you. That's why I did not know that. Well, 0:22:20.760 --> 0:22:22.080 that's why I had to say, because I didn't know 0:22:22.080 --> 0:22:25.399 if New York titties meant fake titties. No, oh no, 0:22:25.440 --> 0:22:27.080 they're not fake. I don't have fake tits. 0:22:27.160 --> 0:22:29.760 Oh you know, they're like big and perky. 0:22:30.040 --> 0:22:32.800 I have to constantly announce this to the public because 0:22:32.840 --> 0:22:34.040 they look they're so perfect. 0:22:34.040 --> 0:22:34.760 They look fake. 0:22:34.880 --> 0:22:38.000 It is ridiculous that I have these boobs. I mean, 0:22:38.040 --> 0:22:40.040 I'm so excited about them now. I used to be 0:22:40.240 --> 0:22:42.719 really annoyed by them. Yeah, because they came on when 0:22:42.760 --> 0:22:44.159 I was thirteen. I was a little bit much for 0:22:44.160 --> 0:22:46.560 a thirteen year old, especially when nobody else had little titties. 0:22:46.760 --> 0:22:48.680 So I had to like tape them down. And now 0:22:48.720 --> 0:22:50.919 i've you know, now, if I embraced them obviously and 0:22:50.960 --> 0:22:52.399 so as the rest of the world. 0:22:52.760 --> 0:22:54.440 If I had boobs like that, I would just wear 0:22:54.440 --> 0:22:56.040 a spaghetti strap all day every day. 0:22:56.160 --> 0:22:57.560 Say your tit's flying around. 0:22:57.640 --> 0:23:00.240 Yes, it just takes a lot to hold these up 0:23:00.520 --> 0:23:01.960 like it's just act right, it does. 0:23:02.280 --> 0:23:04.520 It fucking hurts your back, is what the problem is. 0:23:04.560 --> 0:23:06.119 I don't like when I get those, like, you know, 0:23:06.200 --> 0:23:08.960 things on my shoulders carved from the bath. Yes that 0:23:09.040 --> 0:23:10.800 means yeah, so it's not always. 0:23:10.560 --> 0:23:13.120 Too much if I take this bra off, is swing low, 0:23:13.160 --> 0:23:15.600 sweet cheeriot? And I just no, ma'am. 0:23:16.040 --> 0:23:16.200 Well. 0:23:16.280 --> 0:23:20.520 Our first question about boobs comes from Alyssa Dear Chelsea, 0:23:20.640 --> 0:23:23.440 I'm in a dilemma about whether to pursue a breast reduction. 0:23:24.119 --> 0:23:27.199 The reasons I want one are my girls make running 0:23:27.359 --> 0:23:30.160 something that's important for my physical and mental health annoying 0:23:30.320 --> 0:23:33.159 because I have to wear this nasty ass uncomfy sports bra, 0:23:33.320 --> 0:23:37.520 and spontaneous running, like chasing my nieces around, is painful. 0:23:37.680 --> 0:23:40.320 Shopping for tops and dresses is something I avoid because 0:23:40.359 --> 0:23:43.399 I'm pigeonholed into limited options that fit my boobs but 0:23:43.440 --> 0:23:45.880 not the rest of me. I just like the attention 0:23:45.960 --> 0:23:48.800 they draw, and I envy the Itty Bitty Titty Committee 0:23:48.840 --> 0:23:51.320 for being able to walk around and skippy tops care 0:23:51.359 --> 0:23:53.800 free while I'm dealing with all sorts of boob tape 0:23:53.840 --> 0:23:58.560 and readjusting back pain. And two women in my life 0:23:58.560 --> 0:24:00.240 have gotten a breast reduction and claim it one of 0:24:00.280 --> 0:24:03.159 the best things they've ever done. Obviously, that's a dramatic claim, 0:24:03.160 --> 0:24:07.280 but who doesn't love drama. The reasons I'm hesitant undergoing 0:24:07.359 --> 0:24:12.160 a technically unnecessary procedure feels unnecessary. I've had other surgeries, 0:24:12.200 --> 0:24:14.160 so I'm not afraid, but there's always risk as well 0:24:14.160 --> 0:24:17.439 as precious PTO to consider. I've worked really hard to 0:24:17.480 --> 0:24:19.320 love my body, and this feels like a type of 0:24:19.359 --> 0:24:22.600 betrayal toward her, while women with even larger breasts thrive 0:24:22.680 --> 0:24:25.360 and manage to love their beautiful bodies without changing a thing. 0:24:25.720 --> 0:24:27.800 Just get a breast reduction. This is going on and 0:24:27.840 --> 0:24:29.439 on and on. I mean what I know? 0:24:29.520 --> 0:24:32.719 I don't, but she said she feels like opposing polls 0:24:32.760 --> 0:24:35.040 to pursue something that could make a positive change, or 0:24:35.080 --> 0:24:37.400 to honor her body. And do you think it's possible 0:24:37.440 --> 0:24:37.920 to do both? 0:24:38.040 --> 0:24:41.120 Alissa, get a breast reduction. You're gonna feel better about 0:24:41.119 --> 0:24:43.399 yourself and don't care about honoring your body. Do you 0:24:43.440 --> 0:24:47.040 know how many unnecessary procedures I get? Like, I do 0:24:47.119 --> 0:24:49.480 a lot of elective things that I don't need to do, 0:24:49.680 --> 0:24:53.399 and I'm always happy about it. Same exactly. I know 0:24:53.400 --> 0:24:55.520 you're talking to two people that are pro surgery. 0:24:55.640 --> 0:24:57.600 Yeah, cut me up, lay me on the table. I'm 0:24:57.600 --> 0:24:57.960 all for. 0:24:58.200 --> 0:25:00.000 I came from physical therapy and they had to dream 0:25:00.040 --> 0:25:01.840 my knee a little because there's still some swelling from 0:25:01.920 --> 0:25:04.760 my surgery. And I go, so, how frequently can I 0:25:04.840 --> 0:25:06.640 drain my knee? And they're like, well, you don't ever 0:25:06.680 --> 0:25:08.440 really want to put needles in your knee unless it's 0:25:08.440 --> 0:25:11.080 absolutely necessary. I'm like, no, bitch, I have no problem 0:25:11.200 --> 0:25:13.800 fucking putting needles in my knees all day long if 0:25:13.800 --> 0:25:15.680 it's gonna help me ski, I don't give a shit. 0:25:15.800 --> 0:25:18.200 She's like, and I go, what's wide. There's always a 0:25:18.280 --> 0:25:21.240 risk of infection. I'm like, bitch, I don't care about 0:25:21.240 --> 0:25:24.960 that risk. That's what antibiotics are for infection. 0:25:25.600 --> 0:25:28.399 And you love to take piels cut those tits? Yeah 0:25:28.560 --> 0:25:29.000 you think so? 0:25:29.840 --> 0:25:33.080 Yeah, yes, it's just like it's a nicer lifestyle when 0:25:33.119 --> 0:25:35.280 you feel better about your body. It's just nicer. 0:25:35.320 --> 0:25:38.160 Absolutely. And she's not betraying like she needs to cut 0:25:38.160 --> 0:25:39.480 those tits. I'm cutt my tits. 0:25:39.480 --> 0:25:40.800 Cut them? Are you you are? 0:25:41.119 --> 0:25:43.360 I'm curious what your decision making was around that. 0:25:43.720 --> 0:25:44.840 I don't want big titties. 0:25:44.840 --> 0:25:45.120 E why. 0:25:45.119 --> 0:25:45.880 I'm sick of it. 0:25:45.960 --> 0:25:46.560 I'm over it. 0:25:46.640 --> 0:25:49.320 And I would like to wear a spaghetti strap, okay, 0:25:49.400 --> 0:25:50.679 I would like to go bralas. 0:25:50.800 --> 0:25:52.240 I want to walk around like Chelsea. 0:25:53.000 --> 0:25:55.960 Yeah. Well, and I know last year in Mayorka, a 0:25:56.000 --> 0:25:59.440 couple of the girls had had reductions and they had 0:25:59.520 --> 0:26:03.159 kind of like like big still but like perky, and 0:26:03.200 --> 0:26:05.080 they're like, you know, even though they've gotten a little 0:26:05.080 --> 0:26:06.840 bit bigger since the reduction, they've stayed. 0:26:06.920 --> 0:26:09.240 Everybody says they come back. Every time that I know 0:26:09.280 --> 0:26:11.160 that has a breast productions say they come back in some. 0:26:11.080 --> 0:26:13.359 Co Yeah, they do. They do. And so when you 0:26:13.400 --> 0:26:15.280 get a reduction, you have to do more than you 0:26:15.280 --> 0:26:18.360 think you should because they do grow back. So then 0:26:18.400 --> 0:26:20.120 you're like, well, then the girls like, why the fuck 0:26:20.160 --> 0:26:22.200 do I get the reduction? If they're going to grow back, just. 0:26:22.080 --> 0:26:24.000 Go a little smaller than what you Yeah. 0:26:24.400 --> 0:26:26.879 I think when you when you make your body like 0:26:27.119 --> 0:26:31.000 more agreeable to like your whole like practical lifestyle, you 0:26:31.040 --> 0:26:34.080 step into your body even more like, you become more 0:26:34.320 --> 0:26:36.680 like because you're more confident and you feel more secure. 0:26:37.040 --> 0:26:39.000 And it's just a nicer way to go through life 0:26:39.160 --> 0:26:41.480 rather than having some like an onus on. 0:26:41.400 --> 0:26:44.120 Your chest right and insecurity. And also she can run 0:26:44.320 --> 0:26:50.160 believe that. God, yeah, look at them. Yes, those look 0:26:50.240 --> 0:26:53.399 fake they yes grassy. And those kitties on surgery pages, 0:26:53.520 --> 0:26:54.080 Oh my. 0:26:54.040 --> 0:26:57.560 God, I should sell that actor, I should sell them. 0:26:57.760 --> 0:27:00.879 You should want to. Yeah, those are not separate, people 0:27:01.600 --> 0:27:03.000 are nice. 0:27:03.240 --> 0:27:05.200 I can't do that. It would take me too long 0:27:05.240 --> 0:27:09.480 to hoisten them back up. I didn't see it. 0:27:09.840 --> 0:27:12.960 Oh, it's like having a bra Okay, okay. 0:27:13.080 --> 0:27:16.280 Yeah, Well our next question is slightly more sober. 0:27:16.720 --> 0:27:18.160 Sober What does sober mean? 0:27:18.400 --> 0:27:21.400 Well, you know, just a little more serious than okay, 0:27:21.480 --> 0:27:23.720 boot questions, but not too too serious. They're very fun. 0:27:24.640 --> 0:27:27.840 So Sarah and Ethan are here, They say, Dear Chelsea. 0:27:28.280 --> 0:27:30.760 Sarah was the one who originally wrote in so she says, 0:27:31.080 --> 0:27:34.520 Dear Chelsea, my husband is transgender. We got married before 0:27:34.520 --> 0:27:37.160 his transition, and since then all my friends and family 0:27:37.200 --> 0:27:41.000 have been supportive and welcomed his authenticity with open arms. However, 0:27:41.160 --> 0:27:44.560 in light of the recent unfortunate political climate, I have 0:27:44.600 --> 0:27:47.000 a few people in my life, my stepsister and brother 0:27:47.040 --> 0:27:49.320 in law, as well as my best friend's husband, who 0:27:49.359 --> 0:27:52.520 still don't understand the repercussions of voting Republican and how 0:27:52.560 --> 0:27:56.320 that directly affects our life. My husband is very confrontational 0:27:56.400 --> 0:27:59.480 and outspoken, and there have been some heated discussions surrounding 0:27:59.480 --> 0:28:02.000 this issue, to which my family responds, can we just 0:28:02.040 --> 0:28:05.800 not talk about politics? When clearly to us this isn't political, 0:28:05.920 --> 0:28:08.720 it's our lives. What do I do with these family 0:28:08.720 --> 0:28:10.879 members since they can't seem to be reasoned with and 0:28:10.920 --> 0:28:13.880 seemingly continue to vote against my spouse's right to exist. 0:28:14.080 --> 0:28:16.800 Sarah and Ethan. 0:28:17.240 --> 0:28:20.920 Ethan, I so excited to meet you guys, you. 0:28:20.800 --> 0:28:24.600 As well, Okay, So yeah, that's so fucking annoying. I mean, 0:28:24.640 --> 0:28:27.280 it is so frustrating when you have family members that 0:28:27.520 --> 0:28:30.720 do not understand. I just don't understand how people communicate 0:28:30.720 --> 0:28:32.879 with their family members when they disagree politically like that, 0:28:33.200 --> 0:28:35.600 because that you're right, it isn't a political issue and 0:28:35.640 --> 0:28:37.600 it shouldn't even be a governmental issue what you do 0:28:37.680 --> 0:28:41.040 with your body. It's so fucking infuriating. But I like 0:28:41.120 --> 0:28:43.680 to cause a lot of stir So my advice, like 0:28:44.000 --> 0:28:46.280 you know, especially with family and when it's someone you 0:28:46.320 --> 0:28:49.680 love and that someone they love. Ostensibly, I would just 0:28:49.720 --> 0:28:51.600 put up like I would be like, listen, we're not 0:28:51.600 --> 0:28:53.880 gonna I mean, I'm of the thinking to just like 0:28:54.520 --> 0:28:57.360 shut them down. You're not even going to spend time 0:28:57.360 --> 0:29:00.600 with them until they, you know, come around. Would you 0:29:00.640 --> 0:29:01.120 agree with that? 0:29:01.200 --> 0:29:02.320 Yeah, I was said boundaries. 0:29:02.360 --> 0:29:04.800 If they can't respect you in you and your place 0:29:04.840 --> 0:29:07.000 in your marriage and who you are as a person, 0:29:07.120 --> 0:29:08.200 then they don't need to be around you. 0:29:08.120 --> 0:29:08.920 You don't need that type of. 0:29:08.920 --> 0:29:11.400 Negativity in your life, Like why even bring that into 0:29:11.440 --> 0:29:15.360 your fold and into your marriage, Like no, yeah, it's really. 0:29:15.160 --> 0:29:17.680 Hard to set the boundary because we are a blended 0:29:17.760 --> 0:29:22.440 family and there has been some I guess some issues 0:29:22.480 --> 0:29:25.080 with our other sister to where we don't have a 0:29:25.080 --> 0:29:25.959 relationship anymore. 0:29:26.000 --> 0:29:28.000 The whole family doesn't have a relationship with the sister. 0:29:28.120 --> 0:29:30.920 So it is like why why, oh god, that's a 0:29:30.920 --> 0:29:31.560 whole nother. 0:29:32.480 --> 0:29:33.320 But that's fine. 0:29:33.400 --> 0:29:38.760 There is with our dad and her that just didn't 0:29:38.800 --> 0:29:40.440 work out and now they don't speak. 0:29:40.720 --> 0:29:43.000 Yeah, so this would be like the second the second 0:29:43.080 --> 0:29:47.160 one that we asked from the family dynamic. 0:29:46.840 --> 0:29:48.520 And okay, that's the problem. 0:29:48.760 --> 0:29:52.040 But wait a second. Wait, your family and your dad 0:29:52.080 --> 0:29:54.239 and your sister don't speak, so you didn't ask your 0:29:54.280 --> 0:29:55.720 sister they did, right. 0:29:55.880 --> 0:29:58.080 Yeah, that's true the first one. Yes, that's yeah, what 0:29:58.080 --> 0:29:58.560 do you mean. 0:29:58.440 --> 0:30:00.960 It didn't work out with your sister, her and your father? 0:30:01.480 --> 0:30:03.240 I need some details, like. 0:30:03.200 --> 0:30:05.480 What do you mean? That's a little weird. But also 0:30:05.520 --> 0:30:06.040 your sister. 0:30:06.120 --> 0:30:08.280 If you cut them out, your sister, you may rekindle 0:30:08.320 --> 0:30:10.720 that relationship and realize that she's the better person for 0:30:10.840 --> 0:30:13.840 you to be in your life if she respects. 0:30:13.480 --> 0:30:15.560 Well, we have to hear about the sister. First, you 0:30:15.840 --> 0:30:18.440 give us, just give us like a quick you know 0:30:18.600 --> 0:30:21.240 overview that overview yeaes synopsis. 0:30:21.320 --> 0:30:24.720 They always just kind of butted heads and it came 0:30:24.760 --> 0:30:28.120 to fruition one day and it almost got physical to 0:30:28.160 --> 0:30:31.800 where my dad had to threaten to call the police 0:30:32.480 --> 0:30:35.520 if she didn't back off. So from then on they 0:30:35.560 --> 0:30:39.280 didn't speak and we we the rest of the family 0:30:39.320 --> 0:30:42.440 got cut by her by association, so we didn't cut 0:30:42.480 --> 0:30:42.760 her out. 0:30:42.800 --> 0:30:44.200 She kind of asked. 0:30:43.960 --> 0:30:46.320 Everyone, okay, okay, okay, after. 0:30:46.080 --> 0:30:48.520 This under the yeah and this is the this is 0:30:48.720 --> 0:30:52.720 so now what we're dealing with is like the second sister, right, and. 0:30:52.640 --> 0:30:55.040 We're perfect timing then so that they can get a 0:30:55.040 --> 0:30:56.640 clue that they're the fucking problem. 0:30:57.160 --> 0:31:00.360 Yeah. I tend I tend to go. I've learned a 0:31:00.360 --> 0:31:04.680 lot that like, not all conflict is bad, especially recently, 0:31:04.720 --> 0:31:07.320 and that there's a lot of like self protection that 0:31:07.560 --> 0:31:10.160 maybe could be and should be done. So this my 0:31:10.760 --> 0:31:12.680 approach has been like I don't I don't need to 0:31:13.000 --> 0:31:15.240 I don't need to talk to them. It's such a 0:31:15.280 --> 0:31:19.960 complicated relationship with in laws, right and with families. 0:31:19.520 --> 0:31:21.800 And I know, but it's like a it's like a 0:31:21.880 --> 0:31:25.840 direct lack of respect for your for you and your safety. Yeah, 0:31:26.000 --> 0:31:28.320 that's it. That's the only sentence you need to know. Like, 0:31:28.360 --> 0:31:32.440 they are not respecting that your safety is threatened by 0:31:32.480 --> 0:31:35.640 Republican lawmakers, and like and as long and if they 0:31:35.640 --> 0:31:37.800 don't care about your safety, then what the hell are 0:31:37.800 --> 0:31:39.000 you doing spending time with them? 0:31:39.360 --> 0:31:40.200 That's well said. 0:31:40.920 --> 0:31:45.120 I want to do everything possible to avoid I think, 0:31:45.240 --> 0:31:47.880 losing this relationship because it is the only sibling that 0:31:47.920 --> 0:31:51.360 I have left. So is there anything that you would like? 0:31:51.640 --> 0:31:53.840 I know you're a huge proponent of writing an email 0:31:53.840 --> 0:31:54.320 in a letter. 0:31:54.520 --> 0:31:56.800 Yeah, well wait, so you want to salvage the relationship 0:31:56.840 --> 0:31:59.360 with your sister, not your parents, the second sister. 0:31:59.480 --> 0:32:02.160 So also, the parents aren't the problem is this second system? 0:32:02.240 --> 0:32:04.280 Oh no, no, my parents are. 0:32:05.200 --> 0:32:06.479 Oh it's the other sister. 0:32:07.040 --> 0:32:10.720 Oh oh no, Well she wants to salvage it. Yeah, yeah, 0:32:10.720 --> 0:32:14.040 because she lost her other sister. I think you know what, Yes, 0:32:14.120 --> 0:32:15.560 I am a big fan of an email, and I 0:32:15.560 --> 0:32:17.400 think you can lay it out to your other sisters. 0:32:17.440 --> 0:32:20.560 So she's the Republican the other sister. Yes, okay, so 0:32:20.560 --> 0:32:23.240 that's problematic. Yes? And does she mar is she married to. 0:32:23.240 --> 0:32:25.960 Someone who's also of the same mind as she well. 0:32:25.840 --> 0:32:28.200 Of course, of course, so they go together one is it. 0:32:28.360 --> 0:32:30.680 You know, Republican women are usually there because their husband's 0:32:30.680 --> 0:32:33.360 told them to be right. But I think that you 0:32:33.400 --> 0:32:36.040 can write her a letter and express like, I really 0:32:36.080 --> 0:32:38.440 don't want our relationship to devolve in the same way 0:32:38.440 --> 0:32:41.440 that your your relationship has devolved with your other sister, right, 0:32:41.960 --> 0:32:44.239 because then she's going to lose two of you. And 0:32:44.360 --> 0:32:47.120 lay it out in the most human, most humane way, 0:32:47.200 --> 0:32:50.440 like we are talking about the safety and protection of 0:32:50.520 --> 0:32:52.800 the person that I am married to, and you were 0:32:52.800 --> 0:32:55.880 talking about voting for someone who is never ever going 0:32:55.920 --> 0:32:59.520 to protect their rights, my husband's rights. So that's very, 0:32:59.640 --> 0:33:02.080 very hard pill for me to swallow. I would love 0:33:02.120 --> 0:33:04.480 for us to be able to like figure this out, 0:33:04.920 --> 0:33:07.200 but it's starting to feel like, you know, I'm going 0:33:07.280 --> 0:33:10.320 to lose another sister, and you got to meet me 0:33:10.440 --> 0:33:11.560 somewhere in the middle there. 0:33:12.320 --> 0:33:12.480 You know. 0:33:12.800 --> 0:33:15.920 I don't know you can make somebody vote for a Democrat, you. 0:33:15.880 --> 0:33:18.320 Know, but like nobody even if not, they can respect 0:33:18.320 --> 0:33:20.880 them and not mention it in their presence. And if 0:33:20.880 --> 0:33:23.040 they can't even do that, then I think that you 0:33:23.080 --> 0:33:24.920 just have to protect yourself. And I feel like you 0:33:24.960 --> 0:33:27.440 should also try to reach out to your sister to 0:33:27.600 --> 0:33:30.480 cut you off and try to rekindle that relationship. I 0:33:30.560 --> 0:33:32.680 do too, So then you won't even if you lose 0:33:32.680 --> 0:33:34.720 out on the other sister, you still got the good one. 0:33:35.160 --> 0:33:37.720 Is that good is she? Is she a good one? 0:33:37.800 --> 0:33:39.440 The sister that got in a fight with your father 0:33:39.560 --> 0:33:40.320 or what she is? 0:33:42.200 --> 0:33:43.920 It's questionable. It's worth looking in. 0:33:43.960 --> 0:33:47.600 It is worth It is worth not you know, locking shut. 0:33:48.080 --> 0:33:50.080 No, And it's not good to lock shut anyway, because 0:33:50.120 --> 0:33:52.400 you know what that is, your sister. Everyone goes through 0:33:52.400 --> 0:33:54.800 difficult times in their lives, and people get better and 0:33:54.840 --> 0:33:57.920 people recover. Not everybody, but a lot of people. Do 0:33:58.080 --> 0:34:00.680 I know, I've learned and grown and changed throughout my life. 0:34:00.720 --> 0:34:02.960 I'm sure you feel the same way. Yeah, yeah, And 0:34:03.080 --> 0:34:06.200 like you know, mistakes you make necessarily you wouldn't necessarily 0:34:06.240 --> 0:34:09.040 repeat in the future. And so it's worth just checking 0:34:09.040 --> 0:34:11.520 in with her and like just reinforcing the fact that 0:34:11.560 --> 0:34:14.800 she's your sister, you love her, you will always be sisters, 0:34:15.040 --> 0:34:16.880 and if she ever wants to reach out, and she 0:34:16.920 --> 0:34:19.279 ever wants to talk, you're always there for her. There's 0:34:19.400 --> 0:34:21.919 nothing wrong with putting that out into the universe. That's 0:34:21.960 --> 0:34:26.240 good vibes and that's good energy. And if she comes back, great, 0:34:26.280 --> 0:34:28.120 and you might catch her when she is ready to 0:34:28.160 --> 0:34:30.200 talk to you. And maybe she's not ready to go 0:34:30.239 --> 0:34:32.600 and be around your parents, But that doesn't mean you 0:34:32.640 --> 0:34:35.000 can't have a relationship with her, right. 0:34:35.040 --> 0:34:37.200 That's kind of how I've always felt about that. 0:34:37.440 --> 0:34:40.120 I think I just maybe need to remind her that 0:34:40.280 --> 0:34:42.600 I'm of that stance, because I think it all gets 0:34:42.600 --> 0:34:44.400 lost when there's drama. 0:34:44.640 --> 0:34:46.799 Yeah, of course, and people do things in the heat 0:34:46.840 --> 0:34:48.480 of the moment that you know they wouldn't do ten 0:34:48.520 --> 0:34:50.719 years later, or five years later, even six months later. 0:34:50.800 --> 0:34:51.640 Yeah, people change. 0:34:51.800 --> 0:34:55.400 Can I ask, does it bother you their political affiliation 0:34:55.760 --> 0:34:57.920 or does it bother you that they're vocal about it 0:34:58.440 --> 0:34:59.240 in your presence? 0:34:59.440 --> 0:35:01.560 So they're not really vocal about it in our presence. 0:35:01.760 --> 0:35:04.480 They actually refuse, they refuse to talk to talk about it. 0:35:04.560 --> 0:35:07.880 And I think it's because logically, I mean, I'm a 0:35:07.880 --> 0:35:12.760 pretty good talker, so they're not gonna. 0:35:12.040 --> 0:35:15.160 So they're never disrespectful to you in your presence. 0:35:15.400 --> 0:35:18.960 No, No, I mean they've asked silly questions like in moments, 0:35:19.000 --> 0:35:24.560 but like they're learning social media, it's their social media presence. 0:35:24.200 --> 0:35:27.359 And oh okay, well maybe if you continue to educate them, 0:35:27.400 --> 0:35:29.880 because if people don't know, sometimes they're just ignorant. 0:35:30.080 --> 0:35:33.080 So maybe if you continue to, you know, just talk. 0:35:32.920 --> 0:35:36.480 To them and educate them on who you are, your story, 0:35:36.520 --> 0:35:38.360 your plight, and the things that go on with you. You 0:35:38.280 --> 0:35:40.239 don't know that you may change your perspective. So you 0:35:40.280 --> 0:35:41.760 may not even have to cut her off. 0:35:41.560 --> 0:35:43.640 To Yeah, and I don't know if you've got a 0:35:43.719 --> 0:35:46.279 chance to tell us to our Skylar Baylor episode. But 0:35:46.640 --> 0:35:50.799 his book They Ha Yes has some really really good 0:35:50.880 --> 0:35:54.760 methods for communicating with loved ones, and especially like asking 0:35:54.880 --> 0:35:57.680 questions at these moments that could get very confrontational and 0:35:57.719 --> 0:35:59.920 say look, well here's what I think, here's what you think, 0:36:00.040 --> 0:36:03.279 where people automatically go in this defensive mode. He's got 0:36:03.280 --> 0:36:06.279 some good tricks in there for like asking questions like 0:36:06.320 --> 0:36:08.280 why do you think that? And so I would definitely 0:36:08.280 --> 0:36:11.080 recommend maybe if you haven't already read it, read it. 0:36:11.160 --> 0:36:12.560 No, I need It's on my list, but I need 0:36:12.640 --> 0:36:13.719 to get I need to get to it. 0:36:13.800 --> 0:36:16.600 He's a little bit more of a hostile negotiator. Yeah, 0:36:16.640 --> 0:36:20.719 I'm a little level headed, So that's for you. 0:36:20.800 --> 0:36:24.120 Ethan yeah. Yeah. I mean I'm assuming your sister and 0:36:24.200 --> 0:36:28.400 her husband have like heard how difficult and like arduous 0:36:28.440 --> 0:36:31.400 the process of transitioning is, right, that everything that you 0:36:31.480 --> 0:36:34.200 have been through, because I find that when people hear that, 0:36:35.040 --> 0:36:38.560 it reduces their ability to argue. When people realize that 0:36:38.640 --> 0:36:41.839 it's not some like whimsical thing that you just do 0:36:41.920 --> 0:36:44.120 and go and like, you know, get surgery to change 0:36:44.120 --> 0:36:47.600 your youth. There's multiple psychological assessments that have to happen. 0:36:47.600 --> 0:36:49.440 You can't just go in and get a penis. Like, 0:36:49.520 --> 0:36:52.160 it's not like, oh, I'm going to a fair and 0:36:52.200 --> 0:36:53.839 I think I want to wear a costume. I mean, 0:36:53.880 --> 0:36:58.160 that's why I find Republicans don't understand like the actual 0:36:58.239 --> 0:36:59.760 background of what has to happen. 0:37:00.200 --> 0:37:02.160 Yeah, there's a lot of false information out there, and 0:37:02.239 --> 0:37:05.400 I think we have started to share some of that information. 0:37:05.600 --> 0:37:07.200 It's just trying to get them to the point of 0:37:07.239 --> 0:37:11.040 being receptive and like sitting down and listening and instead 0:37:11.080 --> 0:37:14.000 of shutting down or saying I don't want to talk 0:37:14.000 --> 0:37:17.040 about politics. You know, that's their that's their pretty immediate response. 0:37:17.080 --> 0:37:19.680 So it's just getting them to a place where they 0:37:19.719 --> 0:37:22.040 realize it's not political and it shouldn't be political. 0:37:22.320 --> 0:37:25.520 It's not politics. You being a transgender is not political. 0:37:25.920 --> 0:37:28.279 They're the only party in the country in the world 0:37:28.360 --> 0:37:30.600 that is making it political. Well, not in the world. 0:37:30.640 --> 0:37:32.759 There are other countries that are also politicizing it. But 0:37:32.880 --> 0:37:35.080 you know what I mean, No, no Democrat has a 0:37:35.080 --> 0:37:37.280 problem with that. So it's like, why would you actively 0:37:37.320 --> 0:37:39.560 be going after people who are not bothering anybody else. 0:37:39.719 --> 0:37:40.600 It's a great question. 0:37:41.800 --> 0:37:44.320 What would make you satisfied? Like they have to switch parties? 0:37:44.680 --> 0:37:49.239 Yeah, probably, that's how I would force just don't even vote. 0:37:49.320 --> 0:37:52.239 Yeah, if you yeah, if you can't vote for the 0:37:52.320 --> 0:37:56.120 Democratic Democratic candidate, just don't don't vote Republican. I think 0:37:56.160 --> 0:37:59.000 it's I think it's like it's this feeling of someone 0:37:59.080 --> 0:38:02.360 telling you, I sure, I see you, I'm fine with you, 0:38:02.600 --> 0:38:05.719 but then their actions that they're taking outside of that 0:38:05.800 --> 0:38:10.960 moment are are a direct contradiction and and so I'm yeah, 0:38:11.000 --> 0:38:13.200 that's what's hurtful, is I I want to be like, Okay, 0:38:13.239 --> 0:38:17.080 you can say whatever you want, but if you are 0:38:17.160 --> 0:38:20.040 actively voting against my rights as an equal human being, 0:38:20.080 --> 0:38:21.360 I just don't believe you. 0:38:22.120 --> 0:38:24.399 Yeah, I would have a problem with that too. I'm 0:38:24.400 --> 0:38:26.480 with you, but I do think you should reach out 0:38:26.480 --> 0:38:28.279 to the other sister and then do and I think 0:38:28.280 --> 0:38:31.439 you should email your other sister and you know, work 0:38:31.480 --> 0:38:32.959 both of those things at the same time. 0:38:33.719 --> 0:38:35.279 Or you could just send her this podcast. 0:38:35.440 --> 0:38:37.960 I know I thought about that. I could like this episode. 0:38:38.000 --> 0:38:39.040 I'd be pretty eye opening. 0:38:39.120 --> 0:38:41.320 So yeah, that's actually a good idea too. 0:38:41.520 --> 0:38:43.719 Because I'm sure they don't know the turmoil or like 0:38:43.800 --> 0:38:45.480 the difficulty we have on our end. 0:38:45.640 --> 0:38:48.319 Oh so you I've never discussed You've never spoke about it. 0:38:48.440 --> 0:38:50.960 I've tried, and the response is we don't talk about that. 0:38:51.080 --> 0:38:52.440 It just gets shut down real fast. 0:38:52.640 --> 0:38:54.840 So that's something you should mention in the letter. Just 0:38:54.840 --> 0:38:57.360 go imagine trying to share yourself with like this is 0:38:57.400 --> 0:39:01.600 my husband. Imagine trying to share your husband wants to 0:39:01.640 --> 0:39:05.680 share any of his personal belief systems or history or 0:39:05.719 --> 0:39:08.279 anything like that, and not being willing to sit and 0:39:08.320 --> 0:39:12.040 listen to it is very obstinate. You're not compromising. That's 0:39:12.040 --> 0:39:14.759 like I'm set in my narrow minded way and the 0:39:14.800 --> 0:39:16.759 only vision I see is the only one that there is, 0:39:17.320 --> 0:39:21.280 And yeah, that is problematic. To actually evolve and grow, 0:39:21.400 --> 0:39:23.960 like that's the whole point of being alive is to 0:39:24.080 --> 0:39:26.520 change and evolve, you know, and learn and have your 0:39:26.800 --> 0:39:28.040 opinions challenged. 0:39:28.560 --> 0:39:29.840 Yeah, I agree. 0:39:30.120 --> 0:39:33.560 I think expressing that one of our biggest desires is 0:39:33.680 --> 0:39:36.279 just to be heard and then actually, like you said, 0:39:36.920 --> 0:39:39.000 possibly playing her in this episode because I don't think 0:39:39.040 --> 0:39:41.200 she also knows how much it does weigh on us, 0:39:41.239 --> 0:39:44.480 just this topic of the our relationship. 0:39:44.560 --> 0:39:48.040 So yeah, yeah, yeah, Okay, Well that's good. Let us know, 0:39:48.160 --> 0:39:50.040 keep us posted and let us know how it goes. 0:39:50.600 --> 0:39:52.799 I will, all right, you guys, take care. I have 0:39:52.840 --> 0:39:54.160 a great day, A good afternoon. 0:39:54.239 --> 0:40:04.880 Bye bye, Alex says dear Chelsea. I'm in an emotionally 0:40:04.920 --> 0:40:08.880 distant marriage and questioning my sexuality. I'm a thirty eight 0:40:08.960 --> 0:40:10.960 year old woman married to a man for nine years, 0:40:11.000 --> 0:40:13.440 together for eleven. We have a five year old son together. 0:40:14.320 --> 0:40:16.200 Over the course of the pandemic, I was at home 0:40:16.239 --> 0:40:18.560 with our son and my husband worked a lot of overtime. 0:40:18.760 --> 0:40:22.040 He's a first responder and felt responsibility to help. We'd 0:40:22.080 --> 0:40:25.120 both stopped focusing on our relationships since our son was born, 0:40:25.160 --> 0:40:28.640 and the pandemic served to magnify that. We've also both 0:40:28.680 --> 0:40:31.839 dealt with some depression at times since then. I've been 0:40:31.880 --> 0:40:35.560 bothered by our diminished connection, both emotional and physical. He 0:40:35.640 --> 0:40:38.239 agrees there's a lack of connection, but does nothing about it. 0:40:38.600 --> 0:40:40.439 I'm going to skip forward a little bit. They've done 0:40:40.480 --> 0:40:42.160 a little bit of therapy, but she sort of still 0:40:42.200 --> 0:40:45.600 feels like she's the only one who's doing anything. We've 0:40:45.600 --> 0:40:47.080 got a lot of love for each other, but at 0:40:47.080 --> 0:40:49.920 this point, I'm wondering if I'm nearing my limit. Another 0:40:50.000 --> 0:40:52.360 layer to all of this. After years of counseling on 0:40:52.400 --> 0:40:54.560 my own, I've come to accept about myself that I'm 0:40:54.560 --> 0:40:57.239 attracted to women. At the time of writing this, my 0:40:57.320 --> 0:41:00.680 husband is not aware. It's increasingly on my mind, and 0:41:00.719 --> 0:41:04.480 I'm endlessly curious about being physical with another woman. Since 0:41:04.480 --> 0:41:07.359 I'm asking for a more emotionally open relationship with him, 0:41:07.520 --> 0:41:10.839 do I owe him that information, especially if I feel 0:41:10.880 --> 0:41:13.840 like it's holding me back from being completely myself with him. 0:41:14.080 --> 0:41:16.800 Our sex life is virtually non existent at this point, 0:41:17.040 --> 0:41:19.520 yet another topic we don't talk about unless I bring 0:41:19.560 --> 0:41:22.200 it up. Initially, I thought working on our connection and 0:41:22.239 --> 0:41:24.920 therapy would help me feel romantic toward him again and 0:41:24.960 --> 0:41:27.640 the attraction to women would fade. But that doesn't seem 0:41:27.640 --> 0:41:30.759 to be happening. How to proceed Alex mm. 0:41:31.200 --> 0:41:33.600 Yeah, yeah, what do you think I think she needs 0:41:33.640 --> 0:41:38.680 to bring that bitch in the bedroom. I think if 0:41:38.680 --> 0:41:42.160 she popped up puss in the bedroom, they marriage may spice. 0:41:41.800 --> 0:41:42.560 It up a little bit. 0:41:44.480 --> 0:41:46.640 She wants him to thrutle up. That might not be 0:41:46.680 --> 0:41:47.280 a bad idea. 0:41:47.360 --> 0:41:50.560 Actually, I think that then it'll bring It'll add some spice. 0:41:51.120 --> 0:41:53.440 He'll probably be more engaged. But she has to be 0:41:53.480 --> 0:41:55.319 honest with her feelings, Like she's like, oh, I don't 0:41:55.320 --> 0:41:56.920 want to tell him, but she has to be honest 0:41:56.920 --> 0:41:59.640 and disclosed that she has an attraction to women, and 0:41:59.680 --> 0:42:01.880 then he may be like, Okay, bring that bitchit. 0:42:02.160 --> 0:42:07.160 Yeah. Yeah. Or if she was going to say, explore 0:42:07.160 --> 0:42:10.560 her feelings for a woman without her husband, and that's cheating, Okay, 0:42:10.600 --> 0:42:11.560 so she can't do that. 0:42:11.719 --> 0:42:12.400 No, that's cheating. 0:42:12.440 --> 0:42:14.000 That's so do you think she should give her a 0:42:14.040 --> 0:42:16.760 husband the heads up that she's having a feelings for women. 0:42:16.840 --> 0:42:18.520 Yeah, she has to be honest about that, m M. 0:42:18.800 --> 0:42:21.279 Because I mean, if that's where she wants to go, 0:42:21.400 --> 0:42:23.719 then he has the right to know that. Yeah, he 0:42:23.719 --> 0:42:25.279 has the right to know that, regardless if they stay 0:42:25.320 --> 0:42:28.040 together and not. You know, he has the right to 0:42:29.160 --> 0:42:31.160 before she steps. She can't just search to be like 0:42:31.200 --> 0:42:32.920 I think, I like, bit, just let me go chat it. 0:42:33.000 --> 0:42:35.680 So she that's cheating, that's dishonest. So she needs to 0:42:35.719 --> 0:42:37.560 be honest with her husband, especially if that's her life 0:42:37.600 --> 0:42:39.440 partner then she chose and they have a kid together. 0:42:39.680 --> 0:42:42.840 M h yeah, I would say that the first. The 0:42:42.960 --> 0:42:44.759 first what's going to happen is you're going to tell 0:42:44.760 --> 0:42:46.719 your husband that you did that, that you're feeling this 0:42:46.760 --> 0:42:49.160 way about women. He's going to say, let's bring someone 0:42:49.160 --> 0:42:51.720 into the bedroom. You're going to do that. You're gonna 0:42:51.800 --> 0:42:54.319 like that, and that'll happen for a few times or 0:42:54.360 --> 0:42:57.000 you know, maybe months or whatever, and you'll enjoy that, 0:42:57.280 --> 0:42:59.520 and then you're gonna want to just be with women 0:42:59.560 --> 0:43:00.960 and not be with your husband. 0:43:01.120 --> 0:43:02.600 Ya think you'll be cowes. 0:43:03.200 --> 0:43:06.840 That's what fucking happens. I mean, I think it's very 0:43:06.880 --> 0:43:09.319 common for women who have been married for a long 0:43:09.320 --> 0:43:13.280 time to start thinking about being not heterosexual. 0:43:13.480 --> 0:43:13.880 You think so. 0:43:14.080 --> 0:43:16.680 I think it's hats trending. A lot of women are 0:43:16.680 --> 0:43:18.680 turning towards the pussy. 0:43:19.480 --> 0:43:21.320 A lot, I mean, and with good reason. 0:43:21.719 --> 0:43:23.879 Yeah, I mean, men are pretty you know, they can 0:43:23.920 --> 0:43:26.920 be pretty disappointing and they're not all disappointing. I'm not 0:43:27.000 --> 0:43:29.319 saying that because there are a lot of men. I 0:43:29.320 --> 0:43:30.920 went out on date with a guy last night that 0:43:31.000 --> 0:43:33.600 was adorable and sweet and just you know, nice and 0:43:34.000 --> 0:43:37.560 totally fuckable, and he was a nice guy. But I'm 0:43:37.760 --> 0:43:40.480 I wouldn't want to spend that amount of time with anybody. 0:43:41.000 --> 0:43:43.319 And I think when you're with a straight guy, like, 0:43:43.520 --> 0:43:45.799 you know, the sheine wears off pretty quickly unless you're 0:43:45.800 --> 0:43:49.319 communicating and you know, and men seem to, like, I 0:43:49.320 --> 0:43:51.080 don't know, there seems to be this thing with women 0:43:51.080 --> 0:43:53.040 when they're married to a man for over ten years, 0:43:53.120 --> 0:43:56.880 especially when they have kids, like then you're fucked mostly, 0:43:57.440 --> 0:43:59.720 you know, not everybody. I mean, there are happy marriages 0:43:59.760 --> 0:44:01.480 which children, but a lot of people, a lot of 0:44:01.480 --> 0:44:04.280 the happiest marriages are people who don't have children together 0:44:05.160 --> 0:44:07.240 or they're on their second marriage and they've had children 0:44:07.280 --> 0:44:09.839 with someone else then, and they can have that. But 0:44:10.000 --> 0:44:13.200 I think that there's a like men stop emotionally growing, 0:44:13.320 --> 0:44:15.640 or maybe they get stunted, or they're stunted to begin with, 0:44:15.680 --> 0:44:18.160 and maybe maybe women don't catch it in the beginning 0:44:18.160 --> 0:44:20.480 because they're so in love and then ten years go by. 0:44:20.520 --> 0:44:22.880 And you're like, well, wait, this isn't fulfilling enough because 0:44:22.880 --> 0:44:27.560 I'm emotionally attuned and in tune with myself. So yeah, 0:44:27.560 --> 0:44:29.760 I think it's very common, but I think the writing's 0:44:29.800 --> 0:44:32.000 on the wall of what's about to happen here. So 0:44:32.040 --> 0:44:33.840 I would say, yeah, go get some pussy girl and 0:44:33.840 --> 0:44:35.960 bring it to the bedroom. Yeah, and then but. 0:44:35.920 --> 0:44:37.560 If you want to be mostly attached to a woman, 0:44:37.600 --> 0:44:39.279 she needs to know it ain't that much better over here. 0:44:39.680 --> 0:44:43.560 Really, Oh come on, Like I love like I'm. 0:44:43.440 --> 0:44:45.799 In love with her, but also like if she's because 0:44:45.840 --> 0:44:47.480 the first woman she's going to be with, she's going 0:44:47.520 --> 0:44:49.800 to be in love with them, and she's going to 0:44:49.880 --> 0:44:51.880 get her heart broken, she's going to feel like that, 0:44:52.160 --> 0:44:54.319 Like she just needs to prepare herself. Like everybody thinks 0:44:54.320 --> 0:44:56.200 the grass is always greener on the other side. That's 0:44:56.200 --> 0:44:58.280 all I'm saying, is just not always true. 0:44:58.400 --> 0:45:01.200 Well, but you're not are you not emotionally attached? You're 0:45:01.239 --> 0:45:02.160 emotionally attached? 0:45:02.360 --> 0:45:04.799 Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm just saying, well, like if she's 0:45:04.840 --> 0:45:07.040 been with this man for ten years and she's like, oh, 0:45:07.080 --> 0:45:09.120 he's not giving me what I want, She's gonna be 0:45:09.120 --> 0:45:10.880 with a bitch the first couple. She's gonna have to 0:45:11.120 --> 0:45:13.040 eat a few pussies before she found one it fits, 0:45:13.200 --> 0:45:13.839 so she's good. 0:45:13.880 --> 0:45:15.839 They're not gonna be emotionally attached to her. 0:45:15.800 --> 0:45:18.160 Either, so she may think that it's just gonna be 0:45:18.200 --> 0:45:20.560 so great and they're gonna be emostly attached and they're 0:45:20.560 --> 0:45:22.440 just gonna instantly connect. And it's not like that she 0:45:22.480 --> 0:45:25.359 has to find her person. It's not necessarily wrapped up in. 0:45:25.480 --> 0:45:27.480 Whether it's a matter or Yes, I agree with that. 0:45:27.640 --> 0:45:29.640 I agree with that, like, yeah, maybe it is a 0:45:29.640 --> 0:45:32.080 man or a woman because it's you're just not fulfilled 0:45:32.080 --> 0:45:34.800 in the relationship you're but either way everything you should 0:45:34.800 --> 0:45:35.520 get some pussies. 0:45:35.640 --> 0:45:38.919 Yeah, yeah, tell your man and then bring her home. 0:45:39.320 --> 0:45:41.280 This episode's gonna be called pussy pounding. 0:45:42.280 --> 0:45:44.480 I will say she didn't want to call in, but 0:45:44.520 --> 0:45:47.879 I spoke to her aunt. She's very sweet and has 0:45:47.960 --> 0:45:49.040 big softball energy. 0:45:49.400 --> 0:45:52.279 Oh really, yeah, I think. Listen, I have a lot 0:45:52.280 --> 0:45:54.120 of friends that I think are gay that are in 0:45:54.320 --> 0:45:55.680 heterosexual relationships. 0:45:55.719 --> 0:45:59.239 Oh really, yeah, not a lot, but I'm certain I will. 0:45:59.360 --> 0:46:01.920 I will, Yeah, I will, but not on the podcast, 0:46:01.920 --> 0:46:03.320 because I'm sure they all are listening. 0:46:04.880 --> 0:46:05.799 My peters to them. 0:46:06.080 --> 0:46:07.960 So you think if she brings a woman in, they 0:46:07.960 --> 0:46:09.080 would be a feminine woman. 0:46:09.400 --> 0:46:11.880 You know, I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I just 0:46:11.960 --> 0:46:15.120 know like my gatar for sure went off when I 0:46:15.160 --> 0:46:16.279 got on the phone with her. 0:46:16.840 --> 0:46:19.120 You know, Okay, she may bring you a girl. 0:46:19.280 --> 0:46:21.800 I mean it now, I know there's a whole location. 0:46:22.040 --> 0:46:26.480 Thank you, Castine and Brad is exactly what the doctor orders. 0:46:27.120 --> 0:46:29.880 That's true. My husband is also the engineer on this podcast. 0:46:29.920 --> 0:46:33.040 But sorry, no, it's okay. 0:46:33.120 --> 0:46:35.719 He knows I'm queer. It's fine. But yeah, so I 0:46:35.760 --> 0:46:38.920 think Alex right, and we've have had a conversation with 0:46:38.960 --> 0:46:41.200 your husband and like, let us know how it goes, 0:46:41.320 --> 0:46:43.439 or maybe a little further on down the line when 0:46:43.840 --> 0:46:46.080 you know you have a girlfriend, et cetera. 0:46:46.800 --> 0:46:49.120 Yeah, yeah, make some changes though. You got to like 0:46:49.239 --> 0:46:51.799 actively pursue what you're looking for to see if that's 0:46:51.840 --> 0:46:54.120 what you really want. And I bet your husband will 0:46:54.120 --> 0:46:57.480 be open to it, is that you do. I would 0:46:57.480 --> 0:47:01.320 probably just I don't know. I don't know. I wouldn't 0:47:01.320 --> 0:47:03.360 be in this position because I probably wouldn't get married 0:47:03.400 --> 0:47:06.640 to anyone. You know, so I wouldn't, but I wouldn't. 0:47:07.080 --> 0:47:07.439 I don't. 0:47:08.400 --> 0:47:10.480 Do you think you would wait ten years, she said 0:47:10.480 --> 0:47:11.680 they would again eleven. 0:47:11.480 --> 0:47:14.680 Right, yes, yeah, married for nine Keep in mind, you 0:47:14.680 --> 0:47:15.080 have a kid. 0:47:15.120 --> 0:47:17.400 Do you think you would wait eleven years to stay 0:47:17.560 --> 0:47:17.840 in No? 0:47:18.320 --> 0:47:22.320 No, no, I wouldn't even if you had the kid. No, no, 0:47:22.400 --> 0:47:23.520 not as me as me. 0:47:23.800 --> 0:47:25.480 Well, no, no as Alex. 0:47:25.600 --> 0:47:27.520 Well, I don't know what Alex is like. I mean, 0:47:27.600 --> 0:47:29.319 I don't know. I don't think so. I don't think 0:47:29.360 --> 0:47:32.319 there's any reason to be unhappy. There's too much going 0:47:32.320 --> 0:47:34.200 on in the world that makes people unhappy. There's too 0:47:34.200 --> 0:47:36.799 many upsetting things. You have to take responsibility for your 0:47:36.840 --> 0:47:39.640 personal life and make sure that you are serving yourself 0:47:39.719 --> 0:47:41.880 up with the things that make you happy. And you 0:47:41.960 --> 0:47:45.799 have to make an intention to actively be happy in 0:47:45.840 --> 0:47:48.280 the world we're living in, and that is not adding 0:47:48.320 --> 0:47:50.080 to your happiness. So I think you need to make 0:47:50.080 --> 0:47:50.600 a change. 0:47:50.800 --> 0:47:54.399 Yeah, I agree with Toilphy. 0:47:56.160 --> 0:47:58.640 All right, Well, we have our last caller and she. 0:47:58.719 --> 0:48:02.520 Just how do you think you're doing so far? Yeah, y'ah, 0:48:02.719 --> 0:48:04.759 I don't really know. Okay, I would give you an 0:48:04.840 --> 0:48:08.440 a yeah, yeah, I mean you're listening. Could be a 0:48:08.480 --> 0:48:12.000 little sharper, but I think the advice is good. Yeah, 0:48:12.000 --> 0:48:13.040 I missed a couple of things. 0:48:13.040 --> 0:48:13.200 There. 0:48:13.280 --> 0:48:16.240 But that's okay, that's sorry. It's your first time. It's okay, 0:48:16.320 --> 0:48:17.479 it's your first time on the slide. 0:48:17.920 --> 0:48:19.800 I'll have you know by the way, ya y'all. First, 0:48:19.840 --> 0:48:20.920 I dis my first wake up. 0:48:20.920 --> 0:48:23.239 Okay, Yeah, y'all wakes up twice every morning. Tell them 0:48:23.239 --> 0:48:24.440 your schedule when you wake up. 0:48:24.520 --> 0:48:28.759 My first wake up is between nine and eleven, and 0:48:28.800 --> 0:48:32.359 my second wake up is between one and two. So 0:48:32.520 --> 0:48:34.960 I came on my first wake up. Actually I came 0:48:35.000 --> 0:48:36.879 prior to my first wake up. So that's why I'm 0:48:36.880 --> 0:48:37.480 not as sharp. 0:48:37.600 --> 0:48:37.880 Okay. 0:48:38.120 --> 0:48:40.080 So I'm drinking water. I don't even have coffee. 0:48:40.160 --> 0:48:42.919 Okay, So why why do you when you wake up 0:48:43.120 --> 0:48:45.560 the first time? Then what happens? You go back to bed? 0:48:45.640 --> 0:48:47.359 Yeah, I go back to sleep. So you wake up 0:48:47.360 --> 0:48:49.880 for what? How long I wake up? It depends. I 0:48:50.360 --> 0:48:52.320 wake up, I do my morning stuff. 0:48:52.360 --> 0:48:55.279 I wake up, I piss, get Sam some water, check 0:48:55.320 --> 0:48:58.600 on her, and then I laid back down, go to bed. Well, 0:48:58.640 --> 0:49:01.000 I'll scoll through my phone for a little bit it. 0:49:00.680 --> 0:49:03.040 Okay, So you're not really going out or doing anything 0:49:03.080 --> 0:49:03.680 you're first week. 0:49:03.920 --> 0:49:06.319 No, I'm still in I'm still on the first floor. 0:49:06.320 --> 0:49:08.000 I'm still on the on the third floor. I'm not 0:49:08.040 --> 0:49:10.640 leaving the third fel Okay, So then you go back 0:49:10.680 --> 0:49:12.279 to sleep and you wake up the second time, and 0:49:12.320 --> 0:49:16.040 that's that's what my day starts. That's my day'st. 0:49:17.520 --> 0:49:20.520 I've never met anybody who wakes up twice. You know 0:49:20.560 --> 0:49:23.120 what I sometimes do if I'm hungover or if I've 0:49:23.160 --> 0:49:25.319 had a big night, I like to wake up, heat 0:49:25.440 --> 0:49:28.480 up something that's yummy, or get it egg McMuffin from 0:49:28.520 --> 0:49:30.839 McDonald's like something like that. Ideally, although I'm not going 0:49:30.840 --> 0:49:32.960 to leave the house, take a half a xanax and 0:49:33.040 --> 0:49:36.280 go back to sleep on a full stomach. That's the happiest. 0:49:36.320 --> 0:49:37.640 The xanax doesn't make you wake up. 0:49:37.760 --> 0:49:39.799 No, the xanax as sleep as for me, it's like 0:49:39.840 --> 0:49:43.120 a sleeping pill. Okay, okay, it's not an upper Oh 0:49:43.120 --> 0:49:44.160 it's not. I've never had it. 0:49:44.239 --> 0:49:44.640 I don't know. 0:49:44.680 --> 0:49:47.239 It's for anxiety. But if you don't have anxiety, it's okay. 0:49:47.280 --> 0:49:49.279 Yeah, yeah, yeah, you probably shouldn't take it or you'd 0:49:49.320 --> 0:49:50.680 be like falling asleep at the club. Like. 0:49:50.760 --> 0:49:52.759 Yeah, we don't want to promote xanax or any sort 0:49:52.800 --> 0:49:55.640 of benzodiazepines on these shows. They're addictive and are known 0:49:55.680 --> 0:49:58.919 to cause you know whatever, dementia. But I'm doing enough 0:49:58.920 --> 0:50:01.120 things to combat the demention from the xanax I'm taking. 0:50:01.160 --> 0:50:02.800 I'm doing enough things to offset that. 0:50:02.800 --> 0:50:03.360 That's smart. 0:50:03.400 --> 0:50:05.160 So whatever you deplete your body from, you got to 0:50:05.160 --> 0:50:06.640 add it back in. And I know you do. 0:50:06.680 --> 0:50:09.000 I know you know the right formula. Told you a pusher. 0:50:09.400 --> 0:50:10.840 I know the right formula. 0:50:11.520 --> 0:50:15.200 Well, Nicole says. I recently embarked on a nearly four 0:50:15.239 --> 0:50:18.560 month cross country road trip earlier this year to explore 0:50:18.600 --> 0:50:21.280 some new places to live. I own a remote business, 0:50:21.280 --> 0:50:23.919 so I was able to work while traveling. Not only 0:50:23.960 --> 0:50:26.880 did I discover two wonderful options for relocating, but I 0:50:26.920 --> 0:50:29.799 also met my current partner while traveling, and I'm now 0:50:29.840 --> 0:50:32.000 in a committed long distance relationship with him. 0:50:32.080 --> 0:50:32.839 Oh look at you. 0:50:33.400 --> 0:50:36.600 It's going really well. But long distance is hard. I 0:50:36.640 --> 0:50:38.560 did end up moving a few weeks ago to a 0:50:38.560 --> 0:50:41.600 city that's a five hour flight from him. My question 0:50:41.680 --> 0:50:43.400 for you is, how do I know I made the 0:50:43.440 --> 0:50:45.920 right choice. The city I moved to has a remote 0:50:45.920 --> 0:50:49.960 worker incentive program with professional mentorship programs for entrepreneurs and 0:50:50.040 --> 0:50:52.279 a nice chunk of change they pay me to live here. 0:50:52.600 --> 0:50:54.640 But it's in a red state and doesn't tick some 0:50:54.719 --> 0:50:57.600 of my boxes, and the other city has all the 0:50:57.640 --> 0:51:00.480 amenities and culture. I want not to mention it's driving 0:51:00.520 --> 0:51:03.200 distance from my new partner, but it's really expensive and 0:51:03.239 --> 0:51:05.880 I know I'd struggle to afford living there. Do I 0:51:05.920 --> 0:51:08.160 choose to focus on my career and set myself up 0:51:08.200 --> 0:51:10.520 for future success or do I choose to be close 0:51:10.560 --> 0:51:12.480 to my partner in a city that has everything I'm 0:51:12.520 --> 0:51:14.520 looking for but has a hefty price tag. 0:51:14.719 --> 0:51:20.759 Nicole mm oh hei Nikol, How are you hi? 0:51:21.120 --> 0:51:21.279 Hi? 0:51:22.200 --> 0:51:24.600 Why can't your husband come to you? I mean, you're sorry, 0:51:24.680 --> 0:51:28.359 you're soon to be husband. You're a boyfriend. Why can't 0:51:28.360 --> 0:51:28.920 he come to you? 0:51:30.160 --> 0:51:33.160 Well, we've been dating for six months and we have 0:51:33.280 --> 0:51:36.160 talked about it. He has offered. He's a journalist, so 0:51:36.800 --> 0:51:40.600 he can pretty much work from any newspaper. It's just 0:51:40.640 --> 0:51:42.600 a matter of actually making the move. 0:51:42.719 --> 0:51:45.000 So right now, it's a five hour drive to visit him. 0:51:45.520 --> 0:51:48.759 No, he lives in Oregon and I live in Oklahoma. 0:51:49.040 --> 0:51:52.200 Oh, so that's a long distance relationship and you. 0:51:52.160 --> 0:51:56.200 Just recently moved to Oklahoma, right, Yeah, Okay, so if 0:51:56.239 --> 0:51:58.399 you just moved, then he needs to make the next move. 0:52:00.600 --> 0:52:00.719 Yea. 0:52:00.800 --> 0:52:04.239 Yah's very tit for tat. It's a scoreboard with her. 0:52:04.920 --> 0:52:06.960 It's like, bitch, you did this, and now I do this. 0:52:07.080 --> 0:52:09.279 She's already moved to be close a little closer, so 0:52:09.320 --> 0:52:10.560 why can't they compromise? 0:52:10.600 --> 0:52:11.640 And he moved closer to her. 0:52:11.719 --> 0:52:14.239 Listen, it's not fun Oklahoma City. But I would say, like, 0:52:14.280 --> 0:52:16.279 the good thing about living in a red state is 0:52:16.280 --> 0:52:18.839 that you can have the ability to, like I don't know, 0:52:18.880 --> 0:52:21.359 I always feel like you can change people's minds when 0:52:21.400 --> 0:52:24.040 you're living in that kind of culture, and like it's 0:52:24.040 --> 0:52:27.400 an opportunity for you to like demonstrate your goodwill and 0:52:27.480 --> 0:52:31.000 like your political beliefs and your value system, and it's 0:52:31.080 --> 0:52:33.200 kind of like a nice way to infect all those 0:52:33.239 --> 0:52:36.280 other red people, you know what I mean, with kindness 0:52:36.280 --> 0:52:39.320 and inject them with kindness and fairness and your beliefs 0:52:39.320 --> 0:52:42.239 on equality and all of that. I know how tough 0:52:42.280 --> 0:52:44.360 it must be to probably be with like lacking that 0:52:44.440 --> 0:52:46.480 kind of culture. But I would say, you know, you 0:52:46.640 --> 0:52:49.239 just made this move, like give yourself an amount of time, 0:52:49.320 --> 0:52:51.960 and if you're still dissatisfied in like, say it's six 0:52:52.040 --> 0:52:54.560 months or it's a year, then you can reassess and 0:52:54.600 --> 0:52:56.359 figure out if I would say your career is more 0:52:56.400 --> 0:52:58.759 important than your relationship at this point, I would say 0:52:58.760 --> 0:53:00.920 that to anyone at any point in the lives. And 0:53:00.960 --> 0:53:02.880 then you know, if you guys are still together in 0:53:02.920 --> 0:53:04.880 six months and you're still hot and heavy, or in 0:53:04.960 --> 0:53:08.080 a year, whatever your time frame, then you can reassess 0:53:08.120 --> 0:53:10.480 and say maybe, okay, maybe now I'm gonna move closer 0:53:10.480 --> 0:53:12.360 to him, or he moves closer to you, but he 0:53:12.400 --> 0:53:14.319 shouldn't have to move to Oklahoma fucking city. 0:53:14.400 --> 0:53:14.560 Yeah. 0:53:14.640 --> 0:53:16.840 Yeah, that's like, that's like not fair. 0:53:17.840 --> 0:53:19.600 I'm just saying I was just trying to give a balance. 0:53:19.680 --> 0:53:21.840 Since she just moved, do you. 0:53:21.840 --> 0:53:23.919 Feel comfortable giving yourself six months or a year? 0:53:24.840 --> 0:53:27.239 Yeah, I mean I moved in September, and I told 0:53:27.280 --> 0:53:30.680 myself I'd give myself until March to like evaluate. 0:53:30.800 --> 0:53:31.160 Mm hmm. 0:53:31.800 --> 0:53:36.280 So far, like it's just started to benefit my career 0:53:36.320 --> 0:53:38.160 to be here. Like I moved to Tulsa because they 0:53:38.160 --> 0:53:39.840 have a remote worker incentive program. 0:53:39.960 --> 0:53:40.800 Tulsa is cool. 0:53:41.800 --> 0:53:43.520 Yeah, it is cool. I like it so far. 0:53:43.560 --> 0:53:44.560 I have culture there. 0:53:45.280 --> 0:53:48.400 Yeah, I'm into it. It's it's different than New Jersey, 0:53:48.440 --> 0:53:49.359 like you were saying. 0:53:49.120 --> 0:53:50.960 Yeah, yeah, it's different than New Jersey and it's good 0:53:50.960 --> 0:53:52.680 to get a taste of that. So yeah, so you're 0:53:52.680 --> 0:53:53.760 gonna give yourself till March. 0:53:55.160 --> 0:53:57.960 Yeah, and then you know, reevaluate. I know that he 0:53:58.040 --> 0:54:01.240 is not so sad a with where he lives. 0:54:01.760 --> 0:54:04.600 So well, maybe you guys can find a new city together. 0:54:04.719 --> 0:54:07.720 If you guys are still together in six months, maybe 0:54:07.719 --> 0:54:09.719 you guys can like figure out, like, let's start a 0:54:09.800 --> 0:54:12.480 life together. Let's pick a city where that's gonna suit 0:54:12.520 --> 0:54:16.120 both of your needs. And that's an adventure too. I 0:54:16.120 --> 0:54:18.240 would just look at Oklahoma City as not your permanent 0:54:18.239 --> 0:54:21.320 place of living. I would just say, sorry, Tilsa, I 0:54:21.360 --> 0:54:23.719 think you should enjoy your time there, soak it up, 0:54:23.880 --> 0:54:26.200 meet as many people as you can, try to change 0:54:26.239 --> 0:54:29.480 as many minds as you can, and then and just 0:54:29.520 --> 0:54:31.400 think of it as a temporary part of your life. 0:54:31.719 --> 0:54:35.279 How old are you thirty? Yeah? Oh yeah, what of 0:54:35.360 --> 0:54:37.600 course you could spend three years there and I wouldn't 0:54:37.600 --> 0:54:39.760 make a dent in your life. 0:54:40.719 --> 0:54:44.080 Yeah, I know, I really don't feel too much time pressure. 0:54:44.960 --> 0:54:47.840 This is the best relationship I've been in, so it's 0:54:47.840 --> 0:54:52.080 definitely I have I feel confident that it can go 0:54:52.840 --> 0:54:53.440 the distance. 0:54:54.000 --> 0:54:56.200 But it's just you seem really in love. You seem 0:54:56.239 --> 0:55:02.399 really happy. I know, Bless, that's so cute. 0:55:02.560 --> 0:55:06.520 Just reflecting yesterday about the year and I was like, oh. 0:55:05.680 --> 0:55:09.799 Long, oh that's so sweet. On a road trip, no Less, 0:55:09.800 --> 0:55:11.440 How did you guys meet up on a road trip? 0:55:11.920 --> 0:55:13.480 Well, I was using the dating apps just to like 0:55:13.520 --> 0:55:15.160 meet people because I was looking for a new city 0:55:15.200 --> 0:55:16.600 to live in, so I wanted to like get the 0:55:16.640 --> 0:55:19.759 local perspective. And then he I actually had a really 0:55:19.800 --> 0:55:22.279 bad experience in the town he was in, But I 0:55:22.360 --> 0:55:24.839 was like trying to see if I wanted to live there, 0:55:25.200 --> 0:55:29.440 but like got criminal minds, Like somebody was like following 0:55:29.440 --> 0:55:30.840 me on the highway was really creepy. I was going 0:55:30.920 --> 0:55:33.360 to leave the next day, and then he messaged me 0:55:33.440 --> 0:55:35.360 and I was like, well, let me just go for coffee, 0:55:35.400 --> 0:55:37.400 and then I ended up staying. 0:55:37.160 --> 0:55:39.359 Oh wow, how often do you guys get to see 0:55:39.400 --> 0:55:39.759 each other? 0:55:40.520 --> 0:55:40.920 Average? 0:55:40.960 --> 0:55:43.360 Like every six eight weeks. Oh, I'm actually gonna go 0:55:43.400 --> 0:55:46.520 see him on Thursday. His mom invited me, so I'm 0:55:46.520 --> 0:55:47.560 going to meet the whole family. 0:55:47.640 --> 0:55:50.239 Oh good, oh good. Well, just enjoy your time right now. 0:55:50.360 --> 0:55:55.279 Enjoy Oklahoma, enjoy Tulsa, and enjoy your long distance relationship. 0:55:55.360 --> 0:55:57.640 And then in March you can reevaluate and if it 0:55:57.680 --> 0:56:00.200 needs a couple more months, then that's fine too. Just 0:56:00.200 --> 0:56:02.600 look at this as a temporary situation to get yourself 0:56:02.640 --> 0:56:04.400 more like financially situated. 0:56:05.840 --> 0:56:07.640 Thank you for the advice. I just have a hard 0:56:07.680 --> 0:56:10.960 time like day to day I think accepting. Do you 0:56:11.040 --> 0:56:13.279 have any advice for like just how to really like 0:56:13.440 --> 0:56:16.560 radically accept that I have made this choice and like 0:56:16.920 --> 0:56:18.600 not like just waiting for the end. 0:56:19.200 --> 0:56:21.520 Yes, you have to be like active in your First 0:56:21.520 --> 0:56:23.320 of all, you need to be active in your community 0:56:23.360 --> 0:56:26.080 in some way. You have to join some clubs whatever 0:56:26.120 --> 0:56:28.840 you're interested in. What are you interested in, like sports 0:56:28.920 --> 0:56:31.759 or chess or like a book club or anything like 0:56:31.800 --> 0:56:34.520 what do you like to do in your free time? 0:56:35.239 --> 0:56:36.719 I would love to join a book club. I've been 0:56:36.760 --> 0:56:38.760 asking everybody for like crafting circle. 0:56:38.960 --> 0:56:41.080 Yeah, well those things you can easily find on Facebook 0:56:41.080 --> 0:56:44.120 and online, just you know, I mean, just google this 0:56:44.160 --> 0:56:46.560 stuff in your area and start hanging out with people 0:56:46.800 --> 0:56:49.439 and being an active participant. And you should just write 0:56:49.440 --> 0:56:51.440 down a mantra for yourself, like I'm going to be 0:56:51.440 --> 0:56:54.160 an active participant in my life and I'm going to 0:56:54.160 --> 0:56:57.200 be an active participant in my community, so that you're 0:56:57.280 --> 0:57:00.239 just like enjoying yourself. The worst thing about not being 0:57:00.280 --> 0:57:03.320 present in the present moment and thinking about the future 0:57:03.440 --> 0:57:06.279 is that you are You're like on borrow time. You 0:57:06.320 --> 0:57:08.080 have to make the most of everything. You don't know 0:57:08.120 --> 0:57:10.319 what's going to be out there or what kind of 0:57:10.320 --> 0:57:13.160 friendships you're going to make, you know, with people, so 0:57:13.320 --> 0:57:15.600 like you really have to just kind of I know 0:57:15.640 --> 0:57:17.800 what you're saying, and I've been there, but you do 0:57:17.880 --> 0:57:20.840 have to make a shift, and you should start meditating 0:57:20.880 --> 0:57:23.120 on it, like, you know, find a meditation that helps 0:57:23.160 --> 0:57:25.880 you really focus on the moment that you were in 0:57:25.880 --> 0:57:28.560 instead of looking to the future. It's okay to plan things. 0:57:28.920 --> 0:57:31.040 Just be like, I'm here for six months. I'm going 0:57:31.080 --> 0:57:32.800 to make the most out of this. I'm going to 0:57:32.880 --> 0:57:35.480 see everything Tulsa has to offer, and I'm going to 0:57:35.560 --> 0:57:37.120 make great friends that I'm going to have for the 0:57:37.160 --> 0:57:40.240 rest of my life. And eventually those things become true 0:57:40.360 --> 0:57:42.600 and then they are real. It's manifestation. 0:57:43.120 --> 0:57:44.360 Wow, you should write a book. 0:57:44.840 --> 0:57:47.640 Don't you believe in manifestation? I know you do, right, yeah, 0:57:47.640 --> 0:57:50.240 I do. It's true, Like you have to you and 0:57:50.280 --> 0:57:52.000 what's your head is in the game. Then you are 0:57:52.000 --> 0:57:52.480 in the game. 0:57:52.880 --> 0:57:56.840 Yeah, I'm going to take that advice. Yeah, absolutely, yah 0:57:56.880 --> 0:57:58.160 oh real that was really good. 0:57:58.240 --> 0:58:01.160 Thanks yahya, thanks. Do you feel what I'm saying? Do 0:58:01.200 --> 0:58:03.200 you feel? I think you should write those two sentences 0:58:03.200 --> 0:58:05.880 down and put them on a mirror in your bathroom 0:58:05.920 --> 0:58:07.960 so you read that every morning, and that's how you 0:58:08.000 --> 0:58:10.560 start every single day. And then who know, you know what, 0:58:10.640 --> 0:58:12.720 you might even fucking fall in love with Tulsa. You 0:58:12.800 --> 0:58:14.560 might even be like, I'm never going to leave here. 0:58:14.760 --> 0:58:16.479 This is I came here, I didn't want to stay 0:58:16.480 --> 0:58:18.160 here for more than six months, and then you're there 0:58:18.160 --> 0:58:19.320 for twenty years. 0:58:19.720 --> 0:58:22.320 Yeah, that's very possible. People have done it. 0:58:22.400 --> 0:58:25.440 So open your mind, don't keep it so narrow, open it, 0:58:25.600 --> 0:58:28.920 broaden it, and expand it. Yeah. 0:58:28.960 --> 0:58:31.000 And I think also, like once a week, I think 0:58:31.040 --> 0:58:33.120 you should try to do something new in the city, 0:58:33.320 --> 0:58:35.479 just to be like, I only have six months here, 0:58:35.800 --> 0:58:37.960 so like I'm going to, you know, every single week, 0:58:37.960 --> 0:58:39.120 I'm going to do something new. 0:58:40.000 --> 0:58:41.880 And even if you and find a book club or 0:58:41.920 --> 0:58:43.880 start a book club, you can start one, you know, 0:58:44.680 --> 0:58:47.040 and to start it on Facebook or on Instagram or 0:58:47.040 --> 0:58:49.040 any of these things. You can find people in your area. 0:58:49.200 --> 0:58:51.960 So easily on all of these apps. It's easy to 0:58:52.000 --> 0:58:54.760 connect with strangers if you haven't made any real friends yet, 0:58:55.040 --> 0:58:58.960 and start cultivating relationships, and definitely do things outside of 0:58:59.000 --> 0:59:01.440 your comfort zone. You know, join a club like a 0:59:01.520 --> 0:59:03.680 running club or a walking club or a hiking club 0:59:03.760 --> 0:59:06.560 or whatever the fuck biking, you know, and make sure 0:59:06.560 --> 0:59:08.840 you're doing different things so that you're stretching yourself and 0:59:08.880 --> 0:59:10.080 that you're not just stagnant. 0:59:11.680 --> 0:59:13.000 And tell your boyfriend to move to you. 0:59:15.200 --> 0:59:19.080 I'm Adela. I'madela Chelsea Handler and everybody said you need 0:59:19.120 --> 0:59:20.439 to come to them. 0:59:21.000 --> 0:59:23.400 Okay, well, good luck in Tulsa and enjoy those museums 0:59:23.440 --> 0:59:25.840 I love I was just there a few well not Jess, 0:59:25.920 --> 0:59:27.920 but I loved it. I had a great time at Tulsa. 0:59:28.680 --> 0:59:30.240 Yes, thank you, I appreciate that. 0:59:30.280 --> 0:59:34.040 Okay, awesome later us post it buck bye. 0:59:34.240 --> 0:59:35.640 That was really good advice. 0:59:36.240 --> 0:59:38.280 You know what ya ya? I'm glad you're finally showing 0:59:38.280 --> 0:59:41.200 me some respect. Do you know what yaya? Do you 0:59:41.240 --> 0:59:43.600 know what ya y'all calls me in public? No, yeah, 0:59:43.760 --> 0:59:47.240 I'm gonna tell everybody you have apologized and that was 0:59:47.360 --> 0:59:49.840 very sweet and on next I know you did, I 0:59:49.880 --> 0:59:51.480 know I could tell that you meant it, but she 0:59:51.640 --> 0:59:54.560 was calling me Massa on our fucking trip and yelling 0:59:54.600 --> 0:59:58.120 at me Massa massive massive this okay Massa, Okay, bitch, 0:59:58.320 --> 0:59:59.920 am my mass up. You want us to be better, 1:00:00.000 --> 1:00:01.680 I can go to the beach at noon, okay, Massa. 1:00:01.760 --> 1:00:04.640 And I'm like, bitch, that's not fucking funny. You cannot 1:00:04.640 --> 1:00:07.760 call me masa. And then we're out in a restaurant 1:00:07.760 --> 1:00:09.960 in New York City a few months later and she 1:00:10.000 --> 1:00:12.440 fucking does it again though. And then I were with 1:00:12.480 --> 1:00:15.400 another black friend, my friend Jabria, and she's like, bitch, 1:00:15.440 --> 1:00:17.720 she cannot be calling you massa, and I'm like, no 1:00:17.840 --> 1:00:18.600 fucking kidding. 1:00:19.520 --> 1:00:22.560 Well sometimes I mean you do crack a whip chills, Okay. 1:00:22.600 --> 1:00:26.600 Anyway, anyway, thank you, yah Yah for what a delight 1:00:26.920 --> 1:00:29.920 you gave such great advice. I'm sure everyone's gonna have 1:00:30.000 --> 1:00:32.520 loved listening to you too. Ya Ya thanks, Yeah you 1:00:32.640 --> 1:00:35.240 really you really pricked up our studio this morning and 1:00:35.320 --> 1:00:37.640 do what I can. Yeah, now what you can? Oh 1:00:37.680 --> 1:00:40.360 and also if you want to really laugh and watch 1:00:40.440 --> 1:00:44.320 ya Ya harassed people online, please follow her on Instagram 1:00:44.400 --> 1:00:47.120 at Vanity dot Vixen. Is that what it is Vanity 1:00:47.160 --> 1:00:48.000 Dot Vixen and. 1:00:48.080 --> 1:00:50.160 Check out Sam's new special on HBO. 1:00:50.440 --> 1:00:52.240 Oh yeah, what's it called again? 1:00:52.440 --> 1:00:52.560 Uh? 1:00:52.720 --> 1:00:54.880 The first one is called three in the Morning that's 1:00:54.880 --> 1:00:57.680 on Netflix, and the one that just dropped is called 1:00:57.800 --> 1:01:00.360 Salute Me or Shoot Me, Salute Me or shoot Yes? 1:01:00.760 --> 1:01:02.880 Thank you yayah no, thank you for having me. I 1:01:02.880 --> 1:01:03.520 really appreciate it. 1:01:03.560 --> 1:01:04.040 This was cool. 1:01:04.120 --> 1:01:08.360 See you next week, everybody. Okay, So show dates coming 1:01:08.360 --> 1:01:10.840 out Canadian show dates. These are for Canadians, guys. I'm 1:01:10.880 --> 1:01:16.400 coming January nineteenth, Edmonton January twentieth, Saskatoon February ninth. I'll 1:01:16.400 --> 1:01:20.760 be in Winnipeg, Victoria, BC is March eighth. Then i 1:01:20.800 --> 1:01:23.520 will be in Salt Lake City April fourth, and Denver 1:01:23.720 --> 1:01:28.080 April fifth. I'm coming to Arizona at Maricopa April twelfth. 1:01:28.360 --> 1:01:31.880 April thirteen, I'll be in Brooks, California at the Cash 1:01:31.920 --> 1:01:34.320 Creek Casino, and then I'm going to be in Santa 1:01:34.400 --> 1:01:38.960 Rosa Sunday April fourteenth. I'm coming to Richmond, Virginia, Baltimore, 1:01:39.040 --> 1:01:44.120 Maryland on April twentieth, Gary in Deana, Prior Lake, Minnesota. 1:01:44.400 --> 1:01:49.000 Coming to Oklahoma Norman, Oklahoma on May third and May fourth, 1:01:49.000 --> 1:01:52.680 I will be in Thackerville, Oklahoma for my rescheduled Windstar 1:01:52.760 --> 1:01:55.360 World Casino date, and I want to make sure that 1:01:55.440 --> 1:01:58.200 I give a shout out to our show for Netflix. 1:01:58.240 --> 1:02:00.160 As a joke festival, I put together a show with 1:02:00.200 --> 1:02:02.680 some of my favorite comics. It's May eleventh at the 1:02:02.720 --> 1:02:05.400 YouTube Theater Downtown, which I've never performed in, so that's 1:02:05.400 --> 1:02:08.160 gonna be fun. It's pretty big. I have Beteo Lane, 1:02:08.200 --> 1:02:11.560 I have Fortune Themester performing. I have Sam Jays on 1:02:11.600 --> 1:02:14.360 the show and Vanessa Gonzale, so we it is called 1:02:14.400 --> 1:02:17.720 a Jew two Mexicans. No a Jew, two gays in 1:02:17.760 --> 1:02:21.440 a Mexican. No a Jew, three gays at a Mexican. 1:02:21.680 --> 1:02:25.120 So it's political correctness at its finest. And then I 1:02:25.160 --> 1:02:27.920 will be in Verona, New York on May twenty sixth, 1:02:28.440 --> 1:02:31.920 and then I'm coming to Australia in July and New 1:02:32.000 --> 1:02:38.080 Zealand July fifth, Auckland and I'm coming to Wellington, New Zealand, Melbourne, Brisbane, 1:02:38.160 --> 1:02:42.800 Sydney and then Thursday, August first, which is a long 1:02:42.880 --> 1:02:46.360 way away and a date I am just seeing that 1:02:46.440 --> 1:02:49.480 I am not ready to announce. Okay, So those are 1:02:49.520 --> 1:02:52.280 all my dates that are up and available, so get 1:02:52.280 --> 1:02:55.960 your tickets. I can't wait to see you. 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